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Such great advice! I’m an old woman, and I overheard some young men in a restaurant describing how they have given up dating because of the abuse they receive from women. I was shocked! I have been lucky enough to know many terrific and admirable men who deserve praise and respect. Young men today are swimming valiantly upstream against a flood of badly-advised badly-raised female brats. I predict these “Princesses” will be needy and alone once their bodies go to seed in middle age. My advice is treasure your natural masculinity. Don’t let ANYONE put you down for your desire to be loved. Oust every sneering person in your life. You have a right to your own opinion, and don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. Pursue happiness!!!!!
Thank you Mary.
Mary, we appreciate you a ton.
The senior generation a women knew best.
The industrial revolution is robbing men of there masculinity. It's a form of population control. Some men don't even argue using logic and facts. I have tried using facts and logic. Regarding looks physical attraction studies stats data etc. It failed it continues to fail. Some dudes deflect attack your character or use what aboutis'm
Thank you Mary, it has indeed felt like swimming upstream
I was in a 12-year marriage and didn't know I was being abused until I went to a therapist and he opened my eyes and explained how to deal with my abuser. My wife hated my therapist because she completely lost control of me afterward. I will always be grateful to that therapist because he gave me the key to my jail cell. Probably the best money I have ever spent. How much is your freedom not to be treated like garbage worth?
"Even when he successfully pointed out something horrible she was doing she would flip it around and make it his fault. Everything was always his fault"
DARVO = Deflect And Reverse Victimization Order
They'll abuse the sanity out of you, and have you believing it was your fault, and society will be on her side because she's just a helpless woman.
My last relationship was like that . It’s very scary when you are in the middle of it . When you are in it , you don’t know better , especially for me since it was my first real relationship . It took my friend telling me that she was emotionally manipulative and would question my own sanity . I’m healing now
@@1028dash yeah man, it's hard to see a way out when you're the bad guy, and doubly so if you're not the bad guy, but have been gaslighted into believing you are. It broke me for sometime, I acted out myself, I didn't know how to digest that pain.
A+ explanation
Gaslighting
I had this happen first hand with an ex of mine. Exactly how you said it.
If you experience arguments longer then 4 hours, seek a doctor immediately.
This comment is now 4 hour old...🤣
Girls can get hate bon*rs lasting 40 years let alone 4hrs.
More than 1h
Nah!!!
Just get rid of her..
And REAL swiftly!
no run like hell
"The power of abusers isn't in their originality. It's in their secrecy."
They can be totally clumsy. More power comes from their grim determination and will to control.
Isolation is the soul of manipulation. A friend was targeted by a female vampire. She planted seeds of mistrust and anger between him and anyone he had previously had a relationship with, until she was all he had. It ended with his suicide.
@@RLCoombes But this is not considered violence or abuse, and therefore women play the victims using selective stats that do not reflect their own violent behaviours.
And cunning, calculating cruelty. Abuse is wrong no matter which sex is doing it. But too often women get a free pass on it, including from family court judges.
@@RLCoombes very sorry to hear that. Can relate to that. Deep Depression took me several times n health went to hell n still not recovered yet. Covert Narcs are probably worse than Overt Narcs, as at least we can see the latter more clearly, but when bipolar or bps, they fool us with charm n love bombs to seduce and manipulate, but that's what witches do, knowingly or unknowingly... Same for men though, who've been traumatised by toxic mothers...
Their tactics of witches warlocks...
Dominate
Intimidate
Seduce
Manipulate
Instigate
Insinuate
They Never act like that in public, only in Secret, so ppl think you're mad or lying,... Until they're discovered.
Men need healing frm PTSD , counselling from these Jezebels,*
And to be far more wise, discerning when choosing a new female, pref one that's devoid of feminism entirely.
That's the key poison right there. Akin to witchcraft.
Once men see it. Run like the Terminator is chasing you.
God bless you All
*=even Deliverance.
The pattern of abuse is so typical that almost every man listening to this might feel that you are actually talking about his personal experience.
that's 200% true hahaha
I can confirm this many times. No wonder i don’t date now
Reminds me of my mom
True. I was a serial abuser magnet. Now I'm alone but happy, reconsiddering gender relations in general. Thanks for charing!
@@civilized_half-orc5689 build a great life, get better at vetting people as you develop soft skills, and good women will find you. If they don’t, then at least you built a great life & you can result to buying companionship, travel etc then.
I was in the exact same position as that man. My ex would always twist everything she did to me into saying that she had the right to do it, that i was the jerk, that i deserved it because i was worse. The guy who was together with her before me snapped and laid his hands on her, he went to court and he has been unemployed for years now, basically got his life ruined because of her. Im so glad i could control myself and never laid my hands on her, because there was alot of times where i just wanted to shake her head against a wall.
I havnt been in a single relationship since then and ive met alot of women who gives me those warning signs and i know alot of men who doesnt have anything to say in their relationships, they are like dogs taking commands from their girlfriends. And whenever i speak up i get told im a woman hater. its disgusting how it is these days
Accurate because this is my exact experience.....
So true. World is crazy
It's like you are standing in waist deep water. She goes under water and starts stabbing you in the leg with a steak knife. She pops back up and you yell at her "What is wrong with you!?!" And if no one takes the time to search out facts, or worse says steak knife leg stabbing is OK, you are a bad guy with anger issues. There is no win possible there. Been there. I'm glad you got out.
