It's not about aesthetics. It's about losing our village. People are going to the internet to find the communities they should be reaching out to in the real world, but it's 1) expensive to do a so in most cases 2) Hard to find the right circles when their are so few and 3) not having time or energy to do so. So "I'm a silky mom" "I'm an almond mom" "I'm a crunchy mom" is really just "I identify as part of this community" There's loads of examples of this even outside of parenthood.
Parents of that generation really seem to be having children to serve as dolls to show off or an achievement to announce instead of actually being parents
@@heath6802 I think it's not just that generation, older parent-child relationships were also based on showing off your kids/ representing how good your parents are at parenting.
@heath6802, that has been a thing since I don't know how long. Some parents either show you off or not take care of you, but usually it's a middle ground
I had a friend who's mom REFUSED to take her kids to the docter unless they were 'actually sick.' My friend died from a heart attack at 14 years old! (Yes she died because her mom refused to take her to a docter for 'unbearable chest pain!' as my friend kept telling her!)
my family doesn't care about my constant pain or constant stress and other difficulties, i thought that was normal?? like, i'm not actually sick or anything, i think.
it feels strange considering i struggled with weight as a kid. yea, we had to switch when i was a kid and i was still chubby! we should teach varieties of eating food and how to establish a good relationship with food. have some treats here and here, but also let's make eating healthy fun and enjoyable!
“i’m a silky mom. of course everyday they get a happy meal and Mac and cheese and I don’t care if they get diabetes and heart disease or even terminal illness because at least foods like that make them happy let kids live fast and die young 😍”
@@Octowoman2419 my friend's mom was leting her eat only meat and snack bc she didn't like It. She only forcing her to eat corn. She's having problems now
@@Im_nothim34 Because of course it’s a highly agreed comment and I agree to it of course. But I’m not saying they’re not allowed to say it though for if they want to say it, they can
as someone who had unlimited screen time as a kid, i am all for limiting your children screen time and NOT giving them their own device until their at least in 6th grade.
Fr bro when I was like 8-12 I started getting my own devices but my parents made sure I wasn't spending all day on them. I was mad at first, but looking back, they only did it because they cared about me. But now they've changed. My sister and I are allowed to spend all day on our phones, and nobody tries to stop us. I've been working hard to find hobbies outside of screen time, and I think I'm doing pretty well, but my sister just spends all day on UA-cam shorts, and it's clearly had an effect on her behavior and the way she talks. My dad complains about it, but I think he should step in and do something about it if he cares so much. So yeah. Limit your kids screen time. They might not like it, but it'll be much better for them in the long run. (I kinda wish my parents were even stricter about screen time tho cuz I had unsupervised Internet access and it messed me up)
Schools in my country working with rules about no phones in school, but it's been 2 years and nothing changed. School constantly needs kids to have phone to get something from internet for classes, or contact parents for some reason (idk why students needs to do that, when teacher can).
@@dashaash5903 yeah the excuse kids give is always "but what if i need to contact my parents!!!1!1111!!!1" just let the teachers do it if it's that important. and for the internet thing...do kids not have laptops provided to them by the school?? that's how it is for me, but idk about other schools
@@TheStar121 we don't, we had computers for informatics classes, but we weren't allowed to get in class to use them without teacher. Some of school in my country don't even have computers and they just use books to teach about it🤷♀️
a child learning to read is **NOT** ending their childhood??? I volunteer at my local preschool and those kids were so excited when they learned how to read their first word. How is it that some parents just can't handle basic human skills???
fr!, my brother started reading at the age of 5 and he loves it. He can sit and read for hours to hours on end, learning him to read at a early age helped him much in school he got good grades and still is to this day. He just ended 6th grade with mostly A points in reading and writing bc me and my father helped him read at a early age.
They devalue education tbh. I was a kid who loved to read and was shamed out of it thanks to ableist schooling and being undiagnosed but equally shamed. I hope all kids can find the joy of reading in whatever way works for them. ❤️
I LOVED reading even before I started school; I had a high reading level for a preschooler not because I was forced to grow up early, or whatever bullshit she said, I just liked reading
I was reading well before school - mainly newspapers and magazines, because that was what was around the house (apart from “Squik the Squirrel Possum”, a whole lot other of sauce bottle labels, shoe polish tins etc) - but absolutely LOVED the chanting the words all together ‘reading’ about Dick and Jane we did in class when I started school. Was as much fun as singing in a choir. It was only at the start of second grade, when we were allowed to choose a book for silent reading that I made the connection between the two sorts of activities.
My child is 4, and I thought I can't describe the feelings I got when I saw him writing his name for the first time. Education is something I take seriously.
I have another. Madeline. Girl growing up in an orphanage. Books literally open imagination. If anything, books help your kids act more like kids. As a bookworm, I'm prideful in my immersion in books since being a child (I'm now 15) and my widespread imagination. Some parents are just dumb.
The video of the mother sobbing in front of her child really upset me. I’m not saying that you should hide emotions from children but breaking down like that must have been really scary. Children look to their parents for reassurance and guidance so for the child to see their parent so sad and exhausted probably confused and scared him beyond belief. Also, a two year old is not going to understand emotional stability as there are many people in the world a lot older that still don’t competent the subject. I hope the mother realized that that was not an adequate way to educate her child.
Yeah my mom was completely emotionally disregulated and threatened to kill her self in front of me for the first time when I was about 3. I'm now 28 and have no relationship with her, still have nightmares about her somehow being given responsibility for my care again. If you aren't able to regulate your own emotions you shouldn't be alone with kids ever
That was a very triggering clip. It was child abuse. It is called parentification and is common abuse from people with cluster B personality disorders. The child looked really frightened and confused as he was sucking his thumb and stroking his face for reassurance. CPS needs to be involved in that situation as this mother is too unstable to look after a child and having it on camera for clout too is just morally repugnant. Why aren't their family members calling them out on such obviously abusive and disturbing practices? Seems as though most influencers and Vloggers have undiagnosed personality disorders. These videos remind me of Mommie Dearest. It is basically child abuse.
I was looking for this comment. My mom was abused without us kids noticing and one day she completely broke down, then my parents started fighting and a friends mom picked me up when the police arrived. I don’t remember the fighting, I don’t remember the police walking in. I remember my mom completely distressed drowning in tears
Even as an adult, having to deal with my parents' emotions is exhausting when/if I am feeling emotionally unstable/tired. And they're normal emotions. I can't imagine what being subjected to your parent's mental/emotional breakdown would do to a child; a toddler.
@@kathyortega4021 I think the almond mom one is satire? When she mentioned teaching her kids abour stoicism and corrupt gov I immediately figured it's not real, but it's so frustrating to see that there are moms that probably genuinely act like this
4:48 I remember when that one mom was legit mauled on the internet when she spray painted her child’s toy Christmas tree to fit her beige aesthetic. Then saw a comment how “the goth baby gets more color exposure” so I looked up the goth baby. There is a mom who is goth, and she dresses her baby in black. The nursery, crib, decor, and her baby clothes were all dark. But guess what? The goth mom had a WHOLE ROOM of colorful toys and painted walls. She gave her baby “color exposure” so this way her aesthetic didn’t stunt her baby’s growth. You can still have your aesthetic, just make sure you actually help develop your child and not hinder it
"don't take them to the doctor unless they are REALLY sick." That reminds me of something my father (boomer) did to me years ago. I was having diarrhea every few hours, and told him i needed to go to a doctor. he told me i had a "nervous stomach" like my grandma. a few months later it was diarrhea every few minutes. again he told me it was just my nervous stomach. i told him i had nothing to be nervous about, but he insisted that a nervous stomach could cause trouble even when not nervous. Eventually it was about a year since my problem started, and i was in the bathroom for 24 hours straight. just chugging water hand having diarrhea for 24 straight hours. He FINALLY says "fine, maybe something is wrong" and got me a test kit from my doctor.... turns out i had Cdiff for a year. i was sick for a year and nearly died, because my father decided he knew better.
Dammit so much! I'm a boomer, but the last thing I'd do was ignore my daughter if she came to me with something bothering her! Kids or not, they know their bodies better than anyone! What kind of parent invalidates their child's concerns about their own health? I don't know what my daughter was born in, as I don't follow the boomer gen x millennial thingy, but she was born in 1992. Thankfully she is the kind of mother I was; attentive to her child's needs and responds to her kid when he goes to her with something HE knows is wrong. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I'm surprised your little self survived! That's a lot of fluid you kept losing for an entire year, or more! I hope he felt horrible after he found out he was way wrong. Love to you and that kid in you who had to suffer so long.
I’m so sorry for you. And still I would say kids get sick a lot, and while their immune system is down from sickness it’s not always the first thing to go to the doctor where they can (and probably will) get exposed to worse illnesses, so I do think that, BUT (!!!) if a child is having diarrhea for over 24 hours that’s DEFINITELY a valid reason to get to the doctor (as diarrhea is a very serious symptom) there’s a place of in between that parents today are neglecting because everyone and everything has to be “all out” and to the extreme otherwise it doesn’t count 🤷🏻♀️ but it goes all ways.
Diarrhea is the most common cause of death for children under 5 worldwide. Children have a different physiological ability to cope with water and electrolyte loss. They will dehydrate much quicker than an adult. It’s likely that you initially had “run of mill” diarrhea initially and that weakened your immune system to be able to fight off the bacteria which later caused the infection. It’s insane you went so long with that infection, I’m sure not exactly how long someone can have C. diff, but in my experience with patients so far in my 5 years of working in a hospital, I’ve only seen it active for ~ 1 month or it would come and go for a couple weeks at a time. I don’t have kids of my own (yet), but I worked on a Children’s’ ED unit for a couple months and initially, I would sort of get irritated at parents who brought their kids in for things that could’ve been a normal doctor’s visit. But then we had a kid brought in who should’ve been brought in much much sooner… I realized I’d rather deal with a day full of negative flu and strep tests from overly cautious parents than a single case of negligent parenting
10:12 [TW: child depression] I learned how corrupt the government was at like 7-8 because the justice system failed me. I remember feeling very distanced, very apart and different from other kids. I remember how the joy and childish whimsy from my life disappeared and I learned to hate and for a long time I just ran autopilot on hate and I am just learning how it feels to show your affection to other people. I remember feeling very misunderstood and disconnected. I remember being on recess and just walking in the garden, walking without any destination or purpose. I was soulless. I felt empty. Parents, be parents. Don’t be a political figure to them. Don’t take their childhood away. Don’t raise them with a political side.
I was neglected as a child as were my 3 siblings I got it the worst and now I can't show emotion well I struggle with relationships and many other aspects of life. I've been told that it shouldn't affect me cause I was a baby but even if i don't consciously remember it it has had an affect on me and I don't think many people understand that
The Addams family actually support their kids, like when pugsly joined boy scouts, they were concerned at the change, talked to a professional, the professional said "he's good" and they tried to learn his interest, and they did
Yeah the dark and macabre humour aside (which clearly isn't meant to be taken seriously anyway), Morticia and Gomez are actually way better parents than most have ever been in most generations, for the sheer fact alone that they were actually present and emotionally available for their children, are actively involved and interested in their children's lives, are supportive of their kid's interests and activities, and actually did positive reinforcement instead of the typical punishment style of parenting.
I would have loved it if my mom acted all cool and chill when I was going through my macabre phase, because I would have grown out of it sooner. But no, I have to hide the fact that I like goth fashion and Sabaton, Powerwolf, Civil War etc etc. I mean she knows about Sabaton, but I CANNOT openly listen to those bands without her telling me to turn it off and that it was annoying.
@@VictoriouslyRandomagreed. It’s the accessory baby trend and because many of them were teenagers when they had them the kid suffers. This is what’s causing gen alpha to be such terrible people. Because many of these kids were(and are) the accessory babies born in the 2010s that were born to a large minority of(a lot of) teenagers who wanted to showcase their cute baby as if they were a furby accessory trying to copy the celebrity (spesficially the kardashians and Kyle Jenner) accessory baby trend which resulted in the aesthetic of parenting and having a cute baby without any of the actual work needed to raise a baby to a functioning human being with good literacy skills, a reasonable education and basically becoming a functioning person. Oh and teen mom the tv show(which despite showing some of the darker sides and contributing to a decline in teen pregnancy’s some dumb kids still took inspiration) . It’s made even worse because now TikTok and instagram reels glorifying pregnancy at young(like teenage) ages for aesthetics even if said person was not ready or willing to handle responsibly raising a future adult and showing none of the true consequences and sorrow that comes with ruining your and a future humans life, instead being filled with instagram photos of cute mommy and baby in matching outfits on highly staged photos with no hint on how difficult it is to raise a human being. anyway The baby was never supposed to grow up as a person and become a functioning human being but to be a silent being with no thoughts of it’s own to dress up and show off to instagram and Pinterest. Essentially a doll. However when that baby started to grow up into their own person and becoming a human being because as it turns out baby’s grow up to be a functioning adult. The parents has no desire to be a parent and does not know how to raise a functioning human so they dumped them in front of iPads in order to get them out of the way and basically negelect them. The consequence is that now we have an entire generation of kids who have not been taught basic lessons and how to be a functioning person. This is scary because they are our next doctors, artists, writers, musicians, librarians, mechanic, firefighters, plumbers, etc. and they end up with social media addicitions and have shockingly short attention spans thanks to overstimulating UA-cam shorts and they were never taught how to be a successful person who thrives in society all because they were treated as disposable photo props to get more IG likes. To be clear not every parent is like this and there are many parents trying to raise their kids good and teaching them to be a good person but it is concearning how the accessory babies are now being turned into monsters at shockingly young ages. I really hope people wake up and realize that this is a problem and how we need to educate kids and prevent toxic Tate influences on boys And toxic trends on girls. We need to let kids learn positive values and teach the, about diversity and how to be a good person and helping other people and doing good things and working hard to achieve whatever goals they want. We need to fix this and help prepare kids to be a functioning good adults so that they can succeed and it even affects the kids who weren’t accessory babies because the peer pressure to act more mature than before has ramped up significantly as the moms of the accessory babies shunned kid appropriate outfits and acting their age and stuff because they wanted the babies to be dressed up in adult fashions for instagram photo ops and have engrained that acting like a kid is stupid and that they go from accessory Baby to hot young adult with no inbetween in their minds which warps them to act like an “adult” when way too young and if a kid simply acts like their age group they are often picked on by accessory babies which means that a lot of kids are now under peer pressure to grow up way to fast because the accessories kids that dominate the school and act like monsters towards everyone else. It’s because they were never taught how to be a good. Person. And it’s because of the parents who wanted accessory babies for instagram rather than raising a human. Like it’s the 30 year mellenials who take their kids only to instagramamble play areas, dressing them up for photo shoots every week in new clothes, going on instagramamble vacations and even having another baby only for clicks. This is the reality of the situation we are seeing the consequences of this in real time. The kids were never taught how to be a person and because of that they have almost no manners and learned all their lessons from toxic influencers and or consumerist influencers. It’s because the parents neglect them instead of providing moral lessons on how to be a good person, teaching them right from wrong, or even providing them good tv shows like BCG, and bluey instead dumping them in front of iPad content farms that rot their attention spans without any moderation causing them to have no imagination and tech addictions and then for the boys watching toxic influencers like Andrew quagmire tate and his merry band of Herbert the perverts(it’s a family guy reference). And for the girls being brainwashed into acting like adults and buying skincare that burns their skin instead of age appropate skin care. It’s a whole mess that we need to do better with our next generation of people because we need to stop treating kids like they are just instagram photos and they aren’t babies with on and off switches but babies that grow to toddler then kid tween teen until they become an adult who should be able to do basic functions in society. I am legit concerned about the next generation and them being addicted to content farms rather than quality shows with educational and entertainment value and not being taught basic morals like don’t steal the cookie, everyone is equal, clean up after yourself, don’t rudely interrupt other people. or even helping them get to grade level reading and stuff(and I’m not counting kids with disabilities, like autistic and adhd kids) to function in society. like I literally heard that sped kids with disabilities and autism etc are literally doing higher reading levels than regular kids because a lot of the regular kids were never taught. It’s legit concerning.
The unlimited snack thing got me. Sometimes you have to tell your kids "No" or "eat a piece of fruit" because eating candy and chips all the time is terrible for health.
Yeah, my parents have technically an infinite snack rule but they limit how many of a certain snack I can eat daily, like, only one peanut butter cracker thing (because the crackers are very salty), infinite apples, I can have apples whenever I want, I can have one banana a day just because that's a lot of fiber, I can have as many strawberries as I want as long as I save some for my siblings, etc.
