A day in the life of severe depression and anxiety recovery
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- Опубліковано 6 лют 2025
- A day in the life of severe depression and anxiety recovery
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But I do care.
I would love to know more about combatting "revenge bedtime procrastination", as well as general 'revenge procrastination' throughout the day. I fall into that trap far too much.
I would too. It grabs many times throughout the day! ♥️☘️
My sister and I were expected to come home from school and start doing the housework immediately.
What we did instead was to go lie down and read a book.
I never heard the term "revenge procrastination" but that sounds right. I am it doing now, though. I just realized that this is one of those bad coping skills that don't really work for me.
Me too !
You sir should be classified as a national treasure.
Being autistic puts even more emphasis on this daily routine. It sometimes feels like I have to combat everything that happens, correct myself after every falter. Every step of the day is a conscious effort, making it like a game of chess to get to the end of the day and not wake up with that "sucky body" you mentioned (I've got one too). It sucks that taking care of myself has to be such a full time job, but I definitely will take your word for it being worth it in the long run.
This is probably the most helpful video I have ever seen on this topic. It is nonjudgemental, relatable, actionable, simple, and (most importantly to me) realistic.
This video provides an accurate representation of what it's like to live with and manage a chronic mental health condition. It shows the daily work that is needed to keep a vulnerable brain functioning well. Effective self-care is daily maintenance, not occasional indulgence. It requires intentionality and commitment, especially if you have a mental illness, and this video is very clear on that.
I found interesting the bits on balancing sufficient sleep vs. soothing mornings vs. leisurely nights. I'm gonna try to prioritize sleep and mornings also for a few days, and see what happens. God knows most of us can't get all three either.
I just want to say a huge Thank you from New Zealand Dr Scott. Your videos are helping us to keep our final strands of sanity in this ever imploding world we are living in. I have suffered from Insomnia and it out of whack circadian clock. Getting quality sleep is an everyday challenge. And being 'normal' is so out of reach. I gave up alcohol years ago and seldom drink coffee. Both have definitely helped in some way
what a refreshing day in the life - you had me engaged the whole video. As someone’s who’s tried endless times to fix my life through a better morning routine, with nothing ever really sticking, hearing you emphasize setting your day up in the best way possible for your body and mind (without all the work grindset/exertion/running a marathon before 7am some morning routines may include) is a breath of fresh air. You’ve really filled a gap of providing realistic advice for people struggling with mental illness to compassionately manage symptoms. I’ll watch this again and as the message has resonated with me, I’m determined to take this on. Thank you!
I laughed when you suggested treating mental health like a chronic health condition as it made me realise that I ignore, belittle, dismiss and sideline my physical health just as much as my mental health. It's hard to make efforts to support someone or something that you feel is intrinsically worthless.
This helps so much, thanks. It is not like the necessary changes are going to happen right away, but it is good to have a sense of direction. I have just retired and instead of saying that I just don't know what to do with my life, I'd rather say that the space formerly occupied by work suddenly filled up with every single possible worry/concern in this world
Yes!! I just retired in June and the same thing happened to me. This was a very helpful video.
Wow Dr. Scott, you had about 26k followers when I found this channel. Now yr up to over 300k! So true on the screen time
Everything you do is beneficial. In fact I've decided to make you and your videos a part of my everyday routine
Thank you so damn much, young Dr. Scott.
I have suffered from TRD, panic disorder and in post acute withdrawal syndrome for the past 3 years. It has taken almost half of my life from me, and now at 34 my life continues to be ruled by my diseases. Thank you for stating how seriously you treat your mental illnesses; they are serious and chronic, and cannot afford to be neglected by not doing all I realistically CAN to work on mitigating their symptoms.
You’ll never know how much your content fills me with hope that my life can be lived, as horrific as it feels.
Thank you for reminding that I am not as powerless over my disorders as I’ve felt for too long.
Take care.
I think I hit on how to actually get up at 4:30 daily: Morning Zombie Cleaning!!! I don’t care about doing it well. I just have to stay on my feet tidying or cleaning something until I’m awake enough to not dive back into bed.
Cutting mornings too short (hitting snooze) is going badly.
Ohhhh wow, what an eye opener about the languages of love. My love language is also “acts of service” & I feel soo much better if I do my hair & makeup etc in the morning & go for my morning walk. I am a totally different person if I don’t do those things, it’s like I can’t even function properly.
