I Am So Tired Of Being Lonely Woman Cries Out - Must Watch
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- Опубліковано 18 чер 2024
- I AM SO TIRED OF BEING LONELY WOMAN CRIES OUT -
In This Video A Woman Breaks Down On The Internet And Narrates How She Wants To Have A Partner And How Her Dating Life Has Been Discouraging.
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Finding a man ain't hard, finding a good man, now that is a challenge 😂
😂
Aint no such thang
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Finding a "good man" is like searching for treasure in a landfill. Yes they may exist but you have to dig deep and get your hands dirty. No thanks!
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Who gonna tell her… Even with a man by her side, she will still feel alone.
Came to say this ❤
Even more lonely honestly
This is the one.
Period
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As well as maybe better than sitting in the front row with a man who would through you under the bus and laugh. I mean. We're just making up random scenarios at this point. There are a thousand more embarrassing things that could have happened with a partner at that show.
Being alone is better than being with someone who isn’t right
Always
Amen 💯
Ironically, I had just accepted loneliness when my now husband came into my life 5 years ago.
I think it's more of loving yourself and focusing on yourself that will attract actual quality, good people. If you're out here hounding for the first attention that you want, you'll be sorry you asked for it.
@@jlis889 also, authenticity. Show who you actually are, you’re going to find people who vibe with that.
in fact even if you marry, have kids etc women still end up being alone yk why?
1. often women outlive men unless they really messed up their life habits.
2. how often you hear men thinking or considering whats going to happen to you
after he die?...
3. happily ever after huh... been interviewing old ladys ( +70 who live alone ) and
asked why they are alone.. most common reason:
" I divorced from my husband because of alcoholism and he turn out violent "
" my husband left me for another woman "
4. see how many end up in nursing homes? Id honestl feel awful that if I
dedicated my life for someone else and end up there
If Im gonna end up there anyways then Id rather invest my life to be fulfilled and great
doing something meaningful for me!
Get married, then divorced. You'll LOVE being alone. 💃🏽💃🏽 I honestly don't think I want to be married anymore 🙄
Well at least you have had that experience in order to identify that you prefer your aloneness. Some people don't realize the grass isn't always greener until they have been on the other side too, and feel miserable on either side of the fence. Unfortunately, social pressure and shame got to this woman. And confidence isn't going to erase the uncomfortable feeling that you are not part of the crowd.
She needs her canon event, after that she'll never complain about being single again
@@VixxKong2Swear. I don't think I could ever feel lonely after going through what I've been through.
Same plus I don't want kids so I don't see the point of doing that crap again
Girl u ain't lying😂 married n divorced you will never want to share a home, a bed, ur time off or a sandwich 😂😂😂
For people who aren't understanding, she isn't crying because she is single, she is crying because people made her feel like an outcast the entire time for not being in a relationship 🤦🏻♀️
Welcome to being an outlier, that's how it is for us.
This is exactly it. I don’t think people are understanding her. The minute she said meet a guy, they heard nothing else and ran with that.
She’s also crying because she’s single. She was crying about possibly never finding her match and ending up like the single old lady with her dog.
This is what they’ll do. It’s cringe. I began questioning myself. Is this even what I WANT or do I want it because of the projections of others? 🤨
Exactly. Imagine how lonely that was lol
The last time I cried like the young lady, I ended up with a guy who used it to his benefit. It’s our job to fulfill our own longings. It’s a bonus when we finally meet a partner to share life with. but it is still not their job to fill our voids.
Absolutly💯
I completely understand how she feels, but her first and biggest mistake, is venting to the internet like its her therapist. When you invite randoms into your personal inner most thoughts, they will eat you alive. Sending her peace.
Ditto
I was sitting alone in my room crying just like her! My phone rang, it was dude, I thought god had answered my prayers! My life spiraled to a whole nother level of hell on earth. Explain that! Thank God, he takes care of fools and babies! I am a survivor and doing better than I ever thought I would, alone.🤓🤣
Exactly 💯 The dog's smell blood, and their tongues will start wagging
Energy vampires
That's the truth
The Disney princess industrial complex messed a lot of us up. The endless search for prince charming is a fool's errand.
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FACTS
This comment right here 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
AMEN
True
I just don't think a man should fulfill your life... We are our grandmother's dreams. Utilize that! Go see the world and be happy and free, live for yourself.
I love that… we are our grandmother’s dreams.
Amen!
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Agreed
And yet, loneliness will hit you like a brick to the face...
Humans are FLAWED - and unfortunately, nobody wants to accept that...
A therapist once told me “have you thought of the love that you once gave away or want to give away is the love you should be giving yourself?”
