Anyone here who is in the marriage process? With me, some family members told me "She should be from our religion. That's about it." 👀What has your experience been?
Plot twist : Mohak is looking for a girl himself and expressed his insecurities in the video 👌👌😂😂 Edit : My bad guys, I didn't knew he is already married.
Indian society is at crossroads now. Confused whether to choose the western lifestyle or the traditional way of life. Na ghar ka na ghat ka. Interesting to see where this goes.
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources.
@@snehashispanda1651 You know, your ancestral generation can be found out from your blood. Brahmin(from what they say) come from better blood line than other caste. And how their blood is better? because of the occupation they did for centuries and how they lived. That is also stored in our blood. Genetic structuring , enhancement, evolution whatever, is feeded in their blood. So its all about enhancing your tree. Apple tree can give apple, orange will give orange. But if you have both seeds mixed, you dont know what you're getting. It may be even better, but nobodies know. The best case here to follow, is to keep them separate, so that they can get better and better as they age. I dont know if they make sense. I'm Brahmin that too upper caste brahmin. My parents dont have anything with intercaste(yeah but not SC) or even inter religion. But from what ive seen around me, I'm convinced, that blood line is not something made up thing. It actually exists. PEACE
It's better to choose a practical way of living. We know that with just one person's salary it is not possible to take care of a household. So let's prepare girls and boys keeping that in mind. Ghar ka kaam should be shared just like expenses and bills. Respect each other and acknowledge their contributions rather than measuring them.with Mom and Dad's.
As a 20 year female, I realised after watching this video that it is very much important for a female to be financially independent. I believe people marry so that they find a partner who can help them to make their life easier and reduce their effort ( not just financially but in each and every perspective ). Not because they want drama after their marriage. It's important to live a peaceful and happy life. Marriage is indeed not the end goal it's a part of life. Hence, choose your partner wisely. Marry when you are ready not because your parents, relatives or society wants you to.
Watch 1:47 a successful men never chose a independent woman If you want to stay single and live your life on your own Then financially independence is must
@@Prajna.Pradhan not some many men!,but financially independent women don't consider those men as successful man because of their hypergamous nature and don't want to marry them ,and the men whom they consider as successfull man and attracted toward them,those men want to marry younger woman not financially independent women
@@Prajna.Pradhan No, I am saying that no one gets the person of their choice in 99% cases, either stay single or work with what you get.because age passes with each day . Thats why the concept of arrange marriage was introduced by our ancestors Where our elders used to take every decision, and the divorce rate is more in love marriage than in arranged marriage because they know
For eating biriyani relatives will come For chilling on wedding highlights cousins will come. - This is your life / Your choice -You will have to face the responsibilties and consequences -Rule is same for both Men and Women. love marriage and arranged marriage.
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources.
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources.
Well then why say anything in the first place if you can't defend it fully? I agree with you...India has so much population n so many families...you can't really say anything n you don't need to...whatever a person has to face he has to face...
One of my cousin sister git married. It was arrange marriage and after 3 months she left house and gone for divorce. Her mother in law didn't allowed her to sleepnin bedroom nd made her to sleep in kitchen. She wasn't about to take this all life. So left those ppl.. U dont hv to take bs. U deserve respectful people in ur family
I am from the India where , the parents have always believed in putting their daughter’s happiness first no matter what. I am 25 years of age and still preparing for Competitive exam. My parents have not once pressured me for marriage , neither will they ever and only support me wholeheartedly for my aspirations and dreams.❤️❤️ Hope all the girls get such parents
@@youtubeuser9938your opinion is not wrong but also you r not my father . I can earn easily right now but that can affect my future plans. Being independent asap is a good thing but achieving ur dream is different which requires patience and sacrifice which my parents fully understand. They hv full faith in me and i will not let them down. If u get it good if not that’s ok too.
@@akanksha6958 well.. thats the thing with indian women, all they want to is imitate the europeans and americans in lifestyle, but when it comes it to their real way of life, you women dont practice it in life. Have some shame, preaching gender equality, women empowerment and stuff and shamelessly dependent on parents especially fathers hard earned money for your and your own selfish needs and wants. Better prove your worthiness by doing your life goals on your own. Any fool can lead a happy, carefree life being financially dependent on any one, like parents or husband, But it take a strong women to do and achieve great things on your own. You women just preach women empowerment, women boldness and freedom and bs. And in reality you people dont even have the guts to do it all alone. Keep preaching feminism and bs all over social media while eating up parents retirement money.. 🤣 wah men ! 🤣🤣🤣
Majority of time Marriages are not about soulmates or eternal love. It's just about survival for rest of your life which includes having kids that look after you on your old age, someone to talk to, partner for sex , partner for financial dependency, and list goes on. Perhaps love does not even make it to the list 🤣🤣🤣
Here's a fun fact- 80% of Indian married couples stop having sex after having 2 kids . This creates frustration and unhappiness for both the partners especially men . And about the love part, it was never there in the first place.
What i have learned that Indian man don't want their wife to be more educated,employed they want wife who can do household work and then if wife search for better income husband for their security may be she would be thinking of future their children their family then they will consider her goldigger even they (men)themselves demand for lakh and lakh as dowry that also not from girl from girl's family( besharmi to dekho )atleast girl expect good income just from husband but men will she girl's father is rich or not in actually men should be consider traditional goldigger who demands money as dowry and even can kill women easily for it Means Indian men never fails to give trauma to women,ridiculous🤦♀.
My friend from school was very adamant even at that age that she won't marry an Indian guy, due to dowry harassment her mother had to go through form her father. True to her words, she went to US for masters, fell in love with an American of Korean descent and is happily married now. It was a simple American style wedding with immediate family and the expense was born by both of them (American style) without any contribution from her or her husband's parents/family and no dowry. Has an angelic looking 2-year-old kid now and when they visited India last month, I could see my friend really glowing. Could really see how happy she was, and I must admit I felt slightly jealous. Anyway, I am so happy for her.
Your friend knew what she wanted at that age. Its nice to hear such stories. But if a woman says that honestly, she would be judged hard by everyone around her. Most people don't even bother to ask her the reason and intention behind it. They just assume that she is greedy.
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources.
@@snehashispanda4808why are you only targeting Brahmins... I'm not saying it's false but majority people do that too.... Majority people want to get married in their caste/ religion... And the thing that Brahmins resisting to merge with surrounding that's not true.... My neighbours are Brahmins and they merge with others so well.... Kind ,humble people ...don't generalize everything
Me and my wife got married in 2018. We have 1 and halfs year old daughter now. It's depend on you how you stable your relationship. She was with me since 2004, it's Been 18 years, our relationship start's from 10th class and still going and will gone upto entire life.
Arrange Marriage is pre approved engagement between couple to have physical relationship and reproduction. Therefore the criteria is heavily on Caste, Religion, physical beauty, financial stability.
Wow.. How beautifully you explained arrange marriage can't agree more. True.. Marriages are for physical relationship n bache that's it.. It's business not marriage..
Me and my wife happily married. It was love marriage 💍... Im so blessed till date that I've found the love of my life. My parents accepted her as their own daughter and now she's happy. There might be some ups and down but we manage it without much of a hassle. We are not filthy rich. Just a middle class family. We are here on this earth only once. Why not make it worth living....
@@7_77_. We can you anywhere we want to we can buy anything anytime. We can focus on our job and have a healthy lifestyle and we don't have to worrying about others.
What freedom girls are asking i never understood..? And what I saw in the name of freedom was doing shitty things that's it.. somehow drinking smoking and abusing, women are shown as empowerment
only one word which will describe him Lonely !!! as he gets in his late 30's he will start having the urge to settle down. as he needs a companion by his side. same goes to females in their late 30's, everyone get Lonely when you are 38-39
One honest and useful tip for the boys here.... Unless you're filthy rich or having a well paying job, don't get into a relationship. Love and all fall apart like a deck of cards when it's about earning and wealth. My ex girlfriend and i both are engineers, she all of sudden ended our 7 yr old relationship bcoz her papa wouldn't agree and she cannot hurt him by marrying me. Cut scene, she married a guy who's a doctor and 4 yrs elder to her. Paying him a hefty amount in dowry, This was within 3 months of breakup. Remember boys love isn't enough to marry your girlfriend and keep her happy, you either have to earn equal or more than her dad to full fill her needs. Nothing against girls or love relationships here, it's just my personal experience, contradictions are welcome!
Uhhh....your GF is just a loser mate. Both of sound like you were both working adults so she could've made the brave move to ditch her parents and move in with you into a small apartment. The right one will do it for you. ❤️❤️
I first thought domestic violence due to dowry is mostly in the lower or middle class houses, but when you get to know it's also in the houses of highly educated and highly earning individuals too
What i have learned that Indian man don't want their wife to be more educated,employed they want wife who can do household work and then if wife search for better income husband for their security may be she would be thinking of future their children their family then they will consider her goldigger even they (men)themselves demand for lakh and lakh as dowry that also not from girl from girl's family( besharmi to dekho )atleast girl expect good income just from husband but men will she girl's father is rich or not actually men should be consider traditional goldigger who demands money as dowry and even can kill women easily for it Means Indian men never fails to give trauma to women,ridiculous🤦♀
I am almost nearing 30 and never been in a relationship. I am earning good and well educated. I wanted love marriage but it seems that it's not in my fate. I am an introvert :) . The only option left for me is arrange marriage but I hate it. It feels like a business deal and I feel like a commodity. How much salary I earn, how good looking are you, how much property you have; it feels humiliating to discuss these things and then decide about relationship. I can understand girls also feel the same.
More or less, the only conclusion for boys is DON'T GET MARRIED if you're not well off from career/financial perspective. But 'not getting married' isn't actually a bad choice in comparison to if you're getting married with someone who is only ready to marry you just because you're rich.
Genelia Desouza’s character in Life Partner says the truest statement ever, “Shadi hui hai, punarjanam nhi hua!!” My friend’s husband was okay with his wife leaving her job when she was emotionally manipulated that she would leave her job and do household chores, as it was “rule” of his house where only women cook. Mind here that both of the husband wife were CAs. They were, because now they are ex husband and wife.
@THE ZOLDICS so only women should not be forced to do household chores!! Plus what you said, try applying to men as well. And tell me HOW MANY MEN ARE PROUD OF DOING HOUSEHOLD CHORES WITH THEIR JOB AND THEY DONT FORCE OR MANIPULATE THEIR WIVES TO DO BOTH OR CHOOSE HOUSEHOLD CHORES OVER JOB.
@@read1343 what if she want to pursue career in any field. What if she want to be something.. in her life. How a girl being in relationship ( wife) Can't decide about her life, her goals, just because her husband earn decent amt of money. Money is not the only factor to do job. Managing family & children is not the job of only woman, both the partner have to manage
Marriage is not just about how much money you are getting from other person. You can get several other things that can't be measured by money. Timid person need brave person to balance the life in risky situations, introvert needs an extravert to solve the issues of networking, care free person need disciplined person for the stability in life etc. Your life partner is other half that gives you completeness. So marry other person based on their life skills, their likes and dislikes and personality traits.
Not just marry but date according to that. Too many young women and men are way too stupid to just date based on shallow things like looks and body of a woman or status, money and popularity of a guy. You see it in high schools and colleges all the time people go for people who have high SMV. But when it comes to marriage they completely change their criteria in a partner. We need sexual awareness not sex education. Awareness around what sort of toxic men and women to ignore so that people don't carry their years of baggage in form of trauma and hurt into their marriage.
@@AmitKumar-br9tl it's not that difficult. For example, if you want to test the cooking skills, ask that person to cook your favourite dish. Then you will know it obviously. You can't get true nature of the person by asking questions directly because there's a chance of lying unless other person is straight forward and direct
Thanks to my dad(miss u lot, he's no more) . He raised my mind to be RATIONALISTIC and mature.... Too many wierd wild categories of mindsets exists in the society, luckily I don't belong to those and have evolved to see far better possibilities out there.....
@@deepaksingh0777 matlab तर्कवाद. Kisi bhi situation ho, bina kisi dharm k aadhar par ya vichar ya phir kisi emotional feeling se decision NAHI lena, aur sahi thark se sochna hota hai... Science , facts aur logic k aadhar par sochna. Example k liye, science k isaab se saare insaan same hain, logo ne jaati dharam kia hai, dusra example koi ye kehta hai ki "ye hua tha, vo hua tha, aisa tha, waisa tha", bina facts aur data k argue karne wale vyakti se kya hi baat karoge??? Teesra example, logic k isaab se dekhoge tho Purush aur Mahila dono ko zindagi jeene ka haq hain, phir bhi q itna bedbhav.....??? Sab ko ek samaan dekna... Aur bhi bohot examples diya jaa sakta hain....
What i have learned that Indian man don't want their wife to be more educated,employed they want wife who can do household work and then if wife search for better income husband for their security may be she would be thinking of future their children their family then they will consider her goldigger even they (men)themselves demand for lakh and lakh as dowry that also not from girl from girl's family( besharmi to dekho )atleast girl expect good income just from husband but men will she girl's father is rich or not actually men should be consider traditional goldigger who demands money as dowry and even can kill women easily for it Means Indian men never fails to give trauma to women,ridiculous🤦♀
@@artz3817 I am assuming u have watched complete video. So according to video, in India whatever u say, the exact opposite is also true.... Whatever U said is ABSOLUTELY TRUE, at the same time, there are men(though very very less) who really respect women and their partner , with no ego, no inferiority complexity, no misogynistic mindset.....
Just saw a divorce of a family member after 3 months of love marriage due to dowry reasons. Love marriages are equally at risk because this mindset is deeply rooted in all Indians. Also few years ago saw a relative dying of heart attack due to the pressure of their daughter's marriage. I am very young for marriage but I have made a promise to myself that I won't take any dowry from anyone no matter what people think about me. It just doesn't make sense to me that just to please people around you whom you won't even talk to after the marriage you need to fulfill their so called parampara and put a big burden on a family. Be capable enough to marry someone and then move forward so that you don't need anyone's money. Also start accepting working women, this regressiveness have put our country much behind other 3rd world countries. Women are not born to be housewives, they are much more than that.
On the other hand false dowry claim allegations,legal threat blackmailing if not the demands are fulfilled and not to forget marital rape allegation threat are also skyrocketing against which no legal measures are available in the case of innocence of the husband,also in divorce,the laws are unfaakingbelievably discriminated against man where the woman will get the divorce and of course the monthly allowance just by complaining in court whereas even if the women cheated with other guy and the husband provided the court with video proof of that the husband still have to give the monthly allowance!! I mean in this present time marrying a woman in India is much more self destructive in comparison to self bombing yourself,atleast you die instantly with bomb without much idea of pain but in marriage you will die slowly and painfully in a long course of your life.
When I was young I also thought why I should take money from someone else when I did not even take money from my own parents. Then the reality of arranged marriage hit me where as a guy, you are reduced down to your salary and property. Girls looking for someone with 2-5x the salary, huge property etc. Then I changed my views on dowry, that when I'm bringing so much financial value to the relationship, what does the girl bring? My parents are contributing so much property to our relationship, what do the girls parents contribute?
