How To Stop Doubting Your Relationship

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    One of the challenges some of us face in a relationship is doubt. There are a few things that I guarantee that this video will bring you: understanding where doubt comes from and how do you deal with it.
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    Kirk & Kim Duncan
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 457

  • @cxncelled__
    @cxncelled__ 4 роки тому +1174

    If ur on this video trying to fix it, you found true love💯

    • @Trippytelli
      @Trippytelli 4 роки тому +13

      N Smith man you are not wrong

    • @seotsunai
      @seotsunai 4 роки тому +62

      Omg thank you I needed this comment. It’s been happening for the last month and I don’t know what to do about it 🥺

    • @monishb8948
      @monishb8948 4 роки тому

      That's right

    • @monishb8948
      @monishb8948 4 роки тому +11

      @@seotsunai I wish you a blissful relationship.

    • @seotsunai
      @seotsunai 4 роки тому

      Monish B thank you so much🥺💜

  • @s0ul832
    @s0ul832 Рік тому +101

    From a negative thinkers perspective, don’t listen to the negative thoughts. Think of the positives and ask “what if it works out”

  • @NFC37
    @NFC37 3 роки тому +156

    For the past 2+ years my partner and I have the “Reasons Why I Love Her” list, I recently counted the reasons I wrote and I’m almost at 1000 🥺❤️ being able to pinpoint the specific things that make you fall in love with them all over again has brought me incredible joy, as most often, it’s the smallest things.

  • @evondonum1886
    @evondonum1886 Рік тому +73

    I have only been focusing on negative side of my boyfriend neglecting the the positive things. This has really affected my relationship so much. Am almost losing it coz of my attitude and mind set towards him. This video is amazing

  • @Lacehairwigs
    @Lacehairwigs Рік тому +7

    Overthinking is the death of most relationships. We're thinking our partner is ignoring our messages but they misses your message amongst the 50 others they recieved or got really busy and forgot to reply.

  • @wes4744
    @wes4744 4 роки тому +187

    So glad I found this video🥺🙏🏾, I didn’t even realize I’ve been self sabatoging and I think I really needed to hear this!! Thank you so much💛

  • @RossellaFanelli
    @RossellaFanelli 4 роки тому +118

    Exactly what I was looking for, I truly love my boyfriend and there is thousands of things I love about him, just sometimes the mind works so much negatively, maybe cause of the constant criticism I grew up with

    • @salmausman3977
      @salmausman3977 4 роки тому +3

      Rossella Fanelli I totally get you. My boyfriend is about to come meet my dad and make it official and now I keep thinking about how he acted few weeks ago when we had an argument, his attitude and all. I spoke to him and he told me that I was being negative and I made that an issue again. We said a lot but I truly love him.

    • @bluerosetarotllc8668
      @bluerosetarotllc8668 3 роки тому

      Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 5 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him....

    • @bluerosetarotllc8668
      @bluerosetarotllc8668 3 роки тому

      Text him on WhatsApp..

    • @bluerosetarotllc8668
      @bluerosetarotllc8668 3 роки тому

      +::2::3::4::7::0::5::7::2::1::5::5::3::2

  • @taylorbettencourt5443
    @taylorbettencourt5443 4 роки тому +53

    Bro u saved my life😂

  • @Poodlesnpussies
    @Poodlesnpussies 4 роки тому +166

    I'm only in the second month of the relationship but I am dealing with depression and emotional strengthening in therapy so that might be why I'm doubting him all the time. Thanks for the video

    • @WOTBS
      @WOTBS 4 роки тому +3

      I'm hope you're doing well now

    • @whalegoblin
      @whalegoblin 3 роки тому +6

      IM IN THE EXACT LIKE EXACT SAME SCENARIO

    • @88wins
      @88wins 3 роки тому

      This is my story too

    • @tokiramtapok2131
      @tokiramtapok2131 2 роки тому

      Brother m dealing with the same problem right now and it's pushing me into depression

    • @tesitajames4472
      @tesitajames4472 2 роки тому

      I need help please maybe I need counciling, like in your previous vid you mentioned about our mind i know i normally over think alot n then ask lots of questions

  • @hgzmatt
    @hgzmatt 3 роки тому +58

    This is how my relationship ended.. it barely lasted 2 months. From day one every tiny missstep was added onto a list and nothing every truly resolved or forgiven. She spent all the time looking for evidence of why it can't work. While I was trying to reassure and do the opposite. And then she just ended it and disappeared. It's so very painful and you can do absolutely nothing if they have this mindset.

