“Hi Finn” so glad I stumbled upon this video.everything u said rang true.the relief wen u finally admit it…wow! I’m 4 months sober..it’s hard,but it’s way easier than being drunk!
Thank you so much for sharing your story. My mom has been sober one day at a time for 47 years through A.A. I will be forever grateful for the program.
I'm not an alcoholic, but I have an eating disorder and everything you were describing about losing your identity fit my eating disorder perfectly. I often think, "Who would I be if I'm not restricting/having an active eating disorder?" I think that's a common thread in any kind of addiction.
Absolutely, it is. I've had the identity thing come up every time I've tried to overcome any addiction. Part of recovery is being brave enough to drop all identity and step into the unknown and see how you come out!
OMG Finn, it sounds like you're talking about me in regards to the knawing and whirling thoughts. It's like you reached into my diary and picked out paragraphs only I could write. Congratulations for getting Sober, you are such an inspiration. I truly mean that. I stopped drinking in April and haven't so much as smelt a drink since. I was awful on drink. Every time I went out it was with the intention of getting blocked. So I think it's just better if I stay away from it. x
Getting sober wether it from alcohol or drugs is a very big deal and whomever fights it every day and wins should be commended! Kudos to you Finn! Huge accomplishment. You deserve many pats on the back! Sending you love and hugs from Florida!🤗❤️
I'm 36. You became a piece of inspiration to me. Thank you. I'm only on day 9.. the most days I've had in 3 1/2 years!... and drank many years before that...but I'm feeling great! It's surprising to wake up without a hangover. I love having energy again without the booze energy. Thank you again.
I am very glad to be an inspiration! I pay it forward because I am so grateful to others who led the way for me to find a beter life. Congrats on 9 days, its no small feat! Are you getting support? I found that was vital in my own recovery. Welcom to the FinnFam my friend, if you ever need any help or fancy a chat, feel free to drop me a message here or over on my website finlaygames.com
My friend that comment means the world. I have been told this many times and now, with this TED talk, I am beginning to think this may just be my future. Thank you so much, for sharing this journey and for sticking around!
Oh how I adore you! ❤️ Of course, as soon as you did your introduction, I said out loud, “Hi Finn”. What a wonderful talk and thank you for sharing. I can identify with so much. I laughed when you talked about figuring out your feelings with your sponsor. It still amazes me to this day how oblivious I was to my feelings. I remember one day, early in sobriety, trying to describe what I was feeling to my sponsor only to have her look me square in the face and say... “What you’re feeling is guilt. What did you do?” 😳 I had honestly never felt it before. Thank you again for sharing your story. I realize that I only “know” you from your videos but I will always be your sister-in-sobriety and I love you bunches. Adele xx
Ah yes!!! Thank you Adele and thank goodness we both found the program. I remember the first time I cried with gratitude and I was so confused. I was about a month sober and I was walking to a meeting, and suddenly the day lit up, the sky was a cool blue, the trees were all sorts of shades of green and a leaf gently floated down gently in the air in front of me and landed just in front of my feet. I burst into tears and entered the meeting in a right state! My sponsor was there, and took me to one side, and once I calmed down, I realized Id experienced such joy at how beautiful the world was it had overwhelmed me and made me cry! I had no idea what all these emotions were! isnt life bloody awesome! Much love to you, keep on keeping on sis! xx
A few years ago, I had a friend who told me he was Trans. He said he was confused and scared and I couldn't help him apart from being someone to give him a cuddle or be an ear to listen to him. I had no idea about what "Being Trans" meant, I just knew that my mate needed me and our pals to be there for him, I did what I always do and got my self on You Tube and started looking at videos that I hoped would help me, and also help him...... I watched lots. Then I found your channel. I watched a video, and then went back to your first video and started watching everything you had posted in order. I sat for a whole weekend just watching this amazing man share his life and his story in the most honest way. I told my mate and he started watching your videos too and you have done more to help him than you could ever imagine....... a few years later, I still watch all of your videos, not because I want to learn about what "Being Trans" means, but because i think you are just the most incredible human being who has been through so so much and still has the ability to smile...... You are strong, and wise, and kind, and funny. I have often sat in tears watching you be vulnerable, in pain because of surgeries or losing your beautiful Mumsy, and I feel like you are my mate. Watching your vids is just like me checking in on a mate and making sure he is ok. Watching you fall in love has been an utter joy..... I mean that from the bottom of my heart. You have made me realise that my lack of self confidence is ok and I am not alone and that its ok to be just me...... even if i am fat and have a funny face!. This video is going to help so many people, as you always do. Your honesty and bravery and strength shines through. . lots of love, Your mate in Newcastle, the one you've never met before but who thinks you are utterly ace. xxx Love Susie.
