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Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. And here I discuss my own personal experience living with narcissistic personality disorder. Including the symptoms and behaviors associated with this disorder, as well as how it has affected my life. I also share some of my coping strategies and how I have been able to manage the disorder, along with helping you understanding your loved ones and their behaviors that may seem almost incomprehensible and potentially hurtful. Hopefully, my channel will provide insight into what it's like to live with narcissistic personality disorder, as well as what it's like for your loved ones. Thank you for watching!
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@@echoeos8705 of course! And yeah, it’s so bizarre cause as I was reading it sad didn’t even come to mind. Just, logical haha
I recently had an insight that I think a key piece of the NPD condition is the inability to experience feeling truly safe with anyone
100% And if you can't feel safe with a therapist, how are you ever going to let true healing happen with them?
"The only way to make an ideal a reality is to sacrifice the ideal."
- Something we know and understand, but can never bring ourselves to do.
Whose the quote by Alastor?
@@AliciaM5555 Uhh... I don't remember.
@@AlastorTheNPDemon thanks anyway 😊
LMAO I felt this response haha
I like that. Wow.
I hate narcissists, but I love your videos. Your voice is soothing, and it makes me remember the goodness in a particular narcissist that was once in my life. Good luck with your healing. Be content. Contentment is the antidote to narcissism.
Maybe you have some inner work to do if you hate somebody because of a serious mental illness. With all due respect.
I don't even hate my ex, and he did more to intentionally hurt me than anyone I have ever known. I cannot imagine publicly proclaiming that I hate an entire group of people; it makes you sound Christian.
@@StreetcarDesire lol
The concept of emptiness is interesting to me because it seems like something you have to have felt the absence of to even understand it’s presence. Like if someone was born in the dark and raised in it, then light will be something they can’t tolerate nor desire once it’s finally shown to them. But a person born in light, raised in darkness, then shown light again will recognize it’s something they’re missing even if it’s hard for them to comprehend. It almost feels hopeful, like it’s something that you can grow accustomed to again because it was in you in the beginning.
Fuck.... you really gave me something to think about. I wish I had any insights to what you said
I guess that’s when you feel the absence. When babies it’s because of something, and it’s a baby’s form of communication. It’s crying for help. I guess you’re right. That’s when we first felt the absence. It usually happens within the first year. That’s the most important for your attachment style which affects layer issues that might evolve.
Yeah.. I feel like we're born/created from the Light (God, Love / A higher place), but then we enter a much darker dense world where we feel disconnected, alone & far from home.. And nothing will ever fill that void until we consciously seek to reconnect spiritually with our maker. Without seeking, receiving & having this higher love flow through us, we're reduced to nothing more than the constant hypervigilant B.S chatter of our lower natures futile attempts at control.
Fucking hell! That’s why I can never remain in therapy. It’s like I’m trying to show them that I know just as much as they do and that I know what’s wrong with me, in hopes it’ll impress them like, “damn, this guy is special. He’s so insightful and smart. He isn’t like any other person I’ve ever met. Maybe he ought to be MY therapist.” 😩 I can’t see a therapist for long because I think I’m better than they are.
The suicide note is also relatable because I’m picturing peoples reactions to it, but I can never commit because I have that berating voice telling me nobody will even care, they’ll just move on and forget me. I could only kill myself if I could die, witness peoples feelings and reactions and then resurrect to wipe their tears away lmfao
The real beauty is in staying, and fighting it out. To not allow the weight of your soul implode you.
@Brandon McAlpin, one thing I can say, for all the pathology and toxicity of narcissists, you guys definitely aren't stupid. The thing about you being smarter than the therapist? There's probably some truth to that, to be honest. Maybe even a lot of truth. I mean who better understands the disorder than a self-aware narcissist, right?
At the end of the day, I think you guys have the intelligence to basically be your own therapists, and work through the challenges in your own way. Talking to others is just sort of an additional source of information included in that process. And I'm willing to bet the most valuable and helpful information you've gained were probably from other self-aware narcissists like Nameless.
Ugh I felt this. It's hard, like we're treated like we're just overthinking and being dramatic and due to that we run circles around them. I can't count how many times I tried to bait a reaction just to be angry when they didn't pick up on it. Sorry therapists! Us narcissists aren't animals who can't self reflect!
That's because therapists expect you to tell them the truth so they can accurately diagnose you. But the problem is narcissists can't or won't tell the truth. So why are are pissed when they can't figure you out? Everything you guys do or say is an act. A game.