Working women should start accepting unemployed men also... The strong independent employed career women need not be worried that the rich well employed men are refusing to marry her,,, Because there are many poor unemployed homeless handsome young men who are ready to marry an employed woman and become her househusband... So, There is a very easy solution to this problem faced by strong independent career women.. All employed career Women who want to work after marriage, stay in her father's house after marriage, and look after her parents, do not want to take leave from her job to look after her kids etc can marry a poor, unemployed homeless, handsome, young man... He will be happy to live in his career wife's house because he is homeless. So, the wife can always look after her parents . He will never stop his career wife from working after her marriage because he is unemployed . Because he is unemployed and always sitting inside his wife Father's house, he will look after her small kids. So, she need not take leave from work to look after her kids. She can continue her career and present life style in her Father's house... But, a rich well employed man who owns his own house, is not going to come and live in his father in law's house. Most rich well employed men don't want to marry employed women. Rich well employed men already have enough money, and so he does not need the salary of his wife. So, most rich well employed men want to have an unemployed housewife and have a Peaceful married life. There are many unemployed girls who don't like to work, who are poor, living in rented house, because her parents are poor and don't have money to buy to their own house etc. These poor unemployed girls are waiting for some man to come and marry her and take her to the husband's house and give her free food and shelter for the rest of her life. So, the rich well employed men like to marry such unemployed women and lead a happy life in his own house . While the career girls who do not want to go to her husband's house, want to work after marriage etc can marry a poor, unemployed, homeless, handsome young man and take her husband to her father's house or to her rented house and lead a happy life ... So, everyone is happy.. But, what happens is that when independent employed career women are given 2 choices.. 1.. marry a poor unemployed homeless handsome young man who actually wants to marry an employed woman, so that she can continue to work after marriage till her retirement from job at 60 years.. OR.. 2.. Marry a rich well employed man with big house, who does not want to marry an employed woman and he actually wants to marry an unemployed woman... Now the independent employed career women always select the second choice and she will tell the rich well employed man that she will stop working after marriage and shall become a housewife, because she wants to stay in the rich well employed man's bigger house. The employed woman refuses to marry a poor unemployed handsome homeless man who wants his wife to work after marriage and he is also ready to stay in her father's house.. And then she tries to blame society for not allowing her to work after marriage, look after her parents etc when it is clear that she herself had the choice to work after marriage, if she had married the poor unemployed homeless handsome young man.... That is the hypocrisy of women... Why cannot employed women marry a poor unemployed homeless handsome young man who actually wants his wife to work after marriage.... Instead of trying to marry a rich well employed man who actually wants to marry an unemployed woman... A
The conclusion sent chills down my spine, being a low income, extremely average looking guy who gets his self esteem destroyed by reality every single day.
@@readbooksinsteadofmyname7369 what's lol about that sentence 🤨 ? He is telling the logical and righteous fact which works for both sides men and women.More than majority of Indians are living in a parallel universe which is opposite to rational and nuanced understanding of reality and justified solutions to problems.
If you are Financially UNSTABLE then I advise you to "NOT MARRY" Marriage is not a compulsory thing, its just a CHOICE Not marrying does not harms you in anyway Its okay to NOT marry !!! 🎉
But solution is nowhere...either other person is not meeting the expectations /standards or our self respect are not allowing us to lower our standards just because of age . There are always ambiguity situations and its true for all millenials now a days.
This problem is not only in India, it's also widely prevalent in western countries of Europe, North America and South America.... The basic solution is giving girls and boys equal opportunities since childhood especially in education and let a girls do whatever they want to do in under-grad courses like boys do because these two things mostly shape a quality of life in future. These social problems have a simple solution... it is just many of us especially men and older women who have been a part of such society don't want to change and recognise it and thus make it 'complex' in a counter defencive mode.☺️
@@abhishekuttam8051 also make them understand that not only son are responsible for financial responsibilities but their daughter should also carry on her shoulder equally and same goes for household responsibilities where boys should also told to share equally just like girls. So that they can do it for their husband and wife .
@@Roaming_India true brother, I agree with you but we need to understand the situation and social pressure on girls outside big cities(Tier 1 and some Tier 2 cities) of India are different and more... I'm telling by my experiences as the pressure on boys in general to earn more comes after the age of 20 whereas on girls it starts as early as 12 years old and this type of population include
@@abhishekuttam8051 Actually u don't understand. Even if there is no social pressure. Still girls don't want to take financial responsibilities like boys do. Girls even if they can earn, still chooses boys who has higher salaries. Most of the girls do job just to show they are independent but actually they are alway dependent.
True. India may seem like one country, but it is many Indias. We all have different priorities and difficulties. But what is common is the desire to make tomorrow better than today. At least, for those of us who are yet to truly despair.
What i have learned that Indian man don't want their wife to be more educated,employed they want wife who can do household work and then if wife search for better income husband for their security may be she would be thinking of future their children their family then they will consider her goldigger even they (men)themselves demand for lakh and lakh as dowry that also not from girl from girl's family( besharmi to dekho )atleast girl expect good income just from husband but men will she girl's father is rich or not men should be considered traditional goldigger in my view Means Indian men never fails to give trauma to women,ridiculous🤦♀
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources.
@@snehashispanda1651 Why you write the same shit in every comment box?? I'm also a brahmin and not agree with you, idk from which state or city you're but what you write is not correct cause my cousin sister had an intercaste love marriage because she and her partner both are doctors, so it's not mandatory to only marry in caste...once both become financially independent then it doesn't matter !!
I m unmarried and most of my friends and cousins got married.M on verge of getting a govt job and preparing for state PSC .my mom is supportive n m glad she has no issues with it.But our relatives do have issue a/c to them I should get married be housewife n just have kids nothing else but I don't give damn to it
they are worried because time/age is the biggest enemy to a woman's marriage. This is not a judgement or an attempt to harass you. This is the truth. Men prefer younger women. And if you're wondering it's our beloved India only, then you're wrong. It's about everywhere. Also, the higher you go in education, you're going to want a man even higher than that. Just see in the video only, how that woman speaks with disgust that she will have to marry a lesser educated man than her. Please note: This is not an attempt to make your accomplishments futile, i have no interest, no personal conflict in diminishing someon'es life like that. Maybe a few people who hurt me in the past, but def not a stranger.
@@sonujain2348waah kya soch h tumharii If she is toiling hard for her dreams why she should leave everything and marry first Then obviously she'll be stuck in accomplishing her in laws expectations.. like bacha n all This is the prime time for her career and she should only look upto that! Period.
@@sonujain2348who said she wants to get married? Ladka nahi bhi milega toh ladkiya hain use apnane ke liye. Thank you uncle for your unsolicited advice
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources.
Men after getting financially stable : now I can live life and provide my women. Women : now I can live freely on my own, I don't need anyone. The major difference in mentality and as well in reality which no one wants to talk about.
@Harsh Patel You are not getting the point. Women see Men only as a source of income. Isn't that also objectification. Don't women reduce men as ATM cards. If women will not have kids, the countries population will get skewed which is dangerous.
My parents taught me the basic etiquette of life even though they are not a judge of any court! Mostly in our Assamese Society, Dowery is very uncommon, primarily for middle-class families. I encourage people to choose their partners through love, not by trading wealth!
Same for bengalis also. I have never seen or heard of any bengali friend or relative of mine demanding or giving dowry in marriages. I think its not very prevalent in eastern India.
@@dipakmurmu5163 Oh idk then, it hasn't happened in my family or any of my friends or relatives family, so never heard of any bengali demanding dowry, atleast here in the metro cities, idk whats the condition in rural w bengal.
Actually saying very easy that fell in love but nowadays boys are not so loyal that they fell in love with you and marry you 😀 they love someone else and marry someone else today's scenario as such
There is no value for a boy if he's good or nice. Women are looking for men who have salaried job and bank balance irrespective of his character. Even 10th Failed Women want Government Employees. I am tired of this competition and now want to live single life ❤️🔥❤️🔥
As a Sikh I know. Marriage is a trade here. If you're not rich Punjabi girls won't even look at you. It's frustrating when you're always the backup guy. It's like sitting on a waiting list.
When I thought of getting married and started to search for life partner, the only criteria I had that she should have her own identity. Looks, caste, religion, nationality are acquired by birth. One has no control over them. So they didn't matter. Her own achievements and identity mattered. Now I am happily married for 4 years and really proud of my wife. The men who stop women from working also stop them from contributing to nation building. They are truly anti-nationals.
@@gurjeetdhaliwal3878 everyone have preferences, some want a tall guy/girl, some want a rich partner while others want a handsome/beautiful person, everything is okay as long as you don't ridicule them for not meeting your criteria.
ok, feminist. You had given enough sermons for today. Calling husbands of homemakers “anti-national” shows how bigoted you are. Shame on you and those who nurtured you.
Most of the arranged marriages are based on some sort of deals...love comes later....both the male & female candidates are asked for their opinion...but their opinions are biased too...their opinions are influenced by societal fear.. insecurity... parents' happiness...they get married to each other..even if their inner self holds them back not to do so...
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources.
@@devprosad1664 whether our marriage will last for long term...it depends on so many other factors...here we are talking about the beginning of this journey...I'm just trying to say that...we must go for it only for the right reason.. i.e. love... boy's salary, girls' beauty...social status..caste...these should not be the criteria...but unfortunately inspite of knowing everything ....we are not able to take the right decision at the very right moment.
I am from that India where the girls around me are getting married off without establishing their careers and becoming financially independent but in my house right from childhood, I've been encouraged to study well and stand on my feet, once my father said, " gaadi kharredne layak toh bna diya hai pr ab tum gaadi konsi chalaogi maruti ya audi ye tum pr dependent hai" (I've made you strong enough to purchase a car but which car you're going to own is dependent on you). I am the first girl in my neighbourhood to move out from my native city to metropolitan to pursue my studies after school and now I see a few people getting influenced and supporting their daughters to study more and have a good career.
@@sasswithdivyanshi ek baat batao tumhari caste ke ladke hamesha dursi caste ki ladkiyon se shadi karte hai Lekin tumhari caste ki ladkiyon ko allow nai Karte Aisa kyu (Generally puch Raha hu)
The concept of arrange marriage is in itself flawed, it's more like a business in india where the groom's family looks for a good-looking girl who is "docile and submissive" and will do all the housework and bring lots and lots of "gifts" where as the bride's family just wants a government job wala guy. The actual things which matter in a marriage (love, care, compatibility, understanding, like-mindedness) doesn't bother them. If your arranged marriage is going great then that's amazing but if not then also you need to stay in that loveless marriage and do the regular duties as log kya kahenge.
OK generalisation all over again to boost ego and feel superior,yes there are still many households who only wants submissive women who only does house work and to carry forward the bloodline through kids but there are many more households who have reformed or were logical from beginning who support and allow the women to carry on with her career and family life so you do the right and logical thinking and action and encourage others for the same instead of ego pleasing thinking and action just because you can because of the pseudo feminist trend.We need to understand and criticize each case individually rather than labelling it to make the blame game easier to build a constructively logical and righteous understanding society.
@@CockySuSMountedPoint still stands about arrange marriage just being a pitiful business, both sides looking forward to get the maximum resources from the other and making decisions based on that. The compatibility of both partners, their thoughts and feelings about each other are not even an afterthought in many cases. Saying this as a guy who has seen such mindset in my family and relatives. Thankfully atleast they aren't hellbent on making the females quit their job.
Life is incomplete without a woman, when you will be above 35 and no women would want you, you will sad and alone but it will be too late to do something
Don't believe above comment, older men are more desirable to women, Because they are successful, wise and have a stable life. Focus on career, gain your freedom from family, and enjoy single life. As you grow older you can have more clear view about your life, and can have a chance to change your mind, Because my brother once you get married there's no coming back. As another 25 yr old man this is my pov.
Being a Bengali these things feel so foreign to me! Not a single thing said in this video is valid for me. I am independent, living in a metro city very far away from my family for my career, prefer love marriage, my family has always treated my and my brother's opinion with equal importance and our careers were their topmost priority always! And dowry is something I have never heard anyone give/take in my family/relatives. I was aware of everything though , but seeing all these feels so heavy!
@@sumandas6308 west bengal a dowry bolte gele hoyena , khub e rare .... ar WB a intercaste marriage o common (not the majority) but still very common in cities and even in rural areas nowadays from what I have heard.
Me and my wife happily married after being into 7 years of relationship. She fought for me, she took every stand just to be with me forever… I love her to eternity ❤️
7:08 educated people fighting for dowry 😳😳😳 I have seen people in villages which are denying dowry to show that they are developed at that time I thought it is normal but I feel respected for villagers to be more sensible
@@invalidaccount6147 na bro mene bahut dekhe h isliye keh raha hu , Arrange marriage mein log padhi likhi ladki dekh rahe h,same ladke mein bhi . Mein yeah nhi keh raha hu koi le nhi Raha h mein keh raha hu ki there is change in society jo ho rhi h
As a 26 year old average (some might consider even ugly) looking female from a lower middle class family (with meagre savings), I think I'd have a really hard time finding a groom to marry. Atleast my parents are pretty supportive and encourage me to be financially independent before they begin looking for a groom. I've no excitement for getting married though. The chances that I'll find a family that is as liberal as my family is extremely rare.
False, if your female there is a always a dude desperate enough to date you, if you choose him or not it's your choice. I'm done with being lonely, for a guy it's not even a choice so I wouldn't even care if my future gf is abusive or toxic as long as I get loved
focus on being financially independent! after that try finding a guy ok with you doing your job, coz your husband's money is your husband's money!! if you end up in a toxic marriage and you are having a baby, separate, as soon as possible coz it will be a hell for the child as well
I'm sure you can find a house-husband while you can work to earn money. Your liberal family shouldn't have a problem I guess? Or like the average woman, you are trying to climb up the social ladder through marriage? Then you'll have to pay.
2:45 Disagree with this point. In ground, If a girl gets educated and she is earning right now, she definitely gets a groom who is earning double than her. In most of the cases she gets equally qualified groom. However this ground reality may change in online matchmakers websites.
I am an Indian guy, I just suffered a break up on January 2023, I just went to a matrimonial site to have a look casually not seriously I am still recovering from the break up. I saw the trend every single girl has this on their profile "My daughter/sister/relative is working/studying in a blah blah" I am stunned. I have two issues here "Why aren't girls seeking themselves?", "Why focus on degrees or occupation?" it doesn't say anything about their character "padha likha toh Osama Bin Laden bhi tha na?"
It’s important to select a economically good partner but many Indian marriages get chaotic with time because in most arrange marriages there’s literally no love. I think divorce become less taboo in society.
I always tell my gf to do something for her career and now she is doing nursing 🥰... It's not the matter of money at all , but i want her to be at highest place where she could take her own decisions properly By doing job Or other activities for livelihood keeps you free from inside We both are secular and free minded, we never doubt on each other, I hope one day we will be together 🤗
the moment she gets higher position than you and you are not yet married, you better stop dreaming of marrying her then because her family wont accept you. there is no such thing as unconditional love, its just you haven't face the extreme condition to test your love yet.
Gen Z here - I prefer being alone for my freedom and comfort. Relationships without long term commitment sound more rationally affordable to me. What's your opinion?
I feel same. But then i think who will take care of u when u get ill. Like u know, u get bedridden for few days. Also who will take care when we cross our 50s. Also if suddenly we got heart attack or got into an accident in our house only (like fell unconscious), who will look after if we r alone. I dont like idea of marriage for myself, but i think it is a compulsion.
I'm a gen-zer too but I have exact opposite view on this. Relationships should be long-term. If not then stay single forever (which isn't as bad too if you're an introvert who practically is happy by themselves)
@@knight_23 Make some arrangements for it then. There's an old man here in my neighborhood who practically lives all alone. He has appointed a maid to look after himself. I've heard Banks also have this retirement scheme where you practically save up for yourself to have some money in your oldage.
I'm from that India where the look sof boys, salary, dowry, girl's income, her freedom, his character, his family's pressure, her family's pressure & more factors impacts to the boy directly & indirectly. I mean everything matters in his marriage.
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources..
2:00 it is not about insecurity, girls who do job have a very high attitude and ego and none talks about it. They would never respect a husband earning less than her and the marriage may end in a divorce. When men earn: I am financially stable now so I can provide for my family When women earn: I am Independent now! I don't need anyone! This is difference of mentality none wants to talk about. Moreover if she is independent then she can leave the relationship even on minor issues or when guy is facing crisis in life which happen in every relationship instead of solving the specific problem.
Even Male's aren't exceptional. I was rejected just because I'm 5'6 and have eye sight. Girls are really great to deal with restrictions and rejections like that. Can't imagine the mental stress they are facing everyday. I never want any girl to face this situation, ever.
The solution is.. girls need to make themselves strong. Mentally and Financially. Naukri leke dusre sheher bhaag jao agar zarurat padhe toh. Parents ke khilaaf jao agar zarurat padhe toh. Dont be afraid of the 'bad girl' or 'rebellious' tag. And don't be afraid of hard work. A girl is not special that a boy will provide for her. She needs to have the mentality that she will provide for herself. And she needs to fight for that. Anyhow. Show your parents the obedient face they want to see, if you think that will make your life easier to a degree. There are types of jobs available - IT, management, business analytics, CA. Any degree can pay. Find out how. Make money. Save. Live your own life on your own terms. The hard truth is - beyond a certain age only having financial independence gives a person value. Even in the eyes of parents. So if a girl is earning - her wishes are valued more. And even harder truth is - that parents can be toxic too. If your parents are so toxic that they don't understand that you have the freedom to be independent, that you have the right and brains to decide what will make you happy - then it's better to go no contact with such toxic family members. Parents are not gods. All decisions they take or force upon their children are not necessarily going to be good in the long run. People (boys and girls) need to realize that.
