Went to a party the other day for new with a complete bunch of strangers and loved it, got compliments, people liked talking to me, people listened to me...I hung out with two girls a week or so after (Friends) and...old me, quiet, not shy necessarily but just lacking things to say, I felt like I needed validation from them which I didn't give a damn about at the party or anywhere else honestly, but these two friends just sent me right back to my insecure 16 year old school days. A video on how to deal with this wouldn't be unappreciated honestly.
I had the toughest issue at work. When dealing with old friends, I did feel different and weird. But not only that I also expected them to be the same and they turned out to be fake jealous of my success and extremely backstabbing. Opening up to them in the present is way different than it was in the past and that's a huge lesson I've gained.
I think it would be the tone that would convey the hate. If you sound incredulous and look at the person as if they're crazy. Maybe add a dash of contempt to really bring it around to you meaning, "You could never really do that because I can not imagine somebody making a decision to be that uncomfortable or inconvenienced to bring about a small amount of change." Not too much contempt, though; or it won't be passive aggressive anymore. What they forget is, the incremental changes can be cumulative as long as you continue. Encouragement is more helpful to affecting the effect of change. They are stopping you from metamorphosing into the beautiful butterfly that will emerge.
I haven't had anyone say the exact phrase to me, but I am prepared to say "He who says he can and he who says he can't are both usually right." It seems like something that would force them to really reflect in a way that is minimally "offensive".
BigAssMuffin -My thought as well. Saying "I could never do that" is an inside out compliment. It's inferring that you are impressed with that person's strength and self mastery, because "I could never do such a difficult task".
Better CHOICE. IS BE NEUTRAL. At PEACE. LEARN TO LET LIVE TO LEARN for themselves. Neutrallity. Healthy attitude. Make PEACE NOT WAR. 👍👀🎨 BE HUMBLE. TEACHABLE ALL ADULTS need to keep LEARNING TO GET ALONG IN GOOD SENSE PEACE✌👀😅😄😃. OK?
I love my haters. If people aren't hating on you, you're not doing anything worth hating on. Change that. Everybody that is amazing in their field has TONNES of them.
Well, when I was drawing in class (FYI, I was working on this drawing for a while. It's supposed to be a gift for my friend) a boy that can't shut up walked towards me and says that 'it's ugly as hell'... aH yEs sUch mOtiVatiOn aNd I toTallY am nOt plAnnIng oN hOw to mAke hIs lIfe mIseRaBle
Dealing With Haters 1. Ignore 2. Act as if they're genuine 3. "I'm glad we dont make decisions for each other as I don't think we'd be happy if we did." 4. Show Vulnerability 5. Find a community
The worst is when you genuinely tried to be nice and still got treated with so much hate and anger. When you really wanted to be positive and someone comes and tears down everything just like that. Without knowing why or maybe even knowing it's not really about you. The second you treat me poorly, it IS about me. And I can't get over something when I just can't wrap my head around what it is that made you behave like that towards me.
this video was perfect for right now. I recently started a UA-cam channel and a lot of people in my life don't understand or don't take it seriously. but they can back off! ;)
Tennori if they threatened u then tell someone and be strong and do not show them ur upset just act like u didn't see them and tell someone bout the situation
Yes, the same here. Just the other day I told to my colleague who jumped from the plane (with a parachute) that I could never do that. I admired him for finding guts to do something like that.
From my personal experience, ignoring them is your weapon against them it’s a powerful one cus remember haters want to see a reaction that’s what they’re aiming for, they get off on that, for them it’s like consuming another drug when you ignore them they get really angry they burn because they realized what they said had no affect on you, that you don’t care about them, their thoughts, their existence. They’re already triggered when they see you, hear your name, etc you don’t have to do anything they just get triggered so that’s why they do the things they do, they’re just unhappy people
The annoying part is not knowing why they hate you, I’m not successful nor do i even know them. So you find yourself asking “why are they doing this 💔”.
If someone is doing something I could never do, I'll tell them, not out of hate but out of admiration -- I give them the explanation as well. I'm surprised you didn't cover any grounds on non-constructive, personal insults. That's where most folks fail at. I've only seen two UA-camrs who legitimately knew how to shut those down.
Now, I don’t think about this all the time, but there are many days where I just feel so attacked. like on so many social media pages such as this. Which is common. I just received a load of backlash a few minutes ago for a comment, so I searched for some tips on how to deal with them in a respectable manner. And honestly it’s already making me feel better about myself. About my decisions. And I’m learning to ignore and move on more frequently, as I find it difficult to communicate my feelings openly in the face of insults, and I’m general I’m just a very sensitive person. Which is why I respond trying to tell them to calm down. News flash, if you don’t have any ground breaking discoveries to slap in their face going along with “calm down”, it doesn’t solve the issue and only makes them angrier. So, I really appreciate this video. Thank you for making me get into more of these habits. Being so sensitive really has its downsides, but ignoring, laughing things off and taking compliments as genuine has made me a more confident person in general. Again, thanks, and I apologize for the long comment.