As someone who eats fruit, Having fruit in the house actually makes a pretty damn good alternative to snacks. I got sick and tired of sweets a long time ago, but I have yet to get tired of fruit, even though I consume a hell of a lot more fruit than I ever have with chocolates.
@@Lyzwyzrd That’s similar to what my parents did. Most junk food was only once a day except for holidays like Halloween, Christmas, Valentine’s Day, and Easter. Birthdays would sometimes be an exception. Even on the holidays we still had decent moderation for the most part. I know there were two times with the expectations when I had too much candy and faced the consequences myself. They were a bit more lenient with vacations as well but the main rule was eat your meal before getting a snack or dessert. Depended a bit on the specific vacation. If we were at a theme park they would have more healthy snacks and those were mostly free for us to have as needed
I hate those “crunchy” and “almond” moms, because let me tell you there is a BIG difference between being healthy and being practically neglectful. If your kid is dying from an illness, you are practically abusing them by just using an essential oil and not taking them to the doctor.
There are some really good people in those communities However, most media members don’t pick up on some of the unspoken ethical laws They proceed to violate them while claiming to be part of such affiliations
I know a guy who was raised by a crunchy mom and he won't even take ibuprofen if he has a migraine. He believes it's bad for you and since it affects your liver and whatnot, and I tried to tell him that if you take 200-400 mg of ibuprofen for a migraine or headache that won't mess up your liver, but he won't listen, so he'll go for 3 or 4 days with this headache because he was raised to not take medicine.☹️
To be fair, ibuprofen, Advil, Tylenol or asprin don't work for all migraine sufferers. I know people who've tried many of those and it didn't make a dent in the pain. @@tnetennba725_3
It's messed up like yes I will wait until I am half dead to go to a doctor but you can't risk someone else's life over like a 10000$ bill a lot of people really shouldn't have kids
For the first one, I had unlimited screen time and had tablets with unrestricted access to it when I was 3-4. Many years later as a teenager, it frustrates me when I see parents do the same thing my mother did. It really f#cked me up, because I seen a lot of disgusting sh#t I shouldn’t have when I was 5 and I just hate the thought of other people going through the same thing I did because the parents couldn’t be bothered to properly raise them..
The “not going to the doctor unless it’s severe” is something that SERIOUSLY messed me up as an adult. I have gone to work while deathly ill and extended my recovery by weeks because of it. And it’s not just physical health; i let mental health problems fester unabated because they “werent that bad” and ended up in an inpatient psychiatric facility because of it. That shit hurts kids way down the line
I talked myself out of "bothering the doctor" so many times when I was in a situation that was flashing a red light because it just got incrementally worse, and dealing with it day to day took up 80% of my mental energy. My doctor was like... if your nerves are on fire and your limbs are losing feeling, that is something he darn well wants to know! The number of times I've mentioned something that has just always been there and he just stares at me, deadpan. He has actually head-desked in my appointments. He now makes a point to reaffirm, "Yes, this is something we need to talk about," to drill it into my brain. I got it into my head that I can have X amount of things wrong. So I can talk about my migraines, but is it more important that the room spins now and then? There are loads of things like that, and he's trying to get it into my brain that it's his job to decide what's important with me and that having more than one problem isn't "a bother!"
Yeah not only does that denial of healthcare threaten the lives of the kids and yeah it still it fucks you up when you get older too. I was experiencing extreme abdominal pain unrelated to menstruation, and my momma told me "we will only go if you think it's actually something cuz we don't want to go there and not be anything" and I was like 16 I had no idea what a burst appendix is like all I knew was it was The worst pain I've ever experienced in my life. I was curled up on the couch crying from extreme pain and I literally begged my mom to "please just tell me what it's like what is am I supposed to know! I don't know what I need to look out for!" and she just didn't. She refused to. She just told me that well let me know if you think we actually need to go. I would have died on that couch. If it was something that would have threatened my life I would have just died on that couch on my own as she went back to her room because "we only get treatment if were sure we actually need it". She also took away my health care when my doctor said I needed to get a diagnosis and medication because she fought I was being "lazy" if I was diagnosed and she didn't want me "using drugs" It took me so long to unlearn that awful mentality because your taught to ignore your pain. It took me till I was like 19 to realize you can take painkillers like It's okay to just do that. I didn't even really think it was an option till I was about 18 and then I realized a bunch of people actually do that. And I still struggle with that. I went through many years of extraordinarily bad cramps every single period without ever using painkillers, and I still feel bad using them. But like I finally actually go to the doctors and use medication, but it still feels weird to me.
@@randomwhatever5403 thats so horrible, im really sorry you experienced that. :( however, since you never grew up with the knowledge, im going to share it with you now: take pain meds as soon as possible. not just for your own comfort, but pain management for small things like a headache or soreness will prevent the pain from getting worse. there are also cases where just "toughing it out" will actually cause damage longterm. take the advil as soon as you feel pain. if it's serious then the pain will either get worse or keep happening regularly. if its enough pain that you can't function, thats extremely serious. there are pain charts online that focus on capability rather than numebrs, like "my pain interferes with my daily living / i can only lie in bed" etc. furthermore, having terrible cramps is not normal. i didnt realie myself... and now, after confirming it wasnt something like cysts, i got rid of my cycle with hormones, im so much happier and doing better.
"why do i need to stare at them while they practice? That doesn't do anyone any good..." ....why do you need people to watch while you work out? That doesnt do anyone any good...
And they were outside on the football feild! Could she not just take a few laps around the field while watching him if she “had to” squeeze in a workoutout?
The lady being mad about a child knowing how to read early is WILD to me, you’re literally raising a human being that NEEDS to learn how to read, why gate keep it so they “stay kids longer” wtf
I iterally could read at the age of 4. I didn't think my childhood was any less good because of it. The only instance when it could get bad is if parent went authoritarian on the child and constantly forced them to read all day long, against their will. But not allowing them to learn if they want to is just as bad. Just buy your kids some age appropriate books, let them figure it out. My mom also used to read to me a lot when I was still a child. It's not only educational but actually a really good bonding experience between the child and the parent.
Hearing “why do i need to stare at them? that doesn’t do anyone any good…” breaks my fucking heart. What have we come to as a society that you can’t see the value in watching your own child be happy and express themselves? shouldn’t you WANT to watch your kid doing what matters to them?
wait im like really slow can someone actually explain to me how watching practices is important? /genq (i do theatre so my parents only see the final shows, never done sports)
Sadly, these people see kids more as objects then they do human beings with individual traits and personalities...hell kids were being named weird shit because it was 'quirky' and some had to change their names once they were old enough.
as a person who was given unsupervised internet acess since an extremly young age. giving kids that sort of acess from a young age is a TERRIBLE idea. the internet is not a safe space for children. its never going to be. i got lucky, and just ended up a weird theatre kid (with a bit of a fanfiction phase thrown in). some people had it WAY worse and got HORRID ptsd. dont give your kids their own devices until theyre AT LEAST tweens. and supervise them while theyre on the internet until theyre at least teens.
As someone who started on the same path as you (theatre kid stuff, fanfic and other phases) but didn't end up so lucky (got groomed and did end up with PTSD). Yeah, the internet is just not a safe place for children, whatsoever honestly. No matter how careful and safe you are online when you're that young, it's just such a slippery slope. And I worry with the declining rates of general education levels in this new generation, it'll make these children even more vulnerable to people out to prey on them
also, your kids WILL, and i mean it, are bound to find inapropriate things on the internet. i found out what a rimjob was at eleven because of this kind of "chuck a device at them and we'll be fine" parenting. kids are curious by nature and will find this stuff if you let them on the internet without active supervision. and its hard to even tell that they know about this stuff if you're not being attentive with your parenting. its hard to imagine that, but you cant just think youre special and your kid will turn a blind eye, because kids are naturally rebellious and if something is labelled as "innapropriate" they'll be curious about it. im not saying dont let your kids on the internet, just dont give it to them unsupervised until they're teens. and "supervised" means youre activley watching and interacting with your child while they're on the internet.
These mothers claim they don't want to rob their children of their childhoods, yet they are actively allowing them to enter a world where they will be forced to mature at a very young age. 💀
I've been on the Internet since the mid/late 2000s as a little kid and saw some SERIOUSLY messed up shit. The scary misinformation that I believed, the unsupervised conversations with adult strangers... I now believe that the whole Internet should be for 13+. I am terrified for children today who have TABLETS- at least I had to physically sit at a comouter where my parents could see me!
@@ritzritzer7836I think it’s meant to be the opposite of crunchy. I don’t really know how to explain it, but ReallyVeryCrunchy does a really good exaggeration of it
@@CarbonatedCondensation no the creator put the def in the video, they are someone who practices more lenient style parenting and is doing so with tech and easy access or something similar to that because i'm to lazy to look back at it
Back in my day my siblings and I drank water from the hose, badly scraped our knees from falling off our bicycles, yet still had to wash our hands before eating and were taken to the hospital for illnesses. Oh I’m 23 btw, not 70.
My mom was a combination of strict and lenient. She didn’t care where we went as long as we stayed in the neighborhood and came home before the streetlights, and if we DID want to leave to go to the park or something we had to ask her or our older cousin to take us (they playground was literally two blocks over and right up the street). We had snacks and tv and stuff but that was limited. Had a healthy amount of technology AND going outside. Going too hard in one direction messes your kid up.
@@therealopaartist Thank you!! Something my mom always was "too much is never good, and too little can be just as bad." She's amazing. Unfortunetely for other kids, most parents can never find the middle ground between being strict and lenient.
@@therealopaartist I had it similar. I actually wasn’t even allowed to go in the front yard alone until I was around 12-13. I wasn’t allowed on social media and just in general had moderation. That said I was also allowed to have snacks (but it was still limited and you had to ask) and from quite a young age I had a CRT TV in my room, but it was mostly for my DVD’s so I wasn’t consistently watching unless it was a movie, and I didn’t use cable until I was older. I had screen time although as I got older as long as I was being respectful and responsible I wouldn’t have much of a limit. I also never really had a set bedtime, but I already struggled to sleep so it never made a difference. Id just be asked to settle down at a certain time. We were always encouraged to go outside, like most kids would before technology took over, and I enjoy sports so naturally we would be active and away from screens. I feel like my parents were strict enough while also allowing free time and in a way giving us privilege and an enjoyable childhood, but we had to earn it.
The clip of the mom crying and telling the baby to stop hitting her didn't sit right with me. My mom did things like that when I was growing up; it was usually when I would just say I wanted to hang out with my friends, get my license, and more recently, move out. I still did all of those things, but it made the process unnecessarily stressful and scary because I knew that me making independent decisions would make her cry and slam doors in my face.
Thanks, guys. I'm alright, what helped me was that my partner always reassured me that I was just doing the best thing for me and I wouldn't have achieved independence if I just listened to mom. I wish she had been more supportive in the past, but these days (now that I'm in my mid 20s) she's slowly opening up more to my ideas. Sometimes our parents won't be there to encourage us when we need it, which is why it's good to have a support system outside of home. I'm very grateful for my partner.
It's really manipulative and also a great way to lose your child's trust. Children need clear, firm boundaries, otherwise they're going to end up ignoring any limit you set.
7:10 I totally agree when I was a baby I was even more prone to sickness and infection because of an immune system malfunction (I can’t remember what it was called) so my parents were very strict with people cleaning their hands before holding me or my brother. That child will definitely have to go to the hospital because of the amount of germs and bacteria they have when he gets sick there’s quite a big risk of death in that situation
That poor kid who got their candy taken away is going to have food security issues as a teenager and adult. Sure it seems like a small thing, but it's shit like that that makes you have hidden snacks in your room at all times in case your mother decides something you like isn't allowed in the house anymore
Yeah, I don’t think unlimited candy whenever you want is good just like I don’t think how this mother swaps out all the candy for the healthy alternatives is good. And listen, I’ve had those bear fruit rolls she included in that video and it SLAPS but I also still love Mike n Ike’s and pez. I think restricting the “unhealthy” candy isn’t going to benefit this child in the long run. My biggest parenting concern for my future kids is how I am going to instill a healthy relationship with food, out of all the things I could worry about it’s that. My own mother was raised pretty old school-traditional “we are eating this for dinner, if you don’t want it, too bad; you aren’t leaving the table until you eat it” thing is, she has the worst ARFID I’ve ever seen in any person before. Her mother had to eventually give in and fix her one of the few foods she eats because my mom would sleep at the dining room table and starve herself for over 24 hours rather than eat a single piece of corn. My mom in turn, never learned how to cook anything other than the handful of foods she eats and let me decide whatever I wanted for every meal- which was a McDonald’s happy meal or a frozen kid’s cuisine every. single. day. Now, I have perfectly good food in my fridge but I would rather not eat at all unless it’s something I specifically want to eat. If I get a craving for chips and salsa, I will literally deny all other food and try to acquire chips and salsa. It’s really exhausting, and I’m not rich, I really don’t have the luxury of always fulfilling what it is I want to eat. I also end up feeling really guilty because I do have perfectly good food I just won’t eat, it’s such a privileged issue to have that I am working on trying to fix. I’ve always been underweight my whole life and people think that just because I’m thin, I’m healthy but that’s not the case because I never grew up with my nutritional needs being met and I know I still don’t meet them now either. It probably doesn’t help that I prefer eating nothing at all to eating something that I’m not in the mood for. I have a lot of anxiety about how to provide my own future kids a happy medium. I’m thinking that offering a handful of options or predetermining meals ahead of time would be a good solution but I just can’t imagine myself enforcing it since I know I change my own mind on what I had planned vs what I really want to eat in the moment :/ Sheesh sorry for rant on a random internet comment
i really didnt get a lot of candy as a child, which i dont want to blame my mother for because she was trying to do her best for me. But when I had the opportunity to eat candy at my grandpas place or at the cinema with my sister i tended to overeat so much that i would vomit and get acne 💀. After moving out it took me a year to overeat on sweets. But really I do not really no what is the right way, because sweets caused a lot of problems for me as in acne and during my teenage years it was kind of my own decision to not eat sweets, so i wouldnt get any acne. Sugar is just evil 😭
My first thought seeing that was how id have shoved the candy in my pockets and hidden it later. My parents never did anything like that but I'm from a massive family and everyone would eat food so fast and if you complained you got in trouble so I still hide food and I used to buy food just to hide it in my room which I fear is what that kid will do someday
I had a bag of halloween candy after halloween once and my mom took it away when i got back home. My mom hates when i had candy. She would take my candy
One year for halloween my parents let my brother and I keep some of our candy and trade this in for a toy. We were aware that we would keep some and lose some it was not done in a sneaky way.
I hate that millennial parents are being targeted for being “crappy” parents. 😅 Most people seem to forget that these are also gen-z parents, not just millennials.
the mom that said she was teaching her son emotional regulation wrote that he "acknowledged her feelings and said it's okay for her to feel overwhelmed" ...ma'am, that child was sucking his thumb and babbling because he had no idea why his mom was being loud in his face.
It's lowkey traumatic to see an adult cry too, that kid when he gets older is likely gonna feel like he needs to apologise and make her feel better. Growing up so many adults cried to me about this and now as a barely adult if someone older than my cries I have a panic attack 😅 it's really not teaching him anything
Also, public school is not the only school, and daycares can often be problematic and even abusive and neglectful depending on the region you live in and what you can form. Not to mention even HOMESCHOOLING can offer structure, routine, and social interaction, so much so that over the past ten years every study done has show MODERN homeschoolers to have superior social adjustment, social skills, social diversity and emotional maturity to both private and public educated children and adults. In the modern age, there are more opportunities for socialization as a homeschooler than any other option, due to the countless homeschool groups and meets, co ops that meet daily, field trips, science fairs, forest schools, and so much more. My fiancé was homeschooled and quite literally was in a homeschool band, he traveled and toured with them even and ended up branching off and playing with diverse people from that, he also met with homeschool groups daily, did field trips, did authentic long term projects with groups of other people he had both long and short term relationships with without any adult intervention so he developed skills for self guidance and problem solving as well as navigating diverse social interactions. And he also had a pretty good structure, waking up daily, starting school fora couple hours, then going to meet with the co op to free play for 1 hour, do group projects for a bit, work on whatever the co op focus was for that day, then free play for longer, then they just chilled and did whatever they did as a family for several hours, then he had music lessons, computer class, Boy Scouts, or band practice with his friends depending on the day (all of this is after school hours so he saw tons of non homeschooled kids as well). He also got chances to volunteer as well on one day a week as a part of his structure. I met him at a youth group when he came to play music there at an event actually. This idea that anything but public school and day care means unstructured and un socialized is so outdated and ignorant at this point. Not to mention that MY children attended day care for a month before I pulled them, after one of my sons medical issues were being neglected and , made worse by them and they let him marinate in poop for so long his booty was BLEEDING, and the other son has bruises and bites that were unexplained every day. My kids were miserable, declining, becoming withdrawn, and having a fit every morning. When I pulled them and began just staying home and working with them, they blossomed, and if anything we had a BETTER and more beneficial structure and routine at home, starting the day with breakfast activities, often outside, then spending a couple hours playing at the park with other munchkins, then therapies, then free play inside or outside with art materials, and some days we went to the children’s museum, indoor play ground, zoo, etc…. With OTHER kids. napping when they were tired, as it should be at that young of an age quite honestly. I just don’t understand why everyone thinks that public school and daycare are the only good options, especially when we have evidence and data proving otherwise. The only data that says anything contrary, doesnt! As it only compares daycare attendees to at risk children of lower income homes, single mother homes, or homes that aren’t actually engaging in any type of ECE, home education, developmental stimulation and developmentally appropriate activities, or social interaction and special excursions. It’s comparing those who’s parents work and come home, feed the kids and go to bed after a sitter kept the kids alive and not much else all day, to day care.
