Bethany Most Emotional Patient - My 600 Pound Life Reaction
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- Опубліковано 18 вер 2024
- Bethany had a troubling childhood. Now her eating is forcing such a life on her children. Can she lose the weight to become the mom she wants? While also dealing with the demons of her past? Let me know your thoughts in the comments.
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My 600 lb Life
Season 8 Ep 3
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An addiction therapist who doesn’t believe that therapy is effective in addressing the underlying issues of addiction and refuses to go to therapy?!!!
I really don't believe her claims about her education... and if it is somehow true, she had to have gone to some horrible place that was only in it for the money and willing to pass anyone who paid enough. The way she speaks and her lack of knowledge on the topics of addiction and therapy do not coincide with someone who is as educated as she claimed to be.
@@Liverpool5095 I actually do believe her education. Education is very much a process of taking in and storing information. She also may have had the minimal requirements without the commitment to her ongoing education and personal and professional development.
I also believe that she disconnected from the clients she served by denying her own addiction. She refused to experience any perceived pain or discomfort in her own history. This is one reason why people eat over the pain.
Ideally, she would have been in therapy by the time she was in college for her BA and Masters so that her personal issues and experiences would have been professionally handled. This would have been the most profound model of change and handling addiction as she moved into being a counselor for others.
Therapists are just as messed up as everyone else . And the old saying of “Those who can’t do teach “ is very true in her situation..
@@evang6919 My psychologist had her own psychologist
@@evang6919 Yes, therapists have their own personal issues and histories. The best therapists receive therapy services in a client role as needed. The integration of personal beliefs, feelings, and issues is an essential part of working with others.
Some therapists are more effective than others. Education, training, experience, and caring for self are all a part of a therapist’s true effectiveness. Education with personal neglect don’t make an effective therapist.
She can drive to the store but cant drive her kid to school
I know!
Exactly
Right. She don't want to. Just want to wine and eat. Sad
@@user-fu7xe9fd8h she can also walk to the kitchen- but can't cook for herself or her kids.
Lazy
Or walk into the kitchen to get a piece of toast?
Daddy is skinny because there is no food left in the house when daddy gets home from work.
😂
😂😂😂
Bingo
It drives me nuts when they say, "I hate that" when it comes to relying on their children. If you hated that, you'd not be in this situation.
Me, too! Give up some of the little debbie budget and hire a caregiver. Your kids deserve better. The deserve to be kids. Not cooks. Not maids. Not hygiene monitors. Just kids. You're gonna loose older to 1st guy comes sweet talking and then your youngest will be caregiver all because you don't care. Shame on you mom
I'm overweight and have chronic pain , at my worst I chose to move in with my mum so kids had a adult around when I pass out . I will not have my kids care for me , my mum cooks cos it's dangerous for me to but everything else I do , even if it takes all day . I also pay a friend to come in n help clean 1 day a week. I pay my mums bills n pay for the food shopping so when she lost her job she didn't have to find a new job
@KS-kj9rk so, I know you may not want to hear this, but would you consider trying Ozempic or one of its cousin meds? I've fought cancer for 8 years, went into menopause at 35 because of it, and gained weight. I struggled to take it off. After consulting my GP and oncologist, who both thought it was a great idea, I'm down 31 lbs since the middle of April. I feel so much better.
@@KS-kj9rk so, I know you may not want to hear this, but would you consider trying Ozempic or one of its cousin meds? I've fought cancer for 8 years, went into menopause at 35 because of it, and gained weight. I struggled to take it off. After consulting my GP and oncologist, who both thought it was a great idea, I'm down 31 lbs since the middle of April. I feel so much better.
@MSANTHR0P3 , I'm on mounjaro but having to pay private for it , iv lost over 20kg since starting n I'm only on week 9 , I'm determined to try be as active as possible. I'm 33 my son is 5 n daughters 11 n step daughter 20 with a 1yr old , I wanna b chasing kids n grandbaby round park for more than just a hour n then having to rest for rest of day. I'm Really close to my girls nothing we don't talk about n they kno how hard I'm trying. Separated from there dad but he still helps a lot with our son . I'm hoping this time next year il b down enough weight to get my hernia fixed n some scar tissue removed internal that's pulling on my organs every time I move . I stick to 1600 kcal max per day and reduced my calories a lot by removing fizzy drinks . Unfortunatly my biggest health issues are degenerative and won't fix but I'm working hard to fix what I can
This addict is a little bit too comfortable ordering her daughters to put on her socks, cook her breakfast to order, clean her house for her, do the grocery shopping, completely care for her younger sibling ... And she is deliberately continuing to put her daughters beneath her food consumption. 😢 She is so messed up - one of the most messed up people we have seen on this show. But she thinks she doesn't need therapy?? This woman ignored her daughter for TWO YEARS blaming it on Post-partum. She is a living nightmare.
Her mother didn't like her
her bf's didn't like her
her friends didn't like her
now her kids won't like her
thinking there's a common theme going on here
@@empiresrikesfatShe makes excuses for her behavior, to continue the behavior. She doesn’t want any help.
@@empiresrikesfat I don't really like her much either....
After watching her eat I skipped a meal NO appetite really gross!
She cant even make her own eggs and toast come on? Grab a chair and sit by the stove. She doesnt want to take care of of herself or her young daughter.
Thats what I thought, too. She totally could have done that herself, I mean, she was able to walk through the kitchen herself. These kids have no childhood, its so sad.
She a hypocrite goes on about her parents but she's a crap mother herself
@@kirstyboyd8320correct she's a piss poor excuse for a mother..
just plain lazy
her mother called it early
That 18yo already looks and behaves like a mother, instead of her actual mother..
