Nigerian here, I had my wedding this past January and when I told my people especially my american friends to wear white, they were scared cause I know the rule here is not to wear white to upstate the bride. I told them my culture is that everyone wear white while we the couple wear a different color. I said it's ok, even I didn't wear a white wedding dress. It's the culture, and everyone looked so beautiful 😍. Every where is a different culture, it's just a matter of respecting it.
Although there's nothing wrong with telling the partner it should be okay if they are in an open relationship and if not maybe they should have included their partner when they decided to be unfaithful
@SaintShion I think it does give insight to the behavior though. Because he's probably aware of that his ex was "above of his league" and may have overcompensated by treating her like a princess. And she also probably knew this which could be a reason out of many as to why she justified the cheating. She enjoyed the benefits of being with her ex but could have wanted other men who may be more "her level" in terms of looks. I know it's a lot of assumptions, but it's a dynamic that does happen and looks play a part whether we want to admit it or not.
Handling it perfectly would be him not even having to ask her. Handling it perfectly would be telling the concerned party and not letting them get treated like dirt.
@@kaylagroten2348so she should get into trouble for someone else’s sake. She didn’t lie but also didn’t seek the person. I could see myself doing it if I had concrete proof and I’ll do it anonymously but if commenters already called her jealous when she didn’t even say much. Can you imagine what she would be seen as if she took the proactive route?
I snitched on my best friends husband coming on to me and lost my friend. She didnt believe me.🤷♀️ I love how Charlotte just wants everyone to be happy. Beautiful inside and out ❤
1st story: I am with Charlotte on this. I want friends with morals, not friends who treat their partners like garbage. The one with the woman talking about women "being accused of outshining the bride": at my wedding I told everyone to wear their absolute best. I didn't care if it was a white outfit, just look stunning. And you know what? I still stood out as the bride because of my bright red hair lol
I only consider "outshining the bride" as a thing if the bride is being rude or cruel. Then my mindset is this [person or pet] is more mature than the bride!!
If you can treat the person you claim to love and want to spend the rest of your life with like shit, what will you do to me? Yeah. I am not on that girl.code BS
I looked as casual as all the guests at my wedding opting for a simple knee length dress but still stood out because I was the one getting married 😂 still the center of attention all day.
I agree with that to an extent. There are ways to answer these questions tactfully where you don't lie but don't answer. Like "I'm not getting involved".
@@XCaptianXChaosX he came to her 🤷♀️ I would see it as overstepping if she went behind the girls back and went to him. He asked her question, she gave him an answer. She didn't outright say what was going on but she didn't lie either.
4:13 the people commenting that this girl shouldn't have said anything are the same people who would cry and beg for the truth if their partner was cheating on them
And are the same people that are going to hate you regardless. If you don’t tell and they find out you knew and said nothing, you’re dead to them. If you find out and tell them because they need to know, you’re dead to them.
Exactly and she didn't snitch. She confirmed a suspicion when she was asked. Now me personally, I won't go pht of my way to rat someone out. Thats not my place. Not my monkey not my circus, BUT if someone ask me about something I know about, I WILL NOT lie for you. That's how I get tangled up in whatever fuckery you got going on and I don't have time for BS like that. And idc how anyone feels about that. I'm not one for drama. So I will not allow myself to be dragged into anything. And the best way to be sure you don't get dragged in.
My sister just got married on Sunday. Her fiancé (a guy I had known since the 2nd grade) looked at her like she was the most beautiful woman in any room. But he always looked at her like that. He didn't even want to do the cake smash (which they both were excited about) bc he didn't want to ruin her makeup. He truly loves my sister, and I am so grateful for my new brother.
I went to a Kurdish wedding with a friend once, and I'm so glad I had her there to help me navigate the cultural expectations. It was definitely a "dress to impress" occasion. EVERYONE was glitzy, glam, red carpet type dressed to the nines. The bride looked like a literal PRINCESS. All those (hundreds of) wonderfully done up people, and not a single one outshined her. It was amazing. And I'm glad my friend talked me into more makeup, because my "barely anything natural" default look would NOT have cut it.
That's lovely, I was lucky enough to visit India for a friend's wedding and she and her family and friends were so gracious in letting me get to know the cultural significance of certain events and they let me borrow saris to fit in and join in on certain parts of the events as appropriate, and I had so much fun. It was an honour to be invited into their culture so generously 🥰
People don't realise how dangerous its to be cheated on, you get exposed to the possibility of getting lifelong diseases and you didn't concent to that. If you know someone its getting cheated on you should tell them right away.
I'm so glad that bride with the incredibly critical groom called off the wedding. That whole 'I'm old, so I'm lucky cause he could have anyone' is so misogynistic, i reckon it was his words. Hope she's living her best life now ❤
Another rule that seems to cause some issues is wanting a dry wedding. My fiancé and I don't drink and we have some family members that struggle with alcoholism and aren't "fun drunks" to put it nicely. When we told everyone we were having a dry wedding, some family were so outraged or laughed in our faces and said that people are going to miss most of the wedding because they're going to be drinking in the parking lot 😶 So now we are planning an elopement.
How painful to realize that the people you love care more about getting wasted than supporting you on your biggest day for a few hours. 😢 You deserve better. I hope your wedding day is amazing ❤🎉💖🥂✨
Take the money and put it as a down payment on a house. Or go someplace where you want like a beach in Hawaii, take your parents or siblings, best friend or nobody and have a blast. Get married in a jungle, at a private island where you can spend a few days, take a tour through the USA or Europe by train or boat, get married on a cruise. There are lots of ways to elope, it does not ave to be at the Justice of the Peace or the Elvis Church in Vegas unless thats what YOU WANT. The most important thing is to marry someone who loves, honors, and respect you. Good luck.
Darling, we had a morning wedding with a luncheon reception in the fellowship hall of my Presbyterian church in Rancho Palos Verdes. Gorgeous view! All Presbyterian venues are dry so we settled for Martinelli’s and had no issues. BTW as a member, the venue was FREE.
My wedding reception was dry because I knew a handsome 16 year old boy that got wasted at a reception and was not only killed, but mutilated in a horrible crash on the way home. It had a profound effect on me ever since. Most all our invitees came to our wedding and reception where they enjoyed music and plenty of food at a gorgeous venue in the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains. After the reception was over, parents and siblings gathered at my parents home where we were toasted with 1 glass of fine champagne. It was everything I had dreamed my wedding would be and our guests enjoyed their evening. If someone refuses to come or laughs at you because you won't get them drunk, they're probably not worth keeping as friends.
The second make up bride story was so sad. when she said, "I'm so lucky he chose me. I'm Older and he could have chosen anyone," I got ill. That's a line straight out of the abused spouse playbook. It is straight up, "You should be lucky I even want you." Follow that up with the rest and it's obvious this dude is a walking red flag. I'm so glad she called it off.
I barely heard the story because I was so hung up on the process for applying the make up. Watching these women cake it on is down right nauseating and has to be considered catfishing.
One of my friends has a man like this... just got married to him too even tho she still struggles having s3x with him (& has been struggling for months now) because he told her he was glad "she's only a 6 out of 10 bc women prettier than that are usually full of themselves & selfish" 🙃😤 along with MANY MANY other red flags... I tried talking to her & she was literally an inch from kicking him out & then suddenly everything is fine & dandy again 🙄 like hun... he had you drive an hour by yourself, heavily pregnant to your very IMPORTANT baby Dr appointment to find out the gender of BOTH of yalls child.... and he stayed home & played minecraft.... HE LET HER GO ALONE SO HE COULD LAY ON HIS BACK PLAYING MINECRAFT!!!!! 🙃🙃🙃😤😤😤
17:40 This!! I've shared this before but, when I got married, one of my husband's teenage relatives had just got into making her own clothes and she made her own dress. It was **stunning** and I was so proud of her, and also flattered that she felt that our wedding was important enough to make such an effort for (her outfit had taken weeks and weeks of work). Was I worried about being "outshone"? Absolutely not!! People were there to support us, not our clothing. Also, she had been very respectful and asked if it was ok (she didn't need to but I thought it was sweet), & a big part of joining a family is acting like family. This awesome young lady wanted a career in fashion (something she has since achieved and loves) and our wedding was a safe place for her to try wearing one of her completely original pieces to an event for the first time. It was an honour and I thoroughly enjoyed introducing her to people and telling them about her talent. Getting to play a part in her story is the definition of two families coming together in unity, love, and support. That's far more important than photos for Instagram that nobody will look at after 3 months.
I think you're the first person besides myself that has felt the more beautiful the wedding party and guests look the better you as the bride looks. The more fun everyone is having the more fun you as the bride is having. That's amazing!!!!!
@@stephaniefarley1236 I was thrilled to see everyone at my wedding looking beautiful. I was absolutely outshone and I did not mind one bit. It made me happy. I don't expect I'm normal in this though. (In fact, I know I am not because there were people at my wedding trying to start drama with me about how great people looked and trying to get me to be upset and got mad when I didn't rise to the bait.)
I was in university for jewelry and metals when my sister got married. I had just finished an elaborate neck piece that I loved and was extremely proud of. Of course I asked her if I could wear it to the wedding as I was already a bridesmaid and didn't want to draw too much attention. It was clearly something not store bought, but my sister even found some cute hairclips and earrings that would go with it. I have anxiety, so I double and triple checked that it was okay beforehand. I did get a bit of attention for it, but it was always brief and I never felt like I outshone her as she looked absolutely gorgeous. She didn't think I did either. So happy for your family member and her career! ❤
Thank you, everyone, for the lovely comments! You're all incredibly kind and it's great to hear from like-minded people who love their guests and want their wedding to also be about the people they value, not just about themselves. Sending love and best wishes to you all 💕😊💕
I had a "destination" wedding, I'm brazilian, living in Portugal, and my now husband, is portuguese, so we had our wedding here in Portugal. So for all my family and friends in Brazil it was a destination wedding, and EVERYONE of them treated like a vacation: my brother did a second honey moon, my best friends rentend a car and went from Spain to Portugal exploring all the cities in the way, I had family going to Croacia and renting a boat after... the only thing that I asked from my friends, was for them to be present for my Bacholorette Day and the wedding 2 days after, and thats it. They had the key to our house and could do aaaaall the touristing they would like to. It's just SO SO MUCH selfish of you to not want people to stay over...! It's just crazy to me! They are spending vacation days, flights, hotel stay, car rent, make up, hair... you can't expect what that bride expected from the guests! ...sorry for the rant 😅
If you're having a destination wedding, assume that your guests willing to shell out the money are going to make a vacation out of it. It's not like they're expecting the Bride and Groom to host and entertain them, that would be one thing, but they're allowed to stay and enjoy themselves and do their own thing. It sounds like your wedding was fun and you appreciated that your guests had fun while in the area! Congrats on your wedding and you and groom sounded like fantastic hosts
@bellserra You're welcome! I'm glad everyone enjoyed themselves and had fun! I've kinda always wanted to go to a destination wedding for the reason of an excuse to travel not that i need one lol!
When I got married I told my bridesmaids that I just want fall colors. That was the only thing I requested. I told them any style, any hair any jewelry. I told them I want them to feel beautiful too. I wanted them to feel their best so when we got the pictures back their confidence showed.
I did something similar. I only asked for light blue dress and then they complaint "just that??" so I also add white flower of any style on their head. They came in lovely sky blue dress and white flower crown or pins or headband. I love to see how they still able to show their own personality even with dresscode ❤
I did something similar too bc the cost of bridal clothes was so expensive & several people I know hate to dress up-- so I gave a lost of colors and said wear whatever style/ level of dress you want and it all worked out just fine!
I don't even want a photographer at my wedding (but I have to, alas), so we decided on no dresscode whatsoever (except for white hehe I wanna be the only one)
Literally if I get married all my bridesmaids will be wearing dresses which make them look stunning!! Equally make up will be similar but matched to their individual style (some of my friends prefer natural, others like a more alt vibe). To me a wedding is a celebration of love and that includes my girlfriends ❤️
I would rather lose a friend if I find out she/he was cheating on their SO, like really, if you have an itch to cheat, break it off first rather than hurt the person you're in a relationship with. It's narcissistic behavior honestly
my poor husband hasnt seen mwe in makeup in 20 years. the one time i DID wear it in the last 2 decades, his immediate response was..who are you and where did you put my wife? to which i instantly said, is it bad? he said no way, you look wonderful. do YOU like it? i said, no, i feel like im wearing a mask and he helped me take some off. i suck at makeup but he doesnt care. i wore a new tshirt the other day and we left to run errands, he pulled up at our fav restaurant and said, you look so cute in your new shirt, i want to take you to lunch (it was lunch time) i was floored. i love him so much. 26 years together and he still makes me feel like a blushing teenager some days
Oh my God that's the cutes f*cking thing I've heard in a while. ❤🥺 I hope to find someone like that one day. It's rough out here dating. I also don't like wearing makeup and am less "sexy" than I feel like guys today are looking for. I hope I find someone who find my Tshirts cute too. ❤😂😁
The first thing my husband said to me after exchanging our vows was “You look so beautiful” and had a face like this emoji 😍 He had never seen dress or make-up or accessories before the wedding day, and I still remember the look on his face months later. Glad that girl got out.