I think therapists believe they are better than narcissists. Some of the most arrogant assholes are in the mental health industry. Because they are licensed practitioners, they act like they know everything. They DON'T. NO ONE knows everything. I hate these posts who tell victims how to get revenge on narcissists, hie to make them suffer. What does that say about THEM,( the therapists!) ? Goddamn, folks. We all need to STOP IT.
Narcissist are extremely exhausting. Extremely confusing. Any contact with a narcissist is devastating. They always tell themselves and blame shift. Everything you’re guilty of is your fault. A perfectly healthy normal person ends up feeling insane. Victims are totally destroyed. Because they fall deeply in love with the narcissist, and then the narcissist tosses them to the curb like a broken toy. An object that was useful at one point, and suddenly no more victims life is changed forever.
Man talk therapy doesn't work. You guys need to do deep trauma therapy through Somatic Experiencing and the Polyvagal framework. I can't stress this enough. Talk therapy doesn't work. Psychoanalysis doesn't work. Behavioral therapies don't work. Awareness of your patterns doesn't work. You need to go deep into the earliest childhood trauma memories, that's where the problems lie but unfortunately, those memories are the hardest to access due to them being the most painful. It takes years of consistently weekly therapy but it HAS to be with a trauma therapist who knows how to gently, carefully, safely and ethically bring you in there. EMDR is a good place to start to deactivate the intense emotional charges which can help to get in there, but after that you need a proper trauma therapist to integrate those experiences and realign your nervous system.
Her description of him in bed was just so sad and depressing... If Narc's are so empty and unable to connect, then why do they put so much darnn effort into attempting to 'pick up'? Doesn't performing a basically 'fake' & empty approximation of sex, leave them feeling even more exposed by their partners comparison of them to the real thing?
They can fake having good sex and being intimate very well. Most are great lovers. They get a lot of supply from conquering their partner and knowing they excited and satisfied them.
Sending hugs, Here to learn yes but for company and i like your voice. I have learnt a lot from you so thanks and i like the realness of you not editing out things because it is more like a real conversation.
Aww thank you!
Nothing in the universe makes an individual feel no longer isolated, no longer alone, like experiencing your internal unspoken truth come from an external source. Jacob, as brutally honest or superficially self-aggrandizing as you come to your Channel video after video, week after week, baring your soul with a blood Eagle or fearlessly regaling your own beauty questioning your own perception. I am happy for you that you were gifted with this story that like lightning burned into your very soul. If you ever thought that your NPD diagnosis would forever distance you from other people, now you know. Experience trumps knowledge. I like to think that you are now part of a different special group… Among those people who have seen themselves and been changed by experiencing themselves through someone else.
And a man said, Speak to us of Self-Knowledge.
And he answered, saying:
Your hearts know in silence the secrets of the days and the nights.
But your ears thirst for the sound of your heart’s knowledge.
You would know in words that which you have always known in thought.
You would touch with your fingers the naked body of your dreams.
And it is well you should.
The hidden well-spring of your soul must needs rise and run murmuring to the sea;
And the treasure of your infinite depths would be revealed to your eyes.
But let there be no scales ot weigh your unknown treasure;
And seek not the depths of your knowledge with staff or sounding line.
For self is a sea boundless and measureless.
Say not, “I have found the truth,” but rather, “I have found a truth.”
Say not, "I have found the path of the soul.” Say rather, “I have met the soul walking upon my path.”
For the soul walks upon all paths.
The soul walks not upon a line, neither does it grow like a reed.
The soul unfolds itself, like a lotus of countless petals.
Kahlil Gibran 💖💖
@Jennifer K that was beautiful btw ☺☺
Wow thanks so much! Honestly I want to believe it so bad but it's weird. It's like every cell in my body fights the idea. But I am young relatively speaking, maybe one day I'll accept it.
Thank you again!
Ahh.. I feel this. Not to the same extremes but definitely relatable. The whole time you were reading this I was wondering why it sounded so familiar, then I remembered my first college professor read this to us. He was a big David Foster Wallace fan and thought he was one of the most talented writers. It is a good read but also incredibly sad. I feel for anyone who relates to this. At least you know you’re not alone.