Depression and anxiety are chronic mental health conditions. Individuals who suffer from this must learn how to take care of themselves as early in life as possible. When this doesn't happen, much damage may be done in our lives because of choices made while depressed and anxious. I try to stay away from unresolved conflict, or conflict for that matter, because it triggers my mental health issues. Although I am retired, I work two part-time jobs to accomplish something. That helps me stay alert and on point throughout the day. When you live alone at 68 years old, you have to be creative. I also write poetry to get my emotions on paper to see what's going on inside. Thank you, Dr. Scott, for the information you share.
I'm 61.....spent my childhood in abuse, neglect and chaos, spent adult years taking care of husband and kids, My early 50s taking care of my dying mom and then dying husband at home...now, husband is dead, kids are grown with families amd busy, I don't work as many hrs due to possible loss of widow benefits. I have an Amstaff, A Sheppard, and cats. I alive very rural and don't have neighbors for a mile.....gets lonely sometimes.
Spent my entire 61 yr life in survival mode...
This was great, and was very helpful and motivating to me. Practical small steps, with helpful reasons why they work. Nothing overwhelming, just building blocks I can add to at a pace that works for me. The sleep schedule is going to be the first "building block" that I incorporate. Thank you so much!
I love to see you’re now past 300k. So deserved 🖤🖤🖤
This was extremely helpful. I’ve been in denial about a few things and it’s helpful to have a real person in my age group with my mental condition talk about some of these basic issues. I get tense and sore if I do my cardio and weight lifting and then don’t stretch later but I didn’t think about that causing me to be grumpy or even anxious. It def does cause that. And skipping breakfast and having a Starbucks is not the best thing either and I do that a lot.
Self care is over used but it’s important to be mentally healthy just basic self care I’m not talking about hour long bubble baths and massages.
Yes! The tone of self talk! Crucial. Be gentle with yrself, just as you wd be gentle w someone you care for.
I was wondering how much (or which parts) of this has become sorta automatic/habitual for you and which parts do you mentally have to "force" yourself to do? I really enjoyed this format and this topic - I often find myself rewatching the same few videos over and over as a pep talk to stick with healthy habits. Thank you for making this 💗
Thank you for posting this, Scott.
I found your very true life, openly vulnerable, video here was super helpful in instigating and interpereting for my own benefit, how to take a new look to an old, run-down road. It is motivational to see and hear you go through your own day which offers us an insight in how our own day can be revisited in structure. I see how that can help to renew my own outlook for the purpose of even finding hope where I feel I've dipped down from even that. Thank you for this as, even with our own baby steps, your narrative, including physically going through your day, visually gives us ideas on how a personalized structure (and being mindful of it), can improve our depression. Dr Scott, ty 🌹
Since I’ve retired the only time I keep a schedule is if I have an appointment. But I realize that I must return to one like a set time rising and going to bed each day. Then, doing things like reading my Bible and praying after walking my dogs. To do that, I must leave off the social media, etc. I just have to do it. Although it’s difficult with the other chronic illnesses I have, I’m going to do these things regardless. Thank you for the insights stemming from your own experiences.
I absolutely understand...im older as well. Not fully retired
I loved this format, I do a lot of these things, I’m 50 & I’ve only managed to realise my mental health is a full time job & has to be top priority in the last couple of years. But I need a lot of reminding & reinforcing to stay consistent, so these types of videos are so helpful.
I liked the part towards the end about reflecting on what went well that day, because your mind/brain will focus on any little thing that could be seen as negative or a failure. This is exactly what happens to me, no matter how much I achieve my brain tells me I could’ve done more or done it better! So frustrating! But even days where I haven’t done that much (today) I can remind myself of the positive things I did do & I feel so much more calm, just focusing on the positive instead of the negative.
Thank you for this video 😊
I am a nurse with an unstable schedule. Sometimes i have to be at work early in the morning and other times i work evening and don't get home until close to 10pm. Takes awhile to take care of all my animals and wind down
Thanks ❤very much 😊 I take medication 💊 for my depression and you are very helpful I don't have so many energy for a lot if things
This was so cool! It's definitely helpful to get a glimpse of a successful routine and snippets of healthy habits. Having that example as a general guide is always beneficial to an audience. Thanks, Doc!