9:44 this mentality is very scary to me because when i was 1 my parents thought i had a cold so they gave me something for that. It was when i started to worsen when they brought me to the hospital and the nurses told them that it was actually an asthma attack and that if they had waited just some more hours i could’ve gotten serious injury. I just can’t imagine this parents going: “ well, my children don’t seem sick enough for me to care”
I wish my parents were like yours. They're the type of parents who won't take you to the doctor if it isn't severe. My eyesight is a bit blurry but they said it's nothing to worry. It's been 6 months and my eyes are getting worser. Pls give me tips to help my eyesight
@@GangleGoneInsane i’m so sorry that is happeninggg. Six months is a very small window of time so for you to perceive a considerable worsening is very concerning. Maybe you could go and get a routine eye check by yourself (depends on how old you are) if your parents don’t want to go but i don’t know how public healthcare works where you are. The only thing i would recommend is to not follow random internet advice without getting some kind of medical feedback (you know, don’t fall for the essential oil stuff jajajaj) specially because eyes are very delicate. hope you get better :)
@@GangleGoneInsane you have near-sightedness...thisis true alr if you're of age in your place then go do a check u. And please DO NOT ask google internet advice. Or beg your parents abt it or this is pretty effective but it involves attention seeking (kinda), just look at smth like words nearby and say mum/dad what's written on that board? And make sure it's kinda like near but a bit blurry for u to see. Avoid screens and limit book reading. Focus on far objects and do eye exercises or smth I'm not sure I'm not a professional so I'd say check w/ a doc or do the seeking thing!
My mom has this mentality, and it really is a "my kid isn't sick enough for me to care" sort of thing. I've been having really bad back pain for a year or so now and she keeps insisting it's stress related, even after watching me struggle to stand and walk multiple times. This mentality is neglectful, if not outright dangerous
Parent of a kindergartener here. They don't take naps in school, my daughter reads at 2nd grade level and has homework every day. Sometimes I wonder if humanity has always been this ridiculous and we just didn't know because social media wasn't used or it's just getting progressively worse. I'm scared for our future every time I scroll.
Raising grandchildren here, no, they do NOT take naps, they go full days now, not half days. My grandson was reading Dr. Suess books at age 4, he enjoys reading. I encourage it. But kindergarten is totally different than it was when my children went. It's focused more on education than socialization. Kindergarten used to be to get your child ready for school and to learn to socialize with other kids, but many go to preschool these days.
@@GrandmaJoJo-gd6yh my daughter has been reading since 2. All children should be encouraged to read. It’s insane that there are parents who discourage it. Yay for your grandson!
@@GrandmaJoJo-gd6yhsad that my own younger brother had to skip preschool entirely because of dumb covid then. i can agree, he used to have tons of homework. and barely any social skills at all.. he cant even solve arguments with our neighbor’s kid around his age. hes in second grade now, but i can clearly remember his times in kindergarten a few years ago right after covid was beginning to lift up.
@@decoystars definitely! I remember years ago, my oldest was talking during class, he was in 2nd grade and his teacher gave him a reading assignment as Punishment!!! I called her up and said, absolutely not!! I do not want my child to view reading as a punishment! I want him to enjoy reading. I said he will not be doing this punishment and I'd rather if he had to sit in at recess as punishment, but no way us reading going to be used like that. She understood where I was coming from and he was given a different Punishment
@@GrandmaJoJo-gd6yh good job! Too many parents also let others shape how their own children see their own education. All learning should be seen as fun and enriching, not as boring or worse a punishment.
“I’m a silky mom, of course my kids have unsupervised access to the internet and will probably be groomed by multiple creeps, which will therefore cause them tons of issues!🤪🤪”
That mother mentally breaking down in front of her kid really makes me mad! My mom has done the same thing with me for years because she has a bunch of mental issues, but that has caused me to have a bunch of mental problems as well!
1:59 this disturbs me sooo much!! teaching kids to read is super important. i feel like reading made my childhood immeasurably better- it helped me be creative, boosted my reading level, and was just fun overall.
(Read the Whole thing guys don’t defend these “Parents”) Please! Do not give your children an iPad until there At least in there double digits, there was a study showing if you neglect your baby, they’ll get upset and uncomfortable, if you play with them they will have a really good time don’t just shove a device in front of kids it literally RUINS Life’s, I’m not kidding, We just had a baby nearly 2 months ago and it’s the best playing with her and seeing her beautiful smile. (Edit 3) Ok you guys are idiots, In school, THAT’S FINE! For something medical, ALL GOOD, you guys *DO NOT* Understand what I mean by not letting them have an iPad till they’re 10 i mean don’t get one for them to scroll till the Universe explodes For Needed Reasons GET ONE but don’t just get it if it isn’t important!
My cousin died years ago and his kids went to my aunt. The youngest one can't read and he's 10! He became an iPad kid. Open mouth runny nose, can't read. While my sister had a baby 4 years ago and the little girl can read and speak better than him, I can tell ipads are very bad for kids :(
@FinnJayMakes what if they need it for school which many schools require tablets/laptops from middle of elementary say 3rd grade age 8 or 9. I was in my mid 20s when the I pad was released in April 2010 I myself own a 6th gen I Pad classic for about 6 years
@@courtneypuzzo2502 I said, Don’t *YOU* Give them an iPad till there at least 10, I don’t care if it’s for work I really don’t, it’s just when you shove the newest tech in front of a Kid’s face and let them scroll for hours till they can’t think properly, it seems like you’ve read my comment wrong and are trying to justify this bull crap.
whenever i see parents like this, it just reinforces my belief that there should be a test people need to past before becoming parents. like these people are not equipped to be raising entire humans
@@Aisha-Nyxnbecause it would only be enforced on people of color and queer parents. having an autism diagnosis officially can already get your kids taken away regardless of any other circumstances
Yeah I know from first hand experience. I started having unsupervised Internet access when I was just seven years old. I was also into my little pony at the time, so you can imagine how that went...
I found a good UA-cam hack for any parents who want to curb doomscrolling. When the little one and I watch UA-cam in the living room, I tell him he can pick a show, then I pick a show, and then him. We take turns. I would always pick shows around 10 minutes, random stuff like "how do volcanos form, or How its made" type stuff. And if he picked a 30 second Tik Tok-esq short, then it's not long before I get another turn. ;) It teaches a kid to be more picky on what they watch. More intentional. He doesn't pick the shorts anymore, and will sometimes choose a 45 minute documentary type show about Lego. Final note, kids are clever, make a rule against compilation videos. No one wants to endure 10 hours of "try not to laugh" shorts!
I hear Selkie parents instead of silky. Honestly a seal woman being held captive who will abandon her kids as soon as she gets her hands on her seal pelt again sounds like a step up from Millennial parenting.
7:10 this is litteraly how my uncle passed away. The center where he lived let him eat dirt and soap, and he suffered severe poisoning and died from it. (It happened too often) PLEASE ma'am don't let that baby know the same fate, because he will leave much faster than you think……
The unlimited screen time thing really depends on the parent. Me and my siblings had unlimited screen time, but our parents actually parented us. The unlimited screen time wasn't out of laziness in parenting. We were also taught internet safety and actual computer literacy and computer science, so we could put our unlimited screen time towards something useful and productive, and fun! My sister is now a digital artist and my brother is due to graduate with a degree in computer science this year. Me and my other brother are going non-computer related routes. My point is, a lot of people demonize the technology part when it's really all about the parents.
I was like 5 or 6 years old when I didn't have a phone yet. We had a family computer, Windows 7. I had like only 30 minutes of screentime allowed and I remember playing the Friv menu games and watching roleplay gaming videos. It was the best time.
These kids are being set up for failure. We can sugarcoat it all we like, but these kids are going to grow up with a shitton of issues and now way to handle them. However, if there's a bright side to all of this, it's that in 30 - 50 years, the Therapy and Nursing Home Industries are going to be booming.
I am so afraid for these kids. Already there are kids of Gen X'rs who are in their 20's who are at the level of middle schoolers that I have met, and I was in shock. Like, society is going to fall apart if we can't give these kids the upbringing they need.
At this rate of education with parents who think teaching their kids proper manners and how to read is "robbing them of their childhood", there won't be enough new workers in such industries to support that boom
When one of my nieces was little she was staying with my sisters mom (my dad’s ex wife), ended up getting sick and she wanted to deal with it in a natural way. My niece suffered for days and now is paraplegic, had a feeding tube, now she can feed herself somewhat, can’t talk. She’s now 25. My sister blamed her mom for it because she was never informed on nothing until she was actually taken in. She had cocci-meningitis. Don’t ever wait, if she was brought in sooner things would’ve been different.
7:52 my mom did this when I was little and it made me feel like a disgusting *thing* and led to suicidal thoughts and hating myself, I’m still afraid to talk to my mom about it because I don’t want to burden her
@@pringlebatch yeah hers is called Drama Kween or something like that. But just a heads up she is L O U D and some of the takes. ..she’s cool, I just don’t agree with her every time.
Listen... I'm homeschooled but... I've been taken to the doctor, had electives that weren't at home, went to summer camps, and learned about things when I was old enough to learn about them!
@@CheesburgerCheesburger-n6k For your information... I have a lot of friends in each place I go. And although I wasn't always, currently I can be pretty good in social places.
Yes! I am also homeschooled and I too have done extracurricular activities outside of my home. I kind of hate how people have this stereotype that homeschoolers are unsocial because most of the homechoolers that I've interacted with are some of the most friendly and social people I've ever met.
@@CheesburgerCheesburger-n6kAnd public schooling can cripple social skills because you never have to learn to make real friends, since you're forced to work with your cell - I mean class - mates 😅. Public school could theoretically help some people, but for the majority who naturally want friends, homeschooling is healthier - way easier to make friends without depression or social trauma!
4:15- lol i was that kid, my mom would sit in the bleachers and play phone games bc she didnt understand my sport (field hockey) but when my sister was in RUGBY she would go insane for her at her games (in the us rugby isnt a very popular sport for most people, my mom didnt know what rugby was til my sister joined) i saw one of my teammates moms trying to get my mom to look up and cheer for me but she didnt so she felt bad and would cheer for me even tho i wasnt her child. edit: i dont talk to my mom anymore btw lol
7:40 That kid might grow up to walk on eggshells all the time, or be incredibly reluctant to recieve help from anyone out of fear of being a burden. There's nothing wrong with sharing your emotions to your kid, but straight-up having a mental breakdown in front of them while telling them "I'm exhausted because of you," is going to plummet their self-worth.
My mother used very similar tactics when she was raising me and it really messed me up. I am still working through these issues in therapy. I cannot believe that that mother can claim that she is teaching her kid "emotional regulation"
this happened to me too, i specifically remember once being yelled at because my birthday party was too much work or too expensive or something. i was honestly too young to really conceptualize birthday parties lol, they just decided that had to throw me one to be good parents and then they got mad that i was making their lives harder… getting emotional in front of your kids and then blaming them for it is not teaching them to handle emotions, it’s just guilting them for existing and being children/needing to be taken care of/wanting normal childhood things. parents love to hold kids to their crazy standards. a kid is going to cry and need things and want to play in the mud.
I was thinking about that too, if someone I view as an adult above me cries I will habe a panic attack because so many adults cried to me when I was growing up and I was always told how stressful and much me and my siblings were
12:56 , actually that TikTok is made by a woman who does 2 sentence horror story content, that was one of them, they’re supposed to be shocking, she has two sons and no daughter, her sons don’t know about what she films about but they kind of act as a co-actor for some 2 sentence horror stories involving kids and the like (like horror revolving around monsters under a bed or something of the like) so she doesn’t expose it to him, Im pretty sure the story wasn’t written by her as well
I will actually never understand those "beige moms", my whole life I've love color a bunch, I couldn't imagine having to take my art off my walls because it doesn't match my parents "aesthetic" or whatever.
Gen alpha here! My parents were the “gentle” parents. But they did it right. They still punished me, gave me healthy food (even though it was harder because I’m autistic), and they don’t shove an iPad in my face. I do use on but I watch a lot of tv too. What gentle parenting is, is parenting without abuse. A lotta millennial parents need to know that. Just to say it again, I’m autistic so I need the gentleness a bit.
I want you to know I hear you. I really think the only criticism is for people who are disguising neglect and they say they’re gentle parenting, but they truly never learned how to do it. I think the thoughtful applied gentle parenting is terrific, no criticism here.
Me too. However, I was given an iPad at 2. The difference is that my mom actually regulated it and made sure what I was watching wasn’t brain rotting bullshit. I have a life outside of technology, which is something I can’t say about some of the people in my school.
@TrainWreck24-7 My son is 8 and I did let him use my tablet to watch appropriate videos or games at times when 2/3, he was also always regulated with it. To this day, he doesn't have a TV in his room. He does have a Switch and a VR headset, but needs to earn his game time by completing homework and chores. When he's not using screen time, he loves to read, draw and even started making his own comic books.
I remember my grandmother made me sit down to do a Pratice reading/writing work book every summer, only for 30 minutes a day. I always hated it as a child because I always thought summer was meant to be fun, but looking back, I'm happy she did that. It helped improved my reading and writing skills. It was the same thing with math. So, seeing parents nowadays on how they raised their kids, it makes me grateful for having a good family, but makes me sad that these kids are not getting taught properly. I really hope things change soon.
lol my parents were exactly like that. Back then(the 2000s) they restricted my TV time, video games, and even playing outside until I finished all my work/chores heck even summer I had workbooks. Even in my early teen years My ipod and Internet usage was limited till I got chores done. I thought I wasn’t having as much fun like the other kids but looking back im glad I was raised right.
I loved reading enough we didn’t have to do this with me Not to brag but by third grade I was the highest reading level And you know what I’m sad that there will be even fewer kids to achieve this now
8:03. The fact this video was even recorded and uploaded is absolutely embarassing and horrifying. Here’s me recording myself having a mental breakdown infront of my baby that literally can’t speak words yet. Like what? What even? That’s horrifying
i had a good friend growing up whose parents remind me of that one girl. they only bought junk food, sodas, sugar cereals. not a single fresh fruit or vegetable - and they had the means to. when i'd stay with them, they'd only serve us soda not water and fixing us breakfast was taking cereal and spooning sugar on top of it before giving it to us. my friend was under 13 and had numerous health problems. a little indulgence is fine but there's a point where it becomes a form of abuse and neglect. not caring about your child's health equals not caring about them period.
