HUGE GOOD ADVICE : If you wanna sneakilly ask a girl if she’s gay, ask if she listens to girl in red, but throw in some other creators! For example: “hey, so, what music do you listen to? Selena gomez, girl in red, britinty spears? Cavetown?” Hope this helped! ❤️🧡☁️💗💜
Subtle rainbow on their outfits is another way to know, at least for me. I have a black hoodie with rainbow sleeves that I always wear rainbow eye glitter with, or a rainbow mask. This random kid at Walmart asked me if I was a lesbian bc I was wearing the rainbow mask lol
Sending this to my friend who has a crush on this one girl in her math class, hoping it helps. Also it's so hard to judge whether or not a girl is gay by her just complementing you because they do this all the time just to be nice 😔
If she holds your hand in a casual way, people may hug a lot of people but may not hold their hand. Another sign is if they make plans/try to be alone with you. If they give you a nickname or if other friends try to leave you two in a room together. Best of luck everyone!
My friends say this is a BIG hint that shes gay but idk, she likes to sit in my lap and stuff. Like its just so casual. And im scared to ask her cause my friends asked and she denied it. Me knowing that she has a VERY Christian family I think she may be scared. What do you think?
I can def relate. When i came out to my mom she was like, idk abt u but i thought THAT GIRL is gay.She had never had any crushes she talked abt and she even said she thought she might be bi. Then my friend told her I liked her despite my protests,and now she's like, oh i dunno i'm def straight. All this after her doing the hand compare thing, resting her head on my shoulder during movies(AT SCHOOL) and telling me i'm pretty not to mention ball dancing and touching on occasions where any other friend would definitely not. Now I'm scared that if she does like girls, that I pushed her further into the closet(we're in middle school in india,so not only is she young it's also messed up society)
Her: do you listen to Girl In Red? Me: What? No! Her: (disappointed) oh. okay. Me: I listen to Hayley Kiyoko, duh?! Both of us: (scream) LESBIAN JESUS! LOL this is so corny
using the hand flop also works, so like you could go 'hey are you *hand flop*?' idk where it started but if they get it chances are, they are not hetero
It started in black community of like a secret rude judgy way to find out who was 💅🏾but then in 🏳️🌈 community they started using it to see who was gay
The other day I was playing among us and someone asked me if I listened to girl in red and my life felt complete. Also if any of my friends see this I am screwed.
Lmao i have an secret acc (this one) one every social media so that no one that knows me irl can recognize my comments or see the algorithm (which is full of gay stuff)😅 just scared of how they might react. I‘ve given some hints to my close friends though. But to my family k could never
i am a softball player, and as soon as I walked onto the softball field to practice, I knew straight away at least 1/2 of them were lgbtq+... turns out, about a month later- I was right about all of them 💀 love your content btw 🤩
So, there’s this girl at work who gives me and my friends huge bi vibes. She walks with a straight back and lingers her body in a very masculine way, talks like a boy at times and sits down widespread like a guy. She looks femme by the way she dresses and has long nails. However she always gave me this vibe! I just stalked her Instagram and saw that she only follows straight couples instagrams and has had a recent boyfriend who I believe they’ve broken up already. I haven’t seen her following any lgbt page or youtubers. But, she does have the “she/her” pronouns on her insta. sometimes i feel like she’s checking me out, and she’s all shy and goofy. But that also might me just me wishful thinking… My friends say she looks bi, which she might be but I really don’t know what to think… any suggestions?
Awesome outgoing woman! Just want to add a couple 'strategies'. Lean comfortably against her. If she stiffens to support your weight (polite), relaxes against you (friendly), shifts to settle you closer (maybe even if subconscious) If she's intriguing, build a lasting friendship. Overtime you both will work out what fits between you. Even if she isn't or doesn't feel the same as you she probably doesn't/won't attract just one woman (you). A good steady friendship at minimum.
There’s a girl I’m so in love with, we’ll call her Maggie. A few years ago practically everyone at my high school decided they were lgbt but I don’t know about her. She has an undercut and prefers button down shirts over dresses (but then again, I don’t fit any of the stereotypes, so…). We’ve had a few good conversations but sexuality never came up. The only other person who knows I like her is a queer AF boy in her drama class and he doesn’t know her orientation either. Maggie is so beautiful and amazing, please help! 💖💜💙
Interestingly, one of the rainbow accessories I got is a rainbow beaded bracelet I had since childhood. Might've come from Claire's or the kids' section in Walmart or something. I found it and ended up keeping it and kinda giving it some meaning.
Such a great video! Some ways that you may be able to tell is if they tense up when you ask about guys or they just agree with whoever you say is cute but don’t actually say anything about boys that they like. I’m definitely guilty 😂 sending love from America ♥️🏳️🌈✨
With older women like myself the signs are more subtle. A lot of women in their 40's and 50's are semi closeted. They may have grown children and even grandchildren who they are not yet out to. If you ask a woman that's older such questions she may try to dodge you. Also, she may not dress gay or go to Pride events. My advice is talk about yourself. Do this in person rather then online. I like women near my own age but some women I know like younger women. So if that us you, looking for a more mature partner, take it slow. Let things build steam. No u-hauling!
How bout unicorn rainbow? I saw in my girl friend car... before this she never put the unicorn... she feminime but act masculine around me... she so gentlemen.. sometimes i just get confused with her....
