Opening Up About Our PAST - Ex Relationships, Sins, Secrets, Regrets.. | Muslim Couple | The X’s

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  • In this video, we speak about opening up on our past. Should we, and other couples, share our past? Ex relationships, ex marriage, sins, secrets, regrets, lies, bad memories and more..
    TIMESTAMPS:
    00:00 - Intro
    3:05 -Wanting to know about my husband’s past. Why I want to know and what I want to know
    7:00 - Not answering questions and valuing privacy. Why I refused to answer questions
    8:31 - Why people want to know about the past. Searching for flaws, red flags, and human nature
    11:00 - Judging people based on a snapshot and without context
    11:40 - It’s not only sins or haram things that can hurt you. Ex marriages vs ex relationships. Khadija RA, Ayesha RA, The Prophet (SAW)
    14:10 - Some people want to know about the past, other people want to talk about their past
    15:00 - The problem with sharing past mistakes + real life examples
    19:01 - Going from a toxic relationship to something new. Do I deserve another chance at love or do I have to pay the price forever?
    22:54 - In Islam, digging into the past and sins can be problematic
    23:38 - What Islam says about disclosing past sins and experiences. Seeking forgiveness, repenting, and the Day of Judgment
    27:58 - The exceptions. Things you HAVE TO disclose, being fair, protecting yourself, and what you are allowed to tell people about their potential partners
    30:04 - What I have learned about marriage. How I approach issues from the past and learning to protect my relationship
    33:03 - The conclusion
    Be sure to share any thoughts in the comment section. Let us know about your experiences, opinions, and any advice for those watching.
    Really hope you enjoy the video.
    Salaam, peace and love.
    ✌️❤️✌️
    #OpeningUpAboutThePast #TalkingAboutExRelationships #ExposingSins #SharingSecrets #MarriageAdvice #ShouldITellThem #MuslimMarriage #MuslimCouple #TheXs
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  • @TheXs.Official
    @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +50

    Hey everyone! Hope you enjoyed this discussion and that we were able to shed some light on how we approached each other’s past. Make sure you leave us your thoughts and comments on this topic and anything it brought up for you. We would love to hear your opinions and how you approached or intend to approach this topic with your partner.
    We have received a lot of questions from people struggling with this topic and so we hope that this video can serve as a guide to help navigate through such situations.
    Although our past experiences have influenced the people we are today, we are not the past. We are the present. We are today. Don’t let mistakes or past experiences define you. You decide who you want to be, not anyone or anything else. ❤️

    • @its_detiem
      @its_detiem 2 роки тому +1

      Pls what do you guys think about a Christian and a Muslim being in a relationship
      Is it a sin in Islam to be with a Christian?

    • @m.a.zahr.
      @m.a.zahr. 2 роки тому

      Assalamu alaikoum, thank you for putting together this video, I found it very interesting 😊
      The conversation reminded me of a short story with prophet moussa (AS) about past sins ua-cam.com/video/FXSgUhHZif8/v-deo.html

    • @iliasahmed6747
      @iliasahmed6747 2 роки тому +1

      @@its_detiem i will provide you with an answer and this is the traditional islamic prespective.
      according to islam, a MAN and WOMAN (even if it's a muslim in a relationship with another muslim) can't be in a relationship before marriage, so basically they can have skinship and intercourse AFTER marriage BUT before that it's not permissible and now to ANSWER your question YES , a muslim MAN can marry a WOMAN of the book NOT vice-versa (which includes both jews and christian ) and if anyone says otherwise he's claim is a lie and against the teachings of the qur'aan because the ALMIGHTY says in the koran : " This day, good things have been made lawful for you. The food of the people of the Book is lawful for you, and your food is lawful for them, and good women from among believers, and good women from among those who were given the Book before you, provided you give them their dowers, binding yourself in marriage, neither going for lust, nor having paramours. Whoever rejects Faith, his effort will go to waste and, in the Hereafter, he will be among the losers." (chapter 5 and verse 5).

  • @RayanaMalika
    @RayanaMalika 2 роки тому +66

    Just discovered your channel and i am completely smitten. You both have such beautiful energy

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +4

      We’re so happy you have joined us, Rayana. How lovely of you to say 🥰❤️

    • @dr.ohuruc.1511
      @dr.ohuruc.1511 2 роки тому

      Aaah me tooo i love them and the conversations too

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      @@dr.ohuruc.1511 ❤️🤗

  • @ruqaiyahkhan8145
    @ruqaiyahkhan8145 2 роки тому +37

    This was such a well explained video! Irrespective of our sins and our past, if we repent and change we all have the opportunity to have love.

