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This is amazing. Been listening to this session all morning and already feel more empowered to help myself deal with inevitable dysphoria. Thanks doc 🙏
Im grateful for this channel. I knew more about psychology, methods, and techniques than my past 5 therapists so I figured I should just figure it out on my own from now on. lol
🙏🏽 Definitely helpful I find myself doing some of these things. esp staying overly busy or distraction suppression. yes reading my bible helps and aromatherapy scents. or reading. even at times working on psych homework helps.
Thank you for saving my life. 🥹 I can’t wait for July, to pursue your courses. I owe you a big part of who I am now and you will always be with me, because your teachings are with me. I guess you could say that you are and will always be a big part of me and I am so very grateful for you. ❤️🌹
@@DocSnipes really?! Thank you! I will check right away. Sorry for missing it. As I’ve told you, I am running on a tight schedule untill july. I love you! Thank you for being here! 🙏❤️🌹🌹🌹
0:45 this is absolutely true! Esp when someone making 3 mountains out of acorns.. 41:35 loop thoughts excerises love it I will research distress distress and incorporate in my daily life! I will help when voluteering at the equine therapy barn.
Thank you so much for your comment! It’s great to hear that the video resonated with you, and that you’re planning to incorporate these tools into your daily life. Distress tolerance skills can be so helpful, especially when those loop thoughts take over. And it’s wonderful that you’re volunteering at an equine therapy barn-being around horses can be so grounding and calming. How has your experience at the equine therapy barn influenced your approach to managing stress and emotions?
Long winded my best self to myself and my loved ones 24/7 is extremely important to me. Before this year, I was 80, then 105 no let up Regulation gait slows down significantly. breathing prior and during being with Horses the way tension in my body posture. Partnering with horses with energy awareness. fake "I'm ok" self is removed from me completely. Active listening constructive criticis bettering horsemanship applied Pressure & and released verbally and physically is seen and felt body language Selflessness verbally and nonverbal intentions are clear
This is very instructive and also slightly bewildering as it had never occurred to me that 'distress tolerance' existed or could be seen as a learned skill. Thank you.
Thank you for your feedback! Distress tolerance is indeed a vital skill, and it's great to hear that the video was both informative and eye-opening for you. Please feel free to share what you found lost useful from the video. Additionally, if you have any questions or want to learn more about it, feel free to ask or use my AI at: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
I remember once sitting in the t.v. room with my mom’s friends son Andy. He pointed at a beautiful lady on a tv commercial and said, omg., I wish that lady was our mom!
As I watch this, it reinforces to me that very few therapists understand what real darkness is like. DBT and CBT, I think, are likely helpful to people who just need help organizing their thoughts and actions.
I've been to a dark place, now that I'm out i realize my internal world was messed up that's why it got really dark in there DBT helps, but one might resist at first
I was on the edge of taking an immediate exit often for years. The wisdom of DBT is why I am still amongst the living. Currently not convinced surviving was the kindest response for me personally, but the damage to those to those who attempted to help is more than I can tolerate so I prefer more suffering. I do have periods of intense love for humans.
My former personal trainer treated me badly. She’s around 35, and a professional bodybuilder. She wouldn’t ask me about my schedule and she criticized my age by calling me grandma! I fired her, but still working out at the same gym. She had the owner Jason come over to me while lifting weights and ask me is that your truck parked outside? He had a bullying tone. Then he had his gym bar cashier who has a disabled daughter she works at the gym with everyday accuse me of parking my truck in the parking lot too! These people are on a manipulative power trip from hell! Jen is a negative narcissist who’s been bullying me!
Practice mindfulness. It's not the same thing without professional help and it would be best if you could find a way to get it, but I believe practicing mindfulness might give good results after some months. Of course, the key practice, practice, practice...
I’m self-diagnosed as BPD and have been actively identifying, confronting, understanding, and changing the patterns and behaviors associated with this disorder for just over a year. It is absolutely possible to help yourself- in fact it is exactly what you are doing by watching this video and asking for help in the comments!
I suggest: 1. Get plenty of regular sleep. 2. Drink plenty of water to stay hydrated. 3. Get regular physical exercise. 4. Avoid stimulants like sugar, caffeine, and nicotine and consider adopting a healthy diet. 5. Practice/master a regular form of stress-reduction like mindfulness, meditation, yoga, tai chi, taoism, and/or others to counteract the negative BPD coping habits. Good luck! With Lots of Love~*❤️
@@yopueelin7300 hey thanks for all of your help. I took action immediately when you guys commented and I'm already noticing subtle differences in my mood swings and whatnot. I'm sure it will take lots of practice and I'm sure I'm going to make mistakes, but this is the first time i'm beginning to see alternate options. Thanks again!
