as a gen z born in 2000 I had a normal life. unfortunately I deal with others in my life who don't act normal now like they used to before so that's normal to me now
I use to think these people online are giving us such a bad rap, but really it’s just human nature, no generations safe. Most of this content is mainly just for views and clickbait coming from a small minority of people, but are ppl really this bored and desperate. God help us all.🤦♂️🥱
The one lady who was like "you wouldn't catch me dead with no makeup on and a tshirt with old shorts" imagine caring that much about what others think. How pathetic. My confidence level is too high to give a fuck what someone at the grocery store thinks of my bonnet and sweat pants.
Like,,yeah if I'm going out I'll run a brush through my hair and get out of pajamas, somewhere nice or meeting up with people I'll put on nicer clothes, but I'm not spending an hour to get ready for a grocery run. I don't need makeup to hang out with friends. But some people do and I while I don't care to for myself I'm glad it makes them feel good. People don't give enough grace to disagreement, especially online
I actually had a sped teacher that tried to get me to think like this. Like many teens, I went through nearly every phase under the sun and she would try to convince me that I had to dress “normally” and “appropriately” (basically showing no personality whatsoever) lest I get made fun of. The thing is when I tried to comply, it made me so uncomfortable and self conscious, that I ended up becoming super depressed and self loathing. I would like to reiterate that I was not the only adolescent wearing dark colors one day, pastels the next, and weeb swag the third day. I wasn’t the only one experimenting with my looks. So what if my socks didn’t match exactly. Nobody actually cares!
I swear as someone who is picky, the girl gagging at the fruit was just…🤮🤮 I don’t understand how she spit out the fruit, recorded herself, REWATCHED THE VIDEO and went “Yep. This is perfect” and in front of HER KIDS!!! I think that part made me the most mad. If you’re going to be a parent and set an example you need to fucking do it right!
Exactly, I have sensory aversion so I understand gagging at certain textures but that really did not need to be on the Internet??? No one wants to see you gagging and spitting out half-chewed fruit 😭
The smacking and chomping...argh, my misophenia. She's probably trying to cash in. There's a mom exploiting her kid claiming she has a rare disorder that makes her unable to tolerate food, actual gagging, etc, and making bank. Watch, her kid will suddenly have the same disorder.
As someone with sensory issues who just recently re-tried blackberries and blueberries, the gaging was over the top. I have never in my life gagged like that while trying a food that wasn’t a good texture
I'm a millennial with texture issues, and I have no idea why she thought it was a good idea to record it. I gag when I chew on protein fat & I have to actually stop myself to get through it. But I don't make a big deal, just duck my head & wait for the feeling to pass. I would never record it because it's gross
NON OF THESE PEOPLE INCLUDING THE CREATOR IS A MILLENIAL. Check the age group! If you were not born between 1985 and 1996 then you ARE NOT A MILLENIAL.
10:48 as someone with textural requirements for food shes fake gagging. Usually when your body is tryna stop you from swallowing like that it mimics a vomiting response so usually theres drool, facial redness & tearing of the eyes but theres none of that with her. It looks like when someone gags to be funny
Why does it sound so gross even when she's faking 😭 I cannot listen to vomiting or gagging without physically feeling like I want to writhe out of my skin, and that clip MURDERED ME
The fruit one made me cringe so hard, and that was largely because I myself don't eat most fruits because of their textures. I've tried a lot of different fruits over the years to try and see if I could get myself used to the textures and I've never been successful. However, I have never made such a fuss over even the ones I hated the most like she did in that video. I take a bite, i grimace, and I spit it out. There's no gagging or over the top of the top theatrics, and I'm 90% sure that woman was faking the texture revulsion, which is insulting to those of us who actually have an issue with that.
yeah, i immediately thought she was just faking the gagging because it doesnt look like a reflex, it looks like shes forcing herself or acting out how she thinks gagging looks for attention. its a bit sad honestly
@@HybrydaArt Unless you're autistic and have AFRID, and it looks like that's the case here (she says she has texture issues and is wearing infinity symbol necklace, it's autism symbol). I'm a grown ass autistic person with AFRID and i react the exact same to many foods.
Yes!! Im picky when it comes to food but 9 times out of 10 its because of texture. I get it if you dont like fruit, personally i love it but thats just my opinion, but putting on an entire show? 😭😭
Yeah I’m 33 and I will straight up gag when trying to eat most fruits and veggies. It sucks and is embarrassing but I can’t help it. I am neurodivergent and have AFRID- the gagging has been a problem my whole life.
My mother was overly supportive of every little school activity I did so I recognize it feels annoying especially to a teenager trying to form their own identity, *HOWEVER* in the long run I am so happy she did that cause it shows she actually cared!!! I would much rather have overly supportive parents than parents who don't even bother to at least show up.
I agree with you. I also think that this tik tok poster actually was talking about “helicopter parents” and was confused as to the terminology. (As in sometimes she felt suffocated by her overly concerned parents. ) It isn’t narcissism. She also obviously is speaking from a place of ignorance. Because had she had parents who NEVER supported her, she would have been complaining about that as well. There’s no winning with this one.
@@fourlittlebirds6166 I'd bet money that her parent isn't narcissistic either. If the behavior has been described as constantly calling attention to it maybe, but consistently being there for someone doesn't really strike me as a narcissist
I completely agree, it can be a problem if you have parents that obsess and fuss too much over all the little things you do. Once you're a teenager though that's a discussion you can have with your parents. If they understand and set new boundaries with you, great! If they don't after multiple attempts, then you know you might have a problem
That's good for you there's nothing to do if they're experienced though. They're talking about a narcissistic parent not a normal parent. They are not the same as your parent because your parent was normal. Narcissistic parents are only showing up for themselves for the benefit they get from the praise of their child successes and for them being proceeded a good parent. it's not to be supportive, it's not loving, it's a selfish show. Context matters and no one seems to understand that. Like The fact that the parent is a narcissist changes literally everything. So yeah no it's not a normal behavior and it's not a positive thing given the greater context.
5:00 I’ve noticed a lot of people saying it’s good the parents actually want to be there. But as someone who has a narcissistic parent I can guarantee that while it is good they WANT to show up. It soon becomes clear that they don’t WANT you to be alone. They hover over your shoulder and constantly try taking control of your life. They want to show up not for support, but so they know your every move. They want to overwhelm you constantly with their presence JUST so you still know THEY are the ones in power, not you. Let’s say your going to a graduation, they will (if they feel threatened by the chance of losing power over you) threaten you with harmful “consequences”. For example: They threaten to bring a weapon and attack others. You get terrified of what they might do you can’t even stop them from showing up because whenever you ask someone with authority over who to invite (ex. The host of an event ) you get hit with “ThEy ArE YoUr PaReNtS, yOu ShOuLd WaNt ThEm ToO sHoW uP” Anyways, this isn’t me hating or anything. And while I do agree that it should be good they show up, they 90% of the time DONT have good intentions and just “want to be there for you!” Because they really, really, REALLY, don’t. (This however is just my personal experience, and in NO MEANS… does this girl have any relation to this feeling whatsoever. It’s incredibly hypocritical of a person to claim someone being narcissistic, nearly 45% of the time they are just PROJECTING.)
Yeah all of the people don't understand even slightly what narcissism means. They just for no reason decided to believe that this person didn't actually have an narcissistic parent and base their parents behavior off of what a normal parent would be like.
The one where they're complaining about their parents showing up to everything is wild to me. I'm a millennial myself... grown and all. And my parents STILL take me places whenever it's easier for both me and them. That's called being a parent.
The person saying their mother showing up for every event they had growing was narcissistic made my blood boil! Like my mother showed up to ONE of my events when I was in choir where I had a SOLO and arrived AFTER I had finished my solo and was pissy with me the whole time like being there for me was an inconvenience to her time. I WISH I my mom showed that much interest in the things I was doing at school and this person had the audacity to complain?
I feel you. I begged to learn music at home but denied all the time while my sis was in band and we went to everything. Also, dad was Mr Punctuality as a matter of life, we were EARLY to EVERYTHING bc of his angry earlybird mentality. I finally did school band and as 2nd chair, diligent student impressed the teacher as ALWAYS prepared, was selected as one to actually conduct us in one song in the Christmas Show. Show came, school gym. From the band, I scanned and scanned for the fam during the first songs. Finally my turn, Good King Wenseslas. Conducted, huge audience clapping and cheering. I sat down, looked over, in they came LATE, dad with camera, happy look like "Ok neato!" Dad you missed me. "Oh ok!" Didnt care that he missed me.
You don't want this person's experience, you want a normal parent showing up and being supportive. they did not have that. Because of the CONTEXT of NARCISSISM. Narcissists are not normal people and even their actions that would be normal to others are not done the same and for the same reasons Narcissism is not the same as a normal person. The context of narcissism changes everything. When a parent is a narcissist they are not showing up for their kid. their kid is not important in the matter. They are showing up specifically for them for the praise that they get from their child successes and for being proceeded a good parent. Trust me you wouldn't want a narcissistic parent to be showing up making every moment about them and every good thing be owed to them. Win your game? Yeah because I made a successful kid. You won because I'm such a good parent, I've spent so much time and money for you to do well. It's not because of your efforts it's all on me and you need to be greatful to me. And all the parents need to give me positive reinforcement for being such a model mom, aren't I great? Do badly on the science fair? Okay but have you considered how your being sad and losing effects them? They're the *real* victim here. You don't get to be sad you need to give me attention and comfort me and actually your a horrible person because that sad thing that happened to you you practically did on purpose to make their life harder and you wasted all their support and money they put into it. Your feelings don't matter because I need praise. Ask any person who's parent is a narcissist if they would prefer their parent to show up or to leave them alone The answer was leave them alone because then at least they get to experience the joy of the sadness without it being taken over by their parent.
So basically having a narcissist show up is/can be (narcissistics actions or tactic are carried) like what your mom did getting pissy that showing up was inconvenience for her but like every single time. My personal experience narcissism is my mom would never show up to any event because it didn't benefit her. Her narcissism or myself made it so showing up didn't give her any positive benefits so she didn't. except for the few which similar to you she got upset because it was an inconvenience for her. This persons narcissistic parent showed up to everything because it did benefit them. This obviously just like with the poster is only part of having a narcissist parent as they do way more shit.
Fr, my parents rarely went to school events and even then they were always late. Also I would kill just to get a car ride ONCE a day then walk for an hour. God, people are privileged.
9:07 as someone with actual sensory issues with some foods this is so... forced. Like, when I eat stuffing, its not a voluntary thing.......... its just something that happens???
Exactly. I get the same thing when I chew on chicken fat, it's not that forced at all. Most of the time I don't even have time to process I hit fat before I'm gagging.
I don’t really have any reactions like that to food (well, maybe something like frogs legs I would), however I sometimes start gagging when I have to clean up my cat’s vomit. Still love my kitties though.
