Who You're Attracted to Says A Lot About You
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- Опубліковано 8 лис 2023
- Are you attracted to toxic people or toxic relationships, and you're not sure why? Whether you're drawn to certain personality types, physical attributes, or shared interests, there's a lot more to it than meets the eye.
If you're curious about the deeper meaning behind your attractions and want to gain valuable insights into yourself, don't miss this video.
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Michal Mitchell
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon / @littleghostyofficialtm
Animator: Sun Biscuit @sunbiscuit_
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
0:33: Attracted to bad boy/bad girl
1:23: Attracted to those less attracted to you
2:06: Attracted to those who remind you of a parent/caregiver
2:46: Attracted to toxic people
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using a famous artist's caricature as a clickbait thumbnail and then stereotyping him as a toxic person / bad boy image . Seriously get a life , u are pathetic
Honestly, I believe physical attraction matters a lot to a good of majority of people whether they want to admit it or not. That being said, it’s better to prioritize their character or personality when it comes to vetting effectively for a long-term partner. Otherwise, you’ll get bamboozled along the way upon ignoring any red flags whilst being blinded by their looks.
I just said that LOOKS ARE VERY IMPORTANT
I am invincible sand which with cheese
I I genuinely don’t think it matters to me personally. Personality is quite literally the make or break of a relationship not looks. No matter how attractive 5e person looks if y’all personalities clash it’s a no go but that’s me
A person's looks is how they first catch my interest. Who they are is what keeps me.
It's important for both
Saying one is objectively more important than another is never going to be true
Both are important in different ways and quantities for different people
I've read somewhere that, "being in love with someone's way of thinking is a whole different level of Love" and i think it's such a heart warming sentence.
That’s how I feel about Jah the Creator.
I wanna say so much.. but, I’ll just stick with “so damn true” 🙌
I am currently feeling this way in my own life. And it's something that has been unexpected and great while also being challenging and intimidating. I can't say I love this person yet, too early, but I love the way they think and interact with everyone.
No truer words could have been spoken ❤
When i realize it in conversation, I call it brain orgasm.
I find it attractive when he teaches me patiently instead of judging or making fun of me for not knowing something.
Who can allow me to be open and vulnerable without fearing that they might take advantage of it and he's vulnerable with me too.
I don't have to overthink about what I say or do around them and can be myself
💜
THIS!! I’m the type of person who can’t do something unless it’s well instructed. Fear of getting judged. Are you like that too?
@@kaeyaswife926 yea I was pretty much like that too but I've been trying to get myself out of that and try new things recently
@introvertstar7847
I really don't like when people act the complete opposite to what you've listed I mean if I don't understand please at least try to be nice😭
The problem with being attracted to teacher types is that the relationship is inherently shortlived. Once he has taught you what he knows, you'll be ready to move on to the next teacher. Better would be to find someone who loves learning as much as you do and learn (and grow) together.
I too introvertstar
I'm a strong believer of the 'Opposites Attract' saying. I think that the reason people have partners is not on for companionship but also to fill in each other's cracks, but you must have a balance. I'm loud, extroverted and quite impatient so I want a quiet, introverted patient guy who can also speak up and socialize when needed.
I used to be attracted to my caregiver since I was very immature, I didnt get to confess my true feelings to them and soon fell out of it.
I'm glad that we're still good friends without me feeling nervous or anxious with them around, though I sometimes wonder if we would really work out if one of us ever made the first move.
Agreed. I'm a loud, extroverted guy and am attracted to quiet, calm women. My closest friends tend to be quiet introverts as well.
Me too, my best friend said they feel like they talk too much and ramble but I was like NO, keep talking, I'm not good at it so if you don't it'll leave huge gaps
I'm currently dating someone who's the opposite of me. He's very hypersexual while I'm asexual. He's a bit more book smart, I'm street smarts, ect. ect. But we do balance one another out, I hope in positive ways.
Agree! I'm introvert & quiet and I want extrovert & loud.
Jungkook is the epitome for “not judging a book by its cover”. He looks like a bad guy, but is genuinely one of the sweetest and sincerest people out there. He is a good person, just like all the other members.
Yes, it's so funny to me that they use him to represent the "bad boy" stereotype when, in reality, he's such a sweetie.😅
Stans in the vicinity
Hi there army bestiee💜💜💜
We all up here because we recognized even a scribbled generic tattoo dude as who it's meant to be, thought we were being army crazies, and just had to check lol
@@totchi6 totally yeah ahahah😂💜
Things I'm attracted to
1. Cuteness in looks and personality
2. Intelligence
3. Emotionally strong, with empathy
4. Great mindset
OMG same 😊
Boring. Tall girls, big ass, like Jennifer Lawrence, is the way to go. Lol
Based
Add yandere, and that's my ideal girlfriend
Same for me as well
WHY'S THERE JUNGKOOK HERE 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
found my ppl, just why? and a bad boy? baby os a cinnamon roll
I click immediately after seeing jk
I remember when i was younger i would find myself attracted to ppl who were physically attractive, but now that im older i feel strongly attracted to those whose very kind, and smart, open-minded, confident, and morally strong. Someone who is actually pretty similar to me. When someone is especially extremely nice and a good, respectful being i tend to find them physically attractive as well.
