I can't wait for this, as I am dating again after such a long time , I can move differently now , I am taking my time really get to know this man, the core of his soul :) I used to rush everything this is why I am not married yet because of my own wrong doing, giving men my time that did not deserve it. I have a great father but some of our father's did not teach us about men, I just assumed all men are like my father but I was so wrong. I will always take the time to type a message and tell you that you have saved my beautiful soul sir..thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I have been divorced for 4 years currently still single and have not made it pass phone conversations because I am really listening now and honestly scared because it is different out here and I have chosen to do things the Lord's way all in this time and I have been allowing The Lord to keep me. It is scary out here.
- Qualifying someone means going through a process to determine if someone is a good fit for you - You must be clear in your mind and articulation about your value and goals - You need to know what your looking for in a relationship - Objectively observe there behavior - Ask questions about interests, value, goals - A man with bad intentions will not be okay with questions - Spend physical time - Trust your inner guide - If something is off, pay attention to that feeling and investigate further
I've read some of these comments, what happened to Man and Women, meeting, and then let GOD Bless You and show You how to love each other through the WORD.
I came from a traditional Chinese family. My mum has always taught me never to give my virginity away to anyone who is not your husband. I don't sleep around with any guy I date. I am keeping myself pure for my coming husband. All glory to the LORD Jesus Christ.
My dad was addicted to drugs for the first 28 years of my life. Growing up without that fatherly guidance, acknowledgment, wisdom and love I sure have bumped my own head so many times in search of this “approval” then God spoke, he has given me all of this through YOU Bishop. God said to me, “you may not have the father that gave you life that you have many fathers, including me.” the bitterness, the resentment, all the anger has completely left my body and my energy and I am taking accountability for myself RC. Thank you so much for all that you do to serve the rest of the world you are needed and you are appreciated.
1)Be clear about your values and goals‼️2) Objectively observe their behavior‼️3) Ask questions ‼️4) Spend time with them ‼️5) Trust your inner guide‼️❤❤
All I can say is I met the perfect liar but there were so many red flags 🚩 along the way. I accept full accountability for the role I played in my own pain. Lord have mercy 💔
He called me red flags. I believed that. He played played played me all along and then crushed my heart and threw me and acts and behave like he is the king, he is successful with a lot of best friends, best friends who are girls.. is very painful.
@@addiesmith696 so sorry to hear sis. You know the worst part is i keep seeing him in my dreams..every single day. Dont know when it will stop. He msgd me again 4 months ago and i started talking to him, expressed how much i missed him and he didnt respond at all after that..
" Those who are presently on the verge of making a mistake, Lord turn them around. Give Them Clarity, cause this message to ring loud and clear in their hearts and in their heads in Jesus's name.": Amen!
“Often your type is not your kind.” You are 100% right! Not anymore!! ❤ Thank you for ministering to the women of the kingdom. If the little ones could have this instilled at a young age, we will have a whole new generation ❤
I was on the right path after breaking up with my ex-boyfriend who’s a alcoholic. Just when I thought it was over he comes calling and asking for a 100th chance. I ALMOST fell for it. As we’ve been talking for maybe almost a week now. Thank you for this video! God allowed me to see this so I can get back on track. Flee satan! In Jesus name
This remind me of my ex husband, he was so content in a single room while I was so miserable because I needed to achieve much more... I did acquire my desire afterwards. Wasted time but I thank God for grace and mercy. Blessing King
My ex was so busy asking questions, I couldn’t ask. Now I see why it’s important that “I” ask. I’m not dating yet. I’m just preparing so I won’t make the same mistakes again. I’m too old to keep repeating these cycles. So I asked God to hide me until I’m ready.
I'm thanking God for giving me the strength to walk away from the situationship he never sent my way. Thank you, Pastor Blakes, for your words of wisdom. I wish I would have listened to my intuition and the spirit of God, but I wanted to do things my way. Thank God for a second chance, and this time, I'm going to listen because life is too short.
I’m so glad you made this point about the church pushing marriage!! Single in the church is the new leprosy!! They act like you hold no value in the kingdom if you aren’t married
That’s why I don’t fall into the trap of go with the flow. People say oh you asked too many questions. If you don’t ask questions how the hell you would know if the person in front of you is a time waster or someone you want to move forward with.
This is why we love you so much. Although I have a loving father who’s been there for me in every way he knew how to be at least, he did not sit me down and give me the proper father/daughter talk. Thank God for you Pastor Blakes! 🙏🏽🙌🏽💐♥️
I never had this talk with my dad either. I stumbled around trying to figure things out about these men, he would be critical and point out my mistakes. He should have offered guidance instead.
@aprilthompson5154 same. My dad actually told me 1. I would never ask my wife what I heard you telling men on the phone. 2. You're a bottom feeder if you're wanting me to meet a man he should be asking to meet me instead. I was over 18 by the time he told me either of these things. The second one I was 29 or so. The first one I may have been in earlier 20s.