Sometimes I feel that marriage is a failed experiment in the Indian context. Ufff the demands and stuff like the men should be successful like bill gates and profile should look like a job resume. Marriages in India are a farce and stupid. Marriage should be like a team work helping and building each other.
Not in India, but all over the world. If you only try to get what you want to have without trying to give what other person wants then the cooperation is bound to fail.
@@rakada huh not completely. you are not wrong but now inworld people want someone who understand them, someone they can truly spend time not some employnment opportunity. ofcourse, it is not that marriage is not like deal or contract in other world as well. it hundred percent as a way of security but it is also more than that.
It's really sad to see where basic human romantic relationships are fading away in the form of Indian Marriages. No Love, No Compatibility, No Companionship, just gold, money, caste and religion.
@@kheshaghikumar697 Which lead to domestic violence, dowry, marital rape, and if not the above things, depression and stress (Only In Forced Arranged Marriages)
@@ankitpani6656 this also happens in love marriages(the situation may be worse because their was no insurance in the form of dowry) Depends on the people and the family.
@@galaxray8700 You're right, flaws are everywhere. That's the reason maybe nowadays Discussion about Wedding make me feel uncomfortable and uneasy. Ulti si aati hai pata nahi kyun
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I totally I with you sir I am from rural India U.P And seeing all the stuff happening in my society I am very disappointed to the dowry system I seeing rates of 50K + earner takes a SUV 22 lakh expense 25 K to 40 K bike + 2 -3 lakh cash 10 k to 25 k bike + 1 lakh cash The rash reality of arrange marriage in U.P Solution of all this in my view is Financial independence of women . Education is the only option. " If you want the social independence you Firstly have to be financially independent " Hope for the better society in near future 🙏 😌
This is definitely a harsh reality, my parents also hail from rural UP but glad that they don't follow any such norms. Being parents of 2 daughters their main motive has always been to make us financially independent and we both are and my elder sister is also married now but my parents didn't give any dowry and stood against the ones who were asking for it. So in future things might change.
What i have learned that Indian man don't want their wife to be more educated,employed they want wife who can do household work and then if wife search for better income husband for their security may be she would be thinking of future their children their family then they will consider her goldigger even they (men)themselves demand for lakh and lakh as dowry that also not from girl from girl's family( besharmi to dekho )atleast girl expect good income just from husband but men will she girl's father is rich or not in actually men should be consider traditional goldigger who demands money as dowry and even can kill women easily for it Means Indian men never fails to give trauma to women,ridiculous🤦♀.
@@artz3817 women don't seem to amuse me having false rap cases to fake dowry cases even that in country like India . Women from West are taking benefits of 1970s and rights of 2020 s no responsibility. Surely the characterless supported by body count surely is enough to give me trauma 😉
I don't know about others but I belong to an India where even after having a very high paying job, decent looks, good personality, good family back ground it is impossible to find a girlfriend. All the girls I know have a boyfriend... in fact all their friends also are not single... whereas all the guys I know are single.
@@Evaisgalaxy Nope... You must not belong to engineering background. The boys to girls ratio in my college was 13:1. Even in my workplace the ratio is 5:1. Which field do you belong to?
Belonging to an urban background in WB, I have seen that groom's families many times prefer working women as prospective brides if they work in the same cities, and some families even encourage brides to take up jobs after marriage.... rest all is pretty much the same as you said in the video, but this is an interesting exception.
This video only showed the drawbacks of a successful marriage putting men in center root. But there is also another side where the expectations of a carrier oriented women/beautiful woman is so high that is difficult to touch the benchmark for a man. Now a days most of the job oriented boys who are leaving in highly cost area, want career oriented girls to share there living cost. But as I already told, that type of girls are not so easy to find in arrange marriage. I think in arrange marriage most of the persons put long listed preferences and within first few years of starting partner search they don't want to compromise with it which is opposite in love marriage.
One of my friend married a guy from UP whom she worked with in an MNC. Theirs was a love marriage with opposition from both sides. My friend was Malayali Christian and the guy's family was UP brahmin from Kanpur. The guy's family demanded lakhs of rupees of dowry and also demanded a bullet for the younger son because she was not from their caste. The guy initially opposed his parents demands but soon after marriage he told my friend to slightly 'adjust'. My friend gave up meat and eggs for him and became pure vegetarian, did all the poojas whenever his family demanded. Celebrated all the festivals with them. But her then husband and family, made her life miserable. Two years later, it was tipping point and she went to her family and told them that she longer wants to stay with him and or his family. The had a civil court divorce with the judge ordering the family to pay everything back. Now, she's married to someone from her community who has more liberal outlook and is happily settled abroad with twins. Even with many cross cultural and inter-caste marriages, women are at the receiving end.
Something similar happened with my friend. She married a Muslim guy who was our college batchmate (against her family wishes offcourse), even changed her identity / converted under pressure as she was heads over heels in love with the chap. Later on she couldn’t adjust to the different culture and interference of her in-laws to the point of restricting her day to day freedom of clothes to wear and whom to talk with and when to come home etc etc. she finally had enough and later on divorced the guy after 1.5 years of struggle to make it work. Now she is well settled in Bangalore with a guy from south itself. Nobody in our group could’ve imagined her first marriage would turn out to be so disastrous owing to religious differences and family interference.
@@NB-xu8bl it's better if you feel urself that way. That innocence south Indian guy would have easily managed a civilized and cultured s. Indian bride but he got trapped by these kinds of women. She should move back to that jihadi one's and caught up dead by the following days😆
@@believer0001 🤣🤣 Muslims too ask for hefty dowry, you are living in your imaginary Caliphate. As far as caste is concerned, the idea is the same. That one prefers to marry to a person who shares one's background. Won't you prefer to marry a Muslim, who has common beliefs and background as yours.
I prefer love marriage ( i am talking about long term relationship converting into marriage and not about 1, or 2 year relationships ). Cuse in love marriage you Know how much good and worst a person can be. And after knowing the worst part if you except your partner then only marry. In arrange marriage, it's like a gamble, your partner can be soo good and also can be soo bad. And you can't know immediately after 1 or 2 year of marriage how bad a person can be ( pretending like a good & loving partner for 1,2 year is not that hard). Then after 4,5 year when you will realise , there is higher cance that you don't have any options ( probably you have kids now, and age is also a factor ).
@@ashishsinghrajput8314 True. At the end of the day it comes down to money. If I find a girl who loves me for what I am without thinking about caste/religion and other shenanigans and can go against her family to be with me, I'll marry her in a heartbeat. And I'll do the same for her. But sadly, most girls talking love just fall apart when her parents says NO, no matter how independent she might be. And then they talk about being their "choice", or the boy was not good enough. In India, happy love marriages only happens in SRK movies where everybody involved is happy in the end.
Instead of upholding the law, the so called retired judge is bashing his daughter in law and in front of a child. This is the VIKAS of India. Glad to know.
@@Nishantic go and check statistics. Till date they are restricted, Tertiary education is just a dream for many and jobs and working for their dream lifestyle. Only when schemes like free cycles are given then parents allowed their children to study, drop rate dropped (in poor regions of the nation)
@@Nishantic abhe gochu think about 27 crore children in that 18 crore study in govt schools and govt schools students themselves come only due to mid day meals except few states where education is top notch like delhi. You are kid I belive. Please kid don't comment without knowing reality of the matter
Its very relatable,, the exact line by line i can feel for myself.. It becomes very difficult for a working women to find a boy... I really appreciate your work.. this is very genuine issue in India.
It is not that hard to find guy for working woman. Most guys don't want to marry working girl bcos it is a stereotype that working girls are not virgin. Although anyone can be non virgin. If ur virgin u will have no problem finding guy.
@@knight_23 it is not about virginity. It is about feminism which men fear nowadays. They want peaceful life with family. Working girls don't want to live in compromising situations.
@@avinash1562 actually it is Lil bit of both. But ur point is also very true. When u live with other person, both have to compromise/adjust to some extent.
@@knight_23 exactly, I have seen many corporate women have an active bumble and tinder profile while being married that seeing women in suit scares me now
@@sampatkalyan3103 sahi keh rahi hu Agar tum aadmi ho to tum aadmi ki nazar se soch rahe ho ki Aisa kuch nahi hai aurat ki nazar se sochkar dekhne ki koshish to kar hi sakte ho Tumhe PTA chalega ki dusri taraf kitni problems hain.
Let me tell you about my story. I'm quite liberal, earn a good amount of money and now have a british girlfriend. When I used to get any marriage proposals (hah what a joke) in India, the first thing they ask is how much I earn. Literally every single girl asked me the same question. Do you realise how massive of a turn off that is? I don't care about any of the societal norms. IMO everyone should have financial and social independence regardless of gender, caste, class, religion etc. But the same applies to the opposite gender. Wdym you want me to earn more. Is that the only reason you are marrying me? You are financially independent, aren't you? I enjoy what I'm doing and my pay is good enough for me to live comfortably. Please contribute your portion and we'll both live comfortably. Why do you need me to pay all the bills when you are financially independent. I don't mind you earning more, I cook most of the days, so I can cook for us 2. You can clean up after me. We're good to go. Stop looking at my salary and look at me. That's all I ask.
Luckily my in-laws are so good and humble despite they are financially so stable and good well standard people but they doesn’t take any dowry (any means not single penny) no furniture, no gold(only small earrings which was given by may parents as a shagun) , no money sometimes I think why i am so lucky
I think there's a reason boy's family like to prefer unemployed or less educated girl over other option because we as a society have implemented idea that boys have to educate themselves so they can provide to their family, but girls have to educate themselves to be independent from family. It has a deep impact.
Can't be more true, people miss this point so easily and then blame men for all the chaos. They don't understand that girls will never get educated and be financially independent to provide for their family whereas us men do that to marry, provide and protect without the slightest bit of selfishness.
U r right bro. I m 30 unmarried girl. I m an ENGINEER. By profession I m LECTURE in reputeted institute. Also preparing for MPPSC. I m going through process of finding patner. Some ppl reject me bcz i m highly educated. They want housewife. N they told me to leave my job .all my frnd n younger cousin are married. I m feeling inferior in front of society
Live in Bangalore or hyderabad with the husband as the sole earner, when the food + rent + monthly bill comes out to be Rs 45000+ then you will understand the importance of money. Leave alone saving or raising a kid when the school fees for a single child would be Rs6000 extra. You will live on EMI for the rest of your life and let your kid settle it. I feel so amused, there is a friend of mine with this same ideology to let his wife sit at home and help his parents while he is earning Rs 25000 in Chandigarh, he is living in a rented PG with 4 other people and spends around Rs 15000, while the other Rs 10000 he give it to his wife, in emergency cases he has to ask his parents in law for money 😅 Bro time has changed there is high inflation rate and high risks in private companies, eventhough your salary is Rs 90000 but you will take back home Rs 50000, with increase in prices and rents it is not sufficient to survive in a metro city.
@@sandhya7246that's fine? But unfortunately we don't have any option to quit job and do household. I'm okay if a girl wants to be sole earner and support but question yourself would you do it? No?
@@sandhya7246 after marriage it's always the 3 options: 1. Either leave job and take care of household. 2. Keep working and tell husband to quit job so he takes care of household and you be sole earner.(I don't see any women doing it). 3. Keep a maid or both contribute equally.
Me as a Man , my wish, When I become successful and stable, I also choose a successful and stable woman..... Because I Didn't want to make my life harder to marry a jobless women......just because of beauty.....which is gone after a certain time.....I want to live happily with minimum struggle......So Mens make your decesion wisely........ It's not a old generation......
In India Directly or indirectly girls are supposed to be dependent or to be unmarried Bcoz if they are independent they will face difficulty in finding a good match. Similarly with boys They need to be well settled otherwise "kon apni beti dega"
I had a friend I met her while working in one of the corporate hospitals she is also 3 years older to me now she will turn 30 , she herself told me this story..So my friend who is malyalee but born n brought up in Ludhiana fell in love with a Punjabi boy...they had 9 years long relationship...when her mother got to know about it she beaten her that badly she broke her 2 major bones tibia and fibula...she was on bed for 6 months..after recovery her mother arranged her marriage to a keralite boy who is a nursing incharge and an alcoholic...she was forced to marry him...after marriage my friend was harrassed by her husband so much, he used to drug her even ...she told her parents they asked not to make excuses and asked not bring bad name in the Church...after so much trauma she and her husband came to Delhi and started their jobs in different hospitals..where I met her even there she met this guy which I would love to mention his name jomy who used to torchur her that he will tell her husband about affair she had before marriage as they were from same church , he used to ask her money when ever he wanted...I got to know she told me everything I went to management and wrote a complaint against him but my case was taken up by one man who was infamous for his flings with young girls and was really cordial with jomy ....first of all he wasn't listening to me at all then I decided to quit job then he got scared so next week he called me back n asked to join n made assurance that he will ask the bench to see the matter but this men asked my friend to work in MICU when she was 6 months pregnant no one works in that ward if you are pregnant as it requires heavy lifting and have seriously sick patients...then she left the job where his husband again was not understanding her but this time she didn't listen him n joined back....after a month the man and this jomy conspired against me with 2 keralite girls and put memo against me lying some shit so they asked me that either FIR or just quit job...at that point I was pursuing my master's degree in hospital administration so I didn't want anything tangling with future I left but not silently 🤣I left by mailing proofs to one of the heads..then one day my friend met me telling jomy and her husband are friends they worked together before in some hospital and her husband already knew about her previous affair 🤦 and she also told me never to meet me again as her husband n mother doesn't want shred of me in their lives...!! That was my last meeting with her...this was all 3 years back..!! I realised most women have no self respect or they want some back to guard them then only they can take big step..! My friendship was of no use I wish I would have taught her to respect herself first..!!
@@Rohit-bo5uh because sb apna privilege leke baithe h na...privilege of colour, privilege of caste, privilege of govt job, privilege of no. fasting u do every month 🤣 if they are not rich how they will show their grandeur? Then they will do by how much prayers n fasting or hygiene u maintain..if they are rich then they don't want to limit the empire they are kings n queens then 🤣 if they r not uppercast then they atleast have privileges to get govt job so then they won't give fuck to upper caste...if they are uppercast atleast they have privelge to be a storyteller how they brutalised other caste n how they were given this such a great treatment to be one existed if not God 🤣 And other point is also village and shehar ka difference...in cities u talk about how great your Village is ,still all sanskari and when u visit ur Village u become this hightown person who is well educated n throw tantrums so the villagers are also confused shehar ki hawa lg gyi h ab bigad jyengy shadi dkhna bhag k hogi 🤣 but then one fine day they will marry in their own caste beshak crying inside 🤧 but atleast they will get this crown he is well known of his parampara anushasan..!! It will remain till the world will care about what is others opinion about you...n better to teach kids how relatives are overrated and your happiness is everything..!! We all r hypocrite in ourselves..!
Most educated girls with 20 LPA wants guy with 1Cr+ LPA. This is the fact. Also every working girl is referring to explore and sleep with 100 guys before finalising. This is also a fact.
So as far as the education and employment section is concerned, we have: _1. Men don't want a partner better off financially or educationally than them._ And _2. Women would rather stay single than marry down._ I feel like (2) causes (1). Since women want to marry up or at least equally, the easiest way for men to meet that demand is to look for a woman who's "lesser" than or inferior to him in education, income, etc. The woman in this equation would feel like she's marrying up and the man well.... has bagged his woman. Both win. Both sexes are playing the game in a way that's advantageous to them and them alone.
that's not an indian problem but a gender problem .... that's how humans were made... that's the same problem across the globe but arrange marriage should be banned cuz as long as we gonna give the option every girl gonna think if he is perfect i love him nevertheless she would have an option to marry rich guy through arrange marriage ...
Meanwhile I don't care about educational background or job or anything as long as his presence can make me happy, and mine can make him happy. I'll get whichever jobs I have to, if need be. But I just want a happy marriage.
I genuinely feel that Mohak is very talented but underrated youtuber. Reason is most of the viewers don't want to see analytical videos as they are apparently boring. The quality of research, analysis with data and with presentations in all videos are really impressive. Moreover, the type of socio economic and political topics he selects, that probably no one does in India.
