Speaking as someone who studied metaphysics and ontology for a good 5-6 years I can say I have no f*cking clue what "the ontology" of the library is supposed to mean. Like, did you forget that drywall exists? Or that processes will occur in the building, but that the building isn't a process it's an independent continuant containing an aggregate of books? Or that while books are independent continuants the stories in them are generally dependent continuants? Like, wtf does regarding the being or existence of a library have to do with capturing an aesthetic form after a reliable structure is defined? Sounds like a buzzword use of the word, have you considered the radiology of the library? Or the entomology of the building? ffs Some managers try to be philosophers...
Well, did a girl tell you that you are beautiful, you are neat in your words and clothes and respectful, my favorite type for finding girlfriends, but I want to know, do you do that all the time or just in front of the camera? 🇸🇦😆✊💚
I think it is very productive to have positive feedback. Thats literally what makes the most sense, negative feedback should play some part. Ideal feedback Ratios: 75% positive 25% negative Positive: All that is right Negative: Room for improvement If people like it then they want more.
Please, don’t change your voice, or limit your hand movements. That’s what makes you original, unique and not plastic. I watch your content for its content and your unique way of delivering it. I love your fresh and unique approach to your message which is why I’m here, learning and being entertained at the same time. Criticism is easy, creativity and originality is hard. Thank you for being you.
Italians constantly gesticulate with their hands. It's an accepted part of the cultural identity, so why not anywhere else? I'm told I don't take criticism well, but who does. I can self-analyse that criticism, and don't always agree with it, but I will at least try to vocalise my viewpoint either way. Realising it was right is ultimately is accepting failure and figuring out how not to repeat that in future.
The forced contrived vocal fry is fake. People are tired of fake. People want authentic. Written in a very strained low-voiced unnatural voice-to-text cadence.
@@stephenvalente3296 We latinos also talk using our hands and whole body. I always thought It was an universal thing until I stumbled upon the comments she shows in the videos. How can someone be bothered by that? I mean, when I'm talking to someone, I'm not looking at his/her hands. I guess people in north american must be a little more "riggid" with their communication (?). Also, I didn't understand whats with the vocal fry stuff complains. I'm not a native english speaker and I can understand her without having to recur to subtitles.
I like the hands and the voice too. Makes it more lively and like she really wants us to understand the subject. Also how do you even change your voice, isn't it genetics?
I don't really know what vocal fry is, but I think the way you talk is fantastic. You're one of the most watchable and listenable presenters on this whole dang platform. I only discovered your channel today, after I saw a short where you talked about architecture. I instantly thought to myself, Holy Cow, I could listen to this person talk about literally anything all day long. I guess I'll stop myself there before the gushing gets out of hand lol. You're doing great work, I hope you'll keep going for years to come.
I recently came across this channel and instantly dove in. I'm not sure if it was because of my untapped interest in architecture or just the way she presents. Likely a combination. I subscribed immediately which is very unusual for me.
I absolutely love your videos. Your presentations and insights are always professional, organized, and thoroughly developed. As for the complaints you've received, I have never thought of these things as negatives. Your voice, your expressions, and your gestures are yours. They are a part of who you are. They are a big part of why we all show up to watch your content.
As someone who has trouble giving feedback, receiving feedback, and everything in between. I appreciated your measured and well-thought-out approach to explaining feedback as a whole and wanted to say thanks!
I can't believe the negative comments people have posted...so unnecessary. You're so endearing, expressive, intelligent, comical, well-spoken... the list goes on. And this was yet another great video - one that's applicable to anyone - not only architects.
I come to your channel to watch you because of your ability to convey a topic in an engaging way. Your expressiveness and personality is a large part of what makes it possible for me to stay and listen and learn from you. Please don’t change a thing. That said, we could all benefit from trying to become the best version of ourselves that we possible can…no exceptions.
Dami, let me go on record. I love your hand gestures. They are expressive, and natural. There may be quite a few, but so what. I love your facial expressions. I like your voice. Project more if you like, but I do not have a problem with it. You are showing a mature, self-deprecating, and analytical approach to all types of feedback which is both admirable and sometimes productive, but also bear in mind that some bosses, clients, and coworkers at certain times and in certain places can be just bloody unreasonable. Some are un-observant, some are insensitive, some are unfair. There will be times when after a calm evaluation, it may be a justified conclusion that you are being unfairly accused, bullied, manipulated, or that they are throwing their weight around. On those occasions it is ok to smile, and tell them charmingly but assertively that you do not agree, and why you do not agree. Sometimes you need to re-take a hill. I think it is brilliant that you started your own business, and I look forward keenly on watching your ongoing successes.
Your vocals are OKAY and your hands are not SMALL. In fact, when we first subbed was because of the way how you presented the video on 'THE LINE' and the choice of how you chose your style of voice. Keep at it. The comments at 1:05 really annoys us. Your awesome! Edit: Thanks for sharing this wholesome content about feedback. We truly gel in how we humans react towards criticism that are against who we are as an 'identity' - identity triggers. Stay awesome!
The vocal fry is definitely there, most women learn it because their real voice didn’t give them enough confidence and they use it to make them „bigger“. Most People will not acknowledge it because they are personally hit by it, but that’s the background.
One thing I've learned as I've progressed in my leadership is to obtain consent before offering feedback, as well as trying harder to 'pull' feedback that's timely, specific and actionable so others know how to give useful feedback. many times feedback is too general or vague, or comes too late to be useful. If you get in the habit of making sure your receiver is ready to hear it, as well as being specific about the types of feedback you want/need, it helps others know how to help you.
By the way, that's crazy how, the quality of your work make me listen stuff that I don't even care, so I learn again and again. Perfect tone, perfect voice, perfect rythm, image really good... You nailed it ! (My comment has nothing to do with this specific video, but with your work in general) About this video, really cool, good to see a deep feedback like that
I love your voice, the way you talk, your sense of humor, all of it! That's why I started watching your channel. I am a photographer so I'm interested in architecture on some level but your delivery made it even more enjoyable. I really loved the creativity you bring and as your channel has grown I love your new stuff more and more. I just watched your video "Why we need AURA in our Lives" and was blown away. Your ability to combine your knowledge of architecture with other real-world topics in beautiful and creative ways is like magic. Keep it up! love it all! =)
1st, I never leave comments so this rare exception for me means I was really impelled to share this feedback: I’m not an architect (although I wanted to be when I was young) and yet I’ve been religiously watching all your videos for over a year. I’m wildly impressed by your content, creative delivery, and natural presentation skills. I’m very grateful for all the countless hours and effort you put into creating these and I learn so much from them that translates to my profession and/or life. I’m shocked that anyone would leave negative comments, and wish to echo the scores of positive comments here on this video. Thank you DamiLee for everything! I’m proud to be a fellow Vancouverite of yours 😁 (is the grammar in that last sentence correct? Feedback please!)