This is what’s causing gen alpha to be such terrible people. Because many of these kids were(and are) the accessory babies born in the 2010s that were born to a large minority of(a lot of) teenagers who wanted to showcase their cute baby as if they were a furby accessory trying to copy the celebrity (spesficially the kardashians and Kyle Jenner) accessory baby trend which resulted in the aesthetic of parenting and having a cute baby without any of the actual work needed to raise a baby to a functioning human being with good literacy skills, a reasonable education and basically becoming a functioning person. Oh and teen mom the tv show(which despite showing some of the darker sides and contributing to a decline in teen pregnancy’s some dumb kids still took inspiration) . It’s made even worse because now TikTok and instagram reels glorifying pregnancy at young(like teenage) ages for aesthetics even if said person was not ready or willing to handle responsibly raising a future adult and showing none of the true consequences and sorrow that comes with ruining your and a future humans life, instead being filled with instagram photos of cute mommy and baby in matching outfits on highly staged photos with no hint on how difficult it is to raise a human being. anyway The baby was never supposed to grow up as a person and become a functioning human being but to be a silent being with no thoughts of it’s own to dress up and show off to instagram and Pinterest. Essentially a doll. However when that baby started to grow up into their own person and becoming a human being because as it turns out baby’s grow up to be a functioning adult. The parents has no desire to be a parent and does not know how to raise a functioning human so they dumped them in front of iPads in order to get them out of the way and basically negelect them. The consequence is that now we have an entire generation of kids who have not been taught basic lessons and how to be a functioning person. This is scary because they are our next doctors, artists, writers, musicians, librarians, mechanic, firefighters, plumbers, etc. and they end up with social media addicitions and have shockingly short attention spans thanks to overstimulating UA-cam shorts and they were never taught how to be a successful person who thrives in society all because they were treated as disposable photo props to get more IG likes. To be clear not every parent is like this and there are many parents trying to raise their kids good and teaching them to be a good person but it is concearning how the accessory babies are now being turned into monsters at shockingly young ages. I really hope people wake up and realize that this is a problem and how we need to educate kids and prevent toxic Tate influences on boys And toxic trends on girls. We need to let kids learn positive values and teach the, about diversity and how to be a good person and helping other people and doing good things and working hard to achieve whatever goals they want. We need to fix this and help prepare kids to be a functioning good adults so that they can succeed and it even affects the kids who weren’t accessory babies because the peer pressure to act more mature than before has ramped up significantly as the moms of the accessory babies shunned kid appropriate outfits and acting their age and stuff because they wanted the babies to be dressed up in adult fashions for instagram photo ops and have engrained that acting like a kid is stupid and that they go from accessory Baby to hot young adult with no inbetween in their minds which warps them to act like an “adult” when way too young and if a kid simply acts like their age group they are often picked on by accessory babies which means that a lot of kids are now under peer pressure to grow up way to fast because the accessories kids that dominate the school and act like monsters towards everyone else. It’s because they were never taught how to be a good. Person. And it’s because of the parents who wanted accessory babies for instagram rather than raising a human. Like it’s the 30 year mellenials who take their kids only to instagramamble play areas, dressing them up for photo shoots every week in new clothes, going on instagramamble vacations and even having another baby only for clicks. This is the reality of the situation we are seeing the consequences of this in real time. The kids were never taught how to be a person and because of that they have almost no manners and learned all their lessons from toxic influencers and or consumerist influencers. It’s because the parents neglect them instead of providing moral lessons on how to be a good person, teaching them right from wrong, or even providing them good tv shows like BCG, and bluey instead dumping them in front of iPad content farms that rot their attention spans without any moderation causing them to have no imagination and tech addictions and then for the boys watching toxic influencers like Andrew quagmire tate and his merry band of Herbert the perverts(it’s a family guy reference). And for the girls being brainwashed into acting like adults and buying skincare that burns their skin instead of age appropate skin care. It’s a whole mess that we need to do better with our next generation of people because we need to stop treating kids like they are just instagram photos and they aren’t babies with on and off switches but babies that grow to toddler then kid tween teen until they become an adult who should be able to do basic functions in society. I am legit concerned about the next generation and them being addicted to content farms rather than quality shows with educational and entertainment value and not being taught basic morals like don’t steal the cookie, everyone is equal, clean up after yourself, don’t rudely interrupt other people. or even helping them get to grade level reading and stuff(and I’m not counting kids with disabilities, like autistic and adhd kids) to function in society. like I literally heard that sped kids with disabilities and autism etc are literally doing higher reading levels than regular kids because a lot of the regular kids were never taught. It’s legit concerning.
As a millennial I would have lived the neutral look but on earth/natural side I hated the bold colors etc on everything and our entire ancestry only recent times have we shoved bright colors into kids faces 365 days a year - but disconnected from nature
10:41 my mom uses essential oils for a lot of things, scars / wounds (not too srs), stress reliving (idk how it works but it does), treating a small cold (idk how that works either), etcetc but if i or my siblings are EXTERMELY sick or show mlid symptoms, she makes sure we get a doctors appointment, because essential oils dont fix everything!! (Shocker, i know!)
Oh for goodness sake, why on earth are these mom's even having children if they're not going to parent them? If home aesthetics, games, and working out are more important than the well-being of their children then these moms need to stop popping out kids. Being child free is fine too if you're not going to parent.
I was born in 96, grown up as a TV kid, unlimited screen time really does screw up a kids learning ability. Throughout K-12, was a struggle, as a little kid, I couldn't read, math, spell, count money, tell time, had multiple tutors, low GPA, I barely graduated high school. The long term effects really do impact my adulthood, I'm years behind my age group.
I’m 96 too! My screen time was pretty limited by way of watching things. My mom worked for playstation as a message board moderator so we had a lot of games. As long as she had played the game and approved it, I could play it. She used Final Fantasy 9 to teach me to read when I was 5. She would have me read the dialogues to her while she played. I primarily played games that didn’t have a ton of voice acting so I was reading a lot lol. I suck at math and science and stuff but reading and history were my thing.
96 Here to, I got unlimited screen time as long as I was watching documentaries or other educational stuff. Other things were on the table, but more closely regulated. Made me into a nerd but didn't hurt me really. Went until I was like 14 and then I was trusted to make healthy decisions mostly on my own. One of the best times was when I convinced my mother that Mythbusters was technically educational. I also had a library worth of books though so I can't say I recall being glued to a screen all the time. I don't think she really bought it, but I think she liked the fact I made an actual case for it instead of throwing a tantrum. ^^
At this point, it's rage bait. I think social media makes it out to be a vast majority of people who are these kinds of parents, when in reality, it's still (thankfully) a minority. But these people know what they're doing. And they do it well; their bad choices get them millions of views.
I have parents who treats my little sister (11 year age gap) EXACTLY like the first mom. She gets unlimited screen time at a VERY young age while I can't have any sort of social media/multi-player games and I used to have a screen time limit that went from 1 hour max to 3 hour max over the span of a few years. At some point (in my teen years) I had no devices at all. My sister is literally just past the toddler stage and she's had 3 phones and 2 tablets I believe. Crazy.
at the beginning silky mom just meant someone who is not crunchy (nature obsessed mom who thinks everything modern is toxic and lives like an Amish person) and who does give their kids the occasional junk food sometimes and lets them watch TV because she needs to get shit done, but as always people run with it and ru8in it that is why we can't have good things.
Why can't we have moderation instead? Parents who give kids a balanced diet but allows them to have snacks and sweet things as a treat from time to time?
I have a six year old and I had a wide awakening when I thought kindergarten was socializing, naps, and three letter words. It is not that way anymore. He had homework, he was expected to know how to read, sit quietly for hours, and only get recess at the end of school. This world is not the same after you have a child. I thought like you, then I had a child and saw the truth of the world.
12:02 it’s also possible that her child might have diet restrictions due to allergies? And maybe she did it for fun? I am a child with a very strict diet due too allergies and I personally still go trick-or-treating just for the fun of it. And my mom gives me treats that I can have. Though if this is not the case, yeah the mother is a bit of an asshole
I was thinking that. Trick-or-treating is still fun for kids who can’t eat any of the treats. This is a great way to do it for kids with severe allergies!
Im pretty sure its not because of allergies. She said stuff like "healthier foods." she never really put any implication it was only because her daughter COULDNT have the foods.
This is absolutely disgusting. Let your kid be a kid before they grow up to be an adult and realize that they never had time to actually be a kid. Stop doing this before your kid sends you to the retirement home.
And I can confirm that some parents use sports as a big babysitter. My daughter is 8 and does soccer. We have practice twice a week. Parents will drop their kids off and be gone. These are 8/9 year olds!! The coach is constantly sending out group text sayings, so an so needs mom, no mom insight. It just really errks me..
I am so glad there are at least a few sensible people out there. I want to raise my future kid the right way so watching these videos shows me what to do and mostly tells me what NOT to do.
i love the minimalism clean girl aesthetic, but if i were a mother, id love my kid more. anything they love, i love and it would be a part of the aesthetic of the house, no matter the colour or vibrancy
Exactly!! Like it looks good and all, but it can still look wonderful while accommodating your child’s preferences. Colorful spaces can look great!! It really just requires having an open mind; you can be an artist and a loving parent.
My mom couldn’t make it to my softball practices because she had to work, but she stayed in her car to do her work and if she finished early, she would come out and she would put off her work during my game so she could watch me and the other parents always cheered for me when she was not there
@@margaretbush so does a human's skin and sunscreens actually prevent the skin from taking UVs which IS NEEDED FOR OUR BODY TO PRODUCE VITAMIN D! aaand there's this corelation between sunscreen and skin cancer (dating all the way back to the 50s) so if anything, limited/mindful exposure is the way to go
By pre-k/k I could read, write, memorized my parents names address phone numbers place of work. Colors, shapes, animals etc. Mum had ME read her the Aesop’s fables as a baby. Ty mum.
9:39 My uncle did that to his baby. He lives in a village, and his daughter got pneumonia and he took her to his neighbour who does not have the experience like a normal doctor does. My dad gave him money to take her to the city and treat her. He didn't do that UNTIL 90% of his daughter's breathing had stopped. Everyone was extremely worried about her but she luckily survived.
It is important to show your children emotional regulation through modeling, but absolutely not in the way that mom did sobbing at her son. I would always say ‘mamas very upset right now, I’m going to go take a break to calm down, take breaths, and then I will come back and we can talk about this’
12:25 lets be honest when the kid is old enough to go trick or treating by themself or with a friend theyre gonna be eating ALL the candy they receive or atleast most of it bc they know they'll get it replaced with "organic" stuff :/
I had a tv in my room in the 90’s. I thought it was normal. I had unlimited access to Barney. My mom would have gone insane if she was subjected to how many times I watched those tapes.
11:53 From experience, those bear fruit rolls are DISGUSTING. Unless they've changed the recipe, those should be considered child abuse on their own lol.
@-.FloofFox.- I know right, how do you screw up what is essentially dried smoothie that badly? I'm cringing thinking about the taste and I haven't had one in like 6 years.
Motherhood shouldn't be an aesthetic, the most important thing has to be the happieness and wellbeing of your CHILD!
It's not about aesthetics. It's about losing our village.
People are going to the internet to find the communities they should be reaching out to in the real world, but it's 1) expensive to do a so in most cases 2) Hard to find the right circles when their are so few and 3) not having time or energy to do so.
So "I'm a silky mom" "I'm an almond mom" "I'm a crunchy mom" is really just "I identify as part of this community"
There's loads of examples of this even outside of parenthood.
Parents of that generation really seem to be having children to serve as dolls to show off or an achievement to announce instead of actually being parents
@@heath6802 I think it's not just that generation, older parent-child relationships were also based on showing off your kids/ representing how good your parents are at parenting.
ABSOLUTELY
@heath6802, that has been a thing since I don't know how long. Some parents either show you off or not take care of you, but usually it's a middle ground
When parental abuse and neglect becomes ✨AESTHETIC ✨ 😨😨
It should not be an ✨Aesthetic ✨ 😃😀
Good ol’ ✨aesthetics✨be promoting ✨child abuse✨
Fr this was my childhood I would not wish it on my worst enemy
More like neglect. Not particularly abuse
@@ScentsibleJournal could be both
I had a friend who's mom REFUSED to take her kids to the docter unless they were 'actually sick.' My friend died from a heart attack at 14 years old! (Yes she died because her mom refused to take her to a docter for 'unbearable chest pain!' as my friend kept telling her!)
I swear that's murder rip to your friend though 😢
my family doesn't care about my constant pain or constant stress and other difficulties, i thought that was normal?? like, i'm not actually sick or anything, i think.
>:(
Heart attacks ARE A SERIOUS THING WHAT IS WRONG WITH TIKTOK
Rip your friend😭😭😭😭
“I’m a silky mom so naturally I love going bankrupt, giving my kids mental health issues, and feeding the American obesity rates”
it feels strange considering i struggled with weight as a kid. yea, we had to switch when i was a kid and i was still chubby!
we should teach varieties of eating food and how to establish a good relationship with food. have some treats here and here, but also let's make eating healthy fun and enjoyable!
“i’m a silky mom. of course everyday they get a happy meal and Mac and cheese and I don’t care if they get diabetes and heart disease or even terminal illness because at least foods like that make them happy let kids live fast and die young 😍”
@@Octowoman2419 my friend's mom was leting her eat only meat and snack bc she didn't like It. She only forcing her to eat corn. She's having problems now
Also, the whole family is allergic to discipline
Yep, and her fortitude is equal to a strand of silk as well..
All children deserved parents but not all parents deserved children.
one of the wisest statements ever
Any parent video has this comment.
@@Furiaerose It’s an easy way for people to get likes. For it’s unfortunately been overdone even though the message is true
@@ShadowYetSleepyhow is it an easy way to get likes people can say what they want to say
@@Im_nothim34 Because of course it’s a highly agreed comment and I agree to it of course. But I’m not saying they’re not allowed to say it though for if they want to say it, they can
as someone who had unlimited screen time as a kid, i am all for limiting your children screen time and NOT giving them their own device until their at least in 6th grade.
Fr bro when I was like 8-12 I started getting my own devices but my parents made sure I wasn't spending all day on them. I was mad at first, but looking back, they only did it because they cared about me. But now they've changed. My sister and I are allowed to spend all day on our phones, and nobody tries to stop us. I've been working hard to find hobbies outside of screen time, and I think I'm doing pretty well, but my sister just spends all day on UA-cam shorts, and it's clearly had an effect on her behavior and the way she talks. My dad complains about it, but I think he should step in and do something about it if he cares so much.
So yeah. Limit your kids screen time. They might not like it, but it'll be much better for them in the long run.
(I kinda wish my parents were even stricter about screen time tho cuz I had unsupervised Internet access and it messed me up)
Yeah it messed me up fr
Schools in my country working with rules about no phones in school, but it's been 2 years and nothing changed. School constantly needs kids to have phone to get something from internet for classes, or contact parents for some reason (idk why students needs to do that, when teacher can).
@@dashaash5903 yeah the excuse kids give is always "but what if i need to contact my parents!!!1!1111!!!1" just let the teachers do it if it's that important. and for the internet thing...do kids not have laptops provided to them by the school?? that's how it is for me, but idk about other schools
@@TheStar121 we don't, we had computers for informatics classes, but we weren't allowed to get in class to use them without teacher. Some of school in my country don't even have computers and they just use books to teach about it🤷♀️
a child learning to read is **NOT** ending their childhood??? I volunteer at my local preschool and those kids were so excited when they learned how to read their first word. How is it that some parents just can't handle basic human skills???
fr!, my brother started reading at the age of 5 and he loves it. He can sit and read for hours to hours on end, learning him to read at a early age helped him much in school he got good grades and still is to this day. He just ended 6th grade with mostly A points in reading and writing bc me and my father helped him read at a early age.
They devalue education tbh. I was a kid who loved to read and was shamed out of it thanks to ableist schooling and being undiagnosed but equally shamed.
I hope all kids can find the joy of reading in whatever way works for them. ❤️
I LOVED reading even before I started school; I had a high reading level for a preschooler not because I was forced to grow up early, or whatever bullshit she said, I just liked reading
I was reading well before school - mainly newspapers and magazines, because that was what was around the house (apart from “Squik the Squirrel Possum”, a whole lot other of sauce bottle labels, shoe polish tins etc) - but absolutely LOVED the chanting the words all together ‘reading’ about Dick and Jane we did in class when I started school. Was as much fun as singing in a choir. It was only at the start of second grade, when we were allowed to choose a book for silent reading that I made the connection between the two sorts of activities.
My child is 4, and I thought I can't describe the feelings I got when I saw him writing his name for the first time. Education is something I take seriously.
For the parent that thinks books ruin childhood... I got a childrens book for their kid... its called "Matilda"
I think they will relate
REAL WHY IS THAT PARENT LITERALLY THE PARENTS IN MATILDA
I love that movie!
I have another. Madeline. Girl growing up in an orphanage. Books literally open imagination. If anything, books help your kids act more like kids. As a bookworm, I'm prideful in my immersion in books since being a child (I'm now 15) and my widespread imagination. Some parents are just dumb.
YESSS
THE MOVIE WAS BASED ON A BOOK?!
