Expect This When Narcissists Lose

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  • @RebeccaZungEsq
    @RebeccaZungEsq  3 роки тому +32

    Grab your FREE webinar and learn what to do to finally beat the narcissist. Click here to watch it now:👉 www.rebeccazung.com/live

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  3 роки тому +4

      Can't wait to see you there!

    • @geneman4
      @geneman4 3 роки тому +1

      Know your own truth.

    • @jonathanjollimore7156
      @jonathanjollimore7156 3 роки тому

      Yea don't say...

    • @weizguy
      @weizguy 3 роки тому

      What if kids are involved? Do narcs try to trigger you even if you stopped talking to them?

    • @Volkskomissar
      @Volkskomissar 2 роки тому

      Best made up title ive read in 2022: Narcissist negotiation Expert. Lmao !

  • @markmartin2292
    @markmartin2292 3 роки тому +91

    Narcissists are like people who are drowning. But they don’t want to be saved, they just don’t want to drown alone.

    • @briia1882
      @briia1882 2 роки тому +3

      Great way to put it

    • @kre8504
      @kre8504 2 роки тому +2

      Shortened version: “They want to take you down with them”

    • @slovnicurling9808
      @slovnicurling9808 Рік тому

      I would say it's more like they want you to drown first and then float on your corpse.

  • @jaymay-wy8ye
    @jaymay-wy8ye 8 місяців тому +3

    Should have come across you two years ago. Been through hell with this alcoholic narc. Now he is the history, the abuse took a toll on me. I replanted an argument in court and he didn’t even counter argue with me once. He looked defeated and deflated although still attempted to intimidate and manipulate me and the situation, but he was on the limitations since the judge allowed me to speak freely. I didn’t and don’t care what he said about me since he was doing the same with me about his ex wife who told me to run and stay away from him. She was right all along. I stayed so that I could help him but my kindness met his torment. He no longer deserve any of my care. I thank GOD that he is out of my life.

  • @goldilocks3593
    @goldilocks3593 3 роки тому +127

    If it is possible in your own personal situation just let them think they “won” and walk away because honestly .. if you can escape before you are in too deep, that IS winning and the best possible outcome. They are OBSESSED with winning as you have undoubtedly noticed 🙄🤦‍♀️

    • @aneishasingletary4553
      @aneishasingletary4553 3 роки тому +3

      Right.

    • @deecole6920
      @deecole6920 3 роки тому +1

      Odd since they're such losers

    • @Ashdaesq
      @Ashdaesq 3 роки тому +6

      @@MaryDunford exactly! Why am I running from a bully. Unless my life is in danger then we’re gonna battle. But I’m not gonna battle you the same aggressive way you’re coming at me. I’m going to disarm you and shine that mirror on your behavior. Intelligent fighting.

    • @joewasilauskas8084
      @joewasilauskas8084 3 роки тому +9

      Many thanks Rebecca for your intuitive insights and guidance as to how to deal with a narcissist person but your best advice was to get away from them altogether... this has led me to a more peaceful life. I had no idea of the word narcissist until I started watching these videos and then one day, Bamm, there it was. It was then I realized that I was dealing with a textbook narcissist and all the Drama that went with it... I miss the person I thought who could be a friend, but I don't miss all the bullshit that evolved around this person...

    • @laurajean1691
      @laurajean1691 3 роки тому +7

      I would have been better off not fighting, I have spent over 70K with Attorney fees, court fees, I could have used that for a down on a house. Although there is healing in fighting and exposing him in court, healing for my kids, myself and even his previous ex wife, so I guess it's been worth every penny in that regard, but dang, it better be over. I hope he's not the type to keep filing motions, praying he ghost us and find someone else, hope he hooks up with another narcissist, because I wouldn't wish this on anyone else. God's vengeance is upon him BAD!!!

  • @earthling8585
    @earthling8585 3 роки тому +72

    By disappearing, I will live in peace, they never will.

  • @dr.sammypryor
    @dr.sammypryor 3 роки тому +45

    Thank you for all your support! I went no contact with my malignant narcissist 1.5 years ago and he has continued the stalking and abuse until this very day. These people are sick! Please anyone reading this can you pray for my safety!

    • @nancynelson179
      @nancynelson179 2 роки тому +2

      God bless you. I have compassion for you. I want for you that which you want for yourself, love, light, safety, peace, health, long life, beauty, and healing energy. May this message come to you with benedictions. I bless you. May you be free from suffering. May you be happy.

