1. Self worth audit. 2. Anchor yourself in a growth mindset. 3. Reframe the loneliness. 4. Take the occasion to actually define your needs. 5. Forgive and flourish. 6. Was this happiness or was this just comfort in familiarity? 7. Develop future oriented goals.
A lot of men have no true understanding of the Bible when it comes to their sex life. They think the men of Israel were celibate and had to wait for marriage. Men and women aren’t the same and there were no modern pagan marriage ceremonies back in the time of ancient civilization. Men had multiple wives, they had sex to initiate marriage. They weren’t doing any of what the modern society teaches today. It’s totally backwards, everything is from back then.
Great video! Unfortunately, my 2 year relationship ended a month ago. The person I believed was the love of my life chose to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. No matter what I do, I can’t stop thinking about him. Despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. He’s always on my mind, and I miss him more than words can express.
A SELF WORTH AFFIRMATION “MY SELF WORTH IS NOT DEFINED BY MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS, I AM A VALUABLE AND COMPLETE PERSON ON MY OWN.. MY HAPPINESS AND SENSE OF SELF COMES FROM WITHIN ME AND NOT SOMEONE ELSE”
That forgiveness is where I get stuck because even with friends I feel if you forgive them they got to be in your space to see it when I don't want no parts of being in their presence even church but I don't do hateful things like roll my eyes and spit on them or want to fight. I just stay out from round them and that's a problem
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Thank you for addressing loneliness. I'm traveling and going to concerts alone rather than being bunched up with friends. I enjoy alone time during my hard, lonesome time. I'm also focusing on starting some businesses.
The most important is not to blame yourself. It is a long process of healing. But its essential that you move away from the guy and stay away. I made the mistake of trying to come back several times. Its like rubbing salt on a wound.
Don't be hard on yourself. It is very difficult. Your self-love and self-worth trumps all. Remember you are # 1. Once you affirm your self-worth, you'll feel so good. Won't need validation , only for/from yourself. Good luck sweetie....
SAME!! I reflect on the deadend relationship and ask myself what am I really holding on to? There was nothing really great going on, no memorable experiences or events. It's embarrassing to even think about.
I start the detachment process long before I physically walk away! It's a very effective self - love tool I taught myself when I decided to leave a marriage to an abusive narcissist years ago. I never looked back! Ladies, know your worth! ❤
I’m so Grateful I’ve been delivered from such an abusive, narcissistic marriage. When I reflect, I go into a Hallelujah shout! Look what great thing GOD has done for me! My Xhusband was undeserving of me.
I wasn't married, but I was in a 5-year relationship with a liar, cheater, and narcissist. He cheated with two other women. He betrayed me and hurt me. I feel pain, yall. With the help of my heavenly father, I know that I will make it through. Keep me in your prayers.
I’ve learned to look at the benefits of singleness. There’s so much peace in singleness and I’m enjoying the benefit of learning about me and working on me. I had already began seeing my accomplishments as a connection to my self esteem. I’ve accomplished so much. But, the Lord has given me new goals. He showed me that if I focus on my goals, I don’t have time for TV, less known a relationship.
I have detached already or else i would have gone insane and go into mental health facility....i am going to listen to this episode to learn more......
I can't wait. I am going a time of letting go. He almost killed me. I have to let the love go and move on. I miss him but I have to remember that he is my enemy.
Wow you sound like me missing someone who was cruel to me .we have empathy even when hurt but we can't waste it on people who want to destroy us and thus no one can be helped by us caring healers of the world 😢we must go no contact
I wasn't married to my ex but I spent 12 years of my life with a selfish human being OMG .As much As I love him and care ..I just walked away I was definitely tired of all his foolish stuff..I don't get even...I just let him set right there and feel his pain forever...I'm not going back...Im not mad, I'm just done...I need healing and deliverance frm God....I'm working on me now
I am still dealing with total detachment from an ex. I don’t understand why I’m still mentally attached to this guy. It really sucks 😢💔 His mission was accomplished. Help me Lord 🙏🏽
I bought the book. I cried and tossed and turned all night last night. Begging God to take away the pain, the feelings of low self-worth, to take away the thoughts of what if, to forget the man ever existed in my life. And then I decided to fast and only watch Christian videos. This popped up on my feed as soon as I got to UA-cam. I needed to hear this, so that I can stop being a victim and find divine opportunities through this break up. It sucks because he used God and religion to manipulate me into being with him and staying with him for far too long--only to turn out to be a lying, deceiving, womanizer. My healing and deliverance is mine!
1) Self-worth audit. Take inventory of your self-esteem levels. 2) Anchor yourself to a growth mindset; reset your thoughts. 'What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.' Be strengthened in your 'new normal.' Romans 8:28 3) Reframe the lonliness. Learn about yourself and your own interests during this period. It (lonliness) may be a Divine opportunity for growth. Mark 1:35, Deut 31:6 Embrace solitude. 4) Take the occasion to define your needs in your relationships. Establish and enforce boundaries. Proverbs 4:23 5) Forgive and flourish. Let it go. It will free up space in your soul emotionally. Colossians 3:13 6) Ask yourself "Was this happiness or familiarity?" Familiarity can be comforting confusion. Jerimiah 29:11 7) Develop 'future' oriented goals for yourself. Where are you going? Envision a positive scenario for yourself. I've enjoyed this session of teaching. Thank you, Bishop!
