I think by having a better communication. Sometimes we jump into the bed too fast. A lot of water exchanged. With not brake and full emotional. For Some (lucky) people they stay that way their whole life with that lady they met at McDonalds while they were student or at Uni or later in life in the bathroom with their colleagues... ( afterwork ) I think crazy relationships could work if the physical complicity and connection could also translate with the mouth and the emotional openness. \ Sometimes some people have bed fun but they remain emotionally closed during that time because they do not actually know if the other person love them or care about them. I am older (39 ) I am still open to that type of energy but to be honest the energy or real love first before going crazy and physical I do prefer that. Because that feeling of not knowing if that lady is there just to use my body and my BBC... Not cool. When you are young as a man I feel like it's okay to be used you are discovering that part of life. So you are also using women for pleasure... But after a while been there done that . I think that , this energy is Mehhh... 80% women who actually love me was ALWAYS an option. She doesn't need to be 100% . I will never be 100% lol to nobody even my mother.
Vet good. Most women don't. They keep falling for all the smooth talking players all the time unfortunately. Then keep doing the same cycle. SMH 🤦♂️ Edit: And when they do decide to make a change, it's always some super drastic off the wall change when they get tired of the same ol guys they get. They do stuff that doesn't change the outcome At All whatsoever. Like going after men who they don't see as attractive at all, changing races, all different preferences...but they don't do the reap work that would give them positive results. So they keep getting the same results. SMH 🤦♂️
@@jayc5756 women's choices are the reason why marriages were always arranged by the parents back in the day. left to their own devices, women make the absolute worst choices. i'm actually impressed by how poor black women's mate choices often are. when I see it, i'm not surprised at all by the sky high single mother rates among black women. this problem isn't exclusive to black women, but for some reason, black women are FAR WORSE at choosing men than other women. its probably due to cultural reasons.
Most Women know this Sis...they use the "Perfect Guy Standard" as an Excuse to keep their independence. Their goal is to keep their independence while enjoying the benefits of a relationship..Thats why situationships are here to stay.
@@TynishaTalks If Most men do Not see Wives in the women they "date". Then most men will see a different type of relationship with women..(situationship)
@@TynishaTalks Not so. Men know from early on that there is no “Perfect Woman” and if one exists, she won’t want the imperfect man that’s gawking at her. This is why men don’t tend to end relationships or marriages. Men tend to get in where they fit in, and stay there.
I think a lot of women have been conditioned too much with horror stories of men because unhappy women are the ones that have the most to say about men, but they only have the perspective of bad men. We need more women talking about healthy relationships and good loving men. The thing is those women get shut down.
@@TynishaTalksby the miserable bitter women who have nothing but failures in their relationships and want others to share in their misery. And the ones who got it right or who want to do it right get called “ pick me’s”, which is ironic because the whole objective is to get picked. Being a pick me is much better than being a “skip me”, “pass me” or “pass me around”. The women who they call pick me’s usually get picked.
@@sickofguysnamedtodd2293 Completely agree. It's so annoying. This new "pick me" term is so played out and honestly so bad for society. Years ago being a "pick me" was just being a regular woman. I hate that women that are normal are seen as anything other than that.
women are impressionable, most don't have a mind of their own, they are influenced by external sources. Eve being tempted to take the apple says enough. it was Adam that failed to tell her no, so be the man and stand on YOUR values and not others. Let her decide if she gonna stay or to chase the apple.
I’m a man that is happily married and I agree with you 100 percent! Especially about men marrying a women that 80 percent of what he thinks as perfect! For the ladies, stop only focusing on the two extremes! The man you’re looking for is probably just left or right from center!
@@darrieng6608 I have 2 platinum plaques and run a recording studio here in Kansas City. What was I supposed to put for my username and profile pic? I made that $20K in a month so yeah I’m a post it 🤷🏾♂️ get out of your feelings
I really needed this video. After a very abusive and toxic relationship I became jaded. I am now recently engaged to not a perfect man but a man of God who loves and values me and who has never treated me with disrespect unlike the past men I chose. I started to doubt my engagement thinking he’s not perfect blah blah but neither were my ex’s and I was r.o.d for them smh. you really do get addicted to toxicity that can turn into Stockholm syndrome for your low quality abusers that gave you the high of chasing.
This comment warmed my heart - I’m glad God sent you someone who can create a safe space after that experience 🙏🏽 It’s hard sometimes, to let go of the idea of perfection. Overall, I appreciate the imperfections and the process of working through them - that takes effort and dedication. Congratulations on your engagement!! ❤️
It's not about perfection. It's about learning how to be in a relationship. Being in a relationship, doesn't mean giving up your personal space. There's boundries even in relationships. Just take things slow, and relax. Its all good.
The “perfect man” more then likely slipped right under lots of women nose. Because many are materialistic and only see a man for where he’s currently at, opposed to his future. For example theirs hundreds of men from poverty who were “dusty” last year but now moved up to their own loft and Up now..Actual good men not giving many women the time of day who wasn’t shooting in the gym with them
One of the things that I really like about you is how introspective you are (I believe I wrote this in a comment in your "turning 30" video too...)... I also agree that most people are not mature enough / ready for a real, purposeful, loving long term relationship. From a (not-so-average) man's perspective... - Compatibility and Purpose are FAR more important than being with someone out of attraction or love (Not saying that love and attraction aren't important... they are.... but there HAS to be a united purpose to keep us together beyond the physical and sexual aspects of a relationship). -Having a healthy love and respect for yourself should be a per-requisite for entering a relationship. A lot of people don't love themselves and are "looking for love" in other people. This puts an unfair burden on your partner to cater and meet every whim, need and desire you have. I'm a giver. I love seeing my significant others happy. But if a woman DEMANDS that I keep her on tilt and happy 24/7.... ummmmmmm... that's going to be an issue and I'm going to exit stage left. - Don't get intimate with someone unless (among other things) you deeply respect them, they push you to grow, and you know they want the best out of you. Love is good. Fuzzy feelings are awesome. But I don't want a relationship that doesn't have any substances. I want one where we can lovingly sharpen each other and push ourselves to be the best people that we can be. Why have people in your life that don't bring value? Why be in relationships where you don't look for for each other? Isn't that what most people would consider an ideal relationship... two folks who have each other's back through thick and thin and can weather storms together... while having bomb s*x? Or is that just me? lol -Vet for character and integrity more than looks. She looks nice and has a nice figure.... that's good... now I need to figure out if she has the loyalty, tenderness, kindness, firmness that I need in a mate. I tend to be high wired at times... so can she provide that calming presence to balance me out? There is so much that I can write but I'm going to stop here... I will say this: I pray and seek discernment with EVERY woman that I meet and I am at a point where If something is telling me not to proceed or seek a relationship, then I don't... no matter how "fine" or "bangin" she is. I'm on my purpose and grind and I highly value someone who could come along side and do this journey with me.... so that we both can win. My .02.
