That's even more profound that happiness is an inside job or love yourself first. I'm going to keep that one and discard the social media deal I picked up all throughout the 2010s.
Right there with you Dewayne. At 61 I don't have time for "friends" that are not quality individuals and those that carry themselves with integrity. But over the years I have learned to cut people slack (not excuse bad behavior), and take them as they are. "Expectations" can be a mental trap you can never escape from and that leads to disappointment, as you've said.
I'm a 30 yr old husband and father of 3. Moving the wife and kids to a off grid home on about 25 acres up here in Nova Scotia. I fell in the category of young men who were lost. Personal responsibility and good guidance has got me where I am today. I thank you for the guidance. Never touched a horse but I'll be having a newfoundland pony to clear about 5 acres by hand. Gonna trust the process, keep it up. Us young men need old men like you to teach us the way.
As a fellow Canadian you have my complete respect for where you've come from and where you're heading, stay the course and welcome any challenges. You'll be able to get up every morning, look in the mirror and know that you have created a quality life for your wife and children.
I am planning to go to Nova Scotia later this year to reconnect with my Mi'kmaq relatives. My great-grandmother was removed at age 6 so that part of our heritage was lost.
You're resolution will carry you far. Just take the bad with the good and the good with the bad. Keep yourself well and you will overcome many thing should they happen!!
Thank you. You're right. I'm 26 and lonely. I have a good salary, lift weights, dress pretty well. I expected that I was finally ready to date based on the person I thought I had become. I met this girl at the gym, and built some rapport. We had so many things in common. I finally asked for her number and took her on smoothie date. It was going so well at first that I asked if she wanted to hike the next day. She said what a nice time she had and was looking forward to the next date. My expectations were so high. My bliss was so high. I thought it was my turn. Then after the hike, she said that she didn't want to lead me on into thinking we could hang out a lot because she was going to probably leave the area for graduate school and not go to graduate school in the area. I know I must have gone overboard and smothered her due to inexperience because my expectations were so high. I felt dead emptiness and reacted poorly to seeing her at the gym (just ignored her and tried to pretend she wasn't there). I don't think that was kind of me. Sadly, I know that explaining myself to her wouldn't go anywhere, but I could at least be courteous next time. Long story, but I need to drop my expectations just as you're saying.
better be alone and at peace with your own mind, free of expectations and thinking about what others might think of you (thd girl), than being a prisoner of those thoughts. And don’t forget, the things that are destined for you will always turn up. Always.
“The stress is so high because the expectation is so high”. Beautiful quote to learn that I can lower my stress. My intention now is to first, expect less of myself. Now I am studying psychology in babysteps and for the first time enjoy studying🙏 Thanks to the Alimighty who leads me to green pastures of which this channel is an example. I am sending blessings to all of you here🌻
As a 24 year old man his videos help a lot, they provide me with guidance and peace, I can apply some of its wisdom to my own life challenges. Thank you Dewayne
I'm just a 23 yo girl but when you talked about approaching life like its a hallmark movie it hited me so hard because i've been living in that expectation for more than 7 years of my life, expecting it to be such a beautiful and soft future, and all i gained from that was disappointment. And its so hard to let it go of that view because i feel like if i leave those expectations, my dreams will not come true... and to accept life as it is right now is such a hard thing to do, because its not good. Living has been a torment. So i get divided by these thoughts :(
Accepting things as they truly are does not mean that you have to give up on your dreams. I think reducing ones expectations actually softens the blow of reality. I've always told myself, hope for the best and prepare for the worst. It's not irrational or wrong to consider what possibilities the future might hold, but you can't live in the future and the present at the same time. It takes many, many years, perhaps even a lifetime, to accomplish the things you aspire to. There will be years of torment, and there will be years of rejoicing. Life is not supposed to "be" any particular way. We have to play the cards we are dealt, and hope for the best. 23 is very young, you have so much time to figure things out. I hope you are able to find some peace soon.
I think he doesn't mean to expect to be disappointed or expect that dreams won't come true, he just means don't presume enough to think you know how it will turn out, as that only causes misery and confusion. Be adventurous and not naively (even if sub consciously) expect that life will play out like you think it will. It's difficult to switch things like that, still, nothing changes until we try to change it. Have unwavering belief in yourself without a hint of entitlement, very difficult balance to strike but a necessary one.
I wished that I had heard this when I was 19, I'm so grateful for you being here to tell everyone the wisdom & knowledge you do good Sir DeWayne at Wrangler school. Sincerely, ~Paul
This guy knows the seceret and meaning to life, love your videos, every single one of them resonates with me and by the looks of it, all your other viewers. You are literally the most real and wise person on the whole of UA-cam, you deserve a medal. Keep up your good work and spreading your wisdom and helping people like me look at our own problems differently.
I'm 47 now and I learned this long ago. My wife asks me why I am so negative about things. I'm not negative. I am a realist. I don't expect anything. When things go bad it doesn't bother me much because I don't expect much. When great things happen I get so excited. Because I didn't expect it. I've learned long ago just wait to see what happens.