i know it’s important to learn more about yourself and whatnot… BUT WHY IS NO ONE TALKING ABOUT THE JUNGKOOK DRAWING FOR “Bad Boys/Girls” 😭😭
IKR😭
But can't help his style is indeed the Badboy kinda style😭
broo frrr like leave my man alone😭😭😭
And some of the ppl actually buying into it😭
I'm a army 4ever...but honestly what JK seems like, he might be a little red flag tbh
@@BrBoBo honestly? Not really. (I’m not hating on ur comment, u can have ur own opinion ab him ofc) I’m just saying that imo, most of us haven’t actually met him to confirm it. But most of the people that are saying that he’s the opposite of a red flag is because despite his “bad boy” appearance, he’s actually known to be kind and caring off camera. Some of it shows with his behaviour with the staff, the members, etc. He’s also had a lot of growth in his character over the years. But then again, we haven’t really met him to fully confirm that he’s actually very nice or actually a red flag, we’re just making our best assumptions from what we see, which is actually very much opposite of a real bad boy :))
One of my role models once said (summarized) - It’s okay to have a list of things we need in a partner and a list of things we would like in a partner. However, for all of those things we need in a partner, we must also exemplify. For example: kind and loving, prioritizes family, fit and physically active, etc. Made me think a lot about what kind of person I want in my life and the kind of person I want to grow into someday.
i've never really looked at it that way - thanks for sharing!
That's what I came to realize. It's not so much that I need my partner to have these abcxyz things and therefore I must exemplify those things first and foremost myself, but rather because I have valued those things (patience, warmth, introspective, perseverance, etc) for a long time and have worked hard to build those things in myself, that's why I find it necessary that my life partner has those things as well, otherwise it's kinda self-contradictory.
I agree completely. It's fine to have standards, but if you don't even meet those standards by your own parameters then what makes you think you deserve to be with someone like that.
I had a girl who told me how much she just wants to find a tall, handsome man making a big salary who'll make her a housewife so she doesn't have to work a day in her life again, so I asked her what exactly she'd be providing in return for that. She said "I'll give him my love" but to me that seems very entitled. Like you want a perfect man that gives you his money, time and soul and in return you give him some attention? That's not a relationship, you're just being a paid hoe.
Like I don't even bother trying to go after girls way out of my league. And by that I mean girls that are prettier than me, richer than me, and more intelligent than me. To me, I have nothing to give them. I'd be the only one benefiting from that relationship, so why should I deserve to be with them if there's nothing I can offer them. It would be incredibly entitled for me to expect them to look my way just because I said a few nice words to them. Hence why I date within the standards of what I can bring to the table.
@@thehorse5307 I agree with what you say in some sense, but not entirely. I don't think we must be a perfect replica or give exactly what someone is giving us, but I do agree that the partnership must have balance. An example I can think of is that maybe a one person has an amazing job and makes good money and that is their contribution, but the other may be an amazing chef and cooks delicious meals. It's a little hard to describe my thoughts since everything is so subjective to each person. In regards to needs and wants in my original comment, maybe something like being "hot" or "wealthy" is something that belongs on the wants list instead of the needs.
Agreed! It's also called not having double standards haha..
things i'm attracted to:
1. Confidence
2. People being interested in me/straight forward/taking initiative
3. Smiles
4. Muscles
5. humor
6. brown and green eyes
7. openness/honesty
8. people who think a lot (idk how to explain this in english, but i'm attracted to smart people, not necessarily in a school-smart way, but people you can have deep conversations with, and you just understand that they really get stuff)
9. people who touch you a lot
what's your native language?
By the way, you have almost described me. But I'm girl if that's matter, and I think people can't fully think about different things with some people. It's not because they r stupid but because they don't like them and/or they don't like topic of talk and have nothing to say.
I remember I talked with stuffy man at one time. And obviously often I didn't say something from my thoughts. Or once I was chatting with a guy who was obsessed with science. Or he wasn't obsessed, I don't know, but he was very concerned that I wasn't particularly interested in any science. For some reason, even when he started talking about something else, I had nothing to answer. Even I felt stupid then. Well, that's when he called me dumb.
I have a friend and we're sometimes discussing about interesting things though.
Okaay, I just told u all that because I wanted to, don't know why. I got that you mean people with whom exactly you can talk well
@@VikaGoose my first language is norwegian :)
i get what you're saying, it's just not possible to "click" with everyone. it also happens to me sometimes, that i am talking to someone and i don't have any idea what to say to them
Damm a month passed and are you guys friends
@@katja3749I've got to know
@@Enzo-qi5ep No, we didn't talk after that. But I wouldn't mind talking to her or being friends
Yeah, I always found myself attracted to guys who are intelligent, funny, and not interested in me. With much introspection I realized it's because they're "safe" to like. It's not healthy but growing up I found it a much safer way of exploring the feeling of liking someone than what many of my peers went through.
