As a man, being nice is such a good trait. The fact that women don't want anything with you opens up a lot more opportunities of doing whatever you want without needing to care about being attached to somebody. If you don't connect with someone don't worry, just keep doing normal life, achieving your goals and such, cause in reality the only thing you should care about is yourself, and most of the times somebody would come to your life with the perfect timing, to ruin what you have built. Honestly speaking, when those women that think they are funny see there's no other way of getting somebody or the fun is over, then they go with those *nice guys* who, at the same time, are already done with that bullshit. Seriously, do not give a fuck, live your life and be happy.
The real problem is nice guys are unfairly labeled as weak or manipulative because they aren't like the abusive father you grew up with. Before you look for that next jerk, look for a good psychiatrist.
Long -Term- Relationship is dead globally all due to smartphones. No one meets women anymore face to face like before smartphones came out. Cold approach is dead too. Today women don't even look or smile anymore, all on their cell phones 24/7 on dating apps for hookups. No wonder why men have given up!
I dont think it is unfairly. A man is supposed to take charge, break barriers, be the leader. A nice guy will play it safe, then get butthurt if being nice doesnt result in sex or progression of the relationship. Women want a leader, someone to take charge. The guys who are jerks take charge, do their thing without care for what others think. That is an attractive trait to women because it signals the man knows what he wants, isnt afraid to go get it, and will follow through. Nice guys leave it up to the woman, and women don't want that. Nice guys also tend to be clingy and enough of those clingy guys turn into stalkers for women to be weary of them.
@@GaryTongue-zn5di I agree with this statement. In the social media-driven world we live in today where so many people are selfish, fake, manipulative, toxic, untrustworthy, and embrace the victim mentality, those who are genuinely kind and authentically care for others and look out for them are in rare commodity. That being said, you also want to balance that with being able to establish boundaries in a firm yet healthy way. You don’t want to be a toxic asshat, but women find it absolutely sexy when a man draws a line in the sand, it sends the message that he has a lot of dignity/ respect for himself and won’t tolerate bullshit behaviors from others.
I'am nice guy and that's perfect for me because when woman don't give me attention I can earn money for yourself and can travel around world without asking nobody, with 44 years old my health is perfect and I see my friends are jelous because I have many options to do everything 😊😊😊😊
Plus when you start living with them, they re a lot more ugly than dating or each having your own place. They have a childish personality, uninteligent, eats, poops , farts, us single guys might have it better than we think. S.E. asia or even Latin America has more appreciative REAL women.
Value yourself! This applies not just in dating life but also in every interpersonal relationships. The resultant circle may be small but it will be a high quality one.
@@DatingByBlaine We need to ban smartphones and all dating apps and will go back like 20 years ago. 20 years ago women were approaching. With an Italian background from Canada. I'm 55, 5.10 average, never married and have no kids. I've given up on women. Today women are on their cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. I can't wait till AI will be destroying women and only then will women be begging for men. I have my condo and money so I'll die with my money. Today 90% are insecure and toxic. Relationships are dead, it's all hookups now with high body counts. Women marry to control the marriage so married men end up cheating. Marriage brings nothing for the men. I'm off the market.
These modern women who say they want the bad boy do so, but usually for hook ups and casul sex. Once they hit 33-35 and they realize the bad boy passes them up for a 18 - twenty something y.o., they will then look for a nice guy who offers them stability.
They never stop wanting the badboy; they simply use the good man for his money while continuing to sleep with the losers. I am nearly 50 and women my age are doing exactly that.
@@chrisandsneaky2453True dat. I am 60 and I have seen women in their 60s doing this still. They keep a “nice” guy boyfriend but will cheat with a sexy bad boy.
I like the video, useful tips on self prioritization. I dislike the concept of "friendzone". It's like "don't make a mistake, don't text the wrong thing, don't be too nice" etc, or you'll blow it. Just be yourself.
Some people chose guys that are a bit rough bad boy type but end up being a battered wife and girlfriend with lawyers and 911 on their cellphone as a result very traumatic
Gee, when I've flat out disagreed about things with my first dates, they often got argumentative and lost interest, realizing we were not compatible on topics they really cared about. Not saying I should have been a simp and agreed with them, just to keep up my chances for a second date. I'm just saying that disagreeing with your date will often lead to her losing interest in you.
Depends what the conversation topic is about. If it is a core foundation like religion, politics, approach to life consider it a good vetting process for yourself. Don't approach dating as trying to win her over, instead approach it from a perspective of what does she bring to the table to keep me interested? If she disagrees with your foundational topics have fun on the date, then filter her out of your life and find somebody who matches you better.
@@Elementalism that's eventually what I did. And, no, I wasn't trying to win her over, because we were already in a serious relationship and in love when shit started to hit the fan on a regular basis with my different opinions and with not necessarily taking her side when she disagreements with other people if I did not agree with her position.
Just discovered your channel and am enjoying your videos. I used to believe being like Nice Guy Nate was being a gentleman, until I dated women who straightened me out. Self priority is extremely important. Great video, BTW!
This was the best explanation I have heard so far. I have seen so many videos trying to explain these words where it seems to be a strong conservative bias which is extremely annoying. These "nice guys" phrase is just one of these vage, broad stupid phrases and labels that are used that can be interpreted in tons of different ways and people often take advantage of such words to mean whatever benefits their own agenda. When it comes to the interaction with another person, I tend to talk a lot of myself and my own interests and then I have been told to show interest by asking questions. But surprisingly, my questions some times scare more people away than if I had continued to talk about whether came to my mind. "What sexes do your children have?", "Why was marriage so important to you? ...for practical reasons? Because you had kids together? And why did you wait? Because it would be more difficult to part ways of your relationship took a turn to the worse?", "Have you been robbing many banks recently?" etc. There is always something wrong with my questions in the eyes of others, it seems. I would never accept a woman who puts herself on a piedestal and thinks that since I am the guy, I have to lead the conversation or take all the initiatives. I know my value. I am not an entertainer and I will not try to convince anyone of anything; I am a human being! When it comes to taking care of my own life and get everything to work, it would be helpful if our society stopped treat me as an autistic person like a patient that needs rehabilitation rather than a person what special needs. If I sat in Wheelchair people wouldn't say that I need training so that I can walk again. But when it comes to us with autism, it is actually often we who can do practically everything ourselves and are reasonably intelligent who struggle the most, because we are treated like addicts needing to change habits despite the fact the autism cannot be cured. I don't feel ashamed for saying that I receive weekly help and support and help in my home because I am autistic, but it feels debasing to say that 46 y.o. I am still struggling to get my everyday life to work. More independence in the eyes of our society, in reality, makes us more handicaped and less able to live a full life and make progress and reach our personal goals. To be honest, I also find women who put themselves first more attractive. I don't want her to be support person who takes care of her own business, but doesn't need me in my life! If I have something to add to your life, take what you want from me given that I can provide it! It's extremely unattractive when women try to figure out what kind of a person I am, but don't show me their own feelings, struggles and needs. However, the video doesn't mention sexual attraction. One thing that annoys me is that when it comes to sex, men are not supposed to explain their personal needs. I refuse to conform to that and always say how it is right away after a conversation about sex has been opened. I often hear that women are attractive to more masculine men, but "masculinity" comes in many different shapes and forms. I think there is something to this, but a man who is less masculine in nature, can't change his personality to attract more women. Not only does he become a people pleaser, but trying to be something that goes against how you truly are can be detrimental to your mental health. It should be mentioned though that my problem is not going on dates and being put in "friend zone", but that I don't get to meet women at all - I have been on two dates for the last twenty years and I have almost no female friends anymore and I don't meet women in my daily life. Also, I am not exclusively looking for a "serious" relationship, but pretty much everything except text buddies who always never prioritize meeting me in person and engaging in activities with me. I have had enough if the latter (this applies to make friends too)!
