5 Signs It’s Breadcrumbing, NOT LOVE
Вставка
- Опубліковано 8 тра 2024
- Is it love, or is it breadcrumbing? Are you feeling like you're constantly being led on, only to be left hanging time and time again? You might be experiencing breadcrumbing - a toxic behavior often employed by narcissists to keep their partners hooked for their own narcissistic supply.
From breadcrumbing from an ex to classic narcissistic breadcrumbing examples, we break down the telltale signs of this manipulation tactic. Don't fall for the illusion of love when you're actually being manipulated. Tune in to learn how to recognize the red flags and reclaim your power in relationships. Knowledge is empowerment!
#manipulation #narcissist
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Michal Mitchell
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon / @littleghostyofficialtm
Animator: Sarimopi (IG: sarimopi)
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
McNeil, D. (2022 Mar 1). Breadcrumbing - 5 Signals to Watch Out For and How to Deal With It. Dr. Donna McNeil: The Relationship Expert. danamcneil.com/breadcrumbing-5-signals-to-watch-out-four-and-how-to-deal-with-it/
Zarrabi, R. (2022 Jun 6). "8 Signs of Being Breadcrumbed." Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindful-dating/202206/8-signs-being-breadcrumbed
Soeiro, L. (2022 May 11). Red Flags of Breadcrumbing in a Relationship. Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/i-hear-you/202205/red-flags-breadcrumbing-in-relationship
Soeiro, L. (2022 May 11). "Red Flags of Breadcrumbing in a Relationship." Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/i-hear-you/202205/red-flags-breadcrumbing-in-relationship
Have you ever heard of this term Breadcrumbing before?
Nope
No
No 😭
Mayhaps
no lmao
-Uncertain situationship
-inconsistent communication
-Lack of future planning
-No personal investment
-Hot and cold behavior
-Temporary change
These are very true
Gotta cold turkey or go toxic 😢
Avoids all tactile connection kisses in particular,likes unavailable men,likes distant friendships,dosnt encourage visiting their home
If someone tries to play any mental games, that should be a dealbreaker. People with healthy self-esteem refuse to play games and trust themselves to find someone who will be straightforward with them.
After my divorce, I unfortunately experienced breadcrumbing. Spent 5 months. I got really tired and “ghosted” the guy. Now I’m with a person that not only gives me the loaf, but brings also the supper. Never been so happy.
I hope and pray it works out for you..
@@funkysawmanwright5077 Thank you! I'm doing fine!
Ditto.
Same here...Just after the divorce, the breadcrumber told me that it is the universes attempt to bring us together... But he had all the qualities mentioned in the video... The moment I stood up to him and called out his behavior, he ran at full speed!!!
Ghosting is a tactic Breadcrumbers use i wouldn't be bragging about that.
Same. But I spent two years gobbling up any crumb dropped before I ghosted him just recently. I hope I eventually have a happy ending like yours.
This is why I'm scared and horrified of dating. People aren't what I'm looking for in a long term haul after marriage.
its common now to dating out of boredom, we genuinely want someone for the long run. but most are looking for accompany when they bored or want something. id say, find someone who have same goal as you. its hard but i believe there someone out there who sees us as someone they want to have their life with
Not necessarily the same goal. Try to be friend with someone you find attractive, then eventually ask them if they want to date you. That's how relationships work, they are based on friendship. Do not try to rush a long term relationship, start slow, partner 😄 @@oracle_naseer
Have you thought about skipping the paper work? Now a days you need like 15+ plus years to even consider it :/
Literally same
Yes everyone want relationship for 3 years and then break up
My ex girlfriend literally did everything you describe here, and more!
"Maybeee" was her favorite word. She did not want me to meet her relatives, and kept me away on holidays. Vague, hot and cold, distant, secretive, cruel mental games. Then giving crumbs of hope... many. Showing up at my door, after we broke up. Calling, saying nice things with no follow up.
Finally, I grew tired of the emotional abuse, and cut things off. But it was hard.
This literally spelt out my last "relationship". Absolute torture full of uncertainty and anxiety. I wish I didn't make so many excuses for her, and just accepted the fact that if she actually wanted to, she would. Always thought maybe I was the problem, and I was simply not understanding her enough, but the reality was, I was Bread crumed as a source of attention and validation without any real desire to keep me. It's hard to process and I'm still processing it.
I told my most recent situationship. “You will change for someone you think is work changing for . You don’t believe I’m worth changing for “
They’re so effing manipulative to the point where you’re always convinced that you are the problem and they treat you terribly when you finally catch on to their game and walk away. The manipulation can be so damn subtle that you always think you’re the problem when in reality they’re just playing games with you out of immaturity!
@@friedkake1876 damn and was it easy to walk away from? How long did it have to go on before you made the decision?
