I failed my first year of med school and I stayed in my room for an entire year. The only time I went out was to give my exams last month. Now I’ve passed it and my classes start on Monday and I have no fucking idea how to integrate into society again. I recently discovered your channel and idk why but watching your videos just makes me feel less shitty. Kinda comforting to know there are more people like me
hey! hope youre doing better :( im an engineering student and i failed my first semester, so i stayed in my room for almost 6 months or so lmao, i don't have any idea of how integrate back either cause my life is sucking right now, but i think it takes time to love yourself enough to get out of that black hole
My university days were some of my worst. And this is coming from someone who was at uni back in 2009-2012 so I've had some time to think about it since. I was dealing with depression already before uni so then it just made it worse. I was stuck in this circle of not having the energy to study, to feeling guilty because of it and putting it off even more. It was a nightmare. People who don't know what depression feels like will never get it. My mom used to call me lazy and wouldn't acknowledge it when I would say I'm depressed. I don't know how I managed to finish uni and keep half of my sanity intact, but I would advise anyone who goes through it to seek help. It's very difficult to go through it on your own.
First , sorry for my bad english Iam in the third year in computer science university i relate to you i had depression for the first two years in college and go to theraby , take medication and my doctor told me that iam okay after 1.5 year and can go on my own without session or medication But i feel like i failed i thought it will be easier but things almost go worst than when i had depression already I failed and have summer course now , i feel exhausted and ashamed to be like this , gained weight , feeling lonely .
I'm notorious for rotting in my bed/room days on end so it was very comforting seeing that someone does the same sometimes. Just some advice: Ebb and flow. Feel all the feels and let it go. If it takes a few days to feel okay, then so be it! One thing for certain is that the feelings dont last forever. Love you and your videos once again
agree you won’t be okay in a few days but eventually you will start feeling better life goes on and we cannot stay in that darkness forever we either stay or move on and try not think about it. :(
and then theres me stuckwith this latent subliminal depression going on, not bad enough to get therapy and not good enough to feel happy.. Been like this for almost 2 years now and I have no friends left to talk to.
Gurl, I am 22 as well and have literally nothing figured out as well so that part spoke to my soul lmao, Also I recently was rejected in one of my internship interviews and I sulked for a week straight lol All i wanted to say is that it is normal to feel that way and whoever is reading this comment I want you to know that it does get better and you will have amaaazing opportunities for ya❤ Also Via congratulations for 10k, you have grown so fast and you derserve the world I honestly feel like seeing a bestie in another part of the world so love you 💟 And amazing video as always🎉
I remember how depressed I was at around that age too because of the job-searching, getting rejected for a lot of times. I studied abroad and was looking for a job in this country, so knowing that I have a 'deadline' (only had 3 months after graduating to find a job, or else you'll have to go back to your country) made it all so much worse. So, just know that you're not alone! Also, I can vouch that talking to yourself DOES help with your mental health :) I have a really low self-esteem and I'm really bad at the self-love thing. I often criticize myself when I did/said something stupid that day, and ended up getting really down because of it. I realized that I should stop doing that, so whenever I start to get angry at myself, or frustrated about the bad things that happened that day, I would talk to myself, trying to comfort myself in a third-person point of view way, like I'm trying to comfort a friend. I know some people might think it's really weird/ stupid, but it helps me A LOT. Ever since I started doing that, I blame myself less and less, and started to be a more positive person now (and journaling definitely helps too!). And I find that talking to myself helps me sort out my thoughts much better, because even though it's just you talking to yourself, it kind of feels like you're having a discussion with someone. I think this is also part of the reason of why I can spend time with just myself for a long time haha. Anyways, thank you for sharing with us! I love your videos, and it amazes me how eloquent you are when speaking out your thoughts (because I was so far from that when I was 22 lol). I hope things has gotten better for you☘ : )
Hi, I also talk to myself. I can confirm that it is not stupid or weird, it is just looked down upon in our society. And why? Who knows? What matters is that it makes us feel okay. Do you have any advice for someone who is constantly struggling with their self-confidence/self-esteem?
@@thisismahba9935 For me, I think one of the reason that I have low self-esteem/self-confidence is that I care too much about what other people think, so being able to not care about what other people think of you is a great place to start. I've been putting this "The subtle Art of not giving a F*ck" book by Mark Manson on my next reading list, so if you are like me, you could try giving that book a try! Another thing that helps me, is that I put this section called "Compliment of the Day" on my Journal. So, after writing down everything that happened to me on that day, I would write a few compliments to myself for whatever it is that I achieved/accomplished that day. It doesn't have to be something big, it can be small and simple stuffs too, like "You managed to wake up early today, great job!" or "Today was tough, you had a mental breakdown today, but you did well holding on today. Be proud :)", like that. And when I can't think of anything to compliment myself on, I would just write some pep talks, as if I'm trying to cheer up a friend. So it's kind off like giving yourself a pats in the back for every bad and good things that happened that day, and this really help me to love myself better. And what I love about doing this, is that whenever I have another moments of self-doubt in the future, I could just look back at my past journals and see what I've accomplished so far. That always boost my confidence. Tbh, I'm still struggling on the self-esteem department myself, but these things that I told you does help me become better, so I hope it works for you too! :)
I got fired because of shitty hr and upper management, and I've been stuck in my room for a year and six months now. I've developed anxiety about applying for jobs because I'm scared of what my old company might say if they're contacted. I've cried every night and feel incredibly alone. Thankfully, I've started to push myself to get out there and apply for some jobs. Please keep me in your thoughts!
