I heard this once and I prefer it- it isn’t that they choose us, it’s that we let them stay. Until we find our own worth- and have boundaries - they will stay.
I pursued the narcissist. I saw the darkness and I was intrigued by it. The codependent in me wanted to heal it. It was the biggest error of my love life.
He met me broken from a previous relationship and I remember him saying all my ex’s was stupid for letting me go. I use to think he saw my worth but in reality he saw my stupidity! He saw the way I let people get over on me and thought to himself why would those idiots let a good get over on one so easy kind a woman go.
They see things in you they don´t have. You are their energy. And they gain a lot from you. (So in fact they see you as an object to use). So it is necessary to learn to set boundaries and say NO. There is a motto: Takers never stop taking. (So people have to say NO ....). Love yourself and trust yourself!
I came to the harsh and bitter truth that mine chose me because she knew I was loyal and she could manipulate me. Plus she also was getting older and running out of options. I was the back burner guy that she always banked on to be there when nothing else worked out for her. Funny thing is I thought the relationship was entering the discard phase due to the emotional distancing and verbal barbs that were increasing every week so I ghosted and she came back later acting butthurt and trying to make me jealous. Even though I left I was still devastated but two years later and I’m thankful daily for my freedom and peace.
He was definitely attracted to my vibrant spirit .It was a roller coaster ride when I would go no contact. Then he would Hoover & I would go back but now…7 months no contact 🥳
Upon reflection, I realize that I also chose the narcissist. He validated my belief about how I deserved to be treated. His love bombing and his cruelty met my wounds perfectly. I never knew I was wounded until he came into my life. Without him I would never have healed. If we never had kids I would have stayed forever. Forever. Sometimes when he was unkind I felt relief, because I grew up knowing that the people who love me will hurt me. The way he treated me felt like love. And I suppose he felt love too because I forgave it all. It also made him hate me. I know the behaviour was not acceptable. The relationship was toxic. And I would never have healed my heart without this lesson. I regret nothing. He chose me for all of the reasons you mentioned Lee, but I chose him too. My soul wanted me to see my wounds and heal them. He never lied to me. I was just as at fault for our dynamic as he was. He threatened to kill me when I knew him for a few weeks. I laughed. I enabled. I craved his cruelty because I deserved harm. But that’s all in the past now. It has been a journey. I really love myself now. I have such peace and hope for the future. I really appreciate this channel because if you don’t have the vocabulary and framework for this abuse cycle, it’s so easy to be gaslit and remain confused. Thank you Lee, and keep up the good work. Sometimes when you compliment yourself you close your eyes, like you don’t quite believe it. I hope you have peace and self love after all of your lessons too 🙂
I realized he was mad at my light from the beginning he used to say why are you laughing at everything he couldn't stand from the beginning that I was better qt handling my pain. He didn't like me, i annoyed him. He chose me because I was everything he wasn't and he was mad and fascinated at the same time and tried from the beginning to get me to be leas happy to try to get me to believe that I was too happy and I shouldn't be because life is hard. He got irritated at my joy and eventually realized he couldn't stop it so he tried to mimic it and mirror it which he also couldn't do so he was just bitter about it and just tried really hard to cover up my light something he also couldn't eo it got brighter the more he tried to tone me down. So he hoped that if he left me hanging and watching me struggle to the point we lost our house and he still was hoping that would bring me down and again it didn't work. He didn't know what else to do so qll he could do is just try to hold on to hs mask and compete with me which he also can't do because I can't be replicated and the joy I have the world didn't give it and the world can't take it he could not understand that at all.
My husband said I attract these people. In friendships, acquaintances, but I didn't know anything about Narcissist until he pointed out those traits, I am surrounded by them in my family. He quickly pointed out that information in my family and how to deal with it and then I studied about this. It all made sense. He said that I attract them in friendships because of my empathy and I wear my heart on my sleeve. I care a lot. Once I trained myself to become indifferent, detached emotionally but still be civil...life became peaceful.
He did not choose me. He answered a call I made to a chatroom. It happened unexpectedly. He pretended to be someone he was not. How long do you think that facade was going to last? Intuitively, I recognized his insecurities, and yes, he loved bombed me, but I saw through him. He did not do a good job of manipulation. He realized that I was not a timid person, so he began the verbal abuse, and I cut him off. No contact. He went into a downward spiral. He did not get to discard me. He went into depression. He had no supply lined up. Yes, I fell for him, and still do, but I am seeing from a different lens now. No contact is still in effect.