Wow, that's a word!
I'm tired of women crying about this. I really am. Live your life. It sounds like she has no friends period.
Exactly . It’s her lack of friends.
They’re probably all partnered and she feels like the last man standing. She needs to make single friends. Single is key
As if friendship can fill the gap of romance and sexual desire...
How the hell the people here can be so BLIND about humanity?
@@Jamhael1 The point is she has NEITHER which in itself should tell you something.
@@IHB344 then why you are claiming to have a "one-size-fits-all" solution?
Because I can shamelessly admit: I don't. And I can further expand this by saying: never dare to believe that just because you think the way you think, others will.
Sorry to seem rude, but we must face this matter with BRUTAL HONESTY, and not appeal to "if it works for me..." kinda nonsense that has ALREADY PROVEN TO NOT WORK!
Humiliation and rejection are painful and traumatic feelings. Being singled out in a crowd at a comedy special for a loner...😢
I honestly never liked comedy shows for this reason. A lot of comedians will single people out in the audience to make fun of. Punching down in the name of “comedy.” I don’t personally find bullying funny. 🥱
Especially since they said that they weren't going to pick on her. My brother in law went to a comedy show with his wife and was in the first row, and was brutally picked on. Unfortunately she was in the front row. If she was mixed in the center or even in the back it wouldn't have happened.
I'm glad she reached out looking for community... but she's also made herself a target for men looking for someone who will take whatever they can get. 😬
Yes! That part! She'll be back crying about how a guy that she thought liked her used her and then cheated on her. I know she was having a vulnerable moment but we have to stop doing that for the world to see and exploit.
They’re currently making fun of her on the red pill channels
@@ladybug3380 see started already.
I have found dating in this climate makes me feel worse when I engage. I'm at peace and alot happier when I'm not having my time wasted. I've focused on using the friend side of those apps to make friends and find my tribe. I never use apps for dating, rarely have because I've seen how it goes. That is also tough but it's more productive.
Ladies, you need to be happy being single otherwise you will cling to rubbish when you find any peice of relationship. I get lonely sometimes but I get dressed and take myself on a date, it makes me so happy.
I know everyone is different but I just want y'all to know you're not alone.
Very wise advise ❤
I will admit, I don’t understand loneliness. I can go years without feeling lonely. So it’s hard for me to truly understand her feelings. I go out alone and meet ppl easily even though I’m not a super outgoing person. I put a lot of effort into building strong friendships as those are the most fulfilling for me. Romantic relationships are not a primary concern and I notice I meet a lot of ppl who are also just searching for genuine friendships. Relationships are stressful and even looking for one.
🤯🤯🤯🤯 I don’t remember writing this!!!
I’m the same honestly. The feeling of loneliness is very rare for me and I make friends easily even with me being more introverted and I usually keep myself pretty occupied but I’ve always been a more loner/isolated type of person so that may be why
After the second comedian I would've started being a heckler like "aye do something original, we get it shes alone....leave her be jeez"
People are lemmings
The grass is not greener!!!!!!!
I think she feels like she’s doing everything right according to societies standards and finding that she is still getting scammed out of her hopes and dreams. I can admit that I’m pretty jaded when it comes to the American dream, but it’s never easy to see someone’s heart break. Hopefully a new perspective will help her heal.
It's refreshing that you said she needs a new perspective vs actually getting in a relationship because your level of happiness before a relationship is most likely going to be at the same level during a relationship.
"It is called the American Dream because you have to be asleep to believe it". George Carlin
The same thing applies to love and romance
She needs to spend some time in another country and see how people live and immerse herself in lifestyle, language, food and culture. Very healing
@@tessy28 with what money? In this economy?
That’s why because the comedians usually roast the people on the front row that’s why they kept talking to you and about you.
I’m just going to say that was her first comedy show ever. And has never seen crowd work. 😅
With or without a man Im not sitting in the front row at a comedy show. Im senstitive as hell 😂
I’ll go to concerts by myself sometimes (it’s really fun actually, as long as you’re being safe!) but I’ve found that some people ask me who I’m with, and they’re surprised that I’m there alone. Which I find kind of odd (like why is it any of their business?) I’m not just going to sit at home, I’m going to have fun and live my life! My mom told me she would go out by herself sometimes when she was young & I took her advice. I do understand where this woman is coming from though, and I applaud her for putting herself out there and sitting in the front row by herself.
I feel sad for these types of women..its peaceful just enjoy the peace..if you wasn't looking for a man you wouldn't be crying..you will be at peace 🤔💆♀️
All we can do is pray for them. I was there. I’m at peace now fulfilling my life purpose.