The problem is that when you are young and get everything from your parents you are going to have such large expectations in life that nobody can fulfil them.
38 and in a place where everything is falling apart, this 100% nails three our four things that just aren't working right now. Wish I heard this a decade ago.
Im not even from your country, also we probably "differ greatly" religiously (or so we're told), but I have genuine love for you. Thank you for your wisdom and advice.
When did u get your house/apartment I’m just surprised that my brother is 27 and been working various jobs hardware store mcdonalds daycare and I thought he would’ve he saves enough I don’t wanna take that long to get my own. He’s always questioning when am I going to get this and this I have an idea of what I want. It’s the stress of not having a good boss and dealing with coworkers
@@jessecarlson9529 I was 26, worked FT since 17yrs old. I was an admin/paralegal for Sara Lee for 9yrs & moved onto law firms. My boss for those 9yrs was a certified POS. I put up with it for the money & the friends I had made.
One thing my granddaddy always said was it's good to dream, but you have to follow through. You also have to be adaptable to life's bumps. He also said God gives you the ingredients, but it's up to you to make the cake.
I am 26 years old man and I needed these answers so bad. Whenever I am confused I come to your videos and I find my answers. I am blessed to have a voice like you in my life. I have changed so much little by little taking your words to heart and I am so much ahead from the depressed bottom I was at man was I down but not anymore.
Went to the crawfish shack Friday. Was really looking forward to the beginning of the weekend and some delicious tails with a side of shrimp.. my expectations were high. 30 minutes later I broke open the bag and filled my platter. No shrimp! All the crawfish were small enough to bait a 2/0 hook and were over cooked! I was furious. I paid my hard earned money and had high expectations that the crawfish were gonna be good. What a disappointment. I could only rationalize that if I were selling crawfish that I’d make sure that my product was good and order was complete and I expected the same.
I'm a senior in college almost done 3 classes to go and I needed to hear this...I really need to adjust my perspective and just think about the journey and be grateful for the opportunity. Thanks for your wisdom!
I from from a little village in Poland (Europe) and I really appreciate your thoughts about life. I am very grateful. I feel like I got advice from my father (who I don't have). Have a nice day.
Damn this really hit home for me. Been struggling with this for a while and tend to get very hard on myself if things don’t pan out the way I picture in my head. This video was very helpful and appreciate the wisdom.
I work with horses in argentina. Also my dad has given me the same Rudyard Kipling poem years ago, when I turn into 18 years old. I think good horse people is the same everywhere. I feel very much conected with all your videos eaven not beeing from the country side of the USA. Once we had a texan here, he came to buy some polo horses. He was just like us.. very similar mind set.
"They didn't read the same books I read."😂 I've been there. These videos are great, and I have to say I'm really enjoying the podcast lately. It's great for those of us that gotta drive long distances to work and whatnot. I thought it would be all repeated stuff or filler, but there's value there. Loved the one about Great Men vs Good Men. Cheers.
Nowadays it's called Minimalism or going with the flow. It's better to accept things as they come and adapt to the situation accordingly. Live with what's necessary and you won't be burdened by expectations.
Thank you once again my good sir, for your sophisticated "old school" teachings. I developed low expectations of others but high expectations of myself through life experience. I don't get let down that way for better or worse. I'm responsible for my hapiness, no one else. I've become very independant as a result of having "great expectation" of others in the past. I know I won't let myself down. I live life on an even keel. I don't get too high or too low. Sounds boring and perhaps is, but I feel better overall as opposed to riding the extreme rollorcoaster of emotions.
It's strange, y'know. It feels like right when I'm dealing with a problem, this man releases a video talking about something that seems unrelated to what I'm going through. But when I sit and listen to it, I mean REALLY listen and think on what he's saying, it explains exactly what's wrong. These videos are a blessing, truly.
I needed this, going into an interview tomorrow after 15 years with my old company... I started to create unrealistic expectations in my mind about what the new job could be, but this reminded me to go in humble and with no expectations so I'm not disappointed if things go south. Thank you.
My dad always said that some people believe life is a playground, when in reality it is a battleground. For those playground people, they experience much more disappointment and pain because they have an inaccurate view of things. Going into life knowing it is a battleground makes it all so much easier. Great stuff.
I’ve had to actually live life off of scraped knuckles and bared teeth. You’re so dead wrong about life that I’m sad for you. Things can get so dark so quickly that living life with that expectation leaves no light. You’re stronger than that, don’t let the candle burn out.
Life is both a playground and a battleground. It both allows us to relax and enjoy it at times, and at other times it also holds us unavoidably and undeniably accountable by the consequences of our actions. Life is too short to either only play or only battle; We must learn how to handle a balance of play and battle within our own lives, so that both sides are as enjoyable and as fulfilling as possible.