I'm really attracted to people who look intimidating but when you get to know them, you find out that they are huge softies, expressive about their feelings, huge animal lovers, and the biggest dorks ever. Growing up, my parents taught me that crying=weakness so I have lots of trouble showing my feelings and having a partner who is open about their feelings encourages me to be expressive too. The reason why I'm scared of finding a partner is because people mostly take advantage of me because of my low social skills and my inability to understand social cues which has given me serious trust issues (I'm embarrassed of it because I'm 21 and a lot of people my age are socially smart and I'm not). I really want to get better and see a professional but unfortunately, my parents just tell me to "get better by myself" and get mad at me for saying that I can't do it. Sorry if it was too long and filled with rants.
I'm sorry that your parents can't teach you wisely and have to tell you bad things like that :(
It is said, if you believe anything is possible. So I believe in you! You will become really great and very emotionally mature and wise. God bless your ways into success and happiness, and when you get there don't forget you didn't do this alone, He provided and created. Lysm!
aww, thanks :(@@user-bs9vi4xi6j
Dorks are the best kind of people, so don't worry, there's lots of them out there!
This is advice from an introvert who talks a lot to people now, for me it ended up being pretty easy to get used to social situations despite not being in many of them due to talking to myself, I find myself very entertaining. That may help. Also, I reckon a curious approach towards social situations may work, it's fine to miss most cues but that's why questioning works. You can just ask them straight up, it'd make no sense if they'd be unwilling to divulge you if there were any. Trust issues can be easily removed since if you ask a question straight up and they answer in a way which makes them feel trustworthy, then it should be fine. As a general rule of thumb, if you feel unsure about the person being trustworthy or don't vibe with them, they probably aren't worth the time. Though I assume you may be of a different gender, I am male, my strategy works since the guys I tend to talk to are very chill. This strategy may or may not work with the opposite gender, though I reckon when you start it'd be easier to talk to the people who share the same gender as you. I do hope for your success in social situations, and I will say this, I am no expert, this is just my own experience and I hope any part of it can help you, and that the grammar is proper.
High school was a great place to level up social skills, maybe uni will work well for that too
I was literally having this conversation with my therapist and I realized that I tend to gravitate more towards older women primarily because I’m attracted to maturity. Not that I wouldn’t date someone my age, but the qualities that I’m the most attracted to are usually in older women lol
I have the best conversations with older women. Older women also tend to be more empathic.
Literally same. Last relationship was with a 36 year old and I was 24…I always find myself in deep conversation with older women and never my own age. OFTEN
same lol
Which qualities r they?
@@Cutiejuliya Don’t know if you want a list, but here you go:
1. Confidant in who they are as a woman and have a firm grasp on their boundaries and morals. In other words, they don’t switch up on a dime.
2. From my experience, they are less judgmental. I don’t know what it is, but a ton of people my age (I’m 26) go from 0-100 in the judgment section as if they know it all. I’m aware this goes both ways as some old folks have been hella judgy, but the ones who have actually left the bubble they were raised in usually aren’t.
3. Comfortable with their sexuality. They don’t act all shy AND they’re also not on the other side of the coin where they have a kink and make that their entire personality.
4. Straightforward. No games. No BS. If they want you, they say it. I’m a straightforward person myself so this is SUPER attractive to me.
5. They are socially aware. A lot of times, people my age don’t seem to know how to act in public. It’s like they feel they have to be the loudest person or the awkward person wherever they go.
6. They’re more well rounded and know to make a genuine connection with someone. Again, both extremes are apparent. It’s like I run into people who you talked to once and they think you’re blood relatives or you have connected almost every day but are afraid of getting too close because one too many people hurt them (and rather than going to therapy, they just use that as an excuse to treat you badly). Now I know there are bitter old bastards who can’t let go of the past, but the ones I’m attracted to don’t see a point in being angry all the time.
I think that about sums it up and of course all this is from my own experience.
Off topic but your voice is very soothing!
I’ve noticed I’m attracted to sincerity and authenticity and it extends to how someone presents themselves physically.
0:33: Attracted to bad boy/bad girl
1:23: Attracted to those less attracted to you
2:06: Attracted to those who remind you of a parent/caregiver
2:46: Attracted to toxic people
What I'f I am attracted to someone with all these traits? (lol)
@@DarthKiller456123seek a therapist, maybe
@@DarthKiller456123 means you like them spicy
1:23 Deep Souls deserve such depth as Well. Deep souled Introverts, WHO also feels "There should BE more reciprociated Love. WE are so much and Dont you feel "left Out or lonley even in a croud coz the shared depth of Soul seemed Missing?"
Wow none of these apply to me
seeing JK illustration in the bad guy/girl concept is so cute knowing how much of a cinnamon roll he can really be. cudos to the ARMY who put a couple of easter eggs of something they love to something they work on... that's really sweet hehe. And thank you for the video!
fr, the only reason why I clicked on the video.
I was shocked to see him😂
i was about to comment if it was just me or does the thumbnail look like jungkook lmao
literrly was like "wait a second ik that pose anywhere" 😭
Literally ***
Common theme: validation. I think it’s healthy to learn self awareness and self validation. And also- a simple reflection of why we do things. Appreciate everyone here!
The three people I've dated so far, fit three of these types.
First was someone who wasn't into me, second was a toxic individual, and now I'm with someone who has a lot of caregiver vibes.