Well said! 👏 I, too, had to learn to practice discernment and trust my gut! I've kicked myself for moving forward in situations where my intuition told me to run. I'm happy that you phrased the part about integrity vs. looks that way. I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to be attracted to your partner, but we definitely shouldn't be entertaining someone based on their looks - especially if it means excusing red flags 🚩
This was a great video. I recently met someone that I am not 100% attracted too. I’ve been afraid to commit myself too her because I find myself attracted to other women. But this woman prays for me, she meets my needs even before I tell her that I have a need. This video has really opened my eyes to what’s really important in a long term relationship.
This woman seem like a very good woman but I think you have to ask yourself whether you can really look past the attraction thing. If not let her go and let someone who really adore her have her. Reminds me of that podcast where a woman called saying she overheard her husband discussing with someone over the phone that he thinks she is a really good woman but he is still not physically attracted to her…….it was heartbreaking listening to her!
You're speaking all facts, especially the part about being equipped. Relationships take work, and a lot of that work happens on a personal/individual level. You're also 100% correct about choosing to love your person every day you wake up. It's an action, not just a feeling. Keep up the good content 👍🏿
People ask people what they are looking for so of course they are going to list "ideals" but realistically, most people know they won't find a person that checks every box perfectly. I don't think delusions over requirements are the issue for anyone as much as the delusions over who they are and their values to other people is where people don't have a solid grip. Theoretically there are people out her that would check all the boxes in these lists, the question, the extremely important question people never ask or are are delusional about is, "If a person has all the stuff I am looking for, could they do better than me?"... "Ma'am, you are 4'11" 600 lbs, with an overbite, Michael B. Jordan is not coming" or " Sir, you are 39, with more white hair in your beard than Santa, and you have been rode more times than the bouncy-horse in front of a supermarket, you are not getting a 24-year-old near-virgin who loves to do maid-work for free" ' We can all want whatever we want but you have to pick from what wants you back...
I think the most important part of actually getting women to understand this is my highlighting the fact that they are fucking miles away from being the perfect woman themselves. But we live in this society that tells women that they're all perfect and that has consequences.
Good thought provoking video Tynisha. I’ve had nothing but situationships, sexual assaults, ghosting, difficult communication, not having feelings reciprocated from age 18-26. 4 men out of the 6 I’ve been w/intimately have apologized to me years later for treating me bad after sex but I make them stand on how they did me and I do not accept their apologies. At 27 now I’m only focused on creating stronger boundaries and leveling up financially, and mentally. Then I will go back to the drawing board and see if I want to entertain again after the hiatus
I left a comment being brutally honest, but decided to delete it because I figured you’d take it the wrong way based on your comment. I’ll just say, forgive them and move on. You’ll be better for it. Trust me. You’ll see years down the line.
@se2664 probably something to do with the fact that you admit you've had nothing but situationships, s.assaults, and the like from 18 to 26 years old. That's indicative of poor choices and poor vetting to have had nothing but that for 8 straight years. And so the harsh reality is coming to grips with WHY you only picked men who would do all that, for 8 straight years. Because holding onto strong emotions or animosity for these men who you accepted at best situationships from is definitely unhealthy and will not serve to help you attain a healthy relationship with a man who wants to take you seriously
The message, 'the perfect man doesn't exist' easily gives men the EXCUSE to cheat and to be abusive in multiple ways. Most women DO already understand this. However, men, especially black men, have an expectation that women should accept cheating, abuse, and disrespect with a smile on their face. It is not women who are constantly cheating on their partner. It is not women who abandon their children and refuse to pay child support. It is not women who refuse to marry and raise children in a family unit. Accepting imperfection in men does NOT have to mean accepting abuse.
Why does there have to be such an exaggerated example of imperfection? Acknowledging that we are flawed is not accepting abusive behavior or being an absent parent. Accepting that someone isn’t perfect may mean that they don’t look like a 10 but they may be a solid 8 and have a great personality. Perhaps they aren’t in the exact income bracket that you wanted, but they are still financially stable and are working to elevate. I am thinking more along those lines.
@@TynishaTalks Your video was geared to women accepting flaws. However, it is men who DON'T accept women's flaws. Everyone knows that for most men, especially black men, a woman has to be PERFECT. It is women who would accept men who make less money and have less education, especially in the black community. It is women who will accept a cheating man or stay in an abusive relationship. Women are not the problem when it comes to not accepting imperfection in men. And if a man accepts an imperfect woman, he usually mistreats that woman because she doesn't have 100% of what he wants. What is the point of a man accepting 80% of what he wants in a woman, if he is going to mistreat her because she lacks the other 20%?
Ahh, I’ve got you. This is always an interesting topic, as both men and women say that accept one another’s flaws lol. I’d love to dive into that a bit more to see where the disconnect is.
Tynisha is FINE FINE!!!!! Yes this is much needed because people are putting their fantasies on reality & getting upset when reality happens. Its ridiculous. I still say that the best relationships are the ones formed with the foundation being Christ at the center. When the orchestrator of relationships is leading the relationship, relationship WORK!
@@TynishaTalks Hey! I was waiting for you to return from your vacation to reach out. I hope you enjoyed your time and made awesome memories! Should I reach out on your IG?
No perfection in humans has never existed. If anything what your looking for is the perfectly imperfect partner. Someone who's great enough for you that you are convinced that this must be what perfection feels like.
It’s too late. Most relationships won’t work out just because the divide between men and women is too deep. If you find someone to pair with you are the exception not the rule. The damage is permanent. I hope and pray for future generations.
As a guy, my issue is usually physical attraction. The women that I like is because they’re humble but I’m usually not physically attracted to women that tend to be humble. Then the women that I am attracted to usually aren’t humble and so I’m not interested anymore. So it boils down to the combination of physical attraction and humility for me. Also a talk about sex before the first date to see if we’re going the celibate route or not.
