She called me when he didn't answer her after something bad happened to her at the club but I know I'm better than him so I just hope the she realizes I am
Well, I just know that if your ex wanted you, they would have picked you. Your dream person can't be the one doesn't want to be with you, who picked someone else over you. It's harsh but allow yourself to be disappointed, it's only natural to think so because you cared and probably still care about them. But don't grieve them, your one person is still out there, looking for you. I tend to show my ex partners grace, wish them the best and work on myself again. If they want to be friends, I will be friends but the moment someone shows that they picked someone different, any chance of getting back together goes out the window.
The most important definition about rebound is not the time factor. If the time window is less than 5.5 months, that is arebound, and more than 5.5 real. The central element is the replacement function. A rebound may run years long, but the replacement function remains.
Well, my ex is marrying his rebound 🤷🏻♀️I have no contact with him anymore, at the very beginning when I barely move out, he said they were always fighting. I was with him for 10 years no signs of marriage, the rebound comes and boom he gets married? 🙄
We were together for 8 yrs and last one was kinda bad, she became depressed and emotionally and physically pulled away, cheated on me, the we worked it out somehow but the emotional and physical intimacy wasnt there anymore, I kept trying but she didnt and so I ended it even though I wished we could have made it work. 2 weeks after she vanished to somewhere, week later I find out she was in another country (she kept saying how she is scared to travel and didnt want to go anywhere) with a guy she cheated on me with 5 years ago when we had problems, who wanted her, who she supposedly got along with well but was mentally unstable (cutting himself, threatening to kill himself if she left him) so she came back to me and now supposedly he worked on himself, she wants to be with him, was never more sure and doesnt know when she is coming back, 3 weeks later she came to pick up some of her stuff as she is moving in with him to another country, engaged and doing all those things she wouldnt do with me, like go on trips and suddendly has a plan for the future which she never had (although it didnt include him when she said it) and hasn’t been really responding to my texts at all. So this looks like she’s happy and very invested… I dont know if she got over me a long time ago and maybe kept wantimg him (She said she wasnt over me and wasnt sure when she would be when we talked in person), but acted like she is happy with him, he understands her and that she hopes I find somebody too so that I am not lonely and tried to sell him to me, that he’s cool and Id get along with him or what. It’s been about 7-8 weeks since they hit it off… not sure if this is too soon to tell, but so far doesn’t look good for me. I feel bad about myself, keep wondering if it really was the low hanging fruit, cuz it looks like it in some ways and I mean he was perhaps single that whole time? Waiting for her? Scared she wouldnt leave him again so he proposed? I don’t even want her back anymore… I dont recognize her, she seems to have changed (on the surface at least) so much, total 180 and suddendly on surface behaves like what I wanted her to behave like with me, but idk… she has so much childhood trauma and is/has been always very complicated and problematic, has OCD, is avoidant and seems to have just painted over her pain with this new guy, so doubt she has magically changed in a few weeks, just cuz “he is soooo right for her”, she seems not to be able to be alone for a moment and the engagement seems like displacement, but still it’s gnawing at my self confidence, I can admit to my mistakes, but seems like she can’t do that too well with hers and bet she sees me as the main problem or just dunno…
Even though rebound relationships may not last long does not mean if they carry on being in a relationship for longer that they are happy. My ex was with someone for just under 2yrs and he told me they were always arguing, he never loved her and he was never happy. I asked why did he stay? And his response was, because he wasn't happy in himself but he just wanted someone to still be there. After that he's now on his 3rd rship and he doesn't seem happy in this one either with what he has told me about her and it didn't start off good either and false but, she fell pregnant 😳 so, he's kinda made his bed now and he'll have to see this though regardless of how he feels. So I'm just saying not all rships that last long is a good sign for that rship
By definition, a rebound doesn’t have to do with time so much as it does someone’s emotional state. If someone didn’t process the breakup and jumps into another relationship, that is a rebound, regardless of how long it lasts. Some people go from rebound to rebound, because they never take time to heal and process. And, someone could take two years in between relationships and it could still be a rebound if they didn’t heal. Even if the rebound lasts long-term, it will probably be unhealthy and toxic. My ex rebounded very quickly and then got engaged after just 5 months. His son was killed three months after we broke up. He is extremely avoidant, and he’s running from his pain and making rash decisions to distract himself. Do I think for a moment that this will b a healthy relationship even if they get married? No way. He hasn’t done any work, and they haven’t been together long enough for his fears to be activated and his true avoidant behaviors to emerge. And even if he was unhappy, I doubt he’d reach out to me, because he’s too prideful.
