Join in the comments and tell us: 1. Where are you from? 2. Do you wear/allow shoes at home? 3. Would you go onto your bed if you’re not at your cleanest? 4. How would you address your partner’s parents?
1. Brazil, but living in Canada. 2. We don't use outside shoes inside the house. 3. No, only after shower and no outside/dirty clothes on a bed! 4. I think back home people usually address parents in law by their names, or auntie/uncle because we were probably calling them like this before. For elderly people I often seen people calling them nanna/pa as a affectional way.
1. Philippines (living in the US) 2. No shoes allowed inside our home as well, we have slippers waiting at the doorstep to use indoors 3. We addressed our in-laws with full respect, the same we pay full respect with our own parents❤️
1. I am of Zambian descent living in the UK 2. No shoes in the house 3. This is something I have adopted but wasn’t a rule growing up. 4. Partner’s Parents are Mum and Dad The cultural mindset towards respect is the same, an older person is your aunt or uncle
1. Im from Poland. 2. I dont wear shoes at home, sometimes slippers. Sometimes i go grab something from home on outdoor shoes but when i know i would clean floors soon. 3. On bedcover i would seat in outdoor cloths. Usually shower before bed or some cleaning if i feel generaly clean ;) 4. We call adults with Pan (Mr) and Pani (Miss), and in laws mom and dad generally, but its depends from relations between the family. In traditional perspektive it look really similar 😉
Thanks to asian culture and reaching a point to minimalism, in our home as Mexican's we remove our shoes at the door, we clean 2-3 times a week, we shower in the evening, I sleep on a shikibuton and do floor sitting. We also have a sign on the door that asks visitors to remove their shoes
I'm German and I can totally relate to the shock of seeing Americans walk around the house in their outside shoes. We change shoes in the hallway (or if they're especially dirty in front of the door) and wear slippers, called literally house shoes, inside to not get cold feet. The thing with outside clothes on the bed and the time of showering however is more a personal preference and I've seen both in peoples homes. How to address my in-laws or parents of friends as a child was really difficult, because they usually introduce themselves by their first name but especially before adulthood I didn't feel comfortable calling an adult that's not part of my family by their first name or the informal version of you. Now as an adult that is slowly changing, but it still feels a bit weird with my in-laws.
@@ThoughtworthyCoin the US it's very variable. We usually ask when entering a new home, whether we should remove our shoes or not. Most homes are shoes off, but it's also not shocking to momentarily wear shoes indoors (for example, you forgot something while heading out and need to grab it quickly) or for a repair-person to keep their shoes on. You can usually tell by where the shoes are stored. If the shoes are right by the door, it's probably a shoes off home.
@@Valentin-oc5nh Die Boomer, die noch Rücksicht auf die Untermieter nehmen - leider sind viele Leute "Hackenläufer" und barfuß laufen macht daher Lärm in Form von ständigem Gerumpel. Wir erleben sowas täglich und es macht uns fast wahnsinnig.
Hello from Russia! Very similar but different here. We don't wear outside shoes at home (unthinkable during fall, winter and spring, it's way to dirty outside, and not ok at summer too), so it's either barefoot, socks or home slippers. We also usually have separate sets of clothes to wear outside, at home and to sleep in. We usually remove the bedding for the day or cover the bed with a blanket if it's stationary, and as kids we were highly discouraged to sit or lie on the bed during the day. Showers are very individual, but many people with kids give them bath before bed. Not everyone is your uncle or auntie. Well, if you are a child it's ok to call your friend's parents, or friends of your parents that, but it's 'uncle/aunti + short/familiar first name' (uncle Sasha / auntie Masha), or in a more rural areas it can be a wider circle of people that know you and your family. If you are a very small child it's ok to call someone unfamiliar uncle/auntie, but if a child is older it might be considered not very polite. We have not only last name (family name) and a first name, but 'father's name' (a name you have that depends on what your father's first name is) and two different forms of 'you': singular/familiar and plural/respectful. So it's polite to address older people or if you are both adults but not close using plural/respectful you and full first name + father's name (Alexander Igorevich / Maria Igorevna) (both their fathers' names here is Igor for example of how it works). It is considered impolite to call (for example) your teacher 'Teacher', it looks like you didn't bother to learn their name, you should address them with their first name + father's name. Same goes between adults who are not on a first name only terms. In general it is considered a polite thing to know a name of a person you interact with. As for in-laws, it varies from family to family. Some call them mum/dad, some considere it disrespectful to their on parents, some are not that close, some use respectful first name + father's name. It's usually considered impolite to call your partner's parents mother-in-low/father-in-low (ok when you explain to someone else who they are to you, dut to call them that to their face is kind of rude). Me and my husband address each other parents by first name + father's name, but between us we just call them mum/dad. Thanks for the video and comment from different countries, it was very interesting 👍
The point about calling teacher "teacher" being impolite as it may come across as not learning their names, is so interesting. It actually kind of makes sense, but we do it totally differently here. Thanks for sharing!
Canadian here. Seeing Americans in tv shows wearing their shoes indoors is mildly upsetting, but that clip you showed where they were wearing their shoes on the bed gave me a palpable feeling of anxiety.
I love this topic. Keep them coming. 1. Originally from the Philippines, living in Australia for almost 20 years. 2. Outside shoes stay outside. we have indoor slippers for indoors. We also have indoor slippers for guests to wear. 3. Our family is a bit extreme in this one. Outside clothes are not permitted on the bed, only bedroom clothes, not even house clothes you wear at home when having lunch/dinner. And the slippers we wear in the house stay out of the bedroom. So we have outdoor shoes, indoor slippers and bedroom slippers or barefoot. Shower before bed always. 4. We address our partner's parents the same way our partner addresses their parents (i.e. ma/pa, dad/mom, etc). I personally dont address my inlaws as i find it a bit awkward.. but its just me :). For everyone else much older, we address them as Tito (Uncle), Tita (Auntie) or Kuya (Big brother), Ate (Big Sister)
Wow, the separation between "house" and "bedroom" indeed may sound a bit extreme, but I totally get the point! This way, the bedroom is an abolute sanctuary.
I am from the Netherlands. We always take our shoes off when entering the home, we did that since childhood already. We shower mostly in the evening (depends on the season if it's hot). We have our sleepwear to sleep in so we change to that when sleeping. We calling our inlaws by name. I prefer to be called by my name and use the informal way if you in Dutch which is 'je'. The formal is 'u', we use that for older people like your grandparents, school teacher or boss at work. But it's not very strictly used though.
This is not Universal in the Netherlands. Many people keep their shoes on in the house and there is no general procedure for what to do with shoes in someone else's house. Also, most people shower in the morning.
From India 🇮🇳 It’s funny and surprising how similar Singaporean culture is to Indian. With In-laws, siblings, home hygiene - a lot match which is so cool! Love your videos and the narrative behind Thoughtworthy. Wish you the best ⭐️
same with turkish culture, my grand parents are from Turkey, and i feel a lot of similitudes too ;) no shoes at home, we can eat on the floor so and same for the respect with elders. :) we live in France now but i do not feel confortable with shoes at home, so i still let the shoes out and live at floor level too :) and elders are of course to consider with respect, love, :)
American here: 1. From the midwest, state of Minnesota. 2. We generally don't wear shoes inside, but only because they might be wet, muddy or snowy. I don't have any issues with walking around my own house with shoes on, but I'm mindful of what I might be tracking in from outside. If I'm entering someone else's house, I usually wait to see if they take their shoes off before I take mine off. 3. Yes, no problems with jumping onto my bed in my clothes or without a shower. I can understand the cleanliness thing, but if I can speak for myself and other Americans, we see it more as "we sleep between the sheets, not on top of the blanket/comforter". There's a layer between there keeping things clean, in my eyes. 4. I address my wife's parents by their first names. Addressing them by their last names, or as "sir/ma'am" would feel extremely awkward to both myself and my inlaws.
My american friend jump on the bed wearing shoes, even stepped on pillow and just pat the dirt mark off then slept on it. i saw him doing it and my anxiety just up through the roof.
I totally love how your way of life is so respectful. my grand parents are from Turkey and the same, we never wear shoes at home as shoes go everywhere. so. at home, we can walk with socks and eat on the floor with no worries of bacterias. and taking a shower before bed, i totally prefer it to go to bed clean. personally i prefer to change my clothes and showering at the end of the day to let the energies of the day out, and to feel clean peace at home, as a sacred place in fact. for me, i do not feel confortable with people keeping shoes in a house (with no judgement) i just do not feel it. and about elders, in turkish communities, they called everyone with a lot of respect words too. it is funny as the other day i was talking to my parents how much i love Japanese culture about hygiene in the house and the respect to things, and people, and elders. i feel this video interesting and with no judgement of course, just to underline differences that might allow us to see things differently ;)
I'm in California, USA. I grew up with when you arrive home immediately go to your room and remove your shoes in your bedroom. This kept the front door clutter free and meant we stored shoes out of sight. Our closet is all our "out of sight" storage and is where we store our dresser full of clothes, our hang up clothes, our shoes and accessories like purses and jewelry. The livingroom and entryway were for guests and should never have something as personal as shoes sitting in the walkway. It was considered rude in my family for a guest to come over and trip over our shoes at the door, but we do have a little cubby for our guests to take their shoes off at the door and if they're staying more than a few minutes we always ask them to take their shoes off.
What a fun video;) 1. Austria 2. I grew up with no shoes allowed at home; we always wore slippers. Still do. For our elderly patents, we make an exeption. 3. Growing up we used to change clothes at home, no outdoor clothes allowed in bed. Still do (t-shirt is ok, trousers aren't). Showers morning and/or nighttime. My dog is an exception. She doesn't change clothes nor shoes at home and is allowed entering my bed just the way she is;) We live in the countryside, and to me, soil, grass etc is just nature. Some of our habits could be considered similar to Asian style, but I have no Asian background. My father however visited Japan regularly. 4. First name
Greetings from Russia! Asian side :) No shues at home/ or special shues for home. ✓ Same clean bed rule. ✓ Showers are very individual *hard to say* Everyone is your uncle ✓ - surprised it's not only Russian thing Addressing in-laws as mother and farther ✓ - but not so strict as in Singapor.
I'm Chinese Indonesian and I remember in primary school, we were asked to do family tree. I know how many uncles/aunts/cousins I have - BUT I DIDN'T KNOW ANY OF THEIR NAMES!!! - my teacher and some classmates thought that was so weird, only other Chinese Indonesian classmates understood my problem. Now that I'm working in an expat community in Asia, where there are many Asian/non-Asian couples, I hear this cultural differences as well. The shoe issue is the common one, but the one I never thought about was luggage. I always wipe my luggage after every trip especially the wheels before storing them away, and when I pack, I open the luggage on floor and pack there. Apparently it's common in Western world to put luggage on the bed and pack everything there. It makes sense on ergonomic point of view, but coming back to your concept of "Bed is clean area" I was so shocked to hear about that 😅
1. I’m from Ohio, USA. My husband is from England. 2. Neither of us wore shoes in our house growing up. Our houses both had light colored carpeting. We don’t wear them now in our own place. We leave the decision up to guests as to if they wear shoes or not. 3. I will sit on the duvet/quilt in clothes I’ve worn outside, but not on the sheets directly. If my clothes are actually dirty, I would change before sitting anywhere 4. We address our in-laws by their first names.
1. America 2. Shoes are totally fine inside. I'm a paraplegic, so I have no choice about my wheelchair touching the floor after coming inside (if anyone has any experience with using a wheelchair in Asian homes, I'd be curious to know about the etiquette) 3. No specific rules about getting in bed and when you shower 4. Definitely their first names
1. From the Philippines but lived in Hongkong and Canada (2 very different cultures) for a long time. 2. Indoor slippers at home. No shoes allowed. 3. Shower before bed and wash up before starting the day. 4. We address our in-laws as mom and dad. We also call our elderly siblings Kuya (male) and Ate (female). Very similar to your culture.
Hello inspiring people 🙂 I am from Poland, and I would like to start by thanking you for your work and ideas on minimalism, sitting on the floor, and moving a lot. I am grateful for that. In our country, we also do not wear shoes at home. We take them off right after entering the house/apartment. Same with shower, although it is my personal preference - always before going to bed. Same with bed culture, never leave dirty clothes on the bedsheet. Another personal preference is to address elders/partners' parents - and also address all elders with respect. The same goes for my friends. They use mom and dad for their in-laws.