They case you out to see if your a caring person and giving person when they realize you care and given they hold on to you to use you, Single life is Beautiful ❤
For those gorgeous and handsome beasts, take heed: a Narcissist will want you and, immediately after they get you, the process to undermine your self confidence and to change your appearance into an unattractive mess begins, via gaslighting and other abusive forms.
Folks, the way to solve this is to become dependant only on yourself. This way, you can stay single and protect your peace. Get everything you need by yourself for yourself. I found that when I have achieved my own goals I am happier and need people less.
Facts! Narc are intimidated by independence so they won’t stay with an independent person for long. They need insecure dependent people that they can rule authority over.
You are so right . Took money from me .but I lived with family . He now isn’t talking much , of course he took off living in another state. I know he is with some one and couldn’t find us a place to live I thought it would out , but looking it as a blessing now . Finally learned my lesson . Hard lesson to learn because it did break my heart. Thought I could help heal him , ya he wanted my light that for sure. My dad even passed away so it hurt even worse. He came and then took off with out saying goodbye.
unbelievable! how come narcissists from totally different background, religion, race... have exactly the same behaviour. Lee my narcissist is from Saudi and just identical to your videos! thank you!
Lee, could you please help those of us that are older. I’m 64 a woman and feel like I’m too old to start over. I left another message here and it’s a long story that includes a lot of history. I’m sure many of your subscribers are older and how do we plan for a life that isn’t as long although we might need a special video for us too. I wonder if I should just sit here and wait for the end and on top of it I’m sickly. Ugh Need some feedback!
I’m 45 and comparatively still have some years. When I started off, I felt that it was too late to start over, still fighting the feeling sometimes as I am yet to figure out how to resuscitate almost everything. When I started off I took comfort in the fact that I was praying everyday so I wasn’t doing nothing. Then it turned to gratitude that my unemployment gives me an opportunity to pray more. It seems like I’ve not been doing much if you consider my finances but I have healed mentally, emotionally and physically because of prayer. I have peace despite lack in the other areas which are considered ‘success’ by the world. I have gained confidence, I don’t seek external validation anymore. Despite everything I have lost if I were given an option to choose any year of my life and re-live it exactly the way it was, it would definitely be one of the years post narcissist because the inner me started thriving only in those years.
After a 3yr relationship, I shared my story to a friend (narc/ex bf now) of how loyal i am to my prev ldr relationship, also other friends told me I have a pure heart and good intentions to people. This is where my narc friend show up and became my bf. Now I know, why he grab the opportunity to easily manipulate me. Praying I'll be healed and get over soon, this is really a bad experience I dnt want to happen again, this really cracked me open Prayers to others as well. ❤
Hey Lee, I just wanted to tell you that I am a totally blind woman who has stumbled across your channel and who was married to a narcissist for 7 1/2 years, and I just wanted to talk directly to you because even his name is a trigger for me, his name was Lee also and this is so weird. That it’s weird that Lee can treat me like shit but Lee can also help me heal. So I have to know that everybody named Lee doesn’t mean they’re a narcissist. The brain is a funny thing, and I really appreciate that you’re wanting to help people so much, I’m glad that you have this channel and may you have many blessings forward. he has passed away and I think maybe this is God‘s way of healing me from the narcissism that he put on me. So I just appreciate you and it’s no coincidence that y’all have the same name.
I know my ex NARC is depressed he never saw it coming,he dry begged I never offered,I got home ,he called, didn't answer,txt him told him I was done,been calling me ever since I refuse to answer ,I'm so over him,I can't wait till his over me, Single life is Beautiful ❤
Ugh I did the same thing. It was an accident tho. I didn't even know I sent that wink. He contacted me after that and my life and eventually myself were changed forever.
I got rid of one recently. He knew I had no desire to be with someone sexually so he tried to be sneaky to try to talk me out of my underwear. He slithered away from me when he knew that he lied to me and tried to manipulate me, and I picked up on all of that.
The personal narcissist was a bum. I thought he was taking care of his father but I think he needed a place to stay and wanted to remain in the will. The work narcissist needed me to check off a box to fit a role. However, when the department went south I became the scapegoat. Thanks Lee. You are direct but in a way that I can laugh a little bit at the past instead of just cry or fume.
Its so many people that are narcissistic u just never know i say im kind not nice, nice will get u played so no i don't like to align myself with being nice i use to be.
I often wondered and your response makes sense. Please do a video on how to get a narcissist to leave you alone! I have one obsessed and infatuated with me. He tells me he jerked off to my topless pictures! My ex-boyfriend did the same thing except he would record me without my knowledge and THEN send me the video to watch!