@@danielpam6310 when I tell you it wasn’t easy it wasn’t easy. I had created a fantasy version of her that I was happy with when in reality she was emotionally unavailable and manipulative. She also liked to play a lot of head games. The last straw for me was when she started to express her attraction towards “ Dilfs “ while she had called me at 12 am and woke me up out of my sleep. ( this became a regular occurrence of her only giving me time to talk late at night. This is a red flag if someone only makes time to talk to you late at night ) it made everything click. It takes a lot of mental fortitude, self compassion, and self respect to walk away from self serving people that you love , because deep down you know that they won’t change for you and that they don’t feel the same but they will dangle a carrot ( breadcrumbimg ) to keep you hoping that there’s something more. It can be weaponized intimacy , gas lighting , or overt manipulation. If you accept reality for what it is ( very difficult when you’re prone to limerence - romantic obsession) you begin to see the patterns and what’s been happening to you? Seeing people for who they are objectively and how they view you is a huge step in moving away from people that only want to hurt and abuse you. It is not easy but when is doing the right thing ever easy ? Be nice to yourself , feel your pain :) don’t use things like porn , sex , or drugs to self medicate cause those leave you feeling worse. I hope I dropped some knowledge sorry for the long message
@@danielpam6310 I dated her for 9 months but it took me 11 months to catch on. Don’t be like me 😂
This is exactly what I experienced in a recent relationship - such a painful and demoralising experience 😤😓
Remember, while your value is not defined by the way others choose to treat you, you set the example. Do not tolerate poor treatment. You deserve better! 💛
If i ever was in a relationship, the 5 most important things I'd give my partner are
- Personal space and time
- Support
- Take accountability in the relationship
- Solve the relationship
- Be genuine to them
I dont want my partner to end up being manipulative
Reciprocity is a good one
Thank you for being one of the better people out there, I refuse to date anyone else in this day and age because it’s typical for most people to not know the bare minimum and that’s literally all I ask, but some people can’t even do that so I rather stay independent and rely on myself.
What do you mean you don't want your partner to end up being manipulative? You're saying you can make them turn into being manipulative? I often thought people are manipulative simply because they are due to upbringing
@hananez7681 What I mean is that often manipulative people often seem nice at first, but as the relationship develops, they slowly get more toxic and manipulative and not who you were expecting them to turn out. That's what I meant when I said I don't want a manipulative partner
@@MistyDrop26 I see. I actually just got out of a relationship with someone who turned out to be manipulative and rather toxic. And sometimes I wonder if possibly it's my fault, that maybe I was the one that caused them to take that method of being manipulative
I have not only seen this with situations of love, but in friendships as well.
🥲
This was literally 2 of my friendships that lasted over 2 years, they did everything mentioned in the video. I'm still recovering from the damage that's been done even though it's been about 6 months, but it's been way better since then and I was able to meet new people including my best friend and they're probably the healthiest friendships I've ever had
That's very true 😢
@@toknowistolove I don't like to confront people, I feel like I'm overreacting (probably).
I’m going thru this with a friend
silence speaks louder then words do
Having experienced breadcrumbing firsthand, I've come to realize that it's not our fault. We all deserve open communication and mutual respect in our relationships. Here are three tips on how to deal with breadcrumbing:
1. Trust Your Instincts: If you feel like someone is breadcrumbing you, trust your gut. Don't ignore red flags or dismiss your feelings.
2. Set Boundaries: Clearly communicate your expectations and boundaries early on. If someone isn't willing to meet them, it's a sign that they may not be serious about the relationship.
3. Focus on Self-Worth: Remember your worth and value. Don't let someone else's inconsistent behavior define your self-esteem.
Accurate! Don't let someone's inconsistent behavior define your self- esteem.
0:00 intro
0:42 An Uncertain situationship
1:13 inconsistent communication
1:41 Lack of future planning
2:18 No personal investment
3:07 Hot and cold behavior
3:31 Temporary change
4:29 outro
What’s more interesting and educational is the difference between breadcrumbing and avoidantly attached people.
What is the difference? Often, i watch vids like this and know that i or others I've known have displayed behaviour that's been presented in a negative light (as using, breadcrumbing, etc.) but because of trauma, neurodivergence, etc.. Often, i want to comment about this other aspect of reality, but I don't want to complicate things for viewers who are definitely in some sort of exploitive, unhealthy, or toxic situation.
I wasted my 20s on women who breadcrumbed me (this was in the 90s, long before there was a name for this behavior, although if I'm keeping it 💯 I can't say for sure that knowing it would have done me any good).
It was in my 30s, when I finally got into recovery and actually did work on myself that things changed, including my approach to dating. I set boundaries, which ultimately led me to the wonderful woman I married.
We celebrate our 20th anniversary next month.
congratulations!!
@@jilyyyyy. Thanks! Our anniversary is today! 20 years!
So what we've known for decades as "mixed feelings" is now a formal term. Got it!!
On my quest to be the best man I can be, I try to learn all of these so I don't do them. It's super easy to get complacent in relationships.