U are so right. Most of the women who need to hear this message aren't listening to u. I've heard men complain about ppl who enter this country illegally get jobs quickly & move up in life. I see some ppl who are immigrants working hard & saving their money. They're usually not fake rich, like many of us. It's good to learn from all races of ppl! Thank u so much Bishop. This is a great message!!!
I’m in my 50’s now, and I have been practically destroyed from be married to narcissist. I saw all the red flags, but i still thought it was ok, because my father was a narcissist. So in that sense, I didn’t know any better. But I now plan on being single for the rest of my life. And I’m ok with that. Because for the first time in my life, I am enjoying my PEACE. But I listen to you regularly anyway. Because I enjoy your messaging. I have grand daughter and thanks to you, I can one day refer them to your teaching when they become old enough to date. Which is Something i never had. So I thank you and Lisa so much for this Time Capsule. God Bless you Sir.
Imagine how radically different our lives would be if we had fathers who taught us this wisdom growing up. Even just a little bit of guidance would’ve made a difference 😢😢😢
All jokes aside…I appreciate you and your wife Pastor Blakes for the teaching that you share with us. I wish I had this teaching before I got married. You’re teaching real good.🙌🏽❤️
Men who are NOT for you , or just people in general will Insist that you don’t need to approve of them. Your approval has never been sought after which means it has no value. If you think poorly of something they do or say it’s because it’s above your comprehension or just flat out invalid. They hate your approval because it’s typically for things better than what you already have which is kryptonite to the hater. People who seek your approval value you enough to treat you like you matter. This means displaying emotionally valuable offerings like time, kindness, compassion and support, sacrificing things, arriving early, balancing their goals for you to be a priority. Better to make someone else disappointed and deal with it later than upset you the valuable one. This in tandem with consistency will show you a persons true character. Bad people can never put someone first.
Pastor I learned this the hard way. Lesson learned and this is why I follow your teachings. You make me face my mistakes, dissect them to understand why I went there, understand it, learn from it, heal from it and forgive it. I’m attending The Queenology Conference in August - paid completely in full- not missing this❤
RC Blakes is funny and serious at the same time. WE NEED IT! Thank you so much for taking the time out to correct us and get us in order. I appreciate you.
Everyone may I ask a prayer request? Please pray for me to get this remote job where I can travel more. I would love to visit New Home and come to more events planned by Pastor & First Lady! Thank you in advance ♥️🙏🏽🙌🏽
This snatched my soul, I hollered laughing while also in agreement!!! Even employers qualify prospective employees .. they screen applications, interview applicants several times to disqualify the un qualified and even once hired the employee still goes through a probationary period before receiving all the benefits. & Even after that, you still can’t get certain benefits until you are vested… and even after that the performance is evaluated annually. Yet, you allow someone to prance all up and through your life who is not fully qualified for that critical position in your life. “Stop popping that gum and wipe that grease all off your lips” & get to truly paying attention. Close up them legs and open up those eyes & ears.
A man that says he CAN'T find a gig doesn't want to work 😂😂😂! Bishop, you know what your talking about 💯! I have heard some lines in my day! Praise God for growth, healing and leasons learned ❤
So glad I follow his sermons. Came at the right time. I fell for a church guy. But outside of church, we are not aligned. Thank you Lord for your probing spirit.
I agree, you have to test a man out in different scenarios and situations, ask questions, ask them again but also compare the answers to their actions...... listen to the questions they ask you, especially of there are about your finances or if you have a home and he doesn't, if he is covertly seeking a shelter, while he has never thought it necessary to own or rent anything, in other words, he doesn't have a place to take you too. Observe, listen..... spend time with them and without them, there is where you gain clarity and discernment.........
A man that don't like questions or his energy becomes frustrated, impatient and possibly aggressive, he feels that u should not be fixing your mouth to question him= he's abusive 👊🏽 ruuuuunnnnnn!!!
I agree with you Bishop it's more important for the woman to qualify a man, the woman has more to loss and she is the one that has to submit to the leadership of the man, because where he leads she will have to follow especially if she wants peace.
Pastor.. I have listened to your videos for years. However, I am now going through heartbreak because fir some reason, all that knowledge went out the window and now I'm stuck with a 8 month old, with no financial support. Pray for me 🙏
Sis, I know how you feel; been there. What I've learned was that my precious gift of a child is my responsibility. And, if the father doesn't take responsibility...that's HIS misfortune. So, I 'pulled up my 'boot straps' (figuratively speaking) and got my 'big girl' self out in the workforce and did what I had to do to support MY child. No, it's not always easy. However, making good choices and doing the rights things pays off, BIG TIME! Praying for you.🙏🏼 The amount of respect and assistance (however small it was) I received was priceless. When others see you putting forth a positive effort and not playing the 'blame game' it speaks volumes of your character.