Their loss. And if they try to come back mid to late 30’s with some other guy’s kid, it’s gone from a nope to a hell no from me. I don’t think the 25-35 female ‘I’m so full of it even I don’t understand myself’ get this….probably the biggest reason older guys end up with younger women who don’t make this mistake.
the world without genuine kind people, not just men, would be a world riddled with war, cruelty and evil. Is that what people want? Seriously, i always try to be kind, decent and helpful to everyone from humans to animals, and while i will never be attractive or cool or rich or whatever, i am content and happy to live a life in giving and helping. Giving genuine love to others despite never getting it back is a hard thing to do but it is the right thing to do.
Except this isn't how those societies worked. The "nice" hunter cooperated with the other hunters so they would be successful and they shared their catch to provide for the entire group. The asshole was kicked out of the group because surviving required cooperation.
I love myself and I do whatever i want to do! Anything I do I do it for myself and to improve on myself. I am a free and single man, and it’ll take a great woman for me to give time to her.
Don't get me wrong you got alot of very good information but last time I checked sometimes women don't give the best advice on dating women because most women don't even like other women for the most part and most women don't even know what they want but I love knowledge and will listen to anyone so as long as they speak the truth.
@@DatingByBlaine I think it's not too late. I worked with a dating coach in 2011 for about 6 months. So something is telling me I still have the desire.
I'm around the same age and started following Blaine about a year ago. She is awesome. Sign up for her class. I wish someone like her was around for me 30 years ago.
The issue of "nice guys" is about women need for a provider no matter how bad he is, bcs they see the issue of sociale behavior theirs to inculcate to men
Something leads me to believe that this lady is okay with being friends with nice guys but that's only because she wants to get the resources and money by pulling him along and using him
I totally agree with you! Being nice is a lot more nuanced than most of these UA-camrs with their black and white thinking opinions. Well articulated, great coaching.
Your advice would have been gold to the insecure, lonely guy I was fifty years ago, but I'm watching this for my son (I somehow managed to get married, even being the nice guy I am). He's very good looking but single - and convinced that women are the problem. Thanks for this very enlightening and enjoyable to watch video. Some will object that men shouldn't be fixated on "one thing" or women on the strength and "access to resources" that suggests to them which men will best provide for and protect their offspring. But certain things are determined by the facts of biology.
I personally find it absolutely puzzling that someone who thinks that being nice is a sign of a weak individual....I'm a nice man yet when I'm taken advantage of or perhaps even thrown "under the bus " you are definitely going to witness the other side of me.....As nice as I am...I am just as evil...
Blaine, though what some of what you say makes sense. Compared to me it doesn't make sense. When I go out by myself, I go where I want to go. There's no one else here to tell her I'm going here or there. The last lady I took to lunch, I chose the spot, and said let's go to such and such. I paid, because I'm a gentleman. I treated her nice, polite. Later I mean another day as we dated, I would disagree with her like you said and it turned into an argument, every time just about it turned into an argument. She wouldn't take advice I had given her, however later finally told me I was right, she should've listened to me. Now she's with a man that she's totally submissive to. What the HELL? Why is she submissive to him? But argues with me? Please contact me and tell me.
To be honest, being nice is a trait that kicks off a good first impression. Why 'treat them mean, to keep them keen' at the risk of turning them off entirely. Having said that don't cave and agree and pay for everything...be yourself, make her laugh and simply don't expect anything. Be prepared to walk away the moment she shows signs of doubt. Nothing wrong with enjoying your own company also. \m/
Does introversion risk seeming like "being a simp"? Would love a video about introverts. It puts me at ease to listen and walk around in someon else's world when we're just meeting. I learn whether there's a fit for me there. That's a huge value going forward. I get lots of positive feedback/gratitude on this, but can't think of attractive women that seemed to like it.
Daniel, great Q! I'd think of being introverted and "simping" as distinct concepts. The type of listening you described is actually a huge asset dating-wise, and doesn't inherently imply simping IMO. One thing that may help is pushing yourself to share reactions after you listen, particularly if you don't agree with something a woman said
@@DatingByBlaine Being "introverted" or "ambiverted" is another ball park than "simping". You can still be assertive etc ...From my expierence, being "introverted" has more benefits generally than "extroverts". "Extroverts" want to be center front of attention usually while an "introverted/ambivert" will be a good active listener...Too many people slap labels too quickly... I´ll give you a list and then tell me otherwise that they don´t get women, this will also help a lot of men as well with the label "introverted"... Michael Jordan is an introvert. Elon Musk is a self-proclaimed introvert Johnny Depp is actually an introvert Keanu Reeves is an introvert Tom Hardy The Weeknd is definitely an introvert. The Canadian singer has once said that he’s shy and doesn’t like to be in the spotlight. That doesn’t mean he isn’t confident, though. Eminem Matt Damon Jay-Z (He´s with Beyonce, who is also an "introvert") Yes, while I listed a few "introverts", the point is, they get women. Sure they get women possibly because of celeb status, however you will notice a lot of them have also been married for several years , so they know how to keep....
Talking less would make you more of a mystery. Apparently women like that and find it attractive. I wouldn't worry about it looking like simping unless you're just being a yes man with her and agreeing with everything she says.
Oh, and yes, one thing I want to add is that softness is extremely important to me. Speaking your mind is one thing, trying to teach others what is wrong with them and their lives quite another! I reject all people with harsh attitudes who think it is more important to tell what they see than actually listen to the other person and try to understand them. And yes, I am egicentric and tend to focus on myself as an autistic person, but if another person turn to me with their problems, I try to validate them and listen to their stories rather than try to find solutions to them or preach what they should do or judge them for being overwhelmed or down. For me, this has to do with basic respect.
I think what she was really trying to say is Dont act too desperate, be Independent. And act like you can get any girl any time. All traits of a person who IS good looking. So if I do this at 5 ft. 7, ignore your calls for an hour, be more selfish and cocky, than Im gonna be attractive enough for you right????😮 Right???
Thank you for explaining this. However, some women want the man to plan the date to for him to prove leadership, and such. Okay, fine, but the catch would be IF I would take her to a place or activity she does not like. Well I am kinda screwed, because that would kind of ruin her hopeful impression about me, turned negatively. It would be much better just to ask what she would like to do as well? Apparently not. They do not want to think about the plans, that is a mans job. But would later complain about it when its not her "thing" . If she did not like where we went or activity we did. She should have given her input from the very beginning. There is always a contradiction in thinking when it comes to women. Is it being a nice guy to ask what she would like to do so both man and women enjoy each others company?? I guess not.
I´ve come across a lot of what others would consider "Model Looking" women, and can tell you first hand that they have a lot of insecurities . Don´t be that guy who puts her on a pedestool, she´s just as human as you, mutual respect, be there for her as she´s there for you. Don´t be afraid to say no or have a backbone, don´t be an ass, it´s just as off putting as a woman being a B.... As a guy, she´s actually on point with this!