I came out to my best friend who I've had a major crush on for years, she supportive, I just got no idea if she lesbian, bi, or sadly straight :/ 😅 I don't wanna scare her off with all these questions 🥲
I fit all of the bisexual stereotypes (and some lesbian), but I am not. I just want to say that only you can chose what you are. Your the best Lauren! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤
I'm a girl, I compliment girls and find them more attractive than boys. But I've a crush on one n only guy... I'd like to marry a guy but would like to spend more time with a girl before marriage.. ☠️ what am i seriously?☠️ I'm so confused... would i fit into bisexual category?
@@Playfulglamlizz it sounds like you might be a lesbian with compulsory heterosexuality. look up Alayna Joy on youtube, she has talked a lot about this in the past
this was extremely helpful because me and my best friend hang out 24/7 she wears converse, she compares our hand size, shes very touchy, and I stole her phone and went through her spotify playlist, and she has a lot of girl in red songs hearted.
i listen to girl in red but i dont know yet but i dont wear any of the stuff you said. but i think i still may be to young to know. your videos really help me thanks so much
Hilariously enough, I do fit a few of the lesbian stereotypes and just recently realized I was a lesbian. Flannel, check. Subaru, check. Short hair, I mean it's a bob and not a pixie but check nonetheless. When I realized, I was laughing my ass off almost all day. XD
I have a friend who likes to whisper jokes in my ear when other people are around, tugs on my arm a lot, has compared hand sizes and offered to brush my hair once when it was wet. Also, we never really talk about guys when we're together. She's also never had a guy crush before (at least not one that she's told me about). what do you think?
I'm a girl.Something same happened to me... There was a friend of mine she loved me alot, she started hugging, kissing, comparing hands,and talking about many things openly. She used to hug me and that hugging nd kissing made me feel uncomfortable. When we slept together. She used to put her hair on my abdomen under shirt. She just kept her hand there. Ut made me uncomfortable further. She wasn't jealous about a my ex bf but about a female friend of mine. She used to gifr me with usually. she used to brush my hair.. she even told me that she will wash my hair and i can change clothes in front of her. But thank God i didn't did anything like that. But she talked about boys... I left her at the end. Bcz her touching me made me feel insecure
I feel like nobody would ever guess that I'm gay. I dress and look very feminine, wearing dresses most days because I like vintage looks. I'm thinking maybe I need to start wearing a rainbow somewhere.
i’m a straight girl but my “friend” who is also a girl would stare at me during class and i just don’t know why. Eventually we stopped talking and now she’ll give me death stare that makes my heart tremble... i feel like she wants me dead
Okay...i need to vent....so there's this girl in my psychology class and i think i am developing feelings for her and they just keep on increasing EVERY SINGLE DAY! And there are chances that she is also into girls....i have never talked to her, i don't know anthing about her other than her ecxept her name and that she plays guitar (The way she holds it!! Oh my heart!) I really think that tgere are chances that she is also into girls. The signs that i noticed are really less in number and really stereotyped. Okay, so the way she dresses...never saw her in girlish clothes, she has short hair. And this one sign which is quiet funny to me idk why but one day during the class...like by chance we sat together...like she was sitting in that row with her friends and she sat right next to me and she didn't nodded at any of the statements of the professor but when our professor gave an example related to lgbtq+ she nodded so much and i noticed it. Ngl, i wanted to just squish her in my arms, she just looked so cute!! Anyway, i am WAY confused and i am thinking of the ways on how to start a conversation with her, she us always with ger group of friend and it's too hard to talk for me. I am that shy kid y'all :) Okay that's it.
The girl i like is an extrovert, and im an introvert. And in 3rd grade she would ask me if she can borrow my dork diary books. And when i said no she would put om a really sickenly sweet voice.
If she makes fun of straight girl stereotypes. If she even knows straight girl stereotypes If she actually annunciates correctly and uses proper english (this may seem a bit harsh on straight girls but now that I've mentioned it you'll see what i mean)
This is a great video and loved this and I think you’re amazing and great thank you so much for your great and honest advice. I agree with about looking at what she is looking at on social media and who she’s watching and responding
Pro tip: You can also pay attention to who they hang out with. Say they hang out with a bunch of people who you know are gay or lgbt. This increases the chance that the are also somewhere on that spectrum.
I like a girl, I don’t talk to her much face to face because I’m a nervous reck plus I gay panic, we’re on the same softball team, i managed to bring up my art and my interest in making cartoons, I said how I want to have a lot of minority representation in my cartoons which she really seemed to like, I then said how I want lgbtq+ representation in particular by stating “I only have like 2 heterosexual characters, if that doesn’t say anything I don’t know what does” followed by “other than the fact it says I’m super gay” to which she was clearly supportive of I plan on asking her if she listens to girl in red or if she watches the owl house or steven universe or something like that so I can get a clearer answer
Honestly I always disliked beating around the bush but since I live in a country where being gay is still heavily looked down on I usually just open up the conversation with how the person feels about LGBTQ people, if it's positive I ask if they are a part of it and that's pretty much it.
So theres this girl at my school and since im in 5th-6th grade its mostly weird to be be gay but i have a major crush on her,i just shrug it off,but once she almost held my hand in class when we were working together and shes given me a nickname and i have no idea if shes straight or bisexual or lesbian!!