Hello to the both of you ! 1. France, born and raised 2. In really depends on the families rules. I don't like wearing shoes inside a house, so I get rid of them at my place or when I am at someone's. But I know people don't mind most of the time so I'm not asking them to remive theirs shoes when they visit (I just clean the floors after they have left). And some of my friends, seeing me bare foot, ask if they should remove their shoes. 3. I prefer that everything stays clean in the bedroom, but back when I was young (teenager) I know that some of my friends had bo problem with it whatsoever. Again in depends on who's house it is. 4.Here we call our in laws by name, but it's quite "new" (I am 30 and my grandparents used to call their in laws by Mr X or Mrs X). We have something here in France to show respect though which is "vous" instead of "tu". I personnally say "tu" to my father and my mother in law because I am really enjoying the people they are and the pronoun "vous" shows a distance. I explained this to them and they're happy that I am saying "tu" to them when I'm speaking to them. So I guess it depends one every situation (again ^^). I hope everything is clear and comprehensible ! Thank you for your work which is always great to watch. Really enjoyed learning about your culture ! :)
1. Poland 2. no shoes in the house. Tho if you have someone doing some work in your house e.g. a plumber they can keep their shoes. but that's a special case. Guests get indoor slippers. There is also a trend where some people will tell you that you can keep your shoes on when visiting. Personally I always ask, "but I can take them off tho, right?" in response lol, taking off your shoes is more comfortable. 3. Always shower/bath before bed. The bed is a clean and cozy place, so not washing before is weird to me and wearing outdoor shoes while on the bed blows my mind. I sometimes take a cold shower in the morning too, but im definitively the odd one out with this. 4. Mom and Dad. Tho while dating it will be Mr and Mrs. I'm right there with you, shaking my head at people with shoes on in the bed lol
1. Peruvian, living in Taiwan 3 months ago. 2. It's not something I was used to, but over time I've gotten used to it. The idea of using a pair of slippers inside the house and another pair for the bathroom still shocks me. 3. Being in a hot country, for a matter of comfort I do tend to take a shower when I return from the street 4. In Latin America we generally call parents by name, or by abbreviations or even by terms like "viejo, vieja" (old one). Your video was entertaining indeed.
I am 44, from Spain. I was born nearby the only continental desert in continental Europe. Because it rains 5 days a year - all of them in a row in the same week -, we do not pay much attention to removing or keeping the shoes inside the house. This is because there is no mud. Ever. But we wash our feet immediately if we have been to the beach as sand is a pain to sweep. Some younger people have started asking if they should remove their shoes in the north and middle of Spain, but in our area it does not make much of a difference as it is always dry and dry dust floats indoors anyway. I think this also has to do with the fact that we spend a lot of time outdoors. We have an all-year-round temperature of 21 degrees even in winter, so it is nice to spend a lot of time outside of cafès or just walking by the sea even when it is late.
What strikes me the most is when I see on movies people putting their luggage on the bed! Luggages are dirty and I wouldn't ever allow anyone putting luggages on my precious, clean bed 😆
Hi! 1. I’m from Colombia, and I don’t have a close conexion with assian culture. 2. It’s no so common, people usually wear shoes at home. However, some people ask if you can remove them (it is not the general rule). In my daily life, I try remove them at least in the living room. 3. I live in a relative cold city, so I don’t take showers in the night very often, but I try to use a special clothes only for home and of course specially when I’m going to bed. 4. I think we call it by there names or with a nickname for showing some of affection haha. I don’t remember how I found your channel, but I really like it!
1. Denmark 2. No, we take them off in the hallway. 3. Yes, we don't necessarily shower in the evening. 4. By their first name. Denmark is a highly informal society, and some elders might even take it the wrong way if you adress them differently than you would with younger people, as it makes them feel old.
Love this so much! I'm from England. As a family, we always remove our shoes at the front door. I don't always have time for a shower before bed, but I always wipe my feet before getting into bed. A shower followed by getting into a freshly made bed is perfection. I address my in-laws by their first names, but we do not see them often because they are tricky.
Here in the UK I think the shoes on/off thing depends hugely on your individual parents rather than culture at large. I am easy on showering, no AM/PM preference but I have/would sit on or get into bed even if I wasn't at my cleanest...not if I have just washed the bedding though! Then I have to be squeaky clean to match.
Finnish person here. The home hygiene part is quite similar to my experience of Finnish culture. Although, what time you shower is probably more personal preference than a cultural thing here. For me evening shower makes more sense. Some people-like my household-uses bedspread, so outside clothes on the bed doesn't matter that much. Obviously, no dirt or sweaty clothes on a bedspread. Bedspreads are a hassle because it is a item and it needs a storage spot for the night. For us a bedspread is essential for a clean bed because of our housecats.
Hello, like always i love to learn form you and about your culture. I am from France, but raised in Germany and France. And my partner is half French half Spanish. I mostly take of my shoes and socks coming home but my partner does not . I asked him to at least not wear them in the bathroom and bedroom. He will take them of in the living room which is ou first room coming in, so it is a compromise I agreed on. For me since I work in a dirty environment it is for me a must to shower before going to bed. But it can happen when really super exhausted I will only do a cat wash (face, arms and armpits). I do not like dirty clothes on the bed, but sometimes We cheat by putting a blanket on top of the bed (on which We will allow ourselves with a worn t-shirt but no pants ! ) I don’t think me partner see anything as a sanctuary but slowly he takes some of my behaviour. On must also for me is to have a good place to dry my towel, my partner does not worry about it drying well, but for me I hate the smell of unwell drying clothes or fabrics. Oh and my in laws I call them by their first name, I could never see myself call them mom or dad, would feel really weird. I would say in France it would be more about how you adresse, we have two ways to say you in French “tu” et “vous”. When you don’t know and want to show respect normally you take to them with “vous” like how are you, is comment allez-vous? And to a friend you would say comment vas-tu? Kind of thing. But I think the parent thing can be different in a lot ways just in France, I will ask friends of mine how they adresse their in laws. Sorry talked a lot. Have a wonderful day
the best part about this video are the comments. I have rarely seen such a good comment section where almost everyone is actually following the rules set by the channel and everyone is sharing their own perspectives while not being judgemental towards other cultures... Bravo Thoughtworthy..
1. America 2. In my experience most US households have a no shoe in the home policy, the exception and the one that gets seen the most, is during large gatherings or special events with small gatherings shoes are allowed all over. (I clean my floors the next morning if we allowed this for a gathering) 3. I shower every morning, it allows me to gather my thoughts and prepare for the day, soothing my anxiety just a bit. I do not work a dirty, sweaty job. 4. I was raised on the East coast where you would address in-laws formally. However, I call my partner's parents by their first names (Grandparents are addressed by their titles of Grandma, Grandpa) The reason for this is I now live on the West coast where it is not just normal for you to speak to in-laws informally but DISRESPECTFUL to address them formally. IT sends the message that you don't want to get close to them. I was shocked!
From what we've been gathering, habits can be so different and diverse within the US alone, which kinda makes sense too. Very interesting stuff! Thanks for sharing 🙌💖
I am from Türkiye and the points you make are almost exactly the same here apart from showering as in the summer we may need more than one shower due to the heat.
1. Germany 2. no, we pull out shoes at the door 3. I do not shower every day, so yes. I would not get into my bed with daywear, but I've got a dayblanket (?) over my bed and it's fine to sit on that with dayclothes. (Also I've got cats, and they don't give a damn). 4. Mr./Mrs. [Surname] (Nowadays it's their first names)
USA No outside shoes inside. In your video shoes were removed just inside the door. We don't have a mudroom/현관/玄関, so we take our shoes off OUTSIDE the door and pick them up to store on a shoe shelf inside. Sliders (slippers) available in our garage and back porch for use outside. I can't imagine ever sitting on my bed if I hadn't showered and changed to inside clothes. New addition to our house: a Shark Ai remote vacuum. After a few months of regular use, even dust is almost unnoticeable.
1. I'm from Poland 2. No. When coming home I take them off and that's the first thing I do. The only room that is okay to have shoes in is the entrance room. Some families wear shoes at home though. We would have few pairs of slippers in case it's cold. Sometimes as a guest i'm getting asked if i want to wear slippers. 3. I usually don't use bed if not for sleeping. I don't like eating in bed which I know some people do but I can't accept getting it dirty. About showers it's really mixed. Even with my family anyone showers when they prefer. I do prefer evening cause it saves me time in the morning and I sleep better clean. I sometimes would change to morning showers in the hottest weather but only then. 4. While dating Mr. and Mrs. but with use of their name, maybe a short version of their name, not surname cause it's way too official. If married I would call them mom and dad.
Thank you for this video. I enjoyed watching it. I am from Morocco, and I have much respect for many aspects of Asian cultures, such as the ones you've talked about. In our culture, we only remove our shoes in mosques. But older generations used to remove theirs when entering a host's house too, leaving them just by the door, though there is no special space for it like you've got in your house. In our culture, it is also disrespectful to call our parents-in-law by their bare first names. We generally add "uncle", or "mother" to the name. We have also been educated to respect the elderly in general and teachers in particular, but younger generations do not seem to do that anymore. Anyway, I appreciate in Asian cultures their spiritual practices, discipline, respect, politeness, quiet, meticulous work, team spirit, cooking skills, and so much more. And, although these characteristics may not apply to all Asian cultures, or to all situations and all people, they are what comes to my mind when I think of them. 😊
American living in California here- everyone I know removes their shoes at the door and wears slippers. I know people who will change their clothing as well.
I am from Singapore, Kathy here. I do take off my shoes before entering the house. And shower in the morning and evening and not getting onto the bed unless showered. I followed my hubby on how he called his mum and dad. Here is my sharing to you.
In the US, Southerners tend to address elders in a more formal, respectful way. You’ll also hear sir/ma’am used quite a bit. In black communities, addressing an older person by their first name can be seen as disrespectful.
I am from the uk. In my experience (and in no way speaking for everyone from the uk as I know our country varies a lot in traditions) shoes come off at the door and slippers are usually worn inside especially in winter. As children the norm was usually bath and bed but as adults it changes to shower and bed but I also know people who shower in the morning but I prefer to be clean before sleeping, also means I don’t have to wash the bed sheets as often 😂. As for elders I called older men Sir and older woman Miss (regardless of marital status) but I think this is considered old fashioned now. Something I always found funny in movies from other cultures is the name “master”. Here that usually refers to a young boy, a child. But in movies like Star Wars etc. It’s seen as someone wise and older. So strange to hear.
1. Hk, U.K., Sweden 2. No shoes at home 3. No. I shower in the morning. I think it’s a lot to do with local weather. In hot climate it makes sense to shower before bed, whereas when it’s really cold it’s less important. You don’t get as sticky/dirty. 4. Mum and dad but that’s not norm here. They (Swedish) prefer it this way.
Sri Lankans share some of these traits as well. How we address our elders, in-laws and no shoes in home but definitely not to this extend when it comes to cleanliness. But like you described some of these things slowly change with newer generations as they become exposed to western culture more and more. This is definitely a subjective choice to each individual, so personally i have no complains. Also, I'm really happy that i found this channel at the time when I'm thinking about building a home. I love minimalism. Lesser attachments to material objects surely improved my life. -Love from Sri Lanka.
Please do a guide to how you made your floor desk so that we can get the same desk and make it at home because I can’t find one commercially at the same size we would really appreciate it thank you
1. Chinese-American living in California. 2. Shoes absolutely not allowed in the home. 3. I go on my bed whenever, even if I haven't taken a shower because I am lazy. I don't think my grandma or parents approve of this. 4. My partner is also Chinese-American. I would call their parents "shu-shu" and "a-yi." I also call my friends' parents this or the equivalent in Cantonese or Tagalog, or just auntie/uncle if I don't know what else. If the friends aren't Asian, then I will call them Mr. or Mrs. (family name)
1. Asian Australian 2. Kick out shoes as soon as i enter my own household, dont care if you enter with shoes on 3. Same, because there's no need to do shower every bloody time 4. By their first names, because Australia is an egalitarian society
Shoes inside also depend on the climate. You don't want wet and dirty shoes inside. If the floor is ice-cold, you don't want to go barefooted. In the summer I can have a shower anytime, but in the winter I feel too cold in the evening, so I have to do it in the morning.
1. The Netherlands 2. We don’t wear shoes in the house ourself but accept others who visit with shoes. We also have a dog and a cat, so keeping the floor very hygienic is a challenge. 3. We do not shower every day but wash by the sink with washcloths to. This is always strait after work in the afternoon or evening. We wear bedclothes and/or home clothes after work. 4. In general we name elder people not by their first name unless they ask us to. This is also a rule at my work. I work with mostly elder people as a homecare nurse. We do notice when people have dementia they don’t always respond to mr of mrs (and then their last name) but more and more their first name as they sometimes return into their childhood state of life and forget the rest. I think respect is not only shown in how you name someone but also how you treat and talk to someone. Really like your channel ♥️ This is an interesting topic to.