The Holy Grail "self closure" to the end of a heartbreaking elationship. Especially, when you're still in-love with him or her. I await this one....patiently. Pastor Blakes speaks with such profound, priceless and valuable wisdom and he speaks in truth! 👑♥️🙏🏾
#1. Do a self worth audit. --Take inventory of your self esteem bank. #2. Anchor yourself to a growth mindset. --Shift from Lost love to Learning from the experience. #3. Reframe the loneliness. --Accept loneliness and attend to the values that make you more of who you truly are. #4. Take the occasion to Define your Needs. --What do you really need from a relationship? #5. Forgive and Flourish (let go) -- Let go of those things which you can not change. #6. Ask yourself; Was this Happiness? Or Was this only Comfort in familiarity? --Differentiate between the fear of the unknown And What is best for your emotional well being. #7. Develop future oriented Goals --What are your Ambitions and Dreams?
PASTOR BLAKES YOU HAVE TRULY BEEN A BLESSING TO THE WHOLE WORLD THESE TEACHINGS HAVE HELPED SAVED MY LIFE AND HEALED PARTS OF MY LIFE AND IM GETTING STRONGER AND BETTER EACH DAY LOVE YOU AND THE FIRST LADY SO MUCH SEE YOU AT THE TOP
It is sad to discover that such warped personalities do exist in an otherwise beautifully created world. But, it is what it is! As a former Aviator, one learns to control what is within one’s sphere of competence to control: SELF!!! As one who has endured the abuse of an extremely toxic marriage replete with all the classic components of a narcissistic spouse, I made the decision one night to detach and move on. It was painful after 32 years of marriage. I have grasped my new reality with tightly clenched fists and living freer, lighter and more purposeful. I did it, so can you!!! May you have clarity of thought as you decide your way forward. Blessings!
I used to think I was a person who could easily detach from toxic relationships and look forward. I learned so much about myself these last few years, particularly due to narcissists in my life and being more alone with myself. Now my relationship with God has grown even closer and I learned I have so much to learn about my mental/emotional growth. It's very humbling, yet I am grateful and look forward to waking up to His lovely lessons every day. So, thank you, R.C. and Lisa. Because you're two of those who provide those lessons❣️
I love the illustration of the person looking at the wreck in the rearview mirror and driving forward as a reminder of how we are supposed to view our dead relationships. ❤
This is uncanny. That you should speak on this subject tonight of all nights! I am literally going out of my mind at this very moment, having broken my “no contact” and now having to deal with the fact that I am back in the same situation ship. I am having such a difficult time letting go of him. Even while I know it’s not good for me, I made contact with him again. I need help to detach once and for all
story of my life 😢 Soul ties are truly demonic.. It's just crazy how You know someone is not good for you but you can't let them go. May God help us to detach... coz it's not easy. Holy spirit please take control and set us free. 🙏
They lose whatever respect they have left for you every time you go back to them. When you don't establish and MAINTAIN boundaries they view you as a SUCKER TO BE USED.
Ladies we have to GO THROUGH THE PAIN .. Sit in it and it will pass .. I’m not 100% there but that hard part is over and it was very bad for me going through it .. Never thought it would end and it’s only been 1 year .. But I SAT in my pain … not easy but keep fighting please 🙏🏾 . No social media, I moved, or if you can’t move change your routine.. UA-cam learning about what I went through and my bible helped me tremendously
Pastor Blake, may our GOD continue to bless you, your family, and your ministries. I live 500 plus miles away from you; however, your ministry has blessed me as if you're were a local pastor in my area. Your teachings have awakened my spirit to stop taking accountability for the negative behaviors of others who have abandoned, disrespected, and rejected me. Their behavior was not a reflection of me but their true character and warnings. This man was not sent by my GOD. GOD bless you, and thank you.
The hardest thing for me to move on mentally is trying to figure out what went wrong after this man promised to love me and my boys from the very beginning, and then two years later decided it was too much of a sacrifice to be all in committed with a marriage and walked away. The mental confusion torments me of why he walked away after saying what he said, investing the time he spent and love he claimed he had..
Now that scares the crap out of me so I just don't get to close. Sad either way. Grounding and sniffing frankincense oil are 2 things that help keep emotions balanced. Maybe it can help you. Take care and hope you feel better
You spoke to me. No, you ministered to me. I stand corrected. I yield to the Holy Spirit. Thank you for the hard truth. I don't always like what you say, but I ALWAYS love the message you give. I received it. Thank you.
Greetings everyone, I just want to add my heartfelt thanks to pastor Blake's and his dear wife. Their message has been a lifeline and a game changer for me these past four years. I've only now been able to be on this platform waiting for my first live. Praise be to God!
GOD have taught me so good on how to detach from people. Sometimes I forget I have children. Some men’s will walk up to me and ask me how I am doing. I say who are you. We were classmates in high school. We dated I will say old ok. My ex-husband spoke to me one day I said who are you. He said I’m your ex-husband. I said sorry 0:00. GOD is the only one no matter how I try to detach myself I can’t
You know Pastor I have physically detached but it is so true about the mental aspects. I'm working on myself mentally. To be truthful, I dont know if I will ever trust anyone again. I dont think about anything good with him...because he treated me bad...but Im taking time to deal with myself. I'm done with men. I think its a fear of failure. Thanks for this word. I'm work on myself. I'm get back in my word. I know what to do...going down the wrong path takes so much from u....love u Pastor Blake's and First Lady Lisa.