As someone with a narcissist parent and enabler parent, let me give you an example of something my narcissist parent did. One time when my grandpa was grilling chicken, he asked my sister if she wanted barbecue sauce on it. She said yes and he put the sauce all over the chicken. When my narcissist parent heard this, she was enraged, as she usually is when our grandpa takes care of us, and forced my sister to eat 5+ pounds of sauced chicken and wouldn’t let her leave until it was all gone. Yes she ate it, puked it all up and could barely eat anything for 3 days. Now what if I told you that parent was the same parent who showered us with presents on Christmas, took us out for dinner, dressed us up on Halloween, brought us to stores, to school, to friends houses, checked us out of school for the occasional fun trip, and leaped up to run whenever we needed to go somewhere like to buy supplies for a procrastinated school project. This is the same parent who explicitly told a child it was their fault for being SA’d, told their daughter in the hospital she just tried to kill herself for attention, forced a 10 year old to take care of a dying kitten that had its leg lopped off for a week instead of just putting the kitten down, blew a $150,000 settlement on SHEIN (mostly clothes and kitchen gadgets) when we were very poor rather than buying anything useful like a car or college funds or a PC, and let my uncle drag me away at 12 years old, screaming, to go with him to get an exorcism at his church. A lot of people think she is a sweet person. Covert, overt and narcissism in each person presents very differently. I am inclined to give people the benefit of the doubt when they claim a family member is a narcissist.
Yeah!!! People just never seem to every single time jump to the conclusion when there is a person talking about negative experience that they're just making shit up, just never understand how narcissism works like not even the slightest. Everyone here it seems to be basing their idea of narcissism off of what would be normal for normal parents to do. They don't have the idea of what narcissism or context is! Like no this persons parent was not showing up to be a supportive parent they were showing up to be self-serving to get praise for their child's excessive and to be perceived with a good parent. But especially when an afab person talks about anything relating to mental or health conditions everyone ignores and doesn't believe them. Like yeah narcissistic parents will show up to things, but only when it benefits them and in the way they want, Even when they show up to some things they'll ignore the rest. Like my narcissistic mother took me to church every Sunday. She did take me on cheap vacations sometimes. she also never played once with me as a child because that didn't interest her. She stopped making me lunches cuz she wasn't feeling like I was giving her enough praise for it as a second grader. Sure she was there when my friendship got destroyed, she made it about herself though. She got me braces because she didn't want a kid who looked weird and then she constantly got upset because I wasn't giving enough back to her and thanking her enough that she got me braces, Nothing was ever enough to pay her back "oh but a real narcissistic mother wouldn't care about those things for their kids to begin with" is what somebody who doesn't understand would say. She showed up when she wanted to and not for the right reasons when she did. Like narcissism is complicated and everyone is so quick to dismiss and gaslight the victims of it because "it couldn't have been that bad, you're just attention seeking and ungratefull"
Yeah, that video just sounded bizarre without full context, as many short videos tend to be... narcissistic abuse is so incredibly insidious and hard to prove because it looks perfect on the outside.
As someone with misophonia who also struggles with sensitivity to food textures, this is so faked. This is a full grown adult ACTING DRAMATIC about something people actually deal with. Why record this? Grow up. The fact that I hear her child in the background makes me so upset, is this person a PARENT??? (10:00)
The girl complaining about her parents being active in her life and calling them narcissist is a huge clue that she has no idea what a real narcissistic parent is. A narcissist wouldn't come at all, or would make excuses as to why they didn't show or can't come... narcissist has become a buzz word and it pisses me off- because it's truly an epidemic. Her parents- are not it... I can only hope she was being sarcastic... but probably not.
my guess is that her parents were on the overbearing side - never letting her go to places (at appropriate distance of course) on her own, having some things like sports without her parents being there, things like that. and yeah you need to do some things on your own as you grow up to build skills and independence. how has that anything to do with narcissism though...
My guess is that her parents were emotionally absent/neglectful, and she still thinks that was a normal childhood. So to have good parents who are present for extracurriculars and drive you around is too controlling
not exactly true; narcissists and abusers come in all shapes and sizes and controlling every little aspect of your life (showing up to every single thing where otherwise you would've had autonomy, not allowing you to walk a quarter mile to a friends house but instead have to be driven there so they can tell you no and control your friendships, etc etc.) I don't feel like this person constituted their complaint very well (and could absolutely have been lying) but dismissing it outright because it doesn't fit *your* narcissist/abuser description is wrong.
Yes, thank you! My father (a single parent) is a huge narcissist and he never really cared or asked what I’ve done or how I’m doing, unless it showed a threat to him in any way, and instead of helping with that issue, he would just blame it on me and have me as a child handle it on my own. Though, funny thing, once I left to go on with my own life, he would constantly text me, asking me what I’m doing etc., which I just found weird and strange. It’s truly stressful to grow up with a narcissist, and for someone to incorrectly call their parents who actually showed they cared and were there for them a narcissist for being a parent, is just disgusting and annoying.
11:33 her stomach can´t handle fruit probably from all that vodka she´s drinking 😂, people were complaining recently in my country about an anime/comic convention not having a " space where they can drink a lot of alcohol and watch soccer games" dude you know what an ANIME AND COMIC convention is about?, plus is supposed to be a family friendly environment wth?
We always show up for our son. He's our whole world. He likes hanging out with us and if he doesn't want to some days he stays home and it's fine. We have a good balance.
feel the need to mention, the barefoot people were rage baiters, one of the biggest things that gave it away was the constant mention of being in ohio, which for some reason is a punchline on tiktok/reels, and as u mentioned the fact that they caught footage of wearing shoes in the winter
Imagine getting on social media and seeing your grown ass offspring calling YOU a narcissist for being there for them and going to all of their events.....
You literally don't know how narcissism works. You should really just not talk about things you don't understand at all. everyone seems to be judging this person without a single understanding of how narcissism and context works. They're basing it off of what would be the case if the person was a normal parent, completely not understanding the idea of context. Because yeah a normal parent showing up for all their kids events that would be nice That's loving and supportive, a narcissistic parent showing up for events is for completely different reasons. A narcissistic parent is showing up to get praise for looking like a good parent and for their child successes they need to make all their child's successes be about them. But every time people on the Internet see an AFab person talking about it they always go "they're just being stupid and ridiculous". the possibility of the existence of shitty parents is never seems to even cross y'all's mind. I guarantee you if this was a man saying "yeah my narcissistic mother insisted on showing up to every sporting event. Cause you know narcissistic can't let me have something just for me" it would not be in the video because we would actually believe them when they talk about their experience with narcissism.
10:09 nah i love straberries how the hell can you gag at the starberries and afford to have like A BUNCH at the same time?! IF YOU DONT WANT THEM I WILL HAVE THEM DUDE, I CANT EVEN AFFORD ONE FOR FRICKS SAKE
As someone whose parents never showed up for anything when I was growing up I was heart broken. I felt like they did not care and was not important. I performed in the Senior Musical and the only people who showed up for me were my aunt and next door neighbor. It was sad that they were the only one’s who cared.
Wow that girl about her parents showing up for her and then calling them a narcissist. I wish my parents showed up, i quit many things bc they never did. I will be there for my sons stuff everytime, idc if its the same thing for 10 days in a row, I WILL BE THERE
Careful, the opposite extreme is called helicopter parenting and is equally destructive to a kid. Don't swing that pendulum too far to the opposite end. And unfortunately, what the woman in that reel describes can indeed be a narcissistic tactic to keep their kids dependent and isolated, so we shouldn't judge based only on this reel. There's always more to the story.
@@maggie6152 As someone who experienced that from one of my parents, I agree. The parent in my situation borderline tracked and followed me everywhere and for everything. I wasn't even allowed to be in a bathroom alone till I had to fight them for privacy at 13. Even in public, it was so terrifying to be constantly watched, knowing that every single word or action from you would give the parent more ammo to use against you later.
You don't want this person's experience, you want a normal parent showing up and being supportive they did not have that. Narcissism is not the same as a normal person. The context of narcissism changes everything. When a parent is a narcissist they are not showing up for their kid. their kid is not important in the matter. They are showing up specifically for them for the praise that they get from their child successes and for being proceeded a good parent. Trust me you wouldn't want a narcissistic parent to be showing up making every moment about them and every good thing be owed to them. Win your game? Yeah because I made a successful kid. You won because I'm such a good parent, I've spent so much time and money for you to do well. It's not because of your efforts it's all on me and you need to be greatful to me. And all the parents need to give me positive reinforcement for being such a model mom, aren't I great? Do badly on the science fair? Okay but have you considered how your being sad and losing effects them? They're the *real* victim here. You don't get to be sad you need to give me attention and comfort me and actually your a horrible person because that sad thing that happened to you you practically did on purpose to make their life harder and you wasted all their support and money they put into it. Your feelings don't matter because I need praise. Ask any person who's parent is a narcissist if they would prefer their parent to show up or to leave them alone The answer was leave them alone because then at least they get to experience the joy of the sadness without it being taken over by their parent.
My parents didn’t even show up to my graduation from my Master’ program that they insisted I do. It didn’t fit into their schedule and they already saw one of my graduations so what’s the big deal
9:00 💀 People like that lady act like that on purpose, while also making fun of neurodivergent people and people with eating disorders with genuine texture/food aversion… I’m autistic and have something called ARFID. Ended up in the ER bc I couldn’t eat for weeks. But that lady’s dramatizing and filming that kind of reaction to food she’s fully capable of eating. 🤦🏻♂️ Bruh I’m done defending millennials as one.
FR THAT “PLAY AREA” WAS LITERALLY MADE OUT OF CARDBOARD. WHAT NEXT IS THERE GONNA BE ONKY BROWN FRUITS?? WILL GEN ALPHA ONLY EAT BROWN BANANA PEELS FOR BREAKFAST??!? 😡😨😒😒😡
8:06 ATHE AUDACITY- that is so disgusting. just imagine if the sister saw that, if that were me I would’ve had a full fledge break down, especially if the comments agreed with this nonsense, which I personally don’t agree with. that’s so unfair :((((
Every time i see a sad beige room or a stark white minimalist aesthetic, i like to spend time in my 1950s technocolor horrorshow themed kitchen or my Bansky inspired office. It makes the millennial in me feel sane.
That's cool! I'm also a millenial parent and our house has a theme in each room for example our bathrooms are Avengers, our kitchen Harry Potter and our living room is in progress but it will be Five Nights at Freddy's teehee!
Fricking hate this minimalist beige shit, and I love neutrals. Moved into a house last November and the first thing I let my tot do was pick the colors for his room. Lavender with light pink accents. His space, his choice of decor, don't matter if I like pink or not as long as the colors work together and not against each other. Let the kids have their damn color! Your shit can be the way you like it but gosh darn these people do more harm than good when they don't let their kids express themselves.
I swear tbh my thoughts are either they have a illness or try to show the baby that it could choke on such small things but thats more smart than the video in context seems to be 😅
I'm autistic and I only like grapes apples and bananas, but I do like tons of vegetables. If I could change one thing about me, honestly anything. It's a tie between reducing my levels of anxiety and making me like more fruit to broaden my diet.
@@JubbysDragons I love cut apples too. My issue is I need enough time to eat them. If I feel rushed I usually end up eating none of them. Working on it
4:24 - as someone with an actual narcissist parent i had to be taken away from because of abuse, I gasped so hard. That- that just really isn’t something to complain about,im literally in shock they thought that would be.
“My parents picked me up and dropped me off everywhere I went when I was A MINOR.” Uh, yeah?? You didn’t get snatched off the side of the road somewhere. You’re welcome.