This is such an incredibly lovely comment! I really love thats how I come accross because its how it feels, like you are all my dearest and trusted friends. I love the community that has srung out of my honest sharing and its because of you, that I get through the toughest of times. I feel so blessed and so grateful to be able to connect with people like this. Im jumping through the screen and hugging you!!!! xxx
@@FinnTheInfinncible you spoke of self harm yesterday. I've been poking and jamming needles in my ears for 40yrs. Infact i did it before i went to psychologist today. I was showing her the needles and had an ephiny from what you said i was self harming but in a way that was invisible to others. Bless you kind Fin for helping me to understand what i was doing. I guess maybe I've been punishing my hearing because I've hated the negative loops that goes on when one feels bad.blessings love and prayers to you and those you love
13:51 😂😂😂 funny! ..not that there's anything wrong with knitting. It's just the way you said it lol Your 13 year old self is so lucky to have someone like you. You're lucky to have each other. Because together you've been through alot, and built a beautiful life that you love. I feel really proud of your teenage self, and also throughout your 20s and 30s, because you've had to endure a lot. And with that life experience, it's made you the incredible, self knowledgeable man you are today. You've done lots of healing and self exploration over the last 9 years. So glad that AA is a place of peace and safety and helps people discover themselves and build a way of life that brings a feeling of abundance and happiness. The lens that you look at life through has come in to focus and provides you with clarity and a sense of meaning, purpose, and conscious direction. Thank you for this video and for sharing your story xxx
I love your messages so much! Yes, what an an amazing journey AA opened up for me, l am forever grateful. The clarity of vision l now have, and the deep insight into myself. Is such an incredible gift. As for the knitting......well.....
@@FinnTheInfinncible I love that you do! I love your messages, and your channel so much too! AA provided you with the kind of guidance that is invaluable, and you put the work in. So glad you have created a fertile foundation for you and your life to grow good things xx
What a great video and share! It was so good to hear you. I too, am in recovery (6.5 yrs) thanks to AA, and I totally identified with so many things from the beginning to the end. Especially having such a good life that it's not worth it for me to test if I can drink like a normal person. I died at the knitting statement, lol. I'll be following you. Thank you for your share!
Ah hello! Welcome to the FinnFam! Thank you for your lovely comment, it's always great to connect with more sober folk! I am pleased to say in 11 years I have gone nowhere near a knitting needle! Thank goodnrss for AA. I went to get help with my drinking and I got a whole new, much happier peaceful life!
Finn, i loved this episode! I'm new to your channel (I googled silent retreat) and found you sharing about your experience while on retreat (I'm gearing up for mine)! Anywho, I love your videos, and I loved this one. I'm also in recovery and I found this to be so refreshing, tender, and vulnerable. Thank you so much! And I'm so happy you have a life that you love! Cheers!
Ah hello and welcome to the FinnFam! Thank you so much for your lovely comments, its always wonderful to connect with someone else enjoying the fruits of recovery! Where are you off to on retreat?
You are so inspiring. I feel very fortunate and grateful for finding you. I can relate to a lot of what you have gone thru. You are an excellent speaker and the best that I have found on UA-cam and we are in the same fam. God bless.
Thankyou mate so very honest - be extremely proud of yourself. From a person that has had a love affair with grog for almost 50 years and still do I constantly pull myself back into it and abstain from it and I can say that is a tough way to live. When I am off it life has so much more meaning and quality to it and there is no arranging things around alcohol- no worrying about being over the limit the next day no guilt and shame about what you said or did. Life becomes freer- stay there my friend . Your mum well am sure she is smiling every day seeing you achieve so much and being happy::: Lee Brisbane Australia
Bless you, yes, I remember that well, a prisoner to alcohol, being obsessed with the next bottle, the fear of being without it, the awful groundhog day over and over again. I dont ever want that back and my heart hurts for anyone going through that, which is why I share so openly, to hopefully help others. Thank you for your lovely comment, sending much love and strength your way and if you every want a chat, my inbox is open
I can relate 💯. I too live my life by the 12 steps. I pick up my 18 months key tag tomorrow. And almost 1 yr on T. My gf and I love your videos. Very informational and inspirational.