Yeah it is pretty toxic! She is very selfish for not being a real mother to her daughters. Some people don't deserve to be parents.
shes morbidly obese herself , shes on the same path
It’s kinda sad she was forced to grow up so fast.
She should be out with friends having some fun and planning for her future (school, career).
@@Seanofsteel Facts! Thank you for another stellar video Sean!
It's pointless to lie to your doctor or your hair stylist. They both know when you're lying.
And you're the one that's gonna suffer from it.
😂true talk
Yeah, allegedly (can't prove this, I just heard it from someone in the business) William Shatner wore some kind of "hair system" which he refused to admit to, even when going in for makeup and wig fitting, so everyone just pretended it was all his natural hair even though they had to work around/over it.
When I was 18 I got extremely ill and lost a lot of hair, and I literally refused to go anywhere without a wig or cap or scarf or something, but when it was regrown enough to do something with, I explained the whole situation to my hair stylist the first day I met her.
😂😂😂😂😂
Hairdresser here..
100% true….
Bethany: I didn't realize this would be hard so I quit.
Dr. Now: I literally told you this would be hard.
She is selfish and lazy. If people quit waiting on her she would have to get out of that recliner.
Exactly!
Isobella is not so little either! She’s following Mum’s example.
Sadly there’s Door Dash via the phone!
Bethany- has masters degree in psychology..
Also Bethany- doesn’t believe psychotherapy works… 🚩🚩🚩
Yeah, one of those good for me but not for thee. Like she's above it.
No. She knows it works, she just feels despondent about her own traumas and the impacts it has had on her eating. She’s in denial about her trauma.
My grandmother is like this. Was a nurse for years and majored in psychology , refuses now to go to a doctor or therapist because she “knows all the tricks and knows everything” despite her heavily still grieving and having injured herself before
I think she likes being the victim. She gets attention from her family.
@@-Chronically_Caffeinated-nurses are the worst patients!
Bethany: I cant stop because Im a mom
Bethanys eldest daughter: Yeah I cook, clean, buy the groceries, feed and take care of my little sister, and take her to school. I also bring my mother whatever food she wants in between.
Also to force your children into enabling your addiction is next level horrible.mother territory.
Ppl wud go off the wall if her kids & other half were bringing her drugs!!! Wats the diff with food...still KILLS 🙄
The 18 year old looks like she’s on the brink of figuring out her mother actually isn’t a good mother.
@@3SeveredHeadsfood is not illegal. An ppl dont really care if ppl eat. Look all fast food most americans are fat
You got it this lady pisses me off!
it’s just as bad as sending your kid to pick up drugs
So damn angry on behalf of the kids. Even the 10 year old is too big. Bethany seriously needs to stop caring about herself and have a good look around at what her lifestyle has done. And Sheldon really needs to grow a spine and step up. The easy option is to say oh I work, and pass responsibility. I'm actually boiling.
At this point their food habits are pretty much set in stone. It's sad but if you made that little girl a plate of baked chicken and broccoli she would not eat it and become depressed. I know people like this.
The kids know this is wrong but they love it. They are the ones doing the shopping. They could get themselves healthy food if they wanted. They are addicted to sugar and seed oil. Even a fat camp can't clean them up if they don't want the help.
You can stop boiling because you can't control other people. You can only control what YOU eat.
@TruthWillFreeYou
I disagree. She's young enough that if she just ate regular food. Chicken steaks and occasional sandwiches and no fast food. She would lose weight without even a diet because she's a growing kid.
Its not "big". Its "fat" say it like it is
At this point, it would probably be better for Sheldon to live separately with the girls and put a carer in place for his wife. It’s not the kids responsibility to forfeit their childhood for her benefit. Those girls need therapy and lots of it and a better role model with food otherwise the cycle will continue with those girls. So sad.
If I was her husband I'd serve for divorce and custody of my child.
Dude should have run for the hills! She used her degree in psychology to sharpen her manipulation skills and bully him into staying with her, IMO.
He did divorce her, talked some smack about her online, published a couple books of poetry and went on some book signings.
@@casseroleland4373- Just like a Sheldon to get sassy late in life, and probably not until he got a couple of pieces of fanmail due to being on the show.
He seems pretty spineless ... I don't think he has it in him.
As would I!
Her bonding is ONLY WITH FOOD! She talks more loving about food than she does about her kids, SHIT OR HER HUSBAND!
My mom told me to my face that she had wished she had an abortion when she was pregnant with me. And yes she was an alcoholic. I had an amazing wonderful uncle who took me in when I was 7. He saved me.
That is such a blessing. Your uncle sounds like an angel on earth.
That's awful Eva, bloody mothers I swear. My mum had me after 4 (much) older brothers & told everyone she didn't want a girl & didn't know what to do with one - my brothers were her purpose in life. Luckily for me, my dear Dad loved me & I spent most of my time with him. I was sent to live with my Uncle & Aunty, who couldn't have children, and that was the best 7yrs of my life (before that I had a Governess) It was that or boarding school as we lived in the outback & my U&A lived in the city. When my mother went into a nursing home & I went to visit her a few times - everyone was surprised because she didn't tell anyone she had a daughter! Oh well, I certainly haven't repeated the pattern with my son & daughters. Best wishes from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤
@@jenniferdaulby5519 thanks for sharing... bloody mothers I swear !! That tickles me to the ends of the earth! Jax 70 in Hawaii 🌴🌺
@jenniferdaulby5519 Thank Yahweh for loving family members and not repeating what we had to endure. Thank you for sharing that. We are not alone, and I am happy I never went to food for comfort.