I was healing from obsessive relationships both times , that time the narcs came , used to cry alot and the narcs came then , maybe they were to teach me how to be cold hearted
@MentalHealness excuse me- I mean that codependents are broken and narcissists are broken too- so we find company in eachother. Only, one eats other, eventually.
I love that they chose me bc I have money, a house, car and stable income with excellent credit. Now as they live with their parents still 8 yrs. later, I love to flaunt it more🙂
I was very vulnerable with a husband who committed suicide two years earlier, I was on disability although I had a new house with a 40k mortgage and a daughter that was young and he played on her heart strings. He said, oh we will get married and have a home together which never materialized. He needed money even though he denies it all today and told me…let’s use your liquid assets first and I’ll take care of you when you get older. He demanded money and I was afraid of him and my felt so sickly and my daughter wasn’t well. I was used and much more which is a felony!!! So, I feel stronger today after so many years and feel the time has come for me to fight for what I lost mentally and financially for a manipulator that never cared about me. What did a man so educated want with me? He’s all about denial and a boat load of lies, that at this point the only one that can lose is him if I peruse what id like to do! Now the tables have turned although I’m treated poorly to keep me under control and it isn’t working anymore. So sad that he destroyed my life and my daughters. The story is enough to fill a book and it’s time to get back what I lost so long ago, so I can move on.
@@1976smb Thank you! He was exceptionally good looking and it’s funny because I was attractive and it always bothered him as he’d say, you never age. Well his health is fading along with his looks since he doesn’t look at all like he once did years ago and this really bothers him. Perhaps he already got his karma and seems so miserable. Lee said in another video we should be our own King or Queen and really focus on ourselves. 2025 will be my year! My best to you…we have suffered and will prevail! It was a hard lesson, but I know now that I can’t trust the world and we need to love ourselves most of all. My best to you!
@@tammydietschweiler7852 Indeed. Mine was awhile ago, I've never thought myself as being (well not ugly, just average) attractive nor better than anyone else. Yes, he has his karma now. In life you know there are bad people out there, but not people like this. It hits you like a huge wave, you're unprepared, the total shock, your reaction time isn't ready for such a person. Bless you Tammy, and your daughters, and much love from another human being to all of you. God bless, yes it is time to rise.
As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist, in my opinion Lee is correct, opposites do attract. But I would also like to add that it may depend on the type of narcissist, the grandiose, overt narcissist will pick and choose victims depending on the exterior looks quite often, whereas the covert narcissist, may seek out anyone to fulfill their needs and desires for the moment, meaning looks are really unimportant as long as supply is met.
Thanks Lee. Sadly ....there's always been a strong chemistry between him and me and I liked that . I put up with his darker moods and manipulation BECAUSE I felt his ' good' side was great....but over time his rages and disrespect became worse. Yes, he tried to hoover me the other day....but I declined . Its still hard , but I'm worth more .
@@MentalHealnesspretending that theyre lying "to protect you" somehow.... I think you're the 1st person I've seen to even bring that up but its so true!
U can care about these people and no matter what u do it's never going to be enough u will waste so much time away trying to be there for someone that doesn't love you nor themselves it's scary taking a chance on people who really don't mean u any good and it's sad there's nothing u can do to change them but u can change u and how you handle people like that it's ok to be kind, speak but getting to close to people like that u are entering a situation at ur own risk and it's never just u, it's going to be other people involved in that relationship and there is nothing you can do about that. Thank God I'm strong cause had not turned to God I would have crumbled into a million pieces and I can't afford to fall weak and be a weak individual u will go under everytime all I can say is if ur in a relationship with a narcissist man or woman u gone need God to get u through it cause trying to do it alone u can't trust me I know u better surround urself around love ones family friends and get on ur knees and pray cause u will need it. I'm not the one to tell anyone what to do nor will I tell u to leave ur situation but take a long look at urself and ask is it worth it. ❤
@@latashahumphrey769 thanks for this Im on my healing journey and it is really hard but I made the decission to ask "is this from God?" because had I really asked myself this years ago I wouldnt have wasted so long and been so brutally discarded.
Yes. To them everyone is a tool to be made into either as a narc enabler or narc victim. Look at what they do to their own children! I think the narc ratio is much higher than we are led to believe...
I'm glad I don't have to go through that wheew 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I believe I'm going to get a good man but the first I think he narcissist I'm running so fast
I intuitively had this happen to me too last week. No random person could have had my number, yet they ask "Hey is this...?" I deleted the chat and didn't respond. Narc been blocked. Protecting my peace.
