Yes. This list is the definiton of my birth mother who is a malignant narcissist. I also revenged myself after being abused and it felt really good. She has stopped since.
My mother too. My one mind telling, she destroyed my life, and still doing it, so get revenge. Other mind telling, no. If I am, no different than her. She changed my sis, into narc like her. Mother is important in everyone life. Coz we are learning from her. Undo the bad learning takes years. Tim video helping me for last 3 months. Big changes
I recall believing I did NOT possess these traits, there was something wrong with me. I’m so grateful I don’t have these, and finally learned how to stay away from those who do!
This addresses so many variables in my life. Thankfully after completing the courses with LIFT, I gained a healthier viewpoint with positive feelings. Without the group and leadership here, I would have continued my self harm and abuse to others & from others.I was given love and I love life now. Thanks,
My parents fought and gambled and they put me into the hands of people who sexually abused me and used me for hard labor when I was still a child. I was teased by my own parents and spit on. And I was placed into the custody of the State through the courts by a petition brought by my parents. My parents left my home area and moved to Vegas and told me to not contact them. I was not invited to my mothers funeral and when I was hit my a truck two years ago my surviving parent told me to never call again and this was my funeral. I don’t gamble or do hard drugs. I don’t pursue people or relationships . I only care about the welfare of my children even though I don’t live with them . (Their mother had an affair and had a child from that. Then went on a downhill spiral with meth) . So now my only focus is working and building a new home and keeping a solid relationship with my children. However , I also don’t allow anyone close to me any longer or open up to get close enough to use me or harm me in any way. I’m very lonely to not have solid people to connect with on some levels. But I also know that chasing anyone or anything to fill a void is in no way going to serve me or heal my heart.
The song of the songs (Cantar de los cantares) was kind of "looked down as sinful" by the Catholic Church and the Spanish Inquisition. The Spanish mystics such as Saint Theresa of Jesus had problems with the Church due to their poetry. Another important mystic was San Juán de la Cruz whose poem The Dark Night of the Soul is nowadays referred as spiritual awakening.❤
Aside from people who never apologize, people also need to be wary of people who apologize too much. The latter usually has very low self-esteem and can be difficult to hang around because they are anxious all the time.
I think a more helpful way of looking at it is what part of me accepted being in a relationship with an unhealthy persons with with red flags that I ignored? The co narcissist and enabler.
@@SideB1984 I understand that part now , fear of abandonment , most people including myself weren’t aware of that in the toxic relationship. Still doesn’t make it right in my book to be evil because the other person enables it . I don’t like exploiting people
The first few minutes are word for word a description of my brothee in law. But my sister seems happy with him🤔🤔🤔 I've always found these things disturbing in him, but 🤷♀️ he's not my husband, and his wife and kids seem happy
If welfare is almost as much as a wage, wages should be raised. This is even more urgent in the context of a world with wealth disparity on a scale never seen before in history.
I am terrified to ask! Is the ideal of the healthy relationship of equal partnership in a marriage, truly analogous to the healthy relationship of each person and their GOD?
I think is not the same because it's idiolizing and nothing good comes from putting a mortal in a pedestal but in a way, spiritual love is a part of love. It's not all physical. I think I find sensual having an integral love that time can't erase but keeps growing.
Almost 5000 views but less than 20 comments. That shows how honest Tim speaks
man that's a painful list, cause i sadly see myself in many of these red flags. and more sadly, can't neatly and easily escape some of them..
Self awareness is the beginning. You’re on the right path! Keep on trying, keep working on yourself, and give yourself grace
One day at a time helps
I love that his lectures are digestible for even most teenagers.
Yes. This list is the definiton of my birth mother who is a malignant narcissist. I also revenged myself after being abused and it felt really good. She has stopped since.
My mother too. My one mind telling, she destroyed my life, and still doing it, so get revenge. Other mind telling, no. If I am, no different than her. She changed my sis, into narc like her. Mother is important in everyone life. Coz we are learning from her. Undo the bad learning takes years. Tim video helping me for last 3 months. Big changes
I recall believing I did NOT possess these traits, there was something wrong with me. I’m so grateful I don’t have these, and finally learned how to stay away from those who do!