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +7

      Thank you, sister Ruqaiyah. May Allah shower his mercy and forgiveness upon us all. 🤲🥰❤️

    • @ruqaiyahkhan8145
      @ruqaiyahkhan8145 2 роки тому

      No worries! I've just discovered your channel and I am really enjoying the content. Also, I really like your guys accents! Makes me wish I was raised in the UK.

    • @its_detiem
      @its_detiem 2 роки тому +2

      Am a Christian and I love you guys🙌✌

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому

      @its_detiem Sending our love to you too!! 💕

  • @teyannadean4915
    @teyannadean4915 2 роки тому +4

    Another winner!! Again with the honesty and truth that keeps me coming back for more.
    Relationships are hard enough to navigate as it is but, requiring that people tell you all about their past and badgering them if they dont, only adds one more thing that may not ever be worked out because it should never be contingent or wrought with the expectation of answers. Like it was mentioned; people may not be willing to listen to people in their lives but can hear it from someone more random. I have been telling people some of the same things you guys mentioned for years and I actively saw them not listening because they have already been conditioned to believe that you have to spill your whole life story in order to have a real and lasting relationship. I believe that often those rules of engagement can push people to lie and I dont like putting people in that kind of position. You learn a person in moments and that can tell you more about them and their intentions than a bunch of questions, that may unduly burden them and cause more strife than there needs to be, when often the answers only serve the purpose of being used as ammo at another time.
    It does my heart good to see and hear the level of maturity that you two share and you have no idea how many people need to hear your insight. Keep changing lives and perspectives. I wish you blessings abound. Always love, love always.

  • @baryl3969
    @baryl3969 2 роки тому +12

    Understanding a person’s past can also help you know what traumas they may have encountered so that you know how to best work with them even if that includes the mistakes and what led to those mistakes.

  • @ygee6904
    @ygee6904 2 роки тому +9

    We need more..your videos/content is something I look forward to.your conversations are so educative when it comes to relationships.we should all accept that everyone has a past and that past shouldn't affect our present and our future..

  • @sanamo86
    @sanamo86 2 роки тому +9

    As a victom support worker for donestic abuse victims particularly of the South Asian culture, common red flag of their narcissistic abusive husbands who later became manipulative emotionally and physically abusive is that the men and their families would shut down conversations about past relationships and marriage, refusing to answer very basic questions such as what went wrong, i think it's very important you put a disclaimer that repeated refusal to answer questions of their past when getting to know them for marriage CAN be a red flag of a potentially abusive person, your advise in the video can end up leading our sisters into abusive dynamics

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +5

      Yes, we can definitely appreciate that. We have a video on red flags and abuse coming up in which we will try our best to address all of this iA. It is an issue that is very close and important to us both and something we speak about often.
      This video was for a specific audience that had reached out to us over this issue. It is true that repeated refusal CAN be a red flag. It can also just be someone being private. There is a difference between privacy and secrecy, and refusal to speak on something is not necessarily admission of guilt. As Muslims, we have to take into consideration the Islamic rulings on this matter. I know many good people who made bad choices in their past. I also know many situations in which the man/woman had never been married before and turned out to be abusive. A failed past relationship is not directly linked to abuse.
      It is a very intricate topic which hopefully over the course of a few videos, we can cover holistically. As mentioned above though, this video was for a specific situation.
      May Allah reward you for the work you do, protect our women, and give the sufferers of such situations justice, peace, and happiness in this life and the next. 🤲

  • @bmj9221
    @bmj9221 2 роки тому +27

    This is very Educational content!Am learning a lot from you guys and am impressed with the chemistry you share together it's lovely.I really love your accent is beautiful.Road to million subscribers InshaAllah.

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +2

      In shaa Allahhhhh! 🤲✨ Awww thank you so much. 🙈❤️ Really lovely to know you're enjoying our videos ☺️ thank you for watching and commenting!

  • @Kafukato
    @Kafukato 2 роки тому +6

    I'm more like Amara I spill everything about myself as an obligation because I always feel like It was bad to lie to the other person about myself but after this today a huge burden has lifted from my shoulder. thank you for talking about this I have been watching some of your video and what I can say is that I love them all it's educating me more about my religion which I didn't know and had fear in asking people. I pray to Allah to protect you both from all evil In Sha Allah.

  • @sandyandy4402
    @sandyandy4402 2 роки тому +23

    I think regardless of someone’s journey a potential spouse should know the full details and make a decision on this basis. If someone holds past sins and mistakes against you, that’s on him/her and that person isn’t for you. I’m not saying share that with a first date or everyone you encounter before you decide to proceed to marriage. I would say use discernment on the timing and person you share with but be fully transparent. It can save both parties time and heart ache down the line.

    • @Faizaabukar
      @Faizaabukar 2 роки тому +8

      I respectfully disagree with you. All past sins don’t need to be known to your future partner especially if it doesn’t apply to who you are today.