Wishing you peace & success. Go to the "Employment Security Dept" (unemployment office) in your state. There should be several if you're in the US. They will offer all sorts of training classes to help you with all aspects of looking for a job. They will also have job fairs and companies that come specifically to hire workers. Start your next job with somethin you can enjoy doing. I was in the corporate world for 15 years and took leave of absence for workplace bullying. I was traumatized -- then Covid happened and didn't work for 2 years ... I did not have the confidence to do anything (and I have an MBA!) I took a job at Nordstrom wrapping Xmas presents because I love wrapping gifts. Six weeks of that, and a kind manager brought me back to life. One good thing led to another - I've worked in a college for the past two- years, using my degree, and do compliance/accreditation. Good luck! You can get back into the groove if you try this approach. XoXo
GIRL I LOVE YOU! I have been crying all morning. Have not been able to get out of it. but because of your video i cracked a smile! you are so hilarious and raw. Thank you for you vulnerability :) You allowed me to have some relief and normalcy because of your vlog!!! Going to therapy today and looking forward to it!!!
"I'm 22 and I have nothing figured out in my life." Girl. You're 22!!!! Nobody has it figured out :) I'm almost 29 and I look back to myself at 22, I had nooooothing figured out but I just kept trucking! Now life is pretty good. There are still lots of hurdles, set-backs, challenges that interrupt your plans. But just keep it moving and you'll be ok ~
This is so real, helpful and puts me in a good mood seeing I'm not alone with all these struggles. Can't thank you enough. Hope you're always healthy and happy in future 🫡
give yourself some slack because sometimes we really don't know if it's our general health making it harder to cope with or hormones and emotions. I'm convinced i deal with pcos and everyday I tell myself I know I'm not lazy and sad. i constantly try to tell myself I'm worth more than my current state and it'll get better.
im 21 and omg when i saw ur vlog, i cant stop thinking that whattt? this gurl was describing exactly my life. it just up and down, u know. whenever my depressed period comes, i just want to disappear. and sometimes, i really do it. i stay at my room and not answer any call or messages, yeh, it freaks out my family and bff a lots, but I just dont know how to handle all of this. anw, ur vlog helps me so much, really, I do feel better after watch it. thanks a lot my dear ❤ hope u have a better day.
I wish i had ‘episodes’ i’ve always just had it. Finally after 5 years, i am being admitted to the psychiatric hospital… it’s scary, but i’m sick, i need help. I hope you are doing well
I felt at the end like I'm gonna cry cause I've been recently in a mental breakdown and as u said IT WASN'T FUN every time it’s so hard to get myself together and feel happiness again. Thank u so much for sharing ur experience with honesty now at least I don’t feel alone going through that
We’re in this era of social media where you can say things like “my 6 day depressive episode” and nobody will bat an eye. A depressive episode is 2 weeks or more and can last weeks or months, and I think it’s important to make this distinction. I just wanted to post this comment as a reminder for younger folks so that if they find themselves in a depressive episode, they aren’t harsh on themselves for not being able to girlboss their way out if it in a week. I sat with this comment for a few minutes to make sure I wanted to post it. My goal is not to be overly critical, but I think this subject is an example of how mental health awareness gets skewed by social media. For someone who is depressed, learning the facts is powerful in treating and overcoming the symptoms and episodes. Thanks 💙
I actually spent this spring break the same way you did. I couldn't get out of my bed, I was trying to be the less conscious possible so I could escape my thoughts so I was waking up super late and going to sleep within 4 hours. Though I don't see it going better, I feel like we are in a similar situation and I truly appreciate how genuine you are about it. I can't wait to see where you're going to go in life and how you're going to use your creative mind. In any case, I hope you'll keep this kind of vlog. Have a good day!
bestie this vlog was SO real- ugh sorry you had that week :( I’ve literally been feeling the same over the past week, I graduate in the summer and have nooo idea what comes next- which has literally sent me into so much confusion and sadness, I feel you a lot and I’m sending a lot of love, just remember ur not alone, take it day by day and keep going❤️❤️❤️
I’m 21 and am a few weeks into my third year of uni after taking a gap year and honestly I’ve been struggling so much to get back into everything ngl, this video helped me a lot
i recently started a full time job, but it was more for the sole purpose of becoming more social and active, and less of a bum ;p but I do miss spending days at home all the time, I think its nice to reflect and be in your own quiet space ty for sharing. and i hope things get better for you. I'm also 22, and I've yet to reach the feeling of complacency :(
I can't even say how this channel changes me, and makes me so much better, because sometimes I need to relate to someone and in my mind everything for everyone is perfect or pretty nice, and it's just me who's failing. Thank you Via. You are inspiring. I wish you all success and very good mental health. ❤
Love your videos, my best friend just left me and now I feel completly bad, I already suffer from general anxiety and also fear of abandonment and I really feel like life has ended, but you videos motivate me a lot, thank you sm
Watching this definitely gave me some sort of ability to clear out my thoughts a bit. I always was told that I don't deserve to be depressed, and sometimes wouldn't be able to have a definite reason on why I am depressed, and I would feel so guilty that I feel that way, which just makes me spiral worse. Being in a toxic environment, it's difficult to be able to have time to myself and find things that I enjoy due to what's expected of me.
10:36 "I feel like everyone is succeeding except me or moving forward and idk where to go" I'm also 22 and I feel that soooo deeply. I want to overcome this mindset this year 🙏
After the spring semester I always am like this for a straight two weeks. I don’t leave my room, I don’t see sun, all I do is drink water and eat dinner. Its like my recoup time to reflect on whatever that last semester was.
