Paul, Week 1
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- Опубліковано 1 гру 2010
- Psychotherapy is fundamentally a relationship between two people, much like the relationship a patient might have with a close friend. The reason the patient has to go to a professional rather than to a personal friend relates mainly to the psychological backwardness of our society. Were our society more advanced, friends would be more understanding at an intimate level, more supportive, and more ready to offer helpful advice. In a truly advanced society, there would be little need for psychotherapists.
In the therapeutic relationship, the patient attempts to gain the self-understanding he or she needs to begin living in a new way. One path toward this self-understanding involves dramatic reenactments that usually relate to hurtful childhood experiences even though the subject matter being discussed may focus on contemporary situations. In these emotional reenactments, the patient may be acting as he or she did as a child in hope that the therapist would not react with traumatizing behavior, as one or more parents regularly did. Or the patient may take on the role of the traumatizing parent in hope that the therapist would not be traumatized as the patient once was, thereby providing the patient with the hope that the therapist will prove helpful in mastering the trauma. These dramatic reenactments bring a level of complication to intimate relationships that untrained people do not expect or understand. As a result, friends may react in unhelpful ways by either traumatizing the person anew or by being traumatized by what the patient did. Trained professionals are taught to react in helpful ways no matter the provocation to act otherwise.
Gina, Paul's former therapist, knew that Paul could not do anything to please his mother and that she remained critical of him to the last. There is therefore no excuse for Gina to criticize him continually even when the criticisms had some merit. There is no therapeutic gain to be had from criticism in Paul's case. Gina not only criticized Paul within therapy, she criticized him to others so as to deny him an important appointment, and often took his wife's side during couples therapy. It might be said that Paul as a trained therapist should have known better than to seek Gina's help, but many therapists are attracted to psychology because of their own psychological problems and, like Paul, have failed to resolve significant issues even after becoming therapists.
There is an old saying that women marry their fathers and men marry their mothers. The same psychological tendency comes into play when choosing close friends of the opposite sex. So it should not come as a surprise that Paul's wife, Kate, spent at least as much time criticizing Paul as Gina did. Paul accepted Adele on recommendation without knowing much about her. It will be interesting to see whether the element of serendipity in choosing her exposes Paul to a form of femininity that challenges his pathogenic beliefs about how women see him and what they expect from him. The initial impression of her is that she is extremely professional.
Paul believes he is experiencing symptoms of Parkinson's disease, but Adele seems to suspect that the symptoms may be neurotic in origin. Adele has no real justification for this suspicion. Rather she is merely following the tendency of psychotherapists to continue exploring neurotic origins until symptoms are definitively shown have a physical basis. Paul complains of a recurring nightmare that is waking him up each night and claims to know everything there is to know about its meaning. Adele counters by asking, in effect, if you know so much consciously, why do you continue having the dream? Adele's question arises from the widely held view that rapid-eye movement (REM) dreams are meant to affect waking behavior in terms of providing either conscious insights or a basis for motives that operate while we are awake. A way of thinking about this is to see the messages REM dreams contain as operating much like post-hypnotic suggestions while we are awake. Paul believes the message is, "Wake up to the fact that you have Parkinson's." Adele believes that can't be right. The dream had the effect of giving Paul insomnia, which led to his seeking therapy, so maybe the dream meant to induce Paul to do so. It will be interesting to see whether the nightmare goes away when Paul seeks therapy for itself without any ulterior motives. @VicComello - Розваги
He’s so calm in his sessions and an angry, short tempered chap when he’s being counselled haha
For me I think after watching all 3 seasons when I went back and started to watch season 1 again, I had a whole other perspective on how poor Gina's reactions and comments were during this supposed 'therapy'. She so often seemed to fall back on judgements of him using the knowledge she had of him from the many other dimensions of their relationship. Sorry to post 3 times but I really love the show and love chatting about it :-)
Adel is amazing omg.. and the intensity in her beautiful eyes.
Anyways... she's awesome and I love how she challenges him
HER beautiful eyes? Look at HIM. Love her, though. Gabriel Byrne starred with Amy Ryan (Adele) in "Lost Girls" (2020) and they played lovers in "Louder than Bombs" (2015). They are really good together.
It's hard for me to imagine how Paul could enjoy seeing a movie while being that tired.
Very interesting to read your comments about this episode and about Gina. I totally agree with how Gina was constantly critisising Paul. Not only in reference to how he felt about Laura but then also regularly implying that he was 'just like his father'. That his father left his mother and ran off woth a patient and compared that to Paul's situation.
