Is Your Inner Monologue Destroying You? | Eckhart Tolle on Self-Talk and Negative Internal Dialogue
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- Опубліковано 12 кві 2023
- Eckhart explores how we can cultivate awareness to identify and free ourselves from our self-talk and the negative stories we tell ourselves about our lives.
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"An enormous amount of suffering is created by not realizing that large percentage of your problems consist of self talk in the head" : another one to remember. Thank you Eckhart
Very true the overwhelming majority of our suffering only happens in our minds where it can last year's, even a lifetime. The physical effect of the Bee sting is a fleeting experience while the memory and emotional effect of the Bee sting can be a life sentence, if decide to bear a grudge against the Bee. It's the story our minds create about the event that so often does far more damage than the actual event itself could ever do. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
HE'S NOT THE FIRST PERSON TO EXPRESS IMPORTANCE OF (** SELF -TALK*)❤❤❤
Pradox is that you want to remember it, its not about remembering, look dirrectly on it, there never happend transformation by remembering something…
"They don't want an end to their problems, they want to continue their story, which is their problem" - wise words!
Yes wise ,who ,said them,
When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you.
I like this.
What is wrong and what is right?
@@vandadluholucka6427 You have to ask that question to yourself, as each person has a different perception.
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@@vandadluholucka6427veeery personal..Sad society has assumed it's same...
The best thing about Eckhart's talks is his laughing. It always helps me to let go of stuff 😁
Right ha ? For me too, he is not so serious because he knows all of these substitutions and self talkings just a huge game , useless game . He knows that and he laughed so much
I love his Humour. One can See that it comes from a deeper Level.
One could even say that the humor has a certain silent presence to it
It does ! He is the best. ❤
He's a real comedian.
Sam Harris describes it as "being kidnapped by the most boring person on earth, and forced to listen to them from the moment you wake until you helplessly fall asleep."
Who is Sam Harris?
So it's like being kidnapped by Sam Harris?
grateful to Tolle & so many others for spotlighting this affliction of
"the voice(s) in my head".
i don't know how many drunk tanks, 5150s, or hospitalizations occur becuz of it,
but never once did a doctor, psychiatrist or psychologist suggest that i look in this direction.
Edit:
addiction to drink & or whatever, when i quit the addiction,
the voice in my head
if i listened to it
would try to steer the conversation in the direction of a drink,
the narrative is
causing unnecessary
burden,
if i notice the self talk in the head,
something
is noticing,
anyways,
this lesson
is a help to me now
I have no idea who Sam Harris is either but the being consumed by our minds self talk in our heads is like having our attention kidnapped or taken over by our minds self talk i guess,, I've heard worse analogies. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@kristapittam7741....there is only replying. If there is such a thing as unconscious and conscious replies....that implies duality and separation which isn't the case.
This man is pure brilliance
Can’t help thinking of Yoda when I listen to E T. Wise words calmly spoken.
📌"We suffer more in imagination than in reality."
-Seneca
"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts."
-Marcus Aurelius💜
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@@robincrowflies 💜
Do you know the sources of these quotes? Asking bcs some quotes are attributed to some famous thinker but sometimes it's not a true quote.
@@dnhg9730 Hi, they seem to be correct, as far as I know. You can search online for who said these quotes.
I wish you the best!
The inner dialogue, running commentary, and unwanted thoughts our minds produce are all in reality just background noise, much like a TV or radio show going on in the background. None of it is important and its totally safe to ignore it all and get on with our day/life's by simply reminding ourselves " its all just background noise" and let it pass without interest or attention. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
O yes,I think I can , , that's 💝
I believe this is going to be very difficult for the younger generation that has grown in an environment of constant stimulation from social media
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Ive read so many comments and ways of coping but this really sticks out, thank you. Subconsciously i think it’s how i’ve dealt with it in the past. But it’s good to have this as a staple reminder, it’s all just unwarranted noise like when your neighbor plays music.
@@simonsarmiento96 Hi Simon I'm really pleased you found the comment and method helpful mate. We are all stronger together and when we share with each other what has helped us personally 🙏🙏🙏🙏
We don't want the end to our problems because we want the continuation of our story which is our identity. 💡💡💡So clear! Thank you!
True 😊
I so badly want to free myself of my conditioned mind, but I've identified with past traumas so strongly it's hard to let go of the angry thoughts.
With Teacher Eckhart, I have a hope and I'm so grateful for that.