    • @dr.sammypryor
      @dr.sammypryor 2 роки тому

      @@nancynelson179 thank you so much!

    • @stevesyncox9893
      @stevesyncox9893 2 роки тому

      Buy a gun, protect yourself, get a cattle prod, tazer....

    • @allonekingdom
      @allonekingdom 2 роки тому

      Dr, Ask Jesus to protect you. If you honour His Way - The Lord most certainly will.

    • @jenniferyates6282
      @jenniferyates6282 2 роки тому

      Done!

  • @ashuhley_114
    @ashuhley_114 3 роки тому +99

    I like to sit down and visualize a cord between me and the toxic person/narcissist, see myself sucking back all the power they took from me through the cord and lighting up my body from the inside out, then once I have it all, I chop the cord with giant hedge trimmers and watch them float off into the universe ☺️

    • @JamaicasRedeemed
      @JamaicasRedeemed 3 роки тому +2

      I LOVE THIS!!!!

    • @glorifyyeshua3292
      @glorifyyeshua3292 3 роки тому +1

      I'm trying this today for 30 days!

    • @tmammas8442
      @tmammas8442 2 роки тому

      This is amazing 👏🙌

    • @juliejeanable
      @juliejeanable 2 роки тому

      They want to stand on your shoulders so you drown first.

    • @allonekingdom
      @allonekingdom 2 роки тому +1

      Ask Jesus to help and you will see how easy it can be if you hand things over to the Highest Power.

  • @mikebrooks5309
    @mikebrooks5309 3 роки тому +27

    I was in a 5 year relationship with an extremely toxic covert narcissist woman and it was the worst thing I've ever experienced. I was fortunate though. I realized what she was and although I wasn't able to leave right away, I was able to watch videos like these and study narcissism and the recovery techniques.
    When I eventually escaped, I was trauma bonded for a while but I forced myself to focus on only me.
    I healed, but the memory of the abuse remains.
    Your videos are spot on and very helpful. My advice to anyone who is reading this....form a plan of escape, get out, go no contact, deal with the trauma bond by learning your worth, loving yourself and never look back.
    Don't worry about revenge....the narc takes care of their own destruction.
    Focus only on living the happy life you deserve

    • @cyanidecupcake231
      @cyanidecupcake231 2 роки тому

      I just got away from my narc. We were together 4 years. I found out I may have cancer in December. He became a co-owner of a company in January and he started changing and started degrading me and calling me a burden and worthless and every name in the book. I recorded everything I could the last 3 months before I left. He was making me feel crazy. He had been gaslighting me for months. He has been smearing me. I just want to unleash all the recordings I have to his family and friends. Just to get my side out. My state is a one party consent law state. I have a fear if I did release the recordings he would do something legally. I just don't know why he turned into a monster and why he waited 4 years to do it.

    • @Dajahgraves
      @Dajahgraves 2 роки тому +1

      @@cyanidecupcake231 it’s so sad :( hugs

  • @K.D.MusicandInspiration
    @K.D.MusicandInspiration 3 роки тому +28

    They come off being very needy, controlling, & very co-dependant. It's a very difficult thing to deal with! I am so tired of dealing with this toxic type of person, because it's not the first time I've experienced a narcissist in my life! Thank you for your help!

    • @kelligray1848
      @kelligray1848 3 роки тому +2

      We attract them don’t we! My mom was my first one. I feel like a magnet.

    • @K.D.MusicandInspiration
      @K.D.MusicandInspiration Рік тому

      @@kelligray1848 Yes, unfortunately being an empath we do for sure, but for other reasons as well. It took me a long time to figure it out and then work on myself, so that doesn't happen anymore, hopefully! So sorry to hear that your mother was your first encounter with one. I can't even imagine. I hope you're doing well now.

  • @evelina787
    @evelina787 2 роки тому +20

    “A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors.” - Karla Grimes

  • @ease_flow
    @ease_flow 3 роки тому +15

    My 82-year-old parent is doing weird stuff to 'one up' me these days cos she's starting to realise that she is finally losing the battle with me. She gets irritated n is losing sleep over the fact that she knows I am finally done with her n will NEVER EVER see her the same way again since getting educated in narcissism n had my eyes open to what narcissism truly is, last year like hundreds of thousands of people around the world thanks to You Tube. It feels good inside to know you have it within u to defeat the narcissist in ur life regardless of who they r - just keep learning all u can n apply the tools taught in dealing with them n ways of protecting yourself.
    To the narc parent I say: "What a wretched, miserable person u are to be still behaving like this at ur age. I feel no compassion for u, only repulsion." An aged narc is one of the ugliest persons to have around.