Basically (correct me if I'm wrong) but neuro-typicals by default are spontaneous and authentic and reactive in their behaviors and interactions with others (interpersonal osmosis) and will only be more proactive or calculated to achieve certain or special goals. Whereas, narcs by default are proactive and calculated in their behaviors and interactions with others (interpersonal manipulation) And self-aware narcs who want to be authentic can't seem to because their massive and fragile egos make it very hard to be real and vulnerable and genuine, hence the mask.
Worse than that is they have no ego because they have sense of self or identity.
The fact that David Foster Wallace was such a widely respected and bestselling author may well show that narcissism isn't that special. An awful lot of people must relate. Shit, maybe we're average people after all.
There a few ppl who want to understand pathological NPD the way you present the internet is full of hurt people seeking healing answers and God knows what from these channels. They don’t understand they volunteered to stay and that there wounds are there own mental illness it’s a lot easier to have a villain than to accept they themselves need deep healing and it begins when you accept you have you’re own issues that need urgent addressing if you allowed a person NPD or not to abuse you a healthy person will not stay with an adult who is destroying them piece by piece .
What you said is partially true. However, there is something to be said for empathy, isn't there? Many people who stay with narcissists are genuinely empathetic people who try to make things work, and who try to see the good in their partners, rather than the bad. It's not like they always necessarily end up in abusive relationships due to some deep insecurity or "mental illness". And once they start to realize that something is horribly wrong, and that their partners are not what they appear to be, I mean yeah they're gonna be looking for answers somewhere.
I think the number one thing that most ex-partners of narcissists struggle to wrap their heads around, is the idea that their partners GENUINELY wanted to hurt them. This is something that is almost unfathomable to an empath, for example. When my ex-partner abused me, my go-to rationalization for it was always "she doesn't really mean it", or "it's basically just a cry for help, and I should help her" etc. It literally took me forever to realize the truth - she did, in fact, genuinely want to hurt me. Her hatred and vindictiveness was 100% real, and as far as she was concerned, we were basically enemies who were at war with each other.
So what does this mean, exactly? You seem to be saying that the non-narcissist bears some responsibility for this (basically victim-blaming). I don't completely agree with that, to be honest. I will admit that I was incredibly naive, and truly didn't understand the disorder or the evil that it was capable of. But my behaviour does not reveal a "mental illness" on my part. At the end of the day, she was still the one with the disorder, not me.
It's true. I feel like so many of those channels are so predatory. Exploiting hurt and keeping them reeled in my breeding hate. What else is there to do in those situations? It's genuinely sad. And some of those people need to sort out their own shit. But oh well. Hopefully I beat them out lol Thanks for the comment!
Sooooo true. I hope people who are in ignorance see this message when they're ready
@@carlruppert7324 are you a narc?
@@Ranchladytmd No I'm not. Why do you ask?
BPD is the only match for NPD or ASPD imo. Lashing out and spewing all the things you know about that person bc you know how they operate just as well as they know you. I totally get saying the most damaging and real things, burning bridges so there is no opportunity of getting back to the relationship. And yet, there is a sense that nothing will ever seem as real or truthful as that relationship was. Bc you saw each other's emptiness.
I like focusing on the treatment rather than the awareness. It's only information. What we do after we know what's going on is the true cure. And I think it's much harder to get over NPD, first of all because our society promotes it, and second of all because I'm not sure they know how to love themselves or others in a real way. I don't know if anything goes beyond image or how things look to others. I as a BPD feel so strongly. I feel so genuinely about things. To a fault. I care. I don't know if someone with NPD will be able to learn how to truly care. And think beyond themselves.
For my own narcissistic tendencies, seeking external validation and getting that Self-esteem juice, my cure was realizing my own worth. No need for others approval.
Does your mind function like one long continuous run on thought like this short story? This story is anxiousness in word form. Fear and anxiousness. That’s what I get from it. Would it be safe to say you function from a place of fear and anxiousness? Sorry for the pointed questions but I am genuinely curious. I feel like I waffle in and out of the kind of thinking in this book but I never stay in it anymore- somehow I’ve trained myself out of it for the most part. I suspect I was on the narc path early on and then... something changed me. Trying to pinpoint what that was
Yes, it doesn't end. I find it so foreign that most people don't always think like that... Thanks for sharing!!