_I couldn't do that._ _It's not easy, but I can_ Especially with passive aggressive people, you're right that you should try to act as if they meant it. If you stay long enough friendly, some people give up and maybe even become genuinely friendly to you too. The worst thing you can do is to defend yourself aggressively and always have the last word. It would just escalate things or keep the fight going longer than it would, if you just ignored it. Staying friendly on a professional level has the advantage, that your critics may later come at you when they need help. That's the point were most give up their negativity. On the other hand it doesn't mean that you do everything for those that treat you like scum.
Thanks for the video. I recently developed a few haters. It's funny I had them already in school and now I get them as an adult. Whats even more strange is I feel better having them. My life must be so much more interesting than theirs so they are concerned with me. I never give a fuck about them. 😊
One thing you need to remember: keep doing what you are doing that is generating this kind of hate and don't stop. Eventually you will get results, and that is the surest way to shut up the haters. A guy I knew kept giving me shit for going to the gym and working out. Why? Because he was not doing that himself, so he wanted to break me down to his level while I was building myself back up. He kept saying behind my back, "he's not jacked or anything." And stuff like that. Ironically, a friend took a pic of me with my shit off and posted it to Instagram, and for weeks I had dozens of people complement my gains. The other guy never hated again. Get results if you know you are lifting yourself up.
Thank you so much. This really is some good advice. Sometimes it just feels like the whole world is hating everyone but simply ignoring negative things made me realize that what you focus on is what you believe. The world is big and even if 1 million people hate you or what you stand for it's not that big of a number in terms of world population and there certainly are a lot of nice people.
what about when a coach or figure who is higher than you(like a boss etc), that you have to listen too is passive aggressive? how do you deal with that?
I think you have to claim your boundaries (respectfully, don't lower yourself to their level) and be prepared to lose your job or position if it goes wrong. Start looking for back up options and keep your head low in the mean time. Usually those kind of people exist within power structures that might have a way to deal with that (Human Resources, or administrative officials in schools). You may need to speak with someone of higher authority and ask for advice on your plan to confront the problem person.
I remember a success mentor recommending that you just calmly comment on the covert behavior (passive aggression for example or trying to shame someone as another). "Oh, that's interesting, are you being passive aggressive?" said with as neutral and curious a tone as you can manage. Prepare for friction. Check out the book Crucial Conversations, too! I haven't finished it yet but the advice is mindblowing and all about dealing with difficult but crucial conversations like the one in your question.
Dude I deal with this "haters gonna hate" stuff all the time.. this video helps A TON! You explained it perfect ! As they say nailed it on the head! Thanks!
Thanks for this. Had some rude people ruin my day and I got self conscious because I was confused if they were talking about me and didn't respond. Perhaps my silence was the right move. Why give those people the time of day ✌🏾
I think you provide a very well explained tips on dealing with haters. We have to understand that, many times, haters aren't hating us because there is something about us that they are compelled to dislike. Many times, they hate because of something missing in their own lives that we either have or are working to attain. Sometimes you can actually turn a hater into an ally by simply being willing to encourage them in their pursuits. Once a hater said to me: "You'll never be able to start a company. You're too young, it's expensive, and you won't make money." My sincere reply: "Starting a company is a challenge, it might be the hardest thing I've ever done. But I think of it the same way you approach doing music. It's challenging in many ways but you're doing your passion and meeting the desires for those who love great music. I think if anyone can overcome the challenges and reach success, you can. That's how I also feel about starting this company." Since that day, we have worked together many times and are great friends. Always be tuned in to know when to respond to hate with positivity. :)
I love shutting people down so much. They hate it. When I was younger in art class, we had to make clay boxes. This girl said to me “Your box is as ugly as your face” I said back to her “Thanks Nyleigh that really makes me feel good.” In a non sarcastic way. She didn’t know what to say after that
As rhetorician I can only recommend this channel. From Corax to Cialdini, you get all the necessary information modernized and easily understandable in short videos. All the respect for that!
When someone tells me to stop doing something I say this in a really genuine tone to confuse them lol: "You know what, I should stop. I am really unable to make my decisions and i might just follow exactly what you tell me. Thanks man! :D" lol they always take it seriously
Im 19 and at the first year of college, and I met my first ever haters, Im so confused why they hate me for no obvious reason, thanks for the advices, I really didnt know what to do
Daten Raten I, too, prefer the non animated illustration videos; I actually liked watching *him* because he was so expressive and I felt like his messages just got across better. The pace at witch illustrations switched from one to another has slowed down a little, which makes them easier to watch, but they're still switching to fast for me --- and I don't feel them as "genuine". I know it's a subjective appreciation and I'm not trying to demean the artist's work in any way --- I just like the previous style of videos better :)
I like both styles,; I'm used to watching videos with animation like those from theodd1sout or Extra Credits, but his own talking directly at the camera style does convey body language and facial expressions that allow the audience to connect more intimately. If I remember correctly, the reason he has any animators at all is because of his location and how it's difficult to record good quality videos of himself. That said, voicing your opinion that it would be better if he did facecams even with a "low quality" setup surely cannot do any harm. Cheers!