I'm from Canada, and I've always grown up taking shoes off when entering a home, but I know some households don't care as much. Slippers are a personal decision; I prefer barefoot, but will wear fluffy socks when it's cold. Going under the covers in dirty clothes isn't common, but sitting on top of the blanket is fine. Personally, I don't go in my bed unless I've changed into pajamas, but that's more comfort than a recognition of hygiene. However, if you know your clothes are dirty, it's common to change before sitting or lying on any furniture. Generally, you address older people by the name they give you, and your partner's parents by the parents' preference, or whatever your partner calls them. I'd say it's pretty common here to call your inlaws mom and dad, and I know some parents think of it as a badge of honour that they're close enough to their parent's partner that they're considered family in that way. Keep in mind, though, this is my perspective as a descendant of English and French colonizers; there are many cultures and ethnicities here, so I probably couldn't say what the average is for Canada as a whole.
I'm in and out quite a bit, and when I'm home I'm extremely busy, often times I forget I'm wearing my shoes, otherwise I usually take them off when I get inside, especially since I go to the shower first. (After work) Shoes actually aren't as dirty as you think, ofcourse you can find links that say otherwise, but by this logic we are constantly filthy no matter how clean we are, haha. It's dirty yes, but not as much as you seem to think, We aren't obsessed with being clean, but we do sweep every other day (no choice, our cat keeps getting litter everywhere) My apartment looks similar to yours, and I keep clean
I'm italian and here people wear shoes in their homes usually, and you're not requested to take off your shoes when visiting someone at their home. I wear slippers at home though, could never wear dirty shoes inside the house. Also, I shower morning and night, very quickly before bed. I change underwear at least 2-3 times a day cos I could never get back home from hours outside keeping the same underwear, clothes and socks. You can imagine what my weekly laundry looks like 😂 Bed: nothing on or under the bed, I have to be able to clean easily, and apart from pets (that I currently don't have) I want nothing there. Partner's parents: it depends on the people. We usually call in laws by their first names but that doesn't mean we like each other or want to see each other often 😊 I had a very long relationship that ended 2 years ago and I always felt awkward around them, different lifestyles and opinions can lead to some problems over time. Respect is something owed from either side, not just to elderly people. Age doesn't make people wiser or nicer, and if they're horrible it's hard to relate and respect them.
Yes I wear shoes in the house. I wear specialized orthotics and w/o them, I cannot move around or walk w/o pain. So the indoor shoes are clean. Slippers won't work with orthotics. I take them off when sitting on the couch but if doing chores around the house, I have to wear them. When visiting others, I take them off and live with the discomfort.
In Canada we take our shoes off at the door and that sets us apart from the USA. I don’t always shower in the morning but at night I would more likely have a bath. However, I often wash my feet even if I don’t t shower or bathe at night, before I get into bed. I don’t like any clothes on my bed, but I sleep with my small dog, who doesn’t shower at night and never takes his shoes off! But in muddy, wet, or snowy weather I wipe his feet with a wet wipe when he comes into the house. I don’t do that in the summer, so really no rhyme or reason here!! Lol
HK Chinese living in Australia here. I see all the same differences. At public schools, kids even address assitants, teachers and Principals (!!) by name, which is actually confusing as they can't tell why they need to listen to whom or anyone at all. My Asian students nicely adapted it by calling the teachers, 'Teacher [name]'.
1. Utah, USA 2. No 3. Yes! I like the logic of washing before bed but I can't get my hair wet before sleeping. I have long curly hair and touching it too much when wet results in horrible tangles and will tear my hair. Curly hair is very delicate so blow drying isn't good. I also live in a desert so it's not wet and sticky out. I can get away with showering every other day if it's not a work out day. 4. By their first name. I address my parent's spouses (divorced parents) by their first names.
Hi from Pilipins - I think this will echo to most asians. 2. No shoes allowed, I think most households do not wear shoes at all, exception when going somewhere far outside. Within the subdivision or streets, we wear flipflops/crocs. 2.1 I will let the visitor to decide whether they want to keep their shoes on or no. 3. Yes, top bed, under the sheets, it does not matter, it have to be clean (me). 4. Mother, father.
1. Philippines 2. NO, we also leave our shoes and slippers outside. And good point on that where on western series/movies they would sit on the couch or even bed with their shoes on and its kinda cringy. Feels weird but I haven't asked anyone even here why they do that. Guess its really part of their culture. And don't know if its just for the show but here even on TV shows or movies when the setting is inside a home almost all the time we are barefoot and just wearing baggy clothes. 3. NO, but if really tired then maybe yes. 4. We call them Tita/Tito or in other countries its like Auntie/Uncle. Dad,Mom if married.
1.- Spain 2.- We tried to wear off our shoes inside home but it is not a strong rule and visitors are not included 3.- We usually take a shower in the evenings but here is more common to do it in the mornings 4.- We always call our partner’s parents by name.
1. Black American from Texas here 2. Growing up, taking shoes on/off was really dependent upon household and floor type - it was more acceptable to wear shoes on hardwood/laminate flooring, but not on the carpet; but generally everyone wore house shoes/slippers around the house and not the outside shoes. Shoes were absolutely not allowed on the furniture or bedding. As an adult, I have a no shoes inside policy and my sister does the same. 3. We had our "outside" clothes and "inside" clothes that we'd change into at the end of the day, so never wore outside clothes on the bed. I still keep to this in adulthood, and will shower before getting into the bed at night. 4. This is more of a Southern thing, but it's weird to address your elders by their first name alone unless it's your step-parent; it'd be Mr/Mrs. _insert first or last name_. Alternatively, mama/papa _insert first or last name_ for the in-laws. It also isn't uncommon in the black community to call older family friends uncle/aunt regardless of blood relation, and if they're still pretty young, they'd be cousin
1) The "shoes off" rule makes sense in places where streets are dirty or muddy, like parts of Southeast Asia. In countries like Singapore, where the streets are exceptionally clean, the practice is less relevant outside of the monsoon season. In dirtier regions like Vietnam, Laos, Cambodia, and China, it's understandable to remove shoes. In Melbourne, Australia, our sidewalks are also very clean, so removing shoes indoors is unnecessary. What many people don’t realise is that walking barefoot spreads sweat, encouraging bacteria growth, which can be more harmful than what’s brought in on shoes, as sidewalks are exposed to rain and UV light, killing most germs. When I lived in Singapore, I asked guests to wipe their shoes on a hard-bristled mat, but they didn’t need to remove them unless it was raining. My floors remained clean because I regularly vacuumed and mopped. 2) The "shower before bed" rule mainly applies to hot, humid climates where people sweat heavily, like Singapore. When I lived there, I always showered before bed. In Melbourne, where temperatures stay below 22°C for most of the year, sweating is minimal, so going to bed without showering from April to November doesn’t affect the cleanliness of the sheets. Most Australians do shower before bed from late Spring until early Autumn.
How is your foot being possibly more dirty or spreading more germs than what could be brought in from the outside? Seriously. Also being barefooted promotes good foot hygiene and lets the foot breath plus it’s good for the foot structure longer term. Nothing about supporting what is practiced by others or not practiced but your reasoning don’t make sense though. If someone is suffering from say athletes foot all the more airing with proper medication plus foot hygiene helps sort it out once and for all. I’ve lived in Europe Asia and Australia so knows the challenges and the conditions and practices.
@@mojojojo1529 In other words, your behaviour is dictated by longstanding cultural norms rather than actual logic. Kinda like how Jews and Muslims still don't eat pork, even though it is a rule that was made a LONG time ago when nobody knew how to clean or cook their food as well as we do today and 'germ theory' didn't exist yet.
@@superchargerone Good foot hygiene comes from proper bathing/showering and regularly changing your socks and properly drying out your shoes, not from airing out your feet as you walk barefoot around your house...
@@Funkteon I can understand some of your reasoning. However, outdoor shoes also come into contact with who knows what kinds of things in public bathrooms. There's no UV light to clean those germs, and more often than not, public bathrooms are not cleaned well. You might step on dog and bird sh*t and other contaminants when walking along the sidewalk too, and it's not guaranteed that UV light disinfects all of the bacteria. Rain can wash off some bacteria if the rainwater flows down the gutter. But sunlight just evaporates the H2O and leaves the dirt and bacteria behind on the ground. Even if you use a bristled mat to scrub off the dirt, the bottom of the shoe is still much, much dirtier than almost anything you come in brief contact with. Having that bacteria spread throughout the house isn't worth wearing your outdoor shoes inside. (Babies also put everything in their mouths and if they crawl on the floor that is infested with the bacteria that came from the bottom of outdoor shoes, they have a higher risk of getting sick, especially because they have a much lower immune system. A home can certainly look clean, but microscopic bacteria cannot be seen with the naked eye.) Also, it's not just sweat that people shower before bed. Air pollutants and dust that enter the pores on your skin and the oil that the skin produces throughout the day should be washed off to keep the skin from breaking out. If you're worried that walking barefoot introduces bacteria, you can wear slippers. It's literally the same thing as shoes but specifically for indoors, and they never come into direct contact with outdoor contaminants. And your toes don't get smushed in the shoes 24/7.
Hi from Germany. Not shoes inside (in general, for the most part). For me personally, no day clothes in my bed and if I don't feel clean a quick shower before bed (so in the summer always and in winter sometimes…). In-Laws are mostly on a first name basis (i don't have any), though for example, my sister calls hers mom and dad.
1. Russia 2. Slippers or barefoot 3. Skipping shower is ok but you don`t sit on your linens if not in pj or naked. Those who don`t have a couch for sitting are using covers. 4. Depends on relationships. If neutral - by their name and patronymic. If very good - many may call them mum and dad no prob. I personally wouldn`t put my mother on the same level as my partners, in comparison she did nothing for me to deserve this. Also we do call random people on the streets aunts and granmas but we are also using woman and girl, man and guy. Here it`s not about respect but age and gender. There are many old people and in-laws who don`t deserve respect... in Russia you get what you deserve 😁
It's not about what your mother-in-law has done for you that would make you respectful (although she must have done something, indirectly, when she raised her son to be a good husband), and it's nothing to do with "putting her on the same level " as your own mother. What a strange perspective!
@@judylloyd7901 you are making connection between calling a mother-in-law mum and be respectful. For me there`s no connection. You can be respectful calling a person by name or else, respect is defined by actions. [For me mother is a very important word that comes with heavy meaning and can`t be thrown around. We also have a saying - "you only have one mother"] Of course we have some ethnic, Muslim republics where women go to live in their husbands home and a mother is number 1 woman for their men. They call these mothers mums. I don`t find it strange, it`s a different tradition. Also we don`t call acquaintances our friends, like people do in many western countries 😀
I love these rules and try to follow most of them already although sometimes I feel bad making people take their shoes off before coming inside. What do you do with elderly people who find this task difficult? And do you have slippers for people to put on if it’s cold? I also love hopping into a clean bed after having a shower.
Perfectly understandable questions, although they're problems we never have to face! Because it's the tradition here, we'd probably be called "crazy" if we told the elderly they could come into the house with their shoes on 😆 And here in Singapore, it's never cold, so slippers aren't necessary either :)
I'm from Colombia. When we were childern, we usually took off our outdoor shoes and our school uniform and replaced the by slippers or sandals and "indoor clothes", but we usually took a shower in the morning. But as we grew up, we started to use the same shoes inside the house (but never on the bed!). It's normal here to address older people or people with authority (or inlaws) as "Don" (for men) or "Doña" (for women). In Spanish, we have a formal and informal pronoun conjugation, so if we're addressing an older person, we use "usted", but if is a friend, a colleage or someone younger, we use "tú".
yees!!! I love this topic... im Mexican and we also have specific words for our in-laws and i find it weird when I see people talking to their in-laws bu the first name... also im from the north of Mexico and we use "auntie" and "uncle" for the parents of our friends out of respect and love and we get teased by the rest of the country 😅😅😅😅 thank you for sharing!!!
Cool! To be honest we had no idea how different is it between the north and south of Mexico. Would love to learn more sometime, thanks for sharing Bere! 💖
Hi guys I’m from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷 1. Here it’s really uncommon for people to take off their shoes when entering home and older people may see it as disrespectful if you ask them to remove their shoes while entering your home. However I’m trying to make this a thing at my house haha. Wish me luck 2. My mom taught me to always shower if I was out before I do anything else when I arrived home and to always shower before bed even if I was at home all day. 3. We address our in-laws by their first Names 🫣 😂 it’s kinda weird to call them otherwise By the way I LOVE your channel 🥰
The whole "not removing shoes even in bed" is more of a US phenomenon, in most places in europe it's natural as well and we are always dismayed when actors don't remove shoes. We even didn't "believe" it at first like "oh it's just the actors/producers/directors being lazy" but it just happens way too often - like if they kept showing people pooping on the street it's not just them "being lazy". Also not finishing food.