Both of us are aware of that likely being because they give me a sense of safety I never had as a kid, and it seems like we're a pretty healthy couple.
I'm literally attracted to any girl that treats like a **human** because despite all my efforts, I'm just seen as disposable. I just want to talk about nerdy shit, cook food, play games, write, etc. If with someone, even better.
All it takes is to be nice
and yet so many fail
and people just don't even realize when they fail.
That's why men are the way
Well, you can count me in 😅
Look within for self improvement tho
@@naturalLog26hell ya brother same
@@naturalLog26lol, I’ve found it the other way round. I seem to prefer women these days because I can’t find any guy I’m compatible with… that said though, I think dogs are the safest bet 😂🐶
I saw Jk-art and smth with attraction in the title, I clicked on it, and now I watched a way too informative video.... THANK YOU, JK
Also fyi, Jk isn't a "bad boy" per se. He looks like one, but the tats and piercings are only a style he loves, AND he is openly a VERY sweet and generous person wholeheartly.
IKR i clicked just for kookie but i learned some informative stuff too^^ and yes, our Jungkookie is a sweetheart:)
I saw jk too lmao😭
Even I saw JK what ARMYs just cannot change😭😭
A click for Kookie
Same 😂 and ye,s jk is the sweetest 💕
Just want to say this video is phrased very well, I wasn't very interested in this particular topic but I can appreciate the care taken in the careful wording of communication. Coupled with a brilliant piece of visual illustration, I speak for many people that this type of effort and care is never unnoticed and heavily appreciated
Bro summoned the whole fandom by just the thumb nail
I am attracted to quiet, happy, kind, confident and respectful people.
What does that say about me?
Thus video was surface level
nerd
Same here
Yeah, was really disappointed that my type isn't talked about!
I think they just focused on the types which can be harmful.
I feel there is a lot to be said about introspection. If you can honestly take a look at YOUR OWN SELF, you can go a long way. Most people seem to complain "they don't know what they want!" The more you know about yourself, the more you know what you want!
Nope, I know a lot more about myself than most people and yet I have no idea what I want.
@@lyssao.8308you know yourself but not on a deeper level yet , it's a process as we grow older, oftentimes if you don't know what you want it is because you don't know yourself enough
That part! That's why there is so much toxicity in the current dating pool. People don't know what they want and go around dating multiple people, playing games and wasting time all because of their unsureness.
I like your voice, it's soft, not distracting so we can enjoy and listen to what you're saying. Keep up the good work!
I'm just very into people who look like bad boys, but have a heart of gold.
Dudes that I can just hang and have fun with, but that are also supportive, especially emotionally.
I kinda need someone to just grab my hand and throw me into adventures, but who can also be there when I get overwhelmed, and who doesn't judge me for being such an emotional guy... I obviously don't expect a partner to fix me, I'm working on that just by myself, but being pulled out of my comfort zone by someone I love and trust just feels genuinely good.
Jungkook’s drawing omg😭🤣💜
yeh😭😭😭😆😆all armys are rebellious then😂they showed as badboy😂
Exactly
I recognized him in the thumbnail immediately lol
This is my first nontoxic relationship and I'm very happy with him. I've been in abusive relationships ( emotional) and this man I'm with is there for me and just amazing
Glad to know this, Congratulations to you!
I'm truly happy for you that you've found someone who brings you joy, especially after navigating through toxic relationships. Wishing you ongoing happiness and fulfillment in your relationship! 💖
@@Psych2go omg thank you so much. Love your content, please don't ever stop making it
I hope he cheats on u
@@snaildunk why would you write something like that? Let me add something to your comment. *I hope he cheats on you during a game of Cards or Ludo and you still end up winning. (But for real, don't be a dick online just for your own amusement or because you're unhappy and hate seeing other people happy.)
Even after being aware , people still fall head-over-heels for their beloved no matter what their personality is and i think every type of person has their own way to express love to their loved ones😊 whether it's a flashy , innocent, calm or caring, when love happens it doesn't matter what the person is! That's Beautiful!
What do you mean by head-over-heels? Sorry English is not my first language.
@@CsunnywbrIt is an idiom for falling deeply in love with someone
Woof. Can’t relate to this one more than usual. (Most of these romantic relationship videos are incredibly allonormative and I’m very, very ace.)
Things I’m actually attracted to:
1) genuine kindness and compassion/empathy
2) common interests + diverging interests
3) sense of humor/wit
4) courage and communication
5) if someone has a personalized sense of style, vs any particular style
6) yeah, physical beauty doesn’t hurt, but even with people I’ve genuinely been in love with, this is more like…icing on a cake.
Basically, people who are kind, have a strong sense of self, and have things in common with me (but also have their own inner and outer life. I’m all for mutual support but not codependency.)
So much Jungkooked video it is 😭🤧
I literally came after realizing it is Jungkook in the thumbnail
and i love it
@@IYKYKME26me tooo
i'm glad i'm not the only one to notice that, therefore i'm not as obsessed as i thought XD
@@lilvege3737 hahahah XD you welcome
little shocked about your thumbnail. watching your chanel for months, but being an ARMY for years. seeing an iconed Jungkook - my bias - caught me of guard.
