I love this. She was diagnosed (years after the fact and only after being served divorce papers) as having multiple personality disorder. But don't worry, it's now 100% fixed and she it perfectly fine to look after a child. The insanity only lasted during the affair. Sure.
Yup insanity. She shouldn't face any consequences because she wasn't in her right mind and her ap took advantage of her. What polony. This is like that other reddit story where a psychologist said the guys wife was groomed by her sociopathic lover. When the guy asked but why did she sleep with him within five days of meeting him she had no answer. That idiot chose to buy that garbage. What makes these stories worse is when the guys take back the person who treated them like dirt. If you take back someone who was comfortable treating you like a second class citizen you show them you have no self-respect. That guy even had s-tapes of his wife doing things she'd never do with him. This op made the right call. I'm so tired of reddit using mental illness as an excuse when people deliberately act horribly. There are certain things that are forgivable but consistently mistreating someone verbally or physically should never be rationalized.
Am I the only one who is concerned for the child. Courts claim to have the kids best interest in mind. Is it really safe for the child to be in her home. These things do not just disappear. They "when true" always happen again and again. But for the state to get their funding child support needs to happen. There is a processing fee attached to child support. Most do not know this...
@@chaselostones”Best interest of the child” is court speak for give woman everything, even if she’s a convicted crack addict cooking meth in the baby’s crib. They’ve even gotten to a point where when women maliciously end their children, she’s swaddled and coddled for the trauma she’s been through… it’s beyond ridiculous and can’t be made up at this point 🤦♂️
@@chaselostonesthey don't prosecute it also because the government is a co-conspirator. If they did dna tests before putting a man's name down as the legal father, paternity fraud wouldn't even be possible.
And sometimes even when you CHEAP OUT on the lawyer, they might STILL find some quack to say whatever. Case and point? Look at a certain "Aquaman starlet's" legal team and the so-called "expert witnesses" they brought into the trial with a certain former "Pirate Guy". 😉
There needs to be an app where men can post about these horrible cheating women. Call it hoefax or something where women can be outed and men can check if a woman has a hoefax report and grade. Let's make these 304's suffer for their actions.
Well there are FB groups but they get shut down very quickly cuz they're technically tos violations. Ironically though the ones for women to sh*t on men are just as big of tos but are allowed to stay. Coincidence? Yeah & I have land in the everglades to sell you.😂
Ambush tactics? Was he supposed to do this alone with her so she could make up false accusations? Was he supposed to let her spin whatever narrative she could to her parents and paint herself as the victim? What a load of bs.
I had a similar situation. I tried to keep it together, but she continued with her affair. It was hopeless and we got a divorce. My only regret is that both my kids suffered the consequences!
Men actually have the capacity to stop cheating to save their marriage, that is if they want to.......once women start cheating, they almost never stop. They either "love" their new A.P. or they "love" excitement and thrill and taboo of cheating itself. In either case it is an addiction, and generally speak she Is a lost cause in the vast majority of cases. Not to mention her losing respect for you as a man because subconsciously she knows a strong man can never take a cheating woman back,and women want strong men.
“Boss, you can’t fire me. I didn’t shoplift, my other personality did! Don’t worry, it was only temporary during the kleptomania spree. My doctor and councilor can vouch. Just forgive me and left me work late shifts again.”
Considering the stories on the internet and the real life examples that I seen and experienced. I still don’t know where is a good place for finding a wife. Please tell me where is a good place to find a wife.
@@kennethsmith6367 Nowadays, who knows Kenneth? Seems to me we're going to have to right-off a couple of generations of women; they've completely lost the plot. In the past you often met your future wife at college or work. Probably the best place is through a hobby - like cycling or photography - as you'll have at least one interest in common.
@@kennethsmith6367you have to see women through spiritual eyes to see which ones to avoid if you use lust filled eyes you will pick the wrong woman everytime
Listen guys, were raised to become financially successful to create legacies and win wives who wasn't able to provide for themselves, aka pay the ultimate fee for in-house intimacy. Now, they're able to build their own empires so they tend to get loose with the 🐈 more freely. Nonetheless, the family laws has yet to catch up with the times therefore you would be a fool to marry this day & age bc you're technically paying for sex with half your assets all under the delusion of unconditional love. You may love her unconditionally, but her love is conditional on the basis you continue to provide. Furthermore, this applies to all women rather they come from a solid family or the ghetto. They will submit to the grasp of the modern Era fallacies. I wish you the best if you decide to marry but just know "Men are in Love, Women are in Business"
That diagnosis is a bunch of bull crap...If she had murdered someone would that diagnosis be acceptable..Nope..She strategically planned pursued and executed infidelity. She also documented her sexcapades while intentionally making a mockery of both her husband and her APs wife..Diagnosis or not there is a place for a cold hearted backstabber like this and it's called HELL..SMH
Doctorate psychology student here. There’s a few things to consider about DID that proves she’s faking: 1. DID takes a significantly long period of clinical evaluation and observation to properly diagnose. As a side note, it is one of the most controversial disorders in the DSM, and its inclusion in the DSM-V was highly contentious. In other words, no licensed professional would even suggest, much less diagnose DID from a single session. 2. Of the few confirmed cases of DID, the most common and significant symptom is excessive memory loss for large periods (i.e days) of time. These gaps in memory are believed to be the times when the “alternate” personality takes over. The fact that the wife remembers the entirety of the affair means she most certainly does not have DID. Additionally, actual sufferers of DID are entirely unaware of their “alternative” personality(s) and are often extremely distressed by the notion. 3. It is not an acutely (sudden) developing disorder, but a chronic (pervasive and lasting) one. Although there is very little research on DID (partly why it is so controversial) due its rarity, what little data does exist has empirically identified childhood trauma as the primary catalyst. As the wife never showed chronic symptoms before or after the affair, it further discredits her claim. 4. Even a potential diagnosis of DID is theoretically enough to immediately disqualify a patient for a custody dispute. Although there are no documented cases of this occurring (that I am aware of), the symptoms of DID mean an afflicted patient cannot provide reliable and adequate care for a child. Conclusion: the wife’s behavior is more consistent with postpartum depression than DID. While I am not defending her, it is understandable that her mental state contributed to her affair, as postpartum depression has been documented as having an unfortunate correlation with infidelity.