Loved this video format and information! Thank you for sharing ❤
This was great! Thanks Scott!! :)
Thanks so much! I will be watching this a few times!!
I think that many night people have to conform to the day people who run everything.
I am a night person and I arrange my life to accommodate my sleep pattern: when I was in the workforce, I worked second shift.
Now I am retired and I don't have to conform to someone else's schedule.
I LOVE evening shift, sleep in, have "morning time " from about 1000 to 1200....relax, have coffee and something to eat. Work, come home about 1100 pm ,have quiet time until bedtime
Thank you for taking up the mantle and modeling, personally, your life. Speaks volumes about where your heart is at, and thats ultimately what matters.
Very helpful video. Gave me a lot to think about!
This was great, I find it very encouraging, thank you.
Hello Dr. Eilers, I've been watching your content for quite a while now and I have found a lot of your advises applicable to my life situation and have experimented with things and have certainly noticed significant changes because of that. Having your content in addition to therapy is a real game-changer for me. I found it very helpful, insightful and, frankly, just better understandable to what you were mentioning in previous videos, seeing all of this an actual part of your day. I am enormously grateful for your pressence on this platform! I hope you have a wonderful day and thank you for sharing and explaining your daily routines a bit more in-depth!
I really like this new setting & format, it feels less formal and more relatable and more relaxed
Your video is very helpful, as always!👍👍
You are wonderful to share your day with us! Thank you! This is very helpful and motivational.
Deep sleep…. Thats why you have amazing skin. Thank u sm
I found this excellent. Lots of tips and I love the way you structure your mental map around your day to support your health.
Cool deep morning voice😮 Thank you for your great insights!🙏
Thank you for all your videos, especially this one 🙏
Looking forward to getting your book!!
Thank you for this. It was extremely helpful and relatable. I'm really hoping to starting improving my routine, and I will definitely be coming back to this video.
Thank you for this video! I have these problems and that's probably why sometimes I have these episodes. I also worry to much but that's other thing. All in all, thank you so much Dr. Scott!
Very helpful!
"those are the really rough mornings that you do not enjoy..." Hey, that's every morning for me! I can barely even wake up early enough to get to work on time. I literally get dress in bed, grab my things, and then go to work. I just can't fix my dysfunctional sleep (doesn't help that I wake up multiple times needing to go to the bathroom). I need to just quit and live in a car so I can sleep all the time lol.
Thank you!!
If that’s what adult life looks like I don’t even know if I want it. At all. It’s more like a rat race to coffin rather than life.
Right with you. But what other choice do we have?
@@4_seagullTo end it all; but unfortunately, I'm too much of a coward to go through with it, so I'm stuck here...
Very helpful Doc. You’re doing great work. Keep protecting those hippos!
I think routine ins essential like your mornings. Research shows whatever time you pick stick to it and after a montage it becomes routine. I do see the sense but often have insomnia for five days at time and become a fruit loop and can’t function. I have a huge 10 mg Zolpidem sleeping tablets every night. You would be lucky to get a 3.5mg dose for three days from a GP if anything. Though saying that they are not effective and your body acclimatises to them very quickly. In desperate times I have taken half a spliff . But I don’t like smoking but after 5days I need something or locking up. Look up sleep health care for some obvious ideas but uncommonly used! Thanks for your intriguing and informative information - bringing a personal view as well as professional hat on brings a unique perspective. Really great stuff👍☘️💚
Ty Scott. I put into a routine to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day a while back. It does help me. Also added simple morning tasks before leisure activities. I also notice if my husband is annoying me or messes up my routine, my day is shot. It's all I think about. I prefer he not mess with me 😂😂😂
For me the evening is more essential than mornings. I'm an absolute night person and that doesn't fit with society. So I have to live against my own rhythm and after try and error I know my evening routine is important. To much time in the morning is killing the whole day. I need a kind of time pressure to start my day successfully.
And then there come days like today where my physical illness is killing every routine... The best way to worsen my depression. Especially because I slept the whole day (10:30 pm in Germany at the moment) and feel guilty. I know my body really needed it, but sleeping time is messed up and one part of me thinks I could have worked today. And I don't know if tomorrow will be better... So the fight will start when my body is better... And knowing this makes things even harder. I hate waiting. My physical and mental health seems to be one different sides...