Thank you for the affirmation. 🙏 After my last partner I am no longer comprimising my standards for any man. It is HARD and boring but I can’t continue in these toxic cycles.
13:55 Be clear about your values and your goals (know what you are looking for in a relationship) clarity relative to your values 22:07 objectively observe a man’s behavior, how he treats others 28:35 ask him questions, ask them many times about their goals, values and interests and see if the answers are consistent. Questioning - is a polite way of testing Queens ask questions that only Kings can answer. 35:14 spend calculated physical time, how they behave in different situations? 40:49 trust your inner guide If something feels off, investigate it further before making any decisions
“Marriage is a downgrade” powerful statement my brother!!! You caused me to think of (in short) of the time after a war that King David and his warriors had returned from. Pieces of land and or property was apportioned out to others but not to David, after which God turned and expressed to David, “I am your SHARE!” Thank you for this beautiful discussion. You are a gift to my heart!! ❤
Right on time because after my divorce from a narcissist I feel like I’m still a little naive. I need to keep listening to you that got me out of that mindset I was in. I need to keep learning even after getting rid of the ungodly marriage I was in.
So am I, Sis this is my same story too, separated then divorced last year. I have high standards so finding a suitable person continues to be a struggle. I’m not pursuing but the guys who do show interest miss the mark, so I’m enjoying my singleness. Tonight should be a good one for sure 👏🏽
@@tjohnson5760 I know there are people in a similar situation like ours but, I'm happy you left me this message because I felt alone since 06/23/23 which was my official divorce. Alone as far as nobody to talk to about it I have family, but I haven't been able to converse with anyone about how I am feeling. I am going to enjoy my singleness too until the boxes are checked :)
Pastor Blakes, I have been a Registered Nurse for 30 years, and took on the role of parents, uncles and aunts major caregiver for past 15 years. I felt a profound release from needing to be a caregiver about 6 months ago. I have been that "single" person for over 25 year. I have always felt I was in the places I needed to be and the had the freedom to do so. My older sister asked me what I expected to get from being my family caregiver, did I expect to inherit more. She could not understand when I said I do it because I can and do it because of love. I am now doing for me, caring more for my needs and hoping this included finding a quality man. So that said I appreciate you words on qualifying a man. But it was your words about God using the "single" person that validated, released me from justifying the why and knowing I took God's path for my life. I know it is God leading me now to my man. Thank you for your words and message.
I completely understand, because I have provided care for several family and friends since I moved back, because I love them and I wanted to. Sometimes under the surface helping others can be killing the caregiver. I went to my PCP on last week and my blood pressure was 200/194 P89 to my surprise I made it to the doctor just in time. I know now that my peace and well being from this point is my only priority.
Pastor Blakes. I have been following you for a long time. And like I child I hear but didn't follow. But how I'm listening, taking it all in and praying to God. I'm being still. Learning about myself. When the the time is right it will be right. Continue to do what you do. Thank you and Lisa.
Thanks for the advice and wise counsel. I've always been good at questions but shared values was a lot more difficult to come by and I was always feeling behind the clock. Thanks for the endorsement of singleness in particular. I think that was the most valuable takeaway for me. Oh and in Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹 we say "what sweet in goat mouth sour in he bam bam" that's exactly what you said when you said what feels good today doesn't feel so good tomorrow.
This is exactly what I needed. I was on the verge of making another mistake, my intuition was so strong, this helped me make a wise decision. Thankyou so much Bishop🙏🏾
Amen 👏🏾 Great message. I recently ended a relationship….Our values & goals didn’t align & it created alot of friction and frustration in the relationship. My self worth is non negotiable….I refuse to settle because im aware of what I bring to the relationship so if I’m not met half way I have to leave.
Pastor Blake’s is hilarious.. every time he references ”popping that bubble gum an going on” I can picture it and I lose it😂 Sir, thank you for your wisdom and humor! We appreciate you! God bless you and 1st Lady🤗
I’ve found this to most definitely be true. Time seems to be a teller of things such as this. For many in time the good behavior mask falls off, although I do believe there are still good men. We a women just have to pace ourselves versus hopping into something blindly.
This is too real. I Thank and appreciate your wisdom, knowledge and gift that God has given to you for being such a great teacher . I’ve just canceled 2 more suitors (these suitors that ain’t suitable) and likely cutting another one out before the week is over. Fasting and prayer will increase discernment quickly along with good instruction such as this. Sometimes the same person appears in a different body and other times you get that check in your spirit. Wait on God.
I so love this message!! I was taught as a child that being equally yolked was being with someone raised in the same faith as me yet we had nothing in common.
You are so important to my morning with my coffee.Thank you God for this inspiring man may he stay blessed, spiritual and highly favored. I can't ty enough.
Thank you for the wisdom Paps. Please help us understand how to figure out our value and worth. Even when we know our values, we often trip on knowing what we deserve.
