The Disturbing Reason Passion Is Gone From Your Relationship! | Dating Doctor Orion Taraban

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  • @TheDiaryOfACEOClips
    @TheDiaryOfACEOClips  Місяць тому +1

    Watch full episode here - ua-cam.com/video/PM9rgDBX9u0/v-deo.html

  • @davekilgannon6965
    @davekilgannon6965 Місяць тому +96

    I think it depends on the person and the couple
    I've been with my wife since highschool. We've been a couple for almost 35 years. I have no romantic interest in any other woman and don't suspect I ever will. I'm as enthusiastic about spending time with her as I was when we were in highschool and dating. I can't share what the secret to this undying attraction is because I really don't know. I just know that I want to be with her and I know that will never change❣️

    • @TeacherMom80
      @TeacherMom80 Місяць тому +10

      Awww...that's SO beautiful! What a blessing your marriage is! God bless you guys! I'm so thankful you posted this comment! It will bring hope to the world! 💕🙏🏽🕊️

    • @kristine6996
      @kristine6996 Місяць тому +2

      Until I met a woman who couldn’t live with her husband any longer after he had a personality changing brainstroke. He became aggressive.

    • @Tony-p1i5s
      @Tony-p1i5s Місяць тому +5

      My guess is that you two only know each other biblically which means your wife's pair bonding skills aren't broken and that's why you're still together.

    • @shanzi0888
      @shanzi0888 Місяць тому +3

      you are a definition of a content man.. who understands the consequences of momentary pleasure.. and the loss that is not worth venturing into.. (wise man)

    • @bellavega8048
      @bellavega8048 Місяць тому

      @@Tony-p1i5swhy does her virginity have to do with HIS Dr ole passion for her? I swear that you males can’t look past your destructive red pill philosophy. Good women who were virgins upon marriage get cheated on every day. Give me a break.

  • @maritimeproductions4410
    @maritimeproductions4410 Місяць тому +83

    Expecting serial excitement in a long term relationship is a terrible fantasy that makes people think their is something wrong. True love is lying next to someone you have shared a long life with, they are your family and even if you do not just after them any longer...you would never leave them. That is true love.

    • @ElimEx1
      @ElimEx1 Місяць тому +4

      I disagree with you. Love is a verb. Love is action. Love is doing things with and to your lover.

    • @mr.horrorchild4094
      @mr.horrorchild4094 Місяць тому

      ​@@ElimEx1living a life with them is an action. A long term action. Fucking isn't all there is

    • @Eddybo22
      @Eddybo22 27 днів тому +1

      You're describing commitment, respecting vows. Meaning your word and sticking to it. Actions. Love is a feeling that ebbs and flows. Actions are what are consistent.

    • @Quadster19
      @Quadster19 27 днів тому

      I think the threat of the court system might factor into your idea of true love.

    • @ElimEx1
      @ElimEx1 26 днів тому

      @@Quadster19 If it doesn't, it should! True love doesn't exist. It's a series of choices, the partner is a box into which one or many people can fit into.

  • @melindaclark7526
    @melindaclark7526 Місяць тому +13

    We are driving each other crazy 😂 I feel that homeschooling this year and working from home. Most people don’t have that village to help anymore and I long for it!

  • @valdius85
    @valdius85 Місяць тому +29

    No need for novelty or excitement. If you value connection with your partner, the rest will follow.
    Your energy will be different everyday, and so the experience will be different.
    People are perfectly fine doing the same things with the same people all their lives, but somehow our modern “experts” brainwashed us into believing intimacy is different.

    • @alex434343
      @alex434343 14 днів тому +1

      It's REALLY different case by case. Some people are very happy having the same routine every day for 50 years, and some people have to do something new and exciting every week or they will seriously start losing their minds. Broad generalizations rarely are true for everyone.

