Things You Didn't Know Are Gaslighting
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- Опубліковано 9 тра 2024
- Gaslighting or gaslight is sneaky form of manipulation that messes with your head without you even realizing it. In this video, we're diving into the world of gaslighting to uncover some surprising things you may not have known are actually part of this emotional abuse tactic.
Gaslighting isn't just about making you doubt your own thoughts and feelings-it's a serious issue that can seriously impact your mental health. We'll break down what gaslighting is, how it works, and the tactics manipulators use to make you question your reality.
From subtle put-downs to outright lies, we'll give you real-life examples to help you spot gaslighting in your own life. Understanding this behavior is crucial for protecting yourself from emotional manipulation and maintaining your well-being.
So, if you're ready to arm yourself with knowledge about gaslighting and take steps to safeguard your mental health, hit that play button and let's dive in together. Don't let anyone dim your light-you deserve to feel validated and secure in your own reality.
#gaslighting #manipulation
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon / @littleghostyofficialtm
Animator: Sarimopi (IG: sarimopi)
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Brian, P. R. & Shen, R. (2023). "12 Subtle Signs Of Gaslighting & 5 Ways To Outsmart Them." Retrieved from ncrw.org/subtle-signs-gaslighting/
Jackson, C. (2022). "9 Subtle Signs of Gaslighting - And the Best Ways to Respond." Retrieved from thetrulycharming.com/subtle-signs-of-gaslighting/
Psychology Today. (2023). "Gaslighting." Retrieved from www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/gaslighting#how-to-recognize-a-gaslighter
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I hope the clouds break. If not, at least it will be night during day.
Refusal to admit their mistakes leads to a lot of gaslighting imo
Very true.
For me, my dad tries to backpedal or change the subject. Sometimes he goes quiet when he realizes hes not right
Facts
true the ppl who hide the mostakes and refuse to apogplize will be gaslighted and then again manipulate by playing victim drama
i went to visit my female best friend for the first time in 20yrs. When we were in private we talked about certain stories and revisited them when I visited her around her family. She had the nerve to say "thats not how it happened" or " I knew that" when she originally said she did not. It left me so confused because I KNOW WHAT THE HELL SHE ORIGINALLY SAID. Why do that?!
@@money_wins_controlswhat?
1. Constant Contradictions. They try to steal your spotlight (by contradicting your reality sometimes maybe even in an assertive way)
2. Selective Memory. (Rewrite history to delete their mistakes or commitments like disagree on something they agreed to and act like they don’t remember saying that)
3. Minimising your feelings. (Making you feel less, Calling you sensitive)
4. Micro aggression ( a quiet form of gaslighting, where they act like they are complimenting you but with disguised insults and messing with your head making you doubt yourselves that leads to lesser confidence)
Be aware ❤️ You are loved. Trust your instincts.
the points u mentioned all happened in ma life. the ppl around me manipulate and create a fake reality to convinve me by a fake story then when i didnt beleive they change their ways through constant contradictions and manipulations. trying to rewrite history by hiding all their mistakes by puttinng a whore scapegoat in front of me so they can escape.
after all the constant emotional manipulation when we react and become sad - making fun of my depression. at the end when trying to move away peacefully from those bastards again playing their game in a diff route by using the same whore as a scapegoat but in a diff route. most importedly when we try to communicate and settl for a solution never accept or even defend their status - try to trigger and again createa fake scenarios until i beleive and then maybe do some shit. fucking bastards
The "trust your instincts" is truly important
Damn, that's what a micro aggression is?
It's one of the dirtiest, most cowardly tactics I've encountered.
Gaslighting is one of the the least-honorable things someone can do.
But it is quite potent.
@@ShinjiInui91 It's a stupid recently made up term when there was already a term for it. Passive aggression.
I've always been told that i'm too sensitive , which makes me feel like i don't have a voice to express , and what i'm feeling is always wrong
I understand this wholeheartedly.
Im sorry you deal with this as well 😢
Me too! But I AM sensitive because I am a sensitive person.
I feel you and I'm sorry you've been told that. Know that none of this is true, and that this phrase is almost always an excuse to avoid taking responsibility for hurting you.
same
same but idgaf. I tell everyone I meet exactly who I am, my flaws, my toxic traits etc and people choose to stay regardless. At that point, it's on them if they don't wanna deal with parts of me they deem inconvenient, no one told em to stay. They CHOSE to stay so they also choose to deal with my sensitivity.
