I told a woman that too many of them are going after that small select group and ignoring the many who are available and she denied it. I also explained that the man they are all going after have no need to settle down because women are constantly throwing it after them, and she got insulted. The truth hurts.
Every women knows in her heart if a man wants her or not. She just has to love herself enough to be honest with herself,and then do something about it. That means move on.
Priscilla Pie You’d think. I’ve been saying this for years. It’s not numbers, it’s more of us so for every no they get, there are maybe 50 women that will say yes.
So true! Basically a man knows straight out the gate what he really wants. It's up to the woman to determine what she wants and carry herself accordingly.
I'm looking at some of these comments a man knows what he wants from the jump , it's up to you to decide if you should continue to talk to this person or just leave this person alone, the red flags be in the conversation sometimes pay attention
When a man is interested in you, it's UNDENIABLE. There is no uncertainty or question if he's interested. If you have to ask the answer is NO! Learn this early on and never waste your own time.
Yep it’s always that way I tell people that all the time I said y’all need to stop wanting people outside y’all league if your considered a 5 why you want a man that is in the 10 league he is only going to mistreat you because he knows you ain’t his type
We should not confuse interest with desire. When a guy desires you he also will pursue, , for a time. Weed them out by not giving up the cookies. True intentions and interest are not based on sexual interaction.
1. If he doesn’t mind leaving you hanging or leaving opportunity for someone else to catch you 2. If he’ll allow you to pay for your half; not too chivalrous; go w/the flow energy 3. If he is too busy or claims to be 4. If has time to give but doesn’t give it ie...doesn’t call 5. If he isn’t trying “to make love to your mind,” (trying to get to know you) 6. If he doesn’t mind you hanging out with other men
#2 is debatable because some men want to know their woman/partners aint just cheap/using them for freebies etc. Also with the chivalrous argument, ive met some woman that actually didnt like the car opening stuff and flower bringing etc. Said it was cheesy lol.
I'm in the same boat too....what a waste of time!! Telling me what he felt l wanted to hear. Not impressed. Now l need to keep it moving - for my own peace of mind.
When a man not into you he will disappear quick.. he’s not consistent, always making excuses, brief text/ conversation, you are not one of his priorities..
Shawn J I’ve experienced this lately after about three weeks of this on and off vagueness I just messaged that I couldn’t be arsed with it and blocked him xx
I absolutely hate it when men act as if they are prime ministers of somebody’s country 😒. Sir if you don’t go clock in & clock out & get on this phone, you are NOT that busy.💀
When a man is interested in a woman, he *WILL* find time to get on a video call or at least a phone call with her... even if he's the busiest man on earth. He *WILL* find money to take her on a date, or get her a birthday/X-mas gifts even if he is the brokest man on earth.
If only I could go back 10 years and apply all of this new knowledge. I was definitely falling for the one who did NOT want me and running away from the good man aka “the creep” smh 🤦🏾♀️
I lied on God plenty of times.. Talking bout we are annointed. The devil is a liar!! God don't send no mess and confusion. The God I serve operates in ORDER not out of ORDER... Amen? Good message Tony. Thank you.
Sure do can't text good morning or nothing doesn't want to invite you no where but wants u run to him when wants you too. I just cut this guy off completely today fuckem I can do without a selfish ass man at this point in my 30s I've given up on men completely
AMEN! That's why the Bible says to guard your heart! Actions speaks louder than words and words confirm how you feel. If a man doesn't express that he wants you never assume that he does. Women have to learn to guard their hearts and compartmentalize the men that are interested in them. Character supersedes everything! GREAT VIDEO!
I am glad I have enough discernment to rid men who are a waste of space. There was this one, who only texted me back for a few days and told him if he cant call me then stop text8ng me. So he stopped all together and I saved my time and not waste it with.......a waste man.
I think women just need to trust themselves. I can look back and I KNEW when a man wasn’t truly interested...I just didn’t want to accept it because I liked him. But God gave us instinct and we need to pay attention to that nudging. And men do think if you’re a certain age and still single you must be desperate. But you have to get to the place where you trust God and willing to wait for the man who goes over and beyond to show you he wants you and only you.
You know what Us women know right from the first second that he is not into us.. But somehow (Y'all know how us women can be somehow🙄🤦♀️😂) we don't accept it or Take it at face value and end up playing ourselves! YESSS! I SAID IT.. Men don't play us, We play ourselves! 😭😭😂😏 We KNOW but again we are hard-headed🤣🙄😭🤦♀️
No! He's texting because his wife doesn't hear him talking cause, he's texting you instead. It's easier that way.... Pour the glass of milk down the sink, it's spoiled.
Months back I had this very same theory. My ex friend swore up and down that I was thinking too much into it. I've dropped her ass since then! It's good to know that great minds think alike 😉.
The first sign that I learned is, they won't text or call you first. If you are the one who is constantly getting ahold of him first to hang out or to just talk, then he is clearly not interested, PERIOD!!!. If he was, then he would be doing all of the initiaitng and pursuing.
I NEEDED to hear this! I was.on the fence about whether someone was "into" me and you hit on EVERY ONE of my uncertainties.... I now know he's not into me 🤷🏽♀️ thanks for helping me to walk away
Be blessed tony! You’re so right abt us women thinking half effort is sexy and mysterious. We love men that are vague bc we can dream up our own versions of how things will go in the relationship. It’s sad. Wise up, ladies. The man that puts in effort actually likes you and that’s okay lol.
It was so painful to listen to this, but it is empowering. I just got played, and it hurts because I think I'm smart, but someone managed to do this to me. I let him do this to me.
You know the ones that get me are the men who actually think you're sitting around waiting for him. It truly blows my mind when they assume that they have you secured and focused on just them. Chile listen....