My husband was in tears. He was amazed at what I looked like in my dress. Greatest feeling ever when you realize how much you really mean to your person.
People hating on that first girl in the comments are low-key telling on themselves. I'd be the wrong person to tell if you're cheating on your partner because I'd be using whatever means of communication to relay that ish to that person because he/she doesn't deserve to be dogged out like that.
Exactly, I'm surprised of how many people in the comments saying that it's not okay to tell the man that his fiancee is cheating on him just because she needs to be a girls girl, like wth😅.
@lubnasami511 girls girls don't pubically out the girls who bled on their pants because they didn't know. They tell you if your boy is cheating. You don't get to play girls girl if you're forcing your "girls" to hurt someone else.
Do you think Judas was right to snitch on Jesus? People that have a problem with disloyal friends are not telling on themselves they just don't like being stabbed in the back you owe your friend loyalty you don't owe your friends man loyalty
The 4th story- she was on point! I wore a dress that is very fantasy inspired to my cousin's wedding. Jewel tone green, very flowy. I thought it was going to be over the top but I felt fantastic in it. My husband said, "You look amazing. As long as you're not wearing white, you're good."
Go back to videos from 3 or so years ago from before they met, she says what she wants for her wedding in those too! I hope Mike knows she wants to be spoon-fed caviar the morning after while drinking champagne! (Genuinely she said in a video that's what she wants to be doing the morning after her wedding)
I wore a tea length dress while my matron of honor and the female guests wore regular dresses or pantsuits to our wedding. The exception was one of my sister-in-laws who was singing and wore a sapphire blue, strapless evening gown which I GIFTED her. Two weeks prior to the wedding she had a double mastectomy but insisted on still singing (I was thrilled) and attended my last fitting to pick up my dress. The store had that sapphire dress on display, and it was her. I convinced her to try it on. it fit like it was custom made with slight padding, and she looked amazing. I insisted on buying it and asked her to wear it. No one outside of a few family members knew she was recovering from surgery and the compliments on how beautiful she looked was better that any drugs. Unless someone other than the bride shows up in a wedding dress, I don't understand the uproar about what anyone is wearing. Our 30th anniversary is upcoming, and she is still with us...❤
Sounds like an awesome wedding. I love happy endings. Hugs to all concerned! We're coming up on 33 years as a couple, 32 married. My Lady Wife picked out a tea length not-a-wedding-dress from Sears. I bought a navy blue 3 piece pinstripe suit from Blair. What she spent on our entire wedding and reception is less than most people spend on just flowers. Her MOH wore a dress she had in her closet that just happened to match the silk flowers she made for the tables. My best "man" (a longtime female friend we both love) who I never expected to show up in a skirt wore her "power suit". And a pillow mint war broke out at the reception. We have a picture of me traversing "no man's land" with an umbrella to get some more punch. So that was the vibe. We ended up wearing our wedding outfits (with different accessories) to a 1920s Gangster theme party. She was rocking a feathered headband, a cigarette holder and period jewelry, and I was rocking a fedora and a violin case.
That's how she is allowed to behave like that. No consequences for her malicious actions. Everything is settled quietly in private. No police reports. No criminal history. Daddy pays for all the damage she causes, assuming there is *indisputable proof.* He will successfully defend against any allegations, after all, his perfect little girl does not even have an arrest history, much less any criminal convictions.
The woman who wore the traditional African attire had also sent the bride PICTURES of what she was going to wear the bride was in FULL support until others at the wedding started sharing their opinions. But she had the green light from the beginning
Nope Mother in Law was maybe too german. People would be asking..what is that ? Germans are Germans. Don't expect that all of them would understand why she looks like that. In Germany they look modest, well put together but not too colorful like..golden..😂Sorry no...who wears golden (!!) on a Catholic or protestant or whatever Kind of Wedding ? It is way over the top for a Standard German. What the h..?
@@silviahannak3213 Yes but the dresscode stated “Dress to impress” not “Dress modestly”, so it’s very unfair how they treated her as she did respect the dresscode.
Oh goodness ME!!!! My daughter and I almost lost it when you said "as someone who is single". HUGE GASP and we grabbed each other's hands and started looking at your hands for the ring!
Its the “I want to live a little before i settle down” for me. Like babe, why say yes😭 It immediately reminded me of a fitness influencer who got cheated on by her fiancé and the way she found out was through her fans tagging her on a podcast where the hosts talked about a certain relationship with a man on a destination bachelor party😭😭😭😭
And it’s always so stupid - you are settled down already! They’re literally in serious, monogamous relationships with promises to wed but they act as if they’re still single until the wedding
My niece got married yesterday. It was a beautiful wedding and she wasn't a bridezilla at all. I looked at her bridal party and they were all shapes and sizes, one had a full sleeve, some had nose rings and tatts, one had half dyed fuscia hair and they all looked beautiful! Beautiful and unique! I just got to the groom trying to change the bride's style. My niece is a 5'11" blonde, model pretty, and her now husband is an inches shorter than her. His only requests...don't wear high heels and don't have super high hair. He didn't want to look shorter. 😂
For the destination wedding, I think it is fair to say, "Stay! Enjoy! But please don't expect anything of us afterward." I could see some people expecting the couple to entertain them afterward.
My fiance's sister had a destination wedding at a spa resort. I'd never been to a destination wedding and when we were told it was going to be four days, I was a little antsy. We had the time available and his sister paid for our travel and room at the resort. Day one was the prewedding stuff, day 2 was the wedding proper, and the next two days was for all of us to enjoy the spa. Turned out the enjoy the spa days were a gift to those of us in the family/friends who don't really take vacations that aren't 'catch up on sleep/errands' to have a genuine treat yourself and relax time because we deserved it. It was really nice, and I still kinda miss the fireplace we had in our room.
I've been a makeup artist for 23 years. I could write a series based on all of the situations I've witnessed. I'll never understand how people can be so insecure, that they're more focused on a guest "outshining" them, rather than enjoying their wedding day.
The people getting mad at the first chick are probably cheaters or, at the very least, enablers. Those people don't make good friends. Staying out of it or minding your business is for situations where no one is being hurt. And yes, someone is being hurt when their SO is cheating.
We had a destination wedding in Sardinia Italy. Having friends and family arrive at the resort was the best feeling and seeing everyone enjoy the island and hanging out at the pool and beach with family and friends before and after the wedding was amazing! For me it took the pressure off of only having one day to quickly see everyone. It made the actual day more beautiful and relaxed and everyone dressed to impress in beautiful colours, we loved it! They all looked gorgeous. Yes we stayed in bed all morning the day after too, then spent the afternoon by the pool with all the other guests relaxing, wouldn’t change any of that, the memories are priceless and we appreciate every single person that came and enjoyed THEIR holiday and our wedding.
My fiancé would NEVER call to say he needed to come “direct” how my makeup should be done. He tells me I’m beautiful as soon as I wake up in the morning. I feel very lucky and blessed to have him ❤️
My cousin got married in Scotland this summer. My aunt was so excited we were coming and exploring europe, misty of us for the first time, she helped pay for airfare. My cousin told us places to visit and was excited to hear about it all. The trip was amazing and the wedding was one of the most magical I've seen.
My step-grandma only got halfway down the aisle at her wedding before my step grandpa said "eww, no. I'm not marrying THAT. You look like an ugly poodle. Go fix your hair and makeup and come back." She ran back down the aisle crying and they re-did her hair and makeup and she came back and married him. It was the start of a horrible, toxic long-lasting marriage. My step-grandpa is really racist and antisemitic and DID NOT like that the had gotten her hair curled. He's made some hateful comments about that which I won't repeat. He's generally an awful person. He's told me this wedding story countless times and laughs about it like he's proud of sending her back and always throws in a joke about how he wishes he never asked her to come back to the altar. He's always making cruel jabs at her. My step-grandma told me she really liked how her hair and makeup were done the first time but she felt like no one else would want her because she was already almost 40 when they met, and he was a few years younger than her. So she didn't have time to meet someone else to have kids with. It made me so sad. Never settle for a man who treats you like dirt, ladies.
I'm confused how they are both your STEP-grandparents? Step-grandma implies your blood-related grandfather is marrying a new woman after your blood-related grandma, and vice versa. The only way this is possible is your grandpa (on one side of the family) married a new woman, and your grandma (on the other side of the family) married a new man..... So that's kinda confusing.
@@danielleking262from what I gather it sounds like it's her step parents parent - hence the step grandmother title. She must have been single and then got married which would make the man she married the OP's step grandfather because of the wedding. Typically people say it's their step grandmother/father's spouse, but it's technically correct the way they said it too.
18:19 I’m a southern white woman… I want my guests to WOW me and each other… NO JEANS! NO POLOS! I wanna see yall at your best- you’ll feel amazing and have a blast!!!
My husband and I are planning to do a destination vowel renewal with our closest friends and family and we fully support them making a vacation out of it with us. We want them to hangout and have a great time and celebrate our 20 years with us. It will be one big party the whole time. That’s the plan anyways.
@@DeathByBlonde1 I had a friend who had a destination in Maui decades ago. Since my wife had eloped 3 years prior we decided we will make that our honeymoon. We had a great time, their wedding ceremony was on the beach and just perfect all around
@@wearelegion1163meow. You just explained exactly what the deal is but with an unnecessary condescending undertone. Yes makeup artists use more for recording, tv etc. they don’t go down the shops like that 🤦🏼♀️😂
I embraced all my friends and family that came to celebrate my wedding! I even took photos. I was so grateful for their support. I actually think that some people confuse this celebration with the rest of their lives. People supporting you at the beginning of this lifelong journey is why we celebrate. I can look back and smile at my husband 34 years later and enjoy the loving and support from everyone all these years.
Exactly! It’s one day to come together and celebrate the beginning of a beautiful journey, that’s it. Those hyper fixated on their wedding day being “perfect”, are missing the mark entirely. The most lavish, expensive weddings we’ve attended were a mix between elegant and tacky. Most of those couples ended up divorced within 2 years! 🤦♀️
The better the wedding party and guests look the better the bride and groom look. The more fun the wedding party and guests are having the more fun the bride and groom have. Absolutely supports the bride and groom not detracts.
Telling the truth is NEVER snitching, especially if you are asked point blank what you know. If someone expects you to lie for them, they aren't your friend.
How sad that the first woman felt "lucky" that some jerk picked her because she was an "older" bride. Ladies, no matter your age, you are worthy of respect, kindness & love!
@@sinceslicedbread7422 THIS. I bet he was the one constantly putting her down to make her feel unworthy. It's a common tactic with abusers. They're such garbage that they have to make their partner feel like they're less than them so they always have the upper hand.
I lost my husband suddenly five weeks and five days ago. I treated him like a King and he treated me like a Queen. We never criticized each other. We are soulmates twin flames. I could never imagine treating him poorly ever.
And the second they destroy your things and refuse to pay, the cops should be called. You can't be gentle with someone like that. They see any kindness or diplomacy as weakness and will Godzilla stomp all over you.
The whole "you're outshining me" attitude is puzzling. If I were to get married I would be thrilled if my guests took the time and effort to get all dolled up for the occasion and wanted to look their best.
The only rule I had for our guests was no jeans since my husband and his couple of groomsmen were wearing dark wash jeans and I wanted them to stand out, but also because I wanted people to be comfy but actually try a little at the same time lol. A couple people still showed up in jeans, but we didn't really notice or care. We had a great time with everyone around us and that was the most important thing for us, not the aesthetics.
I am German and German weddings are typically very basic. Guests normally don't even buy an extra fancy dress for a wedding and they just take something out of their wardrobe. I totally see someone outshine German bride. Btw, my wedding dress only cost me $100. Same for my cousin. Maybe my friend topped it with $1000. I always would ask what to wear and how formal it should be.
Ooooh the TEA!! Our Queen is getting married in Europe!!! Charlotte I pray everything goes well, your wishes and dreams(Mike too😉)comes true. Love You Charlotte ❤❤❤❤
16:15 I had watched the story before about a guest in Germany allegedly outshining the bride. The moment that THIS section started, I was so excited as I knew that I was looking at a Yoruba woman. I have been to Nigerian weddings and everyone is allowed to look as good as they want to look! The last wedding that I attended was on Sep 2/24. I saw outfits that were silver, gold, emerald, purple, etc. and everything was beautiful and sparkling! To add to the look, families often wear outfits that are made of the same beautiful material, even if the styles are different. It is lovely to see the to see what entire families wear to weddings!
