Watch this if you're the Black Sheep of your family.
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I am the black sheep. My sisters & my mother hate me. They blame me for literally everything. Not only do they blame me for everything, the also none stop talk & lie about me. It hurts. It hurts bc I have done nothing but try to help them. Nothing is good enough. I’ve started a UA-cam channel to try to build a family of my own. Thank you for this video ♥️
Work on you and start separating they will ruin your life don't be afraid take the necessary steps if not of age then plan your escape now I live in the same sit they will flip it on you till your in jail or dead or out on the streets
@@haveaniceday5693 oh they already did put me in jail years ago. Lying on me. Then everytime I had a job prospect I was excited about, I would tell my ‘family’ naturally.. & well long story short.. of course I didn’t get the job. I mostly feel sorry for my children because they aren’t growing up with their cousins, they don’t even know what half of their family members looks like. 🥺
After watching analyzing and utilizing many tools I started implementing what I have learned only to be attacked with things of the past this morning I told my mother to respect my boundaries and she blew up and started threatening with calling the police after she initiated the yelling and violence. I have to get out I only came thinking she's elderly my dad died I should take care of her....But in reality I need to take care of myself , being here is detrimental to my overall well being
Sorry for no punctuation I just needed to vent this out and also thanks for replying.As for your kids I'm sure they are great and they have many friends around home n school, Just commit you will be happier, as I must to stay away from there (family) Toxic ways.
What is ur UA-cam channel?
@@djrafash2715 it’s under my name, Nicole LaBossiere Hinkle. I am working on new content now & I also have a channel that’s for meditation & relaxation. It’s called dark nature asmr. I had to quit working on my channel because I couldn’t produce videos where I was around my narcissistic family, but now I can and it’s a work in progress. 😊
Being black sheep are the ones who's struggling the most but they keep on going no matter how odds are against them.
I was told by ppl in eating disorder treatment that were the resilient ones ❤❤
@@dove.9833 Likewise keep being authentic on what it's right
Ur not alone brother, this shit all makes sense now, N IM JUST LEARNING AT 62😮✌️🇨🇦
I walked away from my toxic family and feel so much more free … my parents are narcissistic and very controlling so glad I’m away from it.
Being the black sheep of the family was the best thing that ever happened to me
Why? 😢
Because it the negative things in life that make us stronger.
I don’t feel accepted by anyone. I feel incredibly lonely.
I was taught nothing growing up everything I learned I learned by myself and now I have more knowledge and wisdom than them clowns !
Facts
Same here..
we are self-made! and so much more resilient and smarter than them
It takes huuuuuge courage to go against your family or their believes even if they are wrong at certain things. Understand your inner core and follow that alone is true enlightenment.. Getting connected with your thoughts more n more..
Exactly! Understanding who we are is key ☺️ thanks for watching 🤍🥰
🙏🏽 yup
Thanks
we. all are officially a herd . lol...we got this family...it's never a regret when it comes to a person's sanity and stability..
Being the black sheep is abuse, we are abused because there are abusers in our family and they chose us because they needed a target. It's not really for the reasons we believe, because we're different etc. That's personalising the abuse. It's like saying a person wearing scant clothes was sexually assaulted because they wore scant clothes, which is not true. they were abused because the abuser needed a target. I have learned to not personalise my abuse as a scapegoat / black sheep and one way to get to that point is to realise if you were not present it would have been someone else. Abusers need targets, targets don't create abusers.
All that you say is true and not denied but we just also do add that it’s not an excuse for the abuse but usually those of us who are black sheep are already so different to change that same cycle of abuse that is put onto us. That is why most of us end up never raising our children the way we were raised which breaks that toxic cycle immediately and that in itself is being chosen for a higher purpose beyond the abuse but it does not excuse the abuse.
For me definitely toxic family dynamics but a lot of the reasons I was scapegoated/labeled black sheep were because of hsp/adhd/neuro-atypical behaviors.
I was singled out because I spoke truth and radiated love. This is something narcs can’t stand and will sabotage their own children and create groups/systems of abuse so you can never escape.
It is all about being controlled, even as an adult. You must obey the queen mother or be silenced.