  • @yukio_saito
    @yukio_saito 3 роки тому +18

    05:00 1. Lie about it
    05:36 2. They become fixated on changing the outcome
    06:13 3. They go after the person

    • @taraarrington2285
      @taraarrington2285 2 роки тому +1

      The third one is bad. Never avenge? Who does that?

  • @jena7456
    @jena7456 3 роки тому +19

    Know your truth! She who is certain of the outcome can wait, and wait without anxiety !!
    Thanks Rebecca- you have “saved” so many of us and out us on the offense !

  • @peterdarker1
    @peterdarker1 3 роки тому +28

    "KNOW YOUR TRUTH!!"

  • @chrisostling805
    @chrisostling805 3 роки тому +25

    I cut my Parents completely out of my life because of their insane narcissism. They in turn have told my Son that if he has anything to do with me they he will not get the inheritance which is very substantial. I occasionally have contact but have to keep it to a minimum until they die. My Son is already well off but the sentimental value of the property that once belonged to my Grandparents is worth waiting and my Son understands. Since then I have put together a Band of non- narcissistic guys and we are writing music so fast it is amazing. We will be recording soon and doing a few mini tours next Summer. Life is good when you get rid of the toxic people.

    • @laughoncomedy2923
      @laughoncomedy2923 3 роки тому

      Exactly our lives get better with toxic people honestly ❤️💡🙏🙏🙏

    • @Corinna_Schuett_GER
      @Corinna_Schuett_GER 3 роки тому +3

      My parents disinherited ME (single daughter) instead and now I'm going to court next week against my mother to get the minimum due share (in Germany this is law) which she denies to pay in full for about 2,5 years now. I do expect she loses because of false historical FACTS and family history. Her arguments do not hold any water according to German inheritance law.
      She seemed to have won over my only son (23) though, who now lives with and feeds off her. His life must be miserable as he's seeing a therapist (no wonder). Yet he doesn't turn to hear my story so she turned him into a flying monkey, promising HIM to inherit ALL instead later. That's another valid strategy. 😆👍 I've gone No Contact with her many years ago already.

  • @robertdimarcantonio3580
    @robertdimarcantonio3580 3 роки тому +10

    Know your truth Know your Power .Know your Worth.

    • @royferguson3909
      @royferguson3909 2 роки тому

      back of the net....
      winning goal, cheers from North London 👍 👏 great comment

  • @gabecouncil1001
    @gabecouncil1001 2 роки тому +3

    KNOW YOUR TRUTH! LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE! OWN YOUR OWN POWER! NEVER GIVE IN & NEVER GIVE UP! WE'VE GOT THE TRUE POWER!!!!

  • @NiaRenay
    @NiaRenay 3 роки тому +9

    Know your truth!
    My ex has been telling my daughter he is trying his best to make sure she lives with him only because I have custody and he can’t stand that he doesn’t

  • @gr8ful-sparks462
    @gr8ful-sparks462 2 роки тому +8

    In 10min you explained the last 20years of my life better than I’ve ever heard my situation articulated! Thank you!!💕

  • @pennytrent3427
    @pennytrent3427 3 роки тому +21

    When they loose they play mind games and the silent treatment

    • @theclown2393
      @theclown2393 2 роки тому +3

      if they play the silent treatment then thats good, at least we don't have to listen all the mumbo, jumbo crap flying out of (" IT''s ) mouths!

    • @lucysmith8326
      @lucysmith8326 2 роки тому +1

      @@theclown2393 Yes when they play the “silent treatment” it gives you time to regroup and work on yourself and get well educated on what’s going on!

    • @theclown2393
      @theclown2393 2 роки тому

      @@lucysmith8326 absolutely dude

    • @jacquelinefroehle3583
      @jacquelinefroehle3583 2 роки тому

      They are a constant mind game

  • @MegaMARLEEN1
    @MegaMARLEEN1 3 роки тому +7

    I know my own truth
    I always letted them think they had finished. If that keeps them away, super.

