What Happens To Mature Women That Have Been Celibate For Long - Must Watch
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- WHAT HAPPENS TO MATURE WOMEN THAT HAVE BEEN CELIBATE FOR TOO LONG -
This Video Is A Video Of A Woman Who Asks A Question About Celibacy And What Happens To Mature Women That Have Been Celibate For Too Long, This Got Some Women Sharing Their Opinions
#mustwatch #celibacy
Financial stability and freedom. Undisturbed sleep for 8 hours. A clean house, especially the bathroom. Cats. I'm good.
Right!😹😹😹💯
Absolutely. It's pure heaven
Girl! I got engaged to a military man and he’s been stationed places for a year at a time twice now. He gets time off but Lordy the way I get comfortable when he’s gone.😂 Just me and my lil 5lbs rat dog get set in our ways.
Same🎉
@@denishawalters1813 Take that as a reason not get married. Seriously..ask me how I know!
repairing one's energy
Self-respect
peace
Loving self
Good health
Good mental health
Opportunities
Independence
Calmness
Self-security
Mature in years. Celibate for 13 years and happier than ever. Not likely to seek that sort of relationship again. And me too, I don't want share my personal space so much any more. I have zero regrets. I am surrounded by family and friends. Choose happiness whatever that means to you ❤
I’m 52 and have been celibate since 2020. Best decision I’ve ever made for myself. Life is peaceful, and there’s nobody around to throw my pH balance off. Lol. It feels like a total reset spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally. It feels GOOD. I had my fun when I was younger, and honestly the longer I go without, the less sex even appeals to me anymore. It’s nice here…I think I’ll keep it this way.
Celibate since 2012! No regrets! Love myself, love life, abundance of peace! Best choice ever!
I'm 63. Lost my partner to cancer a year and a half ago. He was sick for a year and a half before he died. I am good alone now. I still shine. Women seek my company for advice. I'm ok being the witch widow now.
the end for most people regardless of how they lived their lives tends to be fairly solitary. only those who actively pursue and lively web of friendships and familial bonds will have that precious moment in their deathbed where they are surrounded by dozens of people who love them waiting to see them off.
Its much more frequent to just have a couple of your kids there. and even then, a lot of ppl with kids will still be alone in the end. thats just reality.
however what ive started to see much more of are these little sisterhoods popping up everywhere amongst elderly ladies. i think the internet has finally kicked off for them. theyre meeting other likeminded ladies and developing new female focused bonds in their much later years than you would think possible. just a gaggle of 75 to 90 years olds hanging out with their new besties. THOSE ladies will be surrounded by this female love when they reach their end.
It’s been 7 or 8 years for me. I’m in my early forties. The desire is there but I have been indifferent about finding a partner. I have not dated and like the first lady, I need to be with someone in a relationship. I don’t want a casual interaction. My life is pretty great with or without a partner.
I love green dress lady.. celebrating 1year today yall..
This is a powerful conversation. The celibate journey needs to be intentional through therapy, self help books, examining your family patterns, replacing bad habits with good habits where it becomes a natural default, also taking responsibility for how you show up in relationships: Have you been clingy & desperate or cold & unemotional. My point is don’t be celibate, just waiting around; letting time pass and your not growing and rediscovering a better life🌻💛
I been celibate for almost two years and iam so peaceful , happy and relaxed,doing me feels great I can't put into words the freedom it gave me to give myself the attention I would have love to give myself so blessing to all who takes time for your self and Higher Power❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊👸
This might be TMI but VJJ Atrophy can happen and it can make perimenopause symptoms worse so partner or no partner make sure you keep your homegirl in use. Have fun ladies.
Oh we got toys!
This is 100% true. Keeping my comment PG rated - if a woman who abstained for too long without using devices and supplements to keep her yoni supple finally finds her Mr Right, it becomes complicated and awkward because of atrophy.
OB-GYNs often recommend supplements and devices to perimenopausal women to keep supple for their overall yoni health, even if the women decide to no longer do the horizontal bop with a man anymore.
Then, let it atrophy.
@@ibabechanel Not a good idea. It causes other issues besides secksual discomfort. It causes itching, bad odor issues, incontinence, more susceptible to UTIs and pain while urinating. Like I said in my last comment, even if a woman doesn’t want to have secks anymore, OB-GYNs strongly recommend supplements and devices to keep supple for overall yoni health.
@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living do they need to be penetrative devices or will masturbation for orgasm suffice. I probably need to ask my doc lol.
I love this video! I'm 51 and 7 yrs, zero contact and I don't want any. I have finally discovered peace & happiness and I and am perfectly comfortable being my own sovereign soul and if GOD wants me to get married before my time is up then it will happen organically. WE really dont talk about this specific issue which I really dont see an issue having morals and self respect for ourselves. Besides, you cant love some else until you love and embrace yourself to know your true self worth.
I'm 50. Wouldn't call myself celibate, but I enjoy having my home to myself. I enjoy my freedom. I enjoy my garden. I enjoy my hobbies, like shooting. And I do not feel the need "jump on the first thing I see". I have had men express interest and I was not interested. And even that interest was stressful. It's very empowering to be with yourself and not in the game.
Truly I loved this! I'm glad this is a shared thoughts I'm going thru these thoughts and feelings. I am trying to be optimistic about the dating field.
Going on 3 years celibate and I’m enjoying this journey. Peaceful and cost effective af.
When she started talking about her mom. 😢
34 and celibate almost 5yrs and these has been some of the best years of my life! Far from interested in finding a partner..Whenever God sends him he sends him until then, I'm GOOD ,GOOD!