A new info for u then. In societies with non hook up cultures, women who had miscarriage do not cheat. Divorce court also do not favor women...n infidelity is classified as crime. Sure...many of those women become a wreck after miscarriage. But they do not open their legs elsewhere. Oh, also, homewreckers are socially hated... (be it male or female)
Thank you, not a PhD but do have bachelors in psych & Criminology and was coming in to say this. This is not how DID works at all. Given it's EXCEEDINGLY rare on top of it being contested on whether or not it even actually exists, it doesn't work like this. Either all these "professionals" are idiots & got their degrees out of cracker jack box or this is a made up story for clout.
@@bhart3321 There's a possibility that she just got a pre-emptive diagnosis of DID based on the clinical picture. A lot of in-patient psych units have limited capacity and the attendings don't usually have that much contact time to actually diagnose patients with less common DSM-V disorders. Most of the time residents are running units and attendings just kind of go with what looks "close enough." Its more likely that she has a personality disorder than anything, likely borderline. Psychiatric care in the US is absolutely a joke, and closing mental health facilities was the worst decision the government ever made.
A question about DID. I saw the Batman cartoon as a kid and one of the villains claimed to have DID but in the way that his alternative personality manifested in a veluinquist (usure of spelling) doll who bossed him around. Is there a version of DID that work like that or did the series mess up?
@@raggarbergman No, if Scarface was a real alt then Dummy wouldn't remember or even be present when he was doing his thing. It's not a dissociative disorder if there's no disassociation. It could be he's psychotic & he created Scarface to as a physical manifestation of the voices in his head. More likely it's a personality disorder or several & he created Scarface as a physical manifestation of his own intrusive thoughts in a way of distancing himself from them.
This husband was nice to her with everything she put him through, especially what she wanted from him after being with her affair partner. Think about!
Never take a cheetah back no matter what. This is the only way they have to pay for what they have done. some kind of consequences for what she done I have no sympathy for her.
People telling op he should have reconciled don't understand her supposed condition isn't going away. They can't even officially diagnose her let alone treat her. She's not even seeking therapy so nothing has even changed and it coukd happen again. She never came forward to admit the affair only apologized for being distant with him. The affair included her trash talking him. The only green flag towards reconciliation is her lack of gaslighting or blaming him when confronted. He can't even confirm the affair is over.
DID comes from childhood trauma and represents in different personalities developing from that trauma. Think “agressive protector” personality. Then child personality, usually the age of the trauma. This isn’t “mom died”. This is the years and years of all sorts of assaults (not going to explain further) on the child. It is also INCREDIBLY rare. Ridiculously rare. So I’m calling BS on this story.
@@eleethtahgra7182 I understand the story. But a marriage counselor wouldn't make a diagnosis like that. They aren't qualified to do so. It's not their area of expertise. A court would never take a marriage counselor's diagnosis into account. This is the rough equivalent of a massage therapist noticing a lump under the arm of a patient and declaring it lymphatic cancer. An oncologist would only do so after much testing. The massage therapist would be fired and likely sued by the patient. No court would ever listen to them.
I will hold myself accountable for my part into this toxic world we live in. I was a broke, tall, dark, and handsome guy who ran through alot of women as a high school & college athlete. The manosphere calls it Tyrone for the black bros and Chad for the white bros. Anyhow, it wasn't until I had a kid that I decided to change my life. After my football injury I became an engineer. Needless to say I went into monk mode for a couple yrs after finding my child's mother cheating while I was hard at work. I constantly turned down offers from women because I was focused on my purpose. 9 yrs later i now run my own small fleet freight company and I no longer do labor of any kind. I now have full custody of my son and unlimited free time. I just simply have fun with a couple fwb's maybe 4x per month (*Its a whole lot cheaper this way*) and yea focus on my son. Btw, his mom is back in his life because she found God and married a good guy who was a widow after his kid's mom overdosed off feytanal. I wish them best.
None of us are saints, sometimes we have to burn before we learn. The good thing is that you weren't too hard headed to accept the lessons life was trying to teach you, that's where most people get caught up. Glad to hear you've built a great life for yourself and your family bro, that's what it's all about.
Thus, hook up culture is damaging....to both male n female...n the kids... It might not damage the pair bonding of the guy, but if an entire generation is fukkin left n right, then when the said guy got married, he got married to a damaged woman.
A reformed Tyrone. Can't blame you for running through those girls. Your athletic abilities triggered their innate attraction mechanism. They probably threw themselves at you. Not much a fellow can do when someone is coming on to you.
If she has a split personality that actually makes her a potential danger to her son yet the judge not only gave her 50-50 custody, but the judge gave her child support as well. 50-50 custody is supposed to illuminate child support.
I recently read a story about why going to a marriage counselor is only sometimes effective. Most of the time, the counselor's goal is to keep the couple together, no matter what. But sometimes, that just isn't possible. Take, for example, a man who had an ex-wife who treated him terribly during their marriage and affairs. Even if he were a saint, staying with someone like that would not be easy. Looking at all the information and how she treated him would make anyone angry. Sadly, some relationships aren't salvageable, no matter how hard you try. The story today is an example.
< is only sometimes effective. > Cos it often only work for when the couple is just fighting...and when the vow isnt broken yet. Once the vow is broken...well... If the husb cheat, some women could still forgive the husb. If the wife cheat, most men would just skedaddle. And it seems that today's marriage failed cos of cheating. Hey, theres lots of meme that make joke about wife n husb. Meaning, even in such condition, the husb n wife do not break their vow. They just tough it out or they go amicable divorce that doesnt need counselling. Anything to get away from him/her. Thats why marriage counselling exist. To fix the loveless kind of marriage. Thats why the counsellor want to fix the marriage. Thats how they were trained, I guess. And thats why it often failed....cos its to fix loveless or full of fight marriage, not broken vow.
@@richardcharles4126 nah. Letting go of the anger is difficult. But I agree to not let them live in the head rent free. So, just let it go, consider them dead to u. Go apathy route.
There was a story of one chick who said she cheated because of her menopause. She tried backing it up with science and everything 😂. They'll make up anything.
