@@MsJoyDeAnna yup. My ex would always feel the need to tell ppl how much he made a year but still broke. He loved to show off and always had the need to be validated
My ex boyfriend would playing video games, never cleaned, he cooked if I told him to, and withhold intimacy the whole time. I had to get a restraining order against him. He would say “I am here ain’t I?!” He worked for a month and just got fired and gave his paycheck to his no good friends but ask for money to go out with his so called friends. I am glad I got this toxic man out of my life.
Some narcissist will even try to monitor what types of gifts you are planning to give to your love ones and ask how much it cost just to make sure you not spending alot of your money because they feel its their money and its for their personal needs and wants
@@lisalee-re1gg This really made my stomach drop. I’m so sorry you had to experience this‼️✨ I’m still struggling to recover from it. What hurts the most is the damaged relationships that can’t be recovered. Finances recover, eventually. But relationships…those are much harder to recover, IMO.
I’m still a kind person even after dating and being engaged to a Narcissist. I’ve just learned how to set better boundaries and surrounded myself with others where it’s reciprocal!
@@Morelove4ever8 I had a narcissistic roommate. She came to my house because she was getting her ass beat but come to find out, her and her man were beating each others asses and she was actually trying to scam me. Now when someone needs help, I have $5 and I let them know about the nearest church or EBT office.
My ex-narc thought I was his 1st National Bank when we were together. He'd get a social security and disability check at the beginning of the month and by the 10th of the month, his money was gone! I told him to go find himself a job, but his excuse was that he couldn't work anywhere that would mess with his ssi and disability checks. I told him to go do Doordash. He did that for a little while until he moved out. Then, he THOUGHT that I was still going to continue to finance him after he moved out. I told him that I wasn't taking care of his house and mine, too. He had the audacity to tell me yes I would.🧐 I told him that he would get blocked. He told me that I better not block him.😐 He tried it. He's blocked! 🙅🏾♀️ It'll be 4 years no contact in April of this year!💪🏾💃🏾
They want you to work while they sleep all day and watch movies. My Ex made me feel like it was my responsibility to help him be financially successful. He refused to take accountability for being financially irresponsible. Always saying what he was going to do to make money but would NEVER do it !
My ex spend every penny as soon as possible and then had a tantrum that it's unfair that I have savings. He also blaimed tax officials for his company going bankrupt when he was using company money to buy stuff for himself. 😂
You is right. They be having these grandiose dreams and be too lazy to put any action to it and quit when it gets a little hard, like they want you to build their dream for them
@@jalesapowell you're so right! He took credit for my every accomplishment, every good customer feedback etc. When I bought my house he showed it to our friends as his house. Then said that I have ruined his only opportunity to buy a house when I wouldn't transfer the deed over to him.
My ex husband would spend his money on what he wanted and knew bills were due and looked to me to pick up all the slack and wen I would say I couldn’t, he’d do a 360 and get mad at me and blame me for why bills were behind
I was dating this very attractive and toxic guy. He couldn’t hold a job for more than a month or two, always the victim… and in the 5 month we were dating he literally „forgot“ his wallet 3 times at home. I paid until I realized this was a pattern. He was broke, but couldn’t even admit it. He was looking for a sugar momma, and I wasn’t that.
My narc couldn't understand how when I wasn't with him I had two jobs and time to spend with the kids. But when we were together I stayed home with the kids, because I had help and I lived with people I trusted and who supported me. He would say things like "I wish I could stay home when I feel depressed and burnt out but no I HAVE TO WORK!" Mind you I homeschool my kids. He also encouraged me to stay home because of child care expenses. Told me his money was our money then would bring up how I spent money or I would have to ask for money. When I wanted to go back to work he wasn't willing to meet me half way. He'd say well what are you going to do with the kids. And then I realized that alone I was working 2 jobs and still had time for my kids without all the extra stress or sadness I woke up with almost every day. Then I finally left last year and was being replaced in less than a week.
I called him a bum and he loss his mind. In the six months he had 4 different jobs and lost 2 for fight at work and one when his car broke down. He keep talking about these get rich schemes 🤦🏾♀️
@beautypablotamarini7315 exactly!! They think EVERYTHING IS THEIRS if it's yours. But if it belongs to someone else, it only belongs to be them. Straight bs
Damn ...no comment..lately I have been watching all the stuff you have said play out on front of my eyes..it's the wildest sh**!!!! Like word for word..the mind games are real y'all just say NO!!!
My ex always and still does claim he has no money. When he left I saw a deposit slip for $35k and I called the account it came out of and he had saved $250k behind my back!! Never knew about this! He married the person he cheated on me with and I think she’s going to take him for everything he has! Good riddance!!!!!
My co parent is a narcissist. He quit his great paying job in the fall. It's been 3 months of him being jobless, and now he's coming for me for money I "owe" him. He got denied driving for Uber and Lyft because he has a misdemeanor for assault and breaking of private property. According to him it's all my fault, I'm stopping him from being successful, and I'm a piece of shit. Again, he assaulted me and these are the consequences to his actions. They will never hold themselves accountable and you will always be blamed 😑.
I was with mine for 5 years,The first 6 months or so he had a job even tho I had to take him to and from work and also talked him into getting his license back. Then he stopped going into work got fired and anything that he was barely giving me to help with bills he through in my face and it wasn't enough to even pay but one bill maybe..... He is now broke with no license again... And has a phone only because his sister pays the bill! I was obviously out of my mind for even giving him a chance ,he is the laziest person I've ever met. Sad thing is he's smart,has potential,but refuses to use it and has gave up on life. He was dragging me down for years... He was like a bad drug .. I am now one month clean from his evilness. I'm starting to get myself back,And it's really nice ❤️
My ex would future fake and say that he was in a “ rough patch” and that “ things would “get better”.And he would always pay victim and in order to get me to buy things he would start complaining about what he did not have in order to get me to feel sorry for him.
This is my exact story !!! And I feel so relieved I finally cut it off ! He thinks I’m the worst person because he doesn’t have access to me and now he doesn’t want to be apart of anything when it comes to our child 😮
Actually, that may be better and safer for the child. Narcissists will target anybody, even their own children. They don't care about others, they're incapable of caring..
he probably didn't like you asking her for her money because he was embarrassed he couldn't fully provide... he probably didn't want your mom to judge him and the fact that you still seeking familial help even when you have a man
My ex told me less than two weeks after my father died that he should get my fathers inheritance because he didn't get anything from his parents. Then threatened to sue me and take my house when I wouldn't agree to it. He didn't even really know my father because he already had brain injury and was an empty shell when we met.