Celibacy means that you are not giving your energy to a man. How is this bad? It is healthy, it is rejuvenating and it is a powerful experience to enjoy your own energy and use it to manifest a more powerful you. Every woman is far more powerful when she is celibate.
The woman in green. We're twins haha
Also 45 but its only been 6 months since i left my ex after 20 odd years.
And it feels SO GOOD
I feel more balanced in every way I also look better ..younger even.. and i have so much more energy. Before i was always burnt out by the afternoons ..not anymore
and i also get emotional about how i have the BEST women in my life haha
Celebrate 17 years, purifying my body, my mind and heart for my future husband and if not God's proud of me
I'm 49 and haven't had sex since October 2023. I'm married but have decided that I'm over it (not going to get into it) and just really focusing on myself. Do I have sexual desires, absolutely, but I'm not ready for that as of yet.
6:02 people are out here going through the most! I'm so sorry this lady went through all this. 😢
The 45 year old woman is me. Love you Sis ❤ I am a 45 year old mother of an amazing son!! This video fed my soul 😢😢😢😢
I would like to know the lady with red hair’s channel. She seems so beautiful as a spirit, soul and person.
I've been celibate for 5 years and it's wonderful
I'm a 34 year old virgin and Im actually feel blessed and if I get married one day great but if I don't I know I'll be good 😊
This one is very good and informative.
MATURE WOMAN@41 CELIBATE AND SELF RESPECT THE ABILITY TO HAVE AND ENJOY ONE❤LUCKY MAN THAT GOD ABOVE WILL APPROVE OF❤PEACE❤
I think the difference between celibate and abstinent ( the way that one woman used it) is that celibate is NO sexual activity at all, and abstinent is no sex with another person. You can fill in the blanks there.
I’m proud of the woman admitting that Sex is Over Rated cause if there is No Love the Physical Act of sex is Empty
So true!
THIS!!!!!
I want the whole world to know about the 4b movement so all women will consider that they have a choice about sex, and getting involved with men, and that men have been horrible enough that a movement like that had to start.
@@anarcho-communist11 As a woman, all relationships can have one of the persons be a poo-head. No matter genders. Not all men are horrible. Not all women are kind and thoughtful and non-controlling. But I agree with your statement that there have been so many women who felt that men were so horrible that a movement was needed.
@@anarcho-communist11 Women are choosing to be promiscuous with bad dudes and selling the putang is the oldest profession in the world 😂.
You don't just want a husband, you want a QUALITY husband. So if you're not finding a quality man, you're not missing out on anything.
Facts!!
Precisely 😑💅🏾
Exactly 👏🏽 well said
Literally. You are saving yourself.
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I didn't intend on being celibate. I remember having s*x with a guy I was seeing for years, a situationship if you will, and I was thinking, "Why am I doing this?". Cut it off with him and it's been 6 years. No intention of giving my body to any unworthy man again.
Many can relate. These type of relationships really do harm to your mind, body, and soul.
I'm neurodivergent. I have to do things for a purpose and I have to feel safe and happy. If a man is not making feel safe and happy at any point, I will remove sexual access from him. I don't tend to have situationships. My autistic brain like clearly defined and labelled things. So a man might be my lover, my intimate companion, my friend with benefits, my boyfriend, my husband or my life partner. For me this gives boundaries and expectations. I have men who are my lovers who are married. I've met their wives and they have children with their wives. The wives have told me in their own terms why they struggle to have sex with their husbands. Sometimes it's illness, sometimes it's fatigue, sometimes it's sexual incompatibility ( he wants to tie her up and she doesn't want to)( She want to have outdoor sex and he is horrified at the thought).
One I know said she's gone off sex since menopause but she's happy for her husband to go and enjoy himself so they are swingers. It's about conflict resolution while respecting the other personal, feelings and thoughts and needs. One wife felt like she had missed out as she had only been with her husband so she opened the marriage so that she could explore. If the men who are my lovers have made a commitment to another woman and/or if they have children I fully expect them to put their committed life partner and/or their children first because those people are relying on them. I don't rely on men for anything so I'm a free agent. I try to stick to respect and honesty in my relationships and state any boundaries/definitions/understanding that I'm having difficulty with. I've come to the realisation that I can't be someone's everything so I wouldn't demand that from someone either. Our partners are not there to give us whatever we want or even whatever we need. A lot of people forget that.
I know he was mad 😂😂😂😂
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So weird, the exact same thing happed with me. He went from thinking I was playing hard to get, to telling me he suddenly wants a relationship (a lie!) to just being very angry when he realized I was seriously done.
Lenny Kravitz said being celibate for 8 years and respecting who he gives his body to is so impowering. So true!
The same Lenny Kravitz who cheated on Halle Berry, yeah sure. He is celibate? I doubt it. 😂 Cheaters are good lairs too.
Right. But you got clown men out here who can't even go 2 weeks without it 😅 No self-control or discipline. I love being celibate because it has taught me so much discipline
He's been celibate for 9 years.
And the number of men that were clowning him...
Sexual discipline really triggers people for whatever weird reason.
There's men that are celibate? 😕
That's a first.
Ngl.. My generation is gonna have senior communities FULL of RICH AUNTIES! I'm looking forward to it.
💰🏘💅🏾❤😁
Gurrrrrl!! 🤣 I’m Gen X, i ain’t rich rich but I don’t have to share, so it works for me!😂 I told my Auntie that I’m on that “supper at 5” life!
