WHEN THE INFJ FINALLY WAKES UP & STARTS LIVING THEIR DREAM (this happens)
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- Опубліковано 13 гру 2022
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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Ah, the elusive INFJ dream. It's a tricky tangle of recognizing what we want and behaving in ways that help us get there - not an easy journey by any means! Most personality types need to take some time out for self-reflection before they can make this leap into living their dreams; while INFJs may be preternaturally gifted at looking inwardly, it doesn't guarantee our success here. To truly live up to our potential, or achieve those lofty goals set deep within ourselves, we must intentionally choose actions towards reaching our goals.
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Do you feel like you haven‘t really started living your dream yet?
Through Wenzes' help I am in exactly this position. The reality of making my dreams happen does suck at the moment, but I like myself way more even in showing others my imperfections. There still is a small part of me that is scared to fall flat on my face infront of others but it's worth the risk. Looking forward to joining the next bootcamp.
Yes and no. It's complicated.
Hmmm, I already have so many hobbis and I invest so much in them, but they are still raw dimonds that I so much want to polish, to make them an argument for my aknowledgement, instead of tring to hide them in order for not being weired. It all comes to standing on for your self, to make your weiredness your biggest power. Probably the problem is not with what I do, but with how I promote my self. If you want to be aknowledge, you have to aknowledge your self first infront of the people from whom you want to aknowledge you and that's a hard thing for us because Ni is a subconscious function that operates from a position of out of the box thinking. We don't consciously want to do many of the things we do so we bigin with no calculations of how we should aling ourselfs in the society in order to be aknowledge, but in the same time be ourselfs. For most people it's the opposite, they begin with this calculations and put them in the foundations of their indevors. That's the reason why I still feel alone and unaknowledged in my life.
I awakened just a few months ago . Now I'm in a travel to relax myself and when I go back I will start to live my dream life
My epic life! I look forward to it
I will use my skills and traits to help people to find their purpose and stop the dopamine cycle that they live in (thanks to social media and easy way outs of life problems)
I will use my experience to help as many people as I can. That is the dream, no?
Yes My multi dreams has been invented started building blocks..but not created yet brought to life ..I'm pretty sure it will have to involve other ifnj's to complete and my friend list is total amount of ~1~ as in my self.. haven't had the blessing to meet one or have a real chat with .. videos like this is as close I've gotten...hay everyone and "yelling " I got candy and positive energy an solution an my 2 cents of opinions if requested to give/share or a listener that understand and don't interact and strong enough to endure what is released...allowing verbal expressions allowing true emotion raw self feelings...like having a good cry 👣
This video was so good. Thank you. I am 60 and walked away from my whole family of origin. I have been the scapegoat/people pleaser my whole flippin life. UGH. I FINALLY realized that they are too stuck in their victim mentality. I just have nothing more to give. I am just DONE. I am healing and trying to move forward. Your videos really keep me going forward. Thanks so much.
Well done for walking. You deserve more and don’t owe anyone from your family anything. Enjoy the peace :)
@@simsim876 tyvm
Good for you 👍.
I have recently done the same thing and we have to choose ourselves and learn to experience our lives on our terms.
@sagebay yeah. i regret the wasted time. now i have to not waste time regretting wasted time lol.
Same ❤
"..and you will lose people for that." she said calmly :)
haha. thats good.
So glad you brought this topic up. It's funny just today at work I realize I'm less engaged in my co-worker's life and it made me wonder if I'm being rude or cold. Listening to this made me realize it's ok I'm just focusing on myself more.
I'm like that, except with some of my artist friends. I feel less connected to them because they drink and smoke and I don't, so take away the art outlet at the bars and I don't have much in common with those people. It's not a bad thing, but it just means I don't hang out with them outside of the one night a week open mic nights at the bars. I feel more connected with my artist friends who don't drink, but unfortunately, I only see them once a month when the open mic at the other venue is on. It's tough having to choose between hanging out at a venue once a month because it's a sober atmosphere when I miss having a weekly art outlet, but I don't like to be around people who drink.