It took me years to let go of my ex husband after our divorce, i had given him 20 years of my life with 3 children and I step daughter..I honestly didn't c it coming...Yes he did end up marrying another woman..it tore me apart mentally and emotionally...One thing he did ask of me before leaving out the door(That I would forgive him,it took awhile for me to forgive him but i did after 3 or 4 years but it still bother me everytime i seen him with someone else..so thank you Pastor Blakes for speaking on this subject 😇😇😇😇
Wow!! I’m incredibly grateful RC Pastor Blake’s is dropping this video as the previous one on ‘Signs That A Man Is Grooming A Woman’ (limbo relationships as how it’s demonic) spoke exactly to my situation. I need to leave asap and begin mentally detaching ASAP. Thank you RC Blake’s for allowing The Holy Spirit to work through you, you are truly doing God’s work here 🙏🏾❤️
I struggled with a dead relationship for many years. I was in love with the thought of the relationship. I kept waiting for him to want to love me the way I wanted to be loved. When I finally accepted the fact that he will never change & will never love me the way I want to be loved, I became able to walk away from the relationship & never look back. I hope this helps someone.
Unhealthy soul tie is ruminating , rehashing, hilding on to personal items, replaying memories, replaying emotional memories, not moving on, isolating, etc etc. I have been asking the Lord to help me heal so i am not in bondage. I took on excessive responsibility when i never should of came to the rescue , and treated him like king. It was such a toxic , abusive relationship. I didnt even know how much i abandoned myself and lost myself and 2 years ago he died from an overdose. Its still teking time to detach and let him go because of rhe trauma bonding and coedepdndency. Im learning to live myself and trust myself and place God first. It does take a while to heal. I finislly am totally focused on my self care and allowing holy spirit to heal my heart.
It takes a strong woman to choose better for yourself instead of remaining in a bad situation. I am so proud of you! You're story is soo victorious, and encouraging. Continue to stay strong and let God use you
Thank you from the heart, your teachings on relationships truly saved my life, and I am sure many others could not express in words how life-changing your teachings are, I think only when you stand before Jesus will He show you what you did and how you literally changed lives and prevented deaths in all its forms of many God's daughters. Thank you and Lisa.
Today I rededicated my life to god. He is in control I have been trying to write a story that already written and making a mess out of my life. Holding to relationships that have been over and living in fear of my god giving talents. Today I lay it at the feet of the father
Hi Pastor. This was wonderful. I loved how you used a variety of scenarios and how each woman handled her new life without her partner. I also appreciated your acknowledgement of the mental fallout of a bad situation and the stronghold it can create.
I was guilty of settling for my Xhusband but no longer. What was meant to destroy me, I ran to GOD and He delivered me. I would not be healed and have learned lessons from this marriage if GOD had not been here helped me. I forgave him. And I choose to walk in forgiveness and love daily. Thank GOD for JESUS who redeemed me and can do the same for you.
I am looking forward to this sir blakes! I try really hard to move on and stay busy, but cannot seem to escape at nighttime. i am having nightmares all the time nowadays😢 You always give me hope and perspective. Thank you in advance!! ❤
I m not ruminating anymore, and I know I made the right choise. What baffles me, îs that he had everything, and basically said no, after he told me I m his soul mate
Many of us try to fill The space The Holy Spirit should inhibit with a human. We won't be as lonely if we allow the Holy Spirit to have his way with us. It took me over 40 years to realize that.
Amen. I just detached 2 weeks ago and decided to dive deeply in God's spoken word. Now I find myself every time looking forward and can't wait to spend intimate time with my King Jesus. It's been hard but Jesus has given me strength through the Presence of His awareness to be comforted by His helper the "Holy Spirit"!
This is a very serious conversation that I appreciate Pastor so much but I had to pause this video and laugh when you were talking about smelling the shirt with the Creed❤. You really bless us because you help us break this down into real life situations that really occur. Thank you
Thank you for teaching all these things that are essential to protecting our dignity and equipping us with the information needed to navigate through all that lie ahead as it relates to choosing the right spouse
Block him everywhere. But before tell him! Im not your hotel! The Lord is already helping you sister. You are here. Be strong. Life continues. It really does. Ive been through the end of an engagement. Almost died from illness last year. Im alive. Hallelujah ❤❤❤
Every morning I go onto UA-cam and before I do I ask “what do I need to learn today?” The crazy thing is whether it’s your videos or another video. It’s always exactly what I needed to hear. I just got back from a weekend trip to see my friends out of state. My ex was there as well that I was with for four years. I have done so much work to break the soul ties and rebuild myself after that relationship. Although I think the trip was good because it resolidified that I had made the right decision to end it because he was still the same person when I saw him this time that he was when I left , but I still found myself thinking about the good times although they were very few and far between. This video popped up in the algorithm today when I was thinking that I needed to do more work on disconnecting myself from that past. Thank you for everything you do! Your words of wisdom have helped me through this year of rebuilding myself again and continue to help me as I walk through the changes I am making to better who I’m as a woman, a queen, and allowing me to be the wife I will be when I find that king who is out there for me.