    • @valdius85
      @valdius85 14 днів тому

      @
      I understand your point but I disagree that it’s healthy.
      Why they need to get that excited?
      Is that to get the dopamine hit? Like a drug addict.
      Oxytocin and vasopressin can be released during intimate interactions, it just depends on how it is “done”.
      These two have strong positive effects.
      The issue is many people are addicted to dopamine and don’t even know oxytocin and vasopressin exist.
      Obviously the novelty is not 0/1 type, it’s on the scale from 0-100. At certain point it becomes unhealthy.
      I’m recovering from something at the moment and did research about it.

  • @helenstaniskov4570
    @helenstaniskov4570 Місяць тому +13

    He’s been listening to Esther Perrell 😊

  • @user-dm2wz6np3v
    @user-dm2wz6np3v Місяць тому +3

    Some people just love eachother and that brings enough passion to obtain the relationship. This video is the exact type of mentality that that makes things complicated. Its not complicated really.

    • @Bucephalus84
      @Bucephalus84 23 дні тому +1

      You need to unpack it and further understand what is actually happening

  • @gypsytears1785
    @gypsytears1785 Місяць тому +8

    the younger generation is overstimulated and over sexualized to non realistic perfection standards because of social media/filters/Ai etc causing expectations to be to high when it comes to triggering excitement levels. Causing “boredom” .
    Intimacy levels will go up and down depending on what each individual is going through emotionally and physically.
    With maturity you realize that.

  • @cocobelle22
    @cocobelle22 Місяць тому +5

    There’s a lot of generalizations on what works for some people and what some people assume was “happy marriages” because it didn’t lead to divorce

  • @damienhunt4264
    @damienhunt4264 28 днів тому +4

    At the end of the day, it's all about open and honest communication.

    • @Woofreestyle
      @Woofreestyle День тому

      Which is never gonna happen. Men are afraid to tell their wives that they are fat, annoying and they would prefer another woman. Women will never be honest about how their husbands weren’t their first choice and if they lose their job for any extended period of time they will leave them. Humans will never be completely open and honest because it’s not socially correct.

  • @heatherjovero9379
    @heatherjovero9379 Місяць тому +3

    Love or no love.The sense of responsibility consistency and being in good terms makes you a better human being.For many people romantic feelings can have an expiration date and could be a curse of unnecessary expectation

  • @MR-fn7rw
    @MR-fn7rw Місяць тому +5

    If you find it difficult now, throw some kids in there.

  • @acotrel1
    @acotrel1 16 днів тому

    'Life is a learning process'. Relationships build character 'what does not kill you, makes you stronger'. I am sometimes in the shit with my wife - real life is like that. Worrying is usually stupidity. We learn to cope.

  • @selyemperzsa1
    @selyemperzsa1 Місяць тому +20

    Actually the key words none of the psychologists, psychiatrists say: if you have healthy nervous system regulation, you can always reinvent yourself without adivce, tips, etc.

    • @t3hpenguinofd00m
      @t3hpenguinofd00m Місяць тому +2

      And if you don't?

    • @Tony-p1i5s
      @Tony-p1i5s Місяць тому +1

      Hmm interesting

    • @Bucephalus84
      @Bucephalus84 23 дні тому +1

      I don't know anyone who is healthy enough to do that. The best I can try to do is be a chameleon.

  • @realonebusinessschool
    @realonebusinessschool Місяць тому

    Yes, absolutely. Creativity in marriage makes your spouse look new all the time. Getting involved in interesting activities together, traveling, new beautiful dresses, they all bring a spark to marriages.

  • @macpduff2119
    @macpduff2119 Місяць тому +22

    I am a long time family genealogist . What I found is that MOST ancestors had two or three wives/husbands!
    Women died in childbirth, disease. Men died from disease, war wounds, drowning (naval, merchant trading etc). At first when I discovered so many multiple wives and husbands, I thought that my documents were flawed. Death to us part meant each of us would have two or three spouses in our lifetimes. What we have now is un-natural

    • @djRichyRichh
      @djRichyRichh Місяць тому +6

      God made one woman for one man. Its not gods Plan for marriage to have multiple wifes.