Bless you, yes I tried moderation too, but the only way for me, and many of us with addiction issues, is complete abstinence. Do feel free to pop me a message on my website if you ever fancy a chat finlaygames.com
CONGRATS MATE!!!! 9 years is wonderful to hear! I hear you about drinking and it dulling anxiety, that's my guilty escape too... *sigh* I can talk to people, think better, and not have that jabber-jaws of a brain going in my head! Smoked pot, wasn't good. I had to stop. It's still one of those things smelling SO GOOD (alcohol or pot) ...Now I have to look up "spliff"... I just learned "kip" last month! I assume it's drunk... OH! I was way wrong! hehe... I love commenting while watching so you get "real time thoughts" from me lol :D I can NOT combine pot with alcohol, I vomit, it's Not. Good. At. All. My worst thing about coming off of alcohol was the INSOMNIA, not too many people mention it, but it's HORRIBLE. I didn't know why I couldn't sleep, but I was using it to help me sleep, and once I stopped, I could NOT sleep! I knew I didn't want to try hypnotics like Ambien or such, so I just took more Benedryl, well, even that didn't work, so after about 3 days, I started drinking again just so I could sleep. It was a nasty cycle! I finally figured out how to work through it though YAY! Just another side note: one of the guys I talk to just got his 29 year sobriety chip, he's in his 70's, really awesome guy, still goes 3-4 times a week to AA, has sponsees, helps others, and has even helped me learn when is NOT the time to think I need a drink. Best think he ever said to me was "If you don't want to have a drink but you still do." That was my situation in a nutshell! I consider him one of my undercover gems in my life. Sometimes what you need is right there
I love you! Yes, spliff is pot, do you call it a joint? These were my two go to drugs, weed and booze, but I would take anything on offer to be honest, the only thing I didnt do was inject anything, thank goodness. And yes, the insomnia, oh my goodness, it took me at least a year before I could fall asleep withing the first few hours of getting to bed. I was used to passing out, not going to sleep! 29 years is incredible, he sounds like an amazing guy. I have only sponsored one person so far, but they werent ready. It was heartbreaking to watch him go back out there. Im not as active in AA as I once was. I often feel guilty about that, but its just the way my busy life has evolved. I do think however, that keeping up the meetings helps the quality of sobriety, I notice the difference when I go more regularly Im always happy to chat buddy, I get it, that wanting to want to stop feeling! Big love to you!.
@@FinnTheInfinncible Yup, we call it either grass or joints here, or if we're being "really sneaky" call it "herbs" lol (just like basil, cilantro, you get the idea :) and of course booze is sounding almost universal!) I hope you have a wonderful week and weekend, I think tomorrow we're going to the lake (Superior) one of our favorite things to do for an escape from our small town (my boyfriend and I). I know one of these days I'd love to post some videos on my channel, but I always get wrapped up in everyone else's that I forget to! I want to post my lake Superior videos, and my cat being cute =^..^= won't be a big things, not wanting to make it a huge internet thing, just for fun and something to watch! *HUGS*
I love your videos so much, I cant relate to all of the topics, I recovered from about 6 years of self harm and it was an incredibly hard thing to do, i cant imagine what it's like with not only a psychologically addictive thing but a physical as well. I love to hear people's stories and thank you for sharing yours in positivity but also sharing the hard parts. Thank you Finn :)
My dear Finn I’m happy for you! It’s easy to think to have the control of the situation but then anyway it’s easy to find reasons to drink a little bit more or other thing. It’s a thin and hidden danger. It seems you can escape or gain courage and sometimes it’s simply pleasant to do.that. But it)s a cage. You did good and it’s not simply! 👍😘
Congratulations to you and so much respect you have done amazing go you long may it continue you're an inspiration for getting through this and smashing it 👌👏
Hiya u x great to see u again and yet again a fab vlog 😊 love love love ur t-shirt, I think I could be a t-shirt thief with all ur really cool tshirts 😜 sending loads and loads of love and hugs xxxx
The important thing, as always, is "keep going". Someone who wrote a poem about heroin addiction, from the perspective of the substance, made the statement "for I (heroin) will seduce you and make you my slave". I am sure alcohol can say the same. The short answer to "just have one drink" is "don't even think about it". If not suggested by anyone else, experts say the "I could just have one" is playing games with yourself to see if you can start and stop again. "There is always a part of you looking for an excuse to drink again". If you've got this far in abstinence, don't mess it up and don't mess it up. But you know that anyway.