Narcissistic are not normal people. They might do what sound like a normal person things on the outside without context but they're doing it for completely different reasons and doing it differently. They are not showing up for their child they are showing up for the benefit it gives them. Like a narcissist might give huge amounts of presents to their kids during Christmas. They are not doing this because they love their children. They are not doing this as a selfless act. They're not doing this without expectation of payback. They are doing this because it gives them the status of being a successful and "great" parent. Each one of those presents will come with a price tag that the child will never be able to meet. Each one of those presents will become fuel for every future argument and any behavior they did because "look how great of a parent I am"
4:02 I agree tbh, my mom ust to do that when I was younger, and when u do finally actually realize that’s what they did u just feel *helpless* due to the fact u can’t do anything urself. You rly suck at looking deeper into things..
9:35 Looking at the necklace, she doesn't have ASD? We, people with ASD, don't like many textures and flavors (Although I'm weird because I love sour and spicy ones, while usually autistic people prefer sweet ones, which is interesting)
The “narcissistic parents” video almost made me cry! Like. I love basketball so I joined my school basketball team. Only my mom would show up and she was on her phone the majority of the time. So I would DIE for both of my parents to come to my games AND actually pay attention. If anything, what that person is explaining is the complete opposite of being a narcissist because they were prioritizing you and your hobby’s and need before their work, and maybe even wasting their free time and time to socialize. Before you complain about your parents caring about you. Try having parents who are on their phones when you are playing your heart out at your championship game
My dad left our family and would make promises to spend time with me and my sister. 9 times out of 10 he'd call, an hour after he was supposed to show up, to cancel. I discovered later that he tried to poison my mom when he found out she was pregnant with me. Why are some of these dads such jerks?
Well I have total sympathy for that, that doesn't mean we should shit on people who's narcissistic parents showed up to every game. Because if you ask a narcissistic person if It would have been better for them to have their parent never show up or have them show up to everything, they would prefer to not have them show up. Narcissistic parents are not normal people. None of their even normal people think are done for normal people reasons or a normal people ways. Everything's agenda-driven and any of their seemingly selfless acts always have a price tag or reward they are getting. My narcissistic mother didn't show up to any of my events because she wouldn't have gotten anything from them because I wasn't praiseworthy and she didn't care about the satisi of being precieved as a good parent. This persons narcissistic parent showed up because they would get the praises of their child's being successful and being considered a good parent.
I grew up as the quasi middle child, with one parent who always worked full time and one parent who served in the military. Through a combination of my parents being away/busy and sort of being in the middle, my parents often missed my extracurriculars or events, which was very upsetting when I was young. They made the vested effort to go when they could, and I'm old enough now to understand that's just life sometimes, and to have such an appreciation for them showing up as much as they could. Hearing some one complain about their parents being there for them too much is.....strange lol?
Narcissistic are not normal people they are not like your parents. They aren't showing up for their kids they're showing up to get praise for their child successes or for being previewed as the good parent. You win there the game? It's because of them, You can't be happy and have a moment of victory, you need to actually be praising your parents and giving all the attention to your parent because to them your victory isn't on you it's actually because of the time effort and money that they've put into raising you so you don't get to have anything. And if you lose? They'll get upset and yell you and make it over there being hurt and victimized by your failure because they're actually the ones making everything in your life happen. Or more subtly they'll just leach of the successes of your victory or the feeling of being a good parent when you lose and they get to fulfill the hero complex. You don't take their kids out to ice cream after a loss because they want to comfort their kids they do it because "look at me I'm a great parent (this will also be used for fuel later to justify their other actions because look how good I am)"
for most of my life, i've had issues when it comes to food. certain smells, textures, looks of food make my body physically react in a way that rejects it. it also means i go in and out of phases with food (mainly chicken and bread). seeing people like this at 9:17 is just sad honestly because it reminds me of all the times people have said to me and others like me 'you're being dramatic.' please stop faking real issues for attention and grow up :/ love ur videos hayley!
As someone who can’t eat fruit or vegetables due to severe sensory issues but that girl over did it. Also yes I gag but I’m not like that. It’s really really hard to eat and it’s not that I don’t want to it’s that I CANT this girl over did it…
Not everyone uses them that way, thankfully. I’m not on IG anymore but when I was, I either made reels of my doll collection or artwork I made, or something else harmless.
Also, primitive people were wrapped around their feet. They did not walk around barefoot in the snow the minute they discovered that they could wrap their feet with skins and furs. They used the soft inside of a tree, the pulp, to insulate their wrapping, so their feet would stay warm. That couple is just crazy.
Being barefoot inside the house is very common practice in many households as we keep our surroundings clean and tidy but going outside barefoot is the most disgusting thing I’ve ever seen. Don’t these people know that there might be lot of germs and bacterias on the roads or are they just doing these things deliberately just for some fame, views and attention on social media platforms?
I HAVE EMETOPHOBIA OR WMHOWEREVR U SPELL IT (fear of throwing up, I get extremely uncomfortable around gagging noises so I was lowering the volume down) AND THEN I SAW HIM AND I STARTED GIGGLING SO HARD
Therapy needs to be MANDATORY! 😂 Feels like our entire country is going insane; we could all use a checkup. Those who pass get released back out into society. Those who don't pass get a padded room and a complimentary beige straight jacket. 🤣
10:23 she made me gag because of the disgusting spit things like ew, how can you be such a baby about FRUITS Like jeez I'm kinda picky in terms of food but THIS ?! I couldn't even REACH OUT to that kind of pickiness
4:13 bro this makes me so mad bc i always wanted my parents to show up to my games and stuff but they were normally too busy. i would always get so excited when they could show up. be grateful omg
I also have my purse overloaded with stuff like a mini suitcase, but that's because I live out in the middle of "Rural Nowhere", so it's more like a Go-Bag that's packed for two people at a time. Solar powered phone charger with compatible cables, two snack bars, two granola bars, two water bottles, a small first aid kit with bandages, antiseptic, hand sanitizer packets for single use, wet wipes, tissues... Personal hygiene ((travel sized deodorant, feminine stuff, nail care tools that also double as other care items in a pinch...)), reflective discs for flagging down someone, small flashlight, a small blacklight ((useful for spotting cool rocks or see scorpions in the dark where we live)), identification, roughly $100 on cash for emergencies, a small bottle of hand sanitizer for when I pick up stranded turtles so I don't get salmonella after handling them to put them in the safe zones, hair ties, pens and small notepad... My purse is more like a carry-on tote bag, and sometimes my family laughs at it, but they don't laugh when one is suck in a storm shelter with me and I'm like: "Yo, you want a Larabar?" or "Your phone is dead? No worries, I got a powerbank right here. You can call emergency while it's charging."
Nahh their treating their kids like hamsters is crazy😭 EDIT: HOW DID I GET SO MANY LIKES😍 EDIT: y’all stop correcting my grammar I fixed it 😭 AND THANKS FOR 1K LIKES😣✌🏻
When that one video about parents attending multiple performances was narcissistic, that actually hurt. When I (and many other little kids) was little and doing silly school plays, beginning band, Orchestra 1, elementary choir,etc (i love music, can you tell?) I would've loved to have had someone come watch me during the noon shows, but my parents didn't have flexible work schedules at the time so it didn't happen. I'm now so happy mom watches each and every marching band and concert band show that I do. I will always cherish how proud my mom was of me and feel grateful
9:07 this really pisses me off. I’m somebody who has major sensory issues and actually can’t handle the textures of a lot of fruits, meats, and vegetables. it’s horrible and prevents me from getting a lot of the nutrients I need, I’ve dealt with this since I was a kid. The amount of times I’ve gagged and choked on food and just felt so gross when trying my hardest to eat had made me want to cry at times. This ladys video just feels like she’s making fun of me, I cannot even describe how horrible it makes me feel.
The hamster water has to be rage bait. That is infuriating. I feel like when 8 yr old kids want to go to sephora and have a skin care routine, rather than play on a brightly.colored playground, it's time to take the influencers and internet away from them. I'm guilty of being too lax with technology and my kids. And we have to change something. These kids are growing up feral.
I'm concerned for the kids then the parents, I'm 10 years old and if my mom ever treated me like a hamster and did whatever they were doing... i would disown myself respectfully. And, 😃 FUN FACT 😃.... people in the 1800s WISHED and BEGGED the royalty for something to wear on their feet because people were getting INJURED. Imagine how disappointed they are looking down at us rn. edit: thank you for the sweet & kind replies (:
I'm so disappointed with how some parents, mostly millennial parents are weird enough to make their kids realize that they aren't normal parents and they as kids, do deserve to be treated like normal human beings, not like pets who live in their homes. On top of that, you are smart for someone your age, I'm honestly amazed. Hopefully more people would take in to consideration that they should do better.
@@5ft2chelle thank you! i never knew how much i was lucky to have parents that are millennial and aren't "silky moms". tbh i think putting moms as an aesthetic is BS. excuse my language, but it's true. this generation is so fked up and gen beta is gonna be worse.
@@-OLIVIA-FAN-PAGE- I as someone who was born during the early Gen Z era, I've got a lot to learn from you and your generation because kids really do deserve the best and not neglected like how I've seen the stuff that are being posted here on the internet. And you are correct, Gen Beta may be doomed as well if their parents from my generation (maybe older), doesn't take notes from those who failed as parents. Cheers to you and your millennial parents! I have a feeling that you and many other kids will make our future more brighter. You should be appreciated more often. I'm really proud of you 😀
I don’t think the girl who said she was dressing up was saying she was doing it to meet her ex, but dressing up so well she wouldn’t mind meeting her ex. Love ur videos!
8:55 THANK YOU SO MUCHHHH! I NEVER SEE *ANYONE* PUT TRIGGER WARNINGS FOR THIS STUFF! I SWEAR, I *DESPISE* GAGGING, THROWING UP, AND CHEWUNG SOUNDS, I FEEL LIKE I HAVE A *PHOBIA* OF VOMITING NOISES, AND I LITERALLY ALMOST CRY AND HAVE AN ANXIETY ATTACK WHEN I HEAR VOMITING NOISES, SO THANK YOU *SO MUCH* FOR THIS WARNING 😭🙏
That clip of the person talking about their "narcissistic parent" really struck a nerve in me as someone with a narcissistic father Except he would never show up for me (plus alot more that I dont feel like dumping on here) , people have ruined the term narcissistic to undermine actual abuse people go through, its so annoying
Some narcissistic's parents don't show up to any of their kids things because they don't give a shit. Some narcissistic parents showed up for everything because they got praise for being a good parent and for their child's successes and then name also made all their child successes be about them and their efforts. Remember ever hearing your work be something you had to praise your parent for because it wasn't that you succeeded because of your efforts but because of their support? Their parent was showing up because their narcissism they felt good getting the perception of being supportive and being controlling. I get it as another person who grew up with a narcissistic parent who didn't show up to anything that it can be kind of hard to understand someone else's experience The narcissistic parent acting differently, but verity happens. I can also have sympathy for someone who's narcissistic parent gave them expensive gifts every Christmas and get how those all came with an unspoken price tag and ego boost for the parent, Even though my parents didn't.