That said, now that I am single again, my life is good. When asked why I don't date? "I like peace. How would dating bring more peace into my life?" Sometimes riotous laughter is the response.
I too have been told I'm a woman hater. I'm not. I don't hate crocodiles either. I do understand some things about their nature and act accordingly.
@@13redlion13 Exactly.........and when it comes to sex you can always hire hookers! At least you won't be sexually frustrated!
@euclon1 Right!
Borderline Personality Disorder
Been there, done that.
She had me convinced it WAS ME.
It took someone outside of that relationship to identify the disorder to me.
I was completely ignorant.
It's the ignorance that gets you. You never in your wildest dreams do you think that someone who is supposed to care about you could behave in such a manner. Their behavior is truly disgusting.
Been there brother
@@whynotthis77 ~ Indiana
@@wattjock bruh same lol
Or Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
As a music producer, women almost ruined my career twice. Never working with a woman again without an upfront release contract.
Care to elaborate? It sounds spooky
What do you mean by your front release contract?
@@CodyHazelleMusic An upfront release contract would be the equivalent to a prenup in the music business... :P
@@rBennich
Yes, yes! Tell us one of the stories. Just one.
@@rBennich please tell us a story i am interested to hear it
Lol at the workplace (as software engineer) I had a woman screaming to the top of her voice 5 cm away from my face. Someone called management.. and calmly said "please take notice that I'm the object of a verbal aggression". Then I was called by management and asked to apologize.. Then they let me go.
Considered legal action against the woman and the establishment?
- Her actions directly cost you your job.
- They failed as a provider to look after their employee.
I'm not sure on your standing, but if that happened to me, I'd be in a attorneys office immediately.
Men are guilty by default 😥
That is just straight up insane
@defeneck what is that going to do? He was fired because the woman was screaming in his face. You think the courts are fair to men? They will probably put him in jail if he takes it to court.
Evolutionary trait - deceiving and manipulating because they had less physical strength.
@@jegs2462 narcissistic people in general have no insight to themselves. No selfawareness. Women have high Egos and narcissistic tendencies.
U god damn right. And many men are not aware of this.
@@jegs2462 This is a scary trait, and there is little general recognition around it, which is also a big concern.
@@jegs2462 That's evolutionary too. Their brains have evolved to not be self-aware of bad behavior that provides them with more resources as then they might not do it, thereby reducing their chances of survival and procreation.
It's also a cultural trait as well. A societal sense of entitlement from the learned victim oppressor dynamic. Where women are painted and riled up as the victims and men as the oppressors. However, that dynamic is actually equalizing and reversing in some cases. Feminism teaches women that men are supposed to act in certain ways and are to comply with feminism. We see this through feminism telling men to be more emotional, the silencing of men in the public mainstream, the neglect and obliviousness of men's issues in society to favour the feminist agenda. Telling more to take up home labor, propagating the falsity of the gender wage gap in order to give younger cohorts of women a financial advantage. In a lot of ways this is a societal oppression of men.
When men don't conform to their high expectations, or women don't hold themselves to their same equivalent standards they hold men to, them become angry. It can manifest into what appears to be a narcissistic sociopathathic disorder, sometimes with verbal or physical abuse, or treating men as disposable. Leading to the majority of divorce cases issued by women. The trough of marriage and fertility rates when men don't meet their expectations. Add in an inflated ego from all the attention women get from dating apps and the hook up culture we live in, helps to create that narcissistic sociopath disorder.
To fix this, feminism should be more emphatic to men, closer to how men are constantly taught to be more emphatic to women's issues. I don't think that should or can be done under the banner of feminism either.
My ex wife was what I would term a covert abuser, the worst part is nobody believed me and did not care how bad I felt.
Yes. Mine too. See my abv comment.
Gas lighting us.
A lot of us guys don't see or understand we're being abused. So much attention and care has been around looking after women men have not even become an after thought.
Women understand that they will always be protected in any situation that it's become a my word vs your word type of a situation. This is the kind of environment that not only facilitates but encourages abuse.
Because do you honestly need to be told that if a woman is just screaming at you for 4 hours a day that thats not a healthy relationship and you should leave?
@@baltulielkungsgunarsmiezis9714 Do you think young boys being yelled at and physically assaulted by their mothers every day doesn't normalise that behaviour so when they enter abusive relationships as adults, men think it's a normal way of communicating? This could go either way, boys become the abusive men, or they become the abused men in future relationships. You don't know what's "normal" until you're shown normal.
@@Cornelius429 It is not my responcibility to care for the lowborn.
@@baltulielkungsgunarsmiezis9714 what the hell is a lowborn and I'm not telling you to take responsibility but you asked a question and I gave you an answer to ponder on. What you do with that is up to you.
I spent 12 years in a relationship with a woman who blamed me for everything, minimized my needs, gaslit frequently, controlled every aspect of our relationship, and was emotionally and physically abusive. I'm still struggling to come to terms with the fact that I allowed myself to be in that position for so long. I lost all my confidence and had no concept of self worth. I understand that she's not to blame for everything. I made a lot of mistakes too, but I do understand now that I was in an abusive relationship. We're divorced now and I'm working on me. Doing what feels good, establishing new routines that fuel personal growth, and getting back on my feet. Information like this is a tremendous help and is validating. Thank you!