Dear Tynisha, I think the perfect man does exist but its so rare that not everyone gets to experience it, so you have to settle for the next best thing or else you might go through life alone.
I send your videos to both my sisters and all my female friends cause everything they complain to me about is the same things you be talking about 🔥🔥 Keep doing God's work 🙏
80% is stability. It's usually a person who has all the qualities needed to sustain a long term fruitful relationship. The 20% is usually superficial. Admittedly, the life that comes with the 80% is usually boring. It takes monotony to do the same thing everyday to provide for a household. But, it ensures a somewhat solid foundation for the future. If someone is involved with a person who brings 80%, why not be the one to bring the other 20% to the relationship? Why not add the excitement you would like to see? This way you have a good mixture of both. You have a good foundation to build with in the future and you have the spark of excitement to keep both people interested in each other.
I had to go to therapy to realize I shouldn’t believe in twin flames! No matter what syncronocities i see or if i see him in person or see his name somewhere or dream about him the fact that the point of the journey is to focus on urself & ur soul’s journey it just means i need to stop being so obsessed with that loser of a man or any man for that matter & just be single! I just cannot see myself loving anyone who gives me a hard time
This may be a little off topic but what mic are you using? Ive tried several usb lav mics and they all sound overdriven. Your mics gain structure seems very nice. Sorry for yhe geeky question. 😅
I don't think that the perfect woman/man/relationship doesn't exist. Most people simply have a distorted view of what perfection is. Instead of seeking who is perfect for us, or a relationship dynamic that is perfect for us, we tend to seek out idealism and fantasies. The biggest issue with that is that most of us don't even know who we really are, and thus have no idea where we are heading. Another issue is that we let society dictate too much of what we feel we should have or deserve.
Both can be true. There definitely is no perfect man, woman, or relationship, and it's folly to doggedly pursue perfection, which is not the same as seeking constant self improvement.
@@odog76543 there is where you are wrong. There may be no cookie cutter perfect man/woman/relationship, but there is a perfect man/woman/relationship for an individual. It's not folly to seek it out. The folly is to seek out the cookie cutter version of perfection that doesn't exist. It's folly to seek it out if you don't know who you are and what you need. It's folly if you are unrealistic/unreasonable in your search.
Yeah, im like you with that cut off thing...but Im not a Runner or Stayer. But in the beginning, I can peep the bullshit. But if you got past that Initial phase, I try to communicate and work through the issues and miscommunication...until I see a red flag. After that, Im gone. Zero Tolerance for the bs shit. FR
@@TynishaTalks u can not have order and discipline There’s no foundation to begin with Women are out here just sexing men Men sexing e Use to be a time when sexing was cherished and protected Now everyone knows about it even the kids No households are created Just baby mamas and daddies It’s sad We forgot how to love one another We forgot family
No man or a woman is perfect but once you have a relationship with each other, that’s what makes it perfect. Ppl fit perfectly together as you and I are soon to be fitted🌹
I think in the chase for perfection we feel and think its always better out there, so when we look at our present situation, we look at it with objective and strained eyes always looking for something wrong so we can be a step closer to perfection. In the quest for perfection we leave behind a bunch of broken hearts and trauma filled people. and we get there to realize that perfection doesn't exist
Nice video. I would just like to add that dating is easier for women. Men are the ones who are expected to approach women. That alone means women get to sit back and select who they want and men have to hope that a woman is interested.
“Pick better men” does not mean “looking for a man in finance, trust fund, 6”5, blue eyes”. Limiting your search criteria like that will pretty much guarantee that you won’t get a good man
To all the perfect women out there, We humbly and kindly ask you --- What book or source for information specify telling you what a perfect man looks and sounds like? Better yet, what other planet would you prefer being on (to live) where perfection rules as the standard for EVERYONE that exist there❔ Take your time ⏳
Morgan Stanley 'Rise of the SHEconomy' study must be revisited... I think it's too late for American men and women. Most men with their lives together are checked out and either here for fun only and seeking wives overseas and most women still don't get it or else this message wouldn't be relevant for women to hear. I see signs of desperation every day from late 20s-early 30s women in my gym. I spent a month last year in Medellin. Hopefully, I'll do Peru this year... I'm celibate when I'm inside the U.S.
The guys women chose to mate with have options (they hate when we keep it all the way 1000). That’s why you see all these single beautiful women. Then what they do to make them selves feel better is prey on average single venerable men, use them, and either friend zone them or ghost them. Allot of them are professionals cuz they do it all the time and their steps are calculated. Stop being a yes man or being too quick to open up. I’m 33 I guarantee you I’ve been there and done that too many times lol
Great video love your viewpoint from your perspective you know who you are and what you want. Have a blessed day date to marry and friends then bond then marriage
Anything that lasts in life and has true value requires work. Like you said you have to wake up and make the decision to love this person even when it gets hard. Obviously things like infidelity and abuse are legitimate reasons to beat your feet and get up the street lol but EVERYONE is flawed in one way or another. Choose which flaws you can accept and have the same grace and patience you expect for ppl to have with you 💯
I don't have the patience anymore for relationships God would have to help me in this area but as of now I want to protect my peace that relationship stuff isnt easy
In this modern dating world I am considered perfect by many women...I live in southern California, get to know me, meet me and find out for yourself ladies
It’s wild cause I met this church girl I worked with and she initiated contact by asking for my ig. We later go sit down and eat for a date to talk and get to know eachother a bit. I paid for our food then she wanted me to buy a $60 bible right after to start bible studying with her. I didn’t do that cause I just paid around the same amount for our food and was tight on $ but I had planned to later. She was understanding to a sense but she just cuts me off later. I guess she had set a higher standard for me.
A big part of the issue is that people, especially men have become disposable commodities. You’re now able to swipe on folks via apps you wouldn’t normally encounter in your day to day. The dating/mating market is now global instead of local. Women want the top 10% of men in looks, height, status, finances and since everything these days is instant gratification, there’s no incentive to “settle” on what otherwise might be a completely decent dude. Also, the top 10% of men know they have nearly limitless options and don’t have to commit, so they become players/F-boys, which causes women to become more jaded, and it’s just a messed up cycle. People get unhappy for 10 seconds and they bounce right to the next person. I think all of our wires are crossed. Everything needs a massive reset. Also, since this was long winded and won’t get read, Tynisha is 109% 🔥Good LAWD. How is this woman not wife’d up yet?