  • @gnclight2108
    @gnclight2108 2 роки тому +9

    Mind shift if you think on negative, you only see negative if you shift the thinking of thinking positive you’ll see the positive. We’re human we all make mistakes it’s what we do after we made the mistakes count!

  • @cyndingold0923
    @cyndingold0923 Рік тому +9

    This is about to destroy my 4yrs relationship and I’m happy here and don’t want to lose it. Mistrust has taken over me cause I’m scared to lose it

  • @Drum3Matrix
    @Drum3Matrix 5 років тому +82

    Wow, a lot of this can also apply to understansing and improving your relationship with anything... Speaking truth brother!

    • @3KeyElements
      @3KeyElements  5 років тому +2

      Truth is truth, Colton! It applies to everything.

  • @evanavazquez8625
    @evanavazquez8625 4 роки тому +66

    Just barely 4 minutes in and i already love and APPRECIATE how applicable this is to not just relationships but occurrences and decisions in life ! Thank you

  • @dikshapathak5978
    @dikshapathak5978 Рік тому +3

    I think I do this because of my own insecurities, where I find it easier to push someone away to not get hurt

  • @wantedbeauty
    @wantedbeauty 3 роки тому +1

    Truly amazing, thank you for this!

  • @jecilalimantaata1382
    @jecilalimantaata1382 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much 💕

  • @SpacedTrooper
    @SpacedTrooper 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you ! i was looking for insight

  • @nomsashongwe6332
    @nomsashongwe6332 2 роки тому +35

    I'm in a long-distance relationship and I'm doubting my boyfriend's loyalty to me, and it's emotionally draining.

    • @amlilily
      @amlilily Рік тому +1

      been there too! but my ex was really cheating on me.. listen to your guts

    • @larakroft56
      @larakroft56 5 місяців тому +3

      @@amlililythat feeling can me anxiety too not guts

    • @goodvibes3571
      @goodvibes3571 Місяць тому

      Communicate

  • @chrisosoriogonzalez
    @chrisosoriogonzalez 4 роки тому +7

    This video was so needed, thank yoi

  • @francedc4247
    @francedc4247 3 роки тому

    Thank you so much, just listening to this makes me feel a lot better and lighter🥰

  • @randomcathyofficial
    @randomcathyofficial 4 роки тому +5

    Thanks Kirk...love your stuff...insightful. just what i was looking for

  • @prophecyfitnessboxing3006
    @prophecyfitnessboxing3006 4 роки тому +4

    Thank you Sir! 100 Reasons! Coming right up!

  • @simplyfood4218
    @simplyfood4218 2 роки тому

    Thankyou for sharing the tips on reducing self doubt 😊

  • @kirwabernice4319
    @kirwabernice4319 3 роки тому +2

    Thankyou! My list of 100 begins now.

  • @tamara4319
    @tamara4319 2 роки тому

    this popped up randomly , not even looking up stuff like this so thank you

  • @kateverbal2138
    @kateverbal2138 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for this healthy tips. This is really helpful 💕💕💕

  • @cavebabycreations
    @cavebabycreations Рік тому

    new subscriber here! thank you for this. once i had both lists in front of me i could also see clearly which of my needs were not being met and how they created illusions. fantastic video!

  • @hagizsayhi
    @hagizsayhi Рік тому

    This is really helpful, thank you for this video ❤

  • @thatkangaroopouch
    @thatkangaroopouch 3 роки тому

    Thankyou so much for this, needed it so badly❤️❤️

  • @carriejo5225
    @carriejo5225 2 роки тому

    Thank you for this video!

  • @saffronrender3949
    @saffronrender3949 2 роки тому +7

    I really needed to hear this! So glad I stumbled across this video. I wish I could pick up the phone and speak to you in person because you speak so much sense. Thank you so much! I will definitely subscribe. X

  • @safiullah111
    @safiullah111 4 роки тому +2

    Thank u sir thank u so much I will now look for positive evidence

  • @tiago_ffp
    @tiago_ffp 5 років тому +93

    Thanks you a lot for this video, i didn't think of that perspective of things. I'm the one who as the negatives thoughts and doubts, but i really want the relationship to work, cuz i'm not gonna find someone like her. Thanks once again for making this video.