So I’m in high school and there are absolutely no lgbtq students in my grade but this year there is a new girl joining and she is really cute, I’m going to try my luck with her ❤
I have a friend and I think she is a bi Because: 1. Before like a month we were going back home from school and she saw in a candy store 3 boxes and they were pink, purple and blue and she said "oh look it's like the bi flag" and then she asked me if I'm gay. 2. One time she had on earrings with the colors pink, purple and blue so... Ya Love you❤
Dang XD This is probably why my girlfriend likes scrolling through my phone And Stopped saying she's straight before we got together by replace it by saying idk know my Sexuality She does the stereotype stuff Short hair Short nails Guyish clothes She had a boy friend before me and she dealed with them cheating Then other girls asked her a bit before Then I stayed around her a couple years after those years I gained a small crush on her then after a year of liking her She messaged me on someone else's phone and the whole text said Do you like someone Then I answered truthfully I thought nothing of it but one day the person who owned the phone told me it was my crush then calming me down by saying don't worry she likes you back Then thats how the whole thing happened Also the friend set us on a call and ye it played out Also now days the friend said that she was talking about me all the time But like thank you these videos encouraged me to do that it was a long while ago though
I have a feeling that a new girl I met through a friendship app is a closeted lesbian. She came from a conservative country and came to the US to live a more liberal life style. She told me she has a bf in Europe but she’s been talking about him less. One time she used an “example” out of me of taking me to her country “if we were dating” hypothetically speaking (after she had some drinks) and that just rang an alarm for me. She seems totally fine living really far from him and made that personal choice which I found strange. We had a picnic with a group of friends and as we were leaving, she had to go one direction and the rest of us had to go a different way and she asked me if I was going to walk with her back to my car when I parked towards where everyone else was going..I mentioned to her that I played sports in HS and she seemed a little interested about that. I consider myself to be an athlete but that runs in my family, it has nothing to do with sexuality but some people ignorantly believe that it does.
I had a crush on a girl and one day I asked her bff if she was bisexual and she said yes why and I said because I like her and she said you should tell he at her birthday party this week so I was invited over early and I told her straight up and long story short me and her both like each other
Another thing I think can help, though this is really just a stereotype, are her earrings (if she has any). Most lesbian people I know will either wear no earrings or big ones, usually ones with objects on them. A popular one is birdcage earrings.
I think my crush is gay but she was so fine when she was playing the electric guitar in win but how come people say she likes guys like she looks it like she's not trance but still she is cute and hot
You failed to mention that if a girl is very athletic and into sports and is on an all girls sports team then yeah she’s definitely gay, but that’s what I’ve heard I don’t know if that’s true or not but great video, loved this a lot, learned a lot too thank you for sharing ❤️✌️👋
Started sending voice messages 4 days ago after i sent her the homework,yesterday we had a 3 hour phone call,but like,i subtly outed myself as bi,hoping shed reveal her sexuality,but she didnt and now im stuck,cause she always gave lesbian vibes,pretty sure she used to carry ariund a rainbow bag but i dont know if that was a dream ornot and now im confused
There’s this girl I really like.. and she’s really touchy, and always hugging me. We’re only kind of close so I don’t think she would tell me if she’s bi or not. People are telling me that she is. But I’m not that sure 😭 I just think she might see me as a younger sister or whatnot. But I feel too scared to ask her if she’s into girls 🤪
Now i don’t agree with the only people who like girls listen to girl in red. She recently had a song rise on the internet (serotonin) and i’ve actually heard it on the radio a couple times. And her other songs could be popular if they were used on the internet cause they are sometimes just about like love or like death.
Teehee so I have this crush on this girl who came here from Korea like last year. She doesn't know the terms "lesbian" or "gay", etc. So what I did was I went and asked her via discord: "yap yap about what lesbian and gay, etc. is". Then I started texting "I love you" in like a funny way: "i luvvv u", "i luv u!!" and more. She started texting it back. She or I never said it in-person, but I think it's a start!
I'm doomed, the only type of music I listen to is Beatles and electroswing...I doubt any girls will have a clue about anything if I have never even listend to girl in red
I compliment and talk about women more 💞 I find women more attractive than men...but i like only one man, he's my crush ❤️ But I've multiple crushes on women 😂I'd kinda like to marry a guy but would like to spend more time with a girl...oh God, how confusing, what do I want, what am I 😭 hope i didn't creep you out 🥲I'm sorry
So there's this girl in my art class and I know basically nothing about her and I'm way too scared to talk to, or ask for her number. All I know is she's in my school's GSA club. (which I'm also in) I don't know what to do about it lol.
She has face-to-face told me that she is straight, but she honestly looks sorta bi, should I just wait this "straight girl" crush out or forget about it? Also we do like the hand size/height comparison surprisingly often
I had 2 teachers in high school, they joined a year apart, first time I looked at the first one I was like ‘she’s gay’ and then she told my group of friends (all of us part of the LGBTQ+ community some out publicly some not) and she told us she was gay. The 2nd one joined, similar thing happened but a kid made a homophobic joke and she said ‘I’m gay, there will be people in this room that are too.’ People started saying ‘no bc why don’t we know, why haven’t they told us’ she said and I quote ‘some people don’t want to or feel safe to come out and before you ask if you can change who you like, you can’t choose who you want to fck or kiss or have a romantic relationship with or if you don’t want to do that’ then she realised what she said and apologised and said that she gets very defensive about homophobia.