@@Thenamelessnarcissist do you think that childhood trauma might have caused your neurological connections to stay connected in certain places where they would have naturally broken (as is what happens when we become an adult) and this is what causes the way you think? Like this could TRULY be physiological and if that’s the case we need to stop villianizing people with your presentation and start understanding the effects of childhood trauma a lot better. Do you think if people just treated you better you could change your brain? Instead of always having negativity barraging you, if people showed kindness and understanding (with boundaries of course) you could eventually get your brain to reform? I know I’ve done this a couple of times with a phobia I got rid of as well as a burgeoning PD that died. Also thank you for responding to me. Like I really appreciate your awareness and generosity. This is rare for narcs ❤️
@@GemmaCraft I'll be honest from anecdote and everything I've read and listened to these people fundamentally are incapable of real change no matter what happens in their lives. You can't "teach" empathy to a sociopath or narcissist it's not possible. Even if you torture them it just won't work! Trust me I'm not lying about this! Alot of our kind (Cluster B) avoid your kind (Empaths) for good reasons. Take solace that most bad people in the US end up in jail eventually or punished in some way shape or form but lemme break it down for you. An BPD looks at an Empath as predictable insipid and subhuman trash. An NPD is obsessed with themselves and power & control over others and total dominance over a social setting and will tell you (Empaths) anything they want to hear to get what they want. Neither cares about you whatsoever tbh but an NPD will at least lie to you to make you "feel" good.
@@GemmaCraft 100% agree with you Gemma. The problem with narcissists is that their brain never turns off, they're always thinking. They literally live in their head completely dissociated from reality. So they go to talk therapy which engages the thinking mind and because their grandiosity influences them to think they know more than a therapist and more about their own problems, they think they run mental circles around the therapist but they're just playing more mind games, with the therapist and with themselves moreso. It's a trauma response. It's a protection mechanism to avoid letting anyone get close to their core internal wounds, which is really where they need to go to heal. Problem is, earliest memories are non-verbal. If you can't get the narcissist out of his own mind, you can't go to the non-verbal memories. Herein lies the problem. They also don't trust anyone. If you can't trust a therapist, you're not going to let them heal you. It took me 8 months of talking pure shite to my therapist before my mind started to give way and my nervous system registered, finally, that the therapist was someone I could trust. Then we started to go deeper, do Somatic Experiencing work and get into the body to FEEL what was happening that the mind was trying to block out. I don't have NPD but I do have a significant amount of early trauma, not too mentioned being raised by a narcissist, so although it took me 8 months to START letting my guard down, it might take much longer for a narcissist. And they might never let their guard down. The trauma is big, so early and so deep it's just too painful to get in there and their protection mechanisms are too strong. But all this talk about being smarter than the therapist, it's a delusion. It's protection. It's avoidance. It's game playing. It's actually running mental circles around yourself. I feel so sorry for them. Even the way he only replies to the comments that give him supply, boost his ego, reconfirm his delusions, don't make him reflect too deeply, and ignores the ones that speak some truth and suggest how he could actually change and heal. He'll tell himself some convenient story about how those comments aren't relevant to him. Avoidance. Running away. That's the trauma response, the protective mechanism in action. We think the mind games they play with us are bad, the mind games they play with themselves are the worst.
I appreciate your videos so much because it shines a light not only on what a NPD person is experiencing but also how a neurotypical or slightly neurodivergent such as myself (ADHD/Bipolar) yes fun stuff but can understand a NPD person better. I don't think being critical and judgement is the answer and I'm not saying that to kiss ass I'm saying it because it's the truth I think actually listening and understanding and evaluating is the answer!. I'm seeking mental health services as I'm learning myself and why that means. I want to coexist as best I can that means allowing the cluster b personaliries to have a voice bc it matters just as much. . However wrong is wrong and I hold no empathy towards a person who chooses to wrong others despite knowing the consequences.
I know a narc he's in the same boat he knows he's one and yet he dosent like it that i can see throw his masks. I literally can see right in to him and he gets really up set but at the same time he loves it. I told him to watch your vids to help him feel less alone but he just go so mad at me now dosent want talk to me. I'm a empath so i can feel all his moods and know what's wrong before even he knows. yet he treats me like trash. i'm so exhausted
You need to set boundaries.
Wow, thanks for sharing. Fascinating. Shame it is so utterly sad.
