I don't like media on self-development for the simple fact that it's premised on me not being okay as I am. I think I am okay as I am and any growth and development happens naturally by being in touch with who I am in the moment and self-acceptance, as you said. Love the grounded message you've shared here, as well as the simplicity of the black and white filming! Look forward to seeing what else you share as your messages really resonate with me. ❤
The Black & White format is fabulous! So much less stimulating than colour. It makes for a calming watch. I’ve changed the settings on my iPhone to B&W and it’s made such a difference
Thank you for your channel, and sharing your experiences. I have found your videos to be very encouraging, and inspiring. I have struggled with smartphone addiction (thank you for calling it what it is) ever since purchasing my first iPhone in 2010. I tried so many times to quit and just couldn't. Even convincing myself that if I just rid my phone of the "distracting apps" I'd be fine. Days later, they were back on. I am a recovering alcoholic, and ex 2 pack a day smoker, and I found smart phone addiction to be just as detrimental, and damaging on all fronts. I finally purchased the most archaic of flip phones (not even texting abilities) a few months back, and my life has been so much better. I write down directions if I need to get around, and listen to compact discs in the car. I do not miss my old smart phone whatsoever. There is hope. Stay free!
Thank you! My therapist has been talking about how I seem to be in a grieving state of a life I will never be able to have. Specifically a lot of denial that a “normal” life is unobtainable, and anger towards the horrible treatment of neurodivergent people. Achieving self acceptance is vital before embarking on a journey of self development. I wonder, would that also improve the clarity/perspective of goals because your “view” is perhaps that much closer?
Love the black & white style video, it's perfect👌 after watching poetry of slow life on here which I highly recommend her channel along with yours, living in the moment is key, the unplanned moments are always the best ❤️👌
I think with so much content it’s easy to feel what you are doing isn’t good enough. I was loving doing weights workouts at home but then started seeing content from trainers promoting an app saying you’ll never achieve what you want by following random workouts on UA-cam and that you need a training plan. So because I can’t afford to pay for that training app I stopped working out as I feel it won’t get me to where I want to be.
I mostly feel quite lonely as I live on my own and dont have any friends really to regularly hang out. I am also unemployed atm and because of health issues trying to figure out what I could work at all (cant work an 8 hour office job anymore). I am really struggling with self-worth and -confidence atm. And then I signed up to several online self-help things, trying to use this time to better myself, gain confidence amd clarity but as you indicate, I get lost and overwhelmed with it all. Maybe I shouldnt have signed up to so much but I get bored with only one course. The thing is I am doing it for self- confidence but I end up feelinh a failure because I dont follow up with all those courses. Anyway thank you for food for thought! And as someone who usually loves colours I must say I find your recent black and white videos so so calming for đy autistic brain! Without colour my brain concentrates on the priorities: what you are talking, the vast nature... Just want to say I love the feel they give me ❤
I feel with you there... I would say the search for endless self-improvement has a lot to do with the fact of loneliness. Because we're lonely we turn to ourselves, and when we turn to ourselves we become obsesses, overly busy, we don't leave ourselves alone. I would suggest that a possible solution is not self-development, courses, self-help etc... but simply a good and healthy, balanced social life with meaningful connections.
@@umserserum I agree, totally. I am a bit awkward socially because I am autistic and honestly don't know how to go about it. Also I feel very self conscious in conversations because I'm unemployed because one of the first questions someone asks is "so what do you do?" I live in a smaller city and I only know two other adults who are autistic but I go for a meet up in the capital with other autistics which I LOVE 😊
This is a sweet little video. I liked it a lot. That piece of wisdom you shared about self-acceptance before self-development… I think I’ll keep that in mind for a long time. It’s a pleasure when you share your ideas :)
Classical music radio all the way - sometimes I'm not in the mood for it, but when I am it's lovely. Turning on the radio and being blasted by an orchestra somehow makes me happy, but so does listening to a cello concerto etc. I know absolutely nothing about classical music, but it's surprising how much 'music appreciation' develops when you listen regularly.
I've just pre-ordered this book and wondered if you might be interested in reading it, too. "Solitude. The science and power of being alone" by Netta Weinstein 🌼
I read two books by The School of Life lately, A Therapeutic Journey and On Self-Hatred. Both with a psychoanalytical approach and they were so good. I profoundly dislike self-help stuff. Telling people all the ways they are wrong, flawed, lacking, missing, traumatized, etc. or handing out diagnoses like snacks is disgusting. It's a multi-billion industry. And don't get me started on coaches, coaches coaching people to teach other how to coach ugh. By the way, if you don't have a smart phone how do you film your videos? the book cover is flipped like when one uses the front camera on an iphone. Just curious!
I said neither of those things. I can navigate without a smartphone, it's just a little less convenient. I can listen to the car radio, and I'm surprised I'm really enjoying it.
Navigating without a smartphone sounds interesting to me. All I once did was go somewhere random and try to find the way back to my home using the sun. Do you use a city map or how do you do it ?
I don't like media on self-development for the simple fact that it's premised on me not being okay as I am. I think I am okay as I am and any growth and development happens naturally by being in touch with who I am in the moment and self-acceptance, as you said. Love the grounded message you've shared here, as well as the simplicity of the black and white filming! Look forward to seeing what else you share as your messages really resonate with me. ❤
The Black & White format is fabulous! So much less stimulating than colour. It makes for a calming watch.