Majority of them will do anything if push comes to shove for money. All bets are off for a dollar. They love spending someone else’s money. Some are bad at money management and know that they are.
When we got married, he asked me to be a SAHM. After our first child was born, he was let go, and due to covid, it was hard for him to get something. After our second child, he was still struggling to get a job, and i offered to get back to work. He got so mad at me, saying that i couldn't get a job because all the other men (linemen) would look at him like he couldn't do it. So i didnt and we struggled so much. When we separated, he kept wanting me to pay for his car insurance and phone bill, "oh, so thats how its going to be?" Is 6 he would say when i began making my own accounts on everything.
I chose to be a stay at home, leave my job for us to live together. While she was getting set for a good job. Her opportunity got closer and noticed reactive abuse. I fell for it and this is not the first. Constant mental abuse. She kicks me out. Was devastated once again especially with a child. Few years later we get back to spend times together, but I think because things failed for her and she became broke and depressed. I started taking care of her and my child financially. Yet again, she started to devalue and I found that she was sleeping with someone else while sleeping with me the next. She tore me apart. Just use and abuse.
You knew what she was doing before you could have still take. Care of your child and file full custody until she is able to help herself your child shouldn’t be with her she will ruin her mentally she could become a narcissist to
My Nex is a self-proclaimed Feminist and in a socialist Organisation for half his life. He lives precarious and (claims to) fight for workers and women. He's abused me and other women in any possible way, also made us pay for his stuff, even those women who weren't really in a relationship with him. He has no power in the sense he and his comrades claim power looks like- rich and famous, but he had the power of hundreds of people in this organisation believing him over my claim. I am a total loner, no family, no friends. They didn't believe me but instead protected and supported him. This IS a powerful position, he indeed holds loads of power.
This is exactly what happened to me! When we got together he had a job and a car, as soon as we got together he got fired from his job and lost car then basically lived off of me for months!
I was told the “you already pay everything alone so why do I need to help”. He literally took my card and car while i was sleeping and spend it all in the casino saying he is entitled to have that. I have been so manipulated and financially exploited that is gonna take a while to recover.
Ohhhh😂😂😂😂😂 you are so right. I was told he cannot live under a microscope and I want to complain. I’m like brother what does it profit me to to desire to complain when I’m working, going to school to be a doctor and working on my business and seeking to grow a beautiful healthy relationship w/ someone. Chile that isn’t fruitful to my spirit and unprofitable in every way. He would get upset when I would cry n told me it was my fault. He would tell me it’s my fault he had to do the things he did b/c how I was behaving. I can’t believe I put myself through that. It took me 7months and I was like hell no!!!? I literally screamed Father I surrender him over to u. Not my monkey not my circus and I was done. He’s beyond beyond a bum but I’m an extremely empathetic person, but I have to be logical and deal in wisdom with giving it to others
They are often serial job-hoppers, or constantly getting fired when it "wasn't their fault" or they "didn't do anything wrong." Then they have the unmitigated gall to lay up in the house, won't clean up, won't cook, and leave messes like a gang of pre-schoolers. That is, until you get fed up, and have to obtain legal and law enforcement means to put their bum behinds out. Ask me how I know😂😂😂
@@PsychedPerspectiveSame...here. First off, I don't have any children by this man..Thank you Jesus! He has an issue with anyone of authority. He kept getting fired from jobs because child support sent him a notice to put his kids on his insurance...what bro do??? Quit cause they want to take money out for kids you made. Mind you he only pays $12.50/week child support -$50/month. He thought he was gonna lay around and play videos all day in my house and then when it was time to pay the bills every month he would ask how much his portion of the bills were. Like the amount changes...we had only been living together over 25th years...He was very much a leech that cheated with the prostitutes of the city...he looked for validation from any body. I hate to know what he got past me but I'm glad that demon is history. He keeps the same chicks he cheated with in rotation. He was what everyone is posting about in the comments verbatim...True blue NPD...
Currently in a relationship with a narcissist who literally is being taken care of by me , and still is getting caught cheating! I’m trying my best to get away from him after not only spending all my money on him , he gets caught cheating and blames it on me ! All he does is verbally abuse me and talk bad about me to other people! Were currently not speaking because he claims he failed school because he couldn’t use my car to get to school! By the way we are both in our 30s not teenagers!
Facts! Always some freak situation asking for money. Basically u guna lose them if you dont pay up. With a million crying emojis. I experienced this. 1 month No Contact. 🎉 lol...Lee ur So Right! Their body as currency yessssss
Thank you for speaking on this because it can be confusing when grandiosity and superiority is a major trait of narcissists. The broke bastards are definitely out here. One of my female friends was a textbook example. I learned the term "dry-begging" from HER. 😂
Everything you said 💯💯💯 he got me to move in with him because he was employed and the sex was good, not long after he lost his job and sex was scarce..never got a steady job again just odd jobs here and there, everything was beneath him because he thought he was extremely intelligent and godly.. anything he did around the house he expected me to jump for joy like he was doing me a huge favor. Etc. Etc. ..
Ex left for a narcissist.”she doesn’t see it” Bud doesn’t know what she has was cause me both see the shiny toy until he finds out she doesn’t work and he “works when he wants”.😂but Also works for a famous company. meanwhile he asking money from a person who has disability and get a month gov check.
my ex paid non of the household bills, i did. he did purchase things that we needed like the washer & dryer, fridge & took it all bc he “paid for it” & i did “nothing to contribute.”
This was my son's father... he came over and never left... he would get a job get fired and then he would say stuff like you think you better than me because you have your degree. He didn't have a GED and I helped him get in a class to get it and he went drunk and they kicked him out. He was a mess.
&&& yup he never said anything about him not having a high school diploma, n finishing high school. They keep a lot of details to themselves bc they know if you know the truth you wouldn’t have given their dusty bum assess the time of day!