So me and my bby mama gotten in to a argument. We been together on and of for 5 years...its been 5 months now....shes blocked me from everything shes changed her number....but i created a new messenger where she can see my messages but shes seen them but the day before she cut me off she calls me like 6 am in the morning venting to me. Saying im sick of my family saying im always angry cause im single stuff like that....her family didnt want me and her to be together she got into a relationship so quick in my head i was thinking 5 years and she can move on that quick...you know i notice something out of the blue is rhat her rebound put up photo of my girls together so as a father that made me angry heres me trying to fight for my girls yet she can do something like that....i think he wanted to get a reaction out of me to message my bby mama out of anger but i did the opposite i wished her well saying im happy for her and telling her i know my worth so i can move on from here... is there a reason why she done that? And away to pull her back to me?
After two years we broke up, 1 week later she’s in a new relationship, 1 month later saying they are getting married and she is sooo happy. Yet she contacts me and drives by my house and she let it slip that she knows she is settling. I’m 6’7” and in good shape. He is 5’5 and obese. She is extremely self conscious and thinks I slept with everything that walked. I didn’t. I really want her back but I have to move on
Hey chris my ex break up with me for any reason and now keep texting me every 45 days and some months before 45 days but I dont respond and when that person feel like it not the same again how it used to be when that person feel like I moved on then wanna call what it means to you can you make a video about that
Me an my ex broke up in june she allways be mean to me tells me hes better when i wan no contact for few months i found out on facebook after 4 monthes in September she got into a new relationship she tell she happy why tell me if you move on they wont tell you right
Neutral or Short Responses doesn't necessarily mean they're happy on the rebound. It can also be a sign that they are having personal issues, still resentful, or still hurt. Some people take their issues out on everyone else.
It could also mean that they still have feelings for you but they're trying to be fair to the boyfriend because they are still sorting stuff out in their head.
My ex emails me every day and writes long emails. I just write the bare minimum and rarely ask her questions, but she'll always respond with a long email and lots of questions. She went back to her ex boyfriend, but she keep reaching out to me after I went no contact for a week.
My ex is currently on number 5 and 6. She only respond with no emotion response and currently support the new guy because he doesn’t have a job and car. They don’t take trips. They only stay in their apartment 24/7 together. How bad is it? I’m not sure the financial part will last as she is already complaining about money issues.
@@EmilyGloeggler7984 it’s easier said then done. It’s been over a year for me and I still can’t shake the bond. She tried to come back for 3 weeks and left again going back to her rebound 🤦♂️. I finally blocked her on everything
What if we dated for 2 years, broke up 2-3 months ago. The breakup was mutual. He was known for being the most popular, loyal and gentle man but after the breakup, we had a little argument. He blocked me on everything i've ever tried to reach out with. Told him how i missed him and he still blocked me on that other acc again. He seems to be flirting and being really close to this new girl nobody liked who is clearly worse than me at everything I was able to do or provide. I'm also prettier than that girl and I really love him. Everyone talks about how she's bad at everything she does and how she's always seeking approval from men. So i don't understand how can he love her? I heard he respects me and the time we had despite the breakup though. Is she a rebound or does he really love her?
Just move on sis,same story I'm dying every day seeing him happy posting videos with his rebound we have to accept that we were not meant for eachother and move on this is life and believe that you will find someone better than him
My ex reached out to me other day 3 months into their rebound and talked to me for an hour.... 3-4 times told me how happy she was in this relationship.... Sounded like she was trying to convince me AND herself. Then told me she missed me and loved me and said she was sad when she was talking to me. So some of this stuff is a little inaccurate. I got mixed signals. So in one conversation saying we shouldn't be talking but also telling me how she missed me and wished I had sat her down and told her I was gonna marry her. So...