Caveat: I haven't watched the full video yet, so I might miss some crucial information. My first response: a playground doesn't mean you can't get hurt. There's risks and difficulties, physically, socially and emotionally. Just because you will encounter situations and people you struggle with doesn't make it a battleground. Life can be difficult as is. For me the battleground metaphor adds this dimension of being actively targetted. I don't see how that's constructive or helpful in any way. Maybe a middleground between playground and battlefield can be an obstacle course. It has the element of adversity. Added benefit (for me at least): the immediate awareness there might be obstacles I can't do alone, or on the first try.
A little late to the party on this video but man, this is good advice. It's timeless stuff coming from a man's man who seems to know very much what he's talking about. Thank you sir for taking time to give the rest of us some of your wisdom
Hey Man, i just discovered you at 2 am, but you gave the best motivation and advice I've heard in so long. I've heard the same ideas and thoughts from streamers and influencers, but most are in their luscious homes and rooms, all in their mid twenties and thirties. It never really hit home. But seeing you relaxing on a lawn chair, no editing, with raw and pure thoughts straight from the heart. With looks and stories filled with experience, I feel like I can full take in everything with trust. Thank you.
Greetings from Germany, glad i found your channel! You are spot on, thank you! I used to have expectations of others, jobs, etc. but as a 50 yr. I only have expectations of myself.
👏🏾 I’m beginning to feel guilty about how much I look forward to Dewayne’s videos. This is one of the only men that my husband doesn’t mind me and our son listening to💙
Just got done working my ass off, 15 hour day and just sat on my couch looking so forward to this :) this is the highlight of my day dewayne talking about life in general
@@macksmith6694 coming back here because what I thought was gonna be a leisurely week turned into a tough 60 hour week. Man these hours get rough on me.
This one hit close to home. I as well had high expectations the way I treated people and selfishly I expected in return. People call me their friend and how good of a friend I am but they're always too busy to go out for lunch or throw a ball around. They say they're always too busy but they're hanging out with the same group of friends without me. It caused depression and made me insecure. Exactly as you said sir I show up to my job to work and not make friends. They aren't paying my bills. Be the best and do the best you can. Be the man and let Noone bring you down by their bs. Everyone take care
Just the video I needed at the time I needed it, I'm going through a lonely stage because I walked away from people I consider toxic in my life, I had expectations placed on these people that were never met. I've been training my body with calisthenics and weights for about 6 months and going out for a run every day, and I don't see big changes, maybe they're there, but my expectations don't let me see them, because of these expectations I live with fits of rage and a lot of anger accumulated, I'm going to work on it, I'm 19 years old and your videos help me a lot as a guide, it's nice to see you speaking with that calm, wisdom and honesty, thank you very much.
Hey I read ur comment and I realized I'm sorta going thru the same things. Just wanted to let u know to not over exert yourself with exercise and physical betterment needs to be paired with "internal" improvement as well! But you're here watching this video, so I'd say that's a pretty damn good step for personal improvement. It's about the changes inside!
Brother you are spot on. So much emphasis is given to movies, books, and music as the guide to life; it's called fiction for a reason. Ideals are not the same as reality. Have a blessed day and a safe trip.
Thank you for this life lesson video. It's something that I do need to hear, since so many young people (including myself) can easily fall under the social pressure of unwise adults.
Afternoon Dwayne, thanks for the video. Always enjoy seeing your face pop up in the feed. Going through a tough period in the relationship where we’re giving one another time and space. Big expectations have been the single biggest factor in my mood during this difficult time. I’m learning that curbing my expectations doesn’t have to be a bad thing and it makes things hurt less, right now.
I agree that expectation management can reduce disappointment and take off the pressure, but, on the flipside, you can also set high expectations for yourself and it will give you energy and motivation on a daily basis. The danger is if you don't reach the expectations. But then again, you may reach higher if you expect higher even if you don't achieve 100%. This is only for expectations of yourself, not others. Expecting little from others is probably a good bet.
I most definitely needed to hear this, what an absolute blessing this channel has become, I praise the Lord for this channel this man is the definition of a good man, a wise man someone worthy of listening to.
I watch your videos all the time ever time you recommend a cigar I go buy one . This one here is really good! Thanks for the wisdom brotherhood of the leaf
Brothers of the leaf. Like to smoke a cigar while I listen to you. Like talking to a friend and just listening to what he has to say. Thanks for the knowledge you give.
Thank you very much for passing on the advice. This helped me calm down and better collect thoughts I was already having and helped me understand that I've been doing pretty good so far despite my own faults
I will never lower my expectations or my standards. However, I also live in the world of reality. I never expect anything more than what I would expect from myself. If things go south I walk away and most of time don’t look back. When I’m done, I’m done. I give more grace to people than they deserve, but there does come a point that I have no more grace to give. There’s a saying I kinda live by. “If I cut you out of my life, chances are you handed me the scissors” if I have something worth saying I say it. I was raised to be independent but I also am not afraid of asking for help or learning new things. But in this world there are only two people I rely on, and that is myself and God. I have learned if I don’t have confidence in myself no one else will either. Life is hard, it’s a daily struggle. The joy I find is few and far between but I am grateful for it. No one ever said life was gonna be easy, but they never said it was going to be this hard. I appreciate your wisdom and the exceptional ability you have of conveying your philosophies.