Okay, I don’t know what the correct answer is to this. I moved in with my partner. Was told all I needed to do was clean and cook. He was gonna pay all the bills. This man then decided he wanted me to half all the bills. All the while telling me to leave once a week. Then I would start packing to leave and he would beg me to stay. Say he was ashamed of asking me to pay bills. Saying thing like please don’t leave me, I would be hurt if you left, I don’t want you to go. What is wrong with people. I feel confused all over the place if I was wrong or he was. Nothing was consistent. Except him complaining about me. Hated my cooking but claimed he loved it and was snapping what I made to his friends. Then he stopped eating what I made and was DoorDashing or eat out after the gym. I’d clean and he wouldn’t even clean up after himself. That was my job. I shampoo the carpet and he let the dog run through the house with muddy feet and told me “the house can’t stay clean all the time!” I was constantly picking up after him and the dog that he let chew everything up. And the dog was suppose to have been my gift, but he took her and told me I couldn’t train her and he controlled when I could play with her. I didn’t pay bills. I saved my money. Now here I am living in my car and airbnbs trying to find a home. Why?! Cause I went to see my kids who hate him because how he has treated me. Came back to be told to find other accommodations and that my stuff was in the garage-I can pick it up on his time. I’m sick to go back. I’ve blocked him on everything. In therapy! Angry and cannot make myself go back around him. Will it be another round of cussing you out, or another please don’t go. I care about you. It’s Dr.Jekl and Mr.Hyde and my body and mind is exhausted. I would love some clarification. Was this my fault?!
My God you described my relationship with the narcissist I was with. I felt bad for him because he found his daughter dead and lied about his drug and alcohol addiction.
As a self aware narc I feel it would be most respectful to maintain physical boundaries with family and friends you care about especially being aware that being a leech is the only interpersonal skill that the narc possesses. Living alone is respectable as a self aware narc. Environmental and financial control can lower cortisol in the narc and allow the narc to live a more peaceful existence without codependency on an empath or BPD.
My ex tries to take my covid benefits while I was pregnant 🤰 😢 😅 and more. Was hard to leave but the abuse was mounting and I knew he was gonna take us for everything 💔 he still tries via the courts
💯💯💣 I always get those bums who have a job quit or get fired as soon we get together. Stay the night then years go by.😂 yes they don't want to do anything after that. Spot on Lee. My situationships with narcs. ....yes I was told I was lazy....I was the only one working.😅 or you only have money to pay bills.? They don't contribute to nothing.
My narc ex would always tell me “what’s mine is mine and what’s yours is mine” And I thought he was joking until I realized he had been stingy with me and even hiding when he would get money from other women the WHOLE TIME! He even had a job once n was hiding when he and how much he got paid and still asking me for money😔 I was struggling thinking I was helping him and he was jus being greedy
They’ll use you as an ATM in a round about way….. aka DRY BEGGING (playing on your emotions n constantly bringing up a sob story, trauma dumping, woe is me mess) to get you to feed into their “struggles n misfortunes” so it’ll appear that you made the choice to lend them money or buy them things…. Whole time they’ve manipulating you with their sob stories. I’m learning more n more …. These mfs are USERS!!!!
Oh many times the X would tag along to the store with me and he get a cart fill it up and when we get up to pay for his cart he said u got this right Im gonna go smoke I’ll be in the car . Well I was slow at catching on, after maybe 5 th time I realized what he was doing ( sneaky way of stealing my money and laughing at me in his head saying what a dum ass I was ! I figured him out three yrs ago from listening to you constantly lee , thank you for the mental awareness ! The last yr i stayed with him off and on just so I could figure out all the lies his face his eyes body movements everything so I would never make this mistake ever again . In that last wk i turned you on youtube and you were laughing about what narcs do and I kid u not he busted out laughing and I looked at him and said well he funny but lee is talkin bout your ass ! Now that shit is funny . two yrs single this mnth for me . I have a therapy dog and my dog has changed my outlook if your dog dont like people u hangin with pay attention to y and follow the dog pack . My X ‘es mother whom he lives with Is a NARC to , 40 yrs old in may and lives with his mother they control each other . Soon as most my brain cells fly back where they belong I plan on getting a book written about growing up with mom and dad NARCs and 6 siblings that learned to be NARCs . Ive been studying on my own for three yrs now about dif personalitys and hereditary is real ! If one parent has it that s 50 % chance the kid will but two parents have it you would have 98 % chance . Four of my siblings has schizophrenia paranoid. Those four also have high narcissistic traits. The other two siblings have bipolar disorder, who also have high narcissistic traits. They may have got those traits from my dad who beat my mom and the children for 19 years. .
Mine pissed money on drugs,had low paying jobs and lived off the government.Had no visible means of savings or savings for retirement.All I can say is good luck to them.Imagine living your life broke? That’s a nightmare day after day
Some woman are so desperate and codependent they know the narc is using them but will allow it because they need that validation from another person this is why it's important to find fulfillment on your own before you try be with someone
My ex got extremely upset when I brought my dog thay I've had for 11 yrs he got so mad that I used my credit card on the dog. We lived I. separate housed I had bought groceries for both houses gave him money. He would get mad when I'd buy my special needs son something he needed. Throw a whole temper tantrum
My last relationship was with a broke covert narcissist. His excuse for not working is he just moved and had to get a new job. Come to find out he would move every 4 months bc that’s how long his relationships would last. So not only was he broke he was boujie he only wanted Louis vittuon $30 boxers, jeans that were $200 a pair refused to wear anything cheap. One day he called me while I was at work for the phone number to the temp agency, when I got home from work I asked what happened with it he said he didn’t have time to call! All he did was play video games all day.
My ex narc was a bum for years hopping from job to job, couldnt keep one. He finally got a stable good job for a year and the SAME DAY i got laid off he decided to QUIT! We had a 4 month old at the time. Fast forward I left him, now he had to join the air force bc nothing else would take him. Do you think the air force will change him for good? At least job wise? Or will he most like mess that up too? Or once its done? Lol I already know of 2 things i could report him for but im tryna keep that child support coming in while i can 😂
He sat around a few months and thanked me for “loving an unemployed bum like him.” My empathetic arse felt bad for him so I didn’t ride him too much. Fast forward to me filing for divorce and a neighbor tells me why STBX was INVITED to resign from teaching. SA against an 8th grader.