Thank you rcblakes for such a wonderful message of wisdom.. You are truly a man after God's own heart. Be blessed in this day that the Lord has made rejoice and be glad in it you and your beautiful wife ❤
I have enjoyed this teaching. It's taken ne back to looking @ past relationships and how naive I was. By this i mean not asking questions like i should have. However, i have learned a lot in the past 3 years and Thank God for this Season and Time in my Life. It's given me time to truly get to know me and to appreciate what God is doing in my life. I'm grateful for the healing that's taken place and removing toxic people from my life. I'm very thankful for people like you God is using to speak to us women as well as men. Thanks Pastor RC Blakes and Blessings 2 U and Yours. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💖💖🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
I am watching this from Sierra Leone. Thank you very much sir. By the grace of God you've heal my wound from doing the same mistake. I promise to move forward from any toxic relationship in Jesus mighty name 🙏
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I can't wait for this, as I am dating again after such a long time , I can move differently now , I am taking my time really get to know this man, the core of his soul :) I used to rush everything this is why I am not married yet because of my own wrong doing, giving men my time that did not deserve it. I have a great father but some of our father's did not teach us about men, I just assumed all men are like my father but I was so wrong. I will always take the time to type a message and tell you that you have saved my beautiful soul sir..thank you from the bottom of my heart.
This is true for me too. ❤
Story of my life as well. Besides, i just started talking to a new person, so I really want to observe and not jump the gun as I have always done.
I have been divorced for 4 years currently still single and have not made it pass phone conversations because I am really listening now and honestly scared because it is different out here and I have chosen to do things the Lord's way all in this time and I have been allowing The Lord to keep me. It is scary out here.
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Same here. My father was there but provided no guidance for dating. RC Blakes has stepped in with his wisdom 🙏🏽❤️
- Qualifying someone means going through a process to determine if someone is a good fit for you
- You must be clear in your mind and articulation about your value and goals
- You need to know what your looking for in a relationship
- Objectively observe there behavior
- Ask questions about interests, value, goals
- A man with bad intentions will not be okay with questions
- Spend physical time
- Trust your inner guide
- If something is off, pay attention to that feeling and investigate further
Thanks for the notes 🙏
Thank you for sharing your amazing notes!🙏🏾😊
Thank you for taking down such good notes!
Thank you for the notes😊
Thank you so much! ❤
“Queens ask questions only Kings can answer”🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Yes, My King of Israel Answers All Questions. Single , CELIBATE &choose Not To Be Used Any longer 👉🏾🇵🇷💃 EPHRAIM
I Love that ❤️❤️❤️
HELLO FAMILY. Thanks for coming in tonight.
I love this song, how do I purchase it?
Love you pastor, you are a big blessing
Good evening Bishop. Thank you and God Bless.
I've read some of these comments, what happened to Man and Women, meeting, and then let GOD Bless You and show You how to love each other through the WORD.
I have been a QUEEN all my life, but I never qualified a KING . I have dreamt of a PENTHOUSE, only basement dreamers entered my life.
I came from a traditional Chinese family. My mum has always taught me never to give my virginity away to anyone who is not your husband. I don't sleep around with any guy I date. I am keeping myself pure for my coming husband. All glory to the LORD Jesus Christ.
SMART!!!
Best thing you can do! I pray you are blessed with a husband that honors you and God in all that he does!
My dad was addicted to drugs for the first 28 years of my life. Growing up without that fatherly guidance, acknowledgment, wisdom and love I sure have bumped my own head so many times in search of this “approval” then God spoke, he has given me all of this through YOU Bishop. God said to me, “you may not have the father that gave you life that you have many fathers, including me.” the bitterness, the resentment, all the anger has completely left my body and my energy and I am taking accountability for myself RC. Thank you so much for all that you do to serve the rest of the world you are needed and you are appreciated.
Great Evening everyone! Thank you for joining us! Please hit that Like 👍icon.
Ok beautiful, already done that, you too are a big blessing to this generation
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Who 🎶 sings this song 🎶?♡~
Blessings 🙏
Behind every man there is a great woman...thank you for allowing Pastor Blake to educate us ..
Wow! “being single is ideal because marriage is the sacrifice.”Amazing point!
1)Be clear about your values and goals‼️2) Objectively observe their behavior‼️3) Ask questions ‼️4) Spend time with them ‼️5) Trust your inner guide‼️❤❤
Thank you! ❤
You're a God sent. Thank you sis ❤🎉
Thank you ❤
Thank you
All I can say is I met the perfect liar but there were so many red flags 🚩 along the way. I accept full accountability for the role I played in my own pain. Lord have mercy 💔
Similar story so did I. I'm OK though.
He called me red flags. I believed that. He played played played me all along and then crushed my heart and threw me and acts and behave like he is the king, he is successful with a lot of best friends, best friends who are girls.. is very painful.