One thing I never understand is how a dude is “suddenly imperfect” when he dosent want u or entertains u. “The problem is a lot of those woman think like a man when they “make him see my value” a man isn’t an object you gain a relationship with to make u feel confident/worthy of a good relationship. That pick me energy is so easy for mfs to pick up on and then they do what they want because u don’t care about them. U care about getting your daydreams fulfilled with a woman/man, in other words your being transactional & not authentic
Also remember, there are good matches for everyone, even if you're a little different. For example, even serial killers find women who share their interests and participate in their hobbies.
Tynisha if you were into me you would be perfect, and that the case for most men. Are we attracted to her? Is she attracted to us? Is she interested enough to be with me, through thick and thin? These are the only qualities men seek. Mutual attraction( meaning near the level of attraction, for a woman she’d sacrifice her independence, and a man then sacrifices his time, effort and resources). You need 2 ppl who have the same feelings to give to each other.
If more of our women had these standards for every man, there would be A LOT less single mothers in our community. I think a lot of women use the "ain't not good men" as an excuse to stay single and sleep around.
@BreeLove-zx5pz If she's Christian, single and celibate you are correct, if she in the streets, then no it's not safe and it is wrong according to God.
@BreeLove-zx5pzread the entire statement, it’s an excuse meaning a lie projecting on the S/O instead of upfront letting it be known. Too many mental trick will drive any “perfect” man away.
35 year old, married for 13 years. Yes, you read that right. 😅 But what I’ve noticed from friends, friends of friends, hell even reality tv, because believe it or not it looks and sounds the exact same…but what I’ve noticed is not only do people expect perfection, but for people that don’t, a lot of folks seem to not be willing to or even know how to communicate themselves to solutions. Most people just give up and move on to the next. Idk, maybe a decade ago we went through that whole “know your worth and add tax” phase where people started having these ridiculous standards. It has just ballooned and worsen. Remember not too long ago the would-be couple that went viral because the lady was pissed the guy took them to Cheesecake Factory for their FIRST date. Being the poor millennial I am, when I was in my 20s, I don’t think any of my friends would have taken any woman to CCF for a first date. 😂 It’s no longer about human connection. It’s what can this person do for me and how cute will we look together.
The perfect man doesn't exist. The perfect woman doesn't exist. They are instead grown and developed over time with hard work, dedication, and a no quit attitude.
I decided to look abroad. I am no Channing Tatum or Brad Pitt . Yet I have my life together financially, physically, mentally emotionally. Been single 5 years working on all different aspects of my life . Not for a woman for myself after a 20 year relationship. I recently tried the dating apps . It’s laughable what these women put on there . And 90% of them are overweight, tattoos, kids . Do they seriously think a man who is financially secure , fit , good looking, great personality wants any part of that ? A lot of women are train wrecks dealing with them is just not worth it . Abroad the women are fit , feminine, friendly respectful , and traditional.
How can we improve our dating standards/strategies to have successful relationships?
I think by having a better communication.
Sometimes we jump into the bed too fast. A lot of water exchanged.
With not brake and full emotional.
For Some (lucky) people they stay that way their whole life with that lady they met at McDonalds while they were student or at Uni or later in life in the bathroom with their colleagues... ( afterwork )
I think crazy relationships could work if the physical complicity and connection could also translate with the mouth and the emotional openness. \
Sometimes some people have bed fun but they remain emotionally closed during that time because they do not actually know if the other person love them or care about them.
I am older (39 ) I am still open to that type of energy but to be honest the energy or real love first before going crazy and physical I do prefer that.
Because that feeling of not knowing if that lady is there just to use my body and my BBC... Not cool.
When you are young as a man I feel like it's okay to be used you are discovering that part of life. So you are also using women for pleasure... But after a while been there done that . I think that , this energy is Mehhh...
80% women who actually love me was ALWAYS an option. She doesn't need to be 100% .
I will never be 100% lol to nobody even my mother.
CHOOSE BETTER.
Vet good. Most women don't. They keep falling for all the smooth talking players all the time unfortunately. Then keep doing the same cycle. SMH 🤦♂️
Edit: And when they do decide to make a change, it's always some super drastic off the wall change when they get tired of the same ol guys they get. They do stuff that doesn't change the outcome At All whatsoever. Like going after men who they don't see as attractive at all, changing races, all different preferences...but they don't do the reap work that would give them positive results. So they keep getting the same results. SMH 🤦♂️
@@jayc5756 women's choices are the reason why marriages were always arranged by the parents back in the day. left to their own devices, women make the absolute worst choices. i'm actually impressed by how poor black women's mate choices often are. when I see it, i'm not surprised at all by the sky high single mother rates among black women. this problem isn't exclusive to black women, but for some reason, black women are FAR WORSE at choosing men than other women. its probably due to cultural reasons.
....go back to assigned roles in the household/relationship
Most Women know this Sis...they use the "Perfect Guy Standard" as an Excuse to keep their independence. Their goal is to keep their independence while enjoying the benefits of a relationship..Thats why situationships are here to stay.
Interesting! If you ask women, they’ll say this is what men do.
True
@@TynishaTalks If Most men do Not see Wives in the women they "date". Then most men will see a different type of relationship with women..(situationship)
@@TynishaTalks if most men do Not see WIVES in the women they "date" then men will see a different type of relationship...
The Situationship
@@TynishaTalks Not so. Men know from early on that there is no “Perfect Woman” and if one exists, she won’t want the imperfect man that’s gawking at her. This is why men don’t tend to end relationships or marriages. Men tend to get in where they fit in, and stay there.
I think a lot of women have been conditioned too much with horror stories of men because unhappy women are the ones that have the most to say about men, but they only have the perspective of bad men. We need more women talking about healthy relationships and good loving men. The thing is those women get shut down.
Shut down by who?
@@TynishaTalks Bitter women dog out happy women. They project their experiences and think that's the norm and it isn't.
For sure! Always consider the messenger when receiving the message.
@@TynishaTalksby the miserable bitter women who have nothing but failures in their relationships and want others to share in their misery. And the ones who got it right or who want to do it right get called “ pick me’s”, which is ironic because the whole objective is to get picked. Being a pick me is much better than being a “skip me”, “pass me” or “pass me around”. The women who they call pick me’s usually get picked.
@@sickofguysnamedtodd2293 Completely agree. It's so annoying. This new "pick me" term is so played out and honestly so bad for society. Years ago being a "pick me" was just being a regular woman. I hate that women that are normal are seen as anything other than that.