The other side of the no shoes in the house seems to be you absolutely do not go barefoot outside. I go barefoot fairly often outside around the house here in Australia, as would a lot of others.
Also almost all my extended family and friends etc are used to wearing shoes indoors. I can't think of anyone (other than my Asian friends 😅) who would ask you to remove your shoes at the door. Everyone has door mats for the most part, for you to wipe your shoes before entering.
I've been growing up in Austria as a native Austrian and am still living there. I think for the majority of native Austrian people it's common to put their shoes off at home and leave them in the entrance area. I wouldn't wear clothes from outside in my bed, I in general change them instantly after arriving at home. But this is a pretty personal thing. I think there are many people in Austria doing it in different ways. Another thing is the showering/bathing comparison. I know many people who shower in the mornings but I am the opposite. I want to go to sleep and feel "clean" and start like this already into the next day. I think in Austria both versions are pretty common. I really admire the "asian" respectful behavior in front of elder people. In Austria it's a bit different. We usually treat them respectful in language but depending on how close we are with them or if they allow it to us, it might be more "common" to call them by their first names. Strangers we usually would call by their last name to be more respectful, especially if there is a bigger age gap. Sometimes it can be considered as being uncomfortable if we talk too politely to another one almost at the same age.
When I visit my relatives in the US, one of the first things we do is buy indoor slippers, and a mat to place our outdoor shoes on. It boggles my mind that people bring all that dirt into their homes without a single thought. Keeping the bed clean by showering at night is a non-brainer. Yet, people sleep dirty all over the world.
1. Where are you from? - Venezuela. 2. Do you wear/allow shoes at home? - After COVID we don´t, before was common to. But we are like the less to do so... is still common to wear shoes inside. 3. Would you go onto your bed if you’re not at your cleanest? - We usually take a shower at morning before going to work and at night before going to bed. 4. How would you address your partner’s parents? - Is normal for us to call them by their name or a nickname.
Most of the topics are very similar to my home country Poland, however as soon as I moved to the United Kingdom all these “western rules” came in and its very hard to see and try to understand why some don’t take their shoes off at home just as one example.
Hi, how long have you lived in the UK? Have you been able to maintain your homeland custom of not wearing shoes/allowing shoes in your own house? I have friends who don't come into my house because they don't want to remove their shoes. That's their choice as is mine to have an outside shoefree home.
@@AzaleaBee I’ve lived here for 7 years and I’ve maintained my culture, however any British person that comes here continues to practice their culture however I try to maintain my culture In my hosuehold
@@AzaleaBee wow really? I grew up in U.K. and lived there for 20+ years. No one had problems with me asking them to take off their shoes when they enter my home. Not all Brits wear their shoes at home neither.
@@igranstedt4196 Yeah. Many years ago a relative remarked sternly "This is the USA, not Asia!!! Most people wear shoes in their houses." My reply (given as tackfully as possible) "This is my HOME. No one wears outside shoes inside." But for the most part, people are ok with it and don't even have to be asked. Where I am more and more people are deciding not to wear outside shoes inside their homes. Hopefully that is the case with you in the UK as well.
@@AzaleaBee now I live in Sweden and it’s even more extreme than Asia. Kids would take off their shoes when they get into school. Everyone are either wearing socks or slippers inside the school buildings. Shoes are left at school entrance. A lot of sport spaces also have no outdoor shoes policy.
Ukraine. No shoes inside usually, but there is that hospitality conflict where it's kinda hospitable to say 'oh, you can leave the shoes on', and the guest should say 'no-no, I'll remove them'. Thankfully it's going away, as the net result is the same, or if you get a guest understanding you literally, it would get awkward. And then many people would keep and offer guest slippers, and some guests would expect them. But most people are happy to stay in socks. We did take a bath in the evenings in my family. Some people do call their MIL mum, but it's not that common, I think. A safe way is using their name and their patronym, the same way as it's polite to address about anyone who isn't your friend.
Views on this might be lower due to title getting cut off on mobile screen after "silly Asian vs..." so the title appears to be "which side's the weird one" which isn't a lot of context to decide whether it's going to be interesting. Try changing the title and see what happens! (Just cut the first half.) I run a marketing agency and teach social media communication. Scroll speed and attention span can make and break it. 🙂 Love this video because my wife is Asian and I am not, and we talk about this stuff all the time!
Oh thanks for pointing that out! We've been testing out different thumbnails and titles and left it on that one for a little while, but that's a very good point. Appreciate it 🙌🙌
1. Malaysian, livingabroad 2. No shoes in the house 3. Bath before sleep, unless during frozen winter 4. Call in law, Same like our parent, sibling famiy nick name - usually no realname , surname.at all
1. Born in The Netherlands, my parents are from China 2. I take my shoes off after entering my house. In other houses it differs per individual. 3. I prefer to shower in the evening, but I take a shower in the morning when I go to the office. From school camping to staying over, a shower in the morning is common here. I remember a Dutch person once saying that a shower is obliged to respect others due to any smell. 4. By their first name. We are not strict here in The Netherlands with how to call with the names. We are very down to earth.
My family is from Taiwan and my mom and I live here in California. We have the same exact “rules” for shoes, bed, and showering as well as addressing elders. I have seen the benefits of showering in the morning though, but for me if I showered in the morning, I would need to do it again at night so figured I shouldn’t be wasting more water 🤣
1. Austria 2. NO! don´t wear them on furniture or the bed..but... we would let people go in an let them keep the shoes on. For example if they just hop by for a second or get something or so 3. Yes..i don´t shower daily, i am also a morning shower person bc my hair takes hours to dry and sleeping with slightly wet hair is hell for my skin 4. By their first names. Extra: as kid however i was calling the mothers and fathers and others of good friends which i felt like familys like my friends did. My own uncles and aunts i call aunt (name) and uncle (name)
1. The UK 2. I don't wear shoes at but since going to university I've realised that that's more of a family preference rather than a social one 3. The only time I would get into bed wearing clothes other than my pyjamas is when I'm ill 4. Start off with Mr/Mrs their last name, then their first name, then Mum and Dad as the relationship progresses
What I can’t wrap my head around with the no shoes indoors thing is for my lifestyle (2 kids and 2 dogs) and stand alone house. If I took my shoes on and off every time I went outside and back in I would be taking my shoes on/off 20 times a day. That’s crazy. The garage, the deck, the porch, the unfinished basement, the backyard. On and off every single time? There is no way I am going to spend that much effort and energy for the thought of something being more “clean”
For those who live in houses here, they'd likely have outdoor slippers that they can easily slip in and out of. haha but yeah, lifestyle (and even things like climate) definitely plays a big part.
No particular brands, really. Right now we have a pair from Muji and couple more bought from Thailand a few years ago. Slippers/flip-flops are actually part of most Singaporeans' everyday casual(or sloppy; we like to dress sloppy) attire, so usually we don't think too much about them.
@@bigjay6234 we use crocs lol. Depending on the type of outdoor work, it doesn't have to be anything special. As long as it protects the toes and it's easy to take on and off
I’m uk and Singapore. So a bit of a mixture 😁 I don’t wear shoes in the house but uk culture doesn’t like to ask people to remove shoes no matter how unhygienic. It’s very cold so the house is fully carpeted. And in winter it gets very dirty with peoples muddy and dirty shoes. The English don’t think of the hygiene !! Also in the uk children aren’t generally taught to be respectful and are generally not respectful to their parents nevermind an ‘uncle’ I like to shower before bed and I like a clean fresh bed and room with plenty of air.
1. im from Germany 2. My Family and I do not wear Shoes that were worn outside indoors. And if we hae guests basically everyone of them takes of their shoes. 3. I personally go onto my Bed even with Outdoor clothes, but thats because I only shower after going to the gym, which most of the time is in the evening. 4. In the beginning of the relationship I would probably adress my partners parents with Mr. & Ms. Familyname, then after some time and when the parents offered me the first-name basis, i would call them by their first names.
1. Brazil 2. In my house shoes must be taken out before entering, but it's not a general rule in every household. Residents will usually have a special pair of slippers just for wearing inside the house. 3. We always shower or at least change clothes before going to bed and it's seen as "gross" to wear outside clothes while sitting or laying in bed. In hot states such as mine, we usually shower 2-3 times a day. In the morning, returning home from the street and before bed. 4. I personally address my mother in law as "Dona" (a less formal way of saying Mrs.), but there are no specifics in here. Some people are really informal and use nicknames, some use pronouns to pay respect.
I'm from Indonesia absolutely shoes are not allowed at home We have a lot of myth that not good to take a bath at night so I think we just need on a clean condition either we take a bath or no to sleep and we usually call our friend's with their parents name for like ridicule haha
1. Canada 2. Shoes come off at the door. I reckon more than 90% of our population does it this way. Can you imagine wearing big winter boots or muddy shoes inside the house? 3. Almost always shower before going to bed, unless I'm super tired or sick. 4. I try to avoid calling them by their names. If I have to, I'll use their given names. Mr. or Ms. Family Name is a bit too formal for us.
I have to wear crocs and socks or I get itchy and sore feet. My tiles are never perfectly clean or I might step in mess my children made. I have to wash my hair when I shower or I get itchy so I only change my clothes at night and I take my socks off. I can not leave the house without a morning shower. I have a rug next to my bed that I stand on to get dressed or before getting into bed.
(Deep South) American married to (Taiwanese/Brazilian) Asian: 1. shoes inside OK in the US (remember we walk a lot less!) / shoes not ok, 2. clean bed rule for neither, 3. more PM bath in the evening for women but shower in AM for men / no pattern, 3. definitely not only blood family / everyone's aunt/uncle, 4. I don't have older siblings and hate that my partner's spot on the heirarchy is birth order, 5. I address my in laws as ahma, akong after having kids and felt uncomfortable with all options before that / my husband calls my parents by their first names
1. US 2. Sometimes. I wish we didn't, but we are lazy and don't like to keep taking them off and on. For example, if we are unloading a car full of groceries, should we put them on and take them off for each trip to and from the car? Plus, we store them upstairs in our closets since there is no room on the main level for all the shoes. 3. I always shower or bathe before bed! No street clothes or shoes on bed. 4. My parents are mom and dad to my husband, but his parents asked me to call them by their names.
Loved this video. Gave me renewed inspiration for keeping a cleaner home environment! I’ve been walking around indoors in shoes worn outside for my whole life and it makes so much sense to not do it! I love that you treat your home like a sanctuary. I’m in Houston Texas in the US. I also love how you show respect to elders. I’m really enjoying all your videos!
Join in the comments and tell us:
1. Where are you from?
2. Do you wear/allow shoes at home?
3. Would you go onto your bed if you’re not at your cleanest?
4. How would you address your partner’s parents?
From India. Same answers as yours.
1. Brazil, but living in Canada.
2. We don't use outside shoes inside the house.
3. No, only after shower and no outside/dirty clothes on a bed!
4. I think back home people usually address parents in law by their names, or auntie/uncle because we were probably calling them like this before. For elderly people I often seen people calling them nanna/pa as a affectional way.
1. Philippines (living in the US)
2. No shoes allowed inside our home as well, we have slippers waiting at the doorstep to use indoors
3. We addressed our in-laws with full respect, the same we pay full respect with our own parents❤️
1. I am of Zambian descent living in the UK
2. No shoes in the house
3. This is something I have adopted but wasn’t a rule growing up.
4. Partner’s Parents are Mum and Dad
The cultural mindset towards respect is the same, an older person is your aunt or uncle
1. Im from Poland.
2. I dont wear shoes at home, sometimes slippers. Sometimes i go grab something from home on outdoor shoes but when i know i would clean floors soon.
3. On bedcover i would seat in outdoor cloths. Usually shower before bed or some cleaning if i feel generaly clean ;)
4. We call adults with Pan (Mr) and Pani (Miss), and in laws mom and dad generally, but its depends from relations between the family.
In traditional perspektive it look really similar 😉
Thanks to asian culture and reaching a point to minimalism, in our home as Mexican's we remove our shoes at the door, we clean 2-3 times a week, we shower in the evening, I sleep on a shikibuton and do floor sitting. We also have a sign on the door that asks visitors to remove their shoes
I'm German and I can totally relate to the shock of seeing Americans walk around the house in their outside shoes. We change shoes in the hallway (or if they're especially dirty in front of the door) and wear slippers, called literally house shoes, inside to not get cold feet. The thing with outside clothes on the bed and the time of showering however is more a personal preference and I've seen both in peoples homes. How to address my in-laws or parents of friends as a child was really difficult, because they usually introduce themselves by their first name but especially before adulthood I didn't feel comfortable calling an adult that's not part of my family by their first name or the informal version of you. Now as an adult that is slowly changing, but it still feels a bit weird with my in-laws.
