Learning to be teased and to tease without descending into bullying is one of the most subtly vital human interplays. It is what allows us to show both vulnerability and strength while preventing us from clubbing each other to death.
Don't react to a judge and see if you get a lighter sentence. Don't react to a cop and see if you get arrested or not. Don't react to the car heading your way at 90 Mph and see if you survive. Every coin has at least two sides.
@@crazyfakar1 it was for the average civilian; they are not judge parliament or police. People who are not the police/judge are still policing/ judging. no need to pay attention to them. Like babies, shouting & howling.. seeking to be pacified by attracting attention by creating drama. They know everything, love to be in their bubbles. Time will teach them a good lessen. I won't feed them my energy.
@@ItachiUchiha-qm3nk well I don’t live a life where enemies are easily made, but for one benign example if you’re in a competitive industry, you will make enemies by doing a good job and sticking up for yourself and others.
Back in the day people used to actually study speach and such to be ahead of their enemys and peers. Read 48 laws of power it has tons of storys about how knowing when to speak, what to speak, and how to speak lead to kingdoms rising and falling.
I got insulted once by this guy who was fairly high up in the echelon of the company I worked with and just flatly looked at the guy who insulted me and said calmly; "You know, that might mean something to me if I only remembered your name."
He did way better afterwards in that same video/situation. (Way funnier insults. Probably would have been too much from the same person for the format here though.)
it is a good comeback, but the way to handle that is to say, "And you would like that, but fortunately my purpose in life isn't to make you happy." For that matter, any time a person wishes you ill, you can mock their malicious wish and remind them you were not born to please them.
I work customer service and would never use any of these. Best way to make people feel bad is to be nice and end up saving them money somehow. Gets an apology everytime.
Here's a tip Dr. Spicy: when you get a customer who refuses to get off their phone, to even acknowledge you as an equal human being, remain calm but LOUD. Really loud. So loud that they have difficulty hearing what is on their phone over you. Stay in clerk character but a passive aggressive nuisance to their personal call. They may not care, they may hate it, but they can never prove you did it on purpose, even if you both know it was a shot across the bow. They just have to take it. Payback.
If you reach a level of conflict where you want to piss them off then force them into making a scene by being polite but also forcing them into a hole of dramatic chaos.
My favorite method for a bully’s insult: Smile and pretend like you didn’t hear it, repeatedly. Just keep saying “what?” “I didn’t catch that” “could you speak up?”. They either give up quickly or become livid and walk away looking like a fool or double down and embarrass themselves further Or they hit you.
walking away is a great tool. sometimes you try all these tactics and the rude person (usually jealous / insecure of you) will still try and attack you. Leaving is simply the best option sometimes. You don't ever want to spend time with truly toxic people anyways
yeah it keeps you in a space where you retain power and you aren't bought in. If youre attached to someone or a situation you give it power to be your organizing principle. Sometimes not accepting a paradigm is the best way that paradigm falls dead as holding water.
0:00 - Intro 0:15 - #1: Use an Aikido insult 0:42 - #2: Point out they're easy to dislike 1:24 - #3: Use a Trojan Horse compliment 1:52 - #4: Genuinely compliment the insult 2:20 - #5: Assume positive intent 3:13 - #6: Agree and exaggerate 4:24 - #7: Be non-reactive 4:33 - #8: Call out their behavior 5:41 - #9: Just walk away 6:06 - #10: Draw a boundary
The only issue is they give examples of celebrities. They're beautiful. We are not. Our scenarios and world settings are different from celebrities. Sure we can learn from celebrities, BUT REALITY IS DIFFERENT AND HARSH. Planning and plotting like _"today I'll behave this way and answer that way if someone says this"_ Does not work in Real life. We don't have bouncers and security and people behind us if anything goes bad. An average 9-5 working class struggling person doesn't have these.
I am a senior executive woman who works in a male-dominated profession. I have learned to be a good listener. a person of few words, and a master of relatively neutral one liners that inspire deeper thinking. Over the years I have been the "casual target" of condescending remarks and demeaning, dismissive discounts of my expert or astute comments about operational issues and current events. My reaction is to look very openly and directly at the commenter and pleasantly maintain eye contact for as long as it takes to create a shift in their demeanor. Once, a female colleague disturbed about my lack of reaction, was compelled to say, "Are you aware he just insulted you?!" I looked at her incredulously and said, " I AM!' And returned to silently observing him as a human being. He was so rocked by the focused attention that he muttered something that sounded like closure and wandered off to another group. He was never disrespectful again in future business meetings, to me or anyone else.
@@royfoy8951 when the demand for sexism outweights the supply, AI always saves the day. This one sounds ripped straight off reddit, I can even see the brainrot minecraft parkour in the background.
The best one I’ve ever heard of in an informal setting was “Is that the best you’ve got?” The person trying to insult the new acquaintance actually laughed out loud in surprise and everyone else was then able to relax.
I don't like giving a green light to insults. Laughing & making a joke just invites them to insult you again in the future and call it 'banter'. I much prefer the boundary method; make it clear that I won't tolerate certain behaviours now or in the future. I don't really care about how I come across doing that, because trying to be 'likeable' all of the time despite being insulted... well that's called people pleasing and it's not great.
The intent of that topic wasn’t to just laugh when someone insults you, but to train yourself to always see the insult in a positive and playful way so that you can just laugh at it and not be offended by it. Obviously this has a limit to just how insulting something can be, but if it’s a fairly tame thing that can be seen as playful than it makes a lot of sense.
It's much better for you if you frame it as a joke to you and all the people around, not only you show you're strong and not easily affected, but you make everyone else in the room have more fun. Also, you let the offender off the hook, but the underlying message is "I'll let this one slip, but I could make you pay for it if I wanted. I won't be intimidated by you."
I do this a lot. And the curious thing is that if you frame it as a joke even to yourself, you'll barely remember it happened. Just like a conventional joke, it makes you laugh but you'll end up forgetting it in a few hours.
@@lapidationsI don’t see the point in making it a joke. It’s not a joke. The person just insulted you. There’s no point in trying to brush it under the rug
@@BigGamingBossMan not one shred of evidence exists that Life is serious. However, you have the ability to interpret anything and everything as if it is. Your choice. If you want to be hypersensitive and easy to manipulate, then continue to choose emotional immaturity and weakness rather than being a positive and constructive influence on others. You do you. I cannot make you recognize your imperfections and desire to improve them, only you can do that. I have my own issues to handle.
I am a very mousy person whose face gets hot and red with any confrontation but these options help me be able to have confidence and I now get to decide how to react taking the power away from those around me with ill intentions so thank you very much 😊
I also hate conflict, and am often embarrassed how obvious that is to those who dish it out. I've found it easier to be quick witted if I can predict who will create it. No matter how friendly they are, when you meet somebody who is loud, highly confident, and says aloud most of what they think, tell yourself "This person will insult me one day." It may not happen, but if you expect it, you'll remain calm and quick-witted when it does. Quiet people can also be rude, but I find them less intimidating, so I limit mental prep to the loud ones.