4:55 genuinely shocked me. i was always, and still am desperate for my parents to show up to every event i am involved in, however they cant, and i am alone without my parents most of the time and have been through my life because of their stupid long work hours. i genuinely find it shocking that people can even begin to think that being actively present in your child’s life and being there for them is narcissistic and manipulative.
Not related to the video, but your new video background is very nice!!! I also love your style! I dont know if you follow a specific one but i still find your room deco and outfits very nice :D
Just kids with adult money. Some people just never want to grow up. That or a lot of their childhood they were told no, and now it’s their time to shine in adulthood.
8:47 thank you for putting that trigger warning, i have a phobia of throw up/gagging and i also have Mesophonia (im not sure how to spell it but its when you are very sensitive to chewing noises, eating noises, smacking lips, gulping, etc) and i would have not survived that if i didnt skip
3:43 bro my dad was DIAGNOSED with narcissistic personality disorder and he just beat and neglected me until his various addictions landed him in an early grave (would’ve been me otherwise-I was dangerously underweight when my grandparents took me in after he passed because he was busy spending the grocery money on illegal substances). My grandmother then complained about everything she showed up for and told me directly at age 16 that she expected me to take care of her instead of… working on the things I expressed I wanted to do with my life. Which I can’t work toward because she spent my college funds on herself and now blames me for not being in college right now. But sure, go off about a parent showing up for you… I can see a spin where it’s actually ‘narcissistic’ if the parent does it for attention or praise from others but like. Even then they’d probably make it feel like a huge sacrifice and hold it over the kid’s head, not just show up. Also NPD does not make everything someone does inherently abusive… so even if their parents were NPD, that could also be read as learning to manage their disorder to be there for their kid and expecting nothing out of it… which is a HUGE win for someone suffering from NPD and something to celebrate, not shame There’s just a lot wrong with this from every angle. I would sell both of my kidneys and lungs just for that kind of support in my life…
what irritates me the most was the colours of the playrooms being stripped away for the parent's aesthetic....as a person with autism, bright colours and things in toys, rooms and shows have always visually stimulated me. Bright, neon colours always brought a lot of excitement. Seeing parents take that away even from neurotypical kids is infuriating. Give your children back their colourful rooms! Don't make their space as depressing as you..
I had a narcissistic mother. And while I think I see what she’s getting at, it’s not the fact that they are just there. My mom would show up and somehow try and take all the attention away from anything I was doing. No matter what I did, she had to prove she was better. Like when I was a cheerleader, she’d show up with her own pom poms and stand up in front of me and try to flirt with my boyfriend. And then if I got too talented at an activity (skiing, dance, etc) she would make me quit because it was “taking up too much of her time” and she had better things to do. See the difference?
Check out "covert narcissism". It's a different presentation from what you're describing and more like what that lady could have experienced. They're much less flamboyant and needing the spotlight and more subtle about creating emotional and needs dependency. I had a covert narcissist as one of my parents.
5:35 my biggest problem with the rant here is that it doesn’t take hover parents into account which are parents that are around TOO much and don’t let you have a life outside of them which may not be the situation here but feels unfair to yell at them about how some people just want their parents to show up to one thing Feels really similar to the whole “well some parents punish their kids physically” when a kid is having rights taken away like a door it may not be the same thing but it’s still wrong and abusive
My mom is a narcissist, she cut me off from my dads side of the family and my dad, telling me they didn't love me or cared for me, didn't even tell me my dad was dead until the night before the funeral because she didn't want to distract me from my studies, never was there for anything i did, never was there for the things she forced me to do, i was travelling around the city in cabs on my own from when i was 6 (early 2000s so no phone, no gps, just a 6 year old and vibes) this woman was never there for anything cut me off from almost everyone in my family and my friends, i am suprised i even managed to maintain my best friend from elemtry cuz i wasnt allowed over at anyones house and the few times i was allowed to go (birthdays and such) my mom would say she would come pick me up told me to get ready then would promptly stop answering her work phone until 2 hours after the event was over then blame me for not being ready when she was available. There came a point where i stop accepting birthday invites and a point where everyone stopped trying to invite me. I wish i had that girls parents....
4:23 That’s not narcissistic at all, that’s called parents caring that can be overbearing. Overbearing ISNT abuse or narcissism. I’m Gen z, i have Gen X mom and Boomer dad who are divorced. While my mom attended most of my events, she was verbally abusive, alcoholic-workaholic, painted herself as a victim constantly, and emotionally manipulative while my dad (+ stepmom, 2 half-brothers) didn’t attend my events BECAUSE of my mom and consider as my actual family while my mother is my mother. For 14 years my parents were in and out of court so they were semi unavailable for me, so I got attached to my school teachers and other adult figures in order to fill that emotional need. It took me a hospitalization at a mental hospital in order to “wake up” my parents at 16 to realize how BADLY I was struggling, then the courts slowed down and eventually stopped. That was 4 years ago, I still struggle with stuff from then (Ie my depression room which is getting better) I would rather have parents who are there for me than ones who aren’t.
Narcissistic are not normal people they are not like your parents. They aren't showing up for their kids they're showing up to get praise for their child successes or for being previewed as the good parent. You win there the game? It's because of them, You can't be happy and have a moment of victory, you need to actually be praising your parents and giving all the attention to your parent because to them your victory isn't on you it's actually because of the time effort and money that they've put into raising you so you don't get to have anything. And if you lose? They'll get upset and yell you and make it over there being hurt and victimized by your failure because they're actually the ones making everything in your life happen. Or more subtly they'll just leach of the successes of your victory or the feeling of being a good parent when you lose and they get to fulfill the hero complex. You don't take their kids out to ice cream after a loss because they want to comfort their kids they do it because "look at me I'm a great parent (this will also be used for fuel later to justify their other actions because look how good I am)"
This “play place” is like conditioning kids for doctors appointments, when they need to see their therapist for INNER CHILD HEALING!😭 This just looks SO boring!! 12:31
I’m going to genuinely thank you for giving that warning because I cannot stand watching someone gag/throw up, and I thought it wouldn’t be that bad but had to nope out after the first 2 seconds, so thanks
I feel bad for the normal people in gen alpha, gen x, gen z, boomers and millennials
basically for normal people in general
as a gen z born in 2000 I had a normal life. unfortunately I deal with others in my life who don't act normal now like they used to before so that's normal to me now
Gen normal
I use to think these people online are giving us such a bad rap, but really it’s just human nature, no generations safe. Most of this content is mainly just for views and clickbait coming from a small minority of people, but are ppl really this bored and desperate. God help us all.🤦♂️🥱
Especially for the Gen Alpha kids stuck with the ones that go “eRm, WhAt ThE sIgMa?”
The one lady who was like "you wouldn't catch me dead with no makeup on and a tshirt with old shorts" imagine caring that much about what others think. How pathetic. My confidence level is too high to give a fuck what someone at the grocery store thinks of my bonnet and sweat pants.
Not to mention I don’t think she was even a millennial.
@@wizardvrse7338she looked like a millennial to me, probably 35
Like,,yeah if I'm going out I'll run a brush through my hair and get out of pajamas, somewhere nice or meeting up with people I'll put on nicer clothes, but I'm not spending an hour to get ready for a grocery run. I don't need makeup to hang out with friends. But some people do and I while I don't care to for myself I'm glad it makes them feel good. People don't give enough grace to disagreement, especially online
I actually had a sped teacher that tried to get me to think like this. Like many teens, I went through nearly every phase under the sun and she would try to convince me that I had to dress “normally” and “appropriately” (basically showing no personality whatsoever) lest I get made fun of. The thing is when I tried to comply, it made me so uncomfortable and self conscious, that I ended up becoming super depressed and self loathing.
I would like to reiterate that I was not the only adolescent wearing dark colors one day, pastels the next, and weeb swag the third day. I wasn’t the only one experimenting with my looks. So what if my socks didn’t match exactly. Nobody actually cares!
nobody even gaf everyone at the grocery store is there to get through the week no one is expecting anyone to pull up dolled up
I swear as someone who is picky, the girl gagging at the fruit was just…🤮🤮 I don’t understand how she spit out the fruit, recorded herself, REWATCHED THE VIDEO and went “Yep. This is perfect” and in front of HER KIDS!!! I think that part made me the most mad. If you’re going to be a parent and set an example you need to fucking do it right!
Exactly, I have sensory aversion so I understand gagging at certain textures but that really did not need to be on the Internet??? No one wants to see you gagging and spitting out half-chewed fruit 😭
The smacking and chomping...argh, my misophenia. She's probably trying to cash in. There's a mom exploiting her kid claiming she has a rare disorder that makes her unable to tolerate food, actual gagging, etc, and making bank. Watch, her kid will suddenly have the same disorder.
As someone with sensory issues who just recently re-tried blackberries and blueberries, the gaging was over the top. I have never in my life gagged like that while trying a food that wasn’t a good texture
I'm a millennial with texture issues, and I have no idea why she thought it was a good idea to record it. I gag when I chew on protein fat & I have to actually stop myself to get through it. But I don't make a big deal, just duck my head & wait for the feeling to pass. I would never record it because it's gross
NON OF THESE PEOPLE INCLUDING THE CREATOR IS A MILLENIAL.
Check the age group! If you were not born between 1985 and 1996 then you ARE NOT A MILLENIAL.
10:48 as someone with textural requirements for food shes fake gagging. Usually when your body is tryna stop you from swallowing like that it mimics a vomiting response so usually theres drool, facial redness & tearing of the eyes but theres none of that with her. It looks like when someone gags to be funny
REAL SHES LITERALLY FAKING IT. ITS SO OBVIOUS
YES i have horrible sensory issues from gagging and shes very obviously faking
that’s what i thought. she was clearly faking it fr
Yup, she’s faking it.
Why does it sound so gross even when she's faking 😭 I cannot listen to vomiting or gagging without physically feeling like I want to writhe out of my skin, and that clip MURDERED ME
The fruit one made me cringe so hard, and that was largely because I myself don't eat most fruits because of their textures. I've tried a lot of different fruits over the years to try and see if I could get myself used to the textures and I've never been successful. However, I have never made such a fuss over even the ones I hated the most like she did in that video. I take a bite, i grimace, and I spit it out. There's no gagging or over the top of the top theatrics, and I'm 90% sure that woman was faking the texture revulsion, which is insulting to those of us who actually have an issue with that.
yeah same, the gagging? ugh that's okay for a 10yo, not an adult (bc kids like to be dramatic and overplay).
yeah, i immediately thought she was just faking the gagging because it doesnt look like a reflex, it looks like shes forcing herself or acting out how she thinks gagging looks for attention. its a bit sad honestly
@@HybrydaArt Unless you're autistic and have AFRID, and it looks like that's the case here (she says she has texture issues and is wearing infinity symbol necklace, it's autism symbol). I'm a grown ass autistic person with AFRID and i react the exact same to many foods.
Yes!! Im picky when it comes to food but 9 times out of 10 its because of texture. I get it if you dont like fruit, personally i love it but thats just my opinion, but putting on an entire show? 😭😭
Yeah I’m 33 and I will straight up gag when trying to eat most fruits and veggies. It sucks and is embarrassing but I can’t help it. I am neurodivergent and have AFRID- the gagging has been a problem my whole life.