  • @jmfs3497
    @jmfs3497 3 роки тому +11

    Know Your Truth! I love being good at what I do, I am honest about my weaknesses, and I am outspoken at appreciating and deferring to others expertise. In fact, I LOVE learning and WANT other people to be great at what they do, so that we can non-competitively talk shop. Until I got a narcissist manager, I had never experienced a long-term, consistent effort to dismiss, interfere, sabotage, control, and triangulate every effort I would take to do my job well. And they do it with such entitlement and denial. The near-drowing analogy is a good one. It is like they can't even hear you as you are trying to meet them half-way, and they are just climbing frantically all over you... and then you hold still, and they calm down, and even compliment you on being a good raft, lol, but if you speak they think you've become a shark.🦈

  • @monicasusan4994
    @monicasusan4994 3 роки тому +5

    I am grateful for your existence!

  • @lanaallen113
    @lanaallen113 3 роки тому +22

    My ex and I are in court. We offered him a plea bargain, so he would leave me alone for 3 years. And he refused. Wants to fight! I have a 90% chance of winning. So this is going to keep going on.. so not looking forward to this!

    • @narelleyoungs9128
      @narelleyoungs9128 3 роки тому +9

      You can do it. My ex tried to get a DVO against me. When push came to shove he dropped it... No truth, no evidence, no reality. Whereas I had a pile of printed out evidence so he took a no fault DVO. I have 5 years of peace to enjoy (I am in Australia)

    • @SunkenButterfly
      @SunkenButterfly 3 роки тому +5

      Just hope he gets bored enough to drop out and quit....... A tantrum cant last forever

    • @tonisno4174
      @tonisno4174 3 роки тому +3

      I feel ya pain. My soon to be ex wife is fighting me tooth and nail for our marital home. I said she can keep it just buy me out and give me half of furniture etc… the narc said I don’t deserve half of nothing 🤦🏾‍♂️. I’m soooo drained

    • @narelleyoungs9128
      @narelleyoungs9128 3 роки тому +1

      And we are back to court in 4 days for me to defend another trumped up DVO application. Even when you win you can't be certain that it is over 😕

  • @mistiwjordan3268
    @mistiwjordan3268 3 роки тому +2

    Wow I’m so thrilled I have landed here something’s are put in front you for a GIANT REASON!

  • @leftykeys6944
    @leftykeys6944 3 роки тому +4

    With the exception of family, my narcissistic bullying brother does not congregate in the same social circles as I do. I've no reason to care what he says about me behind my back, after he loses in court. I know my truth; in this situation it is THE truth! Because when you're the one who's been manipulated, cheated and lied to, the truth is on your side!

  • @maryannschlear5161
    @maryannschlear5161 2 роки тому

    Truth shall set you FREE....stay with it and keep going.

  • @allthingsestrella
    @allthingsestrella 3 роки тому +3

    KNOW YOUR TRUTH!!!!!!

  • @laurelvance5533
    @laurelvance5533 3 роки тому +1

    I must live my own truth. I have more than one that I'm dealing with. There are no words to describe my emptiness. My life is in shambles and it is ME who is gasping for air.

  • @collie8
    @collie8 3 роки тому +1

    5:50 constantly trying to turn the outcome, ignoring the outcome, pretending it didn’t happen

  • @ellenparker4691
    @ellenparker4691 3 роки тому +6

    Thank you Rebecca. It's people like you who help us understand what we need to do. I've been taking your advice for some time. Hey ,thanks again Rebecca

  • @fotiniav6643
    @fotiniav6643 3 роки тому +4

    I know my truth..i aknowledge my strength.Such an amazing video..now i am aware of what to expect.

  • @Grrrroar44
    @Grrrroar44 3 роки тому +5

    Know Your Truth! Another incredibly insightful video Rebecca!

  • @GigglyGirlPearl
    @GigglyGirlPearl 3 роки тому +2

    ...self love is what they're lacking...I think I get it with what you mean, but my experience has been they are over the top with how much they love and adore themselves more than anyone or anything else.

  • @tonypalughi9541
    @tonypalughi9541 3 роки тому +4

    Know Your Truth.

  • @dawnfalkman5433
    @dawnfalkman5433 2 роки тому +1

    Know your own truth!