I used to be a nice guy, i changed and putted myself first, i also improved in the looks and confidence department. BUT, i have to say that breaking out of this, women won't magically find you attractive, it will be the same life, but you are more comfortible in yourself, if you don't have any leads after you transform then you are in for a long run, and knowing that you don't get leads BUT don't want to be that "nice guy" either...yeah, you are trapped in a circle until you get leads somehow. It will get you no leads, but at least you'll be in a match better place if opportonuties present themeselves. Peace
The amount of times I've had women telling me how boring their boyfriends are and how they are sick of them being so nice, I've tried explaining to them how that is a good thing and if your boyfriend was a jealous arse hole who battered you and didn't let you hang out with your mates you would not like that either, the reply I got was yeah well he could care a bit more so I said you are at another blokes house at 6 in the morning and you are complaining cos your boyfriend is not kicking off about it 😜 honestly I will never understand women as long as i live 😜
basically.. women want what they must strive to achieve. if something comes too easily, women will go the other way. but not all women are like this. just the weak, easily swayed, lacking personal direction ones. i'm quite sure that a woman who actually knows what she wants will not be dissuaded by a man who is caring. The idea of a man that puts his woman ahead of his own needs I'd say is most often a fantasy. I don't know of any man that does that. If a woman is playing these sorts of games, better to just find another that isn't.
Another way to say this: People confuse correlation with causation - in general, it isn't being nice that's unattractive or being bad that's attractive, it's other things that those guys tend to do that make the difference. It's best to be a good guy and know the things women find attractive.
Right, women are attracted to that. Now folks just remember that attraction is the most horrible foundation for a relationship. Compatibility is what you should be aspiring to have. Someone with whom you can be transparent, give feedback and receive it, someone who respects you and gives you an environment to thrive and find wellness. Things that you wont find if you live by what this video shares.
How are You gonna say something to a Woman that she disagrees with You in a date if You can't get a girl to go on a date with You if You're a "" Nice Guy"" and women don't date "" Nice Guys"" ???
I had exactly that thought several times through this vid. I don't even know who this vid was aimed at. Not the nice guys who get friend-zoned but no dates, not the bad boys who are gonna get laid without Blaine's advice, not Joe Average who has a cloak of invisibility as far as women are concerned, and not the poor b's on the bottom rungs of the rating ladder. Who does that leave?
You shouldn't aim to be an a**hole but if are perceived as one, then it is much better than being a nice guy. Trust me I have been both and being the nice guy is a horrible way to live If you're nice and get nothing, resentment builds. If you're an asshole and get nothing, then you stay true to yourself. Again, to not try to be an asshole. Simply state your needs wants and desires. If they can't match you, then that's OK
Tried that selfish act stuff , Doesn't work , especially Number Two , On Number One , started reading books , Gym , Salsa dancing lessons , In Number Two the moment I disagree with a woman even proving that I was right and she admitting that she was wrong , BooM , DATE OVER ........at least twice
That’s were you went wrong. Stop getting into I’m right discussions. That is not attractive. Ed Mylett says “it is not your job to make people believe what you say: it is your job to show people you believe what you say. “ you can show you have your opinion without arguing. Good luck friend
I really needed this video. This was very helpful to me. I'm a "nice" guy, and I struggle with women. I've always thought, that it can't be that being a nice guy is what turns women off, because being nice is a positive thing. I can't change who I am, I'm nice, and will always be nice. But I can change other things, like how assertive, and confident, I am. Those are things that I can change, and I know I will see a difference when I make those changes to my life. Because what women actually like is confidence, and not just a guy who's a jerk.
Do yourself a favor…move on. Do nothing more than show interest in someone you like and then move on. Let her decide if she likes you. If she does, then maybe give her a chance. These women think far too highly of themselves. Where good men will work night and day to support a family, women are never working hard at a job to support a family…it is all for themselves.
Stop watching this, I have the answer - woman like this prefer having one foot out the door , so if any ANYTHING minor happens, they can ditch and move on to the next guy. Nice guys generally don't do anything wrong, so women find themselves having to choose between actually being happy or seeing what else is out there. Woman don't want happiness, they want excitement.
Nice guys generally do EVERYTHING wrong because they treat a woman the way they think a woman should want to be treated. The a-hole treats them the way they actually want to be treated. You can’t actually make someone happy but you can get them excited!
Maybe it's a better idea to teach girls moral values and to learn to chose a partner based on logic instead of hormones and emotions. And maybe we can save our civilization that way.
This a long range run. Bad boys abandon women in the first three to five years. Leaving their children traumatized without a father to guide them in this evil world. The they want a a good guy who take care of this broken family. This is very stupid. Men need to reject these women until they find a good and humble woman interested in raising a family with love. It is not that difficult.
Nice guys finish last - when it comes to selfish and shallow people judging them. The women who have wised up and realized the errors of their ways in time to keep their nice guy never regret it. Stop encouraging idiots to reject nice guys. It only exacerbates the shallowness problem we have in this world.
@@DatingByBlaine IAM not putting on some fake attitude some fake stuff just cause she wants to be ran through until men no longer want them and she ready to settle down with a real man who just don't wanna use her for a quick fling
Just be yourself and own yourself, guys. You don't have to change jack shit if you are a "nice guy". If your natural self isn't enough for them then they simply don't deserve you. I'm a nice guy and I'm also in an emotionally fulfilling relationship. This idea that you have to change yourself is complete and utter BS.
* "Women want the finished product in men, they are not willing to go through this with him. His growing into life process", and another reason for men to step away from "those women". The "nice guy" and the "Simp" are a description of a good person growing up, and if you don't like it then you can't complain "where have all the good men gone"!!! A good therapist would know this. * The "self-interest" comment is another double standard for women. Where she doesn't like it when he has self-interest, but it's okay if she does. *** All this shows us that women are going through some intense growing pains, and us men need to step away from them as they go through this. OR get caught up in the destruction of their tornado. This is going to last about 10 years. So guys, find something else to do in that time... Independent men will love that "Freedom". And guys that love the companionship of women, need to join men's groups and keep busy. Go in peace.
i wonder if you got an episode on vetting the right women for you. i been running into a lot of not so great women but they dont show those bad signs until later.
I do not understand this current dating culture; actually, it infuriates me. Why is there a need to play mind games? Why can't both a man and woman put all their cards on the table and just be real with one another with their innate personalities? Why must a woman "test" a man in this manner that you described? Based on the information that was presented in this video, is it safe to infer that the majority of women are self-absorbed egomaniacal narcissists who have weaponized their beauty in order to get what they want (or think they want)? I think so. However, once women lose their trump card (looks) typically after age 55, their egos erode and they seek companionship above anything else because their sexual value greatly diminishes in the dating marketplace.
Bro all you said is just fact and I have done a lot of research about "dark female nature" and I have also red a lot of ebook about dark female nature and all this is what you still experience in most women during marriage. It's very important for men to know about dark female nature and know how to be smart when dealing with women.
Treat these women like side quest bro. If u cant get anything out her then toss her. And find another. Lie to get wit u want and cheat whenever u want. There is no prize life is the prize so live it.
