31:00 When our relationship ended it felt like he was kicking me to reality, I felt naked. What we had had been a dream but it was also a confortable place, it was like our own little bubble. It was a very confusing experience, hard to believe, hard to process.
This is utterly brilliant. A guided tour into the paracosmic shared fantasy/“compound” of the narcissistic family cult that evolves from the narcissists refusal to grow up… and from the disturbing collusion/shared investment in this folie a familie against the distasteful TRUTH of the toxic dysfunction of all participating members. This talk is ESSENTIAL and LIBERATING listening for all scapegoats of narcissistic family abuse.
I felt disgusted at how much hate I had spewing out for these people and you put it in perspective in ways that are understandable! I have forgiven myself for wishing them karma every day and now I gotta release the energy I have at 5 am still from ptsd
I don't stop watching your videos within the first ten minutes. On the contrary, I watch them from beginning to end, over and over, on repeat. This video I have found particularly helpful; I have watched it four times already. Here, you have provided a detailed explanation for the end of my recent relationship with a narcissist. I was agonizing over the whys and wherefores, how he could have so seamlessly moved from loving to hateful and cast me aside like a soiled tissue. And here is every reason and motivation behind the entire shadowplay of our relationship -- the shared fantasy that he created, where he was father / child and I was child / mother, his Peter Pan mentality, his extreme fear of / desire for intimacy, his need to destroy me. It hurts, but will allow me to move forward. Thanks for all that you do!
It is SO exhausting to be their partner. And they are exhausted living as a Narcissist. Think about how insanely complicated literally every minute of their life is and how they drag you into their sickness. Exhausting.
Simply exhausting. Spent five years with one and when I left he reveals he has cancer. I thought it was so typical because somebody always has cancer in their world for the pity ploy. It was the hardest thing I ever did can I go back at that point. It's all so surreal you feel so sorry for these creatures. But there's nothing you can do for them nothing. And that's where we were exhausted we just kept thinking we could fix this cuz we're the fixers! Yeah not even with duct tape
@@asgharakram yeah I sure wouldn't put money on that one and if it's not them it's always someone close to them. Until you say wow didn't your grandma died 2 years ago? LOL did she die again. It's not funny but they pull out all the stops. And that's where the crazy making goes they want you going down the dark Chute of your mind trying to figure out how to help. Smh
I’ve watched/listened to your lectures almost every day for years but didn’t really understand what you meant by “there is no one there” until today-I finally get it-a fantasy character is like a movie actor who is NOT real. I’m so excited I realized what’s going on! It meant a lot to me-thank you so much Dr. Vaknin
I loved this video from beginning to end. Such a clear explanation. As a child I had my imaginary world too, I was bored out of my mind in school and my school did not recongnize I needed more challenging assignments. So I can understand how that works the same in other situations. The difference with a healthy mind is perhaps that you let go as you grow older and transform to an adult human being.
This world who we live in is a pure crazy horror show. No wonder that people flee in a fantasy space. But brilliant video, exiting like a good holywood movie! (sorry for my english)
This video was astoundingly amazing as they all are. I watch every video all the way through and replay when I’m trying to grasp the concepts. I’ve been with my Covert Cerebral Narcissist bf for 5 years now and am finally tying the loose ends together with this video. He fits about 100% of what you describe here . You answered the avoidance of sex and intimacy that has always perplexed me . I wouldn’t be surprised if he ended up in jail one day with his $ fraud schemes. Can’t believe it hasn’t happened yet. Thank you once again for helping put the pieces together for me when I have always been for the most part a very healthy person growing up with a very loving German Jewish mother who escaped the Nazi regime . . I have wondered about myself how I ended up with such an enigma? Thank you again for helping me strive towards stabilizing my life.
I had to ask my doctor which was his fantasy, the life I lived or his secret life. Almost fell off my chair when he said the life with him I lived. So yes I was his fantasy. Freak is gone now, and gone for good.
Sam thank you for the video. It makes since with a situation I'm going through. I dated a narcissistic for about 3.5 years. He discarded me but future faked me at the same time. He lost his job because he kept calling another female derogatory names to other employees. He has been on and off with the supply he left me for about a year but kept contact with me the whole time. I am being called to testify against him because he is trying to get his job back. He is calling me and begging me not to testify. He also is blaming me for his sugar levels being at dangerous levels because I have to testify. Does he still see me as a mother who is supposed to protect her child and love him unconditionally? Is this triggering bad memories with his mother? Im sure he will be mortified during this process because his true self will be exposed in front of people. I tried to explain to him that it is not my fault I'm being subpoenaed and I am not going to commit purgury. My hope is that he will internally blame himself for putting me in this position. I'm seeking your expertise on how he may view me and if this could lead to collapse. He's 61 years old never married. ASPD with covert Narcissistic features. Thank you!