I'll rather just change my number , move on & just completely focus on myself & make myself a priority and love ME . At least I won't have to question whether the love is real or not 🤷🏾♀️💯🤦🏾♀️ Js
Been there done that..I fell in love with a man that was ALWAYS TOO BUSY.he would get mad and what to argue when i would mention the lack of time. It ain't that much busy in the world.
You know what Us women know right from the first second that he is not into us.. But somehow (Y'all know how us women can be somehow🙄🤦♀️😂) we don't accept it or Take it at face value and end up playing ourselves! YESSS! I SAID IT.. Men don't play us, We play ourselves! 😭😭😂😏 We KNOW but again we are hard-headed!!🤣🙄😭😭😭🤦♀️
Its crazy because I use too be that "girl" that use to say "girl he is too nice", "I need somebody that's not always on me" etc etc but now that I know better and I'm much wiser, I have a "Man" that calls me everyday, plan dates, plan trips have his own car, house, a good job and just like to be around me and guess what I'm enjoying every bit of it. Thank God for Growth(on my part) Note: He has a busy schedule but he makes time for me
Before I even watch the video I'm going to give my choices: 1. He doesn't call you. 2. He doesn't make you a priority. He fits you in when he can. 3. He shows no interest in you as a person/your hobbies/your goals/your favorite foods/favorite movies/favorite color, etc. 4. He doesn't include you in his plans. 5. He's only interested in sex/your body/how you look. His interests is only physical. Ummm, I can't think of nothing else. Now let's watch the video. *click play*
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I will never understand…if a man isn’t ready for a relationship why disturb a woman’s peace? What 👏🏾 is 👏🏾 the 👏🏾 point? Leave us alone if you’re only good at playing games. Life is way to short to be playing games. If you’re not into her, leave her alone.
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My daddy used to say a man who opens his wallet has opened his heart. My mom told me that a man that likes/ loves you will trot the circumference of the earth to get to you. This advice has been true my whole life
Each women thinks she got the ring on the finger too and will display the fake ring too to make sure you know they got him in the bag exspecially when we use to have church. Seen it happen alot just to let you know to back off l am pulling this fish for dinner.
Wow you are so right. I would fantasize about him all day and give him much more credit than he deserved! I made him look and sound so good to me, that he could do no wrong 😑
If you have to ask if he's interested, then that in and of itself is problematic. Let's be interested in our own health, wealth, and happiness. I'm going to be over here minding my own business in 2020 & forward.💪🏽🧘🏽♀️☯
Good info Mr. Gaskins 👌🏽 I’m a nurse practitioner & I’ll never ever ever disclose my salary to a man who’s not going to be my husband again. Learned the hard way 🤦🏽♀️
It has been so hard for me to finish this specific video.. I’ve had to come back multiple times because the words hurt so much. I’m realizing that the person I was in a relationship with for 3 1/2 years was no longer interested in me. Whew thanks again Tony!
I gotta be honest, I really don't want to talk on the phone for an hour myself with most men. The conversations just aren't that stimulating most of the time.
I just asked a man that lol. He chased me for 2 years. I finally gave him chance hanging out spending time and stuff. This fool is pulling away now. So i ask him why you do all that chasing now i give you a chance and you acting stupid. Smh.
This is an original dance to the music nuance " be a man about it; not a boy with it" ,my saying to put a male in his place ( make him think) kinda a put down and make him rethink the behavior /situation . So Tony this is a gift to you apply it , as you will. Please feel free to ad it to your brand... Virgin married, first born, Nana, all round single, good girl, chased contemporary single, qualified, old fashion girl, modern woman and cosmopolitan lady.
Thk u Brother Tony. Another great video. To help women see signs. And also for us men to realize what were doing if we really aren't into someone. It holds me accountable and check myself!👍
Make sure he don't need you for a green card, a place to stay, a ride to work, and for financial reasons. Ask what he want you for, look at his character.
@@Afrocreolebombshelle They may not be honest but you as a woman..You gotta be Smart...When a man tries to come on too strong and too fast just do a background check on him as if he applying for a job..Do a criminal check and credit check and domestic violence check and STD check and check to see how long he can hold a job and how many kids he has and do he take care of them and how many times he been married...Did I cover everything
In the past I used to meet these Nigerian guys who used to pander me with cheesy lines saying “I think I’ve seen you somewhere before. You’re so beautiful.” I’d simply ignore them. Next thing you know they’re getting married to a British woman
I try to give a man a chance but, it’s just not working out. They turn out to be just what you said Tony. I rather stay single & wait for the right man that know my worth than to waste my time wondering if he’s really into me. I refuse to be treated like a piece of celery on a side plate of chicken wings.
This was Hilarious! 🤣 But Seriously Ladies, we have to remember that we ARE the PRIZE! We have to stop making excuses for lackadaisical behavior. Know your worth! ✌🏾
If a man is not interested then just say your not interested. It’s gets messy when he continues to pursue a woman for his own needs but could really care less about her. Be real and leave space needed for the right man to intercept your intentions. This goes for females too. This is such an old subject that never seems to get old.
If you have to ask a man to call you instead of texting...even suggest it...he's not into you like that. You dont need to ask, hint, suggest, wait or play games when he is truly interested. You'll know from the START.
I had a guy acting iffy and when I asked him what was going on he told me he still had feelings for his ex and wasn't emotionally available. He also said he shouldn't have been so iffy and felt bad for it.
At least he told you the truth. One i been dealing with he just went mute.. he'd read my whatsapp message but no replies.. and never say anything if he doesnt want anything to do with me.. it hasnt been easy really. Trying to move on but i love him
@@marymwinga1255 You love an *idea!* Get yourself a fresh set of energy and take yourself off his shelf! I have the same issue of not being the priority and Tony's vids helping me move on.