That is why you must get ways as soon as you can and get your independence from the truants to heal your soul
Beautifully said and Truuuuuuue
Yep!
My older only sister is the toxic one in my family and she ruined my relationship with my mother, because she was envious and jealous of me. A lot of suffering over many years, what a waste.
I'm an INFJ-T and an introvert. I'm also the black sheep and scapegoat who gets accused, persuted, framed and lied on.
What is INFJ_T? Sorry, it maybe a stupid question, but never heard it before. I'm not a native English speaker
@@Zahra-wd3md INFJ_T is a Personality Type.
I = Introversion
N = Intuition
F = Feeling
T = Thinking
J = Judgement
@@tylerbonabon9382 Thank you for explaining. There are so many terms used in the comments. I cant keep up with them. Sometimes I look it up, but I didn't with this word. Well thanks to you, I learned something new 😁.
through the pain, she cried
through the arrows, she flied,
through the storm, she thrived.
a wild flower she bloomed
the twisted world she doomed
a female alpha groomed
rose from the ashes it begin
skin tough and hatred thin
the girl therein
a shewolf underneath black sheep skin.
thank you for the video ❤️
You’re so talented ❤️ and I can see that I relate to you.... thank you for watching 🤍🤍
Oh this was perfect! Thank you for sharing this. Using it as motivation 🙏🏽
I can spot a poet from miles away, splendid master brother✌👏.
Really nice poem👍👌❤
Thank you i love this we are phoenixes riseing from the flames
Since I moved out on my own and away from my toxic family, I’ve been finding myself again. To this day, I still see them and they are not my #1 priority anymore. I used to really care about them and what they thought about me but it hurt too much. I fake who I am around them cause I don’t like the drama and the fighting, I’ve had to adapt. I’ve had to learn how to heal and how to be around them to not get hurt. Its a struggle that never ends, but I still try and love them regardless. Everyone else outside of my family seems to see my potential and I’m able to make people happy. Of course, as chosen ones we always have enemies or haters, but if I can bounce back from my family, I can overcome anything. Thank you for this video 😊
Same exactly to the T
Christ has an offering for you and it’s your purpose in him and he waits for you. Try him he is the only way and you won’t regret it. I’ve learned that fighting this world of darkness off of your own understanding only ends in frustration and lack of piece but fight against it with light. The true light which is holyness that only god has and understands . His piece is Eternal and not just for a “long time”🖤hope u read this and take it serious god bless you
@Ella D'Frew Thank you! 😊 Interesting enough I am just recently being myself while also standing up for myself and creating boundaries with certain family. Sometimes its best to be honest, cause while it may cause drama, you are speaking your truth and showing you will not tolerate disrespect. 😊
@@Siinnerr Thank you! I appreciate your support and have had to pray to God with my struggles. I trust he will lead me in the right direction in this dark world. God bless you too 😊
I probably had the coolest psychology teacher in college. On the last day of class he told us to follow:
If there's one thing I want you to remember it is this, the one thing people want more than anything else is to belong. To be a part of something. Out if everything in the world. That is the one thing that man wants most. He said don't forget it.
Love this❤️
You’re words just saved me.
Thank you so much for your comment. Made my day!
!!! Literally
This made me cry. Cos this is me 💯 I really needed this honestly.
INFJ here.
Same 🥺
INFJ here too and I wonder why so many of us end up as scapegoats and black sheep of our families
Yup. INFJ team too. Actually had a distant relative confirm that I was the black sheep of the family only a few days ago. Was hard to hear but just confirmed what I'd known all along. Difference is now I'm learning to embrace my own path away from my family. I'm glad that I'm different from them, they're stuck in a narrow world view whereas I am much more open to new and wonderful things. My family's narrative of me is not my truth- anymore. Praying all the scapegoats out there learn their worth 🙏
I'm an INFJ-T and a black sheep/scapegoat
INFP feel the same as you INFJ's.
I've been crying alot wondering if am a bad person as my toxic parents put it,but your message is all I really needed to hear
Learn to set boundaries they must respect though they will hate you and even make a scene when establishing this ........this will tell you how much you need to prepare for when your of age to leave their home or even emancipate if your underage but it already sounds like a Toxic environment, that you shouldn't be a part of all your life Get Out!