    • @nur6998
      @nur6998 2 роки тому +2

      100% true you don't want go without knowing the past and how it ended and hearing that from other ppl that would be embracing knowing things about your spouse from others.

    • @ghurabaa114xx
      @ghurabaa114xx 2 роки тому

      @@nur6998 yes, exactly

  • @hindaadam
    @hindaadam 2 роки тому +16

    Thanks for the reminder..i think its should also applies to our relationship with friends...this is beautiful..Sufwan has so much wisdom💙and Amara is much relatable🧡

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you for such a sweet comment ☺️💖

  • @rebelwithahaloxx1002
    @rebelwithahaloxx1002 2 роки тому +6

    Again smashed out of the park. Honestly, you both are such good teachers the kids you teach are so lucky and we are too getting to be here too.
    I never thought about it in this holistic view when wanted to know about a potential spouse and that example with the job interview honestly hit home and it makes so much sense. I love this and you both feel like my older siblings who give the best advice. May Allah always bless you. امين ❤

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Awwww, we love you sis! You always watch our videos and let us know what you think 🤗❤️ you're too lovely ma shaa Allah. Thank you for your encouraging, sweet words 💖 love that we explored this topic & so glad to know you found it interesting. I love Sufyan's job interview example too, made me think! May Allah SWT bless and protect you my sweet sister 💖🤗 lots of love and hugs to you xxxxx

  • @sm2293
    @sm2293 2 роки тому +2

    It was lovely to hear Amaras views on what’s she’s learnt so beautiful ✨

  • @asanti-sana3280
    @asanti-sana3280 2 роки тому +4

    I'm always looking forward to their sit down discussions and I always learn a lot WOW.You guys have a new supporter from Botswana-Africa

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      We’re so happy you’re here and enjoying our discussion. Means so much! Sending all our love to you in Botswana. 💕

  • @7Romie
    @7Romie 2 роки тому +8

    This was one of my favorite videos. So much wisdom behind what both of you said. God bless you both and keep your marriage filled with love and happiness always ❤

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому

      Ameen, may Allah SWT bless you too. 🤲 Thank you for the kind words. So so happy you enjoyed it!! ☺️✨

  • @margretchildofGod3
    @margretchildofGod3 2 роки тому +16

    Love the discussion and I agree.......As for me I talk about everything with my husband honesty is the best policy and past secrets can sometimes put a strain on ones current relationship depends on what happens in the past👌🏽👍🏼......lots of love from Jamaica 💗🇯🇲🇯🇲💖

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +2

      Thanks for letting us know how it works for you. All the love to you and your family! ☺️💖💕🥰

  • @ashleylovebear
    @ashleylovebear Рік тому

    Such a great video ! Gave me a different perspective

  • @therasilvi
    @therasilvi 2 роки тому

    The timing with this has been amazing. subhanAllah

  • @meezursrule
    @meezursrule 2 роки тому +3

    Found this really interesting, and your point about "sharing all of your previous mistakes does not allow you to grow" is very valid. And it is very important to have the freedom to be your best person without being judged on the past.
    But...I still think it is important to ask questions and look for red flags, especially in the context of getting married to someone without a long engagement and without living together first.
    You never really know a person until you have lived with them IMO, and asking questions can help to pinpoint warning signs IMO.
    I was in a relationship with someone. Head over heels. He made me laugh, we had such fun together. It was clear that we both came from troubled families. It felt like us two making a fresh start together, each understanding the other. Within 6 months he was asking me to marry him, within 9 months we were planning a baby. It was moving really fast, and that was my fault, I was over the moon at having found someone that I thought would be my life partner.
    There were a few niggles. Coming home to find a strange man in our flat. Turned out he had decided that we were moving house, having never mentioned anything about moving before, and the man was the new landlord and he wanted me to sign the tenancy agreement without evening viewing the place.
    He was unwilling to get a job. He said he lacked the confidence to work, even though he generally came across as very outgoing with his friends.
    He saw eczema on me and casually mentioned that he used to bully a kid at school who had that.
    He mentioned being his mother's favourite and getting shouted at for hitting his sisters as a teen.
    He described his mother chasing him round the house with a hairbrush after an incident when at 15 he threw a full scale tantrum when they were visiting someone's house and he was bored and wanted to leave.
    I dismissed all of these niggles. I should have noticed the red flags waving. He seemed so sweet, gentle, laid back and funny.
    The violence started when I was five months' pregnant and an emotionally manipulative and physically/emotionally abusive Mr Hyde suddenly came on the scene...it really did seem like Jekyll and Hyde, and he could flip from one to the other in the blink of an eye.
    With hindsight, I should have taken a lot longer to get to know him before moving in with him, never mind having a child. And when he described bullying people and having tantrums at 15, I should have backed off/ended it and not just assumed that he had grown past such behaviour.