Going through this exact episode right now and have no motivation to get out of it but I know I have to or the cycle will never end, this helped so much, you’re incredible
Hate to say twinsies 👯♀️ but oml samee, I literally went out this afternoon for the first time in six days 🕺🏽 also just want to say I’m mostly (almost always) a silent watcher but you seem like a really cool person and your videos always make my day 🩷 so thank you and remember to be patient with yourself 🫶🏽
"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest" Matthew 11:28-30. May God heal us and give us the peace and strength to keep going..
This was perfectly timed via I’m on Easter break before exams and this whole week I’ve been holed up in my room not revising or doing ANYTHING even isolating myself from friends... I want to end literally today because I need to start revising for my exams in a month ❤ so thank you for this ly
I don't know if you're ever gonna see this but I just discovered your channel and this video in particular managed to gave me a little bit of that serenity I've veen missing for some time now. I am literally just coming out of a very bad episode, and I'm grateful that I lived through another day to watch this video ❤ I'm 26, started my master school and currently in my exam time which has been incredibly stressful and caused me a lot of panic attacks, hence the depressive episode kicking in - everything that was depicted here was extremely accurate, and admittedly it made me feel less alone. Thank you for sharing your experience, it really means a lot ❤ keep up the beautiful stuff!
omg via, you are so not alone... also 22 and have nothing figured out at all!!!! I got let go at my old job due to budget cuts and have been struggling for the past couple months but things did slowly fall into place, just remember this is totally normal and things will turn around eventually (yea i know its not concrete and that is not helpful) ❤ sending love from Copenhagen
That is so cool you are in Boston. Im moving there this summer and I can totally relate to you with feeling how everyone else is succeeding at a higher level and personally feeling stuck, alone, and hopeless.
I'm 21 and are going to START studying this fall, I had no idea what I wanted to be when I graduated 2021, and now I still have no idea what I want to do, and the job I have is not great, it makes my mental health so much worse, and yet I only work 80% (32h/week). BTW, the way you sew that dress was really great for being the first (?) time!!
My friend has a severe depression. We usually talk online since we are in a long distance situation. And suddenly these are two weeks he has cut off the contact with me. I asked for his situation and he told me that he was in another depression episode couldn’t do the basic things and wanted me to stop and let go of him. I let him space, still wait for him to be okay and still want to be his friend. His words hurt me somehow but I know he’s a different person when he is okay. thank u for ur video to educate myself how bad depression is. Send hug to u.
Girlie you literally have a successful UA-cam channel and you're talented at art! You are already going far in life and I guarantee you that others think the same. Anyway it's so chill listening to ur videos while I tidy my room
I'm so sorry for what happened about your depressive episode. I had several too recently even tho they were not this long. I relate a lot to your feelings, thank you for letting me feel less alone ❤ sending much love and i hope you're doing fine ❤
this video was so comforting! :') i always relate to u a lot, honestly it's nice hearing someone else vocalise all these feelings 😭😭 i hope u have a good day or evening
My cgpa fell so badly this semester and I feel like the biggest failure bc it seems like everyone around me has their life together, gets good grades, has a love life, good friends, money, a stable job and just overall a better life and I'm just... nothing. A failure. Not good enough in any way, I'm always so sad... I'm waiting for the good times to come but I'm Always met with the tough ones :// But thank you this video made me feel like I'm not alone, and it made me feel less horrible about rotting in my bed for days too
Just gave my exams (they are important since I am gonna need the results of it to have a chance to get into a decent college). Got violently murdered by them and it went so horrible I came home and cried my eyes out for days. I even cried at the exam venue (it was embarrassing I regret doing that😭). Waiting for the results to come out with no hopes lol. But I have been taking time to heal and journal my thoughts and it has helped immensely. I am scared of going back to school incase my classmates ask me wtf happened to me at the exam hall, but to anyone struggling through a tough time, we got this!!❤ Your vlog was very comforting, thank you so much for this. I feel less sad and anxious❤💕❤ Edit: 13:58 I really resonate with what you said in this part. Asking when is it gonna get better? because just comfort and words from other people such as "It's gonna get better", predictions are just not enough. Waiting is painful. I was told all that after my horrible performance in my exams. But let's keep holding on together❤
You are really good at describing things in a humorous way, I have to admit I had a wee giggle but then felt bad because I do feel for you. But being vulnerable and not getting things right all then time is normal! Learning takes time and with time you will get better for sure! There's no shame in being vulnerable. It's human and normal 😊
Im 28 and feel a disappointment aswell, at least you're creating youtube videos and all that which is great, im doin nothin, have no motivation to study , work or go outside, i feel like i fell in a void and i cant get out!
I'm in a rotting moment. I got to school come home and rot. Rot rot rot. Sometimes it's hard to even get out of bed when this happens. I feel you girl. I hope I can worm out of this mindset 😢
Heyy, girl been watching your reels for a while and I can say there are so many of us who are just alone and struggling with life. Keep your heads up, we can sail through this all. Love your energy 🦋💕
Eu não gosto muito de sair (a não ser de carro) pq sinto muita ansiedade com pessoas ao meu redor, principalmente homens, como se eu estivesse em um perigo constante. Mas a Via, que é uma pessoa a qual eu me identifico muito em alguns aspectos, e admiro demais, fala tanto sobre como é importante sair, aproveitar uma boa caminhada, que está fazendo com que eu fique um pouco menos nervosa sobre ter que sair amanhã. Talvez, graças às experiências e reflexões que ela compartilha de forma tão sincera, eu consiga me manter mais presente no momento e aproveitar a luz do sol.
I live in the same city as you and watching this is bringing me the vibes from when I used to take the train to school in the winter. Love love your content, keep it up!
Sending love and hugs your way. Your vlogs are comforting, inspiring and keep me going. Hope you are doing better. Your vlogs are amazing and cozy. I can completely relate with you . Lots of love ❤🫶💖🫂💟🤍🩵💗.