Richhhhh 🤑🤑🤑
I'm that rich auntie and my family loves me and I love them. I do what I want, when I want.
RICH AUNTIE HERE 🙋🏽♀️🧡
I'll be there 😁✌️
I refuse to risk letting a male have access to my body anymore. I have been celibate for several years and I have peace in my life, I have not had any more bacterial infections, and I feel clean, I am STD free and at peace🙏🏾. I love my life and the way that I feel. Everyday I feel very happy, rested, clean, and financially secure ❤
PEACE seems to be the most common benefit. When your heart is healed and your mind is clear, you grow to love yourself. That being said, I can't give a man access to what is precious to me. A have yet to meet one that is worthy. 12 years celibate.
Health is wealth 🥂
Agreed I'm trying to stay celibate too I still relieve myself but I'm trying to refrain from sex. Men don't like this but celibacy helps women heal it's very hard to get your looks back if I'm always having sex. And don't worry about those men that say they could get rid of us too by creating artificial wombs not all men listen to there homies you can't really tell a man not to have sex with women because some men like plastic and some men don't if anything some of them want to multiply us.
There urges are higher then ours so it allows me to remain celibate when I know men are indecisive. There usually easier to trick too I booked a room underneath this man the other day he tried to run a fake credit card through the line and when he stepped aside on the phone to get his gfs info I said, "go ahead and ad Another day to my room!' I ran my card and it approved and I walked off.
Me too! When I got diagnosed with hpv that was the final straw for me.
@@mangadud men ain’t shiaayt 😤
An older lady a doctor. Told me once you get over 30, you get used to your ways. You don't really want people in your space.
Just turned 30 and this is so true 😂❤
saturn return
So true
At all! 😩 I thought I was going crazy! I moved 5 hours away from home because ion even want my family around 😂
30 is very young... it depends on the woman.
Celibate at 38 for two years here. The longer I go the less interest I have in finding a partner and the happier I feel.
I’m 32 and feel the same lol
Me too! I’m 34 and have very little interest in finding a partner.
Currently 36, been celibate since I was 28 😂😂. Haven't even thought about dating or finding a partner. Honestly, been way more peaceful minding my business & hobbies than trying to contort myself into an impossible box of standards, while trying to play on a field with a moving goal post.
Same! I think back on all the times I put myself at risk for utterly MEDIOCRE 🍆, lol! Especially now, I wouldn't put myself at risk of a pregn@ncy for it. Uh uh. He'd have to buy me a house, a car, give me a fully funded retirement account, AND be fixed! Other than that, I'm better off single and having peace of mind. That's just how they made it now.
Me too! I'm 43/ 3 years and I completely relate.
I am 41 years old and I have been celibate for 5 years. It is hard for me to even get far with conversation with men because my spiritual sight is so clear. I am just not that interested in entertaining a man at all. The longer you remain celibate the clearer you see people for who they are.
AGREED. The clarity is unbelievable. No foolish distractions. Zero tolerance for nonsense.
41 and 7 yrs celebate
U said it!
This is most definitely a fact!!
Exactly!!
I'm 59 years old and have not been in a sexual relationship with a man since 1999. I HAVE NO REGRETS, none what so ever! I have a full rich life filled with love from family and friends. I am financially independent, worry free and at PEACE! Having peace in my mind, in my home and in life is priceless and no amount of sex is going to steal that away from me. I have no desire to share my life with a man, I know what marriage involves because I was married for 10 years. I know the burden, I know the demands and I know the imbalance so no I have no desire to be something someone else wants me to be. Being single I AM FREE!!!
I am so happy for you. My story is similar. There is nothing a man can offer me. I refuse to compromise my serenity and prosperity to be in a relationship.
Well said Sis!! Happy for you!!
Me too; I'm about to be 58 this summer and have been celibate since 2001. I'm so good over here.
You pontificating on UA-cam……okay
I’m 58… purposely celibate! I am still married but living as roommates with my soon to be ex-husband! Tired of worried about catching a disease from my cheating spouse.
I feel the same way that you feel and I am so much at peace! Getting a divorce this year, selling the house and getting my own space! Can’t wait, so excited and grateful that I woke up 4 years ago.
I’m 32 and still a virgin. And I am living life to the fullest. And I plan to be one for the rest of my life.
Awe, bless you sis. I'm so proud of you.🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Omg me too! 33 years a Virgin & I don’t think the risks of spiritual exchange, STDs is just not worth it to me. Celibate for life 👌🏽🥂
36 here and a virgin. I really don't want babies or std's. When I find my person and it feels right it will happen. If not I'm totally fine with that too. I'm the most joyous and happy I've ever been.
@@happygolightly there’s just so much peace here, I love my lifestyle 🙂
@@INFJ_9 I totally agree
Mature celibate woman here. Let's not make a mountain out of a mole hill. As a young girl I had those reservations as well. No woman, young or mature wants to be used and discarded, left diseased or unfulfilled. Please trust and believe that as long as there are men who desire women, mature women will have just as many chances as anyone else. We are just wise enough to be choosy.
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What she said.
Well said! 🎉❤😎💯💎
69 and celibate for 21 years. Husband died 3 years ago. He ran the streets and was horrible to deal with when he was home (always angry). Now I have a quiet, clean house, wonderful friends and family and love doing art in my retirement.
May he rest in peace, but may you continue to LIVE in peace.
Wow, so you were celibate during marriage?? Very smart since he was running the streets! Very wise!