so i know im 4 years late ok whatever but basically i met this girl about a month ago, we'll name her airi. we meet every week on vocal class. her voice is beautiful. sometimes we spend 8 +- hours togheter when we have a comp. ive fallen in love with her immediately and omfg. during the classes she stares at me like 80% od the time (one time when we were rehearsing a song for the first time she was staring at me the whole entire song but i had to look at a paper for the lyrics since i didnt know them😭) and when we go on a comp she gets really touchy (last thursday she held my hands so much because hers were cold and ik it could be just anything but she once intertwined our hands togheter omfg i was gonna explode), hugging me, holding my arm, resting her head on my shoulder etc. she once even told me "i love you" in korean (i hope google translate wasnt wrong) but now heres the problem. i used to have a friend who acted just like her but she was not infact gay. and then we have my ex girlfriend who acts just like her and i am so confused inssijsddsjinsdinj but ill try my best to get to know her and hangout more and hopefully ask her out on valentine's 🤭 (and lets pray shes gay🙏🙏🙏)
ask her out I made the mistake of assuming she was straight and uninterested and she moved on and I definitely, did not you might as well try (also those signs check off a lot in the does she like you video I would watch that it'd probably be helpful)
Honestly I'm too oblivious (and useless) for this to ever play out well as an example one time I was is petsmart wearing a hoodie that said wingaydium lesbiosa with a rainbow feather on it and this tall girl comes up to me as I'm about to leave and tells me she likes my shirt so of course I said ✨"thanks?"✨ And walked away I had only realized afterward after my mom pointed it out she was flirting with me and that I..... was a complete idiot .-.👍
DOES SHE LIKE YOU? 😍 Signs a girl likes you LGBT EDITION! ua-cam.com/video/xTKy57Bpt_Q/v-deo.html
I just watched it and I think my crush likes me 😅
@@deannime158 same
@@cutebunny2928 Same😅
What if the girl/woman just simply happens not be feminine but her actual orientation is straight?
No probably not bc she has a bf and barely talks to me so I’m trying to get over that it doesn’t hurt for me it’s just….hard 🫠
i only discovered you recently but i didnt realize how much i needed "lesbian big sister" content until now :3
aww this comment made my day. im so so grateful that it helps you!
Same!
Omg you perfectly described how it feels
@@jurutungo452 ikr
AGREED!!
Let’s be honest we probably all came here because we like a girl.
You are not alone 👀💜
true lol
Stop exposing me 😤😤
I am , but I am here for checking my crush like me
Cause being leasbian,it sometime hurt 🥺 after seeming your crush
Yep…
HUGE GOOD ADVICE : If you wanna sneakilly ask a girl if she’s gay, ask if she listens to girl in red, but throw in some other creators! For example: “hey, so, what music do you listen to? Selena gomez, girl in red, britinty spears? Cavetown?”
Hope this helped! ❤️🧡☁️💗💜
Definitely could get you some insight.
Brilliant
As a non straight person who has no idea who girl in red is, help.
@@goawayplease6456you’re not allowed to consider yourself non-straight until you listen to girl in red/hj
But i dont listen to stuff like that 😭 i like my depressing korean rock music that isnt really a "lgbt staple"
Subtle rainbow on their outfits is another way to know, at least for me. I have a black hoodie with rainbow sleeves that I always wear rainbow eye glitter with, or a rainbow mask. This random kid at Walmart asked me if I was a lesbian bc I was wearing the rainbow mask lol
aw thats sooo cute! yes subtle rainbows are such a good way to show or tell !!
i'm gay af and hate rainbow outfits, makes me cringe bc of that stereotype
the girl i like wore rainbow suspenders one day...
Lol
Huh why???? Just asking
Sending this to my friend who has a crush on this one girl in her math class, hoping it helps. Also it's so hard to judge whether or not a girl is gay by her just complementing you because they do this all the time just to be nice 😔
aww yay, i hope it helps your friend too! yea thats so true, its so hard to tell if they are just really friendly or actaully flirting
My friends don't complement me
If she holds your hand in a casual way, people may hug a lot of people but may not hold their hand. Another sign is if they make plans/try to be alone with you. If they give you a nickname or if other friends try to leave you two in a room together. Best of luck everyone!
My friends say this is a BIG hint that shes gay but idk, she likes to sit in my lap and stuff. Like its just so casual. And im scared to ask her cause my friends asked and she denied it. Me knowing that she has a VERY Christian family I think she may be scared. What do you think?
All of this is me 😂
@@Weather-more slay
When your in love with a straight girl but she gives of signs of liking you: 👁️👄👁️
lmao our friend told me to back off and give up
See this is so true. My gaydar is spot on on most people, except the ones I like... cause then they are either gay or straight
Just in the same situation girl
I can def relate. When i came out to my mom she was like, idk abt u but i thought THAT GIRL is gay.She had never had any crushes she talked abt and she even said she thought she might be bi. Then my friend told her I liked her despite my protests,and now she's like, oh i dunno i'm def straight. All this after her doing the hand compare thing, resting her head on my shoulder during movies(AT SCHOOL) and telling me i'm pretty not to mention ball dancing and touching on occasions where any other friend would definitely not. Now I'm scared that if she does like girls, that I pushed her further into the closet(we're in middle school in india,so not only is she young it's also messed up society)
Yes 😭
Her: do you listen to Girl In Red?
Me: What? No!
Her: (disappointed) oh. okay.
Me: I listen to Hayley Kiyoko, duh?!
Both of us: (scream) LESBIAN JESUS!
LOL this is so corny
Lmfao
I LOVE THIS LMFAO
lmao love this
best moments
XD
using the hand flop also works, so like you could go 'hey are you *hand flop*?' idk where it started but if they get it chances are, they are not hetero
yesyesyes
@@maefaemusic When you just let your wrist basically go limp, so it looks kind of horizontal.
Gay wrist?