No contact folks. Ive been in no contact and she has reached out 2 times in 3 months. Never texted or called her once. If they arent responding to texts then yoh need to go no contact. Thats not because its not a good sign. Its because you are chasing them and they know they have you locked down. No need for them to panic because you are available. So allows them to move forward with rebound without risk
Dude this video is so off. Some people are different. My ex is psychologically displacing. Just because they are doing things with this person doesmt mean they are over you. She took this guy skiing like we did last year yet 2 days later was on the phone telling me she missed me and was sad and cried some. And was trying to convince me zhe was happy. 3-4 times without me prompting her lol. So no, just because they go on a vacation or a trip doesnt mean they are over you. My ex clearly isnt over me yet did this. Has resched out 2 times during no contact in 3 months. So obviously starting to feel some things.
My so-called accused “rebound” I chose to give a chance to, become close friends, and remain with for eleven years and as of last year, we got married and are continuing our life together.
@@gq-fj5ny We don’t do that toxic new age cult of positivity nonsense. We, my husband and I, are honest and realistic and we value not trusting each other based on God’s word and we choose to stay together. Against all the odds, we are still together and will not let anyone break our marriage apart. I’ve heard of even more inspiring marriages where both spouses didn’t even love or respect each other and yet in spite of everything not only remained committed together but who even learned to respect and love them, even when they were unhappy - which shocked me! It is not often talked about but it’s worth mentioning. As for us, we are each other’s one and only for life - as the Lord says “Let no man tear asunder” - not a single person can tear us apart, not even each other. We, my husband and I are one. :)
@@chrisseitercoaching We were together for 8 yrs and last one was kinda bad, she became depressed and emotionally and physically pulled away, cheated on me, the we worked it out somehow but the emotional and physical intimacy wasnt there anymore, I kept trying but she didnt and so I ended it even though I wished we could have made it work. 2 weeks after she vanished to somewhere, week later I find out she was in another country (she kept saying how she is scared to travel and didnt want to go anywhere) with a guy she cheated on me with 5 years ago when we had problems, who wanted her, who she supposedly got along with well but was mentally unstable (cutting himself, threatening to kill himself if she left him) so she came back to me and now supposedly he worked on himself, she wants to be with him, was never more sure and doesnt know when she is coming back, 3 weeks later she came to pick up some of her stuff as she is moving in with him to another country, engaged and doing all those things she wouldnt do with me, like go on trips and suddendly has a plan for the future which she never had (although it didnt include him when she said it) and hasn’t been really responding to my texts at all. So this looks like she’s happy and very invested… I dont know if she got over me a long time ago and maybe kept wantimg him (She said she wasnt over me and wasnt sure when she would be when we talked in person), but acted like she is happy with him, he understands her and that she hopes I find somebody too so that I am not lonely and tried to sell him to me, that he’s cool and Id get along with him or what. It’s been about 7-8 weeks since they hit it off… not sure if this is too soon to tell, but so far doesn’t look good for me. I feel bad about myself, keep wondering if it really was the low hanging fruit, cuz it looks like it in some ways and I mean he was perhaps single that whole time? Waiting for her? Scared she wouldnt leave him again so he proposed? I don’t even want her back anymore… I dont recognize her, she seems to have changed (on the surface at least) so much, total 180 and suddendly on surface behaves like what I wanted her to behave like with me, but idk… she has so much childhood trauma and is/has been always very complicated and problematic, has OCD, is avoidant and seems to have just painted over her pain with this new guy, so doubt she has magically changed in a few weeks, just cuz “he is soooo right for her”, she seems not to be able to be alone for a moment and the engagement seems like displacement, but still it’s gnawing at my self confidence, I can admit to my mistakes, but seems like she can’t do that too well with hers and bet she sees me as the main problem or just dunno… Wdyt? I’ve been wrecking my mind for the past 2 weeks about this :/
If your ex is happy in their new rebound they won’t reach out to you
Amen. I speak from experience. :)
That’s my hope. She’s been reaching out to me all the time recently. She invited me over for coffee, and it was great.
Sometimes they won’t reach out till u do first
She called me when he didn't answer her after something bad happened to her at the club but I know I'm better than him so I just hope the she realizes I am
I have mumy ex non stop communicte with me since the rebound gf came in.. and he told me it wasnt as good as they think
Well, I just know that if your ex wanted you, they would have picked you. Your dream person can't be the one doesn't want to be with you, who picked someone else over you. It's harsh but allow yourself to be disappointed, it's only natural to think so because you cared and probably still care about them. But don't grieve them, your one person is still out there, looking for you. I tend to show my ex partners grace, wish them the best and work on myself again. If they want to be friends, I will be friends but the moment someone shows that they picked someone different, any chance of getting back together goes out the window.