@@ActavellaI think she meant ex husband
prettypeacock7319 No, I am a widow. He was not my ex husband. Once it became clear he was cheating with multiple women, and would not stop, that part ended for me. I moved him to a spare bedroom. He threatened divorce. I said file for it. He never did. Of course not, nice family, double income, nice home, respectability. Men are selfish. They say in a bad marriage the last one standing is the winner. That would be me.
@@Greenplanet949❤
I am 75 and have been celibate since I was 43. There were times it was pretty lonely but I realized what I missed was feeling the warmth and skin of a love interest next to me more than the sex act. When I was young I enjoyed it alot but there was also sexual abuse and betrayal. So after that I didn't trust myself to know a good man when I met one. I made the decision to obstain. I didn't know it would last this long but I did come to be comfortable with it. I really love not having to clean up after a man or cook for him! And I control the remote! I have to have deep feelings and feel them from someone else and be with a super special someone in order to ever want sex. Casual sex was never for me. Just wanted to share my story.
I love hearing from elders. Thank you for sharing. 🩷
@erinsymone1645 Thank you for your lovely response. It's taken me alot of years to speak about my experiences but realized I would like people in particular younger ones who might be making difficult decisions to know that they are not alone. You know yourself best. Don't let others tell you who you are. Take the time you need if possible to make your decisions. And never settle for less. Blessings to all. 🕊❤️🕊
Celibacy = Peace of mind; Disease free; Spiritual enlightenment; Mental clarity & Peace of Mind! Pure Nirvana!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Amen
@@ginafedor7502 😇
Amen
@@Joureyoffaith555 🙌🏾💯
What happens ? Glowing ! Cash on cash on cash ! Peace on peace on peace !
Only until the age of vivica Fox 🦊
@@kennethsullivan9217 Willfully ignorant comment that proves a major point of celibacy and abstinence. Did Vivica identify as celibate or abstinence?
52 year old virgin here. I tried to have a boyfriend at 26, but he turned out to be a lying dusty thief. I meant it when I said not before marriage. After all the heartache he put me through, I decided I was better off alone. So glad I didn't marry him!
40 year old virgin here! 👋🏾 I, too, am waiting for marriage. But honestly, I don’t know if marriage will be part of my story. And that’s ok. If I had to do it all again, I’d make the same choice.
33 year old virgin here and I actually don’t see the value of sex. There are new strains of STDs out there that are harder to get rid of. Spiritual energy exchange during intimacy can wreck havoc on your life. I choose peace, health & wealth 🥂 no man is worth this body of mine.
That is a great blessing you remained pure. I wish I could turn the clock back and protect my virginity 😢 because giving it up was not worth a damn thing.
@@Dyicefulbeauty 💯
@@Dyicefulbeautyvirginity is a patriarchal construct, that's why it's called being "pure" and it's not applied to any other animal.
Honestly, it gets hard and lonely at times but the alternative is worse. I learned the hard way
Yep! Better to be single and feel lonely sometimes than be in a romantic relationship feeling single and miserable.
I like your honesty.
Focus on growing yourself in your relationship with God and be a part of your community and if you look to the left or to the right and you see a good guy on the same path as you consider him, but don’t go seeking places you don’t want to stay or go back to.
@@SRose-vp6ewthat’s the plan 😊
The alternative is worse, I felt that. Choose your 'hard'
Just turned 44 and been celibate since 30. Zero regrets. The absolute releif I've felt at not dealing with a partner's nonsense.
Happy Birthday. I just turned 44 in March. Years ago I used to be celibate but only for a short time. Many years from now I'll continue this journey.
....and the church said, "Amen!"
Exactly; peace of mind
It is shocking how well I am doing now that I am celibate. SOOOO happy
@@giannablack5770 Yes, putting yourself first is a must. Mental health is wealth.
Daammmmn! I thought I was really doing something with my Lil 2 1/2 years abstinent. Then I read through these comments. You go Ladies! I'm in awe at all these powerful Women. 👑🙏🏽👑
You're doing great. Keep going, IF you want .
Twenty years. One brief relationship in that time. Doctor told me if you don't use it you lose it. They make good toys these days
5 years celibate, 51, career is amazing, money, nice clean townhouse, jewelry, nice shoes, no debt. No way am I ever going back to that bs! Are you KIDDING?! 😂😂😂😂
Men have become so insufferable that cats are the preferred companion. I had no idea so many women felt the same way I do.
We do downsize to townhouses or Apts, huh? Just downsized from a 4bed/4bath to a 1brd/1bath condo. I don't have to fix or repair ish, and I only pay electricity and internet
@@LisaSoulLevelHealing, I downsized from a 5 bedroom house to a 2 bedroom townhouse, but when I get older, I’d love a one bedroom condo near the beach.
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I'm doing it now and it's possible....I hope you get a chance to do it because I love it near the beach OMG and I'm a plant momma living in total peace and quiet@@bluebutterfly5684
I've been celibate for 27 years now. What keeps me going is knowing that many diseases are out there and men aren't shit and I'm child free.
I had lunch near Dallas today and saw a billboard for eye syphilis?! I was baffled by it😮
@@MiiPhiMuah lol
They have a different strain of gonarrhea that is resistant to antibiotics and will be very hard to treat if you catch it.
Exactly being diseases free, infection free, stress free, childfree all bliss to me 👌🏽
Omg, we have the same name (Chanel is my spelling same last name) any who, I've been celibate 7 years and this is the happiest I've been:)
I was celibate for 2 years 45-47 Then god help me n my future husband cross paths “ and once i was comfortable with him let’s just say i made up for the 2 yrs trust me lol im 51 n having best intimate experiences ever with him because we are in love, but ladies trust your gut tht inner voice is real just listen to it , life is too short live for you! And do what makes you happy
Banished men almost 10 years ago. Can’t wait to get black cats. 🐈⬛ ❤🐈⬛
Whitney said “Learning to Love Yourself is The Greatest Love of All.”