As someone who has been gaslit for several years: Trust your gut. If something feels deeply wrong, it probably is.
(I'd also highly recommend to educate yourself about narcissism since gaslighting is a core ingredient of narcissistic abuse and toxic, manipulative behavior.)
It's really weird, I got out of a 5 year relationship with someone I loved and found this channel by chance a week later. Everything fits to a T with her when they talk about toxic, emotionally abusive and manipulative behavior. From behavioral patterns to the phrases she always said. I've always felt like she was that way when things were bad and just assumed it was just my brain playing tricks like it sometimes does because we'd have really good times together as well. I guess love makes you blind to a lot of shit..
I hope the healing is going good for you.
@@joetho96 I feel ya... When I found out that what I had been through actually followed patterns that you could read up online, it felt as if a balloon popped. I was so used to blaming myself and fawning all the time, I didn't question that things went wrong until the whole situation became unbearable...
Healing is a rocky road and takes time, but it gets better and I hope you're healing from the things that happened to you as well!
Timestamps
1). Constant contradictions 0:35
2). Selective memory 1:11
3). Minimizing your feelings 1:41
4). Microagression 2:26
Hope to hear from you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Thank you for the timestamp, hope you have a great day as well 💙💙💙💙
@@liamdylan_yw8rv7 hope you have a great day too 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Thank you! 💙
There's a difference between somebody being manipulative to your detriment and misinterpreting other people's intentions because you have anxiety. Other people forget things and remember things through their own lens, and that's totally valid. There's a very fine line here because the intent of the other person matters, and you might not be in a frame of mind to assess that. Plus, you can't ask if somebody is trying to manipulate you, because they'll deny it.
by saying this,you put this theory on balance,no real solution to overcome manipulation, nothing against it.
You are gaslighting the theory
I think it's important to look for other signs. If they match the other signs of gaslighting too, it's likely manipulation. If they don't, that's just perspective then.
Yup...i deal with it when it comes to my dad.
The "youre overreacting" "youre so sensitive for no reason, its a joke" when im genuinely feeling upset.
Or the times where he said "that didnt happen" "no, this is how it happened".
And when i finally proved that it happened, he just goes quiet.
I also remember times where he said that i did or didnt do something. When i asked him "were you there when it happened?"
And that stumps him every time.
I knew gaslighting was a thing, but as i age, i see it so much. Im glad i can see it now 😅
in ma life it happned too. my dad trying to hide behind a person ( a whore who manipulated me into loving her ) then when everything screwed up they put blame on a single person who is a nobody(begger or scapegoat) who accepts all my familys blame for monetory benenfits.
Yeah, it's the worst when it's done by your own family :(
I’m so sorry that you’ve been experiencing this :(( i can def relate too
I also have this problem with dad. If we agree to do something I want or is important to me he's like "But I didn't say we'll do it" but when he wants something it's like "I told you to do it two weeks ago!" while he never mentioned it. Or things like he promised to do something but then he's angry that I didn't do it. Or he tells me to do something and then gets angry that I did it, when I mention he told me to do it he says that it was a joke and I was wrong with taking it literally. I started to note down lots of things thinking that I'm forgetting to much. It led to me hating myself as my intelligence is kinda the only thing I think I may have. I feel like I'm useless but maybe I can think well. But if I don't know if I remember something, if I don't know what's a joke and what's serious then I may as well not exist. Also, I like analyzing people. I'm scared of people but I like watching psychological things and guessing what this character thinks and what will they do next. But I had situations when someone asked or suggested I may be autistic and it may mean I can't understand people. Even if I can guess most of things, even if I feel safer thinking I may notice if someone is bad. But also, I stopped trusting people because I trusted wrong people in the past. So for now I just keep thinking I shouldn't exist and I'm not worthy of existing.
Now that you think about those things you were genuinely upset before. Don't you think it really was overreaction?
This is an important topic!
Thank you for recognizing the importance of this topic!
Had some of these signs happening and this video popped up while I was crying abt it HOLY-
Looks like UA-cam knows how to send the right signals!
Same here. Unbelievable!