You inspire me to start a Grammar Police League specialized in negative feedback specific to grammar and spelling. It pulls legs incredibly well when wielded strategically in social media comments 😂😂
MI’m a volunteer moderator of various forums encompassing a few million people. The one important thing I have learned to stay remotely sane is to learn which feedback to read, and which to ignore. This is most often entirely different from how you need to react to physical relationships.
I'm retired now Dami and learned a few things on the way. People are way to judgemental and need to focus on their own s-it a lot more than they do. Some people will never like you and look for ways to undermine your performance and finally, watching your videos are a source of inspiration for me. Your delivery, content, topics are all exceptional. I am not an architect but you have helped me embrace the subject, isn't that what it's all about
I take my cues from Stoic philosophers like Marcus Aurelius and Epictetus. “If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.” You're doing a great job, by the way. I'm not an architect, but my father (who was one) taught me to see the beauty in design and to appreciate what it takes to make those designs materialize.
No idea what vocal fry is or any of that other stuff. Those PDfs don't belong on an international platform. People have cultures and accents. Hand gestures are a natural part of a conversation that has always existed. Let's all stand motionless with our arms at our sides while talking. Literally inhuman, but let's do it. God forbid a fly to enter a sign language scene. I never noticed your hand gestures until I saw those comments. I'm looking at your pupil and iris and regularly gaze away during processing and listening like I'm supposed to. A growth mindset is important, but seeing the pretentiousness in those comments suggests other issues that are not yours. These are the unworldly bunch who stare at TikTok with their eyes glazed over. With all that said, your philosophy of growth and growth of philosophy is impressive. Professional Human Being: Certified
Even though I have no idea about architecture , I’m addicted to your videos! After this one specifically, I realise it’s the way you speak. It tunes so clearly in my head ! Gj and good luck with your channel!
You are great, just ignore annoying comments like the ones you shared. Love your content and also how thoughtful and interesting your topics are. Cheers!
I think your presentation skills, professionalism and insight are fantastic! Keep up the excellent work! Working in the medical field in leadership has been tough recently, and your videos have been a huge help the past couple months. Thank you.
Great video, Dami! As an Engineer I can definitely relate and it's nice to hear this topic broken down from someone who has faced these situations recently. Also, I honestly like the way you talk, I find it unique and it's actually one of the many reasons I enjoy your content. Maybe that's just me lol but I'd say don't stress too much over it 😅
@@DamiLeeArch I actually had to "Google" "Vocal Fry" as I had no idea what it was... LOL, and maybe it's just me... but I "don't" hear it... as for the hand movement, I think it adds to the "descriptiveness" of what you are saying, helps fulfill the statement with emphasis on topic. Yep, you said it best, you just can't please everyone...
@@DamiLeeArch I didn't know what Vocal Fry was either. The definition doesn't really help understanding what it is supposed to mean. I love watching ypur videos even though I am not an architect. Keep doing what you do.😊
@@MarkWRoberts I feel the same about the vocal fry and now I'm curious if she didn't change her voice a bit from earlier videos, seeing as I discovered her recently. About the hand gestures I do agree, though, I find it really expressive and helpful to keep up with what she's saying, as Tom Scott would put it, they are a meaningful part of communication.
I like the sound of your voice (including the fry). What I always find difficult to understand, if someone has an issue with your way of presenting stuff, they can leave at any time…no one is forcing them to stay. So why comment like this (1:05) and not in a supportive way. Keep up the good work, you are doing great!
Just wanted to say that I’m Creative Strat from Sg who consumes a boatload of content and recently I’ve been un subbing to a lot of legacy Channels and popular ones…. So when I found you, I was genuinely surprised at the absolute QUALITY of your content and presentation. I link your videos to my team all the time because of the attention to detail and the perspective that your unique person brings. So much love and respect from Sg !!!
You’re genuinely hilarious with your little edits and stuff. You have better comedic chops than SNL (ok setting the bar low, but still). These approaches are super helpful to just about any relationship too. Great video.
This is all great advice. Identifying something that someone might perceive as being wrong or incorrect is always an opportunity for improvement, especially when honest criticism is brought to bear. Praise, on the other hand, is really just a lack of idea for how to improve. Ego does not serve us well in this context, haha. Otherwise, I'm with the others here in supporting you being yourself on camera and your delivery.
Vocal fry is something you are born with or acquired throughout years of speaking. I watch UA-cam for two things, to get entertained and/or to get educated on things I do not understand. You do both perfectly. If people cannot get past through the so-called "vocal fry voice", they're just being nitpicky. Love your voice and I love your content. I can listen to it endlessly and not get bored with it even though I have no clue on architecture and how does one work. Much love from a fan (and a subscriber) in the Philippines.
Thanks for the video! One aspect we should also consider is that the feedback might also be very biased and ill intended (toxic managers and toxic work place cases). Managing around that is initally hard. The best option is recognizing the situation and finding another job. 🙂
Idk if it's my phone but for some reason the video is stuck on the thumbnail, no other videos in ur catalog just this one, hmmm. Well either way, glad to have found your channel, very interesting and inciteful. Subbed!😁
I really enjoy your videos and your perspective. I wish these existed when I was in studio. I think your critiques are well thought out and well presented with the perfect amount of comic relief. Don’t stop, this one in particular could be a valuable tool for people starting studio or just life interactions in gen. Thank you
Dami I actually appreciate your voice and the casual feel that and fullness that having vocal fry has. I'm fairly tall and speak in a naturally low register, giving me alot of vocal fry as well. It's nice to have a full sound when alot of content creators push their voices and EQing of them often high & too loud. This probably wasn't solicited feedback and I apologize but felt like this was a moment to show some appreciation!
I am just 19 year old guy,I can't give any suggestions but your advices have made me to think about the critisism in a less manner now. thks for the help ❤️
I was so scared of critic and presenting my projects at first year of studies! :) Now I feel very confident with public presentations or group discussions but back than it was a nightmare! Presentation is a skill which even shy people can master :) Great video , as always
I loved this video, and the fact that you did the part on your “vocal fry”. Mostly because of the idea of the growth mindset vs being defensive. I feel like there is a fine line between criticism based on YOUR presentation and the delivery of it, vs criticism based on someone’s likes or dislikes and or pet peeve’s. I was in no way distracted by your hand movements or your vocal fry. Anyone THAT CRITICAL of a person giving a presentation isn’t distracted by said person’s faults, but their own critical mindset.
I only recently discovered this channel and don't often write youtube comments, but I felt compelled to write. I work in IT and also give and take a lot of technical training so I have seen a lot of presentation styles over the last 30 years.. Your presentation style is absolutely top drawer. Your hand movements and your voice come across as totally natural and it makes your videos a very easy watch and listen. Sometimes people can take continuous improvement too far and actually make things worse, look at those golfers who have been brilliant, then tried to rebuild their golf swing, it often does not go well. Right now, in terms of your overall presentation style you are that pro-golfer, I wouldn't change a thing.