I’m trying to work out if my ex was like this.. he wasn’t a straight forward narc though, he flipped into narc rage at the slightest twinge of shame, or if I tried a gentle boundary but the rest of the time he exhibited more Bpd traits- very warm and emotional, up and down, compulsive, anxious disorganised attachment rather than avoidant. He might have been the best actor ever but he only exhibited grandiosity minimally.. However at the beginning of the relationship he had a weird turn one night and told me he was a psychopath.. a week later he said he was the most dangerous man I could know (which actually does sound grandiose now lol), I didn’t take these warnings as seriously as I ought to at the time because I could see how much he loved his daughter, and how emotional he was, so it seemed like he was exaggerating. Later in the relationship he revealed that he felt empty and like everything he said was manipulative on some level, that he couldn’t trust himself at all, that his personality was a dead corpse he’d been dragging around for years. Very confusing though because he could also be genuinely supportive, very affectionate, so I’m left wondering just how fake was he?! 🙈 I honestly felt more loved by him than all of my previous boyfriends! Which would fit the Bpd thing. He was super emotionally available most of the time, and a great listener. I guess maybe he was just Bpd so extreme that he was on the psychopathic end of it, which would explain the listening and the absence of less sophisticated giveaways like blatant grandiosity or casual put downs. He would save his scathing character assassination and reality warping devaluation for when he was triggered, and it was then that the sadism came out, the deliberate attempts to dismantle my self esteem and bring me down to the level that I presume he felt he was at, underneath it all. I thought he might be Bpd with comorbid narc traits?
So what do you think? Do you think with this evidence it probably means he was more fake than I realised? Or just a really messy extreme borderline? Ie- the emotions were real but he was just so scared of abandonment and shame that it sent him a bit loopy? Can it be both?? I feel like it would help me understand and move on if I knew, because at the moment I’m left with a huge question mark. I’ve been trying to grieve it for 9 months and I stupidly still miss him a lot because of the good stuff. When he wasn’t in the upside down, he was my best friend, and we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. He was working on healing his issues, but it was just a mega task and I was getting too done in. I need my brain to wake the f up. Any insight from Bpd sufferers with narc traits, I’m very interested in hearing what you have to say! Thanks.
Interested in any Narc perspectives too !
Thank you for sharing this letter. I’m an Empath trying to understand and relate to a friend and other narcissists in my life and family. My priority is to do no harm. You are a great help with that. Thank you Again
I’m glad it helped!!! I hope things work out for you! Thanks for the comment!
I watched him for years out the window in the neighborhood. I didn’t know he was watching me . I liked everything I saw good and bad. I liked everything he expressed good and bad. Even now, the thought of him gives me life. I wish I could give him the same. I wish I could have been able to put up with the bullshyt. But I couldn’t and I didn’t. What good is this pride when I just miss him so much.
I really, really wonder if DFW had NPD. It crossed my mind once before and I thought it was preposterous but now I wonder if it was a flash of intuition.
SAME I wanna read more of this works. It was so spot on, evidently it was about one of his classmates but like, it was so accurate
Omg I bet you would both love “The Depressed Person” by DFW would love to hear your take Nameless!
I see the exhaustion you feel from feeling your thoughts. Before I began to listen to you just now, I already knew you. I’ve dated “you” for ten years. If you believe that nobody will ever “truly see you for who you are,” then you are wrong. Most people see you just fine. You do not see yourself. If you want people to see just who you are, why not share those parts? Why not make a video, look straight into the camera, speak confidently, and say “THIS is who I AM.” Most people want to understand the narcissist or revenge on them…why? Being a narcissist is like being a small baby bird who fell out of nest during a storm, far away from mama. This bird flocks in the water with wet wings, it shivers, and hides. It starves. It cries out for mama. It’s not the bird’s fault it fell out of a nest, it was the storm. But, the little bird blames itself forever…
Jacob, I feel you. I may not ever know what happiness is but I can assure you you can find peace. That is my wish for you. Take a long deep breath.....feel the moment. Feel your body. B R E A T H E 💖💖
🧘🏻 mindfulness is the way to go. It truly helps a lot - and this goes for everyone, not just for narcissists.
Thanks so much! I hope I can. Shit is stressful haha. We'll see though!
The only actual question I have is:
If you and other narcissists live with a false sense of identity, presented outwards as an act, why do you still want to relate to people?
Would it not be better to follow the path of a psychopaths and to try and let go of any remaining humanity.
Why do you want to go down the path of wanting to be understood?
Why do you want to heal, what´s the benefit for you?
His soul is heavy.
He wants relief so badly.
Be kind!!!!!
You have a good point.
Nobody chose to be who they are.