I stopped playing everybody's personnal therapist the moment l realized it wouldn't maje them stay. I looked back at my previous friendships and realized that l gave them everything but they still left, they still disappointed me when l thought it would protect me from loosing them. I was spending too much mental energy trying to help other people live their lives and solve their problems. I would do it without them asking and even be invasive sometimes. I thought l was doing it for them but in reality it was to fulfill myself. Inwas running away from my own reality. Now l feel so free. It's like l was constantly draines and that now l have all my energy back. I didn't know it was also an INFJ thing. I just tought it was me, and called that process "mental energy saving" .
Hey, another version of an INFJ here.
Here is another perspective. I was falsely accused by my unhealthy (or too much self-sacrificing) sister of how I’d be a good therapist but I don’t care.
Soooo accurate!!
@5:12 Nobody is going to rescue us from our mind's inner turmoil. Even if you find your dream guy / gal you will still have the same mind. You have to solve that all by yourself. Become self reliant. There is no cavalry coming over the mountain to save you. When you do this you will find that inner strength you feel you lack, and won't fixate on trying to find something outside yourself to "fix" your mindset.
This type of selfishness is actually true self-love. Pouring into yourself in order to be your best self and do what we do best, pouring into others. Thanks, Wenzes!
In my case as an infj, I finally wake up spiritually after being rejected by the guy of my dream.
He is still a good person though, and there is nothing to forgive.
But my life changes after that rejection. Most people don't even recognize me literally, I guess my whole energy changed somehow since that moment. And I'm getting better everyday.
I really hope you would some day come up with topic like Infj and unrequited love. ^^
@Pam Ponpan Crappy Childhood Fairy has some good vids on how to recover from limerence, which seems to be what you're suffering from.
I can kind of relate, it's not necessarily limerence, i think it has to do with the ideal you have in your mind. Maybe you have to let go and create a new ideal. but it's really hard to, so i don't know the answer
I studied Medieval Love in college. The concept of the romantic ideal of the unrequited love presented in Europe as a man singing homage to his lord's wife (think Guenevere and Lancelot). This was a popularization of the older tradition of religious songs idealizing the Virgin Mary. The historical origin of that tradition was actually borrowed from Islamic Sufi poetry praising Allah in female form as 'Layla.' The point being is that the root of this emotion is an ancient spiritual concept of longing for God/dess.
Wenzes has a video on how to get over someone you never dated. Maybe that could be a start at least
This is such good stuff, Wenzes! I'm working on this, putting energy and effort into myself, my goals, and my dreams, and I'm feeling better every day. I'm done pouring myself into others and watching so many big "castles" I've built in the sky just come crashing down. Now, I'm building my own little "castle," stone by stone, that depends only on me and the work I'm doing on myself. Your videos make so much sense. You've given me hope again. Thank you!
I love this Wenzes! I had this happen just this year, it took a major heartbreak to push me towards my awakening. I have always struggled with living deeply through the emotions and lives of others. Constantly putting myself last because I felt taking care and worrying about others was more important. However, the heartbreak I experienced just this year taught me that it's me who is the most important in my life. No one is worrying their day away putting their everything into me so why don't I put all the time and energy I gave to others and give it to myself. Since doing so I'm really enjoying life, more accepting and loving of myself, and focused on taking care of me.
Hi Wenzes, you're the best - I'm 62 years young and I'm living my Epic life since 5 years - the only regret is that I didn't met you before - keep on the good work for all those other INFJ's that are at the beginning of the awakening
Do I feel like I haven‘t really started living my dream yet? No. I've been slowly yet surely building everything up to living my dream. Such as saving up and purchasing the tools and resources to build up my personal shop with everything I need to perform automotive maintenance and restoration on a bigger scale. Also expanding my knowledge on tasks that I haven't had an opportunity to perform until now. It takes time, yet it's something to be proud of when I accomplish something. I'll be fully living my dream in due time after some more thinking, planning, and executing.
I have become so hollowed out I dont know what I would like to create. Im pretty good at telling what I dont like, but I have no idea what I really like on a deep level anymore.
Let me raise the bar for you wee girl, there are things greater than oneself like Saving The World 🌍 from evil narcissistic manics
I have been this way since I was born. I remember things going back to when I was 2 years old. I was not a cryer as a baby. Even at that age I was observant of others and didn’t want attention brought to myself but if one of my siblings needed something I would only cry in order to help them get attention. Growing up I would always observe everyone around me. People get really uncomfortable when they notice that I’m observing them. I study people and I don’t want to make them uncomfortable but I have had people yell at me and call me names. I’m not even aware that I’m staring at people but in my mind I’m studying them and observing there behavior. So now a days I just keep to myself.