My father used to insult me multiple times a day, my sister, and my mother included and called it “playing.” He was bullying and when it hurt too much I cried because I was emotionally distraught as a kid to hear these things from the “powerful figure” of the family. He would say I was too sensitive and couldn’t “play.” Now, since we’ve all checked him for his inappropriate reactions, he tries using power plays that are harmful to other aspects of our lives. AKA threatening to cut us off the family for something or something financial benefiting our future. I walked away this year. I told my mother I will not be insulted after all the work I did internally growing up just to be experiencing his toxicity again because she decides to stay with him. She understands, but thinks I need to be patient with him because he had childhood trauma. 1-He’s not working on healing that. And 2-he is still passing it down to his family. This is why I have friends as my chosen family.
My personal tactic is to just completely ignore the insult and just continue with the rest of the theme. Then just ghost the person infringing everyone and only respond to other peoples talking points. Just edge them out of the conversation.
He kept calling her Sir just to provoke her. It doesn't matter if you yourself think trans people don't exist but you should always be respectful towards the person you're debating. And if you know there's something that will hurt them personally you should cut it out "or you go home in an ambulance". Her reaction was exactly what Shapiro wanted and telling her in that situation to laugh it off or even make self aware jokes only shows that people don't realise how incredibly hurtful deadnaming and misgendering is to trans people.
I personally feel that if I concentrate on being honest and friendly then what others do or say is their problem not mine, mind you it did take 40 years for me to get there !
These videos are so great. Even if youre not shy or awkward in social situations, some of these tips could be used by anyone. The key is indeed to be self confident and a bit unbothered sometimes, some people just tease and insult you to get a reaction or to get you to say something inappropriate that could be taken out of context in the heat of the month
@@vickibazter3446 No one can ‘bully’ you when you own your weakness. Wear it like a badge of honor. You are no longer a victim to anyone’s cruelty when you’ve anticipated the dig.
I just ignore people when they insult me. I don't acknowledge it happened and it steals the satisfaction they thought they'd get from the insult while saving me the bother of processing it.
Fun fact: since i have become more confident and charasmatic in the past few years, thanks to this channel, i now get a few subtle jabs in the workplace from people who are senior management in my corporate job. Tbis video is extremely helpful because i can use these techniquest in casual and professional settings
Nice one! So far this is my favorite out of all the "How to Make a Rude Person Immediately Regret Insulting You" type series since it combines all the elements seen in each of them including hard and soft lines. One aspect I was hoping to see in any of these style type of videos, is to ask clarifying questions such as, "What do you mean?" in response to back handed compliments that would give the antagonist a chance to save face, but also let them know that you know they're up to something. Useful if you're in a professional setting such as work.
Exactly Mario. Simply walk away. Everyone complains about being “bullied and insulted” when they don’t realize that the root of the problem is simply their ego. They could easily walk away from the situation but chose not to because their ego would be destroyed feeling as if they’ve “lost the war”. (That was a comparison, I don’t actually mean war)
The most basic thing about charisma is being confident but that one of those things thats easier said than done. If you want to be the kind of person thats great at talking to folks you gotta work hard not only on your rhetoric but also on the topics you speak on
Responses to rude remarks is, 1. “It’s so nice to be acknowledged by my peers.” 2. “I defer to your experience (or expertise).” 3. “Would you repeat that louder?” 4. “Are you having a bad day? Do you need to talk to someone?”
I've done something similar when people ask rude questions. "I heard you had a miscarriage, is that true?" Why do you want to know? "Do you hate me?" You think I hate you?
I’m 73..Recently decided to grow a beard (temporarily). An acquaintance feigned shock and tried to make it a joke in front of a friend. I paused and suggested he actually might benefit by covering up some of his face..
Im Conclusion: 1. Aikido Insult. Accept it and use it against them 2. Point out they are easy to dislike "e.g. if you could ever meet yourself you would hate it" 3. Trojan Horse Compliment These three are likely to make enemies 4. Compliment the insult 5. Assume positive intent 6. Agree and exaggerate 7. Be nom reactive 8. Call out their behavior (not the person) 9. Just walk Away 10. Draw a boundary and walk away if it gets crossed
The people who need this the most are the ones who have been bullied, are shy, autistic etc... but they are the ones who are the least likely to benefit from this video. You have to be very comfortable around people to use these methods
What I really miss a lot from these kinds of videos, is the fact that although all of these work well in professional or cordial settings. There are a lot of bullying-like situations when this doesn't work. I come from a small remote village in the country side, and when someone roasts you, a lot of the time they are not trying to play a joke, they are genuinely trying to hurt you. Heck sometimes they even say it plain and out loud that they want to hurt you. My problem with this videos is that the only advice when the other person is trying to genuinely be malicious is to walk away, but you do that in a small community that values strength and fighting and you are going to end up alone very fast. Very quickly you will run out of people that you have walked out on and can no longer see.
What might help is instead of reacting to what they say, asking them if they are not well in a worried tone and totally redirecting to them. That indicates that they must be (mentally) not well for behaving like that which is actually true and puts them of cause now they have to explain themselves :-)
I feel like this is what happens naturally if you generally think positively of others but you are also confident enough in yourself that you have no problems cutting off people you don’t like from your life.
Insult's comeback with an insult is a great tool for stopping people from insulting you again. It's likely that the first time you get insulted for something new, you won't have a comeback... but if someone insulted you once, they'll do it again and in a similar way. So you can prepare for the next chance and attack their insecurity through an insulting joke. For example, there was this one japanese lady who twice tried to insult me based on skin color by saying, "hey! u are black even not from africa" (I'm from srilanka). The first time, I was taken aback but explained that ancestry, equatorial country, etc.. but of course she didn't get it. The next time she said, "hey... why u so black?". (I was preparing for this moment LoL) I simply said, "the same reason why your eyes are so small." Everybody burst our laughing. Should have seen the look on her face. She stopped insulting me.
I wouldn’t have stopped there being that her second insult was intentionally meant to upset you, I would’ve followed on from your excellent comeback of ‘same reason your eyes are so small’ with ‘ah, and that’s because your eyes represent the size of your brain heh!’...well handled by you 👏 👏 👏
Indeed, I agree that, with people who insult you, often the best approach is to return the same rudeness (great example, btw). I used to be easy to insult, because I hated conflict and couldn't fathom that some people would seek it out. One day, after I had thrown up in my middle school's hallway because my mother had insisted on sending me to school ill, an obese boy bullied me over it. I realized he was doing it because he figured I was too nice to point out the obvious, so I decided if he could hit low, so could I. I said, "I did it because I never want to wind up as fat as you." While it didn't quite have the clever zing that your comeback did, this boy did realize he had better leave me alone after that.
sometimes they are so toxic or insecure they don't care and will keep trying to push your buttons. that's why leaving is oftentimes the best strategy. just find new friends / better ppl
Most of these mainly apply in the very specific scenario that you’re on camera. Doing these on the street or at the bar would likely result in a physical altercation.
My favorite thing to do is overreact to small insults. For example someone will call me a dork and I'll say "excuse me, that is uncalled-for!" It usually gets a laugh.
