Listen people, do you. You will not find the answers online! Only my real experience... yes give them space and yes no texting, begging or anything along those lines, take time-out but do not worry about any timeline, maybe 3 or 4 weeks is enough, if they don't contact you then, they will but ONLY if you are meant to be, they feel the urge as you do. No timeline, just genuine vibes. If it's meant to be, it will happen. Have faith in your own journey.
This is actually a natural process of moving on from your ex and raising your own standards. The step 5 being there or “friend-zoning yourself” just becomes a natural step when you decide that you have enough respect for yourself to not settle for less than you deserve and your ex then has to level up if they want to be a part of your experience. Sounds like manipulation at first but it’s actually just you raising your own standards and not being willing to compete with anyone or willing to settle for the same bullshit you used to. If you are here, give yourselves time. Focus on your own expansion.
I would not recommend anyone to become morally spineless for anything, never mind for the sake of regaining an ex who has dumped you for someone else. As painful as it is imagining them with someone else, the other person they are with also has feelings and chances are the old flame and the new are both being wronged by someone who is acting out of profound attachment trauma.
My gf broke up with me 3 weeks ago. She said she will treasure me even if were off. She said she will not unfriend me Or block me. But all of a sudden she did block me and dont want to talk to me anymore. She even mentioned that i have to move on and she dont want to see me anymore.
Need help quick...went no contact and 2 and a half month later she came bacc and for 7days she tried to get my attention and showed me vulnerability...Like an idiot I kinda pushed her away when I now realize that it was clear she wanted me to tell her that we where getting back together but I didn't and now she found a rebound...I pushed her into is harm and it's killing me inside so NOW WHAT!? Do I go no contact onother 2month and let the honey moon pass even tho she's only been with 8m for 9days and she wanted me back rmtwo weeks ago??? Her birthday is this Sunday the 13 do I use that occasion to write her a msg asking to be just friends so I can start trying the "being there method" right away???
Yeah I try that and everytime I was looking happy in social media a fake account that looked like his new girl was leaving me mean comments telling me he never loved me and now theyre engaged so...
The way he told me that he doesn’t want anything to do with me makes me wonder if he will ever Facebook creep he seems angry with me right now even though I haven’t seen him since October 1and and then I saw him on 17 September before that before that
I have been in no contact for about 30 days and initially I was thinking I would do 45 but now I'm thinking that it won't be long enough bc I don't want to break NC until I feel ready so I'm thinking 60- 70 days now, is that too long to wait? For some background, the relationship was almost 1.5 years and was really passionate/ loving (we often talked about marriage and our future) but ended badly and quickly and he jumped right into a new relationship.
Hi Elizabeth, so if he is in a new relationship you should do 45 NC and then reach out following the being there method information. This is also going to be your first text, where you ask for advice or tell him something that you know he would be interested in talking about. I would not recommend going over the 60 days of NC
Self worth, pls dont chase. Give him freedome instead. A man shld realize our worth. In the 45NC right now but, im on the 70-30% if ever i will get back to him in case he message me or otherwise. It is indeed difficult to recover. However, during the 45days and he hve not reaized my worth. Maybe its time to really let go. I can live without him. I will better myself than waiting for the wrong man.
My ex told me how I'm more the queit one and she more the talkative one and he told me that she told him that she love him and he said that he didn't tell her that he love her back and he said he's trying not to say that to quick meaning he's trying not rush into saying it to her and last week he's started to saying hurtful things to me after sending him a video based on a girl dumps her boyfriend for being short so he ask me why I did I send him that and I said for him to watch it he said theres a reason why I him send this so I told him theres no reason and I said they just acting as couples and they're not a real couple and he said he's not upset and he said the reason why I send this because how I think that he left me and he said to leave him alone and to go and sleep and keep saying leave him alone and I said gn and told him sorry for upsettinh u so he got angry texted me how I'm needy and I like attention and he told me to shut up and block him and he said how talk bad about him behknd his back but I didn't he said that them does come back and tell him everything I said and he said if he got heart broken by a girl would still never run back to me and he said I'm nothing to him and I told him that all guys are the same so after I texted him I got upset and I started to cry and he said sorry and I told him to leave me alone and u don't mean it anf he said he really doesn't care and I told him to leave me alone with angry emojies I'm still mad at him I forgive him but I don't forget the things he said I started the 45 day no contact rule since last week if he reach out I would ignore his ass and pretend like I don't and not interested to answer his dumb ass text
Hey Chris ! What happens if you have kids in between , how do I do NC ? We were together for 10 years and he broke up in September but kept talking and he made it seem he wanted to fix things with me until October, and than BAM , he got a new girlfriend. I was heartbroken
You follow something called the Limited No Contact rule, and watch some of my videos about the being there video. Dont forget to check out my website with the articles on how to do Limited NC when you have children together
Hey ....i need ur help....My ex and i dated for a year and we brock up 4 months ago...right after a month later he Starts a new relationship wid a girl who gave him so..much attention...which i never gave him...and i guess they already had breakup jst a month ago .... N now he is in so much....pain....for his recently breakup.... And the main fact is that.... I can't bear the pain that he fallen in love with someone else too fast....n he feels too deeply hurt for his recent gf...but not in mine breakup ...😥.....what should i do now?