Gaslighting can also make someone limit themselves, and possibly even hate themselves. They might hate themselves for feeling a certain way, so then they go to limit themselves. I’m not allowed to feel this way. It’s not OK for me to feel this way. I’m not allowed to be different. It’s not OK for me to cry. And so on, and so forth. Then the person starts to shame themselves, and they even restrict themselves and put a border around themselves just to fit in. And then they don’t love themselves for who they are.
Oh damn
the person starts to limit themseleves when there is constant observing from others. most importedly no one to support him to show his true emotions and when showed his true emotions like crying and sadness the bastards laugh and made fun of them so he is sure to find someone whom he can express freely rather tham fake ppl
@@money_wins_controls exactly! Or they mock the person for feeling the way they feel, which is not OK! Or they boss the person around and tell them how to overcome emotions like crying and stuff like that.
Yeah still learning how to love me again..
@@JaysWorld-oc8vy if I can learn, so can you! I have faith in the both of us! You can do this! So, let’s learn together! Let’s learn to love ourselves every day together!
One thing that, I think, is missing in the video, is a highlighting a notice that not every case of contradicting, selective memory or minimising feelings should be always perceived as gaslighting. Just like with many other things, even here, those symptoms must cross certain threshold to be considered a toxic behaviour.
I'd say, there is quite a lot of gaslighting around these days. And when someone gets gaslighted often, he might become oversensitive to that, and might start accusing all the people around of gaslighting, even those who are actually not doing it.
People who often experience some kind of extreme and unfair situations, sometimes slip into the opposite extreme. I have suffered a gaslighting since childhood, and when I realized what was happening, I also realized that I might get hurt even more if I defend myself too disproportionately. Because I might have been perceived toxic myself by others if I were too easy to accuse others.
Yes, I am never heard in our household. My feelings are always invalidated and they always twist words to make it seem like I'm wrong. It's always been about them being right and that I should always "understand" them.
I honestly don't know how to deal with them at this point.
I love when it’s used in the way of a quid pro quo like if someone says “if you rake up the leafs we’ll go to the bowling alley” so you rake up the leafs and say I fished raking the leafs let go bowling, but they say” I never said we’d go bowling” it’s like wow Pinocchio you could knock someone out if you turn ur head too quickly
All the time for me with the microaggression....People always said something along the lines of "You look well for someone with a disability". ...Pisses me off.
I've been told "it's not that serious" and "you're overreacting" more times that I'd like to remember. No wonder why I had to go see a shrink because of the delusional disorder I thought I had. Gaslighting makes me confused about life and about myself.
Hope you’re all taking care of yourself because you deserve it!
Thank you for the positive reminder! Wishing you a wonderful day too!
Had to recently cut off someone I was supposed to be dating, because they offered to pay for my accommodation for a trip, then went back on what they said and when I pointed it out, they got mad and denied ever saying it
Weeks later, he finally admitted that he had said it, but because I don’t tolerate gaslighting, it was too late
I’m grateful that the red flags showed up early. I find gaslighting very offensive, because you’re trying to make the person question reality.
My advice would be to run from anyone who does this, the behaviour will only escalate.
My ex did all these forms of gaslighting. Except for telling me I'm too sensitive. No, I beat him to it on that one. I gaslit myself calling myself sensitive as the excuse for why I had a problem with his, what I later found out was abuse. He found ways to condescend me nearly every day. It was very subtle, but it chipped away at my confidence and self-esteem over time. This kind of abuse is the most damaging in my opinion. It's been so hard bouncing back from. Definitely needing therapy to get through it :(
🥺😓it's awful and I hope you will get yourself together and on the right path 💜
My sis goes through similar things in her relationship 😔I can't help her much cause she's not in the state of leaving him because she wants a baby..and is totally afraid of not finding anyone else to be with 😔
My problem with Gaslighting is the following.
Gaslighting is a serios topic, a lot of people suffer from gaslighting and it is a subtle and horrific way to manipulate someone.
But for example:
I am in an argument with someone and well .... I actually do remember things differently than my mate. Well what am I gonna do ? If I try to tell them that I indeed do remember things differently to them, I will get accused of gaslighting. But if I do just let it get through and believe them, than I kinda let myself be gaslighted.
And it is not uncommon that two people perceived a situation in a different way, and both perceptions are right in some way and false in some way.
But how should both participants be able to commincate a common ground, when you instantly get accused of gaslighting ?
To give a personal example:
I suffer from a schizo-affective disorder. So it is somewhat common for me to perceive things quite differently. Espacially if I am in a psychotic Episode.