I got married on Halloween last year, guests were told to wear whatever they were comfortable wearing. Dress up, dress down, fancy dress whatever as long as they weren't naked we didn't care. It was so relaxed and a couple people did wear costumes. Everyone was happy and noone was desperate to go home to change.
Congratulations on your almost first anniversary! I wish you many more years of happiness. That's similar to what we did, except, we got married in July, and it was twenty-two years ago. 😆 We wanted everyone to be comfortable. The only guest whose attire concerned me was my evil MIL. Fortunately, she pulled most of her stunts before the wedding, and was fairly well-behaved the day of, minus a few overly loud comments about some of our choices.🙄 I'm the kind of inoffensive "cute" that's utterly forgettable. But, on our wedding day, I was so excited to be marrying the great love of my life that I felt gorgeous! No one could have upstaged me, and we even had a couple of guests who were models.
@@katie6731 thank you so very much. I don't like dressing up for events so i wouldn't expect my guests to feel uncomfortable for my day, i felt like a princess and thats what mattered. I'm sure your day was just as wonderful as ours and I wish you many more years of wedded bliss. Im glad your MIL behaved herself
I love this idea! If I ever get married I want people to feel like their best self whichever is comfortable for them! Same goes my bridesmaids. I want this comfortable and feeling their most beautiful 😍 sounds like you had the best wedding! Xxx
@@savannahjones-verity3308 thank you, it was a great day. My bridesmaids chose their own dresses, i just wanted a certain colour. Had pockets put in the dresses for them and their shoes, hair makeup was whatever they wanted. I wanted my girls to be happy xx
I swear... I've never been so excited for 2 people to get married, 2 people mind you that I've never actually met in my life... I just love you guys, Charlotte you bring me so much happiness & so much pettiness and hearing you talk about you & Mike's wedding really does bring me joy in my cold, dead heart!!
@@karinalagstrom Right! I promise, I'm not into weddings (well, I was into mine & I'm sure when my kids get married in a few years, I'll definitely be into theirs, but ya know what I mean!) But Charlotte, she's our girl right!! I get excited when she talks about her & Mike's engagement & wedding plans... I'm excited for Vanessa too, even though we don't get to hear about her wedding plans like that!! Glad to know I'm not alone!!
@krystalynkersey Right... I don't even know these ppl.. really, ya know... but I think I'm slightly (maybe a little more than slightly....) weird, crazy, odd... whatever. It's fine! I'm fine! EVERYTHING'S FINE!!!
When I got married we went to Men's Wearhouse for a tux and I was so put off by the consultant only asking me (the bride) what I wanted and I told her "ask him. He's the one wearing the tux, not me." When she was condescending and asked "if i was sure that was ok to let him choose" we asked for a different consultant. He also went with me when I tried on dresses, and that made some people crazy. I swear weddings can also make other people go off the rails.
If you feel like you have to “live a little” before getting married, you shouldn’t be in a relationship. ETA: I WOULD ABSOLUTELY SNITCH!!!! Idc if you’re my mom!!!
Why is the word "snitched" used when 1 person is simply treating another person with respect? Following the Golden Rule isn't snitching. Bad ppl deserve to be called out for their BS✌️
A “friend” doesn’t put you in a situation where you would feel the need to “snitch” on them. If they lie to others, they’ll lie to you. Period. Not someone I want to be around. Ever.
This exactly! I’m so tired of the “explore before marriage” nonsense when someone is in a closed relationship. You do your exploring before being exclusive with someone, and if being exclusive isn’t for you, then you break up with the person or you both consensually rework the dynamics of the relationship. Marriage is just an extension of an already exclusive relationship dynamic, not a signal to get the exploring out of the way. That checkpoint is long past.
If someone is willing to hurt the person they “wanted to be with for the rest of their life” consider what your friendship actually means to them. Because friendship isn’t as binding as “I do”.
Exactly. I don't want a friend like that. The blatant disrespect to someone who wholeheartedly loves her and she treats him like garbage. If she can so easily backstab him, I'd hate to see what she's capable of doing to me.😮
I’m from Australia and my best friend married a man originally from Italy, his family and a lot of his friends lived in Italy, so they decided on a destination wedding in Italy. The Australian contingent was financially secure and well travelled so it wasn’t a big deal to travel to Italy. We all made a holiday of it, we had many pre and post wedding get togethers, especially to get to know the grooms family and friends. It was fabulous. I have zero understanding of a bride not wanting people to stay for extra time in the resort… crazy!!!
I'm getting married this Friday (writing this on Wednesday). Your bridezilla and crazy wedding videos have really helped me cope with the wedding stress over the last few months! Since mine is much more calm and they make me feel better 😂
18:08 my MoH wore a stunning red dress and heels, she looked so beautiful. I'm very "homely," and she's all woman. She absolutely outshone me, and I loved how incredible she looked. No jealousy at all, I am proud to have such a beautiful bestie 😊❤
At 73, I've been to countless weddings, including destinations. We always dressed to the nines. As a member of the bridal party, guest, or plus one, I have never met a Bridezilla. That's not to say there hasn't been a LOT of tea - such as the bride sleeping with the best man the night before the wedding (and they still got married!) - and various dramas as only humans can make, but all of the weddings I went to were celebrations. Maybe it's because my family and friends know how to put the fun in dysfunctional...😂😂😂 I love you, Charlotte. You always make my day!❤❤❤
@hannahdaniels5640 I, too, loved to hear the stories of older women. I had the privilege to speak to several women in their late 90's and early 100's. You want to talk tea?! Trust me when I tell you the only difference between the generations is technology. LOL!
10:08 accepting his payment for it instead of pressing charges prevents her from learning any lessons. I understand not wanting to deal with any of that, but certainly don't think for a second that a talk from daddy is going to help the girl grow up without any consequences.
Pressing charges isn’t something people want to do all the time, sometimes people just want money. Going through the criminal justice system is so whack why would you even try? There’s a big huge chance she won’t suffer any consequences to begin with since her father is a lawyer. If you didn’t know, pressing charges means going to court- missing work- it costs money.. so you’re losing money and they’re only going to pay what was lost if you win. Why not just ask for MORE to keep quiet?
@Julietavolcano and the problem is, you could already tell by his statement of "well, you don't have any proof" that he would have fought it tooth and nail. Most likely being in his position, shady stuff would have kept her from winning a case against them anyways. Or at least kept it from being worth her time to pursue.
2:35 “am I a snitch?” Bestie you should have snitched MORE before he even had to ask 😭 the fact that you would have never told him if he didn’t ask - that is not kind. You knew him and you said he was lovely and didn’t deserve this. Then you are obligated to help someone you vaguely care about who is being betrayed and hurt
I agree but also it could've backfired...in this couple's case the guy was already suspecting. But if you randomly go up to someone's bf and tell them their gf is cheating they might not even believe you or they'd be gaslit into not believing you😭
@@jupiter771Fair, it could backfire - but it’s up to that person to choose to do with that info what they will, that isn’t on you. Everyone being cheated on should have a chance to be told what’s happening.
@@jupiter771why people should not tell who is cheater. If guy was never caught her. His life would be so bad. We should help each other out. Only cheaters are going to be afraid of helping other people.
@@Priyansh-s1p HELP I'm just speaking from experience. Don't take this the wrong way. I did tell one of my friend's bf abt her cheating on him. But they're still together and I don't talk to either one of them🙏
This woman was a coworker who later became a friend. Keep that forefront. If she had ran to the dude and tattled on her and the result was the engagement got called off it could have all dragged all kinda crazy bridezilla drama up into their work environment which could have ended up costing her, her friend or both of them their jobs. However this lady felt about what her buddy was doing to her man, she was older and she was wise enough not to get up in between it. Nonetheless, because she is a decent human being, when the man directly confronted her and asked her point blank, she neither confirmed or denied it but asked him to think about it. He could never truthfully tell her coworker buddy that she was the one who outed her. It is usually not a wise move to get up in between a couple when they are having problems, ESPECIALLY if your job is remotely connected in there some kinda way.. It is always best to try to avoid getting dragged into the middle and refuse to chose sides. Emotions run high sometimes, but if you get dragged in and they make up you will end up losing both or that relationship never being what it was before.
Korean girl dating a Nigerian man here. i CANNOT WAIT for us to be invited to a Nigerian wedding so that i can pull out my FINEST hanbok for the occasion. That, i feel is the best thing i can do to celebrate and respect the couple for the happy celebration that a wedding is!
"You're staying to enjoy the destination for my wedding? Well You're no longer invited" "Cool, I'll tell my wife we have time for that scuba class after all"
My brother got married in Hawaii, we stayed at another resort on another island for 3 days before going home! It was wonderful. Everyone was so happy for us. We never got to go anywhere, so we made a big deal of it for ourselves. Their wedding was 2 events and the rest was ours! 🎉
@@StrangeFacinationsI had to cut a good friend out of my life because of this issue. Hindsight is 20/20, and looking back, I later realized that she was NOT a good person before that .
@Starcatt966 I actually sat through the English Patient alone, so my former friend could cat around. Lol. At least it was a good movie, but I realized, there's no place like home.
As an african myself if u don't dress to impress in a wedding it automatically means you are not so close to bride and groom or really distant relative or coworker
German, I also am used to the closer to the couple the more you dress up, but like appropriately, not overshadowing the couple,( probably a bit more subdue though then common for more colorful southern cultures) ..... Makes it really easy to spot people "relevant". But yeah , its always good to gage what others will wear, hie extra the bride looks etc. Expectations can wary wildly.... Find the whole upstaging thing weird too though, even if I am not one of tge women who tend to dibdrsmatic looks, wear make uo or anything. If a wedding is not an opportunity to go all out, what would be?! The nonine is allowed to look good or has as much fun as me thing is soo weird in western culture
As a Nigerian, that bride would definitely pass out if she comes to a Nigerian wedding 😂😂😂😂.... Because everybody is dressing to look better than the next person 😅... But you'll DEFINITELY know who the bride is, her AURA ALONE!!!, 10/10❤❤
I honestly think in the Anglosphere and Eurosphere there's a bit of a prevailing modesty culture regarding weddings that we do not even think about, it's just so ingrained. So 'dress to impress' tends to mean dress formally and tastefully but somewhat understated. Kind of like dressing to impress for a business meeting or the like. So I think the bride and groom should have self reflected about cultural differences and miscomunications instead of being mad at their guest, but I also think it was the guest committing a completely accidental cultural offense because she just did not know how different the cultural practices are. It's the sort of thing we do without being aware of it enough to elucidate it's significance to outsiders. I feel so bad for the guest, I hope everyone came to understand eachother and the miscomunication that occurred later.
@@ANPC-pi9vu EU here, where I’m from its sort of an unspoken rule that you obviously dress well and all that but without overdoing it bcs of the Bride bla bla bla, nowdays nobody cares though, mostly when I was a kid I’ve heard it many times
I had to pause and replay that part, it seems she actually said "someone *who's* single" the s being slightly dragged out, could be "was" rather than "is" 🤷🏻♂️
As for dressing up at weddings, at my wedding I was keen on having everyone look their best, and I had zero qualms with any of the outfits (a middle aged woman even showed up in white, but hey, I was still the shining bride so I didn't really care 😂) Why would you want to be surrounded by frumpy looking attendees? I feel like that would kill the vibe. Have everyone be glamorous! That way, when you look back on pictures, you can marvel at all of your beautiful friends and family members. Jealousy, envy, and insecurity has no place at a wedding. It is a day of celebrating love, not a day of 'I'm the best, most important person'. That's not what weddings should be about.
All my bridesmaids were in the same dress, long length but they chose different jewel tone colors. I made white matching shrugs for all of us, using their dress color as a liner. It was so gorgeous. Everywhere I looked I saw movie star friends and family. Faux fur, jewels, and flower hair-clips everywhere that I made. People wanted to try on our shrugs so we let them and took tons of pictures. It was an awesome wedding! 15 years later I still here people say that was the most fun. It rained and we danced in the rain. 100% amazing and I loved every second of it. Our cake was laughable, dj played the cd’s I made for him and gave him the order. Pretty much he pressed play. He brought a girl with him who was wearing a black bra and jeans. So not appropriate. Friends saw this and brought out a fun fur coat for her to wear so her naked body would not be in all the photos.
"I want to live a little before getting married" these people be treating marriage like it's jail with no parole, like if you dread it so much you know you can just stay single and let your partner find someone that wants to spend their life with them, right?
