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Hey Erick, been watching your stuff, really like what you are teaching. Your intro is gradually changing, I like it. I was wondering if you can do more videos on how to increase volume of girls you can meet for a super busy single dad and what to say and create connections
Thanks! Just trying some new stuff with my videos. Sure, i can do something like that. But for now, it's really just about making the interaction fun. Women like the energy or vibe you bring to the interaction. Be upbeat, fun, & playful...tease her, touch her (non-sexually), give her a light sexual vibe.
Women really should have a lot of respect for a man who has overcome challenges and barriers. I’m autistic and know I’ve achieved so much and continuing on my pathway to greatness. I actually feel my confidence at an all time high and it feels natural not fake. My communication skills have improved naturally overtime and I display qualities that women admire in a man such as being honest and my number one priority isn’t dating, it’s ongoing personal success and unlike my last relationship, I won’t stop growing and becoming a better version of myself. I’ve even got to the point in life where I tell a woman I’m autistic and she doesn’t see me as an individual and stereotypes before getting to know me better, then I don’t want her. This is my new way of testing women without them evening knowing that I do it and who knows I may come across someone who either has work experience with surrounding neurodiversity or she has people in her family that are neurodivergent or maybe she might be herself. At the end of the day, I am an individual and don’t want to be stereotyped by anyone and that is where I have built my self respect overtime because there is no such thing whatsoever as normal. If you don’t love or respect yourself, then nobody else will know the real you.
That's great! It sounds like you're on the right path! You don't have to tell them that you're autistic right off the bat...& once she likes you, she won't care anyway. Regardless of all that...if you don't make a big deal about the things you have no control over, neither will she.
@@SkillofAttraction Thanks Erik. Yes that’s so true, they will definitely see my individuality because all humans are different. It will definitely be worth it once the right person comes into my life and it will happen naturally and unexpectedly. Will keep growing during my single life and even when we meet, I will continue and she will be my biggest cheerleader.
Excellent video as always. Affection is easy to maintain if you're an overall decent guy. Maintaining attraction is a lot harder, and it really comes down to respect. But, to have a happy, fulfilling relationship you need both.
Hi Erick. Can you do a video or two (or playlist), specifically about people in long term relationships/marriage. most of us men have seen our women change especially when kids, house and money (or lack of) come on the scene. how do we keep the attraction or how do we reignite the attraction to when we first started. i’ll really appreciate if you can do some target videos on this topic
Sure, I can cover that more in depth, but I do have a few videos that touch on this... ua-cam.com/video/J4DBJl-ONp8/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/0ql0ZpYXEGQ/v-deo.html
@@sovietbear5696 I meant small acts of disrespect....where you know it's disrespectful, but not that big of a deal. So you don't say anything, because you don't want to start an argument, or something similar.
Hey Eric I have a question so has anyone been mad at you like your friends because more girls have been texting you a lot than them because it still happens to me when girls text me my friends get mad at me and they say she don't text me or she don't call me and it seems like I have more girls who are my friends then guys who are my friends do you think I should embrace it that a lot of girls are texting me even if they have boyfriends were you in that situation where a lot of your friends were mad at you because a lot of girls were texting you and not them?
Many people will be angry/jealous at your success...& unfortunately this is often the people closest to you. It doesn't matter if it's success with girls or with career, people will do what they can to hold you down & prevent your success. I realize this all sounds terrible, & it is...but it's a part of lie, unfortunately. Part of the reason for this is that you're leveling up & passing them by, & it shines a light on their own shortcomings. Sadly, most people want to see others fail, because it makes them feel better about their own lives. So, you either have to ignore it &/or start leveling up with your social circle. You are a product of the 5 closest people in your life. In other words, your social circle can hold you back or push you forward. The unfortunate part about improving yourself is that sometimes you have to leave people behind. Glad to hear that you're finding success in the lady department, however!