I have experienced this in my past relationship I just didn't understand what the term was or anything about it. If I had this video at my disposal when going through this I would have seen the signs much sooner. My advice to those who are experiencing this don't give in stand your ground because you know what is best for you. You don't need someone that does those signs when there are people out there that won't do this. Hope this helps you if you need it like I did when I went through this with my ex.
Funny but that’s exactly what I told this woman who likes me to do for herself. I think she prefers breadcrumbs
I have been there and it is so emotionally draining. I don't get it why some people had to do this to others? for what joy? :(
Oh, the sweet little crumbs you find are the sparks in the dark of life. You just have to remember that it's just crumbs not the entire cake.You have to be weary of the sweetest little cake crumbs that you follow like a mouse, it may be rat poison that you're enjoying and not knowing... Of these things I know...😔😔😔
Remember your self-respect! Remember that you are worth more than this!
@@oldskoolaspie yes, eventually everyone finds that trail of crumbs that lead them to their cake in life...
Damn that was beautiful 🫠
Currently involved with someone who checklists every criteria for a person who'd breadcrumb. As an empath it's highly emotionally draining and hurtful, given the amount of efforts I've given from my side. She's a good person in herself but i don't think getting in a relationship with her would do me any good in the long run. Thanks to you and a little bit of knowledge I've gained of psychology, it allows you to better regulate your emotions and analyse situations from a third person perspective (with minimal biases)
A good person never breadcrumbing the others. She won't ever think about that because the really good people give a thousand thoughts for their actions and the effects to the others. She isn't kind or good.
I had many breadcrumbers, they drop me a message from time to time and that's it. I am fully aware they are just keeping me "on the side" and that I am someone who they consider in case nothing else works out. It made me totally lose faith in humanity. Now I am single and rather stay single than be with a$holes who send me a message from time to time and think that's enough. And especially from those with whom I go on real dates (kind of) who refuse any talk about future because "we should live in now", "I can't plan that far", "I can't promise anything, maybe I will die soon" (nope, he is still alive and well and was when he said that), "I can't plan because my work is so demanding"... Just LEAVE! Don't try to keep me on a leash!
O.M.G. Queen... r u ok?? leave a man like that you dont deserve that. Keep your head high and your hopes higher than ever. 👑👑
I have a married woman i work with who is doing this to me. I lost my wife 2 years ago and its very difficult for me. I even told her if she only wants to be friends i have to set boundaries. Yet she constantly asks about my life like shes interested and asks me for help at work all the time when I specifically asked her not to because my wife always asked me for help when she was ill before she passed. I don't know how to get away from this unless i quit my job as I see her every night at work. Also she texts me and when i answer she takes hours to answer back. Or at all. I tried to quit texting her but she always does me now. :( Im trying to blow it off but honestly it hurts my heart because i feel something for her and shes just toying with me. I wish i hated her instead.
@@dmace81She's married. She isn't changing her life to be with you. She's not clear with you. She disrespects your boundaries and knows her actions are putting you in a place of pain, because you told her. She's using that to keep you emotionally attached, because she knows you miss that from your wife.
I don't think you should hate her, because she may have mental issues, but love yourself enough to tell her "no", "I don't want this kind of connection with you", "i'm not comfortable having a personal friendship/relationship with you", "keep things professional at work. I want to feel comfortable enough to stay in my position.".. etc..
If you believe you have done enough to make it clear to her, yet, she makes no changes to respect you or starts getting more aggressive, you should block her number and report her. She's borderlining harassment. You just have to tell her "no" to unreasonable requests or inquiries. How she reacts to that is on her.
If you do want a relationship with her, you can tell her what it takes to get serious with you, and see if she obliges, but it doesn't sound like it's starting out good.
It's interesting when someone has done this before, wants you back, then does it again. Cut ties at this point.
I simultaneously hate and love when these videos explain what's been happening to me...feels bad bro 😔
Best to know
It's good because it opens up your eyes so you are not left in suspense
My advice would be to not confuse some of these signs as bread crumbing, if the person has low self esteem, is shy, internationally suffering, is experimenting, or is their first time in a relationship.
Breadcrumbing can be unintentional but is still breadcrumbing, the same with manipulation. Many people manipulate others unintentionally but it is still manipulation, just the intention is different. The advice should be to radically accept that the relationship is not healthy and to take active measures to change that, if the shy partner isn't willing to put on the effort there is nothing you can do except leave.
You sound like a breadcrumber. Stop playing with people's emotions you sick f**k. Go get therapy.
Nope,not at my and his age,late 60s,you dam well know what your doing to someone,snd hiw much it hurts,this is my first experience since my divorce,25 years ago,and you kniw what,it's horrible and painful at any age
@@rosettesionne9139 Exactly, it doesn't matter if the other person do it intentionally or not, we must set boundaries in order to take care of us.
💗
Perfect Timing man!!
Im bein Breadcrumbed but im breadcrumbing some people this is helpful
You reap what you sew!!
Once you get a feeling that someone is giving you these type of vibes stop all communication.