I’m so glad you said that, my GF tried to compare our relationship to thing she saw online and that’s unrealistic 💯
People always record the highlights 💯
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women are impressionable, most don't have a mind of their own, they are influenced by external sources. Eve being tempted to take the apple says enough. it was Adam that failed to tell her no, so be the man and stand on YOUR values and not others. Let her decide if she gonna stay or to chase the apple.
Women are very superficial that’s why men younger and younger are starting to give up on dating modern women. It’s an epidemic, research it.
she sounds young and impressionable, idk this lady but she likely lacks knowledge of self.
I’m a man that is happily married and I agree with you 100 percent! Especially about men marrying a women that 80 percent of what he thinks as perfect! For the ladies, stop only focusing on the two extremes! The man you’re looking for is probably just left or right from center!
What made you want to get married bro? Why not live a bachelor, free agent lifestyle?
@@PlatinumHustlebrainwashed look at the profile pic and username
@@darrieng6608 I have 2 platinum plaques and run a recording studio here in Kansas City. What was I supposed to put for my username and profile pic? I made that $20K in a month so yeah I’m a post it 🤷🏾♂️ get out of your feelings
@@darrieng6608 not sure why you felt the need to come at me, but hey, answer my question I asked in my original comment when you get time buddy 👍🏾
@@PlatinumHustle I was talking about the Original comment Aggie4Life
I really needed this video. After a very abusive and toxic relationship I became jaded. I am now recently engaged to not a perfect man but a man of God who loves and values me and who has never treated me with disrespect unlike the past men I chose. I started to doubt my engagement thinking he’s not perfect blah blah but neither were my ex’s and I was r.o.d for them smh. you really do get addicted to toxicity that can turn into Stockholm syndrome for your low quality abusers that gave you the high of chasing.
This comment warmed my heart - I’m glad God sent you someone who can create a safe space after that experience 🙏🏽
It’s hard sometimes, to let go of the idea of perfection. Overall, I appreciate the imperfections and the process of working through them - that takes effort and dedication. Congratulations on your engagement!! ❤️
It's not about perfection. It's about learning how to be in a relationship. Being in a relationship, doesn't mean giving up your personal space. There's boundries even in relationships. Just take things slow, and relax. Its all good.
I love how you speak with so much care and understanding
❤️❤️❤️
Don’t be fooled bro
The “perfect man” more then likely slipped right under lots of women nose. Because many are materialistic and only see a man for where he’s currently at, opposed to his future. For example theirs hundreds of men from poverty who were “dusty” last year but now moved up to their own loft and Up now..Actual good men not giving many women the time of day who wasn’t shooting in the gym with them
Literally laughing at them when the disdain gets extra loud for no good reason.
Just cuz you are poor dosint mean your a good man lol their is more than that.
@@Vi_lovely u slow if that’s all u got out that
@@pesocheco I’m actually not why do u want someone who dosint want you ?
One of the things that I really like about you is how introspective you are (I believe I wrote this in a comment in your "turning 30" video too...)... I also agree that most people are not mature enough / ready for a real, purposeful, loving long term relationship. From a (not-so-average) man's perspective...
- Compatibility and Purpose are FAR more important than being with someone out of attraction or love (Not saying that love and attraction aren't important... they are.... but there HAS to be a united purpose to keep us together beyond the physical and sexual aspects of a relationship).
-Having a healthy love and respect for yourself should be a per-requisite for entering a relationship. A lot of people don't love themselves and are "looking for love" in other people. This puts an unfair burden on your partner to cater and meet every whim, need and desire you have. I'm a giver. I love seeing my significant others happy. But if a woman DEMANDS that I keep her on tilt and happy 24/7.... ummmmmmm... that's going to be an issue and I'm going to exit stage left.
- Don't get intimate with someone unless (among other things) you deeply respect them, they push you to grow, and you know they want the best out of you. Love is good. Fuzzy feelings are awesome. But I don't want a relationship that doesn't have any substances. I want one where we can lovingly sharpen each other and push ourselves to be the best people that we can be. Why have people in your life that don't bring value? Why be in relationships where you don't look for for each other? Isn't that what most people would consider an ideal relationship... two folks who have each other's back through thick and thin and can weather storms together... while having bomb s*x? Or is that just me? lol
-Vet for character and integrity more than looks. She looks nice and has a nice figure.... that's good... now I need to figure out if she has the loyalty, tenderness, kindness, firmness that I need in a mate. I tend to be high wired at times... so can she provide that calming presence to balance me out?
There is so much that I can write but I'm going to stop here... I will say this: I pray and seek discernment with EVERY woman that I meet and I am at a point where If something is telling me not to proceed or seek a relationship, then I don't... no matter how "fine" or "bangin" she is. I'm on my purpose and grind and I highly value someone who could come along side and do this journey with me.... so that we both can win. My .02.
Well said! 👏
I, too, had to learn to practice discernment and trust my gut! I've kicked myself for moving forward in situations where my intuition told me to run.
I'm happy that you phrased the part about integrity vs. looks that way. I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to be attracted to your partner, but we definitely shouldn't be entertaining someone based on their looks - especially if it means excusing red flags 🚩
This was a great video. I recently met someone that I am not 100% attracted too. I’ve been afraid to commit myself too her because I find myself attracted to other women. But this woman prays for me, she meets my needs even before I tell her that I have a need. This video has really opened my eyes to what’s really important in a long term relationship.
Finding someone who prays for you is huge. A foundation rooted in God conquers all! I hope that things go in your favor 🫶🏽
This woman seem like a very good woman but I think you have to ask yourself whether you can really look past the attraction thing.
If not let her go and let someone who really adore her have her. Reminds me of that podcast where a woman called saying she overheard her husband discussing with someone over the phone that he thinks she is a really good woman but he is still not physically attracted to her…….it was heartbreaking listening to her!
True. I’ve always regretted trying to force relationships when the attraction wasn’t there.
@@TynishaTalks thank you for responding. Do you do 1 on 1 sessions?