I’m going through the same period right now, thinking of quitting because I’ve been told 1k subscribers is not enough n I’m not worth anything..that’s why I’m watching this video to feel motivated
No. 5 used the be the story of my life with my family. They were so invested in their hostility towards me that it got really bad. After spending years trying to explain how hurtful their statements and actions were to me, I had to walk away. Once that was done our relationship improved--even if it required me to limit the amount of time I spend with them.
I think I have met all the haters on the planet! Okay, maybe not, but it often feels that way. I've never had a support group beyond my parents (they've been dead over 30 years), and at this point, I don't need them. It would be a total shock if I had one. That I don't think I would know how to handle. I have had many successes, I have done things many dream about doing, but I'm not done yet. I draw on those successes to spur me forward. I had to take down my awards because it made others uncomfortable and that's strange to me. Finally, I've found to reject people out of my life makes me more comfortable. I just don't want to hear it and I don't have time to spend with people like that. Oh, they come around when you do have a success and tell everyone who will listen how they helped me. Then I embarrass them by telling how they tried to stop me. Too much effort without a good pay off. We only have so many hours of life. Live!
Its bitter sweet that you put out this video right before xmas. For me personally and i guess for many others families are often the ones trying to push down your dreams and goals, so get ready to use the tips in his one asap people! ;)
Great vid, amazing stuff seriously. I´ve been in UA-cam a few months, enough to see that there are many fucked up people on the internet (more than in real life honestly) they hide anonimously behind the screens and vomit their shit on others, when I read their comments below my videos I just feel sorry for them, cause somebody cannot be living a happy life when saying those things, so I don´t delete their comment and reply with sacarm + politeness , but my conclusion is some people are really fucked up haha
Despite this being 4 years old, I found it quite valuable. Thank you for this great tutorial in behavior. Wishing you God's love, peace, and blessings from Pearland, Texas.☺🙏💜👍
That would be cool, but I kind of think it would be a better opportunity to talk about false ideas people have about charisma rather than Lucifer actually being charismatic. TBH Lucifer would annoy the shit out of me.
Got hates on a comment that didn't mean any harm or negativity, Affected my other channel and gave me sadness for 1 day straight. I know this sounds childish and too sensitive! Thanks for spending your time reading this comment :D
I have tons of ideas for myself as to what to do with my life and I receive some push back I wouldn't necessarily call them haters but well meaning people disappointed or disapproving of my life decisions and I find when I love them and genuinely empower myself and them and identify our own independence is when I don't care what they think
I like the animations but in some rare cases less is more, meaning that less transitions would be better to understand and enjoy than seen so many different images and transitions in between them
I really enjoy the content on this channel, how it's always about action and practical application of this psychology and being confident, and not just ":) just be yourself!" (which is such a horribly shallow and useless advice tbh), but real things. Real interactions, real situations.
I do remember the days when i was called babe,sweetheart,schatz,now i am called buddy and all sorts of nonsense,when im just a good guy and honest ,many girls really loved me in the past,many also did not,many DID call me ugly when my looks is not my fault,many did hurt me,lied,played,but many were also great……..well now im surrounded by evil and im fighting…….good must win…….im desperate to find some people who still care for PEOPLE…….
@@haristhebosniaklion8584 yes same here. I wish people that actually cared for others and liked them off their personality. No one is ugly and no one is perfect. But some people are just mean and the best thing to do is just to get them out your life.
The "I could never do this" rebuttal sounds pretty unnecessary and makes you look super defensive and confrontational as if you're wishing to be hated upon. Just say thanks, because it is mostly meant as a compliment or at the very least can be understood as one. The biggest tip to dealing with "haters" is that very very few people are actually hating. It's often well meant and often you aren't even criticised. Reacting then with some of the above tactics just makes you look super insecure and egocentric. When you are dealing with genuine negativety then these tactics are great.
Hey dude! Bit of constructive criticism here. I think switching to animations is a great idea with your current goals. The only thing is, now that you have, we've lost a bit of connection that we used to get through your facial expressions. You may need to slow down your speaking slightly to compensate for it. Other than that, keep doing what you're doing. Love your content!
this is a nice little video. I have used a couple of these things kind of instinctively in the past and they seem to be pretty effective. To someone having a bad day and trying to bring you down, these responses would be frustratingly positive and effective at taking the steam out of them.
Every hater that attempts to hurt me-end up being defeated in Jesus name. I recognize the enemy and they attack those of us who are resilient and blessed. Just brings me closer to Jesus. Thank you Jesus for setting me Free ❤️🙏❤️
im from latin América. i can understand english perfectly, but im not good writing it, anyway, what i want to say is: thank you, thank you so much!! this advices are pure gold, i've never heard something like this before, very smart observations, im going to use this amazing informatión in my daily life.
This is interresting info. Only sometimes I also say something in the line of I could never do that. And I don't mean that as a hatefull comment but more like as in I envy you. Or I have a great deal of respect for you that you are able to do that.