I was cute. That’s why. But, what I don’t get, is why I got dropped. I was still cute. I was so devoted to the relationship, I was a real support and totally in love with him. Finding out it was not enough to keep him happy slays me still, 40 years later
After a while they hate you bc of their need for you. So the wrath they had towards the parent that did them wrong, the parent they 'needed', comes on you when they recognize that you are now needed. They like to believe they don't need others.
Can I just be unpicked now,?? I dunno how much longer I can take anymore...so far they've ruined every single recent holiday (which ive left to go to a co workers house) jan 11th my birthday was ruined...My bcm & I went to go get help yesterday (victims advocates) but unfortunately they've closed due to no funding..all they said is call the cops..i told em don't u thnk I've done that before? I can not fo it rn bcuz I'm stuck in in mentally/physically...so we called catholic charities here..they told me that they can help me get out or help w housing bcuz I'm not under the age of 30!! I dont know how much I can't take anymore any suggestions? Are much appreciated as i feel I'm stuck in a horror movie were I akways end up here at the beginning bcuz there's absolute zero help for anyone anymore even when involves abuse which is mind blowing to me
Lmfao, people who think or say that the new supply is a downgrade, like what? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, everyone's taste is different. What you prefer in a woman, the narcissist or even another man can prefer something different. There are all kinds of men who like thin women, or big women, same goes for certain looks. Like, get a reality check, just because you think something doesn't mean another person will have the same view.
It's an act of God sometimes. But on the flip side it's God allowing the devil in them to tempt us and let us exercise our inner strength to resist the temptations.
Once u get away from that don't get back into things like that cause they really don't like you, ur being taken for a ride and they get from u and go and give to another woman and she won't have to do anything. They will lie to the end it's up to u to know it. 😂😂😂😂
I don't think they use everybody it's just probably certain people. Im never discuss my financial situation cause that's personal if I don't know yours ur not going to know mine. And I'm not a bad looking chick but I'm not here for that either. I can get my own man for that so I probably wouldn't be picked thanks I'm cool with that
I heard this once and I prefer it- it isn’t that they choose us, it’s that we let them stay. Until we find our own worth- and have boundaries - they will stay.
Love this, so true they are parasites
Amen. Everyone has an energy that attracts certain people to us. A narcissist will never ever be with a secure and healthy person.
I pursued the narcissist. I saw the darkness and I was intrigued by it. The codependent in me wanted to heal it. It was the biggest error of my love life.
Yes and narcissist know that too, they will appear to be a long-suffering victim while they torture you, and weaken you the entire time.
Same
@@michelec2848 😮same!
Me too now 3 years no contact they used people for a come up
Same 😢
Your soul is light and their soul is dark😬
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Why so racist?
Thats so racist
Yes one even told me exactly that, I'm all light and he is all dark.
Then they dim the light or extinguish it altogether😢
As long as you keep supplying the narcissist, they’ll keep you around.
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He met me broken from a previous relationship and I remember him saying all my ex’s was stupid for letting me go. I use to think he saw my worth but in reality he saw my stupidity! He saw the way I let people get over on me and thought to himself why would those idiots let a good get over on one so easy kind a woman go.
Healing season
They see things in you they don´t have. You are their energy. And they gain a lot from you. (So in fact they see you as an object to use). So it is necessary to learn to set boundaries and say NO. There is a motto: Takers never stop taking. (So people have to say NO ....). Love yourself and trust yourself!
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I came to the harsh and bitter truth that mine chose me because she knew I was loyal and she could manipulate me. Plus she also was getting older and running out of options. I was the back burner guy that she always banked on to be there when nothing else worked out for her.
Funny thing is I thought the relationship was entering the discard phase due to the emotional distancing and verbal barbs that were increasing every week so I ghosted and she came back later acting butthurt and trying to make me jealous.
Even though I left I was still devastated but two years later and I’m thankful daily for my freedom and peace.
He was definitely attracted to my vibrant spirit .It was a roller coaster ride when I would go no contact. Then he would Hoover & I would go back but now…7 months no contact 🥳
Good you decided to re-learn how to love youf ,You do not need energy vampire!🥳🌹
The empath is a mirror for the narcissist .
What does this mean, if empaths are not like them?
You absolutely right when my narcissist picked me.Because I know I carry the light🌄
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My Narc kept lying to impress me… I started to notice that he wasn’t as financially stable as he was boasting about….
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Ppl with real money never need to talk about it.
Upon reflection, I realize that I also chose the narcissist. He validated my belief about how I deserved to be treated. His love bombing and his cruelty met my wounds perfectly. I never knew I was wounded until he came into my life. Without him I would never have healed. If we never had kids I would have stayed forever. Forever.