  • @capture219
    @capture219 2 роки тому +5

    Sometimes learning about each other's past helps to build strong intimacy and then, the pros and cons of that past life will teach both couples a big life lesson.

  • @IAMLilianChanel
    @IAMLilianChanel 2 роки тому +1

    I needed this. Thanks you two , 🙏🏽

  • @jervisneita1736
    @jervisneita1736 2 роки тому +3

    That's such a Jamaican thing to say 'you sound like the feds' lol love it!

  • @somericanfam
    @somericanfam 2 роки тому +3

    You guys always drop wisdom in my life at the exact right moment 😭❤️ all love to both of you masha’allah 🙏🏼

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому

      😭❤️❤️ Thank you sis! Love to you too 🌸

    • @ayshathulmubashara5935
      @ayshathulmubashara5935 2 роки тому

      Exactly! It really sheds light on Everyone's approach to this topic. Jazakallahu khairan. May Allah Azzawajal bless you both. Aameen.
      love you two. You both are knowledgeable. Masha Allah. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @sm2293
    @sm2293 2 роки тому +2

    Sufyan is my kinda person but I understand where Amara is coming from oversharing and also wanting that from others too. Such a great video so much wisdom💫 thank you for sharing!

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks so much for watching! It's nice that you can see understand both sides so well ☺️ one is probably healthier for your relationship though 🤣👀🌸

  • @robinbalaochieng5303
    @robinbalaochieng5303 2 роки тому +15

    everyday i appreciate this open and inclusive conversations,,,amazing content

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you, Robin. So glad you are enjoying our videos! Means so much. ☺️🤍

  • @dr.ohuruc.1511
    @dr.ohuruc.1511 2 роки тому

    This was surreal loved eeerything👌

  • @fatimamohsin5226
    @fatimamohsin5226 2 роки тому +2

    This discussion was so much better and practical than what many marriage counselors offer. You guys not only have the talent but also the proficiency to explain your point of view. Excellent and amazing 👏 👌 . I liked the quote " A wise man once said...... nothing " wow 👌 👌👌superb.

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Oh thank you so much ❤️ what s lovely comment! We're so happy you enjoyed it 😃 xx

  • @claudettegill8400
    @claudettegill8400 2 роки тому +2

    Like the video so much? You two are so adorable. I get so much pleasure listening to you all. A modern twist to relationship today. My relationship is almost fifty years in next year, so all I do is listen to a more modern day perspective of marriages. Love it. ❤️🌹

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +2

      Hi Mrs Claudette. Congratulations in advance on your 50 milestone! As if 49 isn’t admirable enough. 😅💖 We’re so happy you enjoyed the video and we pray that you and your family receive all the blessings, joy and success this life and the next have to offer! ☺️💖❤️✨

  • @iliasahmed6747
    @iliasahmed6747 2 роки тому +1

    ما شاء الله , الله يسعدكما دائما و زاد الله المحبة بينكما.

  • @princessstar5480
    @princessstar5480 3 місяці тому

    Amazing honest video.. Thanks to you both 👍

  • @Salsssssss
    @Salsssssss 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for this video :) Could you please do a video on the best way get to know someone in a halal way and what questions you should ask your potential spouse?

  • @IonaRowanMacleod
    @IonaRowanMacleod 2 роки тому +2

    100% agree. I got the shivers when you were speaking about how loving, forgiving and merciful Allah/God is. I agree that you don't have to share everything. I am learning that honesty is the best policy but silence is also an option. We are given a new chance to change every single day, that is how good Allah is. I have made the mistake of sharing my past before and it only serves to continue on negative energy that was otherwise dead. God has ultimate compassion and understanding of 'why' you did what you did. People don't. None of us can compare to God in our perspective.
    I have learned the hard way not to trust everyone with my secrets or with things about your past.
    If my future husband asks too many questions I will just politely decline. Thanks for the wisdom you two. It is really refreshing. 🙏✨

  • @ygee6904
    @ygee6904 2 роки тому

    Yaaaaay. I got my notification..💃💃

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Woooo! Thanks for switching them on! 🥰

  • @MsSerious123
    @MsSerious123 2 роки тому

    Just discovered you guys...loving it xxx

  • @everydaytales6031
    @everydaytales6031 2 роки тому

    New subscriber here,,,I like the way y'all give us these conversations
    Very educative

