The maze analogy is quite relatable. I feel like someone on the outside who abandoned social media (mostly - no Twitter, FB, never TikTok, barely Instagram...) - I desperately want people to stop **showing** and start **living**
"It's like we're all carbon copies of each other pretending to be different" - this is so true. And honestly I need to do a study about this statement, because it seems like that is humanity. We try to fit in by seeking out similarities, and yet shy away from being perceived the same way and strive to be different.
I love how refreshing this video was, especially since not answering a text is considered rude. My mom who was initially hesitant of even buying a smartphone now tells me to not be rude and answer every family member's monotone "happy birthday!" text which I get it, they're wishing me happiness, but always being virtually present has become so tied with responsibility and kindness, it's a burden to pick up my phone and answer texts. Sorry for the long rant haha :p
Can I like this over and over again? Fellow rule follower here: I miss FUN! I miss just laughing and not caring about angles, about recording the moment, about everything being so under control and perfect. So yeah, let’s bend the rules a bit and go play 🎉
"you cannot find peace by avoiding life" what a powerful quote. truly something I needed to hear. making me realize I need to reevaluate a few things in life to be the person I want to be. thanks for sharing and giving your insight! I feel like you'd be amazing at a podcast !!
"Pretending" is such a fitting word. The benefit of being older is that I remember how to be me, how to find value within myself. To be honest getting older teaches you what is important. But I fear the younger generation may not even know where to start because the exposure to an authentic self has been limited because of all the external noise. It's people like you who influence so many, that speak the loudest and influence change! Life is so much better when acceptance is priority! ❤
This is a wonderful video. Its very isolating to be on the outside of that mentality. Everyone trying to one-up each other at all times and for what? It's exhausting. Happy to see your face again Connor Hope you have a happy new year🎉
Taking life headon with so much noise in this world is difficult, "life is far from gentle" (love it!) - Here's to us all doing what we want! - thank you for reminding me Con all the best for 2024!
It's amazing how you can put into words what's been bouncing around in my (and I'm sure other's) head. Happy 2024 Connor - this video was so refreshing as usual. 💜
I love breaking 'silly rules' that don't harm anyone. There's a certain satisfaction in defying conventions that never needed to be there to begin with :]
hence why i deleted all my social media. it’s been almost 4 years without social media and my psyche is so much clearer, i am so much happier without the mindless scrolling and subconsciously comparing myself to everyone else.
tell me why did i feel this right to my soul. tell me why are you talking about my life rn, the way i want to live but I'm too afraid? maybe its just me, maybe its just my 20's
listen, i suppose for me to call it out it would be hypocritical, but i do find it's maddening how we now try to monetize every element of our lives. the grips of capitalism mixed with economic uncertainty are tight.
i needed this. i didn’t know i needed it, but as soon as i heard it, i felt like i had asked the universe a question and it sent you in response. (i tend to feel like that about all your content) i feel like hearing someone else say it will give me the courage to actually try. so thank you
Another amazing upload Connor. I agree with it all. This video somehow perfectly came out at a time where I really felt like I had to abide by what everyone else online and who follows me WANTED me to do. But not really want *I* wanted to do. I’m gonna try and do the same this year. :)
Yes, being yourself is the most difficult thing to be on social media or in real life for that matter. The people on the internet are not referred to as influencer for nothing. Lately I’ve seen on the internet people talking about positivity and leading with kindness. This is the kind of thing I can emulate. 🙏👍😎❤️
Well said 😊 I've never really accepted the rule norms. If I slipped I realised very quickly and rebelled in myself😊 I've always said life is better if we all rub along. It works for me🤷♂️
If only we could go back to like 2010s social media when everything was so much more casual, currently it feels like your sm persona is another meticulous stressful task
exactllllly. im going to post much more but the titles, lengths, subjects, thumbnails are not going to be a priority at all. consider this a reclamation of my platform.