The video of the mother sobbing in front of her child really upset me. I’m not saying that you should hide emotions from children but breaking down like that must have been really scary. Children look to their parents for reassurance and guidance so for the child to see their parent so sad and exhausted probably confused and scared him beyond belief. Also, a two year old is not going to understand emotional stability as there are many people in the world a lot older that still don’t competent the subject. I hope the mother realized that that was not an adequate way to educate her child.
Yeah my mom was completely emotionally disregulated and threatened to kill her self in front of me for the first time when I was about 3. I'm now 28 and have no relationship with her, still have nightmares about her somehow being given responsibility for my care again. If you aren't able to regulate your own emotions you shouldn't be alone with kids ever
That was a very triggering clip. It was child abuse. It is called parentification and is common abuse from people with cluster B personality disorders. The child looked really frightened and confused as he was sucking his thumb and stroking his face for reassurance. CPS needs to be involved in that situation as this mother is too unstable to look after a child and having it on camera for clout too is just morally repugnant. Why aren't their family members calling them out on such obviously abusive and disturbing practices?
Seems as though most influencers and Vloggers have undiagnosed personality disorders. These videos remind me of Mommie Dearest. It is basically child abuse.
I was looking for this comment. My mom was abused without us kids noticing and one day she completely broke down, then my parents started fighting and a friends mom picked me up when the police arrived. I don’t remember the fighting, I don’t remember the police walking in. I remember my mom completely distressed drowning in tears
Even as an adult, having to deal with my parents' emotions is exhausting when/if I am feeling emotionally unstable/tired. And they're normal emotions. I can't imagine what being subjected to your parent's mental/emotional breakdown would do to a child; a toddler.
@@lastthingsministryCPS don't care
Honestly, half of these are actual forms of abuse- even mildly.
Very true, at any severity, abuse is abuse
honestly the only one that only seems a little weird was the first one, no where near as bad as the other ones tho
Ikr, some are just downright neglectful like the almond mom😭😭hopefully the almond mom kids don’t get a deadly disease😭😭😭😡😡💩
@@ThEcHiLlGuYEm i know i said they were the ONLY ones who were ONLY a LITTLE weird....
@@kathyortega4021 I think the almond mom one is satire? When she mentioned teaching her kids abour stoicism and corrupt gov I immediately figured it's not real, but it's so frustrating to see that there are moms that probably genuinely act like this
When I hear the word "silky" I automatically think of the Silkie Chicken breed...we aren't the same lol.
The little fluffy chickens are so much better.
Same
I automatically thought of Silky from Teen Titans (not teen titans go) 😅
🤣 they’re so pretty
I think silky nutmeg ganache
4:48 I remember when that one mom was legit mauled on the internet when she spray painted her child’s toy Christmas tree to fit her beige aesthetic. Then saw a comment how “the goth baby gets more color exposure” so I looked up the goth baby. There is a mom who is goth, and she dresses her baby in black. The nursery, crib, decor, and her baby clothes were all dark.
But guess what? The goth mom had a WHOLE ROOM of colorful toys and painted walls. She gave her baby “color exposure” so this way her aesthetic didn’t stunt her baby’s growth. You can still have your aesthetic, just make sure you actually help develop your child and not hinder it
I'm so sick of the "I'm a _____, of course I ______" format. It's getting so stupid and annoying.
SAME. it makes me wanna hurl whenever i hear it
That format sounds like sarcasm
Yeah the meme is SUPPOSED to be sarcastic/silly, but these weirdos dont understand the meme and are just using it to preach their BS
honestly i’ve always found that annoying
Yeah I think it's only good when used sarcastically & ironically. Otherwise it's just cringe and overused.
"don't take them to the doctor unless they are REALLY sick."
That reminds me of something my father (boomer) did to me years ago.
I was having diarrhea every few hours, and told him i needed to go to a doctor. he told me i had a "nervous stomach" like my grandma.
a few months later it was diarrhea every few minutes. again he told me it was just my nervous stomach. i told him i had nothing to be nervous about, but he insisted that a nervous stomach could cause trouble even when not nervous.
Eventually it was about a year since my problem started, and i was in the bathroom for 24 hours straight. just chugging water hand having diarrhea for 24 straight hours.
He FINALLY says "fine, maybe something is wrong" and got me a test kit from my doctor.... turns out i had Cdiff for a year. i was sick for a year and nearly died, because my father decided he knew better.
Tbh doctors are crap and probably would have said the same thing. Unless you are REALLY REALLY sick, they really don't care so long as they get paid
Dammit so much!
I'm a boomer, but the last thing I'd do was ignore my daughter if she came to me with something bothering her!
Kids or not, they know their bodies better than anyone!
What kind of parent invalidates their child's concerns about their own health?
I don't know what my daughter was born in, as I don't follow the boomer gen x millennial thingy, but she was born in 1992. Thankfully she is the kind of mother I was; attentive to her child's needs and responds to her kid when he goes to her with something HE knows is wrong.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I'm surprised your little self survived! That's a lot of fluid you kept losing for an entire year, or more!
I hope he felt horrible after he found out he was way wrong.
Love to you and that kid in you who had to suffer so long.
I’m so sorry for you.
And still I would say kids get sick a lot, and while their immune system is down from sickness it’s not always the first thing to go to the doctor where they can (and probably will) get exposed to worse illnesses, so I do think that, BUT (!!!) if a child is having diarrhea for over 24 hours that’s DEFINITELY a valid reason to get to the doctor (as diarrhea is a very serious symptom) there’s a place of in between that parents today are neglecting because everyone and everything has to be “all out” and to the extreme otherwise it doesn’t count 🤷🏻♀️ but it goes all ways.
Diarrhea is the most common cause of death for children under 5 worldwide. Children have a different physiological ability to cope with water and electrolyte loss. They will dehydrate much quicker than an adult.
It’s likely that you initially had “run of mill” diarrhea initially and that weakened your immune system to be able to fight off the bacteria which later caused the infection. It’s insane you went so long with that infection, I’m sure not exactly how long someone can have C. diff, but in my experience with patients so far in my 5 years of working in a hospital, I’ve only seen it active for ~ 1 month or it would come and go for a couple weeks at a time.
I don’t have kids of my own (yet), but I worked on a Children’s’ ED unit for a couple months and initially, I would sort of get irritated at parents who brought their kids in for things that could’ve been a normal doctor’s visit. But then we had a kid brought in who should’ve been brought in much much sooner… I realized I’d rather deal with a day full of negative flu and strep tests from overly cautious parents than a single case of negligent parenting
It’s like when someone tells a women “anxiety” is causing her problems.
10:12 [TW: child depression]
I learned how corrupt the government was at like 7-8 because the justice system failed me. I remember feeling very distanced, very apart and different from other kids. I remember how the joy and childish whimsy from my life disappeared and I learned to hate and for a long time I just ran autopilot on hate and I am just learning how it feels to show your affection to other people. I remember feeling very misunderstood and disconnected. I remember being on recess and just walking in the garden, walking without any destination or purpose. I was soulless. I felt empty.
Parents, be parents. Don’t be a political figure to them. Don’t take their childhood away. Don’t raise them with a political side.
can you help me through that because people don't care about children enough
I was neglected as a child as were my 3 siblings I got it the worst and now I can't show emotion well I struggle with relationships and many other aspects of life. I've been told that it shouldn't affect me cause I was a baby but even if i don't consciously remember it it has had an affect on me and I don't think many people understand that
Between being raised by the Addams' Family and these "aesthetic" moms, I'd probably turn out better developed being raised by Morticia and Gomez
we all wish we were raised by them
The Addams family actually support their kids, like when pugsly joined boy scouts, they were concerned at the change, talked to a professional, the professional said "he's good" and they tried to learn his interest, and they did
Yeah the dark and macabre humour aside (which clearly isn't meant to be taken seriously anyway), Morticia and Gomez are actually way better parents than most have ever been in most generations, for the sheer fact alone that they were actually present and emotionally available for their children, are actively involved and interested in their children's lives, are supportive of their kid's interests and activities, and actually did positive reinforcement instead of the typical punishment style of parenting.
Morticia and Gomez are good parents to their kids, they also love each other very much. They’re just goth
I would have loved it if my mom acted all cool and chill when I was going through my macabre phase, because I would have grown out of it sooner. But no, I have to hide the fact that I like goth fashion and Sabaton, Powerwolf, Civil War etc etc. I mean she knows about Sabaton, but I CANNOT openly listen to those bands without her telling me to turn it off and that it was annoying.
These parents are putting pretty names instead of saying "not parenting". Why do they even have children if they don't want to raise them?
They fulfilled their genetic obligation and the kid is now either an accessory or a regularly ignored secondary priority to their real love, tiktok.
@JT66613 Or they had the kid to maintain their ability to produce content. If you lack talent,ability, creativity or drive, just exploit your kid!
Government checks….
One of the strange consequences of social media is: if you give a fancy name to it, you can flex about things people would normally be ashamed of.
@@VictoriouslyRandomagreed. It’s the accessory baby trend and because many of them were teenagers when they had them the kid suffers. This is what’s causing gen alpha to be such terrible people. Because many of these kids were(and are) the accessory babies born in the 2010s that were born to a large minority of(a lot of) teenagers who wanted to showcase their cute baby as if they were a furby accessory trying to copy the celebrity (spesficially the kardashians and Kyle Jenner) accessory baby trend which resulted in the aesthetic of parenting and having a cute baby without any of the actual work needed to raise a baby to a functioning human being with good literacy skills, a reasonable education and basically becoming a functioning person. Oh and teen mom the tv show(which despite showing some of the darker sides and contributing to a decline in teen pregnancy’s some dumb kids still took inspiration) . It’s made even worse because now TikTok and instagram reels glorifying pregnancy at young(like teenage) ages for aesthetics even if said person was not ready or willing to handle responsibly raising a future adult and showing none of the true consequences and sorrow that comes with ruining your and a future humans life, instead being filled with instagram photos of cute mommy and baby in matching outfits on highly staged photos with no hint on how difficult it is to raise a human being. anyway The baby was never supposed to grow up as a person and become a functioning human being but to be a silent being with no thoughts of it’s own to dress up and show off to instagram and Pinterest. Essentially a doll. However when that baby started to grow up into their own person and becoming a human being because as it turns out baby’s grow up to be a functioning adult. The parents has no desire to be a parent and does not know how to raise a functioning human so they dumped them in front of iPads in order to get them out of the way and basically negelect them. The consequence is that now we have an entire generation of kids who have not been taught basic lessons and how to be a functioning person. This is scary because they are our next doctors, artists, writers, musicians, librarians, mechanic, firefighters, plumbers, etc. and they end up with social media addicitions and have shockingly short attention spans thanks to overstimulating UA-cam shorts and they were never taught how to be a successful person who thrives in society all because they were treated as disposable photo props to get more IG likes. To be clear not every parent is like this and there are many parents trying to raise their kids good and teaching them to be a good person but it is concearning how the accessory babies are now being turned into monsters at shockingly young ages. I really hope people wake up and realize that this is a problem and how we need to educate kids and prevent toxic Tate influences on boys And toxic trends on girls. We need to let kids learn positive values and teach the, about diversity and how to be a good person and helping other people and doing good things and working hard to achieve whatever goals they want. We need to fix this and help prepare kids to be a functioning good adults so that they can succeed and it even affects the kids who weren’t accessory babies because the peer pressure to act more mature than before has ramped up significantly as the moms of the accessory babies shunned kid appropriate outfits and acting their age and stuff because they wanted the babies to be dressed up in adult fashions for instagram photo ops and have engrained that acting like a kid is stupid and that they go from accessory Baby to hot young adult with no inbetween in their minds which warps them to act like an “adult” when way too young and if a kid simply acts like their age group they are often picked on by accessory babies which means that a lot of kids are now under peer pressure to grow up way to fast because the accessories kids that dominate the school and act like monsters towards everyone else. It’s because they were never taught how to be a good. Person. And it’s because of the parents who wanted accessory babies for instagram rather than raising a human. Like it’s the 30 year mellenials who take their kids only to instagramamble play areas, dressing them up for photo shoots every week in new clothes, going on instagramamble vacations and even having another baby only for clicks. This is the reality of the situation we are seeing the consequences of this in real time. The kids were never taught how to be a person and because of that they have almost no manners and learned all their lessons from toxic influencers and or consumerist influencers. It’s because the parents neglect them instead of providing moral lessons on how to be a good person, teaching them right from wrong, or even providing them good tv shows like BCG, and bluey instead dumping them in front of iPad content farms that rot their attention spans without any moderation causing them to have no imagination and tech addictions and then for the boys watching toxic influencers like Andrew quagmire tate and his merry band of Herbert the perverts(it’s a family guy reference). And for the girls being brainwashed into acting like adults and buying skincare that burns their skin instead of age appropate skin care. It’s a whole mess that we need to do better with our next generation of people because we need to stop treating kids like they are just instagram photos and they aren’t babies with on and off switches but babies that grow to toddler then kid tween teen until they become an adult who should be able to do basic functions in society. I am legit concerned about the next generation and them being addicted to content farms rather than quality shows with educational and entertainment value and not being taught basic morals like don’t steal the cookie, everyone is equal, clean up after yourself, don’t rudely interrupt other people. or even helping them get to grade level reading and stuff(and I’m not counting kids with disabilities, like autistic and adhd kids) to function in society. like I literally heard that sped kids with disabilities and autism etc are literally doing higher reading levels than regular kids because a lot of the regular kids were never taught. It’s legit concerning.
i can imagine kids of the sad beige moms having a decora or scene style when they are older
The unlimited snack thing got me. Sometimes you have to tell your kids "No" or "eat a piece of fruit" because eating candy and chips all the time is terrible for health.
i grew up with fruits and veggies as snacks, candy and chips were reserved for family gatherings…. i like the fruit best
Yeah, my parents have technically an infinite snack rule but they limit how many of a certain snack I can eat daily, like, only one peanut butter cracker thing (because the crackers are very salty), infinite apples, I can have apples whenever I want, I can have one banana a day just because that's a lot of fiber, I can have as many strawberries as I want as long as I save some for my siblings, etc.
As someone who eats fruit, Having fruit in the house actually makes a pretty damn good alternative to snacks.
I got sick and tired of sweets a long time ago, but I have yet to get tired of fruit, even though I consume a hell of a lot more fruit than I ever have with chocolates.
@@Lyzwyzrd That’s similar to what my parents did. Most junk food was only once a day except for holidays like Halloween, Christmas, Valentine’s Day, and Easter. Birthdays would sometimes be an exception. Even on the holidays we still had decent moderation for the most part. I know there were two times with the expectations when I had too much candy and faced the consequences myself. They were a bit more lenient with vacations as well but the main rule was eat your meal before getting a snack or dessert. Depended a bit on the specific vacation. If we were at a theme park they would have more healthy snacks and those were mostly free for us to have as needed
@@minatoaquassame. I’m very greatful
I hate those “crunchy” and “almond” moms, because let me tell you there is a BIG difference between being healthy and being practically neglectful. If your kid is dying from an illness, you are practically abusing them by just using an essential oil and not taking them to the doctor.
right?? imagine thinking you can cure an illness with gemstones, essential oils and good vibes
There are some really good people in those communities
However, most media members don’t pick up on some of the unspoken ethical laws
They proceed to violate them while claiming to be part of such affiliations
I know a guy who was raised by a crunchy mom and he won't even take ibuprofen if he has a migraine. He believes it's bad for you and since it affects your liver and whatnot, and I tried to tell him that if you take 200-400 mg of ibuprofen for a migraine or headache that won't mess up your liver, but he won't listen, so he'll go for 3 or 4 days with this headache because he was raised to not take medicine.☹️
To be fair, ibuprofen, Advil, Tylenol or asprin don't work for all migraine sufferers. I know people who've tried many of those and it didn't make a dent in the pain. @@tnetennba725_3
It's messed up like yes I will wait until I am half dead to go to a doctor but you can't risk someone else's life over like a 10000$ bill a lot of people really shouldn't have kids
For the first one, I had unlimited screen time and had tablets with unrestricted access to it when I was 3-4. Many years later as a teenager, it frustrates me when I see parents do the same thing my mother did. It really f#cked me up, because I seen a lot of disgusting sh#t I shouldn’t have when I was 5 and I just hate the thought of other people going through the same thing I did because the parents couldn’t be bothered to properly raise them..
I still regret stumbling upon some shit in my teenage years. I can't even imagine what it would do to an actual toddler.