Best moments Insult comebacks 1:09 If you could ever meet yourself you would hate it 1:42 I am so used to bad jokes I almost did not listen to that Strategy 1:54 Compliment the insult A strategy I really like as you bring comedy into the conversation 3:19 Agree and exaggerate: get that b off the monitor Be non-reactive 4:16 Show that they are not important enough. Hence Don Draper does not react. Charisma have shown this idea in a previous mad men video. Specific 04:43 that is so rude. This is better than saying you are so rude. You call out a specific behaviour. Walk away 05:50 Jimmy Fallon comment on his guest. Just walk away.
As I've said in a previous CoC video, if some drops a brilliantly funny burn on me, even if their intent was malicious I'll laugh because it's still funny. That lesbo cut burn was pure comedy gold.
I have been practicing these techniques for decades. They definitely work. Thanks making this video. It's powerful knowledge that all would be wise to utilize.
I find this childish and insignificant, I also find people who respond with verbal abuse very childish and have very low communication skills, the respect goes way down after that
Please can I add one: I was in the canteen at work, about 10 people around the table, one guy is insulting and ragging me like crazy. So while I am thinking about what to say, I am saying nothing. Another man asked why am I not saying something back. So I said: "I am waiting for him to say something worthwhile" ...... " The laughter was nice and loud.... The guy insulting me shut up and just laughed slightly. BUT he never did it again.
One thing that really works for me when someone cracks a joke at my expense is to first put on this exaggerated, defensive response, acting pathetic, whining (only works if it's really obviously exaggerated). After that, you laugh it off in mockery. It's actually kind of letting out your own insecurity and immaturity, giving it a voice, and then laughing it off as silliness. It helps you join the others in laughing and shows you have a sense of humor. It's great.
Perfect timing on this video! Yesterday I was insulted by a customer at work for no reason and I just pretended not to hear it but I wished I had said something to let them know they can't just get away with disrespecting people.
The irony lies in the fact that with friends, most of the time, one doesn't need all of these things; a simple glass of wine 🍷 suffices. However, with enemies, or more precisely, with mischievous individuals, one requires all those measures. This is because we live in a sophisticated society where resorting to violence 🔪 simply isn't an option for dealing with those who mock us.
Remember, most people have insulted others knowingly or unknowingly by accident at one time or another in life, it's those who make this a way of life who have a toxic personality and should be interacted with at arms length with caution. Every person has value and is made in the image of God, those who use insults as a regular part of communication may also be sociopathic, narcissistic, anti-social personality, etc. And insults covered with humor are still insults. Those who use them regularly rather than rarely aren't true friends.
There were a lot of clips visually depicting insults & reactions that I’d have loved to hear a few bits of audio on. Kinda frustrating for me but I did appreciate the points /explanations you did make.
I have a question. Someone insulted me and I didn't react but my friend defended me. That person insulted me again a few minutes later. This time I suddenly turned to her, raised my voice a bit and said in a really assertive tone "Ok calm down". How was my response?
I said,” what I would like to know, is how did you ever keep your real Personality under wraps when you were dating people in the past?” This was met with a longggg pause 😂
The calm look of "lol what?"? Is an important one, like that seen at 4:20. There are many variations of that face you can try. The vital thing is not letting your face drop or react when the insult drops and just calmly shift to the face and hold it unwaveringly
Thanks for this, I watched the Australian Senate one with my mother and she was cheering the woman on, and I said it was sad because the men were clearly in the wrong and are in fact bullying her, so it sucked that she got sucked in by her anger at the situation and coming off worse for it.
@@bryanwoods3373 mansplaining in itself is rude. The word literally means men try to tell women about things women know much more about. Like dudes in parliament deciding over female bodies, mansplaining women how to menstruate or ovulate. It's LITERALLY the rudest thing ever.
@Xia-hu About as rude as using it as a cudgel to not have to listen to other opinions, including those of other women, because you've deemed yourself the arbiter of the issue by virtue of identity alone. Women mansplain all the time. It's just semantics to ascribe connotation to the same behavior.
Considering he was in front of a committee and desperately trying to distract from answering straight questions, Katie got done dirty in this compilation
I have confidence whenever uncomfortable words need to be spoken. But when it causes flareing responses and angry looks. I need to learn how to finesse the situation to have them actually listen and discuss.
Needed this. I usually deal with social anxiety and I went to this social event and discussed about a career goal I would love to pursue. I said as a joke I would love to pursue wrestling and this girl called me skinny out of the blue. Didn’t know how to react but felt very hurt by it. I guess next time I should react very differently. Practice makes perfect and im sure if I get myself in a similar situation I will be able to handle it with dignity and self respect.
I am a therapist and have helped clients with assertiveness, confidence and verbal self defence for over 25 years. Always try to smile or chuckle in reponse to ridicule or a put down, however unexpected it is. Reply something like - 'Charming!' or 'Any more charming compliments?' If s/he repeats the insults try: 'What ARE you talking about?' For a bigger put down try - ' Oh please...shut up?' or 'Ah shut up!' or 'Rubbish! ' or 'What absolute rubbish!' or 'Hey stop that - behave yourself!' (as if talking to a child). If someone takes the Mickey I always smile and mock them back saying 'that's just pathetic' or 'that's childish' and if they or other laugh at you, keep smiling and say 'what ARE you talking about' or if the attack is worse say: 'little things please little minds' in a SING SONG way, and maybe repeat it if any more comments are made at your expense. As a last resort say - 'Have you always been a moron?' If it becomes a jokey name calling exchange make sure you have 4 or 5 ready memorised. (D^ck head/ar*e hole/moron/douchebag/sh^t face/b*tch/slimebag).Name calling in a jokey, high pitched, silly voice softens their rudeness if necessary. If you over do it apologise in a jokey way: 'Hey/oops, sorry that sounded bad'. If in a group setting you are targeted by the same person again, say 'Oh not you again douchebag' or 'ah shut up douchebag' (or whatever name you called them before). If they attempt to bully you repeatedly at a social occasion call them by the name whenever you adress them, e.g. say 'Goodbye douchebag' when parting. If necessary say 'sorry I did not mean to offend you'
I spent much of my life trying to figure out how to increase my confidence. When I finally discovered the answer, it turned out to be much easier than I had expected. People hate how this sounds when I write it out, but the actual secret is simply to lose respect for everyone else. Let that pedestal you have everyone on drop, so that you finally accept that your opinions are smarter than theirs (in some cases, by quite a lot!). Trust me - this is how confident people naturally think, and when you've lost respect for everyone else, they will treat you better, because you clearly think highly of your own intellect, so they will assume you are suddenly smarter than you were when you gave their opinions too much respect.
I started to make sure that 90% of the interviews are acting, they look perfect, and they always know what they say to sound funny and charismatic, and most of them are actors, so this supports my saying
And I do not like the idea of the channel by making all people with the same personality. Everyone should be charismatic in their own way, and they should not be aware of this artificial idealism. Charisma should not be in the abundance of friendships, but in the strength of the relationships, sometimes it is okay to have enemies.