Me too😭🫶💜
😂same
I DOUBLED BACK AND WAS LIKE JUNGKOOK IS THAT YOU
GIRL SAME LIKE WHAT ARE DOING HERE JUNGKOOK
I was the same 😂😂🤭🤭
Thank you for this simple but important video! I’ m attracted by the bad guy type.. but actually I’m simply searching somebody Who loves adventures and has non-standard mindset, open mind, open view and likes to see things from different perspectives
the new voiceover artist is has a soothing voice !
And i am typically attracted to introverted and emotionally unavailable guys who dont date or are uninterested in dating. They are more masculine and have initiation and self confidence!
The way this has addressed every phase ive been in relationally is crazy. Now im just attracted to stability and mutual values. And a pretty face ofcourse
Facts me too 😂😂
I see JUNGKOOK I CLICK
edit - I had no intention for make people to start a war in the comment section. but slay I guess 😍
real
Literally ME😭
Fr
Who is junkbook?
@@xelextengen a member of the group called 'BTS'. a 26 old kpop singer!
Friendship,Desire and Loyalty is the greatest foundation for a good long-lasting relationship.
Thankyou so much for first half. For the first time I trusted & found the research accuractly correct.
I learned this about myself in my early 30’s. I was mad about a guy that didn’t seem to want to commit and other than that, dated guys out of state (I traveled a lot). Then I realized - duh - it was ME that was terrified of commitment. I read the a book in this topic and yep, that was ME. What an eye opening that was!
I also am
Me too, sometimes I think that fear comes from genuinely not finding the right man for me.
This is why, before getting engaged into a romantic relationship with someone, I ask a few questions about their exs first. That way, I can figure out if there's a problem somewhere: I see if the person worked or is working on their past mistakes or is basically putting all the blame on others, which is a pretty significant warning for me.
I’m the opposite. I just let them talk and tell me without asking.
@@buggus0034 I guess it depends on your patience !
That's a thoughtful approach!
Lol as someone who's dated a lot of goth girls in the past i really don't look good. Not a bad strategy though
This is why I think girls are worse at dating the more ex's they have. Each one makes them more toxic in my opinion if they're the one ending it
im attracted to anything that gives me a tiny bit of attention and my type is exactly myself but more responsible and less mistrusting
I read this in a book"we seek the love we think we deserve" and I think it perfectly sums up why a lot of people today are miserable in toxic relationships but unwilling and scared to leave them
Even psych2go is army😭💜
Coming from someone who’s been happily married for 23 years. Something I know was a big attraction for me to him is his sense of humor.
Living with this guy is like living with a amateur comedian and I have peed myself from some of the hilarious things he does..multiple times over the last two decades.
From day one he makes me feel safe and to this day
he is my best friend (have a gal BFF as well) in life. Best team mate. And he has all the qualities that attract me to certain guys like being taller & bigger & much stronger then me, dark dark brown eyes that turn to upside down smiles when he smiles, and deep dimples on each cheek. When I met him all those years ago he was on the Navy football team and well HOT as hell. 😅 We made and raised three gorgeous daughters and his looks are more dominant in each girl. My last daughter doesn’t even have one single feature of me anywhere. Just a girl version of her Daddy. 😂
So wholesome 🎉
Such a beautiful short story
so adorable :( I hope one day I find a partner like that too
A little bit jealous. I've been married for 5 years I've developed issues because of the lack of intimacy. He hasn't touched me in years. I sit up nights crying about it and the severe weight gain that came with it.
My husband isn't my type anymore.
@@elisabethpuckwhen your heart is sure you're not in love anymore, it's time to move on.
I'm attracted to her morals and the way she speaks to me with care. She listens though things could be inconvenient to her, she makes me feel heard about those ranting sessions. She can also be playful too which makes me nervous (in a good way). It's hard to look her in the eyes and not be obvious. I'm definitely physically drawn to her as well. I think of her often. She appears in my dreams but as always upset at me and with someone else. It tells me a lot but sorry I can only feel this way from afar.
I'm attracted to someone who is undoubtedly not interested in me. And yes, this kind of situation did not just happen once or twice. It's like a never ending pattern of mine, and I've been frustrated with myself why I constantly do it, and confused about the similarities of the situations I put myself in. This video is very helpful for me to realize where this stems from. Now I am awaken by awareness. I'm still on the road of learning how to appreciate myself more, and I hope to see more from this channel.💗
THATS JUNGKOOK OMFG YES
Calm down love
That's why we all here 😂
I saw jeonjungkook I clicked 😂
Same....😂💜
The amount of narcissistic or emotionally unavailable and unstable I attract is crazy, it makes me doubt myself
Whoever I get attracted to seems a good person but after some time they show their crazy side which has totally ruined my confidence of being able to know people.
I've only this year really started watching these, but they have helped me so much
People who are attracted to intelligence or emotional intelligence are rare. We do exist by the way.
Exactly 😢
Feels good to be rare though.😂
Another rare here :P
I just want a man who is intelligent, I'm not asking for a genius, but someone who stands out from the rest
Yes. We are. I'm attracted for smart, ambitious, and emphatic people.