    • @manifest2203
      @manifest2203 Місяць тому

      Yep. Also, in the history of the world, less than 40% m4n have reproduced and passed on genes. 60% haven’t (they haven’t even had one woman in a lifetime). 80-90% women did.

    • @manifest2203
      @manifest2203 Місяць тому +1

      @@djRichyRichh I used to believe that too. Not anymore.

    • @manifest2203
      @manifest2203 Місяць тому

      Yes and in the history of the world, less than 40% of m4n have re6pducd and passed on g55nes. Whereas 80-90% w4m5n have.

    • @taricklloyd5904
      @taricklloyd5904 Місяць тому

      ​@@djRichyRichheven though the Christian god made a young 12/13 yr old married girl pregnant.

  • @artcontractor2351
    @artcontractor2351 Місяць тому +5

    To have a lasting relationship. It has to be built on love understanding and respect. Not looks necessarily or great sex.

  • @emilyl.771
    @emilyl.771 Місяць тому +2

    It’s idealistic to expect the initial passion and excitement you experience to last or at least remain consistent. What is realistic is to expect inconsistency. I’m not a fan of premeditated titillation. Lingerie and dirty weekends come with expectation and disappointment. I enjoy spontaneity and unexpected surprises. It’s those moments that sustain you for the long term and in between the monotony of routine

    • @stevelovescars
      @stevelovescars 26 днів тому +1

      Most men would settle for monotony with intermittent excitement, what they didn’t sign up for was monogamous sexless relationships.

  • @Vishfeast
    @Vishfeast Місяць тому +1

    The way to look at it, is that you probably can recall many encounters with someone who might have been corgil with you, and were enjoyable, but on a deeper level there wasn't an alignment. It was the surroundings or environment that carried the interaction.
    Now when you think of a partner who you have been with a long time, that's the difference. Is that emotional/ideology alignment that human has and your able to go that distance. Most partners you wouldn't, interest might seem to stray your commitment due to lust. I'm sure you probably also have had experiences where you felt like you acted on lust and not an actual fit. You can still find people off the opposite sex with similar proclivities to you, and you will find alot more harmony in a relationship since there will be less tension and more unity in decision making.

  • @JayPatel-gf9sc
    @JayPatel-gf9sc Місяць тому +1

    He is talking sense and common sense

  • @jamiewhelan31
    @jamiewhelan31 Місяць тому +1

    Ive been with my partner 23 years & our sex life is even better now. We have it atleast once a year. So yeah like i said, even better.

  • @JRspeaking
    @JRspeaking Місяць тому +1

    God, this is so right on!!

  • @EURUSDislife
    @EURUSDislife Місяць тому +1

    For myself the disturbing reason for the missing passion in relationships are the missing girlfriends.

  • @acotrel1
    @acotrel1 16 днів тому

    If you have boys, you should tell them that if they get a girl pregnant - before making any decision, they should talk to their grandmother, or second-best their mother. There are other options than marriage or abortion. Some people have their lives destroyed by religious freedom.

  • @z.deutch1334
    @z.deutch1334 21 день тому +2

    He's just repeating what Esther Perel said years ago

  • @MrLove-666
    @MrLove-666 Місяць тому +1

    2:38 Make your old partner "feel new" hence why everyone tends to go for novelty.. as it become stale.
    Are we really meant to be monogamous? Or was it a form of control from higher-ups (Political, Religious) that wants control and order over humans?
    They say love chemically last 3 years: you meet, get acquainted, you have a kid, make sure he'll be safe and okay, then you go and replicate the same process..
    So for those who still wants to be Nuclear, yes you'll have to constantly find news ways to look at your significant other with different eyes everyday, for 80 years.
    Good luck.

    • @JohnSmithEx
      @JohnSmithEx Місяць тому +1

      Monogamy is an arrangement that builds a stable and productive society. Each man has a wife, so each man is happy. Polygamy is what women would prefer more, because it gives each woman access to the best genes in the community. Unfortunately it results in a large portion of the male population without sexual access, which is a recipe for instability and conflict.