„Let me show you“ exactly that. This is why I deleted Instagram. Re-downloaded it and the first thing I did is…well show people that I am living a COOL INTERESTING life. Such a weird way of seeing and curating my life. I felt so much better when I didn’t do it. It’s such a weird habit. Of wanting to share because I like a place, and stuff I do. But why not just tell people when they ask me (in person ?) Why is this experience only valid if I post it ? Still trying to figure this out. Whatever. Thanks Connor for making me think and reflect ❤
Yay, she's alive!! So, worried Mr. No post in six months. Yikes. Glad you're okay. Love the vid, but you've never been what most would call a " follower ". So not to worry sir you're still an original. LOL
"We, we, we" ... do you mean, influencers? That's not most people. I know hardly anyone following trends and sharing show-off content unless they're just having fun. Individualism and social integrity are alive and well, maybe just not if you make money from social media.
For me, I just go on tumblr and ao3 and surround myself (on the internet) with positive people. I'm in the atla/tlok fandom on tumblr and I found some amazing friends (and possibly a future boyfriend). I've also been listening to a lot of m4m/m4a asmrs on here (mainly the sfw ones) and that's helped me figure out who I am as well. (I identified as bi for about a year then a week ago I figured out that I was gay and I wanted to check out if the realization was true, so I looked up two female celebrities that I had major crushes on and I came up with nothing, then I went and tried to listen to all the f4f/f4m asmrs but I just got uncomfortable. The male for male/male for androgynous asmrs just make me feel safe (and I've definitely simped for them the most 😅). I also wanna move out of my parents house and go back to school to get my library science degree (being a librarian seems to be more low-key than working as a cashier) and I just wanna finally be able to be myself and surround myself with people who get me. I want to find my own found family. Break the rules of my introverted lifestyle and start living 💙
Connor, your videos have always been so inspirational to me. Inspiring me to film and to feel. put together projects that just reflect how I’m feeling rather than having to have such a specific purpose for everything. I’m currently making a list of things I want to do and stay away from this year, and I need to take a step back and look at the things that I used to do that made me happy and get back into them. I instantly thought of how inspired your videos made me and searched up your name and now I’m here, and I feel the same level of inspiration that I did many years ago. Thank you for sharing how you feel and your videos make me so HAPPY. love you so very much. love to see how your take on life changes over time and I couldn’t agree more with what’s being said. It’s the year of living for ME.
Y’all I have something to say and I just think this is the right place to share it. I met Sam pottorf at a coffee shop in Tustin of Christmas break. It was amazing and awkward and I loved every bit of it. That’s all. Good night.
It’s crazy to me how different normal everyday people look from filtered influencers. I wish there were more normal looking people who were influencers. Probably won’t happen tho because they would probably get bullied and do treatments and surgery and fillers to look filtered. Even with influencers, their real life doesn’t look like what they post online.
One thing that really bothers me about today’s society is that everyone is expected to take a political stance publicly on everything. I come to UA-cam for relief from that.
I've been thinking about this a lot when it comes to my art making (music and writing). The idea of playing into algorithms and "brainstorming" video ideas replaces the actual focus on the journey of making the art itself. And it seems fun to come up with cute ideas, but it's not at all what making art was ever about for me. It's like I'm trapped in that mindset. And the pressure to create and consume art FAST is incredibly counterproductive and stops me from working on my projects at all sometimes. And then of course, academia, too, has "rules." I studied writing and learned rules about how to submit poems, how to get to where you want to go. And it's rigid and doesn't make sense. Most people who succeed do so in a way that has nothing to do with the rules.
i think it stems from the optimization and commodification of social and artistic mediums. everything is a pitch now. everyone is trying to sell you something all the time. there is no soul in the internet, only scheme. the rules of creativity are elastic, but the rules of business are strict. i think, in many ways, consumerism has taken the fun from digital spaces. (this feels very cynical to write in short form, so i'll probably put it into a long-form essay with more time).