Slowly pulling myself out of the rubble that I had placed myself in God is restoring me may God keep giving me the strength to keep moving forward and not look back thank you sir I appreciate you🙏🗣️👂💯🩸✔️🪔🌹
I need to put this into practice and change my life. Giving glory to God for your teachings. Thank you for sharing your gifts and talents with the world. May you and yours be blessed. 🙏🏾🙏🏾♥️🙏🏾🙏🏾
Amen Pastor! 👋🏾🙏🏿♥️ Being alone does not equal loneliness if you are living a fulfilling life and maintaining positive connections with family, friends & community.
This was a helpful and informative message providing the tools to see oneself in moving out and from under this type of crippling issue many of us have experienced. 😌
Thanks very much for this powerful message!! I so needed to hear this to help me to mentally detach. I have been in a really bad state and at my lowest, not recognizing why I have not been able to let go of this toxic relationship I have been in for the last 3 years. I took so many notes and will be reflecting on it and free myself from this relationship, trusting that God's best is still available for me. God Bless You!!
I'm on the process of healing and I'm so greatful that Knowing who I am in Christ helps me to keep moving forward to pursue my purpose God has plans for me.. ❤❤
Day 5 am going to listen to this everyday until it doesn't matter anymore. #5 Mind over matter and move on and Flourish Thank you Pastor RC Blake's Jr ❤
1. Self worth audit.
2. Anchor yourself in a growth mindset.
3. Reframe the loneliness.
4. Take the occasion to actually define your needs.
5. Forgive and flourish.
6. Was this happiness or was this just comfort in familiarity?
7. Develop future oriented goals.
Thank you 🏆
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Thank you Pastor Blakes for the confirmation. God actually guided me through this process!!!
God bless you more coach rcblakes jr
Thank you. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
LADIES „ be more in love with your future, than with your past” 🌺💐🌸
Very well said...hit my heart gently with colored flowered arrows !
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I needed to hear this.
Thanks~
Easy said for saying try saying I'm here for the hurting one I pray strength for you God did it for ME....❤❤❤
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Looooove this 💕💕💕
The sound of loneliness is silence and in silence we can hear God the best.
Amen 😂
Amen❤
"Don't look back, you're not going that way."
A lot of men have no true understanding of the Bible when it comes to their sex life. They think the men of Israel were celibate and had to wait for marriage. Men and women aren’t the same and there were no modern pagan marriage ceremonies back in the time of ancient civilization. Men had multiple wives, they had sex to initiate marriage. They weren’t doing any of what the modern society teaches today. It’s totally backwards, everything is from back then.
This type of breakup is a blessing IF we choose to see it.
Great video! Unfortunately, my 2 year relationship ended a month ago. The person I believed was the love of my life chose to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. No matter what I do, I can’t stop thinking about him. Despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. He’s always on my mind, and I miss him more than words can express.
Wow, that’s amazing! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him?
Thank you so much for the suggestion; it means more to me than you know.
A SELF WORTH AFFIRMATION “MY SELF WORTH IS NOT DEFINED BY MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS, I AM A VALUABLE AND COMPLETE PERSON ON MY OWN.. MY HAPPINESS AND SENSE OF SELF COMES FROM WITHIN ME AND NOT SOMEONE ELSE”
🫶🏾Yes🙏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽
@jbreezecoleman I bought a Pendant with a similar Affirmation, it says All I Need is Withhn Me
Amen
Amen
That forgiveness is where I get stuck because even with friends I feel if you forgive them they got to be in your space to see it when I don't want no parts of being in their presence even church but I don't do hateful things like roll my eyes and spit on them or want to fight. I just stay out from round them and that's a problem
I watched a video by you about 6 years ago and was able to leave my toxic abusive ex.
Amen hallelujah 🙌🏽 🙏🏽 👏🏽 🤗
Do you remember the name of the video?
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Amen!!!
Good for you! 👍🏾
Solitude is a divine opportunity for growth!
Thank you for addressing loneliness. I'm traveling and going to concerts alone rather than being bunched up with friends. I enjoy alone time during my hard, lonesome time. I'm also focusing on starting some businesses.
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I don’t even know why I was still fighting for a dead relationship, I didn’t even have any good memory to hold onto in that relationship .
The most important is not to blame yourself. It is a long process of healing. But its essential that you move away from the guy and stay away. I made the mistake of trying to come back several times. Its like rubbing salt on a wound.
Same here I just want to let go it's so hard don't have the strength yet
@@MartineMombrun it takes time. Be kind to yourself
Don't be hard on yourself. It is very difficult. Your self-love and self-worth trumps all. Remember you are # 1. Once you affirm your self-worth, you'll feel so good. Won't need validation , only for/from yourself. Good luck sweetie....
SAME!! I reflect on the deadend relationship and ask myself what am I really holding on to? There was nothing really great going on, no memorable experiences or events. It's embarrassing to even think about.
When you value yourself , others will value you. Myself worth is not predicated on another person's perception of who they think I am. Hallelujah!
Truer words have never been spoken !
I start the detachment process long before I physically walk away! It's a very effective self - love tool I taught myself when I decided to leave a marriage to an abusive narcissist years ago. I never looked back! Ladies, know your worth! ❤
I’m going to try this
I understand the tool 2017 still loving my peace seasoned serenity joy forever giving the most high thanks for saving me.❤ ❤❤❤
I agree I do this as well. This process allows me to close the door and continue on with my life.
Can you help me
I’m so Grateful I’ve been delivered from such an abusive, narcissistic marriage. When I reflect, I go into a Hallelujah shout! Look what great thing GOD has done for me! My Xhusband was undeserving of me.