Not actively having/using social media makes me feel like I'm in some sort of an entirely separate civilization sometimes
Nah fr same here
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Actually same it’s so strange
Same I feel like I’m looking a blessed privileged life
being subbed to this channel really reaffirms me im not missing out on much besides added anxiety
My mother was overly supportive of every little school activity I did so I recognize it feels annoying especially to a teenager trying to form their own identity, *HOWEVER* in the long run I am so happy she did that cause it shows she actually cared!!! I would much rather have overly supportive parents than parents who don't even bother to at least show up.
I agree with you. I also think that this tik tok poster actually was talking about “helicopter parents” and was confused as to the terminology. (As in sometimes she felt suffocated by her overly concerned parents. ) It isn’t narcissism. She also obviously is speaking from a place of ignorance. Because had she had parents who NEVER supported her, she would have been complaining about that as well. There’s no winning with this one.
@@fourlittlebirds6166I absolutely agree
@@fourlittlebirds6166 I'd bet money that her parent isn't narcissistic either. If the behavior has been described as constantly calling attention to it maybe, but consistently being there for someone doesn't really strike me as a narcissist
I completely agree, it can be a problem if you have parents that obsess and fuss too much over all the little things you do. Once you're a teenager though that's a discussion you can have with your parents. If they understand and set new boundaries with you, great! If they don't after multiple attempts, then you know you might have a problem
That's good for you there's nothing to do if they're experienced though. They're talking about a narcissistic parent not a normal parent. They are not the same as your parent because your parent was normal.
Narcissistic parents are only showing up for themselves for the benefit they get from the praise of their child successes and for them being proceeded a good parent. it's not to be supportive, it's not loving, it's a selfish show.
Context matters and no one seems to understand that. Like The fact that the parent is a narcissist changes literally everything. So yeah no it's not a normal behavior and it's not a positive thing given the greater context.
5:00 I’ve noticed a lot of people saying it’s good the parents actually want to be there. But as someone who has a narcissistic parent I can guarantee that while it is good they WANT to show up. It soon becomes clear that they don’t WANT you to be alone. They hover over your shoulder and constantly try taking control of your life. They want to show up not for support, but so they know your every move. They want to overwhelm you constantly with their presence JUST so you still know THEY are the ones in power, not you. Let’s say your going to a graduation, they will (if they feel threatened by the chance of losing power over you) threaten you with harmful “consequences”. For example: They threaten to bring a weapon and attack others. You get terrified of what they might do you can’t even stop them from showing up because whenever you ask someone with authority over who to invite (ex. The host of an event ) you get hit with “ThEy ArE YoUr PaReNtS, yOu ShOuLd WaNt ThEm ToO sHoW uP”
Anyways, this isn’t me hating or anything. And while I do agree that it should be good they show up, they 90% of the time DONT have good intentions and just “want to be there for you!” Because they really, really, REALLY, don’t.
(This however is just my personal experience, and in NO MEANS… does this girl have any relation to this feeling whatsoever. It’s incredibly hypocritical of a person to claim someone being narcissistic, nearly 45% of the time they are just PROJECTING.)
Yeah all of the people don't understand even slightly what narcissism means. They just for no reason decided to believe that this person didn't actually have an narcissistic parent and base their parents behavior off of what a normal parent would be like.
The one where they're complaining about their parents showing up to everything is wild to me.
I'm a millennial myself... grown and all. And my parents STILL take me places whenever it's easier for both me and them.
That's called being a parent.
Same. And I’m Gen X. I’m in a wheelchair and can’t drive, but my dad always drives me to my appointments, etc. I love him for that.
If you were not born between 1985 and 1996 then you are not a millenial.
@@jessicapearson9479lol your point
My farts are better than Haylo’s farts 💨
@@ctobolskThe first gen X I know that watched hazbin
The person saying their mother showing up for every event they had growing was narcissistic made my blood boil! Like my mother showed up to ONE of my events when I was in choir where I had a SOLO and arrived AFTER I had finished my solo and was pissy with me the whole time like being there for me was an inconvenience to her time. I WISH I my mom showed that much interest in the things I was doing at school and this person had the audacity to complain?
I feel you. I begged to learn music at home but denied all the time while my sis was in band and we went to everything. Also, dad was Mr Punctuality as a matter of life, we were EARLY to EVERYTHING bc of his angry earlybird mentality. I finally did school band and as 2nd chair, diligent student impressed the teacher as ALWAYS prepared, was selected as one to actually conduct us in one song in the Christmas Show. Show came, school gym. From the band, I scanned and scanned for the fam during the first songs. Finally my turn, Good King Wenseslas. Conducted, huge audience clapping and cheering. I sat down, looked over, in they came LATE, dad with camera, happy look like "Ok neato!" Dad you missed me. "Oh ok!" Didnt care that he missed me.
(middle children arent just passed over, but treated like sofa lint)
You don't want this person's experience, you want a normal parent showing up and being supportive. they did not have that. Because of the CONTEXT of NARCISSISM. Narcissists are not normal people and even their actions that would be normal to others are not done the same and for the same reasons
Narcissism is not the same as a normal person. The context of narcissism changes everything. When a parent is a narcissist they are not showing up for their kid. their kid is not important in the matter. They are showing up specifically for them for the praise that they get from their child successes and for being proceeded a good parent. Trust me you wouldn't want a narcissistic parent to be showing up making every moment about them and every good thing be owed to them.
Win your game? Yeah because I made a successful kid. You won because I'm such a good parent, I've spent so much time and money for you to do well. It's not because of your efforts it's all on me and you need to be greatful to me. And all the parents need to give me positive reinforcement for being such a model mom, aren't I great?
Do badly on the science fair? Okay but have you considered how your being sad and losing effects them? They're the *real* victim here. You don't get to be sad you need to give me attention and comfort me and actually your a horrible person because that sad thing that happened to you you practically did on purpose to make their life harder and you wasted all their support and money they put into it. Your feelings don't matter because I need praise.
Ask any person who's parent is a narcissist if they would prefer their parent to show up or to leave them alone The answer was leave them alone because then at least they get to experience the joy of the sadness without it being taken over by their parent.
So basically having a narcissist show up is/can be (narcissistics actions or tactic are carried) like what your mom did getting pissy that showing up was inconvenience for her but like every single time.
My personal experience narcissism is my mom would never show up to any event because it didn't benefit her. Her narcissism or myself made it so showing up didn't give her any positive benefits so she didn't. except for the few which similar to you she got upset because it was an inconvenience for her. This persons narcissistic parent showed up to everything because it did benefit them. This obviously just like with the poster is only part of having a narcissist parent as they do way more shit.
Fr, my parents rarely went to school events and even then they were always late. Also I would kill just to get a car ride ONCE a day then walk for an hour. God, people are privileged.
9:07 as someone with actual sensory issues with some foods this is so... forced. Like, when I eat stuffing, its not a voluntary thing.......... its just something that happens???
Also if it was completely real she wouldn’t post it
Exactly. I get the same thing when I chew on chicken fat, it's not that forced at all. Most of the time I don't even have time to process I hit fat before I'm gagging.
I don’t really have any reactions like that to food (well, maybe something like frogs legs I would), however I sometimes start gagging when I have to clean up my cat’s vomit. Still love my kitties though.
Fr I've been struggling with gagging my whole life and this was so...performitive. ew
FRRRR
0:03 So if you look on the bottle it says full cheeks. Full cheeks is a pet brand. MEANT FOR PETS
Hamster ahh child 😭 🙏
Imagine walking barefoot into the public restroom 🤢🤢🤢
My husband earlier telling me about pee on the floor around the urinal he used earlier... gaggs
Not the school bathroom 💀😭
Fr.. sometimes it's gross to walk in there while wearing shoes...
@@ItzHarmyit’s rage bait
@@IIzaraII ik
As someone with a narcissist parent and enabler parent, let me give you an example of something my narcissist parent did.
One time when my grandpa was grilling chicken, he asked my sister if she wanted barbecue sauce on it. She said yes and he put the sauce all over the chicken. When my narcissist parent heard this, she was enraged, as she usually is when our grandpa takes care of us, and forced my sister to eat 5+ pounds of sauced chicken and wouldn’t let her leave until it was all gone. Yes she ate it, puked it all up and could barely eat anything for 3 days.
Now what if I told you that parent was the same parent who showered us with presents on Christmas, took us out for dinner, dressed us up on Halloween, brought us to stores, to school, to friends houses, checked us out of school for the occasional fun trip, and leaped up to run whenever we needed to go somewhere like to buy supplies for a procrastinated school project. This is the same parent who explicitly told a child it was their fault for being SA’d, told their daughter in the hospital she just tried to kill herself for attention, forced a 10 year old to take care of a dying kitten that had its leg lopped off for a week instead of just putting the kitten down, blew a $150,000 settlement on SHEIN (mostly clothes and kitchen gadgets) when we were very poor rather than buying anything useful like a car or college funds or a PC, and let my uncle drag me away at 12 years old, screaming, to go with him to get an exorcism at his church. A lot of people think she is a sweet person. Covert, overt and narcissism in each person presents very differently.
I am inclined to give people the benefit of the doubt when they claim a family member is a narcissist.
Yeah!!! People just never seem to every single time jump to the conclusion when there is a person talking about negative experience that they're just making shit up, just never understand how narcissism works like not even the slightest.
Everyone here it seems to be basing their idea of narcissism off of what would be normal for normal parents to do. They don't have the idea of what narcissism or context is! Like no this persons parent was not showing up to be a supportive parent they were showing up to be self-serving to get praise for their child's excessive and to be perceived with a good parent. But especially when an afab person talks about anything relating to mental or health conditions everyone ignores and doesn't believe them.
Like yeah narcissistic parents will show up to things, but only when it benefits them and in the way they want, Even when they show up to some things they'll ignore the rest. Like my narcissistic mother took me to church every Sunday. She did take me on cheap vacations sometimes. she also never played once with me as a child because that didn't interest her. She stopped making me lunches cuz she wasn't feeling like I was giving her enough praise for it as a second grader. Sure she was there when my friendship got destroyed, she made it about herself though. She got me braces because she didn't want a kid who looked weird and then she constantly got upset because I wasn't giving enough back to her and thanking her enough that she got me braces, Nothing was ever enough to pay her back "oh but a real narcissistic mother wouldn't care about those things for their kids to begin with" is what somebody who doesn't understand would say. She showed up when she wanted to and not for the right reasons when she did.
Like narcissism is complicated and everyone is so quick to dismiss and gaslight the victims of it because "it couldn't have been that bad, you're just attention seeking and ungratefull"
Yeah, that video just sounded bizarre without full context, as many short videos tend to be... narcissistic abuse is so incredibly insidious and hard to prove because it looks perfect on the outside.
