How to Release Emotions Trapped in Your Body 10/30 How to Process Emotions Like Trauma and Anxiety
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Trauma, anxiety, and other emotions can get trapped in your body. In this video, you'll learn how to release trapped emotions and heal stress, anxiety, and trauma through the body.
Trauma, anxiety, and other emotions can get trapped in your body. In this video, you'll learn how to release trapped emotions and heal stress, anxiety, and trauma through the body.
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I was watched the funeral for someone and the choir was singing a beautiful song. It made me cry but also after I felt so relaxed and calm and fearless. I actually felt so powerful within myself after this. An energy just came over me.
Yes! That’s a great example of feeling your feelings!
@@TherapyinaNutshell hey I’m trapped in the flight or fight mood
@@shaquillehenry4718 same... let me know if you find something that helps 🙂
I feel good also after crying, like a pressure valve has been released. After using mushrooms I have a fantastic cry towards the end of the experience, it feels fantastic
@@charliehobson33 it feels like I can’t cry
I'm a Combat Veteran and these 15 minutes have been more beneficiary to me than 15 years of therapy. Thank You!!
There is so much you can do to heal. Your body's deep wisdom knows many answers
@@kaal2820 hi which one? Thanks
Thank you for the sacrifices you have made for your country. Hope you have a great day and enjoy the rest of your life.💟
@@Naomirose86 ashwagandha is the spelling I think. From amazon I purchased gaia herbs which is respectable company and safe. Many others are from china. This is better than any prescription med. You start to notice after a few days and the effect continues to build. I won be without it now.
Cesar. Thank you for fighting to keep the world safe. Now it is your turn to feel safe and well. Do whatever helps you to recover. I too had therapy but no practical steps to activate my parasympathetic nervous system. That’s why this video is utterly awesome 😀👍🏼
I went for a massage weeks after a miscarriage, after the massage I was so emotional, I could not stop myself from crying. The massage therapist was so very calm ans sweet and told me I might have released sadness... in hindsight she was 100% right.
I'm so glad you got to release some of the sadness and I'm deeply sorry for your loss
I'm so sorry for you loss. So many people undermine and or don't understand the impact of such a loss in one's life. I hope you have found healing. 💛
I also had that experience after a massage.
It was the strangest feeling.
As soon as they pressed a certain area in my lower back, it was like a dam bursting. Such a rush of emotions seemed to burst out.
There are so many physical/emotional links between mind and body that we don't understand yet.
@@kaysmith4594 I experienced that too. In a shopping mall massage pop-up place....how embarrassing!! But he hit a spot and the flood gates just opened and I couldn't stop. It worries me what we keep trapped inside... :(
Sorry for your loss Kate :( Never underestimate what a huge loss miscarriage is. Grief is love with nowhere to go....
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, I would like to give them a try but haven't found any legit grower to get it.
@@Jennifer-bw7kuYes, dr.sporesss
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
@@eddiejohn8506Is he on instagram?
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
Today I was writing in my journal because I was feeling depressed and didn’t get much sleep. I suddenly broke down and had a crying fit to the point where I was hyperventilating and I thought I was losing my mind. I’ve been grieving my dads death and my moms dementia diagnosis. After I let it all out, a wave of calm came over me and I noticed my neck and shoulder pain instantly disappeared. I felt so good afterwards.
I'm deeply sorry for your loss. ❤❤❤
Crying is a form of release for me as well!!
I just realized that my body thinks that my work is a threat. Every day i wake up and go to work i start to get uncomfortable, really anxious, feels like im gonna vomit and feel like i have an headache. I will try this before work, during breaks and after work.
What do you do for work? I’m in social work and think the same
update? :)
I've had similar responses when working in food and retail. After a few truly awful experiences, it's like a work-related PTSD; makes me want to hide from people.
i totally relate to this!! i had this reaction with my first job and it continued the 4 years i had that job. my body remembered the smells and sounds and total environment of that place, so even the slightest trigger or reminder of it would flood me with anxiety. even when i go back to that store now i get the same feeling. i think it’s best to embrace the feeling instead of trying to fight it, and maybe if you have a trusted coworker, confide in them. i find that when i can be honest about how i’m feeling and validate the anxiety, some of it goes away. and of course, releasing your body tension somehow as recommended in this video.
@@beyou2133 so far it brings me back to my senses when i do this and tell myself im not in danger.
Exercising almost every day, especially heavy weight training, gave me something to focus on while processing my trauma during a major depressive episode. It arguably saved my life, worked more than meds ever would have. Everyone should have some physical outlet that they love
I’m too anxious to step into a gym 😖
@@R3n33loves I was too, it helps to go during hours when few people are there and start slow. Walk on a treadmill for a bit or something simple to gain confidence in your space, then try other things :)
Yoga works for me. Holding a posture, the self discipline. And Tai Chi: the slow controlled motion. Emotional Tension can get stuck in the body, causing pain.?
Hasn't effected me in that way.
I just been trying to cry to release it. I think it depends how the trauma effects you on whether exercise helps.
My son has autism and I've always suspected that's the reason he jumps and waves his hands in the air. He doesn't have these social filters so he does exactly what his body needs when he's stressed. Brilliant video, thank you ♥️
My thoughts too.
Excellent observation, kids often get told to settle down when expressing themselves physically or verbally. 😬
I'm in the middle of an Ah-Ha moment. I'm ND and used to dance out to music a lot when younger. Stopped it and developed depression and anxiety. Guess it's time to rock on down again
Glad he’s not masking the stim
Masking stimming is actually painful
Thank you for letting him to do that , this is vital for us !
You are the reason I’m still here two years later after my divorce from a forty year narcissistic marriage. Because of your FREE HELP, I’M still improving my mental health issues. Suicidal ideations have subsided significantly. A “thank you” is not enough for people like you…but I’m so , so grateful ! ❤
Well done for getting a divorce and setting yourself free from a Narc - but WHY didnt you do it sooner ? forty years is a huge chunk of your life you cant have back.
@@feeltheforce10 leaving is easier said than done
@@BOSSwky It has to be done and CAN be done.Praise to those who do it.