Sometimes when he was unkind I felt relief, because I grew up knowing that the people who love me will hurt me. The way he treated me felt like love. And I suppose he felt love too because I forgave it all. It also made him hate me.
I know the behaviour was not acceptable. The relationship was toxic. And I would never have healed my heart without this lesson.
I regret nothing. He chose me for all of the reasons you mentioned Lee, but I chose him too. My soul wanted me to see my wounds and heal them.
He never lied to me. I was just as at fault for our dynamic as he was. He threatened to kill me when I knew him for a few weeks. I laughed. I enabled. I craved his cruelty because I deserved harm.
But that’s all in the past now. It has been a journey. I really love myself now. I have such peace and hope for the future.
I really appreciate this channel because if you don’t have the vocabulary and framework for this abuse cycle, it’s so easy to be gaslit and remain confused.
Thank you Lee, and keep up the good work. Sometimes when you compliment yourself you close your eyes, like you don’t quite believe it. I hope you have peace and self love after all of your lessons too 🙂
Healing ❤️🩹 season
I realized he was mad at my light from the beginning he used to say why are you laughing at everything he couldn't stand from the beginning that I was better qt handling my pain. He didn't like me, i annoyed him. He chose me because I was everything he wasn't and he was mad and fascinated at the same time and tried from the beginning to get me to be leas happy to try to get me to believe that I was too happy and I shouldn't be because life is hard. He got irritated at my joy and eventually realized he couldn't stop it so he tried to mimic it and mirror it which he also couldn't do so he was just bitter about it and just tried really hard to cover up my light something he also couldn't eo it got brighter the more he tried to tone me down. So he hoped that if he left me hanging and watching me struggle to the point we lost our house and he still was hoping that would bring me down and again it didn't work. He didn't know what else to do so qll he could do is just try to hold on to hs mask and compete with me which he also can't do because I can't be replicated and the joy I have the world didn't give it and the world can't take it he could not understand that at all.
My husband said I attract these people. In friendships, acquaintances, but I didn't know anything about Narcissist until he pointed out those traits, I am surrounded by them in my family. He quickly pointed out that information in my family and how to deal with it and then I studied about this. It all made sense. He said that I attract them in friendships because of my empathy and I wear my heart on my sleeve. I care a lot. Once I trained myself to become indifferent, detached emotionally but still be civil...life became peaceful.
He did not choose me. He answered a call I made to a chatroom. It happened unexpectedly. He pretended to be someone he was not. How long do you think that facade was going to last? Intuitively, I recognized his insecurities, and yes, he loved bombed me, but I saw through him. He did not do a good job of manipulation. He realized that I was not a timid person, so he began the verbal abuse, and I cut him off. No contact. He went into a downward spiral. He did not get to discard me. He went into depression. He had no supply lined up. Yes, I fell for him, and still do, but I am seeing from a different lens now. No contact is still in effect.
Good for you ,You do not need energy vampire!🥳🌹
All the above! So true PROFESSIONAL TAKERS….. and when they don’t have to ask they feel they have hit the jackpot
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Yep,they dry beg,when you don't offer they drop you, lol Single life is Beautiful ❤
They case you out to see if your a caring person and giving person when they realize you care and given they hold on to you to use you, Single life is Beautiful ❤
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This comment is definitely 💯
For those gorgeous and handsome beasts, take heed: a Narcissist will want you and, immediately after they get you, the process to undermine your self confidence and to change your appearance into an unattractive mess begins, via gaslighting and other abusive forms.
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I had just had a baby at 16, extreme poverty, guilt cause I was raised in the word, no Dad, trapped as a kid, men pleaser
@@shamarabullock0308 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Lee thank you so much for explaining this. I appreciate your honesty and helping us to all understand this it is all SO confusing!
Folks, the way to solve this is to become dependant only on yourself. This way, you can stay single and protect your peace. Get everything you need by yourself for yourself. I found that when I have achieved my own goals I am happier and need people less.
Facts! Narc are intimidated by independence so they won’t stay with an independent person for long. They need insecure dependent people that they can rule authority over.
That way the devil wins!
We were made by God to stay connected and help each other.
You are so right . Took money from me .but I lived with family . He now isn’t talking much , of course he took off living in another state. I know he is with some one and couldn’t find us a place to live I thought it would out , but looking it as a blessing now . Finally learned my lesson . Hard lesson to learn because it did break my heart. Thought I could help heal him , ya he wanted my light that for sure. My dad even passed away so it hurt even worse. He came and then took off with out saying goodbye.
unbelievable! how come narcissists from totally different background, religion, race... have exactly the same behaviour. Lee my narcissist is from Saudi and just identical to your videos! thank you!