Recently my cousin had a love marriage. My cousin is senior to her husband both by experience and post. Her MIL told her that she didn't want a working Bahu for her son. I guess she wanted to say I don't care if earn or how much you earn, it has no value for me. In many families it is about power dynamics, people say that after marriage your daughter will be like a daughter for us but they don't really mean it. They can never accept that an outsider will have similar power and control over their family as them. They still prefer a submissive Bahu and wife.
I am a 6 feet tall engineer earning 50 lacks p.a. I need very fair girl with white pearl teeth color. :D The gal shud know to cook all kinds of dishes and who should wear 50% casual and 50% formal and 100% lingerie in bed. :D She shud be virgin and with bra size atleast or more than 34 :D:D :D
Succession act is applicable only if the owner of the property has already died without registering any will.. Property rights of daughter/son.. Daughter/son cannot forcibly demand property from a father who does not want to give them property. It is the wish of the father to give or not to give. All Children get Equal right of parent's property only AFTER the DEATH of the parent.. But, when the parent is still ALIVE, he can sell, gift or give for free all his self acquired property to anyone he likes or he can Register a will and give it to anyone after his death. Daughter's claim to father's property: When she can and when she can't... The Hindu Succession Act 1956 was amended in 2005, allowing daughters an equal share in ancestral property. But, succession act is applicable only to divide the property of a dead person and Not to divide the property of a living person. Also any will registered by the owner of the property before his death will supersede and override all succession acts and inheritance laws.. Also, Only the property that is still registered in the name of the dead great grandfather or above generation is considered as ancestral property. Self acquired property of father and grandfather is not considered as ancestral property... Despite this, can your father deprive you of your share in the property? Find out: 1. If property has been self-acquired by father... In the case of a self-acquired property, that is, where a father has bought a piece of land or house with his own money, a daughter is on weaker ground. The father, in this case, has the right to gift the property to anyone he wants or will it to anyone he wants, or sell it to anyone he wants and a daughter will not be able to raise an objection. Son or wife also cannot raise an objection if the father is not giving them any of his self acquired property. Self acquired property of dead grandfather is also considered as self acquired property of the father. 2. If property is ancestral... Under the Hindu law, property is divided into two types: ancestral and self-acquired. Ancestral property is defined as one that is inherited up to four generations of male lineage and should have remained undivided throughout this period. For descendants, be it a daughter or son, an equal share in such a property accrues by birth itself. Before 2005, only sons had a share in such property. So, by law, a father cannot will such property to anyone he wants to, or deprive a daughter of her share in it. By birth, a daughter has a share in the ancestral property. Only the property that is still registered in the name of the dead great grandfather or above generation is considered as ancestral property. 3. If father dies intestate... If the father dies intestate, that is, without leaving a will, all legal heirs have an equal right to the property. The Hindu Succession Act categorises a male’s heirs into four classes and the inheritable property goes first to Class I heirs. These include the widow, daughters and sons, among others. Each heir is entitled to one part of the property, which means that as a daughter you have a right to a share in your father’s property. 4... If father dies after registering will... If the property was self acquired property of your father , then your father has absolute right to execute a will and give his property to anyone he likes.. But, if the will was not properly registered.. Then if you can show that father was not willing to execute such a will, but your brothers had put pressure upon the father and obtained it by forcing the father, then you can challenge it within three years from your knowledge. If it is found that father was not in position to understand effect of the will or was pressurized by some one or was not in sound mental condition at the time of writing the will, then the court may cancel the will, and divide the property equally among all the children. So, to avoid such problems in the future , the brother should take the father to the government register office and prepare the will in stamp paper and father should sign the will in the presence of 2 witness and the government register officers. The brother should take father to Government hospital and get medical certificate about his mental condition. If the will is registered properly then there is no chance for disputes later.. s
@@galaxray8700 it's not intimidating...just headache. Most educated women who are independent are extremely opinionated and thinks she is better than you and tries to dominate in the relationship. Men who need peace in life better go with a girl who is ready to quit job and cook and take care of the house.
9:48 my parents always told and teach me one thing, "be independent", they also promised me they will always support me no matter what, they told it's on you if you want to marry or not, or other life decisions.
5:28 nowadays, there is also a preference for NRIs. If the guy is well settled abroad then the families do not care about distance from the native place and are fully ready to get the girl married to the NRIs.
@@ashish99311 The kind of families I have seen, it is true. NRI grooms serve as extra brownie points because according to many brides’ families, their daughters will have a much higher status in terms of lifestyle and visa.
I'm not sure about other parts of India, but in my state, in case of girls-you can be from any caste (not talking about brahmin in the case of arranged marriages), but if you have a government job(most preferred is TET teacher), you'll get a lot of marriage proposals.people actually prefer educated girls with a possibility of getting a govt job in future. I'm from the northeast and almost dowry-free .Even the jewellery was given to the girls from the groom's side, including wedding dresses. You don't even need to take gold from your parents' house ( we only take normal furniture like beds, dining tables, etc., but that's your choice what you want to take).But sadly, a few are getting influenced by the people from the mainland, and it's sad.but it's mostly among poor uneducated people till now
I am animator , read books, do gardening ,very emotional ,love my parents , but it is very difficult for me to choose someone alongside ,I hope God will help guys like us to the proper point.
In just 4 months almost 7 females leaved their homes and ran away with their lover in our village Even 3 women's were already married and have 2 childrens And one girl is just 16 years old This type of things are becoming very common now
Hamare yaha to 1.5 saal ho gye hain aisa hue.... Ladki ki sagai ho chuki thi,vo ladki bhaag gyi,police ki help se 7-8 ghanto ke andar ladki to vapas aa gyi par jis ladke ke saath uski sagai hui thi vo ladke ne us ladki se shadi karne se mana kar diya...
@@rudra20048 Yes , It should be a normal thing in the culture, but it's never going to be accepted by majority. Sad but true. Dating in rural areas is certainly not a thing where half of the population resides. And dating in Urban areas is only common in high class societies which constitutes a very low % of urban population. We might be technological advanced but are very backward in dating, love and marriage area. 95 % of marriages happen as arranged which are based on traditional customs i.e. thousands of years old Hindu culture. So basically implementing dating and Relationship norms is against the Hindu community and culture. So it's impossible
Anyone here who is in the marriage process? With me, some family members told me "She should be from our religion. That's about it." 👀What has your experience been?
Plot twist : Mohak is looking for a girl himself and expressed his insecurities in the video 👌👌😂😂
Edit : My bad guys, I didn't knew he is already married.
Please make a second part on the SOLUTIONS and MODERN THINKING of present generation.
@@PrinceSaangwan He's married, bruh.
If you go to any country it will be like that.🤧
Does any Bollywood actress marry roadside kid. 🤣
Tata birla look for teir range.🤭
@@PrinceSaangwan He's already married...
I feel in most cases marriage is a business deal between boy's wealth and girl's beauty
@@Shusspace well men's money can keep women's beauty atleast till 50 then :)
@@justanothernpc763 but what about consent? Most people would never agree to plastic surgeries to enhance and maintain their looks till 50.
@@the1stmetalhead true, having money doesn't allow you to stuff plastic in your wife's body
@@justanothernpc763 they'll lose the drive after 40s too, bad deal.
@@the1stmetalhead bro I was referring to other skin procedures like facials, peels etc not plastic surgeries 🥲
Indian society is at crossroads now. Confused whether to choose the western lifestyle or the traditional way of life. Na ghar ka na ghat ka. Interesting to see where this goes.
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources.
@@snehashispanda1651 You know, your ancestral generation can be found out from your blood. Brahmin(from what they say) come from better blood line than other caste. And how their blood is better? because of the occupation they did for centuries and how they lived. That is also stored in our blood. Genetic structuring , enhancement, evolution whatever, is feeded in their blood. So its all about enhancing your tree.
Apple tree can give apple, orange will give orange. But if you have both seeds mixed, you dont know what you're getting. It may be even better, but nobodies know. The best case here to follow, is to keep them separate, so that they can get better and better as they age.
I dont know if they make sense. I'm Brahmin that too upper caste brahmin. My parents dont have anything with intercaste(yeah but not SC) or even inter religion. But from what ive seen around me, I'm convinced, that blood line is not something made up thing. It actually exists. PEACE
@@snehashispanda1651 true
@@snehashispanda1651 main bhi brahmin hu or mere wife muslim hai because i love her unconditionally
It's better to choose a practical way of living. We know that with just one person's salary it is not possible to take care of a household. So let's prepare girls and boys keeping that in mind. Ghar ka kaam should be shared just like expenses and bills. Respect each other and acknowledge their contributions rather than measuring them.with Mom and Dad's.
As a 20 year female, I realised after watching this video that it is very much important for a female to be financially independent. I believe people marry so that they find a partner who can help them to make their life easier and reduce their effort ( not just financially but in each and every perspective ). Not because they want drama after their marriage. It's important to live a peaceful and happy life. Marriage is indeed not the end goal it's a part of life. Hence, choose your partner wisely. Marry when you are ready not because your parents, relatives or society wants you to.
Nice.
Financially independent women does more drama Tbh. Their are more chances of them cheating also. They are just bunch of frustrated ugly feminist s
@@Shusspace bruh ur pfp
@@chirag0516 you mirin brah?
@@Shusspace no man u could be
The whole concept is to be independent financially 🙂
Watch 1:47 a successful men never chose a independent woman If you want to stay single and live your life on your own Then financially independence is must
@@Buttmanofficial I hope still some men are existing who wants their life partner will be financially independent then they can help each other.
@@Prajna.Pradhan not some many men!,but financially independent women don't consider those men as successful man because of their hypergamous nature and don't want to marry them ,and the men whom they consider as successfull man and attracted toward them,those men want to marry younger woman not financially independent women
@@Buttmanofficial so what you are saying exactly.. ?? Everyone is staying single?
@@Prajna.Pradhan No, I am saying that no one gets the person of their choice in 99% cases, either stay single or work with what you get.because age passes with each day . Thats why the concept of arrange marriage was introduced by our ancestors Where our elders used to take every decision, and the divorce rate is more in love marriage than in arranged marriage because they know
For eating biriyani relatives will come
For chilling on wedding highlights cousins will come.
- This is your life / Your choice
-You will have to face the responsibilties and consequences
-Rule is same for both Men and Women. love marriage and arranged marriage.
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources.
@@snehashispanda1651 you did not understand what I meant. It's not about caste it's about life.
"Whatever you say about India, opposite is also true"
Wow, the more you think about it, the more it makes sense!
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources.
@@snehashispanda1651 so does Rajput|thakur
@snehashispanda1651 breathe Dear
Well then why say anything in the first place if you can't defend it fully? I agree with you...India has so much population n so many families...you can't really say anything n you don't need to...whatever a person has to face he has to face...
@@snehashispanda1651mangal se aaye ho lagta hai😅
Leave the video aside , I am utterly shocked by the video of the high court judge beating his daughter-in- law for dowry. Greed never has boundaries.
@@Nishantic coward
@@Nishantic 😁 chill maar bhai.
@@Nishantic kya bhai koi majak kar rhe ya seriously bol rhe, kisi ko maarna dowry k liye yrr 😑
True that's sad
@@Nishantic relax bro Teri bhi gf ban jayegi itna frustrated Kyu hai chumtye
One of my cousin sister git married. It was arrange marriage and after 3 months she left house and gone for divorce. Her mother in law didn't allowed her to sleepnin bedroom nd made her to sleep in kitchen. She wasn't about to take this all life. So left those ppl.. U dont hv to take bs. U deserve respectful people in ur family
What was the Dowry rate ❓
Just asking.
Everything is temporary.
Sarkari Naukri is universal.
🙌😂
Thank God I took birth in Karnataka 🤣
@@nknkannadiga9742 why? In many areas south is worse
Hopefully in some time all sarkari Naukri will be privitized so their makkari can end
@@Kushagra.j nah we men don't get pressurized to get govt jobs. They force us to get IT jobs🤧
I am from the India where , the parents have always believed in putting their daughter’s happiness first no matter what. I am 25 years of age and still preparing for Competitive exam. My parents have not once pressured me for marriage , neither will they ever and only support me wholeheartedly for my aspirations and dreams.❤️❤️
Hope all the girls get such parents
@@youtubeuser9938your opinion is not wrong but also you r not my father . I can earn easily right now but that can affect my future plans. Being independent asap is a good thing but achieving ur dream is different which requires patience and sacrifice which my parents fully understand. They hv full faith in me and i will not let them down.
If u get it good if not that’s ok too.
@@akanksha6958 well.. thats the thing with indian women, all they want to is imitate the europeans and americans in lifestyle, but when it comes it to their real way of life, you women dont practice it in life. Have some shame, preaching gender equality, women empowerment and stuff and shamelessly dependent on parents especially fathers hard earned money for your and your own selfish needs and wants. Better prove your worthiness by doing your life goals on your own. Any fool can lead a happy, carefree life being financially dependent on any one, like parents or husband, But it take a strong women to do and achieve great things on your own. You women just preach women empowerment, women boldness and freedom and bs. And in reality you people dont even have the guts to do it all alone. Keep preaching feminism and bs all over social media while eating up parents retirement money.. 🤣 wah men ! 🤣🤣🤣
@@youtubeuser9938 typical mentality, what if she was he, do you still throw him out of your house
Which competitive exam!?
@@youtubeuser9938 I would have replied, if you wanted to live your life with privacy why did you have me in the first place?
Majority of time Marriages are not about soulmates or eternal love. It's just about survival for rest of your life which includes having kids that look after you on your old age, someone to talk to, partner for sex , partner for financial dependency, and list goes on.
Perhaps love does not even make it to the list 🤣🤣🤣
सत्य
Here's a fun fact- 80% of Indian married couples stop having sex after having 2 kids . This creates frustration and unhappiness for both the partners especially men . And about the love part, it was never there in the first place.
What i have learned that
Indian man don't want their wife to be more educated,employed they want wife who can do household work and then if wife search for better income husband for their security may be she would be thinking of future their children their family then they will consider her goldigger even they (men)themselves demand for lakh and lakh as dowry that also not from girl from girl's family( besharmi to dekho )atleast girl expect good income just from husband but men will she girl's father is rich or not in actually men should be consider traditional goldigger who demands money as dowry and even can kill women easily for it
Means
Indian men never fails to give trauma to women,ridiculous🤦♀.
@@hwfq34fajw9foiffawdiufhuaiwfhw 😂😂😂😂 and it's not even showing anything relevant. Just a popular search lmao.
@@sarath3827 very true , feels like we as a generation will have to do a lot of silent revolution by just being good humans.
My friend from school was very adamant even at that age that she won't marry an Indian guy, due to dowry harassment her mother had to go through form her father. True to her words, she went to US for masters, fell in love with an American of Korean descent and is happily married now. It was a simple American style wedding with immediate family and the expense was born by both of them (American style) without any contribution from her or her husband's parents/family and no dowry. Has an angelic looking 2-year-old kid now and when they visited India last month, I could see my friend really glowing. Could really see how happy she was, and I must admit I felt slightly jealous. Anyway, I am so happy for her.
Your friend knew what she wanted at that age. Its nice to hear such stories.
But if a woman says that honestly, she would be judged hard by everyone around her. Most people don't even bother to ask her the reason and intention behind it. They just assume that she is greedy.
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources.
@@snehashispanda4808 Dear, it is applies to all castes, why to single out brahmins.
@@snehashispanda4808why are you only targeting Brahmins... I'm not saying it's false but majority people do that too....
Majority people want to get married in their caste/ religion...
And the thing that Brahmins resisting to merge with surrounding that's not true....
My neighbours are Brahmins and they merge with others so well.... Kind ,humble people ...don't generalize everything
So good to hear , she must be very happy now . May Bholanath bless her
Me and my wife got married in 2018. We have 1 and halfs year old daughter now.
It's depend on you how you stable your relationship. She was with me since 2004, it's Been 18 years, our relationship start's from 10th class and still going and will gone upto entire life.
This sounds romantic to me. Wish your relationship lasts forever 😉❤✌🏾
@@Thundergel-n5l yes and
Then comes some boys
Who are single at 30🙂🙂
@@satviasm3328 I am talking about his life and I don't care about those single boys
@@Thundergel-n5l 😂😂
@@satviasm3328 Theek hai? 😂
Arrange Marriage is pre approved engagement between couple to have physical relationship and reproduction. Therefore the criteria is heavily on Caste, Religion, physical beauty, financial stability.