@@feeltheforce10 indeed.. I know lots of ppl that did
Wow, that must have been so hard. I cannot imagine 40 years of abuse, you must have so much strength of character tucked away. Well done seems inadequate but, really, well done xx
Get back into your body
Deep belly breathing
Yoga/stretching
Excercise, dancing
Listening to music
SINGING, voicing
SHAKING, vibrating
Laying with legs up, lifted - or doing headstands
Tensing and releasing of muscle groups
Practicing mindfulness + intentional mindset
Expressing yourself + reaching out
Being in nature
Cold showers/swimming
LAUGHING
Letting yourself reach for the lighter feeling
Acting silly :D PLAYING
Punching and screaming into pillows
Ok so I do all of these things naturally and absolutely none of it works. wtf?
Many of these I cannot
Do, reaching out does not work for me, I asked questions get hate responses. I'm hsp and narc survivor no more options, ostrich is all I'm allowed to do
@@anthonyhettinger9702 I hear you and I’m sending you positive energy. I’m rooting for you. May you feel better soon, and may your life soon get better and better.
May you be blessed with protection, assistance and miracles.
💖✨✨✨
@Line Syverinsen Best comment on here!
@@SarafinaSummers someone suggested "if you've tried everything, stop trying, then see what happens". I felt that.
I’ve been a functioning, high anxiety person all my life. It hasn’t served me well. I’m now in my 50’s and I’ve realized I need help. But I got no help.
It’s videos like this that are helping me understand why I feel the way I do and what to do about it. It’s not just one video, like a magic pill. But each video gets me just a little bit closer to where I need to be. For that, I’m truly grateful.
Why can't you get help? I mean, therapist is your best option
@@marinageorgiewa3045 because, in Canada, you need a referral from a doctor. That takes weeks. Plus, the demand is high but the supply of available therapists is low. So that takes weeks. By then, you’ve learned how to just deal with it best you can.
@@marinageorgiewa3045 I've been to many therapists. For me, watching these videos is actually way more helpful than therapy. My opinion only. ✌️
@@rdoodoo2021 whatever works for you.
I've found that being forced to describe my anxiety attacks when they're not happening helps the next time it happens. Doesn't always make things easier, but it does help me advocate for myself during intense anxiety.
I know this is an older video but I wanted to share: I am a mom of 7 with a history of past traumas. I’ve suffered for years with post partum depression but I have been too ashamed to admit. I also thought it was my own fault and a decision I was making. I am currently post partum and the depression has been so intense this time that I’ve finally been open to admitting it. My grandmother suffered terribly and was in and out of asylums in the 50’s. She finally took her life when I was six. I think because of her story I am motivated to fight for a better life. I judged her once but now my heart breaks for her as I suffer from the same thing. I’m looking for ways to manage this naturally as I’m breastfeeding and want the best for my baby. One of the things I’ve been doing is light exposure. I make my family breakfast then bundle myself and baby and step outside to get the first rays of sunlight. We live on a farm and this morning my father in law had the radio on in the barn and I could hear it while I walked around. “That old time rock n roll” came on and I realized deep down I was telling myself to stand still. Then I remembered this video and I let myself start dancing a bit with my baby. We rocked and swayed my hips, smiled at my baby and just really got into it. I can be very goofy in general so I did not feel entirely stupid. Plus we live in the middle of nowhere so I knew no one was watching:) as I danced the urge to cry came over me and I did not hold back like I usually do. I’ve lost my dad to cancer, my grandmother to suicide, I’ve lost six babies to miscarriage and I had those hurts held up inside. I just released them. It felt very good and I will keep doing this. For anyone reading, and thank you for taking the time if you do, please know that getting help for mental health is not selfish. It is the best thing you can do for you and society. Strengthening your body, mind and soul makes you better able to serve those around you. So take the time to try this. Admit where you are and find ways to heal. It’s the best investment you could ever make. As for Therapy in a Nutshell, I am a subscriber and I watch at least one video a day. These are perfect for a busy mom of seven who needs to get her mental health sorted and lacks a whole lot of free time. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️
Sending compassion and healing for your losses. You have lots of kids and although that requires a lot of work, theres also lots of laughs from their silliness. Sit in that moment and enjoy it.
@@OutOfHereSoon thank you ☺️❤️
why do i have to serve others, is this all we are allowed to be?
Momma of 7! That alone is amazing. Dance with them. They won’t forget it. You are doing a good job. You have lots of love in your heart. I’m proud of you.❤
@@laurab972 💕
Got asimple one for you all out there.
ART. Any form of art, express yourself, let the emotions flow. If you keep it closed up, you burst like a coke bottle shaken up full of pressure and it's only a matter of time til you blow up.
Source: Experience.
I tried, but then I got caught up in the gig economy and art became money and now I can't draw
@@Banneord would you like some advice on how to fix that?
@@CherryBerryFashion I would like some! I'm in the same situation as him.
Thanks for this advice. I’m an artist who can’t create anymore because of fear of not creating something wonderful so it is easier not to do anything. I guess that’s when anxiety sets in and it’s a vicious cycle. 🤦🏻♀️
I agree. I’ve taken up learning piano after mum died end of January. It is so helpful for me even though I can’t play yet. It’s being able to express my feelings through my fingers and the notes that come out ❤️💜🎼🎹
Watching this has made me realise that I have never felt safe in my life and I am feeling the affects now well for the past few years.
Life is not safe, though we all wish it was and spend our lives seeking control and security. When we embrace change and keep our expectations of ourselves and others, life gets easier.
@Anna Hofmann Interesting. Could you give an example?
@Anna Hofmann Yes. Makes total sense. And very well illustrated. Bravo. Thank you.
Childhood emotional neglect
5:11 body trying to burn off adrenaline and process stress chemicals
5:56 emotions get trapped in body
8:25 physical activity resets nervous system and heals anxiety
9:26 yoga effective for PTSD
9:43 rebalance nervous system
9:46 exercise
11:26 relaxed vigilance
11:51 take deep breaths. Tense and relax muscles
14:28 turn on favorite music and shake feet then shake it all out and dance
THANK YOU FOR THIS HELP
This video is literally the full explanation of how trauma gets trapped (PTSD) and how to release it and live a normal healthy life. Seriously. It’s all right here. I’ve been looking for a way for 29 years this fall, and this is what it boils down to.
"The part of the nervous system we use the most becomes the strongest"...that was an aha-moment...just like which thoughts we focus more on, which actions we perform repeatedly...they decide how our life shapes up. Wow!
BIG WOW!! thanks for driving the point home♡♡♡♡ great words
Thats true! Forgot that
🙏
Are you claiming to have control of your thoughts, or am I misunderstanding and that is not what you are implying? Thanks.