The “not going to the doctor unless it’s severe” is something that SERIOUSLY messed me up as an adult. I have gone to work while deathly ill and extended my recovery by weeks because of it. And it’s not just physical health; i let mental health problems fester unabated because they “werent that bad” and ended up in an inpatient psychiatric facility because of it. That shit hurts kids way down the line
I talked myself out of "bothering the doctor" so many times when I was in a situation that was flashing a red light because it just got incrementally worse, and dealing with it day to day took up 80% of my mental energy. My doctor was like... if your nerves are on fire and your limbs are losing feeling, that is something he darn well wants to know! The number of times I've mentioned something that has just always been there and he just stares at me, deadpan. He has actually head-desked in my appointments. He now makes a point to reaffirm, "Yes, this is something we need to talk about," to drill it into my brain.
I got it into my head that I can have X amount of things wrong. So I can talk about my migraines, but is it more important that the room spins now and then? There are loads of things like that, and he's trying to get it into my brain that it's his job to decide what's important with me and that having more than one problem isn't "a bother!"
What do you work as?
Yeah not only does that denial of healthcare threaten the lives of the kids and yeah it still it fucks you up when you get older too.
I was experiencing extreme abdominal pain unrelated to menstruation, and my momma told me "we will only go if you think it's actually something cuz we don't want to go there and not be anything" and I was like 16 I had no idea what a burst appendix is like all I knew was it was The worst pain I've ever experienced in my life. I was curled up on the couch crying from extreme pain and I literally begged my mom to "please just tell me what it's like what is am I supposed to know! I don't know what I need to look out for!" and she just didn't. She refused to. She just told me that well let me know if you think we actually need to go. I would have died on that couch. If it was something that would have threatened my life I would have just died on that couch on my own as she went back to her room because "we only get treatment if were sure we actually need it". She also took away my health care when my doctor said I needed to get a diagnosis and medication because she fought I was being "lazy" if I was diagnosed and she didn't want me "using drugs"
It took me so long to unlearn that awful mentality because your taught to ignore your pain. It took me till I was like 19 to realize you can take painkillers like It's okay to just do that. I didn't even really think it was an option till I was about 18 and then I realized a bunch of people actually do that. And I still struggle with that. I went through many years of extraordinarily bad cramps every single period without ever using painkillers, and I still feel bad using them. But like I finally actually go to the doctors and use medication, but it still feels weird to me.
Let’s talk almond moms
I go to the doctor but I can tell when herbs or a doctor can fix it
@@randomwhatever5403 thats so horrible, im really sorry you experienced that. :( however, since you never grew up with the knowledge, im going to share it with you now: take pain meds as soon as possible. not just for your own comfort, but pain management for small things like a headache or soreness will prevent the pain from getting worse. there are also cases where just "toughing it out" will actually cause damage longterm. take the advil as soon as you feel pain. if it's serious then the pain will either get worse or keep happening regularly. if its enough pain that you can't function, thats extremely serious. there are pain charts online that focus on capability rather than numebrs, like "my pain interferes with my daily living / i can only lie in bed" etc.
furthermore, having terrible cramps is not normal. i didnt realie myself... and now, after confirming it wasnt something like cysts, i got rid of my cycle with hormones, im so much happier and doing better.
"why do i need to stare at them while they practice? That doesn't do anyone any good..."
....why do you need people to watch while you work out? That doesnt do anyone any good...
And they were outside on the football feild! Could she not just take a few laps around the field while watching him if she “had to” squeeze in a workoutout?
So silky is basically a nice way of saying inattentive and lazy!
I’m so disappointed, these are literally the parents from Matilda fr
The lady being mad about a child knowing how to read early is WILD to me, you’re literally raising a human being that NEEDS to learn how to read, why gate keep it so they “stay kids longer” wtf
its not even "staying kids" its "staying naiive and easily manipulatable and gr00mable"
Kids are literally learning machines, they crave it!!! So bizarre
I iterally could read at the age of 4. I didn't think my childhood was any less good because of it. The only instance when it could get bad is if parent went authoritarian on the child and constantly forced them to read all day long, against their will. But not allowing them to learn if they want to is just as bad. Just buy your kids some age appropriate books, let them figure it out. My mom also used to read to me a lot when I was still a child. It's not only educational but actually a really good bonding experience between the child and the parent.
Hearing “why do i need to stare at them? that doesn’t do anyone any good…” breaks my fucking heart. What have we come to as a society that you can’t see the value in watching your own child be happy and express themselves? shouldn’t you WANT to watch your kid doing what matters to them?
This is like saying why do I need to train my animals so that both our lives are better 😑
Especially because she is working out there obviously hoping that people will stare at her.
wait im like really slow can someone actually explain to me how watching practices is important? /genq (i do theatre so my parents only see the final shows, never done sports)
Sadly, these people see kids more as objects then they do human beings with individual traits and personalities...hell kids were being named weird shit because it was 'quirky' and some had to change their names once they were old enough.
12:03 I would have balled my eyes out crying and say screaming “I want my candy WAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH *crys louder* I WANT MY CANDYYYYYYYYY!”
as a person who was given unsupervised internet acess since an extremly young age. giving kids that sort of acess from a young age is a TERRIBLE idea. the internet is not a safe space for children. its never going to be. i got lucky, and just ended up a weird theatre kid (with a bit of a fanfiction phase thrown in). some people had it WAY worse and got HORRID ptsd. dont give your kids their own devices until theyre AT LEAST tweens. and supervise them while theyre on the internet until theyre at least teens.
As someone who started on the same path as you (theatre kid stuff, fanfic and other phases) but didn't end up so lucky (got groomed and did end up with PTSD). Yeah, the internet is just not a safe place for children, whatsoever honestly. No matter how careful and safe you are online when you're that young, it's just such a slippery slope. And I worry with the declining rates of general education levels in this new generation, it'll make these children even more vulnerable to people out to prey on them
also, your kids WILL, and i mean it, are bound to find inapropriate things on the internet. i found out what a rimjob was at eleven because of this kind of "chuck a device at them and we'll be fine" parenting. kids are curious by nature and will find this stuff if you let them on the internet without active supervision. and its hard to even tell that they know about this stuff if you're not being attentive with your parenting. its hard to imagine that, but you cant just think youre special and your kid will turn a blind eye, because kids are naturally rebellious and if something is labelled as "innapropriate" they'll be curious about it. im not saying dont let your kids on the internet, just dont give it to them unsupervised until they're teens. and "supervised" means youre activley watching and interacting with your child while they're on the internet.
The internet is a wild west.
These mothers claim they don't want to rob their children of their childhoods, yet they are actively allowing them to enter a world where they will be forced to mature at a very young age. 💀
I've been on the Internet since the mid/late 2000s as a little kid and saw some SERIOUSLY messed up shit. The scary misinformation that I believed, the unsupervised conversations with adult strangers... I now believe that the whole Internet should be for 13+. I am terrified for children today who have TABLETS- at least I had to physically sit at a comouter where my parents could see me!
Every time she's saying "I'm a silky mom.." I hear - "I don't care as a mother...." disgusting 🤢
I just hear "I'm a incompetent person who lacks the basic knowledge of how much you should let your child eat in a day."
What is silky exactly? I'm really confused about what that means. 😂 I thought she meant like silk sheets at first.
@@ritzritzer7836I think it’s meant to be the opposite of crunchy. I don’t really know how to explain it, but ReallyVeryCrunchy does a really good exaggeration of it
@@CarbonatedCondensation no the creator put the def in the video, they are someone who practices more lenient style parenting and is doing so with tech and easy access or something similar to that because i'm to lazy to look back at it
It’s just the inverse of “crunchy” and no, this isn’t a lack of care. You should let your kids eat when they are hungry.
the girl who 'pretended to k1ll her own daughter' was just doing a pov roleplay, it was just a horror story she wrote
Yeah, I'm glad people are bringing this up, bc I don't want her roped into this kind of content
@@_.nateingale._ literally i watch her all the time its just horror stories
Back in my day my siblings and I drank water from the hose, badly scraped our knees from falling off our bicycles, yet still had to wash our hands before eating and were taken to the hospital for illnesses. Oh I’m 23 btw, not 70.
My mom was a combination of strict and lenient.
She didn’t care where we went as long as we stayed in the neighborhood and came home before the streetlights, and if we DID want to leave to go to the park or something we had to ask her or our older cousin to take us (they playground was literally two blocks over and right up the street).
We had snacks and tv and stuff but that was limited. Had a healthy amount of technology AND going outside.
Going too hard in one direction messes your kid up.
@@therealopaartist Thank you!! Something my mom always was "too much is never good, and too little can be just as bad." She's amazing. Unfortunetely for other kids, most parents can never find the middle ground between being strict and lenient.
@@therealopaartist I had it similar. I actually wasn’t even allowed to go in the front yard alone until I was around 12-13. I wasn’t allowed on social media and just in general had moderation.
That said I was also allowed to have snacks (but it was still limited and you had to ask) and from quite a young age I had a CRT TV in my room, but it was mostly for my DVD’s so I wasn’t consistently watching unless it was a movie, and I didn’t use cable until I was older. I had screen time although as I got older as long as I was being respectful and responsible I wouldn’t have much of a limit. I also never really had a set bedtime, but I already struggled to sleep so it never made a difference. Id just be asked to settle down at a certain time. We were always encouraged to go outside, like most kids would before technology took over, and I enjoy sports so naturally we would be active and away from screens.
I feel like my parents were strict enough while also allowing free time and in a way giving us privilege and an enjoyable childhood, but we had to earn it.
i am 12. we still do this.
And you learned that water needs to run a few minutes before drinking out the hose 😂
The clip of the mom crying and telling the baby to stop hitting her didn't sit right with me. My mom did things like that when I was growing up; it was usually when I would just say I wanted to hang out with my friends, get my license, and more recently, move out. I still did all of those things, but it made the process unnecessarily stressful and scary because I knew that me making independent decisions would make her cry and slam doors in my face.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. Sending love
So sad that was your experience.
Thanks, guys. I'm alright, what helped me was that my partner always reassured me that I was just doing the best thing for me and I wouldn't have achieved independence if I just listened to mom. I wish she had been more supportive in the past, but these days (now that I'm in my mid 20s) she's slowly opening up more to my ideas. Sometimes our parents won't be there to encourage us when we need it, which is why it's good to have a support system outside of home. I'm very grateful for my partner.
It's really manipulative and also a great way to lose your child's trust. Children need clear, firm boundaries, otherwise they're going to end up ignoring any limit you set.
@@annjepsen1621 Absolutely 💯
7:10 I totally agree when I was a baby I was even more prone to sickness and infection because of an immune system malfunction (I can’t remember what it was called) so my parents were very strict with people cleaning their hands before holding me or my brother. That child will definitely have to go to the hospital because of the amount of germs and bacteria they have when he gets sick there’s quite a big risk of death in that situation
im surprised these moms dont give their kids a tablet right as they come out the womb😭
"Out of the womb, give 'em a screen before they're in the tomb!" -one of these moms, probably.
@@genieinalampproductions4431 HAHAHA
Nah I’m suprised these moms don’t shove their iPad in the womb for the fetus
Give it time. They'll bring 1 with them and hand it to them
you’re not far off, I saw a video of a mum giving her daughter a tablet for her 1st birthday.
That poor kid who got their candy taken away is going to have food security issues as a teenager and adult.
Sure it seems like a small thing, but it's shit like that that makes you have hidden snacks in your room at all times in case your mother decides something you like isn't allowed in the house anymore
Yeah, I don’t think unlimited candy whenever you want is good just like I don’t think how this mother swaps out all the candy for the healthy alternatives is good.
And listen, I’ve had those bear fruit rolls she included in that video and it SLAPS but I also still love Mike n Ike’s and pez. I think restricting the “unhealthy” candy isn’t going to benefit this child in the long run.
My biggest parenting concern for my future kids is how I am going to instill a healthy relationship with food, out of all the things I could worry about it’s that. My own mother was raised pretty old school-traditional “we are eating this for dinner, if you don’t want it, too bad; you aren’t leaving the table until you eat it” thing is, she has the worst ARFID I’ve ever seen in any person before. Her mother had to eventually give in and fix her one of the few foods she eats because my mom would sleep at the dining room table and starve herself for over 24 hours rather than eat a single piece of corn. My mom in turn, never learned how to cook anything other than the handful of foods she eats and let me decide whatever I wanted for every meal- which was a McDonald’s happy meal or a frozen kid’s cuisine every. single. day. Now, I have perfectly good food in my fridge but I would rather not eat at all unless it’s something I specifically want to eat. If I get a craving for chips and salsa, I will literally deny all other food and try to acquire chips and salsa. It’s really exhausting, and I’m not rich, I really don’t have the luxury of always fulfilling what it is I want to eat. I also end up feeling really guilty because I do have perfectly good food I just won’t eat, it’s such a privileged issue to have that I am working on trying to fix. I’ve always been underweight my whole life and people think that just because I’m thin, I’m healthy but that’s not the case because I never grew up with my nutritional needs being met and I know I still don’t meet them now either. It probably doesn’t help that I prefer eating nothing at all to eating something that I’m not in the mood for.
I have a lot of anxiety about how to provide my own future kids a happy medium. I’m thinking that offering a handful of options or predetermining meals ahead of time would be a good solution but I just can’t imagine myself enforcing it since I know I change my own mind on what I had planned vs what I really want to eat in the moment :/
Sheesh sorry for rant on a random internet comment
i really didnt get a lot of candy as a child, which i dont want to blame my mother for because she was trying to do her best for me. But when I had the opportunity to eat candy at my grandpas place or at the cinema with my sister i tended to overeat so much that i would vomit and get acne 💀. After moving out it took me a year to overeat on sweets. But really I do not really no what is the right way, because sweets caused a lot of problems for me as in acne and during my teenage years it was kind of my own decision to not eat sweets, so i wouldnt get any acne. Sugar is just evil 😭
My first thought seeing that was how id have shoved the candy in my pockets and hidden it later. My parents never did anything like that but I'm from a massive family and everyone would eat food so fast and if you complained you got in trouble so I still hide food and I used to buy food just to hide it in my room which I fear is what that kid will do someday
I had a bag of halloween candy after halloween once and my mom took it away when i got back home. My mom hates when i had candy. She would take my candy
One year for halloween my parents let my brother and I keep some of our candy and trade this in for a toy. We were aware that we would keep some and lose some it was not done in a sneaky way.
“Now I dont know what a ‘silky mom’ is supposed to mean, but it’s just a pretty nickname for ‘not very good’” DAYUMMMMMM🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
As a millennial parent, WE DONT CLAIM HER!! this is so gross.
Thank you for being a normal parent
As a millennial parent please let's not claim any of them 💀
OH MY GOSH FINALLY!!!! I've found some good millennial parents! Thank you so much for not following these stupid TikTok "trends" 😭
Im glad you’re the normal millennial parents
I hate that millennial parents are being targeted for being “crappy” parents. 😅
Most people seem to forget that these are also gen-z parents, not just millennials.
the mom that said she was teaching her son emotional regulation wrote that he "acknowledged her feelings and said it's okay for her to feel overwhelmed" ...ma'am, that child was sucking his thumb and babbling because he had no idea why his mom was being loud in his face.
I quite literally yelled out “girl grow tf up, you’re an adult” why tf is she crying? That’s how my niece acts when she doesn’t get her ice pop
It's lowkey traumatic to see an adult cry too, that kid when he gets older is likely gonna feel like he needs to apologise and make her feel better. Growing up so many adults cried to me about this and now as a barely adult if someone older than my cries I have a panic attack 😅 it's really not teaching him anything
How is having him validate and manage *her* feelings teaching him emotional regulation?
It's called 'parentification' and it is child abuse
Also, public school is not the only school, and daycares can often be problematic and even abusive and neglectful depending on the region you live in and what you can form.
Not to mention even HOMESCHOOLING can offer structure, routine, and social interaction, so much so that over the past ten years every study done has show MODERN homeschoolers to have superior social adjustment, social skills, social diversity and emotional maturity to both private and public educated children and adults. In the modern age, there are more opportunities for socialization as a homeschooler than any other option, due to the countless homeschool groups and meets, co ops that meet daily, field trips, science fairs, forest schools, and so much more.