Bravo! This entire video brought everything from several very deep life long topics to verbal understanding. How you even put these thoughts into actual words is impressively astounding. Thank you so much for this.
Thank you for this video and for many other 🙏 Also I so much enjoy your English and your sense of humour.... 😁 This video just made me think - how come narcissism is a hopeless case and an incurable condition if it is a choice - the prison example... so in a split second a narcissist can switch to a regular and functional human being if the circumstances like prison would not allow for a grandiose personality. But still a narcissist cannot suddenly become empathic because empathy is not a social norm. It is something far beyond that. It is something that allows us to be “good” in the core regardless of circumstances.
Since such a large number of men in jail lack fathers in their lives and grow up in single mother homes, I wonder if narcissism is a result of a fatherless male raised by an incompetent single mother?
"The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be", Socrates. Why can't the narcissist become the false self? Is the process of becoming the false self as we develop in life from childhood what we call " growing up"?
The narcissist and the False Self are one and the same: samvak.tripod.com/faq48.html The False Self is infantile. Watch the vids on this channel before you spew additional nonsensical questions.
I was 4 or 5 when my mother used to physically kick,beat,bite,bang my head for the slightest mistake or according to her not being proper. Every n8ght i would retreat into my imaginary world where i was loved... at 48 yrs old i know what this state means...
Woah, first time im hearing of parachosim in all of my years of suffering this way. As an 12-19 year old i was in an alternitive universe with like 10 friends on the internet- shared fantasy, we were different characters and we would switch between them and made up new ones and killed them and had emotions over them. In college the group fell apart and i began interacting in "reality" that was art college (narcissist heaven) mostly women and queers. I became a nude model there, identified as Asexual, not having a 'sexual' experience as a nude model at college, very professional, i still have no idea what my family thought of that career (narcissistic family system that i was adopted into, ive met my birth mom) otherwise i had given up on reality and basically lived in this alternative universe and my reality was a new city. I learned to drive at 26 after i had married my artist also nude model husband and we moved to the country. I mean ive been trying to organize myself enough to write a book about this experience, thank you for being here to help me put my brain back together. I had a whole family in this alternative universe.
Are we sure they have any choice? I like to call it the perception gap, that it still falls under defense which I will explain in just a moment. I began my deep dive into the Clusters three months ago after being in relationships back to back. 2 years with a diagnosed BPD and 22 months undiagnosed NPD. I had very little knowledge other than the abuse tactics and symptoms as a result. The pieces I don't see coming together if it is a choice. This would have occurred I believe during the child's 5 to 24 month symbiotic separation to individuation. We all have a narcissist for survival purposes to get us past obstacles with a little boost of grandiose false confidence and if that does not do the trick, magical thinking removes the problem. However, whatever happened to the child was ongoing, was relentless, and impossible to bypass. Maybe in addition due to a super sensitive pass down of the 9 temperamental traits from parent at 20% to 60% each. It could have been the symbiotic separation battle itself that forced the baby to call upon the narcissist to assist. I believe it to be a betrayal trauma of some sort that prevents the healthy integration of the internal and external universes and separation to individuation. Betrayal Trauma causes the same PTSD and CPTSD and BPD symptoms but by definition they cant be classified as such, yet the symptoms persist which more than likely is causing cortisol brain atrophied damage. Could be the reason for the psychopaths adult atrophied brain scans of the exact same and the mirror neuron systems responsible for failed automatic empathy. If it takes 18 to 254 days for a person to form a new habit and 66 days for a new behavior to become automatic. Since before the age of 24 months, as month 24 to 36 object constancy is supposed to be learned which they don't.. this defensive system would have become habit and the behavior automatic before the full development of the hippocampus to be able to recall and remember the events but only recalling the fully developed Amygdala's emotional memory, both with possible cortisol damage. To be a choice would mean that the narcissist isn't on autopilot and somehow came into consciousness long enough to make the choice. the conscious comes forth on injury or collapse but all the see is the Amygdala emotional pain. Researchers can predict 7 to 10 seconds what choice people will make before even they themselves are aware of having made a decision when looking at brain activity. When people think they are making a conscious logical decision, chances are that they aren't even aware that they've already made a decision and that it was unconscious. We aren't even aware of our own process. I think the narcissist has a perception gap that requires him to act within the law and how others perceive. Such as his converted from all good to all bad partner. Outside closed doors the narcissist needs to be careful due to how others perceive his partner, the perception gap. He can only dole out damage in accordance to the publics perception. So he will recruit followers to have them convinced and join his perception of his partner as all bad. The more the perception gap closes the more damage that can be done especially the sadistic sort and public humiliation. They need to keep up appearance and ensure they are not seen as anything except perfect and all good.. he's over his head in prison and knows he needs to be very careful not to be put into a position he could be made to be all bad and not be able to manipulate his way out of it. The narcissist doesn't enter the conscious world long enough to establish conscious choices and decisions. His conscious pain conceded to the grandiose magical defense system of the narcissist and made into habit then behavior fully automated before the ability to remember anything but only the emotional trauma form which it defends and when facing injury or collapse... in my humble opinion. Im probably missing something The narcissist was unconscious before remembered events and the true self disappeared prior to the ability to remember actual events. That means the only conscious memory for that being, is the Amygdala's emotional memory. They have no concept of the real world other than emotional memory that has no picture or language for it.