My husband is currently living in a tent as a filthy smelling alcoholic addict living off those who give him $ and stuff. He attempts to weasel his way in for a hot shower, clean clothes food etc. I allowed him once to shower eat and then he assumes he's clapping cheeks and sleeping in my bed. Nah, I don't think so bro. I looked at him and said "That's all im donating to you for your fix" I opened the door and said seeya, go hit up your new/next supply. Told him "That was my last donation and do not come back here again". He has tried and i don't open the door. It's become comical to me.😂 And oh my goodness he is so proud of the gifts he is given gets excited as he brags about the amount of dogfood he has collected and how it's expensive brands. The expensive coat, blankets tent. It's sickening to hear. What a POS. Lol 🤣
She stopped giving it up because I expressed that she doesn't reciprocate. I clean and cook more than she do then she blocked me for three days for telling her that isn't acceptable.
My soon to be ex tried time and time again to manipulate me Into going to work as I was a SAHM while he stays home with the kids and be a full-time musician in which the income is not consistent. I realized he was opertsing out of manipulation and my words were " you are not gonna kill me while I work and do EVERYTHING else in our home" he doesn't not contribute to the cleaning, cooking, or kids and I figured that was cool since I don't work but then he wanted me to do it all...smh. Nope!
My ex narc let me work 3 jobs and even risk losing my job. When he was unemployed he played video games all day. When he did get a job he never began helping with any household bills.
My ex thought I was going to help him pay his rent. I told him to get some girls on the stroll. He said crack got that. He is a retired cop. So he had money! I was a single mother and was trying to get my own place for my children.
He has a car and stays in the garage apartment at his family house. Almost appeared that he has stuff until you see his fam just does everything for him. Buy his gas, groceries, and pay his phone
It s interesting, i have the feeling that they treat everything with the same chaos as relationship with people, mine always had random past debts that would pop up everytime we where close to a financial stability, also she was great on her job(paid on results not hours) but every 4-5 months she would f-up on something(never know what) and she had to move under another company and start again from 0, just like relationships, that art of building and destroy the good things lol😅
I won some money from the lottery and called my ex narc to share the good news. I got no answer 11x out of excitement then turned into suspicion. The next morning he called and couldn't explain where he was. So i let him know about my winnings and that im not gonna share with him. The next time i saw him he assaulted me in public. He said it was because i didn't trust him 🙄 but i know it was because i never shared my $$$ winnings 😢
My narc had 40k blew it on ❄️didn’t even provide for his kids lost his house coz i refused to put up money to save him even though he had 40k lost everything including me! But before he lost me he future faked so much with 5 star 🌟 hotels gaslighed no one had helped him like me n still treated me as only a typical narc can. Until we had a huge fight n he felt himself loosing power over me. Then within 2 wks he had new supply there twisted unhealthy shells
Its sad but my narc was like a adult child did nothing but i did alot for him... still i contributed while i was forced stay at home parent i supported him with money and all i could do.He was cabincrew supervisor highly paid but refuse to afford kids and me and house. He took advantage of me years my money he drained it all till i went broke he cheated and disappeared. I was with him when had nothing since i was 20 years old he used me claimed my back pass his struggling times used me my money and got grades promotions at his work and disappeared as he never existed.😢
I followed you on FB but deleted FB. I'm glad to see you on here. I have a friend who is married to a very covert narcissistic and also unemployed (he just "can't " work for others). He uses her so much and drains so much of her, but she still thinks "marriage vows" such and such..it's painful not knowing how to open her eyes.
They'll future fake about finances as well. About all the things they are going to do to help the situation.
My Ex for 10 years was always talking about how he was going to be a millionaire. Still broke
@@MsJoyDeAnna yup. My ex would always feel the need to tell ppl how much he made a year but still broke. He loved to show off and always had the need to be validated
Mines kept saying stick with me I'm going places a drug dealer only working 4 hours a week...BRUH
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This made me laugh. TY
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Don't take any man to live in your house. He will think you paid everything before, you can continue to do this. Exactly so!👏
If this ain’t the truth idk what is lol so true!!!
Never did and never will. My parents house that I've been blessed to be living in my entire life is off limits. It's sacred ground.
My ex boyfriend would playing video games, never cleaned, he cooked if I told him to, and withhold intimacy the whole time. I had to get a restraining order against him. He would say “I am here ain’t I?!” He worked for a month and just got fired and gave his paycheck to his no good friends but ask for money to go out with his so called friends. I am glad I got this toxic man out of my life.
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Although he was obviously a different man, he was still the same man. I'm sorry you went through that, too.
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So you lied to get a restraining order?
@@Chocolatmix yesss my x too 🤦🏽♀️
Some narcissist will even try to monitor what types of gifts you are planning to give to your love ones and ask how much it cost just to make sure you not spending alot of your money because they feel its their money and its for their personal needs and wants
Some will waste their money and then try to control your money talkin bout we need to budget.
@Cherish258 Honey if that ain't the truth 😆👏 then I don't know what is
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@@jalesapowell yes, he would splurge on his friends and relatives but If I wanted to spend 50$ to cheer my sister it was a financial crisis 😂
Absolutely. They love control
How? I will tell you how... they feel entitled to your money, that's how they behave.
absolutely a part of it
He felt entitled to aaaallll my resources‼️ It was an exhausting experience.
@@MentalHealness hey Lee can you please speak about your stance on financial abuse when the narcissist is the breadwinner ?
@@Eloquently_Rud3 My ex did too. Cost me in every way possible.
@@lisalee-re1gg This really made my stomach drop. I’m so sorry you had to experience this‼️✨ I’m still struggling to recover from it. What hurts the most is the damaged relationships that can’t be recovered. Finances recover, eventually. But relationships…those are much harder to recover, IMO.
That's why you cannot be nice to people.They will take advantage🤔
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I’m still a kind person even after dating and being engaged to a Narcissist. I’ve just learned how to set better boundaries and surrounded myself with others where it’s reciprocal!
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@@Morelove4ever8 I had a narcissistic roommate. She came to my house because she was getting her ass beat but come to find out, her and her man were beating each others asses and she was actually trying to scam me. Now when someone needs help, I have $5 and I let them know about the nearest church or EBT office.