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому

      Yayyyy! Welcome 💖🌸 So happy you enjoy the content 🤗

  • @sounique2003
    @sounique2003 3 місяці тому

    I loved this discussion because it allows people to know everyone have their trials they run into, but what matters is how you overcome those obstacles!!! Amara is my spirit sister. I want to know everything as if I were there. Idk where it comes from and why, but yes, I want to know EVERYTHING......💜💜💜

  • @KoniSenpai
    @KoniSenpai 2 роки тому

    Hey guys. New subscriber here. Sending a HAPPY HOLIDAY greeting from my family over here in Jamaica to yours

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому

      Hey Marquise! So happy you have joined us. Wishing you and your family all the love and blessings! 🥰🤲💖✨

  • @Rugiatu-kanu
    @Rugiatu-kanu 2 роки тому +2

    I think it's important to know about your partners past. It's very educative ❤️❤️

  • @fatmaaksu7659
    @fatmaaksu7659 2 роки тому

    8:26 OMG THIS IS HILARIOUS

  • @OfficialMNIB
    @OfficialMNIB 2 роки тому +3

    - Congrats on your 1st million views milestone - APIDTA - 💯

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Alhamdulillah. Thanks for showing up for us my bro. 🥺🤲😁

  • @eyesusgetanew4346
    @eyesusgetanew4346 2 роки тому +7

    God bless your Marriage much love and respect

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Praying for God to return the blessings to you also, Eyesus. ☺️🤲✨

  • @thenkaliway85
    @thenkaliway85 2 роки тому +6

    Surfyan and Amara compliment each each other. They are compatible.

  • @ruthwright6247
    @ruthwright6247 2 роки тому

    Great video....thxs for sharing.

  • @user-bz8zq4mk3l
    @user-bz8zq4mk3l 2 роки тому

    Mashallah akhi lovely tips my brother 👍🏾

  • @rubabmarvi4806
    @rubabmarvi4806 2 роки тому

    That's how cute relation argue ...agreed with both of individuals points ...good luck with your beautiful bond ❤ 💗 💖 💕...stay blessed...

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Praying for your joy, happiness and that you are showered with all the blessings. Thank you for such a lovely comment. ☺️💖🥰🌸💕

  • @naderzaal
    @naderzaal 2 роки тому +3

    When he talked about the day of judgement I got chills. Mashallah great information. Inshallah I can find my future wife soon! #Whereismypalestinianwife🧕🇸🇩

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Subhanallah. Praying for you to find your wife. May Allah make you perfect for one another!! 🤲🇵🇸🤍

  • @ThePaleBabe
    @ThePaleBabe 2 роки тому +8

    Hope you guys can see now that you NEED to post at 3 times a week 😭😭 we can't wait this long. Love from South Africa! 🇿🇦

    • @klaw1425
      @klaw1425 2 роки тому

      I love 💘 sa

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому

      Awww! 🥰 You are too sweet! We’re going to have to up the work rate! 😅 All the love and blessings to you, Palesa. 🥰💖

  • @maryamm899
    @maryamm899 2 роки тому

    Hi I’m new here, love your channellll❤️❤️❤️

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Hi Maryam! ☺️ So happy you’re here and enjoying the videos! 🥰💖🌸❤️

  • @majeen1
    @majeen1 2 роки тому

    Very well done !!! Awesome personalities. Amara, I'm also Pashtun Canadian. 💕

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much! & We want to visit Canada sooooo badly! 🇨🇦😍

  • @maxinehall5382
    @maxinehall5382 2 роки тому

    Refreshing subscribed today after seeing marriage video

  • @nicolegordon129
    @nicolegordon129 2 роки тому +2

    You guys are hilarious. I love that you guys make each other crack up laughing.

  • @emmanuelboakye1124
    @emmanuelboakye1124 2 роки тому

    Good lessons 👍👍

  • @dodangamar673
    @dodangamar673 2 роки тому

    Mashllah beautiful couple one love ❤️ all the way from Canada 🍁

  • @noragira6677
    @noragira6677 2 роки тому

    My new favourite UA-cam couple

  • @saudaabdu3056
    @saudaabdu3056 2 роки тому

    Very inspirational

  • @just-daara7750
    @just-daara7750 2 роки тому +1

    I think you are really right, the past should remain the past as far as its not going to affect the future.
    Mashaallah.