Religion > Caste > Financial stability > Physical Appearance.
This are the things, i hv observed in my society.
@@ricksanchez4045 nothing wrong with that.
It is also from the women's side too.
Yeah just have a look at the west then you will realise the beauty of Indian marriages.
Question: define modern Indian people ?
Answer : When Feudalism comes in modern western warping 😂 called a modern Indian.
Wow.. How beautifully you explained arrange marriage can't agree more. True.. Marriages are for physical relationship n bache that's it.. It's business not marriage..
Me and my wife happily married. It was love marriage 💍... Im so blessed till date that I've found the love of my life. My parents accepted her as their own daughter and now she's happy. There might be some ups and down but we manage it without much of a hassle. We are not filthy rich. Just a middle class family. We are here on this earth only once. Why not make it worth living....
Tell your and your wife caste.
❤️
@@behappy-mg7rt we don't belong to caste bro....
@@KTruth137 ओहहह । आप मतलब North-east के होगें।।। nice ...
बहुत अच्छा की आपके पास caste नही है।
Im watching fifa.... Im supporting Argentina🇦🇷 😄😇
Don't know about other girl but for me freedom is important.
Same ❤
What is freedom according to you?
@@7_77_. We can you anywhere we want to we can buy anything anytime. We can focus on our job and have a healthy lifestyle and we don't have to worrying about others.
Then become independent
What freedom girls are asking i never understood..? And what I saw in the name of freedom was doing shitty things that's it.. somehow drinking smoking and abusing, women are shown as empowerment
*"The guy who doesn't believe in marriage won't have any problems."* 🌺
After 60 you will face problems male/female both
only one word which will describe him
Lonely !!!
as he gets in his late 30's he will start having the urge to settle down. as he needs a companion by his side.
same goes to females in their late 30's,
everyone get Lonely when you are 38-39
@@The-Hungry-Glut U can get lonely even in ur prime. So it's quite wrong if u need someone to stand by ur side.
@@The-Hungry-Glut you are acting like marriage people feel connected to their partners all their life.
@@DhruvPatel-zg1zs tmhe kya pta. .. apne maa baap se pooch lo iske baare me
One honest and useful tip for the boys here.... Unless you're filthy rich or having a well paying job, don't get into a relationship. Love and all fall apart like a deck of cards when it's about earning and wealth. My ex girlfriend and i both are engineers, she all of sudden ended our 7 yr old relationship bcoz her papa wouldn't agree and she cannot hurt him by marrying me. Cut scene, she married a guy who's a doctor and 4 yrs elder to her. Paying him a hefty amount in dowry, This was within 3 months of breakup.
Remember boys love isn't enough to marry your girlfriend and keep her happy, you either have to earn equal or more than her dad to full fill her needs. Nothing against girls or love relationships here, it's just my personal experience, contradictions are welcome!
Nah I think she a was a hindu.
you're somewhat correct, but a marriage without love and just on the base of money is doomed to end with cuckold.
@@nknkannadiga9742 calm down, Kannadiga. Not everybody thinks in a communalist way like y'all do.
@@nknkannadiga9742 syed is a hindu surname for you? 🤨.. Take some help, you need i guess.
Uhhh....your GF is just a loser mate. Both of sound like you were both working adults so she could've made the brave move to ditch her parents and move in with you into a small apartment.
The right one will do it for you. ❤️❤️
I first thought domestic violence due to dowry is mostly in the lower or middle class houses, but when you get to know it's also in the houses of highly educated and highly earning individuals too
It happens more in rich families because they have expensive BETA so they deserve more.
Yeah. My friend from Bihar has zamindar background. His brother is doctor and he demanded 80 lakhs from her wife as dowry
@@cryptoboi9584 isn't 80 lakh too much for dowry 😨😱
@@cryptoboi9584 ask your friend to buy a s3x doll made of gold with 80 lakhs he will be satisfied and can have higher resale value when tired😂😂
What i have learned that
Indian man don't want their wife to be more educated,employed they want wife who can do household work and then if wife search for better income husband for their security may be she would be thinking of future their children their family then they will consider her goldigger even they (men)themselves demand for lakh and lakh as dowry that also not from girl from girl's family( besharmi to dekho )atleast girl expect good income just from husband but men will she girl's father is rich or not actually men should be consider traditional goldigger who demands money as dowry and even can kill women easily for it
Means
Indian men never fails to give trauma to women,ridiculous🤦♀
I am almost nearing 30 and never been in a relationship. I am earning good and well educated. I wanted love marriage but it seems that it's not in my fate. I am an introvert :) . The only option left for me is arrange marriage but I hate it. It feels like a business deal and I feel like a commodity. How much salary I earn, how good looking are you, how much property you have; it feels humiliating to discuss these things and then decide about relationship. I can understand girls also feel the same.
More or less, the only conclusion for boys is DON'T GET MARRIED if you're not well off from career/financial perspective. But 'not getting married' isn't actually a bad choice in comparison to if you're getting married with someone who is only ready to marry you just because you're rich.
Yeah
Actually unmarried men have lower life expectancy, worse health and and they can't have many financial privileges as married men
@@after_the_chaos2246 living Happy 50 years is better than 100 year's of suffering
It's not gender specific shit ...it's for any one boy or girl
For women as well don't marry a man if he is marrying you only bcoz of DOWRY..
Genelia Desouza’s character in Life Partner says the truest statement ever, “Shadi hui hai, punarjanam nhi hua!!” My friend’s husband was okay with his wife leaving her job when she was emotionally manipulated that she would leave her job and do household chores, as it was “rule” of his house where only women cook. Mind here that both of the husband wife were CAs. They were, because now they are ex husband and wife.
@THE ZOLDICS did you read her comment. She said emotionally manipulated. It was not her will.
@THE ZOLDICS so only women should not be forced to do household chores!! Plus what you said, try applying to men as well. And tell me HOW MANY MEN ARE PROUD OF DOING HOUSEHOLD CHORES WITH THEIR JOB AND THEY DONT FORCE OR MANIPULATE THEIR WIVES TO DO BOTH OR CHOOSE HOUSEHOLD CHORES OVER JOB.
@THE ZOLDICS it was not her will
@THE ZOLDICS there is a midway that household chores should be done together by husband and wife
@@read1343 what if she want to pursue career in any field. What if she want to be something.. in her life.
How a girl being in relationship ( wife) Can't decide about her life, her goals, just because her husband earn decent amt of money.
Money is not the only factor to do job.
Managing family & children is not the job of only woman, both the partner have to manage
Marriage is not just about how much money you are getting from other person. You can get several other things that can't be measured by money. Timid person need brave person to balance the life in risky situations, introvert needs an extravert to solve the issues of networking, care free person need disciplined person for the stability in life etc. Your life partner is other half that gives you completeness. So marry other person based on their life skills, their likes and dislikes and personality traits.
Not just marry but date according to that. Too many young women and men are way too stupid to just date based on shallow things like looks and body of a woman or status, money and popularity of a guy. You see it in high schools and colleges all the time people go for people who have high SMV. But when it comes to marriage they completely change their criteria in a partner. We need sexual awareness not sex education. Awareness around what sort of toxic men and women to ignore so that people don't carry their years of baggage in form of trauma and hurt into their marriage.
Its diff to assess skill of your would be partners becoz they may lie mostly for the sake of their future security
@@AmitKumar-br9tl it's not that difficult. For example, if you want to test the cooking skills, ask that person to cook your favourite dish. Then you will know it obviously. You can't get true nature of the person by asking questions directly because there's a chance of lying unless other person is straight forward and direct
but the truth is, this is still a distant dream for most of the population, that is, for the vastly located small towns and cities
@@flamingaish agreed
Never settle for anything less than what you deserve it's not pride it's self-respect
also have a realistic sense of what you deserve.
@@himanshusinghal242
So what if they don't?
Let them be 😂
Thanks to my dad(miss u lot, he's no more) . He raised my mind to be RATIONALISTIC and mature.... Too many wierd wild categories of mindsets exists in the society, luckily I don't belong to those and have evolved to see far better possibilities out there.....
Bhaiya rationalistic ka matalab kya hota hai ?
@@deepaksingh0777
Rational thinking ki baat kar raha hai
@@deepaksingh0777 matlab तर्कवाद. Kisi bhi situation ho, bina kisi dharm k aadhar par ya vichar ya phir kisi emotional feeling se decision NAHI lena, aur sahi thark se sochna hota hai... Science , facts aur logic k aadhar par sochna. Example k liye, science k isaab se saare insaan same hain, logo ne jaati dharam kia hai, dusra example koi ye kehta hai ki "ye hua tha, vo hua tha, aisa tha, waisa tha", bina facts aur data k argue karne wale vyakti se kya hi baat karoge??? Teesra example, logic k isaab se dekhoge tho Purush aur Mahila dono ko zindagi jeene ka haq hain, phir bhi q itna bedbhav.....??? Sab ko ek samaan dekna... Aur bhi bohot examples diya jaa sakta hain....
What i have learned that
Indian man don't want their wife to be more educated,employed they want wife who can do household work and then if wife search for better income husband for their security may be she would be thinking of future their children their family then they will consider her goldigger even they (men)themselves demand for lakh and lakh as dowry that also not from girl from girl's family( besharmi to dekho )atleast girl expect good income just from husband but men will she girl's father is rich or not actually men should be consider traditional goldigger who demands money as dowry and even can kill women easily for it
Means
Indian men never fails to give trauma to women,ridiculous🤦♀
@@artz3817 I am assuming u have watched complete video. So according to video, in India whatever u say, the exact opposite is also true.... Whatever U said is ABSOLUTELY TRUE, at the same time, there are men(though very very less) who really respect women and their partner , with no ego, no inferiority complexity, no misogynistic mindset.....
Just saw a divorce of a family member after 3 months of love marriage due to dowry reasons. Love marriages are equally at risk because this mindset is deeply rooted in all Indians. Also few years ago saw a relative dying of heart attack due to the pressure of their daughter's marriage. I am very young for marriage but I have made a promise to myself that I won't take any dowry from anyone no matter what people think about me. It just doesn't make sense to me that just to please people around you whom you won't even talk to after the marriage you need to fulfill their so called parampara and put a big burden on a family. Be capable enough to marry someone and then move forward so that you don't need anyone's money. Also start accepting working women, this regressiveness have put our country much behind other 3rd world countries. Women are not born to be housewives, they are much more than that.
Nice joke
Very proud of you Saksham! Wish you all the best!
On the other hand false dowry claim allegations,legal threat blackmailing if not the demands are fulfilled and not to forget marital rape allegation threat are also skyrocketing against which no legal measures are available in the case of innocence of the husband,also in divorce,the laws are unfaakingbelievably discriminated against man where the woman will get the divorce and of course the monthly allowance just by complaining in court whereas even if the women cheated with other guy and the husband provided the court with video proof of that the husband still have to give the monthly allowance!! I mean in this present time marrying a woman in India is much more self destructive in comparison to self bombing yourself,atleast you die instantly with bomb without much idea of pain but in marriage you will die slowly and painfully in a long course of your life.
When I was young I also thought why I should take money from someone else when I did not even take money from my own parents. Then the reality of arranged marriage hit me where as a guy, you are reduced down to your salary and property. Girls looking for someone with 2-5x the salary, huge property etc. Then I changed my views on dowry, that when I'm bringing so much financial value to the relationship, what does the girl bring? My parents are contributing so much property to our relationship, what do the girls parents contribute?
Working women should start accepting unemployed men also... The strong independent employed career women need not be worried that the rich well employed men are refusing to marry her,,, Because there are many poor unemployed homeless handsome young men who are ready to marry an employed woman and become her househusband... So, There is a very easy solution to this problem faced by strong independent career women.. All employed career Women who want to work after marriage, stay in her father's house after marriage, and look after her parents, do not want to take leave from her job to look after her kids etc can marry a poor, unemployed homeless, handsome, young man... He will be happy to live in his career wife's house because he is homeless. So, the wife can always look after her parents . He will never stop his career wife from working after her marriage because he is unemployed . Because he is unemployed and always sitting inside his wife Father's house, he will look after her small kids. So, she need not take leave from work to look after her kids. She can continue her career and present life style in her Father's house... But, a rich well employed man who owns his own house, is not going to come and live in his father in law's house. Most rich well employed men don't want to marry employed women. Rich well employed men already have enough money, and so he does not need the salary of his wife. So, most rich well employed men want to have an unemployed housewife and have a Peaceful married life. There are many unemployed girls who don't like to work, who are poor, living in rented house, because her parents are poor and don't have money to buy to their own house etc. These poor unemployed girls are waiting for some man to come and marry her and take her to the husband's house and give her free food and shelter for the rest of her life. So, the rich well employed men like to marry such unemployed women and lead a happy life in his own house . While the career girls who do not want to go to her husband's house, want to work after marriage etc can marry a poor, unemployed, homeless, handsome young man and take her husband to her father's house or to her rented house and lead a happy life ... So, everyone is happy.. But, what happens is that when independent employed career women are given 2 choices.. 1.. marry a poor unemployed homeless handsome young man who actually wants to marry an employed woman, so that she can continue to work after marriage till her retirement from job at 60 years.. OR.. 2.. Marry a rich well employed man with big house, who does not want to marry an employed woman and he actually wants to marry an unemployed woman... Now the independent employed career women always select the second choice and she will tell the rich well employed man that she will stop working after marriage and shall become a housewife, because she wants to stay in the rich well employed man's bigger house. The employed woman refuses to marry a poor unemployed handsome homeless man who wants his wife to work after marriage and he is also ready to stay in her father's house.. And then she tries to blame society for not allowing her to work after marriage, look after her parents etc when it is clear that she herself had the choice to work after marriage, if she had married the poor unemployed homeless handsome young man.... That is the hypocrisy of women... Why cannot employed women marry a poor unemployed homeless handsome young man who actually wants his wife to work after marriage.... Instead of trying to marry a rich well employed man who actually wants to marry an unemployed woman... A
The conclusion sent chills down my spine, being a low income, extremely average looking guy who gets his self esteem destroyed by reality every single day.
Just marry a girl who accepts you,not expects from you.
@@galaxray8700 lol live in your parallel universe
@@readbooksinsteadofmyname7369 what's lol about that sentence 🤨 ? He is telling the logical and righteous fact which works for both sides men and women.More than majority of Indians are living in a parallel universe which is opposite to rational and nuanced understanding of reality and justified solutions to problems.
@@CockySuSMounted that's often easier said then done , people like that are rare and coming across someone like that is often pure luck.
And same here as a girl 😑
If you are Financially UNSTABLE then I advise you to "NOT MARRY"
Marriage is not a compulsory thing, its just a CHOICE
Not marrying does not harms you in anyway
Its okay to NOT marry !!! 🎉
Blud you wanna end your bloodline?
@@IChhiyep mine ends with me
@@joydevsarkar4474 Spoken like a true chad
But solution is nowhere...either other person is not meeting the expectations /standards or our self respect are not allowing us to lower our standards just because of age . There are always ambiguity situations and its true for all millenials now a days.
This problem is not only in India, it's also widely prevalent in western countries of Europe, North America and South America.... The basic solution is giving girls and boys equal opportunities since childhood especially in education and let a girls do whatever they want to do in under-grad courses like boys do because these two things mostly shape a quality of life in future.
These social problems have a simple solution... it is just many of us especially men and older women who have been a part of such society don't want to change and recognise it and thus make it 'complex' in a counter defencive mode.☺️
@@abhishekuttam8051 also make them understand that not only son are responsible for financial responsibilities but their daughter should also carry on her shoulder equally and same goes for household responsibilities where boys should also told to share equally just like girls. So that they can do it for their husband and wife .
@@Roaming_India true brother, I agree with you but we need to understand the situation and social pressure on girls outside big cities(Tier 1 and some Tier 2 cities) of India are different and more... I'm telling by my experiences as the pressure on boys in general to earn more comes after the age of 20 whereas on girls it starts as early as 12 years old and this type of population include
@@abhishekuttam8051 Actually u don't understand. Even if there is no social pressure. Still girls don't want to take financial responsibilities like boys do. Girls even if they can earn, still chooses boys who has higher salaries. Most of the girls do job just to show they are independent but actually they are alway dependent.
Why do you guys have the unrealistic expectations at the first place?