@@T.d0T. It's not about controlling but staying aware of the quality of our thoughts...it's about choosing to spend my attention intentionally. I've found intentionally introducing constructive thoughts and focusing on them helps more than trying to repress negative ones.
This makes a lot of sense. After the third meltdown in the middle of downward dog, I realised that I had an eating disorder and I needed to do something about it. I would routinely disassociate from life so I never felt like anything I did was real. Yoga brought my mind into my body and my mind was like “wth is this dumpster fire??!!!”
oh god this basically explains all the reasons behind why i am so emotionless, i have lots of trouble with feelings and i cant form social relationships, or even feel the care for others. Even to family or "loved ones", maybe this will help me heal. The video makes so much sense and explains alot of my life woa.
I have similar observations about myself and am considering being tested for if I'm on the Autism Spectrum. If you feel like your experience is reducing your quality of life, then getting some help to at least get a path to understanding what might be going on can be very helpful.
@@grizzlednerd4521 yep i am! its the mental health system here is very slow so getting any clarity with what i am going through gives me more and more doubt between sessions. otherwise eventually ill find out.
You sound like my son and he is on the spectrum
@@rheadee33 haha ty for letting me know, ill consider to get tested at a clinic, im lucky to have that opportunity coming soon
This sounds like me! I gotcha.
Did anyone else's heart absolutely shatter at the polar bear part or was that just me??? I'm going to cry
Yes.
I couldn’t watch
When I saw the title I wondered if she was going there. I experienced exactly what that bear was doing for half and hour immediately after a chiropractic adjustment two years ago. I had just separated from my wife after thirty years of marriage, and attributed this event to my life-long habit of being an "emotional stuffer". My voice also dropped an octave just before the shaking started, and never returned to its "old" normal pitch. This is the first time I've seen this phenomenon mentioned, and she is the first therapist that I feel could help me. It's difficult to describe how it feels to say that. It may be "safe", but feels very alien to me.
Never thought I'd have empathy for a polar bear
Science is cruel
I felt for that bear, watching the traumatic shaking.
Me too 😭
Oooh! That's what I've been experiencing a lot lately! Sucks :/
Human interference of nature also makes me sad. Just because you can doesn’t mean that you should
That's nature! How else is a bear supposed to survive..
As a vegetarian, you're preaching to the initiated 😏
I'm surprised and amazed at how emotions can stay buried for so long and suddenly show up after decades in dreams.
For example, I'm 32 and recently had a terrifying dream where I felt terror from something that happened over 20 years ago.
I am a psychotherapist, trained as a behaviour therapist, myself, and in my experience, and to my own amazement, energy healing, for instance the emotion code, is highly effective. Emotions are energy, as is the rest of our bodies and the rest of all the universe. Keep an open mind 🙂💚✨
I can't afford therapy and I have an autoimmune disease called Rheumatoid Arthritis I got it when I was 15 and now I'm 20 I didn't know I have trauma I used to think that I'm sensitive my family members call me a coward they get irritated for buying me medicines and they are tired of me. And I am tired of myself too as I don't have a job. I didn't know what's wrong with me but from the past few months, I got to know that I have trauma and even if I want to go to therapy my family won't allow it. Once I talked about therapy to my family they rejected it. So I have only UA-cam and Instagram to heal my trauma I don't know how but I am gonna heal myself and make myself independent your videos are helping me. Thanks 💜
If You want to try something very releasing and comforting there's the TRE exercises, here on UA-cam
meditation is helping me a lot in healing trauma
Sending love from Texas ♡ here for you
🖤s and healing!
If you haven’t yet, check out Hitomi Mochizuki’s channel - she has helped me a lot
I'm from Syria, I can't afford therapy beside there's a lack of professional therapists here.. thank you for making this session accessible for all of us. ❤️
The session is not free...it's almost 200$... So many of us realize we have things to work on due to our traumatic experiences (ones outside of our own control, that we shouldn't have to pay for. I didn't choose this for myself, I was put through it). But we can't afford to get the help we need to better our lives, as well as those around us. What's the solution to this. Outside of universal healthcare, I can't think of anything else..😅 I also have undiagnosed ADHD. My executive function is nearly disabled. So knowing and doing what should be done, on my own, is so overwhelming that it doesn't get done. Some of us need the structure of a professional to help us dig out of our child trauma holes. So. Anyone have solutions for getting structured professional help without the finances to do so?
if you can get a tDCS Device -such as the TheBrainDriver v2. Never tried it myself but heard good things about it.There are cheaper ones too.Make your own research!@@VaeyaKaebrielle
Many mental health professionals write books that provide exercises they often use in their one-on-one sessions that you can follow in the Book without a hefty fee. ❤️
@@UnityLakeNormanwhats book name
I have been through a lot... I am a woman and don't look how I did when I was " innocent " ... however this will help EVERY trauma
I use a worksheet called "Thought Log" ( I can email to you if you want a copy) . It has helped me a lot... you write:
- what's bothering you
- your thoughts about it (this is what you base your " alternative thought on", below)
-your emotions
-now write " alternative thoughts " to the thoughts that you wrote above ... basically an opposite thought to your first original thought...
Then you will feel a shift inside...and your feelings will change and oftentimes how the person that offended you... their feelings change towards you too
I’m a new mother and have a lot of unresolved trauma.
I need to be present and attuned for my baby and don’t have the time or money to attend therapy just now.
You are helping me to be a better mother and woman and I’m so grateful for your videos. Thank you 🙏
Sending love from Melbourne Australia
I made a discovery recently about my abandonment wound from my absent father and how it subconsciously affected me my whole life. Being a root wound It was buried so deep that when I made this realisation I started shaking violently. I knew instantly I was releasing trapped emotions. I felt so much lighter afterwards 😊
I'm an emergency medicine doctor and started a new job. Had a difficult night shift a few days ago and saw a patient that I found really difficult and disturbing. Have been feeling low, anxious and teary since then. Just trying trying work out how to regulate my emotions better. Thank you for this video
thank u for all u do!
Here,have some hugs 🤗
Praying for you, Doc.
Take a break and listen. Is this job for you? Your body won’t lie or hurt you in an unfair way.
I was a PA in the ED for over a year after school. Had to move into specialty after because I was tired of throwing up in toilets every day from anxiety. Wish I had known more about this stuff earlier. But I’ve been MUCH better in my job for the past few years now :)
I really like seeing a therapist validate this! I saw another psychologist on TikTok completely shut down the idea of trauma being stored in the body and blew it off as some dumb hippie thing I think. Healing looks different for different people!🥰
you should look into a book called “the body keeps the score” it’s all about this topic.