My thoughts, for what little they're worth 🤪. There's a big difference between helping someone in need and letting someone bully you. If you're the type of person who puts others needs above your own and those people actually need your help, I think that's very attractive to most people. For example, sacrificing some of your relaxation time to volunteer at a soup kitchen. Doing that is putting others' needs above your own but I think that's awesome and very attractive. This is very different from if some asshole is demanding something they don't deserve but you just go along with it because you want to avoid conflict and it's easier to just give in. That's very unattractive because it's really a lack a courage. By letting someone bully you, you aren't being nice to them. You're just being a coward. That's very unattractive. I personally think that trying to "not be too nice" is the wrong thing to focus on. Yes, don't let people be mean to you without challenging them. Stand up for yourself. And I agree that you shouldn't spend tons of money on a first date because it can make the other person feel like they owe you something. But if you were really kind to someone on a date and they rejected you, I seriously doubt that it's because they think you put other people's needs above your own. I'd expect it's more like they have specific preferences for their partners' personality type, sense of humor, physical appearance, achievements, communication style etc. I just don't think it's because they think someone is too generous to others. Because I think generosity and helping those in need is a great thing (not talking about people taking advantage of you). If a woman seems to date assholes, those assholes are probably very physically attractive, maybe have a lot of money, and likely don't present themselves as assholes at first. They are probably good at appearing kind at first and wait until later to show their more negative traits. It's not their selfishness that was attractive. Women who truly want someone selfish probably have self esteem issues, and you don't want to focus on them anyway. So my advice, as worthless as it is haha: If you get rejected this way, just focus on becoming the best version of yourself according to what you think is best, and find someone else. You likely just weren't compatible. Don't think about being more self interested.
I think 'nice' is not the appropriate word here, because niceness is necessary. Noone likes jerks. The appropriate word here is 'boring' or 'annoying'. If a woman knows exactly what you are going to think, say or do because your behavior is predictable, that makes you a boring and annoying person to be with, and also someone who is probably not honest and behaves the way he does just to seem more lovable or a more perfect match for the woman. I understand that women hate this. Just as men hate when a woman behaves the same way.
I disagree because i am a nice guy and my wife thought so. If i didnt allow cancer to come into our lives and take her life shed be alive this very day and we would still be happy together. I should have stopped it
They say nice guys finish last. More like Nice guys have the last laugh. Because what you call the nice guy is actually a guy who has escaped the matrix. A badass cool guy who’s a main character in a movie. Yet people don’t know him. Unless I am misinterpreting something and is not how I think. However I believe that they say nice guys finish last because they’re all a bunch of pigs and the nice guy is actually a prince. Who has high principles and sees marriage as a serious thing. Not a “game” not a hook up. This was never a game. Playing with people and using them narcissistically is not a game. Many are just so immature and have no idea what a marriage is. Of course don’t get me wrong. A marriage is like a love story and you start from scrap. You know nothing about the other person and the other person knows nothing about you. The fuel of sexual attraction is the mystery. The best part is that in this courtship there are cliff hangers in the movie of the love story. I’m not saying that you jump and propose right away. I’m saying that people need to be clear on what good and bad is. For people to differentiate between good and evil and have morality. This nice guys finish last reminds me of the spider man movie where spider man was the nice guy. And the jerk with the car who had no super powers at all and wasn’t important was the bad guy who got the girl at first by the way. According to what term do you define nice? If is what I think it is than you’re wrong. If it’s a artificial fake nice for manipulation than I would agree with that quote. But as if good people finish last? No 👎 I would say that society has lost their minds and we live in a world that doesn’t have hope nor believes in Happy endings or a solution neither true love they don’t even believe that it exists let alone God. We live in a world that says God doesn’t exist not everyone but a lot. Imagine how powerless and frail is going to be. Anyways this are my thoughts and opinion. Is your choice to believe I’m not shoving a propaganda just standing up for my *truth*
@@sloebone7399 (Nice guys finish last bad guys finish first and get all the ladies. Great men take over the world and dominate it. By great men I mean those men who nobody understands even underestimate them yet they are the masterpieces of the society and world.) What's in parenthesis is the summary is your choice to read the rest. But the meaning of what I am saying is that while everyone is in this lame matrix with their minds full of vanity girls fame cars etc. Without believing that good exists or that true love and happy endings exist everything is artificial and it's all a game to them something so serious and sacred labeled as a game no wonder why there are so many break ups and everything in society is falling apart masculinity is being persecuted and no wonder why there's even so much complaining and division between men and women the world we are living in is just so chaotic. Is like millions of spoiled brats fighting that barely have any wisdom about life not even the tip of the iceberg even I included I humbly say. So in summary don't incline to the artificial fake false good. And don't be a jerk pathetic pig with low standards and morals just because you believe that it will attract women. Do what the truth is the true good and if women and people in general aren't attracted to you because you are in the path of goodness and light. Than that means they are all pigs with low standards. And that so called "nice guy" that people label as unattractive without knowing him. Don't get me wrong some guys are weak with an artificial fake goodness. But that guy that people are bashing and preaching against such behavior about marriage and that you need to treat it as a game. That guy that actually sees marriage for what it is something serious delicate and sacred people just bash that idea and trample it under foot. Yet they have no idea that this guy doesn't need to finish first or last he doesn't need to finish anything he's already owned you and is a great man a legendary warrior. Like the spiderman movie haven't you seen that the main character spiderman was the nerd 🤓 and everyone picked on him? Mary Jane was dating the jerk guy they call the bad guys. Yet look at how spiderman was he was the protagonist and had super powers and beated that jerk bully guy in school.
"Women don't like selfish assholes" - and then proceeds to describe how women like selfish assholes :D
Look at the action becuase it's louder than any spoken word.
@@zensenpai6669 "Asking a fish how to catch it" ~ Patrice Oneal
The internet and social media beg to differ
I love hypocrisy.
Yep
As a man, being nice is such a good trait. The fact that women don't want anything with you opens up a lot more opportunities of doing whatever you want without needing to care about being attached to somebody. If you don't connect with someone don't worry, just keep doing normal life, achieving your goals and such, cause in reality the only thing you should care about is yourself, and most of the times somebody would come to your life with the perfect timing, to ruin what you have built.
Honestly speaking, when those women that think they are funny see there's no other way of getting somebody or the fun is over, then they go with those *nice guys* who, at the same time, are already done with that bullshit.
Seriously, do not give a fuck, live your life and be happy.
The real problem is nice guys are unfairly labeled as weak or manipulative because they aren't like the abusive father you grew up with. Before you look for that next jerk, look for a good psychiatrist.
Long -Term- Relationship is dead globally all due to smartphones. No one meets women anymore face to face like before smartphones came out. Cold approach is dead too. Today women don't even look or smile anymore, all on their cell phones 24/7 on dating apps for hookups. No wonder why men have given up!
I dont think it is unfairly. A man is supposed to take charge, break barriers, be the leader. A nice guy will play it safe, then get butthurt if being nice doesnt result in sex or progression of the relationship. Women want a leader, someone to take charge. The guys who are jerks take charge, do their thing without care for what others think. That is an attractive trait to women because it signals the man knows what he wants, isnt afraid to go get it, and will follow through. Nice guys leave it up to the woman, and women don't want that. Nice guys also tend to be clingy and enough of those clingy guys turn into stalkers for women to be weary of them.
Don't be nice all the time.when you nice she will take you kindness for a weakness.
Kindness and weakness are two completely different things. Kindness is a strength, not a weakness.
@@GaryTongue-zn5di I agree with this statement. In the social media-driven world we live in today where so many people are selfish, fake, manipulative, toxic, untrustworthy, and embrace the victim mentality, those who are genuinely kind and authentically care for others and look out for them are in rare commodity. That being said, you also want to balance that with being able to establish boundaries in a firm yet healthy way. You don’t want to be a toxic asshat, but women find it absolutely sexy when a man draws a line in the sand, it sends the message that he has a lot of dignity/ respect for himself and won’t tolerate bullshit behaviors from others.