@@DrawciaGleam02I actually understand this mindset when it came from noble women who got to enjoy their rich lives with their family and knew their happiness had a time limit because they'd be send to marry some dude their dad picked when they were old enough, and then they'd have to leave behind their siblings and their home before they felt ready, to end up surrounding by HIS family which probably expected a lot from her, and suddenly she had the responsibilities of a wife instead of the freedom of a daughter and had everyone waiting for her to pop as many kids as she could as quickly as she could. But nowadays? Girl, if you don't want to get married, don't. You get to pick your path, you get to pick your husband. Stop creating problems where there are none.
Last story ~ I don't understand why the travel agent called the bride to "get permission" for the guests to stay after the wedding. I could understand if the bride and groom were paying for everything but that doesn't seem to be the case.
This is strange, indeed. But maybe the bride did some pre-booking for the guests or smth? I have never been to destination wedding, so I don’t know but maybe there is some pre-booking that we need rooms for 50 people during these dates, and they will book the rooms?
@@Trammiliin_nr2 If new bride and groom were staying on at the resort. It's a destination wedding. They were probably having their honeymoon there. They would not want to have to constantly get drawn into socializing with relatives, no matter how loving the relatives were. That's why the Resort person called her. Relatives wanting to stay on can perhaps book elsewhere, or bride and groom could have thought of this consequence to a "destination wedding" (where folks may have to outlay large sums and want to rest before travelling home), and booked themselves in elsewhere for their honeymoon, far away, so as to not have to socialize. It's an issue with destination weddings, I'd assume, or the Resort person wouldn't have run it by her.
The only thing that comes to my mind as to why personnel would call the couple is that perhaps they did the wedding at one of those places you need a referral to stay without having to purchase a membership... 🧐
@@Trammiliin_nr2 Yes, I said that in another reply elsewhere here. Also, resorts having to turn away multiple bookings (theoretically speaking) isn't good business either. It is something bride and groom-to-be need to think about beforehand for these "destination" weddings. Or perhaps resorts need to have more careful guidelines...
Oh my god Charlotte you talking about your actual wedding is so special! I followed you since the IO days and to see you go from single to so happy and planning your wedding is so cute 🥰 so happy for you x
With the first girl I tend to distance myself from people like who she was talking about. I don’t have the energy to deal with people like this but I have told my friends don’t ask me to lie for them (unless it’s a job interview). I am notorious for saying, “If you are asking that question you likely know the answer.”
Destination wedding. I went to a wedding a few years ago and it was about an hour away from where most guests lived, so many of us stayed the night. The following morning the bride and grooms parents went around at breakfast and told everyone to leave the newlyweds alone and don’t go to their room. It was really that simple, just respecting the space of the newlyweds and their honeymoon. We didn’t see them till we left and they gave us a friendly nod and wave. They are a lovely couple and it was the best wedding I’ve ever been to, a lot of nerdy fun.
I was toying with the idea of a destination wedding in the Caribbean, and I would pay for everything for everyone. My mom started insisting that not only was she going to stay, but planning on joining US for all these excursions after the celebration. I scrapped the destination idea so quickly...
Not destination wedding but I did have some out of town guests who drove a few hours to my wedding. They stayed the night in the area and my mother had the great idea to invite them to brunch with us newlyweds the next morning at her house and we would open wedding gifts there. I loved it! It gave us more time to spend with family we don't get to see often but that are important and thought us important enough to make the trip for our wedding. Plus it was like extending the celebration and celebrating us a little while longer.
I have been binge watching all of your bride stories and I must say I am so f***ing glad that I had a Blue jean wedding where everyone was in jeans and my husbands great-uncle (who wore his best overalls) married us as his last wedding to officiate.. It was such a calm and wonderful day.. It's been 20 years married now and I still look back at the day and know that is was the best day ever for us at least.
16:12 I don’t wear make up often so when my husband saw me after the trial with my hair and makeup done he took me out to dinner he said “you look too beautiful to not show off” 😩
Just wanted to point out although the bystander effect is a real phenomenon and has been researched a lot since, there are a lot of urban myths surrounding Kitty's murder! If I recall, no one actually saw the stabbing take place, and there was at lease one person who tried to intervene when the argument between Kitty and the partner started. I think some did also call the police. So the phenomenon is real, but many rumours around that one case have been debunked :)
I have to respond to the one about "dressing to impress." I have lived in mainland China for the past 16+ years. I have been invited to and/ or part of many weddings. Some have been good friends but others are coworkers/ acquaintances who want "a foreigner" at their wedding. We "foreigners" usually sit at our own table. In the northern provinces (that I've been to for weddings), the weddings are usually held at noon. The Chinese wedding has a day long schedule for the bridal party but bridesmaids gowns are not always a thing. Guests usually come during an extended lunch from work so there is business suits, business casual, down to jeans and sneakers. We "foreigners" usually are the best dressed guests and the photographers always mandate that they get photos of us alone, as a group, individually with the bridal couple, and as a group with the bridal couple. We always end up feeling subconscious about it. I've spoken to Chinese friends about their dress at weddings and they don't even think about it. They are impressed by our choices but I've never heard anyone mad at us for (trying to) upstage the bride. I've never seen a dress code on a wedding invitation, even one at a Hilton hotel or someone else high end.
Every time I hear about those brides afraid their friends would steal their thunder, I want to remind them of the dress Pippa Middleton wore to her sister, now Princess Catherine (aka Kate Middleton). She was stunning and the talk of the town for days on end!! Her sister put her out there to the world (literally), in white on top of it all, not afraid for a second that she would upstage her. And boy, the stakes were high. So ladies, just chill and enjoy the day, your friends and family, and celebrate the fact that you are loved and love 🥰🥰🥰
*All* the attendants wore white - as was customary for those occasions. Diana's did too. And Queen Elizabeth's. Being the center of attention on one's wedding day doesn't guarantee living happily ever after. A couple months after the wedding, patterns for Pippa's dress entered the home-sewing pattern books.
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Nigerian here, I had my wedding this past January and when I told my people especially my american friends to wear white, they were scared cause I know the rule here is not to wear white to upstate the bride. I told them my culture is that everyone wear white while we the couple wear a different color. I said it's ok, even I didn't wear a white wedding dress. It's the culture, and everyone looked so beautiful 😍. Every where is a different culture, it's just a matter of respecting it.
Congratulations and thanks for sharing about your culture 😊
You can never outshine a Nigerian bride. The dresses are always so unbelievably stunning!
@@anniestumpy9918 thank you 😊
@@hope3290 so true
Thank you. We really dont care about people wearing white
She was asked a direct question. She didn't spill the beans, but she didn't lie. Kudos to her!
Although there's nothing wrong with telling the partner it should be okay if they are in an open relationship and if not maybe they should have included their partner when they decided to be unfaithful
The fact that the dude asked her the question. lol She's right. He already knew.
Everyone who knows me no I do not lie but you have to ask the proper questions to get the truth so no no a snitch😂
Exactly!! She didn't call him up out of the blue or anything, he asked her a direct question. Those comments need to take a chill pill.
Disagree. She should have sang like a canary. The bare minimum doesn't get kudos.
The first person handled it perfectly...if you have to ask, you know the answer.
Although I thought it was kinda unnecessary to being up his looks.
@SaintShion I think it does give insight to the behavior though. Because he's probably aware of that his ex was "above of his league" and may have overcompensated by treating her like a princess. And she also probably knew this which could be a reason out of many as to why she justified the cheating. She enjoyed the benefits of being with her ex but could have wanted other men who may be more "her level" in terms of looks. I know it's a lot of assumptions, but it's a dynamic that does happen and looks play a part whether we want to admit it or not.
Definitely
Handling it perfectly would be him not even having to ask her. Handling it perfectly would be telling the concerned party and not letting them get treated like dirt.
@@kaylagroten2348so she should get into trouble for someone else’s sake. She didn’t lie but also didn’t seek the person. I could see myself doing it if I had concrete proof and I’ll do it anonymously but if commenters already called her jealous when she didn’t even say much. Can you imagine what she would be seen as if she took the proactive route?
I snitched on my best friends husband coming on to me and lost my friend. She didnt believe me.🤷♀️
I love how Charlotte just wants everyone to be happy. Beautiful inside and out ❤
Are they still together 🤨
That's on her then, you warned her. Hopefully she doesn't come running back when she finds out for herself.
1st story: I am with Charlotte on this. I want friends with morals, not friends who treat their partners like garbage.
The one with the woman talking about women "being accused of outshining the bride": at my wedding I told everyone to wear their absolute best. I didn't care if it was a white outfit, just look stunning. And you know what? I still stood out as the bride because of my bright red hair lol
I only consider "outshining the bride" as a thing if the bride is being rude or cruel.
Then my mindset is this [person or pet] is more mature than the bride!!
If you can treat the person you claim to love and want to spend the rest of your life with like shit, what will you do to me? Yeah. I am not on that girl.code BS
@@sandyleon4150 that's a really really good point.
1st story’s comments were scary! If I was a partner to anyone in those comments I’d be about to go interview their friends bc yikes!!!!
I looked as casual as all the guests at my wedding opting for a simple knee length dress but still stood out because I was the one getting married 😂 still the center of attention all day.
"If I dont lie for myself, I'm not going to lie for you." -that first girl did nothing wrong.
THIS❤
I agree with that to an extent. There are ways to answer these questions tactfully where you don't lie but don't answer. Like "I'm not getting involved".
@@XCaptianXChaosX he came to her 🤷♀️ I would see it as overstepping if she went behind the girls back and went to him. He asked her question, she gave him an answer. She didn't outright say what was going on but she didn't lie either.
She didn't ruin that wedding, it ruined itself
@@XCaptianXChaosX that was tactful.
4:13 the people commenting that this girl shouldn't have said anything are the same people who would cry and beg for the truth if their partner was cheating on them
I thought they're the type to get mad at the person that told them their partner was cheating, instead of the cheating partner smh
Agreed. These are the same people who would see your SO cheating and never tell you. Not a real friend.
And are the same people that are going to hate you regardless. If you don’t tell and they find out you knew and said nothing, you’re dead to them. If you find out and tell them because they need to know, you’re dead to them.
Exactly and are also cheaters
Exactly and she didn't snitch. She confirmed a suspicion when she was asked. Now me personally, I won't go pht of my way to rat someone out. Thats not my place. Not my monkey not my circus, BUT if someone ask me about something I know about, I WILL NOT lie for you. That's how I get tangled up in whatever fuckery you got going on and I don't have time for BS like that. And idc how anyone feels about that. I'm not one for drama. So I will not allow myself to be dragged into anything. And the best way to be sure you don't get dragged in.
My sister just got married on Sunday. Her fiancé (a guy I had known since the 2nd grade) looked at her like she was the most beautiful woman in any room. But he always looked at her like that. He didn't even want to do the cake smash (which they both were excited about) bc he didn't want to ruin her makeup. He truly loves my sister, and I am so grateful for my new brother.
This is so beautiful!! Congratulations to them and I hope they’re having a wonderful married life 🥰
I went to a Kurdish wedding with a friend once, and I'm so glad I had her there to help me navigate the cultural expectations. It was definitely a "dress to impress" occasion. EVERYONE was glitzy, glam, red carpet type dressed to the nines. The bride looked like a literal PRINCESS. All those (hundreds of) wonderfully done up people, and not a single one outshined her. It was amazing. And I'm glad my friend talked me into more makeup, because my "barely anything natural" default look would NOT have cut it.
I am fascinated with other cultures and their wedding traditions. Compared to some cultures, western weddings are downright boring
That sounds like so much fun!
@@mazmain9248I am an Eastern Orthodox Christian. Our weddings are phenomenal. The bride and groom even wear crowns.
That's lovely, I was lucky enough to visit India for a friend's wedding and she and her family and friends were so gracious in letting me get to know the cultural significance of certain events and they let me borrow saris to fit in and join in on certain parts of the events as appropriate, and I had so much fun. It was an honour to be invited into their culture so generously 🥰
@@miriamwhite9688 one of my dreams is to go to a traditional Indian weddings, as they look so beautiful :)
People don't realise how dangerous its to be cheated on, you get exposed to the possibility of getting lifelong diseases and you didn't concent to that. If you know someone its getting cheated on you should tell them right away.
Also as someone who watches true crime…it can open up you up to a lot of danger as well, to you and your families lives 😢
THIS!!!! Thank you.
@@jesclifford88 yes!!!! 😮
The people in the comments who are defending the cheater are definitely cheaters.
@@DawnKellyMediayup. The ones claiming it’s girl code to not tell a guy a woman cheats are the ones who are cheating
I'm so glad that makeup artist had VIDEO EVIDENCE of bridezilla being a MONSTER
I love her TT page. She gets some real winners!