IME, it's helpful to realize that your conscious state is just 5% of your brain, and _emerges_ from the other 95% unconscious brain. Consider how dreams are (bizarre, irrational, symbolic). Your conscious experience emerges from that murky realm. It also emerges about 1/2-second after the fact. We are in a continuous state of "selfing" (one moment to the next). Those experiences of the moment occur about 1/2-second late. My point being that your conscious mind inflates itself into being the source of all this, making sense of it, rationalizing emergent feelings into the now as if it's due to the now. Often it's not. It's repressed, dis-integrated trauma, anger, shame that "leaks" into our relatively "produced" conscious state. We (as 5% of all this) exist on the other side of that, receiving it, and trying to make it "real." A lot of it isn't real. We should be commended for the effort. It's good natured. But, it's misplaced effort. It takes no effort to recognize "this isn't happening now... I don't need to give space to it within myself. it's just an echo from the past, adding noise to my emerged sense of conscious existence. I can be aware of what is or isn't happening now, and let the noise pass through me. Just because it emerges as real doesn't mean it is."
The only thing that's real is this present moment. Everything else is a story we tell ourselves. You're not _consciously_ telling it to yourself. You're just consciously believing it for no reason other than it's emerging along with your conscious experience.
You are making good steps. And that is the most important thing!
You are doing great❤
@@markfuller I had a narcissist monster trying to interfere with my family and even though we're out of the situation... the residual anger of "How dare they?" just won't shift. I try to stay present by giving my attention to the task in hand, but the intrusive thoughts always sneak in.
Must keeep telling myself it's just ghosts from the past - and that Karma will visit them i.e leave room for God's wrath.
Keep going my friend!
@@andrereloaded1425 _"keep telling myself...that Karma will visit them."_ I don't think that's a good thing to do. It's a passive way of identifying with your anger. They could just as realistically have an awakening and reverse the karma they've incurred. Would you want that for them? Maybe deferring to that thought would be better (more charitable and well-wishing than what sounds like hoping for their suffering).
What I'm about to say isn't very popular with people who've had your experience. Often, people who have suffered the most from a narcissist were often attracted to that person in a way others aren't. There was enmeshment, engulfment that they often describe as being "magical" or more than normal. Both parties pushed each other's buttons in a way others don't? Then, it becomes more abusive, more pathologically stuck in the head as a defining experience (again, magic rather than just bad luck). Consuming. Those people often play into that with realization of how bad that other person was, imbuing them with near-supernatural power, evil, etc. The experience justifies it. But, in so doing, they miss a bigger opportunity to assess "how did I get into this? unlike so many others? How did I ignore all the warning signs that would have sent others fleeing?" That's where the real gold is (for moving on, "live & learn"). It's the only thing you have control over: you were part of it to some degree. Anger at the other person could be projection of what you can't see in yourself. That leads nowhere.
Nothing I said above may apply. I don't know enough about what happened, the relationship you had. But, I do know that what I said often does apply, and it can be very triggering to consider. It can be met with reflexive defensiveness, more hostility expressed toward the abuser (which is justified, but may lead nowhere). It's worth considering. If there's no "there" there, it doesn't hurt to consider it.
“The obsession will end when you love yourself enough to stop hurting yourself.” - Geneen Roth.
When a bad habit tugs you back toward it, love yourself enough.
Beautiful
But how I try to but I have disgust for myself
@@erreur-sk5zx well I see the real you under those thoughts and you are beautiful
@@petra3049 id love to see myself from that pov...
@@erreur-sk5zx The trees will tell you, there can be no green canopy without the deep darkness where the roots dwell. Accept yourself, everything, and know there is no one alive who doesn't also have their dark roots. Let go of shame, and love yourself and this beautiful world. We need your light.
There will be many new beginnings. But there is one thing that won’t change.
You are not alone on your journey. You’ve entered a world that believes in you.
You’ve found a community that wants your best self to thrive for the rest of your life.
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Thats good im so affraid of the future because of my mistakes, i ruined my live and lost the love of my life
Eckhart a dmt elf that come to our plane of existence to teach us the ways.
Oh?
I suffer from a serious of traumas and begin with negative self-talk, which is a bad habit. I need to get my mind into a positive attitude with my inner self.
