"I'm Fine" - Learning To Live With Depression | Jake Tyler | TEDxBrighton

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  • @GVOSOUL
    @GVOSOUL 6 років тому +31304

    I’m convinced that The only people who understand depression and how it works are those who suffer with it.

    • @breakingthechains3222
      @breakingthechains3222 5 років тому +374

      Yes! I was suffering from it. It sucks. My channel speaks about depression

    • @whatdidyouexpectsomething4523
      @whatdidyouexpectsomething4523 5 років тому +153

      I believe so to... Makes it harder for me to cheer my depressed friends up.

    • @orla3934
      @orla3934 5 років тому +31

      Yeah you would be right unfortunately

    • @asiandod325
      @asiandod325 5 років тому +13

      Nooo9ooooooooooooooooooooooooooopoooooooooooo. Im a bad person.

    • @venezuela0076
      @venezuela0076 5 років тому +24

      Yep, that's the magic of depression 😑

  • @mellymel5980
    @mellymel5980 5 років тому +21453

    “Do you actually want to die or do you just not want to feel this way anymore”?
    Powerful.

    • @kiyaw.2318
      @kiyaw.2318 5 років тому +225

      @Melly Mei and such an incredibly hard question to answer. I always think about it, and wonder how I'd answer if someone asked me this.

    • @LipsOfSilver
      @LipsOfSilver 5 років тому +120

      @@kiyaw.2318 Same. I honestly have no freaking clue which my answer would be.

    • @joychapman9228
      @joychapman9228 5 років тому +198

      *Both.*

    • @MarcioGabriyel
      @MarcioGabriyel 5 років тому +71

      Melly Mel one wants to kill the feeling not himself. But depressed ppl usually mix the concepts that wich drains them to the wrong thought!

    • @shahariarhassan2831
      @shahariarhassan2831 5 років тому +68

      i think i want to die.

  • @JRob594
    @JRob594 3 роки тому +12729

    I read this quote once that said "people with depression aren't faking being sick they're faking being well"

  • @ceceeyyyy
    @ceceeyyyy Рік тому +1469

    Depression really hits differently when you're stuck with no one to talk to. It's like that moment when you're just like, "Wow, there's legit no one I can spill my feelings to." Everyone else is wrapped up in their own issues, and you don't wanna bother them with your own mess.

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +41

      To put it plainly God doesn’t want you depressed one of the fruits of the spirit is called Joy (Happiness). Jesus wants to give you joy that never runs out. Don’t give up, ask Jesus for help and watch your situation flip. God wants to show you He is real if only you would let Him. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
      Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.

    • @JohnJones-qj8dm
      @JohnJones-qj8dm Рік тому +8

      @@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Thank you for that word brother/sister

    • @c.f.4564
      @c.f.4564 Рік тому +12

      Every single day, my dude

    • @mattlovercamp5618
      @mattlovercamp5618 Рік тому +24

      That's exactly how i feel. I don't even talk to my wife about things, she has her own family drama to deal with, why would I want to add more stress to her. Instead I just suffer in silence and go through the motions.

    • @neonranger8314
      @neonranger8314 Рік тому +19

      @yetundekayode4915 So true. The worst thing is when you finally open up leaving all your inhibitions and they use it against you or belittle your problems. That happened today with me, I couldn't even speak further. I went to the restroom, started crying the most and I wanted to kill myself. Any suggestions on how to cope up with this kinda things?

  • @sil0175
    @sil0175 5 років тому +8164

    Depression is not “I need attention” It’s “I need help”

    • @soderium6729
      @soderium6729 5 років тому +617

      @Jan Kowalski thanks im cured

    • @umjustash
      @umjustash 5 років тому +348

      @Jan Kowalski u can't help urself fully when ur depressed. Obviously u didnt listen or take away anything from the video. Depression makes you think differently it's hard to just change ur mind when u c and feel things differently. U can't just wake up one day and say "oooo yeah I'm fine, I'm gonna just get outta bed today and b super happy abt it 👌" like dude no it's not that easy.

    • @gladiusbladeofthenorth9939
      @gladiusbladeofthenorth9939 5 років тому +148

      Jan Kowalski Depression is not something completelly rational,you can't say something like that and expect it to work just because its simple "logic",you could turn on the keys of a car and expect it to work,even throught its broken,because its logic acording to you.

    • @sil0175
      @sil0175 5 років тому +95

      Jan Kowalski really thanks I didn’t think about that 😒
      you really don’t get it, you need to be empathic and think about the people that suffer it because believe me it’s not that simple because depression comes with many other issues and in many other ways so no helping yourself it’s not just “an easy option”

    • @wheeloftime2698
      @wheeloftime2698 5 років тому +4

      @@gladiusbladeofthenorth9939 you guys say you want help but yall don't even consider trying and simply reject it every time. You won't get better that way.

  • @davids6533
    @davids6533 5 років тому +6768

    When you wake up and your first thought is "Damn. Another day.."

    • @the_coded7541
      @the_coded7541 5 років тому +185

      Every Single Day

    • @EphemeralProductions
      @EphemeralProductions 5 років тому +24

      Yup

    • @ngoclinh9550
      @ngoclinh9550 5 років тому +66

      The thought like this actually kinda cheers me up. For me, I just wanted to sleep, I didn't wanna wake up cos I woke up into a nightmare

    • @haraldhwick
      @haraldhwick 5 років тому +38

      Sleep is what motivates....

    • @rirashid88
      @rirashid88 5 років тому +55

      I just told my brother 10 min ago that every morning I wake up and think ‘not again’ and then to see your comment actually broke my heart that you’re feeling this way too

  • @desu38
    @desu38 5 років тому +8200

    Honestly, simply being alive itself is starting to feel like a goddamn chore.

    • @breakingthechains3222
      @breakingthechains3222 5 років тому +70

      Sorry you feel that way...im herw if you ever need to talk

    • @jogon7914
      @jogon7914 5 років тому +163

      I know exactly how you feel. Exactly this.

    • @tomof_game8072
      @tomof_game8072 5 років тому +106

      I hated me for my entire life for being born

    • @jaziflacko7614
      @jaziflacko7614 5 років тому +10

      How you doing now 4 months later ?

    • @reinventlove1866
      @reinventlove1866 5 років тому +7

      honestly

  • @Niallmylove
    @Niallmylove 2 роки тому +2735

    One of the worst parts of depression is questioning whether happy moments in your life are truly happy and if that’s what happiness really feels like and just not knowing.

    • @thekingofqueen5393
      @thekingofqueen5393 2 роки тому +31

      You are wayyyy to right

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 2 роки тому +1

      @@thekingofqueen5393 Depression General
      Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
      Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

    • @mouslimalg7771
      @mouslimalg7771 Рік тому +8

      Please read the Quran, it changed my life

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +9

      @@mouslimalg7771 Simply repenting and relying on God’s mercy will not work for you because it is not just, and God is just so He will execute Justice for all parties- the sinner and the one who was sinned against. If I go to court and I say to the judge “oh I’m sorry for what I did I will repay what I can and I won’t do it again” the judge will say “I’ll make sure you don’t do it again by sending you to prison”. Now if the earthly judge is just how much more God (the epitome of Justice). But if someone pays your fine then the judge can show mercy and set you free because justice was done.
      John 8:32 And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”
      John 14:6 6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.

    • @gcbryan89
      @gcbryan89 Рік тому +28

      Hits deep. Never realised it, but now I look back at recent moments where I laughed with people, but right after that, when I stopped laughing, i can see how I didn't really felt like things were laughworthy, I just thought it was the socially apt thing to do. And if you ask me what would I do to make me happy, I wouldn't know.

  • @nicklausardahsasta9857
    @nicklausardahsasta9857 5 років тому +6667

    you know you're such a lonely person when you read through the comments so you don't feel so alone.

  • @Alyssa-ui7bf
    @Alyssa-ui7bf 6 років тому +3041

    “Depression is the most inclusive club in the world. It’s biggest trick is convincing everyone that they are the only member.”

    • @elachouhan4923
      @elachouhan4923 5 років тому +2

      Aly Han wise words bro

    • @joychapman9228
      @joychapman9228 5 років тому

      well at least I haven't fallen in that trap

    • @psychosoty8798
      @psychosoty8798 5 років тому

      *its

    • @ericcao4829
      @ericcao4829 4 роки тому +5

      The club's so inclusive it includes people afraid of death (Thanatophobia)
      *Like me* wait what did I say? I meant I'm fine. No really *...*

    • @hamburger9677
      @hamburger9677 4 роки тому +1

      @@ericcao4829 Woah it’s named after death himself

  • @xxtatogangxx.p.7882
    @xxtatogangxx.p.7882 6 років тому +3609

    *"Usually the funniest people's are the saddest people"*

    • @Grooove_e
      @Grooove_e 5 років тому +161

      And the smartest people

    • @SpecialXMANIAK
      @SpecialXMANIAK 5 років тому +67

      Nobody laughs at my jokes :(.

    • @pringalprotyushgogoi8064
      @pringalprotyushgogoi8064 5 років тому +7

      True

    • @khurelbatbayanbat7913
      @khurelbatbayanbat7913 5 років тому +168

      The saddest know sadness and wish none on anyone else, so they just try to make people laugh.

    • @touxiong519
      @touxiong519 5 років тому +160

      Where I use to work at there's a guy who is always smiling kind and friendly. He gets along with everyone and is the best of all of us in costumers service and the most positive person I know. He gave advice that sees me through the toughest time in my life. He seems to understand people and knows exactly what to do and what to say to anyone and everyone. Then one day he didn't come to work. We finally found out he took his own life.

  • @briand.reynolds474
    @briand.reynolds474 3 роки тому +590

    I think the worst part about depression is it's the one disease that the worse it gets, the less you want to do anything about it.

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +8

      To put it plainly God doesn’t want you depressed one of the fruits of the spirit is called Joy (Happiness). Jesus wants to give you joy that never runs out. Don’t give up, ask Jesus for help and watch your situation flip. God wants to show you He is real if only you would let Him. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
      Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.

    • @88Zero
      @88Zero Рік тому

      To put it plainly, god isnt real​@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363

    • @highmedic2351
      @highmedic2351 8 місяців тому +23

      @@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363This comment was extremely distasteful and tacky.

    • @belle_pomme
      @belle_pomme 8 місяців тому +1

      Same with cancer 😔

    • @highmedic2351
      @highmedic2351 8 місяців тому

      @@belle_pomme Cancer, dancer, hopeless romancer.

  • @Burning_the_toast
    @Burning_the_toast 4 роки тому +7384

    the worst part of depression is you tend to want people to come to you and ask how you are but pushing away everyone who does or no one asks

    • @radioactive_baby
      @radioactive_baby 3 роки тому +354

      I've tried so many times to open up but it feels like they aren't listening to me. They keep brushing it off or they tell me that I'm dramatic or that I need to be more grateful. And I'm trying.

    • @kiarataylor1522
      @kiarataylor1522 3 роки тому +94

      i usually don’t comment but, my boyfriend knows i have depression and has been trying so hard to get me to open up.. every time he tries, i push him away and i don’t even mean to. ☹️

    • @zoelopez911
      @zoelopez911 3 роки тому +30

      Damn. This is SO true 😢 I FEEL this. Relatable for sure.

    • @sethfosterfoster9124
      @sethfosterfoster9124 3 роки тому +16

      I relate to this more than any other comment

    • @michellebiagott4593
      @michellebiagott4593 3 роки тому +56

      Im the complete opposite i tell people not to ask how i am unless they really want to know because most dont
      They ask out of politness and expect you to say fine or ok .They dont really want to know or even care .

  • @JenniferC26
    @JenniferC26 4 роки тому +4587

    My “I’m fine” has slowly drifted to become “I’m just tired.” It’s easier to say instead of trying to explain to someone the mental torment my depression makes me endure

    • @Toaber
      @Toaber 3 роки тому +18

      Same.

    • @waytoobiased
      @waytoobiased 3 роки тому +13

      TALK TO SOMEONE. TALK.

    • @Yonekochan1123
      @Yonekochan1123 3 роки тому +5

      same

    • @kensairamos4630
      @kensairamos4630 3 роки тому +49

      you know when i say that i actually mean I'm so tired of living, but say the shortcut I'm tired. makes sense makes sense

    • @kattomee4824
      @kattomee4824 3 роки тому +8

      Same for me . my homies never understand me

  • @gh0stav
    @gh0stav 5 років тому +2627

    I don't want to die, I just want a different life...

    • @soderium6729
      @soderium6729 5 років тому +269

      @Jan Kowalski thanks im cured

    • @iamconfusionnani1874
      @iamconfusionnani1874 5 років тому +116

      @Jan Kowalski "it's that simple". hehe

    • @mattg5257
      @mattg5257 5 років тому +112

      @Jan Kowalski If you think it's that simple then I'm guessing you haven't suffered from depression have you?

    • @thegirl4628
      @thegirl4628 5 років тому +52

      @Jan Kowalski trust me it's really not that "simple"......once u went into depression,even walking through the different path will seem impossible....!

    • @thegirl4628
      @thegirl4628 5 років тому +38

      @Jan Kowalski we can control our body ...but what abt mind!?...it's really not about doing new things,it's abt u want to and u don't want to at the same time...u won't feel a thing...u will feel like there's no hope..all is despair...u will feel there's nobody for u....!even u will lose hope on yourself...I appreciate,probably u r trying to help...but sitting over there and commenting "do this,do that,it's really that simple" is not helping at all....and btw u really have to be in our shoe to feel our pain n I don't think u actually know what depression is!