I won a contest in school today and though I’m happy and so is my class, I’m so frustrated since everywhere I go, other people keep whispering “She doesn’t deserve it” It hurts
I just want to thank you for the subtitles : i'm french and i love your channel but it's hard for me to understand all you say so the english subtitle help me a lot
I take deep interest in your videos, I watch them carefully and thoughtfully, Sometimes i repeat your videos to understand every point you utter correctly, Though i would sincerely request you to upload a Specified video on Persuasion skills, Don't tell me you don't have time or you can't do it, You're the best man for this thing :)
Guh, this drives me NUTS, this 21st-century equating of "criticism" with "hating" - as if the only reason somebody would ever criticize anything you say or do is because they're caught in the grip of a deep pathological hatred of YOU, personally. So what's your advice? Completely ignore all criticism of what you do - or if you aren't going to ignore it, then at least justify everything you do by insisting that doing it makes you FEEL GOOD ... as if that weren't the bubble-justification mechanism of every psychotic who's ever lived. How about a video on DEALING with criticism (and maybe, Gawd forbid, LEARNING from it), rather than one insisting that everything you decide to do is perfect and the only people who don't think so HATE you? Yeesh.
Those people aren't adults. There's a difference between criticism and hating. Criticism is not done with the intent to harm the other person. Hating is done solely to make the person feel worse.
It's like the UA-cam algorithm read my mind or something. This video was suggested to me at a very convenient time in my life and I'm really glad that I now have the power to disarm the naysayers. Thank you so much!
I’m watching this because I have a presentation about my favorite idol and I chose this boy group, and they have a lot haters.. I have to learn how to put them in their place, and learn how to control my anger issues
The problem with old connections is they remember the old you.
I know, and they drag you instead of push you. Thats why its better to stay away from them.
Went to a party the other day for new with a complete bunch of strangers and loved it, got compliments, people liked talking to me, people listened to me...I hung out with two girls a week or so after (Friends) and...old me, quiet, not shy necessarily but just lacking things to say, I felt like I needed validation from them which I didn't give a damn about at the party or anywhere else honestly, but these two friends just sent me right back to my insecure 16 year old school days. A video on how to deal with this wouldn't be unappreciated honestly.
PrototypeNinja16 I get what u are saying man.
I had the toughest issue at work. When dealing with old friends, I did feel different and weird. But not only that I also expected them to be the same and they turned out to be fake jealous of my success and extremely backstabbing. Opening up to them in the present is way different than it was in the past and that's a huge lesson I've gained.
Daffmeister oh god I know right.. if those people new the old me they would think I’m the new Adolf Hitler lmaoo 😂👌
I've always responded to "I could never do that," by saying, "Not with that attitude," then I flash a cheeky smile.
mrcain I just respond, "Yah, probably not." Lol
I don't even see how saying "I could never do that" could be hating, it's more of a compliment really that you can
I think it would be the tone that would convey the hate. If you sound incredulous and look at the person as if they're crazy. Maybe add a dash of contempt to really bring it around to you meaning, "You could never really do that because I can not imagine somebody making a decision to be that uncomfortable or inconvenienced to bring about a small amount of change." Not too much contempt, though; or it won't be passive aggressive anymore.
What they forget is, the incremental changes can be cumulative as long as you continue. Encouragement is more helpful to affecting the effect of change. They are stopping you from metamorphosing into the beautiful butterfly that will emerge.
I haven't had anyone say the exact phrase to me, but I am prepared to say "He who says he can and he who says he can't are both usually right." It seems like something that would force them to really reflect in a way that is minimally "offensive".
BigAssMuffin -My thought as well. Saying "I could never do that" is an inside out compliment. It's inferring that you are impressed with that person's strength and self mastery, because "I could never do such a difficult task".
H - Having
A - Anger
T - Towards
E - Everyone
R- Reaching
S - Success
Better CHOICE. IS BE NEUTRAL. At PEACE. LEARN TO LET LIVE TO LEARN for themselves. Neutrallity. Healthy attitude. Make PEACE NOT WAR. 👍👀🎨 BE HUMBLE. TEACHABLE ALL ADULTS need to keep LEARNING TO GET ALONG IN GOOD SENSE PEACE✌👀😅😄😃. OK?
Change behaviors first.
Nice one
Or Unhappy People whose only joy is - watching others Suffer. Sad and Sadistic.
True I got subs and they say is m botting
I love my haters. If people aren't hating on you, you're not doing anything worth hating on. Change that.
Everybody that is amazing in their field has TONNES of them.
even Nicole Arbor back when she was relevant?
Amazing comment
Well, when I was drawing in class (FYI, I was working on this drawing for a while. It's supposed to be a gift for my friend) a boy that can't shut up walked towards me and says that 'it's ugly as hell'...
aH yEs sUch mOtiVatiOn aNd I toTallY am nOt plAnnIng oN hOw to mAke hIs lIfe mIseRaBle
Nobody should be hating you. That's just what I think and haters don't deserve me.
also, they might be jealous of what you're doing!
As soon as I gained any success the haters came out all over and all day!! Can't wait to use this
Didn't expect you to be here o-0
I've seen you on jack's new video dying his hair and i immediately went here i-
What are the odds xd
(I'm not kidding i swore I've seen you multiple times but im not sure of it was you or not)
They are just want attentions
They are pathetic
Haters are fans in denial.
Define "Hater" or "Haters" for me please.
a person whos jelly but dont want to admit it so theyll hate
Mentleman yes, pretty much!
But sir, love your profile pic
arujofied thanks. what's yours supposed to be?