  • @lindasharpe7039
    @lindasharpe7039 3 роки тому +3

    Know your truth! Thank you Rebecca

  • @cymbolichuman433
    @cymbolichuman433 3 роки тому +11

    When I hear someone say: "I feel so empty"... I don't feel sad for them anymore.
    I figure I'm being used for my ability to make friends and connections and they
    seem to cause others to back away. I've lost friends because he couldn't keep his
    hands off my friends, and I stay with him because I'm old and got my own room.

    • @lindasharpe7039
      @lindasharpe7039 3 роки тому +6

      How old? I am about to leave.

    • @Punkmetalmamma
      @Punkmetalmamma 3 роки тому +5

      @@lindasharpe7039 I am 57 and just left.

    • @bettydoughtery3920
      @bettydoughtery3920 3 роки тому +5

      If someone says, they're empty.
      Head for the door. It's a narcissist

    • @lindasharpe7039
      @lindasharpe7039 3 роки тому +5

      @@Punkmetalmamma I am old enough to be your mom. I can't stay until I pass. Too hard now that I know. 🏃🙏🙏

    • @Ashdaesq
      @Ashdaesq 3 роки тому +3

      My ex best friend said that she had no spirit inside. In my ignorance, I told her that she just had to connect to God. Then she broke it down even further. She said she felt empty inside. Ding ding ding!!!! I could not understand it at that time but I understood over time when I went no contact with her without knowing what I was truly dealing with. She was a sick woman and got joy outta making my life miserable and my blood pressure high.

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 Рік тому +1

    Thank you Rebecca for great advice. ❤ We can do This. We need to move on and do not look back. ❤

  • @pipnipipa7627
    @pipnipipa7627 2 роки тому

    Trust my truth is my direction. Not in the space or be around anyone aggravating me non stop.

  • @waynemoore1647
    @waynemoore1647 Рік тому

    Spot on.
    Love and Light.

  • @lindamcdermott5475
    @lindamcdermott5475 3 роки тому +2

    I’ve lived this life, I seem to attract narcissists, as if I have a flashing sign on my forehead! Why? I think I am probably insecure, lack self confidence perhaps. The experiences I’ve had, the persons were real charming and nice at first, then like a having captured an animal, become controlling and abusive. When you feel the most vulnerable, your resources gone, you are trapped! It takes a lot of strength to walk away from that situation, especially penniless and homeless and with kids. You’re alive and you can start over. I was married twice, and had one relationship. Each time I lost whatever money or assets I had, but pulled myself up. Eventually I was able to move on, establish a loving home for my children and myself. I can’t say there are no scars. But we are alive. Thank you for these videos, I wish they were around years ago when I was going through the worst years. Every young woman should watch these.

  • @darlenejansen7521
    @darlenejansen7521 3 роки тому +3

    Love you and your help in understanding the narcissist because now we know what we are dealing with and we have a full blown narcissist to deal with and you are spot on in your videos. Thank you for helping us understand that we can not fix them

  • @Ahollywoodjoevideodiaryseries
    @Ahollywoodjoevideodiaryseries 3 роки тому +9

    Know your truth, learning this. It has been an experience Thanks Rebecca! Appreciate your videos.

  • @dannyribaudo1467
    @dannyribaudo1467 2 роки тому +1

    Know your truth!! 🙏🏼 Thank you Rebecca !

  • @Pocketraisins
    @Pocketraisins 2 роки тому

    Definitely know your truth! I have a very small group of close friends and a narcissist half brother. My "brother" is one of those "I am so smart" narcissists and we are polar opposites. I am an empath. Caring, ethical person with values. He is a soulless dyed in the wool self important narcissist.
    He is currently trying to sue ME for an astronomical amount of money as a punishment for helping our mother file court cases against him and blaming me for creating a "non-repairable" divide between he and she. If he hadn't manipulated a 90 year old woman into stealing her car, I don't think he would have that divide. He is so delusional to think he has a case against me and is floundering because he knows once this is over, his last two direct family members (our mother and myself and not including his ex and two children who hate him also) will never have anything to do with him. And it galls him to no end that he can bad mouth me to whoever he wants and I don't care. I don't value his nor his flying monkeys say. It has zero affect.
    What bothers me most is I used to look up to him and realized in my thirties (now mid fifties) I once was his primary flying monkey. I defended him in more ways than one and then started to wake up and retaliated when I saw the outright lies and truth twisting. It came to a head when he started verbally/mentally abusing and manipulating our mother who is sharp as a tack, but not knowledgeable about how things have changed in the past 25 years. He accused, I defended and retaliated and here we are...dealing with a temperamental 65 year old child with delusion of grandeur and self importance. Anyone that really knows him wouldn't donate the dirt from their shoes to help bury him.