Responsibility and accountability really is a women's kryptonite. The new and trendy excuse to hide behind is some kind of mental illness. The new trend is: she gets caught cheating, goes to a therapist, finds the reason why it isn't her fault because (insert the psychobabble excuse here) then regurgitates the same psychobabble. The split personalities one really takes the cake. What's next? The "I was possessed by demons and I need an exorcist" excuse? Yes I acknowledge she was in grief and turmoil. No matter how bad she was hurting, the last thing she should do is take the nuclear option of destroying any faith and trust her husband has and destroy her marriage. Having an affair is the nuclear option of ending the marriage.
The ridiculing behind his back cuts even deeper than the cheating. There was no DID, she lost the baby and somehow found a way to blame the husband for it. The resentment lead to the affair.
Your Honor , I'm really a good person , I robbed that bank because I have a split personality . So it wasn't me that robbed that bank , it was my split personality that was responsible, not me . Dont send me to jail . 😂
TO all the simps out there that say give the betrayer another chance. (through sickness and health) marriage is a contract. Once one party violates any terms of that contract (forsake all others), said contract is void.
Liberal courts always screw men in the divorce. I have many colleagues who have suffered from these legalities. Cheaters always disrespect and expect forgiveness. F that no forgiveness should be given. His divorce was civil, and he could've been very hateful. He actually gave her more respect than she ever gave him. Remember the root cause is she cheated and disrespect. She played the mental sympathy card and almost got away with it. Can't stand narcissist that can't admit their faults. I'd nuke her reality and ghost the rest of her life. Great post and awesome commentary.
My late wife had DID. You don't get DID for the reasons she did. It is a mental condition caused by EXTREME repeated abuse, usually sexual in nature, and ninety nine percent of the time caused in childhood. My wife went for years to therapy, sometimes I was asked by the pyschiatrist to come in so that I could give accounts to her of daily life, so that she could understand more about how she switched, when she did, under what stressful conditions, and sometimes just to understand the man that actually lived up to the vows he took. For better or for worse. Faking the diagnosis that is never 'temporary', it is permanent. It doesn't go away with time. Reintegration with the alters takes a highly trained, knowledgeable expert, and it's not guaranteed. Both alter's (or more) have to literally both agree to identity death (if they even identified as anything at all). I told my late wife that if any of her alters slept with anyone else that I would consider it cheating and would hold the whole system responsible. Her reply: 'You should'. OP shouldn't believe it. I rolled my eyes when she said she had it.
To all the ladies saying OP abandoned his cheating wife by divorcing her because she was a different person... well he didn't divorce and abandon his wife, he divorced and abandoned the other person that she was. It's very simple.
People with Dissociative Identity Disorder tend not to remember what the other personality did. The fact that she remembers makes her diagnosis dubious.
I would have just pulled the tablet out at breakfast and said, "Because of what's on here, I will be divorcing your daughter ... didn't need to show them the pictures ...Get a DNA test
This reminds me of that female track runner who would leave her events and hope on a plane to escort in Vegas and service 5 men in one day..when she got caught she blamed it on bipolar.😅
One commenter is cherry-picking the marriage vows. Does 'in sickness and in health' trump 'forsaking all others', or is it the other way around. But this is a debate that Op does not have to engage in. The ifdekity killed that marriage in his eyes and in his heart and he should not be forced or pressured to remaain with a woman he despises because of what she did. So he can remain with that personality and divorce the one that cheated, unfortunately the cheater has to drag in the non-cheateing character. I suspect few commenters would insist a wife forgive a husband with multiple personalities should one or more cheat.
Has anyone just tried telling the judges no? I mean it will probably be contempt of court, probably garnish wages anyway... I would run campaigns against them too. This judge hates spouses that get cheated on. If she has another mental fracture then what why 50/50? Should have been 60/40.
Couples counseling is a waste to save a marriage. They are gynocentric and focus in benefiting the wife's only. Usually not caring about the man's experience and pushing towards the man forgiving the woman and becoming better for her
Dude, f these female responses. If it was the husband that cheated they wouldn't give a sgit about ANYTHING other than the fact he cheated and would tear him apart. Total hypocrisy
33:23 I believe with DID there is a "master" personality fully aware of the antics of the other/s but even if that was not the case her actions weren't that of somebody with multiple personalities just a person shedding their grief in a horrible way. If she had multiple personalities the evidence on her tablet should have alarmed her and cause her to seek medical attention or some other form of guidance, I don't see a mentally unwell woman I see a hurt one that made poor choices trying to alleviate the pain.
This is absolutely vile. Hideous monster. One thing all these stories have in common is people moving in together and getting married way too fast. It beggars belief how someone thinks they can truly know someone after a couple of years, just mind boggling.
Very very very very satisfying story, finally a story about the husband who throw out the wife stuff all in the front lawn. I have witnessed this with my neighbor, who caught his wife cheating, and threw all her stuff out on the front lawn on the sidewalk and the street.
This dude did nothing wrong. All the family telling this guy he should’ve given her another chance should put themselves in his shoes. People love to make excuses for people’s crappy behavior and expect people to deal with it. Glad this guy has a backbone and could see right throw the nonsense.
If what I suspect was going on with what she was engaging her husband in double dipping after meeting her AP was actually the case, there is no way a second chance would be given. It is unlikely whatever the case.
I'm unsure why women say things like this. Even if I were to buy lines like that, does she truly believe that is a valid excuse? The way I see it, she's either actually crazy and should be divorced or she's making shit up and should be divorced. Also, it's scary that doctors, therapists, and in-laws conspired together to perpetuate that idea.
That lawyer is an idiot her freaking out is the best thing she can do for his case she is too unstable to care for their kid. She was desperate for an out so googled split personality her excuse was fake as hell.
Lol i swear women have the same playbook when they're cheating. When she starts being cold and distant and flat out mean to you, that means shes building an emotional connection with another man and everything he does is great and everything you do is irritating. Then when she starts love bombing you out of nowhere, that means her emotional affair recently turned physical and shes being nice again to try to alleviate her guilt
Dissociative Identity Disorder isn't something that comes and goes. And it's VERY rare. It isn't caused by a pregnancy loss. PTSD can happen from a lost baby, but not D.I.D. As someone with an actual brain disease (mental illness) I can tell you she does NOT have a mental illness...and I've seen some seriously crazy stuff happen in psych hospitals. She's just a sh¡tty person.
I love how women get coddled and babied when they do wrong and treated like their the victims every time. Women hate accountability and jump straight to the female hive mind victimhood mentality bs. I honestly can't see why any man would ever want to get married in today's world, especially when anything and everything masculine and men in general are being attacked and vilified.