  • @jessicaday22
    @jessicaday22 Рік тому +545

    it’s really hard when you’re doing better and you think "yes man! this is finally it, i’m free from depression“
    and then something happens, or sometimes nothing really happens, and you feel worse and worse and you kind of don’t notice until it’s too late and you’re really bad again and the happy times feel like distant memory

    • @wanabee
      @wanabee Рік тому +6

      I am on internship came to school everyday but missed one day and I have been spiraling since.

    • @slamkam07
      @slamkam07 Рік тому +17

      Yeah this is the part I've been struggling with the most. The ups and downs except the ups feel like I'm going up a roller coaster WAY TO FAST and I get suspicious of the good parts. Only to always hit a down like a normal person but still tell myself "I fuckin knew it wouldn't last"

    • @EveloGrave
      @EveloGrave Рік тому +7

      Been on medication for 2 years. It is coming back. I knew I couldnt escape it. But god to feel like that again. I still take it because it stops the suicidal thoughts, now I am just flat. Like a piece of paper left on the hardwood floor.

    • @viktor1970
      @viktor1970 Рік тому

      It’s true. It’s better to keep lying on the ground than falling harshly from the skies (sounds kinda cheesy but hope it makes sense yk)

    • @BigBang987_Multiverse
      @BigBang987_Multiverse 11 місяців тому +2

      ​@@slamkam07Super relatable; I feel happy at one point, only to feel depressed again

  • @pizzag1940
    @pizzag1940 5 років тому +3000

    "overwhelmed" overwhelmed by Nothing, and sometimes everything.

    • @elbschwartz
      @elbschwartz 5 років тому +54

      by the absurdity of existence

    • @dumbleking5172
      @dumbleking5172 5 років тому +49

      The fact that you are overwhelmed or scared by 'nothing' is scary, you don't know where the fire is that's burning you apart and unable to extinguish it.

    • @Theohybrid
      @Theohybrid 5 років тому +7

      Anxiety and depression?

    • @purpura7053
      @purpura7053 5 років тому +6

      yes and when you share this with people, they say others have worse

    • @Skkkk444
      @Skkkk444 4 роки тому +1

      Dumble King that is me rk 😓😖

  • @Catyren
    @Catyren 5 років тому +5332

    “I was overwhelmed because I was trying to remember what it feels like to be happy, and I couldn’t remember anymore” 😢 I feel that

    • @cokezero8510
      @cokezero8510 5 років тому +9

      Mr.Anonymous I wish I can doo that my mother is allergic to animals

    • @gigilove2324
      @gigilove2324 5 років тому +22

      Same everyday is a fight but I choose the fight for my loved ones ...

    • @mirai1-p8g
      @mirai1-p8g 5 років тому +7

      I thought the same for a third of my life... But now I'm here, and that time feels like an old nightmare that felt way more unbeatable than what It really was. It almost makes me laugh.

    • @introvertforlife898
      @introvertforlife898 5 років тому

      Catyren I really dont like Im thinking so hard

    • @lileemc1546
      @lileemc1546 5 років тому +7

      I was overwhelmed because i was trying to act happy but it got too much and i couldn't anymore

  • @noodletryhard3132
    @noodletryhard3132 6 років тому +2485

    Sometimes I want to fall asleep and never wake up not die

    • @Wiseasaserpent
      @Wiseasaserpent 5 років тому +32

      Jesus wants to relieve you of the pit of depression that the enemy has put you in. He gives joy and peace to those who ask Him. Call upon Him and He will surely provide for you
      Jesus said "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
      For my yoke is easy and my burden is light
      He wants a relationship with you but He is too loving to force His way into your life ❤️

    • @muldanrahmat8832
      @muldanrahmat8832 5 років тому +12

      Its Called Dead

    • @Wiseasaserpent
      @Wiseasaserpent 5 років тому +2

      Smokn Bear couldn’t agree more.. in this case, I can only point them to the peace which Jesus offers them in having a relationship with Him

    • @johnjones775
      @johnjones775 5 років тому +1

      @@Wiseasaserpent yeah...

    • @johnjones775
      @johnjones775 5 років тому +1

      @@Wiseasaserpent he is good... Doesn't always make it go away but helpful

  • @nidakhan-hx2ir
    @nidakhan-hx2ir Рік тому +470

    Is anyone else here to cheer themselves up ? Reading comments i felt like im not alone

  • @Dialogos1989
    @Dialogos1989 4 роки тому +5219

    I get so irritated when others insist that I feel “grateful for what I have”. I can say the words. I understand on an abstract level that I have much to “appreciate”. But it doesn’t give me a hint of positive emotion. If anything I feel more guilty for not being able to appreciate what I have.

    • @a.c.2659
      @a.c.2659 4 роки тому +57

      Same...

    • @Kimmehface
      @Kimmehface 4 роки тому +101

      Ugh this is me. I just feel guilty that I can’t be happy :(

    • @Beth-td6vj
      @Beth-td6vj 4 роки тому +129

      I just feel guilty that I have everything to succeed but I don’t bother.
      The worst part is, my mom brought that up when I tried telling her I think that I’m depressed

    • @elsajohansson5316
      @elsajohansson5316 4 роки тому +27

      same especially when i’m feeling derealisation / depersonalisation 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @Yonekochan1123
      @Yonekochan1123 3 роки тому +22

      same...also guilt is a big part of my depression in general

  • @whitishfour8514
    @whitishfour8514 3 роки тому +1992

    Still freaks me out that people go through life without ever feeling depressed, people exist without mental illness, absolutely insane

  • @jety7502
    @jety7502 4 роки тому +5365

    “nothing kills a man faster than his own head”

    • @HarelAvital
      @HarelAvital 4 роки тому +8

      You right

    • @HarelAvital
      @HarelAvital 4 роки тому +22

      The mind can kill every person😥

    • @ok-pe9bj
      @ok-pe9bj 4 роки тому +48

      Twenty one pilots?

    • @azrlb23
      @azrlb23 4 роки тому +29

      @@ok-pe9bj || - //

    • @zennisgone
      @zennisgone 4 роки тому +20

      Yes it kills you in such a way that no one notices even after your dead

  • @pandamonium9255
    @pandamonium9255 4 місяці тому +29

    5 years ago I made a post on this channel, I’m here today to say that I’ve become victorious over my bipolar depression. It’s still a journey, but I’ve grown so much and I pray others find this same clarity.

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 2 місяці тому +1

      Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
      Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

  • @FiatVentusCreations
    @FiatVentusCreations 6 років тому +6428

    I can relate to a lot of what you are saying, except for one major part. The guilt I feel over my depression, anxiety, and mental health isn’t because I feel bad about thinking I’ve got it the worst. The guilt is that I feel like I don’t have the right to feel like that. People are in far worse situations than I’m in and I am waisting the opportunities I’ve been given.

    • @janetscrivener7915
      @janetscrivener7915 6 років тому +253

      I have this feeling all the time. This guilt you are feeling is too common but it's just not realistic for a depressed person to expect themselves to live and behave as if everything is normal - it's not and that's something we need to come to accept - without failing to take responsibility for our own lives as much as possible. I hear you about the 'wasted opportunities.' But if there was never any real chance that you would be able to use them, are these 'opportunities' real or just seem real because other people can use them? I know we can know this on the inside, but it's very difficult when people on the outside criticize one for 'failing to live up to expectations' - some people will just never get it about depression and we have to learn to accept that also. It's hard to live with depression for so many reasons. Guilt does not need to be added to the pile of negative things that try to pile up on us. Other people's suffering does not make ours meaningless and unimportant.

    • @yumakemevomit2468
      @yumakemevomit2468 6 років тому +172

      The thing ive been taught is everybody goes through there own traumatic experience. What’s hurting you right now may not be as bad to other people but it’s bad for YOU . It’s affecting YOU traumatically. So you have the right to feel what you feel

    • @koco1346
      @koco1346 6 років тому +41

      I feel you brother. It’s like an unbreakable circle. One thing that gives me a bit of a relief about the guilt is that we are all different human beings and we all feel things with different perspective. Of course it doesn’t work all the time but it helps sometimes. Love!

    • @scottsthots6880
      @scottsthots6880 6 років тому +7

      I hear this

    • @Goshjeyer
      @Goshjeyer 6 років тому +89

      Yeah, I've told myself a lot that it's my own fault and that I have no excuse because there are so many people who have it worse. To be honest I don't really know at this point. I'm not suicidal, I've had some really dark thoughts though and I feel like I'm always sad, but again it's like "other people are suffering way more than you, what right do you have?"

  • @KrispyAlex
    @KrispyAlex 4 роки тому +2073

    “You only cry for help if you believe theres help to cry for.”
    -Wentworth Miller

  • @patymonaco6038
    @patymonaco6038 4 роки тому +2125

    I dont even know if I'm depressed anymore, I've been feeling this way for so long that it's just normal to me now

    • @reborn6596
      @reborn6596 4 роки тому +3

      Might have bpd

    • @luckybunny9456
      @luckybunny9456 3 роки тому +33

      Yeah my normal isn’t feeling happy or laughing for like a month :/

    • @razorone6962
      @razorone6962 3 роки тому +36

      I literally have two happy memories. I remember numbers, sadness, pain, sarcasm, hate, rage, but no happy. no life.

    • @badluckbro661
      @badluckbro661 3 роки тому +2

      Ain't that the truth

    • @eddiealfred829
      @eddiealfred829 3 роки тому +1

      Same

  • @Missthatgirl634
    @Missthatgirl634 Рік тому +211

    Depression hit me at 25 and now I’m 56 and still battling depression. I work really hard not to go back in that dark hole but sometimes I get tired of this daily struggle.

    • @TheAsianKidxD
      @TheAsianKidxD Рік тому +10

      I heard this saying from someone, it goes like “at the end of the dark storms, there’s a magnificent rainbow”
      I know this sounds like the stuff everyone says, but I believe everyone deserves a good life, and we should learn to share it with others.
      I’m sorry if none of what I said makes sense, I’m also battling depression and I just wanted to help you out. Remember we are not alone. We are loved.

    • @MontanaMedic13
      @MontanaMedic13 Рік тому

      ​@@TheAsianKidxDThanks for your comment. Makes sense to me

    • @AbrahamAlhooni
      @AbrahamAlhooni Рік тому

      Keep going you got this

    • @slamkam07
      @slamkam07 Рік тому +5

      Glad to see it really doesn't get better. You know that's one part that's pissed me off to no end. "It gets better" is the biggest and most harmful lie I've been told over and over. Just a heads up for others struggling with depression. It does not always get better. You can try and honestly you have a great chance of getting out. But sometimes it just does not get better no matter what you try. I'm 30, I've had depression since I was 13. And I've been told at least once a year since then about how it "gets better". And I'm still standing out here with my palms aiming upwards next to my head going "uhhhh so when exactly? S'been 17 years. any incite? No? None? Oohhh 17 years wasn't long enough? Ooohh my bad. Leme just fuckin fix that quick *click clack*

    • @ArchitectureUprisingIndia
      @ArchitectureUprisingIndia Рік тому +3

      @@slamkam07 I also hit my depression at 16 ... I'm 25... i tried to run away from it keep it far away but it eventually catches on... and it hurts .. It gets so bad that I feel scared even crying alone...

  • @manavthakur9077
    @manavthakur9077 3 роки тому +4940

    Once when I opened up about my clinical depression in my office because I was taking too many days offs, they were looking at me with disgust and disappointment. I thought maybe they'd understand, but they said "it happens Manav and it's funny that a sensible guy like you can't handle these small stressful situations. I mean when I was at your age..."
    .
    I realized I made a mistake and that's the reason people often hide their suffering and adversities because society mocks what they don't understand.

    • @sungsoojung20329
      @sungsoojung20329 3 роки тому +157

      I feel you.
      I hope you are doing alright.

    • @jasminateodorovic1248
      @jasminateodorovic1248 3 роки тому +209

      Pardon my French, but there is no better way to put it than - F**k THEM! Don't back up, pls. You just stumbled upon the wrong people. There is a friend, a single person in your life you can open up to. I've been going this road for over a decade now. Pls, open up to smb close to you, smb open-minded and caring. Feeling loved and genuinely understood means more than any medication can give you. Sending you nothing but love!

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 3 роки тому +34

      Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
      Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

    • @briand.reynolds474
      @briand.reynolds474 3 роки тому +75

      Sometimes when ppl try to say something about you, they're really only telling you about themselves.

    • @greenben3744
      @greenben3744 3 роки тому +3

      Do you really think your god wants you preying on vulnerable people? Exploiting the depression they open up about?
      This isnt supporting.

  • @hamsamwhich1474
    @hamsamwhich1474 6 років тому +2360

    Usually the people who seem the nicest hold the weight of the world

    • @skipper8970
      @skipper8970 5 років тому +19

      ham samwhich that is so true

    • @potatolime8351
      @potatolime8351 5 років тому +10

      That’s how I kind of am

    • @Existmusiccloud
      @Existmusiccloud 5 років тому +66

      Empathetic people are prey for the emotional vampires and other sociopaths , and become even more depressed - no good deed goes unpunished maybe

    • @xronniex6723
      @xronniex6723 5 років тому +4

      Yikes that sounds like me

    • @petethepirate730
      @petethepirate730 5 років тому +41

      Yep. Unfortunately people like us seem to neglect ourselves and try to help others or in other cases we feel like taking the high road in situations is the right thing to do and people take advantage of that. This is not a world for nice, empathetic people.