Eckhart was so pure and natural real essence of being... I'm feeling very calm whenever i watch him and connect what he wants to tell😘❤️🙏 The source talking through him😌🕉️🙏 Beautiful❤️
& we all have this awareness of being within us.
my sense is that the difference between a conflicted mind & minds like Tolle (& some others) is that he has learned (thru many lifetimes of suffering?)
the vital need to let go of the non-essential mental noise/dross/pollution.
once the false has been let go of & not renewed by mental effort, what is left to experience? a freedom that is not only not at war with truth but inseparable from truth and therein lies that peace that passes all understanding.
...but this comment is just another arrangement & reconfiguration of the 26 letters of the english alphabet (plus punctuation).
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I know this comment would be lost or dismissed, and I clearly understand it.
But I, for the first time in my life, described to my friend how this constant self talk was impacting my behaviour. That was this evening.
You dont have to believe me, but I dont watch any of these kind of videos.
Yet all of a sudden, UA-cam recommended me this. I leave the rest for your judgement.
We sure have to do so many things every day to keep everything going.
It’s not just knowing this truth that brings you to understanding , it’s sticking to it , sometimes I fall back into patterns of self talk and pity , sell talk of just beating myself up , it’s a habit that has to be broken fully , most days I’m in the present then life hits me and instead of being the observer I turn to a pity party or other emotions even when I know better … it’s a habit I’m trying to kick badly
Your doing fine, that's exactly the process Eckhart is talking about. We are blessed having such an enlightened person to guide us. 🙏
It's my Mother's voice in my head that I've identified as damaging. Keeps popping up.😂
I feel exactly the same.
if you are using KNOWING, as mental awareness, as the basis for TRUTH, it could be said, "the cart is in front of the horse". if you have known your parents love, or any ones willingness to be compassionate and understanding, you have witnessed a most fundamental experience of stabilizing your sense of self. in being SELF AWARE, to experience from this (compassionate/caring/loving "view" or position, is most fundamental in "knowing who you are". to keep this view unencumbered from pretensive preferences of others or society, is to maintain this experience without bias or prejudice. here, the HEART RULES THE HEAD. from this fundamental understanding or what serves your sense of stability/equilibrium, to do so with another human being is to know friendship, compassion, kindness, love. ( to view nature from this same vantage point is know "the primal vision" or to be in direct relations with, to experience the reality of it, not what you want it to be) . the YIN/YANG notion then, is the experience of dynamic equilibrium as it symbolizes an equilibrium of the forces stabilizing the human experience (which equates to compassion/love in the human experience) you should be able to trust the genuine nature of your own experience, seeing its place ( as compassion ) as part of the stability/equilibrium witnessed in the terrestrial world. ( to "know the words without knowing the music" doesn't make for a good song). to mentally know is fine, to EXPERIENTIALLY KNOW, as to be consistent with what allows you to be genuine/whole, the root of your reality being the root running through all of nature, is to allow for the development of BEING, is to know the creative force of life, to see the place of faith in the human experience, to "KNOW THY SELF". hope this perspective coherently communicated in a way that aids in your understanding of how you are swayed, or entertain self conversations that get in your way, in spite of your interest or sincerity to go beyond your societal context and experiences.
This good man has changed my life 👍✊😍
So good that he laughs while he's sharing this. Reminds me to take myself lightly.
When you are 83 there’s past present and future going on all the time…especially when you’re “trying” to live alone. You write a book in your head separating facts and what stories you have to share with others before it’s too late‼️
I hope you are writing it all down!
Do it!❤
@@dmcintyre4804 your such good people to respond with kindness and truth
@@robincrowflies your such good people to respond with kindness and truth
@@annstar4306 Thank you. Your kind words brightened my day. 🙏
I can not listen to you often enough. I am a slow student, but I recognize the truth you tell. Thank you.
I really appreciate your sense of humor. You are very good at conveying abstracts, presenting facts.
The voice alone is enough to re centre you, back to calmness, always grateful when I see these videos
Thankyou Eckhart, your talks are life changing. ❤
😅 Great teaching with humor! ✌️💜
Thank you Eckhart, as far gone as I may get you keep pointing me in the right direction
Good basic talk. I had to laugh at the end when he was describing a person sitting with legs crossed and bouncing their foot and said, "If your dog was doing that, you'd take it to the vet." I laughed because we take that kind of "twitching" as normal when it's really not! I love little "ah-has" like that!
yes, i should be taken to the vet on a regular basis.
Yup i laughed as well it caught me off gaurd not gonna lie 😂
Interesting. I have this foot shaking habit when I lay on the couch. I have been wondering if there is any meaning to this, but concluded it was nothing important. Just movement of energy.