Nothing wrong with wanting companionship… it’s a very normal desire jeez 🙄
But for some women they truly want to be with someone. And being “alone” is not peaceful. We all operate differently. But that is true! When you stop looking for a man he will find you. Same happened to me….the moment I stopped looking my husband found me and I was enjoying my alone time 😂
@@missydonald6381 like I said I feel sad that you can't feel whole without a man 🤷♀️
@@chyna_gray3876 I'm lost because like what is there to desire so much of? I feel like a man will only bring me stress and labor. I also value my space and my money 🙇♀🙇♀
I changed my perspective and I go places alone a lot. Due to I have a better time and do what I want without having to consider others feelings and mood swings. I come and go when I want.
That’s my favorite part. When I’ve had enough I just leave. No pressure or complaining. It’s amazing!!!!
I love her vulnerability, she’s so authentic and that’s a breath of fresh air
I think for every person with empathy for her situation there will be 10 people bullying her. She is currently in a bad place mentally & may not be able to take the bullying. She needs to see a therapist. These internet streets are rough!
Get a dog, join a fitness class, take yourself on dates, try new things, try new recipes, get a therapist…a man is not a plan
Honestly just wish I could hug her, my daughters are 18 and 21 😢
Say this again! But when women hear this, they say we are not being empathetic. I think telling women the truth about these relationships are being empathetic.
The problem is that she's easy to embarrass. She's self conscious. If she wasn't so fixated on being in a relationship, being "brave enough to sit in the front row alone,' and the attention she received, wouldn't have brought her to tears. If that was me, I would've engaged and milked that lime light I was getting. The audience would've questioned if I was part of the show. I always remind myself that not everyone is like me and experience things the way this woman did. I genuinely feel bad for those types of people because they're trapped. Not caring about what anyone thinks is an amazing thing.
I agree. Perspective is everything. She had the opportunity to be bold in front of strangers and engage and just have a fun evening but she chose to sulk instead. I understand the want for human companionship but only boring people get bored.
One time my single girlfriend and I were eating at a restaurant in NYC that was full of Russians, and the table right behind us had some really beautiful couples-both the men and women. But then the men got rip roaring drunk and started abusing their wives/girlfriends. And at that moment, I was super glad to be single and not baby sitting some drunk man baby and getting my face all bruised up, b/c he can’t handle vodka.
Okay…woulda been in the front showing out!! 😂😂😂 I def wanna go sit in the front now!! To clown and get that goody bag!! 🎉
@@l0111 EXACTLY! 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾
I LOVE being single and that energy determines great experiences. I meet so many great people and even get a few fun dates occasionally. Poor girl hates being single and thus everything sucks.
I'm 39 and single and will never join a dating app and don't have any social media. So I get it. But after a while, loneliness just became apart of my personality 🤷🏽♀️😂
I know how she feels. I’m 44 and you can only imagine how I feel. It sucks. You get evil stares and mean looks. People expect everyone to be with someone. Things happen for people at different times. It’s not easy at all.
Same sis. Same
I hate that people are like this, it doesn’t even make sense.
@@Loaf0fBreadso true.
@@dugohaslanded.1434it’s sad out here. I just stay positive!
It’s likely you’re getting nasty looks not because you’re single it’s because those people are bitter because you’re free to live your life on your own terms, whereas they either feel weighed down or trapped in a marriage or relationship that’s they want people to think is perfect and wonderful when actuality it’s not. Misery loves company.
People forget companionship is a normal human want, maybe even a need. Just because you’re happy in your “peace” being single, that doesn’t mean everyone wants to live like that.
Yesss!
The point is that companionship doesn’t have to come from romance. That’s what you and her are missing. There are other relationships that can fill that void. A lot of people find their soulmates in their friends, not a romantic partner.
@@LoveK1 no, friendship and a relationship are two different types of companionships. I don’t care what anybody says. That’s why when friends say things like “well I love you” It doesn’t matter. It’s not the same as an actual romantic partner. And you guys know that. Just want to argue. 🙄
Understandable but what if the companion never comes? Then what? The point is to be content no matter what stage of life you’re in so disappointments won’t send you into depression.
@@LoveMe0516 if humans were content with what they had, we would still live in caves today...
Ma'am, the moment you'll decenter men, you'll stop feeling lonely.
I think she needs to find self-worth first before she jumps into another relationship. Take some time to build a confidence and get yourself back together and then go out there and be the best version of yourself.
Be the best version of herself just to get a male? And what about the male? What requirements are on him to be able to walk outside in public alone without shame? Because as far as I've seen, there is zero requirement for them to be healed, whole, or worthy to be allowed space to hold their head high in public. They feel entitled to beautiful women just for being born. Telling women to 'improve' themselves to ve worthy of trash males is doing the opposite of what y'all think it's doing. You admit that YOU don't think it's worthwhile for women to have self-worth unless they want to date males, which is crazy.