100% right! I am a carpenter and it's been a great experience! To see anything I built with my own hands is a great feeling! How ever some people can't handle hard work and won't like it!
Dewayne, thank you for just simply putting your true self out there and pursuing your calling. A lot of folks need to be having these kinds of discussions more often - and at 27 years old, I've really needed to hear the things you talk about. I'm glad I can listen to you on Spotify now, great decision.
I needed to hear this man because nowadays my expectations always get blown down. I'm learning I can't control as bad as I want to I can only control me and how I react to things. It's so hard to walk away when you know something could be so much better. I just subscribed as well.
Go back and watch a few more videos, it's an immersion that you may appreciate. I don't know your situation, but learning to stop trying to control is a valuable lesson. Sailboats don't control the wind, they just use it to get them to the next destination.
@firemike262 thanks for the advice brother. I plan to watch his previous videos and future ones for sure, his wisdom and calm demener hits home for me.
I wish someone just told me this earlier (though I understand I'm still pretty young), to not sub consciously expect your life to play out like a movie, but be adventurous in your pursuits, instead of expecting things to work out say "Let's see what's around that corner", it's so simple but not doing this has caused me immense pain time and time again. If you have presumptions about a situation your judgement will be clouded and if your lofty expectations are not met you will suffer unnecessarily.
This is going to create a lot of chatter… Bravo ! Expectations can also be seen as a trial and error process. You must have expectations in order to move forward in life… expectations are the Temperature Gauges !
This is what an influencer ought to be.
exactly
💯💯💯👌🏼 couldn’t have said it any better.
Agreed 👍
Facts. Can’t stop watching Dwayne, he’s having such a huge influence in my life.
Yes!
He always seems to know when we need him most. His last few videos have really been on the mark with what I’ve been dealing with. Helps a lot.
no kidding. This dude... well he's not the guy we deserve but he's the guy we need.
facts!
he talks about things which are always relevant. That's why it seems the timing is just right.
The Narrator. Hes the Narrator.
true!
Every time you say "maybe somebody needed to hear that," just know that you're right.
Agreed! Whole-heartedly.
My grandmother once said that A happy life was achieved by wanting the Things you got, not getting the things you want
That's even more profound that happiness is an inside job or love yourself first. I'm going to keep that one and discard the social media deal I picked up all throughout the 2010s.
Crap not deal.
Absolutely... Your grandmother is or was an extremely wise person. Thank you so much for sharing that with us.
Love this, thank you.
She has been reading Epictetus, good on her
The destination is not the reward, the journey is the reward.
A wise man with incredible insight.
Indeed
@@christopherru100 he has mentioned it in a video or two. I believe he’s in his 50’s
he's been through it and traveled many a city
okay, I won't have too high expectations, but I refuse to have none at all..
Yeah he's a cool dude.
Right there with you Dewayne.
At 61 I don't have time for "friends" that are not quality individuals and those that carry themselves with integrity.
But over the years I have learned to cut people slack (not excuse bad behavior), and take them as they are.
"Expectations" can be a mental trap you can never escape from and that leads to disappointment, as you've said.
"Keep your expectations low and you will never be disappointed."
- Kratos, God of War
~Dewayne, God of Wisdom
This man doesn't miss. These are the kind of guys we need to be listening to and aspiring to be like.
To hell with Andrew Jones or whatever that bald skinny head dude is called
When you know who you are, you will see yourself in everyone.
I'm a 30 yr old husband and father of 3. Moving the wife and kids to a off grid home on about 25 acres up here in Nova Scotia.
I fell in the category of young men who were lost. Personal responsibility and good guidance has got me where I am today. I thank you for the guidance. Never touched a horse but I'll be having a newfoundland pony to clear about 5 acres by hand. Gonna trust the process, keep it up. Us young men need old men like you to teach us the way.
As a fellow Canadian you have my complete respect for where you've come from and where you're heading, stay the course and welcome any challenges. You'll be able to get up every morning, look in the mirror and know that you have created a quality life for your wife and children.
I am planning to go to Nova Scotia later this year to reconnect with my Mi'kmaq relatives. My great-grandmother was removed at age 6 so that part of our heritage was lost.
Tip: Dont get alot of animals, tedious caretaking, diseases, growing market for greens, etc. Spend that time with the family..
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You're resolution will carry you far. Just take the bad with the good and the good with the bad. Keep yourself well and you will overcome many thing should they happen!!