"Here confidence. Good boy"
Lesson here. Show your bone to get confidence. Lesson learned.
Guess I need an operation.
Dealing With Haters
1. Ignore
2. Act as if they're genuine
3. "I'm glad we dont make decisions for each other as I don't think we'd be happy if we did."
4. Show Vulnerability
5. Find a community
ignoring does nothing for me
this is all way out of context 😂
also, you are succesful when you have haters. periodt
And send them to jesus
How to deal with haters.Ignore.
How to do that? 🤣 I always go crazy when I go mad. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Love when people hate, feel like a god
lol God Level (Kanye voice)
Best comment lol
I wanna be you lol
😍
Inshallah 🙏🏼
Why would i hate to someone (haters) who weaker than me, i pity them. - Escanor 😎
ehm "who's "
@@xxmissourixx2400 😄
Burnnnn
Who decided that
Yeah in this case lets all be escanor from now on we will decide every thing
Escanor will always be remembered
Again I am stunned by the life changing messages in your material. At 52 I wish I had seen these when I was in my teens. Keep up the great work.
How are you ? ... I hope you're doing well and good🌈
When people told me "Oh I could never do that", I just replied "Sure, you could. Everything is possible." Worked like a charm.
Lol
The worst is when you genuinely tried to be nice and still got treated with so much hate and anger. When you really wanted to be positive and someone comes and tears down everything just like that. Without knowing why or maybe even knowing it's not really about you. The second you treat me poorly, it IS about me. And I can't get over something when I just can't wrap my head around what it is that made you behave like that towards me.
Exactly
this video was perfect for right now. I recently started a UA-cam channel and a lot of people in my life don't understand or don't take it seriously. but they can back off! ;)
Up and Atom how is the Channel going ?
Up and Atom 24k subs. Great job bro 👌👌 keep the good work up☝
Tennori if they threatened u then tell someone and be strong and do not show them ur upset just act like u didn't see them and tell someone bout the situation
Ooooff
There is a girl in my comments saying you make bad vids
"They hate because they will never be as great as you"
~ me I guess
Maybe
Potatoes gonna potate, haters gonna hate!
hater gonna hate, ainters gonna aint.
ARMY!😂
ARMY!😂
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Imma potate
There's plenty of times I've said "I could never do that" to someone but meant it in an admirable way.
Yes, the same here. Just the other day I told to my colleague who jumped from the plane (with a parachute) that I could never do that. I admired him for finding guts to do something like that.
Different circumstances not what he was talking about all love tho
I think the tone and overall support comes through... :)
From my personal experience, ignoring them is your weapon against them it’s a powerful one cus remember haters want to see a reaction that’s what they’re aiming for, they get off on that, for them it’s like consuming another drug when you ignore them they get really angry they burn because they realized what they said had no affect on you, that you don’t care about them, their thoughts, their existence. They’re already triggered when they see you, hear your name, etc you don’t have to do anything they just get triggered so that’s why they do the things they do, they’re just unhappy people
The annoying part is not knowing why they hate you, I’m not successful nor do i even know them. So you find yourself asking “why are they doing this 💔”.
It's most likely because they're jealous of you or they can't do anything meaningful with their own lives.
shut them down
Thanks, i shut down his life support
@@iceseic This post right here, officer
"They are invested in us staying the same."
New animations? Looks great man!
Charlie stepped his game up!
I"ve always found that ignoring a Hater and acting as if you dont know what they are talking about and flashing a. Smile works wonder. . ...
Forgive the persons. Hate the choices of behaviors.
Improve with GOODNESS
conduct!!!
Good Point!
If someone is doing something I could never do, I'll tell them, not out of hate but out of admiration -- I give them the explanation as well. I'm surprised you didn't cover any grounds on non-constructive, personal insults. That's where most folks fail at. I've only seen two UA-camrs who legitimately knew how to shut those down.
That's right - people hate on me everyday but they're hate is way below me so I don't acknowledge them (even when it's hard to)
I love the graphics! Good video as usual!
Now, I don’t think about this all the time, but there are many days where I just feel so attacked. like on so many social media pages such as this. Which is common. I just received a load of backlash a few minutes ago for a comment, so I searched for some tips on how to deal with them in a respectable manner.
And honestly it’s already making me feel better about myself. About my decisions. And I’m learning to ignore and move on more frequently, as I find it difficult to communicate my feelings openly in the face of insults, and I’m general I’m just a very sensitive person. Which is why I respond trying to tell them to calm down.
News flash, if you don’t have any ground breaking discoveries to slap in their face going along with “calm down”, it doesn’t solve the issue and only makes them angrier.
So, I really appreciate this video. Thank you for making me get into more of these habits. Being so sensitive really has its downsides, but ignoring, laughing things off and taking compliments as genuine has made me a more confident person in general. Again, thanks, and I apologize for the long comment.
_I couldn't do that._
_It's not easy, but I can_
Especially with passive aggressive people, you're right that you should try to act as if they meant it. If you stay long enough friendly, some people give up and maybe even become genuinely friendly to you too. The worst thing you can do is to defend yourself aggressively and always have the last word. It would just escalate things or keep the fight going longer than it would, if you just ignored it.