Major depression has nearly destroyed my life the past 4-5 yrs. Three things seem to help- 1. Rule of ONE. For one week choose one thing you can do daily that will make it a success. Keep it simple, but engaging. 2. Don’t apologize for a week. See how you feel. (Variation of be kind to self) 3. Help someone else. Start of each convo with “How’s things with you?” It’s one step at a time then two steps back. Ten forward, then fall of a cliff. But like I tell fellow alcoholics… a slip up doesn’t have to turn into a relapse.
I can't lie but I love your videos❤you should not feel bad because you try your best every single day but always give yourself rest and do things that you love,that is when you start to feel better (inside and outside of your mind).
the key to not see the thread on the other side is to not push the needle all the way through. Push it through to almost piercing through and take it back- it'll grab a teeny enough of the fabric to hold the stitch without leaving the large sign of the thread. Not sure if that even makes sense!
24 and 8th month being home bc of a burnout and depression. I go from my bed to the couch and back. Day in...day out. I'm getting therapy though, and gonna discuss medication soon. Because nothing I try works. I'm a nurse and very aware what could help for my mental health. But I've lost all the will to live, everything seems useless even myself. I hope I will be able to help myself get out of this.
I had this too for months. I am really sorry that you went through that. I unfortunately can’t get therapy it’s forbidden for my career path but I hope that everyone who goes through this will get help
Hey, I tried to send two messages about your loner post but only one went through. I wanted you to know that I'm the same, and like you, I found solace in my online viewership. Happy to listen to you and your experience, creator to creator.
when you were talking and having that popsicle the things you talked about were honestly so relatable i feel better btw hope that popsicle was good and im not sure if bears eat humans but i wouldnt try my luck lol
its my easter break now I haven't left my room in a week and I am graduating in few months and I got rejected from so many jobs. I just wanna feel better....and what do I do to feel better! I watch your vlogs..
It's absolutely normal to say that you don't know where you are going in the future or not succeeding, Via : ) You are truly pretty, people may not mention it because they are not as beautiful as you are (FACT). You are such a brave woman who is not afraid to get out of her comfort zone :D C'mon, you have a UA-cam channel and you make amazing videos ^_^ Plus, you have fans, true fans (at least I am one fan of yours). Please, take care of yourself and stay happy with this gorgeous smile ^_^
I failed my first year of med school and I stayed in my room for an entire year. The only time I went out was to give my exams last month. Now I’ve passed it and my classes start on Monday and I have no fucking idea how to integrate into society again. I recently discovered your channel and idk why but watching your videos just makes me feel less shitty. Kinda comforting to know there are more people like me
Yea, it all just takes time
Like she mentioned in the video, you might now know when things get better but I genuinely hope they get better for you soon. Good luck :)
hey! hope youre doing better :( im an engineering student and i failed my first semester, so i stayed in my room for almost 6 months or so lmao, i don't have any idea of how integrate back either cause my life is sucking right now, but i think it takes time to love yourself enough to get out of that black hole
Awww hope you’re doing better :”) God bless you
this was so validating
My university days were some of my worst. And this is coming from someone who was at uni back in 2009-2012 so I've had some time to think about it since. I was dealing with depression already before uni so then it just made it worse. I was stuck in this circle of not having the energy to study, to feeling guilty because of it and putting it off even more. It was a nightmare. People who don't know what depression feels like will never get it. My mom used to call me lazy and wouldn't acknowledge it when I would say I'm depressed. I don't know how I managed to finish uni and keep half of my sanity intact, but I would advise anyone who goes through it to seek help. It's very difficult to go through it on your own.
First , sorry for my bad english
Iam in the third year in computer science university i relate to you i had depression for the first two years in college and go to theraby , take medication and my doctor told me that iam okay after 1.5 year and can go on my own without session or medication
But i feel like i failed i thought it will be easier but things almost go worst than when i had depression already
I failed and have summer course now , i feel exhausted and ashamed to be like this , gained weight , feeling lonely .
I'm notorious for rotting in my bed/room days on end so it was very comforting seeing that someone does the same sometimes. Just some advice: Ebb and flow. Feel all the feels and let it go. If it takes a few days to feel okay, then so be it! One thing for certain is that the feelings dont last forever. Love you and your videos once again
yes nothing lasts forever! feelings are temporary 🌟🌟 we need to constantly remind ourselves that! and tysm for watching bb ♥️
agree you won’t be okay in a few days but eventually you will start feeling better life goes on and we cannot stay in that darkness forever we either stay or move on and try not think about it. :(
I’m notorious for rotting in the room because I’m not allowed to go outside. There’s nothing worse than being deprived by of your own freedom.
and then theres me stuckwith this latent subliminal depression going on, not bad enough to get therapy and not good enough to feel happy.. Been like this for almost 2 years now and I have no friends left to talk to.
Girl I’m 28 and have nothing in my life figured out and have been severely depressed, your videos are so uplifting and comforting though 💕
Same but 30 lol
Same, but 34 😢😂
ur content is so relatable it’s rly nice to see cuz everyone seems to have their life together😭
ilysmmmm and ugh it fr stresses me out
I'm glad you're recovering, depressive episodes are hard. Sending love to my comfort girl always
ILYSMMMM muah ♥️♥️♥️
Which way of news is most accessible to beginner ? Pls find the pictures and seminar to not very helpful 😑.