Thank you. You're right. I'm 26 and lonely. I have a good salary, lift weights, dress pretty well. I expected that I was finally ready to date based on the person I thought I had become. I met this girl at the gym, and built some rapport. We had so many things in common. I finally asked for her number and took her on smoothie date. It was going so well at first that I asked if she wanted to hike the next day. She said what a nice time she had and was looking forward to the next date. My expectations were so high. My bliss was so high. I thought it was my turn. Then after the hike, she said that she didn't want to lead me on into thinking we could hang out a lot because she was going to probably leave the area for graduate school and not go to graduate school in the area. I know I must have gone overboard and smothered her due to inexperience because my expectations were so high. I felt dead emptiness and reacted poorly to seeing her at the gym (just ignored her and tried to pretend she wasn't there). I don't think that was kind of me. Sadly, I know that explaining myself to her wouldn't go anywhere, but I could at least be courteous next time. Long story, but I need to drop my expectations just as you're saying.
better be alone and at peace with your own mind, free of expectations and thinking about what others might think of you (thd girl), than being a prisoner of those thoughts. And don’t forget, the things that are destined for you will always turn up. Always.
You did good, don’t even expect expectations if that makes sense or cents, just do you bro, things will come
good on her for not leading you on and good on you for realising and taking accountability. both things are very important
She was honest with you that is a huge plus in this day and age. There's good ladies about just be patient would be my advice.
“The stress is so high because the expectation is so high”. Beautiful quote to learn that I can lower my stress. My intention now is to first, expect less of myself. Now I am studying psychology in babysteps and for the first time enjoy studying🙏 Thanks to the Alimighty who leads me to green pastures of which this channel is an example. I am sending blessings to all of you here🌻
Man just dropped some of the best knowledge of my life, followed with a "I don't know"
I'm almost 70. And have learned a few things from this Wiseman.
“The days that I keep my gratitude higher than my expectations - well, I have really good days.” - Ray Wylie Hubbard
I started going through life with no expectations a few years ago, and it's made my life 100% better, I couldn't agree more
I've said for a long time "if you set the bar just barely off the floor for everyday life, your day can hardly ever be ruined."
As a 24 year old man his videos help a lot, they provide me with guidance and peace, I can apply some of its wisdom to my own life challenges. Thank you Dewayne
Same here brotha! Wishing you the best in 2023🎉
Also 24 here. Agreed, this one was needed.
im 24 too
Greetings from Ireland. You are a very wise man. Love listening to you. Thanks.
Blessed are they who expect nothing, for they shall not be disappointed.
I'm just a 23 yo girl but when you talked about approaching life like its a hallmark movie it hited me so hard because i've been living in that expectation for more than 7 years of my life, expecting it to be such a beautiful and soft future, and all i gained from that was disappointment. And its so hard to let it go of that view because i feel like if i leave those expectations, my dreams will not come true... and to accept life as it is right now is such a hard thing to do, because its not good. Living has been a torment. So i get divided by these thoughts :(
Accepting things as they truly are does not mean that you have to give up on your dreams. I think reducing ones expectations actually softens the blow of reality. I've always told myself, hope for the best and prepare for the worst. It's not irrational or wrong to consider what possibilities the future might hold, but you can't live in the future and the present at the same time. It takes many, many years, perhaps even a lifetime, to accomplish the things you aspire to. There will be years of torment, and there will be years of rejoicing. Life is not supposed to "be" any particular way. We have to play the cards we are dealt, and hope for the best. 23 is very young, you have so much time to figure things out. I hope you are able to find some peace soon.
I think he doesn't mean to expect to be disappointed or expect that dreams won't come true, he just means don't presume enough to think you know how it will turn out, as that only causes misery and confusion.
Be adventurous and not naively (even if sub consciously) expect that life will play out like you think it will. It's difficult to switch things like that, still, nothing changes until we try to change it.
Have unwavering belief in yourself without a hint of entitlement, very difficult balance to strike but a necessary one.
I wished that I had heard this when I was 19, I'm so grateful for you being here to tell everyone the wisdom & knowledge you do good Sir DeWayne at Wrangler school.
Sincerely, ~Paul
I wish someone explained this to me when I was a kid. I learned the extra hard way.
This guy knows the seceret and meaning to life, love your videos, every single one of them resonates with me and by the looks of it, all your other viewers. You are literally the most real and wise person on the whole of UA-cam, you deserve a medal. Keep up your good work and spreading your wisdom and helping people like me look at our own problems differently.
I'm 47 now and I learned this long ago. My wife asks me why I am so negative about things. I'm not negative. I am a realist. I don't expect anything. When things go bad it doesn't bother me much because I don't expect much. When great things happen I get so excited. Because I didn't expect it. I've learned long ago just wait to see what happens.
No cuts, no editing, no animations, no adhd, just some guy sitting outside with a cigar talking facts. 10/10
The problem is that when you are young and get everything from your parents you are going to have such large expectations in life that nobody can fulfil them.
Hey, I just wanna thank you. I’ve had the worst day today and I feel like this applied directly to me. I’m taking this to heart
Head up champ! Never down, always up 👍🏻
Sorry to hear that. I hope this morning was somehow incrementally better. One day at time.
Same. Couple days ago i got so disappointed by a sever people within a span of 48 hours and it ruined half of my week. This was what I needed.
Hope your better now!
I think it is great your sponsor items are at the end of the video. I find that pretty cool and shows how much pride you have in your content.