I was going to say something similar. This lady needs to sit with herself and figure out who she is. Getting this “anxious” about your relationship status opens up the door for dustavious & ‘em. If she doesn’t ✨sprinkle ✨sprinkle, she’s going to become Barbara the builder.
I agree...generally, but if someone genuienly wants love that doesn't mean they have low confidence or nonself love. Love is hard in the bestbof circumstances. In this environment...it's just hard.
@@gigif169I agree and these “just love yourself” comments are not helpful. What she feels is very natural and a lot of people feel the same way… she just has the guts to say it.
I dislike when people say “oh you need to work on u first, love u, find self worth “ because I have been single for 4 years now because finding REAL love is hard!!! Dating sucks, dating apps are trash 🗑️, then u have men competing with women now! Dating is hard now.
Hey everyone. What this woman is going through is normal. I've reached the same point. It's very difficult to accept and I feel for her completely. I want her to know that she's not doing anything wrong. She's not the only one and unfortunately there are more and more of us. I wish us all lots of love and health anyway.❤
Wishing you the same!💯❤️
I'll be honest. I truly do go outside in the hopes of meeting people. However not men. Friends. I want a hang out group. Most women think like that first woman. Only a man can give her value and make her feel better. I be wanting to meet like minded women who don't center men. Very hard to find those types
They don't actually exist because they EXCLUDE everyone else. That is how FE male friendships are born and no one talks about it. Just like the dominant society EXCLUDES
Why? There are people who desire ROMANCE, not mere friendship - it is what it is, and NO ONE can change that...
dating sucks, I feel her. I hope people will give her grace and that she'll heal while she's looking for love. I don't think you need to be fully 100% healed before you find love, no one is ever 100% healed. But you do need a good foundation of independent self-worth to find and keep good love.
I liked being single, i think its because im a huge introvert. I was enjoying being alone...every single day 😂.
I know thats not a good thing either. But these days i guess its a rare gift
Me too girl! 😭
Why is it not a good thing? You're not hurting anyone being alone.
@human_no847 I think technically it isn't good for your mental health to be alone for an extended period of time. According to research, but I definitely would test that theory if I need to 😅
My first thought : The Uber driver with the dogs , was friendly & talkative. That was a chance for her to meet someone for lunch or anything. Also , maybe the Uber driver had a single son , who was looking for a lady . Or , maybe she had daughters she could've met & hung out with . # missed opportunity # maybe Divine intervention. But , she didn't past the test & looked down on the Uber driver who was sent to help her . 🙄
Right. Mean girl vibes. 😕
When she started off the story saying she got there 20 minutes early and sat in the front row at a comedy show... Yikes!!
I feel this way too, I stopped dating beginning of last year and got really depressed bcs I was so lonely, in my life overall and even thought a baby would make me feel love/loved(knowing damn well I HATE KIDS). I had to just accept it, but once I found your channel and seeing there were other women dealing with the same and who were accepting being single made me feel less alone. And seeing all the crazy shit going on from DEATH, STD, DL men, hobosexuals, I’m am happy single and i still get sad but it’s not the end of the world
Most people haven’t found “their person”. They settled. People are suffering in relationships.
Unfortunately, she took the plunge but still held on to feelings of embarrassment. Me, personally, I've done Europe, Asia, Africa and Saudi on my own. So going out to wine and dine, theatre, activities by myself is never a problem. I actually meet some great folks along the way. One place I don't go on my own (let alone sit in the front) is at a comedy club. I did so once in California. Had heard it was worth seeing. It featured female impersonators. Sat at the front of the club in a huge booth with a table so heavy it took two men to move. In walks a 7foot tall blonde server who from across the club shouts to me " Hey Doll, I'll be right there!!". Then she clomped across the club, pulled out the table with one hand, sits next to me, starts fanning herself asking me if she could just rest a bit before she took my drink order. The entire club went wild. It was at that moment I realized I had become part of the show. I had a blast, got dinner and drinks on the house. Although I'm (somewhat) outgoing, I never want to (unknowingly) be a part of a comedy skit. So I fully understand how she felt she was being targeted. Words of wisdom that most people have already said I (too) will echo. Love yourself no matter where you are in your life journey. Part of that is learning how awesome you can be on your own. Just saying!!
This is horrible! This is why my single behind stay in the house 😂
The older lady who talked about her dogs and the oil change was happy.