I recently cut out fake and untrustworthy people from my life. This included family. I tolerated their selfishness way too long. Thank God! I feel good about it.
I realized after watching this that I don't think I even remember how to be a friend without being a therapist. It's just a natural thing I do whenever people start telling me about their problems. I gotta stop this, and i don't know how to have a regular conversation unless it's a deep one, and that comes with knowing someone. I don't have anyone close to me anymore, so this is the time to really work on myself once and for all. I started my awakening in 2016 after leaving another narc relationship, this time a romantic one. My healing journey has been tumultuous and a struggle, it's been dark. I am in a better place though considering the way I used to live life oblivious to all this.
The more i watch your videos, each time something 'clicks.' Sometimes rewatching videos it finally clicks for me and I understand 🙏🏻♥️
I'm with you and understand.
Super video - and these were points that stood out for me:
*"Start creating the things I want.". My response:. Yes. We can never depend on someone else to do it.
*"Choose myself and focus on improving my life." My response: Yes, I'm #1 in my life.
*"Make choices for my future life. Honor my life.". My response: for sure.
*"I can easily be opin without losing myself." My response: Yes. It took a while for that to sink in, but it's true.
*"I can stand up for myself regardless of what others think." My response: I'm actively in charge. The "others" aren't.
I appreciate this active and sensible approach. It's given me definite food for thought. 🙂
After writing a short story worth in response, I had the sudden realization that brevity would suffice. I subscribed. That said, I concur completely with the truths you put forth in your video. Moreover, I would implore whomever is reading this to sincerely take this advice seriously. I, too, had come to a similar revelation in my life's journey, and my only regret is not taking action sooner. Trust in yourself! Take care and God bless. ✝️
The last thing I want to do is be like everyone else. All the struggle and sleepless nights I bear to help humanity is hard to forget. Things you say I already know, the information gets relocated. What else is in there. Time to take my own advice that's the ring of truth I find in your words. The more I listen the more I uncover. I hope I'm helping you help me
When we take actions for ourselves it feels good and better we use to feel all the time…. Sometimes I don’t want to protect and prioritise me ,patterns,but my inner parent always stops me and reminds me of boundaries…. So many people wanted always to live my life but I never want to live mine not sure of what I created or wanted to create… I loved my work but after child I felt guilty of choosing to do whatsoever I liked…. I didn’t wanted to pass on what I received as a child… But now I know there is nothing wrong in it what I resent is the feeling of over scheduling… Striving to find a balance for continuing what I created in my life at first place with baby steps of growth so I don’t get bored of stagnation 💛💛💛💛
The Spiritual Awakening process also known as #Ego #Dissolution, opening of the #Third #Eye, #Ego #Death, becoming #Conscious or Spiritual #Enlightenment l think was best described by Adyashanti who said the following:
*"Enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier. Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth. It’s seeing through the facade of pretense. It’s the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true."*
It's much deeper than our egos chasing happiness & dreams, it's actually waking up to the reality that the dream is an illusion/storyline... & once awakened to that reality, the realisation sets in that mostly everyone else around you are still unconsciously entranced by their unique ego centric illusory storylines/dreams. A spiritual awakening is much more terrifying than people understand, going through it is akin to losing one's perceived #self(identities) and #mind simultaneously BUT there is extraordinary clarity at the end of it.
Very few actually understand or go through this process in their lifetime, so what l just ellocuted will probably make sense to the few who have or are awakened/-ing. To the rest who haven't my words will just be foreign gobbledegook😅
I woke up at the age of 16… it was a heartbreak but very worth it heartbreak….
SIGNED AN: INFJ
I recently read that some personalities just don't care or don't even want you to be nice to them, so I can see it doesn't even make sense to put them first
It's funny when people saying to us how we just don't get it
but we do more than they can realize but we just don't understand on how to regard this reason, or this definition to our own life
to our own style
how to connect it well enough for us to the long term and not just for now...
as an INFJ, it's the daily basis in my thoughts
Im feeling really unmotivated and 'heavy' when i was only just feeling all energised and excited.