Damn man, this is called reframing in therapy, But this is the best way of explaining it I've ever personally heard.
38 and in a place where everything is falling apart, this 100% nails three our four things that just aren't working right now. Wish I heard this a decade ago.
Mr Dewayne You are the jam Sir, absolutely addicted to your videos daily
I've learned not to make predictions the hard way. No prediction = no drama! helps me keep my peace.
Im not even from your country, also we probably "differ greatly" religiously (or so we're told), but I have genuine love for you. Thank you for your wisdom and advice.
I appreciate you sharing your life's experiences. I'm 66yrs old & I agree with everything you say. Thank you!
When did u get your house/apartment I’m just surprised that my brother is 27 and been working various jobs hardware store mcdonalds daycare and I thought he would’ve he saves enough I don’t wanna take that long to get my own. He’s always questioning when am I going to get this and this I have an idea of what I want. It’s the stress of not having a good boss and dealing with coworkers
@@jessecarlson9529 I was 26, worked FT since 17yrs old. I was an admin/paralegal for Sara Lee for 9yrs & moved onto law firms. My boss for those 9yrs was a certified POS. I put up with it for the money & the friends I had made.
@@jessecarlson9529I personally recommend moving to an area that has low cost of living. That’s the biggest thing. It’s helped me out a lot.
One thing my granddaddy always said was it's good to dream, but you have to follow through. You also have to be adaptable to life's bumps.
He also said God gives you the ingredients, but it's up to you to make the cake.
I am 26 years old man and I needed these answers so bad. Whenever I am confused I come to your videos and I find my answers. I am blessed to have a voice like you in my life. I have changed so much little by little taking your words to heart and I am so much ahead from the depressed bottom I was at man was I down but not anymore.
This channel is indeed great. Hopefully the gospel of Jesus christ can also provide guidance for you
Went to the crawfish shack Friday. Was really looking forward to the beginning of the weekend and some delicious tails with a side of shrimp.. my expectations were high. 30 minutes later I broke open the bag and filled my platter. No shrimp! All the crawfish were small enough to bait a 2/0 hook and were over cooked! I was furious. I paid my hard earned money and had high expectations that the crawfish were gonna be good. What a disappointment. I could only rationalize that if I were selling crawfish that I’d make sure that my product was good and order was complete and I expected the same.
I'm a senior in college almost done 3 classes to go and I needed to hear this...I really need to adjust my perspective and just think about the journey and be grateful for the opportunity. Thanks for your wisdom!
These are wise words. Just don’t lower your standards and get those confused with expectations.
I'm 44 years old. Absolutely love watching this guys videos. Very smart and the wisdom shows.
"Expectation is the root of all heartache." -William Shakespeare
Dewayne, what a God send you are. Thank you for taking the time to share your experiences with us in such a warm and very effective manner. 🙏
Expectations are the breeding ground of disappointment. Very very very true.
I from from a little village in Poland (Europe) and I really appreciate your thoughts about life. I am very grateful. I feel like I got advice from my father (who I don't have). Have a nice day.
Thank you brother…. Wisdom can be funny! Love you
Damn this really hit home for me. Been struggling with this for a while and tend to get very hard on myself if things don’t pan out the way I picture in my head. This video was very helpful and appreciate the wisdom.
I work with horses in argentina.
Also my dad has given me the same Rudyard Kipling poem years ago, when I turn into 18 years old. I think good horse people is the same everywhere. I feel very much conected with all your videos eaven not beeing from the country side of the USA. Once we had a texan here, he came to buy some polo horses. He was just like us.. very similar mind set.
"They didn't read the same books I read."😂 I've been there.
These videos are great, and I have to say I'm really enjoying the podcast lately. It's great for those of us that gotta drive long distances to work and whatnot. I thought it would be all repeated stuff or filler, but there's value there. Loved the one about Great Men vs Good Men. Cheers.
13:01 Yeah... I needed to hear this. Your wisdom won't be taken for granted. Thank you.
Nowadays it's called Minimalism or going with the flow. It's better to accept things as they come and adapt to the situation accordingly. Live with what's necessary and you won't be burdened by expectations.
Yes sir. It’s easy to get caught up in expectations, best to just go with the flow and take em as they come!!! 💪🇺🇸💯
Thank you once again my good sir, for your sophisticated "old school" teachings. I developed low expectations of others but high expectations of myself through life experience. I don't get let down that way for better or worse. I'm responsible for my hapiness, no one else. I've become very independant as a result of having "great expectation" of others in the past. I know I won't let myself down. I live life on an even keel. I don't get too high or too low. Sounds boring and perhaps is, but I feel better overall as opposed to riding the extreme rollorcoaster of emotions.
It's strange, y'know. It feels like right when I'm dealing with a problem, this man releases a video talking about something that seems unrelated to what I'm going through. But when I sit and listen to it, I mean REALLY listen and think on what he's saying, it explains exactly what's wrong. These videos are a blessing, truly.
Every now and then we stumble upon some gold. This man is that gold.