While I thought his confrontation was awesome, it seems he really should have followed his attorney’s advice (which we weren’t aware of when he told that part of the story). Had he done things the way his attorney told him to, maybe he wouldn’t have had had to deal with all the psychiatric crap, PTSD and DID diagnosis stuff. And maybe he and his attorney wouldn’t have found themselves in the courtroom battling his ex wife’s legal team consisting of her attorney and the judge. Bottom line, if you hire an attorney it’s wise to listen to and follow their counsel. Otherwise you’re spending a lot of money for advice not followed.
No competent, self-respecting psychologist, psychiatrist, or psychotherapist would give a diagnosis of DID after one brief admission to a psychiatric stabilization unit.
The problem is when you have complications in marriage you’re supposed to sit down with each other and communicate your pain and your happiness in the rest of it instead of running off with the boss and let him bang it for several weeks or a month. Whatever that is that doesn’t get it with me talk to your husband talk to your wife settle it that way get it on the table and take a look at it and help each other through. If you don’t run I’m getting banged by the neighborhood. I’m sorry I can’t take that back bullshit😢😢😢
So if OP got drunk one night and hit his wife, according to her and the counselor she'd have to forgive and forget because sober Op isn't the same as person as drunk op. The same logic applies here, it doesn't that she "wasn't the same person," she still hurt him, and worse she would have took this to the grave and never have told him if he hadn't found out.
24:57 Child support is rarely if ever actually for the child particularly if custody is 50/50 it's either for the mom(in most cases it will be the woman receiving the money) or the state(because the state makes money for every man on child support). The state is incentivized to place men on child support and family court is a civil court so they can get away with way more shit than in criminal court.
This is not petty or childish. Exposing the lies of the liar in public is not only virtuous and the right thing to do, it also takes any opportunity away from the betrayer to try and spin more lies to try and mask their previous lies.
I can’t tell you how many stories I’ve heard where the man is in a funk due to loss, and the woman leaves. Women will chime in saying “you go girl, he should have picked himself up and got back to work”. But when a woman cheats, and then claims mental illness they say he should have stayed because she wasn’t well. If it wasn’t for double standards, they wouldn’t have standards.
Interesting. I have a friend who went through something similar. There was a miscarriage followed by erratic behavior from his wife. She never improved in her behavior. She also cheated and treated my buddy badly. He forgave the infidelity and tried to hang in there but her behavior continued to be bad. One thing she did was run up the credit cards and ignored all his pleas to curb spending. He finally had to throw in the towel. Fortunately for him all the children were adults by the time he decided to go so no child support. But he did lose half his assets.
Get that kid paternity tested.
“she openly mocked him” , I’m telling you when a women has an affair they relish the humiliation of their husband.
The two cheaters in this story aren't laughing now. They are the ones that destroyed their own lives.
Also does the AP doing her every way possible to cuck the husband thoroughly.
Seems like women literally hate the man,once they start cheating on him???? Damn.
Yep! Women control access to sex.
She is lucky she didn't get throttled. The guy was merciful to her. It could have been a bad beating for her and her lover. Or even worse.
Husband: "I'm divorcing you."
Wife: "Wait! I have multiple personalities!"
Husband: "Oh, then I'm divorcing them too."
LOL 😂👍
one divorce to divorce them all lol
lol, all the more reason.
I am astounded that this dude didn't think to get that kid DNA tested🤯
Same here bro, that pregnancy was suspicious 😮
Affair happened 3yrs ago , son is 2 yrs old 🤔
Yep
@@juniormon7514 So your convinced she just had one affair?👌
@@TOETHELINEGOLF1 I'm convinced that he should get a DNA test👌
Once any man views a pornography video of their wife with another man or men there is zero coming back from that.
Oh, no shit... ya think???
It becomes.... EMOTIONAL DAMAGE 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
She is now viewed as a thot.
Correctly I might add.
I love this. She was diagnosed (years after the fact and only after being served divorce papers) as having multiple personality disorder. But don't worry, it's now 100% fixed and she it perfectly fine to look after a child. The insanity only lasted during the affair. Sure.
Yup insanity. She shouldn't face any consequences because she wasn't in her right mind and her ap took advantage of her. What polony. This is like that other reddit story where a psychologist said the guys wife was groomed by her sociopathic lover. When the guy asked but why did she sleep with him within five days of meeting him she had no answer. That idiot chose to buy that garbage. What makes these stories worse is when the guys take back the person who treated them like dirt. If you take back someone who was comfortable treating you like a second class citizen you show them you have no self-respect. That guy even had s-tapes of his wife doing things she'd never do with him. This op made the right call. I'm so tired of reddit using mental illness as an excuse when people deliberately act horribly. There are certain things that are forgivable but consistently mistreating someone verbally or physically should never be rationalized.
Am I the only one who is concerned for the child. Courts claim to have the kids best interest in mind. Is it really safe for the child to be in her home. These things do not just disappear. They "when true" always happen again and again.
But for the state to get their funding child support needs to happen. There is a processing fee attached to child support. Most do not know this...
@@chaselostones”Best interest of the child” is court speak for give woman everything, even if she’s a convicted crack addict cooking meth in the baby’s crib. They’ve even gotten to a point where when women maliciously end their children, she’s swaddled and coddled for the trauma she’s been through… it’s beyond ridiculous and can’t be made up at this point 🤦♂️
@@SilverCyric It is crazy. It is also why they do not prosecute paternity fraud. Kids need their mom.
@@chaselostonesthey don't prosecute it also because the government is a co-conspirator. If they did dna tests before putting a man's name down as the legal father, paternity fraud wouldn't even be possible.
I like how even when a guy goes 50/50 for a divorce, a judge can still come in and stop all that because it's not fair for the woman.
Family court judges are white knights at best and out and out misandrists at worst.
“Fair” is 80/20.
Exactly. I hate that judge. She is just like most of the other judges who hate men and uses the law to punish them just because of their gender.
Prenups and postnups are mostly thrown out too. You cannot protect yourself in a marriage.
The only way to win the game is not to play.
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If you pay a lawyer enough money they will find a doctor to say this sort of thing
And sometimes even when you CHEAP OUT on the lawyer, they might STILL find some quack to say whatever.