Decentering men hallelujah 👏🏽
Yes cats are cleaner.
Pets only love you,,, because you feed them,,,,,(once you stop 🛑),,,, just like a man,,,,, they will go to someone else's door 🚪💯❗
And loyal😇
I'm gonna get a murder of crows instead 😂. I want to be the weird lady at the edge of the woods that the towns people and men fear, but those that know me well shall adore me . Or a guy that thinks im bad ass
I'm 12 years celibate and not trying to get back out there. I won't compromise my health, wealth and peace for a man. At this point, what can a man give me besides drama, disease, deception and demands? I'll wait........
I literally asked this question in a comment section months ago "what is there to love about a man?" and I swear to you I got so many hate comments from males I literally got 65+ comments of them just being angry and not being able to answer my question lol. Dealing with them is a transaction, a demand, and a chore. Males can't believe that they are not being prioritized anymore unless they are the true cream of the crop or even if they are they still aren't being chosen lmao. Women are DONE.
Absolutely correct 😊
I'm 54 with 4 Adult Children. . I've been celibate for 2 yrs now. . .I have peace in my mind & spirit. . .I'm focusing on the calling GOD has on my Life. He's my focus now & has done more for me than any man has ! I not only have a clarity of mind but the closeness zi have wirh my Savior is proceless !
Amen!
In my 40s and celibate for 5 years now, very happy peaceful and focused on me. I literally look younger and live a stress free life. When I meet men now it's so easy to see through their mask and I simply pass on the drama. If I met someone worthwhile I would be willing to give a relationship a try but in the meantime it's so nice to not have the weight of a man dragging me down.
Well said!
happy for you! Yes the looking younger part, I look younger than 10 yrs ago when I was leaking so much energy in a relationship. So wild huh?!
The Dragging me down part!!!!
I’m married and both my husband and i have been in an asexual relationship for around 10 years now. We have 4 grown children and 4 grandchildren. He always had a lower sex drive than me. I got really sick about 14 years ago. He said he was afraid he’d hurt me if we did it. He developed health issues 7 years ago. We’re both happy and are best friends. We do everything, but work, together. We joke about getting frisky, but never do. At first I missed it and thought if we didn’t do anything, I wasn’t worthy. But now I am happy. We just enjoy life, family and God.
Same here. 8 years
36 yrs old here, celibate for 15 years!
I have my own money, living in peace, I invest, I'm healing well. Life couldn't be better 😊
And she's absolutely correct, it is hard to get back out there. I would love to be in a relationship, but I value myself too much and no one, I mean absolutely no one has matched my energy. Plus, God has done a great job at protecting me.
Random question but what is your future for example you said you invest what are you investing in and what is that for because most people who are trying to invest are doing it for future generations if you at 36 don’t have or not planning to have any future generations what are you doing it for that would be my question to you
And life could always be better there could always be some improvement in something nothing in this life could ever always be at a 10 in all areas just my opinion
@@Khadiyah01 they could be investing for passive income and for retirement. Investing is just a great way to ensure you have something to fall back on in general. It could also be for holidays but I guess that falls partially under retirement depending on their work's holiday policy.
@@Khadiyah01 Herself. Duh.
14 years celibacy journey here… Definitely hard to get back out there.. however, my peace is much more important than any type of drama/ foolishness out these streets….
@@gekeithakeaton989 12 years celibate and not trying to get back out there. I won't compromise my health, wealth and peace for a man. At this point, what can a man give me besides drama, disease, deception and demands? I'll wait........
I'm 45 & it's been 7 yrs. I can't just sleep with anyone.
I'm 38, almost 3 years abstinent and the power it gives you over your body, emotions, and time. I have accomplished so much through therapy, started a new career, traveled to new countries, made new friends, picked up hobbies, etc. I feel like this "me time" is a gift, and when the right man comes along it will be organic
🎯 *cheers 🥂🍾*
Cheers to that 🎉
Same! 38 & 3 years abstinent. It’s been a world of peace, gained independence, and self-discovery. @HeauxlisticLux which hobbies did you start? 💫
Same! 38 & 3 years abstinent. It’s been a world of peace, gained independence, and self-discovery. @HeauxlisticLux which hobbies did you start? 💫
@gigioso241 That's wonderful!
I got into fitness, actually turned my hobbies into a new career - I'm a personal trainer, group fitness & yoga instructor now. I also started outdoor cycling ❤️... How about you?
I once took care of a 105 year old lady and she looked so good. I asked her how she lived so long and she said she stayed away from men and took care of her cats.
Then I recently saw a video where a woman in the 100s years of age was asked if she could change anything in her life she said she would have never gotten married.
😂that's my grandmother. She's 101 and my grandad passed in 1979 (I wasn't born by then). She had never been with a man ever since he passed. She says she didn't want another man who was gonna abuse her kids and that men are a nuisance 😂😂😂
I took care of a 103 year old lady in the hospital with a similar story. Never married, no kids. She was very happy. She was very involved with her church and so many visitors came to see her. I asked her what her secret to her long happy life was. She said never let anybody in here and pointed to her heart. I thought it was azlittke sad, but she was one of the happiest people I ever met. I've never forgotten her. She had a deep live for God and enjoyed serving others. I do think that was also a huge part of her happiness
47 y/o woman here. Going on 10 years of abstinence. No regrets and so peaceful. 😊
Amen.. 54, 14 years celibate… PEACE is unmatched!!!