The most important definition about rebound is not the time factor. If the time window is less than 5.5 months, that is arebound, and more than 5.5 real. The central element is the replacement function. A rebound may run years long, but the replacement function remains.
Well, my ex is marrying his rebound 🤷🏻♀️I have no contact with him anymore, at the very beginning when I barely move out, he said they were always fighting. I was with him for 10 years no signs of marriage, the rebound comes and boom he gets married? 🙄
We were together for 8 yrs and last one was kinda bad, she became depressed and emotionally and physically pulled away, cheated on me, the we worked it out somehow but the emotional and physical intimacy wasnt there anymore, I kept trying but she didnt and so I ended it even though I wished we could have made it work. 2 weeks after she vanished to somewhere, week later I find out she was in another country (she kept saying how she is scared to travel and didnt want to go anywhere) with a guy she cheated on me with 5 years ago when we had problems, who wanted her, who she supposedly got along with well but was mentally unstable (cutting himself, threatening to kill himself if she left him) so she came back to me and now supposedly he worked on himself, she wants to be with him, was never more sure and doesnt know when she is coming back, 3 weeks later she came to pick up some of her stuff as she is moving in with him to another country, engaged and doing all those things she wouldnt do with me, like go on trips and suddendly has a plan for the future which she never had (although it didnt include him when she said it) and hasn’t been really responding to my texts at all.
So this looks like she’s happy and very invested… I dont know if she got over me a long time ago and maybe kept wantimg him (She said she wasnt over me and wasnt sure when she would be when we talked in person), but acted like she is happy with him, he understands her and that she hopes I find somebody too so that I am not lonely and tried to sell him to me, that he’s cool and Id get along with him or what. It’s been about 7-8 weeks since they hit it off… not sure if this is too soon to tell, but so far doesn’t look good for me. I feel bad about myself, keep wondering if it really was the low hanging fruit, cuz it looks like it in some ways and I mean he was perhaps single that whole time? Waiting for her? Scared she wouldnt leave him again so he proposed?
I don’t even want her back anymore… I dont recognize her, she seems to have changed (on the surface at least) so much, total 180 and suddendly on surface behaves like what I wanted her to behave like with me, but idk… she has so much childhood trauma and is/has been always very complicated and problematic, has OCD, is avoidant and seems to have just painted over her pain with this new guy, so doubt she has magically changed in a few weeks, just cuz “he is soooo right for her”, she seems not to be able to be alone for a moment and the engagement seems like displacement, but still it’s gnawing at my self confidence, I can admit to my mistakes, but seems like she can’t do that too well with hers and bet she sees me as the main problem or just dunno…
Even though rebound relationships may not last long does not mean if they carry on being in a relationship for longer that they are happy. My ex was with someone for just under 2yrs and he told me they were always arguing, he never loved her and he was never happy. I asked why did he stay? And his response was, because he wasn't happy in himself but he just wanted someone to still be there. After that he's now on his 3rd rship and he doesn't seem happy in this one either with what he has told me about her and it didn't start off good either and false but, she fell pregnant 😳 so, he's kinda made his bed now and he'll have to see this though regardless of how he feels.
So I'm just saying not all rships that last long is a good sign for that rship
Facts!
Hell my relationship with my ex last 4 years and it was horrible
By definition, a rebound doesn’t have to do with time so much as it does someone’s emotional state. If someone didn’t process the breakup and jumps into another relationship, that is a rebound, regardless of how long it lasts. Some people go from rebound to rebound, because they never take time to heal and process. And, someone could take two years in between relationships and it could still be a rebound if they didn’t heal.
Even if the rebound lasts long-term, it will probably be unhealthy and toxic. My ex rebounded very quickly and then got engaged after just 5 months. His son was killed three months after we broke up. He is extremely avoidant, and he’s running from his pain and making rash decisions to distract himself. Do I think for a moment that this will b a healthy relationship even if they get married? No way. He hasn’t done any work, and they haven’t been together long enough for his fears to be activated and his true avoidant behaviors to emerge. And even if he was unhappy, I doubt he’d reach out to me, because he’s too prideful.