It´s up to us to try and help them.
Hey I can’t help but notice your background. Are you very good with maps and with your sense of direction? I’ve noticed a trend with narcissists that I’ve met being exceptional drivers and very good with directions
I’m horrible at directions but I love maps 😂
Gaining some seriously scary perspective and getting real life feels=reading DFW
I know right???
I know I'm commenting again, but I just found out there was a movie about this guy called The End of the Tour if you're interested. I haven't seen it, but thought that was interesting.
I’ll check it out!! (Don’t feel bad about multiple comments lol)
It's pretty good, but his books are just amazing. I wish he was still around.
This idea of the unreliable narrator rings so strongly for me. My experience of life is not through the front-seat. I experience my life solely through how it is being explained to me by the unreliable narrator - myself. I can't trust a single thought I have.
Its good to know there is someone out there that shares your point of view
You got me very curious about this author. I listened to the full story on UA-cam. It sounds like he has a book called "infinite jest" I think. It sounded like it might be kind of narcissistic too, but I don't really know anything about it so I could be wrong. Very cool tho. It sounds like he's put on paper what you've described in your videos.
Honestly I'm not sure. Apparently it was about a classmate of his but... there's no way he could enter someone's headspace like that. And I agree 100% I wish I had that writing ability
The thing is that I am trying to figure out my STBX wife. I can help her unless she realises she needs help. She's 68 going on 69, which has me guessing that getting help is unlikely. So, she will end her life as the senior citizen narcissist.
I'm glad that you found a soulmate 😀
OMG ALL THE SAME LIKE EVERY FUCKING THING the reason I still feel so strongly for the ex. This is only making my fear more believable if he can’t become a celebrity he will commit suicide.
Trauma bond & intermittent reinforcement, ultimately just don’t leave the room.😢
Hello! Grwt videos by the way and greetings from Germany.
My question for you would be: Do you really believe your own lies when for example stating that your ex girlfriend cheated or so (smear campaign) and if so. Do you ever (when time passes) understand that you were lying to yourself and feel regret discarding her.
Yes, I am taking about regret cause you already mentioned that you almost never felt 'remorse".
Thank you!
Thanks for the comment! And... depends, usually the untrue things are said in my justification. I always say that it's better to use the truth instrumentally than to lie. My main delusion is that they deserved it
What is the name of the book you mentioned in this video?
whenever I watch your videos I adopt the way you speak
HAHA that's flattering!
So what have you heard from various girlfriends about your treatment of them? I'm now wondering what my ex may have heard from his previous exes?
I am also very curious
Mainly I was a void that couldn't be filled, I was cold, couldn't trust love, and was so inattentive I made them feel small and embarrassed at all moments. They said it felt like I peered into their soul but the walls around mine were too think. Not great things to hear haha
@@Thenamelessnarcissist oh thank you for sharing. I told my ex I couldn't trust him, he didn't make me feel safe in the relationship, and that I believe he's a narcissist. Also that he hurt me, and he neglected my needs for his wants. Mind you I said many nice things until I got to this point. Did you ever hear anything like what I said?
@@Thenamelessnarcissist oh and I always felt that I as a person was more than enough but he didn't seem to think I was good enough for him, and that he always was looking for someone else.
This is what makes me realise that i am not a narcissist though i don't hav deep emotions.
Awesome video, keep in’ it real 👩🏼👍🏼🤗🍁👋🏼
It continues to amaze me how you, as a narcissist, often display behaviour on your channel that is decidedly NOT narcissistic.
I mean you literally had the balls to say "don't even watch my videos anymore, just read this", and I'm left wondering what UA-camr in their right mind would willingly put their own channel on the line like that? If anything, I would've expected you to keep the writing hidden and secretly use it for your video ideas, hoping to god that none of your viewers stumble across the original source to expose you as a plagiarist 😅
But you literally did the exact opposite of that. Your first reaction, after discovering this piece of information, was basically "to hell with my channel, I gotta share this". You don't seem to be concerned that someone else was able to, potentially, communicate narcissism more eloquently than you. In fact, it doesn't even seem to have been a factor at all - at least not to the extent to have stopped you from sharing it.
I think what you've proven here is that there is another drive in you that supercedes your narcissitic drive for self-esteem juice. And I'm really being dead serious when I say that. What that drive is, I'm not entirely sure of. But I think it probably has to do with the pursuit of truth, either pursuing truth or revealing it etc. I genuinely believe this might be one of the few (if not the ONLY) things more important to you than self-esteem juice!