Relationships confuse me, ppl confuse me. A man can put a ring on your finger, wait for you at the alter, create children with you and still cheat, lie and not prioritize you. Create whole entire families else where with or without you knowing about them. And women are just as bad. How many married women are having affairs getting pregnant by their mister and claiming the baby to be their husbands. Like i said people are confusing.
Sometimes a man can be interested and do all the things you’ve spoke on but in an unhealthy manner due to previous trust issues and ruins something that could’ve been powerful and beautiful. I call it “The Over-thinker”
I saw this online: "The love that you're WAITING to receive from someone else; you should already be giving it to yourself FIRST!" Now that was a word!
“He does not need you, he wants you” wow 😳 thanks Tony I needed to hear that again! I’m in denial but I’m getting there! Thanks for this knowledge you share! “You want me, what do you want me for” 😯
He wants one for a car. One that puts change in his pocket. A couple that give up the hot pocket. Ultimately seems like whatever they can gain...a ride, conversation, shelter, a roommate, a cook, a maid, attention, knowledge (what's socially acceptable for this type of woman vs. another), PRACTICE.
Success is a process and time ALWAYS tells the TRUTH. The urge to rush into anything is not of God but our own spirit. We can't assume that God has his hand on every relationship because it looks and feel right....pray for discernment.
Just broke up a week ago with a guy for all the mentioned reasons...I knew I deserve and wanted more than I was receiving . Today I woke up doubting myself and wondering if I did the right thing. This popped on my page and it was like sent by God’ reaffirming that I did the right thing. Feeling better 😊
I had a guy that used to say so tired when I get home from work. Something hit me on the head one day and I woke up. He finally called and I was not there to answer the phone. All of a sudden he knows how to call because I do not answer the calls. Go figure.
Ok, so now what? I feel dumb af. You said everything I already knew but allowed the fantasy and the “in between” time to win me over. I fell victim to exactly what I knew not to do, and not even victim cause typically, as in my current situationship, it’s MY fault. I am lost in this new world and at the same time trying to find my old self (newly divorced) and my new self. Men, are like forbidden fruit. Desired but they ruin the soul. Basically after watching this video, there is NO WAY my soul, my being will allow me to go back to my situationship with the way it is, meaning it’s over and I’m scared of having to face that reality of being sad due to me being STUPID! 😭
It's usually women putting men in the friend zones but you are right men and women can not be friends. One party always has feelings for the other. Might not act on them due to fear or being with someone else but there are feelings.
I have to tell you Tony, when you said talk everyday for an hour I thought you were crazy and that was impossible. Well this man I’m talking to our first phone conversation was for 6 hours. Yes 6 hours! I couldn’t believe it. Didn’t think it was possible. We’re both in our early 60s, retired partially disabled so we have lots of time. We talk everyday. Its been a couple months since exchanging numbers and we still can talk for hours. He talks 3 times more than I but I don’t get tired of listening to him so far at least lol. We both want the same things for our future. We’ll see as things progress.
Amen, Tony! I just went through this. This guy came on hot & heavy even told people that knew me he was crushing on me. We kissed & then he started backing off. Yet he just got mad when he found out I went out with someone else. He doesn't want me but doesn't want me with anyone else. Talk about jacked up!!
Judith Stevens wow his a wasteman get rid darling and block him and move on! His trying to waste your time. If he truly wanted you he would step up before another man had the opportunity to take you out on a date.
Thank you! Sometimes we are so busy reacting to each instance, we forget to look at the whole picture. I didn't see until this video was playing in the background and the facts were clicking. Suddenly im sitting down and hanging on to every word! God worked through you today. That message was my answer. Thank you.
I feel you on that sometimes people think. prayers were answered when they get a man that's interested or some similar interested and doing the things that you pray for. but the devil also listen to your prayers he's always waiting to creeping in your life and get sidetracked and don't pay attention to the signs, that was already there and it's hard to get the devil out your house.
Just stay single and work on self until the right person comes along
🙋thats what im doing...IZZZZZZ😊
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Yes Lord! I so agree, peaceful that way!
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Never make someone a priority if you are an option to them.
Periodt
Right.
I told a woman that too many of them are going after that small select group and ignoring the many who are available and she denied it. I also explained that the man they are all going after have no need to settle down because women are constantly throwing it after them, and she got insulted. The truth hurts.
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TELLY FACTS!
He don't call. If he don't call he ain't thinking bout you.
So true
As simple as that sounds, it's very true!
@@sguillory5923 ..But isn't it pretty smothering to call someone every day as if there's nothing else to do
@@user-zx5xw4yw2e it's some men that must hear his lady voice once a day.
That too
If he's not into you.... It's God's protection 🙏
😊yesss so true
EXACTLY
Yessssssss
Every women knows in her heart if a man wants her or not. She just has to love herself enough to be honest with herself,and then do something about it. That means move on.
Truth!
Period
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Exactly
EXACTLY BE GONE.
What a waste of life waiting and focusing on just getting a man
Exactly
Facts
So true
Say that!
Such a sad epidemic!!
Loving someone who does not love you is like waiting for a ship at the airport.....Trust your instincts
Roxcei Smith that’s funny 😂
Well said
Damn
Love this you better say that🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 nothing but the truth honey
This analogy is perfect
If a man disappear he don't want you
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It's called ghosting
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😂this just happened to me
If a man WANT you ..you will KNOW it ..it won't be a mystery
When he’s interested he MAKES IT KNOWN.
👍 yes amen so true
Ive been meeting the ones thats not showing any interest.
YESSSSSSSS....and NO stammering in PROCLAMING!!!!
Weird because when he let's it be known women walk away the attraction fades
What if he made it known in the beginning.. then just ghosted basically.