It sounds like the apple doesn’t fall from the tree
I'm so glad that bride with the incredibly critical groom called off the wedding. That whole 'I'm old, so I'm lucky cause he could have anyone' is so misogynistic, i reckon it was his words. Hope she's living her best life now ❤
Exactly what I thought, I'm willing to bet he's self proclaimed alpha lmao
Another rule that seems to cause some issues is wanting a dry wedding. My fiancé and I don't drink and we have some family members that struggle with alcoholism and aren't "fun drunks" to put it nicely. When we told everyone we were having a dry wedding, some family were so outraged or laughed in our faces and said that people are going to miss most of the wedding because they're going to be drinking in the parking lot 😶 So now we are planning an elopement.
It's very sad when people can't enjoy a wedding unless there's alcohol. Says more about them than the marrying couple
How painful to realize that the people you love care more about getting wasted than supporting you on your biggest day for a few hours. 😢 You deserve better. I hope your wedding day is amazing ❤🎉💖🥂✨
Take the money and put it as a down payment on a house. Or go someplace where you want like a beach in Hawaii, take your parents or siblings, best friend or nobody and have a blast. Get married in a jungle, at a private island where you can spend a few days, take a tour through the USA or Europe by train or boat, get married on a cruise. There are lots of ways to elope, it does not ave to be at the Justice of the Peace or the Elvis Church in Vegas unless thats what YOU WANT. The most important thing is to marry someone who loves, honors, and respect you. Good luck.
Darling, we had a morning wedding with a luncheon reception in the fellowship hall of my Presbyterian church in Rancho Palos Verdes. Gorgeous view! All Presbyterian venues are dry so we settled for Martinelli’s and had no issues. BTW as a member, the venue was FREE.
My wedding reception was dry because I knew a handsome 16 year old boy that got wasted at a reception and was not only killed, but mutilated in a horrible crash on the way home. It had a profound effect on me ever since. Most all our invitees came to our wedding and reception where they enjoyed music and plenty of food at a gorgeous venue in the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains. After the reception was over, parents and siblings gathered at my parents home where we were toasted with 1 glass of fine champagne. It was everything I had dreamed my wedding would be and our guests enjoyed their evening. If someone refuses to come or laughs at you because you won't get them drunk, they're probably not worth keeping as friends.
The second make up bride story was so sad. when she said, "I'm so lucky he chose me. I'm Older and he could have chosen anyone," I got ill. That's a line straight out of the abused spouse playbook. It is straight up, "You should be lucky I even want you."
Follow that up with the rest and it's obvious this dude is a walking red flag. I'm so glad she called it off.
me too-that’s the first thing i thought as well
Definitely coercive-control
Ugh I felt the ick so fast when she said that like what has he said to you, sweetie
I barely heard the story because I was so hung up on the process for applying the make up. Watching these women cake it on is down right nauseating and has to be considered catfishing.
One of my friends has a man like this... just got married to him too even tho she still struggles having s3x with him (& has been struggling for months now) because he told her he was glad "she's only a 6 out of 10 bc women prettier than that are usually full of themselves & selfish" 🙃😤 along with MANY MANY other red flags... I tried talking to her & she was literally an inch from kicking him out & then suddenly everything is fine & dandy again 🙄 like hun... he had you drive an hour by yourself, heavily pregnant to your very IMPORTANT baby Dr appointment to find out the gender of BOTH of yalls child.... and he stayed home & played minecraft.... HE LET HER GO ALONE SO HE COULD LAY ON HIS BACK PLAYING MINECRAFT!!!!! 🙃🙃🙃😤😤😤
17:40 This!! I've shared this before but, when I got married, one of my husband's teenage relatives had just got into making her own clothes and she made her own dress. It was **stunning** and I was so proud of her, and also flattered that she felt that our wedding was important enough to make such an effort for (her outfit had taken weeks and weeks of work).
Was I worried about being "outshone"? Absolutely not!! People were there to support us, not our clothing. Also, she had been very respectful and asked if it was ok (she didn't need to but I thought it was sweet), & a big part of joining a family is acting like family. This awesome young lady wanted a career in fashion (something she has since achieved and loves) and our wedding was a safe place for her to try wearing one of her completely original pieces to an event for the first time. It was an honour and I thoroughly enjoyed introducing her to people and telling them about her talent.
Getting to play a part in her story is the definition of two families coming together in unity, love, and support. That's far more important than photos for Instagram that nobody will look at after 3 months.
I think you're the first person besides myself that has felt the more beautiful the wedding party and guests look the better you as the bride looks. The more fun everyone is having the more fun you as the bride is having. That's amazing!!!!!
@@stephaniefarley1236 I was thrilled to see everyone at my wedding looking beautiful. I was absolutely outshone and I did not mind one bit. It made me happy. I don't expect I'm normal in this though. (In fact, I know I am not because there were people at my wedding trying to start drama with me about how great people looked and trying to get me to be upset and got mad when I didn't rise to the bait.)
I was in university for jewelry and metals when my sister got married. I had just finished an elaborate neck piece that I loved and was extremely proud of. Of course I asked her if I could wear it to the wedding as I was already a bridesmaid and didn't want to draw too much attention. It was clearly something not store bought, but my sister even found some cute hairclips and earrings that would go with it. I have anxiety, so I double and triple checked that it was okay beforehand. I did get a bit of attention for it, but it was always brief and I never felt like I outshone her as she looked absolutely gorgeous. She didn't think I did either.
So happy for your family member and her career! ❤
I love this so much!
Thank you, everyone, for the lovely comments! You're all incredibly kind and it's great to hear from like-minded people who love their guests and want their wedding to also be about the people they value, not just about themselves.
Sending love and best wishes to you all 💕😊💕
I had a "destination" wedding, I'm brazilian, living in Portugal, and my now husband, is portuguese, so we had our wedding here in Portugal. So for all my family and friends in Brazil it was a destination wedding, and EVERYONE of them treated like a vacation: my brother did a second honey moon, my best friends rentend a car and went from Spain to Portugal exploring all the cities in the way, I had family going to Croacia and renting a boat after... the only thing that I asked from my friends, was for them to be present for my Bacholorette Day and the wedding 2 days after, and thats it. They had the key to our house and could do aaaaall the touristing they would like to. It's just SO SO MUCH selfish of you to not want people to stay over...! It's just crazy to me! They are spending vacation days, flights, hotel stay, car rent, make up, hair... you can't expect what that bride expected from the guests! ...sorry for the rant 😅
Girl… congratulations!!!! And you are so right! ❤🩷
@@Dlmagoo2 thank you! 🥰
If you're having a destination wedding, assume that your guests willing to shell out the money are going to make a vacation out of it. It's not like they're expecting the Bride and Groom to host and entertain them, that would be one thing, but they're allowed to stay and enjoy themselves and do their own thing. It sounds like your wedding was fun and you appreciated that your guests had fun while in the area! Congrats on your wedding and you and groom sounded like fantastic hosts
@@amylynnsgraphics 💕 so sweet! Thank you! It was really fun, layback and everyone had a great time ☺
@bellserra You're welcome! I'm glad everyone enjoyed themselves and had fun! I've kinda always wanted to go to a destination wedding for the reason of an excuse to travel not that i need one lol!
When I got married I told my bridesmaids that I just want fall colors. That was the only thing I requested. I told them any style, any hair any jewelry. I told them I want them to feel beautiful too. I wanted them to feel their best so when we got the pictures back their confidence showed.
I did something similar. I only asked for light blue dress and then they complaint "just that??" so I also add white flower of any style on their head. They came in lovely sky blue dress and white flower crown or pins or headband. I love to see how they still able to show their own personality even with dresscode ❤
I did something similar too bc the cost of bridal clothes was so expensive & several people I know hate to dress up-- so I gave a lost of colors and said wear whatever style/ level of dress you want and it all worked out just fine!
@@shadowmatrx exactly some of my bridesmaids couldn't afford expensive dresses. I was fine as long as they were happy
I don't even want a photographer at my wedding (but I have to, alas), so we decided on no dresscode whatsoever (except for white hehe I wanna be the only one)
Literally if I get married all my bridesmaids will be wearing dresses which make them look stunning!! Equally make up will be similar but matched to their individual style (some of my friends prefer natural, others like a more alt vibe). To me a wedding is a celebration of love and that includes my girlfriends ❤️
This first one.
Thank you for backing this girl.
She got hate in her comments so I hope she sees this 🫶
Agreed! Don't drag me in to your lies, you won't like the consequences.
Right?!? Can’t be a girls girl and not have morals. Even if it was my mom I would absolutely call her out and say something.
I would rather lose a friend if I find out she/he was cheating on their SO, like really, if you have an itch to cheat, break it off first rather than hurt the person you're in a relationship with. It's narcissistic behavior honestly
Sometimes i think people that hate women like the one in the first story, are probably people who are also cheating.
She did the right thing. Doesn't deserve hate at all.
my poor husband hasnt seen mwe in makeup in 20 years. the one time i DID wear it in the last 2 decades, his immediate response was..who are you and where did you put my wife? to which i instantly said, is it bad? he said no way, you look wonderful. do YOU like it? i said, no, i feel like im wearing a mask and he helped me take some off. i suck at makeup but he doesnt care. i wore a new tshirt the other day and we left to run errands, he pulled up at our fav restaurant and said, you look so cute in your new shirt, i want to take you to lunch (it was lunch time) i was floored. i love him so much. 26 years together and he still makes me feel like a blushing teenager some days
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24yrs married here. My husband is amazing too. We hit the lottery
Now i'm jealous 😂 that's good for you both. You totally hit the jackpot ❤
Oh my God that's the cutes f*cking thing I've heard in a while. ❤🥺 I hope to find someone like that one day. It's rough out here dating. I also don't like wearing makeup and am less "sexy" than I feel like guys today are looking for. I hope I find someone who find my Tshirts cute too. ❤😂😁
I love that for you two!
The first thing my husband said to me after exchanging our vows was “You look so beautiful” and had a face like this emoji 😍 He had never seen dress or make-up or accessories before the wedding day, and I still remember the look on his face months later. Glad that girl got out.
My husband was in tears. He was amazed at what I looked like in my dress. Greatest feeling ever when you realize how much you really mean to your person.
@@MrsWellnerThis is so wholesome, so happy you married a gem 😭💗💗
People hating on that first girl in the comments are low-key telling on themselves. I'd be the wrong person to tell if you're cheating on your partner because I'd be using whatever means of communication to relay that ish to that person because he/she doesn't deserve to be dogged out like that.
He asked!
INTEGRITY!❤❤❤
Exactly, I'm surprised of how many people in the comments saying that it's not okay to tell the man that his fiancee is cheating on him just because she needs to be a girls girl, like wth😅.
@lubnasami511 girls girls don't pubically out the girls who bled on their pants because they didn't know. They tell you if your boy is cheating. You don't get to play girls girl if you're forcing your "girls" to hurt someone else.
Do you think Judas was right to snitch on Jesus? People that have a problem with disloyal friends are not telling on themselves they just don't like being stabbed in the back you owe your friend loyalty you don't owe your friends man loyalty
The 4th story- she was on point! I wore a dress that is very fantasy inspired to my cousin's wedding. Jewel tone green, very flowy. I thought it was going to be over the top but I felt fantastic in it. My husband said, "You look amazing. As long as you're not wearing white, you're good."
the best response to asking 'how do i look in my bridal dress and makeup' is stunned silence followed by a super proud smile
Yes
Every time Charlotte mentions her own wedding opinions I can't help but imagine Mike watching the video and taking notes.
This is so real 😂
Go back to videos from 3 or so years ago from before they met, she says what she wants for her wedding in those too! I hope Mike knows she wants to be spoon-fed caviar the morning after while drinking champagne! (Genuinely she said in a video that's what she wants to be doing the morning after her wedding)
I wore a tea length dress while my matron of honor and the female guests wore regular dresses or pantsuits to our wedding. The exception was one of my sister-in-laws who was singing and wore a sapphire blue, strapless evening gown which I GIFTED her. Two weeks prior to the wedding she had a double mastectomy but insisted on still singing (I was thrilled) and attended my last fitting to pick up my dress. The store had that sapphire dress on display, and it was her. I convinced her to try it on. it fit like it was custom made with slight padding, and she looked amazing. I insisted on buying it and asked her to wear it. No one outside of a few family members knew she was recovering from surgery and the compliments on how beautiful she looked was better that any drugs. Unless someone other than the bride shows up in a wedding dress, I don't understand the uproar about what anyone is wearing. Our 30th anniversary is upcoming, and she is still with us...❤
You are awesome! Never forget that!❤
You are the 💯% OPPOSITE of a bridezilla! May your marriage continue to be full of blessings ❤
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God bless you! Ty for sharing! How beautiful ❤😭
Sounds like an awesome wedding. I love happy endings. Hugs to all concerned!
We're coming up on 33 years as a couple, 32 married.