As someone with misophonia who also struggles with sensitivity to food textures, this is so faked. This is a full grown adult ACTING DRAMATIC about something people actually deal with. Why record this? Grow up. The fact that I hear her child in the background makes me so upset, is this person a PARENT??? (10:00)
It’s gross. It feels like social media has poisoned people’s minds
REAL
11:08 the fake southern blaccent is insane 😂
One sentence, NO THEY AREN'T OK 😭
Can confirm. Definitely nowhere near okay…
YUP. IDK Y PARENTS R LIKE THIS
Millenials on social media in general need they brains checked
WORSE THAN NOT OK😭
Just was gonna say this but went with everyone asks what the millennials doing but never how the millennials doing
That water bottle in the beginning is the exact same water bottle I have for my rats… 💀💀💀
The girl complaining about her parents being active in her life and calling them narcissist is a huge clue that she has no idea what a real narcissistic parent is. A narcissist wouldn't come at all, or would make excuses as to why they didn't show or can't come... narcissist has become a buzz word and it pisses me off- because it's truly an epidemic. Her parents- are not it... I can only hope she was being sarcastic... but probably not.
my guess is that her parents were on the overbearing side - never letting her go to places (at appropriate distance of course) on her own, having some things like sports without her parents being there, things like that. and yeah you need to do some things on your own as you grow up to build skills and independence. how has that anything to do with narcissism though...
My guess is that her parents were emotionally absent/neglectful, and she still thinks that was a normal childhood. So to have good parents who are present for extracurriculars and drive you around is too controlling
not exactly true; narcissists and abusers come in all shapes and sizes and controlling every little aspect of your life (showing up to every single thing where otherwise you would've had autonomy, not allowing you to walk a quarter mile to a friends house but instead have to be driven there so they can tell you no and control your friendships, etc etc.)
I don't feel like this person constituted their complaint very well (and could absolutely have been lying) but dismissing it outright because it doesn't fit *your* narcissist/abuser description is wrong.
Yes, thank you! My father (a single parent) is a huge narcissist and he never really cared or asked what I’ve done or how I’m doing, unless it showed a threat to him in any way, and instead of helping with that issue, he would just blame it on me and have me as a child handle it on my own. Though, funny thing, once I left to go on with my own life, he would constantly text me, asking me what I’m doing etc., which I just found weird and strange. It’s truly stressful to grow up with a narcissist, and for someone to incorrectly call their parents who actually showed they cared and were there for them a narcissist for being a parent, is just disgusting and annoying.
My farts are better than Haylo’s farts 💨
11:33 her stomach can´t handle fruit probably from all that vodka she´s drinking 😂, people were complaining recently in my country about an anime/comic convention not having a " space where they can drink a lot of alcohol and watch soccer games" dude you know what an ANIME AND COMIC convention is about?, plus is supposed to be a family friendly environment wth?
My parents attended all my concerts, track meets, etc. I love that they did that for me. And they’re definitely not narcissists 😂
We always show up for our son. He's our whole world. He likes hanging out with us and if he doesn't want to some days he stays home and it's fine. We have a good balance.
Awww i love ur Alastor profile pic!
Agreed it’s insane. I don’t understand why everyone is obsessed with social media TikTok involving
Why is it ridiculous to support kids
Love the cat Alastor pfp
0:10 this feels inhumane
feel the need to mention, the barefoot people were rage baiters, one of the biggest things that gave it away was the constant mention of being in ohio, which for some reason is a punchline on tiktok/reels, and as u mentioned the fact that they caught footage of wearing shoes in the winter
actually looking at almost all of these, either people are just terrible at keeping shit to themselves or its all rage bait
My husband is orginaly from Ohio. He agrees it can be a punchline.
Also the extremely obvious detail of their feet never being dirty
12:13 That's why younger gen alpha are so interested in their ipads THATS THE ONLY STIMULATING COLOUR THEY GET IN THEIR LIFE
idk how haylo is able to find a perfect spongebob frame for almost every situation
They're common spongebob memes... Are u serious, my guy?
@@peighnesshonourchign9164 i am not to blame after all spongebob is the most memeable tv show ever
Imagine getting on social media and seeing your grown ass offspring calling YOU a narcissist for being there for them and going to all of their events.....
You literally don't know how narcissism works. You should really just not talk about things you don't understand at all. everyone seems to be judging this person without a single understanding of how narcissism and context works.
They're basing it off of what would be the case if the person was a normal parent, completely not understanding the idea of context. Because yeah a normal parent showing up for all their kids events that would be nice That's loving and supportive, a narcissistic parent showing up for events is for completely different reasons. A narcissistic parent is showing up to get praise for looking like a good parent and for their child successes they need to make all their child's successes be about them.
But every time people on the Internet see an AFab person talking about it they always go "they're just being stupid and ridiculous". the possibility of the existence of shitty parents is never seems to even cross y'all's mind. I guarantee you if this was a man saying "yeah my narcissistic mother insisted on showing up to every sporting event. Cause you know narcissistic can't let me have something just for me" it would not be in the video because we would actually believe them when they talk about their experience with narcissism.
NAH THE HAMSTER BABY 😭
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SALLY FACE HI
@@BraceletsbyAnnie125xiao ling my savior
10:09 nah i love straberries how the hell can you gag at the starberries and afford to have like A BUNCH at the same time?! IF YOU DONT WANT THEM I WILL HAVE THEM DUDE, I CANT EVEN AFFORD ONE FOR FRICKS SAKE
As a person who has misophonia, THANK YOU FOR THE WARNING.
same i muted it
i have severe emetophobia and seeing that gagging terrified me :( we r one in the samee
@@grlsneverdieGIRL SAMEEEEE
As someone whose parents never showed up for anything when I was growing up I was heart broken. I felt like they did not care and was not important. I performed in the Senior Musical and the only people who showed up for me were my aunt and next door neighbor. It was sad that they were the only one’s who cared.
Wow that girl about her parents showing up for her and then calling them a narcissist. I wish my parents showed up, i quit many things bc they never did. I will be there for my sons stuff everytime, idc if its the same thing for 10 days in a row, I WILL BE THERE
Careful, the opposite extreme is called helicopter parenting and is equally destructive to a kid. Don't swing that pendulum too far to the opposite end.
And unfortunately, what the woman in that reel describes can indeed be a narcissistic tactic to keep their kids dependent and isolated, so we shouldn't judge based only on this reel. There's always more to the story.
@@maggie6152 As someone who experienced that from one of my parents, I agree. The parent in my situation borderline tracked and followed me everywhere and for everything. I wasn't even allowed to be in a bathroom alone till I had to fight them for privacy at 13. Even in public, it was so terrifying to be constantly watched, knowing that every single word or action from you would give the parent more ammo to use against you later.
You don't want this person's experience, you want a normal parent showing up and being supportive they did not have that.
Narcissism is not the same as a normal person. The context of narcissism changes everything. When a parent is a narcissist they are not showing up for their kid. their kid is not important in the matter. They are showing up specifically for them for the praise that they get from their child successes and for being proceeded a good parent. Trust me you wouldn't want a narcissistic parent to be showing up making every moment about them and every good thing be owed to them.
Win your game? Yeah because I made a successful kid. You won because I'm such a good parent, I've spent so much time and money for you to do well. It's not because of your efforts it's all on me and you need to be greatful to me. And all the parents need to give me positive reinforcement for being such a model mom, aren't I great?
Do badly on the science fair? Okay but have you considered how your being sad and losing effects them? They're the *real* victim here. You don't get to be sad you need to give me attention and comfort me and actually your a horrible person because that sad thing that happened to you you practically did on purpose to make their life harder and you wasted all their support and money they put into it. Your feelings don't matter because I need praise.
Ask any person who's parent is a narcissist if they would prefer their parent to show up or to leave them alone The answer was leave them alone because then at least they get to experience the joy of the sadness without it being taken over by their parent.
My parents didn’t even show up to my graduation from my Master’ program that they insisted I do. It didn’t fit into their schedule and they already saw one of my graduations so what’s the big deal
9:00 💀 People like that lady act like that on purpose, while also making fun of neurodivergent people and people with eating disorders with genuine texture/food aversion… I’m autistic and have something called ARFID. Ended up in the ER bc I couldn’t eat for weeks. But that lady’s dramatizing and filming that kind of reaction to food she’s fully capable of eating. 🤦🏻♂️ Bruh I’m done defending millennials as one.
May your safe foods list grow every day and all of the textures stay consistent and pleasant ❤
It’s disgusting and repulsive. I don’t understand how this would be popular or anything millenals don’t seem to care about anyone at all
Why are they trying to act like that. It’s gross and offensive.
it’s disgusting and gross. I don’t know people are obsessed with TikTok fame
those "play areas" at the end were literally so depressing and souless
lmfao they’re afraid of colors in today world💀
@@Jis00tvthey are trying to look like the kardashians
FR THAT “PLAY AREA” WAS LITERALLY MADE OUT OF CARDBOARD.
WHAT NEXT IS THERE GONNA BE ONKY BROWN FRUITS?? WILL GEN ALPHA ONLY EAT BROWN BANANA PEELS FOR BREAKFAST??!? 😡😨😒😒😡
They misspelles 'deppressing'
8:55 As someone with severe misophonia I really, really appreciate your warning about the chewing/gagging sounds about to be played! ❤
As someone with emetophobia, I really appreciated it too! Thanks Hayley 😊
That's nice of hayley 10:05
I don't have misophonia, but i feel uncomfortable.
8:06 ATHE AUDACITY- that is so disgusting. just imagine if the sister saw that, if that were me I would’ve had a full fledge break down, especially if the comments agreed with this nonsense, which I personally don’t agree with. that’s so unfair :((((
I can't imagine myself being not happy for my sister, if she marry before me. What's up with people's jealousy? 😢
Every time i see a sad beige room or a stark white minimalist aesthetic, i like to spend time in my 1950s technocolor horrorshow themed kitchen or my Bansky inspired office. It makes the millennial in me feel sane.
That's cool! I'm also a millenial parent and our house has a theme in each room for example our bathrooms are Avengers, our kitchen Harry Potter and our living room is in progress but it will be Five Nights at Freddy's teehee!
9:19 i would absolutely violently and aggressively eat all of that fruit in 1 second
Bro all that fruit is so good and she over here is GAGGING 😡
What. The. Actual. Hell. Is. Happening. In. Their. Brains. 😳
Disney maybe
@@PrinzessinSchuhkarton 💀
These people are NOT MILLENNIALS. Millennials were born between 1985 and 1996! NON OF THESE IDIOTS ARE MILLENIALS!
My farts are better than Haylo’s farts 💨
At this point I don’t know if they Even have brains anymore😭
Fricking hate this minimalist beige shit, and I love neutrals. Moved into a house last November and the first thing I let my tot do was pick the colors for his room. Lavender with light pink accents. His space, his choice of decor, don't matter if I like pink or not as long as the colors work together and not against each other. Let the kids have their damn color! Your shit can be the way you like it but gosh darn these people do more harm than good when they don't let their kids express themselves.
they are going insane💀💀
100%
No, that implies that they weren't to begin with
Just as we are insane
they got the vaxxine
@@BattleKatz-g3t fr 💀💀
10:30 here. If you want to skip this lady's gagging.
I’m convinced once COVID ended the world entered a trance
It's not even over
The panic is mostly gone though
@@FirstnameLastname-jd4uqyea there’s still COVID but ppl are acting like it’s a common cold nowadays-
@@R0meett3 because it always was.
09:45 as someone with super bad texture issues, this is genuinely offensive.
I agree
The fruit one…I’m like the pickiest person I know AND EVEN I LIKE GRAPES, BLUEBERRIES AND RASPBERRIES. Those are like the easiest fruits to like!!