WTF how clueless are most men? And they say pride is a sin when it prevents me from ever having had a relationship with anyone who doesnt respect me.
If you lost everything, and wound up with a borrowed tent and portable TV
you finally get to watch what YOU want. You fish where you please now.
Can't put a price on THAT.
Been with my wife for 24 years I have not argued with her for 8 hours in all that time. I know we are rare but if she ever leaves or cheats I am both ready and have no plans to ever be in another relationship. Just feel sorry for your client.
👍
Exactly how I feel about my relationship op. Mines seven years going on eight. She completely understands why marriage isn't an option.
Your wife sounds awesome. Is she ugly or overweight?
I Am I figured lol
@I Am how would u know? U were no where in this thread. Albert wasnt asking u the question but the original poster.
I've been in an abusive relationship once, it was a terrible experience.
The number one symptom I now observe when I retrospect on the matter was my blindness and pompous chivalry, I was so convinced everything was my fault that i covered up for all her fowl attitudes. Now, I'm so grateful the best thing I did was ditched the relationship.
"Imagine going through all of that and not knowing you're in an abusive relationship"
Well....you just helped me see the truth about a relationship I had ten years ago, so I mean...
Most relationships I've seen were abusive towards the guy.
That's the dirty little secret the media and Hollywood don't want people to know.
Me too. Most relationships I have seen, the woman is always controlling and bossing the man around. Its worse for married men, they just kind of give up on life and do what she says.
You're consulting with Johnny Depp??
Yeah, Amanda Turd giving him problems again 😂🤦🏾♂️
The treatment meted out to Depp particularly by the media shows that men dont get a fair hearing when victims of domestic abuse.
LOL! Good one!
Joe Vloggs, +1 internet's for you. LOL
EEEEEEAAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!!!
I dated a woman just like this. We also fought for hours. I also started recording our fights out of my own safety.
Same. I played them a week or two later to go over what was said. Funny how it sounds different when you give some time and a clear head.
#metoo
My girlfiend in college was abusive. I didn't notice it at first but it was a slow realization. One of the major milestones near the end of the relationship was an argument we had in front of one of her friends. My ex looks me straight in the face and says "I hate how you're suddenly standing up for yourself." Isn't that what you're suppose to do?
The Most Pain a Man can experience is being Poisoned by the thing he loves the most. No wonder not many guys let their walls down...
The exact moment when a girlfriend I had start offending and treating me with irony and sarcasm.. that was the exact moment when I told her: stop. You are out of my life. 🤷♂️
Yes. If we don't tell them. They'll B emboldened. They'll try provoke you, to accuse you, if you get angry, then blame you. Run. Run. Run.
I went through this seven years ago. Married now, beautiful wife, beautiful daughter. But that old relationship still comes back to haunt me.
At least you know that deep down she's far more miserable than she could ever attempt to make you. Nasty people are never internally happy. Nice and generous people may be able to suffer abuse and sadness but once you're out of that situation you will actually be capable of happiness that your abuser could never experience. She was trying to drag you down to her level. I bet even at the worst of it you could still find some reasons to smile and laugh here and there. She on the other hand was always miserable and always will be.
I especially resonated with the part in which you said "We as a society have normalized female negative behavior". This is incredibly important and most worrisome. I Find it absurd that we are less able to have nuanced conversations and discuss these topics openly and freely in the year 2020 (in which we have litteral electric cars) than we were able to in 19th century. Ain't that crazy?
When comments like these, are considered hate speech on u tu be, things won't change very soon.
@@awestruck9075 Hate speech is speech the left hates, or in this case, women and brainwashed men.
Truth sounds like hate to those who hate the truth.
Sooooooo true
Literally everything you say is false.
This is the exact same problem with marriage counseling.
Sadly a lot of counselors fail to identify the abuse / the partner with a severe personality disorder
Elaborate more plz
A lot of marriage counselors push a leftist agenda and always find a way to pin everything on the guy. I've talked to guys who have tried the marriage counseling route, and they said this is exactly what happened to them.
SpongeBath ShitPants I can attest to this. Tried counseling at our church and I was gaslighted and abused throughout the sessions. My soon to be ex wife manipulated the pastor and threw me under the bus for everything. The pastor wasn’t equipped to detect and or handle the situation.
True. Most counselors just “cut the baby in half” and assume there’s a little blame to go around on both sides. Frankly, I wonder if most counselors even care to help resolve people’s problems. After all, the sooner they find a resolution for you, you stop paying them. Why would they do that? It sounds cynical, but really, think about it...
"the power of abusers isn't in their originality, it's in their secrecy"
that is one hell of a true statement my friend.
"Their are no strong women, just weak men".
- Rachel Welch
'We are a generation of men raised by women.' Tyler Durden
@@jumhed994 So true. A generation of fatherless men.
This video, about this topic, is a much needed one.
I used to hang with a girl which was a sick one. She definitely has some kind of bipolar disorder. She was doing horrible things in her relations, and unfortunately to me too. Mine psychological defense was too record all the conversations with her. I thought that I was going crazy, but thank to these recordings, thanks to the certainty that she said what she said, because I have a proof of that, I started to shake off my feeling of guilt. I started to see that she is highly abusive and psychotic.