Yes we do
Bruhhhh ma jungkookie on thumbnail 😭✨✨✨✨
genuinely appreciated...was never the case for me. i was always just an option or an replacement for someone or just friendzoned even if i did things for them. but mostly just taken advantage of my actions.
Thank you for the built in subtitle! ❤❤❤
Wonder what it says about me. I like the mysterious type. The kind of girl who is friendly and stuff, but not so open that they tell you everything about them, their childhood, and their family totally unprompted and shortly after you've started dating.
Maybe it means I'm not a very trusting person and I only value trust that is earned, rather than given freely. I keep my secrets close to my chest and am attracted to people who keep their secrets equally hidden because it means we both might place a high value on trustworthiness.
I hope u get touched
Your description of the ideal type sounds like someone with boundaries. Less to do with secrets and more to do with someone who has a strong sense of boundaries with others, is cautious with strangers, and can establish trust within the relationship
@@kri_cal Hey, I appreciate you putting it in such a nice way. Thanks for that.
Well.. idk if others would consider me as mysterious, but it's definitely hard for me to be an open book. It feels like i'll get backstabbed at any moment
Only those who observe me closely would notice. So, only those who treat such findings with utmost care would pass the fortress
@@kri_callmao the whole time i was saying “omg hes describing me” but i definitely dont have boundaries.
I think im just private because ive never really had friends in middle/high school who cared about what i had to say so unless someone asks me a question, i wont reveal anything about myself bc i literally dont know how lmao
id say i mostly get attracted to people who are cute or shy. what also plays a lot into that factor is when they are dependent on me or cling onto me whenever they can since it just boosts my confidence and makes me appear as more of an assertive and dominant person in the relationship which is just completely my thing. i also like people who give words of affirmation like constant compliments, loving gestures and just overall an appreciation to being able to be my partner
edit: a lot of people find my comment to be self-centred and narcissistic, but that's just not the case. yeah, I worded it in a way that might give off that impression but I really didn't mean it that way. I like people who depend on me because independence is my entire thing, I can't depend on my partner for anything. I see myself as more of the dominant one because that's just what I search in a relationship. you guys might think it's a red flag, but it's really comforting for people who are generally reclusive and shy.
Reading every word of your comment just makes me realize how rare it is for me to feel understood. This right here is actually me as well. The shyness in a person especially as they’re talking to me is just so warm and lovey and I gravitate towards that every single time. I also relate to what you said about them depending on you because I do love to feel needed, idk if that sounds wrong. Being needed and being there for people and just helping in general is what gives me some kind of purpose. The video mentions falling for a person who’s a “parent/caregiver”, and what I have to say about that is I don’t fall for that person, I am that person. That category perfectly describes who I am. I have this motherly nature about me with everyone and it must have something to do with the fact that I’m an absolute empath at heart. I’m sensitive to people’s feelings and their pain. I feel their emotions as if it were my own and I just always feel like it’s my duty to care for people and be there for them even when they don’t show much appreciation or even when that love isn’t returned. Sometimes it hurts and also gets lonely when that same love isn’t given to me when I want it and when I really need it
@@redresident6434 bravo, i couldn't have said it better tbh, you took my thought process and formulated it into a perfect paragraph
thats exactly what i look for in a partner omg. very happy to hear it isnt just a made up concept by the books i read lol
so basically someone that makes u feel better and cooler
@@mintyyy111someone that makes him feel loved *
Saw the title and the first thought I had was "I'm in the mood to get severely called out today."
Jungkook's physical appearance may be the "bad boy" image, but his personality is completely the opposite! Only ARMYs know! Haha!
I met my bf online so it was his intelligence and kindness that blew me away; when I did finally get to see him I couldn’t believe he was so cute and handsome at the same time! I’d never met anyone who thought so similar to me yet differently so we could communicate, have deep conversations and light ones easily.
This video is so true and insightful. It’s like I can relate to everything they say because I been through all these things even though I haven’t been in many relationships I still know how it is. I can’t just the blame on the women I been with that mistreated. I have to put some of the blame on myself because I allowed to happen because I was scared being alone and rejected. But now that I’m older I’m going to start being more cautious and watch out for the signs of the women attract and date
I want more video dubbed by this video's voice over talent, so soothing ❤
Jeon jungkook!!!
There's Jungkook, there's like
That's literally the first person I thought of when I saw the thumbnail😂😂 it looked like Seven poster
It wasss🤡@@TheArmiesBlinked
from this video, my typical type has a sweet personality, being cute and hot at the same time (i want duality lol) and also smart and emotionally understanding. but i'd like a pinch of bad boy vibe too (uni get the hang of urself ur not ordering food). so long story short, my preferences are like a salad but i cherish every single trait i listed here when it comes to having a relationship with someone. thanks for this informative video^^
p.s: if putting my bias on the thumbnail was to get the attention of ARMY, you succeeded in it for sure loool and also, love the "3D" reference hehe:)
It's nice to hear a south african accent on a topic I'm interested in, which doesn't have forced tinges of an American accent. Very comforting to listen to!
Jungkook isn’t really the bad guy type. He looks mature and edgy but he is a sweet kind humble bunny. Literally a bunny with piercings, tattoos and black outfit 🐰🖤
IKR. His talent is unmatched, I'm proud to stan such legend😌💗
again making assumptions about someone you don't really know?