  • @susannay.3437
    @susannay.3437 Місяць тому +15

    Or...not pursue sexual gratification to the extent that it has to be novel or exciting. Love each other.

    • @m420-nd1if
      @m420-nd1if 26 днів тому

      Sex and love go hand in hand

  • @dicarpio2177
    @dicarpio2177 Місяць тому +1

    To be honest, I’d just settle for a hug

  • @SanchitoTube
    @SanchitoTube Місяць тому

    Wow…Just reading the first few comments makes you realize how delusional people can be. Love is a skill. That is a fact. Every other perspective is debatable because we all experience it differently. From birth to death.

  • @crunchtimeeats347
    @crunchtimeeats347 Місяць тому +1

    Amazon CEO should have said instead, “save your marriage, RTO”!😂

  • @jodiezammit333
    @jodiezammit333 Місяць тому +1

    1:56 honestly. I don’t see why it’s difficult to maintain the safe relationship, plus have that sexy, passionate partner.

    • @Leoo117
      @Leoo117 Місяць тому +1

      It's not difficult. Thats an insecurity that both of these men have. They think being good means being boring. Thats foolish, because you can easily be good and safe and still have lots of fun for your whole relationship.

  • @Utubedeletescomments
    @Utubedeletescomments Місяць тому +8

    When women lead everyone fails.

  • @acotrel1
    @acotrel1 16 днів тому

    If a woman wants to find a partner, they should enrol in a night class where there are men studying interesting things. When I was studying chemistry, I had a very nice lady friend with me in the class. She said 'you are going to do this for a job, aren't you ?'. My daughter is named after her, I had told my Ex about her. I must be as blind as a bat, and totally stupid.

  • @GODPREVAIL
    @GODPREVAIL Місяць тому

    It is spelled endless choices cause with many choices it is end less.

  • @A22208
    @A22208 Місяць тому +2

    YOU DON'T chase novelty. Chase peace! Arranged marriages = no expectation. understanding that the honeymoon stage wears off and they will be your best friend

  • @nyc_bk11
    @nyc_bk11 21 день тому +2

    This is terrible advice.
    Divorce should be hard to get because it’s nothing but satan and the devil.

  • @PopFizzPaperDani
    @PopFizzPaperDani Місяць тому +7

    0:27 And people died younger. People live forever these days lol

    • @abdula16
      @abdula16 Місяць тому +2

      No didn’t. Most people lived long enough to be in marriage for decades

  • @Vagabond343
    @Vagabond343 Місяць тому

    Never go out for fish and chips when you have steak at home

  • @timothycostelloe8010
    @timothycostelloe8010 Місяць тому +13

    Don’t think about yourself so much. Focus on the other person not yourself.

    • @Tony-p1i5s
      @Tony-p1i5s Місяць тому +7

      Actually men should focus on themselves first then the woman there with otherwise how will you be the best version of your self.

  • @siriusblack8870
    @siriusblack8870 21 день тому +1

    Sane people understand that EVERYTHING has seasons, no one can be EVERYTHING all at once, it's impossible

  • @paulsingh9043
    @paulsingh9043 Місяць тому

    After 27 years of marrrage, I said to my wife , there's no true beauty without decay , she said 'pots heard you kettle' 😂

  • @kristine6996
    @kristine6996 Місяць тому +3

    Esther Perels point of view. Bla bla bla. Not one person holds the whole truth about relationships. Values, culture, laws change and start analysing art.

  • @theavengers.
    @theavengers. Місяць тому +1

    Nice

  • @preciousmousse
    @preciousmousse Місяць тому +9

    This guy is posing as way more wise than he is. He's not that much of a teacher, he's a professional at delivering this type of content in a way that keeps people hooked. He leaves some bitterness in there all the time to keep viewers addicted for the content, guessing, wondering. I don't think just about anyone deserves a platform, simply because they made it big. His biography is always flimsy too and just from his personality there is this sense of overcontrolling attitude rather than practica, hopeful, analytical reasoning.