@@lovemebrowhydontuloveme1164 maybe idk lol
It started in black community of like a secret rude judgy way to find out who was 💅🏾but then in 🏳️🌈 community they started using it to see who was gay
One thing might be if she’s a big reader what type of books she reads and or her favorite character in that book and stuff like that
I read ff in Wattpad 😭✋🏻
Wattpad anime that is all I read :)
hmm- so this girl drew Harley Quinn...hMMm my fave Is ALSO harly quinn like-
Killing Eve?
The other day I was playing among us and someone asked me if I listened to girl in red and my life felt complete. Also if any of my friends see this I am screwed.
Oh my god YES that’s amazing! And I wouldn’t worry bc your username is completely anon
Lmao i have an secret acc (this one) one every social media so that no one that knows me irl can recognize my comments or see the algorithm (which is full of gay stuff)😅 just scared of how they might react. I‘ve given some hints to my close friends though. But to my family k could never
Omg I would love that good for u! I come across as hella stright 😐 don't worry if they see this comment on this vid hear they may be gay too😌🙃
@@allright9785 omg sameee😂
When your watching this cause your a lesbian and want to know if your "straight" best friend is actually straight cuz you like them.
That’s literally me
Yep, but I really don't think she's straight
Are u stalking me??
why is this literally every lesbian at one point in their life
where are the cameras 😭
Thank you so much for making these videos, I started questioning my sexuality recently. Everyone thinks I’m straight, but it feels off to me.
Same
THE CHECKING HAND SIZES GOT ME SO BAD LMAO😭😭😭
my bsf does it all the time w me lol
i am a softball player, and as soon as I walked onto the softball field to practice, I knew straight away at least 1/2 of them were lgbtq+... turns out, about a month later- I was right about all of them 💀 love your content btw 🤩
My gay Aunt joined the softball league just for this!
omg the girl I like plays softball. is this a thing??
So, there’s this girl at work who gives me and my friends huge bi vibes. She walks with a straight back and lingers her body in a very masculine way, talks like a boy at times and sits down widespread like a guy. She looks femme by the way she dresses and has long nails. However she always gave me this vibe! I just stalked her Instagram and saw that she only follows straight couples instagrams and has had a recent boyfriend who I believe they’ve broken up already. I haven’t seen her following any lgbt page or youtubers. But, she does have the “she/her” pronouns on her insta. sometimes i feel like she’s checking me out, and she’s all shy and goofy. But that also might me just me wishful thinking… My friends say she looks bi, which she might be but I really don’t know what to think… any suggestions?
I’m kinda actually going through this right now 😭
dont even waste ur fucking time. chase real girls
@@yonahonah1160ME TOO😭🤦🏻♀️
Awesome outgoing woman! Just want to add a couple 'strategies'. Lean comfortably against her. If she stiffens to support your weight (polite), relaxes against you (friendly), shifts to settle you closer (maybe even if subconscious)
If she's intriguing, build a lasting friendship. Overtime you both will work out what fits between you. Even if she isn't or doesn't feel the same as you she probably doesn't/won't attract just one woman (you). A good steady friendship at minimum.
There’s a girl I’m so in love with, we’ll call her Maggie. A few years ago practically everyone at my high school decided they were lgbt but I don’t know about her. She has an undercut and prefers button down shirts over dresses (but then again, I don’t fit any of the stereotypes, so…). We’ve had a few good conversations but sexuality never came up. The only other person who knows I like her is a queer AF boy in her drama class and he doesn’t know her orientation either. Maggie is so beautiful and amazing, please help! 💖💜💙
idk if i have a good gaydar. i just recently had my awakening as a lesbian and i am scared to make a move 😌
Ayo my gaydar is getting better :p so it takes practice
Ive been feeling this way for years now. Time to find happiness.
Such a good list! Or any rainbow accessories (like bags or earrings) are a possible sign! Love from England XXX
YES!! These things are good signs too! (Also thank you! Hugs from Sydney!)
Interestingly, one of the rainbow accessories I got is a rainbow beaded bracelet I had since childhood. Might've come from Claire's or the kids' section in Walmart or something. I found it and ended up keeping it and kinda giving it some meaning.
When she gives u signs and immediately does something to make u confused as hell whether she likes u or not
Such a great video! Some ways that you may be able to tell is if they tense up when you ask about guys or they just agree with whoever you say is cute but don’t actually say anything about boys that they like. I’m definitely guilty 😂 sending love from America ♥️🏳️🌈✨
With older women like myself the signs are more subtle. A lot of women in their 40's and 50's are semi closeted. They may have grown children and even grandchildren who they are not yet out to.
If you ask a woman that's older such questions she may try to dodge you. Also, she may not dress gay or go to Pride events. My advice is talk about yourself. Do this in person rather then online.
I like women near my own age but some women I know like younger women. So if that us you, looking for a more mature partner, take it slow. Let things build steam. No u-hauling!
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Love this video! I just bought rainbow earrings so that’s another way to tell 😝
YES I love that!! such a cute subtle way to let people know
I want to get pride pins
How bout unicorn rainbow? I saw in my girl friend car... before this she never put the unicorn... she feminime but act masculine around me... she so gentlemen.. sometimes i just get confused with her....
I came out to my best friend who I've had a major crush on for years, she supportive, I just got no idea if she lesbian, bi, or sadly straight :/ 😅 I don't wanna scare her off with all these questions 🥲
There is nothing sad about it, you are just a straightphobic desperado.
I fit all of the bisexual stereotypes (and some lesbian), but I am not. I just want to say that only you can chose what you are. Your the best Lauren! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤
I'm a girl, I compliment girls and find them more attractive than boys. But I've a crush on one n only guy... I'd like to marry a guy but would like to spend more time with a girl before marriage.. ☠️ what am i seriously?☠️ I'm so confused... would i fit into bisexual category?