For those of you who criticized Dami's voice and hand gestures: My mother has this same issue with concentration. In her case it turned out to be medical. She's discovered that when my mouth goes a little crooked while I speak, I'm not trying to distract her and be the most annoying person in the world. It's actually a (benign) brain tumor pressing against her pineal gland. I don't mean to scare anyone but if Dami's characteristics are so disturbing for you that all basic manners go out the window, maybe go ahead and see a doctor. Personally I think it's an adorable counterpoint to her grace and intellect. Thank you Dami for spending the time and energy to share your hard-earned education with us. Every video I've watched has taught me something new. Admittedly this comment sounds contrary to the topic of this video, but I promise I was listening. I need all the help I can get.🥴
I think there is some weird connection with mine and UA-cam. Just today I was going through something and received a negative feedback at work, and this video popped up. You are the best in giving words to your thoughts
I like the hand movements. The gestures give your body language more meaning and make you more genuine. Keep up the good work, Sincerely, from your archnemesis, a civil engineer
I like your vocal fry, and your videos. And the fact that I now know what vocal fry is and know more about architecture and so many other topics through you. Also, your subtle way of telling the trolls to jog on was great.
Thanks for sharing your experience! Useful to anyone regardless of your profession. Honestly learning how to receive feedback I think is more important than learning how to give it! Thanks for reminding me about the book.
So i shared one of my all time favorite UA-camr with my girlfriend and she immediately pointed out what a shit vocie the guy had. After she pointed it out to me, i also noticed it and agreed with her. It turned out to be a deal breaker for her but it turned out to not be one for me. I absolutely love the dude's content and am very very grateful that he exists. His content makes me think and makes my life better. Everyone is different so whatever floats their boat. You cant change your voice but as far as your hand movement goes, at least you can do something about it and you can decide if itll improve your content or not. I super enjoy your videos and your voice and hands dont bother me and am very grateful to have come across your channel. Thanks so much for all the content you're creating!!
Hey was actually watching some videos of yours about architecture (really liking them), but this is also interesting, it can be tough to deal with (negative) feedback, I like how you're approaching it :)
You'd think every single person that went through architecture school should be able to handle negative feedback somewhat fine, since some architecture teachers can be very rough, but sadly that's not the case. The biggest issue is to define yourself by your creativity and then having negative feedback targeting that one thing, hard to separate your ego from the objective "reality". I just found your channel a couple weeks ago but i gotta say i love your content and the way you present it.
Also you asume the feedback is objectively right. It is worst when the feedback is truly wrong, and yet you are still expected to manage it. Perhaps that has to do with your example here, as students, there is a high likelihood that the the teacher is giving good (objectively speaking) feedback even if done in a negative way. But as a profesional, you are most likely getting feedback from either a client, that has no idea what he is talking about when it comes to architecture, and yet makes some dumb demand. Or people who are presumably your equals in skill and knowledge and wont necessary be giving you good feedback but rather their opinion on what is better. Leading to conflict. rightfully so.
This was a helpful and informative video. It made me think about my situation and how even though I have my perspective, that feedback both given and how I give it to others is important. Thanks for taking the time to make this and making the informative and enjoyable content you do.
Well, I've discovered your channel not that long ago and have binge watched your content for many, many hours. You are an amazing storyteller, and your videos are dynamic, engaging and beautifully edited. I love your sense of humour and your courage. It's not easy putting yourself out there and dealing with these trolls. Keep up the amazing work, you've made this Vancouver doctor here fall in love with architecture! Cheers
I learned a new English phrase, "vocal fry", looked it up, and I'm pretty sure it doesn't even have a German counterpart. Never considered this way of speaking to be an issue, ever. I very much like the way you express yourself, it's in fact the main reason I watched some of our content, despite not being interested architecture.
It's traditionally desirable for speaker related work I would say. More than not having it being an issue. Less important than singing from your stomach rather than from the throat, but in the same vain of advice.
This is all very valuable information. However, it assumes a couple of things. It assumes that feedback is correct, that it's honest, and that it's done for your benefit. In a good relationship, all of those things are true, but not all relationships are good. So it's also important to evaluate the person giving your feedback, your relationship, and how aligned this feedback is with your development and career and personality etc.
5:39 mins took me to subscribe to your channel, first video that I see of you and loved how genuine is your drive towards self improvement. Keep doing and keep sharing your craft!
The difference between being an architect and most other professions is that you are still being mentored by your bosses even past the intern phase. Criticism isn't just about your performance, but also your growth as an architect. In good situations architectural mentors can really help young architects grow, while in bad situations this mentor/student relationship can be abused. So one has to gauge if the feedback is positive or negative. ( a learning experience or not). If you are learning, don't fight it. But if you are in an abusive job, don't stay.
Spot on. Regardless of the occupation, one has to first identify if its valid criticism, or abuse and other actions in the guise of 'criticism'. Frankly, if its truly a genuinely helpful or toxic work environment. That isn't always going to be the case, and assuming good faith isn't always the best idea. You have to actually find that out and gtfo if its not the case.
Great work you make it very relatable. Yes, judgement is all about people living through shadow values. Things we don't want to admit, hence 'shadow values. And all this comes from energy dynamics that affect everything. And if people comprehend how we all live through our shadows, we would live a much more peaceful life and honest life.
I’ve honestly never noticed the vocal fry. I think this is one of the most charming UA-cam channels out there. I think architecture is interesting, and now I find that I’m paying attention to the architectural style in every movie I watch. I guess haters gonna hate.
I love your videos, it really explains obstacles in architecture and I am thankful that you have our back. Also don't let anyone attack your hand gestures, it is just how you express yourself.
I never knew about nor noticed vocal fry until you put up those comments so I wouldn't worry about it. On the plus side I got to learn a new thing today!
I'm in my final year of art school and I'm really struggling with weekly group crits. It has been excruciating getting nothing but negative feedback every week for 6 months, its had such a negative toll. Thank you so much this video has helped me tremendously in trying to navigate the entire situation. I've been able to reengage with the group and even access on other major problem areas.
The criticism on hand movement and vocal fry is just random opinions that I wouldn't be too concerned about. If that brings out your best, just keeping doing it. And I love your professional insights!
Actually, what draws me to your videos is how you present your topics. Your voice has a commanding, yet reassuring tone when you explain your thought process and your hand movements just reaffirm the intention of you're saying. Being critiqued is not easy, especially when coming from your peers or your clients. But what you gain from it can be helpful, depending how it is absorbed. Sometimes people can't agree how a space should be perceived, so hopefully a compromise can emerge. Keep up the good videos.