    • @4seasons546
      @4seasons546 Місяць тому +1

      Agree. Bitterness this man always seems bitter with a nasty edge I’d go so far as to say misogyny, which is not a word I throw around regularly. I’m a female I love men I love sex with men I like men’s company & I’ve been married for decades. I had a good father. And I’ve always been thought of as an especially attractive woman Who loves wearing lingerie and changing my outfits at home and outside so I might be this man’s ideal woman ! Just to give context. - To continue this man ( who I listen to often enough to have an idea) most often seems like he has a chip on his shoulder and he really does not like women here he’s saying if women want a man to be faithful they have to be constantly entertaining him in the bedroom jumping through hoops changing outfits etc. well that goes both ways, if a woman is not having orgasms with her sex partner her desire for frequency will be greatly diminished. + personally I think sex should be like a cup of coffee ☕️ you look forward to it every morning you have one cup it’s generally the same and you still look forward to it every day! Maybe Saturday and Sunday you have it two or three times change it up a little bit with milk or a splash of cognac . Yes it’s nice to mix things up on occasion but sex should be a natural desire between a man and a woman = “hormones should be enough”. The end. And be happy with just being lucky enough to have a woman in the bed ready and willing.
      I do think that porn watching has made many men less good lovers to women and a less responsive auto erection that stays erect hard long enough to satisfy a real woman so she stays craving frequency. As porn watching usually leads to quick ejaculation and a limper penis when encountering a real woman.
      The man that needs and complains that the woman is not entertaining enough may have hormonal and/or erectile disfunction and or just not into women that much. Porn or not (repressed gay desires? ) lastly if you have a desire / fantasy be bold enough to say so, you might be pleasantly surprised 😅!

    • @JohnSmithEx
      @JohnSmithEx Місяць тому +2

      Interesting take, although I mostly disagree. Dr. Orion Taraban is certainly an expert in the field of romantic heterosexual relationships. Almost each of his episodes is a revelation to his viewers. They learn something powerful that they had never hear or think before. He is not a philosopher though. He can't teach you what is good or moral. He can only teach you what works, regarding the goals you already have. Regarding your comment about not anyone deserving a platform, what is your criterion? What has someone to do or be to deserve a platform?

    • @Leoo117
      @Leoo117 Місяць тому +4

      Yeah. The man doesn't understand women, and he has such limiting beliefs fueled by his own fears.

    • @Leoo117
      @Leoo117 Місяць тому +2

      ​@4seasons546 When a man says he needs a woman to be constantly entertaining, that's either because that man is not truly interested in her romantically, or he has an unreasonable fear of his own where he feels like HE is not enough. Those type of fears have us sabotaging our relationships if they are not addressed.

    • @4seasons546
      @4seasons546 Місяць тому +1

      @@Leoo117- - weird my comment that you replied to seems to have disappeared?

  • @FreedomFinanceFun
    @FreedomFinanceFun Місяць тому +1

    Wow. Explains why people cheat. They Want the best of both worlds
    Foreign bed sheets 😂

  • @pseudo_ra
    @pseudo_ra Місяць тому

    It’s hard because women be tripping lol they make it so hard when it’s really simple. I’ll work hard, buy land, build us a house and potentially have kids with you but I need some intimacy lol sex twice per week is not too much to ask for…or is it?

  • @manifest2203
    @manifest2203 Місяць тому +3

    Women enjoy s4xual novelty and variety too. Some even enjoy having multiple m4n at the same time. Different strokes for differnt folks. It’s not a one thing fits all. Even RH books are popular now.

    • @Utubedeletescomments
      @Utubedeletescomments Місяць тому +4

      At the end they become bitter & entitled.

    • @manifest2203
      @manifest2203 Місяць тому

      @@Utubedeletescomments lol isn’t this a comp7lain m4n say about all women? 🤣 so what new?

  • @4seasons546
    @4seasons546 Місяць тому

    Comment test

  • @MarinaM-o6p
    @MarinaM-o6p Місяць тому +28

    BLAME PORN AND MEN WHO MADE PORN .