My ex personal trainer glared at me while I was on the stairclimber! She looked mean like the woman on the Exorcist, before her head spun around! She gave me an angry, controlling, narcissistic or sociopathic stare!!!
The more I use the skills from this channel and from therapy, the more my SO becomes unhinged. It’s like she was also addicted to my emotional outbursts. As long as I acted out, my triggers being known and easy enough to push, the more she could deflect from any criticism of her own behavior. It’s a troubling trend.
How about actually fixing the problem, that makes me feel better. Distress tolerance sounds like stuffing emotions and creating a build up. There is so much unnecessary meaness that should not be tolerated. I love change, if it's positive. I do not need to accept abuse and bullying. I just need people to act normal and reasonably polite and ethical. People in HUD housing are not supposed to be a captive and vulnerable targets for the employees.
Comparing yourself to someone less fortunate than you is not nice. Compare yourself with your self not others. Comparing yourself to your brother in prison or your sister over eating. This so judgemental. Out of all of her training, this put me off.
It's more about reminding you to be grateful for what you do have, not necessarily being judgemental about others. It's a way to shift your perspective.
great videos. very helpful . thanks. interesting that christianity has always taught distress tolerance. They emphasized patience, acceptance and also offering up our sufferings as penance for our sins. Of course, we should not deliberately choose pain but it is inevitable so we can offer it to christ in thanks for his suffering on the cross for us.
As if it were just that easy..because we want to "wallow" and ruin our lives and be absolutely miserable all the time. Her advice is the equivalent of: acknowledge it..buck up and move on you dysfunctional, problem of a person.
Distress tolerance is a component of DBT therapy that helps people deregulate their hpa-axis to get into their wise mind so they can begin to figure out how they want to address the problem.
@@DocSnipes Perhaps paying attention to the language you use would be advisable, rather than coming off as dismissive and demeaning. I found some parts quite derisive, as a healthcare professional and as someone who has BPD.
@ustjayenjay All she is saying is that some things in life you have no control over and just need to learn to deal with just like any other person in the same situation would have to deal with it. Nobody owes you a damn thing in this life, especially not strangers. Its not the end of the world to feel upset for a period of time. Unpleasant? Sure, but its not unbearable and you aren't going to die. Life is hard and its hard for EVERYBODY. Nobody is special and you shouldn't take things so personally because nobody owes you
👌More videos can be found on this topic at
ua-cam.com/play/PLcB3trehXswhTNue4-D-becQ8JPd4-GhR.html&si=MFgsoTXxEdJraCQq
❤️Self help activities and worksheets and concierge coaching with Dr. Snipes can be accessed at DocSnipes.com
👍Online Courses for Continuing Education (CEU, OPD, CPD) and Substance Abuse Counselor Certification
This is amazing. Been listening to this session all morning and already feel more empowered to help myself deal with inevitable dysphoria. Thanks doc 🙏
I am so glad this was helpful to you. Thanks for being here on my channel.
Im grateful for this channel. I knew more about psychology, methods, and techniques than my past 5 therapists so I figured I should just figure it out on my own from now on. lol
Same here!
Are things getting better for you?
Best wishes!
3:20 stress is a change. Crisis are changes that we can't control. 18:00 29:00
Thanks for watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at ua-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=dialectical
Being able to get thorugh the day with more motivation. Looking forward.
Thanks for watching
🙏🏽 Definitely helpful I find myself doing some of these things. esp staying overly busy or distraction suppression. yes reading my bible helps and aromatherapy scents. or reading. even at times working on psych homework helps.
You got this! Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
This channel is so good
Thank you for saving my life. 🥹
I can’t wait for July, to pursue your courses. I owe you a big part of who I am now and you will always be with me, because your teachings are with me. I guess you could say that you are and will always be a big part of me and I am so very grateful for you. ❤️🌹
You are so welcome! 😀 I appreciate you being here. I responded to you by email as well.
@@DocSnipes really?! Thank you! I will check right away. Sorry for missing it. As I’ve told you, I am running on a tight schedule untill july. I love you! Thank you for being here! 🙏❤️🌹🌹🌹
Watching this gives me power to interact better with my patients
Glad to hear it. :)
0:45 this is absolutely true! Esp when someone making 3 mountains out of acorns..