You're speaking all facts, especially the part about being equipped. Relationships take work, and a lot of that work happens on a personal/individual level. You're also 100% correct about choosing to love your person every day you wake up. It's an action, not just a feeling. Keep up the good content 👍🏿
I try to keep it simple: character, kindness & financially stable
People ask people what they are looking for so of course they are going to list "ideals" but realistically, most people know they won't find a person that checks every box perfectly. I don't think delusions over requirements are the issue for anyone as much as the delusions over who they are and their values to other people is where people don't have a solid grip. Theoretically there are people out her that would check all the boxes in these lists, the question, the extremely important question people never ask or are are delusional about is, "If a person has all the stuff I am looking for, could they do better than me?"... "Ma'am, you are 4'11" 600 lbs, with an overbite, Michael B. Jordan is not coming" or " Sir, you are 39, with more white hair in your beard than Santa, and you have been rode more times than the bouncy-horse in front of a supermarket, you are not getting a 24-year-old near-virgin who loves to do maid-work for free" '
We can all want whatever we want but you have to pick from what wants you back...
We need to be realistic and not over-value ourselves. I agree with you.
I think the most important part of actually getting women to understand this is my highlighting the fact that they are fucking miles away from being the perfect woman themselves.
But we live in this society that tells women that they're all perfect and that has consequences.
True! Lack of self-awareness is definitely prevalent.
Good thought provoking video Tynisha. I’ve had nothing but situationships, sexual assaults, ghosting, difficult communication, not having feelings reciprocated from age 18-26. 4 men out of the 6 I’ve been w/intimately have apologized to me years later for treating me bad after sex but I make them stand on how they did me and I do not accept their apologies. At 27 now I’m only focused on creating stronger boundaries and leveling up financially, and mentally. Then I will go back to the drawing board and see if I want to entertain again after the hiatus
I left a comment being brutally honest, but decided to delete it because I figured you’d take it the wrong way based on your comment.
I’ll just say, forgive them and move on. You’ll be better for it. Trust me. You’ll see years down the line.
@@Iamhimbutyouarenotshes too far gone.
@@Iamhimbutyouarenot what were you about to say ?
@se2664 probably something to do with the fact that you admit you've had nothing but situationships, s.assaults, and the like from 18 to 26 years old. That's indicative of poor choices and poor vetting to have had nothing but that for 8 straight years.
And so the harsh reality is coming to grips with WHY you only picked men who would do all that, for 8 straight years. Because holding onto strong emotions or animosity for these men who you accepted at best situationships from is definitely unhealthy and will not serve to help you attain a healthy relationship with a man who wants to take you seriously
The message, 'the perfect man doesn't exist' easily gives men the EXCUSE to cheat and to be abusive in multiple ways.
Most women DO already understand this. However, men, especially black men, have an expectation that women should accept cheating, abuse, and disrespect with a smile on their face.
It is not women who are constantly cheating on their partner.
It is not women who abandon their children and refuse to pay child support.
It is not women who refuse to marry and raise children in a family unit.
Accepting imperfection in men does NOT have to mean accepting abuse.
Why does there have to be such an exaggerated example of imperfection? Acknowledging that we are flawed is not accepting abusive behavior or being an absent parent. Accepting that someone isn’t perfect may mean that they don’t look like a 10 but they may be a solid 8 and have a great personality. Perhaps they aren’t in the exact income bracket that you wanted, but they are still financially stable and are working to elevate. I am thinking more along those lines.
@@TynishaTalks Your video was geared to women accepting flaws. However, it is men who DON'T accept women's flaws.
Everyone knows that for most men, especially black men, a woman has to be PERFECT.
It is women who would accept men who make less money and have less education, especially in the black community.
It is women who will accept a cheating man or stay in an abusive relationship.
Women are not the problem when it comes to not accepting imperfection in men.
And if a man accepts an imperfect woman, he usually mistreats that woman because she doesn't have 100% of what he wants.
What is the point of a man accepting 80% of what he wants in a woman, if he is going to mistreat her because she lacks the other 20%?
Ahh, I’ve got you. This is always an interesting topic, as both men and women say that accept one another’s flaws lol. I’d love to dive into that a bit more to see where the disconnect is.
...there is a man for every woman, a woman for every man.
Is that right?
Not possible when women outnumber men. Unless women are willing to accept sharing a man. It ain’t happening.
Tynisha is FINE FINE!!!!! Yes this is much needed because people are putting their fantasies on reality & getting upset when reality happens. Its ridiculous. I still say that the best relationships are the ones formed with the foundation being Christ at the center. When the orchestrator of relationships is leading the relationship, relationship WORK!
Absolutely!! God should always be the foundation.
Dang Love. If Glow had a face, I can tell you're growing, IT SHOWS. God bless you, keep doing what you're doing.
Great content! Would love to work with you one day! Blessings! 🙏🏿
Thank you so much!! Let’s chat!!
@@TynishaTalks Hey! I was waiting for you to return from your vacation to reach out.
I hope you enjoyed your time and made awesome memories!
Should I reach out on your IG?
Two ( imperfect people), can create the perfect relationship!!!! Wisdom from above.....
No perfection in humans has never existed. If anything what your looking for is the perfectly imperfect partner. Someone who's great enough for you that you are convinced that this must be what perfection feels like.
What's said vs what's done is always what's different...good luck to yall folks...
It’s too late. Most relationships won’t work out just because the divide between men and women is too deep. If you find someone to pair with you are the exception not the rule. The damage is permanent. I hope and pray for future generations.
Ehh. I think people can turn things around if they’re willing to do the hard work to heal and grow. It’s not easy at all.
@@TynishaTalks That’s a big IF. But at least you are growing and learning along the way. Unfortunately everybody can’t go.
Lots of truth and self awareness. Very important and some people don’t have it. And they should not be in relationships.
As a guy, my issue is usually physical attraction. The women that I like is because they’re humble but I’m usually not physically attracted to women that tend to be humble. Then the women that I am attracted to usually aren’t humble and so I’m not interested anymore. So it boils down to the combination of physical attraction and humility for me. Also a talk about sex before the first date to see if we’re going the celibate route or not.
👏🏾 What an excellent message. I wish more women had the level of self awareness you do. Wishing you all the best.
Dear Tynisha, I think the perfect man does exist but its so rare that not everyone gets to experience it, so you have to settle for the next best thing or else you might go through life alone.
Two reasons why I clicked this video as fast as I could....
I send your videos to both my sisters and all my female friends cause everything they complain to me about is the same things you be talking about 🔥🔥 Keep doing God's work 🙏
I appreciate that! Thank you. I hope they watch and get something from my content 🙏🏽
80% is stability. It's usually a person who has all the qualities needed to sustain a long term fruitful relationship. The 20% is usually superficial. Admittedly, the life that comes with the 80% is usually boring. It takes monotony to do the same thing everyday to provide for a household. But, it ensures a somewhat solid foundation for the future. If someone is involved with a person who brings 80%, why not be the one to bring the other 20% to the relationship? Why not add the excitement you would like to see? This way you have a good mixture of both. You have a good foundation to build with in the future and you have the spark of excitement to keep both people interested in each other.