So IDK if you noticed but I made a video response to this LMAO I hope you like it!
Why is this, like, one of the cUtEsT comments I’ve seen (your last one to Carl here)💞😂?! @TheNamelessNarcissist
Because they are great actors
@@aselyne5631 we're all actors of life.
@@sunbeam9222 Speak for yourself
This was good.. But why did he fell that being fake is necessarily bad? Why he isn't proud of it? Sure, it is a bit sad (just a little bit) but isn't fatness an essence of life here? So if you are fake, it means you cracked the code. I tend to think people are fake generally, the difference is you know it and they don't. They still think it's *real*.
@thelaziestbee, it has to do with people's sense of self, a concept that is quite fascinating in psychology as a whole, and not just with NPD. Having a strong sense of self means that you genuinely see yourself as an individual person with specific traits and characteristics. You instinctively feel like you have a real identity, and that identity is, in almost every way, who you are as a person at your core. The feeling of fakeness that you describe indicates the opposite, a weak sense of self - basically feeling like you're not actually a person, and you don't really have an identity. Despite what you may think, not everyone feels this way. Really, I swear I'm not just making this up, you can research it yourself if you like. There's even a neurological basis for this stuff as well. Very, very interesting!
@@carlruppert7324 if I may add, feeling fake is the reason that person is constantly in need of approval and validation from others. Healthy identity has that inside of Self and doesn't need others.
@@carlruppert7324 I See. Also it can be seen as spiritually fake, as Self comes form experiences that is socially programmed. It's way too malleable. There also are layers of identities, and with time we can *cherry pick* them depending on what we choose to develop / identify with. Ultimately we can identify with almost everything and nothing in the same time. It's a paradox )
For me it's a mixed bag, like there's a pride in being able to do that, and a power, but it's also a distressing disconnect from people. IDK it's weird. it used to not be like that
"I tend to think people are fake generally, the difference is you know it and they don't."
I told myself that all the time for so long, I thought I was just more self aware than everyone. I'm not sure now though
I’m not sure if you said in the video but what story is this? Would love to read it
Shame kicks down the narcissistic ladder. Blame punches up it.
Thank u for sharing.
People with NPD I want them out of my life. Because they are a pain and impossible to deal with. But i have a brother that is a narcisistic and an unaware one which is even worse. I couldn't deal with him anymore and i cut all communication. It is sad but i what else i can do
The friend I love, whom I have just realised is has narcissist tendencies, has a 'logical brain', he says. It never switches off. Also, he had a traumatic incident in Africa years' ago and it's stopped him sleeping properly since - like his body is in fight or flight response. I would so love to help him, but he wouldn't agree he has narcissistic tendencies.
Where can i find this on script?
Duh sorry I was having a moment of duh.
LOL This was hilarious
@@Thenamelessnarcissist Yeah this doesn’t happen often though. 😂
Do you have new video else where?
This has nothing to do with this I just have to point out you look like Zac Star
Whoever wrote that sounds so much like my ex!
Tell me how to recognize this so I can stay as far away as possible from these types of people
You sound al robotic
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Your tone is so flat, almost monotone. Which I guess I could deal with, but combining it with that crazy fast speech is just overboard.
at least let the automated captions open for us non native English-speaking people. The way you read is incomprehensible.
Uh they are on. No reason to be rude. It takes a few hours for them to generate
@@Thenamelessnarcissist I didn't know that and I was frustrated because I wanted to understand what you were reading but it was too quick and almost without pauses at times. Sorry for being rude, I guess I projected on you some of my own issues as at that time in my mind you were a representative of all narcissists I've met.
Totally on me, and even though it is something so small, thanks for replying to me so that I can work some more on my trauma.
@@inkynebula no worries! Thank you for understanding!
@@kfkkfk7995 take us easy 😉 you are not a clinical measure for us, not native speakers (if YOU can understand - everyone should) . It was a bit harder (then other videos) because he was reading, the best way for me was to read a text too following his voice. It was not a critic, just sharing own difficulty. Be nice if you can and whenever you can, life is much happier for everyone with a little effort. 😘
@@inkynebula you weren't rude my dear, stop apologize for something you didn't done if you want to heal. Be more narcissistic 😉
I wish you would talk slower
yup foreigners here -> Europe 😅😅😅😋