This is exactly what I am saying NO !! ITS NOT I'm wanting the sick part and he has only a sick part .if they can be a pussie cat in prison how is that any different than the years of perfect behavior before the ' supposed ' mask falls ? Why cant they choose to stay that why outside as well ?
Excellent interpretation, thank you professor, makes me feeling bad, had no explanations of behaviors I saw. Worst was seeing BD female switching after having alcohol.
Its not 100% the Narcissist's fault. If a person is trying to get you to fall in love with them, they will feed your fantasy and pretend to fit right in. Sometime's the fantasy falls apart because the other person stops pretending.
"The more limited a man’s field of consciousness is, the more numerous the psychic contents (imagos) which meet him as quasi-external apparitions, either in the form of spirits, or as magical potencies projected upon living people" I know you're not a fan of Jung's theories on the collective unconscious :') but are shared fantasies and magical thinking products of an inability to regard objects as an image of the subjective relation to the object?
Watch my next vid in a few minutes. I am a huge fan of Jung - with the exception of his psychotic esoteric ramblings. Watch the vid on Freud vs. Jung, where I agree with Jung.
Sam, if there is no self in a narcissist other than the false self, how can he chooses not be his false self while in jail? Can you give a little more detail on this choice issue? Do you mean he chooses not to use narcissistic abuse in jail which I can understand. Or do you mean he suppresses his false self, if so what self is he living while in jail?
I was attracted by this personality upon first encounter in my whole life. I think that was a sexless attraction though. I am curious of what this attraction reflects on me.
Sam 52:18 When I was still addicted to drugs and alcohol, I lived in the Netherlands, when I went to France for 7 weeks, my addiction was gone until I came back to the Netherlands.
Sometimes knowing the "WHYs" is enough to begin healing. Your videos are answers to whys. Thank you Sir.
31:00 When our relationship ended it felt like he was kicking me to reality, I felt naked. What we had had been a dream but it was also a confortable place, it was like our own little bubble. It was a very confusing experience, hard to believe, hard to process.
This is utterly brilliant. A guided tour into the paracosmic shared fantasy/“compound” of the narcissistic family cult that evolves from the narcissists refusal to grow up… and from the disturbing collusion/shared investment in this folie a familie against the distasteful TRUTH of the toxic dysfunction of all participating members. This talk is ESSENTIAL and LIBERATING listening for all scapegoats of narcissistic family abuse.
I felt disgusted at how much hate I had spewing out for these people and you put it in perspective in ways that are understandable! I have forgiven myself for wishing them karma every day and now I gotta release the energy I have at 5 am still from ptsd
I don't stop watching your videos within the first ten minutes. On the contrary, I watch them from beginning to end, over and over, on repeat. This video I have found particularly helpful; I have watched it four times already. Here, you have provided a detailed explanation for the end of my recent relationship with a narcissist. I was agonizing over the whys and wherefores, how he could have so seamlessly moved from loving to hateful and cast me aside like a soiled tissue. And here is every reason and motivation behind the entire shadowplay of our relationship -- the shared fantasy that he created, where he was father / child and I was child / mother, his Peter Pan mentality, his extreme fear of / desire for intimacy, his need to destroy me. It hurts, but will allow me to move forward. Thanks for all that you do!