NEVER EVER BE NICE
So guys, don't be assholes, but be assholes 😂
I'am nice guy and that's perfect for me because when woman don't give me attention I can earn money for yourself and can travel around world without asking nobody, with 44 years old my health is perfect and I see my friends are jelous because I have many options to do everything 😊😊😊😊
Plus when you start living with them, they re a lot more ugly than dating or each having your own place. They have a childish personality, uninteligent, eats, poops , farts, us single guys might have it better than we think. S.E. asia or even Latin America has more appreciative REAL women.
Based on my first wife, apparently it's because women prefer a drug addict who beats them.
Nuh, u just attracted low value ones maybe coz u r the same.
So true.
Guys are avoiding women altogether now.
All should until they mature…
Question since when benevolence goes all together with selfishness?
Nice guys don’t finish last…. Single mothers do!
Single mothers don't finish at all.
That’s right 😂
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The nice guy dates the single mother. What a combo
Better yet. If a woman says friend zone, or your a nice guy but, it’s time to walk away permanently.
Value yourself! This applies not just in dating life but also in every interpersonal relationships. The resultant circle may be small but it will be a high quality one.
Yes!
@@DatingByBlaine We need to ban smartphones and all dating apps and will go back like 20 years ago. 20 years ago women were approaching. With an Italian background from Canada. I'm 55, 5.10 average, never married and have no kids. I've given up on women. Today women are on their cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. I can't wait till AI will be destroying women and only then will women be begging for men. I have my condo and money so I'll die with my money. Today 90% are insecure and toxic. Relationships are dead, it's all hookups now with high body counts. Women marry to control the marriage so married men end up cheating. Marriage brings nothing for the men. I'm off the market.
These modern women who say they want the bad boy do so, but usually for hook ups and casul sex. Once they hit 33-35 and they realize the bad boy passes them up for a 18 - twenty something y.o., they will then look for a nice guy who offers them stability.
They never stop wanting the badboy; they simply use the good man for his money while continuing to sleep with the losers. I am nearly 50 and women my age are doing exactly that.
@@chrisandsneaky2453True dat. I am 60 and I have seen women in their 60s doing this still. They keep a “nice” guy boyfriend but will cheat with a sexy bad boy.
This video could resume to "don't play her games"
*Nice guys often get overlooked because they don't show their true value. Great insights!*
I like the video, useful tips on self prioritization. I dislike the concept of "friendzone". It's like "don't make a mistake, don't text the wrong thing, don't be too nice" etc, or you'll blow it. Just be yourself.
Some people chose guys that are a bit rough bad boy type but end up being a battered wife and girlfriend with lawyers and 911 on their cellphone as a result very traumatic
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Cope
Gee, when I've flat out disagreed about things with my first dates, they often got argumentative and lost interest, realizing we were not compatible on topics they really cared about. Not saying I should have been a simp and agreed with them, just to keep up my chances for a second date. I'm just saying that disagreeing with your date will often lead to her losing interest in you.
Depends what the conversation topic is about. If it is a core foundation like religion, politics, approach to life consider it a good vetting process for yourself. Don't approach dating as trying to win her over, instead approach it from a perspective of what does she bring to the table to keep me interested? If she disagrees with your foundational topics have fun on the date, then filter her out of your life and find somebody who matches you better.
@@Elementalism that's eventually what I did. And, no, I wasn't trying to win her over, because we were already in a serious relationship and in love when shit started to hit the fan on a regular basis with my different opinions and with not necessarily taking her side when she disagreements with other people if I did not agree with her position.
Just discovered your channel and am enjoying your videos. I used to believe being like Nice Guy Nate was being a gentleman, until I dated women who straightened me out. Self priority is extremely important. Great video, BTW!
Thank you! Great realization :) Hope my channel would be a help for you too :)
no the real reason is that ur not a 10 ft tall blonde curly haired blue eyed muscular full hair full beard ultra rich man
I'm a nice guy. To be anything else would make me a jerk which women seem to be attracted to.
This was the best explanation I have heard so far. I have seen so many videos trying to explain these words where it seems to be a strong conservative bias which is extremely annoying.
These "nice guys" phrase is just one of these vage, broad stupid phrases and labels that are used that can be interpreted in tons of different ways and people often take advantage of such words to mean whatever benefits their own agenda.
When it comes to the interaction with another person, I tend to talk a lot of myself and my own interests and then I have been told to show interest by asking questions. But surprisingly, my questions some times scare more people away than if I had continued to talk about whether came to my mind. "What sexes do your children have?", "Why was marriage so important to you? ...for practical reasons? Because you had kids together? And why did you wait? Because it would be more difficult to part ways of your relationship took a turn to the worse?", "Have you been robbing many banks recently?" etc. There is always something wrong with my questions in the eyes of others, it seems.
I would never accept a woman who puts herself on a piedestal and thinks that since I am the guy, I have to lead the conversation or take all the initiatives. I know my value. I am not an entertainer and I will not try to convince anyone of anything; I am a human being!
When it comes to taking care of my own life and get everything to work, it would be helpful if our society stopped treat me as an autistic person like a patient that needs rehabilitation rather than a person what special needs. If I sat in Wheelchair people wouldn't say that I need training so that I can walk again. But when it comes to us with autism, it is actually often we who can do practically everything ourselves and are reasonably intelligent who struggle the most, because we are treated like addicts needing to change habits despite the fact the autism cannot be cured. I don't feel ashamed for saying that I receive weekly help and support and help in my home because I am autistic, but it feels debasing to say that 46 y.o. I am still struggling to get my everyday life to work. More independence in the eyes of our society, in reality, makes us more handicaped and less able to live a full life and make progress and reach our personal goals.
To be honest, I also find women who put themselves first more attractive. I don't want her to be support person who takes care of her own business, but doesn't need me in my life! If I have something to add to your life, take what you want from me given that I can provide it! It's extremely unattractive when women try to figure out what kind of a person I am, but don't show me their own feelings, struggles and needs.
However, the video doesn't mention sexual attraction. One thing that annoys me is that when it comes to sex, men are not supposed to explain their personal needs. I refuse to conform to that and always say how it is right away after a conversation about sex has been opened. I often hear that women are attractive to more masculine men, but "masculinity" comes in many different shapes and forms. I think there is something to this, but a man who is less masculine in nature, can't change his personality to attract more women. Not only does he become a people pleaser, but trying to be something that goes against how you truly are can be detrimental to your mental health.
It should be mentioned though that my problem is not going on dates and being put in "friend zone", but that I don't get to meet women at all - I have been on two dates for the last twenty years and I have almost no female friends anymore and I don't meet women in my daily life. Also, I am not exclusively looking for a "serious" relationship, but pretty much everything except text buddies who always never prioritize meeting me in person and engaging in activities with me. I have had enough if the latter (this applies to make friends too)!
Give nice guys a chance and stop automatically labeling them!
Their loss. And if they try to come back mid to late 30’s with some other guy’s kid, it’s gone from a nope to a hell no from me. I don’t think the 25-35 female ‘I’m so full of it even I don’t understand myself’ get this….probably the biggest reason older guys end up with younger women who don’t make this mistake.
Yep, I agree!
Women like nice guys they just don’t like the lack of masculinity.
the world without genuine kind people, not just men, would be a world riddled with war, cruelty and evil. Is that what people want? Seriously, i always try to be kind, decent and helpful to everyone from humans to animals, and while i will never be attractive or cool or rich or whatever, i am content and happy to live a life in giving and helping. Giving genuine love to others despite never getting it back is a hard thing to do but it is the right thing to do.