@@SkillofAttraction yeah Eric sometimes I have a fear of telling a girl that she's pretty even if she's in a relationship because I have a fear of what her reaction might be
I have a few videos on this topic... How the power the flips: ua-cam.com/video/nzud4geqNWY/v-deo.html Keeping the power: ua-cam.com/video/oJ4l1XehQBI/v-deo.html How men lose the power: ua-cam.com/video/0r-dYgk6vck/v-deo.html
Coach there is a lady that told me I love you let’s be bf,gf and I said ok I wasn’t ready for relationship so I decided to lie so I tell her I’m ready for relationship I was just wanted to sleep with her but now I wanaa to pullback so how should I do pull back.
It's going to be difficult if you care about her at all. This is one of the reasons you never lie to women. You'd be surprised how many women would be okay with still sleeping with you, even when you don't want anything serious. In other words, don't be afraid to be honest. So, the best thing you can do is just be honest with her. I mean, don't tell her that you just agreed to this so you could have sex with her, but tell her that you're sorry & that you're just not feeling it...in your own words of course.
Great video Erik. My x girlfriend (open relationship) is now back with her husband...you guessed right lol. Also when my wife (separated) mentions other men that she's been hanging around its always "he just needed someone to talk too as he's going through bad times ect" I'm assuming she says this so there's no blame on her part if I was to catch her with someone?
Maybe in the west it's like this but thankfully here it's not like this yet. It's kinda really difficult. Relationships has become really difficult these days. The wind of west has started to get here too. But thanks for your information coach! @@SkillofAttraction
A woman's attraction works the same everywhere, no matter the race, country, culture. The only thing that differs is courting/marriage rituals, which varies from culture to culture. @@harrypotter_petronus
No need to walk away because of that. You're going to fail shit tests every now & then, no man can pass 100% of them unless they have rock solid confidence & a very thick skin. Just take it as a lesson, act as if nothing happened (with her) & do your best not to fall into the trap again.
@@kyioma Make light of it. "Agree & amplify", which basically means to agree with whatever she's saying, but amplify it to the point where it's ridiculous. As an example... HER: I know you're sleeping with other girls! How many? YOU: You mean today? HER: You know what I mean, jerk! YOU: There's been at least 100 since we met, but none of them compare to you, my darling.
A majority of women don't care about money until they begin seeing you as a potential long term partner. As long as their attraction for you is on the strong side, money is secondary in the early stages of dating/relationship.
Hi Eric Can I ask more examples of Respect = Attraction How to make my ex gf to submit ? She told me 3month of No contact didnt make her any fear of losing me on the contrary her love is slowing fading and she use to live a life without me If on my Birthday can I wish for her to do what I want ? 1. To Text me everyday instead of silence for a few days if I dont initiate she wont reach out like before 2. To WhatsApp me Good morning everyday? 3.. To meet me at least 3X a week
Move forward buddy. Thats the move. Go back to your grind, work, passion, hobbies. Date other women, she might want to come back to you when she sees that but you shouldn't go back to her. You are on your knees right now with her and it will take her a long time or forever to see you again with respect. When she returns to you "I'm sorry I was wrong all that time I love you bla bla bla" watch out because it might be just her FOMO at work. If you go back to each other you'd have to be completely different man or she has to be completely different woman (burnt by alphas) in order for it to work.
Damn. I would advice you as soon as some girl loses respect for u. She will try to find someone else she can respect. How can u possibly believe she will return to u if u r the same guy she rejected. Wake up and grow ur finances, looks and sexual access to other women. The more she will see u in abundance the more love she will feel for u. Then she will come back to u and u can reject her ......respectfully If u do all of this u ll reject her when she comes back.