@@evrambles5835 Much love to you Eva, thinking of you & best wishes from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤
I bet that the 18 year old has been taking responsibility for the household and her little sister for a long time. It’s sad to see that both daughters are already overweight.
Since the little one was an infant.
You bet? The mother said that she didn’t bond with her youngest until she was two. And the daughter said that she was taking care of her little sister since she was basically born until now. So the 18 year old has been a mother since she was 8 which is really sad.
I hope Isabella leaves and takes her sister with her
@@lifeascassandra5758 When I made the comment I had not gotten that far into the episode, but I thought that she was probably the main caretaker of her sister since she was born, a gut feeling, because we’ve seen similar things in other episodes. I don’t know about you, but I also felt anger towards the father for his somewhat nonchalant attitude towards the slew of issues caused by his wife’s weight. He helped bring a second daughter into the world, but all of the responsibility of running the household, being his wife’s caretaker, and raising a child was basically on his older daughter’s shoulders when she was still a little kid herself. She was groomed to be a caretaker and enabler by both parents, which is just so unacceptable.
She had to start taking care of her sister since her birth, she said so when she was talking about her mother having gone through postpartum depression.
Bethany has completely robbed her eldest daughter of her childhood.
I didn't get the impression from this chick that was grateful for what her kids do for her she seems more entitled than anything. Whats worse is shes aware of how much she puts on her kids but doesn't care. If u can get up to go to the store than you can do more to help yourself. I dont like her attitude at all.
no time for that, who's doing the gravy and Pringle's run
I Agree 1000%
As a disabled mother, my biggest pet peeve on this show is how many parents claim to "hate it" when their partner or even worse their own kids take care of them because it's a damned lie every time. If they REALLY hated it they'd get off the recliner and actually try. Sit on a chair and make toast. She can drive, why can't she drive her kids to school? Instead it's always "I can't do this" and "I can't do that".
Yes she can, she just won't.
Im limited myself, granted in a different way but I used to be heafy myself. My son was my biggest driving force to improove myself so I can be a good example. How can anybody have two sweet daughters like that and a freaking masters degree in addictions psychology and STILL not even try? I lost respect for this one in record time.
Agreed. I’m also disabled & my origin story is way too complex to make it make sense in a comment here. But either way, ITA with everything you said. I have had to check myself when I think or say I don’t like my situation or am unhappy…twist it into what am I doing to change the situation and be happy? If the answer is nothing, then I know that I need to start somewhere and do something to change things. It’s been a very long journey and a bit of a repetitive cycle due to a myriad complications, including memory loss, however,I refuse to sit down, give up & do nothing but hate the situation I have created…
Bethany goes all red in her face when she lies! I don't think she's in denial - she's just used to lying about her food intake.
Also I think she is the type of person who is responsible for Dr Now getting stricter with his patients before the surgery.
Best wishes from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤
She's a "therapist" so I guarantee she thinks she knows more than anyone else..
I’m almost 42 and this woman looks 20 years older than me. It’s crazy how much faster you age when you don’t take care of your body.
Me too!! I'm 47 and she looks 20 years older than me 😮
I just said the same thing i am 42 she looks 62 wild....
Black dont crack. You look good. Keep looking good gurl!
@@Ilovepickles82 I'm 67 and I look loke a kid compared to her
I'm 62 and she looks older than I do. 😂. I'm serious.
Oh my, It’s Bethany. What mama wants, mama gets. She gets total control of everyone.
lol yeah that was pretty funny when he said that
Your face when he said it 😂😂😂😂you @@Seanofsteel
He summed up her whole personality with those words.
Google her hubby. He divorced her. There’s more interesting stuff about him online.
@@casseroleland4373 I only saw they got divorced. What else did you find?
"Don't piss down my back and tell me it's rain." 😂😂😂
I SCREAMED when he said that 😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂 In the UK we have another one similar "don't piss on my chips and tell me it's vinegar". I'm sure there are other versions but that I remember from when I was a teen😂
@@CoffeeBeanWitch 🤣😂🤣
That was hysterical...there was I, just sitting here in the UK, drinking tea and thinking I am so La-de-Da, and the next minute I am spitting tea out all over my computer..don't make an English lady spit out her PG Tips Sean, we don't like wasting tea in England 🤣🤣🤣 🇬🇧
The amount of times she says that doctor Now doesn't listen, yet refuses to talk to the therapist is hilarious.
She can go for a walk outside for 10 minutes but can't get up to get her own bottle of water. I CAN NOT
Poor Sheldon. He looks so defeated, borderline abused😢
I read that as “deflated” and it also worked.
Abused? She cant even fucking walk
She prioritized getting up and taking them to the grocery store to make sure she has the food she wants, BUT she didn’t prioritize waking up and getting ready in the morning to drop her kid off for school. I’m early in the episode, but she needs so much therapy for so many issues. I feel so bad for her daughters, but especially the oldest one. 😢
*wait!! She learned about addiction and helped others but didn’t /can’t see it in herself and know that she also needs help?
@@kilpy-lacroix#1 profession with the most un-aliving are Dentists. 2nd is Psychiatrists & Psychologists, because they think 🤔 they know everything, huge Blind spot, when it comes to themselves 😔. Be sure Therapist is qualified! If they push a book 📙 on Love Languages, is worthless, red flag 🚩 they're Xchins, who need ZERO qualifications 😮 & ZERO help...
@@kilpy-lacroixBingo! Do as I say not as I do!