Yeah same here, also there literally a thousand, dozen thousands of creators on this and other plataforms that might suit more your tastes i never understand people critize things that someone can't change you're just mean and unpolite i find her voice soothing
Huh, I find your voice quality & overall presentation to be clear & pleasing. To each his own, I guess. Your videos are superb with compelling content so thank you for your obvious hard work on them all 🌸
Experience can definitely help with managing constructive feedback because we begin learn how to interpret it as useful towards a greater good instead of a negative tear down. In addition, if we envision our assignments from a meta-view (managements perspective) it really helps get us through a project because we know that we're contributing our part to a larger cause which can also aid us in better empathizing with the decisions that management are making since the stakes can be much higher for them. Having a Stoic, Zen or similar mindset really does help us exercise healthy detachment from things that are beyond our control allowing us to appreciate that edits, revisions or start-overs are going to be a part of the process and that it has nothing to do with our lack of ability and everything to do with bringing out our best work on every project. Management chose to hire us and not somebody else so that means they really do believe in our potential ... no matter how much annoying feedback they throw at us! PS - I like your hand gestures, seldom vocal fry and up-talk. Some people may think it's an issue but I don't agree whatsoever, it's a personal preference.
First, your hands are just fine, move them around as much as you want. Haters gonna hate. Second, WTF is vocal fry? I studied sound engineering in college and have never heard the term. Your voice and audio is totally fine. You keep doing you. My career has nothing to do with architecture and I sub and watch to learn something new. Keep doing your thing girl!
Your ability to discuss such drastically different subjects in such a thorough and professional manner is amazing, while adding your own sense of humor so seamlessly! Love it! Wishing you all the success and enjoyment you deserve in your journey.
Amazing video, thank you for this video, as a new 3d modeler, this video helped me take better feedback from my customers. Your fundamental focus on the core concepts to your thought process allowed me to align your feedback about feedback to me and the customer I server. I appreciate you....
Your videos are great My 15-year old daughter is considering architecture as a career and she watches your videos on a regular basis. Keep up the great work.
@@carlsmith8850 the way architecture is presented through media or at least how most people know it is very different from reality, architecture is a path that is highly passion driven and also earn very little money compare to the effort needed to put into it . I recommend talking to someone that has an architectural background to make decision. Please dont look at the bright side of architecture only. (coming from someone in architecture for 8 years)
How absolutely appalling that you get judged for your physical/vocal traits. You're wonderful just as you are, and so are your videos. Looking forward to what you have in store for 2023, Dami!
Sending you a lot of respect! (1. for making this video, and 2. for breaking down these issues that we all deal with! Very intelligent way to look at life’s obstacles 💪💪
Whenever I get criticism I just remain blank faced and say "okay". Maybe I'll throw in a "I will improve upon this in the future" or something along those lines. The awkward silence really makes the criticizer uncomfortable 99% of the time, works for me haha
I am so glad I found your channel, it's the hearty chicken soup in a pantry full of chips and soda. How is that for a critique? Why be left feeling unsatisfied from a temporary sugar and caffeine rush elsewhere when there's a full meal being served here that is both enriching and long lasting? This topic in particular, food for the soul. My biggest takeaway after forty years in IT and Special Education, two very different career paths with surprisingly similar responsibilities, was how much better people fared in all manner when they learned to recognize and distinguish reason from emotion.
I like your voice. and as non native English speaker i can understand pretty everything. Thank you for letting me discover architechture trough your perspective. :-)
Also research shows talking with your hands makes for relatable communication and is a characteristic of highly intelligent people... No such thing as "too much hand movement" except in the US where apparently intelligence traits are considered negative....
I didnt even know what a vocal fry was before I looked it up, turns out its the reason I found your voice so familiar, my grandma talked in the exact same way and it's a very familiar/comforting sound :)
Genuinely did not notice the vocal fry (new word I learned from this video) OR the hand gesturing being excessive AT ALL. Seriously. I don't agree with those comments. I like the way you present your original self just fine so please continue doing you.
Okay, I'm gonna be that guy. Would these people who are criticizing the sound of you voice do so if you were a man? I feel like we are much harsher on women for how they sound. Also, there are a number of creators where I didn't like their voice at first. I kept coming back because of their content and now I cannot tell you what problem I ever had with their voice. Keep doing you and I'll keep coming back for more.
Im a new person to your channel, and I just am seeing this video, but how you talk and look are part of what draws me to your channel, I think your cute, and fun, and you cover very interesting topics on the science fiction I love. You do you, cus the haters always gone hate(had to look up vocal fry, wich just goes to show how nit picky some people are gunna be, its petty)
I really like the video, and even though I feel that the algorithm suggested some of your shorts to me for other reasons, it is *this* video that's going to stick out. And since we are at constructive criticism: at 16:50 you probably wanted to say that negative feedback has a much more positive impact than *positive feedback*, not impact. And you know what? The rest of the video was presented so perfectly that this slight error just made you human.
Identity triggers are really the toughest ones to spot, but in general that's because whatever fault or trait being criticized is instinctively associated with "you" (or first person perspective, "me"). It takes practice but you can try asking yourself, this trait or mistake that's being pointed out, is that me? Do I own it? Is it so "me" that I will resist every attempt to change it, including your boss' :p? At the end of the day your boss isn't always right but almost never wrong. If your differences are so fundamental then you're right, it's your choice to stay there.
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Speaking as someone who studied metaphysics and ontology for a good 5-6 years I can say I have no f*cking clue what "the ontology" of the library is supposed to mean. Like, did you forget that drywall exists? Or that processes will occur in the building, but that the building isn't a process it's an independent continuant containing an aggregate of books? Or that while books are independent continuants the stories in them are generally dependent continuants? Like, wtf does regarding the being or existence of a library have to do with capturing an aesthetic form after a reliable structure is defined? Sounds like a buzzword use of the word, have you considered the radiology of the library? Or the entomology of the building? ffs
Some managers try to be philosophers...
Well, did a girl tell you that you are beautiful, you are neat in your words and clothes and respectful, my favorite type for finding girlfriends, but I want to know, do you do that all the time or just in front of the camera? 🇸🇦😆✊💚
I think it is very productive to have positive feedback. Thats literally what makes the most sense, negative feedback should play some part.
Ideal feedback Ratios: 75% positive 25% negative
Positive: All that is right
Negative: Room for improvement
If people like it then they want more.
In Australia vocal fry and uptalk is the norm, please don't lose it!
Please, don’t change your voice, or limit your hand movements. That’s what makes you original, unique and not plastic. I watch your content for its content and your unique way of delivering it.
I love your fresh and unique approach to your message which is why I’m here, learning and being entertained at the same time.
Criticism is easy, creativity and originality is hard. Thank you for being you.
Ditching the vocal fry would be a good idea, surely
Italians constantly gesticulate with their hands. It's an accepted part of the cultural identity, so why not anywhere else?
I'm told I don't take criticism well, but who does. I can self-analyse that criticism, and don't always agree with it, but I will at least try to vocalise my viewpoint either way. Realising it was right is ultimately is accepting failure and figuring out how not to repeat that in future.
The forced contrived vocal fry is fake.
People are tired of fake.
People want authentic.
Written in a very strained low-voiced unnatural voice-to-text cadence.
@@stephenvalente3296 We latinos also talk using our hands and whole body. I always thought It was an universal thing until I stumbled upon the comments she shows in the videos. How can someone be bothered by that? I mean, when I'm talking to someone, I'm not looking at his/her hands. I guess people in north american must be a little more "riggid" with their communication (?). Also, I didn't understand whats with the vocal fry stuff complains. I'm not a native english speaker and I can understand her without having to recur to subtitles.