Some of the questions you guys ask me are covered in much more detail in videos I've already made... "How to keep the power": ua-cam.com/video/oJ4l1XehQBI/v-deo.html "Keep her chasing you": ua-cam.com/video/mcTv27lktBc/v-deo.html No contact isn't guaranteed to work. NC is really for you so you can heal & move on. Sometimes, as a nice byproduct, it will cause your ex to rethink her decisions & miss you enough to want to reconcile. It's your best strategy, because your only other option is to continue chasing her, & while that may work initially due to her feeling guilt, it won't work in the long term, because you're giving her all the power. See the video you're commenting on for why the man holding the power is important. You have the wrong mindset with your birthday wishes. You're continuing to give her all the power & basing your happiness on what she does...something you have zero control over. Instead, it's best for you to begin finding happiness without her by focusing on yourself, your self improvement & pursuing your goals/hobbies. "Let go to get your ex back": ua-cam.com/video/FNnFAbH7mYI/v-deo.html
@@piotrsitek818 Yes, pretty much. if you take a girl back that left you, you want to be sure that she EARNS you back. You still have to lead in this scenario, but let her prove herself to you before you go all in again.
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I truly believe in your truth my friend, I fully agree with what you say . Thank you
Thanks, man!
I’ve heard it many times and as soon on as you said it. I knew this vid was going to be a Banger. Mad respect💯🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thanks, man!
Hey Erick, been watching your stuff, really like what you are teaching. Your intro is gradually changing, I like it. I was wondering if you can do more videos on how to increase volume of girls you can meet for a super busy single dad and what to say and create connections
Thanks! Just trying some new stuff with my videos. Sure, i can do something like that. But for now, it's really just about making the interaction fun. Women like the energy or vibe you bring to the interaction. Be upbeat, fun, & playful...tease her, touch her (non-sexually), give her a light sexual vibe.
Women really should have a lot of respect for a man who has overcome challenges and barriers.
I’m autistic and know I’ve achieved so much and continuing on my pathway to greatness. I actually feel my confidence at an all time high and it feels natural not fake. My communication skills have improved naturally overtime and I display qualities that women admire in a man such as being honest and my number one priority isn’t dating, it’s ongoing personal success and unlike my last relationship, I won’t stop growing and becoming a better version of myself.
I’ve even got to the point in life where I tell a woman I’m autistic and she doesn’t see me as an individual and stereotypes before getting to know me better, then I don’t want her. This is my new way of testing women without them evening knowing that I do it and who knows I may come across someone who either has work experience with surrounding neurodiversity or she has people in her family that are neurodivergent or maybe she might be herself.
At the end of the day, I am an individual and don’t want to be stereotyped by anyone and that is where I have built my self respect overtime because there is no such thing whatsoever as normal. If you don’t love or respect yourself, then nobody else will know the real you.
That's great! It sounds like you're on the right path! You don't have to tell them that you're autistic right off the bat...& once she likes you, she won't care anyway. Regardless of all that...if you don't make a big deal about the things you have no control over, neither will she.
@@SkillofAttraction Thanks Erik. Yes that’s so true, they will definitely see my individuality because all humans are different. It will definitely be worth it once the right person comes into my life and it will happen naturally and unexpectedly. Will keep growing during my single life and even when we meet, I will continue and she will be my biggest cheerleader.
Excellent video as always. Affection is easy to maintain if you're an overall decent guy. Maintaining attraction is a lot harder, and it really comes down to respect. But, to have a happy, fulfilling relationship you need both.
Well said! Yes, maintaining attraction is much more difficult...& even more difficult when you live together or spend a lot of time together.
Love your work Erik! Greetings from Bavaria ☀️
Thank you very much!
Another good video that is ESSENTIAL for the novices! Bravo Erik!
Thanks again!
really excellent points. Of course its all about realizing your own self worth.
Yes, exactly! Sadly, most men have little self worth & feel "lucky" for a woman's love, attention & sex. Always see yourself as the prize!
Lol at 9:20 the pun for F.M was freaking brilliant 😂
Haha! Thanks!
Well Said, I needed this
Glad I could help! Always aim for maintaining her respect above all else...
Very concise and well explained.
Thanks! Glad you liked it
Very important remember your past relationships..
Yes, absolutely! They are filled with lessons of what to do & what NOT to do.
Your coaching link does not work on your website.
Sorry. There's a little bug in the website that happens randomly. I have it fixed now. Thanks for the heads up.
Man, you speak to my mind.
Welcome aboard!