My Lady Wife picked out a tea length not-a-wedding-dress from Sears. I bought a navy blue 3 piece pinstripe suit from Blair. What she spent on our entire wedding and reception is less than most people spend on just flowers. Her MOH wore a dress she had in her closet that just happened to match the silk flowers she made for the tables. My best "man" (a longtime female friend we both love) who I never expected to show up in a skirt wore her "power suit". And a pillow mint war broke out at the reception. We have a picture of me traversing "no man's land" with an umbrella to get some more punch. So that was the vibe.
We ended up wearing our wedding outfits (with different accessories) to a 1920s Gangster theme party. She was rocking a feathered headband, a cigarette holder and period jewelry, and I was rocking a fedora and a violin case.
I would've called the po po on the girl throwing the makeup 😂 daddy's lil girl gonna have a rap sheet 😂
That's how she is allowed to behave like that. No consequences for her malicious actions. Everything is settled quietly in private. No police reports. No criminal history. Daddy pays for all the damage she causes, assuming there is *indisputable proof.* He will successfully defend against any allegations, after all, his perfect little girl does not even have an arrest history, much less any criminal convictions.
It wasn't real. Where's the real video?
Showing that video is what’s commonly known as a breach of privacy
Her father probably let her have anything she wanted while growing up, which is why she acts the way she did.
Actions have consequences.
The woman who wore the traditional African attire had also sent the bride PICTURES of what she was going to wear the bride was in FULL support until others at the wedding started sharing their opinions. But she had the green light from the beginning
I read that story on Reddit too. The bride loved how beautiful she would look. But MIL was being one of those.
Nope Mother in Law was maybe too german. People would be asking..what is that ? Germans are Germans. Don't expect that all of them would understand why she looks like that. In Germany they look modest, well put together but not too colorful like..golden..😂Sorry no...who wears golden (!!) on a Catholic or protestant or whatever Kind of Wedding ? It is way over the top for a Standard German. What the h..?
Reverse the situation for any other country/culture and then people would have told you to follow the local culture and customs.
@@silviahannak3213 if you are marrying someone from a different culture, then be ready for that. Especially as African.
@@silviahannak3213 Yes but the dresscode stated “Dress to impress” not “Dress modestly”, so it’s very unfair how they treated her as she did respect the dresscode.
Oh goodness ME!!!! My daughter and I almost lost it when you said "as someone who is single". HUGE GASP and we grabbed each other's hands and started looking at your hands for the ring!
I am sure it is a slip of a tongue 😂😂😂😂was scared too thank God they are together n getting married ❤❤
@ShaylahWalla I did the same thing. I actually got a bit panicked. I went and looked at the date of the video just incase it was a pre-diamond video😂
I DID THE SAME THING
Me too! I think she meant to say as someone who WAS single...
I came to the comments to check on this
Its the “I want to live a little before i settle down” for me. Like babe, why say yes😭 It immediately reminded me of a fitness influencer who got cheated on by her fiancé and the way she found out was through her fans tagging her on a podcast where the hosts talked about a certain relationship with a man on a destination bachelor party😭😭😭😭
And it’s always so stupid - you are settled down already! They’re literally in serious, monogamous relationships with promises to wed but they act as if they’re still single until the wedding
I know who you’re referencing.
As a man I hear “I want to be a wh0’re for a little while longer before I settle down”
@@themermaidstale5008Wait I wanna know who it is 😅😬
My niece got married yesterday. It was a beautiful wedding and she wasn't a bridezilla at all. I looked at her bridal party and they were all shapes and sizes, one had a full sleeve, some had nose rings and tatts, one had half dyed fuscia hair and they all looked beautiful! Beautiful and unique!
I just got to the groom trying to change the bride's style. My niece is a 5'11" blonde, model pretty, and her now husband is an inches shorter than her. His only requests...don't wear high heels and don't have super high hair. He didn't want to look shorter. 😂
Congratulations!!!!!
The groom definitely had reasonable requests.
My husband and I are the same height. I wore ballet flats, because I didn't want to be taller. Plus it was very comfortable!
Mutt and Jeff in reverse?
L to the groom, I would be proud of my tall glorious model wife 😅😅😅
For the destination wedding, I think it is fair to say, "Stay! Enjoy! But please don't expect anything of us afterward." I could see some people expecting the couple to entertain them afterward.
Yes! "I have a budget and Im keeping to it, but if you want to take this opportunity to have more of a vacation, thats your decision"
My fiance's sister had a destination wedding at a spa resort. I'd never been to a destination wedding and when we were told it was going to be four days, I was a little antsy. We had the time available and his sister paid for our travel and room at the resort. Day one was the prewedding stuff, day 2 was the wedding proper, and the next two days was for all of us to enjoy the spa. Turned out the enjoy the spa days were a gift to those of us in the family/friends who don't really take vacations that aren't 'catch up on sleep/errands' to have a genuine treat yourself and relax time because we deserved it. It was really nice, and I still kinda miss the fireplace we had in our room.
I've been a makeup artist for 23 years. I could write a series based on all of the situations I've witnessed. I'll never understand how people can be so insecure, that they're more focused on a guest "outshining" them, rather than enjoying their wedding day.
The people getting mad at the first chick are probably cheaters or, at the very least, enablers. Those people don't make good friends. Staying out of it or minding your business is for situations where no one is being hurt. And yes, someone is being hurt when their SO is cheating.
Oh yeah! Whenever I see people in comments defending the cheater, it's obvious they're cheaters too.
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Cheaters and enablers for sure!
Love the woman who said,” come in your very best”, I agree totally ❤
I absolutely love the person saying 'wear ur absolute best' that's an amazing bride right there!
We had a destination wedding in Sardinia Italy. Having friends and family arrive at the resort was the best feeling and seeing everyone enjoy the island and hanging out at the pool and beach with family and friends before and after the wedding was amazing!
For me it took the pressure off of only having one day to quickly see everyone. It made the actual day more beautiful and relaxed and everyone dressed to impress in beautiful colours, we loved it! They all looked gorgeous.
Yes we stayed in bed all morning the day after too, then spent the afternoon by the pool with all the other guests relaxing, wouldn’t change any of that, the memories are priceless and we appreciate every single person that came and enjoyed THEIR holiday and our wedding.
Found another British person!
Sardegna is a beautiful place to get married. Especially La Costa Smeralda.
My fiancé would NEVER call to say he needed to come “direct” how my makeup should be done. He tells me I’m beautiful as soon as I wake up in the morning. I feel very lucky and blessed to have him ❤️
Seriously. That guy was a walking red flag
My cousin got married in Scotland this summer. My aunt was so excited we were coming and exploring europe, misty of us for the first time, she helped pay for airfare. My cousin told us places to visit and was excited to hear about it all. The trip was amazing and the wedding was one of the most magical I've seen.
My step-grandma only got halfway down the aisle at her wedding before my step grandpa said "eww, no. I'm not marrying THAT. You look like an ugly poodle. Go fix your hair and makeup and come back." She ran back down the aisle crying and they re-did her hair and makeup and she came back and married him. It was the start of a horrible, toxic long-lasting marriage.
My step-grandpa is really racist and antisemitic and DID NOT like that the had gotten her hair curled. He's made some hateful comments about that which I won't repeat. He's generally an awful person. He's told me this wedding story countless times and laughs about it like he's proud of sending her back and always throws in a joke about how he wishes he never asked her to come back to the altar. He's always making cruel jabs at her.
My step-grandma told me she really liked how her hair and makeup were done the first time but she felt like no one else would want her because she was already almost 40 when they met, and he was a few years younger than her. So she didn't have time to meet someone else to have kids with. It made me so sad.
Never settle for a man who treats you like dirt, ladies.
That is soooo sad. What an awful man
I'm confused how they are both your STEP-grandparents? Step-grandma implies your blood-related grandfather is marrying a new woman after your blood-related grandma, and vice versa. The only way this is possible is your grandpa (on one side of the family) married a new woman, and your grandma (on the other side of the family) married a new man..... So that's kinda confusing.
Your step grandpa is a horrible person. I am not sorry for what i said. Not only a racist but also antisemitic. Horrible horrible person he is
@@danielleking262from what I gather it sounds like it's her step parents parent - hence the step grandmother title. She must have been single and then got married which would make the man she married the OP's step grandfather because of the wedding. Typically people say it's their step grandmother/father's spouse, but it's technically correct the way they said it too.
@@michelebella677 ohh, that would make sense then, thank you!!!
18:19 I’m a southern white woman… I want my guests to WOW me and each other… NO JEANS! NO POLOS! I wanna see yall at your best- you’ll feel amazing and have a blast!!!
Destination weddings, if you are paying your own way the bride and groom have ZERO say to how long i stay.
My husband and I are planning to do a destination vowel renewal with our closest friends and family and we fully support them making a vacation out of it with us. We want them to hangout and have a great time and celebrate our 20 years with us. It will be one big party the whole time. That’s the plan anyways.
Also I hate destination bachelorette trips.
@@DeathByBlonde1 I had a friend who had a destination in Maui decades ago. Since my wife had eloped 3 years prior we decided we will make that our honeymoon. We had a great time, their wedding ceremony was on the beach and just perfect all around
@@AmethystEyesthey’re only ok if the bride is paying - brides who expect their bridesmaids to pay for all of that is insane
She said her travel agent told her about the issue so I'm assuming she was the one paying for them?
That girl @12:54 had me nervous when she was doing her makeup 😂 I was like “ trust the process” 😂😂it turned out beautiful!
Omg same 😅
Bet it looks ridiculous irl tho. That much paint maybe looks fine on camera but never looks good up close irl.
@@mistylavae2433 😅
@@wearelegion1163meow. You just explained exactly what the deal is but with an unnecessary condescending undertone. Yes makeup artists use more for recording, tv etc. they don’t go down the shops like that 🤦🏼♀️😂
Same lmao 😂 thought she was going down the oompa lompa route lol
I embraced all my friends and family that came to celebrate my wedding! I even took photos. I was so grateful for their support.
I actually think that some people confuse this celebration with the rest of their lives. People supporting you at the beginning of this lifelong journey is why we celebrate. I can look back and smile at my husband 34 years later and enjoy the loving and support from everyone all these years.
Exactly! It’s one day to come together and celebrate the beginning of a beautiful journey, that’s it. Those hyper fixated on their wedding day being “perfect”, are missing the mark entirely. The most lavish, expensive weddings we’ve attended were a mix between elegant and tacky. Most of those couples ended up divorced within 2 years! 🤦♀️
The better the wedding party and guests look the better the bride and groom look. The more fun the wedding party and guests are having the more fun the bride and groom have. Absolutely supports the bride and groom not detracts.
@@stephaniefarley1236 I still have family and friends that say my wedding was so much fun.
Telling the truth is NEVER snitching, especially if you are asked point blank what you know. If someone expects you to lie for them, they aren't your friend.
How sad that the first woman felt "lucky" that some jerk picked her because she was an "older" bride. Ladies, no matter your age, you are worthy of respect, kindness & love!
Yes! And you are the prize!
PERIOD! Don't put yourself down like that, babe! If your partner doesn't make you feel like a goddamn queen, then THEY aren't worthy!
Also, you're human. If you are treated like garbarge, then you're even more of a human being than that person and that goes without saying.
Instant red flag. He wanted someone who he could manipulate and control, with low self esteem, who would consider themselves 'lucky'.
@@sinceslicedbread7422 THIS. I bet he was the one constantly putting her down to make her feel unworthy. It's a common tactic with abusers. They're such garbage that they have to make their partner feel like they're less than them so they always have the upper hand.
I lost my husband suddenly five weeks and five days ago. I treated him like a King and he treated me like a Queen. We never criticized each other. We are soulmates twin flames. I could never imagine treating him poorly ever.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm so happy you had a wonderful husband, and that he had you.
I am so sorry you lost your husband. It’s not fair and is a horrible tragedy. Hope you are making it as best you can❤
I'm sorry for your loss truly ❤
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I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm sending you a hug.
The moment a client treats me, SOMEONE WHO NEEDS ME, disrespectfully, they have to leave
And the second they destroy your things and refuse to pay, the cops should be called. You can't be gentle with someone like that. They see any kindness or diplomacy as weakness and will Godzilla stomp all over you.
@@paulagoeringer9466 I would've just said, "Excuse me, I need to get a drink of water." Then I would go outside and call the police. Come get her.
@@DawnKellyMedia yes, it's probably best to not let anyone aggressive see you calling the police on them. They can deal with her when they arrive.
Right, they need you more than you need them and there are always other customers so losing one a**hole isn't the win they think it is lol
11:54 Watching people skillfully put on this much makeup is both impressive and terrifying
The whole "you're outshining me" attitude is puzzling. If I were to get married I would be thrilled if my guests took the time and effort to get all dolled up for the occasion and wanted to look their best.