@@pipche6283 oh Lord have mercy, I am an absolute food addict and I hate myself for it. I Love chocolate and any kind of pastries for that matter. But just food in general. Don't know how to stop! And I hate myself for it. But I so love food!!
“Hi Finn” so glad I stumbled upon this video.everything u said rang true.the relief wen u finally admit it…wow! I’m 4 months sober..it’s hard,but it’s way easier than being drunk!
Hello! Oh my goodness yes, nothing is ever as hard as managing the nightmare of active addiction. Congrats on your sober time!
Thank you so much for sharing your story. My mom has been sober one day at a time for 47 years through A.A. I will be forever grateful for the program.
Thats absolutely incredible, this program not only saves lives, but it saves families
I'm not an alcoholic, but I have an eating disorder and everything you were describing about losing your identity fit my eating disorder perfectly. I often think, "Who would I be if I'm not restricting/having an active eating disorder?" I think that's a common thread in any kind of addiction.
Absolutely, it is. I've had the identity thing come up every time I've tried to overcome any addiction. Part of recovery is being brave enough to drop all identity and step into the unknown and see how you come out!
OMG Finn, it sounds like you're talking about me in regards to the knawing and whirling thoughts. It's like you reached into my diary and picked out paragraphs only I could write. Congratulations for getting Sober, you are such an inspiration. I truly mean that. I stopped drinking in April and haven't so much as smelt a drink since. I was awful on drink. Every time I went out it was with the intention of getting blocked. So I think it's just better if I stay away from it. x
Ah good for you! Yes,its often very similar for those of us who drink. Hope you are managing ok!
You my friend are such an inspiration, I have always been very proud to be able to call you my friend!
We are way overdue a hug
@@FinnTheInfinncible I totally agree!!
Getting sober wether it from alcohol or drugs is a very big deal and whomever fights it every day and wins should be commended! Kudos to you Finn! Huge accomplishment. You deserve many pats on the back! Sending you love and hugs from Florida!🤗❤️
Bless your heart, thank you so very much!
I'm 36. You became a piece of inspiration to me. Thank you. I'm only on day 9.. the most days I've had in 3 1/2 years!... and drank many years before that...but I'm feeling great! It's surprising to wake up without a hangover. I love having energy again without the booze energy. Thank you again.
I am very glad to be an inspiration! I pay it forward because I am so grateful to others who led the way for me to find a beter life. Congrats on 9 days, its no small feat! Are you getting support? I found that was vital in my own recovery. Welcom to the FinnFam my friend, if you ever need any help or fancy a chat, feel free to drop me a message here or over on my website finlaygames.com
You should be traveling the world as a speaker. You know. You understand. You care. So glad I found your videos going on 2 and a half years now.
My friend that comment means the world. I have been told this many times and now, with this TED talk, I am beginning to think this may just be my future. Thank you so much, for sharing this journey and for sticking around!
Oh how I adore you! ❤️ Of course, as soon as you did your introduction, I said out loud, “Hi Finn”. What a wonderful talk and thank you for sharing. I can identify with so much. I laughed when you talked about figuring out your feelings with your sponsor. It still amazes me to this day how oblivious I was to my feelings. I remember one day, early in sobriety, trying to describe what I was feeling to my sponsor only to have her look me square in the face and say... “What you’re feeling is guilt. What did you do?” 😳 I had honestly never felt it before.
Thank you again for sharing your story. I realize that I only “know” you from your videos but I will always be your sister-in-sobriety and I love you bunches. Adele xx
Ah yes!!! Thank you Adele and thank goodness we both found the program. I remember the first time I cried with gratitude and I was so confused. I was about a month sober and I was walking to a meeting, and suddenly the day lit up, the sky was a cool blue, the trees were all sorts of shades of green and a leaf gently floated down gently in the air in front of me and landed just in front of my feet. I burst into tears and entered the meeting in a right state! My sponsor was there, and took me to one side, and once I calmed down, I realized Id experienced such joy at how beautiful the world was it had overwhelmed me and made me cry! I had no idea what all these emotions were!