I didn't shared these recording with no one, but I have them deeply hidden. They remind me to beware of crazy b*****es.
I also had this idea sometimes. Abusive people can bring me into states, in which i don't have access to logical reasoning. It's their trick. I'm especially affected due to some ADHS symtomatic.
Protect those recordings from her with your life
I had a video recording of a woman punching me in the face. I took it to police to have her charged with assault but they would not even take my statement.
Its still a great idea to record abusive partners, to protect yourself.
@@tubester4567 you could have sued the local township that the police department was in with a federal lawsuit. They take action all the time when a woman says they’re hit but they took no action on your part and you had video evidence. You had a strong case
@@Freedom-Fighter1 Right. I thought about taking it further but in the end I just moved away and ghosted that person. It was my sister btw.
been abused in horrible ways....scars are still fresh but....seeing these videos helps healing. Thank you
Nobody is immune from being caught in an abusive relationship.
i am ;)
I am immune. "Why don't you date?" I like peace. How would dating bring more peace into my life?
@@johnvanegmond1812 That's self-quarantine, not immunity 😆
@@troyrollo Brilliant! :)
I don't think that's right. There are people confident enough in themselves and experienced enough with relationships/the nature of people, that they just won't accept an abusive relationship because they see the other person for what they are.
I nearly married a physiologically abusive woman. It snuck up on me, initially she was all sweetness and light but gradually every wrong I supposedly committed had some contorted logic behind it. After gradually escalating arguments, it was 11 months in before I realised that I still did not have a copy of the house key to the place I was living. That is when the lightbulb went on for me and I knew I had to get out fast. After leaving her she even held all my stuff hostage.
So pleased you got out man, and I'm sorry you went through that terrible period of life.
How long ago was this, and did you recover your things?
Please, now it’s the most critical moment. Never forget what you lived and be back to her. I had a friend who knows perfectly who the woman is; she does wrong and accuses him of everything. He ended up the relationship and talked to me again, but after some months he is back to her, so I’ve lost my friend again. Please, watch out. Suround you with good people in whom you can trust, remember watching videos like this and be strong. I pray you can find a good woman to make you happy. God bless you, man!
So I was living with this woman and I knew I had to go but I knew she would freak out if she knew I was leaving. The next morning when she went to work I had four of my friends come over and we loaded a U-Haul truck fast as hell lol. She came home absolutely confused to see all my stuff gone. Be smarter than them guys.
@@chrism.1749 lol you never get to recover your things the law will be on their side. well that was always my luck.
This was pure gold! Validated my almost 14 year marriage. Divorce is pending.
The saying Happy wife happy life is born out of a woman's natural ability to manipulate and control.
Funny thing is....that's their only ability
Happy husband or gtfo my house
@who knows that kind of thinking can go both ways: if she's faithful and caring, then the husband will do anything for her.
That saying was used more to describe the wife who needed her husband to bend over backwards to avoid an argument at home. Marriage was not invented for women lol
@@unthawedwater747 I agree, that saying has always meant just let the woman's opinion win, or just agree with the woman, even when she is wrong.
I HATE that saying...
The most abusive relationship I had was with a law student. Lost hearing from a slap to the ear, broken furniture , all the insults possible and minimizing me as a man. Still she didn’t think that was abuse. She will be a wonderful prosecutor tho... most of our relationship was an investigation against me. She was abused by her ex husband in exactly the same way.
Your fault. You made your choice to take it.
@@JAYMOAP Yes and no. You can break up immediately after getting hit, but you'd still have 'taken it', as you were actually hit and could've lost hearing regardless. So you're blaming the victim without actually knowing the story. At the same time, you're not going to break up a relationship over a single insult, so the question is, where does one draw the line? For a lot of people, especially decent secure people who haven't gotten an incline what's abuse, it takes a while to assess when it's becoming abusive. They give their lover the benefit of the doubt until they're either fed up with it or educated by video's like this, also most likely she didn't hit him on the first date. These things grow worse over time...in the beginning they're always sweet like an angel, once you become attached or invested, things start trickling down hill until it becomes a torrent of abuse.
@@JAYMOAP A man pours out his heart and soul and this is the response he gets. We should be supporting each other, but men are often no better than women in this regard.
This sort of thing is far more common than most people realise. I hope you are in a much better place now.
@@rey_nemaattori it's immaturity, and yes you can break up at ANY POINT, regardless what the situation is. When you don't do so, you take on account the consequences of how your removal of the situation will effect them, while in reality such situation should not been taken place to begin with. You responsible for your yourself first, and there are different protocols for anything else. You guys are full of self pity, and lack principles, self respect, masculinity, and leadership qualities.
RELATIONSHIPS DOES NOT REQUIRE LOVE.THEY REQUIRE RECIPROCITY AND MATURITY.
I used to accept abuse because I thought it was normal because it is what I experienced growing up. I also tolerated so many problems because I am "Mr. Fixit"
I know what you mean Jon. Im glad you found this channel and others like it.
This video alone would make all my months as a patron worth it. This could literally save lives.