Case and point? Look at a certain "Aquaman starlet's" legal team and the so-called "expert witnesses" they brought into the trial with a certain former "Pirate Guy".
😉
There needs to be an app where men can post about these horrible cheating women. Call it hoefax or something where women can be outed and men can check if a woman has a hoefax report and grade. Let's make these 304's suffer for their actions.
LOL, this one made me laugh 😂
What a fantastic idea, I love this. ❤
Hoefax 🤣
Great idea! I can't imagine what the Hoefax mascot would look like. 😂😂😂
Well there are FB groups but they get shut down very quickly cuz they're technically tos violations. Ironically though the ones for women to sh*t on men are just as big of tos but are allowed to stay. Coincidence? Yeah & I have land in the everglades to sell you.😂
Ambush tactics? Was he supposed to do this alone with her so she could make up false accusations? Was he supposed to let her spin whatever narrative she could to her parents and paint herself as the victim? What a load of bs.
Ugly zackly!
Women naturally have empathy for other women, children, animals, plants, the earth….. in other words EVERYTHING BUT MEN. They do not care!!!!
Lol 8
The truth hurts, brilliant example.
It's called having witnesses. It's smart.
I had a similar situation. I tried to keep it together, but she continued with her affair. It was hopeless and we got a divorce. My only regret is that both my kids suffered the consequences!
Gee, thanks mom. We will always remember what you did to Daddy!
Men actually have the capacity to stop cheating to save their marriage, that is if they want to.......once women start cheating, they almost never stop. They either "love" their new A.P. or they "love" excitement and thrill and taboo of cheating itself. In either case it is an addiction, and generally speak she Is a lost cause in the vast majority of cases. Not to mention her losing respect for you as a man because subconsciously she knows a strong man can never take a cheating woman back,and women want strong men.
“Boss, you can’t fire me. I didn’t shoplift, my other personality did! Don’t worry, it was only temporary during the kleptomania spree. My doctor and councilor can vouch. Just forgive me and left me work late shifts again.”
LMAO!!! 😂😂😂
The number of confirmed cases of split personalities wouldn't go past two hands, its an excuse diagnosis that is given as a defence for wrongdoings
Meeting a woman at a bar is a bad way to find a wife.
Considering the stories on the internet and the real life examples that I seen and experienced. I still don’t know where is a good place for finding a wife. Please tell me where is a good place to find a wife.
It certainly isn't church.😅
@@dougdubendorf6527 With all those born-again virgins you mean Doug?
@@kennethsmith6367 Nowadays, who knows Kenneth? Seems to me we're going to have to right-off a couple of generations of women; they've completely lost the plot. In the past you often met your future wife at college or work. Probably the best place is through a hobby - like cycling or photography - as you'll have at least one interest in common.
@@kennethsmith6367you have to see women through spiritual eyes to see which ones to avoid if you use lust filled eyes you will pick the wrong woman everytime
If your cheating-wife supposedly has multiple personalities, make sure your attorney draws up divorce-papers for each of her personalities.
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epic reveal. Nice work man! God I wish I had this channel 5 years ago. Mistakes were made, and time was wasted with the wrong woman.
5 years is still ok...i wish i knew what i know now 20 years ago...
DNA TEST? No you did not move to fast. dump the 304.
A little off topic, but I always thought it was a 403? I don't know if the numbers reversed or if it was always 304 and I'm dyslexic?
@@ultimatefrisby2079Type in 304 on a calculator, then flip the calculator upside down and you'll get a certain word for a "lady of the night."
Listen guys, were raised to become financially successful to create legacies and win wives who wasn't able to provide for themselves, aka pay the ultimate fee for in-house intimacy. Now, they're able to build their own empires so they tend to get loose with the 🐈 more freely. Nonetheless, the family laws has yet to catch up with the times therefore you would be a fool to marry this day & age bc you're technically paying for sex with half your assets all under the delusion of unconditional love. You may love her unconditionally, but her love is conditional on the basis you continue to provide. Furthermore, this applies to all women rather they come from a solid family or the ghetto. They will submit to the grasp of the modern Era fallacies. I wish you the best if you decide to marry but just know "Men are in Love, Women are in Business"
That diagnosis is a bunch of bull crap...If she had murdered someone would that diagnosis be acceptable..Nope..She strategically planned pursued and executed infidelity. She also documented her sexcapades while intentionally making a mockery of both her husband and her APs wife..Diagnosis or not there is a place for a cold hearted backstabber like this and it's called HELL..SMH
Doctorate psychology student here. There’s a few things to consider about DID that proves she’s faking:
1. DID takes a significantly long period of clinical evaluation and observation to properly diagnose. As a side note, it is one of the most controversial disorders in the DSM, and its inclusion in the DSM-V was highly contentious. In other words, no licensed professional would even suggest, much less diagnose DID from a single session.
2. Of the few confirmed cases of DID, the most common and significant symptom is excessive memory loss for large periods (i.e days) of time. These gaps in memory are believed to be the times when the “alternate” personality takes over. The fact that the wife remembers the entirety of the affair means she most certainly does not have DID. Additionally, actual sufferers of DID are entirely unaware of their “alternative” personality(s) and are often extremely distressed by the notion.
3. It is not an acutely (sudden) developing disorder, but a chronic (pervasive and lasting) one. Although there is very little research on DID (partly why it is so controversial) due its rarity, what little data does exist has empirically identified childhood trauma as the primary catalyst. As the wife never showed chronic symptoms before or after the affair, it further discredits her claim.
4. Even a potential diagnosis of DID is theoretically enough to immediately disqualify a patient for a custody dispute. Although there are no documented cases of this occurring (that I am aware of), the symptoms of DID mean an afflicted patient cannot provide reliable and adequate care for a child.
Conclusion: the wife’s behavior is more consistent with postpartum depression than DID. While I am not defending her, it is understandable that her mental state contributed to her affair, as postpartum depression has been documented as having an unfortunate correlation with infidelity.
A new info for u then.
In societies with non hook up cultures, women who had miscarriage do not cheat.
Divorce court also do not favor women...n infidelity is classified as crime.
Sure...many of those women become a wreck after miscarriage. But they do not open their legs elsewhere.
Oh, also, homewreckers are socially hated... (be it male or female)
Thank you, not a PhD but do have bachelors in psych & Criminology and was coming in to say this. This is not how DID works at all. Given it's EXCEEDINGLY rare on top of it being contested on whether or not it even actually exists, it doesn't work like this.