  • @OwnersofaBrokenHeart
    @OwnersofaBrokenHeart 3 роки тому +2

    Know your power!

  • @reneemarieandersonglenn1013
    @reneemarieandersonglenn1013 2 роки тому

    Know your Truth..Live your truth...Believe your Truth..

  • @crencottrell7849
    @crencottrell7849 3 роки тому +6

    #2 (trying to appeal decisions that result in narcs serving prison time) is becoming more prevalent in the criminal justice system

    • @cindieann6365
      @cindieann6365 3 роки тому +2

      That's where they really need to be lockup behind bars somewhere, for real real thou!

  • @christinemariequigless
    @christinemariequigless 2 роки тому +2

    know your truth!!! love this video. I think it is so important that my clients, many of whom are empaths, be acutely aware of narcissists and how to deal with them. really helpful video

  • @ukrainianmongoliangreatpro1776
    @ukrainianmongoliangreatpro1776 2 роки тому +1

    Know my truth!

  • @terriwhalen7988
    @terriwhalen7988 3 роки тому +1

    Know your truth! AMEN

  • @fotiniav6643
    @fotiniav6643 3 роки тому +2

    thank you so much for this video..

  • @Sam-pl3yd
    @Sam-pl3yd Рік тому

    Thank you 🙏 Rebecca yes so true and the truth is all you need to get your power back.❤️

  • @kre8504
    @kre8504 2 роки тому

    Know your truth & your power & Live your own life!!

  • @mariancrow5402
    @mariancrow5402 3 роки тому +1

    i love this site. taking notes.

  • @ronbecker8384
    @ronbecker8384 3 роки тому +1

    Know your truth !!

  • @OAlem
    @OAlem 3 роки тому +16

    They do what I call the pigeon dance. I've learned a lot about narcissism from flat earthers. They play chess like a pigeon. When they're inevitably losing the game, they knock the chessboard over and strut around boasting how victorious they are.

    • @tlove6932
      @tlove6932 3 роки тому

      😂Thank you for this👍🏼💯😁i needed the laugh! Awesome!!!😄

    • @OAlem
      @OAlem 3 роки тому

      @@tlove6932 My pleasure!

    • @lamueldagon7618
      @lamueldagon7618 2 роки тому

      That's not completely true..
      The Flat Earth or Plane is worthy of serious comsideration... Check out Eric Dubay its your choice

  • @naturallynatalee
    @naturallynatalee 3 роки тому +1

    I know my truth and I’m no puppet, and preparing to throw another one out of my life.

    • @christianpulisic7784
      @christianpulisic7784 3 роки тому

      Nat the Risen,You look stunning,hope you are not with a narc 😈!

    • @naturallynatalee
      @naturallynatalee 3 роки тому

      @@christianpulisic7784 not anymore, thank goodness! I have been trying to get a divorce for a year now. Thanks for the compliment!

    • @christianpulisic7784
      @christianpulisic7784 3 роки тому

      @@naturallynatalee You deserve better dear 🌹🌷.I am Christian from the States.You?

    • @christianpulisic7784
      @christianpulisic7784 3 роки тому

      @@naturallynatalee Which country are you from?

  • @panfordafriyie7631
    @panfordafriyie7631 3 роки тому +9

    Rebecca is always on point! 💯💯

    • @thomasrencher6622
      @thomasrencher6622 3 роки тому +2

      Think about a foot ball team, the team with the ball is the offense, trying to score points, the other team in defence trying to stop them from scoring the points. Hope that helps

  • @eecarolinee
    @eecarolinee 3 роки тому +2

    You are truly fun to watch... good info, nicely presented.

  • @missfoxglove8989
    @missfoxglove8989 3 роки тому +12

    How does someone walk away from a narcissist when they're slandering you to the whole town and they've got their hooks in the police department so nothing gets done about the vandalism and harassment when it's reported?