isnt life bloody awesome! Much love to you, keep on keeping on sis! xx
A few years ago, I had a friend who told me he was Trans. He said he was confused and scared and I couldn't help him apart from being someone to give him a cuddle or be an ear to listen to him. I had no idea about what "Being Trans" meant, I just knew that my mate needed me and our pals to be there for him, I did what I always do and got my self on You Tube and started looking at videos that I hoped would help me, and also help him...... I watched lots. Then I found your channel. I watched a video, and then went back to your first video and started watching everything you had posted in order. I sat for a whole weekend just watching this amazing man share his life and his story in the most honest way. I told my mate and he started watching your videos too and you have done more to help him than you could ever imagine....... a few years later, I still watch all of your videos, not because I want to learn about what "Being Trans" means, but because i think you are just the most incredible human being who has been through so so much and still has the ability to smile...... You are strong, and wise, and kind, and funny. I have often sat in tears watching you be vulnerable, in pain because of surgeries or losing your beautiful Mumsy, and I feel like you are my mate. Watching your vids is just like me checking in on a mate and making sure he is ok. Watching you fall in love has been an utter joy..... I mean that from the bottom of my heart. You have made me realise that my lack of self confidence is ok and I am not alone and that its ok to be just me...... even if i am fat and have a funny face!. This video is going to help so many people, as you always do. Your honesty and bravery and strength shines through. . lots of love, Your mate in Newcastle, the one you've never met before but who thinks you are utterly ace. xxx Love Susie.
This is such an incredibly lovely comment! I really love thats how I come accross because its how it feels, like you are all my dearest and trusted friends. I love the community that has srung out of my honest sharing and its because of you, that I get through the toughest of times. I feel so blessed and so grateful to be able to connect with people like this. Im jumping through the screen and hugging you!!!! xxx
I have a great psychologist, she often times says that learns from me,i see her tomorrow. I'm sure she'll say it again. Thank you
I am very glad to hear that, I hope the appointment goes well!
@@FinnTheInfinncible you spoke of self harm yesterday. I've been poking and jamming needles in my ears for 40yrs. Infact i did it before i went to psychologist today. I was showing her the needles and had an ephiny from what you said i was self harming but in a way that was invisible to others. Bless you kind Fin for helping me to understand what i was doing. I guess maybe I've been punishing my hearing because I've hated the negative loops that goes on when one feels bad.blessings love and prayers to you and those you love
You are worth so much more than this my friend, be open, and use her help to start poking yourself with the love you deserve
You are the most inspirational man. Loved this video and you have inspired me
Well you have just made my afternoon, thank you so much!
13:51 😂😂😂 funny! ..not that there's anything wrong with knitting. It's just the way you said it lol
Your 13 year old self is so lucky to have someone like you. You're lucky to have each other. Because together you've been through alot, and built a beautiful life that you love.
I feel really proud of your teenage self, and also throughout your 20s and 30s, because you've had to endure a lot. And with that life experience, it's made you the incredible, self knowledgeable man you are today.
You've done lots of healing and self exploration over the last 9 years. So glad that AA is a place of peace and safety and helps people discover themselves and build a way of life that brings a feeling of abundance and happiness. The lens that you look at life through has come in to focus and provides you with clarity and a sense of meaning, purpose, and conscious direction.
Thank you for this video and for sharing your story xxx
I love your messages so much! Yes, what an an amazing journey AA opened up for me, l am forever grateful. The clarity of vision l now have, and the deep insight into myself. Is such an incredible gift.
As for the knitting......well.....
@@FinnTheInfinncible I love that you do! I love your messages, and your channel so much too! AA provided you with the kind of guidance that is invaluable, and you put the work in. So glad you have created a fertile foundation for you and your life to grow good things xx
What a great video and share! It was so good to hear you. I too, am in recovery (6.5 yrs) thanks to AA, and I totally identified with so many things from the beginning to the end. Especially having such a good life that it's not worth it for me to test if I can drink like a normal person. I died at the knitting statement, lol. I'll be following you. Thank you for your share!
Ah hello! Welcome to the FinnFam! Thank you for your lovely comment, it's always great to connect with more sober folk! I am pleased to say in 11 years I have gone nowhere near a knitting needle! Thank goodnrss for AA. I went to get help with my drinking and I got a whole new, much happier peaceful life!
Well done for sorting yourself out mate and keep up the good vids
Thank you so.much! I will!
You are a healer,hero,and true earth angel thank the heavens and you for giving so much
What a lovely comment, thank you!
I love this Finn! AA saves lives, mine included. My life went from black and whites to technicolor when I found sobriety! Bless you and all you do.
