Wow, just wow... This is me exactly. Ive always been so critical of myself for 10+ years and the majority of that i convinced myself it was a good thing. Only recently have i tried to stop because the results really weren't showing. Was just a spiral of self-depreication. Thank you for sharing this is was very helpful.
An awesome interpretation to inner child work. Currently going through my own journey by identifying that I'm trying to get my dad's approval (always sad, drinking and non talking, passed in 2019). I drank to get his approval. I immediately quit a month ago when I had this insight. I've purchased your book. Gonna work through it.
I deal with this every day! As a fighter it hinders my ability to fight at my full potential. Every fight I have I’m in the locker room battling my mind always telling me I’m not good enough. I know exactly where this negative mindset comes from and it very hard to escape it
I hope you recognise your own success & don’t dismiss it. The VOLUME of men you must’ve helped and will continue to help as long as UA-cam exists is through the roof. I’m just one starting the journey, but thank you.
Great post (as always). Good men have an inner critic to kick ourselves in the ass. But it can go too far and foster insecurities. Let it drive you and then have gratitude for the work you're doing.
Glad I subscribed. Keep doing the good work! The mental trap we give ourselves is harsh, and I know I did and do that by thinking I’m in the dungeon or a hyperbolic time chamber of pressure. Crazy right?! 😅
I'm a middle aged man who is recognizing a lot of these things in myself. I am dating a avoidant attached woman who I'm crazy about and it's causing me to examine a lot of this stuff and not use it as an excuse anymore. I don't want to mess this one up. I wish more young men would find content like this instead of red pilled content.
Is powerful advice and guidence for self-help Connor, thankyou!.. ive never thought of it that way and how to deal with that inner voice which has fed my anxiety and always made shit worse cos im not able to function properly afterwards.
Its like trying to convince a dog I've nearly beaten to death constantly over 30 years that I now love him and I'm so sorry but he's in the fetal position crying and won't talk to me. I'll keep trying 🎉 how do we stop believing something we've convinced ourselves is true?
Becoming a man with weak masculine role model and very critical parents is hard af. Which is ironic since from all the physical and mental abuse i can take a lot. I guess it's hard because i'm lost, i need to find my roadmap. No, create my roadmap.
Connor, I definitely think you should get Richard Schwartz or Gabor Mate on the podcast. I think hearing them answer questions with emphasis on men/masculinity would be very original and profound content.
I’ve done pretty well in life so far but now in my 60s I hear my dad telling me I’m stupid and a failure. I realise he had a lot of issues and when I was younger these were projected onto me.
Treat yourself like you would a friend. Forget where I heard this but it's been a good reminder for me.
Sounds like Jordan Peterson
Yeah I need this video. I hate myself. Verbally and physically abusive towards myself. I’m struggling to escape.
The fact that you are aware is a fantastic start mate. Keep digging to find out who is actually talking to you…
Which actions will you take to change this situation ?
This video is a good start. ❤
Wow, just wow... This is me exactly. Ive always been so critical of myself for 10+ years and the majority of that i convinced myself it was a good thing. Only recently have i tried to stop because the results really weren't showing. Was just a spiral of self-depreication. Thank you for sharing this is was very helpful.
ah and thank you btw for not putting adverts at the start of your vidoes. and for even let them ad free throughout. this is absolutely massive!❤
An awesome interpretation to inner child work. Currently going through my own journey by identifying that I'm trying to get my dad's approval (always sad, drinking and non talking, passed in 2019). I drank to get his approval. I immediately quit a month ago when I had this insight. I've purchased your book. Gonna work through it.
He has a book ? Great thanks
I deal with this every day! As a fighter it hinders my ability to fight at my full potential. Every fight I have I’m in the locker room battling my mind always telling me I’m not good enough. I know exactly where this negative mindset comes from and it very hard to escape it
Man you are articulate. I admire it.
The loyal Soldier. I love that. IFS is brilliant. Thank you for making this video
I hope you recognise your own success & don’t dismiss it. The VOLUME of men you must’ve helped and will continue to help as long as UA-cam exists is through the roof.
I’m just one starting the journey, but thank you.
Great post (as always). Good men have an inner critic to kick ourselves in the ass. But it can go too far and foster insecurities. Let it drive you and then have gratitude for the work you're doing.
Glad I subscribed. Keep doing the good work! The mental trap we give ourselves is harsh, and I know I did and do that by thinking I’m in the dungeon or a hyperbolic time chamber of pressure. Crazy right?! 😅
Thank you for an other guide Connor, they are amazing
Epic video. Way more people should have seen this.
1: Self Love
2: Set Boundaries
3: Refocus Your Inner Voice (Comes back to Self Love)
When I got to the end of this it felt very reminiscent of Jung’s teachings and integration of one’s shadow self. This was a good video
Great video
I'm a middle aged man who is recognizing a lot of these things in myself. I am dating a avoidant attached woman who I'm crazy about and it's causing me to examine a lot of this stuff and not use it as an excuse anymore. I don't want to mess this one up.
I wish more young men would find content like this instead of red pilled content.
Is powerful advice and guidence for self-help Connor, thankyou!.. ive never thought of it that way and how to deal with that inner voice which has fed my anxiety and always made shit worse cos im not able to function properly afterwards.
Can you do a video on avoidants inner dialogue vs what they say or do out loud ?
Its like trying to convince a dog I've nearly beaten to death constantly over 30 years that I now love him and I'm so sorry but he's in the fetal position crying and won't talk to me. I'll keep trying 🎉 how do we stop believing something we've convinced ourselves is true?
With ADHD-type thinking the inner critic talks like an auctioneer.
wonderful❤
Can you please make such videos for woman as well? 🙏🏼
Becoming a man with weak masculine role model and very critical parents is hard af. Which is ironic since from all the physical and mental abuse i can take a lot.
I guess it's hard because i'm lost, i need to find my roadmap.
No, create my roadmap.
I would never talk to someone else the way I talk to myself.
Connor, I definitely think you should get Richard Schwartz or Gabor Mate on the podcast. I think hearing them answer questions with emphasis on men/masculinity would be very original and profound content.
My parents treated me very well but.my dad often belittled mom, which I adopted on some level and bf says Im insecure..
I’ve done pretty well in life so far but now in my 60s I hear my dad telling me I’m stupid and a failure. I realise he had a lot of issues and when I was younger these were projected onto me.
it doesnt matter. you cant have some things. and not been likable can be one of them