Why can’t men leave the women they’re not interested in alone !
YES! That is what I'm saying. I think it's stupid to reach out to her in the first place.
Priscilla Pie You’d think. I’ve been saying this for years. It’s not numbers, it’s more of us so for every no they get, there are maybe 50 women that will say yes.
Bro Tony, can you answer this question in a video please?
PERIOAAAD
Okay like why do you keep coming back !!! I’m not calling you
Thats why its good to mirror their behavior and dont catch feelings.
Maplebucket 74 yes indeed!!
Stay emotionally UNINVESTED.
I don't even give them the time of day
Catch feelings once lockdown is over 😎
Yep. Deadly!
I completely agree if a man wants u, he will make time for u but don't chase him. If he wants u, he will come and get u. Make him work for it
Dating is depressing. I just want to be myself and not have to worry about everything.
Girl yes new to this mess after a decade I'm already done ✅
Same, girl. Being alone is better sometimes.
I been going through hell…even the talking stage so painful. Trying to figure the man out.
@@malenyusay3892 it's so ridiculous and sad .
@@RS33381 damn, that's the fun part. Maybe that's a sign that you're talking to the wrong people to begin with.
So true! Basically a man knows straight out the gate what he really wants. It's up to the woman to determine what she wants and carry herself accordingly.
Amen
I'm looking at some of these comments a man knows what he wants from the jump , it's up to you to decide if you should continue to talk to this person or just leave this person alone, the red flags be in the conversation sometimes pay attention
Wrong wrong wrong
When a man is interested in you, it's UNDENIABLE. There is no uncertainty or question if he's interested. If you have to ask the answer is NO! Learn this early on and never waste your own time.
Yup, the answer is in the uncertainty.
Omg had to learn this fr 😕😕
exactly what my momma tells me, she's never been wrong yet and it's never led me astray 🤞
Holly Rey in
That's so perfectly said
Seriously when I don’t hear from a man. I keep it moving. I’ve learned from my brothers teachings.
Preach, my sister. Pluck him, and keep it pushing.
@@1agelessbeauty Yes I never chase. I replace with no problem. He, He❤️💯
Facts 💯💯
Yup. Next
Amen. I love my brothers. Thank you brothers for all your love, support and good advice.
“He wants the woman he can’t have, and you want the man you can’t have.” This world is messed up. 😂
it's not the world🌍that's mess up it's the people in the world🌍
Facts
I laughed so hard
Yep it’s always that way I tell people that all the time I said y’all need to stop wanting people outside y’all league if your considered a 5 why you want a man that is in the 10 league he is only going to mistreat you because he knows you ain’t his type
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We should not confuse interest with desire. When a guy desires you he also will pursue, , for a time. Weed them out by not giving up the cookies. True intentions and interest are not based on sexual interaction.
His actions simply show it. He doesn't pursue! He isn't investing!
He’s giving bread crumbs or excuses
1. If he doesn’t mind leaving you hanging or leaving opportunity for someone else to catch you
2. If he’ll allow you to pay for your half; not too chivalrous; go w/the flow energy
3. If he is too busy or claims to be
4. If has time to give but doesn’t give it ie...doesn’t call
5. If he isn’t trying “to make love to your mind,” (trying to get to know you)
6. If he doesn’t mind you hanging out with other men
7. He will let another man hit you shove you and insult you and spit on you and he don't care...he will say I didn't see that
@@cindycinn2724 definitely, not interested. ...smh
@@arbitrarylib right 😩😩🤣🤣 I said shit let me pretend I didn’t see that list lol
#2 is debatable because some men want to know their woman/partners aint just cheap/using them for freebies etc. Also with the chivalrous argument, ive met some woman that actually didnt like the car opening stuff and flower bringing etc. Said it was cheesy lol.
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You want me but what do you want me for!? A man thats interested should be bringing the table to the table!! 📢🔝
Demetria Calvin 💯💯
Amen!!!♥️🔥👏🏽
Period
Demetria Calvin Amen!
Oh my God! You have my name and my brother's. LOL!!!
He hooked me and pretended like he was interested now he don’t even call or text anymore smh .. your videos have been helping me so much
I'm in the same boat too....what a waste of time!! Telling me what he felt l wanted to hear. Not impressed. Now l need to keep it moving - for my own peace of mind.
@@missg7012 exactly
Sound Like He Manipulated And Love Bombed You
@@quettalogan3295 basically
All I can do is smh because this exactly what I'm going through. I hate games these so called men play it's sad..💔🙆🏽
I'm literally in tears because I know for sure that i've wasted sooooooooooo much of my time 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
You have to hurt and be uncomfortable to learn and grow. That’s life. Next time will be better, you’re not alone.
It is ok. It’s only a lesson learned. Grateful that we won’t waste our time EVER again!! ❤
When a man not into you he will disappear quick.. he’s not consistent, always making excuses, brief text/ conversation, you are not one of his priorities..
Shawn J I’ve experienced this lately after about three weeks of this on and off vagueness I just messaged that I couldn’t be arsed with it and blocked him xx
@@pamelaclarkson6001 Pamela block him all the way!! BLOCK!
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Damn. I really am losing him.
That's right
I absolutely hate it when men act as if they are prime ministers of somebody’s country 😒. Sir if you don’t go clock in & clock out & get on this phone, you are NOT that busy.💀
Tu Bella 🤣🤣🤣 honestly!
“Prime ministers of somebody’s country.” I’m done 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Love this 😂
Chantal Brown Sis I’m so serious 😒 just fake busy 😂💀
@@TuBella14 your talking to me, he's busy like oxygen
When a man is interested in a woman, he *WILL* find time to get on a video call or at least a phone call with her... even if he's the busiest man on earth.