Staying friendly on a professional level has the advantage, that your critics may later come at you when they need help. That's the point were most give up their negativity. On the other hand it doesn't mean that you do everything for those that treat you like scum.
edi thats bigg facts
Thanks for the video. I recently developed a few haters. It's funny I had them already in school and now I get them as an adult. Whats even more strange is I feel better having them. My life must be so much more interesting than theirs so they are concerned with me. I never give a fuck about them. 😊
I live in the middle of nowhere. There is literally no interesting people around.
you are an interesting person!
@@pramitbanerjee I live in Pittsburgh it sucks here I used to live in vegas
@@laurenangle2656 Ooooh. I see the nature of your problem
One thing you need to remember: keep doing what you are doing that is generating this kind of hate and don't stop. Eventually you will get results, and that is the surest way to shut up the haters.
A guy I knew kept giving me shit for going to the gym and working out. Why? Because he was not doing that himself, so he wanted to break me down to his level while I was building myself back up. He kept saying behind my back, "he's not jacked or anything." And stuff like that. Ironically, a friend took a pic of me with my shit off and posted it to Instagram, and for weeks I had dozens of people complement my gains. The other guy never hated again.
Get results if you know you are lifting yourself up.
I prefer your face to these animations, but video still awesome
Thank you so much. This really is some good advice. Sometimes it just feels like the whole world is hating everyone but simply ignoring negative things made me realize that what you focus on is what you believe. The world is big and even if 1 million people hate you or what you stand for it's not that big of a number in terms of world population and there certainly are a lot of nice people.
what about when a coach or figure who is higher than you(like a boss etc), that you have to listen too is passive aggressive? how do you deal with that?
I think you have to claim your boundaries (respectfully, don't lower yourself to their level) and be prepared to lose your job or position if it goes wrong. Start looking for back up options and keep your head low in the mean time. Usually those kind of people exist within power structures that might have a way to deal with that (Human Resources, or administrative officials in schools). You may need to speak with someone of higher authority and ask for advice on your plan to confront the problem person.
I remember a success mentor recommending that you just calmly comment on the covert behavior (passive aggression for example or trying to shame someone as another). "Oh, that's interesting, are you being passive aggressive?" said with as neutral and curious a tone as you can manage. Prepare for friction. Check out the book Crucial Conversations, too! I haven't finished it yet but the advice is mindblowing and all about dealing with difficult but crucial conversations like the one in your question.
did anybody downvote this...l did... seems fishy how 'liked' this vid is
@@johnheed938 ur making my skin crawl
Dude I deal with this "haters gonna hate" stuff all the time.. this video helps A TON! You explained it perfect ! As they say nailed it on the head! Thanks!
Just when I needed it
Top of the league!
Gabriel C lol nice one
Hell Yeah!!
I need this
Thanks for this. Had some rude people ruin my day and I got self conscious because I was confused if they were talking about me and didn't respond. Perhaps my silence was the right move. Why give those people the time of day ✌🏾
Haters gonna hate
Players gonna play
Live a life man
Good luck
I think you provide a very well explained tips on dealing with haters. We have to understand that, many times, haters aren't hating us because there is something about us that they are compelled to dislike. Many times, they hate because of something missing in their own lives that we either have or are working to attain. Sometimes you can actually turn a hater into an ally by simply being willing to encourage them in their pursuits.
Once a hater said to me: "You'll never be able to start a company. You're too young, it's expensive, and you won't make money."
My sincere reply: "Starting a company is a challenge, it might be the hardest thing I've ever done. But I think of it the same way you approach doing music. It's challenging in many ways but you're doing your passion and meeting the desires for those who love great music. I think if anyone can overcome the challenges and reach success, you can. That's how I also feel about starting this company."
Since that day, we have worked together many times and are great friends. Always be tuned in to know when to respond to hate with positivity. :)
Like the illustrations, great video bro.
Thanks so much :-)
I always thought illustration is better. More neutral so more universal.
Charisma on Command can you make a video on being more personable
I love shutting people down so much. They hate it. When I was younger in art class, we had to make clay boxes. This girl said to me “Your box is as ugly as your face” I said back to her “Thanks Nyleigh that really makes me feel good.” In a non sarcastic way. She didn’t know what to say after that
Loving the animation! It helps me learn when I see illustrated examples immediately after you talk about them.
As rhetorician I can only recommend this channel. From Corax to Cialdini, you get all the necessary information modernized and easily understandable in short videos. All the respect for that!
Haters ARE JEALOUS
I keep on coming back to this video every once in a while. It's GREAT!
*H:Having*
*A:Anger*
*T:Towards*
*E:Everyone*
*R:Reaching*
*S:Success*
Tomato
I've ignored a few coworkers after their bad behavior. It's so satisfying hearing from other people about what an impact I've had. :)
When someone tells me to stop doing something I say this in a really genuine tone to confuse them lol:
"You know what, I should stop. I am really unable to make my decisions and i might just follow exactly what you tell me. Thanks man! :D" lol they always take it seriously
I had to come back to this video at first it wasn’t easy but I started praying and now I’m understanding I’m learning patience for me and for others
Show this to Amy's Baking Company
Im 19 and at the first year of college, and I met my first ever haters, Im so confused why they hate me for no obvious reason, thanks for the advices, I really didnt know what to do
I know I'm the "hater" here, but personally I preferred the old non-anime illustrations. My 2 cents.