Gurl, I am 22 as well and have literally nothing figured out as well so that part spoke to my soul lmao,
Also I recently was rejected in one of my internship interviews and I sulked for a week straight lol
All i wanted to say is that it is normal to feel that way and whoever is reading this comment I want you to know that it does get better and you will have amaaazing opportunities for ya❤
Also Via congratulations for 10k, you have grown so fast and you derserve the world
I honestly feel like seeing a bestie in another part of the world so love you 💟
And amazing video as always🎉
this is so incredibly sweet and so true! it is normal to feel sad emotions although it is hard 🥹 thank u sm for sharing this 🌟🌟i appreciate u so much
You're not suppose to have anything figured out at 22!! Just enjoy your youth!
I remember how depressed I was at around that age too because of the job-searching, getting rejected for a lot of times. I studied abroad and was looking for a job in this country, so knowing that I have a 'deadline' (only had 3 months after graduating to find a job, or else you'll have to go back to your country) made it all so much worse. So, just know that you're not alone!
Also, I can vouch that talking to yourself DOES help with your mental health :)
I have a really low self-esteem and I'm really bad at the self-love thing. I often criticize myself when I did/said something stupid that day, and ended up getting really down because of it.
I realized that I should stop doing that, so whenever I start to get angry at myself, or frustrated about the bad things that happened that day, I would talk to myself, trying to comfort myself in a third-person point of view way, like I'm trying to comfort a friend. I know some people might think it's really weird/ stupid, but it helps me A LOT.
Ever since I started doing that, I blame myself less and less, and started to be a more positive person now (and journaling definitely helps too!). And I find that talking to myself helps me sort out my thoughts much better, because even though it's just you talking to yourself, it kind of feels like you're having a discussion with someone.
I think this is also part of the reason of why I can spend time with just myself for a long time haha.
Anyways, thank you for sharing with us! I love your videos, and it amazes me how eloquent you are when speaking out your thoughts (because I was so far from that when I was 22 lol). I hope things has gotten better for you☘ : )
Hi, I also talk to myself. I can confirm that it is not stupid or weird, it is just looked down upon in our society. And why? Who knows? What matters is that it makes us feel okay. Do you have any advice for someone who is constantly struggling with their self-confidence/self-esteem?
@@thisismahba9935 For me, I think one of the reason that I have low self-esteem/self-confidence is that I care too much about what other people think, so being able to not care about what other people think of you is a great place to start. I've been putting this "The subtle Art of not giving a F*ck" book by Mark Manson on my next reading list, so if you are like me, you could try giving that book a try!
Another thing that helps me, is that I put this section called "Compliment of the Day" on my Journal.
So, after writing down everything that happened to me on that day, I would write a few compliments to myself for whatever it is that I achieved/accomplished that day. It doesn't have to be something big, it can be small and simple stuffs too, like "You managed to wake up early today, great job!" or "Today was tough, you had a mental breakdown today, but you did well holding on today. Be proud :)", like that. And when I can't think of anything to compliment myself on, I would just write some pep talks, as if I'm trying to cheer up a friend.
So it's kind off like giving yourself a pats in the back for every bad and good things that happened that day, and this really help me to love myself better.
And what I love about doing this, is that whenever I have another moments of self-doubt in the future, I could just look back at my past journals and see what I've accomplished so far. That always boost my confidence.
Tbh, I'm still struggling on the self-esteem department myself, but these things that I told you does help me become better, so I hope it works for you too! :)
I got fired because of shitty hr and upper management, and I've been stuck in my room for a year and six months now. I've developed anxiety about applying for jobs because I'm scared of what my old company might say if they're contacted. I've cried every night and feel incredibly alone. Thankfully, I've started to push myself to get out there and apply for some jobs. Please keep me in your thoughts!
hoping you''ll find something soon and that the transition will be easy ❤
hope you will feel better! btw your old company cannot say anything bad, it is called defamation and has very serious consequences for the company
Everyone makes mistakes, just one foot in front of the other.... one day far enough to look back 😊
I don't mean you made a mistake, I mean everyone has small upsets/ things they'd rather forget move on from. 😊
Wishing you peace & success. Go to the "Employment Security Dept" (unemployment office) in your state. There should be several if you're in the US. They will offer all sorts of training classes to help you with all aspects of looking for a job. They will also have job fairs and companies that come specifically to hire workers. Start your next job with somethin you can enjoy doing. I was in the corporate world for 15 years and took leave of absence for workplace bullying. I was traumatized -- then Covid happened and didn't work for 2 years ... I did not have the confidence to do anything (and I have an MBA!) I took a job at Nordstrom wrapping Xmas presents because I love wrapping gifts. Six weeks of that, and a kind manager brought me back to life. One good thing led to another - I've worked in a college for the past two- years, using my degree, and do compliance/accreditation. Good luck! You can get back into the groove if you try this approach. XoXo
GIRL I LOVE YOU! I have been crying all morning. Have not been able to get out of it. but because of your video i cracked a smile! you are so hilarious and raw. Thank you for you vulnerability :) You allowed me to have some relief and normalcy because of your vlog!!! Going to therapy today and looking forward to it!!!
"I'm 22 and I have nothing figured out in my life." Girl. You're 22!!!! Nobody has it figured out :) I'm almost 29 and I look back to myself at 22, I had nooooothing figured out but I just kept trucking! Now life is pretty good. There are still lots of hurdles, set-backs, challenges that interrupt your plans. But just keep it moving and you'll be ok ~
This is so real, helpful and puts me in a good mood seeing I'm not alone with all these struggles. Can't thank you enough. Hope you're always healthy and happy in future 🫡
aweeee this makes me happy to hear that i’m not alone too!! and tysm🥹🥹♥️♥️sending you so much love to 🌟🌟
Me, also rotting in bed whilst watching this. Thanks for another great video, Via!💓
These comments give me so much courage😭 to see people go through this same thing is so comforting
give yourself some slack because sometimes we really don't know if it's our general health making it harder to cope with or hormones and emotions. I'm convinced i deal with pcos and everyday I tell myself I know I'm not lazy and sad. i constantly try to tell myself I'm worth more than my current state and it'll get better.
im 21 and omg when i saw ur vlog, i cant stop thinking that whattt? this gurl was describing exactly my life. it just up and down, u know. whenever my depressed period comes, i just want to disappear. and sometimes, i really do it. i stay at my room and not answer any call or messages, yeh, it freaks out my family and bff a lots, but I just dont know how to handle all of this. anw, ur vlog helps me so much, really, I do feel better after watch it. thanks a lot my dear ❤ hope u have a better day.