Hang out with older peole and just listen. She is lonely because shes thinking about herself. I mean this in the nicest way possible.
Some people don’t understand loneliness and tell their opinion. My whole family is dead. I used to have no bf, no friends. Going outside alone sucks. Loneliness sucks. It’s not fun for everyone to just go to some damn restaurant alone or some bs event with everyone laughing and smiling. And those alone people on their phones texting the 50 friends and family members..yeah that’s not loneliness.
True, there is a huge difference between loneliness and being alone. Being alone is usually a personal choice.. But loneliness is isolating and painful.
I'm alone also, no family and no friends and no boyfriend and I have a child who is disabled so I am struggling but I would rather be alone than have people gossip and betray me and steal from me and take advantage.
I joined a church a I met some great people and maybe you can do the same to meet good people?
@@winning3329Im glad you were able to find your tribe in church ❤.
Thank you for sharing that perspective. I feel like the people who I’ve connected with the most aren’t family; I met them as an adult. Consider that we can meet people who become like family as we go along. Not easy to say the least.
I’m in the same boat . My mom was the only family I had left and she just passed a few months ago. My husband passed passed a few years ago and I lost all my friends when that happened. I’m LITERALLY alone and it’s the worst feeling , wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy
She is just in a phase shell get past this part
I been single and al9ne my whole life 36 yrs
You do go through these phases , but ill plead with het , HONEY STAY OFF THE INTERNET WITH YOUR INNER FEELIMGS
confide in a trusted friend/family member /therapist if you can
And JOURNAL❤
Here I am so envious she got a goody bag and she’s worried about she didn’t meet anyone and being humiliated. I would have been so I into that show that I won’t even have noticed people were coupled up. I am so glad I am wired that way.
She needs to lighten up, she’s beautiful and healthy, I would give anything to have constant great health and here is someone crying over not having a man.
I do feel her pain but I really wish I could get her to see how beautiful life can be when you are healthy, with a job that pays. She needs to focus on other purposeful things that gives her so much passion and if she doesn’t meet any guy then at least she lived and had her peace of mind. JS
Lmfao I don’t think I would be jumping with enthusiasm from being humiliated in front of many people 😅
Once you learn the difference between being alone vs lonely, your life will change. You need to be content with being alone vs being with a seat filler. As a 33y/o single who is dating, I would RATHER be alone than be with the wrong person just to have someone.
This hit differently, I have been looking and waiting 😅for that good man, let me explain what I found.
Good man(fake one)- he expects you to sorry for him and later you found out he is fake and a lie.
Red pill 💊 Narcissist- he is egotistic and feel you should worship him
Men in you dms- they have no ambitions and all there text is hi and how are you 😂
Men that work- he is working towards something but expects you to suffer all the time to make his dream work but not yours.
The ugly man- he starts treating you like your ulgy
The older man 👴- Controlling and still behave like a child.
The baby daddy- they expect you to do the most for them and all now no marriage.
The ambitious man- for some reason they have good work ethic but are very picky and cheat very often.
The simple man- he has bad hygiene and when you fix him up he leaves you.
I've gone out with all these men except the red pill. I have never met a red pill dude irl. Not saying redpillers don't exist but maybe they are not in my area or maybe my personality/appearance isn't something that attracts them.
@@nureauamerica Yeah most people just have a laugh at the content and move on, some don't and we don't run around in a costume or something, like i have a wife for 12 years and children, i've been "redpill" my entire adult life before all this podcast bs. I am not trying to indoctrinate people or something that is why you don't think we exist, my principles are my own so you would never notice. For me manosphere and red pill are rights movements not all the hating and bickering like children.
@@yoachim91 another Redpill bot.
@@nureauamerica 😅😅😅 🤖
There's nothing wrong with wanting someone to spend time with. All this self love, self this, self that gets very old. Nothing wrong with companionship.
Until u center it
Ditto
This! Not every person that desires partnership is being male centered or lacks self love jeezus Cuhrist!
If you find that self-love is "getting old", how are you gonna love others??
Self is all you got.
They were definitely doing too much!
It feels like some kind of weird hazing! Wtf was going on. I bet it was on camera and they chose her to humiliate.
I think she walked into it not thinking. A lot of these comedians choose people in the crowd to humiliate in the name of fun. Never ever stand out at a comedy show if you’re not ready to be a target.
Absolutely!!!! ..... unnecessary
So the lady who said its a self-fulfilling prophecy, she hit the nail on the head. The woman was spiraling from shame of being single. That's the ISSUE! As someone who has been single and went through a similar phase, it gets better when you do the inner work. I know that seems cliche but you will naturally draw in positive energy from others when you release the shame.