@@Playfulglamlizz it sounds like you might be a lesbian with compulsory heterosexuality. look up Alayna Joy on youtube, she has talked a lot about this in the past
Maybe ur just compulsory lesbian, with all the chemicals u consume, it made u that way.
no one CHOOSES to be gay or straight..... you just are ...
@@kathleen444 I agree
Good info to have, all I need to do is the exact opposite to figure out if a girl is straight. Much appreciated
ohmygoddd haha love this 🤣
Omg…when you said “ Sometimes when just look at them, you just know!” LOL bro I’m here bc I have a gay roommate who doesn’t know how to be Gay…LOL 🤣🤣
The only issue with the girl in red thing not all lesbians (myself included) like to listen to girl in red because they have a different music type
@@riner9leave us alone?
this was extremely helpful because me and my best friend hang out 24/7 she wears converse, she compares our hand size, shes very touchy, and I stole her phone and went through her spotify playlist, and she has a lot of girl in red songs hearted.
If she doesn’t wear makeup and only has a select few she gives her attention too! That’s a sign
i listen to girl in red but i dont know yet but i dont wear any of the stuff you said. but i think i still may be to young to know. your videos really help me thanks so much
Theres no rush to pick a label, you've got your whole life and also, liking catradora says a lot..
Hilariously enough, I do fit a few of the lesbian stereotypes and just recently realized I was a lesbian. Flannel, check. Subaru, check. Short hair, I mean it's a bob and not a pixie but check nonetheless. When I realized, I was laughing my ass off almost all day. XD
I have a friend who likes to whisper jokes in my ear when other people are around, tugs on my arm a lot, has compared hand sizes and offered to brush my hair once when it was wet. Also, we never really talk about guys when we're together. She's also never had a guy crush before (at least not one that she's told me about). what do you think?
I'm a girl.Something same happened to me... There was a friend of mine she loved me alot, she started hugging, kissing, comparing hands,and talking about many things openly. She used to hug me and that hugging nd kissing made me feel uncomfortable. When we slept together. She used to put her hair on my abdomen under shirt. She just kept her hand there. Ut made me uncomfortable further. She wasn't jealous about a my ex bf but about a female friend of mine. She used to gifr me with usually. she used to brush my hair.. she even told me that she will wash my hair and i can change clothes in front of her. But thank God i didn't did anything like that. But she talked about boys... I left her at the end. Bcz her touching me made me feel insecure
I feel like nobody would ever guess that I'm gay. I dress and look very feminine, wearing dresses most days because I like vintage looks. I'm thinking maybe I need to start wearing a rainbow somewhere.
Came here after I heard a girl sing the first line of a girl in red song and am desperate to confirm she’s actually gay
i’m a straight girl but my “friend” who is also a girl would stare at me during class and i just don’t know why. Eventually we stopped talking and now she’ll give me death stare that makes my heart tremble... i feel like she wants me dead
this moment you realize, that she is describing you perfectly...
The girl I like is driving me crazy! Her answer to everything is "yeah" and "mhm"
Okay...i need to vent....so there's this girl in my psychology class and i think i am developing feelings for her and they just keep on increasing EVERY SINGLE DAY! And there are chances that she is also into girls....i have never talked to her, i don't know anthing about her other than her ecxept her name and that she plays guitar (The way she holds it!! Oh my heart!)
I really think that tgere are chances that she is also into girls. The signs that i noticed are really less in number and really stereotyped. Okay, so the way she dresses...never saw her in girlish clothes, she has short hair. And this one sign which is quiet funny to me idk why but one day during the class...like by chance we sat together...like she was sitting in that row with her friends and she sat right next to me and she didn't nodded at any of the statements of the professor but when our professor gave an example related to lgbtq+ she nodded so much and i noticed it. Ngl, i wanted to just squish her in my arms, she just looked so cute!!
Anyway, i am WAY confused and i am thinking of the ways on how to start a conversation with her, she us always with ger group of friend and it's too hard to talk for me. I am that shy kid y'all :)
Okay that's it.
The girl I like turns out to be “homophobic” , I just don’t know what to say anymore 😃💔
The girl i like is an extrovert, and im an introvert. And in 3rd grade she would ask me if she can borrow my dork diary books. And when i said no she would put om a really sickenly sweet voice.
@@co0lbe4ns93 No. at the time I was in 4th grade but I relized she was just a platonic crush and I was actuakky just straight
Awe I love how you reply to almost everyone that comments on your videos. 😎👍
I try to read every single one of them!
@@laurenelloise 😁 Your doing a lovely job with it!
If she makes fun of straight girl stereotypes.
If she even knows straight girl stereotypes
If she actually annunciates correctly and uses proper english (this may seem a bit harsh on straight girls but now that I've mentioned it you'll see what i mean)
Wait i don't get the third one lol
The funny thing is
im the gay girl crushing on her straight bff and these signs r for my bestie to notice🥺😭💗💛💙
This is a great video and loved this and I think you’re amazing and great thank you so much for your great and honest advice. I agree with about looking at what she is looking at on social media and who she’s watching and responding
You are so welcome! so happy it helped! (yes such an easily subtle way to figure it out)
Pro tip:
You can also pay attention to who they hang out with. Say they hang out with a bunch of people who you know are gay or lgbt. This increases the chance that the are also somewhere on that spectrum.
Haha I can relate to all of these... I do every single one of these things...