Me and my ex fiancé was living together for 3 years we broke up on the last day of June, 3 weeks later I went back to pick up the rest of my stuff because every time he see it reminded him of me. When I saw him he had a lot of hickeys on his neck, he lied and said that he just met the girl in the party and they just started to mess around. We got into argument because I got that upset and he was telling me to hold on hope because nothing serious that he was having fun. Two days later we saw each other again and he said the same thing to hold hope because you never know what’s gonna happen in the future and he doesn’t wanna lose my friendship and that it’s nothing serious between him and her. He also kept telling me he want Space, they just messing around. On August 13 we saw each other and we talked he said that he misses around with her. We talked about us.I told him if he start dating her or like her I’m going to cut him off my life because my heart can’t take it. But he got upset because he says that if I cut him out of his life and if he does date her and if he does like her and if he knew him and her doesn’t work out how can he know I’m the love of his life if I’m not around. That day he also told me the things that he was missing about me the things that we used to do and that he missed he kept telling me to still hold on hold because you never know what’s gonna happen in the future you know that they need to kiss a few times he hugged me he was saying that there’s certain things that he doesn’t do with her that he did with me he told me that when he holds his driving with her it doesn’t feel the same and doesn’t feel right and when we did it that day he felt like it was right it was comfortable and all that. By ending of August I had a feeling that the girl that he was messing is with a girl that he was working with. A few times I text and told him I miss him I wanted to be with him and he would never respond back to me and he kept ignoring me after a while he wouldn’t wanna talk to me like that anymore, so one day I text him and I told him that I know is the girl that he works there he never responded back. Fast forward to now I asked him to hang out as friends and he told me the next day the next day came and he told me that he couldn’t so I asked him for later in the night when I come out of work he never responded so I text him and said that I guess I’m not that important to him anymore and that the other girl is more important and I’m never good enough for him he never text me back a few hours later he blocked me on Facebook. I went crazy went to his house and I saw them together I found out the whole truth and he told me that he blocked me because she felt uncomfortable that she had me and what’s the point of having me and we broke up. and that they are dating and that they are seeing each other and that she’s been sleeping over over the weekend and the past month she’s been sleeping over here in there as well during the weekday so they are seeing each other every day and he blocked me because he felt uncomfortable so I’m starting to think that she’s making him Get rid of me because he told me on August 13 he told me the calendar that we had in the house and the room Broke and in my calendar I will I will always love you. So I’m starting to think that she was threatened by me, because yesterday I saw his mom and he send me the last few things and I’m there was a green shirt that he kept because he say he wanted something of me and now he gave it back. I told him I’m cutting him off my life so I blocked him and deleted him off of my phone. I did back him back last week when saw him in person with her, I did disrespect to her and called her bad names in front of her and he told me to not disrespect her we argue and he just became cold he to say he want to space, he told me that he see himself with her and he wants to be with her right now and then he said you never know what could happen in the future but right now he wants to be with her she’s been sleeping over on the weekend and he told the truth that in August and in July she will sleep throughout the weekdays. he still wants me to text him but I told him no. What do I do now? Is she’s really a rebound girl or he just really wants to be with her? Should I just let everything go and move on?
Hey Letty, when exes move on really fast after a breakup it is typically a rebound, follow the program, do a NC work on yourself and let him see how great you are through social media.
We still share the same group of friends so if there are gatherings, would it count as breaking the NC if, for example, he sees me at the party but we dont interact or talk at all?