Seems like in-laws are always tricky, no matter the culture 😆 Appreciate your sharing! ⭐
@@ThoughtworthyCoin the US it's very variable. We usually ask when entering a new home, whether we should remove our shoes or not. Most homes are shoes off, but it's also not shocking to momentarily wear shoes indoors (for example, you forgot something while heading out and need to grab it quickly) or for a repair-person to keep their shoes on.
You can usually tell by where the shoes are stored. If the shoes are right by the door, it's probably a shoes off home.
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Hello from Russia!
Very similar but different here.
We don't wear outside shoes at home (unthinkable during fall, winter and spring, it's way to dirty outside, and not ok at summer too), so it's either barefoot, socks or home slippers.
We also usually have separate sets of clothes to wear outside, at home and to sleep in.
We usually remove the bedding for the day or cover the bed with a blanket if it's stationary, and as kids we were highly discouraged to sit or lie on the bed during the day.
Showers are very individual, but many people with kids give them bath before bed.
Not everyone is your uncle or auntie. Well, if you are a child it's ok to call your friend's parents, or friends of your parents that, but it's 'uncle/aunti + short/familiar first name' (uncle Sasha / auntie Masha), or in a more rural areas it can be a wider circle of people that know you and your family. If you are a very small child it's ok to call someone unfamiliar uncle/auntie, but if a child is older it might be considered not very polite.
We have not only last name (family name) and a first name, but 'father's name' (a name you have that depends on what your father's first name is) and two different forms of 'you': singular/familiar and plural/respectful. So it's polite to address older people or if you are both adults but not close using plural/respectful you and full first name + father's name (Alexander Igorevich / Maria Igorevna) (both their fathers' names here is Igor for example of how it works).
It is considered impolite to call (for example) your teacher 'Teacher', it looks like you didn't bother to learn their name, you should address them with their first name + father's name. Same goes between adults who are not on a first name only terms. In general it is considered a polite thing to know a name of a person you interact with.
As for in-laws, it varies from family to family. Some call them mum/dad, some considere it disrespectful to their on parents, some are not that close, some use respectful first name + father's name. It's usually considered impolite to call your partner's parents mother-in-low/father-in-low (ok when you explain to someone else who they are to you, dut to call them that to their face is kind of rude). Me and my husband address each other parents by first name + father's name, but between us we just call them mum/dad.
Thanks for the video and comment from different countries, it was very interesting 👍
The point about calling teacher "teacher" being impolite as it may come across as not learning their names, is so interesting. It actually kind of makes sense, but we do it totally differently here. Thanks for sharing!
Canadian here. Seeing Americans in tv shows wearing their shoes indoors is mildly upsetting, but that clip you showed where they were wearing their shoes on the bed gave me a palpable feeling of anxiety.
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it was british, they r just as bad.
I love this topic. Keep them coming.
1. Originally from the Philippines, living in Australia for almost 20 years.
2. Outside shoes stay outside. we have indoor slippers for indoors. We also have indoor slippers for guests to wear.
3. Our family is a bit extreme in this one. Outside clothes are not permitted on the bed, only bedroom clothes, not even house clothes you wear at home when having lunch/dinner. And the slippers we wear in the house stay out of the bedroom. So we have outdoor shoes, indoor slippers and bedroom slippers or barefoot. Shower before bed always.
4. We address our partner's parents the same way our partner addresses their parents (i.e. ma/pa, dad/mom, etc). I personally dont address my inlaws as i find it a bit awkward.. but its just me :). For everyone else much older, we address them as Tito (Uncle), Tita (Auntie) or Kuya (Big brother), Ate (Big Sister)
I think many people (including us) find it awkward to address in-laws too! Thanks for sharing, appreciate it 🙌
Wow, the separation between "house" and "bedroom" indeed may sound a bit extreme, but I totally get the point! This way, the bedroom is an abolute sanctuary.
I am from the Netherlands. We always take our shoes off when entering the home, we did that since childhood already. We shower mostly in the evening (depends on the season if it's hot). We have our sleepwear to sleep in so we change to that when sleeping. We calling our inlaws by name. I prefer to be called by my name and use the informal way if you in Dutch which is 'je'. The formal is 'u', we use that for older people like your grandparents, school teacher or boss at work. But it's not very strictly used though.
This is not Universal in the Netherlands. Many people keep their shoes on in the house and there is no general procedure for what to do with shoes in someone else's house. Also, most people shower in the morning.
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It’s funny and surprising how similar Singaporean culture is to Indian. With In-laws, siblings, home hygiene - a lot match which is so cool!
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same with turkish culture, my grand parents are from Turkey, and i feel a lot of similitudes too ;) no shoes at home, we can eat on the floor so and same for the respect with elders. :) we live in France now but i do not feel confortable with shoes at home, so i still let the shoes out and live at floor level too :) and elders are of course to consider with respect, love, :)
American here:
1. From the midwest, state of Minnesota.
2. We generally don't wear shoes inside, but only because they might be wet, muddy or snowy. I don't have any issues with walking around my own house with shoes on, but I'm mindful of what I might be tracking in from outside. If I'm entering someone else's house, I usually wait to see if they take their shoes off before I take mine off.
3. Yes, no problems with jumping onto my bed in my clothes or without a shower. I can understand the cleanliness thing, but if I can speak for myself and other Americans, we see it more as "we sleep between the sheets, not on top of the blanket/comforter". There's a layer between there keeping things clean, in my eyes.
4. I address my wife's parents by their first names. Addressing them by their last names, or as "sir/ma'am" would feel extremely awkward to both myself and my inlaws.
My american friend jump on the bed wearing shoes, even stepped on pillow and just pat the dirt mark off then slept on it. i saw him doing it and my anxiety just up through the roof.
I totally love how your way of life is so respectful. my grand parents are from Turkey and the same, we never wear shoes at home as shoes go everywhere. so. at home, we can walk with socks and eat on the floor with no worries of bacterias. and taking a shower before bed, i totally prefer it to go to bed clean. personally i prefer to change my clothes and showering at the end of the day to let the energies of the day out, and to feel clean peace at home, as a sacred place in fact. for me, i do not feel confortable with people keeping shoes in a house (with no judgement) i just do not feel it. and about elders, in turkish communities, they called everyone with a lot of respect words too. it is funny as the other day i was talking to my parents how much i love Japanese culture about hygiene in the house and the respect to things, and people, and elders. i feel this video interesting and with no judgement of course, just to underline differences that might allow us to see things differently ;)
Thanks for sharing! 💖💖
I am from India. A lot of it is relatable for me as well❤️🙏🏻
I'm in California, USA. I grew up with when you arrive home immediately go to your room and remove your shoes in your bedroom. This kept the front door clutter free and meant we stored shoes out of sight. Our closet is all our "out of sight" storage and is where we store our dresser full of clothes, our hang up clothes, our shoes and accessories like purses and jewelry. The livingroom and entryway were for guests and should never have something as personal as shoes sitting in the walkway. It was considered rude in my family for a guest to come over and trip over our shoes at the door, but we do have a little cubby for our guests to take their shoes off at the door and if they're staying more than a few minutes we always ask them to take their shoes off.
What a fun video;)
1. Austria
2. I grew up with no shoes allowed at home; we always wore slippers. Still do. For our elderly patents, we make an exeption.
3. Growing up we used to change clothes at home, no outdoor clothes allowed in bed. Still do (t-shirt is ok, trousers aren't). Showers morning and/or nighttime.
My dog is an exception. She doesn't change clothes nor shoes at home and is allowed entering my bed just the way she is;) We live in the countryside, and to me, soil, grass etc is just nature.
Some of our habits could be considered similar to Asian style, but I have no Asian background. My father however visited Japan regularly.
4. First name
haha pets are always an exception 😆 thanks for sharing!
Greetings from Russia!
Asian side :)
No shues at home/ or special shues for home. ✓
Same clean bed rule. ✓
Showers are very individual *hard to say*
Everyone is your uncle ✓ - surprised it's not only Russian thing
Addressing in-laws as mother and farther ✓ - but not so strict as in Singapor.
Sounds very similar, thanks for sharing!
I'm Chinese Indonesian and I remember in primary school, we were asked to do family tree. I know how many uncles/aunts/cousins I have - BUT I DIDN'T KNOW ANY OF THEIR NAMES!!! - my teacher and some classmates thought that was so weird, only other Chinese Indonesian classmates understood my problem.
Now that I'm working in an expat community in Asia, where there are many Asian/non-Asian couples, I hear this cultural differences as well. The shoe issue is the common one, but the one I never thought about was luggage. I always wipe my luggage after every trip especially the wheels before storing them away, and when I pack, I open the luggage on floor and pack there. Apparently it's common in Western world to put luggage on the bed and pack everything there. It makes sense on ergonomic point of view, but coming back to your concept of "Bed is clean area" I was so shocked to hear about that 😅
Oh yes seems like they do put their luggage on the bed now that you mention it. A definite no-no for us 😆
1. I’m from Ohio, USA. My husband is from England.
2. Neither of us wore shoes in our house growing up. Our houses both had light colored carpeting. We don’t wear them now in our own place. We leave the decision up to guests as to if they wear shoes or not.
3. I will sit on the duvet/quilt in clothes I’ve worn outside, but not on the sheets directly. If my clothes are actually dirty, I would change before sitting anywhere
4. We address our in-laws by their first names.
1. America
2. Shoes are totally fine inside. I'm a paraplegic, so I have no choice about my wheelchair touching the floor after coming inside (if anyone has any experience with using a wheelchair in Asian homes, I'd be curious to know about the etiquette)
3. No specific rules about getting in bed and when you shower
4. Definitely their first names
I don't know if this works, but maybe swiveling around on a large door mat might help remove some of the dirt on the wheels of the wheelchair.
1. From the Philippines but lived in Hongkong and Canada (2 very different cultures) for a long time.
2. Indoor slippers at home. No shoes allowed.
3. Shower before bed and wash up before starting the day.
4. We address our in-laws as mom and dad. We also call our elderly siblings Kuya (male) and Ate (female).
Very similar to your culture.
Very similar indeed! Thanks for sharing 💖
Hello inspiring people 🙂
I am from Poland, and I would like to start by thanking you for your work and ideas on minimalism, sitting on the floor, and moving a lot. I am grateful for that.
In our country, we also do not wear shoes at home. We take them off right after entering the house/apartment.
Same with shower, although it is my personal preference - always before going to bed. Same with bed culture, never leave dirty clothes on the bedsheet.
Another personal preference is to address elders/partners' parents - and also address all elders with respect. The same goes for my friends. They use mom and dad for their in-laws.
Hello to the both of you !
1. France, born and raised
2. In really depends on the families rules. I don't like wearing shoes inside a house, so I get rid of them at my place or when I am at someone's. But I know people don't mind most of the time so I'm not asking them to remive theirs shoes when they visit (I just clean the floors after they have left). And some of my friends, seeing me bare foot, ask if they should remove their shoes.
3. I prefer that everything stays clean in the bedroom, but back when I was young (teenager) I know that some of my friends had bo problem with it whatsoever. Again in depends on who's house it is.
4.Here we call our in laws by name, but it's quite "new" (I am 30 and my grandparents used to call their in laws by Mr X or Mrs X). We have something here in France to show respect though which is "vous" instead of "tu". I personnally say "tu" to my father and my mother in law because I am really enjoying the people they are and the pronoun "vous" shows a distance. I explained this to them and they're happy that I am saying "tu" to them when I'm speaking to them. So I guess it depends one every situation (again ^^).
I hope everything is clear and comprehensible !
Thank you for your work which is always great to watch. Really enjoyed learning about your culture ! :)
Sounds like you have a great relationship with your inlaws, that's awesome 💖 Thanks a lot for sharing!
Aw, it sounds so sweet to me, hearing you talk with your in-laws that way. Thank you for sharing.
1. Poland
2. no shoes in the house. Tho if you have someone doing some work in your house e.g. a plumber they can keep their shoes. but that's a special case. Guests get indoor slippers. There is also a trend where some people will tell you that you can keep your shoes on when visiting. Personally I always ask, "but I can take them off tho, right?" in response lol, taking off your shoes is more comfortable.
3. Always shower/bath before bed. The bed is a clean and cozy place, so not washing before is weird to me and wearing outdoor shoes while on the bed blows my mind. I sometimes take a cold shower in the morning too, but im definitively the odd one out with this.
4. Mom and Dad. Tho while dating it will be Mr and Mrs.
I'm right there with you, shaking my head at people with shoes on in the bed lol
Seems like we have very similar practices! Thanks for sharing 🙌
1. Peruvian, living in Taiwan 3 months ago.
2. It's not something I was used to, but over time I've gotten used to it. The idea of using a pair of slippers inside the house and another pair for the bathroom still shocks me.