This video needs 100k views already
Lee, could you please help those of us that are older. I’m 64 a woman and feel like I’m too old to start over. I left another message here and it’s a long story that includes a lot of history.
I’m sure many of your subscribers are older and how do we plan for a life that isn’t as long although we might need a special video for us too. I wonder if I should just sit here and wait for the end and on top of it I’m sickly. Ugh
Need some feedback!
I’m 45 and comparatively still have some years.
When I started off, I felt that it was too late to start over, still fighting the feeling sometimes as I am yet to figure out how to resuscitate almost everything.
When I started off I took comfort in the fact that I was praying everyday so I wasn’t doing nothing.
Then it turned to gratitude that my unemployment gives me an opportunity to pray more.
It seems like I’ve not been doing much if you consider my finances but I have healed mentally, emotionally and physically because of prayer. I have peace despite lack in the other areas which are considered ‘success’ by the world.
I have gained confidence, I don’t seek external validation anymore.
Despite everything I have lost if I were given an option to choose any year of my life and re-live it exactly the way it was, it would definitely be one of the years post narcissist because the inner me started thriving only in those years.
After a 3yr relationship, I shared my story to a friend (narc/ex bf now) of how loyal i am to my prev ldr relationship, also other friends told me I have a pure heart and good intentions to people. This is where my narc friend show up and became my bf. Now I know, why he grab the opportunity to easily manipulate me. Praying I'll be healed and get over soon, this is really a bad experience I dnt want to happen again, this really cracked me open Prayers to others as well. ❤
Loved the stone cold hard facts u were pointing on in this one. 🙌🏽🎯
Hey Lee, I just wanted to tell you that I am a totally blind woman who has stumbled across your channel and who was married to a narcissist for 7 1/2 years, and I just wanted to talk directly to you because even his name is a trigger for me, his name was Lee also and this is so weird. That it’s weird that Lee can treat me like shit but Lee can also help me heal. So I have to know that everybody named Lee doesn’t mean they’re a narcissist. The brain is a funny thing, and I really appreciate that you’re wanting to help people so much, I’m glad that you have this channel and may you have many blessings forward. he has passed away and I think maybe this is God‘s way of healing me from the narcissism that he put on me. So I just appreciate you and it’s no coincidence that y’all have the same name.
They see smt they don't have and do whatever to punish and destroy with brutal rage and worst hate.
That's what I had with psycho narcs.
Does outgrowing a narc anger them
Yes
I know my ex NARC is depressed he never saw it coming,he dry begged I never offered,I got home ,he called, didn't answer,txt him told him I was done,been calling me ever since I refuse to answer ,I'm so over him,I can't wait till his over me, Single life is Beautiful ❤
Is water wet?
I’m light ! He told me I’m very pure !😅
You’re so funny 😂
I try 😃
1:10 Wow that's scary to think thousands and thousands of people have narcissists in there lives...
My two were bad enough...
I picked him… I used to actually brag on how I winked at him dating online ….for what …just to win one big fat loser from delusional land yay me😂
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Ugh I did the same thing. It was an accident tho. I didn't even know I sent that wink. He contacted me after that and my life and eventually myself were changed forever.
Buns or some funds..💀🤣
I got rid of one recently. He knew I had no desire to be with someone sexually so he tried to be sneaky to try to talk me out of my underwear.
He slithered away from me when he knew that he lied to me and tried to manipulate me, and I picked up on all of that.
stay safe
Im so picky that might be y i live alone cause u don't never know about these people out here
The personal narcissist was a bum. I thought he was taking care of his father but I think he needed a place to stay and wanted to remain in the will. The work narcissist needed me to check off a box to fit a role. However, when the department went south I became the scapegoat. Thanks Lee. You are direct but in a way that I can laugh a little bit at the past instead of just cry or fume.
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Its so many people that are narcissistic u just never know i say im kind not nice, nice will get u played so no i don't like to align myself with being nice i use to be.
Love the way you phrase things. Always makes me laugh
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You are Awesome at explaining those things 😮😮😮!!!❤
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Your energy. Light and darkness don't mix that's what I told him
“They want the buns or the funds” 😂😂😂
Free babysitting services house cleaning services a personal chef a toy to play with whenever they want just crazy no thanks
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Got it. Thanks for the hard work.
You have to just be careful on what information you put out there. Cause people can pick up on things just by small conversation
You are right on point. I've been through this.
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This is a hufe question of mine! Why me!!
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100% true.Thanks for sharing.