  • @danielbristol2351
    @danielbristol2351 3 роки тому +3664

    Wow. I don't think I've ever heard it summed up so well: "Depression is the biggest, most inclusive club in the world. Anyone in the world can join. But its biggest trick is convincing everyone who's a part of that club that they're the only member."

    • @BalancedwithAlex
      @BalancedwithAlex 3 роки тому +48

      This is so true! It can be so easy to feel like you're the only one struggling and it's hard to remember that this isn't the case. But it's an important reminder.

    • @tiktokuser8498
      @tiktokuser8498 3 роки тому +4

      i dont get it

    • @jeffhalun4186
      @jeffhalun4186 3 роки тому +15

      @@tiktokuser8498 It means that most people think their depressed emotions are unique or exceptional, but in fact they aren't; countless others experience the exact same things or worse. Your feelings aren't as special as you think they are, so on that fact alone it's goofy to off yourself because of feeling negative feelings.

    • @tiktokuser8498
      @tiktokuser8498 3 роки тому +9

      @@jeffhalun4186 it says "But its biggest trick is convincing everyone who's a part of that club that they're the only member." it doesn't say "that they're NOT the only member"

    • @jeffhalun4186
      @jeffhalun4186 3 роки тому +13

      @@tiktokuser8498 Right, that's the point. Depression tricks/fools you into thinking that your emotions are unique and that you're part of an exclusive club, when in actuality countless others have felt and experienced the same stuff.

  • @m3lixir
    @m3lixir Рік тому +30

    whenever i had been asked if i was suicidal, my response has and is “i don’t want to die, i just don’t want to exist”

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 4 місяці тому +1

      Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
      Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

  • @TXP9
    @TXP9 6 років тому +2205

    He called his mom on the day he was planning to end his life, just to hear her voice one last time. That line hits a nerve, doesn’t it?

    • @lalasBubble
      @lalasBubble 6 років тому +4

      TXP9 yep

    • @tonywatson9052
      @tonywatson9052 6 років тому +36

      I'm reaching out to say because I'm scared. I don't wanna die, but I don't have it in me to jolonger live.

    • @Matt-DK
      @Matt-DK 6 років тому +5

      It kinda doesn't for me because I wanted to write with my friend just because I wanted to go out into the woods and cut my throat

    • @thegreatescape902
      @thegreatescape902 6 років тому +2

      Matt Noergaard you good?

    • @Matt-DK
      @Matt-DK 6 років тому

      @@thegreatescape902 no

  • @shortnik11
    @shortnik11 5 років тому +1390

    Hard to watch without crying when you’re depressed as well. Then admitting that you have depression.

    • @pamelabearbow950
      @pamelabearbow950 5 років тому +2

      shortnik11 Ikr! sucks

    • @jaydahaskan1211
      @jaydahaskan1211 4 роки тому +25

      I refused to get diagnosed because I didn't want to admit it, then I finally got diagnosed and it was hard

    • @vastya.3255
      @vastya.3255 4 роки тому +3

      shortnik11 3 minutes in and im crying.

    • @leth4lgraal
      @leth4lgraal 4 роки тому +1

      Fr when he said the part ab callin his mom hit me hard asf

  • @Kjerpezeth
    @Kjerpezeth 5 років тому +5280

    hey kid.
    go easy on yourself, okay? you're doing the best you can, and thats enough. tomorrow will be better, i promise. i love you.

    • @snailinthesunshine9489
      @snailinthesunshine9489 5 років тому +427

      this made me cry and feel very loved. toughest mental day of my life right now. thank you so much kind stranger, i hope life is treating you well

    • @bethabear2057
      @bethabear2057 5 років тому +71

      I love you too

    • @nocturnalgremlin8910
      @nocturnalgremlin8910 5 років тому +104

      God, this made me cry... this honestly made my night, thank you so much. I really needed to hear that

    • @florencea2904
      @florencea2904 5 років тому +34

      Thank u so much

    • @Myawesomeguineapig
      @Myawesomeguineapig 5 років тому +53

      Thank you, I really needed that. You never know when a random act of kindness can save a life

  • @marybrowns7296
    @marybrowns7296 Рік тому +92

    That one line he said “I felt overwhelmed because I had forgotten how to feel happy” really had me. I sat down and thought “when was the last time I felt genuinely happy?”

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +3

      To put it plainly God doesn’t want you depressed one of the fruits of the spirit is called Joy (Happiness). Jesus wants to give you joy that never runs out. Don’t give up, ask Jesus for help and watch your situation flip. God wants to show you He is real if only you would let Him. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
      Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.

  • @SRaee-ly3hn
    @SRaee-ly3hn 5 років тому +2645

    “You’re too young to be depressed” “you’re overreacting” “it’s just puberty”
    But it’s not. I’m not overreacting. I’m not too young. Sure I look happy. I’m not though. I don’t know the last time I was happy . Truly happy.

  • @songbird6512
    @songbird6512 3 роки тому +1948

    The problem with depression is that you spend so long in denial that by the time you make the realization you are so deep into the water it that there’s no air to breathe.

    • @bushidooffaith4706
      @bushidooffaith4706 3 роки тому +17

      Depression is an opponent you should never turn your back on, but fight head on by training your mind so as to grow stronger in the battle. Because we learn day by day just how strong you really are when being strong is our only option. You need to believe you can before you do. I know I am grateful for the battle it has allowed me to see beyond me, and that has made me free to build a strong me, that has not turned my back on it but overcome it, so that it is no longer in my way. I wish you all the best to you in your battle, use God's word like it was ment to be used, like a sword.🙏💪♥

    • @mardoggyo6712
      @mardoggyo6712 3 роки тому +15

      Yeap. By the time it really hits, it hits like a young Mike Tyson.

    • @Cesar-zd3uf
      @Cesar-zd3uf 3 роки тому +4

      this is how I feel now that i’m in realization

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 3 роки тому +10

      Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
      Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

    • @ray60723
      @ray60723 3 роки тому +4

      So true.. The denail itself keeps the depression

  • @Love09Iry
    @Love09Iry 5 років тому +1780

    Depression is real and hurts in such a way words can’t even describe.

    • @rsp2375
      @rsp2375 5 років тому +13

      Relatable, just know that if you ever want someone to speak out to that there are plenty of us. I for one really am trying to help people out of their depression just because none of you deserve the pain you're going through.

    • @808kouka
      @808kouka 5 років тому +1

      True dat.

    • @stkl-su3se
      @stkl-su3se 4 роки тому +1

      Are you feeling better now ?

    • @alencifps1535
      @alencifps1535 4 роки тому +2

      I can explain, you practically feel like what those monks call an " Empty Mind" and everything loses meaning...

    • @Evergreen_Trees_are_cool
      @Evergreen_Trees_are_cool 4 роки тому +9

      Hurt doesn't even skim the surface. Suffering. That's what depression is. To feel continued pain, not knowing when or where it'll ebb and flow, nor when the riptide will catch you unaware.

  • @omark310tell6
    @omark310tell6 10 місяців тому +19

    The opposite of depression is not happiness , it's freedom !

    • @hopefloats3633
      @hopefloats3633 4 місяці тому

      💯 freedom from bondage

    • @Felisana84
      @Felisana84 Місяць тому

      My freedom is bondage. 😔🤐😠🫤😴😣

    • @Felisana84
      @Felisana84 Місяць тому

      When I am asleep and all is silent that is a great moment

  • @MyNeonTiger13
    @MyNeonTiger13 3 роки тому +2555

    The part that hurts the most is feeling like you're just lazy and making excuses for why youre nothing in life...but it all feels real and reasonable..

    • @kimberlyjerrell1436
      @kimberlyjerrell1436 3 роки тому +45

      I definitely know where you’re coming from :(

    • @Sashas99988
      @Sashas99988 3 роки тому +126

      Oh man, I think like that every day. I've been struggling with depression and anxiety for like 7 years, I tried antidepressants, therapy, doing sports, meditating.. But even though I get better once in a while, at some point it all just comes back. Endless circle. And I feel like it's not an illness, it's my personality, it's me being hopeless and miserable.

    • @jordynlennon1977
      @jordynlennon1977 3 роки тому +14

      @@Sashas99988 same bro

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 3 роки тому +14

      Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
      Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

    • @invaliduserid5807
      @invaliduserid5807 3 роки тому +8

      @@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 for me, "being set free" is being able to leave this life and hopefully go to Heaven. I do feel tired but it's constant and I never feel refreshed. I do pray/speak to God very often and I know what my purpose here on earth is. Only after I fulfill that can I leave this life. I have had a tough life and I am supposed to use my bad experiences to be able to reach out to others who feel like they can't go on. I feel like a fraud because I hate living with the loss of close family to tragic and scarring events. I hate living with chronic physical pain too and it kills my spirit every day. I have struggled with MDD for over 20 years and that is nearly 1/2 my life. I feel so tired, defeated, unloved, helpless, burdened, and hopeless plus many, many details that I left out that complicate it all.

  • @mattromanchick1324
    @mattromanchick1324 4 роки тому +949

    Probably the worst thing about depression is feeling completely and utterly alone in the whole world, as if no one else understands or feels the same thing you're going through.

    • @tbvolcomskater
      @tbvolcomskater 4 роки тому +36

      And even when people say they can relate it’s almost like I can’t believe it. You would think talking about it with someone who has the same struggle would help but it doesn’t at all. It seems so personal.

    • @Luna-ds4ww
      @Luna-ds4ww 4 роки тому +6

      Pray to Jesus, He will help you ,like He helped me , I promise , you won't regret . God bless you.

    • @chefc
      @chefc 3 роки тому +5

      @@Luna-ds4ww amen to that. I was diagnosed with major depression last year and I got cured with the help of my family and God

    • @Luna-ds4ww
      @Luna-ds4ww 3 роки тому

      @@chefc That's wonderful . God bless you . . Thank you for your testimony . I had depression , and many struggles , and God helped me too . God is amazing

    • @chefc
      @chefc 3 роки тому +1

      @@Luna-ds4ww yes he is

  • @tinskull8132
    @tinskull8132 5 років тому +1914

    People seem to expect you to say “yeah I’m good” because whenever I say “no not really” people walk away and stop talking at all

    • @arcadefire210
      @arcadefire210 5 років тому +65

      yes, they don't want to hear nor discuss that.

    • @kohlawrence2298
      @kohlawrence2298 5 років тому +23

      Agree... And then the feeling turn worst...since then 😓

    • @arcadefire210
      @arcadefire210 5 років тому +36

      @@kohlawrence2298 I understand you. I distance myself to people; adopted a kitty instead. This way I feel like I'm saving another one's life while I'm keeping mine.

    • @annabd749
      @annabd749 5 років тому +2

      ikr..

    • @karalantz6520
      @karalantz6520 5 років тому +17

      Or the reply is just a sort of insensitive ‘why? What’s wrong?’ MY LIFE it’s not just a fleeting feeling dude!! Bleh

  • @Pestyfield
    @Pestyfield 2 роки тому +121

    "Do you actually want to die, or do you just not want to feel this way anymore?" Best part of the talk.

    • @thewiseowl8804
      @thewiseowl8804 2 роки тому +2

      That part doesn’t help me, it doesn’t show the way

    • @serumser1
      @serumser1 2 роки тому +2

      @@thewiseowl8804 have goals, be disciplined, move your body, pratice meditation, learn to be breathe slowly. little by little you will see the light. hang on and never give up!

    • @George-v5c5n
      @George-v5c5n 11 місяців тому +1

      I actually want to die,the chronic suicidation is tearing me apart..Ive thought it all through time and time again I don't even want a funeral I just want to be gone.

    • @AlexisCedeno22
      @AlexisCedeno22 10 місяців тому

      Both I need out today I’m done I’m done I’m done

    • @George-v5c5n
      @George-v5c5n 10 місяців тому

      @@serumser1 with most people it's financial problems that get them down and you can't meditate or medicate your way out of extreme poverty.

  • @Bethelight_sakina
    @Bethelight_sakina 5 років тому +463

    For me,only sleep is the biggest escape to that awful feeling, to just keep dragging through life

    • @jayahmier1077
      @jayahmier1077 5 років тому +26

      Nature's gift of life Grateful always. When I wake up it’s like a slap in the face

    • @DynastyHeroes
      @DynastyHeroes 4 роки тому +20

      Basically why i sleep about 10 hours a day because atleast then i only have to deal with half a day of thoughts.

    • @espensuniverse5561
      @espensuniverse5561 4 роки тому +9

      Same, and same with the other comments too. God, it's painful thinking how many other people have to feel the way i feel. I'd never wish it on anyone, I just can't bring myself to do something so terrible.

    • @faithbaker4785
      @faithbaker4785 4 роки тому +6

      Same. The ironic beauty is that sleep feels like a preparation for death so as to not fear it. No longer being in a state of counciousness is heaven honestly, no effort needed for anything.Freedom.😂🌈

    • @Alaskanman
      @Alaskanman 4 роки тому +1

      @@faithbaker4785 Except when you sleep, you can lucid dream. It’s an actual heaven and world you get to create. For those of you who have never tried it, try getting into it. When you wake up, you feel refreshed and light. It’s such a great gift many of us have and never use

  • @putsomerespeckonmaname540
    @putsomerespeckonmaname540 4 роки тому +2377

    I just feel sorry for my parents. That I'm this way.