I like the hands and the voice too. Makes it more lively and like she really wants us to understand the subject. Also how do you even change your voice, isn't it genetics?
I don't really know what vocal fry is, but I think the way you talk is fantastic. You're one of the most watchable and listenable presenters on this whole dang platform. I only discovered your channel today, after I saw a short where you talked about architecture. I instantly thought to myself, Holy Cow, I could listen to this person talk about literally anything all day long. I guess I'll stop myself there before the gushing gets out of hand lol. You're doing great work, I hope you'll keep going for years to come.
Same. The comments about
mannerisms are petty. We all have unique quirks. Celebrate them. If we didn’t have them we’d become monochromatic robots.
I recently came across this channel and instantly dove in. I'm not sure if it was because of my untapped interest in architecture or just the way she presents. Likely a combination. I subscribed immediately which is very unusual for me.
It’s the kinda raspy croak that can happen when you try to speak low
this videos just made me watch a 20minute video on vocal fry
Maybe next time, just look it up before saying that you don’t know something.
I absolutely love your videos. Your presentations and insights are always professional, organized, and thoroughly developed. As for the complaints you've received, I have never thought of these things as negatives. Your voice, your expressions, and your gestures are yours. They are a part of who you are. They are a big part of why we all show up to watch your content.
I absolutely agree. 😊
Same here 🎉
can only agree too
100% agree.
Totally agree. You have a great personality. Your gestures and your voice are what make you unique and stand out from the others. Kudos! Keep going !
I think a video on giving feedback would also be good, at times that's where the failure in communication starts
Great idea!
UPDATE: video is live again! Please let me know if you still have issues with the playback!
yeap. i guess i was not the only one. Looking forward to this. Keep it up!
@@waisign it works on my phone, but only audio... meanwhile on pc it says my chrome can't play it
At least we can hear you
yeah even the preview keeps crashing the app 😲
It worked fine on Tuesday, right after you posted it. Yesterday I wasn't able to continue where I left off. Weird...
As someone who has trouble giving feedback, receiving feedback, and everything in between. I appreciated your measured and well-thought-out approach to explaining feedback as a whole and wanted to say thanks!
I can't believe the negative comments people have posted...so unnecessary. You're so endearing, expressive, intelligent, comical, well-spoken... the list goes on. And this was yet another great video - one that's applicable to anyone - not only architects.
I come to your channel to watch you because of your ability to convey a topic in an engaging way. Your expressiveness and personality is a large part of what makes it possible for me to stay and listen and learn from you. Please don’t change a thing. That said, we could all benefit from trying to become the best version of ourselves that we possible can…no exceptions.
Dami, let me go on record. I love your hand gestures. They are expressive, and natural. There may be quite a few, but so what. I love your facial expressions. I like your voice. Project more if you like, but I do not have a problem with it. You are showing a mature, self-deprecating, and analytical approach to all types of feedback which is both admirable and sometimes productive, but also bear in mind that some bosses, clients, and coworkers at certain times and in certain places can be just bloody unreasonable. Some are un-observant, some are insensitive, some are unfair. There will be times when after a calm evaluation, it may be a justified conclusion that you are being unfairly accused, bullied, manipulated, or that they are throwing their weight around. On those occasions it is ok to smile, and tell them charmingly but assertively that you do not agree, and why you do not agree. Sometimes you need to re-take a hill. I think it is brilliant that you started your own business, and I look forward keenly on watching your ongoing successes.
Your vocals are OKAY and your hands are not SMALL. In fact, when we first subbed was because of the way how you presented the video on 'THE LINE' and the choice of how you chose your style of voice. Keep at it. The comments at 1:05 really annoys us. Your awesome!
Edit: Thanks for sharing this wholesome content about feedback. We truly gel in how we humans react towards criticism that are against who we are as an 'identity' - identity triggers. Stay awesome!
Her hands are small. Don't deny I don't know whats to say there other than what is
@@IsraelCountryCube but its a good thing
Her hands ARE small. She's a little asian chick. That's how her hands are supposed to be😕
The vocal fry is definitely there, most women learn it because their real voice didn’t give them enough confidence and they use it to make them „bigger“.
Most People will not acknowledge it because they are personally hit by it, but that’s the background.
@@rolux4853 it's a dog whistle for misogynists, let's be real here
One thing I've learned as I've progressed in my leadership is to obtain consent before offering feedback, as well as trying harder to 'pull' feedback that's timely, specific and actionable so others know how to give useful feedback. many times feedback is too general or vague, or comes too late to be useful. If you get in the habit of making sure your receiver is ready to hear it, as well as being specific about the types of feedback you want/need, it helps others know how to help you.
By the way, that's crazy how, the quality of your work make me listen stuff that I don't even care, so I learn again and again. Perfect tone, perfect voice, perfect rythm, image really good... You nailed it ! (My comment has nothing to do with this specific video, but with your work in general)
About this video, really cool, good to see a deep feedback like that
Thank you for the video. I got depressed over negative feedback from management. Now I know how to calm myself down and respond professionally.
Spot on. I think you're a brilliant documentarian that just so happens to be an architect 😆
I love your voice, the way you talk, your sense of humor, all of it! That's why I started watching your channel. I am a photographer so I'm interested in architecture on some level but your delivery made it even more enjoyable. I really loved the creativity you bring and as your channel has grown I love your new stuff more and more. I just watched your video "Why we need AURA in our Lives" and was blown away. Your ability to combine your knowledge of architecture with other real-world topics in beautiful and creative ways is like magic. Keep it up! love it all! =)
1st, I never leave comments so this rare exception for me means I was really impelled to share this feedback: I’m not an architect (although I wanted to be when I was young) and yet I’ve been religiously watching all your videos for over a year. I’m wildly impressed by your content, creative delivery, and natural presentation skills. I’m very grateful for all the countless hours and effort you put into creating these and I learn so much from them that translates to my profession and/or life. I’m shocked that anyone would leave negative comments, and wish to echo the scores of positive comments here on this video. Thank you DamiLee for everything! I’m proud to be a fellow Vancouverite of yours 😁 (is the grammar in that last sentence correct? Feedback please!)
Again I totally agree.
*atheistically procrastinatingly* stupid you say religiously when there's nothing religious about it.
You inspire me to start a Grammar Police League specialized in negative feedback specific to grammar and spelling. It pulls legs incredibly well when wielded strategically in social media comments 😂😂
I'm not allow to vote because there is no organizers to take care of the events.
MI’m a volunteer moderator of various forums encompassing a few million people.
The one important thing I have learned to stay remotely sane is to learn which feedback to read, and which to ignore. This is most often entirely different from how you need to react to physical relationships.