My fiancé was homeschooled and quite literally was in a homeschool band, he traveled and toured with them even and ended up branching off and playing with diverse people from that, he also met with homeschool groups daily, did field trips, did authentic long term projects with groups of other people he had both long and short term relationships with without any adult intervention so he developed skills for self guidance and problem solving as well as navigating diverse social interactions. And he also had a pretty good structure, waking up daily, starting school fora couple hours, then going to meet with the co op to free play for 1 hour, do group projects for a bit, work on whatever the co op focus was for that day, then free play for longer, then they just chilled and did whatever they did as a family for several hours, then he had music lessons, computer class, Boy Scouts, or band practice with his friends depending on the day (all of this is after school hours so he saw tons of non homeschooled kids as well).
He also got chances to volunteer as well on one day a week as a part of his structure. I met him at a youth group when he came to play music there at an event actually.
This idea that anything but public school and day care means unstructured and un socialized is so outdated and ignorant at this point.
Not to mention that MY children attended day care for a month before I pulled them, after one of my sons medical issues were being neglected and , made worse by them and they let him marinate in poop for so long his booty was BLEEDING, and the other son has bruises and bites that were unexplained every day. My kids were miserable, declining, becoming withdrawn, and having a fit every morning. When I pulled them and began just staying home and working with them, they blossomed, and if anything we had a BETTER and more beneficial structure and routine at home, starting the day with breakfast activities, often outside, then spending a couple hours playing at the park with other munchkins, then therapies, then free play inside or outside with art materials, and some days we went to the children’s museum, indoor play ground, zoo, etc…. With OTHER kids.
napping when they were tired, as it should be at that young of an age quite honestly.
I just don’t understand why everyone thinks that public school and daycare are the only good options, especially when we have evidence and data proving otherwise. The only data that says anything contrary, doesnt! As it only compares daycare attendees to at risk children of lower income homes, single mother homes, or homes that aren’t actually engaging in any type of ECE, home education, developmental stimulation and developmentally appropriate activities, or social interaction and special excursions. It’s comparing those who’s parents work and come home, feed the kids and go to bed after a sitter kept the kids alive and not much else all day, to day care.
Idc this is long, keep speaking the truth man
9:44 this mentality is very scary to me because when i was 1 my parents thought i had a cold so they gave me something for that. It was when i started to worsen when they brought me to the hospital and the nurses told them that it was actually an asthma attack and that if they had waited just some more hours i could’ve gotten serious injury.
I just can’t imagine this parents going: “ well, my children don’t seem sick enough for me to care”
I wish my parents were like yours. They're the type of parents who won't take you to the doctor if it isn't severe. My eyesight is a bit blurry but they said it's nothing to worry. It's been 6 months and my eyes are getting worser. Pls give me tips to help my eyesight
@@GangleGoneInsane i’m so sorry that is happeninggg. Six months is a very small window of time so for you to perceive a considerable worsening is very concerning. Maybe you could go and get a routine eye check by yourself (depends on how old you are) if your parents don’t want to go but i don’t know how public healthcare works where you are. The only thing i would recommend is to not follow random internet advice without getting some kind of medical feedback (you know, don’t fall for the essential oil stuff jajajaj) specially because eyes are very delicate.
hope you get better :)
@@mon.not.online thank you so much ❤️
@@GangleGoneInsane you have near-sightedness...thisis true alr if you're of age in your place then go do a check u. And please DO NOT ask google internet advice. Or beg your parents abt it or this is pretty effective but it involves attention seeking (kinda), just look at smth like words nearby and say mum/dad what's written on that board? And make sure it's kinda like near but a bit blurry for u to see. Avoid screens and limit book reading. Focus on far objects and do eye exercises or smth I'm not sure I'm not a professional so I'd say check w/ a doc or do the seeking thing!
My mom has this mentality, and it really is a "my kid isn't sick enough for me to care" sort of thing. I've been having really bad back pain for a year or so now and she keeps insisting it's stress related, even after watching me struggle to stand and walk multiple times. This mentality is neglectful, if not outright dangerous
Parent of a kindergartener here. They don't take naps in school, my daughter reads at 2nd grade level and has homework every day. Sometimes I wonder if humanity has always been this ridiculous and we just didn't know because social media wasn't used or it's just getting progressively worse. I'm scared for our future every time I scroll.
Raising grandchildren here, no, they do NOT take naps, they go full days now, not half days. My grandson was reading Dr. Suess books at age 4, he enjoys reading. I encourage it.
But kindergarten is totally different than it was when my children went. It's focused more on education than socialization. Kindergarten used to be to get your child ready for school and to learn to socialize with other kids, but many go to preschool these days.
@@GrandmaJoJo-gd6yh my daughter has been reading since 2. All children should be encouraged to read. It’s insane that there are parents who discourage it. Yay for your grandson!
@@GrandmaJoJo-gd6yhsad that my own younger brother had to skip preschool entirely because of dumb covid then. i can agree, he used to have tons of homework. and barely any social skills at all.. he cant even solve arguments with our neighbor’s kid around his age. hes in second grade now, but i can clearly remember his times in kindergarten a few years ago right after covid was beginning to lift up.
@@decoystars definitely! I remember years ago, my oldest was talking during class, he was in 2nd grade and his teacher gave him a reading assignment as Punishment!!! I called her up and said, absolutely not!! I do not want my child to view reading as a punishment! I want him to enjoy reading. I said he will not be doing this punishment and I'd rather if he had to sit in at recess as punishment, but no way us reading going to be used like that. She understood where I was coming from and he was given a different Punishment
@@GrandmaJoJo-gd6yh good job! Too many parents also let others shape how their own children see their own education. All learning should be seen as fun and enriching, not as boring or worse a punishment.
8:31 if my mom did that, that would be long lasting guilt trauma
REAL
“I’m a silky mom, of course my kids have unsupervised access to the internet and will probably be groomed by multiple creeps, which will therefore cause them tons of issues!🤪🤪”
Some say its a hostel inhabitanting the strangest creeps...
It is virtually dropping off your kid in a big city at night without teaching or warning them about anything at all
That mother mentally breaking down in front of her kid really makes me mad! My mom has done the same thing with me for years because she has a bunch of mental issues, but that has caused me to have a bunch of mental problems as well!
Preach. That poor kid is in for a lifetime of walking around on eggshells.
Also a mother in stress infront of their child causes many issues mentally for the baby down the line. Her behavior was absolutely disgusting.
You want what makes it even worst. No one, literally NO ONE having a mental break up then set up a camera.
RIGHT! like you can cry in front of your kids that's fine. But don't emotionally abuse them and tell him it's his fault.
@@sierrabird2460I've cried in front of my kid, but apologised afterwards.
1:59 this disturbs me sooo much!! teaching kids to read is super important. i feel like reading made my childhood immeasurably better- it helped me be creative, boosted my reading level, and was just fun overall.
(Read the Whole thing guys don’t defend these “Parents”)
Please! Do not give your children an iPad until there At least in there double digits, there was a study showing if you neglect your baby, they’ll get upset and uncomfortable, if you play with them they will have a really good time don’t just shove a device in front of kids it literally RUINS Life’s, I’m not kidding, We just had a baby nearly 2 months ago and it’s the best playing with her and seeing her beautiful smile.
(Edit 3) Ok you guys are idiots, In school, THAT’S FINE! For something medical, ALL GOOD, you guys *DO NOT* Understand what I mean by not letting them have an iPad till they’re 10 i mean don’t get one for them to scroll till the Universe explodes For Needed Reasons GET ONE but don’t just get it if it isn’t important!
My cousin died years ago and his kids went to my aunt. The youngest one can't read and he's 10! He became an iPad kid. Open mouth runny nose, can't read. While my sister had a baby 4 years ago and the little girl can read and speak better than him, I can tell ipads are very bad for kids :(
I just realized my parents didn't love me because they purchased me a phone when I was only 5 years old 🤠
@@JubbysDragons I’m deeply sorry for your loss, it must have been so terrible as a 10 year old to not know how to do anything.
@FinnJayMakes what if they need it for school which many schools require tablets/laptops from middle of elementary say 3rd grade age 8 or 9. I was in my mid 20s when the I pad was released in April 2010 I myself own a 6th gen I Pad classic for about 6 years
@@courtneypuzzo2502 I said, Don’t *YOU* Give them an iPad till there at least 10, I don’t care if it’s for work I really don’t, it’s just when you shove the newest tech in front of a Kid’s face and let them scroll for hours till they can’t think properly, it seems like you’ve read my comment wrong and are trying to justify this bull crap.
whenever i see parents like this, it just reinforces my belief that there should be a test people need to past before becoming parents. like these people are not equipped to be raising entire humans
I agree, actually! We have licenses for driving, why not for parenting too?
@@Aisha-Nyxnbecause then you’d be governing ppls body and most ppl are against that
@@ElinWinblad ohhh… I see where you’re coming from… but it’s still not right for children to grow up with horrible parents!
@@Aisha-Nyxnbecause it would only be enforced on people of color and queer parents. having an autism diagnosis officially can already get your kids taken away regardless of any other circumstances
Do some of these parents realize how dangerous unsupervised internet access actually is?? 😟
Yeah I know from first hand experience. I started having unsupervised Internet access when I was just seven years old. I was also into my little pony at the time, so you can imagine how that went...
I found a good UA-cam hack for any parents who want to curb doomscrolling.
When the little one and I watch UA-cam in the living room, I tell him he can pick a show, then I pick a show, and then him. We take turns.
I would always pick shows around 10 minutes, random stuff like "how do volcanos form, or How its made" type stuff. And if he picked a 30 second Tik Tok-esq short, then it's not long before I get another turn. ;)
It teaches a kid to be more picky on what they watch. More intentional. He doesn't pick the shorts anymore, and will sometimes choose a 45 minute documentary type show about Lego.
Final note, kids are clever, make a rule against compilation videos. No one wants to endure 10 hours of "try not to laugh" shorts!
consider that i liked this comment twice❤❤
I hear Selkie parents instead of silky. Honestly a seal woman being held captive who will abandon her kids as soon as she gets her hands on her seal pelt again sounds like a step up from Millennial parenting.
Me too haha! I was like what does tv have to do with a shapeshifting seal woman
7:10 this is litteraly how my uncle passed away. The center where he lived let him eat dirt and soap, and he suffered severe poisoning and died from it. (It happened too often) PLEASE ma'am don't let that baby know the same fate, because he will leave much faster than you think……
Wow. I hope you and your family are ok! ❤
I’m so sorry for your loss! I hope you’re doing well❤❤❤
The unlimited screen time thing really depends on the parent. Me and my siblings had unlimited screen time, but our parents actually parented us. The unlimited screen time wasn't out of laziness in parenting. We were also taught internet safety and actual computer literacy and computer science, so we could put our unlimited screen time towards something useful and productive, and fun! My sister is now a digital artist and my brother is due to graduate with a degree in computer science this year. Me and my other brother are going non-computer related routes. My point is, a lot of people demonize the technology part when it's really all about the parents.
I only got "unlimited" screen time around 8th-9th grade.
I was like 5 or 6 years old when I didn't have a phone yet. We had a family computer, Windows 7. I had like only 30 minutes of screentime allowed and I remember playing the Friv menu games and watching roleplay gaming videos. It was the best time.
Kindergarten is not the Kindergarten that we had. They have classes like math,English, SS, gym, and so on.
I still had that. I didn't in preschool, but I did in Kindergarten
Already like that in Asia decades ago.
Australia calls PreSchool Kindergarten, so she was probably confused and started talking about PreSchool and Kindergarten.
For me kindergarten was fun and now it’s no different from 7th grade AND I HATED 7th GRADE
What does SS stand for?
Im now glad that my limits my screen time and lets me eat a few candies daily....IM SUPER GLAD MY PARENTS AINT A "SILKY" PARENTS..
These kids are being set up for failure. We can sugarcoat it all we like, but these kids are going to grow up with a shitton of issues and now way to handle them. However, if there's a bright side to all of this, it's that in 30 - 50 years, the Therapy and Nursing Home Industries are going to be booming.
Silver lining, I guess.
Hey I’m studying physchology
Well all I can say is
IM RICH HAHA
(We’re screwed)
I am so afraid for these kids. Already there are kids of Gen X'rs who are in their 20's who are at the level of middle schoolers that I have met, and I was in shock. Like, society is going to fall apart if we can't give these kids the upbringing they need.
At this rate of education with parents who think teaching their kids proper manners and how to read is "robbing them of their childhood", there won't be enough new workers in such industries to support that boom
Reading was my LOVE. I read at 5 yo, I loved Rainbow Fairies, Jacqueline Wilson books, Warrior Cats, David Walliams, Dork Diaries...
Let's hope you weren't reading Warrior Cats AT 5 yo... lol
@@korrianimationbodyguard4683 I was reading simple books at 5. Like rainbow fairies. I found out about warriors when I was 12
Warrior cats yoooo
omg yes rainbow fairies!
THANK YOU FOR REMINDING ME ABOUT RAINBOW FAIRIES
the two tablets for the 4 year old is insane. even one is insane but what do you need TWO for. is he incapable of plugging it in to charge??
When one of my nieces was little she was staying with my sisters mom (my dad’s ex wife), ended up getting sick and she wanted to deal with it in a natural way. My niece suffered for days and now is paraplegic, had a feeding tube, now she can feed herself somewhat, can’t talk. She’s now 25. My sister blamed her mom for it because she was never informed on nothing until she was actually taken in. She had cocci-meningitis. Don’t ever wait, if she was brought in sooner things would’ve been different.
Millennial here: Taking notes for what NOT to do.
For real. I’m pregnant right now and seeing this stuff blows my mind.
If you’re on the younger side of millennial (30) the 10 years goes quick if you want a family start soon
11:22 the only scary part of halloween in that house was her hairline😔
7:52 my mom did this when I was little and it made me feel like a disgusting *thing* and led to suicidal thoughts and hating myself, I’m still afraid to talk to my mom about it because I don’t want to burden her
I mean this in the most respectful way.
You and your sister are two of the loudest Australians I’ve ever seen, and I’m here for it. 😂
Does her sister have a channel too? 😃
@@pringlebatch yeah hers is called Drama Kween or something like that. But just a heads up she is L O U D and some of the takes. ..she’s cool, I just don’t agree with her every time.
I would love this channel if it wasn’t for the loud yelling talking. She’s going to damage her voice talking in that way.
11:04 JUST LET THE KID HAVE THE GD CANDY😭😭
Listen... I'm homeschooled but... I've been taken to the doctor, had electives that weren't at home, went to summer camps, and learned about things when I was old enough to learn about them!
It can still have side effects. Like being not socially good, having only a few friends
@@CheesburgerCheesburger-n6k For your information... I have a lot of friends in each place I go. And although I wasn't always, currently I can be pretty good in social places.
Yes! I am also homeschooled and I too have done extracurricular activities outside of my home. I kind of hate how people have this stereotype that homeschoolers are unsocial because most of the homechoolers that I've interacted with are some of the most friendly and social people I've ever met.
@@Elsie-hs5jb Ya... so many incorrect stereotypes!
@@CheesburgerCheesburger-n6kAnd public schooling can cripple social skills because you never have to learn to make real friends, since you're forced to work with your cell - I mean class - mates 😅. Public school could theoretically help some people, but for the majority who naturally want friends, homeschooling is healthier - way easier to make friends without depression or social trauma!
0:44 me and my friend watched this girls snapchat reels and she said she didn’t have an oven so she made her kids microwaved cheeseburgers for dinner.
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That’s just sad
I make airfried burgers all the time and they're honestly delicious (definitely not the same as a microwave tho)
4:15- lol i was that kid, my mom would sit in the bleachers and play phone games bc she didnt understand my sport (field hockey) but when my sister was in RUGBY she would go insane for her at her games (in the us rugby isnt a very popular sport for most people, my mom didnt know what rugby was til my sister joined) i saw one of my teammates moms trying to get my mom to look up and cheer for me but she didnt so she felt bad and would cheer for me even tho i wasnt her child.
edit: i dont talk to my mom anymore btw lol
Thats crazy as hell
7:40 That kid might grow up to walk on eggshells all the time, or be incredibly reluctant to recieve help from anyone out of fear of being a burden. There's nothing wrong with sharing your emotions to your kid, but straight-up having a mental breakdown in front of them while telling them "I'm exhausted because of you," is going to plummet their self-worth.
My mother used very similar tactics when she was raising me and it really messed me up. I am still working through these issues in therapy. I cannot believe that that mother can claim that she is teaching her kid "emotional regulation"
this happened to me too, i specifically remember once being yelled at because my birthday party was too much work or too expensive or something. i was honestly too young to really conceptualize birthday parties lol, they just decided that had to throw me one to be good parents and then they got mad that i was making their lives harder… getting emotional in front of your kids and then blaming them for it is not teaching them to handle emotions, it’s just guilting them for existing and being children/needing to be taken care of/wanting normal childhood things. parents love to hold kids to their crazy standards. a kid is going to cry and need things and want to play in the mud.