Sadly, there was no instruction for men back in the day. In retrospect, as an older man, this information would have saved considerable pain and confusion. After many attempts to pacify an abusive woman, I simply gave her an ultimatum which she predictably ignored. Bottom line: you can never bargain with an abuser. Leaving is the only option; save self reflection for later.
Basically modern relationships in a nutshell. I've been in similar situations in which I'll admit to openly being at fault (when I'm wrong) or both of us being at fault to avoid the situation getting out of control. I find women in general don't want to take responsibility on almost any level. The biggest problem is that so many guys will stick it out thinking if I an change so will she, which normally is never the case.
Bingo!
"I find women in general don't want to take responsibility on almost any level. The biggest problem is that so many guys will stick it out thinking if I an change so will she, which normally is never the case." This is %100 percent true. Until YT, I couldn't figure out why she didn't take any responsibility.
And I a relic of a bygone age do not tolerate the sickness of modernity.
A woman whose held accountable by herself. That's a Unicorn. A Unicorn made from Gold, Diamonds, and Rainbows with Pure Dove Wings and Feathers. Goddamn Pegasus.
This story hit so close to the chest.
Years ago ex-wife and I abruptly separated in January. And for an entire year I was tormented trying to figure out why? Why my marriage is failing? Why are we separated? And why no matter me asking she refuse to give me one reason. Dec 24th same year a close friend reached out concerned about my appearance... The weight loss ... My absence socially .... Reached out with truth of my marriage that was not available to me. Multiple video evidence of my ex-wife and her co-worker eeriely resemblancing of me in an extra relationship.
Men naturally try to fix problems especially in their marriage ... And drawing a blank to the why's of my marriage.
Nothing relieves the weight like the truth. Seeing the truth instantly made me feel better... Indifferent about her but better about myself.
I caught the ex cheating just weeks before the wedding. Someone tipped her off that I was aware, so she planned her defense before I even got home to confront her about it and end the relationship. Her defense was "How could you do this to me!? You ruined my life!"
What? wow.
As a survivor myself and my daughter's. I agree with almost all you said. The hardest thing to me was the gang gaslighting that hit from others who had no idea. I was in therapy for about 5 years. Maybe a little longer. Honestly I wouldn't have found you if I hadn't been a survivor. I truly hope you are able to get more media attention and share this more men. I myself try to mentor other men who are recovering in support groups. Yes this is real.
100pc Agree and concur. Thnx Brother
She's cheating on him 1000%
Or she's so terrified that she's undesirable and that he could be cheating, that she makes his life Hell, and ends up making herself undesirable by doing so. Either way she's letting her pride keep him in an abusive relationship instead of realizing her own faults and working to fix them.
@@theradiantdehd3997 that happens a lot.
@@PrinceRevolver Yeah, unfortunately it doesn't take much to create an abusive relationship, and it takes A LOT to realize that it is abusive.
Not neccesarily. Being abusive just for the kick works just fine as I see it.
Now that you mentioned that..
I believe that.
Or she will be cheating on him REAL soon..
Good that you talk about this situation. It has gotten less attention than it should have.
I came out of a very toxic family with a super narcissist for a father, and a spectacularly codependent and enabling mother, and this led to three or four abusive relationships with women, very toxic women, and I didn't even know it, because I was so used to being abused as a child. It took me until my late 40s, I was living in Nicaragua, and I spent a year and a half binge-watching the narcissistic personality disordered healing community on UA-cam. Start with Meredith Miller of Inner Integration.
im going to watch now......Ill let you know how it goes.
I'm currently binge-watching a LOT of stuff on youtube too. Luckily I just spent 7 months with my narcissistic girl. Absolute zero doubt about her sickness. (It's rare for me to have no doubts about something)
I recall enjoying one or two of her videos, I'll check out more, thanks. I can also highly recommend Richard Grannon. Top-notch man and material.
@@MikePeiman I love Richard Grannon out of AU
Yeah I'm doing same. 👊🏽🦁
2:30 4 hours? - that's newbies stuff.. try 6 or 9 with my ex. Things didn't stop untill she got so upset that she ran and locked herself in the bathroom or she gets her way. Usually the first and it all came down to something I did serveral mouths or even years before and had nothing to do with whatever had happened that day. Needless to say that didn't last because argueing/fighting for that long is sooo tirering.
Edit: Watching the rest of the video I can relate even more cause this relationship was with a narcissistic girlfriend. She discredited everything I did and could even start a fight over the tone of my voice. It became a daily thing that one thing or another had to be discussed because we didn't see eye to eye and she could manipulate everything get be in her favor.
This relationship went on for 4 years and it was first about 2-3 years (mind 4 years AFTER the relationsship ended) ago that I stumpled upon videoen on narcisism that it finally clicked for me that this was what I had been exposed to. - This entire experience have deeply scared me when approathing women as it have made me very unsure of my actions towards women. An ability I didn't have before but is slowly getting rid of.
I'm so thankful that now I don't have to wonder what kind of crazy I'm going to find when I come home. And all my stuff is right where I left it. I've got a book next to the couch where I sit. Just got off work and I'm tuckered and a little nap sounds good. Then fix whatever I want to for supper. In my mostly clean, uncluttered house. And you know what's in my shower? Nope, no rats size gobs of hair to pull out of the drain. A bar of soap and one, yes, only one bottle of shampoo. Some day I might date again. When I decide that I no longer value peace and want to invite turbulence into my life.