A lot of good info, I liked this video. Thanks
Glad you enjoyed it!
Hi Erick.
Can you do a video or two (or playlist), specifically about people in long term relationships/marriage. most of us men have seen our women change especially when kids, house and money (or lack of) come on the scene.
how do we keep the attraction or how do we reignite the attraction to when we first started.
i’ll really appreciate if you can do some target videos on this topic
Sure, I can cover that more in depth, but I do have a few videos that touch on this...
ua-cam.com/video/J4DBJl-ONp8/v-deo.html
ua-cam.com/video/0ql0ZpYXEGQ/v-deo.html
@Khadijat Erlebach thanks spam
@@SkillofAttraction great. looking forward to more in-depth future videos on that. will look at those ones you sent for now. thank
you.
What are some examples of the little things ?
Can you be more specific?
@@SkillofAttractionlike what you said letting the little things slide
@@sovietbear5696 I meant small acts of disrespect....where you know it's disrespectful, but not that big of a deal. So you don't say anything, because you don't want to start an argument, or something similar.
@@SkillofAttractioneven when we’re both knowingly joking and being playful ?
@@sovietbear5696 If it's joking, then it's not disrespectful, is it?
Hey Eric I have a question so has anyone been mad at you like your friends because more girls have been texting you a lot than them because it still happens to me when girls text me my friends get mad at me and they say she don't text me or she don't call me and it seems like I have more girls who are my friends then guys who are my friends do you think I should embrace it that a lot of girls are texting me even if they have boyfriends were you in that situation where a lot of your friends were mad at you because a lot of girls were texting you and not them?
Many people will be angry/jealous at your success...& unfortunately this is often the people closest to you. It doesn't matter if it's success with girls or with career, people will do what they can to hold you down & prevent your success. I realize this all sounds terrible, & it is...but it's a part of lie, unfortunately. Part of the reason for this is that you're leveling up & passing them by, & it shines a light on their own shortcomings. Sadly, most people want to see others fail, because it makes them feel better about their own lives. So, you either have to ignore it &/or start leveling up with your social circle. You are a product of the 5 closest people in your life. In other words, your social circle can hold you back or push you forward. The unfortunate part about improving yourself is that sometimes you have to leave people behind. Glad to hear that you're finding success in the lady department, however!
@@SkillofAttraction yeah Eric sometimes I have a fear of telling a girl that she's pretty even if she's in a relationship because I have a fear of what her reaction might be
@@steveobaby6048 You have to be bold & fearless with women...they find it very attractive, because it communicates confidence.
Hey coach! How can I get the power back?
I have a few videos on this topic...
How the power the flips: ua-cam.com/video/nzud4geqNWY/v-deo.html
Keeping the power: ua-cam.com/video/oJ4l1XehQBI/v-deo.html
How men lose the power: ua-cam.com/video/0r-dYgk6vck/v-deo.html
@@SkillofAttraction thanks I will check em out
Coach there is a lady that told me I love you let’s be bf,gf and I said ok I wasn’t ready for relationship so I decided to lie so I tell her I’m ready for relationship I was just wanted to sleep with her but now I wanaa to pullback so how should I do pull back.
It's going to be difficult if you care about her at all. This is one of the reasons you never lie to women. You'd be surprised how many women would be okay with still sleeping with you, even when you don't want anything serious. In other words, don't be afraid to be honest. So, the best thing you can do is just be honest with her. I mean, don't tell her that you just agreed to this so you could have sex with her, but tell her that you're sorry & that you're just not feeling it...in your own words of course.
Great video Erik. My x girlfriend (open relationship) is now back with her husband...you guessed right lol. Also when my wife (separated) mentions other men that she's been hanging around its always "he just needed someone to talk too as he's going through bad times ect" I'm assuming she says this so there's no blame on her part if I was to catch her with someone?
Probably has something to do with it. Women often rationalize their actions after the fact in such a way where they come out innocent.
@@SkillofAttraction thanks for the reply Erik
if we bave to do so much things to just keep girls it's better to be without them
Men have been doing for thousands of years.