41:35 loop thoughts excerises love it
I will research distress
distress and incorporate in my daily life! I will help when voluteering at the equine therapy barn.
Thank you so much for your comment! It’s great to hear that the video resonated with you, and that you’re planning to incorporate these tools into your daily life. Distress tolerance skills can be so helpful, especially when those loop thoughts take over. And it’s wonderful that you’re volunteering at an equine therapy barn-being around horses can be so grounding and calming.
How has your experience at the equine therapy barn influenced your approach to managing stress and emotions?
Long winded my best self to myself and my loved ones 24/7 is extremely important to me. Before this year, I was 80, then 105 no let up
Regulation gait slows down significantly. breathing prior and during being with Horses
the way tension in my body
posture. Partnering with horses with energy awareness. fake "I'm ok" self is removed from me completely. Active listening constructive criticis bettering horsemanship
applied Pressure & and released verbally and physically is seen and felt body language Selflessness verbally and nonverbal intentions are clear
I can't even explain how much it has helped me.
Thanks SO much for being here with us.
Thank You for these DBT videos. I’m currently in DBT and this is very helpful to me. 😊
I appreciate you watching. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: ua-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=DBTmadesimple
This is very instructive and also slightly bewildering as it had never occurred to me that 'distress tolerance' existed or could be seen as a learned skill. Thank you.
Thank you for your feedback! Distress tolerance is indeed a vital skill, and it's great to hear that the video was both informative and eye-opening for you. Please feel free to share what you found lost useful from the video. Additionally, if you have any questions or want to learn more about it, feel free to ask or use my AI at: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
What a great presentation. Thank you so much
Very Welccome
I remember once sitting in the t.v. room with my mom’s friends son Andy. He pointed at a beautiful lady on a tv commercial and said, omg., I wish that lady was our mom!
I'm obstressed lol, thanks for your energy and information 🙏 don't forget deep breathes and be mindful of your own energy ~
Thank you for watching the video
As I watch this, it reinforces to me that very few therapists understand what real darkness is like. DBT and CBT, I think, are likely helpful to people who just need help organizing their thoughts and actions.
DBT and CBT are only tools in a much larger toolbox which includes psychodynamic processing, attachment interventions and more.
I've been to a dark place, now that I'm out i realize my internal world was messed up that's why it got really dark in there DBT helps, but one might resist at first
I was on the edge of taking an immediate exit often for years. The wisdom of DBT
is why I am still amongst the living.
Currently not convinced surviving was
the kindest response for me personally,
but the damage to those to those who
attempted to help is more than I can tolerate
so I prefer more suffering.
I do have periods
of intense love
for humans.
DBT and CBT are great skills to learn for depressed feelings
Brilliant. I will hopefully write down the coping mechs.
Thanks for watching.
Itemizing outside sensations
has kept me in the living game,
way many times.
It is an great alternative to interior hell.
I love your description here! So true 😅
My former personal trainer treated me badly. She’s around 35, and a professional bodybuilder. She wouldn’t ask me about my schedule and she criticized my age by calling me grandma! I fired her, but still working out at the same gym. She had the owner Jason come over to me while lifting weights and ask me is that your truck parked outside? He had a bullying tone. Then he had his gym bar cashier who has a disabled daughter she works at the gym with everyday accuse me of parking my truck in the parking lot too! These people are on a manipulative power trip from hell! Jen is a negative narcissist who’s been bullying me!
Thanks again
Always welcome
So insightful and helpful.
Superb lecture Doc.
Thank you. ❤🙏❤
It would be good to acknowledge the experience of trauma in this type of talk
I need help with fear of falling. It over whelms me due to many falls and broken bones so it is hard for me to leave the house.
Thanks for watching the video. What tips will you use to address your fear of falling? Maybe look for the facts?
Thank you
You're welcome
Thanks for this ❤️
You're so welcome!
Thank you for sharing your knowledge Dr. Dawn!
Welcome
Great podcast!!thanx!
FYI, MacOS doesn't recognize the tg address for telegram
31:05 stop skills options
i can't afford to give a professional money. if i suffer from bpd. is there hope that i can help myself out of these behaviors?
Practice mindfulness. It's not the same thing without professional help and it would be best if you could find a way to get it, but I believe practicing mindfulness might give good results after some months. Of course, the key practice, practice, practice...
@@LuisDiaz-pk4dk thanks Luis! Yeah I'm going to see what's available once the covid situation subsides but this will be great practice in the interim.