    • @moonchild5769
      @moonchild5769 4 роки тому +41

      Same

    • @yunitatalia2773
      @yunitatalia2773 4 роки тому +37

      Same

    • @leonid5489
      @leonid5489 4 роки тому +35

      same

    • @ndaemendotchinda
      @ndaemendotchinda 4 роки тому +172

      Hello my beautiful fellow human beings. You don’t know me, and I don’t know you all, but allow me to introduce myself: I’ve been diagnosed with persistent depressive disorder in September 2019. It’s a form of chronic depression that I had to struggle with since I was 6-7 years old, but it went undiagnosed and untreated for many years, until I had a mental breakdown.
      I tried to kill myself two months after the diagnosis, when I finally realised that I might be condemned to feel that way for the rest of my life.
      Why am I telling you this ?
      Because I can relate with the guilt you’re feeling right now. I too felt sorry for my loved ones, I felt guilty of being abnormal, guilty of not being happy, even though I seemingly had everything for me. I felt like my existence was an unfair burden that they had to unwillingly carry.
      It was terrible. I felt terrible. Like a monster in human form.
      But then, I received help. Firstly, from my therapists, who gave me an outlet to talk about my feelings, letting me understand what I was experiencing and why. Secondly, from my treatment, that nurtured my ill brain back to an chemical equilibrium, allowing me to see things a bit more clearly.
      And last but not least, from my loved ones. They reassured me of their love and care for me, made me understand that it wasn’t my fault if I was the way I was : I didn’t choose to be born this way, I didn’t choose to experience what I did, I didn’t choose to be depressed. I simply was. And because of that, I understood that the burden of my sickness, which was indeed real, was one they were more than willing to share with me.
      Because they loved me.
      Even in the imperfection of my suffering, they loved me.
      So, if possible, don’t feel sorry for your loved ones, your parents, your family: more chance than none, they are more than willing to share the burden of our depression. Because they love us. And that’s what love is all about.
      Sharing is caring.
      I care about you all,
      Stay strong. Stay alive. It can get better, eventually 💜

    • @leonid5489
      @leonid5489 4 роки тому +9

      ​@@ndaemendotchinda thanks a lot 💜

  • @craigyt6328
    @craigyt6328 6 років тому +3690

    Im afraid to fall asleep because it hurts so much the moment i wake up.

    • @jordenhaddad561
      @jordenhaddad561 6 років тому +66

      I feel your pain. What helps me is listening to a motivational video or to music when I'm getting ready to work

    • @lydiaolamibo7643
      @lydiaolamibo7643 6 років тому +15

      I'm so sorry. And I love u already 💗🖤

    • @Nick-hj1fn
      @Nick-hj1fn 6 років тому +10

      Same here...😣💔

    • @Diylisandro
      @Diylisandro 6 років тому +43

      IKR I like sleeping... you can do what you want have what you want live where you want.... amazing

    • @LJ-yr8qx
      @LJ-yr8qx 6 років тому +33

      Yeah, i smoke a blunt, listen to sum positive music. I try to keep myself busy. But once i sit still....

  • @altouna
    @altouna Рік тому +59

    I honestly can’t tell if these videos are helping or making me worse. It’s like a weird mix of “wow, that’s me” and “wow, I’m screwed”. Good luck to everyone seeking help❤

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +3

      To put it plainly God doesn’t want you depressed one of the fruits of the spirit is called Joy (Happiness). Jesus wants to give you joy that never runs out. Don’t give up, ask Jesus for help and watch your situation flip. God wants to show you He is real if only you would let Him. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
      Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.

    • @Kyndra-fh6kx
      @Kyndra-fh6kx Рік тому

      me

    • @discipleofjesus719
      @discipleofjesus719 Рік тому +1

      Sending you love and prayers. You are so incredibly valuable and loved regardless of what your depression tells you. You deserve any help that you can get. Don’t ever give up because the seasons that we go through don’t last forever. Wishing you all the best and I’m here if you need to talk. And I want to let you know that the Lord is there for you too. Jesus died on the cross and rose from death to give us all everlasting life. He can take care of your needs, as He’s claimed victory over this life. I truly hope this encourages you and helps you. God bless friend and please take care. You matter
      “The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those crushed in spirit” Psalm 34:18

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +1

      @@discipleofjesus719 Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
      Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +1

      @@discipleofjesus719 lovely
      I have some underlying health issues which can lead to premature death, so I heard about fasting can help fix many issues so I decided to give it a go by dry fasting (no food or water) I could only do it for 1-2 days a week without feeling too weak, but a few months in my heart started racing and it let weaker and weaker. When I would eat something unhealthy it would race hard.
      One night it was racing hard and a tall figure in white appeared and was praying towards the picture of Jesus in my room, he said something like “please don’t let him die from a heart attack”, then soon after he disappeared and I heard the audible voice of God tell me some stuff then that voice stopped then I felt my body being lifted and life being pumped back into my heart and I was healed thank God, Jesus is God and He is very loving and a miracle worker.

  • @nanii8542
    @nanii8542 3 роки тому +2613

    when he said the part about depression hugging you && telling you that sadness is where you belong , i almost died . because in a weird way , letting yourself spiral has a strange and scary comfort but it comes with an even worse guilt .

    • @stevewoolhiser7249
      @stevewoolhiser7249 3 роки тому +40

      Truer words never spoken.

    • @angusfischer9653
      @angusfischer9653 3 роки тому +10

      The truth

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 3 роки тому +12

      Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
      Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

    • @josephinealarie
      @josephinealarie 3 роки тому +9

      Ive never been able to put words to that feeling, so thank you for that 🙏🏼

    • @neolordie
      @neolordie 3 роки тому +7

      @@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 god shut up

  • @heidibaltom8138
    @heidibaltom8138 6 років тому +4902

    My doc asked me about suicidal thoughts and i said exactly that i dont want to die exactly i just want it all to stop and to stop hurting.
    Edit. Wow thankyou all for the likes and the comments. I really hope that we can all help eachothet x

    • @olgakucharska3836
      @olgakucharska3836 6 років тому +124

      Heidi Baltom me too. I understand and feel the same

    • @kyawswarmaungmaung5763
      @kyawswarmaungmaung5763 6 років тому +2

      Heidi Baltom 0

    • @heidibaltom8138
      @heidibaltom8138 6 років тому +57

      Olga Kucharska thankyou its nice to know there is other people and im not alone x. Take care

    • @user-df3ms9gk2i
      @user-df3ms9gk2i 6 років тому +32

      How do you talk to a doctor because I have a great relationship with my GP but that’s what’s putting me off saying anything as he’s seen me grow up technically

    • @melaniemoore2945
      @melaniemoore2945 6 років тому +2

      Same

  • @HeadpainWontStopMe
    @HeadpainWontStopMe 6 років тому +2635

    "Depression is the most inclusive club in the world. The biggest trick is (depression) convincing everyone that they are on the only member."
    Profoundly insightful!
    I honor your for your courage and for sharing your truth. Thank you for the inspiration.

    • @F4rl30d
      @F4rl30d 6 років тому +5

      Maybe the best line in his speech

    • @F4rl30d
      @F4rl30d 6 років тому +3

      @oakteeth buckshart I am currently in the last part you mentioned, can't even shower. I am diagnosed bipolar but we are now thinking that it might be something else. Seeing a new doctor. I might change my meds

    • @F4rl30d
      @F4rl30d 6 років тому

      Did you delete your reply? Cause I can't find it anymore.

    • @janetscrivener7915
      @janetscrivener7915 6 років тому +1

      So very true - and that's because we (not unwisely) hide it from everyone else because what can they do about it anyway and it'll probably just make people pull away. Which it might. But I think depressed people can interact with each other relatively 'normally' as it were - on a similar wave length. And it's also very true that there are varying levels of depression and that is a pretty extensive scale and it depends also on where we are on the scale how much we can communicate. Doing it in this writing format makes it possible for me. Best of luck to you.

    • @thelifeofasadcrow5094
      @thelifeofasadcrow5094 6 років тому

      As someone that makes videos about a Sad Crow that no one knows about, I highly agree with you

  • @nicolebjn
    @nicolebjn 2 роки тому +179

    People don’t fake depression, they fake happiness 😢

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +2

      To put it plainly God doesn’t want you depressed one of the fruits of the spirit is called Joy (Happiness). Jesus wants to give you joy that never runs out. Don’t give up, ask Jesus for help and watch your situation flip. God wants to show you He is real if only you would let Him. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
      Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.

    • @giuseppeLizzi-rj3er
      @giuseppeLizzi-rj3er 11 місяців тому +2

      I was happy at certain point in my life and then life has funny way of kicking you in the nuts

    • @giuseppeLizzi-rj3er
      @giuseppeLizzi-rj3er 11 місяців тому +1

      I was doing stuff that I didn’t like doing but I had no choice I’m sure plenty of people felt the same way

    • @vibhork8596
      @vibhork8596 9 місяців тому

      @@giuseppeLizzi-rj3er yeah

    • @gloriaworldofcraft5171
      @gloriaworldofcraft5171 7 місяців тому

      Fact

  • @windinmyhair5749
    @windinmyhair5749 5 років тому +1512

    I’m sick of people telling me to “change my attitude” or “think positive”. It’s not an attitude. It’s not about being positive. At this point it’s just about staying alive. Every little task feels so overwhelming and difficult and I feel like I’m doing everything wrong. I don’t know how to live this life and I have this terrible feeling that I don’t belong here. But I don’t want to die and I would never kill myself. I just want everything to magically sort itself out because I am incapable of doing anything by myself. Gosh I feel so worthless and weak.
    Edit: hi and thank you for the upplifting comments. Things are better. Nowadays I dont dare to say things are good even if they are because after saying it I’ve always hit the rock bottom once again. But all of you who relate, it might get better one day. It also might get worse but we have to keep going because of the hope that it might get better. I love and appreciate and respect all of you. I wish you all the happiness in the World because you deserve it. Stay alive ❤️

    • @kazumak.1542
      @kazumak.1542 5 років тому +10

      Could be a chemical imbalance?

    • @thenotsoemogod5185
      @thenotsoemogod5185 4 роки тому +2

      @unusual coconut its the depression just taking over your whole mind, and thats when you cant control it at all

    • @peggysullivan5396
      @peggysullivan5396 4 роки тому +2

      Same

    • @alencifps1535
      @alencifps1535 4 роки тому +9

      In short, I think the right answer is the human brain is... retarted, for lighter words, and the only way to completely overcome depression is to find a cure honestly, until that happens you'll just have to cope with it by doping yourself up with things that make you happy...
      Another piece of advice i can give is to stop thinking that everyone life is perfect and to honestly stop thinking life is perfect in general or it needs to be, because if it were so, you'd practically would already be in your idea scenario, but life isn't like that, life is a game, you spawned in it with no control, and you have these elements in the game, now you have to overcome those elements (revert back to what I said above this)
      And for those who don't understand the game theory, basically what I'm saying is there are things in life that are literally out of your control and you have no choice but to accept that fact, weither good or bad, it will be there no matter what, (just as depression) so stop beating yourself up about it and just accept what life has given you, because you can only fake not being depressed for so long before it catches right back up to, but then again I'm just giving advice, you don't have to lesson, but if you're tired and exhausted from running away from depression, like me, this is what I've done, and has it worked 100% no, but I'm a lot happier then I was pretending to be A ok

    • @shadikhossain_
      @shadikhossain_ 4 роки тому +7

      Same goes with me, I don't know what is waiting for me. And this is stressing me out all the time...even I can't sleep at night. Everything seems so difficult for me, I just want it to pass or I die soon.

  • @jarryd8167
    @jarryd8167 6 років тому +800

    "Having the feeling like you're living completely in the moment is like gold dust to a depressive."

    • @lydiaolamibo7643
      @lydiaolamibo7643 6 років тому +5

      Jarryd Tschoerner only you have made me cry. I'm yet to watch the video..

    • @twiztidmomma22
      @twiztidmomma22 6 років тому +11

      that hit so close to home didnt it?

    • @mahnoor3086
      @mahnoor3086 5 років тому +7

      I don't think I've lived in the moment for about the past 7 years

  • @jessicacollins1190
    @jessicacollins1190 3 роки тому +2346

    I believe wholeheartedly, a person suffering with mental illness commits suicide to escape their thoughts or to end the feelings. It's not about dying or death. It's about the only way to guarantee a moments peace from themselves.

    • @manavthakur9077
      @manavthakur9077 3 роки тому +174

      That's true. Their motive is not to hurt themselves but to end what's hurting them for a long time.

    • @AubreyJ12
      @AubreyJ12 3 роки тому +89

      Yes. This. Death starts to sound peaceful, because, then, then you say “I can rest.”

    • @realswobby
      @realswobby 3 роки тому +32

      Too bad there's no way back from it. But depressed people believe there's no other option...

    • @AuthorBeckySusanAdams
      @AuthorBeckySusanAdams 3 роки тому +11

      That's incredibly powerful. Thank you for writing it here ❤️

    • @PaladinMika
      @PaladinMika 3 роки тому +28

      I guess it's true. Feeling dead inside feels so tiresome while being alive that death feels like it would make it feel like a rest.