True. India may seem like one country, but it is many Indias. We all have different priorities and difficulties. But what is common is the desire to make tomorrow better than today. At least, for those of us who are yet to truly despair.
I liked your comment so much.... Gonna take a screenshot of it ❤️
Agree we have Jharkhand where muslim burnt hindu girl and laughed
What i have learned that
Indian man don't want their wife to be more educated,employed they want wife who can do household work and then if wife search for better income husband for their security may be she would be thinking of future their children their family then they will consider her goldigger even they (men)themselves demand for lakh and lakh as dowry that also not from girl from girl's family( besharmi to dekho )atleast girl expect good income just from husband but men will she girl's father is rich or not men should be considered traditional goldigger in my view
Means
Indian men never fails to give trauma to women,ridiculous🤦♀
@@Myanmartiger921 yes hope bjp comes here soon 🙏🙏
@@parthkashyap6381 Jharkhand,WB, Kerala are suicide for bjp
Nowadays, both of married couple have to be an earning member of the family to make their life easy and comfortable.
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources.
@@snehashispanda1651 Why you write the same shit in every comment box?? I'm also a brahmin and not agree with you, idk from which state or city you're but what you write is not correct cause my cousin sister had an intercaste love marriage because she and her partner both are doctors, so it's not mandatory to only marry in caste...once both become financially independent then it doesn't matter !!
@@snehashispanda1651 spammer trying to tarnish brahmin image
It's only true in metro cities and large cities like Bangalore, where it's unliveable without employment.
@@karanbajaj2698 Report these spammers
I m unmarried and most of my friends and cousins got married.M on verge of getting a govt job and preparing for state PSC .my mom is supportive n m glad she has no issues with it.But our relatives do have issue a/c to them I should get married be housewife n just have kids nothing else but I don't give damn to it
they are worried because time/age is the biggest enemy to a woman's marriage. This is not a judgement or an attempt to harass you. This is the truth. Men prefer younger women. And if you're wondering it's our beloved India only, then you're wrong. It's about everywhere. Also, the higher you go in education, you're going to want a man even higher than that. Just see in the video only, how that woman speaks with disgust that she will have to marry a lesser educated man than her.
Please note: This is not an attempt to make your accomplishments futile, i have no interest, no personal conflict in diminishing someon'es life like that. Maybe a few people who hurt me in the past, but def not a stranger.
@@chaitanyagupta6668 time/age is the biggest enemy to a woman's marriage? Yes, women have finite number of eggs and quality decline after 35.
. aap SHADI kar lo job to bad m bhi mil jaygi but fir 29 30 k bad koi LADKA nhi milega
@@sonujain2348waah kya soch h tumharii
If she is toiling hard for her dreams why she should leave everything and marry first
Then obviously she'll be stuck in accomplishing her in laws expectations.. like bacha n all
This is the prime time for her career and she should only look upto that! Period.
@@sonujain2348who said she wants to get married? Ladka nahi bhi milega toh ladkiya hain use apnane ke liye. Thank you uncle for your unsolicited advice
Women's beauty= Men's Height
Women's Virginity= Men's Class
Hardly people talk about this.
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources.
@@snehashispanda1651 I'm not Brahmin.
@@snehashispanda1651 nobody cares 😆😆
@@snehashispanda1651 my father belongs to keshtrya community and my mom from Brahmin cast. Nobody cares about cast anymore. I guess u r from odisha🙄
@@snehashispanda1651 Naa🙂 this is how educated people choose their partners.
Men after getting financially stable : now I can live life and provide my women.
Women : now I can live freely on my own, I don't need anyone.
The major difference in mentality and as well in reality which no one wants to talk about.
@Harsh Patel*men can't live without sex*🤓
@Harsh Patel you shouldve been born in 15th century bro youre in wrong century
@Harsh Patel You are not getting the point. Women see Men only as a source of income. Isn't that also objectification. Don't women reduce men as ATM cards.
If women will not have kids, the countries population will get skewed
which is dangerous.
@harsh Patel "but women can" 🤓 Have you ever met a irl women ?
@Shruti wimmin☕☕
My parents taught me the basic etiquette of life even though they are not a judge of any court!
Mostly in our Assamese Society, Dowery is very uncommon, primarily for middle-class families.
I encourage people to choose their partners through love, not by trading wealth!
Most probably this thing in upper cast community ... Not in lower cast .
Same for bengalis also. I have never seen or heard of any bengali friend or relative of mine demanding or giving dowry in marriages. I think its not very prevalent in eastern India.
@@dipakmurmu5163 Oh idk then, it hasn't happened in my family or any of my friends or relatives family, so never heard of any bengali demanding dowry, atleast here in the metro cities, idk whats the condition in rural w bengal.
As an Assamese yeah... We don't even go much into these stuffs
Actually saying very easy that fell in love but nowadays boys are not so loyal that they fell in love with you and marry you 😀 they love someone else and marry someone else today's scenario as such
There is no value for a boy if he's good or nice. Women are looking for men who have salaried job and bank balance irrespective of his character. Even 10th Failed Women want Government Employees. I am tired of this competition and now want to live single life ❤️🔥❤️🔥
damn you've been around bad company
@@yangene i don't think so.
@@Keralite77_ well, different people, different lives.
@@yangene May be..
But even in most of the states conditions are same.
As a Sikh I know. Marriage is a trade here. If you're not rich Punjabi girls won't even look at you. It's frustrating when you're always the backup guy. It's like sitting on a waiting list.
When I thought of getting married and started to search for life partner, the only criteria I had that she should have her own identity. Looks, caste, religion, nationality are acquired by birth. One has no control over them. So they didn't matter. Her own achievements and identity mattered.
Now I am happily married for 4 years and really proud of my wife.
The men who stop women from working also stop them from contributing to nation building. They are truly anti-nationals.
did you meet your spouse via matrimonial site/apps?
Bless both of you!
Happy Married life to you
@@gurjeetdhaliwal3878 everyone have preferences, some want a tall guy/girl, some want a rich partner while others want a handsome/beautiful person, everything is okay as long as you don't ridicule them for not meeting your criteria.
ok, feminist. You had given enough sermons for today. Calling husbands of homemakers “anti-national” shows how bigoted you are. Shame on you and those who nurtured you.
Most of the arranged marriages are based on some sort of deals...love comes later....both the male & female candidates are asked for their opinion...but their opinions are biased too...their opinions are influenced by societal fear.. insecurity... parents' happiness...they get married to each other..even if their inner self holds them back not to do so...
Correct arrange marriage is deal 🤝
I have seen many couples are fighting deadly , after having love - marriages.
Then what is the benefit of love marriages also?
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources.
But statistics says ..... arrange marriage has least divorce rate & less merital conflicts 😝😝
@@devprosad1664 whether our marriage will last for long term...it depends on so many other factors...here we are talking about the beginning of this journey...I'm just trying to say that...we must go for it only for the right reason.. i.e. love... boy's salary, girls' beauty...social status..caste...these should not be the criteria...but unfortunately inspite of knowing everything ....we are not able to take the right decision at the very right moment.
I am from that India where the girls around me are getting married off without establishing their careers and becoming financially independent but in my house right from childhood, I've been encouraged to study well and stand on my feet, once my father said, " gaadi kharredne layak toh bna diya hai pr ab tum gaadi konsi chalaogi maruti ya audi ye tum pr dependent hai" (I've made you strong enough to purchase a car but which car you're going to own is dependent on you). I am the first girl in my neighbourhood to move out from my native city to metropolitan to pursue my studies after school and now I see a few people getting influenced and supporting their daughters to study more and have a good career.
I want love marriage . I simply can't marry someone if she is not attracted to me .
a woman's career is worth pennies to a man. Men and women have different preferences.
Pucha kese ne kitne paise kharch kiye study pr vo bhi bta do?
@@Anonomus007 Haa poochte hai toh bta deti hun
@@sasswithdivyanshi ek baat batao tumhari caste ke ladke hamesha dursi caste ki ladkiyon se shadi karte hai
Lekin tumhari caste ki ladkiyon ko allow nai
Karte Aisa kyu
(Generally puch Raha hu)
Girls be financially independent... Look after yourself....
No jarurat nahi hai
@@vishalmore4921 kisko?
@Dr_Bandana_Dash Yess ❤,,we should be financially independent
The concept of arrange marriage is in itself flawed, it's more like a business in india where the groom's family looks for a good-looking girl who is "docile and submissive" and will do all the housework and bring lots and lots of "gifts" where as the bride's family just wants a government job wala guy. The actual things which matter in a marriage (love, care, compatibility, understanding, like-mindedness) doesn't bother them.
If your arranged marriage is going great then that's amazing but if not then also you need to stay in that loveless marriage and do the regular duties as log kya kahenge.
Man bride side treat men as arm and a physical satisfaction tool.
Absolutely
OK generalisation all over again to boost ego and feel superior,yes there are still many households who only wants submissive women who only does house work and to carry forward the bloodline through kids but there are many more households who have reformed or were logical from beginning who support and allow the women to carry on with her career and family life so you do the right and logical thinking and action and encourage others for the same instead of ego pleasing thinking and action just because you can because of the pseudo feminist trend.We need to understand and criticize each case individually rather than labelling it to make the blame game easier to build a constructively logical and righteous understanding society.
@@CockySuSMountedPoint still stands about arrange marriage just being a pitiful business, both sides looking forward to get the maximum resources from the other and making decisions based on that. The compatibility of both partners, their thoughts and feelings about each other are not even an afterthought in many cases.
Saying this as a guy who has seen such mindset in my family and relatives. Thankfully atleast they aren't hellbent on making the females quit their job.
@@numbconsumer1392 outstanding point does not justify generalised labeling no matter what,where,who.
8:56 look at that little kid trying to save the mother 💔
Traumatic for the child
A understanding and supportive husband. The one who can understand your inner speech also.
same , but too young for this ,17💀💀
Thank God I belong to a family where criterias like these are minimalist!!
Where my happiness matters more than anything.
Same to you bro!
Everyone say this in 20s, but people see reality only when they touch marriage age
agreed but still, once you get older, an no kids then the pressurizing begins.
You are so blessed .
@@max-cs9ko am 26
As a 25 M, if I ever had the chance to take a decision for my own life, I would never marry. Probably that will be the best decision I'll take😂
Life is incomplete without a woman, when you will be above 35 and no women would want you, you will sad and alone but it will be too late to do something
Don't believe above comment, older men are more desirable to women, Because they are successful, wise and have a stable life.
Focus on career, gain your freedom from family, and enjoy single life.
As you grow older you can have more clear view about your life, and can have a chance to change your mind,
Because my brother once you get married there's no coming back.
As another 25 yr old man this is my pov.
@@Sk-lq2bp "Older men are desirable to women", true, only if you earn six figures, it's a hard truth of life. And only 5% of the men make that.
Same but i am a woman though.😂😂
Same here ❤️
Being a Bengali these things feel so foreign to me! Not a single thing said in this video is valid for me. I am independent, living in a metro city very far away from my family for my career, prefer love marriage, my family has always treated my and my brother's opinion with equal importance and our careers were their topmost priority always! And dowry is something I have never heard anyone give/take in my family/relatives. I was aware of everything though , but seeing all these feels so heavy!
Bongs ROCK bro
west bengal e eisab ektu kom hy
up bihar e ritimoto competition chole dowry nie
@@sumandas6308 west bengal a dowry bolte gele hoyena , khub e rare .... ar WB a intercaste marriage o common (not the majority) but still very common in cities and even in rural areas nowadays from what I have heard.
Ekdom ...i thank god so many times for dropping me in kolkata to my lovely parents.
We Bengalis have always been more liberal and understanding. Maybe it came from our rich literature and education. Proud to be a Bengali. 😃
Me and my wife happily married after being into 7 years of relationship. She fought for me, she took every stand just to be with me forever…
I love her to eternity ❤️
7:08 educated people fighting for dowry 😳😳😳
I have seen people in villages which are denying dowry to show that they are developed at that time I thought it is normal but I feel respected for villagers to be more sensible
Just search for Uraon tribe, you will get amazed.
@@webtutorialIndia what is it ❓ currently I can't watch any video because I currently don't have 🎧 near me
Ek do example dekh kr uchlo mt. 😑
@@invalidaccount6147 na bro mene bahut dekhe h isliye keh raha hu ,
Arrange marriage mein log padhi likhi ladki dekh rahe h,same ladke mein bhi .
Mein yeah nhi keh raha hu koi le nhi Raha h mein keh raha hu ki there is change in society jo ho rhi h
As a 26 year old average (some might consider even ugly) looking female from a lower middle class family (with meagre savings), I think I'd have a really hard time finding a groom to marry. Atleast my parents are pretty supportive and encourage me to be financially independent before they begin looking for a groom. I've no excitement for getting married though. The chances that I'll find a family that is as liberal as my family is extremely rare.
Have faith in God dear...u will get what you deserve 🤞
False, if your female there is a always a dude desperate enough to date you, if you choose him or not it's your choice. I'm done with being lonely, for a guy it's not even a choice so I wouldn't even care if my future gf is abusive or toxic as long as I get loved
Never know. Life is full of surprises
focus on being financially independent!
after that try finding a guy ok with you doing your job, coz your husband's money is your husband's money!!
if you end up in a toxic marriage and you are having a baby, separate, as soon as possible coz it will be a hell for the child as well
I'm sure you can find a house-husband while you can work to earn money. Your liberal family shouldn't have a problem I guess? Or like the average woman, you are trying to climb up the social ladder through marriage? Then you'll have to pay.
2:45 Disagree with this point. In ground,
If a girl gets educated and she is earning right now, she definitely gets a groom who is earning double than her. In most of the cases she gets equally qualified groom. However this ground reality may change in online matchmakers websites.
Equally qualified se nhi krti hai.
Arre vahi toh baat hai, women want guys to whom they can look up to and not equal
Yes but in my area employed girls always want more earning man than herself
I am an Indian guy, I just suffered a break up on January 2023, I just went to a matrimonial site to have a look casually not seriously I am still recovering from the break up. I saw the trend every single girl has this on their profile "My daughter/sister/relative is working/studying in a blah blah" I am stunned. I have two issues here "Why aren't girls seeking themselves?", "Why focus on degrees or occupation?" it doesn't say anything about their character "padha likha toh Osama Bin Laden bhi tha na?"
It’s important to select a economically good partner but many Indian marriages get chaotic with time because in most arrange marriages there’s literally no love. I think divorce become less taboo in society.
Sahi baat hai..
Agr psnd nhi to alag ho jaao..
@Neil Bajwa those kids
Who lived fighting parents led to child trauma,depression better to get divorce rather than staying for the sake of kid
@@Daily_1percent I've seen these rarely happening, most of the arranged marriages end well here.
Love is not real. There's no scientific proof of it's existence, it's our imagination.
I am also in love with muslim vot and he is very good..
I want to marry i dont know how my parents react and how will society react..
Let s hope best.
I always tell my gf to do something for her career and now she is doing nursing 🥰... It's not the matter of money at all , but i want her to be at highest place where she could take her own decisions properly
By doing job Or other activities for livelihood keeps you free from inside
We both are secular and free minded, we never doubt on each other, I hope one day we will be together 🤗
You never be together if you at her or below her level you always have to be 1or 2 level up to be together with her.
the moment she gets higher position than you and you are not yet married, you better stop dreaming of marrying her then because her family wont accept you. there is no such thing as unconditional love, its just you haven't face the extreme condition to test your love yet.
Ignore these 2 losers above me!
I wish you and your girlfriend a long and happy life!! May you guys be together till the end of it all
@@venusbliss9788 reality is often Dissapointing buddy. Calling them losers won't change the reality.
@@anshumansingh6645 i dont blame him most people like to live in their bubble until its too late.
Gen Z here - I prefer being alone for my freedom and comfort. Relationships without long term commitment sound more rationally affordable to me. What's your opinion?
Har kisi ko teenage me yahi lagta hai bhai
I feel same. But then i think who will take care of u when u get ill. Like u know, u get bedridden for few days.
Also who will take care when we cross our 50s. Also if suddenly we got heart attack or got into an accident in our house only (like fell unconscious), who will look after if we r alone.
I dont like idea of marriage for myself, but i think it is a compulsion.