My Ex-Girlfriend used to accuse my of things I did not remember at all or in a different way. Well whose perception is right ? Well probably hers you might say, but than I kind of get gaslighted, because there is always a good argument for my perception to be false isn't it ? On top of that people around me told me that her accusations do not add up with the rest of my behavior, that they are perceiving. On the other hand I do not want to accuse her of lying or gaslighting me, because it is just her perception. There probably is some thruth in there, espacially if you think about my illness.
So long story short:
I think Gaslighting is a very sensitive and serios topic wich needs to be discussed, but I think gaslighting is discussed in a bad manner, also in this video. There is so much nuance to this topic and not every suspected gaslighting ends up to be gaslighting. Right now I think gaslighting is discussed in a way that it leads to mistrust and genuine conflicts between two people, even though there might just be a misunderstanding.
When you try to set any boundarie in the relationship due to a toxic behavior that the person often makes, and then they say that they have always been like that and they never gonna change so we have to deal / live with that because we are having a limited sight of their situation. It's a form of gaslighting too, I guess.
This video described my mom.
I open youtube today and this is the first thing I see, this video is a Godsend
Good morning everyone
Thanks for joining early! 💕
It’s a good night for me! Hong Konger here! (And it’s 11:06)
Top o' the mornin
Morning
It's 6pm for mr lol
That's why it's so important to learn how to stand your ground. Showing that you are not easily pushed around is a silent way to earn respect from others and yourself.
Though, it is important to balance it with introspection and thought-out words.
Remember people. If standing your ground respectfully is treated as a bad thing in of itself, then distance yourself from said audience: respect and human decency is not their norm.
😢 hard to remember the truth when being gaslit until you can see your scars and bruises for your own eyes
You have been a huge help for me this year so far ❤
I love this episode. I realized a bad cue about me and WILL look out for it from now on. Thank you for making my behaviour better
I deal with gaslighting daily... Sometimes I feel like it is nice if you get it from friends or a lover you don't see daily ... but when it is family it is a Neverending hell especially when they've done it since childhood and pass it off as normal plus you have sibling(s) they don't do it too...
Thanks for sharing! What were some of the prime examples you experienced from being gaslighting?
I love this video because it feels like it legitimizes the term "gaslighting" as a psychological term. I've had so many abusers essentially try to gas light the term "gaslighting," basically saying the word and the term doesn't exist because it's not "official." They say that to make it seem like what they're doing technically doesn't exist and isn't wrong, passively normalizing the toxic manipulation.
Thank you so much for this video
Wow you're really clever for masking insecurity as gaslighting! I'm impressed.
the difference between gaslighting and merely having contradictory recollections of an event is whether you can have a disagreement without slandering each other
None of these apply to a person I really like, which just further makes me like them more. Thank you for unintentionally doing the opposite of gaslighting me, instead of making me doubt myself. Very cool Psych2Go, very cool.
How was it possible for this channel to find an EXACT male voice match with the long-standing female one that we all like. Good job, this man speaking is mellow as well and nice to be listening to.
I think this is more insightful to me from the other side. I've had that brought up by people i care about and respect before. I think there's sometimes... From an internal perspective that I'm trying to put my thoughts out there, but the way and the verbage behind communicating it can come across very much like this, even if that's not the intention. I've had some unfortunate rough conversations with close people because i really didn't get what the problem was.
I like that you mention that maybe the gaslighter isn't aware or doesn't necessarily have malicious intentions. It draws focus to really thinking about how your co-part might feel if you're expressing yourself in a way that comes across more overpowering to someone than you yourself would perceive it.
Great video. Helpful for both sides
“Those aren’t examples of gaslighting and if they are you deserved it”
No but for real I had a narcissist try to gaslight me that I was using gaslighting wrong 😂
I feel like iv been gaslighted a lot...which wsnt much of a suprise.. but i just realized that i may have gaslighted some of my frnds too...shocking indeed..its always good to know yourself more so that u can b a better version of yourself
My ex did this to me a lot, mostly telling me about conversations that we had had where I had agreed to something or other that I knew hadn't happened, and that I wouldn't have agreed to. I told her to record me, or use written communication, or something, in case my memory really was as bad as she claimed. It wouldn't be an issue for a few weeks, then would start up again, just on repeat. She then told me that she had asked me a question about word association to make sure I was awake and aware, and I knew beyond a doubt that she was lying. Basically, she did not know some particular associations I have in my brain, and said I told her an answer I that up until I looked it up later I didn't know was the same thing.