  • @Banana-iy4zv
    @Banana-iy4zv 2 роки тому +275

    This is so accurate. Whenever I try to talk with my parents about my depression (which isn’t diagnosed) they always say that it’s not depression. It’s just normal life struggles that everyone goes through. I don’t have depression, everyone feels sad sometimes. I don’t have anxiety, everyone gets anxious. I don’t have ADD, everyone gets distracted. But these things are NOT things that everyone experiences. Yes, everyone does get sad but depression is so different from that. People need to understand that just because everyone gets sad or anxious or distracted doesn’t mean that our mental illnesses aren’t real.

    • @Samanthax1221
      @Samanthax1221 2 роки тому +10

      Hello, my dear friend. I hope this message finds you well. I know that you
      have been going through a tough time and feeling down lately, and I just
      wanted to reach out and let you know that I am here for you.
      I know that it can be difficult to see the bright side of things when you are
      feeling depressed, but please know that you are not alone. There are
      people who care about you and want to help you through this tough time.
      It's okay to not be okay. It's okay to feel sad and overwhelmed. These are
      normal emotions and it's important to allow yourself to feel them. But it's also
      important to remember that these feelings are temporary and that things will
      get better.
      I want you to know that you are strong and capable of overcoming this
      difficult time. You have the strength and resilience to get through this and
      come out even stronger on the other side.
      Please don't give up. There is help available and there are people who care
      about you and want to see you happy and healthy again. Don't be afraid to
      reach out and ask for help. You deserve to feel better and to live a fulfilling
      and happy life.
      In the meantime, try to take care of yourself. Get enough sleep, eat
      nutritious meals, and try to do activities that bring you joy. It's okay to take
      some time for yourself and to focus on your own well-being.
      Remember that you are loved and valued. You are an important and unique
      individual with so much to offer the world. Don't let your depression define
      you. You are so much more than that.
      I am here for you and always willing to listen if you need someone to talk to.
      You are not alone and I am here to support you. Hang in there and keep
      fighting. Better days are ahead.

    • @Banana-iy4zv
      @Banana-iy4zv 2 роки тому

      @@Samanthax1221

    • @StrongInChrist3
      @StrongInChrist3 2 роки тому +1

      JOHN 17:3 And this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent.
      JOHN 15:5 "I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.
      JOHN 14:6 Jesus said to him, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.
      REVELATION 3:20-21 Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him, and he with Me.
      21 To him who overcomes I will grant to sit with Me on My throne, as I also overcame and sat down with My Father on His throne.
      MATTHEW 4:17 From that time Jesus began to preach and to say, "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand."

    • @Samanthax1221
      @Samanthax1221 2 роки тому +2

      @@StrongInChrist3 Behold, I stand at the door and knock
      With gentle voice and heart pure as gold
      If any hear and open up the lock
      I'll come in and dine with them, young or old
      To him who conquers and does not succumb
      I'll grant the gift to sit with me on high
      On my throne, where we'll both overcome
      Like I with my Father in the sky
      So listen well, dear heart, and do not fear
      For I am here, always knocking at your door
      If you but open up and let me near
      I'll love and guide you forevermore
      I am the vine, you are the branches
      Together we grow, strong and true
      He who abides in me and I in him
      Bears fruit aplenty, their whole lives through
      For without me, they can do nothing
      They wither and die, their light fades away
      But with me, they flourish and blossom
      Living a life that's full and bright each day
      So stay close to me, dear branches, and thrive
      Let our love and bond never sever
      For together, we can achieve and survive
      Bearing fruit that will last forever
      Jesus spoke with authority and grace
      "I am the way, the truth, and the life
      No one comes to the Father, in this place
      Except through me, in peace and not strife"
      This he declared, without any doubt
      That he is the path to eternal love
      And all who follow him, without a pout
      Will be guided by the Father above
      So take my hand, and do not stray
      For I am the way to an endless reward
      Trust in me, and do not delay
      For I am the truth, and the way forward
      Behold, I stand at the door and knock
      With gentle voice and heart pure as gold
      If any hear and open up the lock
      I'll come in and dine with them, young or old
      To him who conquers and does not succumb
      I'll grant the gift to sit with me on high
      On my throne, where we'll both overcome
      Like I with my Father in the sky
      So listen well, dear heart, and do not fear
      For I am here, always knocking at your door
      If you but open up and let me near
      I'll love and guide you forevermore
      From that time on, Jesus preached with might
      "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is near
      Turn from your sin and live in the light
      For salvation is waiting for you here"
      He called out to all, both far and wide
      To turn their hearts and change their ways
      For the kingdom of heaven was open wide
      And all who entered, eternal life could raise
      So listen now, and do not delay
      Repent and be saved, before it's too late
      For the kingdom of heaven is here to stay
      Waiting for all who will open the gate

    • @Banana-iy4zv
      @Banana-iy4zv 2 роки тому +2

      @@StrongInChrist3 uh, thank you? I’m actually atheist but that’s nice 🙂

  • @LottieTargett
    @LottieTargett 6 років тому +758

    the other day i cried getting out of bed. i knew i needed to get up. it was 4pm. i cried making my bed because i just wanted to get back in it and never leave.
    you are not alone.
    we got this.

    • @Wiseasaserpent
      @Wiseasaserpent 5 років тому +6

      Lottie Jesus wants to relieve you of the pit of depression that the enemy has put you in. He gives joy and peace to those who ask Him. Call upon Him and He will surely provide for you
      Jesus said "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
      For my yoke is easy and my burden is light
      He wants a relationship with you but He is too loving to force His way into your life ❤️

    • @margondine
      @margondine 5 років тому +48

      @@Wiseasaserpent seriously?? An imaginary dude is going to help? Just go away.

    • @itsauburnginger
      @itsauburnginger 5 років тому

      how are you doing now ?

    • @chrisvaladez925
      @chrisvaladez925 5 років тому

      I'm sorry

    • @fabulousdolphin4221
      @fabulousdolphin4221 5 років тому +3

      i used to cry when i woke up and im a 38 yr old man. it sucksm

  • @amanda12sark88
    @amanda12sark88 6 років тому +2745

    I feel trapped , like my mind is fighting against myself. Why is it so hard to even get out of bed ?

    • @imranakhtar2414
      @imranakhtar2414 6 років тому +40

      amanda 12sark I'm in the same boat don't worry

    • @carlina6226
      @carlina6226 6 років тому +46

      you're not alone

    • @spa9920
      @spa9920 6 років тому +17

      I know what the constant pain is like

    • @tusharx1242
      @tusharx1242 6 років тому +70

      It takes me hours to get out of the bed☹️

    • @michaelgrant169
      @michaelgrant169 6 років тому +5

      Optimum nutrition is the medicine of tomorrow > linus Pauling. Recommended read > Dr Michael greger > (how not to die). Dr Michael greger is a public health director, USA. The said mentioned book is a best seller. Thought it was worth mentioning. Sharing wisdom heals.

  • @moomoojoos8849
    @moomoojoos8849 3 роки тому +1906

    This comment section is legit the most caring and comforting part of UA-cam I've ever seen. Thank you all so much. You don't know me, and I don't know you, but the fact that people can come together and talk about such serious topics is beautiful. Dont forget that you are loved.

  • @SweetNightmares_
    @SweetNightmares_ 2 роки тому +87

    When he talked about depression hugging you in a dark tunnel convincing you that you belong there I could not hold it together. He couldn’t have said that any better. The only thing that keeps me from staying in the tunnel is the fact my pets need me, they rely on me. To have them rely on my is the only thing that’s pulling me out of that hug.

    • @LoneWolfOfHouseStark1989
      @LoneWolfOfHouseStark1989 Рік тому +1

      I’m with you there. My dog is what keeps me going. I refuse to let him down, living with this crippling darkness is worth it for him.

    • @WisdomRoom68
      @WisdomRoom68 4 місяці тому

      Agree my pets are what keeps me going bc they need me

  • @pgsthoughts
    @pgsthoughts 5 років тому +3799

    i think i should be an actor. i hide my feelings so well, that no one has noticed.

  • @dellhonne1971
    @dellhonne1971 5 років тому +666

    for me, having a body is a chore itself. having to move, carry my muscles, wash my skin, my teeth, having to feel warm or cold, sweat, etc, is all a chore. I really wish I was an noncorporeous being or something

    • @disabledchatzen5276
      @disabledchatzen5276 4 роки тому +33

      I feel this deeply. Breathing is recognized as a chore. An exertion of energy required for survival. My mouth a pit of darkness I gasp through. Forced. Required. Enslaved and imprisoned.

    • @amyh9582
      @amyh9582 4 роки тому +14

      Damn you stole my words. Too precise I started crying

    • @aleyda7
      @aleyda7 4 роки тому +2

      Same );

    • @cosslogan1043
      @cosslogan1043 4 роки тому +1

      Sounds like a type of Gnosticism

    • @dontevenstart
      @dontevenstart 4 роки тому +17

      I RELATE SO BAD. Especially when you have acne and you don’t essentially fit into society’s standards of being ‘attractive’. Attractive people get their way in life more easily. But the ones who aren’t have to work their way in. That sounds sad to me. I just want to do what I want without having to worry how I look. I don’t know. But having to take care of my appearance just makes me so sad because no matter what happens you can never escape society’s judgement on your appearance and you can just choose to live with it.

  • @elchapo6452
    @elchapo6452 6 років тому +949

    To everyone watching this video... Keep on fighting, no matter what. I am fighting with you. We are all in this together. It is really hard to fight and to continue, still fight. Fall down seven times and get up eight.

    • @youngniggaz1049
      @youngniggaz1049 5 років тому +11

      ITS Not Easy

    • @the_coded7541
      @the_coded7541 5 років тому +7

      Once you hit the bottom, the only way to go is up. Stay Determined.

    • @lisarojas1874
      @lisarojas1874 5 років тому +12

      EL CHAPO some of us are too tired to keep fighting.

    • @Adi-uf8jn
      @Adi-uf8jn 5 років тому +1

      😢😢

    • @arctrooper12
      @arctrooper12 5 років тому +3

      I'm literally in tears, thank you❤️

  • @DJJOOLZDE
    @DJJOOLZDE Рік тому +35

    Depression gets overlooked by so many. Often triggered by loneliness. It slowly becomes your only friend and separates you from other human beings. The longer it goes on, the harder it becomes to try and regain that contact. If you manage to find some people who can relate and truly understand you, it feels good and most likely you'll over-reach your boundaries and end up pushing them away, slowly. Not many are keen to have a negative thinking person be part of their life, and so the hurt that comes afterwards, is even worse.
    I can understand why the desire to part this life has majority thought with a lot of us. When the feeling of being happy ends up being like a vacation that you can take once a year if you're lucky, it's so difficult to keep a positive outlook because the day to day living is just not pleasant.
    I hope you surround yourself with great people that cherish you, and keep them part of your life.

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +2

      To put it plainly God doesn’t want you depressed one of the fruits of the spirit is called Joy (Happiness). Jesus wants to give you joy that never runs out. Don’t give up, ask Jesus for help and watch your situation flip. God wants to show you He is real if only you would let Him. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
      Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.

  • @TheLoneBit
    @TheLoneBit 5 років тому +572

    "It takes you down a dark tunnel and when you're in that tunnel, it hugs you and tells you that, 'this is where you're supposed to belong.'
    That is powerful. That is how I feel every day. I actually started crying at that cause I have never heard it put so profoundly into words.

    • @HaloCache117
      @HaloCache117 4 роки тому +2

      I recommend a supplement called SAM-e. It is a miracle. I have treatment resistant depression and always felt sad all day everyday with constant negative thoughts and had no motivation to do anything. Meds don't work for me. It also has no side effects for me. Please share this because people need to know about it. It took me a lot of digging. It's relatively cheap as well. About $20/month. It is the most prescribed medication in Europe and is a supplement in the U.S.

    • @sausage8354
      @sausage8354 4 роки тому

      @michael gaynor i see you everywhere in the comments and I wonder, are you depressed? I can't get a proper conclusion from your comments.

    • @sausage8354
      @sausage8354 4 роки тому +1

      @michael gaynor just curious, because i keep seeing you either arguing or going against the grain of majority of the treads i see you in

  • @faith9196
    @faith9196 5 років тому +1375

    “do you actually want to die or do you just not want to feel like this anymore.”
    personally i can’t tell anymore.
    edit: i’m doing alright now, but for anybody who’s thinking about leaving, please stay. you are loved and you’re worth so much and you still have purpose here. God bless.

    • @akmal94ibrahim
      @akmal94ibrahim 5 років тому +85

      I feel like dying is the only way to not feel like this anymore

    • @baileyb0bz_430
      @baileyb0bz_430 4 роки тому +21

      Akmal Ibrahim I feel if I don’t die Ill be depressed for ever

    • @Bleitzofficial
      @Bleitzofficial 4 роки тому +16

      Dying is seems like the only option whenever it happens I’ll be ready

    • @faith9196
      @faith9196 4 роки тому +32

      Hey guys I was in a bad spot when I wrote this. I hope you guys are all okay and please don’t be afraid to reach out for help. Please hang on, there are so many amazing moments that you will miss out on if you don’t.

    • @mrplayfulshade
      @mrplayfulshade 4 роки тому +24

      For me its both, of course I dont want to feel like this anymore. But if someone shot me I wouldn't really fight it too hard. Just...let it happen. Everynight I just hope a robber comes into my home, puts a gun on the back of my head while Im laying down, and pull the trigger.