    • @yeja2568
      @yeja2568 4 роки тому +5

      Feel you. I need more people to talk about this. And songs

    • @stevenk6662
      @stevenk6662 4 роки тому +2

      @@yeja2568 look up alpha males strategies, focus on your self first Champ

    • @yeja2568
      @yeja2568 4 роки тому

      @@stevenk6662 is it a channel?

    • @taylorsteinbeck5119
      @taylorsteinbeck5119 2 роки тому +2

      need songs and this right here, this is awesome all your words are taken as I’m not the only one. I’m the negative one, Always wandering. Need to focus on the positive.

    • @topsupporter8201
      @topsupporter8201 2 роки тому +1

      @@stevenk6662 he promotes fornication and not love

  • @montaellis2860
    @montaellis2860 2 роки тому

    Thank you very much. This is really helpful

  • @elishalancaster1158
    @elishalancaster1158 2 роки тому +19

    Me and my girlfriend did this and we are more in love with each other than ever. We plan to write out our 100 on a regular basis. Thank you so much.

  • @angielorenacv
    @angielorenacv 3 роки тому +3

    Wow! Most useful video ever! Thank you so much for this information and relationship tip❤️

  • @patehkhan9119
    @patehkhan9119 4 роки тому +25

    I'm feeling lucky to find this video..
    You're great sir ♥️

  • @kokamahdy126
    @kokamahdy126 2 роки тому

    This is honestly so useful, trying this now!

  • @airacannillelalic5732
    @airacannillelalic5732 2 роки тому

    Glad i came upon this video, thanks Kirk. This is one of the bestest, im surely listing 100 now and i know i can ;)

  • @madhavkumar9024
    @madhavkumar9024 4 роки тому +11

    Thanks a lot sir
    U saved it all
    Calmed my anger and made me stay🤘

  • @KRovny00
    @KRovny00 4 роки тому +11

    Thank you sir! I’m definitely going to use this for the future with my girlfriend. Really made me clear my head realized what I’m doing so wrong.

  • @laurabeigh283
    @laurabeigh283 Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much for this. I needed to hear this. I’m gonna give it a try.

  • @majaromanska632
    @majaromanska632 2 роки тому +3

    Wow! You can't even imagine how it has changed everything in the matter of minutes. Thank you.

  • @ankitnaadia
    @ankitnaadia Рік тому +1

    thanks for this video sir . it literally showed me what i was doing vs what i should be doing . thank you so much

  • @oats_7l222
    @oats_7l222 2 роки тому

    Wow thank you!!! This is indeed a game changer .. hope it works for me

  • @Kianesyt
    @Kianesyt 2 роки тому

    Great video!

  • @s0ul832
    @s0ul832 Рік тому

    Thank you for this video.

  • @hayleyjadeputter8309
    @hayleyjadeputter8309 Рік тому +2

    From a person like myself I wanna say from the bottom of my heart I am proud of this guy for defeating whatever caused him to Self Harm ...your doing great we're all so proud of you

  • @chaibabdelbasset3014
    @chaibabdelbasset3014 2 роки тому

    Thank you for the valuable advice sir

  • @lorrainedzeka
    @lorrainedzeka Рік тому

    What a beautiful video and sound advise.

  • @xTFFxVengeance
    @xTFFxVengeance Рік тому +4

    Needed this video ♥️ overthoughts get the best of me and I've been having these sort of panic attacks because of it. Everything in this video made perfect sense

  • @philetry1185
    @philetry1185 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much. It really works

  • @Rei-km7yj
    @Rei-km7yj 4 роки тому +4

    Great video, I hope using this tip will change my attitude towards positive and will help my relationship.

  • @Vavek356
    @Vavek356 4 роки тому

    Thank you!

  • @mohdmirzajamri7814
    @mohdmirzajamri7814 2 роки тому

    Thank you for ur advice 🥺

  • @1107861214ali
    @1107861214ali 4 роки тому +18

    Thank you, you right we need to be more accepting and have the right the perspective and belief. This is so much for challenging for me in a long distance relationship where you under financial pressure, in the process of spouse visa and your sexual needs are not met because you saving for a house and money for spouse visa, can’t afford to visit her. I was thinking I wanted to continue today but I realised I was projecting my problems on to her. You have helped me realise, the relationship is worth it, I accept the challenge and will work to solve them Instead if blaming her. May God help me

  • @nashwakamal4730
    @nashwakamal4730 2 роки тому

    Very helpful thank you so much

  • @luisaarlante9833
    @luisaarlante9833 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you very much ❤️ this is exactly what i need right now

  • @mariananunez9968
    @mariananunez9968 3 роки тому

    THANKYOU THANKYOU THANKYOU!!!!!