@@Jacqueline888 Thank you!! I’ll look into that🥰
And waking the tiger by peter levine
Ans dr John sarna
I love Gabor mate!!
was he older? Somatic experiencing, EMDR and these concepts are fairly new in the field. Sounds like he’s more old school.
It's so painful to start dealing with your losses that get pushed back in the mind. I found out that in order to heal you have to deal with every heartache and things you experienced. I can say it helps. I usually go only so far to what my mind and heart can manage. Thank you for reading this post. ❤️
Thank you so much. I actually relaxed listening to you this morning. I’m holding in a lot of trauma and emotion. I have OCD and PTSD. To everyone else watching this. Hang in there. You’re not alone. Even if it feels like it sometimes. ❤
I’m very glad I came across this video, I feel it was a miracle to be honest.
I’m an Ex service man and after coming out of the army I started to go done hill.
It took 7 years to get a diagnosis of dissociative ptsd and dissociative amnesia. I am actively trying to recover myself/ my emotions.
For a year I’ve been weight training and dieting which has transformed my life, as well as studying Trauma to understand it.
Once again I am very grateful for your video...
Blessings from England
Hello sir, have you read the book “The Body Keeps The Score” ? I found it to be an amazing book and I hope that it can help you get further in your journey. Blessings
Blessings 💕 wishing you wellness and peace
God Bless you 🙂 I'm so happy you found this and it's helping you. Listen again and again to be reminded of the enlightenment she's sharing. Thank you for your service 🙏🏻
Sending you warm wishes as you continue to move down the path of recovery. It took me 7-8 years to get better from PTSD, and now I hope to help others so they don't have to take as long as it took me to heal.
Take care, Andrew. I'm so happy for you that you're helping yourself. Learning about trauma was a big part of healing for me, too, and it came toward the end of getting back to feeling like "me" again.
Hey hey! Even though I'm pretty young (15)
I have been diagnosed with dissociative amnesia for a long time (ironically can't remember lmao) which has partially explained the memory loss of most of my life and childhood
Which recently I have been diagnosed (/medically recognized) with DID, which is dissociative identity disorder, which answers questions but leaves many more
My current therapist is very under qualified to be able to help me (she mainly helps with behavioral things and addictions), cause DID is a cptsd disorder, along with me having other certain mental disorders, then having limited options, it's difficult to get proper help
But I just wanted to lyk you aren't alone! Dissociation in general and dissociative amnesia is difficult, but you aren't alone at all!
And I hope you are doing good, and your recovery and coping things are going well too!
❤❤❤
I haven't cried in so long. not that I don't want to but i feel like i physically cant. this channel made me cry.
Hope you are recovering !
Feel the same
I have the same
I have the same problem.
Hi Brian, I understand how you feel. I don’t know how you feel about trying shadow work, there’s lots of videos that can get you started and I find that most prompts bring out repressed emotions from me. Good luck
I have absolutely experienced the sudden outburst of emotions during acupuncture. It’s wild to have such huge emotions pour out, emotions I didn’t even know I had.
I need to express that, while I know there are competent and well-meaning mental health professionals out there, in 20 years I’ve met a lot of them and not one has helped. Most of them have caused more harm to me and my family. It seems the “good” therapists are the ones on UA-cam (the ones trying to help more people than those who walk in the door with money). Videos like this, along with a spiritual approach to understanding my own trauma, have provided me with the tools to understand my issues and how to overcome them. The mental health profession as a whole is, like other institutions in this country, missing the mark. Thank you so much for making these videos so that people can help themselves when the system fails.
Can I just say that the joy in your eyes and the slight smiles that come to your face as you taking shows that you are very passionate and really believe in your work and it's a joy to watch you share this information with the world thank you💜
My thoughts exactly! I found her content this morning. Just watching a few of her videos; I’m wonderfully focused & at ease. She is clearly very smart and passionate, but her lovely aura seals the deal! I feel so grateful❤😊
Am I the only one who exercises regularly, but when I'm feeling down I lack motivation and am physically unable to work out?
That’s when it’s the most important to do so.
What you do is you say: I’ll only do it for 5 or 10 minutes. That’s it. And then you stay as long as you want after those 5 or 10 minutes. You’ll feel better immediately because you’ll have had a success and you’ll have released endorphins.
Also, give yourself the 3 second rule: I have three seconds to get up an do this 5-10 minute exercise. 1-2-up!
If you wait longer than that then you won’t do it. You lose.
So, set a small success + 3 second rule and you’ll be better than ever ;-)
@@Alpha-Andromeda So just like... do it? I don't wanna do it because I don't get motivated, so I just say like: "shut up feelings, I will work out now" and just do it without thinking?
@@tomasjosefpiano8902 I feel the same, and I’ve finally managed to exercise while at a low. You acknowledge and bring the sad feelings along. I’ve had to set an alarm for say 5 minutes and change into gym top, another 5 for bottoms, and then while watching UA-cam I just tell myself I’ll do a warm up and just move a bit, then finally start a dance workout (fitness Marshall usually) and can stop when I want and can put in as much or as little energy as I feel. It’s hard when you’re low and it requires pushing yourself, but the key is kindness, absolutely no shaming or guilting or judging yourself, just slowly get yourself to do this caring thing, talking like you would to a sick child to get him to take medicine. Don’t forget to congratulate yourself for showing up for yourself, and that a little goes a long way.
@@oanadiaconescu3559 Good job. I really admire you! I actually worked out today too :). It was just 15 minutes + a short swim instead of my ussual full hour, but it's better than nothing. Keep going sister!
Yeah I don't have it all figured out myself, but the important thing is to show up. You don't have to create any lofty goals, just show up.. and once you stand there in all your gear it would be stupid not to start ;) Resistance only shows up before you get going.
I love this. When I go to a therapist, I have to spend hours upon hours telling them about my messed up life, and it takes forever to get to the part where they actually start giving advice. It sounds like several things can work for most people. You are so helpful!
So true.💜
I can relate, my therapist and I wound up creating a pile of shit that I had to look at every day... With no plan on doing anything about it.
Now I am healing at home with this wonderful program.
This is why I've yet to go therapy, seems like a lot of people think it's a waste compared to this lady and others
Some people go to therapy, but they aren't interested in getting anything to act on. They aren't interested in making changes in their life. This is what my therapist told me some of her clients were like. She split clients into two groups depending on what they wanted. Some just wanted her to listen to them, but they weren't interested in making changes, others really wanted her to give them suggestions on changes they could make.