It’s quite possible that the person whose behavior is identified here as breadcrumbing has an avoidant or disorganized attachment style, which I view as different than manipulative, though it may have that as a secondary effect upon the other person. I am reluctant to accuse someone of engaging in manipulation, even if their behavior feels hurtful or confusing to another person, if their actions are based out of their fears regarding their own emotional safety.
Intention matters not If the impact is pain to innocent third parties
I agree here. I think there should be some attempt at tolerance and understanding when its accidental and not malicious/manipulating. If youre just starting to get to know each other, you just cant know. And everybody has their flaws and weaknesses. People may teach each other to overcome some of these flaws, mutually, as they start to bond as well. There are lots of ways to mess up accidentally without even realizing even if you are looking for genuine connection
Agree..my understanding of breadcrumbing is it’s a manipulative ploy to get you hooked so that the breadcrumber has some fun getting their ego stroked with your interest in them. It is never serious but meant to bring in supply for the narcissist breadcrumber who has zero interest in a real relationship. You’re just supply to them. It’s usage. Their feigned interest is geared to make you interested in them. They won’t throw out a piece of bread until you’re starting to notice the fade and fading out yourself. A good sign of this is you feel teased, like when someone offers a treat to a dog but never ever gives it, pretends to but pulls away. They take actual delight in torturing someone in this way. They love to see the submission. That’s what they’re going for…the ego boost, the power, the ‘’worship’’.
I’ve seen some comments here from other posters and I think maybe they are misunderstanding the term…- if someone is contacting you sparsely it’s not necessarily breadcrumbing, though it can be annoying if they aren’t making any definitive moves towards you. Some people are unsure. They may like who you are and sort of keep you in rotation not out of malicious intent, but in hopes they themselves might become more clear on their own intentions and feelings about you. It’s typically not a great sign anyway that two people are ‘meant to be’, but some relationships can begin with rather blah beginnings. It’s best not to drag someone along though. Getting to know someone can take a lot of time and some people are really bad at both finding out who others are AND/OR figuring out their own emotions for someone and they can even be confused on how to handle it all.
❤
@@zakosist💗
His life is a secret, yet he listens into my telephone, ghosts me, I live iwith permanent fear and bread crumbing.
Happened in my last relationship/friendship. He never told me if we were just friends or dating, it left me feeling uncertain. He replied me with long silence in-between. Our relationship had all these signs. I didn't know I was being breadcrumbed. I wasn't sure if ending our friendship/relationship was a good idea, but thanks to you, I know I've saved myself from a world of hell. I've been crying for the last 5 days, my world turned into stone after he left. But now I realize it was for the best.
Edit: A huge thanks for your support❤ I'm feeling better now. He found a new partner, but I'm happy for him. I'm currently single and happy with my friends as well.
it is okay to cry since you lost a loved one, but it is for the better, you will find someone who really loves you and won't breadcrumb
Good for you, I need to find courage and do the same.
Thank you, I really appreciate your support.
Same here. It's 2 years cut off him still not getting over from the horrid experience and he's married now. Sad but today's reality is such kind of people succeed in life.
Breadcruming is horrible, but just remember his rejection was your protection !! there is someone out there who deserves you !!
as somebody who has never been in a relationship, thanks for the heads-up!
Even if you haven't been in a relationship I feel that the same applies for making friends too, the friends you have that do make time for you, as in really make time for you and you regularly see them won't also try to breadcrumb you into a friendship too.
Those, those are people worth keeping in my life.
Exactly what my ex did to me. Took me 8 months while in this state to realize I needed to respect myself and end it. My only regret is not being secure enough to realize that sooner.
Thanks for sharing. It can take time to recognize what's best for ourselves, especially when emotions are involved. It's commendable that you eventually took that step to prioritize your own self-respect. What do you think helped you finally realize what needed to be done?
Truth is, I am experiencing this as the woman I have been dealing with has zero value in me. We rarely chat and when I get a message from her, she only wants something. Yep, she is absolutely manipulative
Been there done that … it’s best to respect yourself enough to walk away. You cannot convince someone to love you I learned that the hard way 9 months and thousands of dollars later lol. She had the nerve to tell me once “ black men don’t like to commit “ when I spent 11 months trying to commit to her and be close to her and she rejected me at every turn but enjoyed using me for my emotional support and unconditional love towards her…And also my money 😂
@@friedkake1876glad you walked away, people like that aren’t worth it
@@CatoTato they never are but they’re always the main ones trying to clear their conscience when they realize their wrongs
Was in that kind of relationship for 2 years. Broke me.
That’s so sad. You are quite handsome (if ur pic is of you) so I hope you are able to move on to someone who finds values you and celebrates your worth-! It’s a shame how it can be hard to meet people in real life, that is my problem right now as well. I wish you all the best-!!
40 years of uncertainty, filled with fear.
Wow, the timing of this video is spot on.
Had been thinking this was happening to me, & this showed me my thinking was correct!