    • @taricklloyd5904
      @taricklloyd5904 Місяць тому

      Nice sexist blame game. Well done.

    • @Jay-xr3sb
      @Jay-xr3sb Місяць тому

      Lol, I'm sure you blame men for most this wrong in your life

    • @Tony-p1i5s
      @Tony-p1i5s Місяць тому +1

      We can also blame the women who make porn for profit.

    • @bellavega8048
      @bellavega8048 Місяць тому

      @@taricklloyd5904no, there’s a study that proves that porn affects the male’s desire for his wife. It’s very destructive to a relationship especially if it’s an addiction.

    • @bellavega8048
      @bellavega8048 Місяць тому

      @@Tony-p1i5smost of those women were drugged and trafficked in that profession, the corruption goes deep, you have no idea, but then again you don’t care. Like I said you are a red flag and it gets so easy to spot males like you.

  • @panes840
    @panes840 Місяць тому +1

    I'm very sorry, but most of this is BS! Yes, he has a very good point about community. But the world doesn't believe in Jesus Christ anymore, so fornication is celebrated, monogamy seen as irrelevant, any divorce is just normal. Sex is put at the top of everyone's list, and it's worshipped. We have a culture that just exalts sex! Men full into the narrative that this is manly and normal. Never ever looking into whether it's true or not and very hard to do so because since they were young boys encouraged and groomed towards living this way.
    No, sorry, a good marriage is not just based on intense and beautiful love but friendship. A deep friendship that is special, sacred, and where wedding commitments are meant! Marriages are hard but made very hard when living in the secular world of fornication, adultery, lust, pornography are seen as normal and NOT sinful. Many many people do not live like this and have incredibly beautiful long-lasting marriages, but nobody in the secular world wants to hear those success stories because it ain't sexy to hear (pardon the pun) and they are addicted to sinful behaviours and of course probably feel sin is not real in the eyes of God because to them God is woo hoo a story that is foolishness, and not relevant. Well, try telling that to Father Carlos Martins and his YT channel "The Exorcist Files" and listen to real case studies of those who have suffered possession. Scoff if you like, but learn what you are scoffing about first BEFORE attempting to scoff.

    • @themancuniancandidate2744
      @themancuniancandidate2744 Місяць тому

      Well, it would be easier to listen to a Christian apologist wax lyrical about the benefits of believing in God if the morality derived from the Bible wasn't so appalling.
      You are probably a good person because you're afraid of what God will do to you if you aren't. I'm a good person because being good is the right thing to do, and it is innate to me.

    • @plav032
      @plav032 Місяць тому

      WOW BS, but here; check out some shit on demons and angels 🤣

    • @JohnSmithEx
      @JohnSmithEx Місяць тому

      Sex is the fuel that keeps a marriage alive. Without sex, a man would prefer to have a long term relationship with another man than with a woman.

    • @panes840
      @panes840 Місяць тому

      @JohnSmithEx I disagree. Sorry. Then, he is totally driven by his own desires and complete slave to them and any other self-serving desire he feels entitled and wants for his own pleasure. He has grown up with that stance past down from one generation to another to the point it's ingrained into his psyche as true, but it's purely a belief system. Notwithstanding, there are many great men who do not live by this belief system and have very happy fulfilling lives with their wives for the rest of their lives. If the secular world scoffs at that, then it's purely fear, comfort, and pride that does so. That keeps them chained to the secular self-serving belief system. That's, of course, their choice. God gave man free will! By his free will, will his life unfold for better or worse. For he treats himself, honours himself, exaults himself as his own God, deciding for himself what is acceptable and thus creates and lives by his own standards. Problem is, we have nearly 8 billion people on this planet all wishing to self serve with their own idols and own beliefs which sadly will be incongruent and out of step with other members of society for they fall into the same trap. And we would der why we are in such a mess today with virtuous morals and values that are no longer. In this world, to live and self-serve . Nice!!!!

    • @panes840
      @panes840 Місяць тому

      @plav032 😆 if you think it's BS and scoff (like I predicted) the check out the channel and decide!🤔