He *WILL* find money to take her on a date, or get her a birthday/X-mas gifts even if he is the brokest man on earth.
Noted
saiyansnake so true
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True. This loser doesn’t even remember my bday smh
@@owyana oh definitely kick him to the curb sis
He look like a tall, glass of chocolate milk in the Sahara Dessert! You went from thirsty to dehydrated!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hilarious
😂😂😂😂
I was laughing so hard 😂🤣
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That took me out I guess I better start drinking way more water and leave dairy alone
Well single men in their 60 s out here trying to be players. I'm not marrying no old used up player. I deserve better.
Yup now da old heads want a younger woman to settle dwn with after dey all used up & worn out uughhh nope I’m not ready for it
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Yep. He just ghosted me after seven months. There's no coming back!! I'm Done!!!
If only I could go back 10 years and apply all of this new knowledge. I was definitely falling for the one who did NOT want me and running away from the good man aka “the creep” smh 🤦🏾♀️
You and me both(smh) every time I hear Tony's messages I think just that.
Amen !! I need the last 20 years back
Damn that's sad
I wish I knew it years ago as well.
I lied on God plenty of times.. Talking bout we are annointed. The devil is a liar!! God don't send no mess and confusion. The God I serve operates in ORDER not out of ORDER... Amen? Good message Tony. Thank you.
Amen Amen
Say that 10 times
Amen sister
Amen
Amen🆗
He on social media ALL day he got time..
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Girl
Sure do can't text good morning or nothing doesn't want to invite you no where but wants u run to him when wants you too. I just cut this guy off completely today fuckem I can do without a selfish ass man at this point in my 30s I've given up on men completely
okaaay!!!!
CTFU🥴😂🤣😂🤣😂😂
AMEN! That's why the Bible says to guard your heart! Actions speaks louder than words and words confirm how you feel. If a man doesn't express that he wants you never assume that he does. Women have to learn to guard their hearts and compartmentalize the men that are interested in them. Character supersedes everything! GREAT VIDEO!
That's true wisdom, thanks.
Men look for convenience and a place holder until the one he really wants comes
I am glad I have enough discernment to rid men who are a waste of space. There was this one, who only texted me back for a few days and told him if he cant call me then stop text8ng me.
So he stopped all together and I saved my time and not waste it with.......a waste man.
Goodnite and good riddance boo❤❤❤🤣🤣🤣
I once was a victim of a " man who wasn't interested in me" But, will never be in that place again. Thanks Tony.
Me too! Put me through the wilderness.
@@divinelyblessedkb lol the wilderness is where we find the Lord.
@@ypayne9871 And you are right! Because it brought me even closer to God! 🙋🙌💃✨
We mostly all have been and it's ok. We learn from our mistakes.
I know the feeling
I think women just need to trust themselves. I can look back and I KNEW when a man wasn’t truly interested...I just didn’t want to accept it because I liked him. But God gave us instinct and we need to pay attention to that nudging. And men do think if you’re a certain age and still single you must be desperate. But you have to get to the place where you trust God and willing to wait for the man who goes over and beyond to show you he wants you and only you.
Amen
So true
You know what Us women know right from the first second that he is not into us.. But somehow (Y'all know how us women can be somehow🙄🤦♀️😂) we don't accept it or Take it at face value and end up playing ourselves!
YESSS! I SAID IT..
Men don't play us,
We play ourselves! 😭😭😂😏
We KNOW but again we are hard-headed🤣🙄😭🤦♀️
I’m turning into a nun guys are too complicated 😂
"It's determined by the time he gives you." Powerful! Thanks.
Tony said “All of a sudden he’s more busy than Barack Obama.” I’m hollering 💀💀💀💀😩😩😩😂😂😂😂💯💯💯💯💯
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤫❤️
THAT WAS FUNNY. I'M GOING TO SAY THAT TO MEN I'M TOTALLY NOT INTERESTED IN.
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
😂😂😂
I was rolling 😂
No! He's texting because his wife doesn't hear him talking cause, he's texting you instead. It's easier that way.... Pour the glass of milk down the sink, it's spoiled.
Months back I had this very same theory. My ex friend swore up and down that I was thinking too much into it. I've dropped her ass since then!
It's good to know that great minds think alike 😉.
indria drayton Chiiiiiiiiiiiiiile...
Oh yeah if he hardly calls and always texts he fasho has a woman.
So true lay right by side u n think ur 😴 a sleep n there he is texting her
@@ClowneryAtItsFinest good for u n u deserve better n I do to
Your imitation of the woman’s voice “ohhh” and smacking of the lips/rolling eyes be having me DEAD 💀🤣🤣
Miss Shy lol 😂
Lmfao I be crying
🤣🤣🤣
Miss Shy yesss...he have me crying laughing 🤣🤣
Miss Shy I be dying when he does that
The first sign that I learned is, they won't text or call you first. If you are the one who is constantly getting ahold of him first to hang out or to just talk, then he is clearly not interested, PERIOD!!!. If he was, then he would be doing all of the initiaitng and pursuing.
I NEEDED to hear this! I was.on the fence about whether someone was "into" me and you hit on EVERY ONE of my uncertainties.... I now know he's not into me 🤷🏽♀️ thanks for helping me to walk away
Same
People MAKE TIME for WHO and WHAT they want. PERIOD!
Swayze 💯💯💯💯
Swayze period !
I agree
@Swayze ABSOLUTELY! If they're not rearranging their schedules to make some quality time to see you, YOU'RE NOT THE ONE!
Unfortunately, in my case, this is true.
Be blessed tony! You’re so right abt us women thinking half effort is sexy and mysterious. We love men that are vague bc we can dream up our own versions of how things will go in the relationship. It’s sad. Wise up, ladies. The man that puts in effort actually likes you and that’s okay lol.