If women want to be beaten up, no problem. Finally we can do what we want.
The hunter who doesn't give away his catch can actually provide for his family. The nice hunter who gave it away failed to provide for his family.
Facts.
Except this isn't how those societies worked. The "nice" hunter cooperated with the other hunters so they would be successful and they shared their catch to provide for the entire group. The asshole was kicked out of the group because surviving required cooperation.
No women want nice guys to pay the bill while Chad and Tyrone are still pumping and dumping
I love myself and I do whatever i want to do! Anything I do I do it for myself and to improve on myself. I am a free and single man, and it’ll take a great woman for me to give time to her.
Don't get me wrong you got alot of very good information but last time I checked sometimes women don't give the best advice on dating women because most women don't even like other women for the most part and most women don't even know what they want but I love knowledge and will listen to anyone so as long as they speak the truth.
Blaine, I just started following you on IG. At almost 44 years old I have very little dating experience and still learning.
Thank you for the follow. I really appreciate it! Not yet too late to learn :)
@@DatingByBlaine I think it's not too late. I worked with a dating coach in 2011 for about 6 months. So something is telling me I still have the desire.
I'm around the same age and started following Blaine about a year ago. She is awesome. Sign up for her class. I wish someone like her was around for me 30 years ago.
If you're not a toxic jerk, you're doomed to go to wasteland of the friendzone
The friend zone is great, a lot less pressure and expense.
The issue of "nice guys" is about women need for a provider no matter how bad he is, bcs they see the issue of sociale behavior theirs to inculcate to men
Something leads me to believe that this lady is okay with being friends with nice guys but that's only because she wants to get the resources and money by pulling him along and using him
I totally agree with you! Being nice is a lot more nuanced than most of these UA-camrs with their black and white thinking opinions. Well articulated, great coaching.
But being an asshole has no nuances - women always like it.
I can’t concentrate watching this video because you’re awesome
We don’t finish last at being nice.
WTF Blaine how'd you find Where's Waldo as your nice guy example🤣🤣 that's awesome. Great vid!
Hahaha. Secret. And thank you!
Your advice would have been gold to the insecure, lonely guy I was fifty years ago, but I'm watching this for my son (I somehow managed to get married, even being the nice guy I am). He's very good looking but single - and convinced that women are the problem. Thanks for this very enlightening and enjoyable to watch video. Some will object that men shouldn't be fixated on "one thing" or women on the strength and "access to resources" that suggests to them which men will best provide for and protect their offspring. But certain things are determined by the facts of biology.
I personally find it absolutely puzzling that someone who thinks that being nice is a sign of a weak individual....I'm a nice man yet when I'm taken advantage of or perhaps even thrown "under the bus " you are definitely going to witness the other side of me.....As nice as I am...I am just as evil...
Blaine, though what some of what you say makes sense. Compared to me it doesn't make sense. When I go out by myself, I go where I want to go. There's no one else here to tell her I'm going here or there. The last lady I took to lunch, I chose the spot, and said let's go to such and such. I paid, because I'm a gentleman. I treated her nice, polite. Later I mean another day as we dated, I would disagree with her like you said and it turned into an argument, every time just about it turned into an argument. She wouldn't take advice I had given her, however later finally told me I was right, she should've listened to me. Now she's with a man that she's totally submissive to. What the HELL? Why is she submissive to him? But argues with me? Please contact me and tell me.
To be honest, being nice is a trait that kicks off a good first impression. Why 'treat them mean, to keep them keen' at the risk of turning them off entirely. Having said that don't cave and agree and pay for everything...be yourself, make her laugh and simply don't expect anything. Be prepared to walk away the moment she shows signs of doubt. Nothing wrong with enjoying your own company also. \m/
Holy shit. Im Nate. 🤯
Thank you for finally putting this in a way that I can see it. Clearly, I have a lot of work to do.
"No More Mr Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover
Does introversion risk seeming like "being a simp"? Would love a video about introverts.
It puts me at ease to listen and walk around in someon else's world when we're just meeting. I learn whether there's a fit for me there. That's a huge value going forward.
I get lots of positive feedback/gratitude on this, but can't think of attractive women that seemed to like it.
Daniel, great Q! I'd think of being introverted and "simping" as distinct concepts. The type of listening you described is actually a huge asset dating-wise, and doesn't inherently imply simping IMO. One thing that may help is pushing yourself to share reactions after you listen, particularly if you don't agree with something a woman said
@@DatingByBlaine Being "introverted" or "ambiverted" is another ball park than "simping". You can still be assertive etc ...From my expierence, being "introverted" has more benefits generally than "extroverts". "Extroverts" want to be center front of attention usually while an "introverted/ambivert" will be a good active listener...Too many people slap labels too quickly...
I´ll give you a list and then tell me otherwise that they don´t get women, this will also help a lot of men as well with the label "introverted"...
Michael Jordan is an introvert.
Elon Musk is a self-proclaimed introvert
Johnny Depp is actually an introvert
Keanu Reeves is an introvert
Tom Hardy
The Weeknd is definitely an introvert. The Canadian singer has once said that he’s shy and doesn’t like to be in the spotlight. That doesn’t mean he isn’t confident, though.
Eminem
Matt Damon
Jay-Z (He´s with Beyonce, who is also an "introvert")
Yes, while I listed a few "introverts", the point is, they get women. Sure they get women possibly because of celeb status, however you will notice a lot of them have also been married for several years , so they know how to keep....
Talking less would make you more of a mystery. Apparently women like that and find it attractive. I wouldn't worry about it looking like simping unless you're just being a yes man with her and agreeing with everything she says.
I wonder how many guys she has in the friend zone and is okay with it? It won't matter too much longer because men are going their own way MGTOW
Oh, and yes, one thing I want to add is that softness is extremely important to me. Speaking your mind is one thing, trying to teach others what is wrong with them and their lives quite another! I reject all people with harsh attitudes who think it is more important to tell what they see than actually listen to the other person and try to understand them.
And yes, I am egicentric and tend to focus on myself as an autistic person, but if another person turn to me with their problems, I try to validate them and listen to their stories rather than try to find solutions to them or preach what they should do or judge them for being overwhelmed or down. For me, this has to do with basic respect.
Define “Nice Guy”
I think what she was really trying to say is Dont act too desperate, be Independent. And act like you can get any girl any time. All traits of a person who IS good looking. So if I do this at 5 ft. 7, ignore your calls for an hour, be more selfish and cocky, than Im gonna be attractive enough for you right????😮 Right???
Thank you for explaining this. However, some women want the man to plan the date to for him to prove leadership, and such. Okay, fine, but the catch would be IF I would take her to a place or activity she does not like. Well I am kinda screwed, because that would kind of ruin her hopeful impression about me, turned negatively. It would be much better just to ask what she would like to do as well? Apparently not. They do not want to think about the plans, that is a mans job. But would later complain about it when its not her "thing" . If she did not like where we went or activity we did. She should have given her input from the very beginning. There is always a contradiction in thinking when it comes to women. Is it being a nice guy to ask what she would like to do so both man and women enjoy each others company?? I guess not.
I´ve come across a lot of what others would consider "Model Looking" women, and can tell you first hand that they have a lot of insecurities . Don´t be that guy who puts her on a pedestool, she´s just as human as you, mutual respect, be there for her as she´s there for you. Don´t be afraid to say no or have a backbone, don´t be an ass, it´s just as off putting as a woman being a B....