You have to be Mindful whom you give your kindness too🙏🏽
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My ex-narc thought I was his 1st National Bank when we were together. He'd get a social security and disability check at the beginning of the month and by the 10th of the month, his money was gone! I told him to go find himself a job, but his excuse was that he couldn't work anywhere that would mess with his ssi and disability checks. I told him to go do Doordash. He did that for a little while until he moved out. Then, he THOUGHT that I was still going to continue to finance him after he moved out. I told him that I wasn't taking care of his house and mine, too. He had the audacity to tell me yes I would.🧐 I told him that he would get blocked. He told me that I better not block him.😐 He tried it. He's blocked! 🙅🏾♀️ It'll be 4 years no contact in April of this year!💪🏾💃🏾
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He’s probably still texting you, not realizing that he’s blocked 😂 talking about “you better text me back” 😅
They want you to work while they sleep all day and watch movies.
My Ex made me feel like it was my responsibility to help him be financially successful.
He refused to take accountability for being financially irresponsible.
Always saying what he was going to do to make money but would NEVER do it !
My ex spend every penny as soon as possible and then had a tantrum that it's unfair that I have savings. He also blaimed tax officials for his company going bankrupt when he was using company money to buy stuff for himself. 😂
You is right. They be having these grandiose dreams and be too lazy to put any action to it and quit when it gets a little hard, like they want you to build their dream for them
@@mariasokuralol 😂 wow
@@jalesapowell you're so right! He took credit for my every accomplishment, every good customer feedback etc. When I bought my house he showed it to our friends as his house. Then said that I have ruined his only opportunity to buy a house when I wouldn't transfer the deed over to him.
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My ex husband would spend his money on what he wanted and knew bills were due and looked to me to pick up all the slack and wen I would say I couldn’t, he’d do a 360 and get mad at me and blame me for why bills were behind
Same here. Mine does that too❤
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Were we married to the same person? 😂
Mine did the same. 😵💫
Time to leave!
I was dating this very attractive and toxic guy. He couldn’t hold a job for more than a month or two, always the victim… and in the 5 month we were dating he literally „forgot“ his wallet 3 times at home. I paid until I realized this was a pattern. He was broke, but couldn’t even admit it. He was looking for a sugar momma, and I wasn’t that.
My narc couldn't understand how when I wasn't with him I had two jobs and time to spend with the kids. But when we were together I stayed home with the kids, because I had help and I lived with people I trusted and who supported me. He would say things like "I wish I could stay home when I feel depressed and burnt out but no I HAVE TO WORK!" Mind you I homeschool my kids. He also encouraged me to stay home because of child care expenses. Told me his money was our money then would bring up how I spent money or I would have to ask for money. When I wanted to go back to work he wasn't willing to meet me half way. He'd say well what are you going to do with the kids. And then I realized that alone I was working 2 jobs and still had time for my kids without all the extra stress or sadness I woke up with almost every day. Then I finally left last year and was being replaced in less than a week.
It’s really scary how on point you are sometimes 😮
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I called him a bum and he loss his mind. In the six months he had 4 different jobs and lost 2 for fight at work and one when his car broke down. He keep talking about these get rich schemes 🤦🏾♀️
That quick money be enticing
Hahaha did we have the same ex? Same!
Your money is our money, his money is his money 💯
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During an argument my ex admitted he expects his woman to give him money but he doesn't give her any because she isn't equal and he's the King.
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@@fsco7153 sounds just like a NARC always thinking they r king of the planet and always know more than God ! Ugh!
They just withhold. And find other supply to give them money
This is so true!! My ex husband is 14k behind on child support but yet portrays himself on social media that he’s got all this money and success.
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Yep that was my story, Single life is Beautiful ❤
My story too + worst aggresiveness.
@beautypablotamarini7315 exactly!! They think EVERYTHING IS THEIRS if it's yours. But if it belongs to someone else, it only belongs to be them. Straight bs
Damn ...no comment..lately I have been watching all the stuff you have said play out on front of my eyes..it's the wildest sh**!!!! Like word for word..the mind games are real y'all just say NO!!!
Stay strong
He claimed he had no money but bought property the next year. Lol. Oh the clowns out here!
My ex always and still does claim he has no money. When he left I saw a deposit slip for $35k and I called the account it came out of and he had saved $250k behind my back!! Never knew about this! He married the person he cheated on me with and I think she’s going to take him for everything he has! Good riddance!!!!!
Maybe the property will be bad lol 😂
@giggleberryjuice8205 she will because of how he did you. He ought to be ashamed 😔 I'm sorry
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@@giggleberryjuice8205 smh....the absolute disgust i have for this kind of audacity.... inhumane treatment
My co parent is a narcissist. He quit his great paying job in the fall. It's been 3 months of him being jobless, and now he's coming for me for money I "owe" him. He got denied driving for Uber and Lyft because he has a misdemeanor for assault and breaking of private property. According to him it's all my fault, I'm stopping him from being successful, and I'm a piece of shit. Again, he assaulted me and these are the consequences to his actions. They will never hold themselves accountable and you will always be blamed 😑.
Your wife’s live was delightful! You got a good one Lee! Worth all the thearpy you have done and continue to do! Beautiful family
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I was with mine for 5 years,The first 6 months or so he had a job even tho I had to take him to and from work and also talked him into getting his license back. Then he stopped going into work got fired and anything that he was barely giving me to help with bills he through in my face and it wasn't enough to even pay but one bill maybe..... He is now broke with no license again... And has a phone only because his sister pays the bill! I was obviously out of my mind for even giving him a chance ,he is the laziest person I've ever met. Sad thing is he's smart,has potential,but refuses to use it and has gave up on life. He was dragging me down for years... He was like a bad drug .. I am now one month clean from his evilness. I'm starting to get myself back,And it's really nice ❤️
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God luck on your journey ! Good for you for taking control of your life and cleansing yourself from Narc abusee
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Yes, it's like RC Blakes says, "Potential don't pay the light bill!"
My ex would future fake and say that he was in a “ rough patch” and that “ things would “get better”.And he would always pay victim and in order to get me to buy things he would start complaining about what he did not have in order to get me to feel sorry for him.
This is my exact story !!! And I feel so relieved I finally cut it off ! He thinks I’m the worst person because he doesn’t have access to me and now he doesn’t want to be apart of anything when it comes to our child 😮
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Actually, that may be better and safer for the child. Narcissists will target anybody, even their own children. They don't care about others, they're incapable of caring..
My brother and sister does this. My mother falls for it like a charm
He also got mad because my mom helps me ...he was abandoned as a kid
He was jealous of you and of the support you got from family. DISGUSTING.😢
he probably didn't like you asking her for her money because he was embarrassed he couldn't fully provide... he probably didn't want your mom to judge him and the fact that you still seeking familial help even when you have a man
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They're not embarrassed...he lost control.