I’m getting sick of man .I still believe in love tho
Don’t be sick of men.. just expand your horizons. It’s a whole World out here, explore ❤️
@@liztaylor456 YESSSSSS
I am sick of a man too. Can't deal with them anymore. Toxic.
@@cathymcdonaldfemale820 me too..
Love can exist but not when people act the way that they do most of the time
It was so painful to listen to this, but it is empowering. I just got played, and it hurts because I think I'm smart, but someone managed to do this to me. I let him do this to me.
Same here. . .I thought I was smart enough to detect the bs, but got TOTALLY played!
Me too 🤦🏽♀️
Me too, it hurt like hell.
Me too 😩
Me too. But I removed myself immediately upon understanding I was an option. He can't get a returned call, returned text, nada ...
You know the ones that get me are the men who actually think you're sitting around waiting for him. It truly blows my mind when they assume that they have you secured and focused on just them. Chile listen....
He's petty, real thirsty
Whenever you call a man complicated, he's not into you.
I'll rather just change my number , move on & just completely focus on myself & make myself a priority and love ME . At least I won't have to question whether the love is real or not 🤷🏾♀️💯🤦🏾♀️ Js
I’m going through something with someone now and I think that’s the best idea I have ever heard all day
Been there done that..I fell in love with a man that was ALWAYS TOO BUSY.he would get mad and what to argue when i would mention the lack of time.
It ain't that much busy in the world.
Too busy means he is not interested.
Aint🤦🙄
Been there.. now blocked
You were something to pass the time for him, and he was probably a narcissist too
You know what Us women know right from the first second that he is not into us.. But somehow (Y'all know how us women can be somehow🙄🤦♀️😂) we don't accept it or Take it at face value and end up playing ourselves!
YESSS! I SAID IT..
Men don't play us,
We play ourselves! 😭😭😂😏
We KNOW but again we are hard-headed!!🤣🙄😭😭😭🤦♀️
Its crazy because I use too be that "girl" that use to say "girl he is too nice", "I need somebody that's not always on me" etc etc but now that I know better and I'm much wiser, I have a "Man" that calls me everyday, plan dates, plan trips have his own car, house, a good job and just like to be around me and guess what I'm enjoying every bit of it. Thank God for Growth(on my part) Note: He has a busy schedule but he makes time for me
We praise the Lord!
Congratulations.....💏
So nice 🥰
Then why are you watching this video?
Because you know something or you looking for something.
@@thinishot No not at all..I'm subscribed to Toni, so its comes on my feed.
Before I even watch the video I'm going to give my choices:
1. He doesn't call you.
2. He doesn't make you a priority. He fits you in when he can.
3. He shows no interest in you as a person/your hobbies/your goals/your favorite foods/favorite movies/favorite color, etc.
4. He doesn't include you in his plans.
5. He's only interested in sex/your body/how you look. His interests is only physical.
Ummm, I can't think of nothing else. Now let's watch the video. *click play*
I will never understand…if a man isn’t ready for a relationship why disturb a woman’s peace? What 👏🏾 is 👏🏾 the 👏🏾 point? Leave us alone if you’re only good at playing games. Life is way to short to be playing games. If you’re not into her, leave her alone.
My daddy used to say a man who opens his wallet has opened his heart. My mom told me that a man that likes/ loves you will trot the circumference of the earth to get to you.
This advice has been true my whole life
Facts
My mama told me Never buy a man shoes
Or else he gonna use them same shoes to walk out on you🤷🏽♀️
But that’s My Mama
H&B V. Facts your mama was right.
Your dad gave great advice. Sadly have never met a guy that was really in to me.
Gen J I highly doubt that!! There are many people for everyone. I bet you have just overlooked those and go for a “type”.
“Cuz that’s real CoParenting” 😂😂😂
“Oh you still married? Take your time, sometimes that takes 5-7 years” 😂😂😂😂 yoooo I’m done
TiffanyB TV That whole segment 😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂
He's building his time with other women
Each women thinks she got the ring on the finger too and will display the fake ring too to make sure you know they got him in the bag exspecially when we use to have church. Seen it happen alot just to let you know to back off l am pulling this fish for dinner.
"DONT TRUST NO TEXTS FROM A MAN." I NEEDED TO HEAR THAT SMH THANKS TONY :)
Facts and avoids talking on the phone....smh
Some men prefer in person interactions
Wow you are so right. I would fantasize about him all day and give him much more credit than he deserved! I made him look and sound so good to me, that he could do no wrong 😑
If you have to ask if he's interested, then that in and of itself is problematic. Let's be interested in our own health, wealth, and happiness. I'm going to be over here minding my own business in 2020 & forward.💪🏽🧘🏽♀️☯
Facts!
Amen Queen, Amen!!!!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
🙏🏻🥀😌
When you get the notification that Tony made a video. 🏃🏽♀️💨
Flawless Imperfection be bout to break my finger 😂
I’m tryna tell you sis! 😂
Yes! Lol👀👃👂
Flawless Imperfection with the quickness
Sashisroyal One right!!! 😂😂
Good info Mr. Gaskins 👌🏽
I’m a nurse practitioner & I’ll never ever ever disclose my salary to a man who’s not going to be my husband again. Learned the hard way 🤦🏽♀️
I am an NP too! I just tell men I am a health coach!
Never disclose your salary, these men will use and abuse you.
Gina B Good idea! I’ll have to use that!
Never ever ever!!!
These opportunists are googling salaries ...lol I normally say I’m in Accounting.. never mention that I have a MBA 🤣
It has been so hard for me to finish this specific video.. I’ve had to come back multiple times because the words hurt so much. I’m realizing that the person I was in a relationship with for 3 1/2 years was no longer interested in me. Whew thanks again Tony!