Completely understand. That's where I'm at as well 🙌🙌
I want that victory shout that you have. Please keep me in your prayers. I'm leaning on the Lord for my strength.
I wasn't married, but I was in a 5-year relationship with a liar, cheater, and narcissist. He cheated with two other women. He betrayed me and hurt me. I feel pain, yall. With the help of my heavenly father, I know that I will make it through. Keep me in your prayers.
Hunni I know you are right. I thank God often.
Some people just don’t know how to be by themselves. But it is so important! It allows you to discover and become aware of who you are.
I’ve learned to look at the benefits of singleness. There’s so much peace in singleness and I’m enjoying the benefit of learning about me and working on me. I had already began seeing my accomplishments as a connection to my self esteem. I’ve accomplished so much. But, the Lord has given me new goals. He showed me that if I focus on my goals, I don’t have time for TV, less known a relationship.
I have detached already or else i would have gone insane and go into mental health facility....i am going to listen to this episode to learn more......
Proud of you. Peace is yours!
I definitely understand it felt like coming off crack for me
Almost 3 yrs now since my last relationship. I told them to leave. I'm glad I did. Staying single now.
Same ❤ we got this !😢❤🎉 heal selfcare journal and pray
Same
I’ve definitely let him go. My mind knows better but I need my heart to catch up 😊
I always say this, it’s my feet that are moving, but my heart is not
This 💪🏼
Love it and I am going to borrow that affirmation 😊
I thought that loneliness was going to be the death of me but I survived it through God’s grace.
I’m experiencing that now but it will pass
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I can't wait. I am going a time of letting go. He almost killed me. I have to let the love go and move on. I miss him but I have to remember that he is my enemy.
Wow you sound like me missing someone who was cruel to me .we have empathy even when hurt but we can't waste it on people who want to destroy us and thus no one can be helped by us caring healers of the world 😢we must go no contact
Yup
Yes indeed you need too pray hard and ask God to step in the mist of it all and trust me it would get better remove yourself
You are worth your life and time heal all wounds I’m having a hard time healing ❤️🩹 it’s been 8 months
I wasn't married to my ex but I spent 12 years of my life with a selfish human being OMG .As much As I love him and care ..I just walked away I was definitely tired of all his foolish stuff..I don't get even...I just let him set right there and feel his pain forever...I'm not going back...Im not mad, I'm just done...I need healing and deliverance frm God....I'm working on me now
“FORGIVENESS IS AN ACT OF SELF EMPOWERMENT “
Yes. EVERYONE LETS LIKE AND SHARE YALL! This man of GOD has truly blessed us in the Kingdom!! ❤
I am still dealing with total detachment from an ex. I don’t understand why I’m still mentally attached to this guy. It really sucks 😢💔 His mission was accomplished. Help me Lord 🙏🏽
I understand completely, and I just prayed for you as I am in the same boat. Father God, help us both and keep us close to You. Amen.
The fact that you are here with us,shows you the The Lord us helping you.
We BIND those ungodly soul ties in JESUS NAME!!!
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Seek God, Binge watch RC videos and you won’t go back. I’m commenting a month later but I pray you are still on your healing journey!! 🙏🏾
I bought the book. I cried and tossed and turned all night last night. Begging God to take away the pain, the feelings of low self-worth, to take away the thoughts of what if, to forget the man ever existed in my life. And then I decided to fast and only watch Christian videos. This popped up on my feed as soon as I got to UA-cam. I needed to hear this, so that I can stop being a victim and find divine opportunities through this break up. It sucks because he used God and religion to manipulate me into being with him and staying with him for far too long--only to turn out to be a lying, deceiving, womanizer. My healing and deliverance is mine!
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I understand. Been through that and going through it currently.
Prayers to you sis 🙏🏽
You are divine and defined by God. ❤
Stay strong, you are not alone
1) Self-worth audit. Take inventory of your self-esteem levels.
2) Anchor yourself to a growth mindset; reset your thoughts. 'What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.' Be strengthened in your 'new normal.' Romans 8:28
3) Reframe the lonliness. Learn about yourself and your own interests during this period. It (lonliness) may be a Divine opportunity for growth. Mark 1:35, Deut 31:6 Embrace solitude.
4) Take the occasion to define your needs in your relationships. Establish and enforce boundaries. Proverbs 4:23
5) Forgive and flourish. Let it go. It will free up space in your soul emotionally. Colossians 3:13
6) Ask yourself "Was this happiness or familiarity?" Familiarity can be comforting confusion. Jerimiah 29:11
7) Develop 'future' oriented goals for yourself. Where are you going? Envision a positive scenario for yourself.
I've enjoyed this session of teaching. Thank you, Bishop!
Thank you
Thank you
Thank you a lot for putting all the points. Wonderful job. I really appreciate it 😊😊
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You're welcome 😊
Thank you very much
The Holy Grail "self closure" to the end of a heartbreaking elationship. Especially, when you're still in-love with him or her. I await this one....patiently. Pastor Blakes speaks with such profound, priceless and valuable wisdom and he speaks in truth! 👑♥️🙏🏾
#1. Do a self worth audit.
--Take inventory of your self esteem bank.
#2. Anchor yourself to a growth mindset.
--Shift from Lost love to Learning from the experience.
#3. Reframe the loneliness.
--Accept loneliness and attend to the values that make you more of who you truly are.