Isolating and tired a lot
I'm literally in the middle of my transformation, and..... it seems like every time I watch one of your posts, your insight is perfectly timed to help me through my immediate struggles... its uncanny. again... just thank you so much Wenzes!!
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This is so funny, that's me I just get so wrapped up in analysing that I can't be bothered to take action
"1:12(What is takes for...) to 1:19(...for an INFJ)
3:47(Why should I...) to 4:20(...or in 10 years)"
The person that is going to give me what i am looking for is me.
Your videos are always so timely for me. I was JUST speaking with someone about this today. In order to feel aligned, we simply have to be the person we want to be. As soon as we decide it and act accordingly, it's who we are. Our external circumstances will eventually follow, we don't have to wait for them to catch up to feel how we want to feel.
I agree with you 💯 %
thank you so much for this!!
Thank you for your videos, they always pop up when I need them the most
i was just thinking to myself about this and then you posted!
Thank you!
You have helped me so much!!!
Thank you i needed to hear this.
Thank you Wenzes! Great advise
Your video been very helpful. Thank you 🙏
Thanks it helps a lot for me 😊
100% needed, Great Job!!!
This one is SO good, and necessary.
love this video!
Thank you! And that colour on you is amazing😍
I’m so grateful I’ve found your channel and for your content. It helped me SO much. I watch one of your videos every day, and they always put me on track. I’ve learned so much from you. thank you 🙏 ❤
I have no idea what to do yet I have many things that I can do. Definetly a dream would be an abundance of money while being free but also helping others. It's complicated...
3:00 The more we see what others stand on the more we can't find ourselves? Do we really hollow ourselves out? You've never been lost. We can't get lost. You know this. We can't fathom that feeling. You assume to much of the others.
Long time sub. Love the upgrades you’ve made in format, verbally, and even explaining these points. Keep up the great work! I’m still working on myself so this is so helpful
Well said...
Working on it! Your vids are awesome and valuable 🙏
Such a good word! So spiritual and true. Thank you! 🌼
This video came at the perfect time and I wish it came sooner
Thank you!!
great stuff, get well very soon, Wenzeslava! such a time:(
I live mostly in my internal state. Way to much. It's my external that is struggling. Really bad. Hell I'm struggling internally too. I just live amongst my internal struggle.
So insightful
Thank you so much for this video. I watched this at the perfect time and you said exactly what I needed to hear! ❤️
This is life changing video. It's sooooo helpful. Thank you so much Wenzes 😭❤️
💚💚💚💚Thank you💚💚💚💚
Thank you 🌸
Thank you, F yeah! Wenzes FTW
Yes I love this video thank you 🙏🏼
Wenzes, again: thank you SOOOOOOOOO much for your free Videos!!!! I'm not sure if you can imagine how much you help me with those....of course mostly because of the explanations, analysis, courage and advice you give, but additionally also by just making me feel seen, understood, important, worthy, accepted and fitting into this strange world...and feel less of a singled out, mentally and emotionally isolated alien.
Thank you a million times for your work and knowledge, dear wenzes!!!! and also for showing up and showing yourself and showing me myself and that I can actually be seen, felt and understood and that there's others like me!!!
You are such a gift to the world!!!
Nice talk, behind picture looks good gives your character a good image.
This color suits you 👍. For years iv been using the oxygen mask example just to find out you do that too lol
Thank you Wenzes. This is an absolute masterclass. I wish I had ‘met’ you sooner.
Thank you
At first the idea of being liked for being myself was so foreign because i was so used to giving and equating my worth as a friend or partner to what i can offer.Liking myself and not caring if people like me has been the most mind boggling thing ever.Now i notice myself asking for things i need i never used to do that.I’d neglect myself.My boundaries significantly improved..
Sweet, darling Wenzes 💖😍 When i look at your videos, i get the feeling that i can do it!
Thank you so much, as always, scary timing
Great stuff, as usual. You are one of the most valuable resources for INFJs on the internet. I feel comfortable saying that by virtue of the fact that as an older INFJ, and one who really struggled in the first half of my life, it's great to see someone like you providing valuable insights to younger INFJs who may be struggling to understand themselves. It's good to see knowing how incompatible the modern world is, at times, for INFJs. I only comment occasionally but am always watching the bulk of INFJ content to see who's saying what. Keep up the great work.❤
This has been happening for me over the last few weeks thanks to people like you, my grandest motivation now is to pay this forward!! I love you, I love you, I love you!!!!!!!! Best Christmas present ever because it is both internal and eternal!