100%. Don't stonewall, but definitely don't vent about your kids to your kids (or anywhere they could hear.)
I was thinking about that too, if someone I view as an adult above me cries I will habe a panic attack because so many adults cried to me when I was growing up and I was always told how stressful and much me and my siblings were
One of my parents does this to me all the time. Even threatening suicide or breaking dishes over head and stuff. Now I lack empathy lmao
12:56 , actually that TikTok is made by a woman who does 2 sentence horror story content, that was one of them, they’re supposed to be shocking, she has two sons and no daughter, her sons don’t know about what she films about but they kind of act as a co-actor for some 2 sentence horror stories involving kids and the like (like horror revolving around monsters under a bed or something of the like) so she doesn’t expose it to him, Im pretty sure the story wasn’t written by her as well
I will actually never understand those "beige moms", my whole life I've love color a bunch, I couldn't imagine having to take my art off my walls because it doesn't match my parents "aesthetic" or whatever.
Gen alpha here! My parents were the “gentle” parents. But they did it right. They still punished me, gave me healthy food (even though it was harder because I’m autistic), and they don’t shove an iPad in my face. I do use on but I watch a lot of tv too.
What gentle parenting is, is parenting without abuse. A lotta millennial parents need to know that.
Just to say it again, I’m autistic so I need the gentleness a bit.
I want you to know I hear you. I really think the only criticism is for people who are disguising neglect and they say they’re gentle parenting, but they truly never learned how to do it. I think the thoughtful applied gentle parenting is terrific, no criticism here.
@@dianelipson5420Yeah, gentle parenting is the newest thing people misunderstand and misuse
Gentle parenting is parenting with natural consequences instead of abuse you're right bub
Me too. However, I was given an iPad at 2. The difference is that my mom actually regulated it and made sure what I was watching wasn’t brain rotting bullshit. I have a life outside of technology, which is something I can’t say about some of the people in my school.
@TrainWreck24-7 My son is 8 and I did let him use my tablet to watch appropriate videos or games at times when 2/3, he was also always regulated with it. To this day, he doesn't have a TV in his room. He does have a Switch and a VR headset, but needs to earn his game time by completing homework and chores. When he's not using screen time, he loves to read, draw and even started making his own comic books.
I remember my grandmother made me sit down to do a Pratice reading/writing work book every summer, only for 30 minutes a day. I always hated it as a child because I always thought summer was meant to be fun, but looking back, I'm happy she did that. It helped improved my reading and writing skills. It was the same thing with math.
So, seeing parents nowadays on how they raised their kids, it makes me grateful for having a good family, but makes me sad that these kids are not getting taught properly. I really hope things change soon.
Bro mine did the same
lol my parents were exactly like that. Back then(the 2000s) they restricted my TV time, video games, and even playing outside until I finished all my work/chores heck even summer I had workbooks.
Even in my early teen years My ipod and Internet usage was limited till I got chores done. I thought I wasn’t having as much fun like the other kids but looking back im glad I was raised right.
I loved reading enough we didn’t have to do this with me
Not to brag but by third grade I was the highest reading level
And you know what I’m sad that there will be even fewer kids to achieve this now
@@goosehubtheshipnerd Same case here. Bibliophiles UNITE!
8:03. The fact this video was even recorded and uploaded is absolutely embarassing and horrifying. Here’s me recording myself having a mental breakdown infront of my baby that literally can’t speak words yet. Like what? What even? That’s horrifying
i had a good friend growing up whose parents remind me of that one girl. they only bought junk food, sodas, sugar cereals. not a single fresh fruit or vegetable - and they had the means to. when i'd stay with them, they'd only serve us soda not water and fixing us breakfast was taking cereal and spooning sugar on top of it before giving it to us. my friend was under 13 and had numerous health problems. a little indulgence is fine but there's a point where it becomes a form of abuse and neglect. not caring about your child's health equals not caring about them period.
Poor kid.
Beige moms want their kids to have the mental institution experience early 🥰
It’s because of the accessory baby trend. Many of them were teen pregnancy’s.
This is what’s causing gen alpha to be such terrible people. Because many of these kids were(and are) the accessory babies born in the 2010s that were born to a large minority of(a lot of) teenagers who wanted to showcase their cute baby as if they were a furby accessory trying to copy the celebrity (spesficially the kardashians and Kyle Jenner) accessory baby trend which resulted in the aesthetic of parenting and having a cute baby without any of the actual work needed to raise a baby to a functioning human being with good literacy skills, a reasonable education and basically becoming a functioning person. Oh and teen mom the tv show(which despite showing some of the darker sides and contributing to a decline in teen pregnancy’s some dumb kids still took inspiration) . It’s made even worse because now TikTok and instagram reels glorifying pregnancy at young(like teenage) ages for aesthetics even if said person was not ready or willing to handle responsibly raising a future adult and showing none of the true consequences and sorrow that comes with ruining your and a future humans life, instead being filled with instagram photos of cute mommy and baby in matching outfits on highly staged photos with no hint on how difficult it is to raise a human being. anyway The baby was never supposed to grow up as a person and become a functioning human being but to be a silent being with no thoughts of it’s own to dress up and show off to instagram and Pinterest. Essentially a doll. However when that baby started to grow up into their own person and becoming a human being because as it turns out baby’s grow up to be a functioning adult. The parents has no desire to be a parent and does not know how to raise a functioning human so they dumped them in front of iPads in order to get them out of the way and basically negelect them. The consequence is that now we have an entire generation of kids who have not been taught basic lessons and how to be a functioning person. This is scary because they are our next doctors, artists, writers, musicians, librarians, mechanic, firefighters, plumbers, etc. and they end up with social media addicitions and have shockingly short attention spans thanks to overstimulating UA-cam shorts and they were never taught how to be a successful person who thrives in society all because they were treated as disposable photo props to get more IG likes. To be clear not every parent is like this and there are many parents trying to raise their kids good and teaching them to be a good person but it is concearning how the accessory babies are now being turned into monsters at shockingly young ages. I really hope people wake up and realize that this is a problem and how we need to educate kids and prevent toxic Tate influences on boys And toxic trends on girls. We need to let kids learn positive values and teach the, about diversity and how to be a good person and helping other people and doing good things and working hard to achieve whatever goals they want. We need to fix this and help prepare kids to be a functioning good adults so that they can succeed and it even affects the kids who weren’t accessory babies because the peer pressure to act more mature than before has ramped up significantly as the moms of the accessory babies shunned kid appropriate outfits and acting their age and stuff because they wanted the babies to be dressed up in adult fashions for instagram photo ops and have engrained that acting like a kid is stupid and that they go from accessory Baby to hot young adult with no inbetween in their minds which warps them to act like an “adult” when way too young and if a kid simply acts like their age group they are often picked on by accessory babies which means that a lot of kids are now under peer pressure to grow up way to fast because the accessories kids that dominate the school and act like monsters towards everyone else. It’s because they were never taught how to be a good. Person. And it’s because of the parents who wanted accessory babies for instagram rather than raising a human. Like it’s the 30 year mellenials who take their kids only to instagramamble play areas, dressing them up for photo shoots every week in new clothes, going on instagramamble vacations and even having another baby only for clicks. This is the reality of the situation we are seeing the consequences of this in real time. The kids were never taught how to be a person and because of that they have almost no manners and learned all their lessons from toxic influencers and or consumerist influencers. It’s because the parents neglect them instead of providing moral lessons on how to be a good person, teaching them right from wrong, or even providing them good tv shows like BCG, and bluey instead dumping them in front of iPad content farms that rot their attention spans without any moderation causing them to have no imagination and tech addictions and then for the boys watching toxic influencers like Andrew quagmire tate and his merry band of Herbert the perverts(it’s a family guy reference). And for the girls being brainwashed into acting like adults and buying skincare that burns their skin instead of age appropate skin care. It’s a whole mess that we need to do better with our next generation of people because we need to stop treating kids like they are just instagram photos and they aren’t babies with on and off switches but babies that grow to toddler then kid tween teen until they become an adult who should be able to do basic functions in society. I am legit concerned about the next generation and them being addicted to content farms rather than quality shows with educational and entertainment value and not being taught basic morals like don’t steal the cookie, everyone is equal, clean up after yourself, don’t rudely interrupt other people. or even helping them get to grade level reading and stuff(and I’m not counting kids with disabilities, like autistic and adhd kids) to function in society. like I literally heard that sped kids with disabilities and autism etc are literally doing higher reading levels than regular kids because a lot of the regular kids were never taught. It’s legit concerning.
Also a lot of them are trying to copy Kim kardadhian
As a millennial I would have lived the neutral look but on earth/natural side I hated the bold colors etc on everything and our entire ancestry only recent times have we shoved bright colors into kids faces 365 days a year - but disconnected from nature
Yeah they're microdosing the asylum to prepare those kids for adulthood in therapy
10:41 my mom uses essential oils for a lot of things, scars / wounds (not too srs), stress reliving (idk how it works but it does), treating a small cold (idk how that works either), etcetc but if i or my siblings are EXTERMELY sick or show mlid symptoms, she makes sure we get a doctors appointment, because essential oils dont fix everything!! (Shocker, i know!)
Oh for goodness sake, why on earth are these mom's even having children if they're not going to parent them? If home aesthetics, games, and working out are more important than the well-being of their children then these moms need to stop popping out kids. Being child free is fine too if you're not going to parent.
I was born in 96, grown up as a TV kid, unlimited screen time really does screw up a kids learning ability. Throughout K-12, was a struggle, as a little kid, I couldn't read, math, spell, count money, tell time, had multiple tutors, low GPA, I barely graduated high school. The long term effects really do impact my adulthood, I'm years behind my age group.
I’m 96 too! My screen time was pretty limited by way of watching things. My mom worked for playstation as a message board moderator so we had a lot of games. As long as she had played the game and approved it, I could play it. She used Final Fantasy 9 to teach me to read when I was 5. She would have me read the dialogues to her while she played. I primarily played games that didn’t have a ton of voice acting so I was reading a lot lol. I suck at math and science and stuff but reading and history were my thing.
96 Here to, I got unlimited screen time as long as I was watching documentaries or other educational stuff. Other things were on the table, but more closely regulated. Made me into a nerd but didn't hurt me really. Went until I was like 14 and then I was trusted to make healthy decisions mostly on my own. One of the best times was when I convinced my mother that Mythbusters was technically educational. I also had a library worth of books though so I can't say I recall being glued to a screen all the time.
I don't think she really bought it, but I think she liked the fact I made an actual case for it instead of throwing a tantrum. ^^
At this point, it's rage bait. I think social media makes it out to be a vast majority of people who are these kinds of parents, when in reality, it's still (thankfully) a minority. But these people know what they're doing. And they do it well; their bad choices get them millions of views.
I have parents who treats my little sister (11 year age gap) EXACTLY like the first mom. She gets unlimited screen time at a VERY young age while I can't have any sort of social media/multi-player games and I used to have a screen time limit that went from 1 hour max to 3 hour max over the span of a few years. At some point (in my teen years) I had no devices at all. My sister is literally just past the toddler stage and she's had 3 phones and 2 tablets I believe. Crazy.
And yet you're the older sibling??- tbh, if anything, she should be having limited screen ngl.
@@PasteilloTheCat yes... by 11 years.
@@DropDread yeah ik.
I’m sorry BUT THREE PHONES?!
@thebest12123 yeah 😭 she's been through 3. She has 1 phone and a tablet currently. Pretty wild, right?
It was beige moms and now silky moms?? We are so doomed
at the beginning silky mom just meant someone who is not crunchy (nature obsessed mom who thinks everything modern is toxic and lives like an Amish person) and who does give their kids the occasional junk food sometimes and lets them watch TV because she needs to get shit done, but as always people run with it and ru8in it that is why we can't have good things.
DOOM
silky mom in the american world means “proud of being obese”
Why can't we have moderation instead? Parents who give kids a balanced diet but allows them to have snacks and sweet things as a treat from time to time?
I have a six year old and I had a wide awakening when I thought kindergarten was socializing, naps, and three letter words. It is not that way anymore. He had homework, he was expected to know how to read, sit quietly for hours, and only get recess at the end of school. This world is not the same after you have a child. I thought like you, then I had a child and saw the truth of the world.
I'm a millennial, and I don't claim these people as my peers.
12:02 it’s also possible that her child might have diet restrictions due to allergies? And maybe she did it for fun? I am a child with a very strict diet due too allergies and I personally still go trick-or-treating just for the fun of it. And my mom gives me treats that I can have. Though if this is not the case, yeah the mother is a bit of an asshole
I was thinking that. Trick-or-treating is still fun for kids who can’t eat any of the treats. This is a great way to do it for kids with severe allergies!
Im pretty sure its not because of allergies. She said stuff like "healthier foods." she never really put any implication it was only because her daughter COULDNT have the foods.
"When did we decide ending childhood early was a good thing?"
And she's probably gonna give her kid a phone by age 6 💀
This is absolutely disgusting. Let your kid be a kid before they grow up to be an adult and realize that they never had time to actually be a kid. Stop doing this before your kid sends you to the retirement home.
And I can confirm that some parents use sports as a big babysitter. My daughter is 8 and does soccer. We have practice twice a week. Parents will drop their kids off and be gone. These are 8/9 year olds!! The coach is constantly sending out group text sayings, so an so needs mom, no mom insight. It just really errks me..
I am so glad there are at least a few sensible people out there.
I want to raise my future kid the right way so watching these videos shows me what to do and mostly tells me what NOT to do.
i love the minimalism clean girl aesthetic, but if i were a mother, id love my kid more. anything they love, i love and it would be a part of the aesthetic of the house, no matter the colour or vibrancy
Exactly!! Like it looks good and all, but it can still look wonderful while accommodating your child’s preferences. Colorful spaces can look great!! It really just requires having an open mind; you can be an artist and a loving parent.
These kids are never going to experience what it’s like to play outside.
2:22 Teaching your kid how to read is sure far better than handing them a cringe infected ipad the moment they come out of the womb.
My mom couldn’t make it to my softball practices because she had to work, but she stayed in her car to do her work and if she finished early, she would come out and she would put off her work during my game so she could watch me and the other parents always cheered for me when she was not there
im sorry the "vegans dont need sunscreen" made me laugh💀💀💀
Girly really thought a vegan’s skin is the skin of broccoli oh and plants NEED SUNLIGHT!! So what tf is the difference?
@@margaretbush so does a human's skin and sunscreens actually prevent the skin from taking UVs which IS NEEDED FOR OUR BODY TO PRODUCE VITAMIN D!
aaand there's this corelation between sunscreen and skin cancer (dating all the way back to the 50s)
so if anything, limited/mindful exposure is the way to go
By pre-k/k I could read, write, memorized my parents names address phone numbers place of work. Colors, shapes, animals etc. Mum had ME read her the Aesop’s fables as a baby. Ty mum.
the backgroud is so Indian grandma's house coded its beautiful
People who are grateful for their parents ->
what are you even pointing at bro
9:39 My uncle did that to his baby. He lives in a village, and his daughter got pneumonia and he took her to his neighbour who does not have the experience like a normal doctor does. My dad gave him money to take her to the city and treat her. He didn't do that UNTIL 90% of his daughter's breathing had stopped. Everyone was extremely worried about her but she luckily survived.
It is important to show your children emotional regulation through modeling, but absolutely not in the way that mom did sobbing at her son. I would always say ‘mamas very upset right now, I’m going to go take a break to calm down, take breaths, and then I will come back and we can talk about this’
12:25 lets be honest when the kid is old enough to go trick or treating by themself or with a friend theyre gonna be eating ALL the candy they receive or atleast most of it bc they know they'll get it replaced with "organic" stuff :/
I had a tv in my room in the 90’s. I thought it was normal. I had unlimited access to Barney. My mom would have gone insane if she was subjected to how many times I watched those tapes.
11:53
From experience, those bear fruit rolls are DISGUSTING. Unless they've changed the recipe, those should be considered child abuse on their own lol.
@-.FloofFox.- I know right, how do you screw up what is essentially dried smoothie that badly? I'm cringing thinking about the taste and I haven't had one in like 6 years.
I loved them as a kid….:(
I loved them omg
Fr, they were vile 😭