As with most conversations, the amount of talking vs. listening should be about 50/50. If you (or your therapist) is doing most of the talking, then it is not a healthy communication relationship.
In other words, there are times when you need to pour out your soul. But on average, it should be about equal.
Plus, the therapist should be helping with problem solving, teaching new ways of thinking, teaching relaxation, giving homework, etc.
Unfortunately most therapists are just sympathetic parrots. That's ok for some people, but I think it is a waste of my time.
As you suggested, I put on a little T Swift “Shake It Off” and danced like fool in my living room. In the middle off dancing around letting my body go I felt my body wanting to cry…something I’ve wanted to do for a while, but because of my past traumas my body just couldn’t let it out. This is a big step and I couldn’t have done it without your help. Thank you :)
Making a playlist for this 1990s kid!
In my experience my body just shuts down the emotion, like when I need to cry. Unconsciously I’ll take a breath and it goes away. But every time that happens it comes back worse and it eats away at me.
Same for me. I’ll shut down and I’m rare cases I’ll cry for hours and then un healed pain comes up and I realize. Wow ok I need to heal that
omg I just listened to your first sentence and it already resonated with me, I HATE HATE HATE when people tell me to "just think positive"! It's more complex than that sometimes! Thank you!!
Isn’t it! That positive vibes only theory is dismissive and unhelpful
@@Webbgurl2000 In my therapy I experienced that feelings and thinking can be completely disconnected and that it takes time, experiences and therapy to build this connection. So how could I possibly think positive and solve my trauma like this? People should learn about this way more
@Anonymouse I can imagine your struggle and appreciate that you are looking for ways to help your dad, that already is awesome itself. Eventually your dad is right tho, relatives can't actively do something to cure the pain, that's up to your dad and a therapist. It is extremely helpful to know that there is someone you can go to and just pour out your heart and them just listening and giving a shoudler to cry on. The only other thing that really helped me personally is when people offered activities, like going for walks in nature, crafting, watching documentaries, whatever one likes. And by offering I mean offering consitantly and not getting frustrated when I say no, because when I'm depressed I tend to say no 5 times before I say yes because I feel like such a burden. Just friendly and calmly letting your dad know you're there to spend quality time and get some dopamine hits whenever he is ready for it. I hope this helps a little xoxo
I'm an actor, and I use "tremoring" as a warmup. It uses various positions which allow.oir body to naturally "tremor", or shake, and we allow and encourage our bodies to shake. It is also a vocal exercise as well, but I find it most useful for de-stressing and relaxing. It is also used with survivors of trauma.
Hi, can you describe your process?
i need to use this! i’m an actor as well. does it work for stage anxiety?
@@loridupuy1428 If you look up "Fitzmaurice" and "tremoring", you can find some demonstrations of it. Catherine Fitzmaurice was the one who developed it.
@@loridupuy1428 This is a good demonstration of one of the positions: ua-cam.com/video/jOTAsHii9AA/v-deo.html For me, I will shake along with the natural tremoring that occurs.
@@SparklesNJazz I do it as a warmup before performing. It helps ground me. But you should definitely do it on your own first, as it can release tensions and emotions while doing it at first, especially those who have experienced trauma.
Thank you so so so much. So grateful for your time and effort in making these vdos. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Dear Doctor, my niece got emotionally stressed and now suffering from mental illness which happened recently, we dont have the money to undergo such therapy but i hope sharing your videos will help her🙏
When I started asthanga yoga, our teacher warned us that some emotions can rise up during excersice. He told that one time someone got so angry that he threw his yoga mat against thecwall and cried!
Aww
Know the roots of yoga and you will turn back to your lord and savior
@@omar-uu8qo yoga connects you to source.. no religion necessary
Don't understand why western people are so repulsive to the idea of religion. The moment someone mentions anything about religion they can't take it anymore lol
@@hmartin751 yoga is a part of religion practice, only in west we treat it as exercise to feel good!
I don't want this to come off weird, but I really love your voice. Your speaking voice is so peaceful which allows me to gather information better.
i was thinking the same thing!
Never think it is weird to give a heartfelt compliment! She does have a beautiful voice and energy!
I love her voice too!
I love listening to her as well, sometimes I even close my eyes it's so soothing!
Not weird. I totally thought the same thing!!!
Thank you so much for this. I've struggled with paralysing anxiety for over two decades, but I'm starting to make progress because of videos like yours.
This is the release that you directly go for in an EMDR session and it works like magic - as research (an my own experience) has shown. Thank for your description!!!
I have felt trapped in that over sensitized sympathetic cycle all my life and no one apart from you has understood what I was trying to explain.....thank you
maybe this is why women live longer than men: they cry easier and probably harder. I cried every morning during the 1st year after a breakup. It eventually stopped. I should mention my ex was a verbal abuser and I was exhausted from dealing with him.
We need to teach boys to cry instead of just telling them that, "men don't cry".
@@autumngalix4616 Very true, and it must’ve been so hard but all the crying could’ve bee your soul finally releasing all the hurt you’ve had built up vs. the feeling of not being together anymore. Sometimes we are out with specific people to learn lessons, we do attract what we are and I’ve also had a break up about a year ago I realize this won’t be a lesson I have to go through again because I’m more aware of every sign
Hope things get better for you too~ stay positive!! ✨
Happy you are doing better:) I was in an abusing relationship almost 20 years ago. Although hardest time of my life, it was crucial to my growth and finding my worth (also spirituality:)
I wish I could cry but I’m am so numb to my emotions that I find it is not in me. I am a 62 year old man who has had a recent diagnosis of PTSD ranging back to psychological abuse from young childhood until I was 46 years old. I value this video and it has given me hope. I am going to work with it and break through my emotional detachment and hyper vigilance. Thank you for posting it ❤️
I never thought an educational video would make me cry so much. Thank you for creating this!
This is the first of your videos that I have watched and although the concept seems foreign to me, the way you take the time to explain your approach is quite convincing and even enlightening. I will watch the series because of this one video and THANK YOU for offering this help to people who may need it.
Does anybody else guess nauseous due to stress and anxiety . Feel like a burp would help but it just feels stuck .
I get a lump in my throat that stays for about an hour after I get calm
Yes.. it’s normal. It’s due to the large amount of adrenaline being pushed through your system.. problem is that with trauma it is often released in much larger amounts than is needed, this leads to this feeling of sickness.