Plus constantly saying things like, I'm sorry you feel that way, if you want to believe that, if you feel that's the right thing to do, etc.
SHARED!!!
Thank you for sharing this video!
Legendary, as always, you all.
The movie "Gaslight" is scary, but I'm glad the woman finally got out of gaslighting. 😊
Well, I have some gaslight relationships which I got to know from this video. Thanks, I will try to avoid those people.
This is crazy that I just saw the notification come in after being gaslit like a minute before. Sigh
Shared ❤
What a surprise.... some of these signs are not just familiar but very on point to my personal experience 😮💨
Helpful tips for this tactic that narcissists often use. The thumbnail btw makes this look like a video to avoid being kidnapped :o
“I HAD a friend just like that” I had to say see ya to her.
I think my friend unintentionally tried to gaslight me. 💀 At this point I don’t know if it was unintentional or not.
I work graveyard shifts and I once had this guy coworker there who told me; "Has work been stressing you out lately? You looking rough, weak and unhealthy."
I challenged him that we do 30 push ups at the same time.
He lost. He was struggling & can't even make it to 20. I did exactly 30 push ups.
Guy tried to gaslit me that I was weak and that he was strong & fit lol
😮😢so that's what would always get whenever I've talked to "friend"...she would always do this!! Whenever i brought up things she said in mean way and i explained what exactly was nasty she'd say that's not how I mean it 🥺turned things to her fits 😔...
Thank you for reminding me about this
Love your pagee
thank you
My friends always say What??? When I remind them of an event some time ago, its unnecessary but I yhink their trying to chip away at my confidence of my own memory so I depend in them to remeber, thank god I remain confident about my own memory
When me and my orbiters start having a disagreement over events, we just prattle off the things we agree on about it, or each provide evidence to our registerings we claimed happened and agree on that.
Second one sounds like me but I genuinely hate it because my memory is that bad. My friends will remind me the day before a test to study and when I walk into class my first reaction is “wait there’s a test?”, there’s even been times where my friends tell me something the same day and when they talk about it in the future they have to remind me what the context is or I’ll just sit there confused🥲
So accurate
i am currently dealing with a manager who frequently gaslights me! Fortunately, she's not the manager of the office I work at, but she is helping our office function, but I feel extremely singled out by her. Probably because I've been the only one to see through her and call her out for this kind of behavior.
Oh my goodness, this is such an honest and informative video from psych2go, I just wish people or parents, in some cases, would realize how they treat others or maybe, their own children, because, I really do feel like this is such an awesome and great video, really eye opening for sure, I mean I understand that parents are not exactly supposed to be your friends, but sometimes, they may gaslight you, trying to basically just let you know that, you’re overreacting or you’re getting upset over nothing.⛽️Honestly, a lot of times, that is not even true, sometimes people may have a lot on their mind or have a lot of things going on in their lives that, they do not exactly want to talk about with or express to their parents, unfortunately, too often, what will end up happening, is, the children may suffer in silence and they also, may cry, then also, may just be seen as lazy or selfish, maybe irresponsible, when they do not take care of their chores immediately or they may just be having a bad day, and they need to cry and talk to their parents or maybe a close friend or therapist, but since they choose to do that, in order to better cope with their feelings, their parents really don’t understand and then, just wind up being hard on their kids. Anyway, it is a real shame and it is really awful, it just seems like their parents would just want to know why, their children are crying or are so upset. Well, I just have so many issues with hearing, my dad say, something like you’re too sensitive or stop crying over every little thing, but anyway, so I guess what I just mean to say is relationships are really tricky and can be difficult to handle. 😢Ok so, anyway, thanks so much, Psych2go, this was a very helpful post and looking forward to many more posts/videos like this, anyway, I definitely enjoyed it and take care, awesome video, have a great day, bye. Absolutely loved this. ❤️💕😘
Omg this all happened to me but I ignored thinking I was being immature 😢
My family keeps failing to gaslight me,expecting a different result.
(THIS IS REAL,AND ITS(EXTREMELLY ANNOYING).)