@@sureshtripathi7 Not every Gen-Zer is a teenager
I'm a gen-zer too but I have exact opposite view on this. Relationships should be long-term. If not then stay single forever (which isn't as bad too if you're an introvert who practically is happy by themselves)
@@knight_23 Make some arrangements for it then. There's an old man here in my neighborhood who practically lives all alone. He has appointed a maid to look after himself. I've heard Banks also have this retirement scheme where you practically save up for yourself to have some money in your oldage.
"A king can marry a peasant and make her Queen. The Queen does not even look at the peasant's way".
@@siddharthsidh2781 do you heard the story of Alladin..?
Do you know that Disney shows are fictional? @@ni9087
@@ni9087 only one story?
@@LIVEYY22 baki ka tu bata de....
If only peasant is beautiful then only king will look at her.
I'm from that India where the look sof boys, salary, dowry, girl's income, her freedom, his character, his family's pressure, her family's pressure & more factors impacts to the boy directly & indirectly. I mean everything matters in his marriage.
Brahmins marry within the Brahmin community rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships. Brahmins separate themselves from the rest of society by themselves. Brahmins establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, Brahmins preserve their cultures intact as long and protect them. Brahmins consider others as intellectually and socially equal. Brahmins resist integrating and completely merging with surrounding populations and stay homogeneous as distinct community within societies that have other practices and beliefs. Brahmins encourages community affiliation and bonding and encourages solidarity and ensures greater control over community resources..
Yeah idk why but sometimes I feel these things are way targeted to the boy
@@shivanshgarewal2833 targeted to the boy? Seriously are you being sarcastic
@@aaryakulkarni787 Yes marriage is a Risk for mens.
2:00 it is not about insecurity, girls who do job have a very high attitude and ego and none talks about it. They would never respect a husband earning less than her and the marriage may end in a divorce.
When men earn: I am financially stable now so I can provide for my family
When women earn: I am Independent now! I don't need anyone!
This is difference of mentality none wants to talk about. Moreover if she is independent then she can leave the relationship even on minor issues or when guy is facing crisis in life which happen in every relationship instead of solving the specific problem.
True
Couldn't agree more ✅
Yes brother. I'm agree you statement 🙋♂️
Even Male's aren't exceptional. I was rejected just because I'm 5'6 and have eye sight. Girls are really great to deal with restrictions and rejections like that. Can't imagine the mental stress they are facing everyday. I never want any girl to face this situation, ever.
Giel I am also 5'6 whats wrong in that?
have eye sight? What does it mean?
@@crayon7369 5'6 is considered short by many people that's why I think
5'6 is not short, its like an ideal height where I come from.
@@s.afra_f its short, average is 5'9
Women empowerment is actually business empowerment.. lawyers, pubs, social media apps. Ek teer se 100 nishane 😂
The solution is.. girls need to make themselves strong. Mentally and Financially. Naukri leke dusre sheher bhaag jao agar zarurat padhe toh. Parents ke khilaaf jao agar zarurat padhe toh. Dont be afraid of the 'bad girl' or 'rebellious' tag. And don't be afraid of hard work. A girl is not special that a boy will provide for her. She needs to have the mentality that she will provide for herself. And she needs to fight for that. Anyhow. Show your parents the obedient face they want to see, if you think that will make your life easier to a degree. There are types of jobs available - IT, management, business analytics, CA. Any degree can pay. Find out how. Make money. Save. Live your own life on your own terms.
The hard truth is - beyond a certain age only having financial independence gives a person value. Even in the eyes of parents. So if a girl is earning - her wishes are valued more.
And even harder truth is - that parents can be toxic too. If your parents are so toxic that they don't understand that you have the freedom to be independent, that you have the right and brains to decide what will make you happy - then it's better to go no contact with such toxic family members.
Parents are not gods. All decisions they take or force upon their children are not necessarily going to be good in the long run. People (boys and girls) need to realize that.
somehow agreed 🤝 🤝
Bilkul sahi !
Agreed!
"Parents are not gods." this needs to be realised more and more.
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Sometimes I feel that marriage is a failed experiment in the Indian context. Ufff the demands and stuff like the men should be successful like bill gates and profile should look like a job resume. Marriages in India are a farce and stupid. Marriage should be like a team work helping and building each other.
True people often forget that marriage is a two way road and requires the active contribution of both members.
Not in India, but all over the world. If you only try to get what you want to have without trying to give what other person wants then the cooperation is bound to fail.
@@rakada huh not completely. you are not wrong but now inworld people want someone who understand them, someone they can truly spend time not some employnment opportunity. ofcourse, it is not that marriage is not like deal or contract in other world as well. it hundred percent as a way of security but it is also more than that.
Sounds like you need a colleague and not a wife/husband.
@@sm24572 Team work and helping/building each other is not exclusively a "colleague" thing
It's really sad to see where basic human romantic relationships are fading away in the form of Indian Marriages. No Love, No Compatibility, No Companionship, just gold, money, caste and religion.
Marriage specially arranged marriage was never about love to start with. For ages it has been like this
@@kheshaghikumar697 Which lead to domestic violence, dowry, marital rape, and if not the above things, depression and stress (Only In Forced Arranged Marriages)
Maybe this could get better ,if per capita income and the standard of living rises.
Also,if there is less polarity in the society.
@@ankitpani6656 this also happens in love marriages(the situation may be worse because their was no insurance in the form of dowry)
Depends on the people and the family.
@@galaxray8700 You're right, flaws are everywhere. That's the reason maybe nowadays Discussion about Wedding make me feel uncomfortable and uneasy. Ulti si aati hai pata nahi kyun
Conclusion = shadi biya life ka chota sa part ha ek choti si sexual need ha ise itna important mat lo, sahi career chuno usme grow karo, life me clear goal chose karo, paisa kamao, acchi shi uchi life jeene me focus rakho, independent bano har chij ko lekar aur koi opposite gender tumhe yeh sab acheve karne me help karta ha motivate krta ha usse marriage bhi kar lo lekin tab tak sexual need ko itna importance mat do ki life me kuch aur bache hi na 🙌
Hope this help ❤, Stay Safe 🙏
I totally I with you sir
I am from rural India U.P
And seeing all the stuff happening in my society
I am very disappointed to the dowry system
I seeing rates of
50K + earner takes a SUV 22 lakh expense
25 K to 40 K bike + 2 -3 lakh cash
10 k to 25 k bike + 1 lakh cash
The rash reality of arrange marriage in U.P
Solution of all this in my view is Financial independence of women .
Education is the only option.
" If you want the social independence you Firstly have to be financially independent "
Hope for the better society in near future 🙏 😌
I am 100% agree with you brother..
You are absolutely right..
This is definitely a harsh reality, my parents also hail from rural UP but glad that they don't follow any such norms. Being parents of 2 daughters their main motive has always been to make us financially independent and we both are and my elder sister is also married now but my parents didn't give any dowry and stood against the ones who were asking for it. So in future things might change.
Time to marry from up 😂
What i have learned that
Indian man don't want their wife to be more educated,employed they want wife who can do household work and then if wife search for better income husband for their security may be she would be thinking of future their children their family then they will consider her goldigger even they (men)themselves demand for lakh and lakh as dowry that also not from girl from girl's family( besharmi to dekho )atleast girl expect good income just from husband but men will she girl's father is rich or not in actually men should be consider traditional goldigger who demands money as dowry and even can kill women easily for it
Means
Indian men never fails to give trauma to women,ridiculous🤦♀.
@@artz3817 women don't seem to amuse me having false rap cases to fake dowry cases even that in country like India . Women from West are taking benefits of 1970s and rights of 2020 s no responsibility. Surely the characterless supported by body count surely is enough to give me trauma 😉
I don't know about others but I belong to an India where even after having a very high paying job, decent looks, good personality, good family back ground it is impossible to find a girlfriend. All the girls I know have a boyfriend... in fact all their friends also are not single... whereas all the guys I know are single.
Hahaha because you don't deserve a girl of your choice as a girlfriend but as a wife 😉
@@sonalichaurasiya3262 Getting married at 22 doesn't seem like a wis choice 🙂
@@sankalpmehadia9252 Do age really matter?? Even when you are getting married with your dream girl?
@@sonalichaurasiya3262 yes, age matters especially when age is less than 18 years 😅😅 , otherwise doesn't matter
@@Evaisgalaxy Nope... You must not belong to engineering background. The boys to girls ratio in my college was 13:1. Even in my workplace the ratio is 5:1. Which field do you belong to?
Belonging to an urban background in WB, I have seen that groom's families many times prefer working women as prospective brides if they work in the same cities, and some families even encourage brides to take up jobs after marriage.... rest all is pretty much the same as you said in the video, but this is an interesting exception.
Perhaps it's different in West Bengal or there are some regional differences
👀 mondal sk mondal sister?
This video only showed the drawbacks of a successful marriage putting men in center root. But there is also another side where the expectations of a carrier oriented women/beautiful woman is so high that is difficult to touch the benchmark for a man. Now a days most of the job oriented boys who are leaving in highly cost area, want career oriented girls to share there living cost. But as I already told, that type of girls are not so easy to find in arrange marriage.
I think in arrange marriage most of the persons put long listed preferences and within first few years of starting partner search they don't want to compromise with it which is opposite in love marriage.
One of my friend married a guy from UP whom she worked with in an MNC. Theirs was a love marriage with opposition from both sides. My friend was Malayali Christian and the guy's family was UP brahmin from Kanpur. The guy's family demanded lakhs of rupees of dowry and also demanded a bullet for the younger son because she was not from their caste. The guy initially opposed his parents demands but soon after marriage he told my friend to slightly 'adjust'. My friend gave up meat and eggs for him and became pure vegetarian, did all the poojas whenever his family demanded. Celebrated all the festivals with them. But her then husband and family, made her life miserable. Two years later, it was tipping point and she went to her family and told them that she longer wants to stay with him and or his family. The had a civil court divorce with the judge ordering the family to pay everything back. Now, she's married to someone from her community who has more liberal outlook and is happily settled abroad with twins. Even with many cross cultural and inter-caste marriages, women are at the receiving end.
Something similar happened with my friend. She married a Muslim guy who was our college batchmate (against her family wishes offcourse), even changed her identity / converted under pressure as she was heads over heels in love with the chap. Later on she couldn’t adjust to the different culture and interference of her in-laws to the point of restricting her day to day freedom of clothes to wear and whom to talk with and when to come home etc etc. she finally had enough and later on divorced the guy after 1.5 years of struggle to make it work.
Now she is well settled in Bangalore with a guy from south itself.
Nobody in our group could’ve imagined her first marriage would turn out to be so disastrous owing to religious differences and family interference.
@@devshreebhardwaj3096 I feel pity for that south Indian guy🤐
@@ravishankarkumar1174 why
@@ravishankarkumar1174 pity on yourself
@@NB-xu8bl it's better if you feel urself that way. That innocence south Indian guy would have easily managed a civilized and cultured s. Indian bride but he got trapped by these kinds of women. She should move back to that jihadi one's and caught up dead by the following days😆
This man Never Dissapionts us .The depth of Research is 🔥
ha huma toh deendar chahiya
@@iba.dur.rahman atleast better than asking Dowry Nd Caste and what not.
Islam is the solution for everything. Allhamdulliah.
@@believer0001 jyada kudo mat.
Be happy with whatever religion you belong.....don't try to impose on others.
@@believer0001 4 wives for 1 husband in pisslam 💯 😂
@@believer0001 🤣🤣
Muslims too ask for hefty dowry, you are living in your imaginary Caliphate.
As far as caste is concerned, the idea is the same. That one prefers to marry to a person who shares one's background.
Won't you prefer to marry a Muslim, who has common beliefs and background as yours.
I prefer love marriage ( i am talking about long term relationship converting into marriage and not about 1, or 2 year relationships ). Cuse in love marriage you Know how much good and worst a person can be. And after knowing the worst part if you except your partner then only marry. In arrange marriage, it's like a gamble, your partner can be soo good and also can be soo bad. And you can't know immediately after 1 or 2 year of marriage how bad a person can be ( pretending like a good & loving partner for 1,2 year is not that hard). Then after 4,5 year when you will realise , there is higher cance that you don't have any options ( probably you have kids now, and age is also a factor ).
You are absolutely right.
But everyone can't find love.
Paisa nahi to kuch nahi ma'am, my salary is not sufficient for her parents 😞 (4years of relationship)
@@ashishsinghrajput8314 True. At the end of the day it comes down to money. If I find a girl who loves me for what I am without thinking about caste/religion and other shenanigans and can go against her family to be with me, I'll marry her in a heartbeat. And I'll do the same for her. But sadly, most girls talking love just fall apart when her parents says NO, no matter how independent she might be. And then they talk about being their "choice", or the boy was not good enough. In India, happy love marriages only happens in SRK movies where everybody involved is happy in the end.
Yes, I also want love marriage . I simply can't marry someone if she is not attracted to me .
Let's not kid anyone. Many women wouldn't have married the men they married if said men didn't have the money they had. It's what it is.
The same case with girl's beauty, if she wasn't fair and pretty, men would not marry her
@@t33554 Yup! Most men wouldn't. Class differences don't matter much to men but looks do. And the converse is true of most girls.
Instead of upholding the law, the so called retired judge is bashing his daughter in law and in front of a child. This is the VIKAS of India. Glad to know.
Don't comments without knowing full story. There's always another perspective.
@@Nishantic lagta hai aapki mummy ke saath bhi yahi hota tha 🤔
@@Nishantic empowering women with education and business skills isn't done why? But nonsense like dowry is done 🤮
@@Nishantic go and check statistics. Till date they are restricted, Tertiary education is just a dream for many and jobs and working for their dream lifestyle. Only when schemes like free cycles are given then parents allowed their children to study, drop rate dropped (in poor regions of the nation)
@@Nishantic abhe gochu think about 27 crore children in that 18 crore study in govt schools and govt schools students themselves come only due to mid day meals except few states where education is top notch like delhi. You are kid I belive. Please kid don't comment without knowing reality of the matter
Its very relatable,, the exact line by line i can feel for myself.. It becomes very difficult for a working women to find a boy...
I really appreciate your work.. this is very genuine issue in India.
It is not that hard to find guy for working woman. Most guys don't want to marry working girl bcos it is a stereotype that working girls are not virgin. Although anyone can be non virgin. If ur virgin u will have no problem finding guy.
@@knight_23 it is not about virginity. It is about feminism which men fear nowadays. They want peaceful life with family. Working girls don't want to live in compromising situations.
@@avinash1562 actually it is Lil bit of both. But ur point is also very true.
When u live with other person, both have to compromise/adjust to some extent.
Tum ek bar apne condition hta Kr dekho bhut ldke mil jayenge
@@knight_23 exactly, I have seen many corporate women have an active bumble and tinder profile while being married that seeing women in suit scares me now
95% of Indian marriages are just one step away from breaking.
LOL
@@sampatkalyan3103 sahi keh rahi hu
Agar tum aadmi ho to tum aadmi ki nazar se soch rahe ho ki Aisa kuch nahi hai aurat ki nazar se sochkar dekhne ki koshish to kar hi sakte ho
Tumhe PTA chalega ki dusri taraf kitni problems hain.
@@yaminivishwakarma9928 even from women's perspective big LMAO.
True, many marriages are held because parents dont want thier children to grow up in broken families.
At least they are continuing unlike here in Sweden where divorce rates are on peak.
Let me tell you about my story. I'm quite liberal, earn a good amount of money and now have a british girlfriend.
When I used to get any marriage proposals (hah what a joke) in India, the first thing they ask is how much I earn. Literally every single girl asked me the same question. Do you realise how massive of a turn off that is? I don't care about any of the societal norms. IMO everyone should have financial and social independence regardless of gender, caste, class, religion etc. But the same applies to the opposite gender. Wdym you want me to earn more. Is that the only reason you are marrying me? You are financially independent, aren't you? I enjoy what I'm doing and my pay is good enough for me to live comfortably. Please contribute your portion and we'll both live comfortably. Why do you need me to pay all the bills when you are financially independent. I don't mind you earning more, I cook most of the days, so I can cook for us 2. You can clean up after me. We're good to go. Stop looking at my salary and look at me. That's all I ask.