Sorry ❤️
It must have been a blessing in disguise because God's rejection is our protection !
I gotta be honest, I really don't want to talk on the phone for an hour myself with most men. The conversations just aren't that stimulating most of the time.
True🙄
When I know he dumb. I just play bored😂 one hour on the phone.. Nigga's be boring us to death🙄🤦♀️😂😂
Lmaooo so true...be carrying the whole conversation
@@PriyankaGupta-ew1li Lol, yes! 😂
So true
When you ask a man what do you want me for, they get mad
😂
True. , just mine got mad cause he could not understand why I don’t see that he is the lucky one to have me😉
I just asked a man that lol. He chased me for 2 years. I finally gave him chance hanging out spending time and stuff. This fool is pulling away now. So i ask him why you do all that chasing now i give you a chance and you acting stupid. Smh.
I have laughed so hard on these female gestures " girlllll" this is so brutally honest. Thank God for men standing up telling the truth
If he let's you pay/go Dutch, he's not that into you.
This is an original dance to the music nuance " be a man about it; not a boy with it" ,my saying to put a male in his place ( make him think) kinda a put down and make him rethink the behavior /situation . So Tony this is a gift to you apply it , as you will. Please feel free to ad it to your brand... Virgin married, first born, Nana, all round single, good girl, chased contemporary single, qualified, old fashion girl, modern woman and cosmopolitan lady.
Uh not sure about this my husband and I have been together for 16years and on our first date I actually paid for it.
@@ajura8926 that’s because he knew you could be used to pay for everything. That’s not a good thing.
This makes being single the greatest thing I have ever done for myself ❤️
heck yes
Thk u Brother Tony. Another great video. To help women see signs. And also for us men to realize what were doing if we really aren't into someone. It holds me accountable and check myself!👍
Make sure he don't need you for a green card, a place to stay, a ride to work, and for financial reasons. Ask what he want you for, look at his character.
Miranda Moore they may not be honest
@@Afrocreolebombshelle They may not be honest but you as a woman..You gotta be Smart...When a man tries to come on too strong and too fast just do a background check on him as if he applying for a job..Do a criminal check and credit check and domestic violence check and STD check and check to see how long he can hold a job and how many kids he has and do he take care of them and how many times he been married...Did I cover everything
@@susamgray2483 home truth...
He shouldn’t be looking for a place holder
In the past I used to meet these Nigerian guys who used to pander me with cheesy lines saying “I think I’ve seen you somewhere before. You’re so beautiful.” I’d simply ignore them. Next thing you know they’re getting married to a British woman
Car chronicles, hotel chronicles... Love them all 😂😂
Bedroom chronicles, office chronicles
“You want me but what do you want me for”. I hear that as some people ain’t looking for love their looking for help
I try to give a man a chance but, it’s just not working out. They turn out to be just what you said Tony. I rather stay single & wait for the right man that know my worth than to waste my time wondering if he’s really into me. I refuse to be treated like a piece of celery on a side plate of chicken wings.
When he said “not LPN, keep working” Lawwwd I spit out my food 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂🤣😂🤣
😂😂😂😂😂😂
This was Hilarious! 🤣 But Seriously Ladies, we have to remember that we ARE the PRIZE! We have to stop making excuses for lackadaisical behavior. Know your worth! ✌🏾
Tony and his female mannerisms - “OHHHHHHHH” 😂😂😂😂, but he’s telling NO lies
What gets me...laying on ya byke(back) lol lol
@@tanitrarobinson7477 LMBOOOOOO yes!
Yes he kills me I always laugh when I hear him start lol 😂😭
@@tanitrarobinson7477 I love his accent!
A.G. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙌🏽🙌🏽
“A woman needs a man with character, substance, faith, dreams and goals... coupled with ambition.” -T. Gaskins
Amen
Amen
Good luck... Guys like that are taken so soon...my being married...
Say this until u fall asleep ladies
If a man is not interested then just say your not interested. It’s gets messy when he continues to pursue a woman for his own needs but could really care less about her. Be real and leave space needed for the right man to intercept your intentions. This goes for females too. This is such an old subject that never seems to get old.
Why would he tell you that if he’s trying to use you?
If you have to ask a man to call you instead of texting...even suggest it...he's not into you like that. You dont need to ask, hint, suggest, wait or play games when he is truly interested. You'll know from the START.
You know what am taking this on board.
Yeah he not interested....I was blind.
I had a guy acting iffy and when I asked him what was going on he told me he still had feelings for his ex and wasn't emotionally available. He also said he shouldn't have been so iffy and felt bad for it.
At least he's honest
Good thing he still was honest. Cause some men will just continue to be fake and act like it’s nothing...Honesty will take you a long way.
At least he told you the truth. One i been dealing with he just went mute.. he'd read my whatsapp message but no replies.. and never say anything if he doesnt want anything to do with me.. it hasnt been easy really. Trying to move on but i love him
@@marymwinga1255 You love an *idea!* Get yourself a fresh set of energy and take yourself off his shelf! I have the same issue of not being the priority
and Tony's vids helping me move on.
@@remiem-iw7uk yes thanks. Im definately doing that.. I let go and let God
Relationships confuse me, ppl confuse me. A man can put a ring on your finger, wait for you at the alter, create children with you and still cheat, lie and not prioritize you. Create whole entire families else where with or without you knowing about them.
And women are just as bad. How many married women are having affairs getting pregnant by their mister and claiming the baby to be their husbands.
Like i said people are confusing.
It seems like the cheaters win
Woooo chile i be ignoring the signs🤦🏿😫
Me too!!
Me 3...smh 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Yes we all do from time to time if we are being honest. Prayerfully this time we have learned, and we will wait for the one God have for us.