I think your a Good Person and Please Smile after you Cry You are the Sunshine of the World .........Don't let no one or nothing bring u Down Girl, Keep your head up......Nothing but the Love to You......Be well.💙🙏
I really notice that all the chosen ones/ black sheep, are not only beautiful people inside, but also from the outside. I think you're really pretty. And everything you say makes a lot of sense.
The choices of my family leaded to my outcast and a lonely life. I'm Not relevant to them. I don't live with them, I tried my best, but still No calls, nothing. I am a young man and It brakes me Day to Day.
Fuck em bro,Do your thing… Hve Fun, Strt your own Soul Tribe, Continue to work on yourself nd give it 💯 Peecebt eveeyday.
Thank you for this reminder. I feel very sad when I think about my past, but I also know I wouldn't be the same person without it.
U are not alone ❤️
Very true
Same I was the black sheep my family didn't accept me for being or thinking differently. My family got married young and lost their virginity to their first. I was promiscuous and exploring my sexual health being safe though and dating. I was scared to be married and have kids .I was lost and didn't want to commit cause of fear of trust issues
. I went to college graduated got a degree and became distant towards them. I did things without them. My boyfriends family is very welcoming compared to my own family. Others will accept you no matter what ,you may be surprised Others will treat you better compared to your own blood.
From one black sheep to another, this was an AMAZING video. Thank you so much❤ God bless you.
Agreed
Yasssssss ✌🏽💚🦅💕🙏🏽😁
My journey is just beginning. It took 35 years for me to realize this was me. I went back to my hometown and God pulled the wool off my eyes. He showed me who my family really was. Even when I do nothing wrong I'm blamed. I cut off all ties....it was damn hard...but I'm sharing my journey right here on UA-cam...
me at 34. Let's go my girls! make the best out of our time left on earth ❤ much courage
Yeah, let me tell you a messed up story, my dad took my son, and my eldest brother on a boat to fish, and I wasn't even invited. The cherry on the cake from this story is, my eldest brother picked up my son that day and lied, said he was taking him for ice cream, and to hang out, my dad had him lie to my face.... It's never okay to treat anyone like that. And the advice I can give is, don't let your thoughts sit in your head, tell the people treating you this way, how you feel, because even though you might not change things, it's better than letting thoughts sit in your head. Parents that do this, your messed up and shouldn't have kids. Making a child feel unimportant, or not good enough, is fucked up....
true. my therapist told me imagine you are dealing with a kid that wants to hurt your inner child... it made it so much easier from that perspective to set up boundaries .. like uh uh.. this child had no voice but now im the parent. go with the program or get gone ✌️ and unfortunately they decided to push me towards the my game or no game then. but that took A LOT of guilt from me.. like.. it was your final choice, i gave options
Healing is a lifelong experience. There is never a point where its “done”. Im 70 now and I worked to heal the pain all my life and still do. That doesnt mean there are never good times - there are. Love to all.
I am the black sheep of my family I was like Cinderella I always did everything my sisters never did anything was kept out of events etc... my mother verbally abused me telling my dad not to come to her funeral and was always talked behind my back so she is telling the truth we are in this together sending love and light to all the black sheep ♥
I’ve always felt like the black sheep. When I was a kid I used to be more shy now I’m more open and have changed a lot. In my social life it isn’t that bad, I even feel better with my friendships and I feel like I can be myself with my friends, but in my family I feel invisible and I’m the youngest child. I’m very smart maybe that’s why I’m also very open minded and think differently than my fam.