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Daten Raten I, too, prefer the non animated illustration videos; I actually liked watching *him* because he was so expressive and I felt like his messages just got across better. The pace at witch illustrations switched from one to another has slowed down a little, which makes them easier to watch, but they're still switching to fast for me --- and I don't feel them as "genuine". I know it's a subjective appreciation and I'm not trying to demean the artist's work in any way --- I just like the previous style of videos better :)
I like both styles,; I'm used to watching videos with animation like those from theodd1sout or Extra Credits, but his own talking directly at the camera style does convey body language and facial expressions that allow the audience to connect more intimately. If I remember correctly, the reason he has any animators at all is because of his location and how it's difficult to record good quality videos of himself. That said, voicing your opinion that it would be better if he did facecams even with a "low quality" setup surely cannot do any harm. Cheers!
How are the illustrations in this video anime?
lmao
WobBUFFet
Failing to see the comparison is a proof you have watched too much anime WobBUFF-et kun
This video has taught me 5o continue writing and focus on the kind comments. Thank you
It would be so cool to get charisma breakdown on Graig Ferguson.There is no one as good in flirting than he.
I’m going through the same period right now, thinking of quitting because I’ve been told 1k subscribers is not enough n I’m not worth anything..that’s why I’m watching this video to feel motivated
This video is brilliant!! so glad i subbed mate!! keep it up xx
Welcome to the channel!
No. 5 used the be the story of my life with my family. They were so invested in their hostility towards me that it got really bad. After spending years trying to explain how hurtful their statements and actions were to me, I had to walk away. Once that was done our relationship improved--even if it required me to limit the amount of time I spend with them.
I've never taken "I could never do that" as an aggressive thing.
I think I have met all the haters on the planet! Okay, maybe not, but it often feels that way.
I've never had a support group beyond my parents (they've been dead over 30 years), and at this point, I don't need them. It would be a total shock if I had one. That I don't think I would know how to handle. I have had many successes, I have done things many dream about doing, but I'm not done yet. I draw on those successes to spur me forward.
I had to take down my awards because it made others uncomfortable and that's strange to me. Finally, I've found to reject people out of my life makes me more comfortable. I just don't want to hear it and I don't have time to spend with people like that. Oh, they come around when you do have a success and tell everyone who will listen how they helped me. Then I embarrass them by telling how they tried to stop me. Too much effort without a good pay off. We only have so many hours of life. Live!
So this the channel's new format? I feel this will be more effective.
Its bitter sweet that you put out this video right before xmas. For me personally and i guess for many others families are often the ones trying to push down your dreams and goals, so get ready to use the tips in his one asap people! ;)
Great vid, amazing stuff seriously. I´ve been in UA-cam a few months, enough to see that there are many fucked up people on the internet (more than in real life honestly) they hide anonimously behind the screens and vomit their shit on others, when I read their comments below my videos I just feel sorry for them, cause somebody cannot be living a happy life when saying those things, so I don´t delete their comment and reply with sacarm + politeness , but my conclusion is some people are really fucked up haha
Despite this being 4 years old, I found it quite valuable. Thank you for this great tutorial in behavior. Wishing you God's love, peace, and blessings from Pearland, Texas.☺🙏💜👍
Can you please do lucifer from the show lucifer on fox?
yes please!
That would be cool, but I kind of think it would be a better opportunity to talk about false ideas people have about charisma rather than Lucifer actually being charismatic. TBH Lucifer would annoy the shit out of me.
Got hates on a comment that didn't mean any harm or negativity, Affected my other channel and gave me sadness for 1 day straight. I know this sounds childish and too sensitive! Thanks for spending your time reading this comment :D
Great job with the animations!
I have tons of ideas for myself as to what to do with my life and I receive some push back I wouldn't necessarily call them haters but well meaning people disappointed or disapproving of my life decisions and I find when I love them and genuinely empower myself and them and identify our own independence is when I don't care what they think
I´m just gonna shake shake shake shake shake shake, shake it off, Ill shake it off.
Thank u so much.. Now I can handle my haters(ex best friend).. Bless me😊
I like the animations but in some rare cases less is more, meaning that less transitions would be better to understand and enjoy than seen so many different images and transitions in between them
I really enjoy the content on this channel, how it's always about action and practical application of this psychology and being confident, and not just ":) just be yourself!" (which is such a horribly shallow and useless advice tbh), but real things. Real interactions, real situations.
~ Glad you're digging our content!
That is good but i am afraid the haters will watch this and get more ideas to hate more. Btw thanks for those idea.
People will always find ways to criticize you so just do what makes you happy.
A real person isn't perfect
A perfect person isn't real
I do remember the days when i was called babe,sweetheart,schatz,now i am called buddy and all sorts of nonsense,when im just a good guy and honest ,many girls really loved me in the past,many also did not,many DID call me ugly when my looks is not my fault,many did hurt me,lied,played,but many were also great……..well now im surrounded by evil and im fighting…….good must win…….im desperate to find some people who still care for PEOPLE…….