  • @shaneswart2007
    @shaneswart2007 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you♥️

  • @san7981
    @san7981 4 роки тому +1

    Thanks alott for this video

  • @alphaalvey5029
    @alphaalvey5029 Рік тому

    This is really helpful

  • @LoveEmbodiment
    @LoveEmbodiment 2 роки тому +3

    Lies and deceptions are the main destructors of relationships.

  • @childofpluto3994
    @childofpluto3994 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you so much. I struggle with doubt heavily from time to time. This helped me calm down, I get so anxious about my doubts I wanna stay with my partner, i wanna improve.

  • @sophiarustem9036
    @sophiarustem9036 3 роки тому +38

    This is one of the best videos that actually helped me. I wish you were my dad (im 22)
    I just took a break for a month from my boyfriend. I wanted this break because I was feeling confused. But after watching this video I understood why I was feeling confused. Because I always focus on what is he doing wrong, I always complain about him or his actions. He is always not enough for me and so on. And im so abusive to him, that i even feel bad for him. But deep down i dont want to be like this. I always try not to hurt him but i loose control over my behavior. Thats why i wanted to take a break. To fix myself

  • @elleoh7837
    @elleoh7837 Рік тому +4

    Thank you so much! I'm really thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend cause we fight almost everyday... whether I do it or not I can't help but stack up the wrongs he is doing... This is depressing and I'm anxious most of the time.. I love him and I don't want to throw everything that we have started and shared away. Maybe I'm just overthinking and full of doubt... I must be strong and be independent.. I want to be hopeful and patient in our relationship...

  • @jodiwest1382
    @jodiwest1382 2 роки тому

    Wow Awesome Thank U So True🤗

  • @candygaye1823
    @candygaye1823 2 роки тому

    Helpful thank you

  • @OscarPauloACosme
    @OscarPauloACosme 2 роки тому +23

    I'll leave this comment here, that this day I, I knew my girlfriend really loves me ( Well I knew that at the first place, anyway) and I have to narrow things down which is I'm the real issue, MY MIND is the real issue on how it is thinking constantly. I'll come back to this comment with my story after applying this advice, thank you so much. We are not on the edge but I want to fix myself to be suitable for her and ofcourse not to lose her. Again Thank you so much. I'll come back

  • @GarrithdeClercq
    @GarrithdeClercq 10 годин тому

    I love this message, thank you for your work. It’s nice to feel like you truly care about relationships and helping others out ❤

  • @shrilakshmi4304
    @shrilakshmi4304 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much man❤u r awesome

  • @eilamariesartre8823
    @eilamariesartre8823 2 роки тому

    I see how this had happened but couldn’t explain it as well as this. Wow, it’s very LOA and vibrational focus based.

  • @user-vt3im6iy1d
    @user-vt3im6iy1d 9 місяців тому +1

    It's the behavior and when words and actions don't match ❤️

  • @Nikkiole84
    @Nikkiole84 4 роки тому +1

    Thanks alot.

  • @3KeyElements
    @3KeyElements  2 роки тому +8

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  • @vishwanathhindustan7014
    @vishwanathhindustan7014 Рік тому

    Thank you 💞

  • @vikram1995verma
    @vikram1995verma 3 місяці тому

    You are saving people ❤

  • @89jonh
    @89jonh 2 роки тому +24

    I'm really getting so much from this. I am in my first Relationship ever and this is so helpful and insightful

  • @irosha2102
    @irosha2102 Рік тому

    This advice important for me.thank u sir.thank u universe

  • @viveknair5191
    @viveknair5191 4 роки тому

    Great video...

  • @richanarayan
    @richanarayan Рік тому +2

    Basically, it's the root problem in every relationship, not just couples, but anyone!

  • @hareeshvarun
    @hareeshvarun 4 роки тому

    Thank you so much

  • @francedc4247
    @francedc4247 3 роки тому

    This needs more subscribers

  • @nathanielgray4235
    @nathanielgray4235 2 роки тому

    Wow great words

  • @matahari8539
    @matahari8539 10 місяців тому

    Thank you

  • @nidharthini
    @nidharthini 10 місяців тому

    Thank you sir.. U made my day..