Same here and I thank God for the big change now
So glad I found this! Started questioning why I was the black sheep of my family and it doesn't help when I'm introverted, sensitive, and and suffer from social anxiety while the rest of my family can speak freely. I can't even stick up for myself although I really want to. I am very aware of people's thoughts and feelings and have a hard time expressing myself vocally. I've been told in school that I am very creative in film, painting, drawing, music, etc. I guess I've been in my head so long that I truly don't see myself the way others see me. Sorry to trauma dump but this video really helped me. :)
We are the same person. Actually tearing up
@@missnataliamarie really ?? :O i’m so glad! we’ll get through this 🫂
I felt so seen reading this, I get it
I get it. You’re not alone. ❤
I feel the same way. God got us. Stay strong and grounded
Im the oldest of 10. My parents were very young and I went to my grandparents, they both remarried and had kids. I stayed at grandparents. I watched from the outside, both of them have families i wasn't included in. Lots more but i won't write a long story here. I'm an adult for many years now and can still feel all of it
I agree sis I felt the black sheep of my family and having my kids made me happier
I'm the black sheep. My younger sister's are treated way better than me and have support of our mom. My own mom basically makes me feel like I do everything wrong especially since my mom doesn't care about me, it hurts because I do everything to try to get her to like me but she makes me feel like crap about myself. I have tried everything but she doesn't listen to me about anything I say, I can talk but she doesn't listen to me. Nothing I ever do is good enough for her she makes me feel like the black sheep. Thank you for this video it helps a lot ❤️♥️💞
For 22, you’re doing a fantastic job! 🎉
I moved out a little more than a year ago. I remember near the end of still being connected with my family when I realized my cousins were all no longer my allies, then I realized they never were, they never respected me even when I thought they saw things differently from the rest of the family, they ended up the same as the older generation. I always knew I was different than all my family, but I held onto the idea that maybe that one cousin might be on my side, but she always disrespected me and I was the one who apologized and I was scared to admit it. It’s terrifying to realize you’re truly alone and have no one.
it is 💔 i keep my faith strong on finding my true soul family. It's such a relief to hear ppl and even old religions and philosophies pointing out to brighter days and gradual understading and insights after deciding to heal the pain and move on.
We are separate, but not alone ❤
I'm NOT ALONE!
I'm estranged from my family. Sometimes I want to reach out but remember the hell they put me through
Someone is really opening up to their true feelings of how they see and feel things. you spott the ligh on things that some people live and are not even aware of but it shows in their behaviors and actions. I am sure that making this video was extremely a relief for you to let out your feelings openely and honeslty
Exactly 🥰🥰 thank you bby
I was the black sheep but my family was supportive - it wasn’t bad I was just different ❤
I haven’t spoke to my sisters in over 20 years my parents died before then 👌also don’t be like me and when you get sick and you have nothing better to do DONT look up family members cause they just brings back horrible memories just keep moving forward 🥹I have to remind myself of that all the time
I live in a world with no empathy and therefor no humans. Exploitation of me and my weaknesses is all there is 24/7. Apparently they is no shame... Thats all I want to say in line with this
subject "And thank you to my followers"
keep in touch your family is here ...we understand ..🙏
Listening to you feels like I am listening to my own version in another body..
I just realized this
My Goodness, so beautiful this is. You spoke my life and I feel you. Soul to soul, your loved and appreciated.
Although I have been the Black Sheep of my family, I still love my family very much and I will always be there for them when it is my time to aid them....forever..
Wow her life sounds so similar to mine,it's good to know you're not alone ,no matter how alone the world makes you feel 💝 I'm in tears right now.
You're an old soul meaning you have been here before.
Thank you for this. It makes me feel less alone. ❤
Same here
You are such a beautiful person inside and out 🥰 thanks for the upload
I needed this today
That makes me so happy 🥰🥰 thank you for watching 🤍
Thank you. Felt like i was dying slowly with being the rejected one. Thank you so much.
But you know what WERE THE STRONGEST because we endure so much… it’s at times I feel my strength being tested because the people who are supposed to love and care for you the most treat you as the scapegoat the one who can easily be tossed aside and blamed. I’m the one who will hold people accountable and that’s probably why my family dislikes me. I don’t believe in playing victim. It’s a painful role and people have been known to commit suicide I know one person who did that. 😢
All I have to say is stay strong you have your friends and you have God.
I'm the black sheep the defective son/brother that nobody wanted my whole life my entire family treated me like I was like I was less than nothing to them I'd even exist then that's when I learned it's better to be a pariah sentenced to an eternity of loneliness and misery than to have someone in your life who will I'm eventually betray and destroy you.
I really thank you!!! Luna to make a long story short, I love what you said, whatever happened in my childhood life it's not your fault. Make peace with yourself and heal from the past even if it means that you won't be connected with your family. Don't allowed this self-righteousness to cloud my heart of conviction, I'm special and know y
my worth. ❤
I made the decision not to be the black sheep, I made myself the black wolf.