48 and a decade as well. Getting and keeping everything together and peaceful at home.
Same 47, I gave up sex, smoking and Alcohol! Life only got better!
Yess I’m amongst family 😂 45 here and have been celibate for 8 years. I have no intention on going back out there i never knew life could be so peaceful.
Hey y’all! I’m at home. 😂 47 and no sex for 15 years. I am a Christian so that was part of it, as no sex unless married, but I don’t think I’m ever getting married again. 🤷🏽♀️ I keep saying I want to, but I’m enjoying my freedom and autonomy too much to want to give it up. I enjoy having nobody as my “head” except God.
We go through a spiritual transformation and age backwards, due to lack of stress and you connect to the Divine and find that the love you have been looking for, has been alive and well within yourself, it never went away. Be the frequency of love, rather than seeking it externally.
You said a mouth full!!!🎉😂❤🎉😂❤ Absolutely right!!!!!!
Very well said❤
I want love as much as the next individual, but I really need someone who respects my morals this time around.
Celibacy=permanent
Abstinence=temporary
Nuns and priests are celibate.
People waiting until marriage for sex are abstinent.
Not waiting until marriage. Just prefer not to for 7 years. The longer without the better I feel. It's not abstinence if you are not waiting for anyone or marriage.
A lot of priests and nuns are gay though so maybe that doesn’t count as much? Big controversy in the Catholic Church regarding gross 🤮 child abuse also.
She asked for an explanation of the difference between the two terms. I gave the explanation, and then gave examples of each. Our "feelings" don't affect what a word means, nor does a person's sexual orientation. Are y'all okay?
@@NaeNae23Celibacy is directly linked to religion/religious practices. Abstinence is for regular people who may be refraining from coitus, yet they don't necessarily identify with a particular religion.
Celibate - no sexual activity at all. Abstinence - no sexual activity with anyone but yourself.
Early 40s & celibate for well over a decade. Life is good.
"Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfillment, for validation, security, or love. You have a treasure within you that is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer." ~E. Tolle. I love that lady in green. Truth!
Celibate for 7 months and no plans to change that. I’m physically/ mentally/ emotionally/ spiritually and sexually turned off from men and I love celibacy. ❤
8 years and I don't even think about it!! 🤷🏿♀️🤣🤣🤣🥳
Same and my nervous system feels so healthy and regulated.
naps whenever I want them. Doggo pets, kitty cuddles. Clean dishes. Watch my comfort shows
All positive so far
I'm 57 and have been celibate for 20 years. No regrets, just a peaceful household where I do what I want. I never felt like I needed a man. I just wanted someone who wanted what I did, an equal and respectful, loving relationship. When I started dating I had no idea how unrealistic that would be for me. The men I dated/married were actively harmful to my physical and emotional and financial health. That being said, I don't hate men. There are good men out there despite how the internet echo chambers make it sound. Romance just didn't work out for me. I do have love in my life from friends and family, so I'm really not missing anything. As I look at it, celibacy is not for everyone--but then again, neither is romance.
The more they talked, the less I want them near me. Being a celibate for 23 years.❤
When I was 36 I discovered that I am asexual. I haven't had sex for almost 20 years. I never liked it. It wasn't for me. I'm almost never horney and I almost never think about sex. I do have solo fun on occasion, but now that I'm rounding 40, I can go a year plus without having an orgasim. Pleasure comes in many forms and I live a fulfilling life on my terms. I have one big queen bed all to myself.
This is what I’m like now after my menopause, and it’s GREAT. I feel like I am fully myself and not being pulled this way and that by my hormones. I look back at my life and only wish I had known what a scam it all is (this is my thoughts about myself, not passing any judgment on anyone else), how I spent so much time searching for what I’d been dictated to by society that I should aspire to, when really, that lifestyle was never going to suit me in the first place. I’ve realised I never really enjoyed sex due to sensory differences and the social aspects of sexual relationships being very unpleasant for me to navigate. I’ve never liked sharing my space with someone else or having to compromise myself and needs out of the equation. I’m 55 now, haven’t had sex since 2020 (for which I am actually grateful to the lockdown because that helped me realise I was better off without the person I was with at the time), and now that I’ve got used to not having all the hormones buzzing around my body I feel happy, content and RELIEVED. I wish there had been more acceptance of Asexuality, Demisexualality and other modes of being when I was growing up because I might have realised things about myself a whole lot sooner and not wasted so much time chasing something I ended up not wanting anyway.
I'm certain my grandmother was asexual. She hated being with my grandfather for 20+ years and divorced him when my mother was in her 20s. She always described sex in a horrible way and also in a way that it was nothing to her. We all know she didn't know the word asexual back then, if she did, she DEFINITELY would have considered herself such.
62 years and celibate for 7 years. I'm married, and due to my husband's health issues, we have not had a sex life. He has a sex life with his phone and porn. I guess he figured if he can't get anything out of it, then I don't need it either. After years of resentment, I don't even care anymore. I no longer want him. Those feelings are no longer there. I just look at him and wonder wtf was I thinking. It's pretty sad, really....but I don't care anymore... just biding my time and planning an exit strategy.
yeah not a good space to be in. Hope you divorce him and get your freedom.
😂
You won't regret leaving! I got married at 18 and the marriage turned into that so I left at 22, best decision I've made so far! It gets so much better!
What does he think about it ?