I swear tbh my thoughts are either they have a illness or try to show the baby that it could choke on such small things but thats more smart than the video in context seems to be 😅
Yea, but there are still people who don't like them. My mom is very picky, too, and she doesn't like most fruits and vegetables
I'm autistic and I only like grapes apples and bananas, but I do like tons of vegetables. If I could change one thing about me, honestly anything. It's a tie between reducing my levels of anxiety and making me like more fruit to broaden my diet.
I like grapes but blueberries and raspberries are fooken disgusting (autistic) my fav is peeled apples(the skin I can't swallow)
@@JubbysDragons I love cut apples too. My issue is I need enough time to eat them. If I feel rushed I usually end up eating none of them. Working on it
4:24 - as someone with an actual narcissist parent i had to be taken away from because of abuse, I gasped so hard.
That- that just really isn’t something to complain about,im literally in shock they thought that would be.
“My parents picked me up and dropped me off everywhere I went when I was A MINOR.”
Uh, yeah?? You didn’t get snatched off the side of the road somewhere. You’re welcome.
Narcissistic are not normal people. They might do what sound like a normal person things on the outside without context but they're doing it for completely different reasons and doing it differently. They are not showing up for their child they are showing up for the benefit it gives them.
Like a narcissist might give huge amounts of presents to their kids during Christmas. They are not doing this because they love their children. They are not doing this as a selfless act. They're not doing this without expectation of payback. They are doing this because it gives them the status of being a successful and "great" parent. Each one of those presents will come with a price tag that the child will never be able to meet. Each one of those presents will become fuel for every future argument and any behavior they did because "look how great of a parent I am"
4:02 I agree tbh, my mom ust to do that when I was younger, and when u do finally actually realize that’s what they did u just feel *helpless* due to the fact u can’t do anything urself.
You rly suck at looking deeper into things..
I don’t think this girl understood it, but I totally understand where you’re coming from but I don’t think she understood
Everyone asks “what the millennials doing” but never “how the millennials doing”
Edit: thank you for making me feel famous fam ❤❤❤
Cri
This is such a millennial statement.
I am actually born in 1998 lol
The what shows us how.
@@PrinzessinSchuhkartonso like you’re the elder gen z lmao
I’m the last of the millennials 1996 babyyyy
9:35
Looking at the necklace, she doesn't have ASD? We, people with ASD, don't like many textures and flavors (Although I'm weird because I love sour and spicy ones, while usually autistic people prefer sweet ones, which is interesting)
I don't know, I can only guess because of the infinity symbol, because we, people with ASD, can be repulsive
Looks like she is faking it for clout. I have ASD too, that is the most fake gagging I’ve ever seen.
@@Flicker_thefo0x I don't know anything about it, I vomit when I'm sick, or when I was a child, on the bus
Actually, the infinity symbol is pretty common in association with Autism Spectrum Disorder.
why is this lowkey scary 😭
I’d be concerned about anyone who didn’t find this scary. Hamster baby’s are a thing now?!? Like WTF?!!!!!
I dont think u know what "lowkey" means
The “narcissistic parents” video almost made me cry! Like. I love basketball so I joined my school basketball team. Only my mom would show up and she was on her phone the majority of the time. So I would DIE for both of my parents to come to my games AND actually pay attention. If anything, what that person is explaining is the complete opposite of being a narcissist because they were prioritizing you and your hobby’s and need before their work, and maybe even wasting their free time and time to socialize. Before you complain about your parents caring about you. Try having parents who are on their phones when you are playing your heart out at your championship game
My dad promising to come to my basketball game and never showing up litterly was my first heartbreak .
My dad left our family and would make promises to spend time with me and my sister. 9 times out of 10 he'd call, an hour after he was supposed to show up, to cancel. I discovered later that he tried to poison my mom when he found out she was pregnant with me. Why are some of these dads such jerks?
Well I have total sympathy for that, that doesn't mean we should shit on people who's narcissistic parents showed up to every game. Because if you ask a narcissistic person if It would have been better for them to have their parent never show up or have them show up to everything, they would prefer to not have them show up.
Narcissistic parents are not normal people. None of their even normal people think are done for normal people reasons or a normal people ways. Everything's agenda-driven and any of their seemingly selfless acts always have a price tag or reward they are getting.
My narcissistic mother didn't show up to any of my events because she wouldn't have gotten anything from them because I wasn't praiseworthy and she didn't care about the satisi of being precieved as a good parent. This persons narcissistic parent showed up because they would get the praises of their child's being successful and being considered a good parent.
The only reason my mom bought “neutral” colored stuff for me as a kid was so I could paint or color on them to look the way I wanted
I grew up as the quasi middle child, with one parent who always worked full time and one parent who served in the military. Through a combination of my parents being away/busy and sort of being in the middle, my parents often missed my extracurriculars or events, which was very upsetting when I was young. They made the vested effort to go when they could, and I'm old enough now to understand that's just life sometimes, and to have such an appreciation for them showing up as much as they could. Hearing some one complain about their parents being there for them too much is.....strange lol?
Helicopter parenting has very serious negative effects. Give it a look see--it's also fascinating to see the other extreme from what we experienced.
Narcissistic are not normal people they are not like your parents. They aren't showing up for their kids they're showing up to get praise for their child successes or for being previewed as the good parent. You win there the game? It's because of them, You can't be happy and have a moment of victory, you need to actually be praising your parents and giving all the attention to your parent because to them your victory isn't on you it's actually because of the time effort and money that they've put into raising you so you don't get to have anything. And if you lose? They'll get upset and yell you and make it over there being hurt and victimized by your failure because they're actually the ones making everything in your life happen. Or more subtly they'll just leach of the successes of your victory or the feeling of being a good parent when you lose and they get to fulfill the hero complex. You don't take their kids out to ice cream after a loss because they want to comfort their kids they do it because "look at me I'm a great parent (this will also be used for fuel later to justify their other actions because look how good I am)"
for most of my life, i've had issues when it comes to food. certain smells, textures, looks of food make my body physically react in a way that rejects it. it also means i go in and out of phases with food (mainly chicken and bread). seeing people like this at 9:17 is just sad honestly because it reminds me of all the times people have said to me and others like me 'you're being dramatic.' please stop faking real issues for attention and grow up :/
love ur videos hayley!
The internet needs to be shut down everyone is out their mind 🤯🤯🤯🤣🤣
The internet was a terrible, terrible mistake that we will be paying for… for the rest of time, apparently. 🫠
As someone who can’t eat fruit or vegetables due to severe sensory issues but that girl over did it. Also yes I gag but I’m not like that. It’s really really hard to eat and it’s not that I don’t want to it’s that I CANT this girl over did it…
As a millennial who has never used Instagram Reels... I think I'm glad I never figured it out.
It is a dark and scary place that once you experience it, you’ll be haunted by it forever. It’s like 4Chan merged with Facebook and TikTok…
Not everyone uses them that way, thankfully. I’m not on IG anymore but when I was, I either made reels of my doll collection or artwork I made, or something else harmless.
Also, primitive people were wrapped around their feet. They did not walk around barefoot in the snow the minute they discovered that they could wrap their feet with skins and furs. They used the soft inside of a tree, the pulp, to insulate their wrapping, so their feet would stay warm. That couple is just crazy.
yk it's a great day when hayley posts
Real
omfg thank you so much for the warning for the chewing sounds 😭😭😭
Being barefoot inside the house is very common practice in many households as we keep our surroundings clean and tidy but going outside barefoot is the most disgusting thing I’ve ever seen. Don’t these people know that there might be lot of germs and bacterias on the roads or are they just doing these things deliberately just for some fame, views and attention on social media platforms?
9:42 THE STAN PICTURE OH MY GOD 😭😭
I HAVE EMETOPHOBIA OR WMHOWEREVR U SPELL IT (fear of throwing up, I get extremely uncomfortable around gagging noises so I was lowering the volume down) AND THEN I SAW HIM AND I STARTED GIGGLING SO HARD
As a millennial, I am flabbergasted... Therapy needs to be free
Same. 😭 what happened to some of us?!
Therapy needs to be MANDATORY! 😂
Feels like our entire country is going insane; we could all use a checkup. Those who pass get released back out into society. Those who don't pass get a padded room and a complimentary beige straight jacket. 🤣
you mean psychiatric asylum, not therapy
9:25 im autistic and fruit is also something that I don’t like the texture of,,,,but i don’t do this bro
same lol
10:23 she made me gag because of the disgusting spit things like ew, how can you be such a baby about FRUITS Like jeez I'm kinda picky in terms of food but THIS ?! I couldn't even REACH OUT to that kind of pickiness
She’s not being picky. She’s faking having autism for clout. I’m autistic myself, and the infinity necklace is the newer symbol for ASD.
@@Flicker_thefo0x I know dw, keep it up lad🧱
SAME.
BTW the shoe one is ragebait, they only cut up their 'bad' shoes and the drill isn't on when they show the drilling scene
1935: “the future is gonna be amazing!”
the future:
4:13 bro this makes me so mad bc i always wanted my parents to show up to my games and stuff but they were normally too busy. i would always get so excited when they could show up. be grateful omg
I also have my purse overloaded with stuff like a mini suitcase, but that's because I live out in the middle of "Rural Nowhere", so it's more like a Go-Bag that's packed for two people at a time. Solar powered phone charger with compatible cables, two snack bars, two granola bars, two water bottles, a small first aid kit with bandages, antiseptic, hand sanitizer packets for single use, wet wipes, tissues... Personal hygiene ((travel sized deodorant, feminine stuff, nail care tools that also double as other care items in a pinch...)), reflective discs for flagging down someone, small flashlight, a small blacklight ((useful for spotting cool rocks or see scorpions in the dark where we live)), identification, roughly $100 on cash for emergencies, a small bottle of hand sanitizer for when I pick up stranded turtles so I don't get salmonella after handling them to put them in the safe zones, hair ties, pens and small notepad...
My purse is more like a carry-on tote bag, and sometimes my family laughs at it, but they don't laugh when one is suck in a storm shelter with me and I'm like: "Yo, you want a Larabar?" or "Your phone is dead? No worries, I got a powerbank right here. You can call emergency while it's charging."
Agreed. That makes sense
It hurt my brain when that mom treated her daughter like a hamster
Nahh their treating their kids like hamsters is crazy😭
EDIT: HOW DID I GET SO MANY LIKES😍
EDIT: y’all stop correcting my grammar I fixed it 😭 AND THANKS FOR 1K LIKES😣✌🏻
Yeah we all do it actually. The dog leashes are old news
@@yourshoulderdevil5229 agreed, and there's options for kids like sippy cups 😭
Have yall seen the kid hand cuffs? I find those to be even more wild
I hope they don't throw them in a cage like hamsters
@@SW-zb6bfHuh
When that one video about parents attending multiple performances was narcissistic, that actually hurt.
When I (and many other little kids) was little and doing silly school plays, beginning band, Orchestra 1, elementary choir,etc (i love music, can you tell?) I would've loved to have had someone come watch me during the noon shows, but my parents didn't have flexible work schedules at the time so it didn't happen. I'm now so happy mom watches each and every marching band and concert band show that I do. I will always cherish how proud my mom was of me and feel grateful
help they actually scare me 💀like wtf
9:07 this really pisses me off. I’m somebody who has major sensory issues and actually can’t handle the textures of a lot of fruits, meats, and vegetables. it’s horrible and prevents me from getting a lot of the nutrients I need, I’ve dealt with this since I was a kid. The amount of times I’ve gagged and choked on food and just felt so gross when trying my hardest to eat had made me want to cry at times. This ladys video just feels like she’s making fun of me, I cannot even describe how horrible it makes me feel.