I'm retired now Dami and learned a few things on the way. People are way to judgemental and need to focus on their own s-it a lot more than they do. Some people will never like you and look for ways to undermine your performance and finally, watching your videos are a source of inspiration for me. Your delivery, content, topics are all exceptional. I am not an architect but you have helped me embrace the subject, isn't that what it's all about
I take my cues from Stoic philosophers like Marcus Aurelius and Epictetus. “If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”
You're doing a great job, by the way. I'm not an architect, but my father (who was one) taught me to see the beauty in design and to appreciate what it takes to make those designs materialize.
No idea what vocal fry is or any of that other stuff. Those PDfs don't belong on an international platform. People have cultures and accents. Hand gestures are a natural part of a conversation that has always existed. Let's all stand motionless with our arms at our sides while talking. Literally inhuman, but let's do it. God forbid a fly to enter a sign language scene. I never noticed your hand gestures until I saw those comments. I'm looking at your pupil and iris and regularly gaze away during processing and listening like I'm supposed to. A growth mindset is important, but seeing the pretentiousness in those comments suggests other issues that are not yours. These are the unworldly bunch who stare at TikTok with their eyes glazed over. With all that said, your philosophy of growth and growth of philosophy is impressive. Professional Human Being: Certified
Hahaha yeah I guess something I should have also talked about is learning to filter out the BS and pretentiousness 🤣 that’s a skill on its own!!!
Even though I have no idea about architecture , I’m addicted to your videos! After this one specifically, I realise it’s the way you speak. It tunes so clearly in my head ! Gj and good luck with your channel!
You are great, just ignore annoying comments like the ones you shared. Love your content and also how thoughtful and interesting your topics are. Cheers!
I think your presentation skills, professionalism and insight are fantastic! Keep up the excellent work! Working in the medical field in leadership has been tough recently, and your videos have been a huge help the past couple months. Thank you.
Great video, Dami! As an Engineer I can definitely relate and it's nice to hear this topic broken down from someone who has faced these situations recently. Also, I honestly like the way you talk, I find it unique and it's actually one of the many reasons I enjoy your content. Maybe that's just me lol but I'd say don't stress too much over it 😅
Thanks!! I guess it also goes to say, you can’t please everyone 😅
@@DamiLeeArch I actually had to "Google" "Vocal Fry" as I had no idea what it was... LOL, and maybe it's just me... but I "don't" hear it... as for the hand movement, I think it adds to the "descriptiveness" of what you are saying, helps fulfill the statement with emphasis on topic. Yep, you said it best, you just can't please everyone...
@@DamiLeeArch I didn't know what Vocal Fry was either. The definition doesn't really help understanding what it is supposed to mean. I love watching ypur videos even though I am not an architect. Keep doing what you do.😊
@@MarkWRoberts I feel the same about the vocal fry and now I'm curious if she didn't change her voice a bit from earlier videos, seeing as I discovered her recently. About the hand gestures I do agree, though, I find it really expressive and helpful to keep up with what she's saying, as Tom Scott would put it, they are a meaningful part of communication.
I like the sound of your voice (including the fry).
What I always find difficult to understand, if someone has an issue with your way of presenting stuff, they can leave at any time…no one is forcing them to stay. So why comment like this (1:05) and not in a supportive way.
Keep up the good work, you are doing great!
Just wanted to say that I’m Creative Strat from Sg who consumes a boatload of content and recently I’ve been un subbing to a lot of legacy Channels and popular ones…. So when I found you, I was genuinely surprised at the absolute QUALITY of your content and presentation. I link your videos to my team all the time because of the attention to detail and the perspective that your unique person brings. So much love and respect from Sg !!!
You’re genuinely hilarious with your little edits and stuff. You have better comedic chops than SNL (ok setting the bar low, but still). These approaches are super helpful to just about any relationship too. Great video.
This is all great advice. Identifying something that someone might perceive as being wrong or incorrect is always an opportunity for improvement, especially when honest criticism is brought to bear. Praise, on the other hand, is really just a lack of idea for how to improve. Ego does not serve us well in this context, haha. Otherwise, I'm with the others here in supporting you being yourself on camera and your delivery.
Vocal fry is something you are born with or acquired throughout years of speaking. I watch UA-cam for two things, to get entertained and/or to get educated on things I do not understand. You do both perfectly. If people cannot get past through the so-called "vocal fry voice", they're just being nitpicky. Love your voice and I love your content. I can listen to it endlessly and not get bored with it even though I have no clue on architecture and how does one work. Much love from a fan (and a subscriber) in the Philippines.
Thanks for the video! One aspect we should also consider is that the feedback might also be very biased and ill intended (toxic managers and toxic work place cases). Managing around that is initally hard. The best option is recognizing the situation and finding another job. 🙂
Idk if it's my phone but for some reason the video is stuck on the thumbnail, no other videos in ur catalog just this one, hmmm. Well either way, glad to have found your channel, very interesting and inciteful. Subbed!😁
I really enjoy your videos and your perspective. I wish these existed when I was in studio. I think your critiques are well thought out and well presented with the perfect amount of comic relief. Don’t stop, this one in particular could be a valuable tool for people starting studio or just life interactions in gen.
Thank you
Dami I actually appreciate your voice and the casual feel that and fullness that having vocal fry has. I'm fairly tall and speak in a naturally low register, giving me alot of vocal fry as well. It's nice to have a full sound when alot of content creators push their voices and EQing of them often high & too loud.
This probably wasn't solicited feedback and I apologize but felt like this was a moment to show some appreciation!
*a lot
I love the fact your channel deals with more than just buildings. Thanks for this.
I actually love how you communicate, your vocal presence, and your very engaging hand gestures. Keep it up! :)
I am just 19 year old guy,I can't give any suggestions but your advices have made me to think about the critisism in a less manner now. thks for the help ❤️
I was so scared of critic and presenting my projects at first year of studies! :) Now I feel very confident with public presentations or group discussions but back than it was a nightmare! Presentation is a skill which even shy people can master :) Great video , as always
I loved this video, and the fact that you did the part on your “vocal fry”. Mostly because of the idea of the growth mindset vs being defensive. I feel like there is a fine line between criticism based on YOUR presentation and the delivery of it, vs criticism based on someone’s likes or dislikes and or pet peeve’s. I was in no way distracted by your hand movements or your vocal fry. Anyone THAT CRITICAL of a person giving a presentation isn’t distracted by said person’s faults, but their own critical mindset.
I only recently discovered this channel and don't often write youtube comments, but I felt compelled to write. I work in IT and also give and take a lot of technical training so I have seen a lot of presentation styles over the last 30 years.. Your presentation style is absolutely top drawer.
Your hand movements and your voice come across as totally natural and it makes your videos a very easy watch and listen.
Sometimes people can take continuous improvement too far and actually make things worse, look at those golfers who have been brilliant, then tried to rebuild their golf swing, it often does not go well. Right now, in terms of your overall presentation style you are that pro-golfer, I wouldn't change a thing.