Dr. Eilers, your videos have a lot of great info but I have one major issue with you. You don't talk about truly severe depression. Not by my standard. I've struggled with it for over 40 years. I don't mean to diminish yours or anyone elses experience, but you don't talk about someone who has had about 5 pretty decent years total over the last 50 years. Maybe I just never worked at things hard enough but I don't believe that and I do feel condescension towards my struggles. I've been on meds and in therapy for my almost my entire adult life. Also tried ECT, ketamine, TMS, etc. etc.
Sorry but nobody with truly severe, chronic depression is able to create the kind of life you have.
Start small. Very small. Stay on a routine. See what happens. Try to grow. Ive had ect myself, didn't help. But a schedule did more for me than anything. Again, start small. It feels absolutely pointless at first, but the point is to take care of yourself. Something you need either you want to believe it or not. You're made to take care of yourself. That's the goal. Start small.
Excellent, SHOWING what you do. And why. SO much better than speaking a list.
I'm as bright and capable as most people. But in the pit, it's like IQ points drop off.
Thank you.
What do you do if you don’t work, because I’m a disabled combat veteran :/
You do what he does, to the best of your ability.
Yeah, like you can still get up at the same time every day, eat well, get exercise and so on
I'm disabled to. Some days are better. Summer is good, have lots of yard work. But this winter is absolutely killing me
Take care of yourself as best you can, and take up some kind of hobby. Whatever interests you that would be possible to do. And thanks for your service, by the way. Hope you find something that makes you happy.
Aside from what others have commented, have you tried volunteering in your community? It can be just a couple of hours per week, even. Something that gets you out and interacting with other people, something that provides a sense of purpose.
Thanks, doc. I feel the same things you describe. I will eventually start living a better life. But my element is different, i have to throw myself into a highway and hike from dawn to dusk.
I really have to stixk to my regular wake up time on the weekends. Too often i sleep in and feel like i wasted so much time.
I'd like to hear your perspective on circadian rhythm. It seems we force people to adhere to traditional hours (some of which can't be avoided, I get that). From what I've gathered about me from biometrics (health ring or watch etc) is that I'm in the 11:30pm - 7:30am sleep range. However, having a family and our local schools insane start times and early bus pickups, I feel constantly exhausted from getting up early. When I've tried going to bed earlier to compensate, it just hasn't worked. How much truth is there to the circadian rhythm that is biologically built in, and is it changeable, or do we work with those around us and explain, "This is how my body functions." Thoughts?
A little long, just for me, because like you said, I can spend too much time on my phone. I should have put up it up on the flat screen and would have been able to entertain the dogs at the same time. But from my perspective it should be very helpful to most of us. I really feel for the disabled vet that can't work. I would be clawing for answers. Last thing, since you brought it up ... what do you use to wash your face with? You have such a fresh face. Be nice and just tell us, please? ♥️☘️
Im a nurse, there's NO quiet time, get there, get reports and get moving....
Why are we the same person?! 😂 Aside from one thing, I do each of these routines!
Whats the difference between cortisol from working out in the morning and cortisol from phone exposure?
ide please like to ask a question and ofc i understand if you would not like to respond to the question. do your kids know how much you do battle with your depression and how much of your will and efforts it takes to do battle with this? i only ask coz if my dad was like you and i got to understand how hard it was for him it would have been real different.
Do you do mood journaling and graphs Dr Eiler?
You can show up in your pajamas....we won't complain. thank you!!!!!
I look at my phone as soon as I wake up. But, my work communicates by text....schedule changes etc
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What was the caffeine drink that was all natural with mushrooms that you played on this video? I could not find a link
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Kinda new here, and I'm wondering what kind of dr. he is?
How can I get cortisol levels down? I feel like crap all day, till evening. I'm retired and get plenty of sleep.
I have the same problem. Try to take L Theanine 200mg and an hour before bed. You can safely take up to 600mg. I am up to 600 mg after 2 years of taking it.
@colleenpeck6347 well thank u. I will definitely give it a try.
Please look in the camera when talking. You may be looking at your image when talking on the phone but looking at the audience by focusing on the camera lens is more engaging for us.
You seem so sad sometimes.
Making a video while driving is not cool, it's dangerous.
I don’t enjoy being this type of person.
Bacon is no healthy😮
i hate myself
Thank you!!!