My BPD ex made me go way over 4h (more like 16h) by threatening suicide, and that was when I had to go to sleep because I would work on the next day, I even called sick in the end because I couldn't sleep. Then the next week she would get into fights with me saying that I didn't care and never did anything for her, and that I hated her because I was pressuring her to get treatment, that if I loved her than I should let her recover in her own pace.
you do realize that a narcissist,, sociopath and psychopath are similar
they lack empathy
they are toxic and bad news if they become involved in your life
NARCISSISTIC ABUSE BRO, BEEN THERE MYSELF THAT WAS MY WHOLE 2019, HAD NO IDEA WHAT WAS GOING ON UNTIL MY SISTER POINTED IT OUT!!!
The girlfriend has border line personality. Run as fast as possible from Borderlines.
Really appreciate your Honesty Alex, not many Therapists life coaches or advisors would admit they were wrong, possibly because they didn't know the whole story, or missed a part that wasn't revealed, as you said listened to the recording..nice one..
It's exactly why im getting a divorce, abusive for 25 years. Gaslighting, blaming, cheating, never takes any responsibility,...ie etc Thank you for shedding light on this issue.
That’s heartbreaking. I’m glad you were able to show him the light. My best friend went through a similar thing. It’s just as bad or worse than physical abuse.
“He is a good guy.” I think I found the problem.
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Man, watching you videos I've learn a lot an help me realize I had been in an abusive relatonship in the past, and now I am in a healtier relationship with myself, So, Thank you
"of how collectively we have normalized low quality woman behavior" this is so right its unreal
"Yes dear. You're right. A happy wife is a happy life" isn't good advice. It's actually a sign of a submissive man in a one way relationship choosing to not speak up on his behalf due to a overarching threat from someone who is suppose to love them.
Men will sacrifice what is right and do what they know is wrong in order to avoid turbulence from their wives.
So how much did you charge Johnny Depp for the consultation?
You have my gratitude, now I am finally with the woman that I do feel proud of. She has a great heart, she is funny and she is beautiful with a great sport and healthy habits. Thanks to your videos I put my standards high and never accept a woman who did fit in my life.
You are a great youtuber because of your honesty and you showed in this video a lot of humbleness.
Thanks again
Happy for you!
This story, just described my life with my ex wife...literally!!!
I was trying to fix it for 18 years, then I left, she was never going to change her narcissistic personality.
No win there..
Thank you for the great insightful video!
Greetings from Ireland 👍🏻
He MUST leave her. She's evil.
You are doing a great service young man. I'm truly grateful, I've recommended your channel to many men and will to my son in a couple of years (he's 11).
As someone who has experienced in some part the same story I am very happy to support you on Patreon to get this kind of message out to people.
Great video, AG. No first-hand experience with this type of situation, but it hurts me just to hear about others going through it. Thanks for trying to help these poor folks.
Nobody has taken me seriously for 2 years AFTER the relationship.
In my university years, my senior roommate told me, "Do not talk about anything happens here to outside." An incident happen, I told a outside person and he was pissed. He never was able to manipulate me.
In a club I was in, the abuser president said, "Never disclose anything what happens in this club."
Bosses in office have rules against disclosing salaries and office matters outside.
Abusers fear whistle-blowing.
Spread this message, encourage others in whistle-blowing.
By the way, in relationship, especially in woman-side, the opposite is also true. When her friends know details about her relationship, they brainwash her, insert toxicity in her mind about her partner.
It took me 28years to wake up to the fact i was in an abusive toxic relationship?? It happens unfortunately
OMG! I've been in two marriages - and both times I was suicidal or looking to disappear into europe - only thing holding me back was that I couldn't do that to my siblings....
Fantastic Alex, really brilliant. Do more on abusive women
My baby mom was like that, she would switch her emotions on and off and she always smirked and laughed at me during our arguments. The worst part about the whole thing is she would reverse everything on me as if its all my fault. The bad part is that she start making me second guess myself. It was frustrating especially when I call her out on her bullshit but I am glad that I got out of that toxic relationship.
And this is why pride is a virtue, it makes you understand your worth.
Sounds like my mother. At 40, I'm still working with that dynamic in our relationship.
Imagine that for 8 hours? Nope, I don't need to. All day every day for about 6 months and the manipulation didn't stop even when I called it off. Pretty sure abusive women are an uncommon thing yet society always portrays men as the abusers🤷♂️
@DMO_Enterprises honestly, I think most men know when they are abusive and know it's wrong. A scum bag often embraces being a scum bag. A woman who is abusive knows objectively what is abuse but rarely will take responsibility for it. A man is the provider and the responsible one so obviously it's his fault. Equality today means All of the equality but none of the responsibilities and it has created monsters.
People think "abuse" means hitting, but it really means, literally, to take advantage of someone or something.
in abusive men's case, things are simple. 70% they hit her, it's a purely physical display of dominance, with some manipulation and/or gaslighting on the side. this is why it tends to be more obvious. in women's case, it's the reverse. they gaslight, manipulate you, and then hit you because they know they can. if you let yourself be manipulated like this, then you can't stop her from hitting you, according to her logic, you're an evil man anyway, so you deserve it. and in both cases, the message is this ''you're nothing. I can do what I want with you''. we as a society need to realize that abuse is abuse, therefore it's not okay no matter who the victim is.