Maybe in the west it's like this but thankfully here it's not like this yet. It's kinda really difficult. Relationships has become really difficult these days. The wind of west has started to get here too. But thanks for your information coach! @@SkillofAttraction
A woman's attraction works the same everywhere, no matter the race, country, culture. The only thing that differs is courting/marriage rituals, which varies from culture to culture. @@harrypotter_petronus
if i failed the shit, should i walk away? cause she still checking me out
No need to walk away because of that. You're going to fail shit tests every now & then, no man can pass 100% of them unless they have rock solid confidence & a very thick skin. Just take it as a lesson, act as if nothing happened (with her) & do your best not to fall into the trap again.
@@SkillofAttraction thanks for reply! what should i do if she overdoing it sir?
@@kyioma Make light of it. "Agree & amplify", which basically means to agree with whatever she's saying, but amplify it to the point where it's ridiculous. As an example...
HER: I know you're sleeping with other girls! How many?
YOU: You mean today?
HER: You know what I mean, jerk!
YOU: There's been at least 100 since we met, but none of them compare to you, my darling.
I enjoy your work! Please don't put your pitch in the middle of every video. It's really too much. Suggest you put it at the end
Men don't complain about that which they can change themselves.
I thought you were going to say money
A majority of women don't care about money until they begin seeing you as a potential long term partner. As long as their attraction for you is on the strong side, money is secondary in the early stages of dating/relationship.
Erik, please text me when you get a chance. I got a new phone and lost your number! Thank you!
Danny
Done.
Hi Eric
Can I ask more examples of Respect = Attraction
How to make my ex gf to submit ?
She told me 3month of No contact didnt make her any fear of losing me on the contrary her love is slowing fading and she use to live a life without me
If on my Birthday can I wish for her to do what I want ?
1. To Text me everyday instead of silence for a few days if I dont initiate she wont reach out like before
2. To WhatsApp me Good morning everyday?
3.. To meet me at least 3X a week
Move forward buddy. Thats the move. Go back to your grind, work, passion, hobbies. Date other women, she might want to come back to you when she sees that but you shouldn't go back to her. You are on your knees right now with her and it will take her a long time or forever to see you again with respect. When she returns to you "I'm sorry I was wrong all that time I love you bla bla bla" watch out because it might be just her FOMO at work. If you go back to each other you'd have to be completely different man or she has to be completely different woman (burnt by alphas) in order for it to work.
You gotta move past this one. Not worth redeeming
Damn. I would advice you as soon as some girl loses respect for u. She will try to find someone else she can respect. How can u possibly believe she will return to u if u r the same guy she rejected. Wake up and grow ur finances, looks and sexual access to other women. The more she will see u in abundance the more love she will feel for u. Then she will come back to u and u can reject her ......respectfully
If u do all of this u ll reject her when she comes back.
Some of the questions you guys ask me are covered in much more detail in videos I've already made...
"How to keep the power": ua-cam.com/video/oJ4l1XehQBI/v-deo.html
"Keep her chasing you": ua-cam.com/video/mcTv27lktBc/v-deo.html
No contact isn't guaranteed to work. NC is really for you so you can heal & move on. Sometimes, as a nice byproduct, it will cause your ex to rethink her decisions & miss you enough to want to reconcile. It's your best strategy, because your only other option is to continue chasing her, & while that may work initially due to her feeling guilt, it won't work in the long term, because you're giving her all the power. See the video you're commenting on for why the man holding the power is important.
You have the wrong mindset with your birthday wishes. You're continuing to give her all the power & basing your happiness on what she does...something you have zero control over. Instead, it's best for you to begin finding happiness without her by focusing on yourself, your self improvement & pursuing your goals/hobbies. "Let go to get your ex back": ua-cam.com/video/FNnFAbH7mYI/v-deo.html
@@piotrsitek818 Yes, pretty much. if you take a girl back that left you, you want to be sure that she EARNS you back. You still have to lead in this scenario, but let her prove herself to you before you go all in again.