I was once at a convention that was going on for a few days in the city I lived in. I had forgot to do my laundry before and was like, whatever. So one day I was wearing a white t-shirt with print and white jeans. A girl saw me and said: "that's brave wearing white on white" I didn't really say anything to it because I didn't really care. But I cared enough to still remember now, around 10 years later.
She was most definitely making the comment because it didn't fit together. And I knew.
Aligne yourself with the Universe not with the non-sensical thought of people : it will slowly destroy your material process. People are gaslighting each others everyday : everyone is fighting each other in some way of another. Nobody is calm and sincere enough To care about what the other people says : it's like they are talking To each other endlessly. In a world where people are utterly deaf ... Like two computers talking meanwhile their minds says something différent. Love, Grâce and solitude 🌸
Always be calm and be peace with yourself ! ✌️
@@Lolcoca Oh yes, that's it ! ! ! Always look at the green side of life :)
Thanks for the subject. How else does it manifests in a society , and how does it function as agreement in a group- aim? Why disccuse it if its common to twist someones arm? And what are phisical consequences, headaches.. ?
Can relate to these! I really hate it.
1:54 Holy crap! Literally went through this with someone close to me and they told me it was my fault and then attempted to make it about them!
I feel that being too honest puts me in a position of saying backhanded compliments.
Like yes i think that's great but this or that (often picking at details)
Is it only me or does it feel like everyone is gaslighting??? I notice these examples in mostly all people around me. In private I can choose to stay with those people but at work it's difficult. 1 and 2 are constantly for my coworkers and even boss. I feel like everyone is stressed and overwhelmed by their lives and need to use those strategies... And it gets a lot worse when you call them out, I won't make that mistake again
One time I was being gaslit by a really nasty homeless person and some of the things that were said to me were your parents don’t care about you they only care about themselves and you don’t need your friends or family just live alone as if you don’t exist. At first I didn’t know what gaslighting was but then I started thinking what is going on and although it was very traumatic and tricky to understand and then tell myself and my parents what was happening I did and now I am seeing a therapist and I am on the road to recovery so I’m just happy I am recovering from my depression and the bad person is suffering from what they put me through
can you make a video Can you make a video about tips to make your mental health better or how to get rid of toxic friends without harm? Thank you for this beautiful content.
Hey, can you please make a video on how to speak as calmly as you? I really wanna learn this skill 😇🙏
Hi, is fight trauma response against self because of body violations (uncontrollable not consentual physically triggering painful sensations to my body by remote) a possibility?
My brain after seeing the title: Does this include being told school will teach me useful stuff when in reality I've learned nothing valuable?
I was in the store today and my fiancee got mad at me for "embarrassing" her in front of people by spilling a small bit of my drink on the floor and i didn't want to fight about it so i said that it doesn't matter what other's think but that i was sorry for embarrassing her and she said that i was was invalidating her feelings
I experience that on a daily basis😂 that's why I'm all alone and closed to people. I have had it enough...
first somehow, and ty for the help!
Please a video for "the reasons a person is toxic"
No matter the progress made, time passed, she always said things like "you're always angry" even though we hadn't argued in months, sure.. i made comments about crappy drivers and stuff, complained about typical life stuff.. she even chimed into it too. But I always admitted to my faults and tried my best to fix it.. she didn't.
But her favorite word was "always" and never getting better about drinking.. which yeah, created it's own problems.
It hurts that it is what it is.. but i couldn't even laugh the same anymore, stopped being creative.. i walked on egg shells with almost every word.
She even convinced me that my therapist wasn't helping and got me to quit, i don't need that toxicity.. or belittling. I didn't deserve this.
But, I'm moving forward.. not sure where I'll end up, but I'm not dating again any time soon. If for any reason, just for my own health.
Now I need to know about gatekeep girl boss
I will be honest. I clicked this video because I want to be aware if I'm gaslighting anyone or not. So that I can avoid it if I do it. Turns out I'm getting gaslighted. So I'm trying to process things now.😅
Hello psych2go,Please make a video about how to outsmart the gaslighter Thanks in advance❤
I swear that I've been told "You're too sensitive/take things too personally" more times than I could count.
And those same people got their panties in a bunch when I did the same to them.
Oh well...
The one and only way around Gaslighting is learning to trust yourself without being delusional. Personally, I recommend excelling at things and letting your successes sink in to raise the confidence naturally.