Yes, you want all your friends and family to look as good as possible ❤
The only rule I had for our guests was no jeans since my husband and his couple of groomsmen were wearing dark wash jeans and I wanted them to stand out, but also because I wanted people to be comfy but actually try a little at the same time lol. A couple people still showed up in jeans, but we didn't really notice or care. We had a great time with everyone around us and that was the most important thing for us, not the aesthetics.
Exactly!
I am German and German weddings are typically very basic. Guests normally don't even buy an extra fancy dress for a wedding and they just take something out of their wardrobe. I totally see someone outshine German bride. Btw, my wedding dress only cost me $100. Same for my cousin. Maybe my friend topped it with $1000. I always would ask what to wear and how formal it should be.
@@hardtocomeby456 I guess the German idea of "dress to impress" is very different from the Nigerian 😂
If you cheat during your relationship a ring won’t change it 99% of the time
Ooooh the TEA!! Our Queen is getting married in Europe!!! Charlotte I pray everything goes well, your wishes and dreams(Mike too😉)comes true. Love You Charlotte ❤❤❤❤
16:15 I had watched the story before about a guest in Germany allegedly outshining the bride. The moment that THIS section started, I was so excited as I knew that I was looking at a Yoruba woman. I have been to Nigerian weddings and everyone is allowed to look as good as they want to look! The last wedding that I attended was on Sep 2/24. I saw outfits that were silver, gold, emerald, purple, etc. and everything was beautiful and sparkling! To add to the look, families often wear outfits that are made of the same beautiful material, even if the styles are different. It is lovely to see the to see what entire families wear to weddings!
That sounds absolutely amazing! I would so love that for my wedding. I would want to see all the beauty around me on my happy day. 🥰
3:26 ANYONE ELSE RELIEVED AFTER SHE SAID SHE WAS SINGLE 20 SECONDS BEFOREHAND????
Not married = legally single.
Yes I was concerned at first.
Omg yes! I started looking at the backdrop, wondering if it was just recorded a long time ago. I've never been so relieved to see a floating head 😂😂😂
Yeah that's not how that works @@MrsWellner
I immediately was like ummmmmm whaaaat 👀
I got married on Halloween last year, guests were told to wear whatever they were comfortable wearing. Dress up, dress down, fancy dress whatever as long as they weren't naked we didn't care. It was so relaxed and a couple people did wear costumes. Everyone was happy and noone was desperate to go home to change.
Congratulations on your almost first anniversary! I wish you many more years of happiness.
That's similar to what we did, except, we got married in July, and it was twenty-two years ago. 😆 We wanted everyone to be comfortable. The only guest whose attire concerned me was my evil MIL. Fortunately, she pulled most of her stunts before the wedding, and was fairly well-behaved the day of, minus a few overly loud comments about some of our choices.🙄
I'm the kind of inoffensive "cute" that's utterly forgettable. But, on our wedding day, I was so excited to be marrying the great love of my life that I felt gorgeous! No one could have upstaged me, and we even had a couple of guests who were models.
@@katie6731 thank you so very much.
I don't like dressing up for events so i wouldn't expect my guests to feel uncomfortable for my day, i felt like a princess and thats what mattered. I'm sure your day was just as wonderful as ours and I wish you many more years of wedded bliss. Im glad your MIL behaved herself
I love this idea! If I ever get married I want people to feel like their best self whichever is comfortable for them! Same goes my bridesmaids. I want this comfortable and feeling their most beautiful 😍 sounds like you had the best wedding! Xxx
@@savannahjones-verity3308 thank you, it was a great day. My bridesmaids chose their own dresses, i just wanted a certain colour. Had pockets put in the dresses for them and their shoes, hair makeup was whatever they wanted. I wanted my girls to be happy xx
I’m doing a Halloween wedding next yr and we’re letting everyone wear costumes
I swear... I've never been so excited for 2 people to get married, 2 people mind you that I've never actually met in my life... I just love you guys, Charlotte you bring me so much happiness & so much pettiness and hearing you talk about you & Mike's wedding really does bring me joy in my cold, dead heart!!
Me too. My 68 year old heart loves it.
I feel the same way! Never cared about anyone's engagement and I don't even know these two but I'm already so excited to see the wedding photos
@@karinalagstrom Right! I promise, I'm not into weddings (well, I was into mine & I'm sure when my kids get married in a few years, I'll definitely be into theirs, but ya know what I mean!) But Charlotte, she's our girl right!! I get excited when she talks about her & Mike's engagement & wedding plans... I'm excited for Vanessa too, even though we don't get to hear about her wedding plans like that!! Glad to know I'm not alone!!
@krystalynkersey Right... I don't even know these ppl.. really, ya know... but I think I'm slightly (maybe a little more than slightly....) weird, crazy, odd... whatever. It's fine! I'm fine! EVERYTHING'S FINE!!!
The color the filter you used at around 10:40 made your hair the most stunning color!! It looks so good against your skin tone!!!
When I got married we went to Men's Wearhouse for a tux and I was so put off by the consultant only asking me (the bride) what I wanted and I told her "ask him. He's the one wearing the tux, not me." When she was condescending and asked "if i was sure that was ok to let him choose" we asked for a different consultant. He also went with me when I tried on dresses, and that made some people crazy. I swear weddings can also make other people go off the rails.
I literally just told hubby that he had to wear a blue shirt. Beyond that I didn't care (I wore a blue dress but he didn't know that)
I let my husband make the decision on what him and his groomsmen wore. I didn’t care, to an extent. lol.
Some ppl love showing off how they weren't raised right.
If you feel like you have to “live a little” before getting married, you shouldn’t be in a relationship.
ETA: I WOULD ABSOLUTELY SNITCH!!!! Idc if you’re my mom!!!
Why is the word "snitched" used when 1 person is simply treating another person with respect? Following the Golden Rule isn't snitching. Bad ppl deserve to be called out for their BS✌️
@@MizMorgue1amen!! Preach it baby!!!!
A “friend” doesn’t put you in a situation where you would feel the need to “snitch” on them. If they lie to others, they’ll lie to you. Period. Not someone I want to be around. Ever.
@@MirandaKundrat-n6f yaaaaassssss!!!! That is not a true friend.
This exactly! I’m so tired of the “explore before marriage” nonsense when someone is in a closed relationship. You do your exploring before being exclusive with someone, and if being exclusive isn’t for you, then you break up with the person or you both consensually rework the dynamics of the relationship. Marriage is just an extension of an already exclusive relationship dynamic, not a signal to get the exploring out of the way. That checkpoint is long past.
First story: If he was asking around, he already knew something.
charolette talking about her wedding is making it way much harder to wait for it😭❤️
If someone is willing to hurt the person they “wanted to be with for the rest of their life” consider what your friendship actually means to them. Because friendship isn’t as binding as “I do”.
Exactly. I don't want a friend like that. The blatant disrespect to someone who wholeheartedly loves her and she treats him like garbage. If she can so easily backstab him, I'd hate to see what she's capable of doing to me.😮
I’m from Australia and my best friend married a man originally from Italy, his family and a lot of his friends lived in Italy, so they decided on a destination wedding in Italy. The Australian contingent was financially secure and well travelled so it wasn’t a big deal to travel to Italy. We all made a holiday of it, we had many pre and post wedding get togethers, especially to get to know the grooms family and friends. It was fabulous. I have zero understanding of a bride not wanting people to stay for extra time in the resort… crazy!!!
10:21 Daddy is just looking at that wedding as the finish line to his having to bail her out. She’ll be some else’s problem.
He wishes. It’ll never stop unfortunately. He can reap what he’s sown with that little diva.
Bless the groom who's marrying her
I'm getting married this Friday (writing this on Wednesday). Your bridezilla and crazy wedding videos have really helped me cope with the wedding stress over the last few months! Since mine is much more calm and they make me feel better 😂
18:08 my MoH wore a stunning red dress and heels, she looked so beautiful. I'm very "homely," and she's all woman. She absolutely outshone me, and I loved how incredible she looked. No jealousy at all, I am proud to have such a beautiful bestie 😊❤
I looked at your profile photo. You are beautiful!!! You are not homely at all. Cute glasses too! ❤ Love yourself. You deserve it.
Shut up. Youre gorgeous.
She wore red? Was that your color theme?
@joiballard788 yes, it was red and white.
@DawnKellyMedia that's very sweet of you, thank you. I love myself as I am though, I don't need to be attractive in looks.
At 73, I've been to countless weddings, including destinations. We always dressed to the nines. As a member of the bridal party, guest, or plus one, I have never met a Bridezilla. That's not to say there hasn't been a LOT of tea - such as the bride sleeping with the best man the night before the wedding (and they still got married!) - and various dramas as only humans can make, but all of the weddings I went to were celebrations. Maybe it's because my family and friends know how to put the fun in dysfunctional...😂😂😂 I love you, Charlotte. You always make my day!❤❤❤
I love hearing older women tell stories!!!!! Love this tea Mrs Sharon!
@hannahdaniels5640 I, too, loved to hear the stories of older women. I had the privilege to speak to several women in their late 90's and early 100's. You want to talk tea?! Trust me when I tell you the only difference between the generations is technology. LOL!
10:08 accepting his payment for it instead of pressing charges prevents her from learning any lessons. I understand not wanting to deal with any of that, but certainly don't think for a second that a talk from daddy is going to help the girl grow up without any consequences.
Pressing charges isn’t something people want to do all the time, sometimes people just want money. Going through the criminal justice system is so whack why would you even try? There’s a big huge chance she won’t suffer any consequences to begin with since her father is a lawyer.
If you didn’t know, pressing charges means going to court- missing work- it costs money.. so you’re losing money and they’re only going to pay what was lost if you win. Why not just ask for MORE to keep quiet?
My father would have paid for the makeup, apologized, and come home to deliver to me a well deserved arse whoopin'.
@Julietavolcano and the problem is, you could already tell by his statement of "well, you don't have any proof" that he would have fought it tooth and nail. Most likely being in his position, shady stuff would have kept her from winning a case against them anyways. Or at least kept it from being worth her time to pursue.
@@Julietavolcano So, what I was trying to say, is I wholeheartedly agree with you.
The first girl is Queen👸 She saved that men.
The lawyer story when she was talking about proof...
I started singing in my head
* the proof, the proof, the proof is on fire...😂
😂🤣😂
3:05 WHAT DO YOU MEAN AS SOMEONE WHO IS SINGLE???😭
RIGHT LIKE WTF HAPPENED TO MIKE OMG
Not yet married = legally single.
I'm curious about this too ....I thought she was engaged no?
@@redpandahime4301 they broke up lol
I caught that too, maybe it an old video that she posted now?
2:35 “am I a snitch?” Bestie you should have snitched MORE before he even had to ask 😭 the fact that you would have never told him if he didn’t ask - that is not kind. You knew him and you said he was lovely and didn’t deserve this. Then you are obligated to help someone you vaguely care about who is being betrayed and hurt
I agree but also it could've backfired...in this couple's case the guy was already suspecting. But if you randomly go up to someone's bf and tell them their gf is cheating they might not even believe you or they'd be gaslit into not believing you😭
@@jupiter771Fair, it could backfire - but it’s up to that person to choose to do with that info what they will, that isn’t on you. Everyone being cheated on should have a chance to be told what’s happening.
@@jupiter771why people should not tell who is cheater. If guy was never caught her. His life would be so bad. We should help each other out. Only cheaters are going to be afraid of helping other people.
@@Priyansh-s1p HELP I'm just speaking from experience. Don't take this the wrong way. I did tell one of my friend's bf abt her cheating on him. But they're still together and I don't talk to either one of them🙏
This woman was a coworker who later became a friend. Keep that forefront. If she had ran to the dude and tattled on her and the result was the engagement got called off it could have all dragged all kinda crazy bridezilla drama up into their work environment which could have ended up costing her, her friend or both of them their jobs.
However this lady felt about what her buddy was doing to her man, she was older and she was wise enough not to get up in between it. Nonetheless, because she is a decent human being, when the man directly confronted her and asked her point blank, she neither confirmed or denied it but asked him to think about it. He could never truthfully tell her coworker buddy that she was the one who outed her. It is usually not a wise move to get up in between a couple when they are having problems, ESPECIALLY if your job is remotely connected in there some kinda way.. It is always best to try to avoid getting dragged into the middle and refuse to chose sides. Emotions run high sometimes, but if you get dragged in and they make up you will end up losing both or that relationship never being what it was before.
Korean girl dating a Nigerian man here. i CANNOT WAIT for us to be invited to a Nigerian wedding so that i can pull out my FINEST hanbok for the occasion. That, i feel is the best thing i can do to celebrate and respect the couple for the happy celebration that a wedding is!