Same I get ot
I am very sorry for calling you out like this ;-)
@@laurenelloise hahaha, you should be 😂😉
SAME XD
As a gay guy it’s super easy to tel if a guy is gay but girls are more discreet about it
I like a girl, I don’t talk to her much face to face because I’m a nervous reck plus I gay panic, we’re on the same softball team, i managed to bring up my art and my interest in making cartoons, I said how I want to have a lot of minority representation in my cartoons which she really seemed to like, I then said how I want lgbtq+ representation in particular by stating “I only have like 2 heterosexual characters, if that doesn’t say anything I don’t know what does” followed by “other than the fact it says I’m super gay” to which she was clearly supportive of
I plan on asking her if she listens to girl in red or if she watches the owl house or steven universe or something like that so I can get a clearer answer
'Being gay isn't looked down upon as much as it used to be'
Me living in Hungary: 😐
Honestly I always disliked beating around the bush but since I live in a country where being gay is still heavily looked down on I usually just open up the conversation with how the person feels about LGBTQ people, if it's positive I ask if they are a part of it and that's pretty much it.
My crush told me she’s pan, but then she also told me she has a crush...
AGHHH I THINK SHES LESBIAN BUT SHE WOULD NEVER WANNA DATE ME SO..😭😭
So theres this girl at my school and since im in 5th-6th grade its mostly weird to be be gay but i have a major crush on her,i just shrug it off,but once she almost held my hand in class when we were working together and shes given me a nickname and i have no idea if shes straight or bisexual or lesbian!!
Think of things from your childhood, for example if you felt more comfortable with girls than guys
I totally felt more comfortable around girls, and I still do today.
So I’m in high school and there are absolutely no lgbtq students in my grade but this year there is a new girl joining and she is really cute, I’m going to try my luck with her ❤
I have a friend and I think she is a bi
Because:
1. Before like a month we were going back home from school and she saw in a candy store 3 boxes and they were pink, purple and blue and she said "oh look it's like the bi flag" and then she asked me if I'm gay.
2. One time she had on earrings with the colors pink, purple and blue so... Ya
Love you❤
My friend (and crush) is straight but doesn't seem to want to be. 😐
what's up now?
Dang XD
This is probably why my girlfriend likes scrolling through my phone
And
Stopped saying she's straight before we got together by replace it by saying idk know my Sexuality
She does the stereotype stuff
Short hair
Short nails
Guyish clothes
She had a boy friend before me and she dealed with them cheating
Then other girls asked her a bit before
Then I stayed around her a couple years after those years I gained a small crush on her then after a year of liking her
She messaged me on someone else's phone and the whole text said
Do you like someone
Then I answered truthfully
I thought nothing of it but one day the person who owned the phone told me it was my crush then calming me down by saying don't worry she likes you back
Then thats how the whole thing happened
Also the friend set us on a call and ye it played out
Also now days the friend said that she was talking about me all the time
But like thank you these videos encouraged me to do that it was a long while ago though
aw this is really cute, and you are so welcome, so glad to have been able to help you get the courage to make a move!
thank you lauren im bisexual but i still always use your videos for any help
I have a feeling that a new girl I met through a friendship app is a closeted lesbian. She came from a conservative country and came to the US to live a more liberal life style. She told me she has a bf in Europe but she’s been talking about him less. One time she used an “example” out of me of taking me to her country “if we were dating” hypothetically speaking (after she had some drinks) and that just rang an alarm for me. She seems totally fine living really far from him and made that personal choice which I found strange. We had a picnic with a group of friends and as we were leaving, she had to go one direction and the rest of us had to go a different way and she asked me if I was going to walk with her back to my car when I parked towards where everyone else was going..I mentioned to her that I played sports in HS and she seemed a little interested about that. I consider myself to be an athlete but that runs in my family, it has nothing to do with sexuality but some people ignorantly believe that it does.
I had a crush on a girl and one day I asked her bff if she was bisexual and she said yes why and I said because I like her and she said you should tell he at her birthday party this week so I was invited over early and I told her straight up and long story short me and her both like each other
Another thing I think can help, though this is really just a stereotype, are her earrings (if she has any). Most lesbian people I know will either wear no earrings or big ones, usually ones with objects on them. A popular one is birdcage earrings.
Not me at 1 am trying to find out if my bsf/crush is gay
My friend does all of these but when I came out to her, she never told me she was
I think my crush is gay but she was so fine when she was playing the electric guitar in win but how come people say she likes guys like she looks it like she's not trance but still she is cute and hot
I just realized that I don't look gay AT ALL, I mean, I'm bi but still
dont worry, you dont have to! wear whatever you want, there isn't one way to look
You failed to mention that if a girl is very athletic and into sports and is on an all girls sports team then yeah she’s definitely gay, but that’s what I’ve heard I don’t know if that’s true or not but great video, loved this a lot, learned a lot too thank you for sharing ❤️✌️👋
Im a bisexual, i currently don't like anyone right now but these signs are really useful for the future. Tysm❤️
Started sending voice messages 4 days ago after i sent her the homework,yesterday we had a 3 hour phone call,but like,i subtly outed myself as bi,hoping shed reveal her sexuality,but she didnt and now im stuck,cause she always gave lesbian vibes,pretty sure she used to carry ariund a rainbow bag but i dont know if that was a dream ornot and now im confused
I fr asked her if she was into girls and she said "Idk 🤷♀️" I'm crying
There’s this girl I really like.. and she’s really touchy, and always hugging me. We’re only kind of close so I don’t think she would tell me if she’s bi or not. People are telling me that she is. But I’m not that sure 😭 I just think she might see me as a younger sister or whatnot. But I feel too scared to ask her if she’s into girls 🤪
@@riner9can you stop why are you watching this video just to comment rude comments on this?