@@ladennayoung2939 Yes we all do!!🤣
Well let's all make this the last time we all ignore signs. It's time for us women to get it together. I know I'm too old to still be getting played
Sometimes a man can be interested and do all the things you’ve spoke on but in an unhealthy manner due to previous trust issues and ruins something that could’ve been powerful and beautiful. I call it “The Over-thinker”
This ‼️
True. But after ghosting me for the last three weeks he has a lot of explaining to do. If he reaches out I'm not sure I'm going to respond!!!!
“You’re no longer just thirsty, now you’re dehydrated” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’ve been there 😩
so basically he need to be a man that's looking for his wife and we should look like her when he finds and approached us :)
ADORING GALORE that part
No you need to wait on God honey..because he won't send you trash...
Youre a queen wait for your king....
I feel bad because I can’t even get a phone call 😔
He won't the one ....hes coming🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
wbabe2012 it will get better. Gods timing ❤️🙏
You will
The right person wont do you like that so take courage in that fact.
Sad
😆Did he just say,”Chocolate 🥛 milk!”
Chocolate milk in the sahara desert !!!!😄😄😄
When he said that I was like yessss😍
Lol ...he said you on the roster! Lol
In the Sahara desert!😂😂
In the Sahara Desert 😜
I saw this online: "The love that you're WAITING to receive from someone else; you should already be giving it to yourself FIRST!" Now that was a word!
Based on this video, I don’t think anyone I have every dated was into me.☹️It’s good to understand the differences.
“He does not need you, he wants you” wow 😳 thanks Tony I needed to hear that again! I’m in denial but I’m getting there! Thanks for this knowledge you share!
“You want me, what do you want me for” 😯
I am about to ask this guy the same thing..
Nick Bry positive energy to you 😃
I asked and the answer I got was so lame
Love & Light I’m sorry I know how that feels 😞
He wants one for a car. One that puts change in his pocket. A couple that give up the hot pocket. Ultimately seems like whatever they can gain...a ride, conversation, shelter, a roommate, a cook, a maid, attention, knowledge (what's socially acceptable for this type of woman vs. another), PRACTICE.
Success is a process and time ALWAYS tells the TRUTH. The urge to rush into anything is not of God but our own spirit. We can't assume that God has his hand on every relationship because it looks and feel right....pray for discernment.
@@PreciousForReal It's important to support, motivate, and uplift each other. And women must know that all makes don't operate or move the same.
@@chrisparker6249 Blessings my brothah
@@AE-106 🙏
Amen🙌
💯💯💯
Just broke up a week ago with a guy for all the mentioned reasons...I knew I deserve and wanted more than I was receiving . Today I woke up doubting myself and wondering if I did the right thing. This popped on my page and it was like sent by God’ reaffirming that I did the right thing. Feeling better 😊
We
I had a guy that used to say so tired when I get home from work. Something hit me on the head one day and I woke up. He finally called and I was not there to answer the phone. All of a sudden he knows how to call because I do not answer the calls. Go figure.
Ok, so now what? I feel dumb af. You said everything I already knew but allowed the fantasy and the “in between” time to win me over. I fell victim to exactly what I knew not to do, and not even victim cause typically, as in my current situationship, it’s MY fault. I am lost in this new world and at the same time trying to find my old self (newly divorced) and my new self. Men, are like forbidden fruit. Desired but they ruin the soul. Basically after watching this video, there is NO WAY my soul, my being will allow me to go back to my situationship with the way it is, meaning it’s over and I’m scared of having to face that reality of being sad due to me being STUPID! 😭
Don't fall for the friend zones LADIES men and women can not be friends
Right!
It's usually women putting men in the friend zones but you are right men and women can not be friends. One party always has feelings for the other. Might not act on them due to fear or being with someone else but there are feelings.
You have a friend in Jesus! Facts!
I agree!
Your "friend" will shoot his shot.....Point blank perrrrrriodt!!!!
I have to tell you Tony, when you said talk everyday for an hour I thought you were crazy and that was impossible. Well this man I’m talking to our first phone conversation was for 6 hours. Yes 6 hours! I couldn’t believe it. Didn’t think it was possible. We’re both in our early 60s, retired partially disabled so we have lots of time. We talk everyday. Its been a couple months since exchanging numbers and we still can talk for hours. He talks 3 times more than I but I don’t get tired of listening to him so far at least lol. We both want the same things for our future. We’ll see as things progress.
Nice 💞
You are NOT in your sixties... lookin good lady!
Ebony Oliver awe shucks thank you 😊
60’s??? You look AHMAZING! Keep us updated! Lol❤️
How cool is that! Wishing the best!
Amen, Tony! I just went through this. This guy came on hot & heavy even told people that knew me he was crushing on me. We kissed & then he started backing off. Yet he just got mad when he found out I went out with someone else. He doesn't want me but doesn't want me with anyone else. Talk about jacked up!!
That's crazy 🤔 Hopefully he doesn't know where you live
I think it's mental illness 💁🏾
Block, block,block
His adding you to his harem
Judith Stevens wow his a wasteman get rid darling and block him and move on! His trying to waste your time. If he truly wanted you he would step up before another man had the opportunity to take you out on a date.
Thank you! Sometimes we are so busy reacting to each instance, we forget to look at the whole picture. I didn't see until this video was playing in the background and the facts were clicking. Suddenly im sitting down and hanging on to every word! God worked through you today. That message was my answer. Thank you.
I feel you on that sometimes people think. prayers were answered when they get a man that's interested or some similar interested and doing the things that you pray for. but the devil also listen to your prayers he's always waiting to creeping in your life and get sidetracked and don't pay attention to the signs, that was already there and it's hard to get the devil out your house.