What even is a hack😭 when it comes to parenting, WHY IS THERE EVEN A THING CALLED HACKS??
I thought hacks were going into the files of games and making it different. And I thought all hackers wore black clothes and had “hacker” masks lol
The hamster water has to be rage bait. That is infuriating.
I feel like when 8 yr old kids want to go to sephora and have a skin care routine, rather than play on a brightly.colored playground, it's time to take the influencers and internet away from them. I'm guilty of being too lax with technology and my kids. And we have to change something. These kids are growing up feral.
I'm concerned for the kids then the parents, I'm 10 years old and if my mom ever treated me like a hamster and did whatever they were doing... i would disown myself respectfully. And, 😃 FUN FACT 😃.... people in the 1800s WISHED and BEGGED the royalty for something to wear on their feet because people were getting INJURED. Imagine how disappointed they are looking down at us rn.
edit: thank you for the sweet & kind replies (:
UGHH I KNOW YOU SHOULD BE GRATEFUL FOR HAVING A 20 THOSAND DOLLAR SHOE COLLECTION
I'm so disappointed with how some parents, mostly millennial parents are weird enough to make their kids realize that they aren't normal parents and they as kids, do deserve to be treated like normal human beings, not like pets who live in their homes.
On top of that, you are smart for someone your age, I'm honestly amazed. Hopefully more people would take in to consideration that they should do better.
@@5ft2chelle thank you! i never knew how much i was lucky to have parents that are millennial and aren't "silky moms". tbh i think putting moms as an aesthetic is BS. excuse my language, but it's true. this generation is so fked up and gen beta is gonna be worse.
@@lolittathevocaloidfan FRRR I HAVE ONE PAIR OF SHOES AND I BOUGHT IT WHEN I WAS 6 AT A THRIFT SHOP
@@-OLIVIA-FAN-PAGE- I as someone who was born during the early Gen Z era, I've got a lot to learn from you and your generation because kids really do deserve the best and not neglected like how I've seen the stuff that are being posted here on the internet.
And you are correct, Gen Beta may be doomed as well if their parents from my generation (maybe older), doesn't take notes from those who failed as parents.
Cheers to you and your millennial parents! I have a feeling that you and many other kids will make our future more brighter. You should be appreciated more often. I'm really proud of you 😀
I don’t think the girl who said she was dressing up was saying she was doing it to meet her ex, but dressing up so well she wouldn’t mind meeting her ex. Love ur videos!
I'm kind of shocked people don't realize the cutting out the bottom of the shoe thing was obviously a fake bit for rage baiting...
8:55 THANK YOU SO MUCHHHH! I NEVER SEE *ANYONE* PUT TRIGGER WARNINGS FOR THIS STUFF! I SWEAR, I *DESPISE* GAGGING, THROWING UP, AND CHEWUNG SOUNDS, I FEEL LIKE I HAVE A *PHOBIA* OF VOMITING NOISES, AND I LITERALLY ALMOST CRY AND HAVE AN ANXIETY ATTACK WHEN I HEAR VOMITING NOISES, SO THANK YOU *SO MUCH* FOR THIS WARNING 😭🙏
That clip of the person talking about their "narcissistic parent" really struck a nerve in me as someone with a narcissistic father
Except he would never show up for me (plus alot more that I dont feel like dumping on here) , people have ruined the term narcissistic to undermine actual abuse people go through, its so annoying
Some narcissistic's parents don't show up to any of their kids things because they don't give a shit. Some narcissistic parents showed up for everything because they got praise for being a good parent and for their child's successes and then name also made all their child successes be about them and their efforts.
Remember ever hearing your work be something you had to praise your parent for because it wasn't that you succeeded because of your efforts but because of their support? Their parent was showing up because their narcissism they felt good getting the perception of being supportive and being controlling.
I get it as another person who grew up with a narcissistic parent who didn't show up to anything that it can be kind of hard to understand someone else's experience The narcissistic parent acting differently, but verity happens. I can also have sympathy for someone who's narcissistic parent gave them expensive gifts every Christmas and get how those all came with an unspoken price tag and ego boost for the parent, Even though my parents didn't.
4:55 genuinely shocked me. i was always, and still am desperate for my parents to show up to every event i am involved in, however they cant, and i am alone without my parents most of the time and have been through my life because of their stupid long work hours. i genuinely find it shocking that people can even begin to think that being actively present in your child’s life and being there for them is narcissistic and manipulative.
Not related to the video, but your new video background is very nice!!! I also love your style! I dont know if you follow a specific one but i still find your room deco and outfits very nice :D
Okay Haylo Hayley needs a podcast!!! I would totally listen 💖
I am a maid and i can say that rich people are gross especially if they have children
Just kids with adult money. Some people just never want to grow up. That or a lot of their childhood they were told no, and now it’s their time to shine in adulthood.
8:47 thank you for putting that trigger warning, i have a phobia of throw up/gagging and i also have Mesophonia (im not sure how to spell it but its when you are very sensitive to chewing noises, eating noises, smacking lips, gulping, etc) and i would have not survived that if i didnt skip
3:43 bro my dad was DIAGNOSED with narcissistic personality disorder and he just beat and neglected me until his various addictions landed him in an early grave (would’ve been me otherwise-I was dangerously underweight when my grandparents took me in after he passed because he was busy spending the grocery money on illegal substances). My grandmother then complained about everything she showed up for and told me directly at age 16 that she expected me to take care of her instead of… working on the things I expressed I wanted to do with my life. Which I can’t work toward because she spent my college funds on herself and now blames me for not being in college right now. But sure, go off about a parent showing up for you…
I can see a spin where it’s actually ‘narcissistic’ if the parent does it for attention or praise from others but like. Even then they’d probably make it feel like a huge sacrifice and hold it over the kid’s head, not just show up.
Also NPD does not make everything someone does inherently abusive… so even if their parents were NPD, that could also be read as learning to manage their disorder to be there for their kid and expecting nothing out of it… which is a HUGE win for someone suffering from NPD and something to celebrate, not shame
There’s just a lot wrong with this from every angle. I would sell both of my kidneys and lungs just for that kind of support in my life…
0:11 wtf i had that for my guinea pig
I sometimes put like vitamin stuff in their water
That says a lot 😭
what irritates me the most was the colours of the playrooms being stripped away for the parent's aesthetic....as a person with autism, bright colours and things in toys, rooms and shows have always visually stimulated me. Bright, neon colours always brought a lot of excitement. Seeing parents take that away even from neurotypical kids is infuriating. Give your children back their colourful rooms! Don't make their space as depressing as you..
I had a narcissistic mother. And while I think I see what she’s getting at, it’s not the fact that they are just there. My mom would show up and somehow try and take all the attention away from anything I was doing. No matter what I did, she had to prove she was better. Like when I was a cheerleader, she’d show up with her own pom poms and stand up in front of me and try to flirt with my boyfriend. And then if I got too talented at an activity (skiing, dance, etc) she would make me quit because it was “taking up too much of her time” and she had better things to do. See the difference?
Check out "covert narcissism". It's a different presentation from what you're describing and more like what that lady could have experienced. They're much less flamboyant and needing the spotlight and more subtle about creating emotional and needs dependency.
I had a covert narcissist as one of my parents.
Right, it’s why they show up, not just that they did.
Not all narcissism is that avert though. Some narcissist will be that direct but that doesn't mean this person's parent were not narcissistic.
@@nysad4277 and the video posters parents very well where also for the wrong reason even though it was less blatantly direct
12:23 Jesus fucking CHRIST… Gen Alpha is gonna be depressed as shit 💀
I think we know why they watch brain rot now they’re tryna fight the depression
5:35 my biggest problem with the rant here is that it doesn’t take hover parents into account which are parents that are around TOO much and don’t let you have a life outside of them which may not be the situation here but feels unfair to yell at them about how some people just want their parents to show up to one thing
Feels really similar to the whole “well some parents punish their kids physically” when a kid is having rights taken away like a door it may not be the same thing but it’s still wrong and abusive
My mom is a narcissist, she cut me off from my dads side of the family and my dad, telling me they didn't love me or cared for me, didn't even tell me my dad was dead until the night before the funeral because she didn't want to distract me from my studies, never was there for anything i did, never was there for the things she forced me to do, i was travelling around the city in cabs on my own from when i was 6 (early 2000s so no phone, no gps, just a 6 year old and vibes) this woman was never there for anything cut me off from almost everyone in my family and my friends, i am suprised i even managed to maintain my best friend from elemtry cuz i wasnt allowed over at anyones house and the few times i was allowed to go (birthdays and such) my mom would say she would come pick me up told me to get ready then would promptly stop answering her work phone until 2 hours after the event was over then blame me for not being ready when she was available. There came a point where i stop accepting birthday invites and a point where everyone stopped trying to invite me. I wish i had that girls parents....
"Are Millenials On Instagram Reels Okay?"
No.
"Are Millenials Okay in general?"
Not really....
4:23 That’s not narcissistic at all, that’s called parents caring that can be overbearing. Overbearing ISNT abuse or narcissism.
I’m Gen z, i have Gen X mom and Boomer dad who are divorced. While my mom attended most of my events, she was verbally abusive, alcoholic-workaholic, painted herself as a victim constantly, and emotionally manipulative while my dad (+ stepmom, 2 half-brothers) didn’t attend my events BECAUSE of my mom and consider as my actual family while my mother is my mother.
For 14 years my parents were in and out of court so they were semi unavailable for me, so I got attached to my school teachers and other adult figures in order to fill that emotional need. It took me a hospitalization at a mental hospital in order to “wake up” my parents at 16 to realize how BADLY I was struggling, then the courts slowed down and eventually stopped. That was 4 years ago, I still struggle with stuff from then (Ie my depression room which is getting better) I would rather have parents who are there for me than ones who aren’t.
Narcissistic are not normal people they are not like your parents. They aren't showing up for their kids they're showing up to get praise for their child successes or for being previewed as the good parent. You win there the game? It's because of them, You can't be happy and have a moment of victory, you need to actually be praising your parents and giving all the attention to your parent because to them your victory isn't on you it's actually because of the time effort and money that they've put into raising you so you don't get to have anything. And if you lose? They'll get upset and yell you and make it over there being hurt and victimized by your failure because they're actually the ones making everything in your life happen. Or more subtly they'll just leach of the successes of your victory or the feeling of being a good parent when you lose and they get to fulfill the hero complex. You don't take their kids out to ice cream after a loss because they want to comfort their kids they do it because "look at me I'm a great parent (this will also be used for fuel later to justify their other actions because look how good I am)"
The steps are CHEW and SWALLOW. Not chew and let sit there to marinate. 9:51 🥲
This “play place” is like conditioning kids for doctors appointments, when they need to see their therapist for INNER CHILD HEALING!😭 This just looks SO boring!! 12:31
I’m going to genuinely thank you for giving that warning because I cannot stand watching someone gag/throw up, and I thought it wouldn’t be that bad but had to nope out after the first 2 seconds, so thanks