This is great for toxic intimidating people, i useally go for the non responsive aproach, if they cross the line i do walk away from the confrontation to save grace, i don't have a great temper tolerance but i do know how to control it 😎😎
Hey! I REALLY enjoy these videos!! here’s some recommendations for things I need would love to see… - how to escape the friend zone - feminine traits to keep a man obsessed with you - how to gain respect (feminine version)
sara, you can escape the friend zone by becoming physically fit and wearing very high quality clothing - along with great hair, a great face, a great sense of human, a brilliant mind, plenty of money, great dance moves, great singing, great athletic skills, a great job and great friends - that's how you escape the friend zone.
This is an excellent video!! I always had this problem (in high school, because I've learned since then to have better people around me :) ), but still you never know who you may need to confront in your life. I always had a problem in dealing with rude people. Thank you for the video!
Sometimes I just say, "well that wasn't very nice." I don't really want to insult people back or one up them. I have enough self respect to not be bothered when others disrespect me. If it's a friendly roast or attempt at a roast, I'll play along though. May or may not hit em with a comeback.
This what I use ALL the time." You have me confused with someone who gives a damn." Say it quickly because the creep is slow and is trying to decipher the words.
I really appreciate these videos, they might even give me confidence one day to meet new people. Laughter is interesting strategy. I use a saying for myself, 'it only hurts when I laugh'
When somebody calls you a name, just chuckle and say "I'm the same" in a sort of agreeable resigned self deprecating way. It gives the impression that they called themselves the name, and you're trying to make them feel better.
Partly true. However, the problem with these comebacks is that they don't take into account someone's baseline trait neuroticism. Some people are so hyper-stimulated by negative stimuli aka insults that they have no way of processing the negative stimuli/insult in a timely manner that would then allow for a relevant and timely response that would then work in their favor. Insults are too overwhelming for people with these trait settings to overcome naturally. This includes those with mood regulation disorders, ADHD, Autism, Asperger's, anxiety, bipolar disorder and depression. This represents about 21% of the population according to various studies.
This is very true. In some cases, role playing these scenarios with people you trust helps. It's essentially exposure therapy. Also discussing strategies and having some canned phrases like the one about meeting yourself. It's important to have at least one person in your life who will help you through these kinds of things, like a trusting partner, a close friend, or a therapist.
@@liptoncunningham6666 Role playing can help, unfortunately, the support system for something like this is most often short-lived except for very limited circumstances. This type of approach necessitates a lifetime commitment to the afflicted, and we often see support systems burn out from this level of commitment, unfortunately. Medication is often the best long term solution.
The amount of research these guys must have done to find something that Theo Von said that can be stolen for anyone to use in day to day life is a testament to their diligence.
The best line I ever heard for an insult is, "excuse me, can you. repeat that?" Most people will not repeat the insult. I knew someone who would close their eyes during an insult. I would say, "can you open your eyes, I didn't hear you." That's shuts down everything.
Agree. This channel has a very obvious bias toward “confident masculine” behavior. When women are direct and call out misogyny, they are labeled difficult, or in the case of this video, the woman was accused of being insulting for standing up for herself in a male dominated profession. The man knew exactly what he was doing, and asked a bad faith question when he pretending not to know what “main-splaining” is.
Learning to be teased and to tease without descending into bullying is one of the most subtly vital human interplays. It is what allows us to show both vulnerability and strength while preventing us from clubbing each other to death.
Some people deserve to be bullied bro xD
Plz teach me some pointers
@@antonioyeats2149the measure you use will be measured back to you....reality
@@antonioyeats2149 woaah, slow down
@@antonioyeats2149yeah like people who say “XD”
My best comeback - About 40 years ago a friend of my husband's said to me, "You'd look better if you wore makeup."
I replied, "So would you."
Good one!
I love it.
Did laughter ensue?
yes! By all. And after 40 years still all good friends. @@debra97510
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Not reacting is such a powerful move. You strip the offender of their power.
Don't react to a judge and see if you get a lighter sentence. Don't react to a cop and see if you get arrested or not. Don't react to the car heading your way at 90 Mph and see if you survive. Every coin has at least two sides.
I do that and I end up making a fool of myself
I'm pretty clueless most of the time, so I do it on accident near constantly.
@@crazyfakar1 it was for the average civilian; they are not judge parliament or police. People who are not the police/judge are still policing/ judging. no need to pay attention to them. Like babies, shouting & howling.. seeking to be pacified by attracting attention by creating drama.
They know everything, love to be in their bubbles. Time will teach them a good lessen. I won't feed them my energy.
@@crazyfakar1 That's not even the same thing. How does an insult correlate to punishments?
There are times when making enemies is the right thing to do
Making enemies is never the good thing to do
@@Unknown-hf8vy well, standing up for yourself or others who can’t is the right thing to do, and sometimes that makes enemies
I don't have any enemies.
@@ItachiUchiha-qm3nk well I don’t live a life where enemies are easily made, but for one benign example if you’re in a competitive industry, you will make enemies by doing a good job and sticking up for yourself and others.
Like when?
"If you'll forgive me for not answering that question I'll forgive you for asking it."
Miss Manners
Having a conversation after watching these videos feels like a chess game
It's powerful when you have all the cards to play with, for sure 😊
Back in the day people used to actually study speach and such to be ahead of their enemys and peers. Read 48 laws of power it has tons of storys about how knowing when to speak, what to speak, and how to speak lead to kingdoms rising and falling.
@@iii___iii They are more popular and good as an introduction. If you read 48 laws you will want to know more about machiavelli.
@@iii___iii you haven't read them, yet you judge them?
That’s like the one thing you want avoid when you’re at g content like this, gotta balance the knowledge with presence
I got insulted once by this guy who was fairly high up in the echelon of the company I worked with and just flatly looked at the guy who insulted me and said calmly; "You know, that might mean something to me if I only remembered your name."
old, overdone
"If you could meet yourself, you would hate it" is just... muah. Theo Von is just so good!
He did way better afterwards in that same video/situation.
(Way funnier insults. Probably would have been too much from the same person for the format here though.)
it is a good comeback, but the way to handle that is to say, "And you would like that, but fortunately my purpose in life isn't to make you happy." For that matter, any time a person wishes you ill, you can mock their malicious wish and remind them you were not born to please them.
Perfect timing as I jump back into customer service.
I work customer service and would never use any of these. Best way to make people feel bad is to be nice and end up saving them money somehow. Gets an apology everytime.
Here's a tip Dr. Spicy:
when you get a customer who refuses to get off their phone, to even acknowledge you as an equal human being, remain calm but LOUD. Really loud. So loud that they have difficulty hearing what is on their phone over you. Stay in clerk character but a passive aggressive nuisance to their personal call. They may not care, they may hate it, but they can never prove you did it on purpose, even if you both know it was a shot across the bow.
They just have to take it. Payback.
@@JamesRDavenport
When they ignore me for their phone I just stare at them and smile until they pay attention to me.
@@skippygirl959 Oh I tried that first, but we've got clocks and supervisors on us. We can't stop the line for anything.
If you reach a level of conflict where you want to piss them off then force them into making a scene by being polite but also forcing them into a hole of dramatic chaos.
My favorite method for a bully’s insult: Smile and pretend like you didn’t hear it, repeatedly.