W
Luckily my in-laws are so good and humble despite they are financially so stable and good well standard people but they doesn’t take any dowry (any means not single penny) no furniture, no gold(only small earrings which was given by may parents as a shagun) , no money sometimes I think why i am so lucky
They are rich from hearts too
😎👍
or he is unlucky
You must be settled in Canada for sure
@@AkashKumar-hf8rp why he is unlucky
@@cryptoboi9584 no we live in punjab he is business man worked for government construction projects
"Whatever you say about India the opposite is also true" i think that's the best line i have heard describing india
I think there's a reason boy's family like to prefer unemployed or less educated girl over other option because we as a society have implemented idea that boys have to educate themselves so they can provide to their family, but girls have to educate themselves to be independent from family. It has a deep impact.
Can't be more true, people miss this point so easily and then blame men for all the chaos. They don't understand that girls will never get educated and be financially independent to provide for their family whereas us men do that to marry, provide and protect without the slightest bit of selfishness.
U r right bro. I m 30 unmarried girl. I m an ENGINEER. By profession I m LECTURE in reputeted institute. Also preparing for MPPSC. I m going through process of finding patner. Some ppl reject me bcz i m highly educated. They want housewife. N they told me to leave my job .all my frnd n younger cousin are married. I m feeling inferior in front of society
Live in Bangalore or hyderabad with the husband as the sole earner, when the food + rent + monthly bill comes out to be Rs 45000+ then you will understand the importance of money. Leave alone saving or raising a kid when the school fees for a single child would be Rs6000 extra.
You will live on EMI for the rest of your life and let your kid settle it.
I feel so amused, there is a friend of mine with this same ideology to let his wife sit at home and help his parents while he is earning Rs 25000 in Chandigarh, he is living in a rented PG with 4 other people and spends around Rs 15000, while the other Rs 10000 he give it to his wife, in emergency cases he has to ask his parents in law for money 😅
Bro time has changed there is high inflation rate and high risks in private companies, eventhough your salary is Rs 90000 but you will take back home Rs 50000, with increase in prices and rents it is not sufficient to survive in a metro city.
@@sonujain2348 wth you are a skilled engineer supporting indian economy , you should look forward to educated people like yours
I expect a girl who can take care of our family, support household responsibilities and handle relatives
I have same thinking. Agar meri wife ko bahar jakar 100 mardo ke bich job karni pade to mer mard hone ka kya fayda Jo wife ke kharche bhi na utha paye
Aap logon ka kehna to sahi hai.. pur us ladki ke dream ka kya..?? Kya ek ladki apni life apni ichha se nahi jee sakti ?
@@sandhya7246that's fine? But unfortunately we don't have any option to quit job and do household. I'm okay if a girl wants to be sole earner and support but question yourself would you do it? No?
@@sandhya7246 after marriage it's always the 3 options:
1. Either leave job and take care of household.
2. Keep working and tell husband to quit job so he takes care of household and you be sole earner.(I don't see any women doing it).
3. Keep a maid or both contribute equally.
Me as a Man , my wish, When I become successful and stable, I also choose a successful and stable woman..... Because I Didn't want to make my life harder to marry a jobless women......just because of beauty.....which is gone after a certain time.....I want to live happily with minimum struggle......So Mens make your decesion wisely........ It's not a old generation......
what about virginity of women?
Jobless Wife = Financial Burden
In India
Directly or indirectly girls are supposed to be dependent or to be unmarried
Bcoz if they are independent they will face difficulty in finding a good match.
Similarly with boys
They need to be well settled otherwise "kon apni beti dega"
Then same logic should be applied to girls,they need to be well settled and no one should give their boys to that girl,if she is not well settled
sad part is ladkiyon ki toh ho hi jati hai shadi but ham ladkon ko mehnat karke apne dam par haasil karni hoti hain cheezen
I had a friend I met her while working in one of the corporate hospitals she is also 3 years older to me now she will turn 30 , she herself told me this story..So my friend who is malyalee but born n brought up in Ludhiana fell in love with a Punjabi boy...they had 9 years long relationship...when her mother got to know about it she beaten her that badly she broke her 2 major bones tibia and fibula...she was on bed for 6 months..after recovery her mother arranged her marriage to a keralite boy who is a nursing incharge and an alcoholic...she was forced to marry him...after marriage my friend was harrassed by her husband so much, he used to drug her even ...she told her parents they asked not to make excuses and asked not bring bad name in the Church...after so much trauma she and her husband came to Delhi and started their jobs in different hospitals..where I met her even there she met this guy which I would love to mention his name jomy who used to torchur her that he will tell her husband about affair she had before marriage as they were from same church , he used to ask her money when ever he wanted...I got to know she told me everything I went to management and wrote a complaint against him but my case was taken up by one man who was infamous for his flings with young girls and was really cordial with jomy ....first of all he wasn't listening to me at all then I decided to quit job then he got scared so next week he called me back n asked to join n made assurance that he will ask the bench to see the matter but this men asked my friend to work in MICU when she was 6 months pregnant no one works in that ward if you are pregnant as it requires heavy lifting and have seriously sick patients...then she left the job where his husband again was not understanding her but this time she didn't listen him n joined back....after a month the man and this jomy conspired against me with 2 keralite girls and put memo against me lying some shit so they asked me that either FIR or just quit job...at that point I was pursuing my master's degree in hospital administration so I didn't want anything tangling with future I left but not silently 🤣I left by mailing proofs to one of the heads..then one day my friend met me telling jomy and her husband are friends they worked together before in some hospital and her husband already knew about her previous affair 🤦 and she also told me never to meet me again as her husband n mother doesn't want shred of me in their lives...!! That was my last meeting with her...this was all 3 years back..!! I realised most women have no self respect or they want some back to guard them then only they can take big step..!
My friendship was of no use I wish I would have taught her to respect herself first..!!
Great story , really appreciable courage and intelligence 👏🤍 of yours
@@prajjwal1010 thanks 🙏 but no use they all are still enjoying..courage costed me alot 🤪
@@100myasharma5 I just want to know that why many Indian parents don't accept inter caste marriage ?
@@Rohit-bo5uh because sb apna privilege leke baithe h na...privilege of colour, privilege of caste, privilege of govt job, privilege of no. fasting u do every month 🤣 if they are not rich how they will show their grandeur? Then they will do by how much prayers n fasting or hygiene u maintain..if they are rich then they don't want to limit the empire they are kings n queens then 🤣 if they r not uppercast then they atleast have privileges to get govt job so then they won't give fuck to upper caste...if they are uppercast atleast they have privelge to be a storyteller how they brutalised other caste n how they were given this such a great treatment to be one existed if not God 🤣
And other point is also village and shehar ka difference...in cities u talk about how great your Village is ,still all sanskari and when u visit ur Village u become this hightown person who is well educated n throw tantrums so the villagers are also confused shehar ki hawa lg gyi h ab bigad jyengy shadi dkhna bhag k hogi 🤣 but then one fine day they will marry in their own caste beshak crying inside 🤧 but atleast they will get this crown he is well known of his parampara anushasan..!!
It will remain till the world will care about what is others opinion about you...n better to teach kids how relatives are overrated and your happiness is everything..!! We all r hypocrite in ourselves..!
U tried ur best ,hope she'll
be fine
Most educated girls with 20 LPA wants guy with 1Cr+ LPA. This is the fact.
Also every working girl is referring to explore and sleep with 100 guys before finalising. This is also a fact.
Facts meanwhile boys prefer Traditional Girls with no body count
That's what they are fighting for
So as far as the education and employment section is concerned, we have:
_1. Men don't want a partner better off financially or educationally than them._
And
_2. Women would rather stay single than marry down._
I feel like (2) causes (1). Since women want to marry up or at least equally, the easiest way for men to meet that demand is to look for a woman who's "lesser" than or inferior to him in education, income, etc. The woman in this equation would feel like she's marrying up and the man well.... has bagged his woman. Both win.
Both sexes are playing the game in a way that's advantageous to them and them alone.
Absolutely....but it definitely need a change
This is how humans tough works, look for advantage.
Yes i dont want someone to work house wife would be better option
that's not an indian problem but a gender problem .... that's how humans were made... that's the same problem across the globe but arrange marriage should be banned cuz as long as we gonna give the option every girl gonna think if he is perfect i love him nevertheless she would have an option to marry rich guy through arrange marriage ...
Meanwhile I don't care about educational background or job or anything as long as his presence can make me happy, and mine can make him happy. I'll get whichever jobs I have to, if need be. But I just want a happy marriage.
I genuinely feel that Mohak is very talented but underrated youtuber. Reason is most of the viewers don't want to see analytical videos as they are apparently boring. The quality of research, analysis with data and with presentations in all videos are really impressive. Moreover, the type of socio economic and political topics he selects, that probably no one does in India.
This video is provoking me always be independent financial....married or nor❤️
Recently my cousin had a love marriage.
My cousin is senior to her husband both by experience and post. Her MIL told her that she didn't want a working Bahu for her son. I guess she wanted to say I don't care if earn or how much you earn, it has no value for me. In many families it is about power dynamics, people say that after marriage your daughter will be like a daughter for us but they don't really mean it. They can never accept that an outsider will have similar power and control over their family as them. They still prefer a submissive Bahu and wife.
I love his research. His point of view ❤️❤️
Keep growing sir
I am a 6 feet tall engineer earning 50 lacks p.a. I need very fair girl with white pearl teeth color. :D The gal shud know to cook all kinds of dishes and who should wear 50% casual and 50% formal and 100% lingerie in bed. :D She shud be virgin and with bra size atleast or more than 34 :D:D :D
Hey Mohak! Love your content! Just a slight clarification! The Hindu Succession Act was passed in 1956 not 2005! It was amended in 2005!
Why do you know that?
@@futuremaxxed why should not he know that.
I noticed it too
@@futuremaxxed blaw
Succession act is applicable only if the owner of the property has already died without registering any will.. Property rights of daughter/son.. Daughter/son cannot forcibly demand property from a father who does not want to give them property. It is the wish of the father to give or not to give. All Children get Equal right of parent's property only AFTER the DEATH of the parent.. But, when the parent is still ALIVE, he can sell, gift or give for free all his self acquired property to anyone he likes or he can Register a will and give it to anyone after his death.
Daughter's claim to father's property: When she can and when she can't... The Hindu Succession Act 1956 was amended in 2005, allowing daughters an equal share in ancestral property. But, succession act is applicable only to divide the property of a dead person and Not to divide the property of a living person. Also any will registered by the owner of the property before his death will supersede and override all succession acts and inheritance laws.. Also, Only the property that is still registered in the name of the dead great grandfather or above generation is considered as ancestral property. Self acquired property of father and grandfather is not considered as ancestral property... Despite this, can your father deprive you of your share in the property? Find out:
1. If property has been self-acquired by father...
In the case of a self-acquired property, that is, where a father has bought a piece of land or house with his own money, a daughter is on weaker ground. The father, in this case, has the right to gift the property to anyone he wants or will it to anyone he wants, or sell it to anyone he wants and a daughter will not be able to raise an objection. Son or wife also cannot raise an objection if the father is not giving them any of his self acquired property. Self acquired property of dead grandfather is also considered as self acquired property of the father.
2. If property is ancestral...
Under the Hindu law, property is divided into two types: ancestral and self-acquired. Ancestral property is defined as one that is inherited up to four generations of male lineage and should have remained undivided throughout this period. For descendants, be it a daughter or son, an equal share in such a property accrues by birth itself. Before 2005, only sons had a share in such property. So, by law, a father cannot will such property to anyone he wants to, or deprive a daughter of her share in it. By birth, a daughter has a share in the ancestral property. Only the property that is still registered in the name of the dead great grandfather or above generation is considered as ancestral property.
3. If father dies intestate...
If the father dies intestate, that is, without leaving a will, all legal heirs have an equal right to the property. The Hindu Succession Act categorises a male’s heirs into four classes and the inheritable property goes first to Class I heirs. These include the widow, daughters and sons, among others. Each heir is entitled to one part of the property, which means that as a daughter you have a right to a share in your father’s property.
4... If father dies after registering will...
If the property was self acquired property of your father , then your father has absolute right to execute a will and give his property to anyone he likes.. But, if the will was not properly registered.. Then if you can show that father was not willing to execute such a will, but your brothers had put pressure upon the father and obtained it by forcing the father, then you can challenge it within three years from your knowledge. If it is found that father was not in position to understand effect of the will or was pressurized by some one or was not in sound mental condition at the time of writing the will, then the court may cancel the will, and divide the property equally among all the children. So, to avoid such problems in the future , the brother should take the father to the government register office and prepare the will in stamp paper and father should sign the will in the presence of 2 witness and the government register officers. The brother should take father to Government hospital and get medical certificate about his mental condition. If the will is registered properly then there is no chance for disputes later.. s
I am proud to say that i'm not toxic masculine man like mentioned in video.
I love see independent woman it's actually gives me satisfaction
But people who are insecure are intimidated by them.
We both like Snu Snu💪
@@kabyamtalukdar3066 My fav 🛐
@@galaxray8700 it's not intimidating...just headache. Most educated women who are independent are extremely opinionated and thinks she is better than you and tries to dominate in the relationship. Men who need peace in life better go with a girl who is ready to quit job and cook and take care of the house.
Nice, women labour force participation gone in the trash
9:48 my parents always told and teach me one thing, "be independent", they also promised me they will always support me no matter what, they told it's on you if you want to marry or not, or other life decisions.
Wow...fly in the sky..you can use your wings..not every girl can
@jyotisharma-hy2xk I hope all of the women gets freedom
5:28 nowadays, there is also a preference for NRIs. If the guy is well settled abroad then the families do not care about distance from the native place and are fully ready to get the girl married to the NRIs.
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not true
@@ashish99311 The kind of families I have seen, it is true. NRI grooms serve as extra brownie points because according to many brides’ families, their daughters will have a much higher status in terms of lifestyle and visa.
Not true i got rejected at many places in spite of being in US
3:45 The truth revealed 🥲🥲🥲
I'm not sure about other parts of India, but in my state, in case of girls-you can be from any caste (not talking about brahmin in the case of arranged marriages), but if you have a government job(most preferred is TET teacher), you'll get a lot of marriage proposals.people actually prefer educated girls with a possibility of getting a govt job in future. I'm from the northeast and almost dowry-free .Even the jewellery was given to the girls from the groom's side, including wedding dresses. You don't even need to take gold from your parents' house ( we only take normal furniture like beds, dining tables, etc., but that's your choice what you want to take).But sadly, a few are getting influenced by the people from the mainland, and it's sad.but it's mostly among poor uneducated people till now
I guess u r from Tripura , cauz this is relatable af
@@imdoggo71 Assamese too.
In my village of haryana too
Yea I have heard alot like this from northeast side. I wanna shift there 🥲
@@imdoggo71 no assam 😅😅
Well done .... 👍
100% relatable 🙌
I am animator , read books, do gardening ,very emotional ,love my parents , but it is very difficult for me to choose someone alongside ,I hope God will help guys like us to the proper point.
Every man must visit a family court for a divorce case hearing before getting married. Trust me, you would see the actual definition of "equality" !
True!
What do you think about prenups
@@dingding4898 it's not workable in India dude...
No, it doesn't work in India.
Also with the kind of laws being introduced for infidelity and alimony , no sane man should get married in India.
@@dingding4898 illegal as given under the indian contract act
In just 4 months almost 7 females leaved their homes and ran away with their lover in our village
Even 3 women's were already married and have 2 childrens
And one girl is just 16 years old
This type of things are becoming very common now
Hamare yaha to 1.5 saal ho gye hain aisa hue....
Ladki ki sagai ho chuki thi,vo ladki bhaag gyi,police ki help se 7-8 ghanto ke andar ladki to vapas aa gyi par jis ladke ke saath uski sagai hui thi vo ladke ne us ladki se shadi karne se mana kar diya...
Concept of dating and love marriages should be normal at this point
We are in 21st century
@@bhaveshtontiya7152 ladke ne ekdam sahi Kia ...donno ka life barbad ho jata ladke ne sahi decision lia donno k lie👍
@@rdxx4073 ab ladki se koi shadi nahi karega....aur milega bhi to koi overage ya handicapped....
@@rudra20048 Yes , It should be a normal thing in the culture, but it's never going to be accepted by majority. Sad but true. Dating in rural areas is certainly not a thing where half of the population resides. And dating in Urban areas is only common in high class societies which constitutes a very low % of urban population. We might be technological advanced but are very backward in dating, love and marriage area. 95 % of marriages happen as arranged which are based on traditional customs i.e. thousands of years old Hindu culture. So basically implementing dating and Relationship norms is against the Hindu community and culture. So it's impossible
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