@@sandygonsalves4646 people cant pretend to be nice if they are in the industry infront of camera since teenage...
He comes live like for 3 hrs...I cant imagine a global pop star being soo humble...he always comes live when he misses us and nevers fails to appreciate us and even tattooed our name(ARMY) in his hands..so yeah whatever💅
@@shrutijha4165 that's standard for kpop artistis to come live. guess what..it's part of their business model. not denying that he's nice, he seems like a genuinely nice guy...but him coming live isn't proof of anything. but please have fun in your parasocial delusion or whatever
ok I can't explain you anything in one paragraph...whatever you want to think you can..it's your opinion anyways..
But they are the reason of happiness for many people out there this is what matters Ig.
There are many celebrities who don't act normally with their fans, disrespect them...soo that effects their movies or song whatever in future too, but still they can't show a little generosity to their fans...they can't even act being humble..they can't even love and respect their fans...soo I think myself blessed to stan a group/person who loves us equally the amount we love them, being humble as a huge superstar is not easy but still he/or the grp, is humble...we are insanely protective of them and they are protective for us tooo..
recently he had a music show in which he gifed his fans who attended there a perfume which literally had gold freakles and lot of calvin klein merches tooo...its just an one example...they do a lot for us.
soo I hope this helps a little...
and tbh I am a mbbs student its hectic for me whole day..they make me happy when I watch them...they give positive vibess.
Jungkook maybe looks like a bad boy but if you watch his lives he’s actually very sweet and quirky, like cooking and doing karaoke at 3am lol also he’s very respectful/humble towards others and I feel like bad boys are arrogant
Exactly. His style is more of the “bad boy” style but his real personality is pretty different
yeah, his only "bad boy" personality trait is being a daredevil.
He doesn't have any of the other "bad boy" traits tbh
help jungkook aint a bad boy😭🤣
Im used to be attracted to my caregiver since i was very immature, i didnt get to confess my true feelings to them at all and soon fell out of it.
I'm glad that we're still good friends without me feeling nervous or anxious with them around, though i sometimes wonder if we would really work out if one of us ever made the first move.
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just can't, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
0:44 CHAMPAGNE CONFETTI 🍷🎊
I love this channel and suddenly they're using my bias 😭😭😭 i loved the video tho 👏🏻👏🏻
well, I like someone who behaves innocently but can have mature talks, someone who doesn't try to hide their inner child and is excited about every little thing, someone who loves nature and appreciate it and is simple minded , kind, and knows how to enjoy and cherish life to fullest , someone who is stupid at times but could be mature at serious situations too. (lol, I described a INFP personality type)
Im VERY attracted to people who are on the shyer or softer side. I dunno why, they just seem so sweet and kind to me. I also like people who like theorizing and analyzing stuff, which is probably because I'm a bit of a storwriter and like it when people theorize about my work :)
Wrong. You like men who are strong and confident. It’s in your biological nature as a woman to be so. Stop selling a lie to men. Shyness has never looked good on men. Never has, never will.
Same, i fell in love with a guy like that. Recently, i found out that he's gay, we are friends now, i'm happy because he is so adorable. But, i'll still look for these traits in a future boyfriend
I'm attracted to intellect, emotional maturity, someone that can communicate their emotions and thoughts without me having to constantly ask them how they feel about something, rational thinkers who can be empathetic, and primarily older men. I also like men that can be playful, that doesn't always take himself so seriously. Looks are important at first, but it's definitely not enough to make me stay in a relationship.
Me too! People who are average looking have made me go head over heels due to their personality. I'd like to be their safe space for all things. Feeling trusted to be open and honest to, and also give that in return. That sense of comfort and warmth. However, I think heart break would hurt a great deal more in this type of relationship because everything is out there, even your most vulnerable moments. As someone who is an empath, I feel like it would be very difficult for me to move on. But if all things are smooth going, it'd be the best chapter of my life.
Omg, Yes I agree so much!
Exact same for me but i am a guy and 17 and emotional maturity and self awareness is so rare at my age. I have wanted a relationship for a while but the biggest problem is just finding someone who I like. It feels like i am the only person my age that is mature and actually wants to look for something long term. Shit is tough.
@@brycegilmore4499 hard generation we've been born in too
I seriously knew my husband was the one in 8th grade. We didn’t date, but I would remind him when we ran into each other that we were end game.
When we were in our 20s our moms died 5 weeks apart. He called me and asked if I was ready for the end game…that was 20 years ago and he is truly my best friend. We are the couple that other couples ask how we do it, I usually tell them our story❤
I personally don't feel any romantic or sexual attraction, but it's interesting to know about stuff like this
Personally I’m scared of intimacy. So for the longest time I would purposely be mean when I felt attracted to someone. Though it sounds delulu, engaging with celebrity society gave me to space to be mean while not having an immediate reaction. The result was me left alone hearing the horrible thoughts and words and realizing this is not what I want to be thinking or saying to others. And now I’m digging into my suppressed experiences to find the root pain and address it properly. Its taking time but I’m hopeful that one day I’ll be able to love someone without fear💜
Damn is that jungkook on the thumb nail😅😅
I realized a while ago that I wasn’t genuinely seeking relationships but something different in my life, hence why i was drawn to certain ppl bc they’d take me out and we’d do adventurous things or ppl who were wishy washy bc i had fear of commitment. I feel like i have a little more contentment w my life now and have seen a change in the ppl im attracted to.