Thank you so much I really needed this today ❤
Im tired of them treating me like trash like im not related i got friends that love me more then my family its bullshit so i cut them off im going to be happy love doesn't hurt
I just found your channel and could not Thank you enough for your words, this is such a struggle for me even at 51 yrs old, but you have opened my eyes. The only one who could relate to me or actually I felt like would listen and love me for who I was is my dad and he was sick on April 25 2022 and passed away on May 29, 2022, I have felt the biggest loss and feeling so alone and sad.
I'm sending all my blessings love and light.
Love from Washington State
Thank you. First time I felt understood and valued!
I cried watching this
Very well said
Hello Lovely,
that's 100 % my story of Life.!!!
Thank you so much for this precious channel!!❤🙏🙏🙏
This is exactly what I needed to hear, I just recently found out that I'm the black sheep, I've had a very difficult childhood and I thought to myself "well that's how it's supposed to be, we're all meant to suffer emotionally" only to realize that what I thought was just a way to cope, it only started slapping hard when I moved abroad,where I'm all alone , with no one to talk to about my achievements, dreams,pains and sorrows, I tried so many times to talk to the most trusted people whom I love dearly but instead I got burned, when I talk about my dreams I'd be expecting cheerful words but what I always get in return is just negative criticism, in their eyes every decision I make in my life is a bad one, everything i do will just turn into a disaster that even when I do good for myself and them nothing gets noticed, I know I've done bad and I've made mistakes in my life but it's really not okay for my mistakes to follow me for the rest of my life, I've seen I've learned and I've accepted but what's so difficult for my own family to feel the same and take me as one of their own with all my flaws and abilities, I feel like if they gave me a chance to be myself I'd have made so many positive changes in their life. let me just stop here because I won't finish, I'm totally a different person now, I see the truth, live the truth share the truth but my family is still holding onto my past life, they bring it up everytime, not just by words but actions.i told myself that I'll only get married to the black sheep and I still stand by my word, because the black sheep is the only one who sees the truth from far and follows it, we know pain and instead of hating we make friends because that's the fountain of wisdom.I pray to the most high legend to give me strength to get over this and move on.
Amen 🙏🏾
Amen 🙏❤️
♥️🌸🌸 thank u for the video
I've always been the black sheep
I can relate on about all that you talk about. I am a Spiritualst and a Empath. I believe in Reincarnation and our Soul's plans on the physical plane on earth. I am a old Soul with many past lives. My wife and mine Spiritual Healer and Psychic medium did a Past life Regression which my last past life I was a Ascended Master which I reincarnated in my present life to rescue and help my wife. Which her past life she was an Angel too. In my present life, growing up my family picked me as the Black Sheep on our Family. Everything that you said you tell the truth. Thank you!
We get rejected by our families because our families are the complete opposite of who we are. For example, our families are failures, losers, and shitty people. And we’re the opposite.
I feel people don’t put god into this as much, just the fact that god puts certain people to be the black sheep’s off the family and to experience a lot of abuse says a lot about how god operates. It’s sick and it gets deep
You just told my whole life story . Thank you 🙏🏾
I’m the Black Sheep of the family. Same with my husband.
Thank you for this, you just put me to tears..... ❤
Hello I am the black sheep in my family thank you for the video 😊
Thank you so much for this. Every single word resonated.
Absolutely beautiful message ! thank you ❤️
Wow. This was beautiful
This brought me to tears 🤍
Hard core message "WHEN YOU RISE,THEY FALL!#chosenones#haters#fall" by Denzo Mos
oh I needed this sooo much today ..perfect video by a beautiful , intelligent and eloquent soul
Wow, incredible message and exactly the lift I needed. Thank you for your guidance. Sending love to you, beautiful black sheep.