I had an amazing mother. She was such an angel of a woman. I often forget how horrible some mothers can be. 😢
You are definitely blessed. Jax 70 in Hawaii 🌴🌺
Be happy you got so lucky. Not all of us do.
@@floridagirl4896 I truly am. It's why it hurts so much to have lost her.
@@yomigonzalez9870 I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you are doing ok.
My biological parents were too young/unknowing to have a child, so my early childhood was hellish, but I'm so thankful for the Dad and Mom who I think of as my real parents even though we didn't share DNA, they were such a blessing and I thank God for them ❤
This story is absolutely child abuse in so many ways! These poor girls don’t know anything except for taking care of each other and mostly have to take care of their mom and all the household responsibilities that the parents are supposed to be doing. Also these girls are already in the obese range because they don’t know any better and don’t know the healthy ways of nutrition. It’s so disgusting and sad for those girls! If I personally knew this family, I’d call CPS FOR SURE! For the sake of those kids!!!
I agree with you this is disgusting!
"in the obese range". Is it not allowable to speak the truth. The poor girls are 1) 10 year old: obese, and 2) 17 year old: morbidly obese. They are in terrible health trouble.
@@alicelaybourne1620Yes, that's exactly what I was thinking. It really unfortunate.
💯 %
I agree those kids are neglected and being made to be the adults, but the state system isn't always great either. It's a hard call for me, I'd mandate family therapy for her and that she get help or lose them. Or the husband gets custody. So what if he works the kids would be in school anyhow most of the year.
She's walking and getting around real good. I think she's just lazy or she would take care of her children. She's used to sitting in that chair doing totally nothing. Her daughter needs to confront her and make her start cleaning and moving
Her house is clean,first one I have seen😮,must fall on the 18 year old.
YEPPERS
child labor
kitchen is ugly as hell tho
Daughters probably clean it.
Yes, the oldest daughter says in the beginning that she does the cleaning 😢
"But first thing I have to do is get myself something to eat."
Sean: AW, FUCK.
I'm dead lmao
😂😂😂
@@dianemaartens9089 I cracked up so hard lol
@@halfpintyt Same 🤣🤣🤣
@@halfpintyt It was the way Sean said it! Hilarious 🤣
Sheldon is ticking me off. I understand being in love with your spouse, but once you _decide_ to have kids, you can’t let even your spouse do things to hurt them. And having Isabella take over all aspects but one as a parent is not acceptable. Not caring for Zowie is not acceptable. Bethany can move, she’s just been enabled and coddled into not having to be a parent or participate in their household.
Sheldon looks like he doesn't get any food in that house
He doesn't, there's none left!
She and her husband are terrible parents. Making the oldest daughter responsible for the younger one. The little one is not being kept clean because the bottom of her feet were black with dirt. 😢
It doesn’t seem like she cares for the little one. At all.
That's dust from the hardwood floors, that's the only draw back of having that type flooring. I sweep mine several times daily and they still gather unseen dust, it's a never ending cycle. Her daughter probably sweep and mops daily because their house didn't look filthy it looked a bit cluttered and areas.
Honestly up until I moved out of the suburbs I would routinely walk around barefoot in my yard or on the way to and from places like the library. Maybe she just doesn't like shoes
It's terrible to blame your child for your PP depression and then refuse therapy. She's a whiner and food does NOT cure these problems. It's an excuse she tells herself to excuse her gluttony. It makes me nuts, she wants sympathy for her poor childhood but she's doing the same to her kids. It makes me nuts when people make excuses for neglect and forcing your kids to be the mom !!!
Both daughters would benefit from her changing to healthy eating
Both daughters would benefit living somewhere else. The 18 year old is way overweight and the youngest one is getting there too. When a example like mom that's not surprising!!!
Ikr! And a healthier diet would prevent them from ending up obese.
@@zxyatiywariii8 They are already obese. It isn't mean to say it, it is the clinical reality.
Sean, I really like the way you comment often about counting calories. Once my sister tried for a week to diet drinking only tea. She gained weight!! I counted her calories for her ( once she stopped crying) and with the sugar she was putting in her tea she was consuming like 5-6 thousand calories a day in sweet tea ! Calories count period. Jax 70 in Hawaii 🌴🌺
Jax! Rubbing it in again in paradise!
Phoenix 8:46 am, only 85 degrees. We will be in the triple digits again.
@@ChristiColonel busted! 😉 I give you respect. I'm originally from Georgia so I do know summer. Yet that was 35 years ago and the climate really is hotter now. I'm spoiled rotten at this point. Stay cool 😎 and thank goodness for air-conditioning yeah🤙 Jax 70 in Hawaii 🌴🌺 * its overcast right now and 65° , it will get up to 85° today. I'll still be 70...lol
Just at the beginning, and noticing: 10year old: VERY chubby. 18year old: fat. Mother: My life is horrible, I am horrible, but my servants have to bring me food while I'm waiting for breakfast.
If she wants to kill herself, be my guest. But this is child abuse at very many levels.
I love the “once she stopped crying”. 😂 ❤ from the beautiful Hervey Bay in Queensland Australia. 🐋🦘🇦🇺
Holy cow!!!! That was a ton of sugar.
Oh those poor little maids. It is incredibly hard to watch and this woman obviously doesn’t care that those little maids are going the same way as their mammy. It reminds me of cases where people who have been abused in childhood then go on to abuse their children even worse than what they had suffered . So sad
Little maids is the correct description of what we saw of the situation there, yes. Maids indeed.