I wonder why she did just not leave the venue upon the first feeling of humiliation or anxiousness. This is ridiculous. When you have control over a situation utilize your POWER and ability to choose, LEAVE
The first feeling would have been too long for me. I would have moved as soon as the lights went down. Clearly, I’m in the wrong section. lol
Honestly she irritated me with the whining.
Have enough confidence in self to be okay when someone doesn't show up.
I would have taken the opportunity on stage to be like "yo I need friends, come find me if you want to meet a girls girl'
I feel for her but also confused? She said she went there (a couples comedy show?) to meet people...but it's a comedy show. That's like expecting to meet someone while watching a movie in a theatre, even if someone is single, they're there to watch the show/movie, not chit chat and find the one. Maybe that's her issue, she's going to the wrong places.
Definitely.
Poor thing. I feel her pain. I know the feeling she’s going through. I just want to give her a hug. She can’t surrender to defeat. Once you do, that’s what it is. I know it’s going to be hard, but it’s going to be worth it to keep faith and build yourself up. When you build yourself up you don’t need someone else in your life.❤
I bet the red pill communty is having a field day with this!
Loneliness is a temporary feeling it comes and goes it shouldn't become your whole existence.
Being with someone and feeling like your alone absolutely sucks.
That was immediate thought. I actually thought this video was going to be about how she lived her life and had career and NOW at ____age, she’s lonely and seeking a husband.
The second hand embarrassment of this……
I feel the same way that first woman. I’m tired of this too 😢
Omg! So many times I have gone out to eat alone, and they take the other chair. Even when there are plenty of other chairs to take, they take MY other chair. I’m paying for the ambience of the restaurant, and I want to keep my other chair!
so rude!
i am so glad i healed and overcame feeling the need to have people with me because what I learnt is that most people do not have their lives together. this is why dating is so hard. basic matters like planning, punctuality, character, no follow through etc etc. and then it just becomes a pain to organise things with people.
While human beings are social creatures and we do need companionship, we don't need /romantic/ companionship. Her desire for a romantic relationship is causing her to neglect her own needs. Why was she there alone? Where are her friends? If she fostered healthy relationships with women, she wouldn't be bawling her eyes out over a lack of a man. And she needs to do this, not only for herself, but for the health of future relationships. Right now, any man she gets with will be responsible for all the love and attention she needs and that's a lot to put on one person. What if the man she finds doesn't like comedy shows? Either he goes or she has no one to go with. Her current state makes her an unappealing partner because she will be an emotional drain on anyone she gets with because he will be expected to be her everything. That's why so often the advice is to focus on yourself. Most problems aren't solved by simply finding a relationship.
I get an all around better picture from the last lady. I was like that when i was young. After 20 yrs a marriage and children I really enjoy alone time. I enjoy eating by myself peacefully. I enjoy watching a movie alone without tons of peppering questions. Having a hobby that's only for me.😊❤
They were doing the most 🤷🏻♀️ I hate when people show fake sympathy and all. It reminded me of the time when i was in school and i didn't pack my lunch to lose weight and a teacher kept showing fake sympathy and the entire class kept staring at me and started offering me food 🤦🏻♀️ even though i told the teacher i am fine multiple times. When people aren't being genuine you can feel it. I never care of male and what they think, but people like this unfunny comedians needs to stop doing too much with the fake "I feel sorry for you" and all 😅
I’ve been in a place of despair like this girl a while back. Luckily I kept my episode private. Since then, I’ve learned to be okay with myself and to not let comparison get to me. We don’t know what others relationships are like, and I for one don’t believe it’s all rainbows and glitter. I’ve been single by choice because I haven’t settled for the subpar men that I’ve ran into along the way. I am achieving at the highest levels in career and am childfree. I want a man at the same caliber, not some dusty to pass the time. Therefore, I have been single for 6 years and am now so glad that I’ve taken this time to heal myself, achieve all my goals, and get to really know myself.
I understand that she's lonely. Both men and women feel this but women have got to stop running to the internet to cry. These men beat off to your crying and misery. She needs to see a therapist and learn to be ok by herself. Find something to do and meet people with your passion. God anything but running to the internet to cry. And you can feel just as alone with a man as without. She seems to be looking for something and thinks a man will fill that need. That is a mistake. It is an odd situation though. Why couldn't they just leave her alone?
It’s hard honestly being single as a lover girl who lives in a world full of bad quality men. And other men don’t understand but other women know exactly what I’m talking about. We have the desire to be with men but we choose not to because of how bad they treat us so we don’t because it’s a risk 9/10 it’ll be toxic. 😢 it’s tough but it’s better to be single. You will feel alone with them so might as well be single these men aren’t worth it. And I already know men are gonna attack me and be like “not all men” like shh because it nearly is all men.