I had to go to therapy to realize I shouldn’t believe in twin flames! No matter what syncronocities i see or if i see him in person or see his name somewhere or dream about him the fact that the point of the journey is to focus on urself & ur soul’s journey it just means i need to stop being so obsessed with that loser of a man or any man for that matter & just be single! I just cannot see myself loving anyone who gives me a hard time
This may be a little off topic but what mic are you using? Ive tried several usb lav mics and they all sound overdriven. Your mics gain structure seems very nice. Sorry for yhe geeky question. 😅
Haha, no worries!! It’s the Rode Wireless Go II. I tried a couple of lav mics but this has the best quality by far. Makes recording a lot easier, too!
@@TynishaTalks thanks
Aight, I'm going to start the video from the beginning and actually listen this time 😭 I was distracted 😍
Brilliant and sorely needed advice. I realise that I need to start sharing these videos with young people in my networks.
I don't think that the perfect woman/man/relationship doesn't exist. Most people simply have a distorted view of what perfection is. Instead of seeking who is perfect for us, or a relationship dynamic that is perfect for us, we tend to seek out idealism and fantasies. The biggest issue with that is that most of us don't even know who we really are, and thus have no idea where we are heading. Another issue is that we let society dictate too much of what we feel we should have or deserve.
Both can be true. There definitely is no perfect man, woman, or relationship, and it's folly to doggedly pursue perfection, which is not the same as seeking constant self improvement.
@@odog76543 there is where you are wrong. There may be no cookie cutter perfect man/woman/relationship, but there is a perfect man/woman/relationship for an individual. It's not folly to seek it out. The folly is to seek out the cookie cutter version of perfection that doesn't exist. It's folly to seek it out if you don't know who you are and what you need. It's folly if you are unrealistic/unreasonable in your search.
Yeah, im like you with that cut off thing...but Im not a Runner or Stayer. But in the beginning, I can peep the bullshit. But if you got past that Initial phase, I try to communicate and work through the issues and miscommunication...until I see a red flag. After that, Im gone. Zero Tolerance for the bs shit. FR
Good for you! Patience is a virtue.
People don’t want to live in their natural roles
Husband Wife
Not booty calls and jump offs
Ah. I do believe things then chaotic when we don’t have order/discipline in our relationships.
@@TynishaTalks u can not have order and discipline
There’s no foundation to begin with
Women are out here just sexing men
Men sexing e
Use to be a time when sexing was cherished and protected
Now everyone knows about it even the kids
No households are created
Just baby mamas and daddies
It’s sad
We forgot how to love one another
We forgot family
Why would I want to get married?
I know there's no perfect relationship I just had to realize that no one else can realize it so I stopped dating
No man or a woman is perfect but once you have a relationship with each other, that’s what makes it perfect. Ppl fit perfectly together as you and I are soon to be fitted🌹
That’s wild to say 😅
@@TynishaTalks it’s the truth
Always enjoy watching your content and seeing the feedback from both sides ❤❤
I appreciate that! Thank you 😊
Hair so beautiful Ms. Cut Off Queen 👸🏽. Face is super gorgeous. Earrings look nice. Really love the nail color 💚.
Thank you 🤗
I think in the chase for perfection we feel and think its always better out there, so when we look at our present situation, we look at it with objective and strained eyes always looking for something wrong so we can be a step closer to perfection. In the quest for perfection we leave behind a bunch of broken hearts and trauma filled people. and we get there to realize that perfection doesn't exist
Who is this fine woman!? Smh
Growth is a beautiful thing.
Amen 🙏🏽
Truthful ❤great thread
Maybe just getting as many as those "perfect" qualities just is perfect within itself.
We have to unlearn these traumas and become the person you want to attract
Wow, this is amazing subbed😊
Nice video. I would just like to add that dating is easier for women. Men are the ones who are expected to approach women. That alone means women get to sit back and select who they want and men have to hope that a woman is interested.
Perfectly imperfect ladies I wish yall the best 💪🏾💯
“Pick better men” does not mean “looking for a man in finance, trust fund, 6”5, blue eyes”.
Limiting your search criteria like that will pretty much guarantee that you won’t get a good man
Sorry to divert, but you're gorgeous Tynisha! That hair 😍
Oh no.. Tynisha 🤦🏾♂️.. is it a ◻️man I saw walking in your house? 😩😩😩
😂 worried about the wrong thing
@@TynishaTalks Not the wrong thing. We have lost a great element 😭😭😭. Anyway if he makes you happy, that's what really matters 🥲
Damn, facts being spoken
To all the perfect women out there, We humbly and kindly ask you --- What book or source for information specify telling you what a perfect man looks and sounds like? Better yet, what other planet would you prefer being on (to live) where perfection rules as the standard for EVERYONE that exist there❔ Take your time ⏳
The perfect man does exist, he just disappears after they wake up in the morning.
That’s real 😅
Morgan Stanley 'Rise of the SHEconomy' study must be revisited... I think it's too late for American men and women. Most men with their lives together are checked out and either here for fun only and seeking wives overseas and most women still don't get it or else this message wouldn't be relevant for women to hear. I see signs of desperation every day from late 20s-early 30s women in my gym. I spent a month last year in Medellin. Hopefully, I'll do Peru this year... I'm celibate when I'm inside the U.S.
The guys women chose to mate with have options (they hate when we keep it all the way 1000). That’s why you see all these single beautiful women. Then what they do to make them selves feel better is prey on average single venerable men, use them, and either friend zone them or ghost them. Allot of them are professionals cuz they do it all the time and their steps are calculated. Stop being a yes man or being too quick to open up. I’m 33 I guarantee you I’ve been there and done that too many times lol
Great video love your viewpoint from your perspective you know who you are and what you want. Have a blessed day date to marry and friends then bond then marriage
Glad you enjoyed! 🫶🏽
This is good!
Glad you enjoyed 🫶🏽
@@TynishaTalks 🩷
Love this video❤❤❤
I’m glad you enjoyed!
@@TynishaTalks post more lol
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@@TynishaTalks or not lol 😂
It’s true 💯
I like when you telling the truth
More men are becoming Passport bros, seeking relationships with better women in other countries.