  • @sadiachoudry8472
    @sadiachoudry8472 Рік тому

    Such an amazing video. Really was good for thought, May Allah reward you both with the best of this dunya and akhirah ameen. Could you please include du’as in’sha’Allah in any future videos in’sha’Allah. Would be lovely for your viewers to use the du’as and for you both to get the sadaqah jareya for it in’sha’Allah. Love you both for the sake of Allah. May Allah protect you both and keep you both as the coolness to each others eyes ameen. 💐

  • @haesa4863
    @haesa4863 2 роки тому

    Wisdom. This guy is soooo wise.
    That is why Allah forbids to tell ur past sins and ask about the past of ur future partner

  • @childrenofalovingheavenlyf4433
    @childrenofalovingheavenlyf4433 2 роки тому

    Our favorites ❤️

  • @lisagab
    @lisagab 2 роки тому

    Happy Tuesday Tall building and Sand storm 🤩🤩🖤💚💛

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Our hearts can rest! 🥰 Always praying for your happiness, Lisa! 🤲☺️❤️

    • @lisagab
      @lisagab 2 роки тому

      @@TheXs.Official 😚

  • @istarlynabdullahi872
    @istarlynabdullahi872 2 роки тому +2

    mashallah i love ur relaltionship u are biggest roll modals

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому

      That is so kind. May Allah shower you all the blessings 🤲✨☺️

  • @sanamo86
    @sanamo86 2 роки тому +1

    It's important you can trust your partner with your past as it is part of upu, whether it be a learning curve a milestone, without the threat it will be used against you, if you don't share because of that fear then you are in the wrong relationship

    • @mezazis83
      @mezazis83 2 роки тому

      I think being vulnerable and honest is the most important thing to do.
      Its just my personal point of view,that the way you speak to your partner about exes and past lessons in short shows you your own future dynamics.Because we all have behaviour patterns which only can be changed through awarenes, long and hard work on yourself.

  • @Simplyaslave
    @Simplyaslave 2 роки тому +4

    I really wanna know if my spouse is a virgin, as I Alhamdullilah have waited for marriage and so I simply would want the same. Isnt there a way where can find this out in a halal way? Maybe I can put virginity as a must in the marriage contract? I dont even know, any advice?

  • @knowledge.seeker874
    @knowledge.seeker874 2 роки тому +1

    I think that a couple should share things that affect their present or future time together. Otherwise the past is the past and can unnecessarily bother you and your partner if out in the open. One of the reasons why u r both together is because they have moved on so look forward rather than backwards. Much love from your sister X

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      We totally agree, sister. This is the point we were hoping to put across in this video. May Allah protect us all and give us peace in both our mind and hearts. 🤲💖

    • @knowledge.seeker874
      @knowledge.seeker874 2 роки тому

      Ameen x

  • @ashirazzaq1389
    @ashirazzaq1389 2 роки тому +1

    🤣🤣🤣🤣love it, I do it my husband 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣you guys Mashallah are so so cute

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому

      😂😂❤️ thank you so much for watching x

  • @MuslimahMB
    @MuslimahMB 2 роки тому +2

    My husband has Amara's view to the T. He doesn't want someone to know something he doesn't. He wants soo many details! And he takes Sufyan's view when I ask him questions 😭

  • @aj__love5919
    @aj__love5919 2 роки тому

    I’m like Amara I wanna know everything 😂🤟🏼 I knew it Sufyan be like those guys that are fine to have limits to sharing. Irony is you do great UA-cam videos 😂 I get his point though say as less as possible let your actions speak louder than words.

  • @ag-kj6ko
    @ag-kj6ko 2 роки тому

    Salaams, hope you're well- I'm enjoying your videos and have just watched your previous leisure day one, food looks yum!! Your jobs are very interesting and I was wondering whether you would be able to help/advise me with regards to my 6 year old- he's recently lost his father (my husband) and its a difficult time; I really want to help him as best as I can emotionally. Jazakallah

  • @aleenaali8682
    @aleenaali8682 2 роки тому +3

    "my face doesn't lie aswell, i want to make sure my face is doing the correct thing" 🤣🤣 - Amara is so cute and relatable

  • @pink-ez7rd
    @pink-ez7rd 2 роки тому +6

    I understand your view, but I feel like if you have waited for marriage and avoided zina etc you deserve to know if your potential spouse has also saved themselves.

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Totally understand and appreciate that. However, maybe virginity is important to one person and something else is important to another. So then should people just disclose things based on how important it is to the individual that is asking? That becomes problematic and ends up with “people should speak about everything with their potential spouse” which actually directly contradicts Islam when it comes to sins etc. Tricky stuff.

    • @pink-ez7rd
      @pink-ez7rd 2 роки тому +3

      @@TheXs.Official in Islam virginity is very important before marriage. I'm not saying you need to go into details about the previous people, but I believe you should know if you potential spouse is a virgin or not.