This might be overly critical, but I noticed she never says "I ate {this or that}", she always says "DO" - "for breakfast I do protein bars", "for dinner I want to do chicken", "for lunch I do salad".
@@windycitykitty interesting. I didn't catch that, but I always watch twice anyway. I don't know, this one irritated me more than usual. But now that I know she ultimately got it, I might watch with a new perspective. Jax 70 in Hawaii 🌴🌺
Good catch, it dissolves her accountability. Distances her from it. She has some issues bigger than her butt.
@@jaxbutterfly9186where do you get the updates??
And she passed a masters degree. Wow low standards in US education
@@kirstyjackson3195many nurses and even health ministers are morbidly obese. The cognitive dissonance is stronger than intelligence in these ppl
Sheldon looks like he would blow away from a strong sneeze
My "mother" walked out the door when I was 18 months old, and two toddler brothers. She never looked back. My father had to leave the navy and I believe resented us kids to the day he died. Some mothers do suck.
all children deserve parents but not all parents deserve kids. so sorry you had to deal with that
That is awful.
Wow both parents did you dirty. That sucks and I’m sorry.I’m sure it made you into a stronger and better human in the end.
So sorry you had to suffer like that.
Oh wow. That’s awful. I’m so sorry you and your siblings went through that.
She is so educated. I don't understand how she would let the food addiction persist when she knows there are medications available to treat depression and anxiety. I think the family dynamics make t so easy for her to give into addiction.
Those medications make you gain weight
Addiction ain't as easy as normies think.
I was in jail with a family therapist who killed her own daughter her name was Kimberly Lucas.
Addiction and trauma treatment aren't that straightforward
@@AshleyofthewolvesI'm going to see if i can Google it. That is very interesting. Wow. Being a therapist doesn't guarantee mental stability. Thanks for sharing. Jax 70 in Hawaii 🌴🌺
it’s sad to see how overweight the girls are …
mom has visited her p poor eating habits on her children 😔
I was thinking the same. I don't want to bully anyone but they are going to need to learn healthy eating habits from someone 😢
She asks her daughter what she wants for breakfast and I thought, oh how nice, she can cook. Daughter proceeds to make breakfast.😢
@@reginafromrio
I worry that both girls are probably bullied at school … I was a fat kid {until 13}, and I know how that can hurt 😢
@@kinsley7777 I'm sorry
What is super sad is now both daughters will have a life-long struggle with weight and food,...good job mom!!!
Thank you so much for telling men that no means NO, Sean! And for telling parents to teach that to their children. 🙌
I had surgery in 1998 I was 375 I got down to 158. 10 years later they did an endoscopy and I was told my stomach was the size of a walnut. I followed the diet. If you do you will succeed!😮
Sean, I was in the hospital for bulimia, it was like a rehab, but we ALL had that “tingle down below” before a binge. However, every single one of us had been raped or sexually assaulted. There is some connection between SA and feeling comfort for food.
Sad but true 😢 ❤️🩹💙
@@patriciamurfitt4590 Hi Patricia...sadly SA also is a preamble for drug addiction as well. Stay cool this weekend! Jax 70 in Hawaii 🌴🌺
I had bulimia and that's not true for me so..
Lifelong bulimic and SA survivor ❤
@@Ashleyofthewolves Yes!! It’s definitely not true for everyone!!!! It just happened to be in my situation. I’m old, 55, so maybe that was a more common cause back then? I don’t know.
"I'm starving...." always makes me so angry. She hasn't experienced a moment of true hunger ever in her life. She is of course starving in a different way that her body is crying out for nutrients - protein and fats - and all she's giving it is crap. She is overfed, but malnourished.
Yep, or trying to fill an emotional need with food. Or that's her excuse for overeating.
It makes me nuts when people say it helps with pain and anxiety or whatever. If it was a cure, they would prescribe it. It's a problem and they have to deal with the problem thats causing them to stuff their faces. As a counselor she should know this. 🙄 She is doing the same to her kids as was done to her just with a different addiction than her mom had. Jeez, grow up and stop stuffing your face and acting like you have no say in it.
They act like it's something outside of themselves that they have absolutely no control over. I KNOW it's hard to change your eating habits but when your life depends on it you need to wake up quick.
I've been clean from prescribed pain meds for 16 yrs now. I was over prescribed when I was in my early 20's, and it led to an addiction that was out of control. When I found out I was pregnant with my son I went to rehab & got clean, right away. I always put my kids first.
I was way overly prescribed back in 2008-2013. I kept getting sick and going to the emergency room and they kept asking me “are you prescribed all of these medications? Because these can all kill you. I was 18-23. Stimulants, muscle relaxers, benzos, antidepressants, sleeping meds, opiates. I think there’s a lot of victims from that time period. I use Kratom for pain, it’s a supplement legal in my state, not legal in some others. Hope you’re doing well, stay strong 🥂
@@thethe4665 yes, it was during some of those years, doctors were handing out opiates like candy. Now if you legitimately need them for pain, they won't give you any,; going from one extreme to another... We have legal marijuana here, but I don't partake bc I would hate to be stopped and found intoxicated while driving or something, which happens. I have enough going on in my Life that is crappy I don't need to knowingly add to it. I'm glad you found something that works for you! I hope you're doing well, hugs! Thanks for the kind message.
So happy you are in recovery. I know it takes a lot of work and prayer. I have been alcohol free 32 years.
@@JaneWoodBranam congratulations! That's huge, I'm amazed by your strength & courage. Some days it's still hard to want to get up, but as I'm sure you're aware, you have to do what you have to do... You're a true inspiration! ❤️
So Very Proud Of You! I Currently Struggle With Opiate Addiction But I Have Very Legit Pain & I Don't Take More Than I See To At Any Time. I Don't Have 450k For Spinal Reconstruction Surgery..