Adel has such knowledge n dept! I appreciate her 100%
I always felt uneasy about Gina.
sleepy spider i never trusted her either
a trick : watch series at flixzone. I've been using them for watching lots of of movies these days.
@Lucca Miguel Definitely, I have been watching on Flixzone for years myself :)
@Lucca Miguel Yea, I've been watching on flixzone for since december myself :)
LOVE Dianne Wiest and I DESPISED the character from the get-go.
I love these videos. I was introduced by a social work professor. These videos are honestly better than some of my simulation classes. Thank you for your insight, this could be a course in itself
in my life I saw 4 different therapists and the best one gave me the best advice. I was living with a woman who was threatened by my ex-wife and my relationship with my young son - who was very important to me. This woman and I also worked together and when we came home she badgered me from 10pm to 3 am saying that I should never have married and had a son as it should have been her. I was exhausted at work so the therapist told me that when this happens - leave the room and if necessary leave the house, it worked and the relationship ended.
Dude she is a LAZER BEAM! I'd love to have a month with someone like that.
Dude she is a LAZER BEAM! I'd love to have a month with someone like that.
Blessed are we that this show was on for the three seasons that it lasted. As most of us have no idea how to even begin with a therapist, much less what to expect, I've made a point of re watching and taking notes. Has benefitted immensely.
Gina is annoying. Adele is great
Would you care to share about how you found personal comprehension watching the series ? Take notes and then ? After heavy illness I still see therapist. Learned a lot, but still need "reflection from another person". Otherwise my mind becomes a tredmill - rumination. (Piece by piece I can get out of this by myself). But not in 6 sessions. Kind rgds.
No, you don't. It's painful...too painful. I don't know what is worse, the slurry for a brain or the pain of clarity.
Resistance is key.
I think things are complicated even further by Paul's admitance that he came to Gina for the very reason of knowing what she would think about the situation with Laura and that he had to test himself to withstandGina's critisism before he could realistically contemplate something more developing between him and Laura.
More inner zone work needed I feel, his analytical approach to work is his worst enemy. Having said that... he is a good actor
+Carlos 500 More inner zone work needed I feel,
Inner Zone sounds awfully InnerSpace, Carl!!! My confess, I'm not quite clear on what you mean here. What distinguishes IZW from what you feel is our hero's more analytical approach?
I'd rather go to Adelle than Paul for therapy or supervision! lol
Love Adele, but team Paul here. Remember, she is the therapist here; it would be great to see the tables turned for interest.
Please film the fourth season starring Gabriel Byrne
@ControlMastery Thanks for your reply, CoMast. I guess I have a blind spot. I've gone back to some of the Gina sessions and see her assessing, evaluating, and drawing parallels but I have not seen a whole lot of judging. Hence I see more of Gina's role as therapist than you do, who see her exclusively as a supervisor to Paul. You and I agree that criticism of a patient is not therapy. How about judging? And are you judging Gina? Now I can't tell. Ha! Thanks to HBO for this "mind food."
Thinking about buying DVD box. (Europe) but I see youtube videos with comments of a professional. Which I find very interesting. I wonder if there are "extra's" on the DVD 's with kind of those comments. Can someone inform me ? It does not show on "buying on line shops" .... Furthermore, only 6 sessions and patients sees everything clearly within such a short time and able to change life without further help ? Is that realistic ?
It’s just a program. If it happened the way it does in real life, you and nobody would watch it.
I am no analyst and have nothing to do with them, but why would you think being one would make easier to judge yourself appropriately? One can only interpret and judge (right or wrong) what one sees and one can never, ever, look into its own eyes: one can't manipulate but otherness and one needs to turn oneself into another as well, by taking the opinions of others, to (in)form the notion of oneself at all... Or am I wrong?
Wow! How did I miss all the negative judging you claim that Gina did? I sure caught Paul's accusations thereof. But I thought he was seeing/hearing things that weren't there. Can you give us some examples?
Howdy!
He so arrogantly tells her what she can do..."You CAN ask me some questions and then you CAN send me on my way." He has developed a tolerance and he won't look deeper into the problem. "Words" like ALWAYS and NEVER are suspect.
Please the ame of the actress that personificado adele
Amy ryan
She was nominated for an Oscar for "Gone Baby Gone" and was also on "The Office".
Why doesnt he just get sleeping pills from an MD, he doesnt need to go to psychiatrist
Because he probably deep down wants a therapist