Hey Hanna, as long as you do not argue, have an emotional conversation, or have a sexident then you have no broken no contact. You are able to say hello politely and then remove yourself from his company as much as you can.
I was being there.. But I dont know if we will communicate again. Maybe he is loyal to that someone he left me for. He compared us. and he said I am better.. But he still continue to chat with her.
If you are doing the being there method then you are going to have to try and work up the value chain where you are getting meet ups with your ex and he starts investing more time into you
It has been 3 months since we broke up...my ex bf used to insult me for my looks..And then i came to know he is in rebound relationship..He didn't contact me he loves her new girlfriend so much that he even dosn't remember our moments..It is strange i tried everything still he didn't contact may b he never want to come
Would your program work even if I was dating the guy for two months? He has been divorced for two years, told me that while he was in love with his ex wife he is happy it is happening with me and disucessed kids and marriage and all of that. We were going to love in together and he was going to come on vacation with me in a few months time for my bday. He told me he only wanted me and now he tells me he thinks it was just lust and that he has found someone better. It has been 9 days of no contact and he hasn’t messaged. Will I ever have a chance? I got above average on your website
It certainly has the potential of working, though I do agree that two months is not a long time from which to have build a solid foundation. So I would stick with you NC and focus on your own healing and recovery
We were in no contact for three weeks, he finally called me this morning and admitted there was someone else. They had been talking for a little over a month and we were “together” for a really passionate weekend three weeks ago (aka while he was talking to the other woman). Where do I begin now???
I texted him a couple of hours after he called, thanked him for the call and that I could move on. I told him I will always be there for him and his boys, take away only the good and wished him the best of luck. He replied about the same, I didn’t answer. He texted me later to tell me he closed on selling his old house and all of the great memories he has with that house because of me. He thanked me for being me. I just replied with high good moments I will remember from his old house and thanked him for being him as well. He heart reacted the message. Just staying calm and try to gain the power of nostalgia. We will see what happens.
Hi, Cris, I hope you see this. I was in a 2 and a half years relationship and there was a lot of fighting, first, he wanted space so we were on a break(9 months ago) then we got together but eventually broke up(5 months ago), so we were casually seeing each other after that, we texted and saw each other but not that often, we saw each other two times and we texted once in a week. The last time we saw each other, it passed a month ago, and texted 2 days before he got into a relationship with her. so my question is- I am not sure if this girl is even a rebound because it did pass a lot of time since our break up and should I move on and do I even stand a chance? I still really care about him. What should I do?
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Are rebound rs also possible after a short term relationship like 3 months?? He started dating his old friend 3 days after dumping me. Both where fresh single. Early December..they are on Egypt for vacations now.... But they haven't worked yet.. He get stressed easily n obviously he is now on clouds.. But I am sure this gonna change He is anxious n avoidant.. Can't talk about problems well n started distance after getting emotional close after time..He used to be very emotional for 1,5 months n than after I started falling for him, he got distance.. N always after emotional moments (he got a lot of problems), after we used to be sweet.he started to search for trouble like he sabotaged..
Hey Caldia, often people who jump from relationship to relationship cant deal with being alone, they dont do well with facing their emotions, feeling alone or lonely so they jump straight to a new relationship even after short ones. Just know that it could be a string of rebounds as he does not commit properly
Okay but what if your Ex blocked you on everything for text bombing every social media they have about the rebound because it freaked you out and how devastated you were? What then?
Sadly nothing, don't try and get around the block.. you have to leave it alone and if they get curious enough to what you've been up to they will unblock you on social media to peek at your progress on how well you're doing without them. Give them something positive to look at and look like you're doing fine without them.. if that day ever comes. But actually put in the work and it won't matter to you anymore anyway.
The point is is that he doesn’t have any pictures of him in this new girl and this other girl doesn’t have any pictures of him and her together and I think it this point he’s just playing the field I don’t think he’s actually dating one person I think he’s playing the field with several women it seems like
Ive already break up 7 months ago, we do no contact, he block and unblock me for several times, but i already posted photos on my twitter about sad things bfr, so if i want to show fun things, should i deleted all the sad posted on my twitter?
Opinions on what to do if the social sphere hates you? :/ Also what happens if the rebound makes them cut you out of the 'Be there' method/they actually do it?