I needed this, going into an interview tomorrow after 15 years with my old company... I started to create unrealistic expectations in my mind about what the new job could be, but this reminded me to go in humble and with no expectations so I'm not disappointed if things go south. Thank you.
Good luck brotha wish you the best
My dad always said that some people believe life is a playground, when in reality it is a battleground. For those playground people, they experience much more disappointment and pain because they have an inaccurate view of things. Going into life knowing it is a battleground makes it all so much easier. Great stuff.
I’ve had to actually live life off of scraped knuckles and bared teeth. You’re so dead wrong about life that I’m sad for you. Things can get so dark so quickly that living life with that expectation leaves no light. You’re stronger than that, don’t let the candle burn out.
Eh, wrong sentiment, the cowboy dad is right but you chose the wrong words
Life is both a playground and a battleground. It both allows us to relax and enjoy it at times, and at other times it also holds us unavoidably and undeniably accountable by the consequences of our actions. Life is too short to either only play or only battle; We must learn how to handle a balance of play and battle within our own lives, so that both sides are as enjoyable and as fulfilling as possible.
Caveat: I haven't watched the full video yet, so I might miss some crucial information.
My first response: a playground doesn't mean you can't get hurt. There's risks and difficulties, physically, socially and emotionally. Just because you will encounter situations and people you struggle with doesn't make it a battleground. Life can be difficult as is. For me the battleground metaphor adds this dimension of being actively targetted. I don't see how that's constructive or helpful in any way.
Maybe a middleground between playground and battlefield can be an obstacle course. It has the element of adversity. Added benefit (for me at least): the immediate awareness there might be obstacles I can't do alone, or on the first try.
@@123Mathzak I was about to write a similar response, but then I saw your comment. I agree 💯%.
He's absolutely right. Expectations are landmines you lay for yourself ahead in your timeline.
The Word of The Most High is an excellent base line & foundational point for establishing expectations of this life
A little late to the party on this video but man, this is good advice. It's timeless stuff coming from a man's man who seems to know very much what he's talking about. Thank you sir for taking time to give the rest of us some of your wisdom
Hey Man, i just discovered you at 2 am, but you gave the best motivation and advice I've heard in so long.
I've heard the same ideas and thoughts from streamers and influencers, but most are in their luscious homes and rooms, all in their mid twenties and thirties. It never really hit home.
But seeing you relaxing on a lawn chair, no editing, with raw and pure thoughts straight from the heart. With looks and stories filled with experience, I feel like I can full take in everything with trust.
Thank you.
Greetings from Germany, glad i found your channel! You are spot on, thank you! I used to have expectations of others, jobs, etc. but as a 50 yr. I only have expectations of myself.
Thank you for your podcasts and videos Dwayne We appreciate the time that you spend for us
Wow. Thank you sir for this. Was needed more than you know.
👏🏾 I’m beginning to feel guilty about how much I look forward to Dewayne’s videos. This is one of the only men that my husband doesn’t mind me and our son listening to💙
Not everyone has living grandparents that can share their life experiences. Thank you for articulating your life guidance with the younger generation.
Unrealistic expectations has been an issue for me for a while now (long while). Thank you for helping to bring light to this!
So, so true about expectations!! Dont expect then you'll never be disappointed. Very wise words to live by.
Just got done working my ass off, 15 hour day and just sat on my couch looking so forward to this :) this is the highlight of my day dewayne talking about life in general
Man I’ve had those days. Tough. Longest day I ever worked was either 22 or 23 hours.
My average day is 12 hours quite often 7 days a week,just keep doing it and banging it out while it's still available and while you still can.
Those are some long hours, keep it up y’all 👊
@@macksmith6694 coming back here because what I thought was gonna be a leisurely week turned into a tough 60 hour week. Man these hours get rough on me.
I have smoked cigars 50 years. Watching you tought me the proper way. Tks much.
This one hit close to home. I as well had high expectations the way I treated people and selfishly I expected in return. People call me their friend and how good of a friend I am but they're always too busy to go out for lunch or throw a ball around. They say they're always too busy but they're hanging out with the same group of friends without me. It caused depression and made me insecure. Exactly as you said sir I show up to my job to work and not make friends. They aren't paying my bills. Be the best and do the best you can. Be the man and let Noone bring you down by their bs. Everyone take care
You are 100% correct I hear you my friend
Just the video I needed at the time I needed it, I'm going through a lonely stage because I walked away from people I consider toxic in my life, I had expectations placed on these people that were never met. I've been training my body with calisthenics and weights for about 6 months and going out for a run every day, and I don't see big changes, maybe they're there, but my expectations don't let me see them, because of these expectations I live with fits of rage and a lot of anger accumulated, I'm going to work on it, I'm 19 years old and your videos help me a lot as a guide, it's nice to see you speaking with that calm, wisdom and honesty, thank you very much.