Either all these "professionals" are idiots & got their degrees out of cracker jack box or this is a made up story for clout.
@@bhart3321 There's a possibility that she just got a pre-emptive diagnosis of DID based on the clinical picture. A lot of in-patient psych units have limited capacity and the attendings don't usually have that much contact time to actually diagnose patients with less common DSM-V disorders. Most of the time residents are running units and attendings just kind of go with what looks "close enough." Its more likely that she has a personality disorder than anything, likely borderline.
Psychiatric care in the US is absolutely a joke, and closing mental health facilities was the worst decision the government ever made.
A question about DID. I saw the Batman cartoon as a kid and one of the villains claimed to have DID but in the way that his alternative personality manifested in a veluinquist (usure of spelling) doll who bossed him around. Is there a version of DID that work like that or did the series mess up?
@@raggarbergman No, if Scarface was a real alt then Dummy wouldn't remember or even be present when he was doing his thing. It's not a dissociative disorder if there's no disassociation. It could be he's psychotic & he created Scarface to as a physical manifestation of the voices in his head. More likely it's a personality disorder or several & he created Scarface as a physical manifestation of his own intrusive thoughts in a way of distancing himself from them.
That mental diagnosis was too convenient.
This is why you ALWAYS listen to your lawyer!!!!
This husband was nice to her with everything she put him through, especially what she wanted from him after being with her affair partner. Think about!
@@johnbradbury8610 I totally agree with you!
@@johnbradbury8610Some guys are just gluttons for punishment
His lawyer was toothless instead of ruthless.
Yeah I thought that too. Weaksauce lawyer failed him at every turn.
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It's amazing how we have to fear the government in marriages they don't belong in marriages.
When you marry a women you are also marrying her pimp the government hence the paper.
Love your work. You're the only channel where I have liked every single video you have published. Keep up the great work!
Never take a cheetah back no matter what. This is the only way they have to pay for what they have done. some kind of consequences for what she done I have no sympathy for her.
My sentiments exactly. Cheating is wrong and mental excuses are BS.
People telling op he should have reconciled don't understand her supposed condition isn't going away. They can't even officially diagnose her let alone treat her. She's not even seeking therapy so nothing has even changed and it coukd happen again. She never came forward to admit the affair only apologized for being distant with him. The affair included her trash talking him. The only green flag towards reconciliation is her lack of gaslighting or blaming him when confronted. He can't even confirm the affair is over.
Why stay married to a nutjob?
Having an affair, trash talking him, feeding him cream pies...
The wife was a piece of shit.
This is the woman that would have sex with her affair partner come home and have sex with her husband and relish the humiliation. Pure evil. So gross.
Well said
If she was able to process thought and make informed decisions based in those thoughts.............her "split personalities" can all go to hell
DID comes from childhood trauma and represents in different personalities developing from that trauma. Think “agressive protector” personality. Then child personality, usually the age of the trauma. This isn’t “mom died”. This is the years and years of all sorts of assaults (not going to explain further) on the child. It is also INCREDIBLY rare. Ridiculously rare. So I’m calling BS on this story.
No, not BS. More like pity point so husb forgive her.
@@eleethtahgra7182 I understand the story. But a marriage counselor wouldn't make a diagnosis like that. They aren't qualified to do so. It's not their area of expertise. A court would never take a marriage counselor's diagnosis into account. This is the rough equivalent of a massage therapist noticing a lump under the arm of a patient and declaring it lymphatic cancer. An oncologist would only do so after much testing. The massage therapist would be fired and likely sued by the patient. No court would ever listen to them.
I will hold myself accountable for my part into this toxic world we live in. I was a broke, tall, dark, and handsome guy who ran through alot of women as a high school & college athlete. The manosphere calls it Tyrone for the black bros and Chad for the white bros. Anyhow, it wasn't until I had a kid that I decided to change my life. After my football injury I became an engineer. Needless to say I went into monk mode for a couple yrs after finding my child's mother cheating while I was hard at work. I constantly turned down offers from women because I was focused on my purpose. 9 yrs later i now run my own small fleet freight company and I no longer do labor of any kind. I now have full custody of my son and unlimited free time. I just simply have fun with a couple fwb's maybe 4x per month (*Its a whole lot cheaper this way*) and yea focus on my son. Btw, his mom is back in his life because she found God and married a good guy who was a widow after his kid's mom overdosed off feytanal. I wish them best.
None of us are saints, sometimes we have to burn before we learn. The good thing is that you weren't too hard headed to accept the lessons life was trying to teach you, that's where most people get caught up. Glad to hear you've built a great life for yourself and your family bro, that's what it's all about.
Thank you for your story, Sir! I pray you and your son are well.
@@brandonmatthews3722 yes thank you. It's both tough and fun
Thus, hook up culture is damaging....to both male n female...n the kids...
It might not damage the pair bonding of the guy, but if an entire generation is fukkin left n right, then when the said guy got married, he got married to a damaged woman.
A reformed Tyrone. Can't blame you for running through those girls. Your athletic abilities triggered their innate attraction mechanism. They probably threw themselves at you. Not much a fellow can do when someone is coming on to you.
Even assuming the DID diagnosis was real (doubt). Is he supposed to just let her do whatever she wants when something bad happens in her life?
Split personality? Me too....I'm splitting...see ya!
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Now ALL her personalities are single!
That's what I was thinking! 😂😂😂
If she has a split personality that actually makes her a potential danger to her son yet the judge not only gave her 50-50 custody, but the judge gave her child support as well. 50-50 custody is supposed to illuminate child support.
That baby probably doesn't belong to OP, he needs to consult an attorney and get a DNA test.
I recently read a story about why going to a marriage counselor is only sometimes effective. Most of the time, the counselor's goal is to keep the couple together, no matter what. But sometimes, that just isn't possible. Take, for example, a man who had an ex-wife who treated him terribly during their marriage and affairs. Even if he were a saint, staying with someone like that would not be easy. Looking at all the information and how she treated him would make anyone angry. Sadly, some relationships aren't salvageable, no matter how hard you try. The story today is an example.
There’s two types of people. One that can forgive infidelity. And one that will not forget or forgive, it’s over.