So the being there method is about you and your ex talking, so your ex new person demanding that he not talk to you is going to be unattractive to him. He is going to get fed up for the insecure traits. As for the sphere of influence hating you, is there a reason for this and can you change that reason?
@@chrisseitercoaching Sadly I don't know if they actually "hate" I guess that's a strong word, I know his family doesn't approve of "us" (traditional ethnic upbringing where everyone has to be this certain "standard" and their siblings doing "so much better") but for friends/coworkers go I just don't have any way to get in touch with them... and last time I ran into them they claimed they didn't want to get involved with the whole situation/basically wanted to avoid me.
I n my ex were in relationship since Jan 2019 first 3 4 months were great after that we used to fight daily due to my insecurities n in the month of July he asked me for space I agreed but sometimes I reached to him n asking how's he doing Thn after a month I asked him what he decided bcoz I felt he was investing that time on someone else n at last he said he don't want to be in relationship with me as we are not compatible and I am codependent on him n he feels suffocated in this relationship but I think he left me for someone else.. What should I do? It's my 10th day of NC
HELP!!! One of my friend messed up with my NC as he told my ex that I am missing him and thinking that he leaves me for someone else so give her validation if it's true or not.. Do I still have chance?
Hey chris what if ive been with my ex for 7 years and he told me that he started to date but he said to me that he dosent feel the same because they dont treat him good and he said like "the past"? Is that good? Because for what i see i was reaaaaally good to him
What is happening is he is looking for the feelings he has with you in someone else, which he is not going to get any time soon as he does not know the new people. It goes in your favor the more he dates and does not find that connection with anyone else he realises its between you and him he feels those things. If you want him back then I suggest you learn about the being there method and implement it while he is dating, you dont act threatened by others or even interested in his dating life, you need to friendly message him and then flirt a little, and so on. Look up the articles on my website for a more in depth explanation about the being there method
Not in the context that this is your ex that your are seeking to reunite with. How long your NC period should be depends on many factors. 21-30 days is probably more often employed
@@chrisseitercoaching i ask because my ex got back with his ex as soon as we broke up maybe like 3 weeks later. Should I apply the same NC rule with him? And is he in a rebound relationship with his ex? Or is an ex not a rebound 🤔
Hi Paloma be sure that you are not trying to too hard to talk to him ask for advice or if he mentions that his new person is worried, say that you are just friends and do another short NC
His new gf is a downgrade 😊 im not worried about her at all. I feel sorry for her he just using her has an distraction from me. Its just physical he aint got no emotions for her his heart is with me.
Certainly as more time marches by, things get more challenging. But what matters is having an ex recovery plan - but mostly for you own good...your own recovery
@@chrisseitercoaching you should also think of long term marriages may take awhile for the grass is always greener syndrome to wear off and they miss you
Listen people, do you. You will not find the answers online! Only my real experience... yes give them space and yes no texting, begging or anything along those lines, take time-out but do not worry about any timeline, maybe 3 or 4 weeks is enough, if they don't contact you then, they will but ONLY if you are meant to be, they feel the urge as you do. No timeline, just genuine vibes. If it's meant to be, it will happen. Have faith in your own journey.
This is actually a natural process of moving on from your ex and raising your own standards. The step 5 being there or “friend-zoning yourself” just becomes a natural step when you decide that you have enough respect for yourself to not settle for less than you deserve and your ex then has to level up if they want to be a part of your experience. Sounds like manipulation at first but it’s actually just you raising your own standards and not being willing to compete with anyone or willing to settle for the same bullshit you used to. If you are here, give yourselves time. Focus on your own expansion.
I would not recommend anyone to become morally spineless for anything, never mind for the sake of regaining an ex who has dumped you for someone else. As painful as it is imagining them with someone else, the other person they are with also has feelings and chances are the old flame and the new are both being wronged by someone who is acting out of profound attachment trauma.
I found out my ex moved in with the rebound so I immediately blocked my ex on all social media platforms. My ex is still sad, what to do?
Working together with an ex in a rebound is a fresh kind of hell 😢😅
Being there method works 100%!!!!
I know right!
I tried that. Sometimes I get a “maybe we shouldn’t talk frequently, im dating someone “
@@AntonioCamunas day maybe they are in the honey moon phase
My gf broke up with me 3 weeks ago. She said she will treasure me even if were off. She said she will not unfriend me Or block me. But all of a sudden she did block me and dont want to talk to me anymore. She even mentioned that i have to move on and she dont want to see me anymore.