😮 I know that familiar pain I got played at least 2x's he thinks he's a catch
@@addiesmith696 so sorry to hear sis. You know the worst part is i keep seeing him in my dreams..every single day. Dont know when it will stop. He msgd me again 4 months ago and i started talking to him, expressed how much i missed him and he didnt respond at all after that..
Me too!!!!
" Those who are presently on the verge of making a mistake, Lord turn them around. Give Them Clarity, cause this message to ring loud and clear in their hearts and in their heads in Jesus's name.":
Amen!
Amen!
Amen.
Amen
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Amen 🙏
"QUEENS ASK QUESTIONS THAT KINGS CAN ANSWER..."
THAT WILL PREACH!!
"Queen asks questions that King can answer".
Thank you for sharing so much Bishop Blakes
“Often your type is not your kind.” You are 100% right! Not anymore!! ❤ Thank you for ministering to the women of the kingdom. If the little ones could have this instilled at a young age, we will have a whole new generation ❤
I was on the right path after breaking up with my ex-boyfriend who’s a alcoholic. Just when I thought it was over he comes calling and asking for a 100th chance. I ALMOST fell for it. As we’ve been talking for maybe almost a week now. Thank you for this video! God allowed me to see this so I can get back on track. Flee satan! In Jesus name
"Why are you rolling around in the bed with someone that's satisfied in the basement when you have penthouse dreams?" 🎤🔥🔥🔥🔥
This remind me of my ex husband, he was so content in a single room while I was so miserable because I needed to achieve much more... I did acquire my desire afterwards. Wasted time but I thank God for grace and mercy. Blessing King
BISHOP!!! The way you teach is impeccable- you connect and reach as a FATHER, PASTOR, HUSBAND, FRIEND, BIG BRO, my GOD!!!!!!!!!!
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“QUESTIONS REVEALS MOTIVES”
My ex was so busy asking questions, I couldn’t ask. Now I see why it’s important that “I” ask. I’m not dating yet. I’m just preparing so I won’t make the same mistakes again. I’m too old to keep repeating these cycles. So I asked God to hide me until I’m ready.
I like what you said 🎉.
I like that, omg “God hide me until I’m ready” 🙏🙏🙏
I'm thanking God for giving me the strength to walk away from the situationship he never sent my way. Thank you, Pastor Blakes, for your words of wisdom. I wish I would have listened to my intuition and the spirit of God, but I wanted to do things my way. Thank God for a second chance, and this time, I'm going to listen because life is too short.
I’m so glad you made this point about the church pushing marriage!! Single in the church is the new leprosy!! They act like you hold no value in the kingdom if you aren’t married
You are the only UA-camr with a 5 minute (song) intro people might actually listen to LOL
Right 😂😂 I was going to skip but then I was like hey this is pretty good lol
And I be pissed when the song is not on the video lol
BISHOP!!!!! The “BAE” takes me out allllllll the time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!🔥
"Any dude calling a job a 'gig' don't want to work! He doesn't want a job!" You got that right!!
I love how real you are, sir! "Wipe your lips off and quit popping bubblegum....slow your happy butt down! 😂 This is great teaching!
I laughed so hard on that one
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That’s why I don’t fall into the trap of go with the flow. People say oh you asked too many questions. If you don’t ask questions how the hell you would know if the person in front of you is a time waster or someone you want to move forward with.
This is why we love you so much. Although I have a loving father who’s been there for me in every way he knew how to be at least, he did not sit me down and give me the proper father/daughter talk. Thank God for you Pastor Blakes! 🙏🏽🙌🏽💐♥️
Same here.
Same, we never had this talk
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I never had this talk with my dad either. I stumbled around trying to figure things out about these men, he would be critical and point out my mistakes. He should have offered guidance instead.
@aprilthompson5154 same. My dad actually told me
1. I would never ask my wife what I heard you telling men on the phone.
2. You're a bottom feeder if you're wanting me to meet a man he should be asking to meet me instead.
I was over 18 by the time he told me either of these things. The second one I was 29 or so. The first one I may have been in earlier 20s.
U are so right. Most of the women who need to hear this message aren't listening to u. I've heard men complain about ppl who enter this country illegally get jobs quickly & move up in life. I see some ppl who are immigrants working hard & saving their money. They're usually not fake rich, like many of us. It's good to learn from all races of ppl! Thank u so much Bishop. This is a great message!!!
I started asking questions 4 years ago. The look on faces--I really wanted to laugh. Shocked. It also revealed that know one had asked them questions.
I’m in my 50’s now, and I have been practically destroyed from be married to narcissist. I saw all the red flags, but i still thought it was ok, because my father was a narcissist. So in that sense, I didn’t know any better. But I now plan on being single for the rest of my life. And I’m ok with that. Because for the first time in my life, I am enjoying my PEACE. But I listen to you regularly anyway. Because I enjoy your messaging. I have grand daughter and thanks to you, I can one day refer them to your teaching when they become old enough to date. Which is Something i never had. So I thank you and Lisa so much for this Time Capsule. God Bless you Sir.