I’m in another awakening
Recently found your channel, and tbh l thought l was going to hear all the usual INFJ stuff. And I’m not one to go too into this particular mode of identification.
BUT your ability to show how to work with the seeming negative styles of the INFJ to make them positive is really impressive .
This video was so serendipitous as I’m at a crossroad and sooooo aware of being on autopilot most of my life ( I’m 57) and not knowing why or what to do. When l was having a brief period of therapy ( which was horrificly badly done) l couldn’t say what l liked for myself and just put it down to depression- but I’m generally a happy guy so that was off.This explains everything.
Much gratitude to you Wenzes! 🙏😊🙏
💚💚💚💚Thank you, in this video you just explain some very similar concepts that I am thinking into this period, I analyzed myself and I figured out that the origin of me even being pathologically perfect is me wanting to appear in a good way in my opinion to the people,💚💚💚💚Thank you so much dear
Boy, is this one ever helpful. Thank you.
It is more than looking inside i agree.
I have learned a lot of what you teach but you say it so well and put all the puzzle pieces together for me. Thanks so much!
Thank you~🥺
And feel better...you sound sick
Well, the title you chose is really cute/inspiring. Definitely from another INFJ.
Hello, thank you for making these videos! Btw, you remind me the singer Jessy J
Its not enough to just have it in my mind.
Idk why or how , but when im going through something that i can’t even explain it to myself, wenzes always appears on my timeline with a vid that’s talking about, thank you for what you’re doing I really appreciate it
Wow! I have never met anything or anyone that would discribe INFJ soo so on point. Through your video I am constantly thinking How you are able to express INFJ thoughts so well and dont get lost in what I should say tbat others would want to here or understant 😃 And more - thank you, really, I have never looked at myself in the point of view you are offering here. And it is soo true. I am right now in this point - for the first time in my live ACTUALLY finally creating my dreams and it is different. The feeling of my effort is different. It is funny tbat I was able in the past accept others people opinion about me that I am a bad selfish person, because I was better for me than stand out for me and protect my world, because that would make the other person to feel bad 😅😅 oohh god, us INFJs 😃
I feel the same way no matter what i achieve i agree.
Also you change to helping people to help themselves to save energy and thus helping them and yourself better.
I love your bloodred nailpaint
We can équilibre the things
I can not keep doing the same thing over and over.
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I am number one in my life.
I love this girl. I discovered her 2 years ago and I resisted a lot to form attachment/attainment hehe and
- now I am hooked. Subscribed.
Quality channel here.
Since you guys are interested in spirituality as well: #ConsciousPlanet #Innerengineering might interest you 🌸
It's funny how far I have actually come, but now... The fire is lit 😎👌 I live, I'm a actress & model in one of the beautiful countries in the world 😂😌🍷 🇫🇮 #HyväFinland #LivingTheDream
I am going to change.
I have watched many many many of your videos wenzes. I love them all!❤ I have somehow become some kind of parody of my own self of which I do not like or accept. I am not a fake! I would really like to join the boot camp and or especially one-on-one counseling. I hope to speak with you soon! You have already helped me a great deal! I know that you could help me much much more. And I need it, desperately. I have so much to do that is so important . Much love! 😍
I am going to get to know myself.
Wenzes, could you make a video about INFJ learning to shift gear to Sensing and Thinking when we need to get to a high state of productivity. I've learned this from my ISTP neighbour who I really admired for her endless productivity. I always feel like once I make this shift i get much and much more stuff done whilst draining my energy barely. Also I find it really interesting that once you make that shift you can effortlessly hold for a few hours on an end
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Absolutely… 😞 I just want contentment, happiness, and love. I really don’t think that’s asking too much. But I’m starting to feel like it is.
Excellent video Wenzes! I hope you have an awesome day! 🙂🌹❤️
I hear you, I'm in the same boat. Nice jeep in your pic!
@@anthonyr6286 Thanks
People will misunderstand me.