Okay. I was a severe alcoholic and have been sober for a few years now. What I came to realize is that in overcoming addiction, you have to accept that abstaining from your drug of choice will suck for a while. If you keep at it, slowly your life will suck less and less, until eventually you enjoy your life again. It takes time and in my case consistent abstinence.
Bethany's husband looks like a broken and defeated man. I wonder what his story is...
Her two daughters are on their way to 600lbs too.
The only example they have to follow 😢
That’s what I was thinking too. Some of the girls I work with I think will end up 600 pounds if they don’t get it together
Agree
Her older daughter would be pretty if she wasn't 400lbs.
weak man in the family caused Bethany to lead. inturn caused this mess
Addicts raising kids is so sad. Their drug will ALWAYS come first. It’s absolutely heartbreaking and vile.
Yea. Just thinking about Isabella's lost childhood has me in tears.
Not ALL the time, but the majority of the time. I'll agree with that. I overcame a lot for my son, and it was NOT easy, and I wasn't the best parent, but I tried and quit everything.
@@RblWOACoz1111 absolutely. And I should have clarified.. you definitely come to a crossroad as an addicted parent, what you choose at that point, is what defines you as a parent. But if you ignore and deny that instinct and make excuses to continue addiction.. that’s on you.
You know this better than anyone.
Because look at you. You took it on and you conquered. BIG RESPECT. It’s HARD but your will, strength and instinct drove you to be what your baby deserves. 💜 be so proud.
It’s a lifelong struggle. But you have to break out of your circle and build a trusted support network, while healing.
My dad is an alcoholic and he was the best dad in the world he always worked always cooked us dinners always read a story for us before bed. Yes its not good for his health but he wasn't a terrible person just because he was an alcoholic
Maybe I’m wrong, but I don’t think she likes eating alone for “the enjoyment” like she mentioned. I think internally there might be a lot of shame and NOT wanting to be held accountable-without anyone around, you feel less shame and there is little to no accountability for your actions.
Nailed it. I honestly have a problem believing the majority of what she says.
Or, she's just afraid someone is gonna take something off her plate. Specifically, her husband. She doesn't seem to have an issue eating around her kids.
That lady was just plain LAZY. There was WAY more she could do vs. getting her 18 yr old daughter to do it for her. One big excuse 😒
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I absolutely love ypur videos! I have really bad sleep insomnia and your videos help me sleep at night. You are the best thing that happened to UA-cam!!!!
As some one who also has insomnia I love the content creators with longer videos. Sean is one I enjoy. Reaction channels are my favourite
I believe she pastaway there r 3 parter of who died I think she was 1of them
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Meee Tooo 🧡
andddddd THIS is an example of a person who never should have been given the surgery in the first place
Sean, you soothe my mind. You’re one of a kind!
😃 You're a poet and don't know it.
Why don’t people eat at tables with china plates and real cutlery? Or have a conversation at dinner.
Just sit in silence
No one wants to do dishes. The elder daughter is overworked and mom doesn’t try
This mom has zero personality. She must be hell to be around. Poor kids
I feel sorry for the kids who have to be servants of their mom. Its horrible to grow up with someone like this one.
I don't believe she really thinks psychotherapy isn't effective. She's just not ready for doing the work.
How can she eat all that food without getting full? The volume is what gets me. She definitely doesn’t use the info she KNOWS about addiction. The food we eat is supposed to sustain us. I would not be surprised if she has vitamin deficiencies. So sad.
For me, I could eat huge volumes of food and not feel full because the hunger is psychological, not physical. And the stomach stretches from constantly being stuffed, so it can hold more and more volume as the years go by.
@@yvettebasson1243 Interesting. I guess I never realized the brain could be so powerful, but it does make sense. If it was just physical you’d vomit before the stretching occurred. Thanks for the info.
@buffbuff5016 I know I would throw up long before I ate less than half of what they do. I've had abdominal issues and I just cannot eat a lot at a time which is good because I'm short and my ideal weight isn't much..
Hunger is felt in the stomach, cravings are felt in the brain. Emotional eaters struggle with cravings. It may be for texture, taste or just to feel something inside their mouth, its usually not hunger they feel which is why they CAN consume large volumes.
She is one of the worst! Afraid to leave her daughters? She’s not there anyway!
The fact that she has a masters in addiction therapy but thinks she personally doesn't have a problem makes me question how she ever got that masters.
Because it doesn’t matter how intelligent or educated a person is. Addiction is addiction and an addict’s primary skill set lies in talking out of both sides of their mouth.
Those quack schools sell degrees for $$
“A wet fart would blow you away!” OMG 😂😂😂
💀💀💀 😂
My migraines actually cause me to go blind, lose coordination, and have led me to have seizures. I had migraines every day for a year that the wrong medication the doctors were mandated to try before they could prescribe the shot they knew would work triggered the first one, and then I spent the next six months with multiple seizures a day despite stopping that bad med. it’s been three years now and I still occasionally have the seizures. I am on the medication that works for my migraines, and I am down to three or four migraine days a month now.
Migraines are no joke!
(Also, I mean bad medication as in reacted bad with my body, it does well for those it actually works for).
I suffered migraines 14 years. I black out, vomit and can't see. For days at a time.
February my Neurologist recommended emgality which is an injection I take once a month. I've been migraine free for the first time in 14 years
Sumatriptan is a life saver when it comes to my migraines!