Hes like “break the society rules be unique be different” while hes talking with an iphone pro max and making reels about his outfit of the day… sure jan
Alan Watt’s quote that I think fits here: “And a great occasion is somehow spoiled for us unless photographed And to read about it the next day in the newspaper Is oddly more fun for us than the original event This is a disaster For as a result of confusing the real world of nature with mere signs We are destroying nature We are so tied up in our minds that we've lost our senses”
saw some horrible and sad and scary footage again today of what is happening in the world. it's important to see. but makes me feel so useless. and even tho i am so greatful for my privledge and so very aware of it, but it also might make me feel sad when i catch myself having a good time. is this called survivors quilt?
I agree with you in this video. I've recently deactivated my social medias, and i instantly felt lighter and far less stressful. We are all too addicted to our phones, and stuff.
What camera do you use to film? Loved this video. I love what you have been putting out. It helps to see someone go through things that I’m going through.
MY DEAR UA-cam FRIEND I WATCH YOU MANY TIMES AND PURCHES BOOK NOTE TO MY SELF I JUST LOVE EVERTING WAY YOU TALK YOUCHIRE OLD MAN THAT IS ME KOSTA AT 74 SOME TIME REMINISEN BEEN YOUNG ALL THE BEST AND GOD LOVE FROM GRAMPA KOSTA
I was thinking about this recently as I’ve decided to stop pursuing marketing as a career, been doing so much writing, and even though I know it’s a less secure career path, why would I do something I don’t like?
So many words, yet so little to say. Pretentious and vapid Connor coming out of retirement "to break the rules" by making another youtuber book and a podcast. :o Sounds like every man i have ever met after smoking a bowl.
I missed you 🫶🏻 everything you said is soooooo true. The best way I’ve learned to break free from it all is just focusing on myself & what I like & taking breaks from social media.
contrary to popular belief: i do remember my youtube login info
I never doubted that lol
Welcome back😭
hi! we missed u hope you are well
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Greetings my dear Gay mates 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
"Just be yourself. Do what you want." - Connor 2024. Words to live by.
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@@ConnorFrantaglad you're okay and posting again
The maze analogy is quite relatable. I feel like someone on the outside who abandoned social media (mostly - no Twitter, FB, never TikTok, barely Instagram...) - I desperately want people to stop **showing** and start **living**
we used to escape reality through the internet and now we try to escape the internet with reality... i think a new balance is in order
@@ConnorFrantagoddamn you're right. i hate the internet now. i like life way more
i guess the internet is part of life but it is not life
"It's like we're all carbon copies of each other pretending to be different" - this is so true. And honestly I need to do a study about this statement, because it seems like that is humanity. We try to fit in by seeking out similarities, and yet shy away from being perceived the same way and strive to be different.
I love how refreshing this video was, especially since not answering a text is considered rude.
My mom who was initially hesitant of even buying a smartphone now tells me to not be rude and answer every family member's monotone "happy birthday!" text which I get it, they're wishing me happiness, but always being virtually present has become so tied with responsibility and kindness, it's a burden to pick up my phone and answer texts. Sorry for the long rant haha :p
oh the "rules" of being technologically connected at all times are maddening. just because you can doesn't mean you should applies a lot here.
Can I like this over and over again? Fellow rule follower here: I miss FUN! I miss just laughing and not caring about angles, about recording the moment, about everything being so under control and perfect. So yeah, let’s bend the rules a bit and go play 🎉
♥♥♥
"you cannot find peace by avoiding life" what a powerful quote. truly something I needed to hear. making me realize I need to reevaluate a few things in life to be the person I want to be. thanks for sharing and giving your insight! I feel like you'd be amazing at a podcast !!
♥♥♥
"Pretending" is such a fitting word. The benefit of being older is that I remember how to be me, how to find value within myself. To be honest getting older teaches you what is important. But I fear the younger generation may not even know where to start because the exposure to an authentic self has been limited because of all the external noise. It's people like you who influence so many, that speak the loudest and influence change! Life is so much better when acceptance is priority! ❤
This is a wonderful video. Its very isolating to be on the outside of that mentality. Everyone trying to one-up each other at all times and for what? It's exhausting.
Happy to see your face again Connor
Hope you have a happy new year🎉
Taking life headon with so much noise in this world is difficult, "life is far from gentle" (love it!) - Here's to us all doing what we want! - thank you for reminding me Con all the best for 2024!