    • @zohebansari947
      @zohebansari947 2 роки тому +7

      @@pink-ez7rd 1000000% agree with u...... V*rgins deserve v*rgins..... That what I say.... If u sacrifice that much then u can expect with spouse too

    • @nav33ra
      @nav33ra 2 роки тому +2

      I understand how you feel. Perhaps the person that sinned though is now more beloved to Allah swt because they repented for their sins while the person who saved themselves did so because it was easier task for them. So it's really hard to judge someone else on their past. At the same time if this is important for someone then it could be one of the first things to say, for example "I protected my virginity and therefore its important to me that my spouse is a virgin." I personally wouldn't ask it as a question rather say that this is important to me and if you don't fit this criteria then I'd like to not proceed after today's conversation.

    • @pink-ez7rd
      @pink-ez7rd 2 роки тому

      @@nav33ra yes, that's what I am saying. You should be aware if they are or not.

  • @zainabahmed6523
    @zainabahmed6523 2 роки тому

    🙌🏻❤️

  • @bimzzyamzy9621
    @bimzzyamzy9621 2 роки тому +1

    I actually like and understand why ur husband (sorry just am bad at remembering names) was not answering ur questions back then it seems rude but he's so funny how soft heart he is rn...

  • @Va.Resident
    @Va.Resident 2 роки тому

    Amara was extra hilarious in this video..." ....who ya bin sky divin wit...?!?!?"

  • @irenedavo3768
    @irenedavo3768 2 роки тому +1

    Do you watch Afrimax English? What do you think?

  • @margretchildofGod3
    @margretchildofGod3 2 роки тому

    It gives some of us peace of mind 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @rsm5627
    @rsm5627 2 роки тому +2

    Generally agree that the past especially sins should definitely be kept secret but some thing that should be kept secret are also red flags. Very understandable why someone might want to know even though they don't have a right to know. E.g. if you have been divorced before you are statistically more likely to get divorced again. Even though divorce is halal it is not something that is encouraged. Also some people repent and deserve a chance to move on whereas a lot of people repeat the same mistakes in one marriage after the other. You should not expose your sins but vetting potential spouses is also important and then you can decide how much you like the person/ how much of a risk you are willing to take. If a truthful person has no past they are more likely to tell you they have no past. Whereas a truthful person with a past might not answer so you can sometimes get an idea anyway.

    • @traceysanchez1293
      @traceysanchez1293 2 роки тому

      I understand what they mean though. It's only natural that humans finds it hard to understand people have a pass and the past them doesn't have to be the present them. People do see their mistakes and do decide to change. If it's going to affect the present yeah or it's necessary for the person to know sure spill

    • @rsm5627
      @rsm5627 2 роки тому

      @@traceysanchez1293 yes that's true too. Sincere people deserve another chance. I suppose it depends in the person.

    • @traceysanchez1293
      @traceysanchez1293 2 роки тому

      @@rsm5627 For sure. I have not done anything very to bad in my life but I have been through a lot and I went from not trusting people to very sharing according to Amara and I have seen where it was used against me in the most hurtful negative way. Most time I would have shared my experience to teach the other person so they won't make the same mistake, so the person could see life differently because we were raised in two totally different economical situations and I shared because of things I faced and trused I could talk to these individuals and I so regretted It. A lot of persons out here are not nice so I am closing back my shell and being very cautious of people. Some of your business is really unnecessary for people to know.

    • @rsm5627
      @rsm5627 2 роки тому

      @@traceysanchez1293 I'm sorry to hear that. Yes a lot of people are mean and do not have your best interests at heart. You were trying to help and advise them too. I hope things are better for you now and continue to get better. You sound like a nice person and have made the right decision not to overshare. All the best.

    • @traceysanchez1293
      @traceysanchez1293 2 роки тому

      @@rsm5627 Thank you.

  • @tyronequaker4959
    @tyronequaker4959 2 роки тому

    Smartest video I have ever seen. I’ve learnt a lot from this video. Especially about the don’t share your past. Great analogy, I used to talk about my flaws and past all the time, the women just think I’m a fuckboyyy but I’m not I’m still virgin Alhamdulilah but women tend to over exaggerate if you been clubbing or have dated a few girls

  • @Midnightlibrary584
    @Midnightlibrary584 2 роки тому +1

    Amara and most girls in the comment section want to know everything about their spouse’s past (romantic affairs, love interests & such) and most men are the opposite. And they’re right in this regard. Nothing good comes out of discussing your secrets with your spouse. In fact, you are revealing what Allah has kept hidden. Unless it’s something that affects you currently, there’s no need.

    • @feefs2139
      @feefs2139 2 роки тому +1

      Asalamualaikum, very good point sister. 🤔

    • @unknown-fl2ug
      @unknown-fl2ug 2 роки тому

      Probably has to do with the fact that men usually have more to hide than women.

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому

      ❤️

    • @orionemperor5319
      @orionemperor5319 2 роки тому

      @@unknown-fl2ug Don't be ridiculous. Tons of mens have no dirty past related to sex and they are virgin.