Ah yes that is exactly the right description! isnt it bloody wonderful! So glad we both found this program! Much love and strength to you!
Finn, i loved this episode! I'm new to your channel (I googled silent retreat) and found you sharing about your experience while on retreat (I'm gearing up for mine)! Anywho, I love your videos, and I loved this one. I'm also in recovery and I found this to be so refreshing, tender, and vulnerable. Thank you so much! And I'm so happy you have a life that you love! Cheers!
Ah hello and welcome to the FinnFam! Thank you so much for your lovely comments, its always wonderful to connect with someone else enjoying the fruits of recovery! Where are you off to on retreat?
You are so inspiring. I feel very fortunate and grateful for finding you. I can relate to a lot of what you have gone thru. You are an excellent speaker and the best that I have found on UA-cam and we are in the same fam. God bless.
What a lovely compliment, thank you so much!
i love the way you talk, very happy for you!
Thanks so.much!
Thankyou mate so very honest - be extremely proud of yourself. From a person that has had a love affair with grog for almost 50 years and still do I constantly pull myself back into it and abstain from it and I can say that is a tough way to live. When I am off it life has so much more meaning and quality to it and there is no arranging things around alcohol- no worrying about being over the limit the next day no guilt and shame about what you said or did. Life becomes freer- stay there my friend . Your mum well am sure she is smiling every day seeing you achieve so much and being happy::: Lee Brisbane Australia
Bless you, yes, I remember that well, a prisoner to alcohol, being obsessed with the next bottle, the fear of being without it, the awful groundhog day over and over again. I dont ever want that back and my heart hurts for anyone going through that, which is why I share so openly, to hopefully help others. Thank you for your lovely comment, sending much love and strength your way and if you every want a chat, my inbox is open
@@FinnTheInfinncible Thanks Finn
I can relate 💯. I too live my life by the 12 steps. I pick up my 18 months key tag tomorrow. And almost 1 yr on T. My gf and I love your videos. Very informational and inspirational.
Oh my friend that is amazing and makes me so happy, congratulations!!!
love this video I tried so many times to drink in moderation but I can't, im looking into AA
Bless you, yes I tried moderation too, but the only way for me, and many of us with addiction issues, is complete abstinence. Do feel free to pop me a message on my website if you ever fancy a chat finlaygames.com
I’m just so happy for you ❤️
Ah how kind! Thank you!
CONGRATS MATE!!!! 9 years is wonderful to hear! I hear you about drinking and it dulling anxiety, that's my guilty escape too... *sigh* I can talk to people, think better, and not have that jabber-jaws of a brain going in my head! Smoked pot, wasn't good. I had to stop. It's still one of those things smelling SO GOOD (alcohol or pot)
...Now I have to look up "spliff"... I just learned "kip" last month! I assume it's drunk... OH! I was way wrong! hehe... I love commenting while watching so you get "real time thoughts" from me lol :D
I can NOT combine pot with alcohol, I vomit, it's Not. Good. At. All.
My worst thing about coming off of alcohol was the INSOMNIA, not too many people mention it, but it's HORRIBLE. I didn't know why I couldn't sleep, but I was using it to help me sleep, and once I stopped, I could NOT sleep! I knew I didn't want to try hypnotics like Ambien or such, so I just took more Benedryl, well, even that didn't work, so after about 3 days, I started drinking again just so I could sleep. It was a nasty cycle! I finally figured out how to work through it though YAY!
Just another side note: one of the guys I talk to just got his 29 year sobriety chip, he's in his 70's, really awesome guy, still goes 3-4 times a week to AA, has sponsees, helps others, and has even helped me learn when is NOT the time to think I need a drink. Best think he ever said to me was "If you don't want to have a drink but you still do." That was my situation in a nutshell! I consider him one of my undercover gems in my life. Sometimes what you need is right there
I love you! Yes, spliff is pot, do you call it a joint? These were my two go to drugs, weed and booze, but I would take anything on offer to be honest, the only thing I didnt do was inject anything, thank goodness. And yes, the insomnia, oh my goodness, it took me at least a year before I could fall asleep withing the first few hours of getting to bed. I was used to passing out, not going to sleep!
29 years is incredible, he sounds like an amazing guy. I have only sponsored one person so far, but they werent ready. It was heartbreaking to watch him go back out there.