As an African, I'm really vibing the South African accent🥹🥹
Maybe we can explain how to deal with these situations after explaining them because you don’t wanna make assumptions of another person’s actions so if you are uncomfortable with them, there is a mature and respectful way to go about it
Well, I gaslight myself. And it's making me go crazy
I told my ex boyfriend to stop making sexual jokes about me. He agreed lovingly, and threw in some crocodile tears to make it believable. NEXT WEEK he did it again. I remember the date, the time, and exactly what we were doing. I confronted him and he said, “That never happened” “I know what I said” “I’d never say that, trust me.” After that, I still don’t know if I’m just delusional.
Who knew my own ex who said were still gonna be friends was actually gaslignting me😂 well? I've spoken about this, and they don't listen still!!
It's important to remember that perception and memory are, in fact, frequently factually inaccurate. Of course there are true gaslighters out there, but we should all be careful to anchor ourselves in facts rather than just our subjective recollections of reality.
You know you are around people like that if you feel that you have to record everything that is said and did,or done.
What if you agree to plans only to have them change last minute? Like it seems like such a small thing but it makes me feel like they don't value my time/input.
I KNEW IT!!!!!!!!! One time, I had a friend shared an article about my disability in our group chat, and how doctors are trying to FIX it, and I said that it's very invalidating. Like, are my friends saying that I need to be fixed? Then another friend say "it's just an article". That was pretty much the end of our friendship because I felt so gaslit by even the neutral friends who tried telling me what they did wasn't gaslighting.
Most likely means you are the problem in the friend group.
Fam, how can we go thru da same thing? Like fr, its unreal!! I had to drop my best fren of 18 yrs bcoz she deadass said to ma face that the only she was friends with me & her other emotional support / supply was to fix us; which is also the reason she dates guys. I found out all this coz of my Forensic Psych Teacher's gut that she might have Saviour Complex mixed in with covert narc.
It sounds like you gaslit yourself into believing everyone else was gaslighting you.
Ummm. I hate to point this out, but that's all on you.
Your friend has the positive belief that your condition can be fixed or improved.
This is objectively good.
They have your best interests at heart.
They want you to have an improved quality of life.
They wanted you to feel better.
They saw the article, then they thought of you.
You mattered to them, and they thought it could improve your life or make you feel better.
This video describes my brothers behaviour perfectly.
Is a gaslighter conscious of what they are doing? Cause I enequivocally have been in many situations where I have had to tell someone they are overracting, for it to be correct or pertinent to the situations involved. I think its in the delivery of what you're saying....
Like.. someone sometimes need to be told that that they are crying over spilt milk or have fucked up.. I'm saying that cause I would want someone to treat me like that.
Most of the time, yes.
@ShinjiInui91 That's very disheartening, humanity can be so fucked up
@@daverandall6352 yes, it's quite a deep pit of darkness.
I have watched ur videos about depression and i can relate to many topics in them i m from india . IS DEPRESSION CURABLE OR NOT ??
A lot of this is more narcissistic abuse/bullying rather then gas lighting. Gaslighting is making someone think what they remember is wrong all the time.
My mom would tell me to get over myself it's not that serious and honestly it made me feel less overwhelmed sometimes I would over think about a situation and tell her and her saying that would always put me at ease and help me calm down about the situation is that okay? If it's to genuinely calm me down with no malicious intent?
thank god
Meow’s parents have all the signs.
Constant contradiction - check.
Twisting the history - check.
Diminishing judgement - check.
Concealed aggression - check.
Requesting elimination permission.
Might not work for everyone, but for me personally, if I'm experiencing micro aggression multiple times. Try taking the more confrontational path, and if not, then just try not giving up, like tell them what you want to say. So tell them things like, if they say, oh, that's not what I meant or that you're just being sensitive. Be like OK well, that's what I took it as, so (please) don't say that again. Or something along the lines of that like. Hey, I don't like the way you've been talking to me, and it's been making me feel really bad, and I'd appreciate it if you could stop giving me back handed compliments. Or Hey, I don't like the way you've been talking to me, and it's been making me feel really bad. I'd appreciate it if you think before you speak. :) I'm pretty confrontational ( was/is a people pleaser who has gotten used in the past). I've learned to stick up for myself because when I do confront someone, it gets the point across and makes me feel better.
My friends used to tell me that I was hallucinating, after they ignored me. Does that count?