There is still a lot of good men out there ,God will lead the right one for you to you at the right time,God bless you ❤
Imagine how radically different our lives would be if we had fathers who taught us this wisdom growing up. Even just a little bit of guidance would’ve made a difference 😢😢😢
I have been saying this exact same thing, since I've been on my healing and shifting journey.
Strength and Love sent.
Amen, my father passed away shortly after I turned 15.
🙏. Yes!
@@WarriorMichelle57🙏 I’m sorry to hear this.
All jokes aside…I appreciate you and your wife Pastor Blakes for the teaching that you share with us. I wish I had this teaching before I got married. You’re teaching real good.🙌🏽❤️
Men who are NOT for you , or just people in general will Insist that you don’t need to approve of them. Your approval has never been sought after which means it has no value. If you think poorly of something they do or say it’s because it’s above your comprehension or just flat out invalid. They hate your approval because it’s typically for things better than what you already have which is kryptonite to the hater. People who seek your approval value you enough to treat you like you matter. This means displaying emotionally valuable offerings like time, kindness, compassion and support, sacrificing things, arriving early, balancing their goals for you to be a priority. Better to make someone else disappointed and deal with it later than upset you the valuable one. This in tandem with consistency will show you a persons true character. Bad people can never put someone first.
I have been so messed up because i was lacking knowledge, i learned my lessons the hard way. I just thank God for grace.
RC Blakes Jr.....that intro song is EVERYTHING! 🔥
Pastor I learned this the hard way. Lesson learned and this is why I follow your teachings. You make me face my mistakes, dissect them to understand why I went there, understand it, learn from it, heal from it and forgive it. I’m attending The Queenology Conference in August - paid completely in full- not missing this❤
Your lesson is well taken..
RC Blakes is funny and serious at the same time. WE NEED IT! Thank you so much for taking the time out to correct us and get us in order. I appreciate you.
Everyone may I ask a prayer request? Please pray for me to get this remote job where I can travel more. I would love to visit New Home and come to more events planned by Pastor & First Lady! Thank you in advance ♥️🙏🏽🙌🏽
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@@geminilady39Thank you so much ♥️🙏🏽
@@stefblanco3887 You're welcome 🤗
Sending prayers 🙏🏽🙏🏽🗣️🔥
We understand. Praying.
VALUES and GOALS must align!! 🔥🔥🔥
This snatched my soul, I hollered laughing while also in agreement!!!
Even employers qualify prospective employees .. they screen applications, interview applicants several times to disqualify the un qualified and even once hired the employee still goes through a probationary period before receiving all the benefits. & Even after that, you still can’t get certain benefits until you are vested… and even after that the performance is evaluated annually. Yet, you allow someone to prance all up and through your life who is not fully qualified for that critical position in your life. “Stop popping that gum and wipe that grease all off your lips” & get to truly paying attention. Close up them legs and open up those eyes & ears.
'Asking a brother questions is the polite way of testing him.' This is good.
If you have doubts and need to "test" a man's character that's because you don't trust him and he's not the one
A man that says he CAN'T find a gig doesn't want to work 😂😂😂! Bishop, you know what your talking about 💯! I have heard some lines in my day! Praise God for growth, healing and leasons learned ❤
When I get weak I come to your channel to reset. Thank you Pastor!!!!!!
So glad I follow his sermons. Came at the right time. I fell for a church guy. But outside of church, we are not aligned. Thank you Lord for your probing spirit.
I agree, you have to test a man out in different scenarios and situations, ask questions, ask them again but also compare the answers to their actions...... listen to the questions they ask you, especially of there are about your finances or if you have a home and he doesn't, if he is covertly seeking a shelter, while he has never thought it necessary to own or rent anything, in other words, he doesn't have a place to take you too. Observe, listen..... spend time with them and without them, there is where you gain clarity and discernment.........
You are preaching. "My type is not my Kind." It is tight but it's RIGHT 👍🏾. Thank you for real talk💯💯💯
17:00 🎯 Relationships either bring you forward or backward. You either descend into one or ascend into one.
A man that don't like questions or his energy becomes frustrated, impatient and possibly aggressive, he feels that u should not be fixing your mouth to question him= he's abusive 👊🏽 ruuuuunnnnnn!!!
I agree with you Bishop it's more important for the woman to qualify a man, the woman has more to loss and she is the one that has to submit to the leadership of the man, because where he leads she will have to follow especially if she wants peace.
Well said
I CAN BE HAPPY AND SUCCEED BY MYSELF!!
BISHOP, I haven’t met you a day in my life, however, I LOVE YOU AND LADY LISA!!!! Sir, your videos have empowered me SO!!!! AMEN!!!! AMEN!!! AMEN!!!!