I wish i had ‘episodes’ i’ve always just had it. Finally after 5 years, i am being admitted to the psychiatric hospital… it’s scary, but i’m sick, i need help. I hope you are doing well
Take care...i hope your mental health gets better😊 ❤
@@Imonnn452 thankyou so much!❤️
That’s really help me to understand it’s okay to feel up and down you can’t just be up all the time
i really do think it takes the bad moments to have one really enjoy and treasure the good.
I felt at the end like I'm gonna cry cause I've been recently in a mental breakdown and as u said IT WASN'T FUN every time it’s so hard to get myself together and feel happiness again. Thank u so much for sharing ur experience with honesty now at least I don’t feel alone going through that
We’re in this era of social media where you can say things like “my 6 day depressive episode” and nobody will bat an eye. A depressive episode is 2 weeks or more and can last weeks or months, and I think it’s important to make this distinction.
I just wanted to post this comment as a reminder for younger folks so that if they find themselves in a depressive episode, they aren’t harsh on themselves for not being able to girlboss their way out if it in a week.
I sat with this comment for a few minutes to make sure I wanted to post it. My goal is not to be overly critical, but I think this subject is an example of how mental health awareness gets skewed by social media. For someone who is depressed, learning the facts is powerful in treating and overcoming the symptoms and episodes. Thanks 💙
“I know things would be better but when ? “
She just explained me so good
Love u keep going 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
I actually spent this spring break the same way you did. I couldn't get out of my bed, I was trying to be the less conscious possible so I could escape my thoughts so I was waking up super late and going to sleep within 4 hours. Though I don't see it going better, I feel like we are in a similar situation and I truly appreciate how genuine you are about it. I can't wait to see where you're going to go in life and how you're going to use your creative mind. In any case, I hope you'll keep this kind of vlog. Have a good day!
bestie this vlog was SO real- ugh sorry you had that week :( I’ve literally been feeling the same over the past week, I graduate in the summer and have nooo idea what comes next- which has literally sent me into so much confusion and sadness, I feel you a lot and I’m sending a lot of love, just remember ur not alone, take it day by day and keep going❤️❤️❤️
ilysmm and i’m so glad this video reasonated with you. i am hoping everything will go well for us!!! 🌟🌟🫶🫶🫶♥️♥️♥️
@@via.ilyouu hopefully :)
I’m 21 and am a few weeks into my third year of uni after taking a gap year and honestly I’ve been struggling so much to get back into everything ngl, this video helped me a lot
i recently started a full time job, but it was more for the sole purpose of becoming more social and active, and less of a bum ;p
but I do miss spending days at home all the time, I think its nice to reflect and be in your own quiet space
ty for sharing. and i hope things get better for you.
I'm also 22, and I've yet to reach the feeling of complacency :(
I can't even say how this channel changes me, and makes me so much better, because sometimes I need to relate to someone and in my mind everything for everyone is perfect or pretty nice, and it's just me who's failing. Thank you Via. You are inspiring. I wish you all success and very good mental health. ❤
Love your videos, my best friend just left me and now I feel completly bad, I already suffer from general anxiety and also fear of abandonment and I really feel like life has ended, but you videos motivate me a lot, thank you sm
Aww hope you are feeling a little bit better or a lot better 😊
the spring break thing is so relatable.. i havent done anything either n i barely left my room 😭😭 we'll get through this
ugh frrr😭😭🤚🤚yes yes we got it 🥹🥹🫶
Watching this definitely gave me some sort of ability to clear out my thoughts a bit. I always was told that I don't deserve to be depressed, and sometimes wouldn't be able to have a definite reason on why I am depressed, and I would feel so guilty that I feel that way, which just makes me spiral worse. Being in a toxic environment, it's difficult to be able to have time to myself and find things that I enjoy due to what's expected of me.
10:36 "I feel like everyone is succeeding except me or moving forward and idk where to go" I'm also 22 and I feel that soooo deeply. I want to overcome this mindset this year 🙏
i love the ppl in the comments ; tysm for sharing ur experiences its really comforting to know that ur not alone in this
After the spring semester I always am like this for a straight two weeks. I don’t leave my room, I don’t see sun, all I do is drink water and eat dinner. Its like my recoup time to reflect on whatever that last semester was.
Going through this exact episode right now and have no motivation to get out of it but I know I have to or the cycle will never end, this helped so much, you’re incredible
Watching this while having a depressive episode yourself is rlly comforting. Felt alone with this feeling but your videos help me a lot. Thank u.
Hate to say twinsies 👯♀️ but oml samee, I literally went out this afternoon for the first time in six days 🕺🏽 also just want to say I’m mostly (almost always) a silent watcher but you seem like a really cool person and your videos always make my day 🩷 so thank you and remember to be patient with yourself 🫶🏽
omg literally twins for staying in for 6 days😭😭🤍and tysm for sharing and commenting i appreciate you so much ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
im going through a lot and feel very alone but ur vids keep me company and help me calm down when im having a mild anxiety attack.
"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest" Matthew 11:28-30.
May God heal us and give us the peace and strength to keep going..