3. Being in a hot country, for a matter of comfort I do tend to take a shower when I return from the street
4. In Latin America we generally call parents by name, or by abbreviations or even by terms like "viejo, vieja" (old one).
Your video was entertaining indeed.
Thanks for sharing! So if it was entirely up to you, would you go team "no shoes at home" or "shoes at home" now? 😆
Definitely team "no shoes at home".
I am 44, from Spain. I was born nearby the only continental desert in continental Europe. Because it rains 5 days a year - all of them in a row in the same week -, we do not pay much attention to removing or keeping the shoes inside the house. This is because there is no mud. Ever. But we wash our feet immediately if we have been to the beach as sand is a pain to sweep. Some younger people have started asking if they should remove their shoes in the north and middle of Spain, but in our area it does not make much of a difference as it is always dry and dry dust floats indoors anyway. I think this also has to do with the fact that we spend a lot of time outdoors. We have an all-year-round temperature of 21 degrees even in winter, so it is nice to spend a lot of time outside of cafès or just walking by the sea even when it is late.
What strikes me the most is when I see on movies people putting their luggage on the bed! Luggages are dirty and I wouldn't ever allow anyone putting luggages on my precious, clean bed 😆
Haha we're with you on this!
Hi!
1. I’m from Colombia, and I don’t have a close conexion with assian culture.
2. It’s no so common, people usually wear shoes at home. However, some people ask if you can remove them (it is not the general rule). In my daily life, I try remove them at least in the living room.
3. I live in a relative cold city, so I don’t take showers in the night very often, but I try to use a special clothes only for home and of course specially when I’m going to bed.
4. I think we call it by there names or with a nickname for showing some of affection haha.
I don’t remember how I found your channel, but I really like it!
Glad to have you as a subscriber, Giovanni! Appreciate the support, and thanks a lot for sharing 🙌
Funny, I'm from Curaçao and your customs are almost exactly the same as ours! I think it's just a Latin/Caribbean thing to be honest hahaha
1. Denmark
2. No, we take them off in the hallway.
3. Yes, we don't necessarily shower in the evening.
4. By their first name. Denmark is a highly informal society, and some elders might even take it the wrong way if you adress them differently than you would with younger people, as it makes them feel old.
Good point about #4, sounds reasonable. We'll take note not to offend any older persons if we ever visit Denmark! 😄 Thanks for sharing 🙌
Love this so much!
I'm from England.
As a family, we always remove our shoes at the front door.
I don't always have time for a shower before bed, but I always wipe my feet before getting into bed. A shower followed by getting into a freshly made bed is perfection.
I address my in-laws by their first names, but we do not see them often because they are tricky.
Thanks for watching, and thanks for sharing! :)
Here in the UK I think the shoes on/off thing depends hugely on your individual parents rather than culture at large. I am easy on showering, no AM/PM preference but I have/would sit on or get into bed even if I wasn't at my cleanest...not if I have just washed the bedding though! Then I have to be squeaky clean to match.
Finnish person here. The home hygiene part is quite similar to my experience of Finnish culture. Although, what time you shower is probably more personal preference than a cultural thing here. For me evening shower makes more sense.
Some people-like my household-uses bedspread, so outside clothes on the bed doesn't matter that much. Obviously, no dirt or sweaty clothes on a bedspread. Bedspreads are a hassle because it is a item and it needs a storage spot for the night. For us a bedspread is essential for a clean bed because of our housecats.
Hello, like always i love to learn form you and about your culture.
I am from France, but raised in Germany and France.
And my partner is half French half Spanish.
I mostly take of my shoes and socks coming home but my partner does not .
I asked him to at least not wear them in the bathroom and bedroom.
He will take them of in the living room which is ou first room coming in, so it is a compromise I agreed on.
For me since I work in a dirty environment it is for me a must to shower before going to bed. But it can happen when really super exhausted I will only do a cat wash (face, arms and armpits).
I do not like dirty clothes on the bed, but sometimes We cheat by putting a blanket on top of the bed (on which We will allow ourselves with a worn t-shirt but no pants ! ) I don’t think me partner see anything as a sanctuary but slowly he takes some of my behaviour.
On must also for me is to have a good place to dry my towel, my partner does not worry about it drying well, but for me I hate the smell of unwell drying clothes or fabrics.
Oh and my in laws I call them by their first name, I could never see myself call them mom or dad, would feel really weird. I would say in France it would be more about how you adresse, we have two ways to say you in French “tu” et “vous”. When you don’t know and want to show respect normally you take to them with “vous” like how are you, is comment allez-vous? And to a friend you would say comment vas-tu?
Kind of thing.
But I think the parent thing can be different in a lot ways just in France, I will ask friends of mine how they adresse their in laws.
Sorry talked a lot.
Have a wonderful day
Loved it! Thanks for taking the time to write this, we enjoy reading and learning about our viewers' lives just as much 🙌 Have a nice Sunday, Agathe!
Singaporean.
NO shoes in the house 100%!!! How can anyone bring dirt and grim inside?!
Shower before sleeping!!!
Uncle, Auntie.
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the best part about this video are the comments. I have rarely seen such a good comment section where almost everyone is actually following the rules set by the channel and everyone is sharing their own perspectives while not being judgemental towards other cultures... Bravo Thoughtworthy..
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1. America
2. In my experience most US households have a no shoe in the home policy, the exception and the one that gets seen the most, is during large gatherings or special events with small gatherings shoes are allowed all over. (I clean my floors the next morning if we allowed this for a gathering)
3. I shower every morning, it allows me to gather my thoughts and prepare for the day, soothing my anxiety just a bit. I do not work a dirty, sweaty job.
4. I was raised on the East coast where you would address in-laws formally. However, I call my partner's parents by their first names (Grandparents are addressed by their titles of Grandma, Grandpa) The reason for this is I now live on the West coast where it is not just normal for you to speak to in-laws informally but DISRESPECTFUL to address them formally. IT sends the message that you don't want to get close to them. I was shocked!
From what we've been gathering, habits can be so different and diverse within the US alone, which kinda makes sense too. Very interesting stuff! Thanks for sharing 🙌💖
I am from Türkiye and the points you make are almost exactly the same here apart from showering as in the summer we may need more than one shower due to the heat.
1. Germany 2. no, we pull out shoes at the door 3. I do not shower every day, so yes. I would not get into my bed with daywear, but I've got a dayblanket (?) over my bed and it's fine to sit on that with dayclothes. (Also I've got cats, and they don't give a damn). 4. Mr./Mrs. [Surname] (Nowadays it's their first names)
The quality of the video was amazing! Top tier. I don't know why you didn't get more views tbh
Thank you! Really appreciate it :)
USA
No outside shoes inside. In your video shoes were removed just inside the door. We don't have a mudroom/현관/玄関, so we take our shoes off OUTSIDE the door and pick them up to store on a shoe shelf inside. Sliders (slippers) available in our garage and back porch for use outside.
I can't imagine ever sitting on my bed if I hadn't showered and changed to inside clothes.
New addition to our house: a Shark Ai remote vacuum. After a few months of regular use, even dust is almost unnoticeable.
That imaginary corner just inside the door has turned into our designated dirty shoes zone for convenience's sake 😅 Thanks for sharing!
1. I'm from Poland
2. No. When coming home I take them off and that's the first thing I do. The only room that is okay to have shoes in is the entrance room. Some families wear shoes at home though. We would have few pairs of slippers in case it's cold. Sometimes as a guest i'm getting asked if i want to wear slippers.
3. I usually don't use bed if not for sleeping. I don't like eating in bed which I know some people do but I can't accept getting it dirty.
About showers it's really mixed. Even with my family anyone showers when they prefer. I do prefer evening cause it saves me time in the morning and I sleep better clean. I sometimes would change to morning showers in the hottest weather but only then.
4. While dating Mr. and Mrs. but with use of their name, maybe a short version of their name, not surname cause it's way too official. If married I would call them mom and dad.
Thanks for sharing!
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Thank you for this video. I enjoyed watching it. I am from Morocco, and I have much respect for many aspects of Asian cultures, such as the ones you've talked about. In our culture, we only remove our shoes in mosques. But older generations used to remove theirs when entering a host's house too, leaving them just by the door, though there is no special space for it like you've got in your house. In our culture, it is also disrespectful to call our parents-in-law by their bare first names. We generally add "uncle", or "mother" to the name. We have also been educated to respect the elderly in general and teachers in particular, but younger generations do not seem to do that anymore. Anyway, I appreciate in Asian cultures their spiritual practices, discipline, respect, politeness, quiet, meticulous work, team spirit, cooking skills, and so much more. And, although these characteristics may not apply to all Asian cultures, or to all situations and all people, they are what comes to my mind when I think of them. 😊
Thank you! It's unfortunate that some traditional values are slowly fading away, including in Asia 😔
Yes as an Indian I know we share similar cultures...minimalism and frugality also have been a part of our culture and upbringing...
Love ur content
American living in California here- everyone I know removes their shoes at the door and wears slippers. I know people who will change their clothing as well.
Asian cultures come from deep self-awareness. We shouldn't let anyone get away with disrespecting it nor should we have inferiority complex.
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I am from Singapore, Kathy here. I do take off my shoes before entering the house. And shower in the morning and evening and not getting onto the bed unless showered. I followed my hubby on how he called his mum and dad. Here is my sharing to you.
Thanks for sharing, Kathy 🙌
In the US, Southerners tend to address elders in a more formal, respectful way. You’ll also hear sir/ma’am used quite a bit. In black communities, addressing an older person by their first name can be seen as disrespectful.
I am from the uk. In my experience (and in no way speaking for everyone from the uk as I know our country varies a lot in traditions) shoes come off at the door and slippers are usually worn inside especially in winter. As children the norm was usually bath and bed but as adults it changes to shower and bed but I also know people who shower in the morning but I prefer to be clean before sleeping, also means I don’t have to wash the bed sheets as often 😂. As for elders I called older men Sir and older woman Miss (regardless of marital status) but I think this is considered old fashioned now. Something I always found funny in movies from other cultures is the name “master”. Here that usually refers to a young boy, a child. But in movies like Star Wars etc. It’s seen as someone wise and older. So strange to hear.
Not having to wash the sheets as often is no doubt a great benefit to have 🤣 Thanks for sharing, it was interesting to read!
1. Hk, U.K., Sweden
2. No shoes at home
3. No. I shower in the morning. I think it’s a lot to do with local weather. In hot climate it makes sense to shower before bed, whereas when it’s really cold it’s less important. You don’t get as sticky/dirty.
4. Mum and dad but that’s not norm here. They (Swedish) prefer it this way.
Oh yes, the weather definitely makes a lot of difference - it's always hot and humid here. Appreciate your sharing! 🙌
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Sri Lankans share some of these traits as well. How we address our elders, in-laws and no shoes in home but definitely not to this extend when it comes to cleanliness. But like you described some of these things slowly change with newer generations as they become exposed to western culture more and more. This is definitely a subjective choice to each individual, so personally i have no complains. Also, I'm really happy that i found this channel at the time when I'm thinking about building a home. I love minimalism. Lesser attachments to material objects surely improved my life. -Love from Sri Lanka.
Please do a guide to how you made your floor desk so that we can get the same desk and make it at home because I can’t find one commercially at the same size we would really appreciate it thank you
Actually, we just found a suitable table that we liked and got a carpenter to shorten the legs since we're not that handy. Good luck!
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1. Chinese-American living in California.
2. Shoes absolutely not allowed in the home.
3. I go on my bed whenever, even if I haven't taken a shower because I am lazy. I don't think my grandma or parents approve of this.
4. My partner is also Chinese-American. I would call their parents "shu-shu" and "a-yi." I also call my friends' parents this or the equivalent in Cantonese or Tagalog, or just auntie/uncle if I don't know what else. If the friends aren't Asian, then I will call them Mr. or Mrs. (family name)
Interesting! Thanks for sharing 🙌
1. Asian Australian
2. Kick out shoes as soon as i enter my own household, dont care if you enter with shoes on
3. Same, because there's no need to do shower every bloody time
4. By their first names, because Australia is an egalitarian society
Shoes inside also depend on the climate. You don't want wet and dirty shoes inside.
If the floor is ice-cold, you don't want to go barefooted.
In the summer I can have a shower anytime, but in the winter I feel too cold in the evening, so I have to do it in the morning.
1. The Netherlands
2. We don’t wear shoes in the house ourself but accept others who visit with shoes. We also have a dog and a cat, so keeping the floor very hygienic is a challenge.
3. We do not shower every day but wash by the sink with washcloths to. This is always strait after work in the afternoon or evening. We wear bedclothes and/or home clothes after work.
4. In general we name elder people not by their first name unless they ask us to. This is also a rule at my work. I work with mostly elder people as a homecare nurse. We do notice when people have dementia they don’t always respond to mr of mrs (and then their last name) but more and more their first name as they sometimes return into their childhood state of life and forget the rest.