For those of you who criticized Dami's voice and hand gestures:
My mother has this same issue with concentration. In her case it turned out to be medical. She's discovered that when my mouth goes a little crooked while I speak, I'm not trying to distract her and be the most annoying person in the world. It's actually a (benign) brain tumor pressing against her pineal gland.
I don't mean to scare anyone but if Dami's characteristics are so disturbing for you that all basic manners go out the window, maybe go ahead and see a doctor. Personally I think it's an adorable counterpoint to her grace and intellect.
Thank you Dami for spending the time and energy to share your hard-earned education with us. Every video I've watched has taught me something new. Admittedly this comment sounds contrary to the topic of this video, but I promise I was listening. I need all the help I can get.🥴
I am facing the issue: "Your browser can't play this video.
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I think there is some weird connection with mine and UA-cam. Just today I was going through something and received a negative feedback at work, and this video popped up.
You are the best in giving words to your thoughts
Always amazing stuff. Question... am I suppose to be looking at the still phrase of your thumbnail the whole time?
I like the hand movements. The gestures give your body language more meaning and make you more genuine. Keep up the good work, Sincerely, from your archnemesis, a civil engineer
“We’re processing this video. Check back later”. Is the message I get when I try to watch this video :(
I like your vocal fry, and your videos. And the fact that I now know what vocal fry is and know more about architecture and so many other topics through you. Also, your subtle way of telling the trolls to jog on was great.
Thanks for sharing your experience! Useful to anyone regardless of your profession. Honestly learning how to receive feedback I think is more important than learning how to give it! Thanks for reminding me about the book.
So i shared one of my all time favorite UA-camr with my girlfriend and she immediately pointed out what a shit vocie the guy had. After she pointed it out to me, i also noticed it and agreed with her. It turned out to be a deal breaker for her but it turned out to not be one for me. I absolutely love the dude's content and am very very grateful that he exists. His content makes me think and makes my life better. Everyone is different so whatever floats their boat. You cant change your voice but as far as your hand movement goes, at least you can do something about it and you can decide if itll improve your content or not. I super enjoy your videos and your voice and hands dont bother me and am very grateful to have come across your channel. Thanks so much for all the content you're creating!!
Very good video. Understand how to deal with feedbacks and discern good and bad critics are soo important in college and academic realm too
Yeah very true. That’s why having regular crits and performance reviews early on in school is so important
You’re a wonderful example of that someone can do more than one thing well if given there attention and passion.
I know you’re not a civil engineer or city planner but watching you play City Skylines would be fascinating
Yes!
Plus 1, Sim City 4 as another path
Hey was actually watching some videos of yours about architecture (really liking them), but this is also interesting, it can be tough to deal with (negative) feedback, I like how you're approaching it :)
You'd think every single person that went through architecture school should be able to handle negative feedback somewhat fine, since some architecture teachers can be very rough, but sadly that's not the case. The biggest issue is to define yourself by your creativity and then having negative feedback targeting that one thing, hard to separate your ego from the objective "reality".
I just found your channel a couple weeks ago but i gotta say i love your content and the way you present it.
Also you asume the feedback is objectively right. It is worst when the feedback is truly wrong, and yet you are still expected to manage it. Perhaps that has to do with your example here, as students, there is a high likelihood that the the teacher is giving good (objectively speaking) feedback even if done in a negative way. But as a profesional, you are most likely getting feedback from either a client, that has no idea what he is talking about when it comes to architecture, and yet makes some dumb demand. Or people who are presumably your equals in skill and knowledge and wont necessary be giving you good feedback but rather their opinion on what is better. Leading to conflict. rightfully so.
This was a helpful and informative video. It made me think about my situation and how even though I have my perspective, that feedback both given and how I give it to others is important. Thanks for taking the time to make this and making the informative and enjoyable content you do.
Well, I've discovered your channel not that long ago and have binge watched your content for many, many hours. You are an amazing storyteller, and your videos are dynamic, engaging and beautifully edited. I love your sense of humour and your courage. It's not easy putting yourself out there and dealing with these trolls. Keep up the amazing work, you've made this Vancouver doctor here fall in love with architecture! Cheers
I learned a new English phrase, "vocal fry", looked it up, and I'm pretty sure it doesn't even have a German counterpart. Never considered this way of speaking to be an issue, ever. I very much like the way you express yourself, it's in fact the main reason I watched some of our content, despite not being interested architecture.
It's traditionally desirable for speaker related work I would say. More than not having it being an issue. Less important than singing from your stomach rather than from the throat, but in the same vain of advice.
This is all very valuable information. However, it assumes a couple of things. It assumes that feedback is correct, that it's honest, and that it's done for your benefit. In a good relationship, all of those things are true, but not all relationships are good. So it's also important to evaluate the person giving your feedback, your relationship, and how aligned this feedback is with your development and career and personality etc.
That’s a very good point
5:39 mins took me to subscribe to your channel, first video that I see of you and loved how genuine is your drive towards self improvement. Keep doing and keep sharing your craft!
You are UNIQUE! Keep up the good work!
I know nothing about architecture but this channel has quickly become one of favorites. I appreciate the content.
The difference between being an architect and most other professions is that you are still being mentored by your bosses even past the intern phase. Criticism isn't just about your performance, but also your growth as an architect. In good situations architectural mentors can really help young architects grow, while in bad situations this mentor/student relationship can be abused. So one has to gauge if the feedback is positive or negative. ( a learning experience or not). If you are learning, don't fight it. But if you are in an abusive job, don't stay.
Spot on. Regardless of the occupation, one has to first identify if its valid criticism, or abuse and other actions in the guise of 'criticism'. Frankly, if its truly a genuinely helpful or toxic work environment. That isn't always going to be the case, and assuming good faith isn't always the best idea. You have to actually find that out and gtfo if its not the case.
dunno what vocal fry is, but i think your voice is lovely
This is archiphilosophy 😊and it is a pleasure to listen to you. Thank you
Great work you make it very relatable. Yes, judgement is all about people living through shadow values. Things we don't want to admit, hence 'shadow values. And all this comes from energy dynamics that affect everything. And if people comprehend how we all live through our shadows, we would live a much more peaceful life and honest life.
That nervous “he he “ when you were explaining the circumstances to your boss I felt that
🤣😂🤣
I’ve honestly never noticed the vocal fry. I think this is one of the most charming UA-cam channels out there. I think architecture is interesting, and now I find that I’m paying attention to the architectural style in every movie I watch.
I guess haters gonna hate.
I love your videos, it really explains obstacles in architecture and I am thankful that you have our back.
Also don't let anyone attack your hand gestures, it is just how you express yourself.
I never knew about nor noticed vocal fry until you put up those comments so I wouldn't worry about it. On the plus side I got to learn a new thing today!
I'm in my final year of art school and I'm really struggling with weekly group crits. It has been excruciating getting nothing but negative feedback every week for 6 months, its had such a negative toll. Thank you so much this video has helped me tremendously in trying to navigate the entire situation. I've been able to reengage with the group and even access on other major problem areas.
