The joy you feel in your transition and in the acceptance that your family has shown really shines through your video. I am really glad (as a cis gay male) to hear your story. May you go from strength to strength! Thank you for sharing your life with us.
Great story. Thanks so much for taking the time to tell it. Hope your brother is living a more joyful life. Your poetic exhibition of his troubled life is one of the most moving things I've seen on the web, so thanks again for that video!
just wanted to drop a message saying that i have only started watching your videos a couple of days ago but i knew the moment i started watching that you were such a positive, accepting and amazing person, that vibe literally radiates off of you. :-P thank you for showing people how worth it it is to be yourself and how happy it will make you. you truly inspire me, and i'm sure many others. keep doing what you do :-)
Jesus man, this is the third of your videos that I watched today that made me cry, this time talking about your mother's reaction. But it's all good. Looking forward for the next one.
I am really happy that Your family members are being SOOOOOOO SUPPORTIVE of You! Most importantly, Skylar, I have deep respect and admiration towards Your Courage, Honesty, Openness towards Yourself and people around You in life for being who You are!
When I first started questioning myself, like majorly, I found your videos and it was such a good thing that I did. I don't think I would have been able to come out nearly as soon as I did. You're such a huge inspiration to me and I cannot thank you enough for being the awesome dude you are
Hey Sky. So I'm 13 and I'm a transgender. I'm still questioning my gender in a way but your videos help me to understand more and the learn about all the complications involved with physical transitioning. thanks for all your help and also I still don't know how to come out to my parents. I've told a few of my really lose friends and they all have been supportive. also I'm so glad that things worked out with you and your brother. Lot's of Love XxX
Well, thank You Skylarkeleven. As I don’t know a lot about transgender I learned a lot and have a great respect for your courage and consequence and fully support your personal pursue of happiness. Regards from Germany Martin
So I do realize I'm commenting pretty late on this video, but I just found out about your channel and your experiences help me. Although I've been questioning for a while now and have felt make since eighth grade, I have been transitioning. My parents aren't supportive, neither is my sister, and they prefer to blame the people I hang out with/say I'm only looking for attention. It can get really bad with hurtful things said and it still occurring, but hearing your experiences throughout your lifetime and all the optimism and happiness you have to share have given me a little more optimism on my little problem. Much love :)
I honestly wish I could come out (as FtM transguy) to my parents but PoC parents are super old fashioned and traditional. Honestly I have no idea what to do, except just keep afloat. Thank you sky, watching your vids makes me feel a little safe for some reason? Haha anyways thank you 💕
I'm so happy for you :) You really have a soothing voice that makes your video very informative and nice to watch! You have great communication skills!
Awesome! I told my theripist about you.. He really thinks your awesome! I think he said he was going to email you and ask you about going to schools! He really is proud of me for just being open about my transition and I told him I couldn't of done it with out sky!!!
Yes, it is my own personal suggestion. I suggest it from the moment someone begins questioning their gender to include others on that, if they feel comfortable. Because for me, I realized that this would be a huge shock to my parents to just come out and be like "I identify as a guy.." They weren't a part at all of my questioning process, but I wish I had made them more of a part of it. In the same way that, if I were to ever date a man again (open to it,) I'd likely let my family/friends know it's something I've been thinking about. Then, when I start dating them, it won't be like a huge "coming out as pansexual/gay/queer/whatnot" but more like "oh yeah, Sky's been thinking about this a while, looks like he's happy, yay." For me personally, coming out as transgender came as a huge shock to those who were not involved in my questioning phase - because it seemed like I just woke up and "decided it." Whereas, for those I told "hey, I've been thinking about my gender la la la" and updated them a bit on my thoughts over the course of a year or so, they were not at all surprised when I came out but they also weren't shocked when I said I was questioning it ;) - Once again though, I want to reiterate that this is just my suggestion when it is possible - by no means it there a right or wrong way to come out or assert one's identity!! I definitely am lucky. :)
Hey man, I just came out as FtM to my friends and now all that's left to do is come out to mom and dad. I'm terrified. I'm out to them as bigender and my mom hates it. What do I do?