Yes unfortunately woman with Wendy syndrome (emotionally codependent etc ) keep attracting guys with Peter Pan syndrome
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It is SO exhausting to be their partner. And they are exhausted living as a Narcissist. Think about how insanely complicated literally every minute of their life is and how they drag you into their sickness. Exhausting.
Simply exhausting. Spent five years with one and when I left he reveals he has cancer. I thought it was so typical because somebody always has cancer in their world for the pity ploy. It was the hardest thing I ever did can I go back at that point. It's all so surreal you feel so sorry for these creatures. But there's nothing you can do for them nothing. And that's where we were exhausted we just kept thinking we could fix this cuz we're the fixers! Yeah not even with duct tape
You're subbed to fabulous 50 LOL so am I I love it! Seems we are both fit and Fabulous and done with narcissists... one excellent start
@@crazyflatlady1816 mine claims he has a health issue upon leaving idk if true or not
@@asgharakram yeah I sure wouldn't put money on that one and if it's not them it's always someone close to them. Until you say wow didn't your grandma died 2 years ago? LOL did she die again. It's not funny but they pull out all the stops. And that's where the crazy making goes they want you going down the dark Chute of your mind trying to figure out how to help. Smh
You’re so handsome.
I’ve watched/listened to your lectures almost every day for years but didn’t really understand what you meant by “there is no one there” until today-I finally get it-a fantasy character is like a movie actor who is NOT real. I’m so excited I realized what’s going on! It meant a lot to me-thank you so much Dr. Vaknin
Now it all starts to make more sense!!
Many thanks to you, Sir! My healing started only when I started to watch your videos. Psychotherapy was just a band aid.
Same here
I loved this video from beginning to end. Such a clear explanation. As a child I had my imaginary world too, I was bored out of my mind in school and my school did not recongnize I needed more challenging assignments. So I can understand how that works the same in other situations. The difference with a healthy mind is perhaps that you let go as you grow older and transform to an adult human being.
Thank you for reminding what happens to a narcissist in childhood and imaginary friends and what happens
😊 Sam...."You are magnificent and I am Proud Twice and doing very well! Two weak moments. TU for being you and sharing!" ONWARD! Diane
This world who we live in is a pure crazy horror show. No wonder that people flee in a fantasy space. But brilliant video, exiting like a good holywood movie! (sorry for my english)
This video was astoundingly amazing as they all are. I watch every video all the way through and replay when I’m trying to grasp the concepts. I’ve been with my Covert Cerebral Narcissist bf for 5 years now and am finally tying the loose ends together with this video. He fits about 100% of what you describe here . You answered the avoidance of sex and intimacy that has always perplexed me . I wouldn’t be surprised if he ended up in jail one day with his $ fraud schemes. Can’t believe it hasn’t happened yet. Thank you once again for helping put the pieces together for me when I have always been for the most part a very healthy person growing up with a very loving German Jewish mother who escaped the Nazi regime . . I have wondered about myself how I ended up with such an enigma? Thank you again for helping me strive towards stabilizing my life.
I had to ask my doctor which was his fantasy, the life I lived or his secret life. Almost fell off my chair when he said the life with him I lived. So yes I was his fantasy. Freak is gone now, and gone for good.
Sam thank you for the video. It makes since with a situation I'm going through. I dated a narcissistic for about 3.5 years. He discarded me but future faked me at the same time. He lost his job because he kept calling another female derogatory names to other employees. He has been on and off with the supply he left me for about a year but kept contact with me the whole time. I am being called to testify against him because he is trying to get his job back. He is calling me and begging me not to testify. He also is blaming me for his sugar levels being at dangerous levels because I have to testify. Does he still see me as a mother who is supposed to protect her child and love him unconditionally? Is this triggering bad memories with his mother? Im sure he will be mortified during this process because his true self will be exposed in front of people. I tried to explain to him that it is not my fault I'm being subpoenaed and I am not going to commit purgury. My hope is that he will internally blame himself for putting me in this position. I'm seeking your expertise on how he may view me and if this could lead to collapse. He's 61 years old never married. ASPD with covert Narcissistic features. Thank you!
@@bodnarova05 and where did she say she was staying/stayed with the freak at any point? Moron.
Did you file a complaint about him to his work? I hope so, what he said to you is totally inappropriate.