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I often wondered and your response makes sense. Please do a video on how to get a narcissist to leave you alone! I have one obsessed and infatuated with me. He tells me he jerked off to my topless pictures! My ex-boyfriend did the same thing except he would record me without my knowledge and THEN send me the video to watch!
I was healing from obsessive relationships both times , that time the narcs came , used to cry alot and the narcs came then , maybe they were to teach me how to be cold hearted
You always find a way to make me laugh! And my god you always just make so much sense.
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@MentalHealness it's also there in our desire to be around someone who is broken, too.
@MentalHealness excuse me- I mean that codependents are broken and narcissists are broken too- so we find company in eachother. Only, one eats other, eventually.
I love that they chose me bc I have money, a house, car and stable income with excellent credit. Now as they live with their parents still 8 yrs. later, I love to flaunt it more🙂
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My is not a taker he is a giver and very generous with 💰many gifts, dinners, trips.
Yep!! All that. I know now that I'm healing through it. Couldn't see it during the abuse.
I was very vulnerable with a husband who committed suicide two years earlier, I was on disability although I had a new house with a 40k mortgage and a daughter that was young and he played on her heart strings. He said, oh we will get married and have a home together which never materialized. He needed money even though he denies it all today and told me…let’s use your liquid assets first and I’ll take care of you when you get older. He demanded money and I was afraid of him and my felt so sickly and my daughter wasn’t well. I was used and much more which is a felony!!! So, I feel stronger today after so many years and feel the time has come for me to fight for what I lost mentally and financially for a manipulator that never cared about me. What did a man so educated want with me? He’s all about denial and a boat load of lies, that at this point the only one that can lose is him if I peruse what id like to do! Now the tables have turned although I’m treated poorly to keep me under control and it isn’t working anymore. So sad that he destroyed my life and my daughters. The story is enough to fill a book and it’s time to get back what I lost so long ago, so I can move on.
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Mine was a woman who is so beautiful, why would she have so much interest in me? I'm really sorry Tammy.
@@1976smb Thank you! He was exceptionally good looking and it’s funny because I was attractive and it always bothered him as he’d say, you never age. Well his health is fading along with his looks since he doesn’t look at all like he once did years ago and this really bothers him. Perhaps he already got his karma and seems so miserable. Lee said in another video we should be our own King or Queen and really focus on ourselves.
2025 will be my year! My best to you…we have suffered and will prevail! It was a hard lesson, but I know now that I can’t trust the world and we need to love ourselves most of all. My best to you!
@@alexwilliams9744 Thank you, I think it will happen! I can’t see him getting away with this.😊I’ll just sit back and watch it unfold.
@@tammydietschweiler7852 Indeed. Mine was awhile ago, I've never thought myself as being (well not ugly, just average) attractive nor better than anyone else. Yes, he has his karma now. In life you know there are bad people out there, but not people like this. It hits you like a huge wave, you're unprepared, the total shock, your reaction time isn't ready for such a person. Bless you Tammy, and your daughters, and much love from another human being to all of you. God bless, yes it is time to rise.
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Thank u for all u do to help us. I am learning so much from u. Pls do a video on how the narc feels when their supply or their child dies.
As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist, in my opinion Lee is correct, opposites do attract. But I would also like to add that it may depend on the type of narcissist, the grandiose, overt narcissist will pick and choose victims depending on the exterior looks quite often, whereas the covert narcissist, may seek out anyone to fulfill their needs and desires for the moment, meaning looks are really unimportant as long as supply is met.
The narc chose me because It was easy to manipulate me.
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13.30 in spot on
Sometimes they see themselves in you. I know quite a few narcissistic couples
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That sounds like a vampire🤣
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I can see that u being something that's missing what they lack now that makes sense
Thanks Lee.
Sadly ....there's always been a strong chemistry between him and me and I liked that .
I put up with his darker moods and manipulation BECAUSE I felt his ' good' side was great....but over time his rages and disrespect became worse.
Yes, he tried to hoover me the other day....but I declined .
Its still hard , but I'm worth more .
12 min mark is BARS
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@@MentalHealnesspretending that theyre lying "to protect you" somehow.... I think you're the 1st person I've seen to even bring that up but its so true!
