Thank you for sharing this. It helps. I'm happy it helped you through that time. It helps me recognise things in me. Seeing others putting words to experience I feel helpless me define my experiences.
The whole issue with shame I have often found is that I was always desperate to present a perfect outwards appearance to my friends, family and peers when the opposite was almost always the case. Also, totally with you on not being able to finish books - wow, that was a challenge at university.
I’m 29 and I’m curtain I have ADHD. Your videos really helped. I’m want to go doctors first thing in the morning and let them know how I feel but I’m dreading filling out the hour long doctor form! Been putting it off for a while due to the form taking forever but I’ve now got to the point where I have to do it to change my life. I can’t deal with the overwhelming sense of shame and feeling trapped anymore. It’s got to be done. Great vid!
Thank you for this! Just a side note, but I would highly recommend you read (or don’t, or only read 3 chapters 😉) James Nestor’s “Breath.” Even as someone who went through a Yoga Teacher Training and is a professional hornist who lived at a very high altitude for many years, my mind was blown, and it changed how I approach breathing in my daily and professional life. The evidence put forth to completely reevaluate how we approach breathing for mindfulness and health is beyond compelling. I had THREE friends recommend it within a single week, so it was hard to ignore the signs 😂
Wow timing of things I'm watching this video and re listening a book that made me see I can be me and still be okay in Micah by Louisa Masters their is a character that just accepts them self so fully over things that brings me shame and the first time I listen to that book it was a similar wow, it's okey, I can be really bad at organising some things and still just yes I forget my keys in the door or to wash the dishes... I can still be me without shame not laughing at myself but with myself. And that book is an MM-romance urban fantasy with graphic nudity. So not everyone's cup of tea. I think we are not only good at feeling shame but also about feeling shame about feeling shame. When the cycle is bad, and depression is definitely not a helpful friend when the shame monster is active or the blame monster for that matter
Ohhh gosh yes 'shame about the shame' is very relateable - lots of feelings about the feelings. And half the battle is dealing with that part - and as you explain here, the self acceptance of it all 💛
Late diagnosis here! 🙋🏼♀️I am 53 years old and got my ADHD diagnosis five weeks ago! Can you imagine how much shame I have been collecting all these years?!? 🫥🤯😶🌫️Yes FULL ON SHAME STORM!! Especially for the last five years.I got diagnosed with depression in 2017 and then bipolar diagnosis a year ago ( I hear that’s very common for women with ADHD to get the bipolar diagnosis first). Feeling very up and down since the diagnosis: relieved, confused, angry, inspired and anxious all at once… Not sure where to turn. Living in Germany, not much ADHD community here…..😑. Thank you for all the work you do here on your channel, Rachel! Looking forward to the other parts of this series!!🙏😍💚
Thank you so much for sharing! It's A LOT to experience isn't it 🫶🏻 If it's any support, there are some wonderful folks in my comments section that helps with feeling less alone 💛 Look forward to seeing you in the comments more!
@@rachdoesyoutube oh, thank you, that’s nice. Yes, will try to have look here, when I remember. I of course have 5 UA-camchannels ( typically ADHD, I know…🤣🤪🤦🏼♀️), so,sometimes I get confused…🤯
Thank you for sharing this. It helps. I'm happy it helped you through that time. It helps me recognise things in me. Seeing others putting words to experience I feel helpless me define my experiences.
The whole issue with shame I have often found is that I was always desperate to present a perfect outwards appearance to my friends, family and peers when the opposite was almost always the case.
Also, totally with you on not being able to finish books - wow, that was a challenge at university.
I’m 29 and I’m curtain I have ADHD. Your videos really helped. I’m want to go doctors first thing in the morning and let them know how I feel but I’m dreading filling out the hour long doctor form! Been putting it off for a while due to the form taking forever but I’ve now got to the point where I have to do it to change my life. I can’t deal with the overwhelming sense of shame and feeling trapped anymore. It’s got to be done. Great vid!
Thank you for this! Just a side note, but I would highly recommend you read (or don’t, or only read 3 chapters 😉) James Nestor’s “Breath.” Even as someone who went through a Yoga Teacher Training and is a professional hornist who lived at a very high altitude for many years, my mind was blown, and it changed how I approach breathing in my daily and professional life. The evidence put forth to completely reevaluate how we approach breathing for mindfulness and health is beyond compelling. I had THREE friends recommend it within a single week, so it was hard to ignore the signs 😂
Oh this is so interesting! Thanks for sharing! I've saved it to my Amazon wish list 😍
Love this series
Thanks Jon - and thanks for being here, watching 💛
Wow timing of things I'm watching this video and re listening a book that made me see I can be me and still be okay in Micah by Louisa Masters their is a character that just accepts them self so fully over things that brings me shame and the first time I listen to that book it was a similar wow, it's okey, I can be really bad at organising some things and still just yes I forget my keys in the door or to wash the dishes... I can still be me without shame not laughing at myself but with myself. And that book is an MM-romance urban fantasy with graphic nudity. So not everyone's cup of tea.
I think we are not only good at feeling shame but also about feeling shame about feeling shame. When the cycle is bad, and depression is definitely not a helpful friend when the shame monster is active or the blame monster for that matter
Being good at feeling ashamed of feeling shame! Oh, yes how I can relate to that!😂🤪
Ohhh gosh yes 'shame about the shame' is very relateable - lots of feelings about the feelings. And half the battle is dealing with that part - and as you explain here, the self acceptance of it all 💛
Late diagnosis here! 🙋🏼♀️I am 53 years old and got my ADHD diagnosis five weeks ago! Can you imagine how much shame I have been collecting all these years?!? 🫥🤯😶🌫️Yes FULL ON SHAME STORM!! Especially for the last five years.I got diagnosed with depression in 2017 and then bipolar diagnosis a year ago ( I hear that’s very common for women with ADHD to get the bipolar diagnosis first). Feeling very up and down since the diagnosis: relieved, confused, angry, inspired and anxious all at once… Not sure where to turn. Living in Germany, not much ADHD community here…..😑. Thank you for all the work you do here on your channel, Rachel! Looking forward to the other parts of this series!!🙏😍💚
Thank you so much for sharing! It's A LOT to experience isn't it 🫶🏻 If it's any support, there are some wonderful folks in my comments section that helps with feeling less alone 💛 Look forward to seeing you in the comments more!
@@rachdoesyoutube oh, thank you, that’s nice. Yes, will try to have look here, when I remember. I of course have 5 UA-camchannels ( typically ADHD, I know…🤣🤪🤦🏼♀️), so,sometimes I get confused…🤯
The way you stop yourself to insert more compassion ❤️🩹 beautiful. Also really interesting notes on the “is it everyday” point