My ex is doing the same!
So me and my bby mama gotten in to a argument. We been together on and of for 5 years...its been 5 months now....shes blocked me from everything shes changed her number....but i created a new messenger where she can see my messages but shes seen them but the day before she cut me off she calls me like 6 am in the morning venting to me. Saying im sick of my family saying im always angry cause im single stuff like that....her family didnt want me and her to be together she got into a relationship so quick in my head i was thinking 5 years and she can move on that quick...you know i notice something out of the blue is rhat her rebound put up photo of my girls together so as a father that made me angry heres me trying to fight for my girls yet she can do something like that....i think he wanted to get a reaction out of me to message my bby mama out of anger but i did the opposite i wished her well saying im happy for her and telling her i know my worth so i can move on from here... is there a reason why she done that? And away to pull her back to me?
After two years we broke up, 1 week later she’s in a new relationship, 1 month later saying they are getting married and she is sooo happy. Yet she contacts me and drives by my house and she let it slip that she knows she is settling. I’m 6’7” and in good shape. He is 5’5 and obese. She is extremely self conscious and thinks I slept with everything that walked. I didn’t. I really want her back but I have to move on
They love their rebound cause they never truly loved you in the first place 😭. Bitter truth
That’s not always the case.
Hey chris my ex break up with me for any reason and now keep texting me every 45 days and some months before 45 days but I dont respond and when that person feel like it not the same again how it used to be when that person feel like I moved on then wanna call what it means to you can you make a video about that
Me an my ex broke up in june she allways be mean to me tells me hes better when i wan no contact for few months i found out on facebook after 4 monthes in September she got into a new relationship she tell she happy why tell me if you move on they wont tell you right
That happened to me twice ! 😢 one told me to never contact again the other told me this is unfair to the new person 😢
Happening to me twice too 😢
Neutral or Short Responses doesn't necessarily mean they're happy on the rebound. It can also be a sign that they are having personal issues, still resentful, or still hurt. Some people take their issues out on everyone else.
Facts
It could also mean that they still have feelings for you but they're trying to be fair to the boyfriend because they are still sorting stuff out in their head.
That’s not always the case for everyone.
My ex emails me every day and writes long emails. I just write the bare minimum and rarely ask her questions, but she'll always respond with a long email and lots of questions. She went back to her ex boyfriend, but she keep reaching out to me after I went no contact for a week.
My ex is currently on number 5 and 6. She only respond with no emotion response and currently support the new guy because he doesn’t have a job and car. They don’t take trips. They only stay in their apartment 24/7 together.
How bad is it? I’m not sure the financial part will last as she is already complaining about money issues.
Move on.
@@EmilyGloeggler7984 it’s easier said then done. It’s been over a year for me and I still can’t shake the bond. She tried to come back for 3 weeks and left again going back to her rebound 🤦♂️. I finally blocked her on everything
What if we dated for 2 years, broke up 2-3 months ago. The breakup was mutual.
He was known for being the most popular, loyal and gentle man but after the breakup, we had a little argument. He blocked me on everything i've ever tried to reach out with. Told him how i missed him and he still blocked me on that other acc again.
He seems to be flirting and being really close to this new girl nobody liked who is clearly worse than me at everything I was able to do or provide. I'm also prettier than that girl and I really love him.
Everyone talks about how she's bad at everything she does and how she's always seeking approval from men. So i don't understand how can he love her?
I heard he respects me and the time we had despite the breakup though.
Is she a rebound or does he really love her?
Just move on sis,same story I'm dying every day seeing him happy posting videos with his rebound we have to accept that we were not meant for eachother and move on this is life and believe that you will find someone better than him
My ex reached out to me other day 3 months into their rebound and talked to me for an hour.... 3-4 times told me how happy she was in this relationship.... Sounded like she was trying to convince me AND herself. Then told me she missed me and loved me and said she was sad when she was talking to me. So some of this stuff is a little inaccurate. I got mixed signals. So in one conversation saying we shouldn't be talking but also telling me how she missed me and wished I had sat her down and told her I was gonna marry her. So...