❤ 💯 my covert husband picked me because I had a house
U can care about these people and no matter what u do it's never going to be enough u will waste so much time away trying to be there for someone that doesn't love you nor themselves it's scary taking a chance on people who really don't mean u any good and it's sad there's nothing u can do to change them but u can change u and how you handle people like that it's ok to be kind, speak but getting to close to people like that u are entering a situation at ur own risk and it's never just u, it's going to be other people involved in that relationship and there is nothing you can do about that. Thank God I'm strong cause had not turned to God I would have crumbled into a million pieces and I can't afford to fall weak and be a weak individual u will go under everytime all I can say is if ur in a relationship with a narcissist man or woman u gone need God to get u through it cause trying to do it alone u can't trust me I know u better surround urself around love ones family friends and get on ur knees and pray cause u will need it. I'm not the one to tell anyone what to do nor will I tell u to leave ur situation but take a long look at urself and ask is it worth it. ❤
@@latashahumphrey769 thanks for this Im on my healing journey and it is really hard but I made the decission to ask "is this from God?" because had I really asked myself this years ago I wouldnt have wasted so long and been so brutally discarded.
Are narcs trying to create more narcs?
Yes. To them everyone is a tool to be made into either as a narc enabler or narc victim. Look at what they do to their own children! I think the narc ratio is much higher than we are led to believe...
I'm glad I don't have to go through that wheew 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I believe I'm going to get a good man but the first I think he narcissist I'm running so fast
You know after no contact , he used a differnt number to contact me .smh. just today 11 january 2025.smh.
I intuitively had this happen to me too last week.
No random person could have had my number, yet they ask "Hey is this...?"
I deleted the chat and didn't respond.
Narc been blocked.
Protecting my peace.
My narc said he knew his sons would look exactly like him and he wanted that. I'm sure there were other reasons too 🧐
But im never home i work so much so thats probably a good thing.
.... I pray this never finds me again #discernment
It was boom then now it's funds
I picked him and i had contradiction in the responces egducated phycology and other..... can u give in sight to that
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I was cute. That’s why. But, what I don’t get, is why I got dropped. I was still cute. I was so devoted to the relationship, I was a real support and totally in love with him. Finding out it was not enough to keep him happy slays me still, 40 years later
After a while they hate you bc of their need for you.
So the wrath they had towards the parent that did them wrong, the parent they 'needed', comes on you when they recognize that you are now needed. They like to believe they don't need others.
The person you fell in love with doesn't exist. That was an optical illusion. Then we stay longer, not due to love but due to being trauma bonded.
Can I just be unpicked now,??
I dunno how much longer I can take anymore...so far they've ruined every single recent holiday (which ive left to go to a co workers house) jan 11th my birthday was ruined...My bcm & I went to go get help yesterday (victims advocates) but unfortunately they've closed due to no funding..all they said is call the cops..i told em don't u thnk I've done that before? I can not fo it rn bcuz I'm stuck in in mentally/physically...so we called catholic charities here..they told me that they can help me get out or help w housing bcuz I'm not under the age of 30!! I dont know how much I can't take anymore any suggestions? Are much appreciated as i feel I'm stuck in a horror movie were I akways end up here at the beginning bcuz there's absolute zero help for anyone anymore even when involves abuse which is mind blowing to me
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What is the purpose of devaluation
Lmfao, people who think or say that the new supply is a downgrade, like what? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, everyone's taste is different. What you prefer in a woman, the narcissist or even another man can prefer something different. There are all kinds of men who like thin women, or big women, same goes for certain looks. Like, get a reality check, just because you think something doesn't mean another person will have the same view.
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Your funny as hell 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
It's an act of God sometimes. But on the flip side it's God allowing the devil in them to tempt us and let us exercise our inner strength to resist the temptations.
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I get stoned and watch these😂 I be dying 😂😂😂😂😂
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Hey Lee give me your two cents, what percentage of narcs come back after a discard or a period of absence.
im not certain
Are they able to change so they don't lose the person?
not really
Bedroom Boom 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lee😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 your a funny guy
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@MentalHealness 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Clap them cheeks lol😂
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Do narcissists also value validation from people they don't find attractive? Or does this just goes for the people they themselves find attractive?
validation is validation
@@MentalHealness Thank you for your answer
Once u get away from that don't get back into things like that cause they really don't like you, ur being taken for a ride and they get from u and go and give to another woman and she won't have to do anything. They will lie to the end it's up to u to know it. 😂😂😂😂
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Bc I'm the only 1 available
that time he was searchin'
NO OTHER options but me
Only socket he can plug in
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Is that the other way too that we are attracted to our opposite
Possibly n
We were both homeless when we met, and we had a beautiful beginning
I don't think they use everybody it's just probably certain people. Im never discuss my financial situation cause that's personal if I don't know yours ur not going to know mine. And I'm not a bad looking chick but I'm not here for that either. I can get my own man for that so I probably wouldn't be picked thanks I'm cool with that
Yet....according to.him, everything is wrong with me and nobody will want me
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That's how he feels about himself so projected that until you
Buns or funds 😂
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