It's up to you Bailey! Maybe tell your dad first, since it sounds like he is less adverse? I think that whenever you are ready to have the conversation, that would be a good time :)
yeah Lee! I have a 3 part video series with my mom - just search "skylarkeleven mom" in youtube and it will come on up :D i will make a more recent video with her too!
You're a brave (and really handsome!) young man. I hope a wonderful future lies in front of you and that you find a girl who loves you wholeheartedly. You deserve every ounce of love in this world.
Hey Sky I was wondering which video [of yours] would be best to use to help inform my mom? I get nervous and anxious when I try to bring the topic up of transitioning & being an FtM to my mom so I find it best if I just show her one of your videos. You're very thorough in your videos and I enjoy them quite a lot.
hey my friend! i was thinking about making a video specifically for advice for parents/explanation. meaning, what i would want to say to my parents now if i could have then! but for the time being, i think my 3 part series of Q&A with my mom can help show our relationship as well as explain some things/her insecurities/anxieties and how they were resolved?
This is an amazing video, it almost made me cry it just made me so sad and so happy for you. I'm 14 and i'm sure i'm trans, but there's not vert many trans people in Denmark, i would wish that tho. Iv'e never met a trans person in my whole life. You're amazing!
Oh I have a video idea.. You should do things about how your school handled it! I mean I kinda know the answer because I went to the same school district but still that would be so awesome!
It makes me so happy that there are people like yourself on youtube - willing to share your experiences. As an active member of our local LGBTQ community back here in Norway, I know a lot of transpeople who have found comfort in your videos. :) Personally I have to say that, with all the variations we find in the world regarding how to define gender, this idea of biology being the key element (although a good theory) is highly insufficient, and extremely naive.. The "genderbread-person" you find online however - very ideal! - Silje
I look up to you Sky and trying to reach out for some support from the community. A popular youtuber (ItsJudyslife) recently made a video mentioning a trans woman, and saying "I wouldn't have thought she was born a man!" and that "Shes prettier than most women". I commented about how ignorant and disrespectful that comment was, and I'm currently getting bashed on the comments section. I use to be that ignorant person, saying those things without knowledge of it being offensive, until I got informed, educated and also discovered that I'm gender non-conforming.
You have my full support in pointing out that those comments are problematic in many ways. I recommend though, if others are bashing you, to exit the conversation peacefully. People will not learn when they do not want to, sadly.
Sigh, my mom keep quarrel when I told him I wanted to transgender and she start quarrel with me.. She doesn't know I'm not happy till I saw your video buck up my courage and speak to her end up.... :(
Sky your my inspiration at the moment ive been questioning my gender for about a year now.. And ive been finding it really reall difficult to come yit, my parents arent religeous, my mum has a homosexual friend.. Shes fine with him but im scared because i know deep down im a straight guy in a female body following the crowd.. And my family always make horrible comments towards lesbians.. Ive told a teacher.. But in the uk trans youth isnt that known.. Can you inbox me some help what i can do i am 14.
Hey sky, I'm a tom boy but this last year I have been wearing a bunch of girly things cause it pleases my mom. But I've always been a tomboy for as long as I can remember but the other day when I asked my mom if she will be fine that I will be going back to guys clothes (cause I hate girls clothes soo much!) she said that that would be fine and she would love me and all that stuff, but she said that I may send the wrong vibe to people. She said that most people will think that I am lesbian. And I said ok but I don't really don't want to appeal to people as being lesbian cause I don't think I am. Well, I'm just really confused right now in my life because I like boys but some times I look at girls and I'm like "ooh, if she was only my girlfriend." So I was wondering if you could talk to me cause I'm really confused what I am.
I had health insurance - doctor's copay was $20 and T was $20. Now, doctor's visit is $500 and T is $75 (a vial lasts me 8 months on average.) However, I did get a full-time job solely for the purpose of having health insurance. Most of my friends can't relate, as they are covered under their parents insurance until age 26. My dad is uninsured, and my mom's no longer can cover me since she is no longer working due to her disabilities.
skylarkeleven I also paid $20 for each therapy visit I had. I covered all those costs by working part time at a supermarket while I was in high school - as well as managed to save $3000 for top surgery during those four years!