Thank you! 💜
Breadcrumbing is essentially just playing mind games
Yes yes and yes. Being a victim to it is not good. The sooner you recognize the he symptoms, the quicker you can point it out and determine if you need to leave
I know the guy I like is breadcrumbing me, but I just can't help but hope that he'll eventually like me as much as I like him. It pisses me off how I just can't get myself to stop liking him. I think it will be easier for me to get over him if he just rejects me, but I also don't want him to do that.
Edit: he started dating my friend. A part of me is beginning to think I'll die alone.
I think I’m that guy, maybe not that specific guy, but I’m that guy with someone I consider a friend but given I’m away for long term don’t want to lead her on…she wants a commitment, so I am sporadic in how I communicate, tho am responding to her
You can't just stop liking him, but you can absolutely leave him high and dry and expect better for yourself. I swear to you, in five years, you'll be so immensely grateful you did it
You can not convince someone to like you or cherish you the way you do … when people show you who they are and how they view you you believe them the first time
We're in the same situation. I know I'm getting crumbs but i love him so much i cannot leave him 😢
@@rochellesonza6505 I think you can do it. It is so damn hard but remember that the version of him that you love is the fantasy version you created of him in order to keep yourself pursuing things with him in reality. You could probably say that we fall more in love with the fantasy version of that person and not necessarily the actual person
This feels like I was meant to see this
Yeah me too. This person in my life moves on Monday out of the city so it'll be over for good finally.
I had no idea breadcrumbing was a thing, thank you for letting me know. I am currently in a breadcrumbing situation and it’s been very difficult to deal with.
Always believe on your intuitions towards your partner if you are feeling something missing then run. That person is just using you
Yes. Dont end up like me. Got engaged because he wanted to in the beginning in the end he decided he dont want to marry me just 3 months into the engagement after almost 2 years together. Always have this naggy feeling in me that he is not what he is. Should have run the moment his first red flag show.
I believe bread crumbing might be a more common practice than we think. It seems many relationships are superficial and usually one person lives in a different world.
Lived this!!!❤
this has happened to me before and it left me wounded badly. i'm glad there's a term that describes what i went through
WhollysheepsdipBatsman!! The timing of this is eerie. I just put the s/o's stuff out today because ALL of this was happening. Repeatedly. Gave him two chances, and strike three, you're out.
I had never heard of this until tonight and I thought it was me.
Thank you again for life affirming information.
Absolutely relevant video in the era of Overwhelming social media.
Thanks for the video.
So this is what it’s called. I can’t tell you how many times this has happened to me. I’ve given up on dating at least for awhile cause it was constantly just this.
We hope this video helped you! It's understandable to feel discouraged after going through that repeatedly. Taking a break from dating sounds like a wise choice to focus on yourself. What do you plan to do during this time to take care of yourself?
Damn, I experienced this for 4months. We also went on a 3 week road trip together, every morning she would start off so cold and distant, it would take so much energy for her to warm up to me in the evening and then the next day I had to start all over again. She would say things like "I know what youre trying to do" whenever I did something genuinely kind and actually when we first started sleeping together, if she woke up in the middle of the night I would ask if shes okay and if everything is alright, her first response was that she never had a guy ask her that before... This made me feel so sad but should've been the first warning that things were about to get dark.
One more quality is that they future fake a lot when you are in their presence.....
This was so helpful
FOCUS ON SELF LOVE FOR YOURSELF!!! Maintain your SELF RESPECT!!!!
Loving the softness of this new narrators voice.
I'm so sad, I can see all of these signs in the way that the boy I've been in love with for almost a year treats me :(
This video honestly came out at the perfect time for me. I was overthinking everything and I felt like I ruined things, but seeing how all these signs matched the person I was talking to almost to a T, it's kinda scary and it helps me feel better and understand that it wasn't completely my fault. That I was looking for something that wasn't there in the first place, at least not with that particular person.
It's great to hear that the video resonated with you and helped provide some clarity. Sometimes seeing those signs laid out can be a real eye-opener. Do you feel more confident moving forward now that you have a better understanding?
@@Psych2go After everything, I feel like I have a better understanding of myself now. I know that I need to work on my self confidence and how I view myself, but also I feel like I have a better understanding of what I'm looking for in a relationship now as well as what I'm looking for in a romantic partner.
Lived it. Never again. Well done.
Told a guy he was bread crumbing me & he told me to stay off TikTok 😭😭🥴
This is so relatable. I was in a situation ship for over a year without realizing it but all of these signs were there and it took me up until last year to fully accept it. This brought hurtful triggers but I'm glad it did because it tells me I'm not fully healed yet and I'm more aware of this type of narcissistic behavior. I do not wish this on anyone, it is very painful and shameful.
Thank you, now I know I was actually being breadcrumbed that whole time. I look forward for more content like this.
I hate to say it, but this video describes me perfectly as a friend. My entire life I was afraid of people rejecting me so I kept all my friends at arms length, and many of these tactics have been used by me to keep attachments to a minimum. I never wanted anyone to be close to me, and the people who insisted on being close I tried keeping away. Some of those friends I wish I had let be closer to me, and that I’d been a more reliable friend to them. If I had I wouldn’t be so alone today, but I think ultimately I deserve to be alone, any friend I have seems to be worse off knowing me.