Need help quick...went no contact and 2 and a half month later she came bacc and for 7days she tried to get my attention and showed me vulnerability...Like an idiot I kinda pushed her away when I now realize that it was clear she wanted me to tell her that we where getting back together but I didn't and now she found a rebound...I pushed her into is harm and it's killing me inside so NOW WHAT!? Do I go no contact onother 2month and let the honey moon pass even tho she's only been with 8m for 9days and she wanted me back rmtwo weeks ago??? Her birthday is this Sunday the 13 do I use that occasion to write her a msg asking to be just friends so I can start trying the "being there method" right away???
Yeah I try that and everytime I was looking happy in social media a fake account that looked like his new girl was leaving me mean comments telling me he never loved me and now theyre engaged so...
The way he told me that he doesn’t want anything to do with me makes me wonder if he will ever Facebook creep he seems angry with me right now even though I haven’t seen him since October 1and and then I saw him on 17 September before that before that
He doesn’t want me contacting him whatsoever he hates me at this point
I have been in no contact for about 30 days and initially I was thinking I would do 45 but now I'm thinking that it won't be long enough bc I don't want to break NC until I feel ready so I'm thinking 60- 70 days now, is that too long to wait? For some background, the relationship was almost 1.5 years and was really passionate/ loving (we often talked about marriage and our future) but ended badly and quickly and he jumped right into a new relationship.
Hi Elizabeth, so if he is in a new relationship you should do 45 NC and then reach out following the being there method information. This is also going to be your first text, where you ask for advice or tell him something that you know he would be interested in talking about. I would not recommend going over the 60 days of NC
Self worth, pls dont chase. Give him freedome instead. A man shld realize our worth. In the 45NC right now but, im on the 70-30% if ever i will get back to him in case he message me or otherwise. It is indeed difficult to recover. However, during the 45days and he hve not reaized my worth. Maybe its time to really let go. I can live without him. I will better myself than waiting for the wrong man.
My ex told me how I'm more the queit one and she more the talkative one and he told me that she told him that she love him and he said that he didn't tell her that he love her back and he said he's trying not to say that to quick meaning he's trying not rush into saying it to her and last week he's started to saying hurtful things to me after sending him a video based on a girl dumps her boyfriend for being short so he ask me why I did I send him that and I said for him to watch it he said theres a reason why I him send this so I told him theres no reason and I said they just acting as couples and they're not a real couple and he said he's not upset and he said the reason why I send this because how I think that he left me and he said to leave him alone and to go and sleep and keep saying leave him alone and I said gn and told him sorry for upsettinh u so he got angry texted me how I'm needy and I like attention and he told me to shut up and block him and he said how talk bad about him behknd his back but I didn't he said that them does come back and tell him everything I said and he said if he got heart broken by a girl would still never run back to me and he said I'm nothing to him and I told him that all guys are the same so after I texted him I got upset and I started to cry and he said sorry and I told him to leave me alone and u don't mean it anf he said he really doesn't care and I told him to leave me alone with angry emojies I'm still mad at him I forgive him but I don't forget the things he said I started the 45 day no contact rule since last week if he reach out I would ignore his ass and pretend like I don't and not interested to answer his dumb ass text
Do you start the “being there method” after 45 days of no contact, after they’ve been with the new person?
How dose the "being there" method work while in NC?
Hey Chris ! What happens if you have kids in between , how do I do NC ? We were together for 10 years and he broke up in September but kept talking and he made it seem he wanted to fix things with me until October, and than BAM , he got a new girlfriend. I was heartbroken
You follow something called the Limited No Contact rule, and watch some of my videos about the being there video. Dont forget to check out my website with the articles on how to do Limited NC when you have children together
for rule #4
is that mean I should add her friend on social media? so they can be the influencer for me?
Hey ....i need ur help....My ex and i dated for
a year and we brock up 4 months ago...right after a month later he
Starts a new relationship wid a girl who gave him so..much attention...which i never gave him...and i guess they already had breakup jst a month ago .... N now he is in so much....pain....for his recently breakup.... And the main fact is that.... I can't bear the pain that he fallen in love with someone else too fast....n he feels too deeply hurt for his recent gf...but not in mine breakup ...😥.....what should i do now?