This was perfectly timed via I’m on Easter break before exams and this whole week I’ve been holed up in my room not revising or doing ANYTHING even isolating myself from friends... I want to end literally today because I need to start revising for my exams in a month ❤ so thank you for this ly
you got this babe!! sending you so much love ♥️♥️♥️🫶🫶 we will get thru this tgt🌟
@@via.ilyouu
I don't know if you're ever gonna see this but I just discovered your channel and this video in particular managed to gave me a little bit of that serenity I've veen missing for some time now. I am literally just coming out of a very bad episode, and I'm grateful that I lived through another day to watch this video ❤ I'm 26, started my master school and currently in my exam time which has been incredibly stressful and caused me a lot of panic attacks, hence the depressive episode kicking in - everything that was depicted here was extremely accurate, and admittedly it made me feel less alone. Thank you for sharing your experience, it really means a lot ❤ keep up the beautiful stuff!
omg via, you are so not alone... also 22 and have nothing figured out at all!!!! I got let go at my old job due to budget cuts and have been struggling for the past couple months but things did slowly fall into place, just remember this is totally normal and things will turn around eventually (yea i know its not concrete and that is not helpful) ❤ sending love from Copenhagen
thank uuuuu for this kind message!! im hoping everything is going well for you love ♥️♥️♥️♥️ sending u sm love and tysm for watching 🌟🌟🌟🌟
hope things are better queen
That is so cool you are in Boston. Im moving there this summer and I can totally relate to you with feeling how everyone else is succeeding at a higher level and personally feeling stuck, alone, and hopeless.
comparison is literally the thief of joy but it’s sometimes just so hard not to when you’re at a low place. 🥹🥹🥹🥹
I'm 21 and are going to START studying this fall, I had no idea what I wanted to be when I graduated 2021, and now I still have no idea what I want to do, and the job I have is not great, it makes my mental health so much worse, and yet I only work 80% (32h/week). BTW, the way you sew that dress was really great for being the first (?) time!!
My friend has a severe depression. We usually talk online since we are in a long distance situation. And suddenly these are two weeks he has cut off the contact with me. I asked for his situation and he told me that he was in another depression episode couldn’t do the basic things and wanted me to stop and let go of him. I let him space, still wait for him to be okay and still want to be his friend. His words hurt me somehow but I know he’s a different person when he is okay. thank u for ur video to educate myself how bad depression is. Send hug to u.
Girlie you literally have a successful UA-cam channel and you're talented at art! You are already going far in life and I guarantee you that others think the same. Anyway it's so chill listening to ur videos while I tidy my room
Literally my new comfort person
I'm so sorry for what happened about your depressive episode. I had several too recently even tho they were not this long. I relate a lot to your feelings, thank you for letting me feel less alone ❤ sending much love and i hope you're doing fine ❤
this video was so comforting! :') i always relate to u a lot, honestly it's nice hearing someone else vocalise all these feelings 😭😭 i hope u have a good day or evening
ilysmmmmm♥️♥️♥️🥹🥹🫶🫶
My cgpa fell so badly this semester and I feel like the biggest failure bc it seems like everyone around me has their life together, gets good grades, has a love life, good friends, money, a stable job and just overall a better life and I'm just... nothing. A failure. Not good enough in any way, I'm always so sad... I'm waiting for the good times to come but I'm Always met with the tough ones ://
But thank you this video made me feel like I'm not alone, and it made me feel less horrible about rotting in my bed for days too
I'm so glad I found ur channel because I'm like this too and sometimes all it takes is watching one of ur videos and getting up. tysm 🤎
aweee this is so sweet tysmmmm♥️♥️♥️♥️
Just gave my exams (they are important since I am gonna need the results of it to have a chance to get into a decent college). Got violently murdered by them and it went so horrible I came home and cried my eyes out for days. I even cried at the exam venue (it was embarrassing I regret doing that😭). Waiting for the results to come out with no hopes lol. But I have been taking time to heal and journal my thoughts and it has helped immensely. I am scared of going back to school incase my classmates ask me wtf happened to me at the exam hall, but to anyone struggling through a tough time, we got this!!❤ Your vlog was very comforting, thank you so much for this. I feel less sad and anxious❤💕❤
Edit: 13:58 I really resonate with what you said in this part. Asking when is it gonna get better? because just comfort and words from other people such as "It's gonna get better", predictions are just not enough. Waiting is painful. I was told all that after my horrible performance in my exams. But let's keep holding on together❤
You are really good at describing things in a humorous way, I have to admit I had a wee giggle but then felt bad because I do feel for you. But being vulnerable and not getting things right all then time is normal! Learning takes time and with time you will get better for sure! There's no shame in being vulnerable. It's human and normal 😊
Im 28 and feel a disappointment aswell, at least you're creating youtube videos and all that which is great, im doin nothin, have no motivation to study , work or go outside, i feel like i fell in a void and i cant get out!
OMG , m letting everything go to watch THIS ❤
AND ILYSM🥹🥹🤍🤍🤍🤍
i wish my life was this flipping nice time to yourself just seems fun.
I'm in a rotting moment. I got to school come home and rot. Rot rot rot. Sometimes it's hard to even get out of bed when this happens. I feel you girl. I hope I can worm out of this mindset 😢
Heyy, girl been watching your reels for a while and I can say there are so many of us who are just alone and struggling with life. Keep your heads up, we can sail through this all. Love your energy 🦋💕
ilysmmmm muah
Eu não gosto muito de sair (a não ser de carro) pq sinto muita ansiedade com pessoas ao meu redor, principalmente homens, como se eu estivesse em um perigo constante. Mas a Via, que é uma pessoa a qual eu me identifico muito em alguns aspectos, e admiro demais, fala tanto sobre como é importante sair, aproveitar uma boa caminhada, que está fazendo com que eu fique um pouco menos nervosa sobre ter que sair amanhã. Talvez, graças às experiências e reflexões que ela compartilha de forma tão sincera, eu consiga me manter mais presente no momento e aproveitar a luz do sol.