Pastor.. I have listened to your videos for years. However, I am now going through heartbreak because fir some reason, all that knowledge went out the window and now I'm stuck with a 8 month old, with no financial support. Pray for me 🙏
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Hugs!,you will be ok🙏
Sis, I know how you feel; been there. What I've learned was that my precious gift of a child is my responsibility. And, if the father doesn't take responsibility...that's HIS misfortune.
So, I 'pulled up my 'boot straps' (figuratively speaking) and got my 'big girl' self out in the workforce and did what I had to do to support MY child.
No, it's not always easy. However, making good choices and doing the rights things pays off, BIG TIME! Praying for you.🙏🏼
The amount of respect and assistance (however small it was) I received was priceless.
When others see you putting forth a positive effort and not playing the 'blame game' it speaks volumes of your character.
@@priscillakanini5617 kanini mambo? 🇰🇪
Thank you for the affirmation. 🙏
After my last partner I am no longer comprimising my standards for any man. It is HARD and boring but I can’t continue in these toxic cycles.
28:25 " batting eyes and popping gum etc.." Bishop Blakes is hilarious 🤣
13:55 Be clear about your values and your goals (know what you are looking for in a relationship) clarity relative to your values
22:07 objectively observe a man’s behavior, how he treats others
28:35 ask him questions, ask them many times about their goals, values and interests and see if the answers are consistent. Questioning - is a polite way of testing
Queens ask questions that only Kings can answer.
35:14 spend calculated physical time, how they behave in different situations?
40:49 trust your inner guide
If something feels off, investigate it further before making any decisions
“Marriage is a downgrade” powerful statement my brother!!! You caused me to think of (in short) of the time after a war that King David and his warriors had returned from. Pieces of land and or property was apportioned out to others but not to David, after which God turned and expressed to David, “I am your SHARE!”
Thank you for this beautiful discussion. You are a gift to my heart!! ❤
Wow!!
Can you share the scripture verse
Right on time because after my divorce from a narcissist I feel like I’m still a little naive. I need to keep listening to you that got me out of that mindset I was in. I need to keep learning even after getting rid of the ungodly marriage I was in.
I can relate Queen same here RC got me out of it and now my divorce. Take your time it's no rush. ❤️
@@dodd1976Praise God 😊
Wow! Praise God! Thank you for helping us Lord!
So many TRUTHS TRUTHS TRUTHS! Women...we need to STOP wasting time with wrong types of ppl!
I can't wait!! Thank you Jesus!!!
Indeed I observe how people behave it’s always the key Bishop🎉
Asking questions is a polite way of testing. Questions reveal motives 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I am excited to join this session. I have been separated and now recently divorced. I am ready to get to know someone on a deeper spiritual level.
So am I, Sis this is my same story too, separated then divorced last year. I have high standards so finding a suitable person continues to be a struggle. I’m not pursuing but the guys who do show interest miss the mark, so I’m enjoying my singleness. Tonight should be a good one for sure 👏🏽
@@tjohnson5760 I know there are people in a similar situation like ours but, I'm happy you left me this message because I felt alone since 06/23/23 which was my official divorce. Alone as far as nobody to talk to about it I have family, but I haven't been able to converse with anyone about how I am feeling. I am going to enjoy my singleness too until the boxes are checked :)
Pastor Blakes, I have been a Registered Nurse for 30 years, and took on the role of parents, uncles and aunts major caregiver for past 15 years. I felt a profound release from needing to be a caregiver about 6 months ago. I have been that "single" person for over 25 year. I have always felt I was in the places I needed to be and the had the freedom to do so. My older sister asked me what I expected to get from being my family caregiver, did I expect to inherit more. She could not understand when I said I do it because I can and do it because of love. I am now doing for me, caring more for my needs and hoping this included finding a quality man. So that said I appreciate you words on qualifying a man. But it was your words about God using the "single" person that validated, released me from justifying the why and knowing I took God's path for my life. I know it is God leading me now to my man. Thank you for your words and message.
I completely understand, because I have provided care for several family and friends since I moved back, because I love them and I wanted to. Sometimes under the surface helping others can be killing the caregiver. I went to my PCP on last week and my blood pressure was 200/194 P89 to my surprise I made it to the doctor just in time. I know now that my peace and well being from this point is my only priority.
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Be blessed for ever 🙏
Thank you so much Bishop RC Blake’s Jr. for this teaching 🌺
Pastor Blakes. I have been following you for a long time. And like I child I hear but didn't follow. But how I'm listening, taking it all in and praying to God. I'm being still. Learning about myself. When the the time is right it will be right. Continue to do what you do. Thank you and Lisa.
My GOD you preaching today!! 🎯💯🗣️🎤…. wow I ❤️it …🎉🎉🥳⛪️
He helping us today!!! @rockingmygray
Thank you! if a person truly cares about you they will not waste your time. A lot of what we see is what it is. Great video!