    • @missfoxglove8989
      @missfoxglove8989 3 роки тому +2

      I've been dealing with my ex-bestfriend, I used to be his security blanket and coddler, basically. I've known him since he was a freshman in high school. He's been trying to instigate a fight by way of sending his brainwashed lackies to cut my break lines, putting nails in my tires, basically breaking stuff so I don't have the money to move away because I'm too busy trying to maintain my transportation so I can get my special needs child to his appointments. He's doing this targeting my husband because hubby was successful in deprogramming me of my ex-bff's influence over me. I was so fucking blind to what he did to me (brainwashing, gaslighting, driving partners away) for the last 20 years. I'm done with him, I just want to move on with my life but he won't let me. 😭

    • @dawnday5105
      @dawnday5105 3 роки тому +8

      Move to another state or country. You've got too many fires to fight. It'll waste your life away.

    • @missfoxglove8989
      @missfoxglove8989 3 роки тому +3

      @@dawnday5105 I can't move states, my son will be placed in a residential placement facility in my state, just 3 hours away from my current location. I plan on moving to a town closer (about an hour) to him so I'll be able to see my son regularly.
      I want to nail that asshole to the wall for putting me and my family in danger. I know sooooo much about him that it would utterly ruin him, if someone would just listen to me. 😔

    • @deecole6920
      @deecole6920 3 роки тому +5

      Just move to another town and tell your story before they do. Then you'd have the town on your side

    • @missfoxglove8989
      @missfoxglove8989 3 роки тому +2

      @@deecole6920 yeah, that's what I was thinking of doing.

  • @meacomefeyou
    @meacomefeyou 3 роки тому +2

    I know THE TRUTH

  • @angeladoty7425
    @angeladoty7425 3 роки тому

    Know your truth!! Definitely!!!

  • @danbride9407
    @danbride9407 3 роки тому

    Know your truth and live in your power yes

  • @clairenj8751
    @clairenj8751 3 роки тому +7

    Can someone pleaae explain offensive versus defensive ?
    Please.

  • @loekiekanters4295
    @loekiekanters4295 Рік тому

    Know your truth, know your own power.

  • @veenapulton1689
    @veenapulton1689 Рік тому

    Live our life. Know our own truth😊Thank you

  • @glendaeddy859
    @glendaeddy859 3 роки тому +1

    I've known my truth for almost 40 year's!

  • @donnabarney1866
    @donnabarney1866 3 роки тому

    Know your truth. Very smart.

  • @ellenparker4691
    @ellenparker4691 3 роки тому

    Know your truth! Power

  • @LizEarthAngel3
    @LizEarthAngel3 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you 😊 I have used so much of this info to expose the narc in court, so this was great info as just going through that now

  • @yvettehopkins5257
    @yvettehopkins5257 3 роки тому +2

    Know your own truth

  • @claude7122
    @claude7122 3 роки тому

    Know your thruth...from now on.

  • @careyteacher
    @careyteacher Рік тому

    had court today, master saw through her lies, no evidence, she was crying, master knew and gave me what i asked for... going back sept 8

  • @deedee8053
    @deedee8053 3 роки тому +1

    KNOW YOUR TRUTH!

  • @Gnotesamurai7
    @Gnotesamurai7 3 роки тому +1

    ThAts good one turn the ship around.!!

  • @Golden-Eagle781
    @Golden-Eagle781 3 роки тому +1

    I am about to listen to this, but it is not the first video of yours that I have watched. Thank you so much for your advice. Just knowing there are alternatives brings hope in high stress situations.

  • @pe2914
    @pe2914 2 роки тому

    KNOW YOUR TRUTH!!

  • @joekilroy2965
    @joekilroy2965 2 роки тому

    Know your truth, know your power.

  • @divin777
    @divin777 Рік тому

    We have all been in touch with many of them. Many were hidden and many were obvious. Dues the fact that we have been under the influence we all wear some degree of trauma from it. Many of us become some version of the abuser and even tho we point fingers to them we must work in healing ourselves too. Seeing it in ourselves and in the others. And not only pointing fingers. It’s some work to do also for us not only for them, right!?

  • @TheWrightGroupSEO
    @TheWrightGroupSEO 3 роки тому +4

    Always awesome content... 💪💪💪💎💎💎💎You are a Diamond. Thank you so much🔥🔥🔥❤

  • @raspberrynation
    @raspberrynation 3 роки тому +2

    My narc 'best friend' would get filled with extreme rage every time he lost.

  • @wanguimaina8030
    @wanguimaina8030 2 роки тому

    Know your Truth...

  • @Angell_Lee
    @Angell_Lee 2 роки тому

    I know my truth, my power.