I hope everyone finds happiness 🙏🏽
Anything that lasts in life and has true value requires work. Like you said you have to wake up and make the decision to love this person even when it gets hard. Obviously things like infidelity and abuse are legitimate reasons to beat your feet and get up the street lol but EVERYONE is flawed in one way or another. Choose which flaws you can accept and have the same grace and patience you expect for ppl to have with you 💯
Well said! Have boundaries but balance them with grace and realistic expectations.
@@TynishaTalks Indeed
Some stuff is unacceptable though not about perfection.. just be a decent honest human.
I don't have the patience anymore for relationships God would have to help me in this area but as of now I want to protect my peace that relationship stuff isnt easy
chasing a ghost
I tell people all the time no one is perfect 😂
It’s not the man that is the problem they are not the ones complaining even though most of them are victims
Stopped in just to see the Perfect looking lady. 😍. ...ok now ima step tf right back out.
In this modern dating world I am considered perfect by many women...I live in southern California, get to know me, meet me and find out for yourself ladies
It’s wild cause I met this church girl I worked with and she initiated contact by asking for my ig. We later go sit down and eat for a date to talk and get to know eachother a bit. I paid for our food then she wanted me to buy a $60 bible right after to start bible studying with her. I didn’t do that cause I just paid around the same amount for our food and was tight on $ but I had planned to later. She was understanding to a sense but she just cuts me off later. I guess she had set a higher standard for me.
A $60 bible?? What was special about it? lol
A big part of the issue is that people, especially men have become disposable commodities. You’re now able to swipe on folks via apps you wouldn’t normally encounter in your day to day. The dating/mating market is now global instead of local. Women want the top 10% of men in looks, height, status, finances and since everything these days is instant gratification, there’s no incentive to “settle” on what otherwise might be a completely decent dude. Also, the top 10% of men know they have nearly limitless options and don’t have to commit, so they become players/F-boys, which causes women to become more jaded, and it’s just a messed up cycle. People get unhappy for 10 seconds and they bounce right to the next person. I think all of our wires are crossed. Everything needs a massive reset.
Also, since this was long winded and won’t get read, Tynisha is 109% 🔥Good LAWD. How is this woman not wife’d up yet?
Facts they have too much expectations it's like what else do you want from a man:/
Not all, but a lot of women want the perfect man so that man can mask the work the ladies need to do internally on themselves.
4:52 all the good partners are hiding out in my area or stuck on an ex in a weird way.
Yikes 😬
One thing I never understand is how a dude is “suddenly imperfect” when he dosent want u or entertains u. “The problem is a lot of those woman think like a man when they “make him see my value” a man isn’t an object you gain a relationship with to make u feel confident/worthy of a good relationship. That pick me energy is so easy for mfs to pick up on and then they do what they want because u don’t care about them. U care about getting your daydreams fulfilled with a woman/man, in other words your being transactional & not authentic
Definitely transactional! Also manipulative lol.
That's right the perfect man does not exist because to be perfect is to be flawless. All men have flaws. Good men do exist and good men have flaws.
Another video jewel 💎
Real talk
Good video but they are not going to listen. They are going to say “why are you telling me to settle”
Haven’t heard that yet 🙏🏽
Also remember, there are good matches for everyone, even if you're a little different. For example, even serial killers find women who share their interests and participate in their hobbies.
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Tynisha if you were into me you would be perfect, and that the case for most men. Are we attracted to her? Is she attracted to us? Is she interested enough to be with me, through thick and thin?
These are the only qualities men seek. Mutual attraction( meaning near the level of attraction, for a woman she’d sacrifice her independence, and a man then sacrifices his time, effort and resources). You need 2 ppl who have the same feelings to give to each other.
If more of our women had these standards for every man, there would be A LOT less single mothers in our community. I think a lot of women use the "ain't not good men" as an excuse to stay single and sleep around.
@BreeLove-zx5pz If she's Christian, single and celibate you are correct, if she in the streets, then no it's not safe and it is wrong according to God.
@BreeLove-zx5pzread the entire statement, it’s an excuse meaning a lie projecting on the S/O instead of upfront letting it be known.
Too many mental trick will drive any “perfect” man away.
Yes I do.
35 year old, married for 13 years. Yes, you read that right. 😅 But what I’ve noticed from friends, friends of friends, hell even reality tv, because believe it or not it looks and sounds the exact same…but what I’ve noticed is not only do people expect perfection, but for people that don’t, a lot of folks seem to not be willing to or even know how to communicate themselves to solutions. Most people just give up and move on to the next. Idk, maybe a decade ago we went through that whole “know your worth and add tax” phase where people started having these ridiculous standards. It has just ballooned and worsen. Remember not too long ago the would-be couple that went viral because the lady was pissed the guy took them to Cheesecake Factory for their FIRST date. Being the poor millennial I am, when I was in my 20s, I don’t think any of my friends would have taken any woman to CCF for a first date. 😂 It’s no longer about human connection. It’s what can this person do for me and how cute will we look together.
She's right
Great video👍🏾
dammit, i didn't need all of this truth this morning. even understanding this from a male's perspective when choosing women
im tryna pay attention😂
😅 run it back!
Tynisha I love that dress girl.
Thank you!
Of course this works both ways. The "Perfect Woman" does not exist either.
6:56 O, she Preaching 💯
You look good, great, amazing.
The perfect man doesn't exist. The perfect woman doesn't exist. They are instead grown and developed over time with hard work, dedication, and a no quit attitude.
💯💯💯
Beautiful lady
mAKE BEING FAITFUL TO ONE PERSON GREAT AGAIN AND DOING RIGHT BY THAT PERSON
Relationships don’t benefit men. She wants to hang out, ok….but I’m not being manipulated
I decided to look abroad.
I am no Channing Tatum or Brad Pitt .
Yet I have my life together financially, physically, mentally emotionally.
Been single 5 years working on all different aspects of my life . Not for a woman for myself after a 20 year relationship.
I recently tried the dating apps . It’s laughable what these women put on there .
And 90% of them are overweight, tattoos, kids .
Do they seriously think a man who is financially secure , fit , good looking, great personality wants any part of that ?
A lot of women are train wrecks dealing with them is just not worth it .
Abroad the women are fit , feminine, friendly respectful , and traditional.
I wish you the best of luck on your journey! 🙏🏽