Bravo! This entire video brought everything from several very deep life long topics to verbal understanding. How you even put these thoughts into actual words is impressively astounding. Thank you so much for this.
paracosm, i have been living here for 30years and now i know what the place is called.
It’s hard to see the narcissist without makeup, a clown rarely doesn’t have a costume
Excellent video, a must to watch through to the conclusion.
Salvaged, not sabotaged. Thank you .
I cant get enough of your info! Amazing!. I have to watch every video ALL the way through.
😁😀
Crazy inspirational! Thank you for the enlightenment!
Thank you for this video and for many other 🙏 Also I so much enjoy your English and your sense of humour.... 😁
This video just made me think - how come narcissism is a hopeless case and an incurable condition if it is a choice - the prison example... so in a split second a narcissist can switch to a regular and functional human being if the circumstances like prison would not allow for a grandiose personality. But still a narcissist cannot suddenly become empathic because empathy is not a social norm. It is something far beyond that. It is something that allows us to be “good” in the core regardless of circumstances.
I also wonder how can narcissist “leave” his affliction outside of prison’s gate if he is does not have a healthy part in him/her?
Live listening to you Sam.
Since such a large number of men in jail lack fathers in their lives and grow up in single mother homes, I wonder if narcissism is a result of a fatherless male raised by an incompetent single mother?
Jailbirds are mostly psychopaths, not narcissists.
"The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be", Socrates.
Why can't the narcissist become the false self? Is the process of becoming the false self as we develop in life from childhood what we call " growing up"?
The narcissist and the False Self are one and the same: samvak.tripod.com/faq48.html The False Self is infantile. Watch the vids on this channel before you spew additional nonsensical questions.
Will do, thank you
I was 4 or 5 when my mother used to physically kick,beat,bite,bang my head for the slightest mistake or according to her not being proper. Every n8ght i would retreat into my imaginary world where i was loved... at 48 yrs old i know what this state means...
Thank you wise man 😊
Woah, first time im hearing of parachosim in all of my years of suffering this way. As an 12-19 year old i was in an alternitive universe with like 10 friends on the internet- shared fantasy, we were different characters and we would switch between them and made up new ones and killed them and had emotions over them. In college the group fell apart and i began interacting in "reality" that was art college (narcissist heaven) mostly women and queers. I became a nude model there, identified as Asexual, not having a 'sexual' experience as a nude model at college, very professional, i still have no idea what my family thought of that career (narcissistic family system that i was adopted into, ive met my birth mom) otherwise i had given up on reality and basically lived in this alternative universe and my reality was a new city. I learned to drive at 26 after i had married my artist also nude model husband and we moved to the country. I mean ive been trying to organize myself enough to write a book about this experience, thank you for being here to help me put my brain back together. I had a whole family in this alternative universe.
Are we sure they have any choice? I like to call it the perception gap, that it still falls under defense which I will explain in just a moment. I began my deep dive into the Clusters three months ago after being in relationships back to back. 2 years with a diagnosed BPD and 22 months undiagnosed NPD. I had very little knowledge other than the abuse tactics and symptoms as a result. The pieces I don't see coming together if it is a choice. This would have occurred I believe during the child's 5 to 24 month symbiotic separation to individuation. We all have a narcissist for survival purposes to get us past obstacles with a little boost of grandiose false confidence and if that does not do the trick, magical thinking removes the problem. However, whatever happened to the child was ongoing, was relentless, and impossible to bypass. Maybe in addition due to a super sensitive pass down of the 9 temperamental traits from parent at 20% to 60% each. It could have been the symbiotic separation battle itself that forced the baby to call upon the narcissist to assist. I believe it to be a betrayal trauma of some sort that prevents the healthy integration of the internal and external universes and separation to individuation. Betrayal Trauma causes the same PTSD and CPTSD and BPD symptoms but by definition they cant be classified as such, yet the symptoms persist which more than likely is causing cortisol brain atrophied damage. Could be the reason for the psychopaths adult atrophied brain scans of the exact same and the mirror neuron systems responsible for failed automatic empathy.
If it takes 18 to 254 days for a person to form a new habit and 66 days for a new behavior to become automatic. Since before the age of 24 months, as month 24 to 36 object constancy is supposed to be learned which they don't.. this defensive system would have become habit and the behavior automatic before the full development of the hippocampus to be able to recall and remember the events but only recalling the fully developed Amygdala's emotional memory, both with possible cortisol damage.