  • @kasuji1
    @kasuji1 2 роки тому

    anything from the past should stay in the past, can cause issues otherwise

  • @AzizanYunus
    @AzizanYunus 2 роки тому

    One of the beautiful thing in Islam, your past history is your private and don’t have to mention it you your current spouse.

  • @klaw1425
    @klaw1425 2 роки тому +2

    Assalamu alaikum in Islam is haram to expose your past sins

  • @akorfanyame3402
    @akorfanyame3402 2 роки тому +1

    Please I beg you in the name of Allah to surprise me with new phone watching u on my friends phone 😭😭🙏🏽🙏🏽😭😭 anytime u post

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +2

      Your dedication is giving us life. May Allah bless you and your friend. Maybe we can do a giveaway at some point in the future! 🥺😅🤍🤲

  • @waldensiansylph4869
    @waldensiansylph4869 2 роки тому

    Lol 🙉🙈🙊
    Omy word. Finally someone relatable. Scary

  • @abassi1000
    @abassi1000 2 роки тому

    Can I get your autographs? thanks

  • @lisagab
    @lisagab 2 роки тому

    Thats me, i don't want to know nothing about ur ex. I just need info about u😁

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Definitely. That’s a straight NEXT PLEASE! 😅

  • @fd0189123456
    @fd0189123456 2 роки тому +1

    🥰🥰🥰🥰🤣

  • @yasmindini8330
    @yasmindini8330 2 роки тому +1

    “Are you the feds?” LMAOO 😂

  • @maxinehall5382
    @maxinehall5382 2 роки тому

    Funny video❤️❤️

  • @rubimalik4878
    @rubimalik4878 Рік тому

    The past has got nothing to do with your spouses...
    It's none of their business

  • @animallover365m9
    @animallover365m9 2 роки тому

    Ru originally from Scotland? I’m confused I always thought you was both from the us 😂 where ru guys from?

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Yes I (Amara) was born in Scotland and have Scottish parents. Sufyan was born in England. Interesting that you thought the US! 😂

    • @animallover365m9
      @animallover365m9 2 роки тому

      @@TheXs.Official yeah 😂 aww bless hope your both enjoying married life.

  • @papasabally8237
    @papasabally8237 2 роки тому

    Waalikum salam

  • @HaroonKhan-ix3xs
    @HaroonKhan-ix3xs 2 роки тому +1

    🙋‍♂️🤣

  • @christopheruchia
    @christopheruchia 2 роки тому +2

    She is very beautiful. Does she have a single sister or cousin. LoL

  • @PTVZT
    @PTVZT 2 роки тому

    He wasn’t ready for her to day

    • @traceysanchez1293
      @traceysanchez1293 2 роки тому

      I just started watching this couple like three days ago and I love what I hear. I'm not Islam but I like that every thing they put out their is referred back to their trust.

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      @Pete dcm - He wasn’t readyyyyyy! 😅😂 She defo understood the assignment 👀

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks, Tracey. We’re honoured your watching. May God increase all of our trust and raise our levels of conduct. 🤲☺️💖

    • @traceysanchez1293
      @traceysanchez1293 2 роки тому

      @@TheXs.Official Your most welcome. BTW I'm from Trinidad and even though we don't know each other personally I'm happy that we can relate in so many ways.

    • @globalshift8382
      @globalshift8382 2 роки тому +1

      @@traceysanchez1293 u ment to say I'm not Muslim 🤣 not Islam

  • @TheJbeatsProductions
    @TheJbeatsProductions 2 роки тому +1

    May Allah protect you Both inshaAllah y'all knew the haram police were coming lol

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому

      😂😂😂 My Allah protect us all akhi! We need it. 🚓😅

  • @cayman2010
    @cayman2010 2 роки тому

    I’m more like Sufyan. Why do you want to know! LOL ….

  • @pennsylvaniadc6296
    @pennsylvaniadc6296 2 роки тому +3

    Man don’t tell her, She gonna get jealous thou..... hahaha

  • @muhammadibrahim-sb4kb
    @muhammadibrahim-sb4kb 2 роки тому +1

    Don’t expose your sin son of Adem when Allah hide it from the creation

  • @OfficialMNIB
    @OfficialMNIB 2 роки тому

    - The power of Christ compels you - 😅 😂 🤣 😹

    • @klaw1425
      @klaw1425 2 роки тому +3

      Jesus was one of the prophets of God

    • @OfficialMNIB
      @OfficialMNIB 2 роки тому

      - I know - @@klaw1425 - The comment was a quote from "The Exorcist" - Peace - 🙏🏼

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  2 роки тому +1

      Scary stuff 👀😂
      @klaw Brother MNIB is all the way down. Don’t worry! ✨🙌