@@TexasLonghornRanch You are so right! I am one of those that did not forgive! Tears did not work for me!
@@richardcharles4126 hmmm...I think the easier mindset would be to consider them to be beyond the grave. Thus its just apathy.
< is only sometimes effective. >
Cos it often only work for when the couple is just fighting...and when the vow isnt broken yet.
Once the vow is broken...well...
If the husb cheat, some women could still forgive the husb.
If the wife cheat, most men would just skedaddle.
And it seems that today's marriage failed cos of cheating.
Hey, theres lots of meme that make joke about wife n husb. Meaning, even in such condition, the husb n wife do not break their vow. They just tough it out or they go amicable divorce that doesnt need counselling. Anything to get away from him/her.
Thats why marriage counselling exist. To fix the loveless kind of marriage.
Thats why the counsellor want to fix the marriage. Thats how they were trained, I guess.
And thats why it often failed....cos its to fix loveless or full of fight marriage, not broken vow.
@@richardcharles4126 nah. Letting go of the anger is difficult. But I agree to not let them live in the head rent free.
So, just let it go, consider them dead to u. Go apathy route.
she abort the baby because it was not his, he need to do a dna test on any kid they have together.
Wow, this would take it to a whole different level of evil. You may be right.
There was a story of one chick who said she cheated because of her menopause. She tried backing it up with science and everything 😂. They'll make up anything.
He did the right thing divorcing her,he never could have trusted her again.
Thank you for the content FindYourAlpha!
Responsibility and accountability really is a women's kryptonite. The new and trendy excuse to hide behind is some kind of mental illness. The new trend is: she gets caught cheating, goes to a therapist, finds the reason why it isn't her fault because (insert the psychobabble excuse here) then regurgitates the same psychobabble. The split personalities one really takes the cake. What's next? The "I was possessed by demons and I need an exorcist" excuse?
Yes I acknowledge she was in grief and turmoil. No matter how bad she was hurting, the last thing she should do is take the nuclear option of destroying any faith and trust her husband has and destroy her marriage. Having an affair is the nuclear option of ending the marriage.
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His lawyer didn't advise him to get a DNA test either?
The level of mental gymnastics they resort to, to justify loving the carousel...
The ridiculing behind his back cuts even deeper than the cheating. There was no DID, she lost the baby and somehow found a way to blame the husband for it. The resentment lead to the affair.
Did she really lose the baby? Or was it the affair partners baby and she knew it had a procedure?
Anything to escape accountability.
OP needs to cut off those people that told him to give his ex- a second chance.
Your Honor , I'm really a good person , I robbed that bank because I have a split personality . So it wasn't me that robbed that bank , it was my split personality that was responsible, not me .
Dont send me to jail . 😂
So she should get a second chance to cheat again!?!? Nah bruh!
The court gets a cut of the child support, enough said
TO all the simps out there that say give the betrayer another chance. (through sickness and health) marriage is a contract. Once one party violates any terms of that contract (forsake all others), said contract is void.
Liberal courts always screw men in the divorce. I have many colleagues who have suffered from these legalities. Cheaters always disrespect and expect forgiveness. F that no forgiveness should be given. His divorce was civil, and he could've been very hateful. He actually gave her more respect than she ever gave him. Remember the root cause is she cheated and disrespect. She played the mental sympathy card and almost got away with it. Can't stand narcissist that can't admit their faults. I'd nuke her reality and ghost the rest of her life. Great post and awesome commentary.
My late wife had DID. You don't get DID for the reasons she did. It is a mental condition caused by EXTREME repeated abuse, usually sexual in nature, and ninety nine percent of the time caused in childhood.
My wife went for years to therapy, sometimes I was asked by the pyschiatrist to come in so that I could give accounts to her of daily life, so that she could understand more about how she switched, when she did, under what stressful conditions, and sometimes just to understand the man that actually lived up to the vows he took. For better or for worse.
Faking the diagnosis that is never 'temporary', it is permanent. It doesn't go away with time. Reintegration with the alters takes a highly trained, knowledgeable expert, and it's not guaranteed. Both alter's (or more) have to literally both agree to identity death (if they even identified as anything at all).
I told my late wife that if any of her alters slept with anyone else that I would consider it cheating and would hold the whole system responsible. Her reply: 'You should'.
OP shouldn't believe it. I rolled my eyes when she said she had it.
To all the ladies saying OP abandoned his cheating wife by divorcing her because she was a different person... well he didn't divorce and abandon his wife, he divorced and abandoned the other person that she was. It's very simple.
People with Dissociative Identity Disorder tend not to remember what the other personality did. The fact that she remembers makes her diagnosis dubious.
I would have just pulled the tablet out at breakfast and said, "Because of what's on here, I will be divorcing your daughter ... didn't need to show them the pictures ...Get a DNA test
Yes, they needed to see the pictures.
Never play captain save-a-h@ to any women, even your own wife. The split personality was used to avoid accountability.
I hope he gets a DNA test for his son.
she 1000% slept with the doctor that why the doctor believes she has (DID) to save her marriage haha
This reminds me of that female track runner who would leave her events and hope on a plane to escort in Vegas and service 5 men in one day..when she got caught she blamed it on bipolar.😅
One commenter is cherry-picking the marriage vows. Does 'in sickness and in health' trump 'forsaking all others', or is it the other way around. But this is a debate that Op does not have to engage in. The ifdekity killed that marriage in his eyes and in his heart and he should not be forced or pressured to remaain with a woman he despises because of what she did. So he can remain with that personality and divorce the one that cheated, unfortunately the cheater has to drag in the non-cheateing character. I suspect few commenters would insist a wife forgive a husband with multiple personalities should one or more cheat.
Has anyone just tried telling the judges no? I mean it will probably be contempt of court, probably garnish wages anyway... I would run campaigns against them too. This judge hates spouses that get cheated on. If she has another mental fracture then what why 50/50? Should have been 60/40.
that bluepilled judge infuriates me
Great story .
Love your stories and narration!
Couples counseling is a waste to save a marriage. They are gynocentric and focus in benefiting the wife's only. Usually not caring about the man's experience and pushing towards the man forgiving the woman and becoming better for her
Dude, f these female responses. If it was the husband that cheated they wouldn't give a sgit about ANYTHING other than the fact he cheated and would tear him apart. Total hypocrisy
DNA test. Once a 304, always a 304.