It's amazing how you can put into words what's been bouncing around in my (and I'm sure other's) head. Happy 2024 Connor - this video was so refreshing as usual. 💜
I love breaking 'silly rules' that don't harm anyone. There's a certain satisfaction in defying conventions that never needed to be there to begin with :]
thank you for urging change!!! it is all working out, we are BREAKING THE RULES!!!!!!!!!
hence why i deleted all my social media. it’s been almost 4 years without social media and my psyche is so much clearer, i am so much happier without the mindless scrolling and subconsciously comparing myself to everyone else.
happy for you!
The TikTok algorithm has 24hrs to respond! 🔫
very insightful, i appreciate that.
I've been seriously thinking about deleting all my social media and you finally convinced me so thank you for that! happy new year💜
whatever makes you happy and fulfilled, good luck ♥
We don’t always have to feel like glitter. Some days we’re not bonita, and that’s ok 💅
tell me why did i feel this right to my soul. tell me why are you talking about my life rn, the way i want to live but I'm too afraid? maybe its just me, maybe its just my 20's
Happy New Year Gays 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠
Nice to see you here again and good points throughout including not copying others and figuring out what you want in life 👍
Greetings my dear Gay mates 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
agreed !!! fun has been sooo monetized because of social media. i find it hard to separate my creative digital brand vs art i like to make for fun
listen, i suppose for me to call it out it would be hypocritical, but i do find it's maddening how we now try to monetize every element of our lives. the grips of capitalism mixed with economic uncertainty are tight.
i needed this. i didn’t know i needed it, but as soon as i heard it, i felt like i had asked the universe a question and it sent you in response. (i tend to feel like that about all your content) i feel like hearing someone else say it will give me the courage to actually try. so thank you
Happy New Year! Sending you big hugs and warm regards. May you continue to be a rule breaker we love ❤
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Happy to see you back. 🤍🫶🏻
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Another amazing upload Connor. I agree with it all.
This video somehow perfectly came out at a time where I really felt like I had to abide by what everyone else online and who follows me WANTED me to do. But not really want *I* wanted to do. I’m gonna try and do the same this year. :)
Yes, being yourself is the most difficult thing to be on social media or in real life for that matter. The people on the internet are not referred to as influencer for nothing. Lately I’ve seen on the internet people talking about positivity and leading with kindness. This is the kind of thing I can emulate. 🙏👍😎❤️
damn this was so on point. yeah it's much more fun to do whatever you truly like
Connor, I completely agree but I just like anything food related lol 😂
Love your sweater! Nice color!
hell yeah
Alexa play unwritten by Natasha bedingfirld
you get it
Well said 😊
I've never really accepted the rule norms. If I slipped I realised very quickly and rebelled in myself😊 I've always said life is better if we all rub along. It works for me🤷♂️
If only we could go back to like 2010s social media when everything was so much more casual, currently it feels like your sm persona is another meticulous stressful task
exactllllly. im going to post much more but the titles, lengths, subjects, thumbnails are not going to be a priority at all. consider this a reclamation of my platform.
this was so refreshing to hear
this was so refreshing to hear
I'm so early I just wanna say I love you Connor
„Let me show you“ exactly that. This is why I deleted Instagram. Re-downloaded it and the first thing I did is…well show people that I am living a COOL INTERESTING life. Such a weird way of seeing and curating my life. I felt so much better when I didn’t do it. It’s such a weird habit. Of wanting to share because I like a place, and stuff I do. But why not just tell people when they ask me (in person ?) Why is this experience only valid if I post it ? Still trying to figure this out. Whatever. Thanks Connor for making me think and reflect ❤
Yay, she's alive!! So, worried Mr. No post in six months. Yikes. Glad you're okay. Love the vid, but you've never been what most would call a " follower ". So not to worry sir you're still an original. LOL
"We, we, we" ... do you mean, influencers? That's not most people. I know hardly anyone following trends and sharing show-off content unless they're just having fun. Individualism and social integrity are alive and well, maybe just not if you make money from social media.