To be a choice would mean that the narcissist isn't on autopilot and somehow came into consciousness long enough to make the choice. the conscious comes forth on injury or collapse but all the see is the Amygdala emotional pain. Researchers can predict 7 to 10 seconds what choice people will make before even they themselves are aware of having made a decision when looking at brain activity. When people think they are making a conscious logical decision, chances are that they aren't even aware that they've already made a decision and that it was unconscious. We aren't even aware of our own process.
I think the narcissist has a perception gap that requires him to act within the law and how others perceive. Such as his converted from all good to all bad partner. Outside closed doors the narcissist needs to be careful due to how others perceive his partner, the perception gap. He can only dole out damage in accordance to the publics perception. So he will recruit followers to have them convinced and join his perception of his partner as all bad. The more the perception gap closes the more damage that can be done especially the sadistic sort and public humiliation. They need to keep up appearance and ensure they are not seen as anything except perfect and all good.. he's over his head in prison and knows he needs to be very careful not to be put into a position he could be made to be all bad and not be able to manipulate his way out of it.
The narcissist doesn't enter the conscious world long enough to establish conscious choices and decisions. His conscious pain conceded to the grandiose magical defense system of the narcissist and made into habit then behavior fully automated before the ability to remember anything but only the emotional trauma form which it defends and when facing injury or collapse... in my humble opinion. Im probably missing something
The narcissist was unconscious before remembered events and the true self disappeared prior to the ability to remember actual events. That means the only conscious memory for that being, is the Amygdala's emotional memory.
They have no concept of the real world other than emotional memory that has no picture or language for it.
Two thumbs up 👍 👍
I really enjoy videos reminds me of my days in psy classes.
This is exactly what I am saying NO !! ITS NOT I'm wanting the sick part and he has only a sick part .if they can be a pussie cat in prison how is that any different than the years of perfect behavior before the ' supposed ' mask falls ?
Why cant they choose to stay that why outside as well ?
They are very cunning idiots.....they know they have to behave in a prison setting or they will be in big trouble.
Cowards!
Excellent interpretation, thank you professor, makes me feeling bad, had no explanations of behaviors I saw. Worst was seeing BD female switching after having alcohol.
Do we know why some children have the capacity to create a rich paracosm while others cannot? It seems like a great sanctuary in a harsh world.
Its not 100% the Narcissist's fault. If a person is trying to get you to fall in love with them, they will feed your fantasy and pretend to fit right in. Sometime's the fantasy falls apart because the other person stops pretending.
"The more limited a man’s field of consciousness is, the more numerous the psychic contents (imagos) which meet him as quasi-external apparitions, either in the form of spirits, or as magical potencies projected upon living people"
I know you're not a fan of Jung's theories on the collective unconscious :') but are shared fantasies and magical thinking products of an inability to regard objects as an image of the subjective relation to the object?
Watch my next vid in a few minutes. I am a huge fan of Jung - with the exception of his psychotic esoteric ramblings. Watch the vid on Freud vs. Jung, where I agree with Jung.
@@samvaknin will do. Highly appreciate your insights but must disagree with you. The Red Book is the best self written fan fiction of all time😂
@@megankate4722 True dat.
Sam, if there is no self in a narcissist other than the false self, how can he chooses not be his false self while in jail? Can you give a little more detail on this choice issue? Do you mean he chooses not to use narcissistic abuse in jail which I can understand. Or do you mean he suppresses his false self, if so what self is he living while in jail?
He modifies his behavior. Not only in prison, but in therapy and when confronted with threats.
@@samvaknin thank you ... so now I get it more... modification is not healing then?...
Thank you.
Omggg my ex even name his world, it's called n......world of possibilities.....this is making so much sense.
Sam, what are your thoughts on fantasy novels?
Not my cup of tea, but nourishing to some.
Do any of these points and views hold true for covert narcissists? I have exact experiences with coverts alone.
Yes, all these apply to covert narcissists as well.
@@samvaknin thank you.
Sam is in my fantasies ❤
The choice thing at the end of the video confused me..
Thank you
I was attracted by this personality upon first encounter in my whole life. I think that was a sexless attraction though. I am curious of what this attraction reflects on me.
If the narcissist is female do the gender roles switch?
Yes.
Sam 52:18 When I was still addicted to drugs and alcohol, I lived in the Netherlands, when I went to France for 7 weeks, my addiction was gone until I came back to the Netherlands.
Sam bin vaknin 😂😂😂😂😂
The truth really hurts. But I thank you.