Well at least she won't get lonely.
Right let her other personality Keep her warm at night
33:23 I believe with DID there is a "master" personality fully aware of the antics of the other/s but even if that was not the case her actions weren't that of somebody with multiple personalities just a person shedding their grief in a horrible way. If she had multiple personalities the evidence on her tablet should have alarmed her and cause her to seek medical attention or some other form of guidance, I don't see a mentally unwell woman I see a hurt one that made poor choices trying to alleviate the pain.
"WHO DID That!!!!!" Not "I can't help doing that, that's a another personality". The sane her hid the bad her from everyone?
That kid is AP's son .
Your misery is far from over OP
And the miscarriage was actually an abortion. She knew it was AP’s child. Viewed through this lens everything makes more sense.
I think so too, that's why she changed at the last minute because she was pregnant.
She was not split when she told the AP to have to stop the affair as she felt bad.
This is absolutely vile. Hideous monster. One thing all these stories have in common is people moving in together and getting married way too fast. It beggars belief how someone thinks they can truly know someone after a couple of years, just mind boggling.
Very very very very satisfying story, finally a story about the husband who throw out the wife stuff all in the front lawn. I have witnessed this with my neighbor, who caught his wife cheating, and threw all her stuff out on the front lawn on the sidewalk and the street.
This dude did nothing wrong. All the family telling this guy he should’ve given her another chance should put themselves in his shoes. People love to make excuses for people’s crappy behavior and expect people to deal with it. Glad this guy has a backbone and could see right throw the nonsense.
"she had a dinner waiting for me"
... Most likely the AP dumped her that day.
If what I suspect was going on with what she was engaging her husband in double dipping after meeting her AP was actually the case, there is no way a second chance would be given. It is unlikely whatever the case.
I'm unsure why women say things like this. Even if I were to buy lines like that, does she truly believe that is a valid excuse? The way I see it, she's either actually crazy and should be divorced or she's making shit up and should be divorced.
Also, it's scary that doctors, therapists, and in-laws conspired together to perpetuate that idea.
That lawyer is an idiot her freaking out is the best thing she can do for his case she is too unstable to care for their kid. She was desperate for an out so googled split personality her excuse was fake as hell.
Lol i swear women have the same playbook when they're cheating. When she starts being cold and distant and flat out mean to you, that means shes building an emotional connection with another man and everything he does is great and everything you do is irritating. Then when she starts love bombing you out of nowhere, that means her emotional affair recently turned physical and shes being nice again to try to alleviate her guilt
Dissociative Identity Disorder isn't something that comes and goes. And it's VERY rare. It isn't caused by a pregnancy loss. PTSD can happen from a lost baby, but not D.I.D. As someone with an actual brain disease (mental illness) I can tell you she does NOT have a mental illness...and I've seen some seriously crazy stuff happen in psych hospitals. She's just a sh¡tty person.
I love how women get coddled and babied when they do wrong and treated like their the victims every time. Women hate accountability and jump straight to the female hive mind victimhood mentality bs. I honestly can't see why any man would ever want to get married in today's world, especially when anything and everything masculine and men in general are being attacked and vilified.
While I thought his confrontation was awesome, it seems he really should have followed his attorney’s advice (which we weren’t aware of when he told that part of the story). Had he done things the way his attorney told him to, maybe he wouldn’t have had had to deal with all the psychiatric crap, PTSD and DID diagnosis stuff. And maybe he and his attorney wouldn’t have found themselves in the courtroom battling his ex wife’s legal team consisting of her attorney and the judge.
Bottom line, if you hire an attorney it’s wise to listen to and follow their counsel. Otherwise you’re spending a lot of money for advice not followed.
No competent, self-respecting psychologist, psychiatrist, or psychotherapist would give a diagnosis of DID after one brief admission to a psychiatric stabilization unit.
The problem is when you have complications in marriage you’re supposed to sit down with each other and communicate your pain and your happiness in the rest of it instead of running off with the boss and let him bang it for several weeks or a month. Whatever that is that doesn’t get it with me talk to your husband talk to your wife settle it that way get it on the table and take a look at it and help each other through. If you don’t run I’m getting banged by the neighborhood. I’m sorry I can’t take that back bullshit😢😢😢
You had no choice! All she did to hurt and betray you so don’t feel bad👌👌👌👍👌👍😢
Multiple personalities using the same body to cheat. Very convenient.
Not listening to your attorney gains you no sympathy with me... The one person that's supposed to help you through the process and you ignore them
"Dissociative Identify Disorder" is merely a fancy way of saying, "unaccountable".
How do you not get a DNA test?
So if OP got drunk one night and hit his wife, according to her and the counselor she'd have to forgive and forget because sober Op isn't the same as person as drunk op. The same logic applies here, it doesn't that she "wasn't the same person," she still hurt him, and worse she would have took this to the grave and never have told him if he hadn't found out.
24:57 Child support is rarely if ever actually for the child particularly if custody is 50/50 it's either for the mom(in most cases it will be the woman receiving the money) or the state(because the state makes money for every man on child support). The state is incentivized to place men on child support and family court is a civil court so they can get away with way more shit than in criminal court.
Okay…leave them both…
Always listen to your lawyer
I went to court in the eighties. We had agreed on the amount of child support and judge would not accept it. So it happens.
This is not petty or childish. Exposing the lies of the liar in public is not only virtuous and the right thing to do, it also takes any opportunity away from the betrayer to try and spin more lies to try and mask their previous lies.
I wonder if OP did a DNA test for his kid
I can’t tell you how many stories I’ve heard where the man is in a funk due to loss, and the woman leaves. Women will chime in saying “you go girl, he should have picked himself up and got back to work”. But when a woman cheats, and then claims mental illness they say he should have stayed because she wasn’t well. If it wasn’t for double standards, they wouldn’t have standards.
Found love in a bar. The End!
I hate judges like that.
Interesting. I have a friend who went through something similar. There was a miscarriage followed by erratic behavior from his wife. She never improved in her behavior. She also cheated and treated my buddy badly. He forgave the infidelity and tried to hang in there but her behavior continued to be bad. One thing she did was run up the credit cards and ignored all his pleas to curb spending. He finally had to throw in the towel. Fortunately for him all the children were adults by the time he decided to go so no child support. But he did lose half his assets.