I have Watched your videos since i was 12 years old, im now 24 and im always amazed how weve grown together. I just want to say thank you
I'd say you're welcome but i also feel like a thank you is in order on my part as well. Glad we can grow together!
@@ConnorFranta please, even tho u upload every once in a while, i would love to check up on How you are doing by your videos. Truly cool
BE YOUR OWN PERSON, BREAK THE GODDAMN RULES!👏🏻yes connor i’ve missed you
he is back finally 😭🥹❤️🫶🏻
For me, I just go on tumblr and ao3 and surround myself (on the internet) with positive people. I'm in the atla/tlok fandom on tumblr and I found some amazing friends (and possibly a future boyfriend). I've also been listening to a lot of m4m/m4a asmrs on here (mainly the sfw ones) and that's helped me figure out who I am as well. (I identified as bi for about a year then a week ago I figured out that I was gay and I wanted to check out if the realization was true, so I looked up two female celebrities that I had major crushes on and I came up with nothing, then I went and tried to listen to all the f4f/f4m asmrs but I just got uncomfortable. The male for male/male for androgynous asmrs just make me feel safe (and I've definitely simped for them the most 😅). I also wanna move out of my parents house and go back to school to get my library science degree (being a librarian seems to be more low-key than working as a cashier) and I just wanna finally be able to be myself and surround myself with people who get me. I want to find my own found family. Break the rules of my introverted lifestyle and start living 💙
Connor, your videos have always been so inspirational to me. Inspiring me to film and to feel. put together projects that just reflect how I’m feeling rather than having to have such a specific purpose for everything. I’m currently making a list of things I want to do and stay away from this year, and I need to take a step back and look at the things that I used to do that made me happy and get back into them. I instantly thought of how inspired your videos made me and searched up your name and now I’m here, and I feel the same level of inspiration that I did many years ago. Thank you for sharing how you feel and your videos make me so HAPPY. love you so very much. love to see how your take on life changes over time and I couldn’t agree more with what’s being said. It’s the year of living for ME.
Y’all I have something to say and I just think this is the right place to share it. I met Sam pottorf at a coffee shop in Tustin of Christmas break. It was amazing and awkward and I loved every bit of it. That’s all. Good night.
It’s crazy to me how different normal everyday people look from filtered influencers. I wish there were more normal looking people who were influencers. Probably won’t happen tho because they would probably get bullied and do treatments and surgery and fillers to look filtered. Even with influencers, their real life doesn’t look like what they post online.
so shocked you posted today,, your words will always resonate with me
The size and health of that fig tree in the back is distracting
she used to be 4 feet tall. i am a proud mother
One thing that really bothers me about today’s society is that everyone is expected to take a political stance publicly on everything. I come to UA-cam for relief from that.
I needed this reminder, THANK YOU!!!
I've been thinking about this a lot when it comes to my art making (music and writing). The idea of playing into algorithms and "brainstorming" video ideas replaces the actual focus on the journey of making the art itself. And it seems fun to come up with cute ideas, but it's not at all what making art was ever about for me. It's like I'm trapped in that mindset. And the pressure to create and consume art FAST is incredibly counterproductive and stops me from working on my projects at all sometimes. And then of course, academia, too, has "rules." I studied writing and learned rules about how to submit poems, how to get to where you want to go. And it's rigid and doesn't make sense. Most people who succeed do so in a way that has nothing to do with the rules.
I think your next book should just be a compilation of rants like these..god i would love that 😂🫶🏼
HELLO IVE MISSED YOU!
I'm interested in where this is all coming from. Did something specific trigger this rant?
i think it stems from the optimization and commodification of social and artistic mediums. everything is a pitch now. everyone is trying to sell you something all the time. there is no soul in the internet, only scheme. the rules of creativity are elastic, but the rules of business are strict. i think, in many ways, consumerism has taken the fun from digital spaces. (this feels very cynical to write in short form, so i'll probably put it into a long-form essay with more time).