Just keep saying “what?” “I didn’t catch that” “could you speak up?”. They either give up quickly or become livid and walk away looking like a fool or double down and embarrass themselves further
Or they hit you.
Nice one
That’s what Jr would say whenever Jackie Jr would say anything in The Sooranos
"Talk into my good ear", "I hate people who mumble", and "Say that again into my shell-like ear" again and again are good, too.
Or just say “okay”. Gets them every time
walking away is a great tool. sometimes you try all these tactics and the rude person (usually jealous / insecure of you) will still try and attack you. Leaving is simply the best option sometimes. You don't ever want to spend time with truly toxic people anyways
Jimmy Fallon is such a moron I don't understand how his show is even popular
Yes, and you know it’s the right decision when you have that inner calm feeling afterwards.
Seen on a church sign:
"I'm walking away from you;
Not to teach you a lesson,
But because I finally learned mine."
yeah it keeps you in a space where you retain power and you aren't bought in. If youre attached to someone or a situation you give it power to be your organizing principle. Sometimes not accepting a paradigm is the best way that paradigm falls dead as holding water.
Personal power no one can take away. Versus the negative (scarcity / zero-sum) conception of power where you have to fight someone else to have power
0:00 - Intro
0:15 - #1: Use an Aikido insult
0:42 - #2: Point out they're easy to dislike
1:24 - #3: Use a Trojan Horse compliment
1:52 - #4: Genuinely compliment the insult
2:20 - #5: Assume positive intent
3:13 - #6: Agree and exaggerate
4:24 - #7: Be non-reactive
4:33 - #8: Call out their behavior
5:41 - #9: Just walk away
6:06 - #10: Draw a boundary
I can't tell you how much I love this channel. I watch every one of these. They're remarkable.
The only issue is they give examples of celebrities. They're beautiful. We are not.
Our scenarios and world settings are different from celebrities.
Sure we can learn from celebrities, BUT REALITY IS DIFFERENT AND HARSH.
Planning and plotting like _"today I'll behave this way and answer that way if someone says this"_
Does not work in Real life.
We don't have bouncers and security and people behind us if anything goes bad.
An average 9-5 working class struggling person doesn't have these.
@@lavatr8322 This is realistic
I am a senior executive woman who works in a male-dominated profession. I have learned to be a good listener. a person of few words, and a master of relatively neutral one liners that inspire deeper thinking. Over the years I have been the "casual target" of condescending remarks and demeaning, dismissive discounts of my expert or astute comments about operational issues and current events. My reaction is to look very openly and directly at the commenter and pleasantly maintain eye contact for as long as it takes to create a shift in their demeanor. Once, a female colleague disturbed about my lack of reaction, was compelled to say, "Are you aware he just insulted you?!" I looked at her incredulously and said, " I AM!' And returned to silently observing him as a human being. He was so rocked by the focused attention that he muttered something that sounded like closure and wandered off to another group. He was never disrespectful again in future business meetings, to me or anyone else.
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@@royfoy8951 when the demand for sexism outweights the supply, AI always saves the day. This one sounds ripped straight off reddit, I can even see the brainrot minecraft parkour in the background.
Great anecdote; your word choice and alliteration was clear and pleasant. Cheers!
Dad wasn’t very helpful in my “finding my self” period of my life… but I find your channel extremely helpful. Thank you for being who you are
The best one I’ve ever heard of in an informal setting was “Is that the best you’ve got?” The person trying to insult the new acquaintance actually laughed out loud in surprise and everyone else was then able to relax.
I don't like giving a green light to insults. Laughing & making a joke just invites them to insult you again in the future and call it 'banter'. I much prefer the boundary method; make it clear that I won't tolerate certain behaviours now or in the future. I don't really care about how I come across doing that, because trying to be 'likeable' all of the time despite being insulted... well that's called people pleasing and it's not great.
The intent of that topic wasn’t to just laugh when someone insults you, but to train yourself to always see the insult in a positive and playful way so that you can just laugh at it and not be offended by it. Obviously this has a limit to just how insulting something can be, but if it’s a fairly tame thing that can be seen as playful than it makes a lot of sense.
It's much better for you if you frame it as a joke to you and all the people around, not only you show you're strong and not easily affected, but you make everyone else in the room have more fun. Also, you let the offender off the hook, but the underlying message is "I'll let this one slip, but I could make you pay for it if I wanted. I won't be intimidated by you."
I do this a lot. And the curious thing is that if you frame it as a joke even to yourself, you'll barely remember it happened. Just like a conventional joke, it makes you laugh but you'll end up forgetting it in a few hours.
@@lapidationsI don’t see the point in making it a joke. It’s not a joke. The person just insulted you. There’s no point in trying to brush it under the rug
@@BigGamingBossMan not one shred of evidence exists that Life is serious. However, you have the ability to interpret anything and everything as if it is. Your choice. If you want to be hypersensitive and easy to manipulate, then continue to choose emotional immaturity and weakness rather than being a positive and constructive influence on others. You do you. I cannot make you recognize your imperfections and desire to improve them, only you can do that. I have my own issues to handle.
I am a very mousy person whose face gets hot and red with any confrontation but these options help me be able to have confidence and I now get to decide how to react taking the power away from those around me with ill intentions so thank you very much 😊
Rock on! You got this!
"The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so abandon the quarrel before it breaks out."
Proverbs 17:14
Awesome! Jesus loves you and died for you! ❤
I also hate conflict, and am often embarrassed how obvious that is to those who dish it out. I've found it easier to be quick witted if I can predict who will create it. No matter how friendly they are, when you meet somebody who is loud, highly confident, and says aloud most of what they think, tell yourself "This person will insult me one day." It may not happen, but if you expect it, you'll remain calm and quick-witted when it does. Quiet people can also be rude, but I find them less intimidating, so I limit mental prep to the loud ones.
My father used to insult me multiple times a day, my sister, and my mother included and called it “playing.” He was bullying and when it hurt too much I cried because I was emotionally distraught as a kid to hear these things from the “powerful figure” of the family. He would say I was too sensitive and couldn’t “play.”
Now, since we’ve all checked him for his inappropriate reactions, he tries using power plays that are harmful to other aspects of our lives. AKA threatening to cut us off the family for something or something financial benefiting our future. I walked away this year. I told my mother I will not be insulted after all the work I did internally growing up just to be experiencing his toxicity again because she decides to stay with him. She understands, but thinks I need to be patient with him because he had childhood trauma. 1-He’s not working on healing that. And 2-he is still passing it down to his family. This is why I have friends as my chosen family.
Good job, cut out the toxicity in your life even if it comes from parents
@@alexajones4872 💯
i totally relate to you, draw a red line and cut off the abuser, ESPECIALLY if it is a family member is the BEST thing, you can do, no regrets!
Beautifully put - I've never thought about it that way. He's not trying to be better - that's all you need to walk away. Well done.
@@DipityS Maybe one day. I’ll be ready with better boundaries then. Thank you 🙏🏼
Hang out with people with whom you disagree. It forces you to learn how to set aside differences and learn to take criticism. Great video.