Same here. It turns out I've been breadcrumming people my whole life... they're better off without me.
I understand you, I've been doing the same my whole life... I didn't mean to hurt anyone but I still did it and I regret it so much...
You can always change! It doesn’t have to be that way! I think the first step is recognizing the problem and that’s what you’re doing! The next step would probably be choosing to be open with somebody that you feel comfortable with (close friend, family member etc.) and see how they react. If they react with an open heart and accept you, that’s AMAZING! ❤️❤️ If they don’t or notice that or maybe breadcrumb back, it’s probably a good idea to take a good look at that relationship. I hope that this helps! ❤️❤️
The first step is admitting this with yourself and seeing that it's a problem. So many people who do this have so much pride and are extremely entitled. They will never change. So i'm proud of you for admitting the problem. Now the step is to get professional help.
I was being breadcrumbed during 2021 :( 🙄
Uncertain situationship, inconsistent communication, no personal investment, and hot and cold behavior explains it for what I went through during 2021
Glad you made a vid about (in this video) female narcicissts. While of course it is not gender bound, I think there also a lot of women out there breadcrumping & giving false hopes.
It‘s so good you educate on this topics.
Someone really interested in you & involved will let you know this through time, care, investment and keeping in mind to try to make you happy. 🌻
Could you please make a video about breadcrumbing, but when talking about two people not in a relationship, like with friendship or a crush.
I’m kinda confused about my relationships in that sort of situation 😅.
Thank you for your content! It’s as interesting as ever ❤
This was very well put together. ❤
Thank you :) We hope this helps! Did you resonate with any of these signs?
Welp now I learned a new term for the type of person I should have to avoid but it seems majority of people do this and just take advantage of others nowadays. I rather stay single than pursue a one sided relationship.
Omg, male version of the voice narration! ❤
Here's my little story: ( warning it's long)
I met her online and we became best friends, and eventually I fell for her and she discovered that. We were about to start dating at the moment I show my face (I was shy, but almost did it) we were acting like dating and so until an in real life boy confessed to her, and just because he is in real life and not online, she chose him as boyfriend. After a long time she decided to break up with him because he was a terrible boyfriend, and at that date we were planning to date but AGAIN (sorry, it's my frustration) 4 online boys confessed to her. She says now that she's acting flirty and that she wasn't so but doesn't wasn't anything romantic with anyone, beside everything I still like her. She still sometimes act like we are dating (but it's NOTHING like before) and thanks to this video I started to think that she's breadcruming me and the other boys. I want to let her go, I know I should. But I just can't, and it's a double side sword, one side with love, other with suffering. She makes me feel loved but at some point she'll have to choose and that may or may not break my heart.
Thanks you for reading this, feel free if you like to say something and have a nice day.
I’ve been there in my past relationship. I ended things with them because of these breadcrumbing tactics. It hurt breaking things off, but if you’re in a similar place you need to take care of yourself first. Someone is going to mutually love you someday and until then love yourself first
This was a strange coincidence. I've been breadcrumbed by a girl now for about 6 months but i put an end to it yesterday. Finally my hope ran out. It's a mixed feeling of relief and hurt. It's hard to let go but know that you deserve someone who wants you as much as you want them.
Perfect timing. Thankyou
We hope this helps! Did any of these signs resonate?
I experienced this as my wife discarded me...after three years, I came out of the other side only to meet someone at work that did the same thing until I finally told her off.
Can you cover bread crumbing in marriages? Its so much more complicated and complex to detect 😢
Thanks man , I been hearing you lately
So far this man I’m seeing definitely hasn’t done any of these things. That’s so refreshing. ❤
I mean, I don't send messages that often, not even with my own parents (I keep getting earfuls about it 😅) when I do, I try to really ask about how they're doing, update them as well, but ofc, I understand if they keep the conversation superficial, you may not want to tell personal stuff to someone who says hello once every 6 months 🤣 still doesn't excuse the way I act but i'm really bad with small talk and general conversations, I tend to feel very awkward and don't know what to say, even by text, unless smth happened in my week, I guess that's why I keep it to every once in a while.
I wouldn't mind ppl only sending messages once in a while, I do the same, breadcrummers can't hurt me on that point i guess 😅
This was very helpful. I’m that kind of guy who can’t help but offer every bit of love or commitment to the one I’m wanting to get together with… recently, I asked a girl if the idea of us being together was something that could happen… her answer: maybe.
She also barely replies to any of my messages whether it’s asking how she’s doing, or something about how I feel about her… it’s difficult when all I want to do is love a woman to the fullest in a relationship.
I've had this happen to me a few times when I was younger. I didn't know there was a term for it. I'm glad to know I was not imagining things.
I have never heard of this term, but I have certainly strung along a few women in my life with that.