Clicked on a phych2go video and heard the sexiest and calmest voice ever
I am attracted to people with maturity. I think an important thing for me is for my partner to have their life together. They don't have to be perfect obviously, but they just gotta not be doing something like refusing to communicate or being emotionally unstable. And I really got to get to know the person before liking them.
JUNGKOOK WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE????
Although i have no specific inclination for a potential partner, other than basic respect and kindness that is strictly lacking in my house, what my ideal partner would be is someone who is mature, has a strong sense of boundary and straightforward.
Gosh, for years, i have been dealing with passive aggressive people or too aggressive people like mom and dad that it has gotten draining. I am unable to open up to anyone thanks to that unhealthy belief in childhood that i couldnt shake off until now. I just wanted to feel safe with someone that im torn whether having relationship would be worth it, after seeing my parents argue almost everyday in inconsequential things discourages me to get into a relationship and had affected my outlook of people for life. 😒
Love the new narrator. Thank you for the video!
Well using Jungkook was a smart move
I deeply appreciate, that this episode has the text in it, because this male voice is so delicate that I have to put extra effort to understand and not only because English is not my national language, but because this voice is so soft... Sometimes on the chanel is also one female voice which is even softer and even harder to get.
That's why I appreciate Amanda the most because she has perfect diction.
i thought this video would help me figure myself out.
only 1:12 in and i already left the video cuz of how called out i felt but thank you now i know i have a weird savior complex-
coming from the toxic relationship portion, after 3 years of my so called "relationship" is similar to this, especially the validation portion. it can also fit in with the less interested and feeling undeserving portion, they arent a good combo.
Thanks a lot Psych2Go team, you've been my therapy for years now and I appreciate you guys with all my heart!❤
That's truly heartwarming to hear! If you have any video suggestions you'd like us to consider or topics you'd love us to cover, please feel free to let us know. ❤
@@Psych2go Hi , I've noticed a pattern in myself where I tend to develop strong feelings or attachments quite rapidly, and unfortunately, it seems to make my partners feel pressured and pull away. I'm not sure if you've covered this topic in a video, but I suspect I'm not the only one dealing with this. I'm eager to address this aspect of myself and think many others could benefit from insights on this too. Thanks a bunch, you're truly amazing! ❤
I’m a simple human being,I see jungkook and I clicked it immediately 🥲🫰🏻💜
I am attracted to:
Personality- Assertive
Proud Confident Smart Understanding Loyal Funny Kind.
Looks-
Sleek Brunette hair
Blue/green eyes
Tall
Real Smile
I like soulful eyes💖 i like people that are soulful, like that are just pure and honest, that didnt mean any harm and that you can always trust fully
i’m a simple girl, i see jungkook i click
You know what's hard about this, is I am usually attracted to people less attractive but it's normally because I'm a closet geek and I genuinely want someone with a personality that's not just gym, bar, and work. I tend to date someone who was my friend first. But truthfully I'd be lying if I said I didn't like being the catch, or having a partner that isn't sought-after by every woman, and I know a part of it is my attachment issues. But I feel like it's 50/50. I know what I could get but they usually don't like what I like and physically I'm not normally attracted to them. Like I prefer slender guys with shaggy hair vs a pretty boy who's muscular. Ill always love the underdog. ❤
Wow I wasn't expecting to see Jungkook here in this video ❤
Thank you for your work and your videos. Your explanations are understandable and the voices are so sweet ♡
In my teenage I've been always attracted to bad or popular handsome boys that weren't interested in me. I was rejected by them many times or they were in a relationship. I tried to be an e-girl or the "not like other girls" so hard, that i almost lost my personality.
Then I gave up and just started to learn how to enjoy of myself.
I didn't have much problem with my self-esteem, i knew that i "weren't ugly", that i have my talents and values, but just assumed that "that" boys were in the "other league" (edit: of course, not)
I met my boyfriend in a volunteer organisation and I've just learned how to love myself and the other people. So when he asked me for a date I though that I could try, cause i wasn't really attracted to him, but we had a lot of points in common and i knew he was a very nice boy.
We're together for 4 years now and we both glowed up so much together so we turned to the partners we always dreamed with and our love keeps growing.
In summary: same objectives + same points in life + self-love + affection + desire to progress together and fight for your relationship every single day = perfect partner.
As we get older we all realize there's nothing more attractive than someone who's got their shit together 😂
I'm aro/ace and growing up I thought the only reason people got onto relationships was for some kind of financial benefit. It doesn't help that my grandma who raised me is 100% on the aro/ace scale just grew up in a time where it wasn't a social discussed thing.
I have found I know very little about how the human brain really works when it comes to attraction. Because of my grandma I though everyone functioned the same way we did. I thought a relationship was purely an agreement based on mutual financial benefit. I dead ass thought the first thing I would want to see on a first date would be like banking statements or sum shit.