Does this apply to women?
Me and my ex fiancé was living together for 3 years we broke up on the last day of June, 3 weeks later I went back to pick up the rest of my stuff because every time he see it reminded him of me. When I saw him he had a lot of hickeys on his neck, he lied and said that he just met the girl in the party and they just started to mess around. We got into argument because I got that upset and he was telling me to hold on hope because nothing serious that he was having fun. Two days later we saw each other again and he said the same thing to hold hope because you never know what’s gonna happen in the future and he doesn’t wanna lose my friendship and that it’s nothing serious between him and her. He also kept telling me he want Space, they just messing around. On August 13 we saw each other and we talked he said that he misses around with her. We talked about us.I told him if he start dating her or like her I’m going to cut him off my life because my heart can’t take it. But he got upset because he says that if I cut him out of his life and if he does date her and if he does like her and if he knew him and her doesn’t work out how can he know I’m the love of his life if I’m not around. That day he also told me the things that he was missing about me the things that we used to do and that he missed he kept telling me to still hold on hold because you never know what’s gonna happen in the future you know that they need to kiss a few times he hugged me he was saying that there’s certain things that he doesn’t do with her that he did with me he told me that when he holds his driving with her it doesn’t feel the same and doesn’t feel right and when we did it that day he felt like it was right it was comfortable and all that. By ending of August I had a feeling that the girl that he was messing is with a girl that he was working with. A few times I text and told him I miss him I wanted to be with him and he would never respond back to me and he kept ignoring me after a while he wouldn’t wanna talk to me like that anymore, so one day I text him and I told him that I know is the girl that he works there he never responded back. Fast forward to now I asked him to hang out as friends and he told me the next day the next day came and he told me that he couldn’t so I asked him for later in the night when I come out of work he never responded so I text him and said that I guess I’m not that important to him anymore and that the other girl is more important and I’m never good enough for him he never text me back a few hours later he blocked me on Facebook. I went crazy went to his house and I saw them together I found out the whole truth and he told me that he blocked me because she felt uncomfortable that she had me and what’s the point of having me and we broke up. and that they are dating and that they are seeing each other and that she’s been sleeping over over the weekend and the past month she’s been sleeping over here in there as well during the weekday so they are seeing each other every day and he blocked me because he felt uncomfortable so I’m starting to think that she’s making him Get rid of me because he told me on August 13 he told me the calendar that we had in the house and the room Broke and in my calendar I will I will always love you. So I’m starting to think that she was threatened by me, because yesterday I saw his mom and he send me the last few things and I’m there was a green shirt that he kept because he say he wanted something of me and now he gave it back. I told him I’m cutting him off my life so I blocked him and deleted him off of my phone. I did back him back last week when saw him in person with her, I did disrespect to her and called her bad names in front of her and he told me to not disrespect her we argue and he just became cold he to say he want to space, he told me that he see himself with her and he wants to be with her right now and then he said you never know what could happen in the future but right now he wants to be with her she’s been sleeping over on the weekend and he told the truth that in August and in July she will sleep throughout the weekdays. he still wants me to text him but I told him no. What do I do now? Is she’s really a rebound girl or he just really wants to be with her? Should I just let everything go and move on?
Hey Letty, when exes move on really fast after a breakup it is typically a rebound, follow the program, do a NC work on yourself and let him see how great you are through social media.
We still share the same group of friends so if there are gatherings, would it count as breaking the NC if, for example, he sees me at the party but we dont interact or talk at all?
Hey Hanna, as long as you do not argue, have an emotional conversation, or have a sexident then you have no broken no contact. You are able to say hello politely and then remove yourself from his company as much as you can.
I was being there.. But I dont know if we will communicate again. Maybe he is loyal to that someone he left me for. He compared us. and he said I am better.. But he still continue to chat with her.
If you are doing the being there method then you are going to have to try and work up the value chain where you are getting meet ups with your ex and he starts investing more time into you
@@chrisseitercoaching thanks you so much sir for this reply. Its a great help
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Hi cant miss you if you allways there for him . And he know it AS trust pillow. Hi needs to feel loss . Thats my opinion.
@@alexander_no350 thanks.