#4. Take the occasion to Define your Needs.
--What do you really need from a relationship?
#5. Forgive and Flourish (let go)
-- Let go of those things which you can not change.
#6. Ask yourself;
Was this Happiness?
Or
Was this only Comfort in familiarity?
--Differentiate between the fear of the unknown
And
What is best for your emotional well being.
#7. Develop future oriented Goals
--What are your Ambitions and Dreams?
I don’t wish a breakup on my absolute worst enemy. Its truly, truly hard and painful.
It’s very very painful and it hurts
@ yes. I find only time truly heals.
@@DaintyAbbyask God to erase your x from your memory. He will help you because you can not do it alone.
Yes and God answered my prayers. I remember him once in a while but I don’t miss him anymore and I’m not grieving anymore God truly answers prayers.
Pastor Blakes, thank you for being my pastor and for changing my life for the better.🌸
PASTOR BLAKES YOU HAVE TRULY BEEN A BLESSING TO THE WHOLE WORLD THESE TEACHINGS HAVE HELPED SAVED MY LIFE AND HEALED PARTS OF MY LIFE AND IM GETTING STRONGER AND BETTER EACH DAY LOVE YOU AND THE FIRST LADY SO MUCH SEE YOU AT THE TOP
Thank you for sharing this with me. 🙏🏽♥️😊
It is sad to discover that such warped personalities do exist in an otherwise beautifully created world. But, it is what it is! As a former Aviator, one learns to control what is within one’s sphere of competence to control: SELF!!! As one who has endured the abuse of an extremely toxic marriage replete with all the classic components of a narcissistic spouse, I made the decision one night to detach and move on. It was painful after 32 years of marriage. I have grasped my new reality with tightly clenched fists and living freer, lighter and more purposeful. I did it, so can you!!! May you have clarity of thought as you decide your way forward. Blessings!
My experience, Precisely. TY for sharing...❤
Amen 🙏🏽
I used to think I was a person who could easily detach from toxic relationships and look forward. I learned so much about myself these last few years, particularly due to narcissists in my life and being more alone with myself.
Now my relationship with God has grown even closer and I learned I have so much to learn about my mental/emotional growth. It's very humbling, yet I am grateful and look forward to waking up to His lovely lessons every day.
So, thank you, R.C. and Lisa. Because you're two of those who provide those lessons❣️
I humbly agree.
I love the illustration of the person looking at the wreck in the rearview mirror and driving forward as a reminder of how we are supposed to view our dead relationships. ❤
This is uncanny. That you should speak on this subject tonight of all nights! I am literally going out of my mind at this very moment, having broken my “no contact” and now having to deal with the fact that I am back in the same situation ship. I am having such a difficult time letting go of him. Even while I know it’s not good for me, I made contact with him again. I need help to detach once and for all
Same here!!! I fell for the bait again. But I’m about to wiggle off the hook and pray the Lord breaks these chains… blessings to you and everyone
story of my life 😢 Soul ties are truly demonic.. It's just crazy how You know someone is not good for you but you can't let them go. May God help us to detach... coz it's not easy. Holy spirit please take control and set us free. 🙏
My God! I too have broken no contact. I’m praying for strength
They lose whatever respect they have left for you every time you go back to them. When you don't establish and MAINTAIN boundaries they view you as a SUCKER TO BE USED.
Ladies we have to GO THROUGH THE PAIN .. Sit in it and it will pass .. I’m not 100% there but that hard part is over and it was very bad for me going through it .. Never thought it would end and it’s only been 1 year .. But I SAT in my pain … not easy but keep fighting please 🙏🏾 . No social media, I moved, or if you can’t move change your routine.. UA-cam learning about what I went through and my bible helped me tremendously
Pastor Blake, may our GOD continue to bless you, your family, and your ministries. I live 500 plus miles away from you; however, your ministry has blessed me as if you're were a local pastor in my area. Your teachings have awakened my spirit to stop taking accountability for the negative behaviors of others who have abandoned, disrespected, and rejected me. Their behavior was not a reflection of me but their true character and warnings. This man was not sent by my GOD. GOD bless you, and thank you.
I’m not attached to anyone, but it’s great for my future learning and lessons of life. Thank you, Dr. RC Blakes
The hardest thing for me to move on mentally is trying to figure out what went wrong after this man promised to love me and my boys from the very beginning, and then two years later decided it was too much of a sacrifice to be all in committed with a marriage and walked away. The mental confusion torments me of why he walked away after saying what he said, investing the time he spent and love he claimed he had..
LOOK AT DEEDS way more than words …. thus the person’s true character is on display. 🧐
Now that scares the crap out of me so I just don't get to close. Sad either way. Grounding and sniffing frankincense oil are 2 things that help keep emotions balanced. Maybe it can help you. Take care and hope you feel better
Stop thinking about it and move on...just know you and your family were and are protected by God.
You spoke to me. No, you ministered to me. I stand corrected. I yield to the Holy Spirit. Thank you for the hard truth. I don't always like what you say, but I ALWAYS love the message you give. I received it. Thank you.
Pastor Blakes I would love to hear u speak in person,wow God knew what he was during when he brought u into our lives...God bless u ❤
The “She” (Queenology) theme is EVERYTHING! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
EVERYTHING!!🔥🔥
Everything!!🔥🔥
Yes! Is it available for purchase or stream?