My ex told me less than two weeks after my father died that he should get my fathers inheritance because he didn't get anything from his parents. Then threatened to sue me and take my house when I wouldn't agree to it. He didn't even really know my father because he already had brain injury and was an empty shell when we met.
Oh man
I love "if it don't apply, let it fly" 🔥💪🏼
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Majority of them will do anything if push comes to shove for money. All bets are off for a dollar. They love spending someone else’s money. Some are bad at money management and know that they are.
When we got married, he asked me to be a SAHM. After our first child was born, he was let go, and due to covid, it was hard for him to get something. After our second child, he was still struggling to get a job, and i offered to get back to work. He got so mad at me, saying that i couldn't get a job because all the other men (linemen) would look at him like he couldn't do it. So i didnt and we struggled so much. When we separated, he kept wanting me to pay for his car insurance and phone bill, "oh, so thats how its going to be?" Is 6 he would say when i began making my own accounts on everything.
I chose to be a stay at home, leave my job for us to live together. While she was getting set for a good job. Her opportunity got closer and noticed reactive abuse. I fell for it and this is not the first. Constant mental abuse. She kicks me out. Was devastated once again especially with a child. Few years later we get back to spend times together, but I think because things failed for her and she became broke and depressed. I started taking care of her and my child financially. Yet again, she started to devalue and I found that she was sleeping with someone else while sleeping with me the next. She tore me apart. Just use and abuse.
I hate to hear that 😔
You knew what she was doing before you could have still take. Care of your child and file full custody until she is able to help herself your child shouldn’t be with her she will ruin her mentally she could become a narcissist to
My Nex is a self-proclaimed Feminist and in a socialist Organisation for half his life. He lives precarious and (claims to) fight for workers and women. He's abused me and other women in any possible way, also made us pay for his stuff, even those women who weren't really in a relationship with him. He has no power in the sense he and his comrades claim power looks like- rich and famous, but he had the power of hundreds of people in this organisation believing him over my claim. I am a total loner, no family, no friends. They didn't believe me but instead protected and supported him. This IS a powerful position, he indeed holds loads of power.
We need a laugh . Thank you Lee.
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This is exactly what happened to me! When we got together he had a job and a car, as soon as we got together he got fired from his job and lost car then basically lived off of me for months!
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Glad you addressed this. Also can you cover the addict narcissist or alcoholic narcissist
I will again
Omg yes want to spend on anything but bills
It’s crazy
I HAD THIS FIGHT TODAY!!!!
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Hypnotized 😵💫 by the cheek clap 👏 lmaoooo
I was told the “you already pay everything alone so why do I need to help”. He literally took my card and car while i was sleeping and spend it all in the casino saying he is entitled to have that. I have been so manipulated and financially exploited that is gonna take a while to recover.
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Ohhhh😂😂😂😂😂 you are so right. I was told he cannot live under a microscope and I want to complain. I’m like brother what does it profit me to to desire to complain when I’m working, going to school to be a doctor and working on my business and seeking to grow a beautiful healthy relationship w/ someone. Chile that isn’t fruitful to my spirit and unprofitable in every way. He would get upset when I would cry n told me it was my fault. He would tell me it’s my fault he had to do the things he did b/c how I was behaving. I can’t believe I put myself through that. It took me 7months and I was like hell no!!!? I literally screamed Father I surrender him over to u. Not my monkey not my circus and I was done. He’s beyond beyond a bum but I’m an extremely empathetic person, but I have to be logical and deal in wisdom with giving it to others
They are often serial job-hoppers, or constantly getting fired when it "wasn't their fault" or they "didn't do anything wrong."
Then they have the unmitigated gall to lay up in the house, won't clean up, won't cook, and leave messes like a gang of pre-schoolers. That is, until you get fed up, and have to obtain legal and law enforcement means to put their bum behinds out.
Ask me how I know😂😂😂
Omg why are they all the same?! This man has had like 5 jobs since i met him in July 2022 n it’s always somebody else’s fault!
@@PsychedPerspectiveSame...here. First off, I don't have any children by this man..Thank you Jesus! He has an issue with anyone of authority. He kept getting fired from jobs because child support sent him a notice to put his kids on his insurance...what bro do??? Quit cause they want to take money out for kids you made. Mind you he only pays $12.50/week child support -$50/month. He thought he was gonna lay around and play videos all day in my house and then when it was time to pay the bills every month he would ask how much his portion of the bills were. Like the amount changes...we had only been living together over 25th years...He was very much a leech that cheated with the prostitutes of the city...he looked for validation from any body. I hate to know what he got past me but I'm glad that demon is history. He keeps the same chicks he cheated with in rotation. He was what everyone is posting about in the comments verbatim...True blue NPD...
Currently in a relationship with a narcissist who literally is being taken care of by me , and still is getting caught cheating! I’m trying my best to get away from him after not only spending all my money on him , he gets caught cheating and blames it on me ! All he does is verbally abuse me and talk bad about me to other people! Were currently not speaking because he claims he failed school because he couldn’t use my car to get to school! By the way we are both in our 30s not teenagers!
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Facts! Always some freak situation asking for money. Basically u guna lose them if you dont pay up. With a million crying emojis. I experienced this. 1 month No Contact. 🎉 lol...Lee ur So Right! Their body as currency yessssss
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Thank you for speaking on this because it can be confusing when grandiosity and superiority is a major trait of narcissists. The broke bastards are definitely out here. One of my female friends was a textbook example. I learned the term "dry-begging" from HER. 😂
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Lee not applying for CEO positions with a G.E.D😂😅😂 I can't wit u
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My ex really thought he could apply for manager positions right after graduating with his bachelor's asking for 6 figures and no experience.
this was so accurate and so hilarious lol
I appreciate it
I love how you enjoy yourself and make yourself laugh. More people should be like that! 🤣❤❤❤
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Some people don’t get how they increase the cost of everything, don’t help around the house, and then cause you to have twice as much work at home.
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Power corrupts. And absolute power corrupts absolutely.
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10 years living with him and kids with him, never knew what he made or how much he really had. Didn’t know that was a red flag till now.