  • @WOTBS
    @WOTBS 4 роки тому +4

    And it works for everything.

  • @suhailrahibshaikh9838
    @suhailrahibshaikh9838 2 роки тому

    Thankyou so much

  • @LiLi-il6px
    @LiLi-il6px Рік тому

    Amazing video

  • @mariananunez9968
    @mariananunez9968 3 роки тому +1

    I love this video, I watch it over and over. Helps me every time. THANK YOU

    • @julissasmessages4493
      @julissasmessages4493 3 роки тому

      Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 5 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him....

    • @julissasmessages4493
      @julissasmessages4493 3 роки тому

      Text him on WhatsApp..

    • @julissasmessages4493
      @julissasmessages4493 3 роки тому

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  • @tamarabaker487
    @tamarabaker487 2 роки тому

    This is great. Watching this for all types of relationships and it translates well.

    • @mirhangreg5282
      @mirhangreg5282 Рік тому

      I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and whoever you want to manifest within two days🥰🥰

    • @mirhangreg5282
      @mirhangreg5282 Рік тому

      It was he who helped me restore my ex 3 days ago without delay

    • @mirhangreg5282
      @mirhangreg5282 Рік тому

      Whatsaapp him"***

  • @adarshadi12
    @adarshadi12 4 роки тому +1

    Thnk u for this

  • @theianaitomato
    @theianaitomato 3 роки тому +19

    Thank you, Kirk, for doing what you do! This is extremely insightful and helpful especially for people like me, who has an anxious preoccupied attachment style and abandonment issues.

    • @arcanapriestesstarot3558
      @arcanapriestesstarot3558 3 роки тому

      I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️

    • @arcanapriestesstarot3558
      @arcanapriestesstarot3558 3 роки тому

      He was the person who helped me manifest my ex three days ago without delay 💯💯

    • @arcanapriestesstarot3558
      @arcanapriestesstarot3558 3 роки тому

      Whtsapp him"**.

    • @arcanapriestesstarot3558
      @arcanapriestesstarot3558 3 роки тому

      +: :2: 3: 4: 9: 0: 4: 7: 7: 4: 7: 9: 7: 8♥️

    • @ambraniella201
      @ambraniella201 2 роки тому +3

      As a person who has an anxious attachment style and deep abandonment issues as well, I thank you for your comment because it helps me understant that I am not the only one in this situation watching this video...

  • @ayankmnie170
    @ayankmnie170 5 років тому +3

    Thanks sir it helped me

    • @3KeyElements
      @3KeyElements  5 років тому

      Thank you for watching. If you like this, be sure to subscribe. I am posting new videos each day.

  • @DailyDelightsVlogs
    @DailyDelightsVlogs 3 місяці тому

    i am gonna make a list today and will update ..how things will turn around…hope for the best …

  • @klaireg3247
    @klaireg3247 2 роки тому

    this works 💯💯💯

  • @maeanncansino5197
    @maeanncansino5197 2 роки тому

    Thank you very much!

  • @stephenwweber
    @stephenwweber 3 роки тому

    Thank you for doing these videos. Bless you.

  • @Terminatorfan-2016
    @Terminatorfan-2016 2 роки тому +19

    One of the best videos I've seen. Thank you. I'm in a relationship and we are very much in love, but unfortunately it's gotten to the point where we nitpick each other too much. I'm going to let it run its course and if we make progress and are meant to stay together, then I will be stoked. However if we can't make any progress, I need to accept the fact that it's over. I'll need to deal with the emotions around it the best I can. This is one of my toughest challenges ever. Now there's nothing bad going on, just the differences are starting to show.

    • @olgacherkasova3522
      @olgacherkasova3522 Рік тому +1

      How's it going now?

    • @Terminatorfan-2016
      @Terminatorfan-2016 Рік тому +2

      @@olgacherkasova3522 glad we're done! 🎉 🥳 Can't have someone who doesn't know what or who they want, who's against my hobbies, my looks, and who thinks I'm too soft because I'm not the overly macho borderline violent bad boy. I'm a strong person, but I don't have to be one of the kinds of guys that she likes to be strong, not changing anything about me, and glad it's over. Her flip flopping judgmental attitude caused me to nit pick at her and it became toxic, but not the dangerous kind, but nothing pleasant. So it's done. We've been done.