I think I have been strung along too. Just enough to keep my interest, but not enough that I have expectations. I gave the emotionally nourishing boyfriend experience without predictable reciprocation.
Like I said, I did the same to a few women. It’s really a terrible behavior. I am truly ashamed to realize that I have done that.
I'd be interested in knowing, why people breadcrumb others.
I tend to do some of the described things myself, despite not wanting to.
Wow this sums up everything I just went through recently. Too late I was already hurt. I confronted him and decided to stop it
Yes its helpful thank you ❤
Thank You For This Information 💚💚💚💚🦅🦅🦅🦅
This resonates with me so much. Thank you for enlightening me psych2go. I blocked the person who’s bread crumbing me just like in the video.
Happy to say...I Now recognize these webs of behavior and AM staying clear away from it, yet intrigued as to why I'm the target.
Thanks. All point are checked.
My intuition was good.
All of this applies to my situation.
I wanna grow out of this but find my self helpless when that text comes and I forget all the pain I felt while being in the no contact. The best advice I would give to anyone is to not to entertain them in anyway. In my case, that kind of avoidance is not possible but I think it would work. Also journaling has helped me a lot in terms of understanding myself, my attachment for this particular connection and some triggers. I'm not attracted to the situation the way I used to but I am still not over it completely, to the point where the thoughts and texts of the other person don't have any effect on my mood and peace of mind.
We love narrator Amanda Silvera’s voice. Where is she 😢
This is why I don't like being the one who sends the first and last txt
Thank you for speaking about something I had a feeling that somebody was doing to me that I made clear if that's what it is I wanted the person just to leave me alone. And I wasn't trying to be mean or hateful or confrontation or whichever like I'm always being accused of or calling me names or this or that but when I think that somebody's going to be doing that to me and I have to address it and I didn't never mean to say what you know I would hopefully think I said in a okay manner on certain channels and Pages because when it's a game playing to do with that I don't want to have somebody put me through that again 17 years of being with one person and that was even way worse I don't need to be put to suffering again for things that either I don't know about something else to me didn't do where it's coming from from who what when where and how and why that I've already asked multiple times and to be treated like s*** for someone to direct I mean horrible things if I didn't know for sure who at what time was in my account or not in my account jumping in my account jumping out of my account as if to know their identity exactly I can't accuse but just not the ones that were doing that I didn't allow in my account but wouldn't the person would know that by now if I wasn't for sure where the hell it was all coming from because of how many you could have possibly been that I did wasn't even for sure I didn't even know there's a difference between allowing in my account as a friend or whatever more than that do I allow but it doesn't tell me exactly who the f*** is in my account it only shows up certain information to do with content and things like that at times things that don't have anything to do with me to do with them as to not knowing exactly who it is there was times I thought that I was just speaking with one individual consistently you know and then it turned out to be somebody else and I was like oh my gosh didn't even know that after I made it clear multiple multiple multiple multiple times if I didn't know that person or if they lied about who they are that's insane if they don't even talk didn't even tell me who they are but expected me to know who they were they were but be shity to me as if I knew who the heck I was communicating with you know. That is mentally and emotionally exhausting try to decipher who the heck you know communicating with in certain ways that you know privately the person I can trust that wouldn't do that to me and it would be much appreciated if they would stop saying oh well how badly damaged such-and-such or whatever well we wouldn't be that way if the ones that want to do that leave us the f*** alone when I've said that multiple times if they have any intentions on wanting to damage to do with that to stay away from me it gets irritating to be blamed for things by the way they're behaving in certain ways not allowed to have access to hurt me or my account or any of that they would understand as to protecting ourselves to not to be coerced convinced to be naive or gullible. I cannot stand that if somebody keeps track of what they seem to think that I'm doing wrong in or out of my account or in to do with my life when they're not even in my life or if I'm not doing that with their account or their whatever it is to keep track of what they're doing that's just oh my gosh just for the person to always be worried about what they think you're doing wrong when they're not even been with you as far as relationship goes or if they don't even know your situation lifestyle whichever it is your medical history Etc or if they think they know when you don't even have any information to do with what to do with them when it comes to actually certain important things need to know and none of this is direct to the person that hasn't done that to me sorry about all that I'm not here to take it out on anyone on this page or Channel but when I think I'm communicating with one single person like I thought I have been and then somewhere else to do with that I don't even know I haven't I don't know who they are communicating with them starts coming back into my account when I'm just trying to communicate in that way with a person that we really love each other hopefully this is all understandable and not misunderstood constantly I know I probably shouldn't say that or use that but it feels like feeling of a fallen angel what they went through if that's I don't know😞 I don't want to seem like a broken record but it feels like hypothetically speaking I'm just using this as it an example as if somebody is playing a record player on the same thing but it's skipping the entire time all the while of psychologically and mentally emotionally screwing with you in the wrong worst way it's like this you can't break something down and expect to get more and more out of it by tearing it to to nothing where there's nothing left and expect you to get more and more out of it I wouldn't speak about this I wouldn't have that kind of mindset if it wasn't done to me and that's certainly not my intentions to mentally emotionally drained the out of someone or break them down in that way the main reason why I say I love calmness and relaxing because I was shut down so many times growing up as even an adult to not be able to express myself in a healthy way that it literally had me just didn't know what to do how to express myself shut down mentally emotionally push people away etcetera etcetera etcetera didn't even know how to understand my own feelings let alone someone else's when you've only experienced whether that be neglect or whatever that's all you know of but yet though you're expected to have a upbeat mindset and not to think that way and for the love of everything who is in my account again I am not getting that done by opening up a damn bank account if that's what someone's asking no if that's what someone just said get it done. Oh my goodness I have told the person stay out of my account and everything else to do with asking me to open up a bank account I literally would not be thinking this way or speaking this way if I wasn't being put through it or experiencing it. Still to this day for 18 years nobody else has been with me and no longer with my ex-spouse that was 4 years ago separated never getting back together or any EX for that matter haven't been with nobody else and I was barely with my ex-spouse from very very extremely important reasons as to why I wasn't and wasn't with anybody else the entire time 17 years was just with one person that's all I knew of you can look him up with his name up as to why I had to get away
Turns out this is what I've been doing to everyone on text. But I act differently when I talk to them face to face. Thanks for showing me this. I didn't even know this was what I was doing to everyone when they were actually tryna reach out to me. Now please do a "What to do if you're clingy and needy" video. I need a way to dial that part of me down. PLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ!!