Yo, this sucks. I'm sorry to hear (read) it
I'm 27. And the comment section is so positive ☺️. I'm learning to love myself and the journey is amazing. When I was sexually active, I wasn't this peaceful, I had recurring infections, I constantly felt the need to have a man in my life. I was abstaining and I was 5 months in it and I flipped😅. It wasn't even worth it! I wish I didn't but it's okay but in that 5 months, I managed to achieve a lot on my own. So I'm 2 months in and I'm cleansing myself and spirit.
Thank you so much ladies, reading the comments gave me a different perspective❤️
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PEACE seems to be the most common benefit. When your heart is healed and your mind is clear, you grow to love yourself. That being said, I can't give a man access to what is precious to me. A have yet to meet one that is worthy. 12 years celibate.
Same 😊
Same
Im 60 years old. I've been celibate for 16 years. I couldn't be happier!
Im 60 as well and 15 years , decided my health and peace of mind is more important.💯💯💯
Last night I was drifting into sleep and realized how peaceful my life is as I peacefully snuggled my head into my fluffy pillow. So peaceful. How could I ever be in a relationship again? I’m so peaceful. I woke up and although still peaceful it would be nice if I could find a person who could be in my life.
I can somewhat relate... 42yr old virgin here. I just never found anyone to be p-ssy worthy so why bother? Yes, I do get h-rny ESPECIALLY in my 30s, but I'm not bothered by it. I finally got a toy in my 30s after daring myself to, but it's just sitting there collecting dust. I haven't used it in a couple of years... but if you have an itch you JUST have to scratch & you don't want to use your own hands then toys are the way to go: No STI/STD, no unwanted pregnancy - you just wash them after every use and you'll be fine + you know how to please yourself. One thing I've heard from my teens & I STILL hear is that women are largely unsatisfied in that department, cuz men don't listen, are too rough, don't last long enough, etc... My cousins telling me how you have to please the man & no, he won't listen to what you want "that's not how it works in real life" quote unquote.. is another reason why I've just never needed to be bothered.
5 years strong .. and with me finally opening my eyes to the males true nature.. the thought of me laying down with one makes my stomach hurt 🤢
Yup, and how religion all this time was being used by them to get access to women with no questions asked... just blind servitude with males being the more happy ones while women slave away because it's the woman's "duty" and "that's how it's supposed to be". ALWAYS remember, males are only nice to women when they get what they want out of them, but even then that's a thin line to claim.
6 years for me. My skin is clear, my hair is glossy and my mind, body and soul is at peace. I’m 30 now and won’t be settling for less than I deserve. Can’t recommend it enough ❤
Bringing attention to the skin being clear. THIS! I see you!!!!
I’m 31 and have been abstaining since 2019 December 16. I’ll try not to repeat what other have said but, things come easy, money comes easy, I glow, my relationship with God is so intimate and he gives me everything.
When I say things come easy I mean it. I carry no soul ties and any spiritual burdens that come with sex.
Money is flowing! I’m thriving and I never wanna give this life up
This right here!! 💯
You get more and more selective. You can weed through BS with super-power speed and accuracy. You don't desire sex or a partner anymore. You reduce stress. Bonus, you take better care of yourself, become more attractive, confident, and genuinely happy. 10 years and going. 🎂🍾💃🏾🎊💅🏿
You're gonna have to invest in AMAZING toys. I miss having sex sometimes but knowing the quality of men out here dries me up EVERYTIME. This year is the 1st time I've been consistently celibate. On one hand, I'm not being hurt, played, abused or confused because I'm not dealing with men but in the same breath, it would be nice to have a consistent person to scratch that itch, a friend who respects and cares about me. I'm no longer interested in men romantically but I'm still a heterosexual woman who has needs.
Having sex with a random man that has not brought any value to your life is not worth it. Get a toy sis!
I didn't think I would enjoy using sex toys as much
Hey! Get a whole _box_ of them!
Variety is the spice of _lyfe!_
🌹🐇🎯🎉🎊
Ma’am if you’re using toys, you are not fully celibate. You are still engaging in s3xual acts with yourself.
Girl, YES to this entire comment. I've been celibate for going on two years. The toy exploration is real ❤
No sis. No toys! God is watching that. It's sexual immorality also. Ask God for help and not his judgment.
I've been celibate since I was 23, I'm 29 now. The more it goes, the happier I get. I have absolutely no interest in seggs, or having kids, or a boyfriend. I love my life, I'm always in a good mood, never in a hurry. I also love my job and my income allows me to live comfortably on my own. I have many hobbies, and passions, I also get to take care of myself and I'm healthy. I see my friends and family and they always tell me how I always seem in a good mood and smile and how easy it is to hangout with me. Everything in my life is positive.
I'm not sure why people are convinced this is not how someone should live. Living your life at its fullest is what one should do.
So true, perfomative! Thats why i have always found sex so basic. What's the point? They dont even know what to do😂😂😂😂
Being celibate is very powerful. If it's a decision and it's a choice, it can change your life. You will become a much stronger, more successful, and happier woman. The longer you are celibate, the more you will respect yourself, and the higher your standars. It will give you razor sharp discernment and clear vision, and you will see through men very quickly. It will give you better mental and physical health. It will give you peace. ❤❤❤❤.
"Single? No, I'm just in a relationship with freedom." Love this quote. My freedom and sense of wellbeing is far more important than getting some man. UGH!
Facts!!! At this rate being committed to peace is far more worthy than being with any guy.