This is quintessential Eckhart! Love this man. The topic in this talk should be taught in schools, and the medical community should embrace it more thoroughly.
Appreciation Master Tolle 💫💖
i work in a library,and it has helped me to see myself and my story as i am drawn to certain books that trigger the story,my ming trying to strengthen the story and to blow it up,its amazing how cunning it is
This is great! To anyone reading this, just know that you are exactly where you need to be in this moment. Trust the universe and have faith that everything is unfolding in your favor. Keep manifesting your dreams and watch as they become your reality. 💜🦋 Happy Friday
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Believe that, but very difficult to do.
@@doryannedemille3961 love and light to you 🦋💜
@@dmcintyre4804 💜🦋
@@ButterflyAwakening Thank you. And back to you. 🙏
Thank you E.T. ❤Great video as usual 👌
Thank you Eckhart❣️ ❤️
arrived to me at the perfect time again ❤🙏
Thank you, thank you for your being, and for your support and guidance ❣️🙏❤️🕊️☀️
Fantastic. Thanks for your ability to communicate our predicament!❤
Genuinely thank you for this talk and sharing
Eckhart you are a gift❤
Eckhart is amazing. Thoughts without awareness of them can be detrimental to one’s health if not handled properly.
This is so powerful. Thank you so much Eckhart. 🙏
Loud and Clear!
This video is definitely up there with the best of his videos.
Thank you Eckhart for bringing me so much peace. You are truly a gift.
Thank you for watching.
Thank you Eckhart for your teachings. I hope to meet you in person one day.
Really good teaching on this. Everybody does it and everybody needs to know. Thank you Eckhart for all you do for Humanity❤
I love this man. He has helped me so much❤❤
Great spiritual teaching. Thank you, Eckhart. You have the panacea for our suffering.
Atleast i am open enough to change my opinion just like that if someone makes me aware of it.
That i love about myself.
I can be very thankful for people who are telling me that i was on the wrong way and i do appreciate that. It just makes me feel warm inside of the heart and honest and open ❤
Simple and genius words. Listen to this! Regarding selftalk and being hypnotized. Suffering.
you say all this stuff but its pretty much what we all feel and know, the talk in the head is relentless, ive recently become very quiet, due to problems, this has been a good thing for me, im trying to be quiet and listen to myself
We are the creatures of Habits; Self talks whether negative or positive are habituals.
Be aware then!
Follow the habit that serves you well🔥
I realize that the feeling or the image I have is more like, " there is nothing left of me without these thoughts in my head". Not in a negative or sad way, it's simply that when I "see" me without thoughts, I am indistinguishable from the clouds. I can't imagine what " so much more" would look like if it does not include thoughts and features of a personality? It just looks like we disappear.
I've heard a couple ways of considering this. Apparently, most people when asked "are you the same person you were when 12yo" will say yes. They recognize a part of them that is the same even though they were thinking about other things at 12, hadn't been conditioned and identify with thoughts the way they have over the intervening years. Their story is vastly different now than it was then. Yet, beyond all that, there is some essense of who they are that they recognize as the same person. That would be what to identify with as not being disappeared? Your presence?
Another example I heard was to imagine you're zippered into a bag, can't see anything. You would have a very present experience of yourself, without distraction. Then someone pieces a pin hole in that bag, and you can see light. Now you're focused on this light, making sense of it, how it changes, the others who appear to be outside your bag, being more like some of them (less like others), blaming yourself for their reactions (or getting a thrill out of causing reactions). You'd be completely engaged with this miniscule light, and completely lose perception of the rest of yourself in the bag -- the real you. You'd be completely story-driven about that tiny bit of light that makes the bag experience more engaging(?). But, all you would have to do is look away, and suddenly you'd recognize who you are in the bag, the rest of you, the real you without all that "context" with the light. To me, that's similar to the "are you the same person you were when you were 12?" It's a similar experience you can have. You don't disappear when looking away from that source of confabulation. You recognize the you who was always there?
@@markfuller This is great. Thank you for taking the time to share. I will play with this :).
Self talk in the head is about the past and future.
Know that it's self talk. Be aware. Then freedom opens up.
Awakening means moving away from self talk.
Self talk is energy formation, and hypnosis.
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Light of awareness slows and stops compulsion.
People don't want to stop the stories which are self identity.