No contact folks. Ive been in no contact and she has reached out 2 times in 3 months. Never texted or called her once. If they arent responding to texts then yoh need to go no contact. Thats not because its not a good sign. Its because you are chasing them and they know they have you locked down. No need for them to panic because you are available. So allows them to move forward with rebound without risk
Dude this video is so off. Some people are different. My ex is psychologically displacing. Just because they are doing things with this person doesmt mean they are over you. She took this guy skiing like we did last year yet 2 days later was on the phone telling me she missed me and was sad and cried some. And was trying to convince me zhe was happy. 3-4 times without me prompting her lol. So no, just because they go on a vacation or a trip doesnt mean they are over you. My ex clearly isnt over me yet did this. Has resched out 2 times during no contact in 3 months. So obviously starting to feel some things.
My ex and I broke up on a Friday and on Monday he ended up with his baby momma, he never been with but has a child with. Is this a rebound?
Only God knows.
do all need to be present?
My so-called accused “rebound” I chose to give a chance to, become close friends, and remain with for eleven years and as of last year, we got married and are continuing our life together.
Very happy for you. So called rebounds do actually work. Like any relationship, you have to put in the work and have positive minds.
@@gq-fj5ny We don’t do that toxic new age cult of positivity nonsense. We, my husband and I, are honest and realistic and we value not trusting each other based on God’s word and we choose to stay together. Against all the odds, we are still together and will not let anyone break our marriage apart. I’ve heard of even more inspiring marriages where both spouses didn’t even love or respect each other and yet in spite of everything not only remained committed together but who even learned to respect and love them, even when they were unhappy - which shocked me!
It is not often talked about but it’s worth mentioning. As for us, we are each other’s one and only for life - as the Lord says “Let no man tear asunder” - not a single person can tear us apart, not even each other. We, my husband and I are one. :)
I hope she's happy with her rebound...good riddance!
My is in a rebound. She called me 5 times yesterday. I didn’t answer
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@@chrisseitercoaching We were together for 8 yrs and last one was kinda bad, she became depressed and emotionally and physically pulled away, cheated on me, the we worked it out somehow but the emotional and physical intimacy wasnt there anymore, I kept trying but she didnt and so I ended it even though I wished we could have made it work. 2 weeks after she vanished to somewhere, week later I find out she was in another country (she kept saying how she is scared to travel and didnt want to go anywhere) with a guy she cheated on me with 5 years ago when we had problems, who wanted her, who she supposedly got along with well but was mentally unstable (cutting himself, threatening to kill himself if she left him) so she came back to me and now supposedly he worked on himself, she wants to be with him, was never more sure and doesnt know when she is coming back, 3 weeks later she came to pick up some of her stuff as she is moving in with him to another country, engaged and doing all those things she wouldnt do with me, like go on trips and suddendly has a plan for the future which she never had (although it didnt include him when she said it) and hasn’t been really responding to my texts at all.
So this looks like she’s happy and very invested… I dont know if she got over me a long time ago and maybe kept wantimg him (She said she wasnt over me and wasnt sure when she would be when we talked in person), but acted like she is happy with him, he understands her and that she hopes I find somebody too so that I am not lonely and tried to sell him to me, that he’s cool and Id get along with him or what. It’s been about 7-8 weeks since they hit it off… not sure if this is too soon to tell, but so far doesn’t look good for me. I feel bad about myself, keep wondering if it really was the low hanging fruit, cuz it looks like it in some ways and I mean he was perhaps single that whole time? Waiting for her? Scared she wouldnt leave him again so he proposed?
I don’t even want her back anymore… I dont recognize her, she seems to have changed (on the surface at least) so much, total 180 and suddendly on surface behaves like what I wanted her to behave like with me, but idk… she has so much childhood trauma and is/has been always very complicated and problematic, has OCD, is avoidant and seems to have just painted over her pain with this new guy, so doubt she has magically changed in a few weeks, just cuz “he is soooo right for her”, she seems not to be able to be alone for a moment and the engagement seems like displacement, but still it’s gnawing at my self confidence, I can admit to my mistakes, but seems like she can’t do that too well with hers and bet she sees me as the main problem or just dunno…
Wdyt? I’ve been wrecking my mind for the past 2 weeks about this :/
My ex hates me she told me.