Hey I read ur comment and I realized I'm sorta going thru the same things. Just wanted to let u know to not over exert yourself with exercise and physical betterment needs to be paired with "internal" improvement as well! But you're here watching this video, so I'd say that's a pretty damn good step for personal improvement. It's about the changes inside!
I.. don’t… even have words to describe how relevant this is in my life.
Brother you are spot on. So much emphasis is given to movies, books, and music as the guide to life; it's called fiction for a reason. Ideals are not the same as reality. Have a blessed day and a safe trip.
Thank you for this life lesson video. It's something that I do need to hear, since so many young people (including myself) can easily fall under the social pressure of unwise adults.
As a 21yr old I really appreciate this channel. It’s a great guidance channel 💯
Afternoon Dwayne, thanks for the video. Always enjoy seeing your face pop up in the feed.
Going through a tough period in the relationship where we’re giving one another time and space.
Big expectations have been the single biggest factor in my mood during this difficult time.
I’m learning that curbing my expectations doesn’t have to be a bad thing and it makes things hurt less, right now.
You and your wife are like the parents I never had. Thanks for sharing all of your wisdom.
I agree that expectation management can reduce disappointment and take off the pressure, but, on the flipside, you can also set high expectations for yourself and it will give you energy and motivation on a daily basis. The danger is if you don't reach the expectations. But then again, you may reach higher if you expect higher even if you don't achieve 100%.
This is only for expectations of yourself, not others. Expecting little from others is probably a good bet.
Fire 🔥 u can never make too many videos theyre all good - we love the cigar stuff too it’s classy
I most definitely needed to hear this, what an absolute blessing this channel has become, I praise the Lord for this channel this man is the definition of a good man, a wise man someone worthy of listening to.
Placing high expectations on yourself can also lead to disappointment. Like you say, just have fun! 😊🐎
Needed to hear this. Thank you and God bless
I watch your videos all the time ever time you recommend a cigar I go buy one . This one here is really good! Thanks for the wisdom brotherhood of the leaf
I enjoy these philosophical videos especially. Thanks.
Brothers of the leaf. Like to smoke a cigar while I listen to you. Like talking to a friend and just listening to what he has to say. Thanks for the knowledge you give.
Thank you very much for passing on the advice. This helped me calm down and better collect thoughts I was already having and helped me understand that I've been doing pretty good so far despite my own faults
I will never lower my expectations or my standards. However, I also live in the world of reality. I never expect anything more than what I would expect from myself. If things go south I walk away and most of time don’t look back. When I’m done, I’m done. I give more grace to people than they deserve, but there does come a point that I have no more grace to give. There’s a saying I kinda live by. “If I cut you out of my life, chances are you handed me the scissors” if I have something worth saying I say it. I was raised to be independent but I also am not afraid of asking for help or learning new things. But in this world there are only two people I rely on, and that is myself and God. I have learned if I don’t have confidence in myself no one else will either. Life is hard, it’s a daily struggle. The joy I find is few and far between but I am grateful for it. No one ever said life was gonna be easy, but they never said it was going to be this hard. I appreciate your wisdom and the exceptional ability you have of conveying your philosophies.
Really what I needed to hear today. This won't be my last time watching. Thank you so much for your experience and wisdom.
100% right! I am a carpenter and it's been a great experience! To see anything I built with my own hands is a great feeling! How ever some people can't handle hard work and won't like it!
Dewayne, thank you for just simply putting your true self out there and pursuing your calling. A lot of folks need to be having these kinds of discussions more often - and at 27 years old, I've really needed to hear the things you talk about. I'm glad I can listen to you on Spotify now, great decision.
Stoic mindset digested and fed to us by Dewayne. As a fellow baby bird, I'm grateful.
I needed to hear this man because nowadays my expectations always get blown down. I'm learning I can't control as bad as I want to I can only control me and how I react to things. It's so hard to walk away when you know something could be so much better. I just subscribed as well.
Go back and watch a few more videos, it's an immersion that you may appreciate. I don't know your situation, but learning to stop trying to control is a valuable lesson. Sailboats don't control the wind, they just use it to get them to the next destination.
@firemike262 thanks for the advice brother. I plan to watch his previous videos and future ones for sure, his wisdom and calm demener hits home for me.
If you're a young person- this is the best advice you'll ever get. Unfortunately it's something most of us have to learn the hard way.
Im 23 and a wife with 2 sons. And i love your videos. Helped me so much with my mindset and just wanting to be a better person all around. Thank you.
I wish someone just told me this earlier (though I understand I'm still pretty young), to not sub consciously expect your life to play out like a movie, but be adventurous in your pursuits, instead of expecting things to work out say "Let's see what's around that corner", it's so simple but not doing this has caused me immense pain time and time again. If you have presumptions about a situation your judgement will be clouded and if your lofty expectations are not met you will suffer unnecessarily.
Greetings from Mississippi love the content you're touching not only your own race but blacks also
This is going to create a lot of chatter… Bravo ! Expectations can also be seen as a trial and error process. You must have expectations in order to move forward in life… expectations are the Temperature Gauges !
Really needed this today ✨❤️