My personal tactic is to just completely ignore the insult and just continue with the rest of the theme. Then just ghost the person infringing everyone and only respond to other peoples talking points. Just edge them out of the conversation.
Gray rock sort of approach. Works best with narcissists because they feed off of people's attention. Well done.
Love or hate Ben Shapiro, but "That was mildly inappropriate" is a legendary response to a physical threat.
He kept calling her Sir just to provoke her. It doesn't matter if you yourself think trans people don't exist but you should always be respectful towards the person you're debating. And if you know there's something that will hurt them personally you should cut it out "or you go home in an ambulance".
Her reaction was exactly what Shapiro wanted and telling her in that situation to laugh it off or even make self aware jokes only shows that people don't realise how incredibly hurtful deadnaming and misgendering is to trans people.
@@raulandrus The guy is a sir.
"if you could meet yourself you would hate it" perfect for certain people
I personally feel that if I concentrate on being honest and friendly then what others do or say is their problem not mine, mind you it did take 40 years for me to get there !
These videos are so great. Even if youre not shy or awkward in social situations, some of these tips could be used by anyone. The key is indeed to be self confident and a bit unbothered sometimes, some people just tease and insult you to get a reaction or to get you to say something inappropriate that could be taken out of context in the heat of the month
Getting over yourself is SUPER helpful. Owning your ‘weakness’ makes you look like a boss.
I think to an extent, but I do find it awkward when people just Eminem themselves for no reason.
The point is being proactive against bullying.
@@vickibazter3446 No one can ‘bully’ you when you own your weakness. Wear it like a badge of honor. You are no longer a victim to anyone’s cruelty when you’ve anticipated the dig.
@@joker6558That’s the point. That’s how you stop the bullying. You make the situation feel weird and uneasy. This makes the bully leave
@@SpiritualMotherExactly
I just ignore people when they insult me. I don't acknowledge it happened and it steals the satisfaction they thought they'd get from the insult while saving me the bother of processing it.
Fun fact: since i have become more confident and charasmatic in the past few years, thanks to this channel, i now get a few subtle jabs in the workplace from people who are senior management in my corporate job. Tbis video is extremely helpful because i can use these techniquest in casual and professional settings
Nice one! So far this is my favorite out of all the "How to Make a Rude Person Immediately Regret Insulting You" type series since it combines all the elements seen in each of them including hard and soft lines. One aspect I was hoping to see in any of these style type of videos, is to ask clarifying questions such as, "What do you mean?" in response to back handed compliments that would give the antagonist a chance to save face, but also let them know that you know they're up to something. Useful if you're in a professional setting such as work.
I don’t know why anyone would be around someone who insults them.
In places where you have no choice .Like work
Oh wow, you just insulted everyone here. I guess you've never been insulted.
Exactly Mario. Simply walk away. Everyone complains about being “bullied and insulted” when they don’t realize that the root of the problem is simply their ego. They could easily walk away from the situation but chose not to because their ego would be destroyed feeling as if they’ve “lost the war”. (That was a comparison, I don’t actually mean war)
"If you could ever meet yourself you would hate it." Theo's got a lot of great comebacks. He's great.
The most basic thing about charisma is being confident but that one of those things thats easier said than done. If you want to be the kind of person thats great at talking to folks you gotta work hard not only on your rhetoric but also on the topics you speak on
Responses to rude remarks is,
1. “It’s so nice to be acknowledged by my peers.”
2. “I defer to your experience (or expertise).”
3. “Would you repeat that louder?”
4. “Are you having a bad day? Do you need to talk to someone?”
Oh no.4😂😂😂
Tanking the insult and turning it on them is my favorite thing to do. Denies the reaction they want outta you and turns it on em
I've done something similar when people ask rude questions. "I heard you had a miscarriage, is that true?" Why do you want to know? "Do you hate me?" You think I hate you?
I’m 73..Recently decided to grow a beard (temporarily). An acquaintance feigned shock and tried to make it a joke in front of a friend. I paused and suggested he actually might benefit by covering up some of his face..
🤣🙌🏽
i dislike beards intensely
Im Conclusion:
1. Aikido Insult. Accept it and use it against them
2. Point out they are easy to dislike "e.g. if you could ever meet yourself you would hate it"
3. Trojan Horse Compliment
These three are likely to make enemies
4. Compliment the insult
5. Assume positive intent
6. Agree and exaggerate
7. Be nom reactive
8. Call out their behavior (not the person)
9. Just walk Away
10. Draw a boundary and walk away if it gets crossed
That Julian Asange moment was gold.
The people who need this the most are the ones who have been bullied, are shy, autistic etc... but they are the ones who are the least likely to benefit from this video. You have to be very comfortable around people to use these methods
What I really miss a lot from these kinds of videos, is the fact that although all of these work well in professional or cordial settings. There are a lot of bullying-like situations when this doesn't work. I come from a small remote village in the country side, and when someone roasts you, a lot of the time they are not trying to play a joke, they are genuinely trying to hurt you. Heck sometimes they even say it plain and out loud that they want to hurt you.
My problem with this videos is that the only advice when the other person is trying to genuinely be malicious is to walk away, but you do that in a small community that values strength and fighting and you are going to end up alone very fast. Very quickly you will run out of people that you have walked out on and can no longer see.
What might help is instead of reacting to what they say, asking them if they are not well in a worried tone and totally redirecting to them. That indicates that they must be (mentally) not well for behaving like that which is actually true and puts them of cause now they have to explain themselves :-)
Move to California
I love the variety of options that you have available so you can be flexible depending on the situation and context.
I feel like this is what happens naturally if you generally think positively of others but you are also confident enough in yourself that you have no problems cutting off people you don’t like from your life.
Silence is often a good tactic if youre not good on improv.
After it becomes awkward ask "are you done?".
Insult's comeback with an insult is a great tool for stopping people from insulting you again. It's likely that the first time you get insulted for something new, you won't have a comeback... but if someone insulted you once, they'll do it again and in a similar way. So you can prepare for the next chance and attack their insecurity through an insulting joke.
For example, there was this one japanese lady who twice tried to insult me based on skin color by saying, "hey! u are black even not from africa" (I'm from srilanka). The first time, I was taken aback but explained that ancestry, equatorial country, etc.. but of course she didn't get it.
The next time she said, "hey... why u so black?". (I was preparing for this moment LoL) I simply said, "the same reason why your eyes are so small." Everybody burst our laughing.
Should have seen the look on her face. She stopped insulting me.
😂😂 damn you got her good
I wouldn’t have stopped there being that her second insult was intentionally meant to upset you, I would’ve followed on from your excellent comeback of ‘same reason your eyes are so small’ with ‘ah, and that’s because your eyes represent the size of your brain heh!’...well handled by you 👏 👏 👏
Indeed, I agree that, with people who insult you, often the best approach is to return the same rudeness (great example, btw). I used to be easy to insult, because I hated conflict and couldn't fathom that some people would seek it out. One day, after I had thrown up in my middle school's hallway because my mother had insisted on sending me to school ill, an obese boy bullied me over it. I realized he was doing it because he figured I was too nice to point out the obvious, so I decided if he could hit low, so could I. I said, "I did it because I never want to wind up as fat as you." While it didn't quite have the clever zing that your comeback did, this boy did realize he had better leave me alone after that.