I really like that you find yourself, you're beautiful and God knows it's true what I say, I'd love to meet you someday, that would be fabulous but there is much distance = ( GOD BLESS YOU AND I HOPE YOU ALL OUT GOOD (MANY KISSES FROM VENEZUELA)
You're very fortunate it was a easy acceptance from your family, I told my dad about a year before I told my mom, my sister about two months before I told my mom and she was 100% supportive, until she saw me in person and called me "auntie" which I can't stand. How could she be supportive and not use the correct pronouns, why is she not using "uncle" like I want. My mom refuses to recognize it at all, and my dad's reaction was a lot like yours.
+kraii kraii taytay Yeah, he does. He was actually dating girls before hand (I'm pretty sure...) and identified as a lesbian, but soon realised that he wasn't even a girl.
okay I have 2 questions to ask one kinda lame one I really like you're, opinion, kay here's the lame one, curvy or skinny(I kno lame) okay here's one thing that I really want you're opinion, do you have a Racial preference? aaand, is it considered racist to, have a racial preference? I just saw this interesting video on buzzfeed on, racial preference...I think uur an amazing aaand was wondering, what ur thoughts were..so, yea..luv u ..
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The joy you feel in your transition and in the acceptance that your family has shown really shines through your video. I am really glad (as a cis gay male) to hear your story. May you go from strength to strength! Thank you for sharing your life with us.
Great story. Thanks so much for taking the time to tell it. Hope your brother is living a more joyful life. Your poetic exhibition of his troubled life is one of the most moving things I've seen on the web, so thanks again for that video!
just wanted to drop a message saying that i have only started watching your videos a couple of days ago but i knew the moment i started watching that you were such a positive, accepting and amazing person, that vibe literally radiates off of you. :-P thank you for showing people how worth it it is to be yourself and how happy it will make you. you truly inspire me, and i'm sure many others. keep doing what you do :-)
Jesus man, this is the third of your videos that I watched today that made me cry, this time talking about your mother's reaction. But it's all good. Looking forward for the next one.
I am really happy that Your family members are being SOOOOOOO SUPPORTIVE of You! Most importantly, Skylar, I have deep respect and admiration towards Your Courage, Honesty, Openness towards Yourself and people around You in life for being who You are!
OMG! You are the most beautiful boy I ever saw!
Plus, you are intelligent, articulate, young...you have everything you need to be happy!!!!!
When I first started questioning myself, like majorly, I found your videos and it was such a good thing that I did. I don't think I would have been able to come out nearly as soon as I did. You're such a huge inspiration to me and I cannot thank you enough for being the awesome dude you are
Hey Sky. So I'm 13 and I'm a transgender. I'm still questioning my gender in a way but your videos help me to understand more and the learn about all the complications involved with physical transitioning. thanks for all your help and also I still don't know how to come out to my parents. I've told a few of my really lose friends and they all have been supportive. also I'm so glad that things worked out with you and your brother. Lot's of Love XxX
I'm glad thing went pretty well for you and that everything has turned out so great in the end. So glad your brother came around.
Well, thank You Skylarkeleven. As I don’t know a lot about transgender I learned a lot and have a great respect for your courage and consequence and fully support your personal pursue of happiness. Regards from Germany Martin
So I do realize I'm commenting pretty late on this video, but I just found out about your channel and your experiences help me. Although I've been questioning for a while now and have felt make since eighth grade, I have been transitioning. My parents aren't supportive, neither is my sister, and they prefer to blame the people I hang out with/say I'm only looking for attention. It can get really bad with hurtful things said and it still occurring, but hearing your experiences throughout your lifetime and all the optimism and happiness you have to share have given me a little more optimism on my little problem. Much love :)
I wish all people had such a kind soul like yours
I honestly wish I could come out (as FtM transguy) to my parents but PoC parents are super old fashioned and traditional. Honestly I have no idea what to do, except just keep afloat. Thank you sky, watching your vids makes me feel a little safe for some reason? Haha anyways thank you 💕
Your mom is awesome!! :O I wish my parents were even close to supportive!!
This is super inspiring, thanks for posting!
Glad your brother finally came around
This is so amazing, I am so happy for you!!