This addresses so many variables in my life. Thankfully after completing the courses with LIFT, I gained a healthier viewpoint with positive feelings. Without the group and leadership here, I would have continued my self harm and abuse to others & from others.I was given love and I love life now. Thanks,
I'm starting soon if I only knew just 10 years ago
my husband has almost all of these…
Praise to the Lord
My parents fought and gambled and they put me into the hands of people who sexually abused me and used me for hard labor when I was still a child. I was teased by my own parents and spit on. And I was placed into the custody of the State through the courts by a petition brought by my parents. My parents left my home area and moved to Vegas and told me to not contact them. I was not invited to my mothers funeral and when I was hit my a truck two years ago my surviving parent told me to never call again and this was my funeral. I don’t gamble or do hard drugs. I don’t pursue people or relationships . I only care about the welfare of my children even though I don’t live with them . (Their mother had an affair and had a child from that. Then went on a downhill spiral with meth) . So now my only focus is working and building a new home and keeping a solid relationship with my children. However , I also don’t allow anyone close to me any longer or open up to get close enough to use me or harm me in any way. I’m very lonely to not have solid people to connect with on some levels. But I also know that chasing anyone or anything to fill a void is in no way going to serve me or heal my heart.
So sorry to hear this for you. I pray you 😊find safe people in your future as you continue to heal.
It's hard to find healthy people but in my sixties, it feels imposible, most people are wore down or broken. Sending love from Spain ❤
Thank you Thank you! 🙏🏼
Listening at work thank you so very much for this info and support
Lack of views shows the lack of healthy support in this world at the moment…
Neoliberalism want us toxicly independent and disconnected from other members of society.
The song of the songs (Cantar de los cantares) was kind of "looked down as sinful" by the Catholic Church and the Spanish Inquisition. The Spanish mystics such as Saint Theresa of Jesus had problems with the Church due to their poetry. Another important mystic was San Juán de la Cruz whose poem The Dark Night of the Soul is nowadays referred as spiritual awakening.❤
Aside from people who never apologize, people also need to be wary of people who apologize too much. The latter usually has very low self-esteem and can be difficult to hang around because they are anxious all the time.
Cptsd
Used to be me
This is a painful list, because sadly, most of these red flags are simply part and parcel of being Irish 😅😢🇮🇪
As well as Spanish, Italian, Russian, Jews and Muslim, etc.
Ironic as his first prayer was for Wisdom .
Power went to his head .
Should be titled, if your in a relationship with somebody and this sounds familiar, then you might be with a narcissist
I think a more helpful way of looking at it is what part of me accepted being in a relationship with an unhealthy persons with with red flags that I ignored? The co narcissist and enabler.
@@SideB1984 I understand that part now , fear of abandonment , most people including myself weren’t aware of that in the toxic relationship. Still doesn’t make it right in my book to be evil because the other person enables it . I don’t like exploiting people
@@marianatequiero28 I agree, it doesn’t make it right. I’m so glad we are aware now and can take steps to protect ourselves.
The first few minutes are word for word a description of my brothee in law. But my sister seems happy with him🤔🤔🤔
I've always found these things disturbing in him, but 🤷♀️ he's not my husband, and his wife and kids seem happy
It’s probably because you’re seeing external image and not what goes on behind closed doors idk
So true about gambling, intermittent success i can identify.
Intermitent reinforcement is highly adictive.
Like any relationship in a Hareem is healthy!!!😂
Thank you Tim. Your series are very helpful in understanding myself 🙏
Do you do interviews as well?
Yes. tim@findingfreedom.ca
If welfare is almost as much as a wage, wages should be raised. This is even more urgent in the context of a world with wealth disparity on a scale never seen before in history.
I agree. There's so much explotation and corporations and multinationals are ruling the world. Politics are not about the People.
Don’t take advice from people that don’t like you !!!
I am terrified to ask! Is the ideal of the healthy relationship of equal partnership in a marriage, truly analogous to the healthy relationship of each person and their GOD?
I think is not the same because it's idiolizing and nothing good comes from putting a mortal in a pedestal but in a way, spiritual love is a part of love. It's not all physical. I think I find sensual having an integral love that time can't erase but keeps growing.