I think respect is not only shown in how you name someone but also how you treat and talk to someone.
Really like your channel ♥️
This is an interesting topic to.
Never really thought about that (regarding dementia)... appreciate the work that you do. Thanks for sharing! 🙏💖
I'm from Canada, and I've always grown up taking shoes off when entering a home, but I know some households don't care as much. Slippers are a personal decision; I prefer barefoot, but will wear fluffy socks when it's cold. Going under the covers in dirty clothes isn't common, but sitting on top of the blanket is fine. Personally, I don't go in my bed unless I've changed into pajamas, but that's more comfort than a recognition of hygiene. However, if you know your clothes are dirty, it's common to change before sitting or lying on any furniture. Generally, you address older people by the name they give you, and your partner's parents by the parents' preference, or whatever your partner calls them. I'd say it's pretty common here to call your inlaws mom and dad, and I know some parents think of it as a badge of honour that they're close enough to their parent's partner that they're considered family in that way.
Keep in mind, though, this is my perspective as a descendant of English and French colonizers; there are many cultures and ethnicities here, so I probably couldn't say what the average is for Canada as a whole.
Appreciate your sharing! 🙌
I'm in and out quite a bit, and when I'm home I'm extremely busy, often times I forget I'm wearing my shoes, otherwise I usually take them off when I get inside, especially since I go to the shower first. (After work)
Shoes actually aren't as dirty as you think, ofcourse you can find links that say otherwise, but by this logic we are constantly filthy no matter how clean we are, haha.
It's dirty yes, but not as much as you seem to think,
We aren't obsessed with being clean, but we do sweep every other day (no choice, our cat keeps getting litter everywhere)
My apartment looks similar to yours, and I keep clean
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I'm italian and here people wear shoes in their homes usually, and you're not requested to take off your shoes when visiting someone at their home.
I wear slippers at home though, could never wear dirty shoes inside the house.
Also, I shower morning and night, very quickly before bed. I change underwear at least 2-3 times a day cos I could never get back home from hours outside keeping the same underwear, clothes and socks. You can imagine what my weekly laundry looks like 😂 Bed: nothing on or under the bed, I have to be able to clean easily, and apart from pets (that I currently don't have) I want nothing there.
Partner's parents: it depends on the people. We usually call in laws by their first names but that doesn't mean we like each other or want to see each other often 😊
I had a very long relationship that ended 2 years ago and I always felt awkward around them, different lifestyles and opinions can lead to some problems over time. Respect is something owed from either side, not just to elderly people.
Age doesn't make people wiser or nicer, and if they're horrible it's hard to relate and respect them.
Yes I wear shoes in the house. I wear specialized orthotics and w/o them, I cannot move around or walk w/o pain. So the indoor shoes are clean. Slippers won't work with orthotics. I take them off when sitting on the couch but if doing chores around the house, I have to wear them. When visiting others, I take them off and live with the discomfort.
May I know where you got your bed sheets /duvet(?) from? 😄
The grey ones are from Muji and the white ones are from IKEA 🙂
In Canada we take our shoes off at the door and that sets us apart from the USA. I don’t always shower in the morning but at night I would more likely have a bath. However, I often wash my feet even if I don’t t shower or bathe at night, before I get into bed. I don’t like any clothes on my bed, but I sleep with my small dog, who doesn’t shower at night and never takes his shoes off! But in muddy, wet, or snowy weather I wipe his feet with a wet wipe when he comes into the house. I don’t do that in the summer, so really no rhyme or reason here!! Lol
HK Chinese living in Australia here. I see all the same differences. At public schools, kids even address assitants, teachers and Principals (!!) by name, which is actually confusing as they can't tell why they need to listen to whom or anyone at all. My Asian students nicely adapted it by calling the teachers, 'Teacher [name]'.
Yeah, can't imagine calling teachers by their names when we were kids 😆
1. Utah, USA
2. No
3. Yes! I like the logic of washing before bed but I can't get my hair wet before sleeping. I have long curly hair and touching it too much when wet results in horrible tangles and will tear my hair. Curly hair is very delicate so blow drying isn't good. I also live in a desert so it's not wet and sticky out. I can get away with showering every other day if it's not a work out day.
4. By their first name. I address my parent's spouses (divorced parents) by their first names.
Hi from Pilipins - I think this will echo to most asians.
2. No shoes allowed, I think most households do not wear shoes at all, exception when going somewhere far outside. Within the subdivision or streets, we wear flipflops/crocs.
2.1 I will let the visitor to decide whether they want to keep their shoes on or no.
3. Yes, top bed, under the sheets, it does not matter, it have to be clean (me).
4. Mother, father.
1. Philippines
2. NO, we also leave our shoes and slippers outside. And good point on that where on western series/movies they would sit on the couch or even bed with their shoes on and its kinda cringy. Feels weird but I haven't asked anyone even here why they do that. Guess its really part of their culture. And don't know if its just for the show but here even on TV shows or movies when the setting is inside a home almost all the time we are barefoot and just wearing baggy clothes.
3. NO, but if really tired then maybe yes.
4. We call them Tita/Tito or in other countries its like Auntie/Uncle. Dad,Mom if married.
1.- Spain
2.- We tried to wear off our shoes inside home but it is not a strong rule and visitors are not included
3.- We usually take a shower in the evenings but here is more common to do it in the mornings
4.- We always call our partner’s parents by name.
1. Black American from Texas here
2. Growing up, taking shoes on/off was really dependent upon household and floor type - it was more acceptable to wear shoes on hardwood/laminate flooring, but not on the carpet; but generally everyone wore house shoes/slippers around the house and not the outside shoes. Shoes were absolutely not allowed on the furniture or bedding. As an adult, I have a no shoes inside policy and my sister does the same.
3. We had our "outside" clothes and "inside" clothes that we'd change into at the end of the day, so never wore outside clothes on the bed. I still keep to this in adulthood, and will shower before getting into the bed at night.
4. This is more of a Southern thing, but it's weird to address your elders by their first name alone unless it's your step-parent; it'd be Mr/Mrs. _insert first or last name_. Alternatively, mama/papa _insert first or last name_ for the in-laws. It also isn't uncommon in the black community to call older family friends uncle/aunt regardless of blood relation, and if they're still pretty young, they'd be cousin
Very interesting, thanks for sharing!
1) The "shoes off" rule makes sense in places where streets are dirty or muddy, like parts of Southeast Asia. In countries like Singapore, where the streets are exceptionally clean, the practice is less relevant outside of the monsoon season. In dirtier regions like Vietnam, Laos, Cambodia, and China, it's understandable to remove shoes. In Melbourne, Australia, our sidewalks are also very clean, so removing shoes indoors is unnecessary. What many people don’t realise is that walking barefoot spreads sweat, encouraging bacteria growth, which can be more harmful than what’s brought in on shoes, as sidewalks are exposed to rain and UV light, killing most germs. When I lived in Singapore, I asked guests to wipe their shoes on a hard-bristled mat, but they didn’t need to remove them unless it was raining. My floors remained clean because I regularly vacuumed and mopped.
2) The "shower before bed" rule mainly applies to hot, humid climates where people sweat heavily, like Singapore. When I lived there, I always showered before bed. In Melbourne, where temperatures stay below 22°C for most of the year, sweating is minimal, so going to bed without showering from April to November doesn’t affect the cleanliness of the sheets. Most Australians do shower before bed from late Spring until early Autumn.
How is your foot being possibly more dirty or spreading more germs than what could be brought in from the outside? Seriously. Also being barefooted promotes good foot hygiene and lets the foot breath plus it’s good for the foot structure longer term. Nothing about supporting what is practiced by others or not practiced but your reasoning don’t make sense though. If someone is suffering from say athletes foot all the more airing with proper medication plus foot hygiene helps sort it out once and for all. I’ve lived in Europe Asia and Australia so knows the challenges and the conditions and practices.
@@mojojojo1529 In other words, your behaviour is dictated by longstanding cultural norms rather than actual logic. Kinda like how Jews and Muslims still don't eat pork, even though it is a rule that was made a LONG time ago when nobody knew how to clean or cook their food as well as we do today and 'germ theory' didn't exist yet.
@@superchargerone Good foot hygiene comes from proper bathing/showering and regularly changing your socks and properly drying out your shoes, not from airing out your feet as you walk barefoot around your house...
@@Funkteon I can understand some of your reasoning. However, outdoor shoes also come into contact with who knows what kinds of things in public bathrooms. There's no UV light to clean those germs, and more often than not, public bathrooms are not cleaned well. You might step on dog and bird sh*t and other contaminants when walking along the sidewalk too, and it's not guaranteed that UV light disinfects all of the bacteria. Rain can wash off some bacteria if the rainwater flows down the gutter. But sunlight just evaporates the H2O and leaves the dirt and bacteria behind on the ground. Even if you use a bristled mat to scrub off the dirt, the bottom of the shoe is still much, much dirtier than almost anything you come in brief contact with. Having that bacteria spread throughout the house isn't worth wearing your outdoor shoes inside. (Babies also put everything in their mouths and if they crawl on the floor that is infested with the bacteria that came from the bottom of outdoor shoes, they have a higher risk of getting sick, especially because they have a much lower immune system. A home can certainly look clean, but microscopic bacteria cannot be seen with the naked eye.)
Also, it's not just sweat that people shower before bed. Air pollutants and dust that enter the pores on your skin and the oil that the skin produces throughout the day should be washed off to keep the skin from breaking out.
If you're worried that walking barefoot introduces bacteria, you can wear slippers. It's literally the same thing as shoes but specifically for indoors, and they never come into direct contact with outdoor contaminants. And your toes don't get smushed in the shoes 24/7.
Hi from Germany.
Not shoes inside (in general, for the most part). For me personally, no day clothes in my bed and if I don't feel clean a quick shower before bed (so in the summer always and in winter sometimes…).
In-Laws are mostly on a first name basis (i don't have any), though for example, my sister calls hers mom and dad.
Thanks for sharing! 🙌💖
1. Russia
2. Slippers or barefoot
3. Skipping shower is ok but you don`t sit on your linens if not in pj or naked. Those who don`t have a couch for sitting are using covers.
4. Depends on relationships. If neutral - by their name and patronymic. If very good - many may call them mum and dad no prob. I personally wouldn`t put my mother on the same level as my partners, in comparison she did nothing for me to deserve this.
Also we do call random people on the streets aunts and granmas but we are also using woman and girl, man and guy. Here it`s not about respect but age and gender. There are many old people and in-laws who don`t deserve respect... in Russia you get what you deserve 😁
haha very interesting 😁 thanks for sharing!
It's not about what your mother-in-law has done for you that would make you respectful (although she must have done something, indirectly, when she raised her son to be a good husband), and it's nothing to do with "putting her on the same level " as your own mother. What a strange perspective!
@@judylloyd7901 you are making connection between calling a mother-in-law mum and be respectful. For me there`s no connection. You can be respectful calling a person by name or else, respect is defined by actions.
[For me mother is a very important word that comes with heavy meaning and can`t be thrown around. We also have a saying - "you only have one mother"]
Of course we have some ethnic, Muslim republics where women go to live in their husbands home and a mother is number 1 woman for their men. They call these mothers mums. I don`t find it strange, it`s a different tradition.
Also we don`t call acquaintances our friends, like people do in many western countries 😀
I love these rules and try to follow most of them already although sometimes I feel bad making people take their shoes off before coming inside. What do you do with elderly people who find this task difficult? And do you have slippers for people to put on if it’s cold? I also love hopping into a clean bed after having a shower.
Perfectly understandable questions, although they're problems we never have to face! Because it's the tradition here, we'd probably be called "crazy" if we told the elderly they could come into the house with their shoes on 😆 And here in Singapore, it's never cold, so slippers aren't necessary either :)
I'm from Colombia. When we were childern, we usually took off our outdoor shoes and our school uniform and replaced the by slippers or sandals and "indoor clothes", but we usually took a shower in the morning. But as we grew up, we started to use the same shoes inside the house (but never on the bed!). It's normal here to address older people or people with authority (or inlaws) as "Don" (for men) or "Doña" (for women). In Spanish, we have a formal and informal pronoun conjugation, so if we're addressing an older person, we use "usted", but if is a friend, a colleage or someone younger, we use "tú".
Thanks for sharing! Always interesting to learn more :)
yees!!! I love this topic... im Mexican and we also have specific words for our in-laws and i find it weird when I see people talking to their in-laws bu the first name... also im from the north of Mexico and we use "auntie" and "uncle" for the parents of our friends out of respect and love and we get teased by the rest of the country 😅😅😅😅 thank you for sharing!!!