@@bethelbethlehem3001 Look dear there's still hope, chance for you in getting what you want. Okay
It has been 3 months since we broke up...my ex bf used to insult me for my looks..And then i came to know he is in rebound relationship..He didn't contact me he loves her new girlfriend so much that he even dosn't remember our moments..It is strange i tried everything still he didn't contact may b he never want to come
Would your program work even if I was dating the guy for two months? He has been divorced for two years, told me that while he was in love with his ex wife he is happy it is happening with me and disucessed kids and marriage and all of that. We were going to love in together and he was going to come on vacation with me in a few months time for my bday. He told me he only wanted me and now he tells me he thinks it was just lust and that he has found someone better. It has been 9 days of no contact and he hasn’t messaged. Will I ever have a chance? I got above average on your website
It certainly has the potential of working, though I do agree that two months is not a long time from which to have build a solid foundation. So I would stick with you NC and focus on your own healing and recovery
Chris Seiter thanks Chris! Do I do the 45 day NC ? It’s been so hard to not speak to him anymore
Perhaps something more in the 21-30 day range
Chris Seiter after that time do I just follow your program or should I just friendzone myself like you have said in another video?
Probably best to stick with my teachings around the NC Rule and how to re-engage when its time
We were in no contact for three weeks, he finally called me this morning and admitted there was someone else. They had been talking for a little over a month and we were “together” for a really passionate weekend three weeks ago (aka while he was talking to the other woman). Where do I begin now???
You need to follow a 45 day No Contact and learn about the being there method if you want him back.
I texted him a couple of hours after he called, thanked him for the call and that I could move on. I told him I will always be there for him and his boys, take away only the good and wished him the best of luck. He replied about the same, I didn’t answer. He texted me later to tell me he closed on selling his old house and all of the great memories he has with that house because of me. He thanked me for being me. I just replied with high good moments I will remember from his old house and thanked him for being him as well. He heart reacted the message. Just staying calm and try to gain the power of nostalgia. We will see what happens.
I’m determined to only talk to him when he initiates.
@@holisticchrissy5420 Look dear there's still hope, chance for you in getting what you want. Okay
@@holisticchrissy5420 Never you give up on the person you really love, either strive and fight for his return to make good impact.
My ex fiance got married to the women he left me for
Hi, Cris, I hope you see this. I was in a 2 and a half years relationship and there was a lot of fighting, first, he wanted space so we were on a break(9 months ago) then we got together but eventually broke up(5 months ago), so we were casually seeing each other after that, we texted and saw each other but not that often, we saw each other two times and we texted once in a week. The last time we saw each other, it passed a month ago, and texted 2 days before he got into a relationship with her. so my question is- I am not sure if this girl is even a rebound because it did pass a lot of time since our break up and should I move on and do I even stand a chance? I still really care about him. What should I do?
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Never you give up on the person you really love, either strive and fight for his return to make good impact.
Look dear there's still hope, chance for you in getting what you want. Okay
He doesn’t have social media the rebound does and she’s performing like clockwork 😒
Are rebound rs also possible after a short term relationship like 3 months??
He started dating his old friend 3 days after dumping me. Both where fresh single. Early December..they are on Egypt for vacations now.... But they haven't worked yet.. He get stressed easily n obviously he is now on clouds.. But I am sure this gonna change
He is anxious n avoidant.. Can't talk about problems well n started distance after getting emotional close after time..He used to be very emotional for 1,5 months n than after I started falling for him, he got distance.. N always after emotional moments (he got a lot of problems), after we used to be sweet.he started to search for trouble like he sabotaged..
Hey Caldia, often people who jump from relationship to relationship cant deal with being alone, they dont do well with facing their emotions, feeling alone or lonely so they jump straight to a new relationship even after short ones. Just know that it could be a string of rebounds as he does not commit properly
@@chrisseitercoaching thank you for the reply. I was his first try after beeing single for 1 year n 9 months
Okay but what if your Ex blocked you on everything for text bombing every social media they have about the rebound because it freaked you out and how devastated you were? What then?
Sadly nothing, don't try and get around the block.. you have to leave it alone and if they get curious enough to what you've been up to they will unblock you on social media to peek at your progress on how well you're doing without them. Give them something positive to look at and look like you're doing fine without them.. if that day ever comes. But actually put in the work and it won't matter to you anymore anyway.