Loved this!! In a relationship with freedom ❤❤❤❤❤❤
These 4 years of celibacy have been amazing but lately I have a love/hate relationship with it. Tbh I hate that it even had to come to this, I never intended to be on this path. It’s served me well, it’s just not what I had in mind. It’s peaceful, and I love that part. It’s just lonely af.
I feel the exact same as you girl for real
Friends, family, outside activities, book clubs etc. Just get out and get involved with things that interest you. If you choose to be alone then you can very well be lonely. I hope that you will be able to start enjoying your life. Getting some counseling could be a start. ❤️🙏🏾
My dream partnership would be no marriage. Everything separate. We can travel together and spend time at each other’s place, but I MUST have a separate life. I’m not cleaning behind a man. I’m not cooking for a man. I will not readily available to him. So I’ll be celibate until then. I’m mid 40s divorced and kids are almost grown. It’s time for ME!
@@kayabe856👍🏻👍🏻💯
Made the decision at 31 to stop everything. No relationships, no dating, and no sex. I'm 42 now. Honestly I can't even imagine letting someone touch me. When I began the work of dissecting my choices and why I got to the low point I was at I realized I was having sex for all the wrong reasons. When I asked myself the truth I understood that if I had stood on business and not give myself to anyone unless I received the respect and relationship I wanted I would have been a virgin today. I wanted respect, loyalty, and love. I never got it. The dudes I chose were terrible. Now I choose myself. The decision to not give myself to anyone was the easiest and best decision I ever made.
I can relate 😊👍🏽
Same here.
I chose the devil also but it's going on 10 yrs now and I'm good by myself 🎉😊🙏🏽
This!
This is also my reality and I feel extremely healthy and powerful !
I am 54 years old and I have had a self-actualization that there is NOTHING about me that is casual. The things that I allowed myself to tolerate in my twenties and thirties makes me cringe now that I am in my fifties. I am happy, I have joy, and I choose not to have sex because the reality is the STI/STD rate is over the roof and I am not trying to get caught up in that kind of predicament. I would love to have a wonderful, delicious, yummy and righteous love match but I am not willing to risk my well-being and peacefulness to obtain it.
I don't want a husband or boyfriend. I'm happy, single, and living in my masculinity, and my femininity. I just don't ever want to be touched by a man. I want to be the black version of Athena. Sex was never a part of Athena's world. And I am aiming for that level of being unreachable.
Me too my health, freedom & peace of mind is much more important to me than an orgasm🥂 #TeamCelibate
I love this!
@@INFJ_9 the irony is that to men orgasm is more important than freedom and peace
Learn about the Sybil Oracles by Mama Zogbe dear Pink.
You are Athena.
6 1/2 years now. This is the longest I chose to be. The first time, I was much younger, and it was 6 years that time. IDK. Im in peace. I have a lot of love inside. I love men. I just no longer care more about pleasing them or loving them more than myself.
I'm almost 40 and I've been abstinent for 4 years. My friends are always asking me how I do it. Easily. I'm not experiencing all of these urges or "itches". I like being by myself. I actually LOVE it. I never feel lonely. When I go out sometimes, I'll flirt a little. Maybe. And thats it. I absolutely love being at peace. Mentally, emotionally, spiritually.
Also, I agree with the 2nd lady: I don't believe in sharing a restroom with a man. I don't even want them living in the same house as me. 😂
You are stunning 😮 😍
48 CF and been abstaining for seven years. I have lots of opportunities of course but I’m TIRED of men. They’re usually exhausting. I dated alot in my teens and twenties and tapered off in my 30s. I had a few long term relationships and they drained me.
TBH having a full social life, a garden, and an adult toy is more fulfilling than ever man was for me.
If I met someone amazing I’d gleefully throw down but until then I’ve got plenty going on. ❤
celibate at 23 for a year and the more i stay away from men the more a certain parts of me wants them while the other part wants to continue to avoid them because i obviously can and it protects my peace my heart my sanity
Good for you, lil sis. 💕
I have been celibate for over two years. I’m alone but not lonely. 😊
It's been 7 years for me so far, and during these years I also had limerence for a guy I was friends with for 4 years and it was one of the most painful things I put myself through. Once he was gone and I finally got over him and processed the trauma that made me put up with his misleading treatment for so long, I realized how peaceful my life is now that I don't crave that attention & affection from anyone anymore.
What happened to me after 12 years was the loss of appetite for the superficial. It's not about a man's sexual prowess. Or his earning potential it's more about his character and integrity which is almost none existent! The longer I go without sex, the more comfortable I am without it! No headaches, no pressure, no stress, More Peace 😊
Limerance is tied to your parents, unfortunately. I *ALWAYS* fall for men who don't initiate spending time together but make me think they like me. Then I project love and romance onto them, as if they're shy or choosing the right moment to pursue me. I mentally and emotionally create a situationship to convince myself that I'm deeply loved and valued, JUST LIKE I DID WITH DAD. I didn't realize until years after dad's death that he was never interested in knowing me and might have kept boys away from me out of jealousy, not concern for my safety. Dad. Didn't. Love. Me. I imagined it. Don't chase your dad.
This is such a hard read but you’re right! It resonates a lot
try crappy childhood fairy and read He's just not that into you
Your comment gave me peace. My dad doesn't love me either. Never felt his warmth, support, appreciation, NOTHING. I always tried to be the goddest girl, was keen in falling in love fast. Always ended up with angry, dismissive, below bare minimum men. So fed up with it. Now starting my celibate era at 38.
@tarotbhudevi Sorry. Glad you've found a path to healing. 🙂
This is me too.