Without God & the teachings of RC Blakes I would not be where I am today
Never abandon yourself! ❤ God bless you sir. 🙏
Detachment from all toxic and toxins sooooo very vital thank you in advance Sir.🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Greetings everyone, I just want to add my heartfelt thanks to pastor Blake's and his dear wife. Their message has been a lifeline and a game changer for me these past four years. I've only now been able to be on this platform waiting for my first live. Praise be to God!
This resonated so much with me. Sometimes I feel regretful about past relationships that didn’t work out. Even relationships from 25 years ago…
Im glad i detached myself completely.
GOD have taught me so good on how to detach from people. Sometimes I forget I have children. Some men’s will walk up to me and ask me how I am doing. I say who are you. We were classmates in high school. We dated I will say old ok. My ex-husband spoke to me one day I said who are you. He said I’m your ex-husband. I said sorry 0:00. GOD is the only one no matter how I try to detach myself I can’t
This!
No joke, I prayed for this kind of detachment last night. Thank you for confirming it’s possible. 😂
Becoming a stronger person is possible with support like RC’s cool videos. I am liking these and the good content helpful vibes.
You know Pastor I have physically detached but it is so true about the mental aspects. I'm working on myself mentally. To be truthful, I dont know if I will ever trust anyone again. I dont think about anything good with him...because he treated me bad...but Im taking time to deal with myself. I'm done with men. I think its a fear of failure. Thanks for this word. I'm work on myself. I'm get back in my word. I know what to do...going down the wrong path takes so much from u....love u Pastor Blake's and First Lady Lisa.
This man knows what he’s talking about.
Definitely does
It took me years to let go of my ex husband after our divorce, i had given him 20 years of my life with 3 children and I step daughter..I honestly didn't c it coming...Yes he did end up marrying another woman..it tore me apart mentally and emotionally...One thing he did ask of me before leaving out the door(That I would forgive him,it took awhile for me to forgive him but i did after 3 or 4 years but it still bother me everytime i seen him with someone else..so thank you Pastor Blakes for speaking on this subject 😇😇😇😇
I'm so sorry you had to go through such a horrible thing may God still remain with you throughout your life's journey. Love and light mama❤
Wow!! I’m incredibly grateful RC Pastor Blake’s is dropping this video as the previous one on ‘Signs That A Man Is Grooming A Woman’ (limbo relationships as how it’s demonic) spoke exactly to my situation. I need to leave asap and begin mentally detaching ASAP. Thank you RC Blake’s for allowing The Holy Spirit to work through you, you are truly doing God’s work here 🙏🏾❤️
I struggled with a dead relationship for many years. I was in love with the thought of the relationship. I kept waiting for him to want to love me the way I wanted to be loved. When I finally accepted the fact that he will never change & will never love me the way I want to be loved, I became able to walk away from the relationship & never look back. I hope this helps someone.
Thank you for this powerful video. Now I understand my self worth has been hit hard from an old relationship. 🙏🏼🙌🏼
Unhealthy soul tie is ruminating , rehashing, hilding on to personal items, replaying memories, replaying emotional memories, not moving on, isolating, etc etc. I have been asking the Lord to help me heal so i am not in bondage. I took on excessive responsibility when i never should of came to the rescue , and treated him like king. It was such a toxic , abusive relationship. I didnt even know how much i abandoned myself and lost myself and 2 years ago he died from an overdose. Its still teking time to detach and let him go because of rhe trauma bonding and coedepdndency. Im learning to live myself and trust myself and place God first. It does take a while to heal. I finislly am totally focused on my self care and allowing holy spirit to heal my heart.
Thanks to the Lord for your freedom 🙏
It takes a strong woman to choose better for yourself instead of remaining in a bad situation. I am so proud of you! You're story is soo victorious, and encouraging. Continue to stay strong and let God use you
Thank you from the heart, your teachings on relationships truly saved my life, and I am sure many others could not express in words how life-changing your teachings are, I think only when you stand before Jesus will He show you what you did and how you literally changed lives and prevented deaths in all its forms of many God's daughters. Thank you and Lisa.
Today I rededicated my life to god. He is in control I have been trying to write a story that already written and making a mess out of my life. Holding to relationships that have been over and living in fear of my god giving talents. Today I lay it at the feet of the father
Hi Pastor. This was wonderful. I loved how you used a variety of scenarios and how each woman handled her new life without her partner. I also appreciated your acknowledgement of the mental fallout of a bad situation and the stronghold it can create.
Trauma bonding.........the worst parts of you bond with the worst parts of them. Usually childhood wounds on both sides.
I was guilty of settling for my Xhusband but no longer. What was meant to destroy me, I ran to GOD and He delivered me. I would not be healed and have learned lessons from this marriage if GOD had not been here helped me. I forgave him. And I choose to walk in forgiveness and love daily. Thank GOD for JESUS who redeemed me and can do the same for you.
My sister your words are beautiful. The same thing happened to me. JESUS helped me to stop being lonely! GOD Bless u!!!
I am looking forward to this sir blakes! I try really hard to move on and stay busy, but cannot seem to escape at nighttime. i am having nightmares all the time nowadays😢 You always give me hope and perspective. Thank you in advance!! ❤
I m not ruminating anymore, and I know I made the right choise. What baffles me, îs that he had everything, and basically said no, after he told me I m his soul mate
Mind games
Guys lie. 😢
Many of us try to fill The space The Holy Spirit should inhibit with a human. We won't be as lonely if we allow the Holy Spirit to have his way with us. It took me over 40 years to realize that.