I get physically ill and diarrhea :(
You guys need to heal your throat chakras! Watch UA-cam videos on how to do so, usually when you are stressed or anxious and you feel something stuck in your throat it’s because you want to say something and don’t you hold back and push down that negative emotion to get rid of it but when we do that it grows (like a giant sadness of energy that we’ve ignored for years) when you feel this way talk to yourself ask why you are feeling this way? Reason with yourself rather than push yourself in the dark
I feel like I can’t yawn when I get anxious. What’s helped is to accept the feeling and let it be. Instead of trying to take in more air, be content with less. After that, I’ll usually yawn and feel better.
As a kid I was always stuck in the sympathetic response, and for the longest time this was just normal for me. In my late teens and now in adulthood I'm starting to unlearn that "normalcy". I'm learning how to actually self-soothe (not shut down everything emotional in order not to get yelled at for crying), how to take care of myself emotionally and mentally. I'm not crying anymore with a blank face. I'm not tired as much anymore. I'm opening up to the people who love me without worrying as much to get retraumatized. Parents, it's so, so important to help your child work through their emotions. When you talk to your kids after they do something wrong, don't yell and spank (which is hitting, no matter what you call it). When they start crying because they're scared, don't tell them "I'll give you something to cry about". Something less obvious is don't tell them "Its not a big deal". To them it is a big deal, otherwise they wouldn't be upset. Get down to where the child is, don't approach it from where you are as an adult. Please for the love of God, don't tell your child that they do X thing for attention. Mine would always tell me I did X thing that I enjoyed for attention, which would make me feel bad about liking it and that I would always have to defend my interests from them. Don't be a reactive parent, be a responsive one.
Do this in person to people that need to hear it. I doubt you are changing any lives on comments section
@@prestons9305 Ok
@@prestons9305 jerk
@@prestons9305 they’re doing infinitely more good than you are with this comment, reconsider your attitude bro
I can't tell you how much I enjoy your teaching……thank you
I am a teacher and I have been experiencing anxiety this year worse than I have ever had it. I’ve been losing hair, not sleeping, etc. There have been some times here lately where I think I I would feel better if I could just have a good cry, but I can’t seem to make myself. I know my emotions are all bundled up in my body. This is something I can actually implement. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I, and am sure many others, are very thankful.
Hun with the other symptoms such as hair falling out, could be down to a deficiency maybe iron or a vitamin.. go doctor’s just to get your bloods checked.. then u can deal with it.. I had an iron deficiency feeling better.. hope u do too 💜
I am a teacher also. This year has been extremely difficult. We have dealt with the challenges of teaching online. Students have lost their loved ones. I have made many referrals. We are expected to be fine throughout all of this and we aren’t. My insomnia has gotten worse. These videos are helpful and we are grateful for this channel!
@@kathleenharris8824 bless you Kathleen.. you’re so right in regards to having to be alright during this madness, teachers get a really bad rap I’ve noticed.. I hope you feel better soon.. the mediating recently and listening to 528 hz has really helped me !! Big hugs to you 💜💫🌞
This is my first year first student teaching and then as a fellow educator and I'm right here with you. It's crazy to say that I'm looking forward to grad school in the fall because it'll be less stressful. I love my students and so glad for my fellow educators who helped me even as we all feel like we are drowning.
Me too. Get a physical like someone else commented. Stay away from caffeine. I think it's also because we've been under stress for over a year then our bodies are like ok that's enough. Talk it out with someone get sun and take a walk. Pamper yourself with self care. Pray if you can't cry or watch some movies. Your going to be fine this too shall pass. 🤗
Yin yoga really helps. If you're not familiar it's the type of yoga where you do more stretching and breathing as opposed to complex poses, so anyone can do it. After a traumatic event (an abuser living in my home) I let it all go during the yin yoga session. I balled my eyes out. Just be alone, cry, sob, scream, do what you need to LET IT GO. I believe 100% that we hold on to trauma in our body and that we have the power to let it go. It made me feel reborn after and enter the calm state. Thank you for this video.
Yes. Yin yoga has helped me so so much
It's absolutely true that trauma and negative emotions are stored in the body, this can often turn into physical symptoms or even chronic pain. Thank you for sharing this video!
Love her voice. It’s so comforting.
Most profound line in the first 60 seconds: "when you calm your nervous system, you can then think clearly".
In middle school I helped many kids get out of terrible home situations. Because of the awful situations I was unable to share it with the outside world. It wasn't until about 7 or 8 years later that I'm finally realizing the trauma and PTSD this gave me. Suppressed memories I didn't even know I had are popping up out of nowhere when I see certain related things such as scars, cut wrists, baseball bats, guns, etc. This one video alone was a major help. thank you.
Amazing video. You have a great manner about you. Thank you! ❤
Thank you so much for your perspective and your ability to clearly explain concepts and allow us to consider anecdotal evidence versus empirical evidence in a balanced way. I sincerely appreciate everything you do for this channel, for us your viewers, and for the therapy community at large. Thank you 💕💕💕
I am so happy I found you, your videos are exactly what I have needed to see after 20 years of suppressed emotions from my childhood; everything you say makes so much sense and helps me instantly. I am uncovering deeper dimensions of myself so I can live the rest of my life with grace. My deepest gratitude to you 🙏🏾🙏🏾♥️♥️♥️
So happy to hear this Rudland
I read peter levine's book "releasing the tiger", and highly recommend it to thoroughly understand trauma recovery.
Wow I wish I had found your video sooner! This is just what I needed today! Thank you so much for teaching us!
It’s nice to have these free tools from you as I am currently working though some difficult emotions caused from past traumas and such. Thank you and have a nice weekend!
I have been struggling with tension in my neck for over a year. I have a seemingly weak vagal tone. In my first acupuncture treatment I became very emotional and was laughing or almost crying for around 5-10 minutes. I have also been doing different vagus nerve activation exercises and when I am able to deeply relax I often cry. During the past year I feel like I have been very out of touch with my emotions and I feel as though my nervous system is trapped in that "freeze" response. There is some deep trauma that needs release.
Interesting I think I have tension in mine as well sometimes I feel lightheaded….
How did it turn out for you?
Yoga could help you
There have been times when I excersize and the feel and overwhelming sense of emotions (anger,fear, Grief) then burst out in tears and then I start to feel better.
I just wanted to say you are a truly good person, and I am so grateful for you and all that you do for people like me struggling with just existing and coping with the trauma that lives in our bodies and minds. So many try to sell peace, but you make help accessible for all by reaching out and making videos like this. They are life saving. Thank you so much, and God bless you.