Cool! To be honest we had no idea how different is it between the north and south of Mexico. Would love to learn more sometime, thanks for sharing Bere! 💖
Hi guys I’m from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷
1. Here it’s really uncommon for people to take off their shoes when entering home and older people may see it as disrespectful if you ask them to remove their shoes while entering your home. However I’m trying to make this a thing at my house haha. Wish me luck
2. My mom taught me to always shower if I was out before I do anything else when I arrived home and to always shower before bed even if I was at home all day.
3. We address our in-laws by their first Names 🫣 😂 it’s kinda weird to call them otherwise
By the way I LOVE your channel 🥰
Thanks for sharing! Hope visitors will understand and not find it disrespectful when you ask them to remove their shoes at your place 😄 Good luck!!
The whole "not removing shoes even in bed" is more of a US phenomenon, in most places in europe it's natural as well and we are always dismayed when actors don't remove shoes. We even didn't "believe" it at first like "oh it's just the actors/producers/directors being lazy" but it just happens way too often - like if they kept showing people pooping on the street it's not just them "being lazy". Also not finishing food.
The other side of the no shoes in the house seems to be you absolutely do not go barefoot outside. I go barefoot fairly often outside around the house here in Australia, as would a lot of others.
Also almost all my extended family and friends etc are used to wearing shoes indoors. I can't think of anyone (other than my Asian friends 😅) who would ask you to remove your shoes at the door. Everyone has door mats for the most part, for you to wipe your shoes before entering.
I've been growing up in Austria as a native Austrian and am still living there. I think for the majority of native Austrian people it's common to put their shoes off at home and leave them in the entrance area. I wouldn't wear clothes from outside in my bed, I in general change them instantly after arriving at home. But this is a pretty personal thing. I think there are many people in Austria doing it in different ways. Another thing is the showering/bathing comparison. I know many people who shower in the mornings but I am the opposite. I want to go to sleep and feel "clean" and start like this already into the next day. I think in Austria both versions are pretty common. I really admire the "asian" respectful behavior in front of elder people. In Austria it's a bit different. We usually treat them respectful in language but depending on how close we are with them or if they allow it to us, it might be more "common" to call them by their first names. Strangers we usually would call by their last name to be more respectful, especially if there is a bigger age gap. Sometimes it can be considered as being uncomfortable if we talk too politely to another one almost at the same age.
Interesting to hear. Thanks for sharing! 🫶
I cant go to bed without showering and brushing my teeth first, the dirt and sweat still on me feels so icky I couldnt fall asleep.
When I visit my relatives in the US, one of the first things we do is buy indoor slippers, and a mat to place our outdoor shoes on. It boggles my mind that people bring all that dirt into their homes without a single thought.
Keeping the bed clean by showering at night is a non-brainer. Yet, people sleep dirty all over the world.
may I know where are these white sneakers from? absolutely sleek
They are from Oliver Cabell. You can check them out here: bit.ly/2RYpRtJ
Yay, another amazing well thought out video!!
1. England
2. Definitely no shoes
3. No
4.By name
Thanks for watching and commenting!
1. Where are you from? - Venezuela.
2. Do you wear/allow shoes at home? - After COVID we don´t, before was common to. But we are like the less to do so... is still common to wear shoes inside.
3. Would you go onto your bed if you’re not at your cleanest? - We usually take a shower at morning before going to work and at night before going to bed.
4. How would you address your partner’s parents? - Is normal for us to call them by their name or a nickname.
Interesting how covid has made a bit of a difference to the shoes habit! Thanks for sharing 🙌⭐
Most of the topics are very similar to my home country Poland, however as soon as I moved to the United Kingdom all these “western rules” came in and its very hard to see and try to understand why some don’t take their shoes off at home just as one example.
Hi, how long have you lived in the UK? Have you been able to maintain your homeland custom of not wearing shoes/allowing shoes in your own house?
I have friends who don't come into my house because they don't want to remove their shoes. That's their choice as is mine to have an outside shoefree home.
@@AzaleaBee I’ve lived here for 7 years and I’ve maintained my culture, however any British person that comes here continues to practice their culture however I try to maintain my culture In my hosuehold
@@AzaleaBee wow really? I grew up in U.K. and lived there for 20+ years. No one had problems with me asking them to take off their shoes when they enter my home. Not all Brits wear their shoes at home neither.
@@igranstedt4196 Yeah. Many years ago a relative remarked sternly "This is the USA, not Asia!!! Most people wear shoes in their houses." My reply (given as tackfully as possible) "This is my HOME. No one wears outside shoes inside."
But for the most part, people are ok with it and don't even have to be asked. Where I am more and more people are deciding not to wear outside shoes inside their homes. Hopefully that is the case with you in the UK as well.
@@AzaleaBee now I live in Sweden and it’s even more extreme than Asia. Kids would take off their shoes when they get into school. Everyone are either wearing socks or slippers inside the school buildings. Shoes are left at school entrance.
A lot of sport spaces also have no outdoor shoes policy.
Ukraine.
No shoes inside usually, but there is that hospitality conflict where it's kinda hospitable to say 'oh, you can leave the shoes on', and the guest should say 'no-no, I'll remove them'. Thankfully it's going away, as the net result is the same, or if you get a guest understanding you literally, it would get awkward.
And then many people would keep and offer guest slippers, and some guests would expect them. But most people are happy to stay in socks.
We did take a bath in the evenings in my family.
Some people do call their MIL mum, but it's not that common, I think. A safe way is using their name and their patronym, the same way as it's polite to address about anyone who isn't your friend.
Thanks for sharing! It was interesting to learn about the hospitality conflict regarding the shoes 😄
Views on this might be lower due to title getting cut off on mobile screen after "silly Asian vs..." so the title appears to be "which side's the weird one" which isn't a lot of context to decide whether it's going to be interesting. Try changing the title and see what happens! (Just cut the first half.) I run a marketing agency and teach social media communication. Scroll speed and attention span can make and break it. 🙂 Love this video because my wife is Asian and I am not, and we talk about this stuff all the time!
Oh thanks for pointing that out! We've been testing out different thumbnails and titles and left it on that one for a little while, but that's a very good point. Appreciate it 🙌🙌
1. Malaysian, livingabroad
2. No shoes in the house
3. Bath before sleep, unless during frozen winter
4. Call in law, Same like our parent, sibling famiy nick name - usually no realname , surname.at all
1. Born in The Netherlands, my parents are from China
2. I take my shoes off after entering my house. In other houses it differs per individual.
3. I prefer to shower in the evening, but I take a shower in the morning when I go to the office. From school camping to staying over, a shower in the morning is common here. I remember a Dutch person once saying that a shower is obliged to respect others due to any smell.
4. By their first name. We are not strict here in The Netherlands with how to call with the names. We are very down to earth.
Appreciate your sharing! 🙌
My family is from Taiwan and my mom and I live here in California.
We have the same exact “rules” for shoes, bed, and showering as well as addressing elders. I have seen the benefits of showering in the morning though, but for me if I showered in the morning, I would need to do it again at night so figured I shouldn’t be wasting more water 🤣
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i live in the netherlands i always take off my shoes in the house also the guests have to take off their shoes i always shower at the end of the day
1. Austria
2. NO! don´t wear them on furniture or the bed..but... we would let people go in an let them keep the shoes on. For example if they just hop by for a second or get something or so
3. Yes..i don´t shower daily, i am also a morning shower person bc my hair takes hours to dry and sleeping with slightly wet hair is hell for my skin
4. By their first names.
Extra: as kid however i was calling the mothers and fathers and others of good friends which i felt like familys like my friends did. My own uncles and aunts i call aunt (name) and uncle (name)
1. The UK
2. I don't wear shoes at but since going to university I've realised that that's more of a family preference rather than a social one
3. The only time I would get into bed wearing clothes other than my pyjamas is when I'm ill
4. Start off with Mr/Mrs their last name, then their first name, then Mum and Dad as the relationship progresses
What I can’t wrap my head around with the no shoes indoors thing is for my lifestyle (2 kids and 2 dogs) and stand alone house. If I took my shoes on and off every time I went outside and back in I would be taking my shoes on/off 20 times a day. That’s crazy. The garage, the deck, the porch, the unfinished basement, the backyard. On and off every single time? There is no way I am going to spend that much effort and energy for the thought of something being more “clean”
For those who live in houses here, they'd likely have outdoor slippers that they can easily slip in and out of. haha but yeah, lifestyle (and even things like climate) definitely plays a big part.
@@ThoughtworthyCo do you and your partner have any outdoor slippers? I’d be curious to see what brands
No particular brands, really. Right now we have a pair from Muji and couple more bought from Thailand a few years ago. Slippers/flip-flops are actually part of most Singaporeans' everyday casual(or sloppy; we like to dress sloppy) attire, so usually we don't think too much about them.
@@bigjay6234 we use crocs lol. Depending on the type of outdoor work, it doesn't have to be anything special. As long as it protects the toes and it's easy to take on and off
I’m uk and Singapore. So a bit of a mixture 😁 I don’t wear shoes in the house but uk culture doesn’t like to ask people to remove shoes no matter how unhygienic. It’s very cold so the house is fully carpeted. And in winter it gets very dirty with peoples muddy and dirty shoes. The English don’t think of the hygiene !!
Also in the uk children aren’t generally taught to be respectful and are generally not respectful to their parents nevermind an ‘uncle’
I like to shower before bed and I like a clean fresh bed and room with plenty of air.
1. im from Germany
2. My Family and I do not wear Shoes that were worn outside indoors. And if we hae guests basically everyone of them takes of their shoes.
3. I personally go onto my Bed even with Outdoor clothes, but thats because I only shower after going to the gym, which most of the time is in the evening.
4. In the beginning of the relationship I would probably adress my partners parents with Mr. & Ms. Familyname, then after some time and when the parents offered me the first-name basis, i would call them by their first names.
1. Brazil
2. In my house shoes must be taken out before entering, but it's not a general rule in every household. Residents will usually have a special pair of slippers just for wearing inside the house.
3. We always shower or at least change clothes before going to bed and it's seen as "gross" to wear outside clothes while sitting or laying in bed. In hot states such as mine, we usually shower 2-3 times a day. In the morning, returning home from the street and before bed.
4. I personally address my mother in law as "Dona" (a less formal way of saying Mrs.), but there are no specifics in here. Some people are really informal and use nicknames, some use pronouns to pay respect.
Thanks a lot for sharing! 🙌
I'm from Indonesia absolutely shoes are not allowed at home
We have a lot of myth that not good to take a bath at night so I think we just need on a clean condition either we take a bath or no to sleep and we usually call our friend's with their parents name for like ridicule haha
1. Canada
2. Shoes come off at the door. I reckon more than 90% of our population does it this way. Can you imagine wearing big winter boots or muddy shoes inside the house?
3. Almost always shower before going to bed, unless I'm super tired or sick.
4. I try to avoid calling them by their names. If I have to, I'll use their given names. Mr. or Ms. Family Name is a bit too formal for us.
To be honest, we try to avoid calling our in-laws "mom" and "dad" too whenever possible 😅 Thanks for sharing!
I have to wear crocs and socks or I get itchy and sore feet. My tiles are never perfectly clean or I might step in mess my children made. I have to wash my hair when I shower or I get itchy so I only change my clothes at night and I take my socks off. I can not leave the house without a morning shower. I have a rug next to my bed that I stand on to get dressed or before getting into bed.
From Australia but my family don't wear shoes if they don't have too.
(Deep South) American married to (Taiwanese/Brazilian) Asian: 1. shoes inside OK in the US (remember we walk a lot less!) / shoes not ok, 2. clean bed rule for neither, 3. more PM bath in the evening for women but shower in AM for men / no pattern, 3. definitely not only blood family / everyone's aunt/uncle, 4. I don't have older siblings and hate that my partner's spot on the heirarchy is birth order, 5. I address my in laws as ahma, akong after having kids and felt uncomfortable with all options before that / my husband calls my parents by their first names
Interesting. Thanks for sharing!
1. US
2. Sometimes. I wish we didn't, but we are lazy and don't like to keep taking them off and on. For example, if we are unloading a car full of groceries, should we put them on and take them off for each trip to and from the car? Plus, we store them upstairs in our closets since there is no room on the main level for all the shoes.
3. I always shower or bathe before bed! No street clothes or shoes on bed.
4. My parents are mom and dad to my husband, but his parents asked me to call them by their names.
Oh that's interesting how you and your husband address your parents differently. Thanks for sharing!
Loved this video. Gave me renewed inspiration for keeping a cleaner home environment! I’ve been walking around indoors in shoes worn outside for my whole life and it makes so much sense to not do it! I love that you treat your home like a sanctuary. I’m in Houston Texas in the US. I also love how you show respect to elders. I’m really enjoying all your videos!
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