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My storrrrrryyyyy
Everything you said 💯💯💯 he got me to move in with him because he was employed and the sex was good, not long after he lost his job and sex was scarce..never got a steady job again just odd jobs here and there, everything was beneath him because he thought he was extremely intelligent and godly.. anything he did around the house he expected me to jump for joy like he was doing me a huge favor. Etc. Etc. ..
Ex left for a narcissist.”she doesn’t see it”
Bud doesn’t know what she has was cause me both see the shiny toy until he finds out she doesn’t work and he “works when he wants”.😂but Also works for a famous company. meanwhile he asking money from a person who has disability and get a month gov check.
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my ex paid non of the household bills, i did. he did purchase things that we needed like the washer & dryer, fridge & took it all bc he “paid for it” & i did “nothing to contribute.”
Oh my
This was my son's father... he came over and never left... he would get a job get fired and then he would say stuff like you think you better than me because you have your degree. He didn't have a GED and I helped him get in a class to get it and he went drunk and they kicked him out. He was a mess.
&&& yup he never said anything about him not having a high school diploma, n finishing high school. They keep a lot of details to themselves bc they know if you know the truth you wouldn’t have given their dusty bum assess the time of day!
Okay, I don’t know what the correct answer is to this. I moved in with my partner. Was told all I needed to do was clean and cook. He was gonna pay all the bills. This man then decided he wanted me to half all the bills. All the while telling me to leave once a week. Then I would start packing to leave and he would beg me to stay. Say he was ashamed of asking me to pay bills. Saying thing like please don’t leave me, I would be hurt if you left, I don’t want you to go. What is wrong with people.
I feel confused all over the place if I was wrong or he was. Nothing was consistent. Except him complaining about me.
Hated my cooking but claimed he loved it and was snapping what I made to his friends. Then he stopped eating what I made and was DoorDashing or eat out after the gym.
I’d clean and he wouldn’t even clean up after himself. That was my job. I shampoo the carpet and he let the dog run through the house with muddy feet and told me “the house can’t stay clean all the time!”
I was constantly picking up after him and the dog that he let chew everything up. And the dog was suppose to have been my gift, but he took her and told me I couldn’t train her and he controlled when I could play with her.
I didn’t pay bills. I saved my money. Now here I am living in my car and airbnbs trying to find a home. Why?! Cause I went to see my kids who hate him because how he has treated me.
Came back to be told to find other accommodations and that my stuff was in the garage-I can pick it up on his time.
I’m sick to go back. I’ve blocked him on everything. In therapy! Angry and cannot make myself go back around him. Will it be another round of cussing you out, or another please don’t go. I care about you.
It’s Dr.Jekl and Mr.Hyde and my body and mind is exhausted.
I would love some clarification. Was this my fault?!
My God you described my relationship with the narcissist I was with. I felt bad for him because he found his daughter dead and lied about his drug and alcohol addiction.
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Ty Lee.
You’re welcome
What an amazing topic!!! Thank you!
As a self aware narc I feel it would be most respectful to maintain physical boundaries with family and friends you care about especially being aware that being a leech is the only interpersonal skill that the narc possesses. Living alone is respectable as a self aware narc. Environmental and financial control can lower cortisol in the narc and allow the narc to live a more peaceful existence without codependency on an empath or BPD.
He blamed me for him being broke an got mad because I had my own place. Left me for his ex...asked for money from her phone...jurk
Wow
My ex tries to take my covid benefits while I was pregnant 🤰 😢 😅 and more. Was hard to leave but the abuse was mounting and I knew he was gonna take us for everything 💔 he still tries via the courts
This video hits home 😂😂😂
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💯💯💣 I always get those bums who have a job quit or get fired as soon we get together. Stay the night then years go by.😂 yes they don't want to do anything after that. Spot on Lee. My situationships with narcs. ....yes I was told I was lazy....I was the only one working.😅 or you only have money to pay bills.? They don't contribute to nothing.
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What happens when a narcissist develops an illness? For example, bell's palsy.
really depends on them. some act worse
Lee you be spitting facts and cracking me up 😂😂😂
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My Ex ranted if I need a $20.00 bill, but bought sports car for himself [ it held 2- he had FOUR CHILDREN]! nutszzzz
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@@carolnahigian9518 wow a two-door car with four children is diabolical work 😮🤦🏾
My narc ex would always tell me “what’s mine is mine and what’s yours is mine”
And I thought he was joking until I realized he had been stingy with me and even hiding when he would get money from other women the WHOLE TIME! He even had a job once n was hiding when he and how much he got paid and still asking me for money😔 I was struggling thinking I was helping him and he was jus being greedy
They’ll use you as an ATM in a round about way….. aka DRY BEGGING (playing on your emotions n constantly bringing up a sob story, trauma dumping, woe is me mess) to get you to feed into their “struggles n misfortunes” so it’ll appear that you made the choice to lend them money or buy them things…. Whole time they’ve manipulating you with their sob stories. I’m learning more n more …. These mfs are USERS!!!!
They sure do play on your empathy... A whole lot. That's why I make myself scarce while I make my own exit.
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Oh many times the X would tag along to the store with me and he get a cart fill it up and when we get up to pay for his cart he said u got this right Im gonna go smoke I’ll be in the car . Well I was slow at catching on, after maybe 5 th time I realized what he was doing ( sneaky way of stealing my money and laughing at me in his head saying what a dum ass I was ! I figured him out three yrs ago from listening to you constantly lee , thank you for the mental awareness ! The last yr i stayed with him off and on just so I could figure out all the lies his face his eyes body movements everything so I would never make this mistake ever again . In that last wk i turned you on youtube and you were laughing about what narcs do and I kid u not he busted out laughing and I looked at him and said well he funny but lee is talkin bout your ass ! Now that shit is funny . two yrs single this mnth for me . I have a therapy dog and my dog has changed my outlook if your dog dont like people u hangin with pay attention to y and follow the dog pack . My X ‘es mother whom he lives with Is a NARC to , 40 yrs old in may and lives with his mother they control each other . Soon as most my brain cells fly back where they belong I plan on getting a book written about growing up with mom and dad NARCs and 6 siblings that learned to be NARCs . Ive been studying on my own for three yrs now about dif personalitys and hereditary is real ! If one parent has it that s 50 % chance the kid will but two parents have it you would have 98 % chance . Four of my siblings has schizophrenia paranoid. Those four also have high narcissistic traits. The other two siblings have bipolar disorder, who also have high narcissistic traits. They may have got those traits from my dad who beat my mom and the children for 19 years. .