  • @monadugas9113
    @monadugas9113 3 роки тому +1

    Know The Truth .

  • @jamesyoung187
    @jamesyoung187 Рік тому +1

    When the narc realizes they are not going to be able to control you, and they are planning to discard the marriage, she will attempt to start a physical altercation so that she can be the victim. Don't fall for it!
    The silent treatment for days, weeks and months is the #1 indication that you married a female narcissist.

  • @johnpaulsecond4626
    @johnpaulsecond4626 3 роки тому

    this video is pure wisdom; absolutely spot on;

  • @kimmystewart6959
    @kimmystewart6959 3 роки тому +2

    Know your truth.

    • @kimmystewart6959
      @kimmystewart6959 3 роки тому

      I left you a message and my cell number hun. Thanks

  • @lorrainekrahn4498
    @lorrainekrahn4498 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you. Going to remember this, to know my own truth

    • @christianpulisic7784
      @christianpulisic7784 3 роки тому

      Lorraine Krahn,You are beautiful,hope you are not with a narc 😈!

    • @lorrainekrahn4498
      @lorrainekrahn4498 3 роки тому

      @@christianpulisic7784 no, but work with one, as her supervisor

    • @christianpulisic7784
      @christianpulisic7784 3 роки тому

      @@lorrainekrahn4498 Ok dear.I am Christian from the States.You?

    • @christianpulisic7784
      @christianpulisic7784 3 роки тому

      @@lorrainekrahn4498 Which country are you from?

  • @egrrl4
    @egrrl4 3 роки тому +2

    Know your truth!❤️

  • @lovelitany
    @lovelitany 2 роки тому +1

    Hurt people - hurt people

  • @aneishasingletary4553
    @aneishasingletary4553 3 роки тому +2

    God Bless You🙏🙏

  • @darrylbirney8712
    @darrylbirney8712 3 роки тому

    My adult daughter and son have finally cut ties with my narcissistic ex-wife. I was married to her for about 17 years starting in 1970 when she was 18 years old. Did not date long enough to see her narcissistic traits. In her defense she was molested by her step-dad when she was 5+ years old. Her mom was probably a narcissist too, but I was to young to grasp. I did all the things you talk about in other video so both my children saw a pretty bad side of me but have mended a lot of fences over the years. I've really tried to encourage them to get professional help to to deal with the fall out that they will get since my son finally cut the ties last month.
    I ended up get married to another narcissist and went through some of the same things after the love bombing stopped. Fortunately, I finally got enough professional help to not react as I did in my 20's and 30's.so as not to leave the marriage and raise my two adopted sons (wife's grandsons). We live together separately with very little conflict and of course are not intimate and have not been for the last 10 years.
    There are plenty of expert on UA-cam, but I like your delivery and style, so thank you. Darryl

  • @bradleybuchanan1389
    @bradleybuchanan1389 3 роки тому +2

    I didn't know these people existed before. I've learned alot. I also she has been haven a affair with her ex. I've found messages 2 twice on her pace book page she talked two him twice a day . Then tells me nothing is happening.

    • @rebcczung7869
      @rebcczung7869 3 роки тому +1

      I'm now available on whatsapp for consultation and advise

    • @rebcczung7869
      @rebcczung7869 3 роки тому +1

      👑💁🏻‍♀️ ➕❶❹❶❸99➁➄➁Ѳ❷

  • @juliaAnnBalogh
    @juliaAnnBalogh 3 роки тому +9

    What if it’s your daughter in law you’re dealing with. And you can’t just leave . You love your son and want him to be happy but also of course want him/ both of them in your life ?!

    • @Corinna_Schuett_GER
      @Corinna_Schuett_GER 3 роки тому +1

      It's THEIR marriage and if your son wouldn't want to listen to advice BEFORE he married her he will have to learn it the hard way. Hold your PEACE! You cannot have 1 narc in your life.

  • @akstylez_ak5037
    @akstylez_ak5037 3 роки тому

    Thank you so much Rebecca

  • @janiceingram4010
    @janiceingram4010 2 роки тому

    Know your truth, live in your own power, continue to walk away, stay in your own lane. We can do this!!!

  • @jacquelinefroehle3583
    @jacquelinefroehle3583 2 роки тому

    Know your truth. Know your power.

  • @lucanotti
    @lucanotti 3 роки тому

    I know the truth for sure.