"You're staying to enjoy the destination for my wedding? Well You're no longer invited" "Cool, I'll tell my wife we have time for that scuba class after all"
Exactly 💅 Sounds like a win
My brother got married in Hawaii, we stayed at another resort on another island for 3 days before going home! It was wonderful. Everyone was so happy for us. We never got to go anywhere, so we made a big deal of it for ourselves. Their wedding was 2 events and the rest was ours! 🎉
1:46 I love the fact that she didn’t say yes, but she helped him answer his own question.
This might be a hot take but if you’re friends with a cheater, they’re probably not a great friend either.
And, they ask you to cover for them. Like, say we were shopping..while they cheat.
I've lost potential "friends" just cuz i don't fuck with cheating around. Specially if i know ya partner bro like nah, that's weak
Shouldn’t be a hot take. That is just having a good moral
@@StrangeFacinationsI had to cut a good friend out of my life because of this issue. Hindsight is 20/20, and looking back, I later realized that she was NOT a good person before that .
@Starcatt966 I actually sat through the English Patient alone, so my former friend could cat around. Lol. At least it was a good movie, but I realized, there's no place like home.
As an african myself if u don't dress to impress in a wedding it automatically means you are not so close to bride and groom or really distant relative or coworker
German, I also am used to the closer to the couple the more you dress up, but like appropriately, not overshadowing the couple,( probably a bit more subdue though then common for more colorful southern cultures) ..... Makes it really easy to spot people "relevant".
But yeah , its always good to gage what others will wear, hie extra the bride looks etc.
Expectations can wary wildly.... Find the whole upstaging thing weird too though, even if I am not one of tge women who tend to dibdrsmatic looks, wear make uo or anything. If a wedding is not an opportunity to go all out, what would be?!
The nonine is allowed to look good or has as much fun as me thing is soo weird in western culture
I love the lady saying if you don’t wear your best to wedding don’t come! 💖💖💖
I'd rather have my favorite people there than spend my wedding alone because I want to act like the fashion police.
I had a red carpet at my wedding for people to show off on.
"Hurricane" playing in the background seemed so appropriate. I love that song!!! Thank you for sharing this grub with us!!
I would have snitched. But we all know that doing the right thing doesn’t always bring rewards.
Well it saved the would be groom a messier divorce and possibly being cuckolded if the said ex fiancée became pregnant from xyz
As a Nigerian, that bride would definitely pass out if she comes to a Nigerian wedding 😂😂😂😂.... Because everybody is dressing to look better than the next person 😅... But you'll DEFINITELY know who the bride is, her AURA ALONE!!!, 10/10❤❤
I like tgat approach, even though I nyself am not a make up or dramatic dress girl. If a wedding is not an opportunity to go all out, what is?!
You're not the first comment I've seen talking about Nigerian weddings, and now I'm very intrigued.
I honestly think in the Anglosphere and Eurosphere there's a bit of a prevailing modesty culture regarding weddings that we do not even think about, it's just so ingrained. So 'dress to impress' tends to mean dress formally and tastefully but somewhat understated. Kind of like dressing to impress for a business meeting or the like.
So I think the bride and groom should have self reflected about cultural differences and miscomunications instead of being mad at their guest, but I also think it was the guest committing a completely accidental cultural offense because she just did not know how different the cultural practices are. It's the sort of thing we do without being aware of it enough to elucidate it's significance to outsiders. I feel so bad for the guest, I hope everyone came to understand eachother and the miscomunication that occurred later.
@@ANPC-pi9vu EU here, where I’m from its sort of an unspoken rule that you obviously dress well and all that but without overdoing it bcs of the Bride bla bla bla, nowdays nobody cares though, mostly when I was a kid I’ve heard it many times
Happily a Bob ❤ Abishola fan.. I've heard
3:00 AS SOMEONES WHO SINGLE?!?! WHAT!
I had to pause and replay that part, it seems she actually said "someone *who's* single" the s being slightly dragged out, could be "was" rather than "is" 🤷🏻♂️
Should I go and shoot my shot then?
I think she said "was", and yes I also had to pause and replay to concentrate on What she said
As for dressing up at weddings, at my wedding I was keen on having everyone look their best, and I had zero qualms with any of the outfits (a middle aged woman even showed up in white, but hey, I was still the shining bride so I didn't really care 😂)
Why would you want to be surrounded by frumpy looking attendees? I feel like that would kill the vibe. Have everyone be glamorous! That way, when you look back on pictures, you can marvel at all of your beautiful friends and family members.
Jealousy, envy, and insecurity has no place at a wedding. It is a day of celebrating love, not a day of 'I'm the best, most important person'. That's not what weddings should be about.
All my bridesmaids were in the same dress, long length but they chose different jewel tone colors. I made white matching shrugs for all of us, using their dress color as a liner. It was so gorgeous. Everywhere I looked I saw movie star friends and family. Faux fur, jewels, and flower hair-clips everywhere that I made. People wanted to try on our shrugs so we let them and took tons of pictures. It was an awesome wedding! 15 years later I still here people say that was the most fun. It rained and we danced in the rain. 100% amazing and I loved every second of it. Our cake was laughable, dj played the cd’s I made for him and gave him the order. Pretty much he pressed play. He brought a girl with him who was wearing a black bra and jeans. So not appropriate. Friends saw this and brought out a fun fur coat for her to wear so her naked body would not be in all the photos.
Those dresses and shrugs sound amazing!! The whole vibe of your wedding sounds fantastic. Well done! 🎉
"I want to live a little before getting married" these people be treating marriage like it's jail with no parole, like if you dread it so much you know you can just stay single and let your partner find someone that wants to spend their life with them, right?
That's sadly been a saying for a while, that marriage is the end of your freedom......
@@DrawciaGleam02I actually understand this mindset when it came from noble women who got to enjoy their rich lives with their family and knew their happiness had a time limit because they'd be send to marry some dude their dad picked when they were old enough, and then they'd have to leave behind their siblings and their home before they felt ready, to end up surrounding by HIS family which probably expected a lot from her, and suddenly she had the responsibilities of a wife instead of the freedom of a daughter and had everyone waiting for her to pop as many kids as she could as quickly as she could.
But nowadays? Girl, if you don't want to get married, don't. You get to pick your path, you get to pick your husband. Stop creating problems where there are none.
If they cheat before the wedding then they'll definitely cheat after.
@@DrawciaGleam02Then ppl who feel that way shouldn't be getting married 💀
Last story ~ I don't understand why the travel agent called the bride to "get permission" for the guests to stay after the wedding. I could understand if the bride and groom were paying for everything but that doesn't seem to be the case.
This is strange, indeed. But maybe the bride did some pre-booking for the guests or smth? I have never been to destination wedding, so I don’t know but maybe there is some pre-booking that we need rooms for 50 people during these dates, and they will book the rooms?
@@Trammiliin_nr2 If new bride and groom were staying on at the resort. It's a destination wedding. They were probably having their honeymoon there. They would not want to have to constantly get drawn into socializing with relatives, no matter how loving the relatives were. That's why the Resort person called her. Relatives wanting to stay on can perhaps book elsewhere, or bride and groom could have thought of this consequence to a "destination wedding" (where folks may have to outlay large sums and want to rest before travelling home), and booked themselves in elsewhere for their honeymoon, far away, so as to not have to socialize. It's an issue with destination weddings, I'd assume, or the Resort person wouldn't have run it by her.
The only thing that comes to my mind as to why personnel would call the couple is that perhaps they did the wedding at one of those places you need a referral to stay without having to purchase a membership... 🧐
@@Kayenne54 Well, it makes sense. But they still can't gatekeep where their guests spend their time outside their wedding time.
@@Trammiliin_nr2 Yes, I said that in another reply elsewhere here. Also, resorts having to turn away multiple bookings (theoretically speaking) isn't good business either. It is something bride and groom-to-be need to think about beforehand for these "destination" weddings. Or perhaps resorts need to have more careful guidelines...
Oh my god Charlotte you talking about your actual wedding is so special! I followed you since the IO days and to see you go from single to so happy and planning your wedding is so cute 🥰 so happy for you x
“My ick-senses were icking” 😂😂😂😂😂
With the first girl I tend to distance myself from people like who she was talking about. I don’t have the energy to deal with people like this but I have told my friends don’t ask me to lie for them (unless it’s a job interview). I am notorious for saying, “If you are asking that question you likely know the answer.”
I just noticed you made it to 2M subs.. that's amazing. Congratulations. You deserve it.. love your channel...
3:00 WHAT DO YOU MEAN AS SOMEONE WHO'S SINGLE????
Right??? What happened
Sammmmeeeeee
dont worry mike posted a insta reel with her back on Jan 3rd 🫡🫡🫡
“As someone who’s single,” I had to check to see when this video was uploaded to make sure this wasn’t an old video 😭😭😭
I’m glad yall cleared that up!
same 😅😂
6:08 she's being waaaaaay too nice!!! She would've BEEN dismissed!!!!
Destination wedding. I went to a wedding a few years ago and it was about an hour away from where most guests lived, so many of us stayed the night. The following morning the bride and grooms parents went around at breakfast and told everyone to leave the newlyweds alone and don’t go to their room. It was really that simple, just respecting the space of the newlyweds and their honeymoon. We didn’t see them till we left and they gave us a friendly nod and wave. They are a lovely couple and it was the best wedding I’ve ever been to, a lot of nerdy fun.
I was toying with the idea of a destination wedding in the Caribbean, and I would pay for everything for everyone. My mom started insisting that not only was she going to stay, but planning on joining US for all these excursions after the celebration. I scrapped the destination idea so quickly...
Not destination wedding but I did have some out of town guests who drove a few hours to my wedding. They stayed the night in the area and my mother had the great idea to invite them to brunch with us newlyweds the next morning at her house and we would open wedding gifts there. I loved it! It gave us more time to spend with family we don't get to see often but that are important and thought us important enough to make the trip for our wedding. Plus it was like extending the celebration and celebrating us a little while longer.
I have been binge watching all of your bride stories and I must say I am so f***ing glad that I had a Blue jean wedding where everyone was in jeans and my husbands great-uncle (who wore his best overalls) married us as his last wedding to officiate.. It was such a calm and wonderful day.. It's been 20 years married now and I still look back at the day and know that is was the best day ever for us at least.
16:12 I don’t wear make up often so when my husband saw me after the trial with my hair and makeup done he took me out to dinner he said “you look too beautiful to not show off” 😩
When you said “as someone who’s single” I literally thought you meant yourself and I was like WHAT 😭😭
OMG I caught that, too! Like, ummmmmmm...excuse me, ma'am. 😆
The responses to the first girl remind mevof the Kitty Genovese case study. Everyone heard, or saw, but assumed others would take responsibility.
Just wanted to point out although the bystander effect is a real phenomenon and has been researched a lot since, there are a lot of urban myths surrounding Kitty's murder! If I recall, no one actually saw the stabbing take place, and there was at lease one person who tried to intervene when the argument between Kitty and the partner started. I think some did also call the police. So the phenomenon is real, but many rumours around that one case have been debunked :)
Also why, in an emergency, you ask a specific person to call 911 otherwise people think someone else is or will do it.
I have to respond to the one about "dressing to impress." I have lived in mainland China for the past 16+ years. I have been invited to and/ or part of many weddings. Some have been good friends but others are coworkers/ acquaintances who want "a foreigner" at their wedding. We "foreigners" usually sit at our own table. In the northern provinces (that I've been to for weddings), the weddings are usually held at noon. The Chinese wedding has a day long schedule for the bridal party but bridesmaids gowns are not always a thing. Guests usually come during an extended lunch from work so there is business suits, business casual, down to jeans and sneakers. We "foreigners" usually are the best dressed guests and the photographers always mandate that they get photos of us alone, as a group, individually with the bridal couple, and as a group with the bridal couple. We always end up feeling subconscious about it. I've spoken to Chinese friends about their dress at weddings and they don't even think about it. They are impressed by our choices but I've never heard anyone mad at us for (trying to) upstage the bride. I've never seen a dress code on a wedding invitation, even one at a Hilton hotel or someone else high end.
Every time I hear about those brides afraid their friends would steal their thunder, I want to remind them of the dress Pippa Middleton wore to her sister, now Princess Catherine (aka Kate Middleton). She was stunning and the talk of the town for days on end!! Her sister put her out there to the world (literally), in white on top of it all, not afraid for a second that she would upstage her. And boy, the stakes were high.
So ladies, just chill and enjoy the day, your friends and family, and celebrate the fact that you are loved and love 🥰🥰🥰
*All* the attendants wore white - as was customary for those occasions. Diana's did too. And Queen Elizabeth's. Being the center of attention on one's wedding day doesn't guarantee living happily ever after.
A couple months after the wedding, patterns for Pippa's dress entered the home-sewing pattern books.