Mine pissed money on drugs,had low paying jobs and lived off the government.Had no visible means of savings or savings for retirement.All I can say is good luck to them.Imagine living your life broke? That’s a nightmare day after day
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Some woman are so desperate and codependent they know the narc is using them but will allow it because they need that validation from another person this is why it's important to find fulfillment on your own before you try be with someone
My ex got extremely upset when I brought my dog thay I've had for 11 yrs he got so mad that I used my credit card on the dog. We lived I. separate housed I had bought groceries for both houses gave him money. He would get mad when I'd buy my special needs son something he needed. Throw a whole temper tantrum
My last relationship was with a broke covert narcissist. His excuse for not working is he just moved and had to get a new job. Come to find out he would move every 4 months bc that’s how long his relationships would last. So not only was he broke he was boujie he only wanted Louis vittuon $30 boxers, jeans that were $200 a pair refused to wear anything cheap. One day he called me while I was at work for the phone number to the temp agency, when I got home from work I asked what happened with it he said he didn’t have time to call! All he did was play video games all day.
Oh wow
My ex narc was a bum for years hopping from job to job, couldnt keep one. He finally got a stable good job for a year and the SAME DAY i got laid off he decided to QUIT! We had a 4 month old at the time. Fast forward I left him, now he had to join the air force bc nothing else would take him.
Do you think the air force will change him for good? At least job wise? Or will he most like mess that up too? Or once its done? Lol
I already know of 2 things i could report him for but im tryna keep that child support coming in while i can 😂
I needed this four years ago
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He sat around a few months and thanked me for “loving an unemployed bum like him.” My empathetic arse felt bad for him so I didn’t ride him too much. Fast forward to me filing for divorce and a neighbor tells me why STBX was INVITED to resign from teaching. SA against an 8th grader.
O man. 😩
My husband is currently living in a tent as a filthy smelling alcoholic addict living off those who give him $ and stuff.
He attempts to weasel his way in for a hot shower, clean clothes food etc.
I allowed him once to shower eat and then he assumes he's clapping cheeks and sleeping in my bed.
Nah, I don't think so bro.
I looked at him and said "That's all im donating to you for your fix" I opened the door and said seeya, go hit up your new/next supply. Told him "That was my last donation and do not come back here again".
He has tried and i don't open the door.
It's become comical to me.😂
And oh my goodness he is so proud of the gifts he is given gets excited as he brags about the amount of dogfood he has collected and how it's expensive brands. The expensive coat, blankets tent. It's sickening to hear.
What a POS.
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The bum thing took me out 😂😂😂😂 lord I’ve had that narc try that until I went celibate he was so lost 😂😂
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Or they borrow money from other people and have you pay the people they owe make it make sense
She stopped giving it up because I expressed that she doesn't reciprocate. I clean and cook more than she do then she blocked me for three days for telling her that isn't acceptable.
Fallen on hard times way too many times!!!
My soon to be ex tried time and time again to manipulate me Into going to work as I was a SAHM while he stays home with the kids and be a full-time musician in which the income is not consistent. I realized he was opertsing out of manipulation and my words were " you are not gonna kill me while I work and do EVERYTHING else in our home" he doesn't not contribute to the cleaning, cooking, or kids and I figured that was cool since I don't work but then he wanted me to do it all...smh. Nope!
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He used to text me a list of stuff to buy him at the store before I came over n would ask me to pay his cell bill😮
07:02 you’re insane 😂😂
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14:00 No one on this planet says “WOOOWWW” harder than a narcissistic man who is guilty lol 😂
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My ex narc let me work 3 jobs and even risk losing my job. When he was unemployed he played video games all day. When he did get a job he never began helping with any household bills.
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My ex thought I was going to help him pay his rent. I told him to get some girls on the stroll. He said crack got that.
He is a retired cop. So he had money! I was a single mother and was trying to get my own place for my children.
Not a CEO ❤ applying with a GED😂
I heard the Well I'm here line before and I was like so is the trash and you and it are just about the same
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He has a car and stays in the garage apartment at his family house. Almost appeared that he has stuff until you see his fam just does everything for him. Buy his gas, groceries, and pay his phone
It s interesting, i have the feeling that they treat everything with the same chaos as relationship with people, mine always had random past debts that would pop up everytime we where close to a financial stability, also she was great on her job(paid on results not hours) but every 4-5 months she would f-up on something(never know what) and she had to move under another company and start again from 0, just like relationships, that art of building and destroy the good things lol😅
I won some money from the lottery and called my ex narc to share the good news. I got no answer 11x out of excitement then turned into suspicion. The next morning he called and couldn't explain where he was. So i let him know about my winnings and that im not gonna share with him. The next time i saw him he assaulted me in public. He said it was because i didn't trust him 🙄 but i know it was because i never shared my $$$ winnings 😢
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lol I had a narc like that back in the day using the body to mesmerize you
That’s how they get you
My narc had 40k blew it on ❄️didn’t even provide for his kids lost his house coz i refused to put up money to save him even though he had 40k lost everything including me! But before he lost me he future faked so much with 5 star 🌟 hotels gaslighed no one had helped him like me n still treated me as only a typical narc can. Until we had a huge fight n he felt himself loosing power over me. Then within 2 wks he had new supply there twisted unhealthy shells
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Its sad but my narc was like a adult child did nothing but i did alot for him... still i contributed while i was forced stay at home parent i supported him with money and all i could do.He was cabincrew supervisor highly paid but refuse to afford kids and me and house.
He took advantage of me years my money he drained it all till i went broke he cheated and disappeared.
I was with him when had nothing since i was 20 years old he used me claimed my back pass his struggling times used me my money and got grades promotions at his work and disappeared as he never existed.😢
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"Am I a bum now!?" 👀 😂😂😂
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I followed you on FB but deleted FB. I'm glad to see you on here. I have a friend who is married to a very covert narcissistic and also unemployed (he just "can't " work for others). He uses her so much and drains so much of her, but she still thinks "marriage vows" such and such..it's painful not knowing how to open her eyes.
Oh man
The comments on here are way too similar to my life. We are all different yet dealt with the same exact type of bum. Lee is hilarious but keeping it 💯
Couldn't agree more! I swear these emotion & energy tapeworms are given the same book to study before being unleashed into decent society!
I can’t take any of it anymore.