I really don't like this woman 😕
She lies to everyone all the time.
She’s a whole agency worth of acting in one person
Idk how they can sit there with a straight face and say I am following the plan when they are absolutely not.
This woman is a prime example why Dr N doesnt approve surgery right away. People think that surgery does all the work. She needs lots of therapy to work on her food addiction.
So she " didn't get the tools she needed, and it's just too hard, and no one is listening to her, and the whole program failed her ". I cannot believe these people.
She failed because she doesn't believe anything is her fault. Or that because she's a counselor, she doesn't need help from anyone else.
The level of delusion is off the charts.
Good morning Sean!! Thanks for another great video. My husband will sometimes overhear me watching your videos and you make him laugh from the other room with your jokes. 😂 we love you and you are looking awesome!! Keep up the great work rosy cheek gang! ❤
My Mum is the same! I have to turn the volume up on my phone so she can hear too! Sean makes her laugh! 😂😂
They used to give you painkillers for all sorts of things hence why we’re in an opioid epidemic when they stopped prescribing them. It’s quite disgusting because people were getting hooked on these things and they didn’t even realize that they extremely addictive substances
Yes oxycontin marketed their medicine as safe and not addictive
Yeah I almost died from all the controlled substances I was prescribed 18-23 years old. I lost 100lbs in 10 months and became underweight and a size 000
They absolutely knew that pain killers were addictive! They just did not tell the patients about it.
People have known they're addictive as far back as "pharmaceuticals" go. I 100% believe her mom was on painkillers but I struggle to believe it impacted her to the point of what she claims. I think she just found a convenient scapegoat she can use as an empathetic lasso that she believes excuses her lack of responsibility.
They always knew it was addictive, like the opium dens in the 1600s
Having a bad pain day. Thanks for the upload, they always make me feel better ❤
@juliesnider7840
chronic pain is the worst …
you have my empathy …
@@kinsley7777
Thank you so much ❤️
I am so far ok for this morning. It's so crazy to deal with that chronic 💩 Never surrender 🥰
It can get depressing af, l will have to give up and take drugs soon. Always put it off as long as l can 😅 💙
Me too I'm 55 got ran over24months ago yesterday, crushed pelvis front&back,crushed hips,2broke legs,left foot on wound vac 2months,8fractured ribs,crushed knees,back broke in3places,head injury,rod left leg,ect😢sean helps always 😮
Any fibromyalgia friends?
She's so, so, so annoying. Dr. Now repeatedly told her the surgery would not deal with the cravings. She kept on saying it didn't give her what she needed - the 600-lb question is WHAT DID SHE EXPECT?! How could someone be so delulu?
She expected to not have to do any real work because she's inherently lazy and doesn't do hard work. Sorry but I can't deal with this woman's excuses and laziness.
No one likes to talk about painful things, but carrying that pain around leads to being 600 lbs or worse.
You MUST work through your trauma and emotional baggage. You need to process and deal with it, so you can firmly put it in the past and move forward with your life. So you don't end up making your children pay for what was done to you.
These issues are generational and often those who were ab*sed, end up doing the same to their children.
She apparently doesn't see the parallels between her upbringing and how she was with her own daughter, after PP depression which yes can mess you up but you can't take it out on your children. Or make them be the parents because you can't stop stuffing your face.
This woman is leading her poor girls down the same path. So sad. 😢
Yeah it's really sad seeing the older daughter on the large side - wish she'd at least help her not to end up the same circle as she went with her mother
Really, all three should be doing this diet.
You’d be surprised. My adults pick up my fidget spinners quicker than the teens. Anxiety is anxiety and it often helps them to open up.
I have C-PTSD ... multiple time gun violence survivor. I actually have a fidget spinner ring
I have 2 fidget toys at the age of 37 lol
This woman's weaponised helplessness is shocking to see. Her poor daughters.
She has learned helplessness and magical thinking.
Hi from Istanbul. Oh my gosh.....no empathy for Bethany...forcing kids to be adults is so damaging.
gooood morning from Cali ☀️😎🌴
Good Morning from....Hell! 😂
That is so true.
@@unowen7416 Such Silliness.
I don't recognize you at all. 😄
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I get SO upset seeing children being parentified.
Why is she not walking around. Look at her husband sitting in dr. Now's office, that man has giving up on life and regretting his life choices and marrying her.
Sad he look beat to hell with his life
He worships her
A video from Sean is an awesome way to start a Saturday - the day just got better! I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!
Happy Weekend!
I hope you have an amazing weekend also.
Awesome way to start my Sunday before work 😃
From Australia 🇦🇺
The fact that she doesn’t believe in herself and dislikes herself so hard she discredits her entire career field is wild. It’s terrifying she has a masters in counseling and had a practice for 6 years yet completely discredits counseling as a valid tool that could help and just dismisses everything the counselor says is insane to me!
Addiction counselors/therapists burn out hard and often because they start out wanting so much to help people...Only to learn that almost all addicts "relapse" over and over again. It's heartbreaking for anyone who really cares. It doesn't surprise me that X-addiction counselors like Bethany become so disillusioned about their profession.
She might tell herself she knows everything there is to know so she can justify not going to therapy
@@caro31099Yes. Exactly right. She thinks because she's a counselor she knows it all, but we are not objective about ourselves and do need to talk to someone else. Her mindset is her own worst enemy.
I seriously don't like this woman but I do hope she gets it figured out. For the sake of her children.
She keeps looking for the magic solution and denying her own complicity in derailing her weight loss.
How can she sit there and say she is following the diet when she's obviously not ?