Thank you for providing the help we need. I have been afraid to go to psychotherapists, but when I see your videos I just feel like I can pinpoint what has been happening to me.
The moment i started my healing journey and after almost 2 years of not knowing how to release my emotions, I am starting to work through my emotions, and feel lighter after every single time!
For my i haven’t been able to cry for a long time, lately when I started to let my emotions surface I started to cry them all out with mentioning them and saying how i feel out loud. It has helped me immensely..also i have been doing PMR and yoga, and workouts, I realized that this is an ongoing journey that does not stop..
I've struggled with postnatal anxiety for a while and whenever I'm feeling super disembodied I usually dance as much as I can because a) it's always helped me feel better and b) I can simply tell my daughter that mama feels like dancing, so she happily joins in. Amazing to realise that the calming effect is an actual biological response and not just me distracting myself, which was what i was told to believe.
Love that your daughter joins the dancing 🥺✨
Thanks again for this. Feelings are called feelings because we feel them. When we hold onto them, we literally store them in our bodies and our stories keep them stuck there. The idea of processing and releasing emotions through the body, even through crying, in my experience, can open us up, allow our minds to be more flexible and in that space, open the doors for greater perspective and happiness.
I can't cry or rather I'm scared to cry.I have been having swallowing issues and I had a swallow study done and I have had a indoscopy done and everything checks out fine He says I can eat anything but I can't.I feel the same choking sensation.I have been scared to cry.I know that's sounds crazy and also have lost quite a bit of weight.I watch these platforms hoping to gain insight.You all have helped.
@@barbarahamilton3037 maybe a deep tissue massage would help, it would allow that trapped energy of emotional buildup to be released
You're awesome and thank you sooo much for sharing this information
Thank you so much for sharing this ❤
Seriously I have lived with mental health setbacks due to trauma. In all my years, I have never had a single more productive therapy sesh than this one. I truly feel our mental healthcare workers really don’t think or care about people like me. If we had more people like you things would get better for so many.
I just want to tell you that God loves you more than you could ever want to be loved! He wants a personal relationship with you if you will let Him into your heart. The most important decision you will ever make is where you will spend eternity. The Bible says that you can know that you have eternal life in heaven, but If you are putting your trust in anything other than the finished work of Jesus on the cross to get you to heaven, you do not understand God's way.
The Bible says that we are all sinners. When God created Adam and Eve, He made them perfect without sin, but they chose to disobey God and became sinful in nature. This sin nature was passed down to all humanity.
Romans 5:12 Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:
Our sin separates us from God.
Romans 3:23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
A holy, righteous God cannot allow sin into heaven. Sin must be paid for and God's price for sin is death, but not just a physical death, but a spiritual death which means separation from God forever in hell.
Revelation 21:8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
In the Old Testament when man sinned, God required the sacrifice of a perfectly spotless lamb as a substitute in the place of the sinner. The blood of that lamb was only a temporary payment for their sin and so this had to be done often. Jesus Christ, God's Son took on flesh, was born of a virgin, lived a sinless life and offered Himself as that perfect, spotless Lamb and shed His blood as payment for the sins of the whole world.
John 1:29 The next day John seeth Jesus coming unto him, and saith, Behold the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sin of the world.
Jesus loved us so much He WILLINGLY came and allowed wicked men to spit on Him, mock Him and scourge Him until He was unrecognizable. They stripped him naked, thrust a crown of thorns on His head and nailed His hands and feet to a cross. He hung in agony for hours bleeding, thirsting, struggling for every breath. He died innocently in our place so that we could be saved from going to hell. It was His blood that satisfied the just demands of a holy God. God will not accept anything else.
There is no greater love than that!
John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
The good news is that Jesus didn't stay dead in the grave. He came back to life 3 days later just like He promised and He still lives today!
Matthew 28:5 And the angel answered and said unto the women, Fear not ye: for I know that ye seek Jesus, which was crucified.
6. He is not here: for he is risen, as he said. Come, see the place where the Lord lay.
Jesus did all this because He wants to give you the FREE gift of eternal life in heaven with Him!
You cannot do anything to earn your own way into heaven. You can't work for it, be baptized for it, go to church for it or try to be good enough for it. It is a FREE gift that God is offering to anyone who will simply receive it by faith.
Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Ephesians 2:8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
9. Not of works, lest any man should boast.
God said there is only one way to get to heaven, but it is not hard. You must admit you are a sinner headed for hell. You must believe that Jesus died and paid for your sin with His own blood on the cross, was buried and 3 days later rose from the dead. Then you must repent of your sins and call on God for mercy to save you from hell and give you eternal life in heaven with Him.
Romans 10:9 that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
13. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
None of us deserve God's mercy and grace, but let me warn you that if you reject His FREE gift, you are already condemned and when you die, you will suffer the torment of burning in hell for eternity in a lake of fire where you will be forever separated from God and all that is loving and good.
John 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
Revelation 20:15 And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.
Please don't wait. Don't take the risk of putting it off until another day, repent, turn to Christ NOW wherever you are at because you aren't guaranteed to live another day on this Earth. Believe God's Word, ask Him to save you and He will!
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Massage often makes me cry deeply. And afterwards I feel a huge release.
Watching just two of your videos has taught me more about myself than any therapist I’ve dealt with. Thank you, time to watch more of your videos 😁.
thank you so much for doing this. you are helping so many people, myself included, who are suffering from ptsd, post-miscarriage, depression and anxiety- alllll in the context of this pandemic and the isolation so many of us are enduring. thank you, you're a saint.
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I'm a foreigner and english is not my first language. I'm very thankful for the pace voice you use and to use static text when citing other authors. It really helps spread this message further : )
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Salve!
I am a trained professional and I SO appreciate what you are doing! I am saving your videos. I am sharing them with people who I know are struggling. I am rewatching certain ones myself. THANK YOU!!!
Your diction is so soothing. I appreciate you. I don't need no other therapy.
Perfect timing just had a mental breakdown down 👍😊
How are you feeling now, that a few days have passed?
Sending love vibes your way from Texas ♡
Sorry to hear that, friend :( I hope you're feeling better now!