Amen 🙏
Amen 🙏🏽
Amen. I just detached 2 weeks ago and decided to dive deeply in God's spoken word. Now I find myself every time looking forward and can't wait to spend intimate time with my King Jesus. It's been hard but Jesus has given me strength through the Presence of His awareness to be comforted by His helper the "Holy Spirit"!
Forgiving FAST so my heart can heal appropriately. 💔
This is a very serious conversation that I appreciate Pastor so much but I had to pause this video and laugh when you were talking about smelling the shirt with the Creed❤. You really bless us because you help us break this down into real life situations that really occur. Thank you
Grateful to be here. ❤🙏🏾♥️
This is such a great teaching. This is where I am and where I want to come from. God have truly blessed you with wisdom. MOG
I work on this everyday. It’s hard work!
Thank You Lord Jesus For Freedom, Comfort and PEACE 🙌🏾♥️
Thank you for teaching all these things that are essential to protecting our dignity and equipping us with the information needed to navigate through all that lie ahead as it relates to choosing the right spouse
2. ANCHOR YOURSELF TO A GROWTH MINDSET
Praying to God that I will detach from a man who treat me like a hotel comes 1 a week get what he wants and leave.....God help me
Block him everywhere. But before tell him! Im not your hotel! The Lord is already helping you sister. You are here. Be strong. Life continues. It really does. Ive been through the end of an engagement. Almost died from illness last year. Im alive. Hallelujah ❤❤❤
Thank you so much, Pastor. Please know you are so appreciated.
Every morning I go onto UA-cam and before I do I ask “what do I need to learn today?” The crazy thing is whether it’s your videos or another video. It’s always exactly what I needed to hear.
I just got back from a weekend trip to see my friends out of state. My ex was there as well that I was with for four years. I have done so much work to break the soul ties and rebuild myself after that relationship. Although I think the trip was good because it resolidified that I had made the right decision to end it because he was still the same person when I saw him this time that he was when I left , but I still found myself thinking about the good times although they were very few and far between. This video popped up in the algorithm today when I was thinking that I needed to do more work on disconnecting myself from that past.
Thank you for everything you do! Your words of wisdom have helped me through this year of rebuilding myself again and continue to help me as I walk through the changes I am making to better who I’m as a woman, a queen, and allowing me to be the wife I will be when I find that king who is out there for me.
I do that too. The teacher comes when ................
Thank you so much for this! I want to move forward to what God has just for me.🙂
RECONNECT WITH MYSELF & MY OWN INTEREST!!
I need this badly .
I say there's sooo much peace in that quiet, sometimes alone place.... ❤ Silence is golden 🙏 Ask me how do I know, Bless God 😇
Slowly pulling myself out of the rubble that I had placed myself in God is restoring me may God keep giving me the strength to keep moving forward and not look back thank you sir I appreciate you🙏🗣️👂💯🩸✔️🪔🌹
THAT MENTAL RESIDUE IS STILL EFFECTIVE!🚨
I am so thankful that God uses you to help us women. I am going through a difficult break up and with your advices, it is easier ❤
i have already detached from a narcissist man,with no conact and distant.but still like to hear what rc blakes have to say,loves his messages.
I have a soul tie right now , it’s so difficult and I’m not sure why I even crave this man
We have to do a Self worth Audit🙏🙏🙏thats true because I tried to hold on to a marriage that had ended
The timing of this is incredible and a blessing! Thank you
This topic was right on time. I needed this great video.
I need to put this into practice and change my life. Giving glory to God for your teachings. Thank you for sharing your gifts and talents with the world. May you and yours be blessed. 🙏🏾🙏🏾♥️🙏🏾🙏🏾
Amen Pastor! 👋🏾🙏🏿♥️ Being alone does not equal loneliness if you are living a fulfilling life and maintaining positive connections with family, friends & community.
RC Blakes is the father, and grandfather I’ve NEVER had. Truly a blessing for me.
I needed this more than you could ever imagine. Prosperity Abundance Wealth Health Light Love Change and peace of mind for you❤
This was a helpful and informative message providing the tools to see oneself in moving out and from under this type of crippling issue many of us have experienced. 😌
I’m from the other side of the world and learning so much from you Mr. Blakes! Thank you for being a great teacher ❤
Man of God you are such a blessing and awesome resource in God's kingdom.
Every word this man speaks has so much power. He is very very eloquent
Can't wait to listen to what my Dad needs to say!❤
Amen . I’m in the process of working myself. I trust God in the process. I thank God for such man like you.
Thanks very much for this powerful message!! I so needed to hear this to help me to mentally detach. I have been in a really bad state and at my lowest, not recognizing why I have not been able to let go of this toxic relationship I have been in for the last 3 years. I took so many notes and will be reflecting on it and free myself from this relationship, trusting that God's best is still available for me. God Bless You!!
This was so good! I really enjoyed listening to it! And will be trying my best to apply!
This give a re-listen because that’s how good it was for me
I'm on the process of healing and I'm so greatful that Knowing who I am in Christ helps me to keep moving forward to pursue my purpose God has plans for me.. ❤❤
Day 5 am going to listen to this everyday until it doesn't matter anymore. #5
Mind over matter and move on and Flourish Thank you Pastor RC Blake's Jr ❤