Definitely what happened to me in my last relationship. Best advice I can give is not to 2nd guess yourself if you feel like something is off. If they truly care about you they will put in as much effort in the relationship as you do.
Breadcrumbee is usually called "insecure" by his female counterpart.
That's gaslighting and manipulation
BRO ALL OF THIS HAPPENED TO ME my ex was manipulating me the whole time and I was such an idiot to not realize it. This video helped me have a better understanding of this concept. I vastly appreciate this video a lot, thank you so much.
(This was a couple months ago but luckily it’s over. He ended the relationship with me because he got caught in his behavior and my parents read the messages and knew he was manipulating me because I cared about him, a lot. My parents decided to call his parents and call him out on his behavior and then when I got to school, my ex blamed it all on me and broke up with me. He was upset about it and is still in a depression but I honestly think it’s because he lost his devices and not that much because of me. He was always really short tempered as well. He always took stuff out on me for one minute and then never told me why. It’s kind of sad because he doesn’t realize what he is doing is wrong. I don’t know if he has a mental issue as well but I think he does. He is choosing to ignore me after this as well, it’s kinda funny because I should be doing that instead of him, my friend says he is probably going to come back because he is desperate but even if he does, I’m going to call him out on his behavior and tell him to loose this number before I make him.)
Never heard of this term. I’ll definitely keep an eye out.
We hope this helps! Any of these signs remind you of someone?
@@Psych2go sadly
For those watching, I had a friend of ten years no romance, over the years we slowly grew apart. I think neither of us wanted to break it off and go separate ways because we knew it'd hurt the other person.
I recognized I had codependency issues and eventually saw they had moved on with a family member now in their life. I did the grown up thing and tried to be gentle...
I forgive them. They own issues and it took a while for me to recognize this pattern. So this can happen to friends too not just partners.
feel like that right now, but just taking it day by day, shes going to school and im working so space and time is given, but some days its ignoring and some days just busy, and i have to look at it like that to upkeep my positive attitude, dont drain yourself by overthinking!
it used to describe me, i've improved over the years thankfully. i breadcrumbed in to a relationship and ended up fully loving them at the end.
the breadcrumbing stopped because i noticed i wasn't putting in much effort and i asked my self why. and it was just a me problem. fixed that from my self over the years and relationship improved.
This confirmed what I think,I only didn't know what to call it.I am able to tell with 5days that a person is breadcrumbling.
Thanks very much for the vedeo.
I believe I'm the first! Here I hope you all get the information you need. I hope you get the reassurance and love from someone who really wants to work on it.
I was in this type of situation ship for 1,5 year (i know way to long 😓) He never had clear intentions and he kept me questioning about everything. We don’t talk anymore and i’m glad but i regret that i didn’t leave him earlier.
can you please bring back the Previous voice, it was verrry soothing for a lot of us
please
I think someone tried to bread crumb me today online. She was flirting with me and then when I asked her if she was flirting with me she said she talks like that with everyone… bruh… later on she blocked me and im glad she did cuz I don’t talk to people like that.
I have no idea why people do this it’s mind boggling to me.
I've experienced this a lot from people in very strange relationships
This video feels like a description of what its like to be an average guy on a dating app. You're there to provide attention or give them something, you're not taken seriously or even seen as valued in any way shape or form.
That’s a dating app for ya, love won’t be found on apps
@@NexumeraI did 😉
@@lu5423 lucky rarity, usually it’s nothing but slitherin snakes on there
@@Nexumera my dad found his current girlfriend on dating app and they have been together for many years, in an overall happy relationship too