I'm like in my seventeen and hates life which makes me feel so upset about my self thnx for making this content it's make me feel better
I live in the same city as you and watching this is bringing me the vibes from when I used to take the train to school in the winter. Love love your content, keep it up!
Sending love and hugs your way. Your vlogs are comforting, inspiring and keep me going. Hope you are doing better. Your vlogs are amazing and cozy. I can completely relate with you . Lots of love ❤🫶💖🫂💟🤍🩵💗.
Major depression has nearly destroyed my life the past 4-5 yrs. Three things seem to help-
1. Rule of ONE. For one week choose one thing you can do daily that will make it a success. Keep it simple, but engaging.
2. Don’t apologize for a week. See how you feel. (Variation of be kind to self)
3. Help someone else. Start of each convo with “How’s things with you?”
It’s one step at a time then two steps back. Ten forward, then fall of a cliff. But like I tell fellow alcoholics… a slip up doesn’t have to turn into a relapse.
I wish I had a therapist in my 20s, I really recommend connecting to a good Therapist to explore some feelings in a safe space 🧡
I can't lie but I love your videos❤you should not feel bad because you try your best every single day but always give yourself rest and do things that you love,that is when you start to feel better (inside and outside of your mind).
i always really enjoy your vlogs/ videos!!! i love them smm. sending love from ireland!!
ahh ilysmmm tysm🥹🥹🫶♥️🌟🌟
I love your videos because they're so real and relatable and also so pretty ❤ love you girl hope you feeling well❤
watching this going through the lowest moments of my life was so weird bc you'd make me laugh as I was bawling my eyes out
I love you so much
ILY MOREEEE
the key to not see the thread on the other side is to not push the needle all the way through. Push it through to almost piercing through and take it back- it'll grab a teeny enough of the fabric to hold the stitch without leaving the large sign of the thread. Not sure if that even makes sense!
Good 4 u twin for getting things done. I’m right there w/ you but can’t get presentable enough to film a vlog like this
Seriously. When will it get better? Every time I think it will it’s just turns out to be false hope. Praying for better days 🤞🏼
24 and 8th month being home bc of a burnout and depression. I go from my bed to the couch and back. Day in...day out. I'm getting therapy though, and gonna discuss medication soon. Because nothing I try works. I'm a nurse and very aware what could help for my mental health. But I've lost all the will to live, everything seems useless even myself. I hope I will be able to help myself get out of this.
Your blog is so calming and comforting❤thank you and stay safe
Hope you're doing lot more better now.
Sending love & hugs ❤🫂
I had this too for months. I am really sorry that you went through that. I unfortunately can’t get therapy it’s forbidden for my career path but I hope that everyone who goes through this will get help
we all have are struggles! Already make sure you reach out to someone and take care of yourself from time to time!
Staying in with the curtains closed in the day type beat.
Hey, I tried to send two messages about your loner post but only one went through. I wanted you to know that I'm the same, and like you, I found solace in my online viewership. Happy to listen to you and your experience, creator to creator.
aweee thank u so much!!🥹♥️🫶
Love your videos! The editing style is too funny when you deepen your voice! Great video
12:18 oh my... idc why but something made this scene look aesthathic and awesome? Luv it-
when you were talking and having that popsicle
the things you talked about were honestly so relatable i feel better
btw hope that popsicle was good
and im not sure if bears eat humans but i wouldnt try my luck lol
Thank you for sharing this video Via sometimes I feel weird when this happens to me
I genuinely love you via
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I started craving that ice cream you didn't like LOL it looks like ice cream from my home country!
its my easter break now I haven't left my room in a week and I am graduating in few months and I got rejected from so many jobs. I just wanna feel better....and what do I do to feel better! I watch your vlogs..
i could relate to this so much. im in the same boat😭😭🌟🌟🌟hopefully things get better for us ilyyy
hi, I'm a new follower/subscriber and i just wanted to say that you're really a fun person to watch and I really appreciate u :)!
I watch your videos to stop my thoughts from forming. You're so beautiful.
Feeling down, take vitamin D, the sunshine vitamin. C if it picks up your mood
Girl I stayed in my house almost for 2 years with few exceptions you wiki be ok some people have phobias and stay home longer
Wow i relate to this so much. Thank you for sharing x
Been regularly staying in bed for 5-6 days at a stretch, hopefully it gets better for me
Via Li, I love your transparency🥰
Thank you for sharing
You’re amazing and my comfort place
Hm.. you make me want to journal again.just found you today. Hope you’re having a nice day:)
Wait wait i love this women ILOVEHERRRRRR
loved it, it was ver realistic, and i love to watch you make a meal for yourself:) small steps, remember?
bro, that's my life rn. shit, i teared up a bit, ngl.
we are in this tgt 🥹♥️🫶
u comfort me sm - coming from a highschool girl
It's absolutely normal to say that you don't know where you are going in the future or not succeeding, Via : ) You are truly pretty, people may not mention it because they are not as beautiful as you are (FACT). You are such a brave woman who is not afraid to get out of her comfort zone :D C'mon, you have a UA-cam channel and you make amazing videos ^_^ Plus, you have fans, true fans (at least I am one fan of yours). Please, take care of yourself and stay happy with this gorgeous smile ^_^
from what i think it only gets better if you make it better
am i the only one that thinks that she's cute without makeup✨