The criticism on hand movement and vocal fry is just random opinions that I wouldn't be too concerned about. If that brings out your best, just keeping doing it. And I love your professional insights!
Actually, what draws me to your videos is how you present your topics. Your voice has a commanding, yet reassuring tone when you explain your thought process and your hand movements just reaffirm the intention of you're saying. Being critiqued is not easy, especially when coming from your peers or your clients. But what you gain from it can be helpful, depending how it is absorbed. Sometimes people can't agree how a space should be perceived, so hopefully a compromise can emerge. Keep up the good videos.
Yeah same here, also there literally a thousand, dozen thousands of creators on this and other plataforms that might suit more your tastes
i never understand people critize things that someone can't change you're just mean and unpolite
i find her voice soothing
Your so called “vocal fry” and hands movement to me, are definitely your defining characteristics of your personality, which are attractions to me.
Huh, I find your voice quality & overall presentation to be clear & pleasing. To each his own, I guess. Your videos are superb with compelling content so thank you for your obvious hard work on them all 🌸
Definitely this is one of the best video I've ever seen in my life. Thanks for making this, keep it up and keep sharing with us
Experience can definitely help with managing constructive feedback because we begin learn how to interpret it as useful towards a greater good instead of a negative tear down. In addition, if we envision our assignments from a meta-view (managements perspective) it really helps get us through a project because we know that we're contributing our part to a larger cause which can also aid us in better empathizing with the decisions that management are making since the stakes can be much higher for them.
Having a Stoic, Zen or similar mindset really does help us exercise healthy detachment from things that are beyond our control allowing us to appreciate that edits, revisions or start-overs are going to be a part of the process and that it has nothing to do with our lack of ability and everything to do with bringing out our best work on every project. Management chose to hire us and not somebody else so that means they really do believe in our potential ... no matter how much annoying feedback they throw at us!
PS - I like your hand gestures, seldom vocal fry and up-talk. Some people may think it's an issue but I don't agree whatsoever, it's a personal preference.
First, your hands are just fine, move them around as much as you want. Haters gonna hate. Second, WTF is vocal fry? I studied sound engineering in college and have never heard the term. Your voice and audio is totally fine. You keep doing you. My career has nothing to do with architecture and I sub and watch to learn something new. Keep doing your thing girl!
Your ability to discuss such drastically different subjects in such a thorough and professional manner is amazing, while adding your own sense of humor so seamlessly! Love it! Wishing you all the success and enjoyment you deserve in your journey.
Amazing video, thank you for this video, as a new 3d modeler, this video helped me take better feedback from my customers. Your fundamental focus on the core concepts to your thought process allowed me to align your feedback about feedback to me and the customer I server. I appreciate you....
Your videos are great My 15-year old daughter is considering architecture as a career and she watches your videos on a regular basis. Keep up the great work.
hey, dont
@@Zhijinglim Dont what?
@@carlsmith8850 the way architecture is presented through media or at least how most people know it is very different from reality, architecture is a path that is highly passion driven and also earn very little money compare to the effort needed to put into it . I recommend talking to someone that has an architectural background to make decision. Please dont look at the bright side of architecture only. (coming from someone in architecture for 8 years)
@@Zhijinglim Thanks for the help. Its like most things in life.
How absolutely appalling that you get judged for your physical/vocal traits. You're wonderful just as you are, and so are your videos. Looking forward to what you have in store for 2023, Dami!
Sending you a lot of respect! (1. for making this video, and 2. for breaking down these issues that we all deal with! Very intelligent way to look at life’s obstacles 💪💪
Whenever I get criticism I just remain blank faced and say "okay". Maybe I'll throw in a "I will improve upon this in the future" or something along those lines. The awkward silence really makes the criticizer uncomfortable 99% of the time, works for me haha
Forget criticism. Your the most inspiring architect I have seen. Your the reason I take interest in architecture. Much love to you.
That's the road to failure
I am so glad I found your channel, it's the hearty chicken soup in a pantry full of chips and soda. How is that for a critique? Why be left feeling unsatisfied from a temporary sugar and caffeine rush elsewhere when there's a full meal being served here that is both enriching and long lasting? This topic in particular, food for the soul. My biggest takeaway after forty years in IT and Special Education, two very different career paths with surprisingly similar responsibilities, was how much better people fared in all manner when they learned to recognize and distinguish reason from emotion.
Strangely, your voice and mannerisms are what attracted me to your content. Keep up the great work.
I like your voice. and as non native English speaker i can understand pretty everything.
Thank you for letting me discover architechture trough your perspective. :-)
Also research shows talking with your hands makes for relatable communication and is a characteristic of highly intelligent people... No such thing as "too much hand movement" except in the US where apparently intelligence traits are considered negative....
Architect? i'm not.. but your videos provide so much other useful information that I have been watching for a year. keep it up!
I didnt even know what a vocal fry was before I looked it up, turns out its the reason I found your voice so familiar, my grandma talked in the exact same way and it's a very familiar/comforting sound :)
You are so great and i love this channel, thanks for being you and sharing that with others like me.
Genuinely did not notice the vocal fry (new word I learned from this video) OR the hand gesturing being excessive AT ALL. Seriously. I don't agree with those comments. I like the way you present your original self just fine so please continue doing you.
Okay, I'm gonna be that guy. Would these people who are criticizing the sound of you voice do so if you were a man? I feel like we are much harsher on women for how they sound. Also, there are a number of creators where I didn't like their voice at first. I kept coming back because of their content and now I cannot tell you what problem I ever had with their voice. Keep doing you and I'll keep coming back for more.
This video needs to be transcribed and made into a book. Super helpful tips to improve self awareness.
It's interesting how some peoples pet peeves with you, are exactly the reasons I like you and watch your content. Even though I'm no architect buff.
Im a new person to your channel, and I just am seeing this video, but how you talk and look are part of what draws me to your channel, I think your cute, and fun, and you cover very interesting topics on the science fiction I love. You do you, cus the haters always gone hate(had to look up vocal fry, wich just goes to show how nit picky some people are gunna be, its petty)
Go girl!. Screwing up is part of the learning process. Just get on with it. Park that emotion and move on!.
I really like the video, and even though I feel that the algorithm suggested some of your shorts to me for other reasons, it is *this* video that's going to stick out.
And since we are at constructive criticism: at 16:50 you probably wanted to say that negative feedback has a much more positive impact than *positive feedback*, not impact. And you know what? The rest of the video was presented so perfectly that this slight error just made you human.
Thank you for this video, I really appreciate you sharing your methods!
Identity triggers are really the toughest ones to spot, but in general that's because whatever fault or trait being criticized is instinctively associated with "you" (or first person perspective, "me"). It takes practice but you can try asking yourself, this trait or mistake that's being pointed out, is that me? Do I own it? Is it so "me" that I will resist every attempt to change it, including your boss' :p?
At the end of the day your boss isn't always right but almost never wrong. If your differences are so fundamental then you're right, it's your choice to stay there.
facing the issue: "Your browser can't play this video.
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