Thanks for the advice and wise counsel. I've always been good at questions but shared values was a lot more difficult to come by and I was always feeling behind the clock. Thanks for the endorsement of singleness in particular. I think that was the most valuable takeaway for me. Oh and in Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹 we say "what sweet in goat mouth sour in he bam bam" that's exactly what you said when you said what feels good today doesn't feel so good tomorrow.
You deserve all of God's blessings and favors for your wonderful insights. So sincere and warming like a fathers love. Thank you
Number 5 hits the hardest … too many times I have ignored that inner voice .. my intuition… the spirit never lies !
This is exactly what I needed. I was on the verge of making another mistake, my intuition was so strong, this helped me make a wise decision.
Thankyou so much Bishop🙏🏾
Trust that intuition. I’m going through the same thing.
I admire and adore these teachings!
Praise God for revelation knowledge!
Amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅
What feels good today causes pain tomorrow 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥what feels pain today brings joy tomorrow
Mr.RC u did that playing this music thanks God bless you made my everything cool love Ben on ur page
Amen 👏🏾 Great message. I recently ended a relationship….Our values & goals didn’t align & it created alot of friction and frustration in the relationship. My self worth is non negotiable….I refuse to settle because im aware of what I bring to the relationship so if I’m not met half way I have to leave.
Preach preacher we need your Gospel! God Bless you Bishop Blakes and first lady Lisa Blakes
😂😂😂😂😂😂I love it!!! He said close yours eyes dry your lips off and spit the gum out😂😂😂😂😂
Pastor Blake’s is hilarious.. every time he references ”popping that bubble gum an going on” I can picture it and I lose it😂 Sir, thank you for your wisdom and humor! We appreciate you! God bless you and 1st Lady🤗
You preaching. I’m walking through the house cheering you on as I do my housework.
Man can tick all the right boxes in the beginning,they are on the best behaviour..but as time goes by their true colours always comes out
I’ve found this to most definitely be true. Time seems to be a teller of things such as this. For many in time the good behavior mask falls off, although I do believe there are still good men. We a women just have to pace ourselves versus hopping into something blindly.
That's called the 'Representative-
I love you pastor 😇❤️😘
“What feels good today usually causes pain tomorrow” you got that right wooo Lord! 😅
I learned your introduction song. I loveeeeee it!!!!❤❤❤❤
Can you let us know the artist who is singing ?
This song would be a beautiful wedding song 🎵
Started again and so many risks, i need guidance
Salute and a BIG🫡Thank you Bishop Blakes for your invaluable life lessons. 🙏🏿
You help me so much with my healing, you are the father I never had. Thank you for everything, I hope to see you in person one day.😇
This is too real. I Thank and appreciate your wisdom, knowledge and gift that God has given to you for being such a great teacher . I’ve just canceled 2 more suitors (these suitors that ain’t suitable) and likely cutting another one out before the week is over. Fasting and prayer will increase discernment quickly along with good instruction such as this. Sometimes the same person appears in a different body and other times you get that check in your spirit. Wait on God.
I have been skipping over the intro song for months and turns out it is the most beautiful and empowering song ever!😮
Lots of wisdom and lots of laughter😀perfect combo! I laugh a lot when you call us out. Truth must be told.
I so love this message!! I was taught as a child that being equally yolked was being with someone raised in the same faith as me yet we had nothing in common.
The father we’ve all needed. Tough love ❤
He’s the most honest through man I’ve seen
You are so important to my morning with my coffee.Thank you God for this inspiring man may he stay blessed, spiritual and highly favored. I can't ty enough.
Wonderful talk im happily married but I tuned in to hear your wisdom so i can pass it on to friends that are struggling
Thank you for the wisdom Paps.
Please help us understand how to figure out our value and worth.
Even when we know our values, we often trip on knowing what we deserve.
Thank you rcblakes for such a wonderful message of wisdom.. You are truly a man after God's own heart. Be blessed in this day that the Lord has made rejoice and be glad in it you and your beautiful wife ❤
I have enjoyed this teaching. It's taken ne back to looking @ past relationships and how naive I was. By this i mean not asking questions like i should have. However, i have learned a lot in the past 3 years and Thank God for this Season and Time in my Life. It's given me time to truly get to know me and to appreciate what God is doing in my life. I'm grateful for the healing that's taken place and removing toxic people from my life. I'm very thankful for people like you God is using to speak to us women as well as men. Thanks Pastor RC Blakes and Blessings 2 U and Yours. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💖💖🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
I am watching this from Sierra Leone. Thank you very much sir. By the grace of God you've heal my wound from doing the same mistake. I promise to move forward from any toxic relationship in Jesus mighty name 🙏
QUEENS ASK QUESTIONS THAT ONLY KINGS CAN ANSWER‼️‼️PERIODT💃🏽💃🏽
HELLO!!!!
He’s helping us! Come on through here sir 🔥🔥🔥