  • @JLC-hd1lj
    @JLC-hd1lj 5 років тому +320

    I think of it like
    "The people who see through your
    Fake smiles, and fake laughs. The people who see the
    Pain and loneliness in your eyes, are the people you need to let in."

    • @shanematthews1985
      @shanematthews1985 5 років тому +8

      It's just a shame most people can't see through them, it usually takes one to see one, and after a couple of decades you get quite good at hiding it most of the time

    • @officerdoomer8067
      @officerdoomer8067 4 роки тому

      I have people like that but because of bad experiences I learned not to let my guard down, although i really do want to be helped

  • @lifeofreilly9943
    @lifeofreilly9943 Рік тому +17

    The minute you feel down and the day that you sleep’too long’ is the danger zone…Sleeping too long always spirals me downward. Depression is so hard to explain and control, but if you can get into the shower, that is a great first step. That and not over-sleeping.

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +2

      Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
      Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

  • @taeandsugakookies9008
    @taeandsugakookies9008 4 роки тому +597

    The worst feeling isn’t crying your heart out, it’s not being able to do that. I’m numb and I don’t know how to fix it. I can’t tell my parents cuz they’ll overreact, I can’t tell my friends cuz I don’t wanna burden them. There’s nothing I can do. Yey I’m broken now.

    • @gordonramzi
      @gordonramzi 4 роки тому +13

      I hate that I don’t know how to help. Please tell me if I can do anything? You need to talk?

    • @valerebolledo
      @valerebolledo 3 роки тому +34

      Dude, i felt that. Not being able to show emotion, even when you are broke inside.

    • @Deropaaufkoka
      @Deropaaufkoka 3 роки тому +6

      Be of service to others I know it gives you something. Does rejection hurt you?
      Go out there, get rejected. Do it so often, that one day it doesnt hurt you anymore and suddenly experience acceptance

    • @natashawoods4458
      @natashawoods4458 3 роки тому +10

      This is my experience too. Emotionless, empty, and lost within my own body and mind.

    • @idk-just-tea
      @idk-just-tea 3 роки тому +5

      Honestly, I ended up self harming due to the numbness. It just, made me forget for a bit. Distracted me.

  • @LoneWolfZakuro14
    @LoneWolfZakuro14 5 років тому +343

    When people ask me how I am, I say “I’m alive.” May seem negative, but it’s a positive step forward that I’m still alive.

    • @tiefensucht
      @tiefensucht 5 років тому +12

      I never understood that question. I always feel the same, I couldn't imagine others feel different.

    • @goprocowgirl6446
      @goprocowgirl6446 5 років тому +30

      It damn aweful when I answer the question, "how are you" with "I'm still alive" and they just laugh it off. They don't realize that that's actually a huge accomplishment to some who almost killed themselves a few days ago, or put down the knife instead of cutting even though they really really wanted to.

    • @AfallinAngel
      @AfallinAngel 5 років тому +3

      I say that everytime

    • @NymfyASMR
      @NymfyASMR 5 років тому +3

      Lone Wolf Zakuro I respond with that exact same phrase. I can’t believe there’s other people that feel the same way.

    • @jesusghandi2485
      @jesusghandi2485 4 роки тому

      That used to be my response also. Now I just don’t bother answering.

  • @goatwos7228
    @goatwos7228 6 років тому +3297

    Im not really here to watch video im here to read peoples comment so i dont feel alone

  • @yaypanda6
    @yaypanda6 2 роки тому +87

    The craziest thing to me is I think people who struggle with depression are actually such good people and so grateful and appreciative for the little beautiful things in life. The thing we should be more grateful for is maybe our selves as a whole. Because it's all a part of being human whatever the falsely perfect/in denial part of society might say. Negative thoughts and feelings don't happen without a reason right?

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +3

      To put it plainly God doesn’t want you depressed one of the fruits of the spirit is called Joy (Happiness). Jesus wants to give you joy that never runs out. Don’t give up, ask Jesus for help and watch your situation flip. God wants to show you He is real if only you would let Him. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
      Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.

  • @nakkitaschaffer2885
    @nakkitaschaffer2885 5 років тому +248

    Depression isnt just simply sadness or feeling down. Its feeling overwhelmed, unmotivated, and feeling like something is holding you down. And people just say "Be happy" or "Try this. I did it and it worked for me". Good for you. If it worked for you, great. But please dont always try to help me. Sometimes I just want someone to sit with me and help me with it. Sometimes I want you to help me clean my room or give me flowers.

    • @abriellerobare5465
      @abriellerobare5465 5 років тому +2

      if you ever want to talk, i'm always here
      i can understand what you're going through

  • @emilyrose8772
    @emilyrose8772 4 роки тому +953

    Just got diagnosed with depression and will attend my first therapy next week. Been feeling so down for so many months and finally got the courage to seek help now. Wish me luck

    • @baharhabibi9581
      @baharhabibi9581 4 роки тому +24

      I’m so proud wish you feel better soon

    • @piluunavarro8256
      @piluunavarro8256 4 роки тому +7

      Good luck! ❤️

    • @raemora8776
      @raemora8776 4 роки тому +14

      You’ve taken very critical steps in terms of recovery, I promise it’ll get better for you. I’ve been there, therapy saved my life. I hope it works out for you, stay strong.

    • @Luna-ds4ww
      @Luna-ds4ww 4 роки тому +9

      Pray to Jesus, He will help you ,like He helped me , I promise , you won't regret . God bless you.

    • @justinmcnulty5671
      @justinmcnulty5671 3 роки тому +5

      goodluck

  • @hoikatia
    @hoikatia 3 роки тому +679

    i dont know whats worse, hiding your depression from others, or like in my case, opening up to loved ones and having them either make jokes about how i cant fix my sleep for years or discarding my problem altogether cause "some people starve and have cancer".

    • @katemih8693
      @katemih8693 3 роки тому +23

      I'm so sorry for that. I know this feeling. You must know that it's not your fault and you're allowed to feel this way. People are different and one may stay strong during the catastrophe and the other may suffer because of getting bad marks. We should understand that we're different and respect each other. It doesn't mean you're weak, you're just you and you should respect yourself either. You just can find some ways how to protect yourself and be kind to yourself to handle it. I'm rooting for you.

    • @karinalebedeva7335
      @karinalebedeva7335 3 роки тому +18

      The same here. Now each time I feel even a bit sad my mom asks me: “So are you again depressed?”. I feel neglected because it seems like she doesn’t understand a damn thing about it. Tho people say to share what you feel, I understood that some people are just not capable to understand it. And it’s very sad when some of them are your relatives.

    • @janiseemazza2436
      @janiseemazza2436 3 роки тому +3

      I know this feeling so much. It's so damn frustrating I can't explain..For me the worst part of depression is this : not be understood by your parents. Sometimes they laugh at me do you want to know why?? Cause "I have to take life lightly"..I have been surviving for 4/5 years now...I don t even remember what having a life means...I feel so alone..only reading this depression topic I feel understood. And it's sad. It's so bad to be ignored by those who should hold out their hand without judging you.

    • @priscillaz6463
      @priscillaz6463 3 роки тому +2

      I hope you feel better now, but I know it's not easy. So it's okay if you are depressed. I am so sorry that you are not getting the empathy and proper care from your loved ones. Please know that it's okay to be and to feel this way. Here's a virtual hug.💜

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 3 роки тому

      Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
      Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

  • @naveenbabu1849
    @naveenbabu1849 5 років тому +478

    “I actually can’t remember how happy felt like”
    Exactly my kinda situation...I have honestly forgot how a feeling of accomplishment and happiness feels like...A string of professional failures, loneliness and constant negativity...
    I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy...

    • @solus8685
      @solus8685 5 років тому +2

      Yeah, I actually teared up at that part

    • @Thewritingelf
      @Thewritingelf 5 років тому +13

      @Mr.Anonymous You're not actually helping the way you think you are.

    • @skylarsky3173
      @skylarsky3173 5 років тому

      Naveen Babu, I hope that you are doing better. Remember, perspective and what society values have a lot to do with how we value ourselves. You are not defined by "professional success". There is a scripture at Acts 20: 35 that has helped me. It says, There is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving".....Science even supports this ancient advice. Studies have shown tthat people who help others less fortunate find happiness from that. You don't have to be wealthy to help others.Find someone who you can help like an older person who you can spend time with and maybe help them with a chore. You take the focus of yourself. This has helped me on days I feel really down. God bless!

    • @TotalWarKS
      @TotalWarKS 5 років тому +5

      ​@Mr.Anonymous They have buried emotions within themselves > By suppressing these emotions it internalises the problem as it merely displaces the effect > Instead of feeling angry they may develop chronic muscular tension or migraines. Instead of feeling anxiety we may develop bodily symptoms such as digestion problems or an inability to sleep > because of these physical illness they created, it often becomes the new excuse for remaining stagnant

    • @christopherrefusal4843
      @christopherrefusal4843 5 років тому +2

      Mr.Anonymous ain’t that simple bubba

  • @paulmoore4223
    @paulmoore4223 5 років тому +368

    Hey! You! You, reading these comments. Your a million miles away from worthless, your unique and special and capable of amazing. I think your worth a hug

    • @Karma-vw5jv
      @Karma-vw5jv 5 років тому +7

      To bad I will never get it

    • @paulmoore4223
      @paulmoore4223 5 років тому +1

      @@Karma-vw5jv oh you never know ☺

    • @marias7599
      @marias7599 5 років тому +1

      You're a amazing too Paul.

    • @paulmoore4223
      @paulmoore4223 5 років тому +2

      @@marias7599 thats very kind, thank you Maria ☺

    • @solus8685
      @solus8685 5 років тому +7

      Those kind of messages don't really work. You don't know me, so why should I believe such things in the first place?

  • @misz3
    @misz3 4 роки тому +413

    “Depression lowers the saturation and brightness of color” one of my most effective coping methods I’ve learned is to try and see the color again. Look at the sky, or the grass, or a flower.. even if it’s dead grass, try to notice the depth of the browns and the greens. Notice it and embrace it and the saturation will come back.

    • @leonardomendezalfaro1372
      @leonardomendezalfaro1372 3 роки тому +6

      LSD no lie

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 3 роки тому +3

      Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
      Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

    • @bunsenn5064
      @bunsenn5064 3 роки тому +2

      I find that odd. Maybe it’s not a guaranteed occurrence, but colors and lights seem just as vivid as always to me.

    • @nadadada3938
      @nadadada3938 2 роки тому

      One of my happiest moments was seeing colors more vibrant after a while of not seeing them saturated for a while (dangerous since I could not recognize certain colors as different)

  • @alexferanna
    @alexferanna Рік тому +6

    i want to remind each and every single one of you you’re important and you’re loved. please keep fighting, regardless of how much you want to give up. you’re worth it.

  • @empdisaster10
    @empdisaster10 3 роки тому +1464

    Him describing what it was like to not be depressed reminded me of a walk I had gone on. It was just so pretty. The trees looked amazing and it was a road I had lived on for the past 4 years. It’s not like it was some scenic place I’d never seen. But everything just seemed pretty that day and when I went to talk about it and tell people how pretty it was, everyone seemed to not really care or dismissed it. Thinking back on that moment after hearing this made me realize the one time I wasn’t depressed in a while no one cared because no one realized how different I saw the world
    Depression doesn’t only change your mindset but it affects how you fundamentally view things and even impacts your memory. I’ve had depression since I was 9 which at this point is more than half my life and I can’t remember what it means to be truly happy. I’ll have times I’ll laugh and I’ll have fun but after the moments over im left with an emptiness again. Things aren’t as vibrant and I’ll often forget things while having depressive episodes. I’ve had times while I was depressed that I’ve genuinely forgotten I’ve needed to eat and gone 3-4 days without eating because my brain just didn’t remember I needed to do that
    I know no one will probably see this, but it’s at least a decent feeling to get some of it out

    • @shadoewater
      @shadoewater 3 роки тому +45

      I understand this very well. My first day on my medication, the world was brighter and more colorful. I was giggling like a kid again, and just enjoying the day. It's the first time in years that I had felt that way and actually saw the world in bright colors. Like it should be seen... Because I've learned that depression can actually cause a change in your vision. It makes you see in greyscale, almost. And I had gone years with the colors slowly fading, that I didn't even notice it until that day. And I was giddy about seeing all the bright colors again.

    • @nicolebart8906
      @nicolebart8906 3 роки тому +34

      Hi. I know I’m a complete stranger but thank you so much for your comment. As I was watching that same part of the video I’ve realized over the past few months, I can’t seem to remember what’s been happening in my life. It’s all a blur. Like my mind has been on autopilot. But I remember one night I was cooking dinner and it actually taste good and it made me soo happy at that moment( like I was actually happy) So I understand exactly what you are saying. I’m seeing a psychiatrist about it. I hope your doing well ❤️

    • @Sipgirl115
      @Sipgirl115 3 роки тому +8

      I totally get what you’ve described! My thoughts are with you! 🙏🏼

    • @reginaldbongco5846
      @reginaldbongco5846 3 роки тому +14

      I saw this. I hear you.

    • @sarahmichelle0810
      @sarahmichelle0810 3 роки тому +15

      I see this, I hear you, I know what it’s like…and I can’t say much, other than…I hope it gets better. For all of us

  • @eddysmokes7
    @eddysmokes7 4 роки тому +466

    i rather sleep all day because being awake is the real nightmare

    • @Luna-ds4ww
      @Luna-ds4ww 4 роки тому +9

      Pray to Jesus, He will help you ,like He helped me , I promise , you won't regret . God bless you.