@lindahall2736 he didn’t need to continue, she stopped as soon as he said that
If you need to use these skills on a regular basis, you may just be hanging around with the wrong people.
Silence is the best way to make someone regret what they have done to you
sometimes they are so toxic or insecure they don't care and will keep trying to push your buttons. that's why leaving is oftentimes the best strategy. just find new friends / better ppl
And the stare usually does the trick
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That or a pike to the anus.
Exactly. And then hit them with that, "Why would you say that?"
Most of these mainly apply in the very specific scenario that you’re on camera. Doing these on the street or at the bar would likely result in a physical altercation.
Thank you so much!! That's what I needed. I've encountered some very rude people recently.
Please keep these type of videos coming
0:25 That Comback Is Legendary!
My favorite thing to do is overreact to small insults. For example someone will call me a dork and I'll say "excuse me, that is uncalled-for!" It usually gets a laugh.
Best moments
Insult comebacks
1:09 If you could ever meet yourself you would hate it
1:42 I am so used to bad jokes I almost did not listen to that
Strategy
1:54 Compliment the insult
A strategy I really like as you bring comedy into the conversation
3:19 Agree and exaggerate: get that b off the monitor
Be non-reactive
4:16 Show that they are not important enough. Hence Don Draper does not react.
Charisma have shown this idea in a previous mad men video.
Specific
04:43 that is so rude. This is better than saying you are so rude. You call out a specific behaviour.
Walk away
05:50 Jimmy Fallon comment on his guest. Just walk away.
Jimmy Fallon is such a clown
As I've said in a previous CoC video, if some drops a brilliantly funny burn on me, even if their intent was malicious I'll laugh because it's still funny. That lesbo cut burn was pure comedy gold.
I have been practicing these techniques for decades. They definitely work. Thanks making this video. It's powerful knowledge that all would be wise to utilize.
Theo Von is a master this.. it's a big part of his comedic style
British humour is so much more sarcastic and funny than anywhere else!
There's always the timeless, yo mama. It throws people off.
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I find this childish and insignificant, I also find people who respond with verbal abuse very childish and have very low communication skills, the respect goes way down after that
@@HUYI1 Yo Mama...
@@HUYI1 You must be fun at parties
@HUYI1 yeah true, just like yo mama
saying, that is rude, instead of you are rude, is something I am definitely going to use!
Please can I add one: I was in the canteen at work, about 10 people around the table, one guy is insulting and ragging me like crazy. So while I am thinking about what to say, I am saying nothing. Another man asked why am I not saying something back. So I said: "I am waiting for him to say something worthwhile" ...... " The laughter was nice and loud.... The guy insulting me shut up and just laughed slightly. BUT he never did it again.
That is pure gold. "If you could ever meet yourself, you would hate it"
That clip of Fallon was surprisingly good.
One thing that really works for me when someone cracks a joke at my expense is to first put on this exaggerated, defensive response, acting pathetic, whining (only works if it's really obviously exaggerated). After that, you laugh it off in mockery. It's actually kind of letting out your own insecurity and immaturity, giving it a voice, and then laughing it off as silliness. It helps you join the others in laughing and shows you have a sense of humor. It's great.
Perfect timing on this video! Yesterday I was insulted by a customer at work for no reason and I just pretended not to hear it but I wished I had said something to let them know they can't just get away with disrespecting people.
It wouldn't have mattered.
Some folks are just clueless.
"Did you mean to be so rude?" is a good call-out and gives them a chance to backtrack.
"Compliment the insult"
I dont think I can do that without coming across as way too sarcastic 😂
This video makes me wanna get insulted so that I can experiment but the people around me are not jerks damn
The irony lies in the fact that with friends, most of the time, one doesn't need all of these things; a simple glass of wine 🍷 suffices. However, with enemies, or more precisely, with mischievous individuals, one requires all those measures. This is because we live in a sophisticated society where resorting to violence 🔪 simply isn't an option for dealing with those who mock us.
Remember, most people have insulted others knowingly or unknowingly by accident at one time or another in life, it's those who make this a way of life who have a toxic personality and should be interacted with at arms length with caution. Every person has value and is made in the image of God, those who use insults as a regular part of communication may also be sociopathic, narcissistic, anti-social personality, etc. And insults covered with humor are still insults. Those who use them regularly rather than rarely aren't true friends.
Truuueeeee
Proverbs 26:18,19
There were a lot of clips visually depicting insults & reactions that I’d have loved to hear a few bits of audio on. Kinda frustrating for me but I did appreciate the points /explanations you did make.
I have a question. Someone insulted me and I didn't react but my friend defended me. That person insulted me again a few minutes later. This time I suddenly turned to her, raised my voice a bit and said in a really assertive tone "Ok calm down". How was my response?
I said,” what I would like to know, is how did you ever keep your real
Personality under wraps when you were dating people in the past?” This was met with a longggg pause 😂
The most outrageous thing i heard in the video: "Liu Kang from Street Fighter"!
oh my god! Finally someone points it out!
People have learned that when I go silent and/or just stare in response, they've said something inappropriate and/or they've gone too far.
Love that the video gets better as it goes on. Teaches us comebacks then goes into being the smart/bigger person in a conversation
The calm look of "lol what?"? Is an important one, like that seen at 4:20. There are many variations of that face you can try. The vital thing is not letting your face drop or react when the insult drops and just calmly shift to the face and hold it unwaveringly
Thanks for this, I watched the Australian Senate one with my mother and she was cheering the woman on, and I said it was sad because the men were clearly in the wrong and are in fact bullying her, so it sucked that she got sucked in by her anger at the situation and coming off worse for it.
Yeah I didn't agree with that being included in this list because he was being rude by mansplaining!
How was he rude by mansplaining? And she's not rude for condescending him and mansplaining his actions and intent to him?
@@bryanwoods3373 mansplaining in itself is rude. The word literally means men try to tell women about things women know much more about. Like dudes in parliament deciding over female bodies, mansplaining women how to menstruate or ovulate. It's LITERALLY the rudest thing ever.
@Xia-hu About as rude as using it as a cudgel to not have to listen to other opinions, including those of other women, because you've deemed yourself the arbiter of the issue by virtue of identity alone. Women mansplain all the time. It's just semantics to ascribe connotation to the same behavior.
Considering he was in front of a committee and desperately trying to distract from answering straight questions, Katie got done dirty in this compilation
I have confidence whenever uncomfortable words need to be spoken. But when it causes flareing responses and angry looks. I need to learn how to finesse the situation to have them actually listen and discuss.
Needed this. I usually deal with social anxiety and I went to this social event and discussed about a career goal I would love to pursue. I said as a joke I would love to pursue wrestling and this girl called me skinny out of the blue. Didn’t know how to react but felt very hurt by it. I guess next time I should react very differently. Practice makes perfect and im sure if I get myself in a similar situation I will be able to handle it with dignity and self respect.
I am a therapist and have helped clients with assertiveness, confidence and verbal self defence for over 25 years.