I’m self-diagnosed as BPD and have been actively identifying, confronting, understanding, and changing the patterns and behaviors associated with this disorder for just over a year. It is absolutely possible to help yourself- in fact it is exactly what you are doing by watching this video and asking for help in the comments!
I suggest:
1. Get plenty of regular sleep.
2. Drink plenty of water to stay hydrated.
3. Get regular physical exercise.
4. Avoid stimulants like sugar, caffeine, and nicotine and consider adopting a healthy diet.
5. Practice/master a regular form of stress-reduction like mindfulness, meditation, yoga, tai chi, taoism, and/or others to counteract the negative BPD coping habits.
Good luck! With Lots of Love~*❤️
@@yopueelin7300 hey thanks for all of your help. I took action immediately when you guys commented and I'm already noticing subtle differences in my mood swings and whatnot. I'm sure it will take lots of practice and I'm sure I'm going to make mistakes, but this is the first time i'm beginning to see alternate options. Thanks again!
My ex personal trainer glared at me while I was on the stairclimber! She looked mean like the woman on the Exorcist, before her head spun around! She gave me an angry, controlling, narcissistic or sociopathic stare!!!
My narcissistic father would say he’s a “ninny”! This made me feel bad like something was very strange about my father!
When I was about ten years old, my mom or dad told me to go into the kitchen to heat up my baby brother’s bottle of milk! I had a severe accident!!!
I like stopping
Suffering.
excellent
Thanks!
Tysm bruh this gon help me when my parents take my phone it distresses me AHHHHH
Thanks for watching.
How are things now
The more I use the skills from this channel and from therapy, the more my SO becomes unhinged. It’s like she was also addicted to my emotional outbursts. As long as I acted out, my triggers being known and easy enough to push, the more she could deflect from any criticism of her own behavior. It’s a troubling trend.
How about actually fixing the problem, that makes me feel better.
Distress tolerance sounds like stuffing emotions and creating a build up.
There is so much unnecessary meaness that should not be tolerated.
I love change, if it's positive.
I do not need to accept abuse and bullying. I just need people to act normal and reasonably polite and ethical. People in HUD housing are not supposed to be a captive and vulnerable targets for the employees.
I want the suffering to stop.
When the creepy cashier yelled at me, she triggered my childhood wounds!
I am sorry that happened to you and I appreciate you watching the video
Comparing yourself to someone less fortunate than you is not nice. Compare yourself with your self not others. Comparing yourself to your brother in prison or your sister over eating. This so judgemental. Out of all of her training, this put me off.
Ha ha … but she made you remember her point ..
It's more about reminding you to be grateful for what you do have, not necessarily being judgemental about others. It's a way to shift your perspective.
NO That wont worrk i have one that suites that just as gvood to what ewver creidt thank you
Thanks for watching.
great videos. very helpful . thanks. interesting that christianity has always taught distress tolerance. They emphasized patience, acceptance and also offering up our sufferings as penance for our sins. Of course, we should not deliberately choose pain but it is inevitable so we can offer it to christ in thanks for his suffering on the cross for us.
I appreciate you watching. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: ua-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=DBTmadesimple
WHY do people develop dysregulation??? Please consider narcissistic amd psychopathic abuse as a root cause. Also poor attunement by caretakers.
Thank you for watching the video. There are many reasons people can develop dysregulation…trauma, abuse etc
You know... Whatever 😂
Thanks for watching.
As if it were just that easy..because we want to "wallow" and ruin our lives and be absolutely miserable all the time. Her advice is the equivalent of: acknowledge it..buck up and move on you dysfunctional, problem of a person.
Distress tolerance is a component of DBT therapy that helps people deregulate their hpa-axis to get into their wise mind so they can begin to figure out how they want to address the problem.
@@DocSnipes Perhaps paying attention to the language you use would be advisable, rather than coming off as dismissive and demeaning. I found some parts quite derisive, as a healthcare professional and as someone who has BPD.
@ustjayenjay All she is saying is that some things in life you have no control over and just need to learn to deal with just like any other person in the same situation would have to deal with it. Nobody owes you a damn thing in this life, especially not strangers. Its not the end of the world to feel upset for a period of time. Unpleasant? Sure, but its not unbearable and you aren't going to die. Life is hard and its hard for EVERYBODY. Nobody is special and you shouldn't take things so personally because nobody owes you
What the fuck is wrong with swearing?🤘😎
Voice is irritating today. And stuttering an stumbling is bothersome
What was the point of sayin this it’s rude
41:17