Child, you couldn't live a day in my shoes. I remember going out alone in elementary school to the skating rink. I remember going out alone to Six Flags as a teen & etc. 😂
Same 😂😂😂 flew to LA just to experience Disneyland alone and had a BLAST 😅
Idk I've been so hurt in the past by multiple people that being alone/feeling alone has never set off panic and dispair like my past.
My company is great. I've never made myself cry to sleep. It's been a greater pain to be in a relationship and feel alone.
Her problem is her mindset. She should be frustrated about how horrible some people can be and the comedians putting her on the spot, embarrassing and shaming her. As an individual, society shames you for going out and having a good time by yourself. Society depend on others to LIVE their lifes. No one is in control of their friends,family, or even a relationship availability to do things with you. What are you supposed to do? Wait for them? My foot, im going out! Ladies, enjoy your own company, and if anyone shames you, you shame them back, with their scared behind(i can't curse 🤭)
No they did too fucking much and they didn’t have to make a fucking spectacle out of that lady. I would feel like SHIT too if I were her. They didn’t have to do all of that!
The second woman I get! Brave young woman 😩😩😩😩 for being alone is wild. Society hates us alone.
As someone who is over 50 and has not found someone this speaks to me. Everything is by myself. It’s my life. I’ve been in that woman’s place. Although I don’t think I have the courage to attend a comedy event alone. Also I hate the good natured advice. People would tell me oh you’re young you have plenty of time. It never happened and now those people barely make eye contact. Sometimes it doesn’t happen. My single season has become a lifetime.
If you worked a day in my field, you wouldn't think couple goals are a flex.
Is better to be single and a long than to be married with a man who acts like he's single so many women are married to community gas stations where any woman can pull up and get a fill up
If you're seriously looking for a long-term relationship I would stay away from dating apps to be honest. I don't know exact percentages but I would say a good majority of people on there are looking for something shorter term or already have relationships on the side. People have met organically and paired for centuries.
Exactly,from what i have noticed from the happy couples around me is the women were not focusing on trying to be in a relationship,were healing and focusing on themselves and then boom,they met their partner. Being alone with yourself and being able to be a better version of yourself(i know so many people heard that but it's true)and sit in that loneliness and learning to combat that is likely to make you feel happier and increase your chances of meeting a good partner.
Whenever it was available, I always sat in the first row! I've lost count of how many times I became a part of the comedian's show and still enjoyed my time. From Bill Bellamy, Arsenio Hall, Luenell, Jamie Foxx, Melanie Comacho, Rodney Perry, Sinbad, Mark Curry, Tony Roberts...I was not ashamed. Usually took a picture with them after the show. Jamie, I got to spend time in his suites and listen to him play the piano pre Ali.
I called it going out "with myself" not by myself... (I traveled solo too.)
It’s hard sometimes but i refuse to be with just anyone.
This is sad. But the truth is good people are in hiding these days... Because of these types of reasons. People in society are becoming nasty, cruel and horrible, day by day... Year by year.
I agree with the lady who said, “Enjoy the phase of like you’re in.” She can’t put her life on hold or be miserable forever if she can’t be in a relationship. I hope she finds her match but if she doesn’t I hope she learns to just appreciate her life.
She should have got up & say “if one ☝️ more person points out that I’m alone I’m walking out.”
Honey I’m sorry you are in this space. I don’t know what to say to make you feel better. But please don’t say you are pathetic! You are not alone. Sending you positive energy❤
That’s me too… I’m happily married, and I take myself on dates. I go to the gym alone daily early in the morning. When I was single, I would travel alone, go to dinner, and even go to watch a movie by myself.
I work in the service industry and I definitely see people coming in alone being pushed to bar to “not take up a table” and it’s terrible. I just went all the way to London alone and had a great time but people definitely are shocked when they find out, or judge you, sometimes good and sometimes bad.
I was a server for 2 years. I can understand not wanting a single individual at a table. For two reasons (completely my personal preference):
1. One individual = less money to make for a server.
2. It was always awkward for me and my personality. The individual seemed to always want my attention more often and needed to have conversations I literally didn’t have time for. - it was like they came in for attention, rather than the food and vibes.
I would get the occasional person that just wanted food, drinks, their book and great service. But those were rare.
With that being said, I really disliked serving couples. Unless it was a first date.
Honestly I’m just tired of taking selfies while traveling. 😢But I do understand how she feels . I’ve been single for a couple of years now and I’m just not fighting it anymore. Sometimes I do feel a type of way but u just have to keep moving. Time waits on no one and while you’re at it just become the best version of you. I do feel peace most times though so I’m grateful for that. I can enjoy my own company.