Always try to smile or chuckle in reponse to ridicule or a put down, however unexpected it is. Reply something like - 'Charming!' or 'Any more charming compliments?' If s/he repeats the insults try: 'What ARE you talking about?'
For a bigger put down try - ' Oh please...shut up?' or 'Ah shut up!' or 'Rubbish! ' or 'What absolute rubbish!' or 'Hey stop that - behave yourself!' (as if talking to a child).
If someone takes the Mickey I always smile and mock them back saying 'that's just pathetic' or 'that's childish' and if they or other laugh at you, keep smiling and say 'what ARE you talking about' or if the attack is worse say: 'little things please little minds' in a SING SONG way, and maybe repeat it if any more comments are made at your expense.
As a last resort say - 'Have you always been a moron?'
If it becomes a jokey name calling exchange make sure you have 4 or 5 ready memorised. (D^ck head/ar*e hole/moron/douchebag/sh^t face/b*tch/slimebag).Name calling in a jokey, high pitched, silly voice softens their rudeness if necessary. If you over do it apologise in a jokey way: 'Hey/oops, sorry that sounded bad'.
If in a group setting you are targeted by the same person again, say 'Oh not you again douchebag' or 'ah shut up douchebag' (or whatever name you called them before). If they attempt to bully you repeatedly at a social occasion call them by the name whenever you adress them, e.g. say 'Goodbye douchebag' when parting. If necessary say 'sorry I did not mean to offend you'
I spent much of my life trying to figure out how to increase my confidence. When I finally discovered the answer, it turned out to be much easier than I had expected. People hate how this sounds when I write it out, but the actual secret is simply to lose respect for everyone else. Let that pedestal you have everyone on drop, so that you finally accept that your opinions are smarter than theirs (in some cases, by quite a lot!). Trust me - this is how confident people naturally think, and when you've lost respect for everyone else, they will treat you better, because you clearly think highly of your own intellect, so they will assume you are suddenly smarter than you were when you gave their opinions too much respect.
@@Dawn737Nope. But you do you.
I started to make sure that 90% of the interviews are acting, they look perfect, and they always know what they say to sound funny and charismatic, and most of them are actors, so this supports my saying
And they always get the reaction they expect, which doesn't always happen in real life
And I do not like the idea of the channel by making all people with the same personality. Everyone should be charismatic in their own way, and they should not be aware of this artificial idealism. Charisma should not be in the abundance of friendships, but in the strength of the relationships, sometimes it is okay to have enemies.
This is great for toxic intimidating people, i useally go for the non responsive aproach, if they cross the line i do walk away from the confrontation to save grace, i don't have a great temper tolerance but i do know how to control it 😎😎
Hey! I REALLY enjoy these videos!! here’s some recommendations for things I need would love to see…
- how to escape the friend zone
- feminine traits to keep a man obsessed with you
- how to gain respect (feminine version)
I'm confused by the first one, are you asking how to get someone to date you if they don't want to date you?
sara, you can escape the friend zone by becoming physically fit and wearing very high quality clothing - along with great hair, a great face, a great sense of human, a brilliant mind, plenty of money, great dance moves, great singing, great athletic skills, a great job and great friends - that's how you escape the friend zone.
This is an excellent video!! I always had this problem (in high school, because I've learned since then to have better people around me :) ), but still you never know who you may need to confront in your life. I always had a problem in dealing with rude people.
Thank you for the video!
I've confounded many people by saying.."why, thank you for the compliment ", and walking away
..best way to shut someone up.
3:07 the roast is acceptable... but "liu kang from street fighter" has no forgiveness.
I'll never forget myself for not having noticed that mistake :o
Maybe that was on purpose. Maybe it's so bad that it looks like an off-brand version of Liu Kang.
Sometimes I just say, "well that wasn't very nice."
I don't really want to insult people back or one up them. I have enough self respect to not be bothered when others disrespect me. If it's a friendly roast or attempt at a roast, I'll play along though. May or may not hit em with a comeback.
This what I use ALL the time." You have me confused with someone who gives a damn." Say it quickly because the creep is slow and is trying to decipher the words.
Theo has the best comebacks 😂
This is like the basics of being funny, and now that I'm watching it explained to me in a video I'm worried I'm now overthinking it. Thanks video.
Liu Kang...FROM STREET FIGHTER he says! *gamer rage noises*
"Liu Kang from Streetfighter"
That made me unreasonably angry lmao
3:08 Yeah, Liu Kang was from Mortal Kombat. Make an insult from that.
"It helps to have a strong foundation in self-confidence...." if only I knew this in high school 😂
I really appreciate these videos, they might even give me confidence one day to meet new people.
Laughter is interesting strategy.
I use a saying for myself, 'it only hurts when I laugh'
Oh dear. Olivia hit Jake with some friendly fire, but gladly it only grazed him. That was really funny!
The example of 05:08 is exactly the other way around of how you presented it.
100% agree
If you watch enough of this channel, you’ll see a lot of "good triats" are demonstated in men, mostly powerful figures and celebrities.
as a side note, we are now 4 years deep into an unlawful arrest and imprisonment of Julian Assange...
I see Theo, I click. EZ
When somebody calls you a name, just chuckle and say "I'm the same" in a sort of agreeable resigned self deprecating way. It gives the impression that they called themselves the name, and you're trying to make them feel better.
Partly true. However, the problem with these comebacks is that they don't take into account someone's baseline trait neuroticism.
Some people are so hyper-stimulated by negative stimuli aka insults that they have no way of processing the negative stimuli/insult in a timely manner that would then allow for a relevant and timely response that would then work in their favor.
Insults are too overwhelming for people with these trait settings to overcome naturally. This includes those with mood regulation disorders, ADHD, Autism, Asperger's, anxiety, bipolar disorder and depression.
This represents about 21% of the population according to various studies.
This is very true. In some cases, role playing these scenarios with people you trust helps. It's essentially exposure therapy. Also discussing strategies and having some canned phrases like the one about meeting yourself. It's important to have at least one person in your life who will help you through these kinds of things, like a trusting partner, a close friend, or a therapist.
@@liptoncunningham6666 Role playing can help, unfortunately, the support system for something like this is most often short-lived except for very limited circumstances. This type of approach necessitates a lifetime commitment to the afflicted, and we often see support systems burn out from this level of commitment, unfortunately.
Medication is often the best long term solution.
Very interesting!
The amount of research these guys must have done to find something that Theo Von said that can be stolen for anyone to use in day to day life is a testament to their diligence.
The clip with Jimmy Fallon was so awkward 😅🙈
The best line I ever heard for an insult is, "excuse me, can you. repeat that?" Most people will not repeat the insult. I knew someone who would close their eyes during an insult. I would say, "can you open your eyes, I didn't hear you." That's shuts down everything.
I liked all of the examples except the mansplaining one. He was clearly bullying her
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Agree. This channel has a very obvious bias toward “confident masculine” behavior. When women are direct and call out misogyny, they are labeled difficult, or in the case of this video, the woman was accused of being insulting for standing up for herself in a male dominated profession. The man knew exactly what he was doing, and asked a bad faith question when he pretending not to know what “main-splaining” is.