It's about turning your life over to Christ not to a counselor with a degree
@@omar-uu8qo:// this mentality can be pretty harmful. I'm a Christian, but it's still important to address your problems and unhelpful thinking patterns via processing the issue (ie in therapy or through reflection or journaling) in addition to seeking help from God. I think processing can make it easier to reach out to God, because it's easier to function when you're not in distress. God can also show you where you need work and allow you to actively work on changing. They can go hand in hand
As someone with C-PTSD, all the years of trauma have caused a huge sever between myself and my body. I am very grateful to have come across this video and techniques and i think it will add great improvement to my continuous healing 💕
Im so glad to have found you! Very informative and easy to understand. Thank you so much for improving so many lives. 🌞
Therapy and counseling is great. In a world full of Knowledge at our finger tips like this is god sent!!
When you shut down one emotion, your shutting down a lot other emotions. That is EXACTLY what I’ve been dealing with and you just helped me connect the two. I’ve been shunned from my family 22 years due to leaving the cult I was raised in- they all stayed. 1 month ago I found out one of my brothers was found dead in his home. And I was/am not allowed at his funeral, cause of death or knowledge of where he is buried. I told myself I’m ok, I don’t have to feel this pain. For weeks I have walked in a state of apathy- now I know why, And how to help myself. Thank you for all the help you provide
I loved the shake-dance exercise. I immediately began crying, but more like release than discomfort. Thank you for this video!
Same
:’) happy for you! happy healing ❤
Thank you so much for putting this online. We don’t have the money to buy health insurance and paying out of pocket isn’t in the cards for us right now. I’m learning so much. I’ve started to let myself feel again and to be better at feeling. I wanna give my daughter the tools I never got growing up on how to process emotions. This is a true God send. Thank you ☺️
I have been through a lot... I am a woman and don't look how I did when I was " innocent " ... however this will help EVERY trauma
I use a worksheet called "Thought Log" ( I can email to you if you want a copy) . It has helped me a lot... you write:
- what's bothering you
- your thoughts about it (this is what you base your " alternative thought on", below)
-your emotions
-now write " alternative thoughts " to the thoughts that you wrote above ... basically an opposite thought to your first original thought...
Then you will feel a shift inside...and your feelings will change and oftentimes how the person that offended you... their feelings change towards you too
This simple lesson is so helpful. What’s else beautiful is that it can work for people in therapy and those who are not.
I just did this and did something I’ve only done a handful of times in my adult life: I bawled my eyes out. And it feels like such a weight is lifted off of my shoulders already, thank you for this!
Tears are agony in solution ♡
Dear Bart, It is perfectly fine to have a good cry. Sending hugs.
This is the most effective mental health channel I ever found. You don't push pills on people like some doctors. Thank you for taking away the FEAR I had about just talking about my mental health. Doctor you have a very calming way that you present the truth of what's going on inside the human mind. I 'll be back to this channel for help. Thank God for this blessing.
My thoughts exactly! I found her content this morning. Just watching a few of her videos; I’m wonderfully focused & at ease. She is clearly very smart and passionate, but her lovely aura seals the deal! I feel so grateful❤
I read all different kind of books and spiritual books and your channel helps bring you back to the basics you do such a amazing job at explaining things
Letting Go The Pathway of Surrender by David R Hawkins is an indepth "guide" to this theory
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Close your eyes 👀 Manifest your dreams before going to sleep 🛌 it feels amazing and will make you a better person
What if one has absolutely no goals or aspirations? I can't come up with anything
@@addysaw take the time to thank the universe for what you already have.
@@kateidid0630 thank you! I already practice this but I feel unhappy and directionless and aimless.
@@addysaw God and Jesus will change your life. If you’re not willing to seek them out, listen to Jordan Peterson’s advice.
I'm at the end of more than a decade of healing on all levels of my system and I've gone through a lot of different therapeutic and healing modalities. For the last 2 years I'v been almost conpletely homebound due to severe IBD issues and I love what you're explaining here. It's so true. Looking back on my life, I've been stuck in the symphatatic mode 24/7. Severe IBD, always cold, always on high alert, muscle tension etc. And in this last phase (it feels like that) I'm becoming more and more intuitive and let my body lead me. The dancing, the shaking, walking, kicking etc. help with releasing what wants to get out. Sometimes even spontanuous when meditating. I'm calmer, more relaxed and I feel my bowels and intestines healing.
A long story, but I wanted to share this to confirm. And thank you for this great video, your explanation ia spot on and I love the stories of the polar bear and James Gordon ❤
I'm the same way, I'm getting really annoyed with drs not listening hoe my shoulder is screwed up and it's moved my shoulders blades, I have constant tension in my back, hard to breathe in and relax and its extremely hard to get out of bed, plus more issues
@@rickspalding3047 I don't see how your comment is the same, but it feels like you're carrying around aome resistance which translates itself through bodily pains. Maybe I'm wrong and I'm just filling in ofcourse. My greatest gift towards healing was finding out that I hold the keys to every door that leads to sincere relief. Releasing old grudges, grief, anger etc.
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I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you!
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
How did you heal yourself if you can explain more
You're literally saving lives, I hope you know that
The music is so soothing, calmed me down.
I’m a tattoo artist and there is a very common term used in our community “tattoo therapy” and in fact I’ve had many clients with past trauma, some who may have struggled with self harm, depression, addiction, and they now use getting tattooed as an outlet. Listening to the physical activation and relaxation makes me think of tattooing because it is a constant cycle of that. I myself after longer sessions have felt lighter and more clear than ever after getting tattooed.
I got my first tattoo at 16 when my family fell apart. I guess that was my way of releasing the grief. I have gotten more ever since and each of them was after some kind of traumatic moments. Thanks for sharing this.
I felt the same till I got my head tattooed lol
Interesting!
My niece is like this. Her mother is a crazy psycho bitch and it's not surprising therefore that she has trauma issues. I keep wondering though, what will happen when she runs out of space for her tats? I dislike the permanency of tattoos in this context. I wish she could experience relief through making paintings, for example, or another creative outlet, rather than inking her skin.
This is interesting because I want a tattoo but I don’t have one because I think of the ink going into the nervous system and creating illness, this is part of my anxiety because a holistic lady told me once that my piercing may be contributing to my anxiety because the metal affects the nervous system, anywhooo if you could clear this up for me or what the you know about ink and how it affects the nervous system that would be great so if it’s not true I can finally go out and get a tattoo!!! Haha
I love this. It actually makes me feel empowered, like I can work at my anxiety and actually get better. ❤👌
Yes!
Me too ❤️
Did it help?
@@kavaop2121 ye
@@Progressivelyyou nice it didnt for me
your content is poor gold. thank you!