Step out of self talk which is conditioned mind. Be aware there is more to who I am.
Thanks Eckhart. 14 April 2023.🐧🐼🌛🏇🌍🔔👍🔔🥁⛵
I love how he mocks the little me story and makes us laugh at ourselves.
Gracias hermoso y querido ECKHART, nesecitaba mucho el mensaje de éste video, el Domingo de Pascua pasé un momento desagradable con un hermano y su esposa que tenía la sonrisa burlona ella, y no dije ni hice nada y éso me tenía molesta cada vez que me acuerdo, saludos y bendiciones. !!
Bravo! Écharpe describes it so perfectly well and I love his simplicity that brings me back to zero❤
It's like Eckhart read my mind 😂😂. Thank you for your guidance 🙏🏻
he's so cool, not just adding more information to chew on for the sake of having something to chew,
he points out things that we can look to in our own minds & verify for ourselves whether what he's saying is true or not.
More grace to the tribe ✨ 😌 🙏🏾
i just totally love your gestures. why? because i recognize that in myself. thank you.
This one hit home. It’s a work in progress. Ty 🙏
For us all 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I simply adore this man. I can say with complete honesty, and it’s not the first time I’ve said it as I seem to want to say it a lot…his teachings have changed my life. Resolved my deepest fears, given me such joy, such peace or rather has through his words allowed me to see the mind identification. It’s so f’n incredible I want to scream it from the rooftops. Thank you Eckhart love❤you
This man and yuval harrari and joscha Bach have given me insights into how stories shape our reality. His teachings in particular include a path to improvement. Thank you all
Thank you Mr. Tolls! This is huge. Kelly
Thank you thank you thank you so much
Brilliant
I've been suffering for a while
Thank you.
Grateful. Thank you
So good explained!
There are moments of presence without thought when new things happen then we label these experiences w words. Gradually we get numb and go into autopilot 🛩👨✈️ when we compare daily experiences with those of the past. I find it amusing the stories the ego produces. Most people make a movie like stories similar to books to hero or victim. I catch my self doing this and mind clears for a brief moment.
Thanks Man xx gonna finish seeing the therapist tomorrow.. You really helped me dump off the past and be here Now ❤
So cute when he does his little chuckle 😂
This thing they call mind!
에카르트톨레 선생님 늘 덕분에 배웁니다 감사합니다 한국에서 인사여쭙니다 🙏🙏🙏
Gratitude
Thank you
I’ve found Eckharts wisdom and knowledge to be the most useful gateway into freedom from the self. I’m 18 now, and I’ve experienced trouble letting go of attachment to past experiences, due to the unconscious conditioning of the mind.
For anyone reading this who feels that they need to discover who they are by attempting to repair the past or become something more than who they are already. This is an illusion ❤
Discovering who you are isn’t found through trying to becoming more than who you are already, but by simply discarding who you are not which is the story.
Thanks Eckhart ❤️
Incredibly insightful...harder to undo...
It’s amazing… I’ve always thought that I was the only ‘crazy, guilty, self-sabotaging creature’ on the planet. It’s bizarre listening to someone describe what has always gone on in my brain.
‘I can’t let go of that. I need to think about this more’. (That is me)
You can’t think your way out with another thought,
Regards
@@barryoneill-ec9zzyes you can
Beautiful video 😍
Thankyou Eckhart😘😍😍🥰
Abserlutly correct... 🙏
🙏🏻🌹 Thankyou Eckhart.
Beautifully said ❤ Thank you 🙏
Thanks
I've noticed in recent years how my emotions are felt so much more in my body. I feel I was able to handle the thoughts in my head but it overwhelms my physical body and makes me feel bad.
Thank you for you
Amazing!❤
Thank You ❤
I love the injection of humor! and of course, I love the reminders. thank you Eckhart!
Wow... Thanks for sharing this 😇
Watched this again just now sooo good xx. I mean you can’t appreciate all the great teachers I reckon. Until you get over through and out of “this conditioned content of ya mind “ lol 😊
thank you ....
So true!♾️🕊️
Yes. I've been working for over twenty years to let go of my story, and I think I may be successful soon. ;-) Stories are sticky like spiders' webs.
Thanks. Amazing
It sure helps to realize you've known madness/sadness, Eckhart.
'Too spiritual for me.'
You rock. 😂
Ohhhhhhh....eckhart....love you
Thank you🙏🌌💚 Awareness 🙏💚🌌
brilliant