None of what she stated made me think, "She doesn't love herself" what is wrong w/ people lol! She's having a human exp. why is this concept hard to grasp. No human was created to be an island (alone), I mean hello! I know EXACTLY what she's talking about. I've got to the point where I don't want it anymore. While I love myself, my life & I treat myself wonderfully, it gets overwhelming when certain events/ holidays require a mate.
& I H8 when people say, "it'll happen when you least expect it", it's dismissive actually! Yes, single people can have amazing lives, but please stop that bs empowerment talk b/c if being "SINGLE" was so wonderful dump your mate & be single like me, I didn't think so 😒
The comedians should have encouraged other people to sit in the front row, too. They kind of bullied her idk.
If she were to settle for who comes her way based on her current energy, she sets herself up to be used. We need to stop bringing our life struggles to the internet and speak to professionals. 👑
Totally agree! I used to do things by myself in college daily. I am a loner by nature. I stopped doing things by myself when social media made it seem "weird". I miss my ignorance.
The woman at 10:14 was spot on! 💯
Normalize doing things solo!
It boggles my mind how people are scared of being with themselves.
I'm 4B. I'm introverted and hate socializing with people. I like being alone. I like being single and childfree!
She cries now not knowing she'll cry even harder in a relationship and probably wish she was alone.
There are worse things than being alone.
There are worse things than death!
Its okay to be alone.
Guys she’s not talking about meeting a man, ffs, she’s just lonely and sick of being alone 100% of the time. Meeting people doesn’t mean ‘finding husband’ it literally means meeting people, like having conversations with other human beings. You guys are acting like that’s too much to ask, and that’s not fair. Basic human interaction and getting to go out without being basically mocked should not be something she has to struggle for.
I truly feel for her and I’m someone who really enjoys solitude and spending time alone but society makes women feel ashamed for being alone especially if the woman is seemingly happy. The worst thing you can do is come to social media though especially in a time where a lot of people are jaded and bitter and looking to find every reason to tear someone down. Enjoy your singlehood so when your person does come along they simply add to you instead of filling a void.
That 75 year old is probably living her best life with her companions strolling around town with no worries except her oil change 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
that was incredibly cruel....I get it's a comedy club but she didn't deserve that...but it brought her some wonderful peep talk and I love that for her...I hope she finds her way
God bless her. I get it.
Girlll bye, she gone be alright 😂😂😂
😐 girl…
Being "alone" or living your life solo is not bad. It's society that makes it a big deal. I travel solo and go many places solo and I have had people whisper, stare, point and befriend me because they felt sorry. I even had a person assume I don’t have friends or family.
I see nothing wrong with her wanting someone who wants to be around her.
Nothing can replace that urge for someone to love and trust.
It matters not what I have. Money? Got that. Vacations? I fly for free (perks of my job and I have been there over 10 years so I have a free flights for life). Houses? Got that. Cars? No problem.
All of that and my life would not be the same without my wife. I just have that need for human connection, especially one where I do not have to be constantly looking out for threats and betrayals.
And yes, life is not perfect. There are evil people who are opportunist and fraudsters. But when you find that person who wants to be around you, it is something special.
I know people are self conscious about being the single friend but I think it can be fun. Maybe I’m an isolated case but I am about to be 30 and have several married/engaged friends and I swear I have never been invited to so many activities in my life lol. Aside from getting to go to weddings, they invite me to go to a lot of different events and parties with them. My best friend and her husband invited me to go to Cancun with them soon lol (I’ll pay my own way of course). If you can get past your insecurity about being alone, being the single friend has a lot of perks. And a lot of times my friends’ husbands pay for me just to be nice.
It has also made me appreciate being alone because occasionally the couple I’m with will have their little arguments and so they go home angry at each other and I go home happy, peaceful and alone lol. It’s all about perspective 😂
Honestly I strive to be like that 75 year old lady- positive, with dogs, no worries other than an oil change. That woman was looking down on her but whos the happiest of the both?
Right. That was very mean spirited what she implied. 😕
Alison Armstrong wrote books that explain how men think and act. You just have to learn their language! And have an open heart
I agree with the last lady... I agree with her wholeheartedly
Perspective is everything I do so much alone just bc the way my life is set up. I mean concerts solo travel out of the country many times over etc. It’s because I have more time and discretionary income than a lot of my girlfriends. Unfortunately, it’s because she’s in a bad space and I get it. I would’ve loved it. But I was also married for a long time and felt very alone in that or miserable when we were together it’s bc happiness is an inside job it’s not about being alone.