Im not as active in AA as I once was. I often feel guilty about that, but its just the way my busy life has evolved. I do think however, that keeping up the meetings helps the quality of sobriety, I notice the difference when I go more regularly
Im always happy to chat buddy, I get it, that wanting to want to stop feeling!
Big love to you!.
@@FinnTheInfinncible Yup, we call it either grass or joints here, or if we're being "really sneaky" call it "herbs" lol (just like basil, cilantro, you get the idea :) and of course booze is sounding almost universal!) I hope you have a wonderful week and weekend, I think tomorrow we're going to the lake (Superior) one of our favorite things to do for an escape from our small town (my boyfriend and I). I know one of these days I'd love to post some videos on my channel, but I always get wrapped up in everyone else's that I forget to! I want to post my lake Superior videos, and my cat being cute =^..^= won't be a big things, not wanting to make it a huge internet thing, just for fun and something to watch! *HUGS*
I love your videos so much, I cant relate to all of the topics, I recovered from about 6 years of self harm and it was an incredibly hard thing to do, i cant imagine what it's like with not only a psychologically addictive thing but a physical as well. I love to hear people's stories and thank you for sharing yours in positivity but also sharing the hard parts. Thank you Finn :)
Bless your heart, thank you so much my dear friend!
Thanks for your inspiration pal, I'm glad to see how well you're doing.
Thanks Tom, lovely to connect with you!
What a powerful video xx
Thanks lovely! I must do an 12 years celebration one!
My dear Finn I’m happy for you! It’s easy to think to have the control of the situation but then anyway it’s easy to find reasons to drink a little bit more or other thing. It’s a thin and hidden danger. It seems you can escape or gain courage and sometimes it’s simply pleasant to do.that. But it)s a cage. You did good and it’s not simply! 👍😘
No, its not easy at all, but, staying sober is still much easier than trying to manage the wreck that was once my life! Thanks so much!
I can so relate to this. I stopped drinking in March 2020 and I came out as trans in 2021. I’ve done so much living in the last 3 years it’s crazy.
I love this! Done so much living is such a lovely thing to read! I'm.so happy for you
So Brave As Always. Congratulations 🎉
Bless you, thank you so.much!
Good for you this was so inspirational!!
Thank you so much!
Congratulations to you and so much respect you have done amazing go you long may it continue you're an inspiration for getting through this and smashing it 👌👏
Bless your heart, thank you so much!
@@FinnTheInfinncible aww you're welcome I love your channel you're awesome 💗
@@FinnTheInfinncible have you ever tried non alcoholic beer etc if so how did you get on with it? If not is there a reason why?
Hiya u x great to see u again and yet again a fab vlog 😊 love love love ur t-shirt, I think I could be a t-shirt thief with all ur really cool tshirts 😜 sending loads and loads of love and hugs xxxx
Hha! You can steal my T shirts anytime! Glad you enjoyed the vlog. Love and hugs to you sweets! xx
Thank you for this
Thanks for watching!
Thanks
Thanks for watching!
Wow - you’re amazing!
Bless you!!!
I get you. ❤️
Thanks for watching!
Love ya Finn congrats man
Ah l love you too! Thank you!!
You are a Finntastic Warrior!!
I love that! Thank you!
The important thing, as always, is "keep going".
Someone who wrote a poem about heroin addiction, from the perspective of the substance, made the statement "for I (heroin) will seduce you and make you my slave". I am sure alcohol can say the same.
The short answer to "just have one drink" is "don't even think about it". If not suggested by anyone else, experts say the "I could just have one" is playing games with yourself to see if you can start and stop again. "There is always a part of you looking for an excuse to drink again".
If you've got this far in abstinence, don't mess it up and don't mess it up. But you know that anyway.
Absolutely yes, I have too much to lose, it is not worth the risk and besides, I love my sober life!
Very articulate
Thanks my friend!
Omg u are the sweetest....about to quit
All the vesy best my friend, hope you have some good support?
No support but looking for it
I don't drink but I'm trying to break an addiction to choc wedges
What on earth are choc wedges?
Ice cream on a stick covered in chocolate buy at supermarket in box of 10 I'm addicted & trying to stop buying them 😬😬😬
@@pipche6283 oh Lord have mercy, I am an absolute food addict and I hate myself for it. I Love chocolate and any kind of pastries for that matter. But just food in general. Don't know how to stop! And I hate myself for it. But I so love food!!
Day 8
Keep on keeping on my friend!
Sober 18 years
Amazing !