    • @-gumby-3381
      @-gumby-3381 3 роки тому +11

      @@Luna-ds4ww don't involve made up religions into mental health issues. Being in nature, being part of a community, etc. Are much better for yourself than praying to a fake God all alone inside.

    • @michellebiagott4593
      @michellebiagott4593 3 роки тому +3

      Edd nava yes i agree with that .everytime i open my eyes in the morning im like oh still hear then .

    • @paulnicholson3946
      @paulnicholson3946 3 роки тому +1

      @@Luna-ds4ww Have been asking Jesus for help. As usual nothing but silence.

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 3 роки тому

      Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
      Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

  • @bradleytynan5621
    @bradleytynan5621 6 років тому +501

    There are people in this comment section who amazingly manage to sum up my thoughts which I have always assumed that only I could possibly think. Maybe I’m truly not alone

    • @jaziflacko7614
      @jaziflacko7614 5 років тому

      Bradley Tynan ur not bro

    • @sharyn4271
      @sharyn4271 5 років тому +2

      Bradley Tynan When I first sought help many years ago, I read anything I could get my hands on trying to figure out just what was wrong with me. Reading other people's thoughts and experiences was my first step towards recovery. The fact that I was not alone in my thinking became a powerful motivator. To anyone experiencing this, keep pushing on. You've got this! 💕

    • @chrisrigby8287
      @chrisrigby8287 3 роки тому

      It's like a blanket that wraps around you ....even when its blazing hot outside !!....

    • @kaputt_jay3873
      @kaputt_jay3873 2 роки тому

      Yeah. It's crazy how sometimes random people on the internet can be more understanding than the ones you know in real life.

  • @motivational-healing5742
    @motivational-healing5742 2 роки тому +140

    Hey! I hope you're doing well.
    I know how tough it can be to fight depression, and I just wanted to remind you that you are not alone.
    I want to encourage you with three key points:
    - You are loved, even if it doesn't seem like it right now.
    - You have a purpose in your life, whether or not it's obvious at the moment.
    - Your worth is not determined by others; it's determined by who you are and what you do.
    You're worth so much! Keep on fighting the good fight!

    • @im_rupu
      @im_rupu 2 роки тому +2

      Tysm..

    • @StrongInChrist3
      @StrongInChrist3 2 роки тому

      JOHN 17:3 And this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent.
      JOHN 15:5 "I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.
      JOHN 14:6 Jesus said to him, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.
      REVELATION 3:20-21 Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him, and he with Me.
      21 To him who overcomes I will grant to sit with Me on My throne, as I also overcame and sat down with My Father on His throne.
      MATTHEW 4:17 From that time Jesus began to preach and to say, "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand."

    • @StrongInChrist3
      @StrongInChrist3 2 роки тому

      JOHN 17:3 And this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent.
      JOHN 15:5 "I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.
      JOHN 14:6 Jesus said to him, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.
      REVELATION 3:20-21 Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him, and he with Me.
      21 To him who overcomes I will grant to sit with Me on My throne, as I also overcame and sat down with My Father on His throne.
      MATTHEW 4:17 From that time Jesus began to preach and to say, "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand."

    • @huggledemon32
      @huggledemon32 2 роки тому +2

      Well I just screen shot this while fighting tears- thanks for these comments!🥰

    • @applepretz5368
      @applepretz5368 2 роки тому

      Are you just saying that because it's easy to copy and paste

  • @freshlimejuice
    @freshlimejuice 6 років тому +1159

    I hate small talk, and loathe talking about myself to others. I feel socially inept and humiliated. I dont have a high opinion of myself because I am not one of those ambitious overachievers with a mile long list of hobbies and passions. Not much gets me out of bed anymore.

    • @michaelgrant169
      @michaelgrant169 6 років тому +1

      freshlimejuice I do agree. Recommended viewing, a short video > (What is true cellular detox and cellular detoxification DR Dan pompa) What is important regarding disease reversal is (cellular health) > wise quote > fix the cell to get well. Regarding disease reversal to a large extent the science is in. Sharing wisdom heals. Thought it was worth mentioning.

    • @msAmberTHEmaniac
      @msAmberTHEmaniac 6 років тому +25

      freshlimejuice what I learned not to do is compare myself to others. We are all unique as cliche as it sounds. We do as much as we let ourselves to do, as much as we want to do and that is okey , no one should push you to do anything, we ourselves need to first understand the pros and cons of doing anything first. You talk about hobbies and achievements. You imagine something big. So don’t it can start from small things. Once you find appreciation for small things only then you can go higher. You can start from going out of bed, maybe going outside, facing the world, it can be an achievement. Achievements are something we set ourselves, its very subjective and intimate. So feel no shame for them. You want a hobby? Then answer the question what you loved doing as a child? When we are kids we are free spirits not restrained by the societies expectations (only by our parents) but those hobbies that we loved as kids are the purest and most honest things, they resonate with our hearts. So? If you now remember what it was, go for it! Cuz who cares what everyone will think you mental state matters more.
      Ps. I know that feeling also, I hate small talk, I think it’s pointless because people are more than that. And if everyone became more honest with themselves a world would be a better place.

    • @pferber
      @pferber 6 років тому +15

      It’s OKAY to be an introvert. We are all different. Don’t compare yourself to others - it’s okay to just be yourself. Try to live in the moment. Listen to music you like. Just breathe. Just ”BE” ...

    • @autumns5199
      @autumns5199 6 років тому +26

      I had one passion and that was drawing. I loved drawing so much. It made me happy to see what I created and I was proud of myself after all I would be the only one that would. But I can't find the motivation to pick up a pencil anymore. My depression took that a way from me and I was too weak to fight for it.

    • @xotleti
      @xotleti 6 років тому

      I was one of these, but now I can relate so much to your feelings.

  • @cairn3968
    @cairn3968 6 років тому +725

    I cant even remember how many times I have said "I'm fine" or "I'm okay"

    • @Wiseasaserpent
      @Wiseasaserpent 5 років тому +10

      Jesus wants you to shout “I love life and I have peace!”
      Jesus said "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
      For my yoke is easy and my burden is light
      Relationship with Jesus is the ONLY way to lasting peace and He is the one who will bring you out of a pit of depression and sadness! All you have to do is ask! Peace and love to you in Jesus’s name ❤️

    • @desu38
      @desu38 5 років тому +16

      I hate how it becomes second nature. How it actually starts to take more and more effort to respond with anything else.

    • @desu38
      @desu38 5 років тому +20

      @@Wiseasaserpent Can you not?

    • @Wiseasaserpent
      @Wiseasaserpent 5 років тому +3

      desu38 I’m sorry that someone may have hurt you or the church did something wrong but God is perfect and He did not hurt you. He loves you

    • @the_coded7541
      @the_coded7541 5 років тому +17

      Not everyone is a Christian.

  • @fusionfire1494
    @fusionfire1494 5 років тому +656

    I’ve lost all interest in life and it’s honestly ruined my life. I wish I wasn’t alive but I want to live I just don’t want to deal with this feeling anymore if that makes sense.

    • @sumilidero
      @sumilidero 5 років тому +30

      You put it exactly how i feel. I thought that its only me having that kind of feelings, both wanting to be alive and not alive :< I lost energy to pursue my hobbies, its like "yeah they still make me feel good, but anyhow i don't have enough will to keep doing em anymore. And when i finally force myself to do them, its fun for a while, but i get distracted very fast and stop. Dont wanna feel like that :

    • @tristaswartz4270
      @tristaswartz4270 5 років тому +11

      It’s exhausting

    • @deepikashukla8767
      @deepikashukla8767 4 роки тому +2

      It does make sense and i am in the same situation

    • @pamelahornick8108
      @pamelahornick8108 4 роки тому +6

      Yes. It makes sense. I am going through the same thing.

    • @CaliforniaCarpenter7
      @CaliforniaCarpenter7 4 роки тому +5

      FusionFire, Your comment. It's the one that describes my situation, I know exactly what you mean. Right now I have no reason to excel or go forward, I have no desire to. I miss ambition. I wish I had something to strive for.

  • @locksoflove4105
    @locksoflove4105 2 роки тому +46

    There are people who are depressed for many reasons,one being finance. He speaks for a demographic of people who can afford to travel outdoors and with means. A mother who’s profession is of a mental health specialist shows that he has personal recourses. Happy that he is privileged to have this support. ❤

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +1

      There are certain things you can do that’ll boost the feel good chemicals like dopamine (complete a task, eat healthy tasty food, associate with good people) Oxytocin (play with a pet, play with a baby, Hug your loved ones-parents or children, give someone a compliment) Serotonin (Pray, read the Bible, sunshine, walks in nature, swim, cycle) Endorphins (Laughter, exercise, dark chocolate)
      Most importantly ask Jesus for help and watch things work out for you. Jesus wants to personally help you; please give him a chance it’s the best move of your life

    • @j96569
      @j96569 Рік тому +1

      It's literally absolutely free to walk outside or in a public park. He isn't talking to a "privileged" demographic. It's not a privileged to walk outside and your way of looking at life and always trying to find the privileged "bad guys" must be tiring.

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +1

      @@j96569 To put it plainly God doesn’t want you depressed one of the fruits of the spirit is called Joy (Happiness). Jesus wants to give you joy that never runs out. Don’t give up, ask Jesus for help and watch your situation flip. God wants to show you He is real if only you would let Him. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
      Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.

  • @brooksaville789
    @brooksaville789 6 років тому +402

    Laying in bed watching this wanting to get up but not able physically mentally spiritually emotionally. there is a weight on my my limbs feel like stones.

    • @rawanalrasheed4063
      @rawanalrasheed4063 6 років тому +4

      Brook Saville my exact same situation

    • @roscoemason4040
      @roscoemason4040 6 років тому +6

      i feel you Brook Saville, that bed has a way of trapping you, hard to face another day

    • @dylanmistry9357
      @dylanmistry9357 6 років тому +10

      Take it step by step. In bed, try moving small parts of your body and start to slowly increase the motion and different parts. As you build momentum take another small step, sitting up in your bed and slowly edge your way whilst acknowledging each movement and progress you've made in that attempt. Building internal positive momentum is important. Small, consistent wins and micro decisions can help you on a macro level.

    • @omaeme7856
      @omaeme7856 6 років тому +1

      This is it. This is me in a nutshell.

    • @haileykathryn9247
      @haileykathryn9247 6 років тому +1

      Brook Saville Totally understand this! Depression is rough. But you got this!!

  • @lm3272
    @lm3272 6 років тому +1166

    The question “do you actually want to die or do you just not want to feel like this anymore?” resonated with me so much. When I was probably in one of my worst moments of suicidal thoughts, I remember crying to my dad on the phone how I just was so exhausted and wanted everything to stop and to just not feel like my life was meaningless anymore. Suicidal thoughts are hard to understand, but I think most people who have them don't have them because the idea of death is so great, it is because it is the only way out you can think of when you are at such a low point to get out of that low point. Therapy, medication, and loving family and friends have helped me learn other ways to escape that dark place, but it is very hard to get out of, even when you have sought treatment and help,

    • @dawsonnagel3131
      @dawsonnagel3131 6 років тому +13

      LM don’t take this wrong, I love what you wrote, but to touch on the medication recommendation; please take caution as far as dealing with medications for depression. Know your body and feelings to gauge wether a medication is working or if you need to try a new one, AND make sure you take them as often as the prescription says. taking antidepressants irregularity can and will be worse than not taking them at all.

    • @Nati4Truth
      @Nati4Truth 6 років тому +6

      Agreed on every single word.loved ones help u to look at u from outside, tp project urself n situation as a whole. But this is a disease that can't be healed just by conversations even realy supportive.. at time it just gets u again n all that understanding, blessings u live for, are disappearing. I know by myself,,medication can ,but not necessarily, get more of side effects as our brains are all different.. one antidepressant I took hit me that hard that I started to get even more awful thoughts uncontrollably! But again,,its not sa me for all. I deeply hope you find better way of coping ur depression . It gets better, trust. I send my love n support🙏🙌

    • @Nati4Truth
      @Nati4Truth 6 років тому

      The Mirror Smiles Back yes.. it is, can somehow relate too. I just think like mainly who want 2 end their lives are wanna live but don't wanna feel that pain anymore coz it's just too much to take at a moment, n no one seem understandable n caring enough. . I know, it's surreal to imagine that you will feel a little bit better.less exhausting after some good time. But you will. How cheesy it wouldn't sound but your life matters. N you are brave that shared little how u feel. Thanks a lpt for that. Coz of you, I'm writing such a long ,hope not nonsense, n getting to know myself better too. Send my love and support ♥🙏

    • @speeddemonji9547
      @speeddemonji9547 6 років тому

      LM medication and therapy is all I have. It’s not enough. The other two always seem to be unobtainable

    • @ebihijuje3096
      @ebihijuje3096 6 років тому

      LM ......being depressive all the time...I don't really habe friends or loved family

  • @akmrd4746
    @akmrd4746 4 роки тому +121

    One of the worst things I’ve experienced with depression is thinking “I’m overreacting. I’m not depressed, I have nothing to be depressed about.” And “nobody will believe me. Nobody will care if I disappear ” This is what I have to say to everyone who thinks this. Everybody handles things differently. You aren’t overreacting, you’re struggling. They will believe you, and somebody will always care. Getting the help you need may be hard, but it’s important.