I’ve changed the settings on my iPhone to B&W and it’s made such a difference
Thank you for your channel, and sharing your experiences. I have found your videos to be very encouraging, and inspiring. I have struggled with smartphone addiction (thank you for calling it what it is) ever since purchasing my first iPhone in 2010. I tried so many times to quit and just couldn't. Even convincing myself that if I just rid my phone of the "distracting apps" I'd be fine. Days later, they were back on. I am a recovering alcoholic, and ex 2 pack a day smoker, and I found smart phone addiction to be just as detrimental, and damaging on all fronts. I finally purchased the most archaic of flip phones (not even texting abilities) a few months back, and my life has been so much better. I write down directions if I need to get around, and listen to compact discs in the car. I do not miss my old smart phone whatsoever. There is hope. Stay free!
the ideia of vloging just like in a Noir movie, adds an atmosphere that is unique.
Always so inspired by your videos & surprisingly loving the low stimuli of black & white 🌿😊
I hate that I could see that the lid on the cup was loose and I couldn't tell you! 🙈
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Thank you! My therapist has been talking about how I seem to be in a grieving state of a life I will never be able to have. Specifically a lot of denial that a “normal” life is unobtainable, and anger towards the horrible treatment of neurodivergent people. Achieving self acceptance is vital before embarking on a journey of self development. I wonder, would that also improve the clarity/perspective of goals because your “view” is perhaps that much closer?
Love the black & white style video, it's perfect👌 after watching poetry of slow life on here which I highly recommend her channel along with yours, living in the moment is key, the unplanned moments are always the best ❤️👌
Thank you for articulating this! Love your content ❤
I think with so much content it’s easy to feel what you are doing isn’t good enough. I was loving doing weights workouts at home but then started seeing content from trainers promoting an app saying you’ll never achieve what you want by following random workouts on UA-cam and that you need a training plan. So because I can’t afford to pay for that training app I stopped working out as I feel it won’t get me to where I want to be.
I mostly feel quite lonely as I live on my own and dont have any friends really to regularly hang out. I am also unemployed atm and because of health issues trying to figure out what I could work at all (cant work an 8 hour office job anymore). I am really struggling with self-worth and -confidence atm. And then I signed up to several online self-help things, trying to use this time to better myself, gain confidence amd clarity but as you indicate, I get lost and overwhelmed with it all. Maybe I shouldnt have signed up to so much but I get bored with only one course. The thing is I am doing it for self- confidence but I end up feelinh a failure because I dont follow up with all those courses. Anyway thank you for food for thought! And as someone who usually loves colours I must say I find your recent black and white videos so so calming for đy autistic brain! Without colour my brain concentrates on the priorities: what you are talking, the vast nature... Just want to say I love the feel they give me ❤
I feel with you there... I would say the search for endless self-improvement has a lot to do with the fact of loneliness. Because we're lonely we turn to ourselves, and when we turn to ourselves we become obsesses, overly busy, we don't leave ourselves alone. I would suggest that a possible solution is not self-development, courses, self-help etc... but simply a good and healthy, balanced social life with meaningful connections.
@@umserserum I agree, totally. I am a bit awkward socially because I am autistic and honestly don't know how to go about it. Also I feel very self conscious in conversations because I'm unemployed because one of the first questions someone asks is "so what do you do?" I live in a smaller city and I only know two other adults who are autistic but I go for a meet up in the capital with other autistics which I LOVE 😊
yes exactly 100% agree !! you put the right words on something i've been thinking a lot about
This is a sweet little video. I liked it a lot. That piece of wisdom you shared about self-acceptance before self-development… I think I’ll keep that in mind for a long time. It’s a pleasure when you share your ideas :)
Classical music radio all the way - sometimes I'm not in the mood for it, but when I am it's lovely. Turning on the radio and being blasted by an orchestra somehow makes me happy, but so does listening to a cello concerto etc. I know absolutely nothing about classical music, but it's surprising how much 'music appreciation' develops when you listen regularly.
I would absolutely love it if you wrote books about your ongoing journey ❤
I've just pre-ordered this book and wondered if you might be interested in reading it, too. "Solitude. The science and power of being alone" by Netta Weinstein 🌼
Original, authentic, good.
I read two books by The School of Life lately, A Therapeutic Journey and On Self-Hatred. Both with a psychoanalytical approach and they were so good. I profoundly dislike self-help stuff. Telling people all the ways they are wrong, flawed, lacking, missing, traumatized, etc. or handing out diagnoses like snacks is disgusting. It's a multi-billion industry. And don't get me started on coaches, coaches coaching people to teach other how to coach ugh.
By the way, if you don't have a smart phone how do you film your videos? the book cover is flipped like when one uses the front camera on an iphone. Just curious!
I do have a smart phone - I use it for shooting videos and audiobooks from the library and banking.
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You can't navigate without a smartphone. Ok . It doesn't feel right to listen to the car radio. Ok. I think you will survive anyway.
I said neither of those things. I can navigate without a smartphone, it's just a little less convenient. I can listen to the car radio, and I'm surprised I'm really enjoying it.
Navigating without a smartphone sounds interesting to me. All I once did was go somewhere random and try to find the way back to my home using the sun. Do you use a city map or how do you do it ?