It always warms my soul to hear others just like me, and how courageous we all are breaking a lot of different curses no matter how hard it get in life we still Presser Vere, just as much as the ones that go against us, even if we go through more than they do. At the end of the day, show them love send them on follow the four agreements leave this earth not feeling any regret.
well said family...we have no other choice for our health and stability..Ty😇do not feel guilty for caring about yourself...we are not a doormat or a sponge or battery for another to wipe their feet on or used like a jumping cable for a energy boost...
as always we do not fight against flesh and bone but a constant spiritual battle of the invisible foe
..it's sad that they can't even see what they are doing bc they are caught in low vibration..only God can fix that..
move forward dear sheep in kindness and forgiveness on your path to ultimate freedom..love and light🕊️
I see Luna has not posted in a year..
keep in touch Luna and fam
Well said, love and light to you too! ❤ Grace
wow... thank you for the video. this really helped me just now so i appreciate it. christmas time last year i quit talking to my whole family and in january basically mourned the loss but have been rising day by day since then and shedding so many things that have plagued my life for so long... you just helped connect a few dots that i knew but hadnt fully thought through as well. what used to be such issues are now things im grateful for, like the ability to say "i dont know"... something my family is incapable of and of course that stunts all growth. or my willingness to jump into spirituality, so grateful. now im at the point of having to truly just let go of it all... all the frustration of their opinions, shit behavior etc and take responsibility for how i feel regardless of what comes at me. one thing thats been real interesting is just simply knowing that NONE of these people have any clue whats going on in my life, that alone has given me a sense of calm. yes i need to not care if they talk shit (which they will do no matter what) but at least for now, being able to know for sure, without a doubt that they know nothing (good or bad) is tremendous, taking some of the power back simply by not responding ever. thank you again for the video, i look forward to finding out what it is im supposed to do in this lifetime.... sure as shit not gonna waste it being frustrated or angry about the past, done enough of that. be well friend
This is one of the best videos I've seen about this subject. It really hit home and I felt really understood. Thank you so much.
To those that feel they wear these shoes. I have been listening to and reading posted information on this subject.
Seems like a high percentage have fallen by the wayside. Broken spirit, low self esteem, and have become haters of those that have treated you wrong. Then there are those that say they are better than others, and they are special.
I can only speak for myself. This is the calling I have been chosen for. I embrace it. I am not just a black sheep of the family I grew up with. I am a black sheep in the world. They were not able to break my spirit. They couldn't bring my self esteem down. My love is strong. It has made more understanding now, and is humbling. I don't regret my purpose for which I was created.
I serve TMH YAH. His righteous works is being done in me. Shalom.
I can completely relate with everything you have said. I am going through this right now
of feeling ostracized from my entire extended family and your video is actually very therapeutic.
🙏Thank you!
Beautiful encouraging message love it..
You have worked hard and succeeded in improving your own life that you are now way ahead of most of your family members, they have tried to bring you down but they have somehow failed. You will be the black sheep until they become the best fashion of who you are right now!
It seems like black sheep have a heightened sensitivity which also gives them an inner beauty. Maybe this causes an insecurity or jealousy in a toxic family because they don’t have it. It’s sad but interesting that these sensitive people are often targeted
An eagle that grew up amongst chickens
Goodness!!!!!....... Thank you my queen
On the spot!!
Lots of love to you ❤️
Thank you for sharing this! I feel understood!!
No one is even talking to me🥺😔
I must say, Lions and Black Sheep know how to make friends with each other (and know how to get along despite difference in ideology and beliefs).
By being rejected i am removed from drama and trauma in the family. I am glad i am rejected.
Thank you for this! 🤎
Thank you as I embrace my new journey I’m choosing to be myself
Thank you so much.
So beautiful, thank you for sharing ✌🏼
Thank you ❤️✨
I recently was literally disowned and openly cast out by my family for no reasin other than no fitting in..and it's been a wild ride to finally open my eyes to see it is the best and worst thing that could've happen to me. Now I get to be me fully and create life my way. I know there's a long road ahead of my healing journey from narc dynamics.. and it's so hard to learn to trust life, people and myself, I emotionally feel like an orphan kid but I trust it's a part of the journey❤ interesting most philosophies, religions and spiritual paths give us a clue on the purpose of this.
thanks for sharing this powerful reminder.. I woke up with the darkest thoughts of how I feel like I won't be able to make it through this stage and this helped me snap me out of it 💖✨
Beautiful message ❤️
Thank you for this ❤️
This is a very positive video
Thank you very much needed this
Thank you 🖤