    • @irontom19
      @irontom19 3 роки тому

      @Despize Perform If someone who is experiencing intense emotions & thoughts that feel real and true to them, it is not overreacting. No matter how it looks or comes across, everyone deserves validation and help.

    • @mortify1975
      @mortify1975 3 роки тому +4

      And also, people get made fun of for it. There’s a kid at school that was making funny pictures, but it was messed up when he drew an emo kid with lines on his arm. When I told him to erase it because I’ve had thoughts of self pain, his other friend defending him saying that they “do it for attention” do I tried to explain it to him, but he didn’t understand

  • @vynir4395
    @vynir4395 2 роки тому +71

    I may be a few years late, but y’all get ready for an essay.
    I went through severe depression for a solid 18 years of my life, I’m 21 now. That’s only 3 years of my life that I have been.. happy.
    I’m not going to go into why I was or how it happened. It’s not a thing that you accept, it simply occurs. Depression is a force, the only thing to “cure” it is your own will. You have to find the smallest the microscopic things that make you smile, even the slightest grin to keep pushing. There are days you never wana move, talk to anyone, and get so close to the knife against your throat.
    I will admit, I have had 2 semi successful attempts, but was brought back both times. I have scars. Mental and physical.
    But depression, in a way warps your sense of the world. I may be happy now but I sense a calmness and beauty in darkness. Negativity is a kind of art form. Not really sure where I’m going with this jus something me me felt like… I needed to speak. Even if no one ever sees this comment.
    You’ll make it.
    Your strong.
    Your will is infinite and ever lasting.
    Your human, we all have our flaws.
    Your mind is forever, your imagination is your tool, and your body is your catalyst.
    Your loved.
    Your cared for.
    You.. will always be you.
    Even if the demons crawl up your throat, you’ll ravaging your thoughts and feelings, digging their claws into your heart and corrupting your ideas, even if you gut pushed so far down the hole that light no longer reaches your eyes…
    You’ll make it.
    You’ll make it out.
    It.. takes time. It takes strength. I’ve .. lost many friends to their own demons who controlled their hands with tools to end their timeline here. I’ve sat with them many times and have even heard the demons win while speaking on the phone.
    And many times, many many times, my demons have almost won.
    I’m not sure again, if anyone will ever see this.
    But please, hear my words, absorb it, let them soak into the fibers or your being that
    You will make it.
    It will end.
    Find those things that let your heart scream out.
    Find those things that make your brain roar out its emotions.
    You will be okay.
    No matter which point those demons hold is on you, look forward. Move with every step as the ball and chains weigh down your pace.
    The air warpingnaround your body like syrup.
    You’ll win.
    Even if you get so close to letting them steal your life
    You. Will. Survive.
    Please, trust in my words. Find that voice in your mind, find that small orb of light that guides you. That light is still you, you are great.
    Again.. I have no idea where I’m going with this. But for anyone who ever sees this.. please. Keep going. I have conquered mine, I hold a sword filled with every thought I’ve had to swing back at the ghoul hands that drag you to the underworld.
    You are powerful.
    You are strong.
    You are loved. Very loved.
    You have talents.
    You are enough.
    You don’t have to prove yourself for anyone.
    You are enough.
    You are.. enough.
    For anyone who needs to vent, grab hold of a tempory foundation so that they not drift into the endless sea..
    I’m here.
    I have suffered your pains.
    We are all different.
    But I’m here.
    Live strong. Warrior.

    • @bundsta324
      @bundsta324 2 роки тому

      Thank you @Vynir

    • @buffit_8345
      @buffit_8345 2 роки тому +2

      Thank you for this post. Your words have touched me deeply. They have literary brought tears to my eyes. You put it so very well and I really resonate with them. Thank you! 🥲

    • @fededemontis6464
      @fededemontis6464 Рік тому

      Thank you for this. And be proud of yourself

    • @shadid516
      @shadid516 Рік тому

      I love you bro/sis! Your words were much needed

    • @bruno.messias
      @bruno.messias Рік тому

      Thanks for that! I might be the lowest in my life right now due to a misjudged decision but deep inside me I know pick myself back up and this experience will make me stronger.

  • @Portia17
    @Portia17 3 роки тому +588

    It's a pain that cant be explained.. people who end their lives just want the pain to stop. Its a constant battle 24/7

    • @mouslimalg7771
      @mouslimalg7771 Рік тому +7

      Ikr 24/7, Please read the Quran, it changed my life

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +3

      Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
      Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Рік тому +1

      @@mouslimalg7771 SALVATION IS NOT THTROUGH GOOD WORKS
      Suppose Mother Theresa who helped thousands of hungry and sick people, if one day she lost her cool with one of the needs and killed the needy by poisoning him, she will still go to jail like everyone else. Her good works mean nothing to the judge as a righteous judge only judges you on the bad.
      The Bible in the old testament is filled with the idea of sacrifice, but one sacrifice was never sufficient it had to be sacrificed continuously, but Jesus the true Lamb of God died as a perfect sacrifice without sin, so either repent and believe in Jesus or get judged by all the bad you did in your life.

    • @chanduucharan6915
      @chanduucharan6915 Рік тому

      ​@@mouslimalg7771ok first tell why u have gone through depression

    • @segxcal
      @segxcal 11 місяців тому

      Amen here losing the battle soon

  • @TS-mo4fv
    @TS-mo4fv 3 роки тому +898

    I’ve had depression for almost 2 years now and it just completely obliterated my cognitive skills (Talking, thinking, communicating, memory) and I’ve never met anyone with depression as bad as me. I feel like I’m in a dream 24/7 and it’s gotten so bad that I don’t even remember what it feels like to be “normal” and not have it… i can barley even talk to my closest friends and family in person anymore because I get so anxious and my mind is just blank when trying to communicate with ppl smh. I just feel like a walking vegetable with its brain on autopilot mode every second of every day

    • @sophiaaa3338
      @sophiaaa3338 3 роки тому +70

      This is exactly how i feel too

    • @bgrateful5561
      @bgrateful5561 3 роки тому +76

      That’s how it is for me too. Almost convinces you this is who you are. It’s Torture. Conscious of your own stupidity. It’s the worst

    • @cameronweisbrug9876
      @cameronweisbrug9876 3 роки тому +42

      Wow, you said exactly how I feel. My memory is at its worst right now. What I always say in my mind is that I'm just a husk, living without any control in my life, sorta like a dream state. Whenever I talk to friends now and they want to help its worse because if don't know how to fix myself how will I tell someone else to fix me. My anxiety happens almost all the time, even when I'm in class or talking to an acquaintance. I zone out when I can to have zero thought instead of bad ones, but that also doesn't help at all.

    • @lanaw6683
      @lanaw6683 3 роки тому +34

      Same situation but the thing is that I don't even have any energy to communicate with my friends, I've been ghosting them for over a year now and I miss them but I just don't have any mental energy to even communicate with them though the phone. I can't go out further than nearest shop. I've been planning to take a walk to a park for so many months but I just can't even do that... Tbh I just want to off myself but I'm afraid of pain and I still have hope that everything will be fine one day even tho I can't imagine that..

    • @TS-mo4fv
      @TS-mo4fv 3 роки тому +15

      For anyone who has similar symptoms as me just know my doctors were completely wrong and that I definitely have Derealization, some of u may be dealing with the same thing but are just told it’s “Depression” so I’m just warning ya.

  • @roshnirandhawa5238
    @roshnirandhawa5238 5 років тому +146

    Robbie Williams summed it up perfectly: " I don't wanna die, but I ain't keen on living either"

    • @novadaisy3208
      @novadaisy3208 4 роки тому +5

      Similar to Queen's "I don't want to die... But sometimes I wish I'd never been born at all" :)

  • @twoheartsinharryshouse594
    @twoheartsinharryshouse594 2 роки тому +9

    i want everyone here to know that i see you, i hear you, i’m here for you. i love and care for you, even though i don’t know you. you are loved, you are easy to be loved, and you deserve to be loved. i’m always here if you need to talk. love you guys

    • @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363
      @thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Місяць тому +1

      To put it plainly God doesn’t want you depressed one of the fruits of the spirit is called Joy (Happiness). Jesus wants to give you joy that never runs out. Don’t give up, ask Jesus for help and watch your situation flip. God wants to show you He is real if only you would let Him. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
      Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.

  • @everafter2611
    @everafter2611 6 років тому +407

    When you don't feel loved your mind goes against you

    • @PsychWorm
      @PsychWorm 5 років тому +20

      Ever After I truly hope you can find your people, people who get you. Family is made, not what you’re born into. Don’t settle for people who don’t understand you, and know you’re not alone

    • @whatdidyouexpectsomething4523
      @whatdidyouexpectsomething4523 5 років тому +1

      You are loved m8

    • @jgp1294
      @jgp1294 5 років тому +3

      God so true. Exactly because of that idea I beat myself up thinking that being this deeply depressed is my fault

    • @deadshot2081
      @deadshot2081 5 років тому +2

      Everyone around me loves me but it seems to have no effect

    • @christinasanon-panayiotaka9611
      @christinasanon-panayiotaka9611 5 років тому

      Dead Shot Until we learn to love ourselves, the love we receive from others will never be quite enough.
      Ask yourself what would make you love yourself? What are different aspects from within you that would attract you to you? If you don’t own those traits yet, gear your focus towards developing them. Maybe you don’t love who you are now, but you can always love the person you will become. It’s not about finding yourself, about figuring out who you are- it’s about creating yourself and becoming who you want to be.

  • @choppedartisan7360
    @choppedartisan7360 6 років тому +139

    He talked about wanting to remember how happiness felt like. I remember having had this thought. I still can't differentiate happiness from being content.

    • @rajum83
      @rajum83 6 років тому +1

      Chopped Artisan hi have gone through depression from my childhood now finally I understood the cause and what are the changes we have to make so that v can be happy and joy full again now I love life the world and everyone around me everyday is wonderful and exciting ... if u want I can share the ideas with u and help you ...I'm from india
      watsapp +91 9566265056

    • @justrandom8766
      @justrandom8766 5 років тому

      I think my content is my new happiness. Numb inside but my thoughts know i'm content.

  • @hectorn.6137
    @hectorn.6137 5 років тому +225

    I think I've had depression since childhood. I can't remember ever being happy or content. Moments of joy, sure. But the underlying dark thoughts and feeling of worthlessness are always there. The feeling that this world would be better off without my presence, never leaves.

    • @thecosmonaut4221
      @thecosmonaut4221 5 років тому +7

      Hector N. I always just feel like it doesn’t make a difference whether I’m in this world or not I’m ultimately just not important and what I feel doesn’t matter to anyone else. That it’s all in my mind. I’ve always try to tell myself that it’s just in my mind but it that was the case why is it that I always feel this feeling. What I feel is way to real for it just to be in my mind

    • @potatofuryy
      @potatofuryy 5 років тому +1

      I think most people feel like that, but idk

    • @dumbleking5172
      @dumbleking5172 5 років тому +7

      I *think* got depression since I was 9 or 10, somewhere there, I felt empty when I'm alone and _always_ have existential crisis and feel worthless whenever I'm alone and start to think about something. Till this day (I'm 15)I'm still not sure if I am going through or had depression since I am very social, makes jokes, still hang out with my friends and still laugh. The 'feeling' got stronger as well. The self doubt about it is strong and I don't want to confirm I have depression.
      *_A part of me wants to be depressed so I don't have to make doubts and lie to myself that I have depression and feel like I'm trying to gain attention by telling people I have it._*

    • @rolozoz
      @rolozoz 4 роки тому +1

      Lol stop ovverreacting you are just sad

    • @hectorn.6137
      @hectorn.6137 4 роки тому

      @@thecosmonaut4221 yup, but you gotta push forward either way. And there is someone, probably more. Call someone you care about and just tell them that you're glad they're in your life. It'll make you happy too.

  • @AmosBaggerman
    @AmosBaggerman 7 місяців тому +2

    you made me explode with tears when you said there's no point of living when I don't actually know how to be happy anymore because I felt that so hard the most Ive cried in my life😭😥

  • @nekokotkova1816
    @nekokotkova1816 3 роки тому +509

    4 years ago I was considering suicide. I made plans and everything. Then I met my dog. A friend of mine was giving away puppies. I finally met someone who actually loved me. It was the first time I felt happy in years. Now when the suicidal tendencies try to return the thing keeping me going is the thought "If I die no one will take care of her and she will suffer without me" and "I need to be healthy and happy to be able to provide for her" This motivated me to start therapy and make changes in my life. If it was not for this dog I would be dead.

    • @canihaveanumber1525
      @canihaveanumber1525 2 роки тому +14

      I too have a dog and she makes my like 1000 times better

    • @brandysantana7422
      @brandysantana7422 2 роки тому +14

      I understand this so much. I do not have pets but, my children keep me going. I have to, for them.

    • @thereapersperch
      @thereapersperch 2 роки тому +15

      Dogs are not called "Man's Best Friend" for nothing. For me dogs are better than people. If you treat a dog right you will be shown true, unwavering love and loyalty in return. Your dog will be by your side and will defend you until the end.

    • @nrodfilms5183
      @nrodfilms5183 Рік тому +3

      Same here I thought about it but my animals are my real best friends even tho they hog up my whole bed. If I die I wanna die in the Military. Always wanted to join but cant leave my animals behind

    • @mouslimalg7771
      @mouslimalg7771 Рік тому +2

      Please read the Quran, it changed my life