The point is is that he doesn’t have any pictures of him in this new girl and this other girl doesn’t have any pictures of him and her together and I think it this point he’s just playing the field I don’t think he’s actually dating one person I think he’s playing the field with several women it seems like
Ive already break up 7 months ago, we do no contact, he block and unblock me for several times, but i already posted photos on my twitter about sad things bfr, so if i want to show fun things, should i deleted all the sad posted on my twitter?
Yes you should
Yes
It cost me 5 dollars with Text a Letter app to get my ex back.. Ask me what I wrote :)
Does this work for guy who wants his ex girlfriend back?
Yeah! Check out my website, www.exgirlfriendrecovery.com
@@chrisseitercoaching Is there any way we can talk in private?
Opinions on what to do if the social sphere hates you? :/
Also what happens if the rebound makes them cut you out of the 'Be there' method/they actually do it?
So the being there method is about you and your ex talking, so your ex new person demanding that he not talk to you is going to be unattractive to him. He is going to get fed up for the insecure traits. As for the sphere of influence hating you, is there a reason for this and can you change that reason?
@@chrisseitercoaching Sadly I don't know if they actually "hate" I guess that's a strong word, I know his family doesn't approve of "us" (traditional ethnic upbringing where everyone has to be this certain "standard" and their siblings doing "so much better") but for friends/coworkers go I just don't have any way to get in touch with them... and last time I ran into them they claimed they didn't want to get involved with the whole situation/basically wanted to avoid me.
I n my ex were in relationship since Jan 2019 first 3 4 months were great after that we used to fight daily due to my insecurities n in the month of July he asked me for space I agreed but sometimes I reached to him n asking how's he doing Thn after a month I asked him what he decided bcoz I felt he was investing that time on someone else n at last he said he don't want to be in relationship with me as we are not compatible and I am codependent on him n he feels suffocated in this relationship but I think he left me for someone else.. What should I do? It's my 10th day of NC
Hi Monalish.....I think you should go forward with NC, but be sure to focus on your healing and the recovery activities I talk about on my website.
OK.. Thank you
Your welcome Monalisha
HELP!!! One of my friend messed up with my NC as he told my ex that I am missing him and thinking that he leaves me for someone else so give her validation if it's true or not.. Do I still have chance?
Be strong
How to do if we dont have each other on social media? should i add her?
Don't add, she will be checking after your NC is over
Hey chris what if ive been with my ex for 7 years and he told me that he started to date but he said to me that he dosent feel the same because they dont treat him good and he said like "the past"? Is that good? Because for what i see i was reaaaaally good to him
What is happening is he is looking for the feelings he has with you in someone else, which he is not going to get any time soon as he does not know the new people. It goes in your favor the more he dates and does not find that connection with anyone else he realises its between you and him he feels those things. If you want him back then I suggest you learn about the being there method and implement it while he is dating, you dont act threatened by others or even interested in his dating life, you need to friendly message him and then flirt a little, and so on. Look up the articles on my website for a more in depth explanation about the being there method
Chris Seiter thanks❤️
You said no contact then you said being there
No contact for 45 days THEN you can implement the being there method
Is going back with an ex considered a rebound? If yes, does the 45 day no contact still apply?
Not in the context that this is your ex that your are seeking to reunite with. How long your NC period should be depends on many factors. 21-30 days is probably more often employed
@@chrisseitercoaching i ask because my ex got back with his ex as soon as we broke up maybe like 3 weeks later. Should I apply the same NC rule with him? And is he in a rebound relationship with his ex? Or is an ex not a rebound 🤔
I also blocked my ex on fb should I unblock him so that he can see my progress 🤔
Hi Christine....wait awhile, then unblock
@@chrisseitercoaching ok
What if he doesn’t want to talk to me when I try to be there
Hi Paloma be sure that you are not trying to too hard to talk to him ask for advice or if he mentions that his new person is worried, say that you are just friends and do another short NC
I tried to be there and talk to him but he block me
His new gf is a downgrade 😊 im not worried about her at all. I feel sorry for her he just using her has an distraction from me. Its just physical he aint got no emotions for her his heart is with me.
Does this work even though we broke up 5mos ago?
Certainly as more time marches by, things get more challenging. But what matters is having an ex recovery plan - but mostly for you own good...your own recovery
@@chrisseitercoaching you should also think of long term marriages may take awhile for the grass is always greener syndrome to wear off and they miss you
Does this work on ex girlfriends?
Yes! Check out my website www.exgirlfriendrecovery.com
He blocked me