I'm so happy for you :)
You really have a soothing voice that makes your video very informative and nice to watch! You have great communication skills!
I love how you clearly explain things:) 1
I'd like to see a video with your brother! (if you want to?) :)
yes i totally want to do that and he does too!
skylarkeleven Sounds great. I'll look forward to it :)
You're such a gorgeous and genuinely lovely guy Sky! Love to watch your videos! Bless you :)
Your mom is an amazing person
I love your dad (and I think I am about his age)! :)
Nice video Sky!
Awesome! I told my theripist about you.. He really thinks your awesome! I think he said he was going to email you and ask you about going to schools! He really is proud of me for just being open about my transition and I told him I couldn't of done it with out sky!!!
Do you recommend coming out gradually like you did, even for someone sure of their identity?
You're really lucky to have to much support Sky (:
Yes, it is my own personal suggestion. I suggest it from the moment someone begins questioning their gender to include others on that, if they feel comfortable. Because for me, I realized that this would be a huge shock to my parents to just come out and be like "I identify as a guy.." They weren't a part at all of my questioning process, but I wish I had made them more of a part of it. In the same way that, if I were to ever date a man again (open to it,) I'd likely let my family/friends know it's something I've been thinking about. Then, when I start dating them, it won't be like a huge "coming out as pansexual/gay/queer/whatnot" but more like "oh yeah, Sky's been thinking about this a while, looks like he's happy, yay." For me personally, coming out as transgender came as a huge shock to those who were not involved in my questioning phase - because it seemed like I just woke up and "decided it." Whereas, for those I told "hey, I've been thinking about my gender la la la" and updated them a bit on my thoughts over the course of a year or so, they were not at all surprised when I came out but they also weren't shocked when I said I was questioning it ;) - Once again though, I want to reiterate that this is just my suggestion when it is possible - by no means it there a right or wrong way to come out or assert one's identity!!
I definitely am lucky. :)
Skylar you're a great person :]
Hey man, I just came out as FtM to my friends and now all that's left to do is come out to mom and dad. I'm terrified. I'm out to them as bigender and my mom hates it. What do I do?
It's up to you Bailey! Maybe tell your dad first, since it sounds like he is less adverse? I think that whenever you are ready to have the conversation, that would be a good time :)
Hey sky, do you have any videos of you and your mom? I would love to see that as well as you and your brother! :)
yeah Lee! I have a 3 part video series with my mom - just search "skylarkeleven mom" in youtube and it will come on up :D i will make a more recent video with her too!
:) gives me hope that my family is become more supportive.
You're a brave (and really handsome!) young man. I hope a wonderful future lies in front of you and that you find a girl who loves you wholeheartedly. You deserve every ounce of love in this world.
Hey Sky I was wondering which video [of yours] would be best to use to help inform my mom? I get nervous and anxious when I try to bring the topic up of transitioning & being an FtM to my mom so I find it best if I just show her one of your videos. You're very thorough in your videos and I enjoy them quite a lot.
hey my friend! i was thinking about making a video specifically for advice for parents/explanation. meaning, what i would want to say to my parents now if i could have then! but for the time being, i think my 3 part series of Q&A with my mom can help show our relationship as well as explain some things/her insecurities/anxieties and how they were resolved?
Thank you very much :)
why is there in my computer related videos of dan from dan and phil 's draw my life? is this a sign?
This is an amazing video, it almost made me cry it just made me so sad and so happy for you. I'm 14 and i'm sure i'm trans, but there's not vert many trans people in Denmark, i would wish that tho. Iv'e never met a trans person in my whole life. You're amazing!
Oh I have a video idea.. You should do things about how your school handled it! I mean I kinda know the answer because I went to the same school district but still that would be so awesome!
great idea! i can talk about high school :) i wish we had been there at the same time my friend! :)
Me to dude
How long ago did u graduate
charliebaleno over four years ago :)
Oh haha
It makes me so happy that there are people like yourself on youtube - willing to share your experiences. As an active member of our local LGBTQ community back here in Norway, I know a lot of transpeople who have found comfort in your videos. :)
Personally I have to say that, with all the variations we find in the world regarding how to define gender, this idea of biology being the key element (although a good theory) is highly insufficient, and extremely naive..