As a guy, she´s actually on point with this!
I used to be a nice guy, i changed and putted myself first, i also improved in the looks and confidence department. BUT, i have to say that breaking out of this, women won't magically find you attractive, it will be the same life, but you are more comfortible in yourself, if you don't have any leads after you transform then you are in for a long run, and knowing that you don't get leads BUT don't want to be that "nice guy" either...yeah, you are trapped in a circle until you get leads somehow. It will get you no leads, but at least you'll be in a match better place if opportonuties present themeselves.
Peace
The amount of times I've had women telling me how boring their boyfriends are and how they are sick of them being so nice, I've tried explaining to them how that is a good thing and if your boyfriend was a jealous arse hole who battered you and didn't let you hang out with your mates you would not like that either, the reply I got was yeah well he could care a bit more so I said you are at another blokes house at 6 in the morning and you are complaining cos your boyfriend is not kicking off about it 😜 honestly I will never understand women as long as i live 😜
Like that car guy said in the commercial, Red, I like red
basically.. women want what they must strive to achieve. if something comes too easily, women will go the other way. but not all women are like this. just the weak, easily swayed, lacking personal direction ones. i'm quite sure that a woman who actually knows what she wants will not be dissuaded by a man who is caring.
The idea of a man that puts his woman ahead of his own needs I'd say is most often a fantasy. I don't know of any man that does that.
If a woman is playing these sorts of games, better to just find another that isn't.
Another way to say this: People confuse correlation with causation - in general, it isn't being nice that's unattractive or being bad that's attractive, it's other things that those guys tend to do that make the difference. It's best to be a good guy and know the things women find attractive.
Thanks for the explanation!
Glad it was helpful!
Right, women are attracted to that. Now folks just remember that attraction is the most horrible foundation for a relationship. Compatibility is what you should be aspiring to have. Someone with whom you can be transparent, give feedback and receive it, someone who respects you and gives you an environment to thrive and find wellness. Things that you wont find if you live by what this video shares.
If you don't want a nice guy or a nice girl you don't want a nice life
I really don't see how this video required 9 minutes and 28 seconds....sheesh..
No surprise relationships don't last, and women hit the wall at 30, when they can't get by on looks alone, they have nothing to offer.
How are You gonna say something to a Woman that she disagrees with You in a date if You can't get a girl to go on a date with You if You're a "" Nice Guy"" and women don't date "" Nice Guys"" ???
I had exactly that thought several times through this vid. I don't even know who this vid was aimed at. Not the nice guys who get friend-zoned but no dates, not the bad boys who are gonna get laid without Blaine's advice, not Joe Average who has a cloak of invisibility as far as women are concerned, and not the poor b's on the bottom rungs of the rating ladder. Who does that leave?
You shouldn't aim to be an a**hole but if are perceived as one, then it is much better than being a nice guy. Trust me I have been both and being the nice guy is a horrible way to live
If you're nice and get nothing, resentment builds. If you're an asshole and get nothing, then you stay true to yourself. Again, to not try to be an asshole. Simply state your needs wants and desires. If they can't match you, then that's OK
Tried that selfish act stuff , Doesn't work , especially Number Two , On Number One , started reading books , Gym , Salsa dancing lessons , In Number Two the moment I disagree with a woman even proving that I was right and she admitting that she was wrong , BooM , DATE OVER ........at least twice
That’s were you went wrong. Stop getting into I’m right discussions. That is not attractive. Ed Mylett says “it is not your job to make people believe what you say: it is your job to show people you believe what you say. “ you can show you have your opinion without arguing. Good luck friend
I really needed this video. This was very helpful to me. I'm a "nice" guy, and I struggle with women. I've always thought, that it can't be that being a nice guy is what turns women off, because being nice is a positive thing. I can't change who I am, I'm nice, and will always be nice. But I can change other things, like how assertive, and confident, I am. Those are things that I can change, and I know I will see a difference when I make those changes to my life. Because what women actually like is confidence, and not just a guy who's a jerk.
Do yourself a favor…move on. Do nothing more than show interest in someone you like and then move on. Let her decide if she likes you. If she does, then maybe give her a chance. These women think far too highly of themselves. Where good men will work night and day to support a family, women are never working hard at a job to support a family…it is all for themselves.
Stop watching this, I have the answer - woman like this prefer having one foot out the door , so if any ANYTHING minor happens, they can ditch and move on to the next guy. Nice guys generally don't do anything wrong, so women find themselves having to choose between actually being happy or seeing what else is out there. Woman don't want happiness, they want excitement.
Nice guys generally do EVERYTHING wrong because they treat a woman the way they think a woman should want to be treated. The a-hole treats them the way they actually want to be treated. You can’t actually make someone happy but you can get them excited!
Head spinning headache ahhhh.
Nice Guys Don't Finish Last , Dating Coaches and Social Media tell women To Ignore Them and Not Date Them !!!
Maybe it's a better idea to teach girls moral values and to learn to chose a partner based on logic instead of hormones and emotions. And maybe we can save our civilization that way.
This a long range run. Bad boys abandon women in the first three to five years. Leaving their children traumatized without a father to guide them in this evil
world. The they want a a good guy who take care of this broken family. This is very stupid. Men need to reject these women until they find a good and humble woman interested in raising a family with love. It is not that difficult.
Bro most girls are traumatized and are also narcissistic by nature.
Nice guys finish last - when it comes to selfish and shallow people judging them. The women who have wised up and realized the errors of their ways in time to keep their nice guy never regret it. Stop encouraging idiots to reject nice guys. It only exacerbates the shallowness problem we have in this world.
What chance do have if women keep saying you are ugly no chance at all even my own sister said I was to ugly to get a girlfriend she was right
49 year old man here …. This video is goofy 👎🏼👎🏼
This is awesome! Love the nuance and deep understanding you have!
I appreciate that, thanks!!
@@DatingByBlaine IAM not putting on some fake attitude some fake stuff just cause she wants to be ran through until men no longer want them and she ready to settle down with a real man who just don't wanna use her for a quick fling
And if you don't have a goal ?
Just be yourself and own yourself, guys. You don't have to change jack shit if you are a "nice guy". If your natural self isn't enough for them then they simply don't deserve you. I'm a nice guy and I'm also in an emotionally fulfilling relationship. This idea that you have to change yourself is complete and utter BS.
* "Women want the finished product in men, they are not willing to go through this with him. His growing into life process", and another reason for men to step away from "those women". The "nice guy" and the "Simp" are a description of a good person growing up, and if you don't like it then you can't complain "where have all the good men gone"!!! A good therapist would know this.
* The "self-interest" comment is another double standard for women. Where she doesn't like it when he has self-interest, but it's okay if she does.
*** All this shows us that women are going through some intense growing pains, and us men need to step away from them as they go through this. OR get caught up in the destruction of their tornado. This is going to last about 10 years. So guys, find something else to do in that time... Independent men will love that "Freedom". And guys that love the companionship of women, need to join men's groups and keep busy.
Go in peace.
Great video coming from a nice guy! I appreciate the tips that you gave and I am looking forward to implementing them into my dating life
i wonder if you got an episode on vetting the right women for you. i been running into a lot of not so great women but they dont show those bad signs until later.