These are mistakes that only experience teaches. Dont beat yourself up to much.
My first video on this channel... immediately subscribed! Very high quality and a lot of thought goes into this AND the others I have watched.
Just 4 of them taught me a lot - and have been on the planet for more than half a decade...
It didn’t occur to me until recently that this is domestic violence. I’m disgusted with the continued portrayal of domestic violence is that it’s all about men physically attacking women. I left the marriage 9 years ago because I had been thinking of ending my life. I have received regular therapy trying to fix what I thought were my shortcomings for approx 18 year. Despite my efforts and desire to improve as a man I was going deeper into depression and the feeling of hopelessness was becoming overwhelming. It’s only since I found out the truth that I have been a victim of domestic abuse, that I have started therapy for the real cause of my problems. Prior to that, not one of the many therapists I had repeated sessions with had recognised the abuse. I had even been referring to some incidents and suggesting I felt the psychological abuse should be considered as unacceptable as physical violence. I’m please to say I have made significant progress in my recovery in this past month. I do wish I never had to endure the years of needles suffering though.
Well done for recognising the real issue in the problem that was presented to you and for correcting the advice you gave
Yes. Definitely equal to if not more so than physical. As long term PTSD is the result frm the trauma. And if you're a sensitive guy, as I am, the trauma and pain is 100x worse, and years of therapy still doesn't heal the damage completely. Scarred for life. So I 100pc agree with your statements, and empathise, sympathise, and glad you're healing recovering, and a Survivor as its no wonder in 2014, 80pc of suicides were men, in 2016, 85 pc, in 2018, 90pc, and 2020,. Just be 95pc, and 2023 now. Probably 98pc. Things have got so bad,... hence men so fearful, young and older, to enter into R Ships with women, due to their schizophrenia toxic feminazi type BS and entitled mentality...
Any good women out there are rarer than rubies gold and diamonds.
God help us all.
I too was in an abusive marriage for years so thankyou for bringing this to light...it needs to be a conversation that is o.k to talk about...THANKYOU!!
Was hoping to hear the audio of the argument, I’m almost certain it’s one that I’ve had many times in my past experience, but it would have been nice to study her wordage and behavior to perhaps be better prepared the next time I come across this type on individual.
Good catch! That’s why I like to hear both sides of the argument, always. Thanks for sharing,✌🏿
I had a narc i thought was friend, she's abusing her husband and controlling him abuse him financially,
One day her husband's told eveything to his brother and his brother then talk to the narc to slow down because they are in not so good situation financially, she rage and use me as scapegoat it happened i was dating with her brother in law that time, I was no idea back then about NPD, I was lost i didn't see it coming.
The guy i was dating with has no empathy, i felt like hes just watching me go through all those pain,
He kinda slip and said, she was a narcissist, i got curious, i never ever heard that word, i googled it and baam, all my experience with this so called narc friend was validated, she fits in all the box of NPD.
I started learning npd and saw all red flag in the guy i was dating. So yeah i dealt 2 NPD individual at the same time, i was played and betrayed by those snake who pretend as friend and the other was the guy i was with almost 2 years.. im now 6 months free of this guy, and they both knew i see them as what they really are..
Painful awakening and yeah, evil exist in form of human.
Thanks for uploading this kind of content. So much knowledge and so many things to learn
To be honest I don't even like being around women these days there so shallow and boring . I'm a guy in my 50's in great shape and a high net worth even women around my age act like there in their 20's and most don't even have two dimes to rub together . I don't understand it . I'm old fashion but this channel has opened my eyes about many questions . Thanks and cheers.
Nothing wrong with being old fashion, just stay true to yourself 👍
On the shallow thing. When was the last time you had a profound conversation with a woman? Need men for that.
In my 50's also. They think they can still ho around for another 10 years. Nothing in common as they had easy lives and I struggled always.
It's "they're", not "there".
Thank you, this sheds more light and reinforces what I already knew about my situation and the wounds I have been licking.
I know all about this too well. What is the most upsetting to me is how convinced they are that they did nothing wrong. It's narcissism. I know that very well from a 9 year old narcissistic abuse relationship I was in. But knowing that, I see these traits naturally appear in average women, way more then in men.
Tying in to that idea, that to women it's an evolutionary trait to be extremely good at lying to them selves, in turn to everyone else, because nature designed them to not get caught cheating. But this means, an ability to constantly not take responsibility. So this would oddly mean that average women, naturally have things in common with narcissists. I noted this type of crazy-making behavior in a lot of specific women in my life (Ones I am convinced are even "higher quality, smart, compassionate" ones). And I don't mean just "being emotional and not rational". I mean specifically when they clearly went into abusive territory as a means of self defense, and in turn abusing the other person, and completely not showing any empathy for them. All to clear their own ego. At the time I justified it for them, thinking, they just find it hard to feel like the bad guy, can't take being criticized. But then I saw the same pattern of shifting blame with more and more women, for the most obvious things, and if logically, with a nice tone and intentions, proven wrong, they go to these abuse tactics.
narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths have one thing in common/ They lack empathy.
if an empathic person marries one of these - welcome to hell
My good friend lives in abusive relationship. I have been advising him for years to leave her but he's still live on the hope that one day things will turn around.