Nahhhh let’s be real we all turned our phones of when we heard any sort of movement ❤❤
The way she looks at other girls, talks, how she acts toward guys
so i was in my bffs car and i asked what type she likes so i can set her up on a blind date and the description put me exactally
She also sent me a picture of a female game character and said "doesn't she make you want to be gay🤩"
Now i don’t agree with the only people who like girls listen to girl in red. She recently had a song rise on the internet (serotonin) and i’ve actually heard it on the radio a couple times. And her other songs could be popular if they were used on the internet cause they are sometimes just about like love or like death.
Teehee so I have this crush on this girl who came here from Korea like last year. She doesn't know the terms "lesbian" or "gay", etc. So what I did was I went and asked her via discord: "yap yap about what lesbian and gay, etc. is".
Then I started texting "I love you" in like a funny way: "i luvvv u", "i luv u!!" and more. She started texting it back. She or I never said it in-person, but I think it's a start!
she likes nirvana, but she has a boyfriend but i have a huge crush on her
I'm doomed, the only type of music I listen to is Beatles and electroswing...I doubt any girls will have a clue about anything if I have never even listend to girl in red
What if she LOVES Harry styles and listens to Giveon, frank ocean, and tame impala???
Idk because those are enjoyed by a wideeee range of people
This has helped me so much thank you!( also me and my cruch our Christian so I don't know if Christian support LGBTQ but I hope)
Lauren, you're so pretty!!!!!!!
AHHH THANKYOU
@@laurenelloise OF COURSE!!!!!
Hi
I tried to convince myself i was straight while listening to girl in red
LMAO SAME
Hey! Thanks for making this. It helped me so much! Ily💛
No problem!! so glad it helped you!
@@laurenelloise OMG you responded!!! that definitely made my day!
Awww yayyyyyy
I usually ask "what's you're sexuality?" And then I explain what the question means. Cuz most people say they don't understand.
I compliment and talk about women more 💞 I find women more attractive than men...but i like only one man, he's my crush ❤️ But I've multiple crushes on women 😂I'd kinda like to marry a guy but would like to spend more time with a girl...oh God, how confusing, what do I want, what am I 😭 hope i didn't creep you out 🥲I'm sorry
So there's this girl in my art class and I know basically nothing about her and I'm way too scared to talk to, or ask for her number. All I know is she's in my school's GSA club. (which I'm also in) I don't know what to do about it lol.
She has face-to-face told me that she is straight, but she honestly looks sorta bi, should I just wait this "straight girl" crush out or forget about it?
Also we do like the hand size/height comparison surprisingly often
My friends just joke about lgbtq and say "I'm gay" as a joke ;-;
So if I ask then they're just going to joke about it
I had 2 teachers in high school, they joined a year apart, first time I looked at the first one I was like ‘she’s gay’ and then she told my group of friends (all of us part of the LGBTQ+ community some out publicly some not) and she told us she was gay. The 2nd one joined, similar thing happened but a kid made a homophobic joke and she said ‘I’m gay, there will be people in this room that are too.’ People started saying ‘no bc why don’t we know, why haven’t they told us’ she said and I quote ‘some people don’t want to or feel safe to come out and before you ask if you can change who you like, you can’t choose who you want to fck or kiss or have a romantic relationship with or if you don’t want to do that’ then she realised what she said and apologised and said that she gets very defensive about homophobia.
do you have a podcast, if you don't you should consider because i love what you're doing
This is so hard bc her friend told me she’s straight BUT SHE READS HEARTSTOPPER 😭
1 The style
2 To ask her as a "joke"
3 to say that one of your friend is gay and to say her reaction
One of my tips is that was movies does she watch and does she only really favorite the people in lgbtq+ because if she does thats a huge sign
so i know im 4 years late ok whatever but basically i met this girl about a month ago, we'll name her airi. we meet every week on vocal class. her voice is beautiful. sometimes we spend 8 +- hours togheter when we have a comp. ive fallen in love with her immediately and omfg. during the classes she stares at me like 80% od the time (one time when we were rehearsing a song for the first time she was staring at me the whole entire song but i had to look at a paper for the lyrics since i didnt know them😭) and when we go on a comp she gets really touchy (last thursday she held my hands so much because hers were cold and ik it could be just anything but she once intertwined our hands togheter omfg i was gonna explode), hugging me, holding my arm, resting her head on my shoulder etc. she once even told me "i love you" in korean (i hope google translate wasnt wrong) but now heres the problem. i used to have a friend who acted just like her but she was not infact gay. and then we have my ex girlfriend who acts just like her and i am so confused inssijsddsjinsdinj but ill try my best to get to know her and hangout more and hopefully ask her out on valentine's 🤭 (and lets pray shes gay🙏🙏🙏)
ask her out I made the mistake of assuming she was straight and uninterested and she moved on and I definitely, did not you might as well try (also those signs check off a lot in the does she like you video I would watch that it'd probably be helpful)
Oh my gosh my friend send me this and said
Friend:hey it’s you
Me: oh ye
Honestly I'm too oblivious (and useless) for this to ever play out well as an example one time I was is petsmart wearing a hoodie that said wingaydium lesbiosa with a rainbow feather on it and this tall girl comes up to me as I'm about to leave and tells me she likes my shirt so of course I said ✨"thanks?"✨ And walked away I had only realized afterward after my mom pointed it out she was flirting with me and that I..... was a complete idiot .-.👍