The "genderbread-person" you find online however - very ideal!
- Silje
I look up to you Sky and trying to reach out for some support from the community. A popular youtuber (ItsJudyslife) recently made a video mentioning a trans woman, and saying "I wouldn't have thought she was born a man!" and that "Shes prettier than most women". I commented about how ignorant and disrespectful that comment was, and I'm currently getting bashed on the comments section. I use to be that ignorant person, saying those things without knowledge of it being offensive, until I got informed, educated and also discovered that I'm gender non-conforming.
You have my full support in pointing out that those comments are problematic in many ways. I recommend though, if others are bashing you, to exit the conversation peacefully. People will not learn when they do not want to, sadly.
Sigh, my mom keep quarrel when I told him I wanted to transgender and she start quarrel with me.. She doesn't know I'm not happy till I saw your video buck up my courage and speak to her end up.... :(
Sky your my inspiration at the moment ive been questioning my gender for about a year now.. And ive been finding it really reall difficult to come yit, my parents arent religeous, my mum has a homosexual friend.. Shes fine with him but im scared because i know deep down im a straight guy in a female body following the crowd.. And my family always make horrible comments towards lesbians.. Ive told a teacher.. But in the uk trans youth isnt that known.. Can you inbox me some help what i can do i am 14.
You are so attractive and a strong person. I love your videos
Hey sky, I'm a tom boy but this last year I have been wearing a bunch of girly things cause it pleases my mom. But I've always been a tomboy for as long as I can remember but the other day when I asked my mom if she will be fine that I will be going back to guys clothes (cause I hate girls clothes soo much!) she said that that would be fine and she would love me and all that stuff, but she said that I may send the wrong vibe to people. She said that most people will think that I am lesbian. And I said ok but I don't really don't want to appeal to people as being lesbian cause I don't think I am. Well, I'm just really confused right now in my life because I like boys but some times I look at girls and I'm like "ooh, if she was only my girlfriend." So I was wondering if you could talk to me cause I'm really confused what I am.
Great video! You are also very handsome.
Your so cute!!
Omg I completely thought you were a gay guy when I saw this video! You pull it off really well
At age 17 how were you able to pay for your T?
I had health insurance - doctor's copay was $20 and T was $20. Now, doctor's visit is $500 and T is $75 (a vial lasts me 8 months on average.) However, I did get a full-time job solely for the purpose of having health insurance. Most of my friends can't relate, as they are covered under their parents insurance until age 26. My dad is uninsured, and my mom's no longer can cover me since she is no longer working due to her disabilities.
skylarkeleven I also paid $20 for each therapy visit I had. I covered all those costs by working part time at a supermarket while I was in high school - as well as managed to save $3000 for top surgery during those four years!
I really like that you find yourself, you're beautiful and God knows it's true what I say, I'd love to meet you someday, that would be fabulous but there is much distance = (
GOD BLESS YOU AND I HOPE YOU ALL OUT GOOD (MANY KISSES FROM VENEZUELA)
i'd love to come to venezuela one day! :)) thank you so much for your kind words!
You're very fortunate it was a easy acceptance from your family, I told my dad about a year before I told my mom, my sister about two months before I told my mom and she was 100% supportive, until she saw me in person and called me "auntie" which I can't stand. How could she be supportive and not use the correct pronouns, why is she not using "uncle" like I want. My mom refuses to recognize it at all, and my dad's reaction was a lot like yours.
so do u date girls now
+kraii kraii taytay Yeah, he does. He was actually dating girls before hand (I'm pretty sure...) and identified as a lesbian, but soon realised that he wasn't even a girl.
I was 8 :P
It's strange to think of people referring to you as a female. In my brain you are a really adorable transguy. (Is this offensive? I am sorry if it is)
okay I have 2 questions to ask one kinda lame one I really like you're, opinion,
kay here's the lame one, curvy or skinny(I kno lame)
okay here's one thing that I really want you're opinion, do you have a Racial preference? aaand, is it considered racist to, have a racial preference? I just saw this interesting video on buzzfeed on, racial preference...I think uur an amazing aaand was wondering, what ur thoughts were..so, yea..luv u ..