Thanks for the reply. @@ConnorFranta
yes connor preach say it louder for everyone in the back. you are amazing and ILYSM
Hes like “break the society rules be unique be different” while hes talking with an iphone pro max and making reels about his outfit of the day… sure jan
Alan Watt’s quote that I think fits here: “And a great occasion is somehow spoiled for us unless photographed
And to read about it the next day in the newspaper
Is oddly more fun for us than the original event
This is a disaster
For as a result of confusing the real world of nature with mere signs
We are destroying nature
We are so tied up in our minds that we've lost our senses”
saw some horrible and sad and scary footage again today of what is happening in the world. it's important to see. but makes me feel so useless. and even tho i am so greatful for my privledge and so very aware of it, but it also might make me feel sad when i catch myself having a good time. is this called survivors quilt?
I agree with you in this video. I've recently deactivated my social medias, and i instantly felt lighter and far less stressful. We are all too addicted to our phones, and stuff.
What camera do you use to film?
Loved this video. I love what you have been putting out. It helps to see someone go through things that I’m going through.
The last time the internet felt fun was when vine was still alive amd youtube was a community not just a job
"Don't follow the rules, be an individual !" He said with the trendiest phone in the market.
1:18 virgos
i resisted the urge to put that text on the screen exactly there
Bless Connor for being the UA-cam content society needs more of. I always enjoy his content!
MY DEAR UA-cam FRIEND I WATCH YOU MANY TIMES AND PURCHES BOOK NOTE TO MY SELF I JUST LOVE EVERTING WAY YOU TALK YOUCHIRE OLD MAN THAT IS ME KOSTA AT 74 SOME TIME REMINISEN BEEN YOUNG ALL THE BEST AND GOD LOVE FROM GRAMPA KOSTA
hope I’m not wrong but was the choice of the color palette of the video supposed to mean something? 🍉
Big AMEN! We all need more fun!
How did I miss this for 5 days!!! I’ll do my part and keep doing life my way!
externalising my internal monologue
It’s so nice to see you again. Amazing video 💗
thanks for watching ♥
Your content is always so refreshing to watch
Thank you for this video as usual such a breath if fresh air to see your face ! ❤
random thought but you would be really good at narrating the meditations on headspace
people just make up in their minds what is right for them. you can do the same!
I love this man so much! wish you a great year ahead 🙇♂️
Yeassss Connor thank you for popping off 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
If this isn’t an enneagram 1 pressing into the positive side of 7, I don’t know what is 😂
You’re wearing the same pullover my ex has
omg welcome back!!!!!!!!!!! we missed you
thanks angel, happy to be there :')
I love you. & I love that you are back just being you 💞
I’ve been living by this since I came out the wound.
welcome back!! and this was very well said
Speaking nothing but facts 🙌🏼
I was thinking about this recently as I’ve decided to stop pursuing marketing as a career, been doing so much writing, and even though I know it’s a less secure career path, why would I do something I don’t like?
happy you're pursing your passion!!
a five minute video after 6 months 😭 ill take it. loved u since forever!
So many words, yet so little to say. Pretentious and vapid Connor coming out of retirement "to break the rules" by making another youtuber book and a podcast. :o Sounds like every man i have ever met after smoking a bowl.
it's almost comical how confidently wrong you are? i hope you find peace in such a self aggrandizing soul
connor!! i missed u so much, it's nice to see you again
The more I listen the more I’m mesmerized. I’m so confused dm.
A happy and healthy 2024 for you!!!!
What is the name of the podcast? 😊
Hello Superbia
( 2:34 )
Why you never grow old
I missed you 🫶🏻 everything you said is soooooo true. The best way I’ve learned to break free from it all is just focusing on myself & what I like & taking breaks from social media.
Welcome back and a Happy New Year! 💙
Love your voice and calmness.
This video is so real and I love this
wait a minute bestie, connor just uploaded a new video 🙇♀️✨️
* approach with caution so we dont scare him away *
Ngl I want to be that 2010s NLOG who’s like: “Some of us like rules and don’t like to party! Yes we exist.” but honestly no one cares lol