@@haristhebosniaklion8584 yes same here. I wish people that actually cared for others and liked them off their personality. No one is ugly and no one is perfect. But some people are just mean and the best thing to do is just to get them out your life.
The "I could never do this" rebuttal sounds pretty unnecessary and makes you look super defensive and confrontational as if you're wishing to be hated upon. Just say thanks, because it is mostly meant as a compliment or at the very least can be understood as one.
The biggest tip to dealing with "haters" is that very very few people are actually hating. It's often well meant and often you aren't even criticised. Reacting then with some of the above tactics just makes you look super insecure and egocentric.
When you are dealing with genuine negativety then these tactics are great.
1.Ignore it dont laugh dont defend dont even look at them!
2. Act genuine thanks glad you like it!
Hey dude! Bit of constructive criticism here. I think switching to animations is a great idea with your current goals. The only thing is, now that you have, we've lost a bit of connection that we used to get through your facial expressions. You may need to slow down your speaking slightly to compensate for it. Other than that, keep doing what you're doing. Love your content!
S good idea
this is a nice little video. I have used a couple of these things kind of instinctively in the past and they seem to be pretty effective. To someone having a bad day and trying to bring you down, these responses would be frustratingly positive and effective at taking the steam out of them.
I like the illustrations! 😁
I LOVEEE Haters on my channel. Responding positively to them always works
Every hater that attempts to hurt me-end up being defeated in Jesus name. I recognize the enemy and they attack those of us who are resilient and blessed. Just brings me closer to Jesus. Thank you Jesus for setting me Free ❤️🙏❤️
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Well said. So glad I found your channel. Loved the way you explained it. Thank you, all the best always.
If you're reading this, have a Great day! 😄😄😄
CyanGaming | ᴹᶦᶰᵉᶜʳᵃᶠᵗ ⁻ ᴳᵃᵐᵉᴾᶫᵃʸ Don't tell me what to do.
im from latin América. i can understand english perfectly, but im not good writing it, anyway, what i want to say is: thank you, thank you so much!! this advices are pure gold, i've never heard something like this before, very smart observations, im going to use this amazing informatión in my daily life.
This is interresting info. Only sometimes I also say something in the line of I could never do that. And I don't mean that as a hatefull comment but more like as in I envy you. Or I have a great deal of respect for you that you are able to do that.
The drawings were WONDERFUL, congrats to the team (Bonni, Fadhila,Dwinanda Edo, yes i read the descriptions of the vids!)
Do yourself a favor and consider all criticisms.
Probly the smartest comment here
I won a contest in school today and though I’m happy and so is my class, I’m so frustrated since everywhere I go, other people keep whispering “She doesn’t deserve it”
It hurts
Love your cartoons is better than the camera..
I just want to thank you for the subtitles : i'm french and i love your channel but it's hard for me to understand all you say so the english subtitle help me a lot
Happy you found it helpful
Charisma Breakdown Game of Thrones Littlefinger aka Lord Peter Baelish plz....
All you need to know is that CHAOS IS A LADDA
Cloud Strife Only the laddah is real, The climb is all there is.......
I take deep interest in your videos, I watch them carefully and thoughtfully, Sometimes i repeat your videos to understand every point you utter correctly, Though i would sincerely request you to upload a Specified video on Persuasion skills, Don't tell me you don't have time or you can't do it, You're the best man for this thing :)
Guh, this drives me NUTS, this 21st-century equating of "criticism" with "hating" - as if the only reason somebody would ever criticize anything you say or do is because they're caught in the grip of a deep pathological hatred of YOU, personally. So what's your advice? Completely ignore all criticism of what you do - or if you aren't going to ignore it, then at least justify everything you do by insisting that doing it makes you FEEL GOOD ... as if that weren't the bubble-justification mechanism of every psychotic who's ever lived. How about a video on DEALING with criticism (and maybe, Gawd forbid, LEARNING from it), rather than one insisting that everything you decide to do is perfect and the only people who don't think so HATE you? Yeesh.
Those people aren't adults. There's a difference between criticism and hating. Criticism is not done with the intent to harm the other person. Hating is done solely to make the person feel worse.
It's like the UA-cam algorithm read my mind or something. This video was suggested to me at a very convenient time in my life and I'm really glad that I now have the power to disarm the naysayers. Thank you so much!
MAKE A VIDEO ON HOW TO ABSOLUTELY DESTROY POTENTIAL SOCIOPATHS :)
+Lambert you're being a hater with your sarcasm
***** epic comment bro... thats what i want to do lolololol
Jesse Alvarado are you a sociopath? lololol
Why?
I’m watching this because I have a presentation about my favorite idol and I chose this boy group, and they have a lot haters.. I have to learn how to put them in their place, and learn how to control my anger issues
I have haters because I have beautiful toe nails... hate on me.
nihilism You wouldn't care if you didn't reply.
I love your videos so much.
I've been on a self-improvement grind for the last year and your channel is a goldmine.
Thank you so much!
Thank you so much! Now I know how to forget the haters on my main UA-cam!
I really liked how you put a positive and kind twist to almost all of the responses! Learned from it!