I do not understand this current dating culture; actually, it infuriates me. Why is there a need to play mind games? Why can't both a man and woman put all their cards on the table and just be real with one another with their innate personalities? Why must a woman "test" a man in this manner that you described? Based on the information that was presented in this video, is it safe to infer that the majority of women are self-absorbed egomaniacal narcissists who have weaponized their beauty in order to get what they want (or think they want)? I think so. However, once women lose their trump card (looks) typically after age 55, their egos erode and they seek companionship above anything else because their sexual value greatly diminishes in the dating marketplace.
Bro all you said is just fact and I have done a lot of research about "dark female nature" and I have also red a lot of ebook about dark female nature and all this is what you still experience in most women during marriage. It's very important for men to know about dark female nature and know how to be smart when dealing with women.
The men women are attracted to is sum'd up by the sugar hill gang- " hotel motel holiday inn.
If your girl starts acting up then you take her friend"
does it apply in India dynamics here are little different
Great video as usual Blaine. But what's with that background music 😊
Thank you! What can you say about the background music?
Nice guys come 🥇
Make a video on nice girls pls
Treat these women like side quest bro. If u cant get anything out her then toss her. And find another. Lie to get wit u want and cheat whenever u want. There is no prize life is the prize so live it.
My thoughts, for what little they're worth 🤪. There's a big difference between helping someone in need and letting someone bully you. If you're the type of person who puts others needs above your own and those people actually need your help, I think that's very attractive to most people. For example, sacrificing some of your relaxation time to volunteer at a soup kitchen. Doing that is putting others' needs above your own but I think that's awesome and very attractive.
This is very different from if some asshole is demanding something they don't deserve but you just go along with it because you want to avoid conflict and it's easier to just give in. That's very unattractive because it's really a lack a courage. By letting someone bully you, you aren't being nice to them. You're just being a coward. That's very unattractive.
I personally think that trying to "not be too nice" is the wrong thing to focus on. Yes, don't let people be mean to you without challenging them. Stand up for yourself. And I agree that you shouldn't spend tons of money on a first date because it can make the other person feel like they owe you something.
But if you were really kind to someone on a date and they rejected you, I seriously doubt that it's because they think you put other people's needs above your own. I'd expect it's more like they have specific preferences for their partners' personality type, sense of humor, physical appearance, achievements, communication style etc. I just don't think it's because they think someone is too generous to others. Because I think generosity and helping those in need is a great thing (not talking about people taking advantage of you).
If a woman seems to date assholes, those assholes are probably very physically attractive, maybe have a lot of money, and likely don't present themselves as assholes at first. They are probably good at appearing kind at first and wait until later to show their more negative traits. It's not their selfishness that was attractive. Women who truly want someone selfish probably have self esteem issues, and you don't want to focus on them anyway.
So my advice, as worthless as it is haha: If you get rejected this way, just focus on becoming the best version of yourself according to what you think is best, and find someone else. You likely just weren't compatible. Don't think about being more self interested.
Quite wise I think.
Agreed 100%!
Super thoughtful, Kevin!
Blaine i love you❤
Excellent video, thank you!!!
I think 'nice' is not the appropriate word here, because niceness is necessary. Noone likes jerks. The appropriate word here is 'boring' or 'annoying'. If a woman knows exactly what you are going to think, say or do because your behavior is predictable, that makes you a boring and annoying person to be with, and also someone who is probably not honest and behaves the way he does just to seem more lovable or a more perfect match for the woman. I understand that women hate this. Just as men hate when a woman behaves the same way.
Amazing video. You've recognized alot of flaws I have in myself.
Awww. Thank you. Not yet too late to do something about those flaws :)
@@DatingByBlaine you're right. Thank you:)
if you ask me church guys finish last. deadass
This says a lot about women! No wonder why transmen are becoming the better women
May aswell change the title to The REAL reason good looking women get used all the time. Cause they don't pick respectful men (I.e the good guys).
That’s why never pity on women in their late 30s 😂
I disagree because i am a nice guy and my wife thought so. If i didnt allow cancer to come into our lives and take her life shed be alive this very day and we would still be happy together. I should have stopped it
Amazing vid. This topic sounds familiar. Thanks for posting this extremely helpful advice.
I disagree with all of it though.
JK just practicing.
lol
Nice = boring = low income
Yes i am more like a bad guy
Don't be a nice guy. Be a good man
Nice is not the word to use. You should use the word stupid and smart
They say nice guys finish last. More like Nice guys have the last laugh. Because what you call the nice guy is actually a guy who has escaped the matrix. A badass cool guy who’s a main character in a movie. Yet people don’t know him. Unless I am misinterpreting something and is not how I think. However I believe that they say nice guys finish last because they’re all a bunch of pigs and the nice guy is actually a prince. Who has high principles and sees marriage as a serious thing. Not a “game” not a hook up. This was never a game. Playing with people and using them narcissistically is not a game. Many are just so immature and have no idea what a marriage is. Of course don’t get me wrong. A marriage is like a love story and you start from scrap. You know nothing about the other person and the other person knows nothing about you. The fuel of sexual attraction is the mystery. The best part is that in this courtship there are cliff hangers in the movie of the love story. I’m not saying that you jump and propose right away. I’m saying that people need to be clear on what good and bad is. For people to differentiate between good and evil and have morality. This nice guys finish last reminds me of the spider man movie where spider man was the nice guy. And the jerk with the car who had no super powers at all and wasn’t important was the bad guy who got the girl at first by the way. According to what term do you define nice? If is what I think it is than you’re wrong. If it’s a artificial fake nice for manipulation than I would agree with that quote. But as if good people finish last? No 👎 I would say that society has lost their minds and we live in a world that doesn’t have hope nor believes in Happy endings or a solution neither true love they don’t even believe that it exists let alone God. We live in a world that says God doesn’t exist not everyone but a lot. Imagine how powerless and frail is going to be. Anyways this are my thoughts and opinion. Is your choice to believe I’m not shoving a propaganda just standing up for my *truth*
If you had to make your point in three sentences, what would that look like?
@@sloebone7399 (Nice guys finish last bad guys finish first and get all the ladies. Great men take over the world and dominate it. By great men I mean those men who nobody understands even underestimate them yet they are the masterpieces of the society and world.) What's in parenthesis is the summary is your choice to read the rest. But the meaning of what I am saying is that while everyone is in this lame matrix with their minds full of vanity girls fame cars etc. Without believing that good exists or that true love and happy endings exist everything is artificial and it's all a game to them something so serious and sacred labeled as a game no wonder why there are so many break ups and everything in society is falling apart masculinity is being persecuted and no wonder why there's even so much complaining and division between men and women the world we are living in is just so chaotic. Is like millions of spoiled brats fighting that barely have any wisdom about life not even the tip of the iceberg even I included I humbly say. So in summary don't incline to the artificial fake false good. And don't be a jerk pathetic pig with low standards and morals just because you believe that it will attract women. Do what the truth is the true good and if women and people in general aren't attracted to you because you are in the path of goodness and light. Than that means they are all pigs with low standards. And that so called "nice guy" that people label as unattractive without knowing him. Don't get me wrong some guys are weak with an artificial fake goodness. But that guy that people are bashing and preaching against such behavior about marriage and that you need to treat it as a game. That guy that actually sees marriage for what it is something serious delicate and sacred people just bash that idea and trample it under foot. Yet they have no idea that this guy doesn't need to finish first or last he doesn't need to finish anything he's already owned you and is a great man a legendary warrior. Like the spiderman movie haven't you seen that the main character spiderman was the nerd 🤓 and everyone picked on him? Mary Jane was dating the jerk guy they call the bad guys. Yet look at how spiderman was he was the protagonist and had super powers and beated that jerk bully guy in school.