Wait… she has a masters degree in psychology of addiction, and she doesn’t know trauma is the root of addiction? I’m baffled
She's delusional, we are not objective about ourselves, she needs to get off her high horse and participate in therapy to get to the root of her issues.
She blames everything and everyone else for her lack of self accountability and refusal to admit to her own issues.
She had unrealistic expectations of what surgery can do.
She simply does not WANT to stop eating, she refuses to see anything as her fault or take accountability for her own actions.
I think I’m seeing a pattern with Dr.Now and why he’s stricter on certain patients. He looks at the overall situation. When there are kids/family suffering with the impact of the patient, he knows there’s more victims at stake in weighing the risks and prerequisites.
I agree 💯
I am not.
Normally disgusted by how people eat on the show. However watching bethany eat is literally Me sick.
She shovels it in like it is a full time job.
AINT NO WAY I CAUGHT THIS 30 SECONDS AFTER UPLOAD- HELL YEAH.
lol yeah you’re really early
@@Seanofsteel I'm so glad I did, I love your videos, dude. I reached 320 in May, and hearing you talk about your struggles in some of your videos scared the shit out of me. I'm 280 now and feel so much better
🏆 great accomplishment !
goood morning from Cali ☀️😎🌴
Great job!! That’s impressive!
@@kinsley7777 thank you
So if she thinks therapy isn't effective for addiction. And she was an addiction therapist... Is she just saying she was shitty at her job and knows she didn't help anyone so thinks that's what all addiction specialists therapists are like?
"You pre-game with a honey bun?!" 😂😂😂
GM 🌞 Bethany seems to be blaming everyone one else but her self
I am somewhat familiar with what the psychology field looks like, and it’s really not that uncommon for someone to hold a degree in the field and still have crippling personal problems. You can still help others, and be a train wreck. Ideally a therapist or councilor actually needs their own therapist.
Is it true that a lot of times ppl go into the mental health field cause they hv mental health problems that they either want to fix or know more about & the few that need to see others worse off then them ?
Indeed! I know Hannibal Lector is a fictional character, but that's who I always think about when I think of wacky psychiatrists who are out and about giving advice! 😂
I keep looking for a therapist but they’re either crazy, or selling their own books and products to patients on day 1.
Man, that’s some impressive denial! So sad how she adamantly refuses to face her issues.
She used Dr. Now for the surgery. She thought she could still eat fast food and out of control but since her stomach was smaller, she wouldn't gain weight. Just like Dr. Now said, surgery isn't a magic pill, it's just a tool to help you IF you want to help yourself.
OK. I have a hard time believing some of the things she said about when she was growing up. I think she is embellishing big time.
As far as her husband. This is a classic Narcissist and Empath relationship. No offense to him but he really isn't the smartest guy. He goes on what she tells him because as he said she is smart. Unfortunately as a Narc Mom she could care less about her kids. In fact they only serve one purpose and that is to serve her.
12:53 Migraines are unlike any other headache, man. Normal pain meds don't help much, light and sound hurt, your temperature can go nutty, your stomach will reject anything...
My heart goes out to your girl. I hope yall have some good care strategies in place cuz oof. And that oof is entirely sympathetic. Give your girl a gentle hug from a fellow migraine fighter, yea?❤
OMG 😳 They are unbelievable. Someone who's never had one doesn't understand. Mine started at around 12/13 yrs old, peaked in the 30s and started to slow down in the 40s. Haven't had one now for over 6 yrs. Praise God it does get better 😅 but I'm 65 now so yeah it's a long road.
Omg I had both of my children naturally, no meds and I’d rather do that again than have the worst migraine I ever had- I went to the ER and the doctor was acting like I was seeking meds until I threw up all over his shoes. Absolutely horrific pain. I couldn’t even open my eyes. The only thing that really helped keep them at bay were crazily enough my antidepressants.
Mine were terrible in my teens. I think it was hormonal because I very rarely get one now. The only thing I could do was lie in a dark room and try to sleep.
They don’t give painkillers anymore for migraines.
Exactly. When someone says “I don’t know if I had one” then you haven’t because you’d know. I have had a handful and my god it is one of the worst pains. Most people don’t understand that it’s not just a “bad headache”. It’s a headache x100.
I'm curious how she got her license to practice without dealing with her own mental issues and addiction.
I wondered about that too.
It's a dangerous thing because she thinks she knows it all but we are not objective when it comes to ourselves.
She needs to get off her high horse, humble herself and try to actively participate in therapy to save her own life and improve her family's lives. She's so frustrating !!!
Lady, the last thing you are, is starving
Lol yeah that one always cracks me up - might be bored maybe even thirsty but sure as heck not starving 😂
Omg when she says she’s starving 🤬 let her go spend some time around REAL STARVING PEOPLE AND CHILDREN WITH NOTHING TO EAT. she’s DISGUSTING
My brother's ex-wife is one of the most manipulative, self-centred people I've ever met, and she also happens to be a therapist.
I don't think that all therapists are in denial about their own mental health, but some certainly are. It really didn't surprise me at all that Bethany was twisting everything so nothing was her fault and evading accountability.
"I've been going to therapy, so it can't be the emotional..." Addiction counsellor???? Holy crap. I know it is hard to analyze yourself, but this level of self deception is WILD
Exactly right. We are NOT objective when it comes to our own issues. She just doesn't get it. And refuses to take accountability for her own issues. She lives in the land of denial.
Good morning Sean and all the SOS crew. Have an awesome weekend!! 😊
Good morning hope you have a great weekend 😊
gooood morning from Cali ☀️😎🌴