I can just recommend everybody being abused to record it. I did it. It saved my life. ..... as a man, everybody always assumes you are reponsible
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My wife is a bully disgusted as a victim. She has put me through hell, i'm still getting out.
Let me guess. Girl was Borderline Personality Disorder?
No - a psychopath/sociopathic type is more likely, or an antisocial narcissist.
XX=BPD, this gal was past that.
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that's exactly what a borderline is
@@ProtoIndoEuropean88 there is overlap but nothing mentioned here was uniquely bpd
no mention of rapid cycling for instance, instead she can berate all day long
You didn't let. You're friend down you were being supportive and being a good friend and what you are saying is absolutely correct keep doing the great job on these videos you are a good mentor for a lot of good men out there and may GOD BLESS YOU
My entire circle of friends literally disappeared because of my wife. Literally took leaving her for my friends to tell me what they really thought. Imagine how different it could have been if they'd have just stood up and said ,"Dude I have no respect for you because you've gotten so far that you've let her cheat with multiple people." Just happy she's gone and I have my friends back.
Tragic, bro. 😢
Sometimes you are too biased by being inside the relationship and you need some new perspective, someone else who can inspect the relationship un-biased. Thanks Alex. Very insightful video.
I'm relating to this video so much. I had a similar relationship. Regular 4-6 hour arguments, 7-9 hours on my own birthday being accused of cheating and all sorts, with zero evidence. Gaslighting, twisting the truth, accusations. It's so eye opening in hindsight but at the time I was so caught up in trying to understand her and partly believing I was somehow causing her awful behaviour
How does one end up in such a relationship?!? Have you not pride!?!
It’s so eerie to hear u tell this story. I was there at one point in my life. When u r in that situation u r blind to it. Other people do not understand. Happily I’m out now and have been free of her for about 5 years.
One of the keys to maintaining your self-respect in similar situations is set relational boundaries as you go. If the woman cannot honor the personal boundaries you set then you need to step away from the relationship for a time, then depending on how important you regard this relationship, check back in to see if she understands why you left?
I have said it before and I will say it again.. your content is invaluable. I have had a huge struggle throughout my life on these topics.. you Bring light to so many things I have experienced and it has helped me a lot..keep bringing the light
True story. GF repeatedly told me that her problems --- things outside of my control --- were my fault. I just shrugged it off as some kind of joke. (The logic behind the accusations were just patently absurd.) We started getting into some silly verbal fights, and I naively thought I could "handle it. (Pretty stupid, I know. lol) Then, a big fight happened, and it all became crystal clear. She meant it when she accused me of being at fault for everything. She shouted out me, blamed me (for not doing enough for her), hit me, threw stuff at me, and then she accused me of being "the abuser" because I apparently bumped into her when I literally stood up for myself. (Did not like having someone screaming down at me while I am sitting down on the couch.) The clincher, after abusing me, she wanted me to apologize for abusing her. WTF??? This is when it becomes real --- and you know it is not a joke. You finally realize what might happen if the argument repeats, escalates even further, and an illogical claim is made that the fight is "your fault" and she "had to" hit you because you did [whatever she wants to claim you did] to provoke her. For me, that is where it ends. I will miss the great times we had, and could have had....but (for self-preservation) every man has to shut it down when you realize (1) your GF verbally or physically abuses or fights and (2) she instinctively blames you for whatever may ensue.
Man I love your channel. I ACTIVELY look for your content. GOD bless you Mr. Grace.
If she starts arguing unnecessarily.. I put her in her place.
the narcissistic type is the worst. the sad thing is they are great actors and people cannot see their true nature right away. especially when someone thinks your partner is a good, nice person, but what goes on behind closed doors is another story. my ex could lie and hide the truth and fight for hours. i would always feel exhausted after a pointless discussion. he was manipulative, a liar, a cheater, and above all he could act and everyone would believe him. one worse thing than a male narcissist is a narcissistic women. my mother is a perfect example, thankfully i learned to distance myself from her. only after i moved out i realized how toxic the environment i was in was. my mother is everything but a mother or wife. narcissists care about nothing but themselves. run from them
Thank you, too many people start doing the whole "im red pilled, i wouldnt be in an abusive relationship, i would see all of the red flags". But this is it with abuse, its a drip drip effect and you can be too far in,due to pride and shame.
Thank you Alexander. We need your work, we appreciate your efforts here. Bless you brother.
It wasn't until I told a friend of mine about what the girl who abused me ( we weren't in a relationship, it's a very long and complicated, as well as a very depressing story) did that I realised she had been abusive. Deep down I had always thought everything that had happened was my fault even when it clicked that she was a bad person and I was too ashamed to tell people, even my own parents. Once I looked into personality disorders, specifically BPD and NPD, everything about her suddenly made sense where before I was just confused and left to assume it was all my fault.
Same bro. Nobody believes us. Narcs are expert actors. Pretenders. They know how to play evry1 for fools, being calculating, almost surgical in preparing g ppl to believe their image, and hide the real psycho they really are. It's disturbing.
This is something that many people can't see neither believe: some women are very abusive and smash the mind and heart of her partner.